Estrangement: Why it happens
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- Now, more than ever, people are opening up about their painful family relationships and how these tenuous connections have led to estrangements. Why are relationships so much more fragile now compared to other times in history? Several new social trends are contributing to fragmented family relationships. A disposable culture, the changing nature of the family, and a rise in individualism are some of the factors that have produced fertile ground for estrangement. In this insightful episode, we explore the many reasons behind the trend.
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After 5 years of weekly therapy, I was finally made aware of the narcissistic abuse I had been subjected to for decades at the hands of my 3 older sisters. My choice was no contact as a means of healing and recovery. Best decision, it’s been 4 years on NC wi the one and 1.5 years with the other two. I’ll never go back. The invalidation and gaslighting would never change and I’d rather use my energy for myself and on the people who actually love me.
@marykoller75: Good for you. Sometimes, we have to step back and protect ourselves, and make different decisions. I don't know if you've seen my series on narcissism, but you may enjoy it, as it's one of the many factors behind sibling estrangement. I've been producing several videos on this subject, and I'm happy to help others going through such challenges.
How many narcissistic parents drove wedges between their children. My mother did.
My mother did, too. And, for whatever reason, my brothers still put up with her.
I tried from when I was the abused scapegoat at 15 until age 67. I tried, they chose not to see the family pattern or change. So finally I realized the dysfunction was bad for me. They can chose how to be, I chose to let them go with love for both them and myself.
My sister has not spoken to me in thirty five tears. Only once at moms and dads funeral...then telling me to "pull myself uo vy the bootstraps" wish u luck Ive only tried to be there for her when she was younger. Sometimes i think jesus im so done with my family.
I think that only 1% of people is normal. 😅
I think that here is the cause.
It certainly wasn't the use of texting or technology which caused the cracks in the foundations of my sibling relationship. 🙄 (eyeroll emoji indicating an upward turning of the eyes especially as an expression of annoyance, exasperation, disbelief, etc.)
Values differences between siblings is the issue, particularly in relation to elderly caregiving duties and responsibilities.
There is more focus on the in-laws family and their fortune. 💰🤑
I usually do t take the time to comment on RUclips content. However, 11 minutes and 33 seconds in I had to pause and comment.
Had I been keeping a tally while listening thus far, it would easily be in the double digits as to how many times the two commenters have continuously echoed and reinforced each other’s opinions on the subject discussed with the repeated use of the filler self-affirmational crutch words of “Right.” “You know.” “Yeah.” “Of course.” “Absolutely.”
Although the frequency and seemingly unconscious use of these terms lead me to think otherwise, I certainly hope that either of these therapist would not lead a client while in session to a particular conclusions that sides with the therapist point of view. Words can have tremendous weight, especially in regards to psychodynamic therapy or “talk therapy.” It is best for all, but in particular for clinicians, to be mindful of choosing them carefully and with conscious intent.
Hello. You’re reading too much into this. We recorded this video at a time that was outside our normal recording period for the day. We were both a bit tired, and as you probably know, words come out less fluidly at the end of the day. If you watch the other videos, you will notice that difference.
I think you can keep not commenting much.
Your welcome for the constructive feedback. Thanks for letting me know you read viewer’s comments. I don’t think there is a need to be defensive. It was just an objective observation of your speech patterns in that particular video. You are publishing personal content related to a felid in which you are licensed and actively practicing . Therefore, it should be upheld to the same standard and scrutiny presumably maintained in a professional setting. Thanks for directing me to your alternate content. I’ll check it out.
PS. Additionally, thank you for using your experience, observations, and professional training to create free content with the intention of it being helpful to viewers. I get that.
Two of my siblings passed away, but we really were strange when they moved out and then there’s one that we’ve disowned each other because it’s my fault that mom and dad died. It’s my fault for everything even though she’s been married nine times in the Mormon church so who is without sin cast the first Stone
I had three sisters and a brother, Karen, Karen, Karen and Karen. They are all boomers and I am Gen X. Oil and water….
2 Timothy 3
New King James Version
Perilous Times and Perilous Men
3 But know this, that in the last days [a]perilous times will come: 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 unloving, [b]unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, 4 traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! 6 For of this sort are those who creep into households and make captives of gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts, 7 always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth