Sir Namasthe 🙏 After 6 years harassment & abuse from neighborhood narcissist I tried lot of experiments referring different platforms like youtube and Googling etc to escape from narc. But last week I shifted from my big villa to small apartment. Oh what a life... Now I am free like a bird.. Happiest creature in this beautiful world..
In a case of devaluation and discard by the narcissist due to the target's failure of maternal figure, if the actual maternal figure is still alive and present why can't/wouldn't the narcissist have the unfinish bussiness(seperation/individuate) with the biological mother instead of seeking an external target? Please kindly answer this question it bothers me.
Not an expert, but I could assumev that original mother is highly likely so called "dead mother", apparently there is nobody to separate from, it's simply impossible.
That explains it. So much hatred against so many of us. I've known several exes and we agree that he hates women just like he hates his mother who is still alive. @@samvaknin
… It’s Unconscious … … fear of the bio mother, due to many failed attempts to connect in healthy way consistently & authentically, causes him/her to seek elsewhere.
Hello Prof Vaknin, Thank you for your online lectures , as always wonderfully informative. A question I'm left with as you touched on Autism near the end, is , what separates the Schizoid personality from a person on the Autistc /Aspergers spectrum? Clare
Professor, thank you for your intricate explanation outlining the main features and descriptions of these conditions. I am very curious regarding effective treatment methods. How effective in field practice is the combination of psychotherapy and psychiatric pharmacology on most mental health conditions? As these are the only modern accepted treatment methods, roughly what propotion of patients actually completely resolve their conditions by these means? Are there any? Most individuals I know that struggle with mental health conditions are perpetually stuck on psychiatric pharmacology, and these medications primarily act as a sedative for their whole lives. If I was a healthcare provider, perpetual treatment providing only temporary abatement of symptoms is simply not good enough.
You can write books and sell them... then it might be a blessing... If you live in a big city, you can find on meetup app lecture clubs for networking. Also you have zoom and discord meetings for international networking. You can make a database in excel with a lot of libraries... many of them have different kinds of events including some related to books with online meetings via discord or zoom. It is better if you start to taste the waters with low quality meetings via meetup or yoga meetings (with low intellectual standards and high level of emotional content for training). Asimov had started with pulp fiction so it is not a shame!
Thank you, Sam, for the new video) Please tell me, do you have plans to translate “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” and make such a treasure available to Russian-speaking audiences? I would immediately)
Question please: my girlfriend according to her own description is both nihilistic yet very passiionate about justice and love at the very same time in her thinking, both are happening at once and she doesnt choose one or the other. Also, she sometimes doesnt recognise people, even herself in the mirror and yet she does. (These are all descriptions to the best of her vocabulary to explain). She has a fear at night that when she dies at that very moment the whole universe will cease to exist too. She says she doesnt split because she believes two moralities at the same time and not one over the other but i think she does to be honest. Her emotions are inward and very strong. She genuinely seems to care for people but is it a fear of abandonment? She says that she simply exists but when with me its like she becomes like a fire hearth thats been lit and is no longer cold and empty. What please is all of this?
Thank you for all of your videos. I am interested in knowing more about psychedelics and how they are used in therapy. Are they really powerful tools? How do they operate? Is it only a myth? Can you make a video on psychedelics? Thank you
Thank you Prof. Vaknin for this. In your previous videos you talked about three stages of narcissist stages -idealisation, devaluation and abandonment. You talked about what is going on in narcissist head while all this is taking place. You talked about narcissists in relations with parents and intimate partners. I know its asking for a lot , but could you possibly give some similar advice regarding BPD ? I understand that I have no rights to ask for anything like this and you have your plans regarding this chanel and I hope I don't sound rude or demanding. Looking at my BPD daughter it seems that in relation with her partners all three stages - idealisation, devaluation, abandonment +disappearance occur. Its a bit like Walter Mitty. And there is no way to stop it. Is there any way that BPD people can be helped ? Is there any therapy for them ? Once again , I greatly appreciate what you are doing for all of us as there is so.much idiotic and I believe very damaging information out there. People seem to talk absolute nonsense. It's like agony aunts from daily rags talking about what is obviously out of their intellectual capacity. After watching them I feel more confused than before. Not that I watch any of them anymore to be honest.
Sorry i meant to say "discarded" not "abandoned" . And actually Walter Mitty is wrong description too. What I meant to say is that a person drops all her belongings, move to new place and starts fresh. New partner, new job, new place. It usually lasts few months. It's like burning bridges every time and starting from zero.
Is there any research or study on the origin of the schizoid that points to a pre-birth situation - as I understand the schizoid disorder is correlated to the development of the nervous system and when -in the womb - we are deeply affected by the moods, stress, and anxiety of the mother. Could you point me in the direction of more information or answer my question?
@@samvaknin "The Unwanted Child essentially perceived or experienced their earliest life, from conception till birth and beyond, as a hostile reception where they were rejected not just in their own nature and humanity, but for existing at all. The child felt threatened and unsafe and may have wanted to die rather than continue in life. The childhood dynamics that set up a person to have an Unwanted Child Personality outcome are typically those where the environment, which typically is represented by the mother, or what is happening to the mother, turns hostile against the vulnerable and totally dependent fetus or child. The process begins at conception when a child is first physically entered into a relationship to its environment. The child develops and grows in the womb. Its world is contained in the mother's belly inside the placenta which is like a large cellular membrane. In fact, it serves the same purpose as a cellular membrane in that it translates the stimulus of the outer environment of the mother into transcription signals that then affect the physical development of the fetus." You can read more on the Energetic Institute website on the topic of Wilhelm Reich Characterology of unwanted child/schizoid.
@samvaknin "The Unwanted Child essentially perceived or experienced their earliest life, from conception till birth and beyond, as a hostile reception where they were rejected not just in their own nature and humanity, but for existing at all. The child felt threatened and unsafe and may have wanted to die rather than continue in life. The childhood dynamics that set up a person to have an Unwanted Child Personality outcome are typically those where the environment, which typically is represented by the mother, or what is happening to the mother, turns hostile against the vulnerable and totally dependent fetus or child. The process begins at conception when a child is first physically entered into a relationship to its environment. The child develops and grows in the womb. Its world is contained in the mother's belly inside the placenta which is like a large cellular membrane. In fact, it serves the same purpose as a cellular membrane in that it translates the stimulus of the outer environment of the mother into transcription signals that then affect the physical development of the fetus." You can read more on the Energetic Institute website on the topic of Wilhelm Reich Characterology of unwanted child/schizoid.
And in continuous of my previous question: does the devaluation and discard of the targeted feminine due to her surpose lact of performance breed hatred on the gender leading to gender inequality such as chauvinism?
Thank you from my heart, wish it were longer, my favourite topic - interesting, pleasure to hear such an intelligent man
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Sir Namasthe 🙏 After 6 years harassment & abuse from neighborhood narcissist I tried lot of experiments referring different platforms like youtube and Googling etc to escape from narc. But last week I shifted from my big villa to small apartment. Oh what a life... Now I am free like a bird.. Happiest creature in this beautiful world..
Love your thoughtful detailed analysis and "differential diagnosis" here.
Thank you So Much Sam Vaknin❤
On point Prof. Vaknin, as usual.
1. Have you got a secound channel on YT? Nothingness: Antidot to Narcisissm?
2. Thanks for your content and sharing helpful thoughts and knowledge 🙏
1. Yes
In a case of devaluation and discard by the narcissist due to the target's failure of maternal figure, if the actual maternal figure is still alive and present why can't/wouldn't the narcissist have the unfinish bussiness(seperation/individuate) with the biological mother instead of seeking an external target? Please kindly answer this question it bothers me.
Not an expert, but I could assumev that original mother is highly likely so called "dead mother", apparently there is nobody to separate from, it's simply impossible.
Watch the shared fantasy playlist. You cannot separate-individuate from your real mother after age 3.
That explains it. So much hatred against so many of us. I've known several exes and we agree that he hates women just like he hates his mother who is still alive. @@samvaknin
… It’s Unconscious …
… fear of the bio mother, due to many failed attempts to connect in healthy way consistently & authentically, causes him/her to seek elsewhere.
Hello Prof Vaknin,
Thank you for your online lectures , as always wonderfully informative.
A question I'm left with as you touched on Autism near the end, is , what separates the Schizoid personality from a person on the Autistc /Aspergers spectrum?
Clare
Search the comorbidities playlist.
Professor, thank you for your intricate explanation outlining the main features and descriptions of these conditions.
I am very curious regarding effective treatment methods. How effective in field practice is the combination of psychotherapy and psychiatric pharmacology on most mental health conditions? As these are the only modern accepted treatment methods, roughly what propotion of patients actually completely resolve their conditions by these means? Are there any?
Most individuals I know that struggle with mental health conditions are perpetually stuck on psychiatric pharmacology, and these medications primarily act as a sedative for their whole lives. If I was a healthcare provider, perpetual treatment providing only temporary abatement of symptoms is simply not good enough.
Watch the therapies playlist.
THE DEPTH OF MY CONSCIOUSNESS CAUSES ME TO SUFFER!
IS IT A BLESSING OR CURSE THAT I FEEL EVERYTHING EVER SO DEEPLY?
You can write books and sell them... then it might be a blessing... If you live in a big city, you can find on meetup app lecture clubs for networking. Also you have zoom and discord meetings for international networking. You can make a database in excel with a lot of libraries... many of them have different kinds of events including some related to books with online meetings via discord or zoom. It is better if you start to taste the waters with low quality meetings via meetup or yoga meetings (with low intellectual standards and high level of emotional content for training).
Asimov had started with pulp fiction so it is not a shame!
Thank you, Sam, for the new video) Please tell me, do you have plans to translate “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” and make such a treasure available to Russian-speaking audiences? I would immediately)
Could you explain the schizotypal personality? I seldom see it discussed
Search the comorbidities playlist.
What is hsp ? Can you have a video of it please
Search the channel for "empath".
Question please: my girlfriend according to her own description is both nihilistic yet very passiionate about justice and love at the very same time in her thinking, both are happening at once and she doesnt choose one or the other. Also, she sometimes doesnt recognise people, even herself in the mirror and yet she does. (These are all descriptions to the best of her vocabulary to explain). She has a fear at night that when she dies at that very moment the whole universe will cease to exist too. She says she doesnt split because she believes two moralities at the same time and not one over the other but i think she does to be honest. Her emotions are inward and very strong. She genuinely seems to care for people but is it a fear of abandonment? She says that she simply exists but when with me its like she becomes like a fire hearth thats been lit and is no longer cold and empty. What please is all of this?
So is my BPD friend really no different than a narc? Thank you
Search the comorbidities playlist.
@@samvaknin thank you
@@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht thanks!
“Generally a cutie pie”
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So funny!
Thank you for all of your videos. I am interested in knowing more about psychedelics and how they are used in therapy. Are they really powerful tools? How do they operate? Is it only a myth? Can you make a video on psychedelics? Thank you
Search the channel.
@@samvaknin ok!
Thank you Prof. Vaknin for this. In your previous videos you talked about three stages of narcissist stages -idealisation, devaluation and abandonment. You talked about what is going on in narcissist head while all this is taking place. You talked about narcissists in relations with parents and intimate partners. I know its asking for a lot , but could you possibly give some similar advice regarding BPD ? I understand that I have no rights to ask for anything like this and you have your plans regarding this chanel and I hope I don't sound rude or demanding. Looking at my BPD daughter it seems that in relation with her partners all three stages - idealisation, devaluation, abandonment +disappearance occur. Its a bit like Walter Mitty. And there is no way to stop it. Is there any way that BPD people can be helped ? Is there any therapy for them ? Once again , I greatly appreciate what you are doing for all of us as there is so.much idiotic and I believe very damaging information out there. People seem to talk absolute nonsense. It's like agony aunts from daily rags talking about what is obviously out of their intellectual capacity. After watching them I feel more confused than before. Not that I watch any of them anymore to be honest.
Sorry i meant to say "discarded" not "abandoned" . And actually Walter Mitty is wrong description too. What I meant to say is that a person drops all her belongings, move to new place and starts fresh. New partner, new job, new place. It usually lasts few months. It's like burning bridges every time and starting from zero.
Watch the BPD playlist.
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" IF PERSONALITY " .
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Is there any research or study on the origin of the schizoid that points to a pre-birth situation - as I understand the schizoid disorder is correlated to the development of the nervous system and when -in the womb - we are deeply affected by the moods, stress, and anxiety of the mother.
Could you point me in the direction of more information or answer my question?
There is no correlation between pre-natal states and personality disorders of any kind.
@@samvaknin
"The Unwanted Child essentially perceived or experienced their earliest life, from conception till birth and beyond, as a hostile reception where they were rejected not just in their own nature and humanity, but for existing at all. The child felt threatened and unsafe and may have wanted to die rather than continue in life.
The childhood dynamics that set up a person to have an Unwanted Child Personality outcome are typically those where the environment, which typically is represented by the mother, or what is happening to the mother, turns hostile against the vulnerable and totally dependent fetus or child.
The process begins at conception when a child is first physically entered into a relationship to its environment. The child develops and grows in the womb. Its world is contained in the mother's belly inside the placenta which is like a large cellular membrane. In fact, it serves the same purpose as a cellular membrane in that it translates the stimulus of the outer environment of the mother into transcription signals that then affect the physical development of the fetus."
You can read more on the Energetic Institute website on the topic of Wilhelm Reich Characterology of unwanted child/schizoid.
@samvaknin
"The Unwanted Child essentially perceived or experienced their earliest life, from conception till birth and beyond, as a hostile reception where they were rejected not just in their own nature and humanity, but for existing at all. The child felt threatened and unsafe and may have wanted to die rather than continue in life.
The childhood dynamics that set up a person to have an Unwanted Child Personality outcome are typically those where the environment, which typically is represented by the mother, or what is happening to the mother, turns hostile against the vulnerable and totally dependent fetus or child.
The process begins at conception when a child is first physically entered into a relationship to its environment. The child develops and grows in the womb. Its world is contained in the mother's belly inside the placenta which is like a large cellular membrane. In fact, it serves the same purpose as a cellular membrane in that it translates the stimulus of the outer environment of the mother into transcription signals that then affect the physical development of the fetus."
You can read more on the Energetic Institute website on the topic of Wilhelm Reich Characterology of unwanted child/schizoid.
And in continuous of my previous question: does the devaluation and discard of the targeted feminine due to her surpose lact of performance breed hatred on the gender leading to gender inequality such as chauvinism?
Search the channel and its playlists.
You are absolutely a cutie pie!