My Wife Lied About School and Made a Fake Diploma
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- My Wife Lied About School and Made a Fake Diploma
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Dangerous AF. If she can lie about this, she can lie about anything. Run for the nearest exit while you can.
Definitely like I would be scared asf
I take a little bit different of a view, only because I try not to be judgmental. What most likely happened is that she really loves him and is afraid of losing him, and she was afraid that he might judge her if she told him the truth. So maybe she made it up, out of fear or insecurity of losing him. She probably doesn’t have some nefarious, evil motive of doing medicine without a license or something… Which obviously would be terrible… It’s not like she’s falsely working a medical job… She’s just afraid of social disapproval. Which is understandable, that she cares that much about her husband.
If I was her husband, if I wasn’t relying on her financially, I would tell her that I love her, even if she didn’t graduate from medical school, and that I know she didn’t, and that I’m going to forgive her for lying, but that if our marriage is going to stay together, she needs to come clean now. Otherwise, I’m going to have to leave because I can tolerate someone not finishing college, (because college is often a waste of time and money), but I can’t tolerate someone continuing to lie to me because our marriage needs to be based on trust. And I will forgive her for lying before, but the truth needs to come out now.
That’s what I would do.
However, if someone is very judgmental or if they make a very small salary and they really need their wife to also make a good salary, then I can understand that being a dealbreaker and then leaving.
A lot of people will make excuses to justify stuff. For example, if a short guy goes on a date, girls might tell him that they are not interested because of XYZ very vague behavior… But in reality, they were never interested from the moment he showed up because he wasn’t tall enough. I think the same type of thing might occur here, with a lot of commenters. A lot of commenters might simply judge people that don’t go to college, and they might think that you are less than if you don’t go to college
Personally, I make a really high income, but I never went to college. But I’m doing way better than 90% of people that did. So maybe I’m in a unique position to not judge a partner for dropping out of college. However, I would need her to come clean and tell me the truth. Because continuing to lie is something that can’t happen. But if she came clean, I would forgive her. I think the people that are angry at her, really deep down just don’t respect to somebody that can’t earn a good income or didn’t go to college, and they are under the false ass assumption that a college degree is required for a good income (spoiler alert: it isn’t).
@scubadivingadventures1 if you need to explain the other possibility in multiple paragraphs, then I'm just gonna go with option A of "she's a psycho, leave her bro" 😂
@@YouMissedBro I think they bring up a valid point. In psychology, people judge a lie *based on how unattractive it is* . For example, if she had lied for a year about what her favorite sport is, nobody would be angry, saying to dump her, or calling her a psycho because she lied about that.
On the other hand, if someone claims to be rich when they’re not, or claims to be taller than they are, this is a thing that will result in a lot of judgment.
College is an extra sensitive topic, as many people look down on those who didn’t go to college, and many people incorrectly assume a degree is required for success. 💯 So when someone claims credit for college they didn’t do, it offends and turns off people deeply, whereas a lie on a different topic would result in much less of an emotional response.
One thing everybody can agree on is that it’s morally wrong to lie. But one thing that people are very hypocritical on, is they will claim that they dislike all lying, but in reality, their behavior reacts much differently, depending on how unattractive the lie is.
@@scubadivingadventures1 It's clear you are a very forgiving person.
Dude come on. RUN. She is telling you who she is, believe her.
Trump will nominate her for his cabinet
@@kbanghartyou seem like super trump focused in all your comments. You okay??
@Saranewberry0599 Yes, I am super focused. I am just as focused on Trump as any other Trump supporter. Except, of course I do not support him.
@@kbanghart you should seek council. I really wish you the best. Not sure how he is related to anything on this thread.
@@kbanghartu airhead
This is scary. This is the kind of person who ends up on the news for faking cancer and having a whole gofundme account to take advantage of people’s sympathy. This guy needs to take control and get her some serious psychological help.
For real
Gypsy rose ?(mom)
He's a simp and she know it
Or the kind of person that kills people once their lies start to unravel 😬
She is so devoid of any morals that "psychological help" is not going to work on her.
This is probably not the only thing she has been lying to him about. He just hasn’t discovered it yet.
Yeah. My instinct is she got kicked out of school for something pretty big, and that is probably an even bigger problem in her mind. Addiction?
Agree. They dated for 11 years and there were no warning signs? Baloney. She's been lying to him for a long time about many things and getting away with it...and, he's ignored it. The jig is up.
Yep, she definitely did something even worse!
Yea ok. You know more than he does. Ok clown. 🤡.
She’s having an affair and using drugs
A daughter was gaslighting her parents about being enrolled in school. When the parents finally found our, she murdered them. People who go through such great lengths are psychotic
Also, Chandler Halderson. HE disassembled his parents when they caught him in this same lie.
😮😮😮
Damn video games..
Yeah, Jennifer Pan is her name I believe. Also Chandler Halderson did the same
Yes Jennifer Pan. I watched that documentary. Crazy. They had really high expectations for her (Olympic skating, concert pianist, pharmacist if I remember). She was the opposite (druggy). When they found out she had been faking everything and was living with her boyfriend they had told her to break up with, she hired some people to kill them. Her dad survived. So so sad.
This happened with my Brother, his wife dropped out of school and lied about where she was every day for a year. The lying never stopped and she eventually began to allege domestic violence against him. Absolutely run.
WTH?!? Where was she going?? What happened that’s nuts are they still together? Wow makes you think you never really know a person 🤔
Maybe he was abusive and that’s why she dropped out
@@veeno3983maybe you’re a liar and a domestic abuser
You don't need a liar to agree with you that they are lying.
This is the best thing I've heard in a while. Lots of people never realize that
She did go to school.
You’re right, it’s hard when you love someone and they lie to your face though
Truth!
@@miketheyunggod2534she was just not in class
Was shocked when he said they been together since their teenage years. I can't imagine this kind of thing would arise all of a sudden? This is flat out nuts.
She's probably lied about many things and he's a trusting person
@@mightymouse1005 There’s a lot of people that are under the false assumption that you need a college degree in order to earn good money and have a good life. Because of this, she likely felt paranoid that her partner will leave her if he knows the truth, and created a huge lie in order to try and protect her marriage. It seems like he actually would’ve accepted her dropping out. This girl’s mistake was lying. College is not needed, you can easily earn a very high income without it- but lying to your partner isn’t acceptable, you need to be honest.
However, with that said, I also think that a lot of people are hyping it up not merely because she lied, but because she lied about something that they find unattractive and socially unacceptable.
For example, if a guy lied about his favorite sport, being basketball, a girl is not going to dump him over that if she later found out it was actually soccer. But if he lied about being 6 inches taller than he actually was, or claimed he was rich when he was actually poor, then she would almost certainly dump him once she realized it- not primarily because she dislikes lying, but because he now no longer met her physical shallow standards.
Ironically, in social psychology, people will justify rejecting someone by using the excuse that makes them look the best. So instead of admitting that it’s because they are turned off that someone was shorter, more overweight, or didn’t go to college, for example, instead, they will purely say it’s because of the act of lying… However, if a guy lied and claimed he was poor, but he was actually rich, girls would be over the moon happy when they found out. They wouldn’t dump him because he had more money than he claimed.
So it’s not merely the fact that she lied, it’s actually - according to psychology 101 - the problem is actually that she lied about something that makes her perceived to be less socially valuable once people find out. Fascinating stuff
My theory is that she was lying to him for years, but he never paid enough attention to her to figure it out ... until they got married.
I know someone who was kicked out of college 1st year, but faked to their parents (in my country people normally live at home while in college) the whole career (5 years). If you trust and the other person is a good liar... it's hard.
@@mightymouse1005yes this guy reminds me of myself when I was gullible years ago
2:20 This poor, sweet, clueless man. There is no way that this is the only thing she's lied to him about.
Definitely clueless. He needs to get a handle on his marriage.
“What else has she lied to you about?”
“Nothing really.”
Bro.
🏃
Nothing that he knows about yet, perhaps. I hope he starts digging
🤣😂😅
Dr. Delony called it. She BEEN lying!
I'd have been like "oh honey...." LOL
or honestly I might have just busted out laughing
A healthcare recruiter here, first thing we check is their license activity status, can’t get through the door without an active good standing nursing license
This is true. So many people don't understand that the degree is only the first step and she can't practice without passing her NCLEX
I’m not in the healthcare field but this seems like common sense
Thats only at places with competent hiring management and protocol
Go to the board of nursing of your home state abd type in her name to verify her nursing license.
Just because she finished school doesn't mean she took the State test to become a Licensed Nurse. So checking the Board of nursing doesn't prove it.
If she said she is working as a nurse definitely can rule that out by checking the board of nursing.
she failed the program and was extremely ashamed. This can happen more often than you think but you will never get away with it
This is what I think happened.
Definitely
i failed college once but fessed up. lying about it is crazy, because what are you going to do? pretend to be a nurse and rob banks for income?
Yup its more than enough to justify all her behaviour without adding cheating or whatever else.
And, maybe the guy isn't nice to her in private so she needed to do anything to avoid him. It happens and we don't know her side of things.
My son did this about college. I knew he was lying about graduating. Just too many excuses. He finally told the truth and told us he dropped out and had a gambling addiction. He told us he lied because he was ashamed. He’s doing so much better now and tells us everything! Even the stuff I don’t wanna know lol. Sounds like the same type of scenario with this caller and the wife is lying because of shame.
Ask your son to hook you up with his gf😂
i was in your son’s situation - not gambling but drugs & mental health issues. my parents pressured me into going to college despite me openly saying i didn’t want to, they weren’t 100% honest about finances so i was actively putting myself into debt & had to figure that out on my own. i was also dealing with mental health issues & they were the type who don’t believe in that. i’m a generally honest person but i did lie to them a lot during that time.
i honestly do have a little bit of sympathy for the caller’s wife because generally in these situations there’s a lot of hurt & external pressure.
Addiction - and consequently issues with money, lack of motivation is also what came to my mind. It made me hide the fact that I dropped out of college from my bf and parents. BUT I didn’t pretend that I graduated. If I were the husband - If I found she has an addiction, it would be less scary because then at least I’d know she’s not a psychopath and a pathological liar.
I went to a high performing high school, and I know of a few kids who did this and lied to their parents. I personally thought it was hilarious, because some of the lies were so elaborate, and as far as I know at least one of them never told the truth to this day. Parents thought she graduated law school, but got offered a "better job" so she never practiced. 😂 It's not always this sinister thing where they end up being a serial killer. I think that the majority of the time the expectation and shame must be so huge (imagined or otherwise) that lying seems easier and it just gets out of control.
No, not at all. IF she confesses, like your son did, then I would believe it. But, she's been confronted with the proof and still denies. He lack of confession with proof shows she's got much bigger problems than mere shame.
My hubby's sister inlaw did this. She also had cancer, was an heiress from the Philippines, and had a pent house in New York. There were more grand stories. She also lied about her age and ethnicity.
Good grief!!😮
She sounds like a real winner...hope he got out with minimal damage to his mental health
I'm interested in how she lied about her ethnicity? Did she look Filipino?
No one ever lies down 😂 no one ever says they're homeless, a drug addict and an ex sx worker
Please leave, sir. She has real issues. As a nurse, this situation gave me chills. She is insane.
I hope they don't have children.
I would also report her to the state nursing board. Just in case she is crazy enough to apply for a nursing job. There have been cases where crazy insane people like this woman get a job for a day or two until they get caught.
Nurse of over 30 years here as well.....this woman is a fake, a liar and absolutely toxic.....I would check finances, school is expensive
And if she gets a job as a nurse and isn't licensed, that's a crime.
If she feels comfortable enough to lie about going to nursing school, she'll be comfortable enough to apply for a nursing job with patients.
Exactly ❗
@@Learaksthe first thing most employers do is verify you have a license to practice in that state and that it’s in good standing. Highly unlikely she’d be able to get a nursing job without *actually* being registered with the BON but crazier things have happened.
If they have children the child may not be his
I’m just glad you’re still alive, most stories like this end with a mysterious disappearance.
😂
Like seriously, guy if you read this comment, RUN when you confront her. These people are so into the lie they will kill to keep it secret.
Or they end in straight-up murder (look up Jennifer Pan).
Yes! Was thinking same thing! I’ve heard 2 recent cases where this happened! Insane.
This happened years ago. This guy came from a big family of doctors and he was in med school. He flunked out but couldn’t tell anybody and when his fiance found out he killed her to keep it secret
This is so scary!!! I feel like it's the start of a First 48 Episode.
Yes! Where they wait till half way to say "the truth was...she wasn't a REAL NURSE"
If you visit job forums or boards, people tell other people to lie on their resumes all the time, and that includes lying about degrees. It happens way more than people think, and unless employers check, they will totally get away with it.
What has she been doing instead of nursing is the real question.
And that's what he doesn't want to face.
🍆👀
She’s been getting pounded
Or who
@@jrod1986 lmao 🤣
Run don't walk from this liar she could cost you everything!
Did this dude marry Casey Anthony? This is the level of deception going on here!
She reminded me of her case as well. 😢
Homework?? Everyone I know in nursing school spends an insane amount of hours studying. She went a whole year and never once stressed a test or had body diagrams posted all over their bathroom mirror. RUN.
Brings back memories of memorizing the Krebs cycle and glycolysis. Using pipe cleaners. Found one of the ATP's stuck to the dog's tail. My point being, if you live with someone going to nursing school, there is no doubt they are in nursing school. Or any other medical professional training.
On this episode of dateline…man ends up missing after finding out wife’s secret
Right, we've seen this episode before..
100%
Reminds me of the girl that killed her mom to prevent her from finding out she was kicked out of college.
Impersonating a regulated professional is dangerous territory. If she actually tries to apply for a job with a fake diploma that is illegal. She could find herself in some serious trouble.
Super dangerous and illegal ( I’m a nursing student and it terrifies me that someone will impersonate a health professional)
I mean to work in hospitals and/or doctor's office, there is no faking diploma or ph.D. After all, this kind of profession is in person. If she is go to fake a diploma or fake any educational achievements, she needs to change her major that gives her room to do online class. With online classes, that is a better excuse to stay home. I mean it is common to get associates degree and/or bachelor's degree just by doing online classes so of course that gives people some freedom to fake an educational achievement. When it comes to hands on training, no faking educational achievement. Just like if you plan to fake getting educational achievement on automechanic, at least back it up with your skills. Or if you plan to fake getting educational achievements on culinary arts, at least have the cooking skills to back it up. So I would think she was not even good at nursing to begin with which means it is hard for her to fake earning a nursing diploma.
She will also have to fake a license in order to try to get a job. She won't get anywhere with just the degree.. she needs a license to be an actual nurse. The degree doesn't mean anything without passing the test.
Check the Board of Nursing website for your state. The site will let you enter the name and shows your license information. Easy enough to check.
There is no way she can get a nursing job without a nursing license.. and she can't fake that!
I am getting true crime vibes from the call. I'd be so afraid of her.
Definitely. He needs to run and divorce her. She is dangerous
I had an ex who did this. We weren't together at the time, he was in another relationship but he lied about being in a PhD program. Had books and pretended to go to class. He finally admitted that it was all a lie when his mother and girlfriend planned a graduation party 😳😳
Maannnnnnn. That is wild.
He was definitely not a good liar. I know there are people who did earn the Ph.D while taking online courses? I mean what if that person is going to be a doctor but not work in a hospital nor run any clinic? I bet your ex might of pretended to study online and pretended to do well. What if your ex's major were history? What if your ex's major were art? What if your ex's major were English? These type of things, anyone may have a power to fake having that skills because they know it wasn't hands on training. I am sure your ex would not study to be a hospital doctor because your ex may end up killing a patient to get out of a stressful work environment and expect getting paid.
A good way to lie could of been more like starting the PhD program but dropped out of the program. At least saying it like this would of sound more honest. A better way of pretending to go to class could of been to take online class. I bet your ex never thought of that. I mean it is common to take online courses where books can be required and showing up to class is not required. Pretending to go to class can also be not required to go to class in person. If only your ex were to take advantage of the online class system, your ex would of have evidence of going to class. Even if your ex were to flunk that class, at least the evidence of attending class will be there.
He needs to leave, she's gonna destroy him
I wouldn’t have kids with someone like that.
This is a hair‘s breadth from turning criminal. The fact the guy is so laissez-faire about it speaks volumes, as they’ve practically grown up together (or not.. as it seems).
This is extreme immaturity to a degree where it is dangerous.
Yes, 100% immature and dangerous, but just take out the word “degree”, because she doesn’t have one.
😜😂
This is not a spouse that just told a fib or two. This is a Con-man(woman).... and those kinds..??? They can be very, very dangerous. There has been cases where they have killed their own parents or spouse to keep their lies from being discovered. That is how dangerous this can be. I would put his chances of a happy marriage at zero. He needs to get out as safely as he can,, and then run!
She’s gonna be lying about how you fell off a cliff pretty soon pal, RUN!!!!!
😂😂😂😂😂
He needs to be extremely careful with this situation. If you follow true crime, you know that this type of behavior can lead to familial homicide when the truth is uncovered.
Sadly true.
My aunt did that. She basically catfished her husband by pretending to be successful in nursing
She told him after they got married. Can you imagine?? 🤯
Wow! Are they still married?
Oh? When will their divorce be finalized?
Please tell me he got it annulled? 😨
This is why annulments exist.
😱
This guy is beyond soft, my god. He’s not going to do anything.
He's not soft... He's gaslit. She's gaslighting him and changing his reality so he doubts even himself. It's highly manipulative and she's probably a narc or sociopath.
This whole situation is crazy because we all know that this isn’t the only thing she is lying about, I don’t know if I would stay married to her because ppl like this can be dangerous.
I can't even sugarcoat it. This is psychotic behavior
RN here, the failure rate for nursing schools is high, up to 50% at some schools. It sucks but it’s not a level of shame to lie to your partner about.
Exactly. I LOVED being a CNA. They spend a lot more time with patients and clients than do nurses. I was a CNA most of my adult life.
I’m an RN as well and I’m wondering if that’s what happened. She failed out and is too ashamed to tell him the truth. That’s best case scenario.
@@lorainefleeman6011 LPN as well, they actually spend time with the patients.
@@sueblack5794 OK. I assumed the wife wasn't an LPN since she's not on a nurse registry, but yes.
Yeah I think she flunked out and had a psychotic bteak.
Oh, she's done with school. She didn't lie there
Done with school as in drop out student. That just proves she quit after failing as a student. A legal way to be done with school is graduating for reals with real educational achievements. Her way of being done is I quit because this subject is too much pressure.
😂
@hp2546 the joke went over your head lol
@@sidology1.0 That explains why you have the emoji on your comments.
This is not her first big lie. I dated a man who lied about everything. What he ate, who he knew, that he served in the military. When I first caught him in his lies, I realized it was just the tip of the iceberg. When people can lie so easily, its scary. Mostly because they've had years upon years of practice.
Trust me. RUN. She’s lying. I’ve gone through a situation like that before
she meets with her secret lover in the name of "school"
I knew a girl who did this. It really does happen.
Bingo
I gotta remember to watch this on Valentine’s Day to remind myself why it’s awesome to be single.
This one is brutal. Many prayers for the husband, this one is a tough one to go through, I hope he gets support.
This woman makes me angry . I’m sorry for the husband . I’m a RN. I worked hard to get my degree and at my job. . Nursing is one of the most trusted professions and she is ruining the public’s trust in my profession . I believe Dr d is correct about other things going on. If she flunked out , maybe nursing is not we’re God intended her to be . She need mental health help to figure herself out . Please encourage her to seek help , hopefully you will be her support .
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I would guess she has no intention of trying to be employed as a nurse. I imagine she was deeply ashamed about failing, so she lied about it, and now she's in too deep to come clean, and the fake diploma is just to keep up her lie to her loved ones. The idea of her actually working as a nurse is a veru serious crim and I dont think there is any indication that she was planning to go that far. I think she just wants to keep her head in the sand and delay telling her family the awful truth
No one trusts you after Covid.
this one really needs an update next week....
Coming soon on Dr Grande and 24 hours 😂
It took him a year to figure this out and he thinks she's not lying about anything else? Poor guy.
That is horrifying. As a caretaker myself, I feel like what she did is kind of stolen valor.
What’s done in the dark will always come to the light 😢
No it doesn't, but we love to believe it does. So many people get away with so many awful things and we will never know about it.
I'm a nursing faculty, we had quite a few cases when the students graduated but could not sit for the licensure exam (NCLEX) due to the FBI background check. Some schools require the FBI background check before the student can go to clinicals, some clinical sites require additional local law enforcement as well. The husband must be very naive to miss all these lies.
Isn’t falsely impersonating a licensed healthcare professional a criminal act?
She wouldn’t get very far in the HR process because the facility will ask for your license number. I’m a traveling RN, and they ask your license number in the application and, depending on the facility, your transcripts. In my experience, my travel company wanted my school transcripts for verification.
I’ve been a nurse for 5 years! I remember when I started my job bringing my college diploma into my hospital so they could see it! This is so wild to me!
He's only a year into this mistake of a marriage. He needs to cut his losses NOW, while she's done relatively small damage to his life, instead of sticking it out, having kids with her, and REALLY ruining his life. This is a person of no integrity and no good is going to come of this. Hopefully he doesn't try to work it out and just admits it was a mistake to marry her and moves on with his life before she has a chance to destroy it.
Liars are so weird, when is pathological they will say untrue things about the most insignificant things.
John is right, except at the end i thought it was crazy that he suggests if she comes clean he loves her and walks with her through it. The guy has only been married a year to her. NO KIDS YET. The ONLY advice should be leave now while it's simple and doesn't hurt innocent babies. Protect your future kids, sir, and get out now. For them.
Divorce lawyer. File for annulment on grounds of fraud. Move out TODAY and do not sleep with her!!!
I TOTALLY want to find out how this ends.
This is why I could never be a therapist.
Why is it taking so long to confront her? she picked him for a reason.
This case is INSANE. I'm a Registered Nurse. By law, licensed clinicians of all kinds must have their names registered with their state's professional boards--and they are PUBLICLY SEARCHABLE. That marriage is already over. Plain and simple.
I mean…can’t say she isn’t committed! Making a fake diploma to back up her lies is commit af! 😂😂😂
True 😅 unbelievable poor guy
Okay, but women like this will open up a pregnant lady because they need a baby to keep up a lie
The fake regalia kills me as well lol
I probably watched too much true crime, but I’d be kind of scared of a person like that. You see these documentaries where people who systematically lie like that sometimes go to extreme levels to hide it, so John’s first suggestion about directly confronting her and not even waiting, saying, “I know you’re lying” may be best.
From a community college student to you husband she could’ve been frank with you sir and said “hey I’m not doing well academically let us go to my advisors and talk about how I can improve or if I should change majors”. Believe me I felt like I could never keep up but I’m still at it and thanks to my mom’s words “I’m worth my investment”.
Yep there’s 0 chance an honest person would ONLY lie about this. Poor guy, too naive 😢
One of the most logical questions is what was her plan after graduating??
Where was she going to work?? What specialty??
Sure sounds like she has something on the side. He said she works nights???
Really feel for this guy.
She'd have to fake taking and passing her state boards.
@@RTiff Which is near impossible to do because the public can access that information easily.
Hes so gaslit, he doesn't see the insanity. This is emotionally manipulative and abusive.
Plot twist: she really did get the degree and he’s just gaslighting her lol
LOLOL! This guy sounds half baked himself.
@@thejakelegion dang, this guys already down bad as he’s realizing his marriage and his live, as he knows it, is over and you immediately drop kick him right in the balls.
Ruthless.
We need a netflix show about this😂
It's hurtful. The deception. I'm telling you, brother, run like the wind. You're young... keep to You're self and grow. Lies at this young age is a pattern.
Nope.....it's not worth it. You'll find someone who has your worth and dignity. I beg you... don't settle and
try to fix her. She's gonna be a hot mess..
Plus, if you have kids..oh lordy.
Messy low value..
HIRE A PI and a FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT. Consider the fact that you may be at risk for outing her. This is very dangerous in so many ways.
That is a bit much; he simply needs to call the registrar's office that is it and ask if she graduated and earned a degree. He however, should hire a PI to see what she is doing with her time, but there is no need for a forensic accountant lol.
My ex lied about his educational background, to the extent that he made up stories about classes he was taking, professors he had, and internships he was considering for over a decade. It was by no means the only thing of substance that he lied about, nor was it the only form of psychological and emotional abuse he inflicted upon me. This man needs to listen to his instincts and divorce this woman swiftly and safely.
This is weird and creepy. My mom earned her bachelors degree of nursing and was a heart nurse for 40 years. She’s one of the most hard-working women I’ve ever saw. She worked 12 hour shifts three in a row and skipped most of the holidays with the family just so she can commit to her job. She didn’t get bathroom breaks and she also didn’t eat lunch most of the time.
Why would anybody lie about getting a nursing degree or any other degree? It’s just the most disgusting thing I’ve ever heard of.
You're pretty privileged in life if that's the most disgusting thing you've ever heard of.
@ i’m not privileged. I just know how to work hard for my education like my mom. I know there are a lot more disgusting things in life you shameless fool.
@@Andible how true.
@@lindsey5365 This goes to show that working your way to the top in education shows that you have to commit to it. No looking for an excuse to get out. If she is already hating the nursing program since day 1 while attending class, she won't enjoy the nursing career in a real job just like your mom and you. She needs to pick what she likes to do as a career like maybe change her major or something then she may have a career she likes.
@Andible she means the appropriation is disgusting.
Could you hire a detective to find the truth to show her the proof?
Any college or university will verify if a degree has been earned. They won't give many details but you'll have your answer. The media does it all the time. I've done it as an employer. I've also just asked if the person is enrolled. This is very different than what John is saying-- you can't call a professor and ask a question. Call the university Registrar. You can also call the nursing board--whoever regulates the license she says she has.
She is NEVER going to tell the truth. This isn’t a conversation worth having and he needs to EXIT IMMEDIATELY. She will ruin him and he will regret ever ignoring this very conversation today here. I hope he makes the right choice 🙏🏼
She is a liar. She will lie to others and she will lie to you. What is she willing to lie about? Looks like everything. Leave as quick as you can. She has shown you who she is. Believe her.
facts
You dont think people can change? People who had committed a crime and did time 20 years ago. You dont think people can change in 20 years? A kid committed armed robbery when he was 17. At 45 yoa, he became successful. Is he still a bad person? So quick to judge.
@@troytruong8246 people can change homie, but currently, she's a psycho liar.
@@troytruong8246nothing to do with this. This was not 20years ago.
@@troytruong8246That’s a dumb point to make. This isn’t 1 thing she did 30 years ago, it’s something she continually lied about recently. As much as you may dislike it, yes our past follows us for life. Would you trust a convicted violent offender to become a police officer? Would you trust a convicted sex offender to work as a teacher? Would you hire a convicted thief to work for your company?
If she just “graduated” she would be stressing about taking the NCLEX. That is the test that will give her a license to practice nursing. The diploma does not give authority to practice.
When I love someone, I would not lie about anything! Dude, here’s my advice, I’ll make it real short and easy, real short, RUN!
Not even to “does this dress make me look fat?” Or “I know that I’ve birthed 6 children, but it still feels the same down there, right?” 🫣😬
I have a feeling they have a dad-daughter relationship. She is hiding stuff from him like she would from a parent, and he sounds like a permissive parent so I dont think she fears the consequences of this lie. He needs to wake up to the type of person he has married and set some strong standards that if she does not meet, he needs a divorce because she needs to do some growing up on her own.
Dude. Please RUN. She is DANGEROUS!!!!!!!!!!!
This guy is way too chill. If you are sure she’s lying then you need to confront her and have that hard conversation. She needs to either fess up or prove that she’s a nurse. Then you can decide whether you’re willing to forgive and move on or if it’s a dealbreaker and get divorced.
I left college with 1 light semester worth of credits left and got married. For some reason I was allowed to walk in graduation....I never even asked, they just sent all of the info and I walked. I didn't tell my parents I didn't graduate. Over the next 2 years I finished up the remaining credits and got my diploma. I was never going to tell my parents...then the college sent my parents and invitation to graduation 3 years after they attended my....not graduation, so I explained. This was 30+ years ago now and after that I went to law school....but my Mom asked me several times a semester every semester whether I was getting enough credits. Been practicing law 26+ years, and I'm still not quite sure my Mom believes I actually graduated. Anyhoo, this woman is...not right. I just thought I'd add a mildly amusing story.
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For starters, graduation is a graduation. You were most likely in your senior year and most likely needed 1 or 2 more classes. So of course, any college might just let you slide and allow you to have the ceremony first but give you a later chance to complete your college education. I mean you weren't the one trying to cheat the system. The school just gave that to you. Let me give you an example. I am not always an A student but there were times out of nowhere, the school just let me have Dean's Honor List achievement. So if your mom questions about your credit, you can show proof to her that you were never trying to cheat the system. You can show proof that the achievement you gained is because the school gave just gave it to you. All these proves you never took any shortcuts. The school giving you this educational achievement was just beyond your control.
@@hp2546 10 credits
Plus, you can show proof that you are fit to study law because you demonstrated you never took shortcuts and you wanted to prove you were righteous. Once you get into a field of law, you will believe in doing the right thing. A real cheater is not going to want to think like you think. What if you were in a job? What if promotions comes out of nowhere? That might be you questioning like "Wow, I don't deserve this." Part of you might doubt it isn't real just like you doubted your graduation is not real. In case your mom doubts you cheated, you just show proof that you were honest about it and you will have evidence where you can proudly show. So either way, you have no reason to fear your mom because you did show proof you were honest.
I know someone who made up a phony resume, including going to college.......fast forward, he is in jail today for murdering his wife......this needs to be addressed immediately!
However, a resume cannot prove an applicant is a fake college student. I mean what if this student were to take online class? What if this person did not even earn a single educational achievement? I mean any applicant can write on a resume stating they attended college but does not have to name the educational achievements. So that right there cannot prove it is fake. As long as that person don't name any achievement, then no company can prove that applicant lied. I mean it cannot be a lie if the applicant just name a college on a resume. I mean it is natural they attended college but does not mean they have to even come close to gaining any achievement.
@@hp2546 This is why employers should always check too see if the degrees are legitimate. It simply takes requesting an official transcript or calling the registrar's office and asking if they earned a degree in their field. Degree information is not protected and can be given out to anyone through the university or college. Simply call the records office and ask if they graduated and earned a degree. this is how so many politicians get caught lying about their degrees when reporters call up and ask.
This pisses me off. Nursing school is the hardest thing I’ve completed, idk if single handedly raising 2 kids was harder tbh. Don’t ridicule the work I put in, the tears I shed, the nights on end I didn’t sleep. What a piece of crap.
same here...single mom of one...working full time and going to nursing school. Crawling myself out of bed...studying in the car before going into the school. Working on two hours of sleep a day for 18 months..and to those who don't understand. Nursing school is not like college. When the program states you have to maintain a 93 percent average...that is per CLASS not across the board. So you can pass every single class and be two months from graduating but if you fail that one class you are OUT and have to start over, if you do not pass the master tests after going through the program you are OUT, if you do not pass the mock NCLEX (which is the boards) you are OUT. It's stressful af.
@ it’s a little piece of hell on earth 🥲
My mom raised 11 of us, while working a full time job and became a nurse practitioner. Nurses deserve more praise
This doesnt make sense. I'm a nurse and I did not hear a single piece of evidence that confirms his suspicion either. Honestly he should simply submit a written request for information from the state board of nursing and resolve this once and for all.
As a consumer, you can look up anyone's license online with the state licensing board. That's how you can verify a "licensed professional" of any kind is actually licensed. I did hear the caller say that when he looked up her license and didn't find it, his wife told him there was a "glitch" in the system. I think that honest people have a hard time accepting that they are being lied to, especially when it is someone you love. The betrayal is overwhelming.
@RTiff yes, which is my point. Confirm the suspicion and move on.
I am sure the skill level can also be part of the evidence to show that her achievement documents are fake. I mean she cannot even back up her statement with her nursing skills. Just like if a person wants to fake evidence of having automechanic achievements, they have to at least prove they can fix cars or if a person wants to fake evidence of having culinary arts achievements, they must at least have a skill to cook. I mean if she is already struggling in class to learn the skills of being a nurse and suppose the hospital hired her, doesn't that candidate sound like she will attempt to kill her patient at the hospital just to get out of the stressful environment? I mean if she cannot even build enough skills, those fake diploma is not even going to help her. You're a nurse right. So shouldn't the staff also need to show some skills during the assessment?
A liar with no integrity! Especially if she is pretending once she gets caught. Red flags!
This is utter madness!
This is a red flag, he needs to dig and find out what else she’s hiding from him.
This is actually at least a hundred red flags.
@@anastasiatheo001 I was going to say a red rocket.
If she didn't finish school but was still acting like she was in school, what was she doing with her newfound free time? (The time that would have been spent taking classes and doing homework)
This is coming from someone who is extremely trusting with their husband, I'd be taking a day off work without telling and follow her...
Most likely the professor…
She is 100% cheating on him and he's the dummy that's too naive to sense it.
2nd sugar daddy time
It is clear that she is not even a good liar. I mean to choose a field in nursing. That field requires her to show up in person. If she is not good in that field, the least she could of done is change her major which allows her to be taking classes online. At least with online, that is a better excuse to stay him and making more time to do fun stuff between homework. With nursing, there is no faking to be busy. If she don't like going to school, she could of just choose online so that way, she can have options to at least pretend to study in front of her husband. Plus, it doesn't sound like she have a nursing skills to back up her lies. Just like if you want to fake having a culinary arts achievement, you got to have cooking skills to back it up. Or if lets suppose if you were to get an automechanic achievement, you got to at least have the skills to repair cars. Sounds like her hands on skills is showing she is not good at what she do so she decided to cheat to reach the top.
How do you get away with that lie in the first place. Classtime, textbooks, homework, tuition.
I have two semi-personal anecdotes. I'll try to keep the details vague for privacy.
Story 1:
I had a good friend date a Lady for almost a whole year. She claimed to be an attorney, then claimed to be in law school, then claimed to be a paralegal. Claimed she went to my University, then his University (which we both realized is a lie since she knew nothing about them)... Turns out she had just graduated Highschool back in her home country and was only a receptionist at a law firm. She also lied about being 5 years younger, which made her go from being 2 years younger to 2 years older than him. On top of that even her body was fake. 😂 We were mid-late 20s.
Story 2:
Friend of mine (different friend obviously lol). Lying to all of his friends, family, and wife for over a decade that he was a in a MD/PhD program (already had his MD, finishing his Ph). Even got loans from us predicated on the trust that he was good for it.
Turns out he didn't even have a masters, just a bachelor, and was never in any progra. They got a divorce. I'm still thinking about how our friendship stands. We are now mid-late 30s.
Point being... These things seem to be common. And people are very good at lying and having a whole fake life. And it's not that hard to figure it out when you don't expect someone close to you to be making such an extreme and outrageous lie about their entire existence, and willing to go far to keep the illusion going.
Edit. In my opinion, once such a giant lie is uncovered, there is zero trust, and thus zero foundation for a relationship. The relationship is, and should be, over. Choose to continue...then don't complain when it happens again. You're no longer ignorant to their character.
Too far in the comments. People lying about failing studies, being fired from work, and so on happen all the time. If I were him, I would roast nursing so that she does not feel it represented an ideal for him.
She lies about telling you the truth 😂
It’s super fascinating how committed he is to pretending that this is the only thing she’s lying about.
Right!!??
You know if she showed him transcripts they were 100% fake as well.
😮😳😳 She sounds like that Legion guy from that 10 hour Tik Tok who did I marry series. This is like a prelude to a Snapped episode, in real time. Not safe
He thinks this is the first lie? Man, that's a big ass first lie 😂 He has him a gone girl. Be careful
Where was she going for her clinical???? Did she wear scrubs??? This is mind-blowing !!!
Not the only thing shes lying about, cheating is on the forefront of this most likely. The amount of hoops needing to jump through here to lie is vastly great
Nurses are usually well paid. Tell her to 'Show me the money!!' Tell her you're know she's lying. All qualified nurses gave a unique number. What us hers .If she's not able to show proof of her qualification you'll report her to the appropriate authority. How can you continue yo live with her ?!
I've always found when a situation doesn't make any sense there is always alcohol or drugs or sex involved. ( Or someone wants to sleep with some one.). it might not be clear at first, but as time goes on and more facts come out it always falls back on those three things.
She's definitely got another family and the school is her time to be with that person.
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@@Lisa-q7v No scammer. Get. A. Life.
My sister had a masters degree in Social Work. One of her “friends” made a copy of my sister’s diploma and filled in her own info. We all thought she was a doctor. It took a few years for anyone to find out the truth. So sad and scary that someone would be capable of lying like that, and that so many are fooled by them.
For starters social worker does not even require a masters degree, or bachelor's degree. I mean some gets away just studying in community college. Your sister's friend is stupid because they they not even read the fine print. It did say Masters degree. Yet your friend wanted to lie about that master's program and call themselves doctor? I mean what if your sister were to get an associate's degree? Are your sister's friend going to use her associate's degree and apply for a job to be a doctor? It is unbelievable because your sister did not even have a Ph.D and yet your sister's friend can use her sister's masters degree status and turn it into a Ph.D?
@ I am just relaying what happened. We lived it. If you don’t believe what I am saying, that’s your right. I’m not here to argue.
@ My sister’s friend is no longer “stupid.” She is dead.
Fake it till you make it lol
She’s sure faking it.
i knew someone like this - claimed she went to a prestigious university, even constantly wore a hoodie with the school logo on it... she also lied about having cancer & stole my boyfriend at the time. when i cut her off, she emailed me years later asking what has she done to deserve the cold shoulder. i ignored that email & she went on to email my sister & a friend of mine. just wild.
Smart to ignore her. Advise your sister & your friend to ignore her too. No contact, no replies.
@ reading some of the comments here... interesting that faking cancer is common. scary!!!
Break up with her please, damn idk what's wrong with some women