Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone | Yubing Zhang | TEDxStanford
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- Опубликовано: 17 июн 2015
- Leaping off buildings wasn’t exactly something graduate student Yubing Zhang ever thought she’d do. But pushing beyond her comfort zone and taking that bungee cord leap taught her more than she ever could have imagined.
Yubing Zhang is a first-year MBA student at Stanford University. A series of transformational moments have led Zhang to completely change her understanding of fear and courage, redefine her comfort zones and push herself to the edge. She has experienced the unlimited potential that exists when we break through our comfort zones, and is dedicated to inspiring others to do the same. Zhang has lived in six different countries and worked in four different industries. She holds a master of science degree from the University of Oxford and a bachelor's degree from the University of Hong Kong. Zhang has served as an entrepreneur for the Bank of China, launched a vocational training program for victims of domestic abuse in Cambodia and founded a platform that supports and coaches everyday people to share their passion, ideas and extraordinary stories through talks and performances.
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"Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will."
Well said.
True these words should be marked
Powerful.
your word motivate me, lol
Yes you're right
I am 65 years and have been held back from living to my true potential all my life. I cried through the entire speech. What does that tell you about the lesson this girl has to teach.? To all you young people out there. Fear is the biggest dream stealer. It never goes away. But, you can change your relationship to it by conditioning yourself to act in the face of it. If do this, when you reach my age, you will not have the regrets I do.
robichard Thank you!!
robichard thanks for the advice, we will our best
robichard as long as there is air in your lungs it's not too late.
My heart is heavy. You can still overcome your fears. I am 45 and I decided to try a new job that scared me. I didn't know what I was doing and I still want to give up but it has been worth it. You are still young in my book. Don't get stuck in that thought it's too late. There are people in their 90's getting college degrees or going back to get their high school diploma. Life is a gift.
+Anthony Okeiyi Do it anyway, it's not as scary as it looks. ;)
Comfort is a drug. Once you get used to it, it becomes addicting. Give a weak person consistent stimulation, good food, cheap entertainment and they'll throw their ambitions right out the window. The comfort zone is where dreams go and die.
This is so true!
You are correct 👍
Well said.
i’m realizing this after being at my job for 4 years! i want to move on and learn new skills. i tried to quit once and it didn’t work out. the next time, will be the last time. 🦋💕
This is powerful. I'll write this boldly so I can always remember it.
I am 27 now. I am trying to get out of my comfort zone. Good luck to me and to all who are doing the same. #inspiring
kira knight me too 27 same good luck for all of us sister
28 and fighting! 💪
Good luck
Me too. 27 here. I'm trying to start a photography studio. I make bags for a living but i get exhausted by it, doing it just for the money. Turning 28 this June and pursuing new passions! Good luck to everyone of us!
kira knight 27 too & i feel stock. I need to work on getting out of my comfort zone. Good luck guys!
This speech touched home. Two years ago I start living my life end of my comfort zone today I have two companies 10 employees and growing.
congratulations! I'm so happy for you! =)
Great news!
Good luck
Congrats and good luck to you. I hope you always out of your comfort zone.
How is it now?
"To get something you never had , you have to do something you never did " this wisdom may inspire you to overcome the comfort zone
To all you young people out there, please remember this. All your fears, self doubts, and insecurities are all in your head. When do the work to condition your mind to be free of all those disempowering thoughts and beliefs, you will be able to accomplish more than you can possibly imagine. This is universal truth. "As you think, so you will become".
I will still support Marxism, antinatalism, outlawing the meat industry, outlawing breedings, bombing all prisons to free all prisoners. Nothing you say will change my political views.
You have no right to complain about my or anyone else's (not communists' not socialists' not Marxists') political views, because YOU just said: all YOUR fears are only IN YOUR HEAD.
Thanks 😍
robichard Thank you. I wrote down ur comment. very helpful.
Thank you @robichard
Thank you
I just appreciate how internet connects us with the best ideas and people. Thanks Ted.
❤❤❤
And RUclips!
The idea to leave the comfort zone? What an original idea.
Thanks for the wisdom, and I thought we were too smart to recognize it.
1.) It's never as screy, as it looks
2.) Never be as scared, as you're exited
3.) Don't be scared of uncertainty
4.) Tell People close to you, that you love them ♥️
trakmator life starts at the end edge of your comfort zone
trakmator what if you have bad parents?
@@huyvuquang9533 he mentioned people close to you, it doesn't have to be parents, I also have a difficult relationship with my parents, but there are some other people in my life that do deserve to be told that they are important and that I care for them
@James
Two weeks after applying his method to my life, my life has completely changed.
Public speaking, social anxi ety problems, and various types of addi ctions have begun to disappear.
search youtube "paradox of I can do it"
@@huyvuquang9533 Start been a better person today than yesterday. It doesn’t mean be a better profissional. It’s about to do your best in everything you do, wherever activities you are doing, always using good thoughts. And be grateful for the life you have been given for your parents. And keep having good thoughts. This energy that you spread to the Universe will return to you. Don’t be mad about your past. Be happy
“It’s not as scary as it looks” I will repeat this everytime I doubt myself. Thank you for opening my eyes, I hope we all have the courage to do what we really want
Honestly! That’s a great statement!
Yea it is, let’s try our best !!
Keep repeating n u will succeed like anything
I,ll do the same hope we both have the courage to do the things we really wanna do🙌
One of my dreams is to talk here in TED and inspire people. One day!
Good luck dear. 😘😘I'll wait for you
What are you gonna talk about?
the most difficult task is to decide what you really want to do
it's much easy to do the same
Sooner and later
You will definitely it if you believe and work for it. All the best to you!👍☺💖
Im 26 and is at the end of my comfort zone. I just quit the job that i hated, left a relationship which i knew i deserved better. I cried, i was scared but im also excited for the new path that im gonna take. I truly believe everything happens for a reason, and when one door closes, the others open. Im proud of myself to be able to take proactive decisions over my life and hope everyone here is proud of their actions as well. Dont be afraid of falls and fails cos everything in life is a learning experience! Enjoy the ride of life guys😊
I am happy for you. I am currently at the same age as you were while writing this comment and I have the the very exact plan as you. I hope this comment finds you well and that you are much happier and fulfilled than 4 years ago.
@developerdeveloping9645 Girl! Im in a much BETTER place now! Earning more money, the relationship after that bad one was so much better as well. Dont give up on yourself, trust your gut feeling and keep going. You've got this❤️
Daaaamn this woman knows how to throw a speech
She truly does.. and she had this fear of public speaking.. how ironic..!
Her speech was inspiring, but it could have been delivered a little bit better.
Valley King it can always be done better, what’s your point?
@@mistertexaz assuming they mean it doesn't quite meet some of their favorite speeches they've heard
@@vkents1714 how so?
My very wise father made this statement to me in my youth. "Steve, don't let fear rule your life.
I've tried to apply it these past 76 years.
And you won!
This is so inspiring for me. I have severe social anxiety and can not date and have a hard time holding a job. Thank you for sharing. I cried when you talked of your mother. I have to step out of my comfort zone to live.
come on .you can do it well.
💛💛💛
Rooting for you Heather!! Keep fighting for your dreams and goals because you have strength to make it happen.
Heather Winer same here. I have social anxiety too.
As someone with social anxiety and general anxiety I was bursting into tears through the whole thing. I hope I'd be able one day to do whatever I feel like doing without so much fear and feeling like my heart is going to leave my body constantly
I hope you overcome your social anxiety..
Have you tried mental health therapy?
I’ve lived in my comfort zone for as long as I can remember. Last year I told someone I was in love with them after 7 years of no contact. I was so afraid that I avoided the person for 7 whole years! I finally told them and they of course did not reciprocate my feelings, but now that I have taken the plunge, my heart is open and fearless. I will no longer hold my passion inside, but face it head on and wholeheartedly ❤️
Keep opening urs passion
Love your honesty and bravery. Stand in your truth.
Just came back to this talk after 3 months just to remind myself, why I decided to leave my comfort zone again. To anyone out there who still hesitate. It's definitely worth it. Take the risk or the leap of faith and get out your comfort zone ❤
*“You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”*
Took myself out of the comfort zone ... days before the Covid hit. Now, I’m living in a new city. Im gearing up to help young teens learn to be skillful with their hands and doing repairs on elderly’s homes so they can stay in their home safely. It’s about helping others while I’m still here and can. I’m 65 years old.
I love this!!! Good for you !!
"I see life as a constant fight against your comfort zone" Well said!
Comfort zone is like a magnet it attracts but leaving it will make you proud of your self.
“I see life as a constant struggle against your confort zone” magnific
God bless this woman and let her be an example for many others for fear of public speaking. Cheers mates and share with everyone.
^
I conquer my fear of public speaking in the name of Jesus!!!!
The moment you begin to think differently from all your old thought patterns, then it's when you start to live your only truth. Some people say " I will get out of my comfort zone...and start living" but after some years you will be at the beginning of another comfort zone and so on...and on. So I don´t like to call it a comfort zone, I like to call it : "your purpose, your mission"and you will never ever find yourself in a comfort zone, and why? because living up to your only truth you will find yourself breaking boundaries and always looking to make new things each day because you have your only truth to live until your last day here on Earth. Peace to all!
She is beautiful her accent ,her voice and speech are amazing and inspiring.God bless you
For Real though
That's it I'm moving out of my parents basement.
did you?
SPER Lol! Nice one bro
stepping out of your comfort zone does not really mean to move out of your parents' basement, but to ventures into your ideal, ignores the fear that has been holding you down captive and become the person who you are created to be!!!
Hahaha
Did you??
I’m 24. I needed this. I will get my training contract. I will qualify as a lawyer and I will be a successfully published author. I can and will do it! It’s never as scary as it looks!!!!!!
I am a student from India. I was searching for"what is wrong with me?", "why i am not achieving, what i want?" for a few days. Then, Today i found that i am tightly bounded to my comfort zone. I found this video on RUclips and it inspired me so much.i wept a lot by watching this video and forgive myself for what mistakes i made. Now, I'm feeling light and determined that i will push my comfort zone.
I really felt connected to miss Yubing Zhang, thank you so much ma'am for being such inspiration.
Wow! Your talk was 110% perfect!!! You had my undivided attention from start to finish. The content together with your sincere delivery brought a tear at the end. Thank you!!! :-) :-)
Tieng hat thu hien
Yess dear👍
I listen to this because I'm right now pushing myself out of my comfort zone. For whole my life I've lived with my parents. Last week I moved to another city to do my internship at a pharmacy. While I was there it was completely fine, but going back to my parents to visit gave my a lot of anxiety, so much that I can barley move or think. I could have chosen to do my internship a bit outside of my city, 1 hour from where I live, but I choose another city so I could train to live by myself. Everything is fine in the city I moved to, but visiting my parents made me regret my decision, because I feel I just want to be near them (we are very close). But at the same time I feel I'm being a coward because I'm so attached to my family. I guess this is what you go through when you're scared of the unknown. It is really hard actually, but I'm going try to push through so I can become more confident.
How's life now? Did you end up moving back? Did you pursue your life in a different city? Did you get past your comfort zone? How's everything! Thank you for reading
This saying touched me deep . Thank you
Don’t try to get rid of fear , accept that you’ll be afraid and then go do it anyway
Wow I am 26. I struggle with getting out of my comfort zone and really pushing and fighting for what I want to achieve In life. I live a lot in my head and don't often take action. Thank you for this wonderful speech. It really touched home and opened my eyes
This will lead me out of my comfort zone. It will never be scary as it looks. Great speech!
I wish I had watched this years back. I was devastated after my first and last break-up. Couldn't even try to start a new relationship. Ended up an introvert. Getting old faster. Feels like I'm done.
Her talking about the Asian part of her family and how it feels u comfortable to say ily and express feelings is so true!
R u too from Asia
Yess Relatable
At 30, I stepped out of comfort hoping to find my true passion. Eight years later, I am still as lost as ever. I don't regret at all, but just because you left your comfort zone there is no guarantee that life will be netter
You are right! Couldn't agree more!
At least you gave it a try
I am a young doctor about to give my board exam. I have been feeling anxious but I guess it is a good thing. I'm about to start a new chapter in my life and this is maybe supposed to feel like this. This feeling of discomfort is the beginning of my new life. Maybe my life is finally heading in the right direction.
I love how she shared this with us. I feel so much better about my situation.
The world needs a Doctor like you!
All the best
"Accept that you will be afraid and then go do it anyway." Just wow. So inspiring. I really needed to hear this and I am so glad that TEDx talks allows people to connect and encourage each other in this way.
I'm moving in 2 days away from my family. For 23 years, I've always been with them. This gave me courage. Thank you.
I think for me, this is the best TED talk I have ever watched, because I can relate. Thank you so much Yubing Zhang. I loved it from begging to end.
Thank you for this video. I needed this it brought me to tears.
Don't doubt yourself Gohan.
I know deep down you have great potential 💪
She spoke from her heart to each heart that cared to listen. Thank you. I'll share with my husband and with myself again.
Lovely; what an amazing speaker! It is never as scary as it looks ! Her eyes glow with kindness; never seen a more gentle and powerful voice!!
Her own story brought me into tears because I felt it. I know how hard it is to tell my parents that I love them so much and I deeply want to call my mom sharing my struggles with her and tell her I miss her alot.
Wow I love this and can so relate. This brought tears to my eyes for I've been living in a comfort zone all my life and beginning to step out. Time to live for I am the end of my comfort zone. Thanks so much for this!
Fine woman, brave enough to open her heart to us all. Blessings.
I totally agree with what you said about our comfort zone. We are so afraid to think outside of the box that we don’t realize how much opportunity there is. And of course so true what you said about Asian parents. I still today find it hard to say too much on how I feel to my parents. The fear of dishonoring one’s parents has been so ingrained in our head that we value on that so greatly, we hold our emotions back. Kudos to you for being able to share.
What a superb speech by Yubing . God bless her heart.
Yubing Zhang, you just put the finger on my painful problem!!! I am living in the comfort zone but with lots of shame about myself , fear & uncertainty about future.
But now , I will remember your words that "Your life starts at the end of your comfort zone. So dare to step out & live your real life with proud."
Thank you so much!!
You met me at the correct point of time in my life!!!
So many blessings!!!
why are you ashamed of yourself??
Anupama Lotke don't be ashamed of Who you are. It will still be a way to be as perfect as you want to be. All my prayers go to you
I used to watch many inspirational videos when I was under pressure. Every time I watched those I felt like motivated. And suddenly, I started to work hard. After few days, again I dropped into my comfort zone. I believe this will be my motivation to come out of the comfort zone. Let's see what will happen in next few years...
I've been interested in expanding my comfort zone for a long time. This video is really helpful and I'm definitely going to put this into action!
WOW. Goosebumps. Incorporating her own fears of public speaking and sharing the love for her family as an amazing example of pushing that comfort zone. Thank you for sharing Yubing.
I can feel what you felt,it's so emotional,it's so encouraging
One of the best talks I've heard so far!!! Touched me deeply as words of wisdom are flowing in this talk!
I've found my life begins at the end of my comfort zone when I finally left my job I thought I was passionate about. And now that I realized that "quitting is winning" too. Cheers to all the nurses out there who came back to our sworn profession after a long time.
I could watch this a thousand times without being bored. Thank you very much. I am stepping out of my comfort zone. Thank you for giving me back my confidence.
The speaker has such a beautiful voice! Her voice is so soothing!
It really touched my heart, her speech was so peaceful yet too deeply painful...
stepping out of comfort zone is easier said than done. This is a very inspiring talk sharing stories of stepping out of comfort zone and how it changes lives.
It's already been 6 years since I moved out and now it's the part of my life.
this is honestly one of the most powerful speeches iv ever heard her genuineity is so noticably authentic and put out there without the slightest indication of hesitation for anyone who thinks it's easy to get up on a stage give a speech filled with a room full of people you better reconsider your evaluation she goes so in depth about her fears and struggles with such a soft tone in her voice that's how you know she conquered them society needs to open up it's eyes and listen to people like her without the inclusion of judgment surfacing I think we all as humans can learn something from this strong woman
Yubing Zhang, your talk touched me deeply. You have done a great service to share your heart with your mother and with us.
This video just popped up on my feed. I really do live in my comfort zone and this is very eye opening. I’m 21 and I’m trying to live out of my comfort zone creating my RUclips channel was one of the things I always wanted to do until I did it. There do many things I wanna do I’m trying to break from my shell. All the best!
Oh wow she made me cry. This is beautiful.
Hello
That speech was incredible. The nine and a half minutes or so felt like just one minute, it was that engrossing. Every word touched home and makes perfect sense. Hoping to be stronger to stop that negative voice from winning as it has been doing for so long. Good luck everyone.
three years of university, I was always scared of doing the new things, The fears of failure had hold me back for a long time. But no longer after this video. thank you.
This is a very enlightening speech and so much truth in it. It's very well delivered and I can see it inspiring many out there. Well done. 😃💯
I totally get her when she says it's hard for her to talk about her feelings to her parents. I'm 26, and I shared my feelings with my mum for the first time only 4 years ago. I was an off-site student living in a different city my parents did. I called my mum almost in tears and I told her I was feeling very bad for a girl and I needed to come back home immediately. I still have struggle with sharing my emotions with my family but making that call really made my day.
I'm currently on a phase of life in which I'm looking for courage to leave my hometown and start a new life abroad. It looks so scary I sometimes experience a bad anxiety, but I really want to do it. When I am afraid of doing it, I will tell myself "It's not as scary as it looks".
More power to you ! It’s just a fog that stopping you 🌼✨
Can't deny how amazing this speech was...... Caused me to do some deep soul searching for sure.
Excellent job!!.
I cried when hearing the last the story and the love between family members will always touch heart.
I have never said “ I love you to my mom” even though I have in my mind that I wanna say. I will say “I love u to mom” and leave from comfort zone as well.
Thank you very much for this precious video
Man! So true and so well said. Thank you for sharing this.
Wow!!! This is wonderful and refreshing and actually made me emotional! I think everyone needs to see and hear this!!!❤
What a speech.. I was travelling in the train while listening and I had to stop the video multiple times.. it made me so emotional and who couldve stopped me from crying..
Time to achieve my dreams. All it takes is to leave my comfort zone. All the best to the people out there. Let's go!
just what i needed and we all needed ,in this world where everything is holding you back you must get out of your comfort zone try new things be who you always wanted to be and enjoy every second of it, have a nice out of your comfort zone day ,you can do it
“ how much of our lives are spent worrying about things that in the end mean nothing. “
I just ask myself "what's the worst that can happen?" Just do it.
Staring Problem thanks man helped
Staring Proble
sounds helpful a question to ask yourself but for those with the fear of death, it doesn't really work. In the face of a bungee jumping experience, if a person that is scared of jumping asks him or herself "what's the worst that can happen," do you think it'll help em jump? If it does for you, that's awesome but I'm guessin it may not for others. hehe. However, I do see that working for a lot of scenarios. =)
by asking this quoestion it makes me thing of what can happen so it doesnt work for me ;d
Don’t know why but this comment moved me.. thank you 😊
2 thumbs up......life begins at the end of your comfort zone!!!
This video is helping me during theses rough times ! For anyone : don’t quit, continue to push
What you talked is a great inspiration. I am trying to get out of my comfort zone to do what I want . Thank you
I was scared abt taking this really hard class in school for the next school year but I took a leap of faith and got myself signed up and turns out that the class wasn't even that bad it was a bit hard at times but it challenged me in a good way and I''m glad I took the class. :)
With a humble delivery and quiet voice, Yubing delivers one of life's most important messages
The most inspiring story I have ever watched. Thank you, Zhang.
Good job on your speech! "Its not as scary as you think it is" the line i will try to think whenever I face a new skill I need to learn in school.
I absolutely LOVE this!!!!
I came across this video just when I’m about to take a huge leap in my life. I’ve been putting back on my passion for a stable income, working day and night for a job that I’ve come to know is completely not in line with my life purpose and is mentally draining.
I’m taking the leap of faith to pursue my passion for what I strongly believe. There’s so much truth in her speech and it was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much for sharing 💖
Goodluck you got this!! You will receive everything you desire :) sending you love & light 💗💗💗
@@EarthTemplee aw thank you! Means a lot to me 🥺💖
A nice speech which would assist me to be encouraged more and pushed my self further. This is exactly helping me to be who I need to be rather than who I am today ! Ty❤
I could not agree with the message of this video more. Very inspirational and overall excellent work -- thank you for sharing.
Excellent talk very inspiring, thank you.
Wonderful and timely! I'm leaving my job to try consulting. I'm equally scared and excited with no $ in the bank and a heart full of passion!! ❤️ Thanks for the talk! 🙏🏾
Good for because I am doing the same thing.I want to be in consuling and I am starting from0$.I f
will study to be a psychologist.good luck and go for it
For sure I am deffenitely gonna do it.there will be no going back .Everyday I take baby steps that get me closer and closer to my dream😊
Thank You so much, having a witness matters! :)
Best of luck to you as well!!
I would advise otherwise. You should try keeping your Job and be a Part-time Entrepreneur, instead of suddenly quitting your job with no backup.
You woke me up from a nightmare. You changed my mind. You build a courage in me. Thank you very much
Truly beautiful the way she made her points! Too good ..
Wow! What an incredible message, and delivered so eloquently.
I wish I had realised this a few years ago. I was looking to buy my first home and was in a reasonable financial position to do so. I was anxious about buying the 'right' home and dealing with the process of buying it. The I learned there was a strong possibility my employer may be taken over by another organisation 25 miles away. At the time, I enjoyed my job but there weren't many progression opportunities. Looking back, I even remember asking a friend at the company that was taking us over to let me know of any suitable opportunities.
But for some reason, I decided to delay buying a house until I knew where my job would be located. However, during that time, I did view a dream home which was amazing! It was a little more expensive than I wanted to spend, but it was affordable. But to buy it, I would have to leave my comfort zone, so I didn't.
Fast forward 4 years to now. I find myself homeless and house prices have increased 40%. I'm struggling to find anything suitable within my budget, and interest rates have increased, there's a cost of living crisis, inflation is at the highest it's been for 40 years, energy costs are soaring and there's a war in Ukraine, threatening the supply of various commodities.
I see my friends in their houses and am envious of them, just because they own their home, while thinking that I could have been in the same position if only I had taken the leap when I had the chance.
As I look back, it's clear to see that I should have bought a home near the possible 'new' location for my job, or my 'dream' home (which was near the 'old' location and I doubt if I'll be able to afford ever again). If only I had thought about the pros and cons of each location, realised that I would never be in such a good financial position again and given myself a timescale to buy somewhere, then my life would be very different now. I wish that some of my more financially astute friends had given me 'a kick up the backside' so that I would have made more of an effort.
My reluctance to leave my comfort zone has cost me over £100k (that's about three times the average salary). My inaction has also ruined some other people's lives and I'm a burden to some other people too. The amount I'll be spending on a house is about the same as I would have spent on the 'dream' home three years ago, but is nowhere near as nice. There's a risk of an economic recession, so property prices are likely to decrease after I've bought somewhere. All because I was complacent in my 'comfort' zone and too scared to make a decision that I know in my heart would have taken me out of my comfort zone and improved my life.
This is the position I'm in now. I was waiting for the housing market to improve before buying and now it's completely out of my abilities to buy a house. I'm still grieving because it's always been my dream to own a house. I don't think it's our fault for not leaving our comfort zones. There was no way we could know that things would get worse. Things could have just as easily gotten better and we would have been patting ourselves on the back for waiting and getting a better deal (or location, etc.). We are the victims of circumstance, and we aren't alone. All we can do now is move forward and focus on the best we can do with what we have.
This was the biggest reality check for me. Wish I had done a Tedx on this, because once I stepped foot in Thailand, the reality check came in the worst ways. The amount of racism towards blacks and Indians here is unbelievable. I mean, no offense to the speaker, but China is also one of the most difficult countries to live in as a black man. However, when I came here and went through all the transgressions that lead to some of my darkest hours and days, something was born inside me. I reestablished my courage and created a story that inspires thousands of people around the world.
Great u finally achieved
I like that you transpire your experience into something positive.
I am shedding tears. Thank You for this piece
I got this link for a school assignment and this TED talk brought me to tears