I’d say a group of women who want to know if another woman is a “decent” person, all while they are exhibiting imbecilic, indecent behavior, is extremely disturbing.
the fact that he’s even having to question if he’s the asshole is so, so sad. i wish him and his wife a very happy life, hopefully without the toxicity of the women in his family. ‘the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb’ and he might be figuring that out very quickly.
@@levithorstone2876 ..... Why tho? Why should everyone be put out & have to deal with the drama, when it's the witches in his family that created the problem. Why put it on everyone else to go thur any of the bs?
The first man is a keeper ! He defended his wife and acted on his words. He went as far as kicking his own mother to protect his wife, that’s a good man.
2:08 i’m curious what they were expecting from the wife reaction that would’ve indicated she passed the “ultimate test” Is it supposed to be if she finds them being disrespectful on her special day funny that she’s welcomed in the family??!no one has to put up with abuse because you call it a joke
One of the best BURNS I've ever read on a reddit post was the bride caught wind of of her own mother planning to come to the wedding in a wedding dress - not just white, but a full on wedding dress. Bride contacted everyone and had every woman show up in a wedding dress and even paid to rent them if they didn't have one. The bride wore royal blue. Her mother was livid.
but, WHY, WHY, WHY? I get a self centered Mom who wants the world to be all about her (I have an older sister and B-I-L who sulk when the attention is not focused on them), but WHY a WEDDING DRESS?? Why not an over the top glam, red carpet dress that gives her center stage because the guests are wowed by her appearance, not because they think she is crazy! It is just a little bit on the looney side for anyone besides the bride to show up in a wedding gown! 😵💫🫨
@@terrig7006 There was another one of these where it was the son getting married and his mom always wore a wedding dress to everyone's wedding. So his mom shows up in her wedding dress and the kicker? Son married an Indian girl! The room is FULL of color and the bride is in a vibrant red and gold saree. Everyone makes his mother feel like a walking faux pas b/c Indian people only wear white to funerals. It was hilarious!
I think Charlotte did a video a few days ago about that exact wedding (at least I watched it a few days ago). The bride was not religious and MIL had send a priest to the soon to be wed couple,trying to force her vision on the wedding. Priest was at the wedding to the delight of MIL. Icing on the cake? Bride hired him as MC because after she told him what was going on, they became friends. Priest realized the atheist bride had better moral standards than the "religious" MIL. He must have thought: "God works in mysterious ways!"
You know what? That first one WAS a good test. The groom’s family failed and the groom passed with flying colors. I’m happy the wife is getting someone who will look out for her like that.
i am just confused cause i though white was a normal wedding color o.o but yeah they were jerks for mocking her and i am glad the husband stood up for her.
@@sapphiremoonstone1066 Usually, in western cultures, only the bride wears white, unless the bride and groom state otherwise. It symbolizes purity and chastity, and it helps the bride stand out amongst everyone else, to be the only one wearing white. It's considered very offensive to wear white at someone's wedding without permission.
He was just the first who disagreed to be wiling to take the heat for his bride . Hopefully given his good example the other guys who disagree just might rise up too and be a force to help end this toxic behavior with the future generations.
Just my two cents on the groom who threw all the women out of his wedding. Good for him! Those women spent so many years in charge of the family, they didn't think he'd have the balls to actually kick them out. So, they got pissed that they lost control. Toxic women. I hope this guy and his wife stay far away from them. They don't need that crap.
I said that too. They probably didn’t think he’d have the balls to do it, but when he did was surprise pikachu face on their part. Their husbands and stuff encourage it and go along with it, so they’re probably not use to a man sticking up for himself.
@@Z.O.1991 That's exactly why. There would likely be little other reasons other than maybe financials, or sex life... Likely all those issues also lead back to the BIG a-hole of the pair... Jeee I wonder who that was... Definitely the man, it's always the mans fault for abuse./s
The "just a prank" is right up there with insulting someone and then saying, "It was just a JOKE!" And calling the victim "too sensitive" 😵💫 Bravo to the groom! Now _that_ is a real man.
That guy's family (rather the women in it) low key sounds like a cult. Take the abuse, give up your self esteem to earn the right to abuse the next person... That is beyond toxic.
I felt ashamed for the men in that family... no joke. Not only do they think they're funny, they're gaslighting for the extra... she's insecure, she didnt want to have other woman at her wedding, like... they're straight up mirroring their own behavior. sshheeeeesh, i understand his cousin
The first guy is prime husband material. That's EXACTLY how you handle disrespectful family members no matter who they are. Great job. No matter what anyone says, he is not an a-hole. All his family members who were a part of this should be ashamed! He didn't ruin his wedding. If the wedding was ruined, it was most certainly not his fault but theirs.
He gave them a fair warning and they did it anyway just out of spite. His family probably thought he didn't have the guts to kick his own mother out of the wedding for acting like that.
The first story... His new wife doesn't have to 'earn' her place in his family because clearly, those people aren't his family to begin with. The fact that despite him making it clear he won't tolerate it on HIS wedding day, they went ahead and did it. They're not just attacking his wife, they clearly has no respect for him too. I think its sometimes very difficult to see toxic personalities in your own family because you've almost been conditioned to love and forgive one another but I personally think... Good riddance.
I think it was more that they are his FAMILY and they thought as such he wouldn't dare follow through on enforcing his boundary line with them. They likely went through with the plan just to spite him as a way to flaunt their power over him too . They got a nasty shock when they found out he was dead serious and they all got tossed out.
I have never commented on a public forum such as this, however, as a marriage counselor I must say congratulations to this bride and groom. They are starting their life off together in good form. The grooms family behaved as bullies- as you stated-at the very least and I would say were emotionally abusive to their new family member. Partners should nurture and protect each other and that is exactly what this young man did.
They are still out there, chewing the cud and thinking of new bitchiness to reek upon her. Forever and ever, till death do you part....and I think an AK47 might be their only chance. Is the world big enough to get away from them?
Actually, my EX husbands family all showed up to our wedding wearing all black to show that they all disapproved of me. I cried throughout the whole wedding and then followed up with more crying as they continually yelled at me throughout the whole reception. He is my EX for a reason. However, I gave that man 17 years of my life where I tried and tried to be what they wanted. Gladly, I did NOT turn into what they wanted and am now happily with a wonderful man that has a family full of the most beautiful, thoughtful people. There are a ton of horrid people out there. Lesson in this is: Never stop being you for someone else. You be yourself.
As the saying goes, you don't just marry the person; you marry the family. Good for you for not confirming to what they wanted. I'm happy you're with a good man who accepts you.
Amy, That was truly despicable. No one deserves that. In their determination to hurt you, his family revealed what low-lives they are. I'm happy for you that you escaped such creatures, and made a new life for yourself.
Nyah!! Any woman who would subject another woman to humiliation and embarrassment, especially on her wedding day, is not only a bully, but is an entitled mean girl! What a horrific, horrific way to be in life. Shame on her shame on all of those women I’m embarrassed on the behalf of the women of world!
That story reminds me of most of the women in my own family, including my own mother. (Don't get me started on the men tho..) It really sucks and bothersome when you're the only normal one in your entire toxic-ass damn family T_T I get second hand embarrassment big time, too so I feel you on that one as well.
I'm a forensic scientist and genuinely love learning about serial killers, murder, and the works (partially since it is my job) but those serial killer center pieces are a little too far for. I don't have a problem with with skulls and have them decorating my whole house, but the idea of including the people who commit these terrible terrible acts in my wedding is just sad to me. Weddings are supposed to be a happy celebration of life and love. I don't want to be thinking about all the women Bundy murdered
Exactly. It's one thing to be fascinated by the science involved in catching serial killers, or being interested in their stories. But there's something very wrong with glorifying murderers, and showing off their faces like a work of art. That's just sick, and insensitive to the victims and their loved ones.
I've always been fascinated by crime, and the forensic science that helps solve them...I'm interested in the abnormal psychology of killers, not the killers themselves. Some people take it way too far, and treat it like they're not real murderers, that killed real people. It's not like horror movies, where none of the killing actually happened, and it's all for entertainment...it's real life. If somebody had a wedding themed around horror movies I wouldn't bat an eye at it; but this is revolting, and makes me think these people seriously lack empathy.
ahh good for you! that is literally my dream job. i got my masters in forensic nursing a couple of years ago, because i am just so fascinated by it all! i would love to work on crime scenes with law enforcement, or in a crime lab with forensic scientists, or with criminal profilers studying abnormal psychology of people like this. what type of work do you do, if you don't mind my asking?
I agree-- I'm fascinated by criminal psychology, but glorifying murders like this? Ick. I'd be very uncomfortable if I was a guest at that wedding. The disrespect to the victims is staggering.
@@NoriDune deadass, like the only excuse to have a serial killer themed party would be Halloween or horror, which would make sense as they are scary and horrifying, but a wedding feels like it’s romanticizing. Couldn’t they have JSUT done like crime-themed? Like Sherlock Holmes?
All those women in story one absolutely peaked in high school and never grew up after that. Good on the husband for defending his wife from his waste dump of a family.
I think you're 100% correct. It also seems like they have absolutely nothing going on in their own lives since all they do is apparently talk trash on facebook and conspire to pull "pranks" on every woman that comes into the family. So ridiculous
This happened at my wedding. My SIL after several warnings wore white as a joke. My brother was angry at her, he supported me. My maid of honor however, opened up the cork and "accidentally" dumped red wine over her 😭. I love her for that. Anyways, she was toxic and my brother and her are divorced now.
Why would anyone do this????? Not saying you have to be in love with the person that your sibling's marrying, but this is straight up WRONG!!! I have someone in my family who's getting married soon. Granted, I'm not the biggest fan of the fiance, but I wouldn't wear white to their wedding.
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 I'm late but i really don't understand the thought process behind it. I honestly would never. I cannot even empathize with her because i don't even know what she was thinking.
Re: the photographer changing MIL's white dress to red...they would have earned a HUGE tip from me, not to mention an invite to my family gatherings forever.
The women, in the first story, are horrible people. I wonder what must be going around, in their heads, that would make this activity seem like a decent idea. When did being a bully become a wedding gift? The husband is a wonderful man, as it must have taken a lot of inner strength, standing with his wife, amid a clique of childish, ancient "mean girls". If this was done in my presence, words would fly, all tact gone, and everyone would be surprised, including myself, over things being said. Whether it's my place or not, that behavior is unacceptable....especially when spoken by grown people. How awful!
And the one who tried to shame them online without mentioning what the women of the family tried to do. I'd have dragged all of them over social media. Them and their weird hazing mess.
Right??! It made me sooo mad! Fuming. Id be genuinely questioning whether i wanted to go ahead with the wedding! Disgusting behaviour. And the fact they try to use their "power" of being the mother etc, just shows the toxicity, and i wonder if they will ever realise just how disgusting they are. Would be great if one of them found this story!
My partner absolutely stuck up for me when his brother was utterly despicable towards me, and after telling him exactly what he thought of his behaviour he told him not to bother getting in touch again. I spent years in domestic violence situations and was stalked twice, and my partner instantly and angrily defend and it me took my knees out, NOBODY has ever stood up for me before. He was incensed by his brother and I’ve never seen him angry before. It was 4 years ago and my parter has rebuffed every attempt at contact, making it clear that it is entirely dependant on his brother giving me a sincere apology. Or carry on fucking off because we have a lovely life with each other thanks.
I actually had the experience of having a friend of my soon-to-be sister-in-law's, who is a professional photographer, offer to shoot our wedding for free. I felt bad and offered to pay her (even though we couldn't afford much), and she said just give her what it costs for gas money to get there and back. She was amazing and took excellent pictures. If she hadn't of been so kind, we would have asked someone in our family to snap photos. I found out later that she had spent a lot of time at my in-laws' house growing up and did this for them since it was their first -- and probably only -- kid getting married. What good luck. What a good heart.
My aunt did the same. I asked two people if they would take photos of my wedding, and she was available. I offered to pay, and she said to consider it a wedding gift. I was so grateful! 😄
Nothing quite says "welcome to the family" like belittling, ridiculing, and humiliating someone. It certainly speaks volumes of how the women in that family perceive what a healthy family unit is like, especially if they genuinely believe that they're supporting and loving each other with that sort of atrocious mob mentality.
Tip for your wedding: if you are worried about anyone wearing white, being rude, etc then make someone in the wedding party in charge of being “the mean one”. Both my bridesmaids happily volunteered for this and we had super soakers with red wine inside on hand if needed. Didn’t end up needing them but it was great knowing they had my back and would deal with any drama so I didn’t have to. It’s your wedding day, you shouldn’t be stressed or dealing with drama.
LoL. That was my job at my friend's wedding. I was on the look out for white and off white colors. A long with black and red. I was also there by the door to make sure the bride's father did not show up.
My BFF had a "penny basket" out at her daughter's wedding for the purpose of tipping the venue staff. Putting money in the basket was totally optional. I saw the basket near the end of the reception. Guests were very generous. Months later, I found out that the Mother-in-law took the gratuity basket home. I mean, come on!
The serial killer centerpieces fill me with so much rage. It’s so disrespectful to the victims and their families. Imagine being so selfish and stupid that you’d glorify the worst things that could happen to a person. I honestly can’t get over it.
That would even be tacky for a Halloween party, not to mention a wedding. Also the fact that they can't spell "execute." That word comes up a lot in serial killer lore.
I remember it being posted in a Halloween wedding group I’m in. She had to delete her post pretty quickly, hopefully she took note of the criticism and removed the photos.
"Every woman in my family showed up to my wedding wearing white. I kicked them out of the wedding and now they wont talk to me and excluded me from everything." "They excluded me from everything." Chalk that one up to win!!! lol It's always nice when the bullies remove themselves from the situation! lol
Finally a man who stands up for his wife, when his family bully her! Good on you sir!! Usually people would compliment you’d “parents” for raising a good man, but you and your dad get all the credit here. I love that your dad stood up for you! 👍
On that last one: Being able to stay together for 10 years WITHOUT the bond of marriage is a really strong thing. I mean, it is much easier to end, but they didn't. And the child is also only a thing now after those ten years, so that wasn't holding them together. If it's not love, what is it supposed to be then?
My guy and I got married after seven years together, so now eight years total. Agreed. Is rare. (My former marriage was only four years together total, after two dating.) We just didn't see a reason to give money to the state to "prove" we were together. We live together. We have two cat kids together. We do all our stuff together. It's like weddings are just Hallmark cards the state cashes in.
@@centimanj8916 especially during covid. Had to hire an out of town officiant . It took longer to set up than actually being there that day and signing the papers.
Sometimes people think something they do is just harmless fun and don't realize it is absolutely not okay. They don't actually have any malicious intentions, at least not consciously. They are usually around ten years old.
I agree, the groom clearly asked his family to not pull such pranks on her, warned them with what he would do and yet they still did it and blame him for actually doing what he'd said he would do. Who in their right mind would ruin a wedding thinking its considered 'looking out for the groom'..
This is how they "treat" all the new female relatives?!? Maybe I got this wrong BUT is the MIL divorced from the FIL?!? Hmmm, maybe there's a logical reason for that!?!
@@indigoeye3874 Oh, no. These Bs DO have malicious intent, no question. They are confirmed mean-girl bullies. Time to start a new family without the toxic sorority. (But Father's a keeper.) And no contact with Mom especially when you start having kids.
Would've left all of the" brady bully bunch in white" at the wedding ceremony and have my revenge when the photographer turn all these dresses into red on the photos. And post it with a smiling emoticon, saying how much fun i had marrying the lovè of my life. Something like:,,wanna thank all his family who attended, they are such darlings"
Probably play victim and invalidate the bride's reaction to THEIR bad behaviour. Its a form of Narc baiting. I wonder how they would feel if the Wife "pranked" these little girls in a similar manner?
And now it's time for a wedding prank Good Idea, Bad Idea. Good Idea: pranking the newlyweds by tying cans to their car and putting "Just Married" on the windows in washable paint. Bad Idea: pranking the newlyweds by aggressively hazing the bride into your cult of toxicity.
My family had a tradition of my cousins pranking bride and groom (typically both because they've generally lived together). My sister was prepared for one of their pranks (removing labels from cans in the pantry) and wrote on the bottom of all her cans, but they got into her house and switched all the clothing and kitchen wear around. When they went home to change mid-reception, go to grab fresh underwear, find it in the dishwasher; plates where the shirts should be, that sort of thing. I'm a bit of a control freak, but I think if I knew that was coming I'd at least look back on it fondly: but that is my family pranking their own members Not hazing my partner in some sort of screening ritual that is super public for the whole of their friends and family. Like that poor bride has to experience that in front of her parents and siblings, friends, etc. These women are so messed up. I also wanna know, like what happens if she doesn't pass the test? They treat her like crap for the remainder of their lives together? Like wtf
@@loribanks1515 I like the way your family does pranks, switching things around is annoying for who lives there but isn’t humiliating or actually hurting anyone. Wearing white after specifically being told not to isn’t a prank, it’s being self centered and entitled.
I love how the first husband stood up for his wife. Those women are toxic. How do you use bullying as an excuse to welcome someone new into the family? The bride would have every right to be a bridezilla. I'd prefer to stay far away.
The first groom was standing up to bullies, pure & simple, it wasn’t just the white dresses at his wedding but the whole pattern of abuse. Kudos to the groom, his brother and dad for refusing to accept this and shame on those women-they should be embarrassed at their immature behavior
I told my grandma she was invited to my wedding, but not her new husband bc he is abusive and talks shit about our family constantly. She ended up not coming and reminding me 3x before. I finally said whatever, and that I didn't care and I haven't spoken to her in 4 years. She hasn't even met our kid. Families suck sometimes.
'Oh, a family member has fallen in love with a woman and wants to marry her? Let's see if we can completely wreck her mentality and emotional stability.' Good on him for sticking up for his wife. That family is f-ed up 💔
All I can say that photographer went above and beyond by changing the mother-in-laws dress from white to red. Now that's som A+ service. I hope they've gotten ALL the business.
First story: They went ahead with their plans even after lying to you and claiming they "would never do such a thing" when you confronted them. So the women in your family are misogynistic liars, too. I suspect this goes deeper, with these women simply NOT HAVING THE PROPER CLOTHES TO WEAR TO A WEDDING! It's too easy to always wear the same thing!
@@naruhinastarr So many crazy narcissistic bullies running around these days. They spend all of their time bullying someone out side of their group. But if they didn't have that they would all turn on each other in a heart beat. I bet they all secretly hate each other too but they use that hate, band together instead, and project it onto other undeserving women. They are fake and deceiving. How do they all seem to find each other? They come together like magnets most times.
I was married ... we had 2 ceremonies. 1st - Private, In the Rockies at a Resort in the Spring. Common Law Marriage. It was PERFECT. Simple cute outfit, a cupcake and a dazzling ring. Then his mom found out.... 😒We were forced to fly to Florida and do the whole Church thing, with guests. It was awful. Weddings bring out all kinds of weirdness. His mother hated me. His father hit on me. My sister is a crazy drunk, my mom left town. No one helped me get dressed or do my hair. His side of the family didnt even speak to me, the entire time. And they wondered why, we got married without them... I did not want a second ceremony. I wanted a get together, dinner drinks, basic celebration. But all the women from both sides told me how selfish I was, for not having a GATHERING. And... it showed me the my new husband was not on my side, when it mattered. He buckled for his mom, every time she opened her mouth. 3.5 years later, I saw emails from her talking really badly about me. I started a Online Modeling Business ( No jobs in the Rockies) and took care of myself 100% - he paid the bills on his family home. As a Common Law Wife, I have NO RIGHTS to the properties he had, when he met me. No Ownership rights if we divorce. We all agreed to this. But, once I started my modeling business they suddenly wanted me to contribute to the mortgage. The email was filled with my financial information. And him, not scolding her, or defending me at all, just a plan to get me to pay for property I have no rights to. I agreed to pay, but I wanted my money back with interest if we divorce. Why would I pay off a home in the Rockies that I will never own??? Then I found out that was house wasn't even in his name. It was His Mothers!!! Again, why would I buy a house for another woman, who disrespects me and hates me??? One day I went to the PO BOX, which I never did. And I found an envelope adressed to my husband from an insurance company. With the owrds 'FOR STEVE ONLY' written on it. So.... OFC I opened it. It was a LIFE INSURANCE POLICY for $250,000, for my husband- with my name forged on it as the 0% beneficiary. And a note saying thatthe other policy was on its way. I assumed the other policy was a policy for me. I was terrified!!! After about 5 years, I told him that it wasn't working and we should take time apart. He said if we part, its over. And his mom swiftly paid for attorney to press me for $40,000. But I married Common Law - In The Rockies 😂Which meant we were 2 different financial entities. And they had no claim over my business at all. As a matter of fact, the court said he actually owed me $12,000. Because he did not fulfill his duties as a husband and head of household. I never told the court about the insurance policies and that fraud. I was so busy fighting for my life, that I had no offensive plan. I didnt even hire a lawyer. I represented myself. Because I knew in my heart, that I had done nothing wrong. And the court awarded him $0.00. I said I dont want the 12K, I just want OUT! I should have left when I found out that his mom was controlling his bank account. But I told myself that they were just an oddly close family. And his money aint my business. But then, she wanted control of my money. Even suggested that I just deposit my checks, in his account and she would manage it all. I come from such a broken family, that I couldnt tell if that was normal, or if it was the A-Hole. Once she realized that I was not going to submit to her. She used all her powers to put a wedge between us. The final straw was when I found 5 lumps in my breast. And she ( A BREAST CANCER SURVIVOR HERSELF) suggested that I sign up for "Obamacare", and not use MY HUSBANDS BlueCross Blueshield, cuz cancer could get expensive. Im black, so that was a racial dig at me. It wasnt Cancer, THANK GOD. But, it was OVER after that. We got to CA and that state didnt recognize COMMON LAW. So they said we should marry a 3rd time and make it LEGAL 50/50. I said No and I want to separate. 🤣🤣 And I did qualify for Obamacare and food stamps... as well as counseling. They asked why I was living in an affluent area of Lake Tahoe - Northern CA, married to a front-end web developer and not on the same footing as my "husband"? Then the counselor, told my that I was a Domestic Abuse Victim. And what he was doing, withholding healthcare and controlling all the money was considered slavery, in some courts. It was so BEYOND Over. Thank God I had my fans! They took care of me. I ended it, got through the divorce and never looked back.
Glad you got out safely Sorry it took you so long. Be glad you didn't bring a child into it. We don't know we're being brainwashed or abused until it's too late usually. Especially if we come from dysfunctional homes. It took me 4 years to get away by that time I was afraid I would kill him defending myself because it had become violent. His mother was a nutcase. All I can say is I hope he's enjoying his elder years taking care of his mother with whomever he conned into marrying him. She'll never own anything because it's all in mummies in his name.
Shout out to the man with the insecure female family members who have to break down other women who try to become family. I’m EXTREMELY PROUD of YOU for sticking up for your wife💕💕💕 it means a lot!!💕
Just so you know, I've got a friend dealing with this and by god I'm gonna embroider that phrase onto a pillow for her! The marriage made it thru, but I think a nice large pillow with the photos of the jackasses in question might just have to get silk screened onto the back so she and her husband can beat on it at will. I wonder how hard it would be to embroider a punching bag..... huh. Thanks. You just solved my Christmas gift ideas for them. Thanks!
Ikr. Is it so hard to be nice to the bride? What are they “testing” for anyway? You don’t test a new bride, you just welcome her anyway no matter what. Be a welcoming family.
Who tf would “prank” a bride? And that’s not even a prank! If you’re gonna prank a couple getting married it had better be an overseas bff jumping out of a cake! Or the wedding car “breaks down “ and the loan car is a Rolls. Nice pranks. Putting the bride “in her place” is just toxic and evil.
I think I would've just warned my wife and made an alliance with her, my dad and one or two of the other chill dudes in my family to attack all of the women in white with paintguns (hiden in specific caches at the venue). Then, when they inevitably would've freaked out about this and blamed us, I would have served them their own attitude : "What do you mean?! It's just teasing! We just wanted to see how you guys would react! 😮"
so good on the first guys part. he warned them hed kick them out. ALSO if you get upset about other women wearing white to your wedding you ARE NOT A BRIDEZILLA
He warned them, but they probably didn’t think they’d have the balls to stop them (like how the other men were submissive to the behavior and encouraged it). But when he stuck to his guns, they surprise Pikachu faced.
My fantasy would be to let them wear white and then bring out a super soaker filled with merlot. (I know- a waste of good wine but sacrifices must be made.)
@@jgw5491 lol I had a similar concept idea for whenever I get married. My plan is to ask my brother (who is 6’7”) to be essentially a bouncer and if anyone tries to come wearing white/ivory/some other bs then they can go home and change or get doused in dye or mud or something bc we just are not doing that foolishness. So there ya go, tie dye supplies or muddy water so you can save the wine haha
The serial killer thing is gross. Those men had real victims with real families who went through unspeakable things. It's not "quirky" to use them as decoration in a celebration. If you want to do a horror theme, fine, but use fictional killers like Hannibal Lecter or Norman Bates, etc. rather than trivializing the pain of real people.
I'm glad to see someone pointing this out. One thing is to be into real crime stuff, for many reasons, but to glorify these criminals escapes my understanding. Many of them weren't even geniuses, they got away with their crimes because police was stupid, so what are they celebrating?
I was going to comment the same thing. What an absolutely disgusting idea. Those monsters ended and ruined countless lives. It makes me sick to think of people joking about being at the Dahlmer table or the BTK table.
I’m eternally grateful for the fact that my ILs have been nothing but welcoming, loving, kind, amazing, and supprtive people in my life. They treated me like family from day 1 of just dating their youngest son and they were so excited for their baby to get married (we were dating for 3 years & engaged for 1 year). I was pretty afraid that things would be awkward between our families because we’re culturally different, but turned out I worried for absolutely nothing! The entire wedding was emotional for everyone, the pictures turned out beautiful, we all had a wonderful time. My husband & I now have a beautiful little 7 month old & that baby is spoiled beyond belief (she’s the first grand baby for both families). I may be biased, but I have the best ILs ever. ♥️♥️
That guy who stood up for his wife is a real one. We need more men like this that support there wives and not allow the family to bully her. Good for him.
After all of the husbands or grooms we have seen that don’t do a damn thing when stuff like this happens, the husband is amazing for sticking up for her.
We love to see a groom stand up for his bride, particularly against his own family. Shows we’ve got a man on our hands. He’s got her back. That’s what having a partner is about.
I love the story where MIL wears white and wife wore purple and invited all guests to wear white dresses to show up MIL, had Pagan handfasting and walked down isle to Sweet Child of Mine 🤣🤣 love all your stories Charlotte!
The bullying by those women in the family is the worst form of misogyny. The worst. To hurt and alienate other women under the guise of "looking out for the men" , to bully and to gang up on new members instead of welcoming them because they're so so insecure as a family... Ugh. The men who support it are just as horrible because they WANT the new women to submit. But the husband, brother and Dad - ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
" we've been together for 10yrs are engaged and have a baby on the way " " long term relationships and married couples only. No fiancé and baby daddy doesn't count! " * blocks her and never contacts her again * With a "bestfriend" like that who needs enemies ?
I think the real reason has two scenarios: One: she had sex with him a long time ago Two: she always liked him and he turned her down and now she hates him for it. Lol because none of her reasonings make sent
@@1776rights i personally think they had 10 years long an on-off relationship, got pregnant and get married now. Still super weird to not invite him though because based on the future they plan, it needs to be serious enough
@@beyzayanik3442 I've seen couples in solid relationships for years and only decide to tie the knot due to pregnancies, so I didn't consider the possibility of one-off relationship... But still, really weird. My guess is the bridezilla wanted to get on his pants...
So happy to see a man stick up for his wife to his family if it didn't "keep the peace". So many men roll over just to avoid drama. You're going to be a great husband because you're already a great man.
Love that man! He’s a keeper! He and his Bride just became the new Alfas in that family. No one gonna mess with them! And in that moment a generational cycle of abuse and bullying was finally broken.
Wow. The grandmother and the mother are the ones who started the whole tradition. Sounds about right to me. Couldn’t let go of Junior, had to take it out on his lady and find a pretext to explain it away. I find it very reassuring that the groom saw thru this BS and stood up for his bride. Going against family like that isn’t easy, even if it’s the right thing to do.
Just throwing this out there because it's an opinion I saw once and wholeheartedly agree with, but have never seen anyone else talking about it... The whole concept of idolizing serial killers, getting their faces as tattoos (it's a thing), buying merch with their quotes and faces, etc. Is SO incredibly messed up. You never know when you're going to encounter someone who may have been connected to a victim of one of those killers, and you're literally throwing it in their face that you're celebrating the person who killed someone they knew and cared about. Even if it's not a person who knew one of those specific victims, but anyone who is closely connected to violent crime of any sort. You're basically showing that you celebrate murderers and don't give a shit about the victims and their families.
Yes Like they have some tiny case for fictional serial killers cause they arnt real but its still messed up but real living serial killers that have murdered people yet ppl idolize them? It's messed up and honestly a huge red flag
As a #Murderino, I concur. That's just baffling to me. There's being into true crime, then there's being _REALLY_ into true crime to the point that they idolize those rapists/murderers. It's like, "Yikes!" 😬 Nope. That's just wrong on so many Dante's Inferno levels of hell. 😳
Petty response to the last bride: the friend should go, be in as many pictures as possible, then cut contact. The bride didn’t want ex partners in the photos, how would she feel about ex friends..?
I’m so relieved this story is written by the man, with my experience on AITA I was NOT expecting that. I was expecting it to be the woman and AT BEST she said her husband “did nothing” It’s honestly refreshing seeing a decent dude on that Reddit lol
My MIL planned to wear a black dress to my COVID elopement ceremony. A dress that she had purchased specifically for a funeral. Glad we asked what she was planning to wear, because we vetoed that. But she did say “well I’m not buying a new dress for this” and FIL chimed in with “a funeral dress is appropriate for this event”. She ended up wearing the same color as my bridesmaids because that was the only dress she had that was formal enough. I told my husband I’m going to buy her a dress for our post-COVID vow renewal/wedding reception in a couple years(it’ll be our five year wedding anniversary). I’m just going to pick it out and buy it and give it to her, and tell her “this is what you’re wearing to the wedding, I picked it for you since you made it clear at the elopement that you can’t be trusted to pick it yourself.”
My narcissistic mother refused to allow me to bring a date to her wedding. It's her 3rd. Her logic was that I wasn't in a long term relationship (I was divorced 6 months prior to the event), but I was dating someone exclusively at the time of the wedding. She really just wanted to ensure I was as uncomfortable as possible during the event. I went for the ceremony so my son could attend and then left. I no longer speak with her. Best decision I ever made.
Some mothers :(. Mine didn't let me go to her third, held in a church wedding. She had my sister as a bridesmaid and told me the news of not having me there just before leaving to church. I was around 16/17 then. Marriage lasted almost 2 years. We have been on/off over the years and this spring I cut ties after he disrespected my dieing father. So yeah, narcissist behavior can only be taken so long :(
Having the heads up, they should have prepared a super-soaker squirt gun with green die that dies the skin as well as the white dresses. Prank them back, ha ha.
it’s not even a bridezilla thing either. those women shoulda just balled up and said they didn’t like the wife, bc that much is obvious they knew what would happen if they wore white, but somehow refused to believe he would do it.. why wouldn’t he? they have nerve lol
The last one has me laughing at the bride's logic. She doesn't want someone who is an ex in her wedding photos, but she's marrying someone she has known for less than a year and her BFF has been with her fiance for 10 years. Hmmm...what if the "ex" in the wedding photos ends up being the groom that she barely knows? 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Yep it's just stupid. To be honest: A relation that long without a binding commitment like a child or marriage seems to be pretty strong exactly because it is "so easy" (in legal and responsibility terms) to walk away from.
Some people have way too much trust in marriage. They think that marriage is necessary and makes a relationship so no couples even if they have been together for much longer are legit without a ring and if they get married then their life will magically work out. It's funny because they are judging other people's relationships because they know that theirs are weak! No true bond should need a marriage
And even if they do break up THEY HAVE A BABY TOGETHER! Its not like he isn't going to be an important person to the brides BFF for the rest of her life
@@maukschilol Yep. I've been together with my now-husband for 11 years before marrying him. We met at ages 18&20. We wanted to be settled before finalizing the union and also wanted to pay for the whole event by ourselves. By the bride's logic, I would have had to be married at the age of 21 while still going to university oO
So the crazy women/ gang who ruined the wedding say they just want to make sure the new wife will make a decent family member, yet they behave in a way that is far from decent 🙄 Nutjobs! As for the last bridezilla, imho the only “ex” she might have on her wedding pictures some time from now is her own husband, considering how little they’ve known each other 🤷🏻♀️
Yeah the comments on the last OP's post were pretty unanimous in saying this bridezilla marriage will fall apart long before OP. See smart self actualized adults like to make sure we're compatible in all aspects of life before taking that plunge because we take the sanctity of marriage seriously. It's not something you enter into because you have a narcissistic need for attention, it's attitudes like the bride's that are the reason divorce has become so prevalent in western culture, nobody takes the institution seriously. Then you have LGBTQ people that still can't legally get married despite taking it far more seriously than the aholes that can.
And being married a long time does not guarantee that a couple has a strong relationship and won’t divorce. That horrible “best” friend may end-up having several exes in her photos anyway. I think her reason for not inviting the fiancé is nonsense - makes me wonder if she has another reason that she’s trying to conceal. Anyway, I’d cut off that friendship completely.
You're not marrying the entire family. You're marrying ONE person. It's your responsibility to have your spouse's back, first. You did that. A+. 👍🏻 What they're doing is trying to push that "being worthy" is actually "being willing to take abuse from the entire family in perpetuity." Yeahhhh, no. This is gross.
It sounds like almost every kind of CULT initiation. Break the individuals sense of self to join the collective... I know, I've been raised in a family cult.
Exactly. And this would only be the beginning. Also, I really don’t like when people say something along the lines of “if you marry your husband, you’re marrying the entire family” even when they have good intentions so thank you for saying that you are marrying that one person!
The first story just breaks my heart. Family is supposed to be a safe space, not a place where you walk on eggshells and maneuver around potential bullies.
As a bullying survivor, I would crucify anybody who would bully my significant other, more so if it came from my actual family. I absolutely agree with the man who threw the women out of his wedding: it's supposed to be the best day of your life, not one where you have to deal with bullying. Oh, and bullying is not a prank or a joke. Not ever.
Post seen 6/17/23 These women are marking there territory and letting this "new" girl know where her place in line is, the back and she must do what ever they want her to do, including doing this to someone else. I'm super glad someone had the stones to stand up to these horrible women. I'm really really happy he stood up for his new bride. Congratulations on your one yr anniversary.🎉🎉😊😊 I hope you first yr together has been amazing. God bless you both.
There appears to be more than enough women in that family that aren't "decent" already! Maybe the bride will bring a little more class that they are lacking. How shameful!
"She said if we waited for 10 years then our relationship bond was probably not that strong" NO, because if a couple is together that long, that means they love each other enough to stay and wait for each other, and therefore means they are comfortable and stable enough in that relationship that they don't feel they need to rush anything. I mean, marrying early in a relationship (especially less than ONE year???) is just a recipe for disaster because what if they realize they aren't a good match after all?
Some people, who want a big wedding but don't have the money for it (and want to put it into things like loans and consolidation and hey, maybe making sure they have enough to pay for that kid?) will wait. The engagement is the first strong sign of commitment, possibly, but they're smart enough not to blow a lot they may not have on a big celebration till they're well settled. Is this even that uncommon anymore?
I don't think being together that long necessarily means they figured things out. Some people will stay in toxic situations because they have become acustomed until they have a wakeup call and leave. I also know plenty of people that married after less than a year and have been together for decades. I think it all goes down to how well they do with communicating and honesty from the beginning. Being genuine from the beginning so that once they marry it doesnt end up being like they married a stranger.
It's crazy because some long-term relationships that I know of change as soon as the couple gets married. For instance both of my uncles were with their ex-wives for years before they got married. Once they got married neither marriage lasted longer than 3 years. I don't know what it is about that piece of paper.
That first guy is an absolute beautiful human being. Some family members really think they can be toxic and that you'll let it go because it's family. They manipulated prior spouses, gaslight anyone who disagreed or confronted them, and then made themselves out to be the victims when their behavior wasn't condoned. Honestly, it's best to not have them around.
That groom is in no way the AH. He is amazing for thinking of his wife's feeling and putting those before her family's pathetic and ridiculous ritual. Wishing the wife and groom the best life , I imagine it will be so much better without his family. Well done Sir 👏👏👏
"[The women] claimed they're just looking out for us men and that their goal ultimately is to make sure the women that came into the family are decent" You over spelled insecure 😗
It's an insult to the men in the family to assume that they can't think for themselves. But then again, it must be true since some of them are so spineless that they agree to hazing.
14:14 the best comeback would be her being the sickly sweet MOH, announce her pregnancy along with the bridezilla's 'expert comment' in a PowerPoint as wedding toast.
Thank you for being you Ms. Dobre. It's been 2yrs and I still watch your content everyday. You have made me smile and laugh when everything in my life has made me cry.
Damn! Major kudos go out to the young man that defended his wife against the army of bullies in his family. Obviously, weddings aren’t the place for pranks of this nature. I’m so happy he started his marriage off by setting boundaries with his intrusive family (women). 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
My Husband’s family held a family meeting whether or not I was worthy to be part of their family after my husband proposed and I said Yes! (Thank god they all agreed that I was worthy and they told me they approve the engagement 🙄). I was supposed to be thankful that my engagement will not be canceled due to their kindness. My husband no longer talks to his family.
Love the story of the bride not inviting the fiancé 🤨... I had a friend once who was engaged to a guy she'd been with for 6m, had the wedding planned dress on order etc... ended up breaking up, got with a new guy (a really close friend of hers from highschool) and got engaged almost immediately so she kept the wedding date the same. Then she tells me she'll just put plus one on my invite since she's not sure my bf (who I'd been with for 2yrs) and I would still be together by then... big surprise the wedding didn't happen (I'm still with the same man 11yrs and counting)
That first guy is a keeper!!! The women have NO ROOM to complain when OP warned them of exactly what he said he would do and did it because they didnt heed his warning. It was in deed a good test on how good Op would be as a husband and aced it
8:54 kudos to that photographer for changing the mother in law’s dress to red in the photos. Great editing job too, he deserves some extra cash for both his character and his skill.
The sense of entitlement that the women in the first post have is absolutely ridiculous to me. I’m sorry but someone needed to put a stop to it they got what was coming to them. Good on him for standing up to them and watching out for his wife. Those women are immature and have absolutely no respect I wouldn’t want them at my wedding either.
He did put a stop but honestly old hags like that hardly ever change. They just play the victim for the outsiders and get offended that you didn't let them have their way. Narcissistic af if you ask me. I'm glad the son (and some men in the family apparently) seems to be a much better person and stood up for his wife, but lord help that poor woman for the years to come, that she'll mostly likely will have to cross paths with those unstable women that her husband is related to!
If I were the son/groom I’d go no-contact with everyone in my family who did the prank or defended it. No one needs that level of toxicity and cruelty in their life.
The women in the first story are ultimate mean girls & deserve to never be included in any family situation involving this great husband & his new wife. The serial killing table decorations are just gross. I listen to/watch/read a lot of true crime & im fascinated by a lot of it. Some people seem to forget that there were victims who died, many torturous agonizing deaths, at the hands of these animals. By celebrating the killer the victims & their family & friends are relegated to negligible afterthoughts. The complete lack of humanity displayed by this is astounding & if I were a guest at this wedding I would have taken one look at this crass display of ignorance & walked out.
Jeffry Dahmer was not only a cannibal serial killer but also a pedophile who raped the boy victims in incredibly disgusting ways...not exactly someone I would celebrate
One person being crazy is not weird, the weird part is when there's whole groups of crazy people, or groups of people who show to support the crazy person. That's the most mind blowing part for me.
I’d say a group of women who want to know if another woman is a “decent” person, all while they are exhibiting imbecilic, indecent behavior, is extremely disturbing.
Perfect analysis. Spot on.
@@dawnadriana1764 ~ Thank you ✌️
Yeah... cause apparently you just can't find that out in regular getting to know you conversation. You have to haze them first. So ridiculous
@@blazingapparition2687 ~ I know, how crazy would THAT have been, to have to sit and talk to someone and get to know them?
@@pfalky2k ~ Exactly! The only time I would even CONSIDER not being with someone due to a family member, would be my child.
Dude, that first one just makes me mad. He is not the asshole, the women in his family are. That's very plain and true.
the fact that he’s even having to question if he’s the asshole is so, so sad. i wish him and his wife a very happy life, hopefully without the toxicity of the women in his family. ‘the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb’ and he might be figuring that out very quickly.
Junior high school clique..mean girls club
There's a easy fix to it just have every one bring white and black outfits that way if they do that it looks like it's planed
HE's the only decent ;person in the entire family.
@@levithorstone2876 .....
Why tho? Why should everyone be put out & have to deal with the drama, when it's the witches in his family that created the problem. Why put it on everyone else to go thur any of the bs?
The first man is a keeper ! He defended his wife and acted on his words. He went as far as kicking his own mother to protect his wife, that’s a good man.
2:08 i’m curious what they were expecting from the wife reaction that would’ve indicated she passed the “ultimate test” Is it supposed to be if she finds them being disrespectful on her special day funny that she’s welcomed in the family??!no one has to put up with abuse because you call it a joke
The groom learned from his father who thought the female unit/coven was bullying and inappropriate in how they treated a potential new family member
How could anyone be OK with being bullied on a big day like their wedding?
Sounds like a cult initiation, starting an argument at a wedding.
true. However I don´t get why his father would allow this. I would never take my spouse to a party if he was throwing a tantrum like that.
One of the best BURNS I've ever read on a reddit post was the bride caught wind of of her own mother planning to come to the wedding in a wedding dress - not just white, but a full on wedding dress. Bride contacted everyone and had every woman show up in a wedding dress and even paid to rent them if they didn't have one. The bride wore royal blue. Her mother was livid.
Perfect response!
but, WHY, WHY, WHY?
I get a self centered Mom who wants the world to be all about her (I have an older sister and B-I-L who sulk when the attention is not focused on them), but WHY a WEDDING DRESS?? Why not an over the top glam, red carpet dress that gives her center stage because the guests are wowed by her appearance, not because they think she is crazy! It is just a little bit on the looney side for anyone besides the bride to show up in a wedding gown! 😵💫🫨
@@terrig7006 There was another one of these where it was the son getting married and his mom always wore a wedding dress to everyone's wedding.
So his mom shows up in her wedding dress and the kicker? Son married an Indian girl! The room is FULL of color and the bride is in a vibrant red and gold saree. Everyone makes his mother feel like a walking faux pas b/c Indian people only wear white to funerals. It was hilarious!
I think Charlotte did a video a few days ago about that exact wedding (at least I watched it a few days ago).
The bride was not religious and MIL had send a priest to the soon to be wed couple,trying to force her vision on the wedding. Priest was at the wedding to the delight of MIL.
Icing on the cake?
Bride hired him as MC because after she told him what was going on, they became friends.
Priest realized the atheist bride had better moral standards than the "religious" MIL. He must have thought: "God works in mysterious ways!"
Oh that’s so good
You know what? That first one WAS a good test.
The groom’s family failed and the groom passed with flying colors.
I’m happy the wife is getting someone who will look out for her like that.
Well said!
i am just confused cause i though white was a normal wedding color o.o but yeah they were jerks for mocking her and i am glad the husband stood up for her.
@@sapphiremoonstone1066 Usually, in western cultures, only the bride wears white, unless the bride and groom state otherwise. It symbolizes purity and chastity, and it helps the bride stand out amongst everyone else, to be the only one wearing white. It's considered very offensive to wear white at someone's wedding without permission.
@@silversamurai0267 ah I see I have been to many weddings in my life and a lot happen when I was younger lol
Absolutely 👍
Finally a man that actually has a spine in the whole family.
So incredibly and absolutely rare in my experience 😂
Lol
Don’t generalize. That’s not very honorable to do.
@The Onkel I’m a woman and completely agree with you.
He was just the first who disagreed to be wiling to take the heat for his bride . Hopefully given his good example the other guys who disagree just might rise up too and be a force to help end this toxic behavior with the future generations.
Just my two cents on the groom who threw all the women out of his wedding. Good for him! Those women spent so many years in charge of the family, they didn't think he'd have the balls to actually kick them out. So, they got pissed that they lost control. Toxic women. I hope this guy and his wife stay far away from them. They don't need that crap.
I said that too. They probably didn’t think he’d have the balls to do it, but when he did was surprise pikachu face on their part. Their husbands and stuff encourage it and go along with it, so they’re probably not use to a man sticking up for himself.
Probably why his parents got divorced. His mom was too toxic and his dad got tired of it and left.
@@Z.O.1991 That's exactly why. There would likely be little other reasons other than maybe financials, or sex life... Likely all those issues also lead back to the BIG a-hole of the pair... Jeee I wonder who that was... Definitely the man, it's always the mans fault for abuse./s
@@k-aw-teksleepysageuni8181 Did you actually listen to the story on this video because you sound a bit Misandrist here.
@@Thurgosh_OG I was clearly being sarcastic on the last part. here, lemme add notation.
The "just a prank" is right up there with insulting someone and then saying, "It was just a JOKE!" And calling the victim "too sensitive" 😵💫
Bravo to the groom! Now _that_ is a real man.
First guy: not the a-hole. If anything, he seems like a good guy in a toxic family. I hope he and his wife have a good life.
That guy's family (rather the women in it) low key sounds like a cult. Take the abuse, give up your self esteem to earn the right to abuse the next person... That is beyond toxic.
I felt ashamed for the men in that family... no joke.
Not only do they think they're funny, they're gaslighting for the extra... she's insecure, she didnt want to have other woman at her wedding, like... they're straight up mirroring their own behavior. sshheeeeesh, i understand his cousin
@@creativedesignation7880 Deeply insecure immature bullies.
I would have brought spray paint and spray them and their dresses- something like flouro orange or green
Hoping they move FAAAAR away from that toxic family.
The first guy is prime husband material. That's EXACTLY how you handle disrespectful family members no matter who they are. Great job. No matter what anyone says, he is not an a-hole. All his family members who were a part of this should be ashamed! He didn't ruin his wedding. If the wedding was ruined, it was most certainly not his fault but theirs.
100% agree!!!
He saved his wedding lol
They would just humiliate the hell out of his wife beyond white dresses
On their special day! Disgusting
That first guy is how every husband should defend his wife to his family.
oh thank gosh, I just started the video and I didn't want to hear it unless it had a good ending.
What Carolina Queen are you? I thought I held the title in South Carolina but if I'm wrong, hey girl!!! 😆😁
@@billymadisonsshampoo8223 You still hold your title. I'm in NC 🤣🤣
@@billymadisonsshampoo8223 😆🌞
@@TheRealCarolinaQueen lol! Have a good day darlin!
He gave them a fair warning and they did it anyway just out of spite. His family probably thought he didn't have the guts to kick his own mother out of the wedding for acting like that.
The first story... His new wife doesn't have to 'earn' her place in his family because clearly, those people aren't his family to begin with. The fact that despite him making it clear he won't tolerate it on HIS wedding day, they went ahead and did it. They're not just attacking his wife, they clearly has no respect for him too.
I think its sometimes very difficult to see toxic personalities in your own family because you've almost been conditioned to love and forgive one another but I personally think... Good riddance.
I cut ties with my "family" a few years ago. And I've never been happier and healthier, they caused me severe physical ailments, since.
Lets hope he cut contact with the female side of the family. Trash.
I am sure they did not care one tiny bit if it destroyed the day for him as well. What a horrible family to be born into.
I think it was more that they are his FAMILY and they thought as such he wouldn't dare follow through on enforcing his boundary line with them. They likely went through with the plan just to spite him as a way to flaunt their power over him too . They got a nasty shock when they found out he was dead serious and they all got tossed out.
I have never commented on a public forum such as this, however, as a marriage counselor I must say congratulations to this bride and groom. They are starting their life off together in good form. The grooms family behaved as bullies- as you stated-at the very least and I would say were emotionally abusive to their new family member. Partners should nurture and protect each other and that is exactly what this young man did.
👏🏾👏🏾 She should bring you on the next video for commentary!
They are still out there, chewing the cud and thinking of new bitchiness to reek upon her. Forever and ever, till death do you part....and I think an AK47 might be their only chance. Is the world big enough to get away from them?
Actually, my EX husbands family all showed up to our wedding wearing all black to show that they all disapproved of me. I cried throughout the whole wedding and then followed up with more crying as they continually yelled at me throughout the whole reception. He is my EX for a reason. However, I gave that man 17 years of my life where I tried and tried to be what they wanted. Gladly, I did NOT turn into what they wanted and am now happily with a wonderful man that has a family full of the most beautiful, thoughtful people. There are a ton of horrid people out there. Lesson in this is: Never stop being you for someone else. You be yourself.
same
Wow, that’s horrible. You deserve a hug.
How is that not a Heathers retelling?
As the saying goes, you don't just marry the person; you marry the family.
Good for you for not confirming to what they wanted. I'm happy you're with a good man who accepts you.
Amy, That was truly despicable. No one deserves that. In their determination to hurt you, his family revealed what low-lives they are. I'm happy for you that you escaped such creatures, and made a new life for yourself.
Nyah!! Any woman who would subject another woman to humiliation and embarrassment, especially on her wedding day, is not only a bully, but is an entitled mean girl! What a horrific, horrific way to be in life. Shame on her shame on all of those women I’m embarrassed on the behalf of the women of world!
Internalized misogyny much with those women eh, they are miserable
That story reminds me of most of the women in my own family, including my own mother. (Don't get me started on the men tho..) It really sucks and bothersome when you're the only normal one in your entire toxic-ass damn family T_T
I get second hand embarrassment big time, too so I feel you on that one as well.
Kudos to this guy for not enabling their behaviour and standing up for his wife. Hats off. No need to apologise AT ALL
I'm a forensic scientist and genuinely love learning about serial killers, murder, and the works (partially since it is my job) but those serial killer center pieces are a little too far for. I don't have a problem with with skulls and have them decorating my whole house, but the idea of including the people who commit these terrible terrible acts in my wedding is just sad to me. Weddings are supposed to be a happy celebration of life and love. I don't want to be thinking about all the women Bundy murdered
Exactly. It's one thing to be fascinated by the science involved in catching serial killers, or being interested in their stories. But there's something very wrong with glorifying murderers, and showing off their faces like a work of art. That's just sick, and insensitive to the victims and their loved ones.
I've always been fascinated by crime, and the forensic science that helps solve them...I'm interested in the abnormal psychology of killers, not the killers themselves. Some people take it way too far, and treat it like they're not real murderers, that killed real people. It's not like horror movies, where none of the killing actually happened, and it's all for entertainment...it's real life.
If somebody had a wedding themed around horror movies I wouldn't bat an eye at it; but this is revolting, and makes me think these people seriously lack empathy.
ahh good for you! that is literally my dream job. i got my masters in forensic nursing a couple of years ago, because i am just so fascinated by it all! i would love to work on crime scenes with law enforcement, or in a crime lab with forensic scientists, or with criminal profilers studying abnormal psychology of people like this. what type of work do you do, if you don't mind my asking?
I agree-- I'm fascinated by criminal psychology, but glorifying murders like this? Ick. I'd be very uncomfortable if I was a guest at that wedding. The disrespect to the victims is staggering.
@@NoriDune deadass, like the only excuse to have a serial killer themed party would be Halloween or horror, which would make sense as they are scary and horrifying, but a wedding feels like it’s romanticizing. Couldn’t they have JSUT done like crime-themed? Like Sherlock Holmes?
All those women in story one absolutely peaked in high school and never grew up after that.
Good on the husband for defending his wife from his waste dump of a family.
I think you're 100% correct. It also seems like they have absolutely nothing going on in their own lives since all they do is apparently talk trash on facebook and conspire to pull "pranks" on every woman that comes into the family. So ridiculous
Exactly, you should be over pulling pranks after 13 years on this earth 🙄 old people, immature mindset.
I wonder if any of them even have a job
Because only people with lots of time can do this stupid shyte 🙄
This happened at my wedding. My SIL after several warnings wore white as a joke. My brother was angry at her, he supported me. My maid of honor however, opened up the cork and "accidentally" dumped red wine over her 😭. I love her for that.
Anyways, she was toxic and my brother and her are divorced now.
God bless your MoH. As well as you brother for not supporting his wife's insulting "joke". I hope the rest of your wedding was wonderful.
Yes, red wine.
I would have "accidentally" dumped food on her as well.
Why would anyone do this????? Not saying you have to be in love with the person that your sibling's marrying, but this is straight up WRONG!!! I have someone in my family who's getting married soon. Granted, I'm not the biggest fan of the fiance, but I wouldn't wear white to their wedding.
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 I'm late but i really don't understand the thought process behind it.
I honestly would never. I cannot even empathize with her because i don't even know what she was thinking.
Re: the photographer changing MIL's white dress to red...they would have earned a HUGE tip from me, not to mention an invite to my family gatherings forever.
They'd earn a bigger tip if they changed it to a drab or unflattering color. The red looks too good on her.
Inviting the photographer......especially to MIL's birthday.......🤭
Srsly though
This photographer should have changed the color to khaki
@@ilaeoa she deserves it but in the end it’s nice the photographer made the dress match the theme
The women, in the first story, are horrible people. I wonder what must be going around, in their heads, that would make this activity seem like a decent idea. When did being a bully become a wedding gift? The husband is a wonderful man, as it must have taken a lot of inner strength, standing with his wife, amid a clique of childish, ancient "mean girls". If this was done in my presence, words would fly, all tact gone, and everyone would be surprised, including myself, over things being said. Whether it's my place or not, that behavior is unacceptable....especially when spoken by grown people. How awful!
absolute C U Next Tuesday,s that need to die in trash fires....
It will be one real toxic matriarch and all others trying to impress her.
Right? Can you imagine? I was welcomed into the family with food and movie nights. I tell you what, that more effective than hazing
And the one who tried to shame them online without mentioning what the women of the family tried to do. I'd have dragged all of them over social media. Them and their weird hazing mess.
Right??! It made me sooo mad! Fuming. Id be genuinely questioning whether i wanted to go ahead with the wedding! Disgusting behaviour. And the fact they try to use their "power" of being the mother etc, just shows the toxicity, and i wonder if they will ever realise just how disgusting they are. Would be great if one of them found this story!
WOW people can be RUDE. How do these people even have friends/spouses. Kudos to that groom at the beginning for not letting his bride get bullied.
They probably have “friends” that are like-minded to them. I’m so happy that the groom stood up for her
My partner absolutely stuck up for me when his brother was utterly despicable towards me, and after telling him exactly what he thought of his behaviour he told him not to bother getting in touch again. I spent years in domestic violence situations and was stalked twice, and my partner instantly and angrily defend and it me took my knees out, NOBODY has ever stood up for me before. He was incensed by his brother and I’ve never seen him angry before. It was 4 years ago and my parter has rebuffed every attempt at contact, making it clear that it is entirely dependant on his brother giving me a sincere apology. Or carry on fucking off because we have a lovely life with each other thanks.
I’m happy for you
Congrats on finding a man that defends you, wish you well
I actually had the experience of having a friend of my soon-to-be sister-in-law's, who is a professional photographer, offer to shoot our wedding for free. I felt bad and offered to pay her (even though we couldn't afford much), and she said just give her what it costs for gas money to get there and back. She was amazing and took excellent pictures. If she hadn't of been so kind, we would have asked someone in our family to snap photos. I found out later that she had spent a lot of time at my in-laws' house growing up and did this for them since it was their first -- and probably only -- kid getting married. What good luck. What a good heart.
My aunt did the same. I asked two people if they would take photos of my wedding, and she was available. I offered to pay, and she said to consider it a wedding gift. I was so grateful! 😄
Nothing quite says "welcome to the family" like belittling, ridiculing, and humiliating someone. It certainly speaks volumes of how the women in that family perceive what a healthy family unit is like, especially if they genuinely believe that they're supporting and loving each other with that sort of atrocious mob mentality.
I think if a person from a mob married and their in-laws were this awful, blood would be spilled.
Tip for your wedding: if you are worried about anyone wearing white, being rude, etc then make someone in the wedding party in charge of being “the mean one”. Both my bridesmaids happily volunteered for this and we had super soakers with red wine inside on hand if needed. Didn’t end up needing them but it was great knowing they had my back and would deal with any drama so I didn’t have to. It’s your wedding day, you shouldn’t be stressed or dealing with drama.
LoL. That was my job at my friend's wedding. I was on the look out for white and off white colors. A long with black and red. I was also there by the door to make sure the bride's father did not show up.
I will happily come to a wedding and be “that person”!!
Yes. I'm having security at my wedding for sure.
I love that!!! Hahaha
Throwing red wine on someone just for wearing white is mad extra. Id beat someone up and kiss their husband if they tried that on me
My BFF had a "penny basket" out at her daughter's wedding for the purpose of tipping the venue staff. Putting money in the basket was totally optional. I saw the basket near the end of the reception. Guests were very generous. Months later, I found out that the Mother-in-law took the gratuity basket home. I mean, come on!
I'd go balistic on her behind if I was the bride or her mother.
What an awful person
So ghetto
The serial killer centerpieces fill me with so much rage. It’s so disrespectful to the victims and their families. Imagine being so selfish and stupid that you’d glorify the worst things that could happen to a person. I honestly can’t get over it.
Those that look up to serial killers probably have sad, pathetic lives.
That would even be tacky for a Halloween party, not to mention a wedding. Also the fact that they can't spell "execute." That word comes up a lot in serial killer lore.
Honestly I don’t even understand the whole serial killer craze at all.
I remember it being posted in a Halloween wedding group I’m in. She had to delete her post pretty quickly, hopefully she took note of the criticism and removed the photos.
@@melissablackwood idk it mightttt be ok for a Halloween party…? Idk I would’ve just done made up killers like Jason and Freddy or ghostface
"Every woman in my family showed up to my wedding wearing white. I kicked them out of the wedding and now they wont talk to me and excluded me from everything." "They excluded me from everything." Chalk that one up to win!!! lol It's always nice when the bullies remove themselves from the situation! lol
I’m seriously hoping the changing the white dresses to red thing catches on with photographers everywhere! That is genius.
I'm petty, so I wouldn't even match the bridal party color. I would change it to the least flattering color for the wearer.
@@tessgonzalez 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@tessgonzalez I'd make their skin purple. Lol
Gotta be green since they’re green with envy lol
I actually found out today that a red dress means you slept with the groom.
Finally a man who stands up for his wife, when his family bully her! Good on you sir!! Usually people would compliment you’d “parents” for raising a good man, but you and your dad get all the credit here. I love that your dad stood up for you! 👍
On that last one: Being able to stay together for 10 years WITHOUT the bond of marriage is a really strong thing. I mean, it is much easier to end, but they didn't. And the child is also only a thing now after those ten years, so that wasn't holding them together. If it's not love, what is it supposed to be then?
My guy and I got married after seven years together, so now eight years total. Agreed. Is rare. (My former marriage was only four years together total, after two dating.) We just didn't see a reason to give money to the state to "prove" we were together. We live together. We have two cat kids together. We do all our stuff together. It's like weddings are just Hallmark cards the state cashes in.
@@ashley_smith young and unmarried so I don't understand. State cashes in on marriage?
@@elithluxe7568 Weddings are expensive. Even if youre not dooing any actuall celebration and only get legally married, it still costs you.
@@centimanj8916 especially during covid. Had to hire an out of town officiant . It took longer to set up than actually being there that day and signing the papers.
thinking shady... they might have something together that she doesnt want him in her wedding......
The groom stood up for what was right and stood up for his bride. The white-wearers are as Charlotte said…… bullies.
Sometimes people think something they do is just harmless fun and don't realize it is absolutely not okay. They don't actually have any malicious intentions, at least not consciously.
They are usually around ten years old.
I agree, the groom clearly asked his family to not pull such pranks on her, warned them with what he would do and yet they still did it and blame him for actually doing what he'd said he would do.
Who in their right mind would ruin a wedding thinking its considered 'looking out for the groom'..
This is how they "treat" all the new female relatives?!? Maybe I got this wrong BUT is the MIL divorced from the FIL?!? Hmmm, maybe there's a logical reason for that!?!
@@indigoeye3874 Oh, no. These Bs DO have malicious intent, no question. They are confirmed mean-girl bullies. Time to start a new family without the toxic sorority. (But Father's a keeper.) And no contact with Mom especially when you start having kids.
Would've left all of the" brady bully bunch in white" at the wedding ceremony and have my revenge when the photographer turn all these dresses into red on the photos.
And post it with a smiling emoticon, saying how much fun i had marrying the lovè of my life. Something like:,,wanna thank all his family who attended, they are such darlings"
I think a man who stands up to his family to protect his wife is rare and beautiful.
Shouldn’t be rare. I doubt it’s rare
My brother has a bad wife and he defends her
@@battleangel6886 I mean same, but she's a lot more like him than we were
Okay
Supporting your wife on her special day is a sign of respect. Keep respecting your life with your new wife and you will have a happy life.
“It’s just a prank”
Who wants to be pranked on their wedding? What would they have done if the bride did go crazy? Run around in circles and cheer?
Probably play victim and invalidate the bride's reaction to THEIR bad behaviour. Its a form of Narc baiting.
I wonder how they would feel if the Wife "pranked" these little girls in a similar manner?
And now it's time for a wedding prank Good Idea, Bad Idea.
Good Idea: pranking the newlyweds by tying cans to their car and putting "Just Married" on the windows in washable paint.
Bad Idea: pranking the newlyweds by aggressively hazing the bride into your cult of toxicity.
My family had a tradition of my cousins pranking bride and groom (typically both because they've generally lived together). My sister was prepared for one of their pranks (removing labels from cans in the pantry) and wrote on the bottom of all her cans, but they got into her house and switched all the clothing and kitchen wear around. When they went home to change mid-reception, go to grab fresh underwear, find it in the dishwasher; plates where the shirts should be, that sort of thing. I'm a bit of a control freak, but I think if I knew that was coming I'd at least look back on it fondly: but that is my family pranking their own members Not hazing my partner in some sort of screening ritual that is super public for the whole of their friends and family. Like that poor bride has to experience that in front of her parents and siblings, friends, etc. These women are so messed up.
I also wanna know, like what happens if she doesn't pass the test? They treat her like crap for the remainder of their lives together? Like wtf
@@loribanks1515 I like the way your family does pranks, switching things around is annoying for who lives there but isn’t humiliating or actually hurting anyone. Wearing white after specifically being told not to isn’t a prank, it’s being self centered and entitled.
i would have honestly had someone spray paint their dresses and said: chill, it's just a prank. no hard feelings. you are the looser if you get mad.
I love how the first husband stood up for his wife. Those women are toxic. How do you use bullying as an excuse to welcome someone new into the family? The bride would have every right to be a bridezilla. I'd prefer to stay far away.
The first groom was standing up to bullies, pure & simple, it wasn’t just the white dresses at his wedding but the whole pattern of abuse. Kudos to the groom, his brother and dad for refusing to accept this and shame on those women-they should be embarrassed at their immature behavior
I told my grandma she was invited to my wedding, but not her new husband bc he is abusive and talks shit about our family constantly. She ended up not coming and reminding me 3x before. I finally said whatever, and that I didn't care and I haven't spoken to her in 4 years. She hasn't even met our kid. Families suck sometimes.
Sucky behavior can mean eternal isolation. No one needs to tolerate bad behavior.
'Oh, a family member has fallen in love with a woman and wants to marry her? Let's see if we can completely wreck her mentality and emotional stability.'
Good on him for sticking up for his wife. That family is f-ed up 💔
All I can say that photographer went above and beyond by changing the mother-in-laws dress from white to red. Now that's som A+ service. I hope they've gotten ALL the business.
First story: They went ahead with their plans even after lying to you and claiming they "would never do such a thing" when you confronted them. So the women in your family are misogynistic liars, too. I suspect this goes deeper, with these women simply NOT HAVING THE PROPER CLOTHES TO WEAR TO A WEDDING! It's too easy to always wear the same thing!
Apart from being misogynistic liars, they are also gaslighters. Completely gaslighting their family member (the groom). Tactics of what narcissists do
@@naruhinastarr So many crazy narcissistic bullies running around these days. They spend all of their time bullying someone out side of their group. But if they didn't have that they would all turn on each other in a heart beat. I bet they all secretly hate each other too but they use that hate, band together instead, and project it onto other undeserving women. They are fake and deceiving. How do they all seem to find each other? They come together like magnets most times.
They're not misogynistic, they're misandrists.
I was married ... we had 2 ceremonies. 1st - Private, In the Rockies at a Resort in the Spring. Common Law Marriage. It was PERFECT. Simple cute outfit, a cupcake and a dazzling ring.
Then his mom found out.... 😒We were forced to fly to Florida and do the whole Church thing, with guests. It was awful. Weddings bring out all kinds of weirdness. His mother hated me. His father hit on me. My sister is a crazy drunk, my mom left town. No one helped me get dressed or do my hair. His side of the family didnt even speak to me, the entire time. And they wondered why, we got married without them... I did not want a second ceremony. I wanted a get together, dinner drinks, basic celebration. But all the women from both sides told me how selfish I was, for not having a GATHERING. And... it showed me the my new husband was not on my side, when it mattered. He buckled for his mom, every time she opened her mouth. 3.5 years later, I saw emails from her talking really badly about me. I started a Online Modeling Business ( No jobs in the Rockies) and took care of myself 100% - he paid the bills on his family home. As a Common Law Wife, I have NO RIGHTS to the properties he had, when he met me. No Ownership rights if we divorce. We all agreed to this. But, once I started my modeling business they suddenly wanted me to contribute to the mortgage. The email was filled with my financial information. And him, not scolding her, or defending me at all, just a plan to get me to pay for property I have no rights to. I agreed to pay, but I wanted my money back with interest if we divorce. Why would I pay off a home in the Rockies that I will never own??? Then I found out that was house wasn't even in his name. It was His Mothers!!! Again, why would I buy a house for another woman, who disrespects me and hates me???
One day I went to the PO BOX, which I never did. And I found an envelope adressed to my husband from an insurance company. With the owrds 'FOR STEVE ONLY' written on it. So.... OFC I opened it. It was a LIFE INSURANCE POLICY for $250,000, for my husband- with my name forged on it as the 0% beneficiary. And a note saying thatthe other policy was on its way. I assumed the other policy was a policy for me. I was terrified!!! After about 5 years, I told him that it wasn't working and we should take time apart. He said if we part, its over. And his mom swiftly paid for attorney to press me for $40,000. But I married Common Law - In The Rockies 😂Which meant we were 2 different financial entities. And they had no claim over my business at all. As a matter of fact, the court said he actually owed me $12,000. Because he did not fulfill his duties as a husband and head of household. I never told the court about the insurance policies and that fraud. I was so busy fighting for my life, that I had no offensive plan. I didnt even hire a lawyer. I represented myself. Because I knew in my heart, that I had done nothing wrong. And the court awarded him $0.00. I said I dont want the 12K, I just want OUT!
I should have left when I found out that his mom was controlling his bank account. But I told myself that they were just an oddly close family. And his money aint my business. But then, she wanted control of my money. Even suggested that I just deposit my checks, in his account and she would manage it all. I come from such a broken family, that I couldnt tell if that was normal, or if it was the A-Hole. Once she realized that I was not going to submit to her. She used all her powers to put a wedge between us.
The final straw was when I found 5 lumps in my breast. And she ( A BREAST CANCER SURVIVOR HERSELF) suggested that I sign up for "Obamacare", and not use MY HUSBANDS BlueCross Blueshield, cuz cancer could get expensive. Im black, so that was a racial dig at me. It wasnt Cancer, THANK GOD. But, it was OVER after that. We got to CA and that state didnt recognize COMMON LAW. So they said we should marry a 3rd time and make it LEGAL 50/50. I said No and I want to separate. 🤣🤣 And I did qualify for Obamacare and food stamps... as well as counseling. They asked why I was living in an affluent area of Lake Tahoe - Northern CA, married to a front-end web developer and not on the same footing as my "husband"? Then the counselor, told my that I was a Domestic Abuse Victim. And what he was doing, withholding healthcare and controlling all the money was considered slavery, in some courts. It was so BEYOND Over.
Thank God I had my fans! They took care of me. I ended it, got through the divorce and never looked back.
You are a strong woman. I am so glad you got out of there safely. I wish you all the best in your life.
Glad you got out safely Sorry it took you so long. Be glad you didn't bring a child into it. We don't know we're being brainwashed or abused until it's too late usually. Especially if we come from dysfunctional homes. It took me 4 years to get away by that time I was afraid I would kill him defending myself because it had become violent. His mother was a nutcase. All I can say is I hope he's enjoying his elder years taking care of his mother with whomever he conned into marrying him. She'll never own anything because it's all in mummies in his name.
Shout out to the man with the insecure female family members who have to break down other women who try to become family. I’m EXTREMELY PROUD of YOU for sticking up for your wife💕💕💕 it means a lot!!💕
A couple's wedding should be a Sacred event and not the Time or Place for the family to pull a Power Trip over the "New" family member
Yah I even tell the new member bride or groom “ welcome to the family “
Just so you know, I've got a friend dealing with this and by god I'm gonna embroider that phrase onto a pillow for her! The marriage made it thru, but I think a nice large pillow with the photos of the jackasses in question might just have to get silk screened onto the back so she and her husband can beat on it at will. I wonder how hard it would be to embroider a punching bag..... huh. Thanks. You just solved my Christmas gift ideas for them. Thanks!
Yeah - it’s not about them! (They clearly didn’t get that memo 🙄) I suspect the whole “testing” is simply a way to make everything about them 🙄🙄
Ikr. Is it so hard to be nice to the bride? What are they “testing” for anyway? You don’t test a new bride, you just welcome her anyway no matter what. Be a welcoming family.
Who tf would “prank” a bride? And that’s not even a prank! If you’re gonna prank a couple getting married it had better be an overseas bff jumping out of a cake! Or the wedding car “breaks down “ and the loan car is a Rolls. Nice pranks. Putting the bride “in her place” is just toxic and evil.
If they wore white to my wedding I'd be announcing my pregnancy at their wedding.
If you’re not at the time, fake one 😂😂
Lol, and your lotto win and gender transition.
@@darrenrobinson9041 Or just stand up an announce that you farted. Or broke a toilet. lmao
like women like that will ever land someone
@@BrunosSquirrel Well, apparantly they already did. But yeah, this is some next level bully BS.
That first story... that man deserve a medal! So happy to see someone standing up to a bully gaggle of women!
I think I would've just warned my wife and made an alliance with her, my dad and one or two of the other chill dudes in my family to attack all of the women in white with paintguns (hiden in specific caches at the venue). Then, when they inevitably would've freaked out about this and blamed us, I would have served them their own attitude : "What do you mean?! It's just teasing! We just wanted to see how you guys would react! 😮"
I love this idea
I Love that!! Paintball the white dresses and the mil on Black
Ooooo ya and put them in one place telling them it's for a picture. Have the photographer get pictures of them covered in paint. Yk Carrie style 😈
@@izzyt1626you lot are positively diabolical. Keep them coming😂
You know you can use paint without a GUN. 😊
so good on the first guys part. he warned them hed kick them out. ALSO if you get upset about other women wearing white to your wedding you ARE NOT A BRIDEZILLA
He warned them, but they probably didn’t think they’d have the balls to stop them (like how the other men were submissive to the behavior and encouraged it). But when he stuck to his guns, they surprise Pikachu faced.
My fantasy would be to let them wear white and then bring out a super soaker filled with merlot. (I know- a waste of good wine but sacrifices must be made.)
Good on?
yeah, his Dad was decent too
@@jgw5491 lol I had a similar concept idea for whenever I get married. My plan is to ask my brother (who is 6’7”) to be essentially a bouncer and if anyone tries to come wearing white/ivory/some other bs then they can go home and change or get doused in dye or mud or something bc we just are not doing that foolishness. So there ya go, tie dye supplies or muddy water so you can save the wine haha
The serial killer thing is gross. Those men had real victims with real families who went through unspeakable things. It's not "quirky" to use them as decoration in a celebration. If you want to do a horror theme, fine, but use fictional killers like Hannibal Lecter or Norman Bates, etc. rather than trivializing the pain of real people.
I agree!
I'm glad to see someone pointing this out. One thing is to be into real crime stuff, for many reasons, but to glorify these criminals escapes my understanding. Many of them weren't even geniuses, they got away with their crimes because police was stupid, so what are they celebrating?
Yeah, my stomach turns when I see a photo of Dahmer (sp?) . I can't even put into words just how sickening his actions were.
I was going to comment the same thing. What an absolutely disgusting idea.
Those monsters ended and ruined countless lives. It makes me sick to think of people joking about being at the Dahlmer table or the BTK table.
Absolutely agree! When I saw that, it made me feel sick. Totally morbid and wrong 🤮
I’m eternally grateful for the fact that my ILs have been nothing but welcoming, loving, kind, amazing, and supprtive people in my life. They treated me like family from day 1 of just dating their youngest son and they were so excited for their baby to get married (we were dating for 3 years & engaged for 1 year).
I was pretty afraid that things would be awkward between our families because we’re culturally different, but turned out I worried for absolutely nothing!
The entire wedding was emotional for everyone, the pictures turned out beautiful, we all had a wonderful time.
My husband & I now have a beautiful little 7 month old & that baby is spoiled beyond belief (she’s the first grand baby for both families). I may be biased, but I have the best ILs ever. ♥️♥️
That guy who stood up for his wife is a real one. We need more men like this that support there wives and not allow the family to bully her. Good for him.
After all of the husbands or grooms we have seen that don’t do a damn thing when stuff like this happens, the husband is amazing for sticking up for her.
We love to see a groom stand up for his bride, particularly against his own family. Shows we’ve got a man on our hands. He’s got her back. That’s what having a partner is about.
I love the story where MIL wears white and wife wore purple and invited all guests to wear white dresses to show up MIL, had Pagan handfasting and walked down isle to Sweet Child of Mine 🤣🤣 love all your stories Charlotte!
The bullying by those women in the family is the worst form of misogyny. The worst. To hurt and alienate other women under the guise of "looking out for the men" , to bully and to gang up on new members instead of welcoming them because they're so so insecure as a family... Ugh.
The men who support it are just as horrible because they WANT the new women to submit.
But the husband, brother and Dad - ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Exactly
" we've been together for 10yrs are engaged and have a baby on the way "
" long term relationships and married couples only. No fiancé and baby daddy doesn't count! "
* blocks her and never contacts her again *
With a "bestfriend" like that who needs enemies ?
That bridezilla is the definition of "burning your bridges".
@@darrenrobinson9041 100%
I think the real reason has two scenarios:
One: she had sex with him a long time ago
Two: she always liked him and he turned her down and now she hates him for it. Lol because none of her reasonings make sent
@@1776rights i personally think they had 10 years long an on-off relationship, got pregnant and get married now. Still super weird to not invite him though because based on the future they plan, it needs to be serious enough
@@beyzayanik3442 I've seen couples in solid relationships for years and only decide to tie the knot due to pregnancies, so I didn't consider the possibility of one-off relationship... But still, really weird. My guess is the bridezilla wanted to get on his pants...
So happy to see a man stick up for his wife to his family if it didn't "keep the peace". So many men roll over just to avoid drama. You're going to be a great husband because you're already a great man.
Love that man! He’s a keeper! He and his Bride just became the new Alfas in that family. No one gonna mess with them! And in that moment a generational cycle of abuse and bullying was finally broken.
Wow. The grandmother and the mother are the ones who started the whole tradition. Sounds about right to me. Couldn’t let go of Junior, had to take it out on his lady and find a pretext to explain it away. I find it very reassuring that the groom saw thru this BS and stood up for his bride. Going against family like that isn’t easy, even if it’s the right thing to do.
I hate those sisters who are like “I could turn a girlfriend into an ex” like no they will just cut you off coz you not giving them respect?
No it's like.. sis.. u love love your brother or what? Cause that is WEIRD
If a man is too close to his sister am out of there anyway 🤣🤣 who’s dating who GURL
Just throwing this out there because it's an opinion I saw once and wholeheartedly agree with, but have never seen anyone else talking about it... The whole concept of idolizing serial killers, getting their faces as tattoos (it's a thing), buying merch with their quotes and faces, etc. Is SO incredibly messed up. You never know when you're going to encounter someone who may have been connected to a victim of one of those killers, and you're literally throwing it in their face that you're celebrating the person who killed someone they knew and cared about. Even if it's not a person who knew one of those specific victims, but anyone who is closely connected to violent crime of any sort. You're basically showing that you celebrate murderers and don't give a shit about the victims and their families.
I never even knew this is a thing and I'm very disturbed to hear it is...
Murder groupies concern me.
They are sick in the head. If I ever met a person like that, all I can ever feel about them is disgust.
Yes Like they have some tiny case for fictional serial killers cause they arnt real but its still messed up but real living serial killers that have murdered people yet ppl idolize them? It's messed up and honestly a huge red flag
As a #Murderino, I concur. That's just baffling to me. There's being into true crime, then there's being _REALLY_ into true crime to the point that they idolize those rapists/murderers. It's like, "Yikes!" 😬 Nope. That's just wrong on so many Dante's Inferno levels of hell. 😳
It's amazing how bullies turn the tables and say "it's just a prank" when boundaries are set
Petty response to the last bride: the friend should go, be in as many pictures as possible, then cut contact. The bride didn’t want ex partners in the photos, how would she feel about ex friends..?
That is actually a really interesting revenge plan.
🤣😭
that's so petty, i love it~
THE LEVEL OF PETTY THAT I ASPIRE TO BE!!!! HOLY CRAP, THAT'S BRILLIANT!!!!
This is a brilliant idea , I love it
I’m so relieved this story is written by the man, with my experience on AITA I was NOT expecting that. I was expecting it to be the woman and AT BEST she said her husband “did nothing”
It’s honestly refreshing seeing a decent dude on that Reddit lol
Props to the photog who edited the white dress to red in the official wedding photos. 😂😂👏 👏 👏
My MIL planned to wear a black dress to my COVID elopement ceremony. A dress that she had purchased specifically for a funeral. Glad we asked what she was planning to wear, because we vetoed that. But she did say “well I’m not buying a new dress for this” and FIL chimed in with “a funeral dress is appropriate for this event”. She ended up wearing the same color as my bridesmaids because that was the only dress she had that was formal enough. I told my husband I’m going to buy her a dress for our post-COVID vow renewal/wedding reception in a couple years(it’ll be our five year wedding anniversary). I’m just going to pick it out and buy it and give it to her, and tell her “this is what you’re wearing to the wedding, I picked it for you since you made it clear at the elopement that you can’t be trusted to pick it yourself.”
My narcissistic mother refused to allow me to bring a date to her wedding. It's her 3rd. Her logic was that I wasn't in a long term relationship (I was divorced 6 months prior to the event), but I was dating someone exclusively at the time of the wedding. She really just wanted to ensure I was as uncomfortable as possible during the event. I went for the ceremony so my son could attend and then left. I no longer speak with her. Best decision I ever made.
Blood is not thicker than water. I can relate. We don’t need toxic family members in our lives. I’m so sorry that happened to you
.... blood certainly is not thicker than self-respect.
Some mothers :(. Mine didn't let me go to her third, held in a church wedding. She had my sister as a bridesmaid and told me the news of not having me there just before leaving to church. I was around 16/17 then. Marriage lasted almost 2 years. We have been on/off over the years and this spring I cut ties after he disrespected my dieing father. So yeah, narcissist behavior can only be taken so long :(
@@heili.t.6739 Oh, that sounds awful.
It’s good that you cut ties with her. 🥺💖
wearing white to a wedding is the ultimate screw you to the bride. Kicking out people disrespecting the bride and groom should is reasonable
Having the heads up, they should have prepared a super-soaker squirt gun with green die that dies the skin as well as the white dresses. Prank them back, ha ha.
@@weldabar or a super soaker filled with wine 👌
but love what that photographer to the other woman in white at the wedding by colouring the dress red. I hope he got a big tip from B&G
it’s not even a bridezilla thing either. those women shoulda just balled up and said they didn’t like the wife, bc that much is obvious
they knew what would happen if they wore white, but somehow refused to believe he would do it.. why wouldn’t he? they have nerve lol
@@juliarunn5009 "Wine's such a great color on you, Mom"
The last one has me laughing at the bride's logic. She doesn't want someone who is an ex in her wedding photos, but she's marrying someone she has known for less than a year and her BFF has been with her fiance for 10 years. Hmmm...what if the "ex" in the wedding photos ends up being the groom that she barely knows? 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Yep it's just stupid. To be honest: A relation that long without a binding commitment like a child or marriage seems to be pretty strong exactly because it is "so easy" (in legal and responsibility terms) to walk away from.
i just do not understand how the other frineds can call OP the asshole!
Some people have way too much trust in marriage. They think that marriage is necessary and makes a relationship so no couples even if they have been together for much longer are legit without a ring and if they get married then their life will magically work out. It's funny because they are judging other people's relationships because they know that theirs are weak! No true bond should need a marriage
And even if they do break up THEY HAVE A BABY TOGETHER! Its not like he isn't going to be an important person to the brides BFF for the rest of her life
@@maukschilol Yep. I've been together with my now-husband for 11 years before marrying him. We met at ages 18&20. We wanted to be settled before finalizing the union and also wanted to pay for the whole event by ourselves. By the bride's logic, I would have had to be married at the age of 21 while still going to university oO
I am so happy that he stood by his wife and not giving in. What his family was doing was for sure bullying and just flat out gross.
So the crazy women/ gang who ruined the wedding say they just want to make sure the new wife will make a decent family member, yet they behave in a way that is far from decent 🙄 Nutjobs! As for the last bridezilla, imho the only “ex” she might have on her wedding pictures some time from now is her own husband, considering how little they’ve known each other 🤷🏻♀️
Well said! Their family is not a frikken sorority!!!
Yeah the comments on the last OP's post were pretty unanimous in saying this bridezilla marriage will fall apart long before OP. See smart self actualized adults like to make sure we're compatible in all aspects of life before taking that plunge because we take the sanctity of marriage seriously. It's not something you enter into because you have a narcissistic need for attention, it's attitudes like the bride's that are the reason divorce has become so prevalent in western culture, nobody takes the institution seriously. Then you have LGBTQ people that still can't legally get married despite taking it far more seriously than the aholes that can.
@@bhart3321 More and more countries are allowing LGBTQ+marriage! Things are changing for the better!
And being married a long time does not guarantee that a couple has a strong relationship and won’t divorce. That horrible “best” friend may end-up having several exes in her photos anyway. I think her reason for not inviting the fiancé is nonsense - makes me wonder if she has another reason that she’s trying to conceal. Anyway, I’d cut off that friendship completely.
Hysterical how the serial killer centerpiece person doesn’t know how to spell execute.
"Excicute..?" Like, it couldn't be more wrong.
@@Acidfunkish nah, not the worst of versions 😁
I know! It would have been such a good pun too. Lol
How bizarre??? Some people have lost their damn minds!
needs to brush up on your serial killing then.
You're not marrying the entire family. You're marrying ONE person. It's your responsibility to have your spouse's back, first. You did that. A+. 👍🏻
What they're doing is trying to push that "being worthy" is actually "being willing to take abuse from the entire family in perpetuity." Yeahhhh, no. This is gross.
When the newest member of the "unit" joins in the bullying it's a typical abused turned abuser situation, toxic af.
It sounds like almost every kind of CULT initiation. Break the individuals sense of self to join the collective... I know, I've been raised in a family cult.
Unfortunately not all families see it that way, been there.
Exactly. And this would only be the beginning. Also, I really don’t like when people say something along the lines of “if you marry your husband, you’re marrying the entire family” even when they have good intentions so thank you for saying that you are marrying that one person!
The first man that I don't secretly wish the new bride would leave immediately. Good job new husband!
re: the last story...screenshot the texts, and when the bride gets divorced send her a card with the picture
omg YES! Doesn't matter how petty that is, that's brilliant!!!!
😂 my thoughts exactly
I wish there was a clapping emoji that I could give to your comment. Genius!
@@swastikasingh4458 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻. Here ya go! 🙂
i love how you say "when" she gets divorced and not "if" exactly my thoughts!!
The first story just breaks my heart. Family is supposed to be a safe space, not a place where you walk on eggshells and maneuver around potential bullies.
As a bullying survivor, I would crucify anybody who would bully my significant other, more so if it came from my actual family. I absolutely agree with the man who threw the women out of his wedding: it's supposed to be the best day of your life, not one where you have to deal with bullying.
Oh, and bullying is not a prank or a joke. Not ever.
wait, survivor?? did they cause you trauma of any kind?? if so im so sorry, if not im still sorry because either way its a horrible thing to go thru
Exactly, they turned a special day into a bad memory.
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These women are marking there territory and letting this "new" girl know where her place in line is, the back and she must do what ever they want her to do, including doing this to someone else. I'm super glad someone had the stones to stand up to these horrible women. I'm really really happy he stood up for his new bride. Congratulations on your one yr anniversary.🎉🎉😊😊 I hope you first yr together has been amazing. God bless you both.
There appears to be more than enough women in that family that aren't "decent" already! Maybe the bride will bring a little more class that they are lacking. How shameful!
"She said if we waited for 10 years then our relationship bond was probably not that strong"
NO, because if a couple is together that long, that means they love each other enough to stay and wait for each other, and therefore means they are comfortable and stable enough in that relationship that they don't feel they need to rush anything. I mean, marrying early in a relationship (especially less than ONE year???) is just a recipe for disaster because what if they realize they aren't a good match after all?
For real relationships are HARD they take a lot of work. Like if they’ve made it work for 10 years… more likely than not they are pretty solid
Some people, who want a big wedding but don't have the money for it (and want to put it into things like loans and consolidation and hey, maybe making sure they have enough to pay for that kid?) will wait. The engagement is the first strong sign of commitment, possibly, but they're smart enough not to blow a lot they may not have on a big celebration till they're well settled. Is this even that uncommon anymore?
I don't think being together that long necessarily means they figured things out. Some people will stay in toxic situations because they have become acustomed until they have a wakeup call and leave. I also know plenty of people that married after less than a year and have been together for decades. I think it all goes down to how well they do with communicating and honesty from the beginning. Being genuine from the beginning so that once they marry it doesnt end up being like they married a stranger.
It's crazy because some long-term relationships that I know of change as soon as the couple gets married. For instance both of my uncles were with their ex-wives for years before they got married. Once they got married neither marriage lasted longer than 3 years. I don't know what it is about that piece of paper.
Come on.
That first guy is an absolute beautiful human being. Some family members really think they can be toxic and that you'll let it go because it's family. They manipulated prior spouses, gaslight anyone who disagreed or confronted them, and then made themselves out to be the victims when their behavior wasn't condoned. Honestly, it's best to not have them around.
That groom is the winning lottery ticket of all grooms. NTA.
it is so wholesome, that the first husband defends his wife against those awful ppl. It should be like this!
That groom is in no way the AH.
He is amazing for thinking of his wife's feeling and putting those before her family's pathetic and ridiculous ritual. Wishing the wife and groom the best life , I imagine it will be so much better without his family. Well done Sir 👏👏👏
Fr though, im not even into mushy stuff, but I really do think and hope they will live happily
"[The women] claimed they're just looking out for us men and that their goal ultimately is to make sure the women that came into the family are decent"
You over spelled insecure 😗
Oooo! Burn. Nicely done.
It also seems like they did a pretty shitty job when it comes to making sure only decent women got into the family.
@@Helbore Yeah..they have a skewed idea of what "decent" means.
It's an insult to the men in the family to assume that they can't think for themselves. But then again, it must be true since some of them are so spineless that they agree to hazing.
Also they act like they’re in charge of the men but like,,,, the men are grown ass adults
14:14 the best comeback would be her being the sickly sweet MOH, announce her pregnancy along with the bridezilla's 'expert comment' in a PowerPoint as wedding toast.
Thank you for being you Ms. Dobre. It's been 2yrs and I still watch your content everyday. You have made me smile and laugh when everything in my life has made me cry.
Damn! Major kudos go out to the young man that defended his wife against the army of bullies in his family. Obviously, weddings aren’t the place for pranks of this nature. I’m so happy he started his marriage off by setting boundaries with his intrusive family (women). 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
The man in the first story deserves everything, dealing with a group of toxic relatives isn’t easy AT ALL
This first guy is wonderful and amazing. Keep this handsome gentleman.
My Husband’s family held a family meeting whether or not I was worthy to be part of their family after my husband proposed and I said Yes! (Thank god they all agreed that I was worthy and they told me they approve the engagement 🙄). I was supposed to be thankful that my engagement will not be canceled due to their kindness. My husband no longer talks to his family.
That first one though. Keep the man. Loose his family. Too many times the man sticks up for his family when they behave toxic.
Love the story of the bride not inviting the fiancé 🤨... I had a friend once who was engaged to a guy she'd been with for 6m, had the wedding planned dress on order etc... ended up breaking up, got with a new guy (a really close friend of hers from highschool) and got engaged almost immediately so she kept the wedding date the same. Then she tells me she'll just put plus one on my invite since she's not sure my bf (who I'd been with for 2yrs) and I would still be together by then... big surprise the wedding didn't happen (I'm still with the same man 11yrs and counting)
Wow, people are really bold...the nerve!
That first guy is a keeper!!! The women have NO ROOM to complain when OP warned them of exactly what he said he would do and did it because they didnt heed his warning. It was in deed a good test on how good Op would be as a husband and aced it
8:54 kudos to that photographer for changing the mother in law’s dress to red in the photos. Great editing job too, he deserves some extra cash for both his character and his skill.
The sense of entitlement that the women in the first post have is absolutely ridiculous to me. I’m sorry but someone needed to put a stop to it they got what was coming to them. Good on him for standing up to them and watching out for his wife. Those women are immature and have absolutely no respect I wouldn’t want them at my wedding either.
He did put a stop but honestly old hags like that hardly ever change. They just play the victim for the outsiders and get offended that you didn't let them have their way. Narcissistic af if you ask me. I'm glad the son (and some men in the family apparently) seems to be a much better person and stood up for his wife, but lord help that poor woman for the years to come, that she'll mostly likely will have to cross paths with those unstable women that her husband is related to!
If I were the son/groom I’d go no-contact with everyone in my family who did the prank or defended it. No one needs that level of toxicity and cruelty in their life.
The women in the first story are ultimate mean girls & deserve to never be included in any family situation involving this great husband & his new wife.
The serial killing table decorations are just gross. I listen to/watch/read a lot of true crime & im fascinated by a lot of it. Some people seem to forget that there were victims who died, many torturous agonizing deaths, at the hands of these animals. By celebrating the killer the victims & their family & friends are relegated to negligible afterthoughts. The complete lack of humanity displayed by this is astounding & if I were a guest at this wedding I would have taken one look at this crass display of ignorance & walked out.
I love listening to true crime too but if I saw those centrepieces I would be making a scene and the pictures would all be on fire. It’s disgusting.
Jeffry Dahmer was not only a cannibal serial killer but also a pedophile who raped the boy victims in incredibly disgusting ways...not exactly someone I would celebrate
One person being crazy is not weird, the weird part is when there's whole groups of crazy people, or groups of people who show to support the crazy person. That's the most mind blowing part for me.