My Spouse Has Been Stealing From Me

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Комментарии • 2 тыс.

  • @rodgertim2881
    @rodgertim2881 5 месяцев назад +1689

    He definitely will jeopardize your kids future.
    I don’t understand why people rather remain in a marriage than getting a divorce.

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      @BendyChoy 5 месяцев назад +6

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      @ZhannaDavidova 5 месяцев назад +5

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      @sebastiaanthijn7982 5 месяцев назад

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      @sebastiaanthijn7982 5 месяцев назад

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    • @BarbaraPearson55
      @BarbaraPearson55 5 месяцев назад

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  • @anas.9103
    @anas.9103 5 месяцев назад +416

    When she said she is not seperating from him, i then knew why he stole her money. She was smart with money and he knew she was not smart with him!

    • @deirdrekiely6187
      @deirdrekiely6187 5 месяцев назад +25

      Women turn dumb when they fall in love.

    • @beewest5704
      @beewest5704 5 месяцев назад +15

      She will learn unfortunately. Hope it's not when she & her kids are destitute & he moves on to his next victim.

    • @SeanF-m4b
      @SeanF-m4b 4 месяца назад +2

      @@deirdrekiely6187noooooo lol they were stupid from the beginning

    • @cuteONE22
      @cuteONE22 4 месяца назад

      She has low self esteem and he knew it

    • @bc101ful
      @bc101ful 4 месяца назад +10

      Oh my goodness why in the world would you stay with this horrible liar. He will hurt his children.

  • @deirdrekiely6187
    @deirdrekiely6187 5 месяцев назад +514

    Her premarital accounts should never have had his name on them. He should not have access to it. Period.

    • @kanecierra8940
      @kanecierra8940 5 месяцев назад +14

      I was the thinking the exact same. They each should have had their own account and one together. I won’t trust a Man fully until we’ve been married over 8 years………that’s if I ever do get Married-

    • @joegreene6250
      @joegreene6250 5 месяцев назад +13

      @@kanecierra8940 you never will. Because of your attitude.

    • @businessacc179
      @businessacc179 4 месяца назад +26

      That seemed obvious by a prenup- how did he get his paws on those accounts?!

    • @Mombal5
      @Mombal5 4 месяца назад +18

      Also why isn’t she checking those accounts often enough that she would have noticed a decline sooner. My husband and I check our accounts daily and we ask each other about any purchases that seem out of the ordinary. We each have our own personal accounts we had before marriage but our main source of money goes into our joint account. We both take a certain amount after bills, and savings accounts have all been paid into just to have for little things like taking kids to do things or other entertainment purposes. Our accounts that both our names on it are closely managed by both of us. Sounds like she didn’t want to bother with the finances too much after they married. He was even handling the taxes by himself When there’s a lot of money involved both husband and wife should be involved.

    • @customera7945
      @customera7945 4 месяца назад +18

      ​@@joegreene6250You sound like the kind of guy who would steal from a woman.

  • @dianereed9364
    @dianereed9364 5 месяцев назад +321

    He took $286,000 from her, and drained over $100,000 from their savings and claims there are no addictions - I don’t buy it!
    This is a shocking amount of money to burn through in three years. He’s a liar and a thief - if you don’t get away from him, you’ll be victimized again. The fact that she feels she has all the answers makes me question why she contacted you in the first place.

    • @Mikael-jt1hk
      @Mikael-jt1hk 4 месяца назад +22

      Its DEFINITELY addiction. I would say gambling. Maybe cocaine but I doubt it.

    • @JillHuntBuddyMailAdvertising
      @JillHuntBuddyMailAdvertising 4 месяца назад +14

      For sure --- that's blowing almost $11k a month. Obviously there's something. To believe him there's no addiction or other woman is to blindly believe someone who has been lying to you since before they were married. I agree with you -- wondering why she called the show if she has it figured out?!

    • @striperkid
      @striperkid 4 месяца назад

      he's a degenerate gambler.

    • @Calibrownsfan
      @Calibrownsfan 4 месяца назад +17

      Gambling, alcohol, prostitutes, something else going on here

    • @seraphilight
      @seraphilight 3 месяца назад +2

      Oh he was entirely in that marriage to drain her and leave her. People do that. It's easier for men, they're not expected to do it to begin with and have less obvious reaction to not being attracted to their spouse- but from what I hear they usually are just they don't get attached.
      Women have more issues with the attraction thing, and people are harsher on them when they divorce. More often they lose their family and friends, and courts favor the father for custody if he even just asks for it.
      Either gender of these kinds of manipulators can just completely abandon the kids without issue. They make great leashes on the victim they're draining though.

  • @evakatz6351
    @evakatz6351 5 месяцев назад +126

    As someone who’s Mum stayed with a bad man I PROMISE you it’s better for the kids if you leave. He will infect them with his sickness, and being around a dead relationship will teach them to accept the same.

  • @tammyschilling5362
    @tammyschilling5362 5 месяцев назад +481

    She needs an annulment and then to file fraud charges. This is WAY worse than infidelity (sexual or financial) this guy has been deliberately scamming her since before the marriage took place. She has a very good case for annulment and he needs to go to prison.

    • @KellyTheZeta
      @KellyTheZeta 5 месяцев назад +41

      I am sure there is infidelity too.

    • @hoots187
      @hoots187 3 месяца назад +4

      an annulment would invalidate the prenup

    • @verunar
      @verunar 2 месяца назад

      lol she doesn't even wanna divorce him and u think she puts him in prison

    • @leabeauty837
      @leabeauty837 Месяц назад

      @@hoots187🤡

    • @HiddenCost
      @HiddenCost Месяц назад +3

      I second this. Financial infidelity takes DECADES to recover from. Just ask me!

  • @nickm4662
    @nickm4662 5 месяцев назад +1455

    She would rather have her kids around a lying thief just to keep the house together? Dad is a terrible role model.

    • @Kinksgalore
      @Kinksgalore 5 месяцев назад +83

      He doesn't care about her or the kids.

    • @danzidae
      @danzidae 5 месяцев назад +21

      just delu lu

    • @seanjean9677
      @seanjean9677 5 месяцев назад +38

      Just to keep up appearances

    • @joesmith3590
      @joesmith3590 5 месяцев назад +36

      He lays the pipe. She doesn’t have a husband she got scammed. Sucks she seems nice. Bad taste in partners is very expensive.

    • @catherinn.951
      @catherinn.951 5 месяцев назад +3

      I’d say she budget quite a bit and she may have a lot to lose so she decided to deal with it and stick to it until she can sort herself out

  • @TheKingsOutpost
    @TheKingsOutpost 5 месяцев назад +1808

    Guarantee, she told him how much she is worth while dating before they got married. His eyes lit up!

    • @calpolyca
      @calpolyca 5 месяцев назад +42

      💯

    • @JustinCase780
      @JustinCase780 5 месяцев назад +91

      @@TheKingsOutpost He was hard after hearing 1M net worth.

    • @pneron2032
      @pneron2032 5 месяцев назад +66

      No, a sly fox like him is clever enough to play it cool until everything is gone.

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 5 месяцев назад +39

      Yup, and she picked him

    • @catherinewilke5583
      @catherinewilke5583 5 месяцев назад +74

      Yep he targeted her from the beginning. He’s a thief.

  • @lntomlinson
    @lntomlinson 5 месяцев назад +89

    This call definitely needed Dr. John Deloney!

    • @marsha1758
      @marsha1758 5 месяцев назад +15

      Or Dave. They wouldn't have been talking about counseling.

    • @theworldaccordingtoallie1176
      @theworldaccordingtoallie1176 5 месяцев назад +8

      I agree totally. This call wasn’t mean for these two.

    • @Skysky2318
      @Skysky2318 2 месяца назад +2

      Yes. This isn't just financial issue. Its more than that.

    • @scott4825
      @scott4825 День назад +1

      Your marriage is over if it ever existed. Protect yourself, financially and physically.

  • @jjkatz
    @jjkatz 5 месяцев назад +58

    I’d be afraid he’d take out a life insurance policy and there would be an “accident “. She needs to get away from this guy.

  • @uscitizen1035
    @uscitizen1035 5 месяцев назад +528

    Daters need to be careful about disclosing their financial status to people they're not married to. That's how some people attract financial predators into their lives.

    • @impamiizgraa
      @impamiizgraa 4 месяца назад +10

      Absolutely solid advice, this. I didn't even think about it until now

    • @striperkid
      @striperkid 4 месяца назад +7

      Yup, simply pretend that you're just getting by.

    • @daillestlady
      @daillestlady 4 месяца назад +4

      I 💯 agree!! I once suggested a pre-nup (to my now ex) and he said "what do you have" with a chuckle. Once I ran down everything, his face changed and he realized (a man 20 years older than my btw) that I was financially secure, he suggested that when we got married, he could be on MY health insurance. I laughed and laughed and laughed. Sir, you've had an extra 20 years to get your stuff together and living off of me is NOT happening.
      My new beau makes less than me and while as a public servant, my salary is public information, I discuss nothing with him but my debt 🤣. Luckily, when we spoke about pre-nups, he said he understood it's to protect ourselves and he would want one also.

    • @nozrep
      @nozrep 3 месяца назад

      yup

    • @stardustmelody2709
      @stardustmelody2709 Месяц назад +1

      Even without disclosing her status, it would have been easy to tell she had money. I'm sure she’s not living in a trailer park and driving a 2002 Saturn. None the less, your point is valid. He saw her coming a mile away when it should have been the other way around.

  • @AccidentalHiker1
    @AccidentalHiker1 5 месяцев назад +232

    Denial is strong here. Her home is already broken. She needs to leave to save her children.

    • @l-train7876
      @l-train7876 5 месяцев назад +8

      It takes time for someone to process such betrayal. She’s going through it.

    • @billyjohnson9166
      @billyjohnson9166 5 месяцев назад +5

      She needs to leave today.

    • @esterdrass4964
      @esterdrass4964 6 дней назад

      A relative of mine married a man that drained the accounts. He did it for years to a point of an almost foreclosure on their home, cars repo'd, and frozen bank accounts. He couldn't hold down a job for a whole without getting into some verbal altercations with people and either quitting or getting fired. She stuck with him though. Eventually she worked herself out of all that debt, but it took a toll on her health. They have been married for 65 years now, and I do wonder if she wishes she had dumped his ass decades ago.

  • @isabelbecerra9258
    @isabelbecerra9258 5 месяцев назад +966

    She is grieving the death of her imaginary ideal family life and wealthy status

    • @CatWhiskering
      @CatWhiskering 5 месяцев назад +46

      Yeah, for whatever reason, she settled for some guy she knew was bad news so she could have the Christmas-photo-card-perfect family with the 2 kids. She got a prenup. She knew he was a 6' tall deer tick. But she was impatient and wanted that "married with children" status. I think she's got a lot of unworthiness baggage from being raised in a broken home.

    • @jaesall3519
      @jaesall3519 5 месяцев назад +8

      why does liars and people like that always get good women
      I hope he changes even tho it's not luckily smh

    • @talyahr3302
      @talyahr3302 5 месяцев назад +20

      The kids are still really young. I know that means you want extra help, but if you leave now the kids won't remember much about the separation. RUN!! THIS IS INSANE! How do you even sleep next to him at night? I could never touch him again.

    • @SLOBeachboy
      @SLOBeachboy 5 месяцев назад

      Where exactly are you getting that from? I watched the entire video and nothing she said even remotely indicated that she was overly concerned with her “wealth status” or with having the “ideal” family”. I will say however that what she said about staying together for the kids was BS. That was a just a rationalization. She may be kidding herself into believing its true, but the real reason is because she is still hung up on this worthless bum. And by the way when two people are in a toxic relationship staying together is NEVER better for the kids, regardless of what we may think. Anyway, I don’t know if this guy is an outright con man who preys on rich and vulnerable women (seems likely) or just a financially irresponsible idiot. Either way there is no point in making a prenup if you are just going to let the person rob you blind while you are still married. Most of her premarital assets should have been in a separate account in her name from the very start of the marriage. This lady is dumb beyond belief. No sane, rational, self-respecting women would stay with this guy for another second.

    • @austinduke8876
      @austinduke8876 5 месяцев назад +3

      ​@jaesall3519 if you were to be a complete sociopath with both the charm and willingness to abuse it you would be amazed with the sort of people you could attract.
      This woman did "go for" a manipulator, she was seduced by one which was his strategy.
      I don't say that to remove her accountability for whom she picked. She picked him so bares some blame but it's not as if she had complete information.

  • @anniealexander9616
    @anniealexander9616 5 месяцев назад +82

    She is in denial! That money is going somewhere!! Why isn't she keeping up with her accounts? I check my accounts weekly. Savings, 401k, IRA, after tax, checking, credit cards.

    • @esterdrass4964
      @esterdrass4964 6 дней назад +3

      I do that now. Not that I have a lot at all but I like checking it all the time to make sure nothing weird is happening. No surprises. I want to know where what is and how much I owe who and when. It also helps me not spend knowing all of that.

  • @voidfroze
    @voidfroze 5 месяцев назад +18

    “The kids are so young…” exactly!!! Leave now, while they’re too young to remember the painful events. Let them grow up without him instead of growing up around tension and fighting for the next 5-10 years, and then an eventual divorce when they’re old enough to get caught in the crossfire and be wounded.

  • @debbieholoquist2059
    @debbieholoquist2059 5 месяцев назад +908

    A bad marriage is a horrible place to raise a child. Staying with him for the children is a mistake.

    • @Rin22730
      @Rin22730 5 месяцев назад +14

      It's not though. Facts don't lie. Children are better off in a 2 parent home. Kids do not do well when parents are split, even if they stay together in a bad marriage.

    • @Dontrolling
      @Dontrolling 5 месяцев назад +7

      My grandad did that and my aunt grew up watching them sleep in separate rooms, argue, my grandad would work his butt off just to not be home and she was raised by my miserable bitter step grandmother. My aunt has anger issues, her mom tried diagnosing her as bipolar and turned into a bully just like her mom having a false sense of self and is controlled by her mother. My Grandad has deep regrets.

    • @Dontrolling
      @Dontrolling 5 месяцев назад +19

      @@Rin22730yea but having kids witness detachment, abuse, and see their parents resenting each other is just as bad and the kids don’t get to see what a healthy relationship looks like. I grew up with a single mom and turned out perfectly okay because my mom put in the work and got me the help and guidance I needed that she couldn’t provide for me. I agree that parents should seek therapy to work out their issues but ultimately if the relationship is tainted then cutting the cord is better than faking a happy relationship. The kids aren’t going to be young forever and they’ll see it for themselves as they age

    • @LilySaintSin
      @LilySaintSin 5 месяцев назад

      So she should stay with a liar and fraud? ​@@Rin22730

    • @miamiflorida6965
      @miamiflorida6965 5 месяцев назад +1

      💯

  • @patriciacatlinbrown3804
    @patriciacatlinbrown3804 5 месяцев назад +1090

    I have a feeling her husband’s “business” is actually stealing money from women. He’s a con-artist. 😢 She needs to run!

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 5 месяцев назад +10

      She picked him!

    • @jecrpalier
      @jecrpalier 5 месяцев назад

      @@patriciacatlinbrown3804 lol that’s funny. Spending a woman’s money theft. Spending a man’s is just a bad spending wife. Yeah we get it. All the simps and dumb women in here classic

    • @289Mustang67
      @289Mustang67 5 месяцев назад +44

      @@alinatamashevich3354 Your comment makes zero sense. It was made clear that she had no hint that he was a fraudster. What is your solution? Do you avoid relationships with everyone so you don't get fooled, live a solitary life, and get on RUclips to blame anyone who fell in love and was hurt? Even more strange, do you single out women as the fault of every failed relationship?

    • @unknowncomment85
      @unknowncomment85 5 месяцев назад +1

      so only women are allowed to steal what men make? via alimony and asset division?

    • @awill3454
      @awill3454 5 месяцев назад +25

      @unknowncomment85 Yeah sucks for this woman but I’ve seen women do this to men, including my own mother. but when I called her out for stealing child support after finding out she was receiving A LOT more than she was spending on us, she cried and played the victim and turned my family against me. We lived in a 700sqft apartment with cockroaches and black mold and my brother and I shared a room and our entire closet and half our bedroom was used for her storage when she downsized. We had PBJs and spaghetti almost every day but I’m the bad one for calling out the $5,600/month she was receiving in CS that never trickled down to us. Sad that when genders are reversed all of a sudden there’s sympathy for the victim.

  • @random-nz7dy
    @random-nz7dy 5 месяцев назад +224

    The marriage is over. They will get divorced. She's just still in the emotional phase where she can't yet come to terms with the fact that the dream she had for her life is shattered into a nightmare

    • @alladreamwedreamed
      @alladreamwedreamed 5 месяцев назад +10

      She is residing in Fantasyland. He's been lying and conning her all along, lied on the prenup, took out debt to make it look like saving....but yeah honey, another legal document saying he can't steal from you is gonna help 😅 she really said she wanted to pay off the debt and thought he would pay her back! Lmaooo😅

    • @aye54
      @aye54 5 месяцев назад +1

      Sarah is lying. I’m the husband. I will share my story soon

    • @random-nz7dy
      @random-nz7dy 5 месяцев назад +3

      @@aye54 lol idk if this is real or not, but if it is will you reply and to my comment with the update cause I'd be very interested.

    • @Emm325
      @Emm325 5 месяцев назад

      @@random-nz7dyso, you didn’t take the money? Why not agree to go on the show/call together? Sure sounds like a lot is being hidden. Would be glad to hear your side of the story, for some reason Dave hasn’t shown it on a follow up, from what we can tell, that is quite interesting, as they would LOVE to hear the reasons for all the money disappearing. What is she gaining from literally humiliating herself for the entire world to see?!?

    • @acedegenerate2254
      @acedegenerate2254 4 месяца назад

      ​@@aye54 sure asshole

  • @RoxiieSays
    @RoxiieSays 5 месяцев назад +16

    This is the type of guy who offs the family for insurance money. Wishing her and her children the best.

  • @mxdbscts
    @mxdbscts 5 месяцев назад +30

    You can have a broken household with parents that are still “together.”

    • @MsLady-gb3gy
      @MsLady-gb3gy Месяц назад +3

      True 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵

  • @JustinCase780
    @JustinCase780 5 месяцев назад +625

    This call is so strange. She knows a lot with her success with $ but actually knows nothing with her accounts.
    And, plans to stay with the guy? What?!!

    • @enricopallazzo3244
      @enricopallazzo3244 5 месяцев назад +78

      She just gave him the ok to do this again..and again…

    • @DefinitelyNotRin
      @DefinitelyNotRin 5 месяцев назад +40

      To be fair, this is the sad part of humanity. She has probably never known someone like this to exist. This encounter will forever scar her and never let her look at people the same way. It's one reason scumbags like this guy are pure evil.

    • @clark_kent999
      @clark_kent999 5 месяцев назад +67

      Something fishy with her story with lack of details on where money has gone.

    • @erikmarchese4290
      @erikmarchese4290 5 месяцев назад +13

      @@DefinitelyNotRinBut when the facts are staring you right in the face, why sign up for more

    • @econdude3811
      @econdude3811 5 месяцев назад +30

      I noticed the caller declining to answer some questions right away. It sounded a bit scripted and rehearsed to me

  • @FreeAgent797
    @FreeAgent797 5 месяцев назад +274

    She says that the missing money has nothing to do with other women or any kind of addiction. I have a feeling that this is far from the truth. If she was this oblivious with the financial issues going on, there is no telling what else this guy is getting away with. I'm actually terrified for her. I wish her the best.

    • @Iamsam-jl5fn
      @Iamsam-jl5fn 5 месяцев назад +19

      Me too! I hope she makes it out alive. And the children.

    • @bridgetsmith3732
      @bridgetsmith3732 4 месяца назад +6

      Wake up!, time to let him go!

    • @Lizapendleton
      @Lizapendleton 4 месяца назад +10

      She doesn't know this guy at all. Probably all sorts going on.

    • @nailatiyllufm7325
      @nailatiyllufm7325 4 месяца назад +9

      She said “after something in particular happened I asked about the money”. Would love to know what that was.

    • @Judy-c3d
      @Judy-c3d Месяц назад +5

      He’s putting it in an untraceable Swiss bank account or off shore account. Hire a private eye and get a forensic computer expert to go through his computer. Or file a complaint with the police and they can take his computer as evidence.

  • @PalmBeachFlorida24
    @PalmBeachFlorida24 5 месяцев назад +159

    Coming from experience, he's funneled the money to a secret account ...and when she tells the host that she doesn't want a broken home, she is currently in one. It's broken, and unless she wants to live paycheck to paycheck for the next 50 years, she needs to run.

    • @maureenviola
      @maureenviola 5 месяцев назад +1

      He easily could have plowed it into a declining business and it’s gone - not saved

    • @PalmBeachFlorida24
      @PalmBeachFlorida24 5 месяцев назад +13

      @@maureenviola true, but that the same as funnelling it. Most likely set up is he has a nest egg. She was targeted from the begining

    • @thecamillarose9806
      @thecamillarose9806 5 дней назад

      I know John would tell her that the home is broken!!

    • @scott4825
      @scott4825 День назад

      Yep. People from South Florida get exposed to this type of person a lot. Assuming her facts are straight, he lied coming in and lied with the business and in the marriage (he had them going on vacations). This risks are pretty high that he funneled the money into an account, but maybe it was his lifestyle (same difference) and then the pre-nup gives him a balloon payment of 150,000 on his way out. And after he funnels most of the money out, it might be hard to keep him from getting that last bit. Then, there could also be the issue of her physical safety.

  • @sarashain9884
    @sarashain9884 5 месяцев назад +29

    The saddest day in a wife's life is when she lies to herself about the reality that is staring her in the face which she refuses to acknowledge. This caller is willing to be a "victim" to save face'; this man does not love her she is simply his free meal ticket to finance the life he wants without putting any work. She may very well be on the hook to the IRS for his unpaid taxes in addition to all the debts he has accumulated while married to her. Her life and the lives of her children are on quicksand!

  • @talyahr3302
    @talyahr3302 5 месяцев назад +20

    The kids are still really young. I know that means you want extra help, but if you leave now the kids won't remember much about the separation. RUN!! THIS IS INSANE!

  • @kaythegardener
    @kaythegardener 5 месяцев назад +162

    She needs to see a lawyer ASAP, who has a forensic accountant on call, to find out where the money went & protect what little is left for her & the kids & GET HIM OUT OF HER LIFE ASAP!!

    • @mph5896
      @mph5896 5 месяцев назад +2

      She said its all gone😉 He tried to prop up a failing business with the $ and used it all.

    • @Ella-Bella2024
      @Ella-Bella2024 5 месяцев назад

      @@mph5896 that's his story. He can't be trusted.

    • @Ella-Bella2024
      @Ella-Bella2024 5 месяцев назад +1

      Great advice.

    • @marsha1758
      @marsha1758 5 месяцев назад

      Amen!

    • @pookie1960
      @pookie1960 4 месяца назад

      @@mph5896 Well I think she still has retirement money somewhere and hopefully he can't get to that.

  • @Catlady8
    @Catlady8 5 месяцев назад +164

    Advice from someone on the other end of how this turns out:
    I’m 30 years down the line in a very similar situation except my husband had nothing when I married him & I had everything. Counseling will not help. It just buys them time & they find other ways to hide their financial abuse. Once a liar and a thief, always a liar & a thief. I stayed for my kids and put up with it & gave chance after chance but just like toddlers having a tantrum, once you give into them you have forever given up your hand. They know they can do whatever you’ve shown you’ll put up with. Don’t end up like me and actually worse off after marriage than before. Run honey. Run fast & far. Save yourself & your kids while you still have time to start over. Looking at retirement with everything you thought you were working towards for decades now gone is not a place you want to be.

    • @kj7653
      @kj7653 4 месяца назад +20

      I agree. I was also married and kept trying. It just gave him more time to hide more and steal more. A post-op does not work. In the eyes of creditors, you were married and you have to pay up. 20 years later and I am still paying bills and trying to stabilize my finances, unable to retire. You owe it to your children to RUN.

    • @carrotspaghetti236
      @carrotspaghetti236 3 месяца назад +9

      Similar. Very close to my retirement age, he started doing things that could have cost me the house, which was entirely in my name. I learned in my state that even if I separated, as long as I was legally married to him, I was liable for his wrongdoing. I would never be able to retire, and my children from a previous marriage, who grew up entirely in a single parent family, no benefits of discretionary income, would have no inheritance when I died. I divorced him. I don't believe in divorce, but the harm he was doing I could never dig out from. He didn't honor any of the commitments he agreed to before marriage: he was a grifter. Due to the expenses he incurred, for which I was responsible, my retirement is very, very lean. I was better off before I met him.

    • @flowers3036
      @flowers3036 3 месяца назад

      Same.

    • @flowers3036
      @flowers3036 3 месяца назад +2

      ​@carrotspaghetti236 at least you got away. Still trapped. Narc.

    • @seraphilight
      @seraphilight 3 месяца назад

      That and it fucks up the kids.
      Oh and, they clarified that he actually had nothing just like yours. He twisted something.

  • @disgruntledcashier503
    @disgruntledcashier503 5 месяцев назад +321

    However bad it is for children to grow up in a broken household, I guarantee it's far worse to grow up in a household where their mother accepts and tacitly endorses felony-level theft from family.

    • @Desertbiker617
      @Desertbiker617 5 месяцев назад +16

      More like grand larceny

    • @carpediem6431
      @carpediem6431 5 месяцев назад +16

      Dr Phil: “children would rather be from a broken home, then live in one.”

    • @juliaalexandria3352
      @juliaalexandria3352 5 месяцев назад +8

      Yup - and frankly, her home is already broken!

    • @maxinef6654
      @maxinef6654 5 месяцев назад

      I think she still loves him even though he almost bankrupted the family. She doesn’t want to leave him.

    • @juliaalexandria3352
      @juliaalexandria3352 5 месяцев назад

      @@maxinef6654 smh

  • @lucianestridge7964
    @lucianestridge7964 4 месяца назад +9

    The money is still there. He has just put it somewhere else.

  • @josmith8233
    @josmith8233 5 месяцев назад +17

    She got scammed. She should've checked. Divorce him.

  • @JC-xu1cz
    @JC-xu1cz 5 месяцев назад +70

    She needs to press charges against him. He targeted her for her money.

  • @pauleff3312
    @pauleff3312 5 месяцев назад +124

    Stealing off your spouse is a complete and utter contemptable thing to do

    • @coreyfranco7060
      @coreyfranco7060 5 месяцев назад +1

      If you are married then the money belongs to both

    • @MrMustangrick
      @MrMustangrick 4 месяца назад

      And a post nup will do nothing. He is dishonest, she should consider a divorce and getting away from him.

    • @talentous718
      @talentous718 3 месяца назад

      @@coreyfranco7060 in the grand scheme of things, yes. But if you have a spouse that is lying and withholding funds or withdrawing funds without telling the other, that is the worst feeling. I read on some marital blogs where the wives would not tell the husbands about their spending habits and hide it for years but will go to church and tithe without missing a week and think thats ok.

    • @judahisrael9456
      @judahisrael9456 Месяц назад

      @@coreyfranco7060 I definitely agree that this man is in the wrong... its just crazy to me because if the rolls were reversed and it was the women doing this the hosts of the show including Dave wouldn't be hinting toward divorce and separating their money or accounts. And the man would of been under fire for having the prenup with them saying he doesn't trust his wife and that all finances should be co-mingled . I just hate the level of bias on this platform that caters to the woman! Dave would of said something like " well you married her for better or for worst, rich or poor".. All im saying is they need to keep the same energy when these women screw up as well.

  • @UnstoppableMorgan
    @UnstoppableMorgan 5 месяцев назад +328

    How did she not notice her accounts were being cleared out before it got so bad?

    • @random-nz7dy
      @random-nz7dy 5 месяцев назад +43

      Denial is a powerful thing.

    • @mbm8690
      @mbm8690 5 месяцев назад

      Liars are really good at hiding, manipulating and keeping up appearences.

    • @jt6231
      @jt6231 5 месяцев назад +39

      She has to work full time plus two kids within three years of marriage. She is leading a hectic life. She has no time until recently, I think.

    • @CaToRi-
      @CaToRi- 5 месяцев назад +14

      Probably she had the fantasy of the wonderful husband (Brady Bunch like) that takes care of everything in a perfect way soooo she barely bothered to check to accounts.

    • @mmmd3429
      @mmmd3429 5 месяцев назад +39

      He distracted her with two small children and drained her accounts.

  • @janetr5929
    @janetr5929 5 месяцев назад +12

    She won’t ever be reimbursed by him. She’s really in denial.

  • @shelleyirwin6104
    @shelleyirwin6104 5 месяцев назад +11

    My ex husband basically spent most of his paycheck at the bar. There was never enough money to pay the mortgage or buy groceries. We divorced 25 years ago and he recently died in a car accident and I learned he was homeless and broke. Such a sad story.

  • @MaxSujyGermany
    @MaxSujyGermany 5 месяцев назад +68

    He choose her because she was an easy target. She's not gonna leave him anytime soon. He knew that when he picked her. He would not have choose her otherwise. If you are reading this... please know that he is lying about EVERYTHING else, not just the financial part.

    • @marsha1758
      @marsha1758 5 месяцев назад +10

      He may not even have a business. I wonder how long she took to get to know him before she married him. I wish Dave would have answered this call.

  • @neisci
    @neisci 5 месяцев назад +321

    Husband is a liar and thief. What does she wants to "work on"? Some people just move in desperation. Once all the money is gone he'll be gone with it.

    • @jecrpalier
      @jecrpalier 5 месяцев назад +15

      Your wife spends all a man’s savings it’s just money control therapy for her spending. He spends all her savings. Criminal criminal. Yeah I like double standards here a lot of shat

    • @nicolejenkins2609
      @nicolejenkins2609 5 месяцев назад +49

      He chose you as a mark- the children were there to trap you. He isn’t a bumbling idiot, he’s a predator.

    • @coolaunt516
      @coolaunt516 5 месяцев назад +16

      @@nicolejenkins2609 That's right. Once you have kids, they've got you.

    • @ST-rj8iu
      @ST-rj8iu 5 месяцев назад +8

      @@jecrpalier No. It is criminal no matter what...this is extreme. He blew 1 million in less than 3 years. Don't get married!

    • @JogaBonitoCFTV
      @JogaBonitoCFTV 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@jecrpalier you are bang on

  • @Tvandsleep13
    @Tvandsleep13 5 месяцев назад +330

    How at no point did she not know 100k+ is being taken from accounts? Does she not check them?

    • @RetroGamer20109
      @RetroGamer20109 5 месяцев назад +46

      Agreed. This doesn't happen overnight.

    • @brookiegremlin6660
      @brookiegremlin6660 5 месяцев назад

      @@RetroGamer20109 especially since she refers to herself as a "budgeter." I struggle with budgeting, but I noticed a $50 charge on my credit card and called my cc company right away.

    • @richardw3470
      @richardw3470 5 месяцев назад +16

      There was another person who had me asking don't you at least look at your statements monthly. Evidently they didn't and Surprise eventually. This is not good for the kids as they grow up if Daddy doesn't get honest. He'll be teaching them how to keep secrets and get around other people's more open and honest ways of doing things. This post-nup will be as valid as the pre-nup.

    • @billygnosis6976
      @billygnosis6976 5 месяцев назад +9

      I wouldn't really notice if our accounts went 100K, its the flow of the market

    • @CatWhiskering
      @CatWhiskering 5 месяцев назад +32

      You can easily set up alerts on any bank account where you're notified of debits of any amount over a threshold that you define.

  • @ashen8046
    @ashen8046 2 дня назад +2

    The post nup is insanity. This man is a liar and clearly does not care what he signs.

  • @MetubeYoutube
    @MetubeYoutube 3 дня назад +2

    He sold her a family and he’s paying himself from her accounts. This guy is a criminal for cheating her and she wants to stay with him. Never stay with a man just for s** or his looks or his charm like that if he has no legit connections, job, integrity etc.

  • @katharinegrinton389
    @katharinegrinton389 5 месяцев назад +176

    Leave him now! If he lied about all this ... what else will he lie about?? Once a liar, always a liar!

    • @billygnosis6976
      @billygnosis6976 5 месяцев назад +5

      not true but I truly value your insight, thank you

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 5 месяцев назад +2

      She picked him!

    • @pokejammerz
      @pokejammerz 5 месяцев назад +1

      i agree kat!

    • @GMAMEC
      @GMAMEC 5 месяцев назад +1

      I hope she sees this. She’s still in shock and wants to make everything better. That’s not realistic. He’s no good and will make matters worse. The sooner she runs, the better. She also needs to forgive herself.

    • @tc_is_me
      @tc_is_me 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@alinatamashevich3354 She picked what he presented himself to be. Which is why he lied in the first place. He knew she wouldn’t marry him if she knew who he truly was. He wore a mask and only took it off when he was caught.

  • @LisaLisa-in4vw
    @LisaLisa-in4vw 5 месяцев назад +266

    Guaranteed if he's lying about money, he's lying about other things!

    • @wallyt1487
      @wallyt1487 5 месяцев назад

      He's probably lying about his race

    • @QueenRissa_34
      @QueenRissa_34 5 месяцев назад +2

      Exactly 😬🫤🤦🏾‍♀️ And she wants to stay with him because of her kids….🤔

    • @KellyTheZeta
      @KellyTheZeta 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@QueenRissa_34 she staying for her.

    • @nameunknown1519
      @nameunknown1519 5 месяцев назад +1

      Other things? Everything!

    • @Emm325
      @Emm325 5 месяцев назад +1

      THIS.

  • @DannyF249
    @DannyF249 5 месяцев назад +607

    Get a divorce and start from scratch. Not only is he a burden but he lied to you from the beginning and was willing to keep doing it, except he got found out.

    • @jecrpalier
      @jecrpalier 5 месяцев назад +10

      @@DannyF249 same could be said for most spending women which is ALL of them

    • @PrincessLolly1
      @PrincessLolly1 5 месяцев назад +27

      @@jecrpaliernasty & untrue, someone must have really hurt you. I hope you can heal.

    • @289Mustang67
      @289Mustang67 5 месяцев назад +17

      @@jecrpalier Bitter much?

    • @jecrpalier
      @jecrpalier 5 месяцев назад +7

      @@PrincessLolly1 oh but who looks for the millionaires. Whom does? Plenty and u never see a woman go for a broke man. No bitterness it’s reality and I see it always.

    • @jecrpalier
      @jecrpalier 5 месяцев назад

      @@289Mustang67 lol I’m not bitter I’m fine in my relationship. Yes providing is part of it but to say he stole ur savings is idk a bit messed up. Smells of selfishness. Guys don’t divorce their wives cause she ran through 200k in credit cards do they. Oh she has a problem. Guy didn’t have to admit to anything. He cucked himself saying he was something he wasn’t cause he wanted to show guilt for using money for a bad business.

  • @Enidscake
    @Enidscake 4 месяца назад +5

    RUN...
    He will bleed you dry and will not change....this happened to my mum, she had to start over financially at 50.

  • @SusieGr187
    @SusieGr187 4 дня назад +2

    They will end up divorced…you can tell. She will just end up with a lot more debt until she gets it. So sorry this is happening to this poor woman.

  • @madisonandthefarm
    @madisonandthefarm 5 месяцев назад +92

    Divorce while the kids are small, it gets harder when they are much bigger

  • @danzidae
    @danzidae 5 месяцев назад +50

    This lady is way too calm.....my goodness. If $10 dollars is missing from my account, I know and I chase it down. Ain't know way, this is why I don't entirely think couple should merge their finances because I would be loosing all my marbles.

  • @travisbickle1455
    @travisbickle1455 5 месяцев назад +301

    Husband is a fraud...dump and divorce him.

    • @LivingSpirit-e5s
      @LivingSpirit-e5s 5 месяцев назад

      Dump and divorce this loser immediately. There is no trusting him after this. None whatsoever.

    • @cwr6816
      @cwr6816 5 месяцев назад +4

      File a police report

  • @DK-xh6un
    @DK-xh6un 4 месяца назад +8

    He's playing her. He knows a broken home is a core wound for her.

  • @DennisHeikki
    @DennisHeikki 5 месяцев назад +6

    Damn, gotta be really careful. If you're good with money, never get financial ties to someone who isn't also good with money.

  • @Lady-BriChanel
    @Lady-BriChanel 5 месяцев назад +82

    This man is going to cause damage to his children regardless. He is a lying thief- FULL STOP. If the money supply stops he will move on whether she wants to or not. I'd rather show my children what it's like to be a strong person than to be a victim.

  • @sarahhunter2352
    @sarahhunter2352 5 месяцев назад +80

    How did he steal hundreds of thousands of dollars from her accounts without her knowing?

    • @tupisamba211
      @tupisamba211 5 месяцев назад +22

      And where tf was that money going? she never said what he did with it

    • @Ella-Bella2024
      @Ella-Bella2024 5 месяцев назад +10

      She trusted her husband and was busy working and taking care of her family.

    • @Silidons91
      @Silidons91 5 месяцев назад

      Because she's not as intelligent as she thinks she is.

    • @AngieMcdonald-fu9nh
      @AngieMcdonald-fu9nh 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@Ella-Bella2024she said tgey wwre her persinal accounds that were set up separately. He had to have raken her cards or she told him her password. Crazy.

    • @ShaynieB
      @ShaynieB 3 месяца назад

      @@Ella-Bella2024no, she’s just unsmart period.

  • @magikdeetrik
    @magikdeetrik 5 месяцев назад +35

    “And um, uh, so um, um , and uh, so uh” pretty much summarizes it all

  • @claro1217
    @claro1217 5 месяцев назад +11

    This dude must have a criminal background or something. There is no way this is his first time stealing or lying. If he did this with his own wife just imagine other people.

  • @je-s2616
    @je-s2616 2 дня назад +2

    He took over $300K from her and she doesn't want a separation????? Is he lied to her about that imagine what else he's lying about.

  • @nancystevens7447
    @nancystevens7447 5 месяцев назад +173

    Sociopaths are everywhere,they are predators and experts at finding their victims. Forgive yourself for falling for his lies,it can get better with the abuser out of your life. I left after 45 yrs. of this crap,this was my entire life and this is my story. Please don’t stay.

    • @914TRD
      @914TRD 5 месяцев назад +4

      But if it was the other way around its okay right?

    • @Atlas-tp8dw
      @Atlas-tp8dw 5 месяцев назад

      No, it's not. It's not okay either way. ​@@914TRD

    • @jecrpalier
      @jecrpalier 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@nancystevens7447 enjoy ur cats. U should get 45 for every year u complained. I bet u can find a millionaire now 😂

    • @kathypatterson6813
      @kathypatterson6813 5 месяцев назад +11

      @@jecrpalier sounds like you have experience taking women’s money

    • @naca1553
      @naca1553 5 месяцев назад +3

      And there’s STILL hope for your life. Ask me how I know this

  • @cyoohoos
    @cyoohoos 5 месяцев назад +91

    I hate when people call in and try to be cagey. If his name wasn’t on your accounts he would have no access to them. And the fact that you haven’t DUMPED him is probably due to the kids which I’m sure HE wanted…
    He’s not going to stop the lies. So can you live with this or not. You’ll wind up paying him child support and maybe alimony …lesson to ladies….Do Not Get Married Just to Have Kids

    • @jbissainthe
      @jbissainthe 5 месяцев назад +16

      These callers for the most part are always cagey. I’m still lost. Her story still doesn’t make any sense. How does someone who doesn’t have legal access to someone else’s personal account have access to that person’s funds? There’s something else going on. And until she’s transparent with what’s going on she’ll never get to the bottom of this mess.

    • @Trudloops
      @Trudloops 5 месяцев назад +11

      He probably had access to her computer and passwords and that could be how he stole some of her money from her accounts.

    • @nicholebryant7359
      @nicholebryant7359 5 месяцев назад +6

      @@jbissaintheforgery

    • @EsiriE
      @EsiriE 5 месяцев назад +3

      They get limited time to speak so we’re never going to hear every little detail. But just the summary. I thought that was obvious

    • @AnneCaulder
      @AnneCaulder 5 месяцев назад +6

      She will be paying him child support next year. I don’t think there is a “business” that gives him any income. Maybe he’s a gambler. That’s a heck of a lot of money to just disappear.

  • @mpeugeot
    @mpeugeot 5 месяцев назад +266

    She's leaving something out, she avoids the question as to where the money went... something stinks badly here. She's not being open or honest.

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 5 месяцев назад +62

      YEP. How would he get access to her other accounts, when his name was not on it?

    • @ajones8008
      @ajones8008 5 месяцев назад +8

      he could have just spent it on lifestyle changes. new cars, kitchen upgrade etc. Its easy to embezzle money in a relationship with children.

    • @imungukalevera8671
      @imungukalevera8671 5 месяцев назад +18

      @@ajones8008 wouldn't she have noticed a kitchen upgrade or any other expenses he spent on the house?

    • @ajones8008
      @ajones8008 5 месяцев назад +17

      @@imungukalevera8671 she noticed but didn't recognize it was her own money that paid for it.

    • @Ella-Bella2024
      @Ella-Bella2024 5 месяцев назад

      @@jimmymcgill6778 she said they were marital accounts.

  • @catherinep2034
    @catherinep2034 5 месяцев назад +38

    She can afford a lawyer for post-nupital, but can't afford to go to therapy? Im wondering if she doesnt want to go because she knows she won't like what she'll hear.

    • @ThePolypam
      @ThePolypam 5 месяцев назад +2

      There doesn't seem to be an enforceable agreement. It's probably more like a handshake. She's not very smart.

    • @catherinep2034
      @catherinep2034 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@ThePolypam that's possible, that maybe she didn't use a lawyer for pre-nup either. She could've drafted the contract herself believing he wouldn't rip her off, or was verbal with a handshake.

  • @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU
    @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 3 месяца назад +150

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    • @steceymorgan814
      @steceymorgan814 3 месяца назад

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    • @AnjeloValeriano
      @AnjeloValeriano 3 месяца назад

      Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once.
      Breathe. You're strong. You got this Take it day by day.

    • @steceymorgan814
      @steceymorgan814 3 месяца назад

      Please, how do I reach him?

    • @steceymorgan814
      @steceymorgan814 3 месяца назад

      Is He on Instagram?

    • @patriaciasmith3499
      @patriaciasmith3499 3 месяца назад

      Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

  • @debbie7771
    @debbie7771 5 месяцев назад +37

    How can she ever look at him the same. Liars are the worst.

  • @kekejefferson9219
    @kekejefferson9219 5 месяцев назад +42

    News Flash! A broken household is with 2 parents that don't trust each other.

  • @humbledwarrior3314
    @humbledwarrior3314 5 месяцев назад +26

    He had planed it out. Married her for her money not for love. He knew it all along. She should investigate his background and for sure, he has more to hide…

    • @emilyecm
      @emilyecm 5 месяцев назад +5

      If she doesn’t leave him. He will, once there are financial restrictions in place. He’s gone! So so sad.

  • @MsContessa1974
    @MsContessa1974 5 месяцев назад +5

    Wait a minute if he lied on a legal document and she's not saying what he did with the money, this is actually fraud and he's a criminal. Where did the $280k go and how did he access it!? She's in denial or hiding something.

  • @MiraMira0ntheWall
    @MiraMira0ntheWall 5 месяцев назад +7

    This was my mother. She had to hide paperwork, keep everything separate, not let him know of any financials, in order to continue. She would even hide her wallet in our room. I didn’t understand until I got older. All so we would have a father in the house. A house she was able to purchase herself. That sacrifice to stop a broken home is so real for women. Good luck to her. 😮

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 3 месяца назад +1

      Nothing would turn me on for this man. How can I desire someone I dnt trust

    • @Hatbox948
      @Hatbox948 Месяц назад

      It's a Biblical curse. "Her desire will be for her husband...".

  • @santafilipina9020
    @santafilipina9020 5 месяцев назад +33

    She was doing so well up to the point of asking for a prenup. And then she let him handle the accounts and didn't know what was going on?? Lady, you dropped the ball! You should have been monitoring those accounts too! Why did you decide to be hands off when this was your hard earned net worth! Grrrrr!

  • @BunnySlippers82
    @BunnySlippers82 5 месяцев назад +57

    He's a con artist who only confessed when she caught him because he couldn't come up with another lie on the spot. Once he steals ever penny he'll be going out for milk and not coming back.

  • @spidergirl7290
    @spidergirl7290 5 месяцев назад +70

    Red flags were there before the marriage. 1) She was willing to match whatever he brought into the marriage, in the event of a divorce. Who does that unless they’re a charity or grocery store? 2) It doesn’t sound like lawyers were involved with the prenup, because how did he get away with lying on his legal document “proof” of net worth?

    • @Officialbladenwordcounter
      @Officialbladenwordcounter 5 месяцев назад +7

      She's not all that smart. And a liar to boot, she dodged answering where the money was going 3 times.

    • @EsiriE
      @EsiriE 5 месяцев назад +2

      There’s ways people fake documents. Forged documents are a thing. The guys just a con artist it seems.

  • @theyquincy8400
    @theyquincy8400 5 месяцев назад +7

    The one drawback from these folks is the insisting of working on marriages with horrible people.

  • @mxdbscts
    @mxdbscts 5 месяцев назад +6

    Does she know that once he’s spent all of her money, he doesn’t need her permission to divorce her and move on to the next money pile?

  • @javaskull88
    @javaskull88 5 месяцев назад +33

    How heartbreaking to learn that your husband is a liar and a thief.

  • @husqv5147
    @husqv5147 5 месяцев назад +40

    Purposely having your kids raised by a known and admitted liar, cheat and thief is neglect. Wake up and smell the coffee here Sarah.

  • @chrisoresick4348
    @chrisoresick4348 5 месяцев назад +71

    Frankly, I cant see how she could ever trust a word out of this guys mouth when everything he has told her about his, and eventually their, finances was a lie. No amount of counseling is going to change a compulsive liar, and she needs to leave.

    • @TallyDrake
      @TallyDrake 5 месяцев назад +5

      Right. How can she trust him AGAIN, when she shouldn't have trusted him in the first place?

  • @Gannicus-USA
    @Gannicus-USA 5 месяцев назад +7

    Better kids grow up with divorced parents than see a relationship built on lies and deceit

  • @solc.2318
    @solc.2318 5 месяцев назад +8

    At least she is married.
    - sarcasm at its highest level -

  • @ST-rj8iu
    @ST-rj8iu 5 месяцев назад +35

    What is the post nup going to do? He already disregarded the pre-nup. Once the money is gone it is gone. He will never pay it back!

    • @BrendaBaBoom
      @BrendaBaBoom 5 месяцев назад +1

      🎯🎯🎯

    • @Ella-Bella2024
      @Ella-Bella2024 5 месяцев назад +2

      She should have him sign the post-nup stating that she's not responsible for his debt and that he's not entitled to alimony in the event of divorce, then she should file for divorce.

    • @gossipandgrigio7200
      @gossipandgrigio7200 5 месяцев назад +1

      she is not very bright

  • @catherinewilke5583
    @catherinewilke5583 5 месяцев назад +60

    My mother married one of these gold diggers. She’s so desperate to be “married” she’s in the process of transferring her assets to him and his daughter, all while defending him. It’s disgusting.

    • @unknowncomment85
      @unknowncomment85 5 месяцев назад

      only women can do this, i encourage more men to be gold diggers

    • @Xsilif
      @Xsilif 5 месяцев назад +5

      Please talk her out of it!

    • @TallyDrake
      @TallyDrake 5 месяцев назад +5

      ​@@Xsilif Without hard evidence I doubt she would be able to...and even then the mother might not listen.

    • @catherinewilke5583
      @catherinewilke5583 5 месяцев назад +3

      @@Xsilif I tried and she won’t listen. Fact is, my sister and I could really use the money for retirement, since we both lost our shirts in very necessary divorces, then she got cancer and I became disabled. Mom barely talks to me because I tried to persuade her not to give him the money.

    • @cutehumor
      @cutehumor 5 месяцев назад +8

      unfortunately, your mother's money is hers to do with. sorry

  • @NVDAbets
    @NVDAbets 5 месяцев назад +18

    Ma'am... Here's the thing. There are plenty of children grow up with broken household turn out to be just fine. But to grow up with a pathological liar, I can hardly imagine they will be taught the right value.

  • @momnursefashionista7506
    @momnursefashionista7506 5 месяцев назад +5

    Poor thing she’s in denial. Lord help them. I been there when my 4 kids were very young and fast fed we not together! Girl get you and your babies out of there.

  • @xelefonte
    @xelefonte 3 месяца назад +3

    It reminds me of that person who lied and swindled to get a job. The employer finds out and immediately fires him. But unlike the employer, this woman shares kids with him and lots of debt so too many strings for a divorce. But a divorce is her best way out. He will continue to hemorrhage money and sink the couple further. The debt will only continue to surplus. You have to stop the bleeding now, it will only get worse.

  • @mmmd3429
    @mmmd3429 5 месяцев назад +29

    She's in a broken home but refuses to take the trash out.

  • @caroldonohoe2092
    @caroldonohoe2092 5 месяцев назад +15

    This is what happens when you don't handle everything together. She's a budgeter but hasn't paid any attention to the budgeting ??

  • @julieritchie9809
    @julieritchie9809 5 месяцев назад +20

    How does she know there isn’t another woman he’s spending the money on? They are good at hiding it he’s probably on dating sites saying he is separated or going thru a divorce

  • @anata.g.4966
    @anata.g.4966 5 месяцев назад +2

    That is why you should always be on top of things and check on your finances and never lay everything on your spouse.

  • @danieljohnson4418
    @danieljohnson4418 5 месяцев назад +4

    Stay with him and let him spend the rest of the money. That's the only right thing to do. ☺️

  • @CatWhiskering
    @CatWhiskering 5 месяцев назад +37

    This woman takes 20 minutes to share 2 minutes of story.

    • @dobia4486
      @dobia4486 5 месяцев назад +5

      Most women lol...

  • @pitbull7885
    @pitbull7885 5 месяцев назад +40

    I would leave this marriage it will only get worse with more lies in the future.

  • @bernadettesolomons1870
    @bernadettesolomons1870 5 месяцев назад +33

    If someone can steal, they can lie and cheat. Run run run

  • @mistermanman
    @mistermanman 6 дней назад +1

    I cannot believe Sarah is staying with her husband after such an insane betrayal. I'm actually appalled. He is going to steal from their children 100%. If there is any kind of college fund, it won't exist by the time they go to college. Grow a backbone for your kids. This is so pathetic.

  • @chrislim7976
    @chrislim7976 5 месяцев назад +3

    She's a saver and her weakness is relationships.
    There is no value in keeping this criminal around "for the children"
    The whole thing is insane.

  • @SanaKhan-bc2vo
    @SanaKhan-bc2vo 5 месяцев назад +24

    Children will get over it, get rid of the thief, never mention your net worth when you are dating someone

    • @bettysmith4527
      @bettysmith4527 5 месяцев назад +1

      Umm, the children will NOT just "get over it", that is their father and him disappearing into he night isnt' something you just "get over"!!!

    • @siva47931
      @siva47931 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@bettysmith4527 if they are black it would be par for the course

    • @gossipandgrigio7200
      @gossipandgrigio7200 4 месяца назад

      @@bettysmith4527 better than growing up, wondering why daddy is always lying and stealing from us every day. He’s a liar, and a con man guarantee you he’s going to start stealing the kids paychecks when they turn into teenagers.

  • @TheRealYungZulu
    @TheRealYungZulu 5 месяцев назад +37

    A post nup where you're loaning him money? If you gotta do all that just get a divorce!

  • @thisis.michelletorres444
    @thisis.michelletorres444 5 месяцев назад +21

    *PRESS CHARGES! IS SHE KIDDING? DIVORCE HIM! Your kids would be better off without him! Pay attention women, get a prenup and don't co-mingle accounts. Keep control and guard your personal accounts, you can setup a joint account that you deposit money into for household expenses!*

    • @joegreene6250
      @joegreene6250 5 месяцев назад

      Pay attention men! DO NOT MARRY A WOMAN. Let them be strong and independent.

  • @She-cz7wv
    @She-cz7wv 5 часов назад +2

    Caller, if you are reading this please carefully consider this: leave your husband immediately and file for divorce immediately. If he is doing this now imagine what else he will do. That man is dangerous and you are not safe. You deserve so much better than this. There are men out in the world who have integrity and will not steal from you. Your children deserve to live in a home that is safe and where their father doesn’t steal from their mother. Also consider therapy for yourself. It will help to deal with this betrayal and any other underlying things at play. Best of luck to you. You got this. You are worth it and you are strong.

  • @rosalindmcmanus2759
    @rosalindmcmanus2759 5 месяцев назад +2

    She backed the wrong horse. He’ll never change. Nor does he care. He’s no respect for his wife or family.. RUN from this with legal support asap

  • @virgierutledge3004
    @virgierutledge3004 5 месяцев назад +13

    They always say there is no other woman. Divorce the liar and save yourself and precious children.

    • @marsha1758
      @marsha1758 5 месяцев назад

      I would rather this guy have an entire stadium of mistresses than to do what he's done to this woman. She sounds so stoic. I would be in a hospital.

  • @smallredwindow
    @smallredwindow 5 месяцев назад +12

    She's clearly a high-achieving person and is more than capable of starting over for her kids, but especially for herself. Self-worth has little to do with net-worth.

  • @vixxcottage
    @vixxcottage 5 месяцев назад +2

    He is a liar and manipulator and will NEVER change. Get rid of him. You will never see that money again. This is NOT the man you thought you married.

  • @tspencer661
    @tspencer661 5 месяцев назад +3

    This is not financial infidelity. This is financial ABUSE. She needs to get out of this situation.

  • @coolaunt516
    @coolaunt516 5 месяцев назад +33

    So she won't divorce him because of the kids. She is now teaching her kids that it is Ok for a man to treat a woman like their daddy treats mama. Maybe she will should rethink her decision.

    • @unknowncomment85
      @unknowncomment85 5 месяцев назад

      nah kids will be fine.. with your argument, single mothers are setting bad example by collecting alimony and child support

    • @Naturegurl124
      @Naturegurl124 5 месяцев назад

      The kids don't even know what's going on.... WDYM?