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I'm an INFJ with an INTP girlfriend. I would love her whether she's "competent" or not. Love doesn't need reason or logic. In fact, if love was based on reasons or logic, it wouldn't truly be love. Love doesn't have a "why". That would make it conditional. If I said "I love you BECAUSE", that would invalidate my love. Never try to explaining love with logic. I love her no matter what; it doesn't have to make sense. I don't need my lover to be smart, successful, or good at anything. I love her for her, for her soul. We don't need to judge people by accolades or accomplishments. All I want is emotional intimacy. That means understanding my feelings, validating my feelings, understanding my emotional needs, and sharing your emotions with me. Showing me and telling me that you love me in every way possible, through words of affirmation, and all the little things that matter the most. If I'm crying, don't invalidate my feelings by saying I'm being dramatic or acting like my feelings don't make sense. What I feel is what I feel. If I'm sad, I don't need to be told what to do, just sit with me and let me know you're there, and that you care.
I dug through INTP content for months (I'm an INFJ on an MBTI binge, questing for truth) and no other video gave me a more vivid and deep understanding into INTP's perception of the world and their core values as THIS video did. You're amazing!! Thank you so, so much for all this insight. It has answered way too many questions and has completed my image of INTP's inner world INCREDIBLY!!! This is definitely an eureka moment for me. I have been unconsciously treating my INTP absolutely correctly, but I still had the nagging feeling like I wasn't understanding the whole picture on a deep, accurate, true level. I was still in the dark, even if everything I did for my INTP so far WAS very healthy and helpful and correct. Now? My behaviour can become even more tailored towards them. I love being who I am with my INTP and making them feel seen and understood. Thank you, again! ❤
As a Enneagram 5 who always tries to conserve their energy, I only ever engage in emotional conflict with people I love and/or respect. For the rest, I'll just tell them what they want to hear or disengage, because I don't think it would be worth wasting my energy.
I noticed that many ENTP men say "... I was able to prove myself to her" when they are talking about their final decision to settle down with one lady and the things they did. For me with Fi, I'm just loving you, helping you out and giving you gifts but accuracy people have to prove themselves to you.
This is very accurate for me as an INTP (though I also have anxiety). But please, PLEASE turn off the background music. It is extremely distracting. Why did you decide to add it? I much prefer hearing your excellent conversations against silence.
Yes this accuracy is what I LOVE about him. I am an INTJ and we really really get each other...similar psychological family of origin backgrounds. I love his radical honesty it never feels like he is BSing me, not ONCE. Ho ho cool, precision sexually I cant wait, we have not yet been inimate. Getting there. Love lack of judgment. This really is encouraging he was feeling very closed off to me as if we were going to have just a very conversationally profound friendship, but finally he is at least touching my hand and being emotonal with THAT, he was crying, so very tender it really really moved me. Most recently he gave me a first lip peck in a restaurant. So strange at 75 and 82! I am looking forward....hopeful. Sybil Francis PhD retired clinical psych professor
UPDATE: He is loving very eager to please at lovemaking. It is not the easy back and forth dance I had with my INTJ partner of 41 years but he does satisfy which is all I can ask. I AM quote easy to satisfy. It has arisen that he neither speaks or FEELS in superlatives. He is rather numbed emotionally.He doesnt have highs and lows in the range I do and as an INTJ I am not high in E, but I certainly AM higher than my INTP is, as was my INTJ. When he is emotiona, heis teary but sort of at a wistful remove, as if he is not fully present. He says he has had a greatly limited range of emotion and sexual experiences that I read as missed opportunities and signals from women, all his life. It makes me miss my dead INTJ partner WHO WAS so good at this ...we were always on the same wavelength and the same intensity, yet I know THIS is a special man too. I just wish I could give him more...open him up in a positive more intense way. He is and has lived a life covered in cotton batting...I feel deeply sorry for him as if he is still a little boy, not adequately loved in his family of origin....he felt estranged from them, yet they were not cruel, just remote. Sad to live ones life never fully open, like a half closed scallop shell. I KNOW the difference ...I feel the difference. I am a clinical psychology professor retired, so understand emotions and cognitive functioning exceptionally well. I wish I could go back and treat the little boy he was, but his personality is fully developed and entrenched now and I can only touch around the edges of it. He is deeply in love with me I know....women have held him at arms length his entire life and he hasnt known why...they have lived with him only sporadically, seeking distance from him, including his two exwives...it seems to have suited him alright at the time, yet he KNOWS he missed out on intensity and mostly was just tolerated....sad,sad, sad. He isnt as skilled at lovelmaking as my mate was but I did not expect him to be...he is technically good enough, but he seems to be a participant observer when he is pleasing me....held back like a rationnal scientist doing an experiment , not getting pleasure HIMSELF ie compersion from the experience...he is analytical...a bit uneasymaking.
@@latinaalma1947 What type are you? It seems you are leading with your empathy. "a rational scientist doing an experiment".. hmmm. Maybe do a little test, if he can't kiss you, he's not for you. Be careful
Another way to put it is a xxTP puts themselves all in and it comes across as needy and manipulative when it’s genuine honesty that people don’t know how to deal with
Sounds like me...100 percent especially as a 40yr old woman Im very capable of being independent......Im a Virgo and this how we are ...lol..I really agree with everything soooo much...I can go on and on....my ex said I was too raw n real and I would say the truth hurts....
That's a sign of intelligence. As an INTP I am humbled by how much I don't know and how much better I can be. That's what drives you and keeps you playing, experimenting, and searching.
The entire 15-ish minutes is about Introverted Thinking, a cognitive function relevant to all xxTP types. So… not sure which part you want to skip to. -Antonia
Ok, I've done a lot of deep dives on cognitive functions over many years. I've studied the original sources, Socionics, more modern sources, the 8 function models, etc., etc. and I am without a doubt NiSe and TeFi (I even come up as INTJ in your own test), but this video mostly describes me and how I am in relationships and not my ISTP partner nor my INTP father. You are describing Te, not Ti. You get that wrong a lot. Te people are the ones who like data and who can't bear to be untrue to who they are (Fi) with their intimates. I've long suspected that Antonia is actually TeFi and this kind of proves it.
PC snowflake babble, huh? It means not 'canceling' someone for sharing their thoughts outrageous, dissenting, contrarian, uncomfortable, etc as they may be to society/culture at large. What that looks like: Pre-'cancel' culture when ppl spoke their minds freely without fear of being 'alienated', 'ostracized' or 'cancelled'.
Create a "Couples Map" With Your Partner - personalityhacker.com/couplesmapping
Side-By-Side Map Of Each Other's Personalities To Be Truly Seen, Accepted And Understood By Your Partner, And Wake Up Happy Together
I'm an INFJ with an INTP girlfriend. I would love her whether she's "competent" or not. Love doesn't need reason or logic. In fact, if love was based on reasons or logic, it wouldn't truly be love. Love doesn't have a "why". That would make it conditional. If I said "I love you BECAUSE", that would invalidate my love. Never try to explaining love with logic. I love her no matter what; it doesn't have to make sense. I don't need my lover to be smart, successful, or good at anything. I love her for her, for her soul. We don't need to judge people by accolades or accomplishments.
All I want is emotional intimacy. That means understanding my feelings, validating my feelings, understanding my emotional needs, and sharing your emotions with me. Showing me and telling me that you love me in every way possible, through words of affirmation, and all the little things that matter the most. If I'm crying, don't invalidate my feelings by saying I'm being dramatic or acting like my feelings don't make sense. What I feel is what I feel. If I'm sad, I don't need to be told what to do, just sit with me and let me know you're there, and that you care.
I dug through INTP content for months (I'm an INFJ on an MBTI binge, questing for truth) and no other video gave me a more vivid and deep understanding into INTP's perception of the world and their core values as THIS video did. You're amazing!! Thank you so, so much for all this insight. It has answered way too many questions and has completed my image of INTP's inner world INCREDIBLY!!! This is definitely an eureka moment for me. I have been unconsciously treating my INTP absolutely correctly, but I still had the nagging feeling like I wasn't understanding the whole picture on a deep, accurate, true level. I was still in the dark, even if everything I did for my INTP so far WAS very healthy and helpful and correct. Now? My behaviour can become even more tailored towards them. I love being who I am with my INTP and making them feel seen and understood. Thank you, again! ❤
As a Enneagram 5 who always tries to conserve their energy, I only ever engage in emotional conflict with people I love and/or respect. For the rest, I'll just tell them what they want to hear or disengage, because I don't think it would be worth wasting my energy.
I noticed that many ENTP men say "... I was able to prove myself to her" when they are talking about their final decision to settle down with one lady and the things they did. For me with Fi, I'm just loving you, helping you out and giving you gifts but accuracy people have to prove themselves to you.
This is very accurate for me as an INTP (though I also have anxiety). But please, PLEASE turn off the background music. It is extremely distracting. Why did you decide to add it? I much prefer hearing your excellent conversations against silence.
It's for us ENTP's ... it helps with the attention span ... more data being took in= less boring to us.
Another INTP saying please turn it off...
a third INTP enters the chat/reply-section and says please turn the music down/off
Completely agree. It’s disorienting and distracting. More often than not, I cannot listen to videos with background noise
Intp with adhd here, helps me not wonder off
I’m a intp but also I try to hide my true self because I’ve been taken advantage of.
O maybe you dont want hey scare your competition, because you know that u hace possibility lose ur friends:( (sorry my english isnt native)
Another intp here. You deserve better then what people dish out.
I’m an ISTP with an INTP and this is accurate AF
Yes this accuracy is what I LOVE about him. I am an INTJ and we really really get each other...similar psychological family of origin backgrounds. I love his radical honesty it never feels like he is BSing me, not ONCE. Ho ho cool, precision sexually I cant wait, we have not yet been inimate. Getting there. Love lack of judgment. This really is encouraging he was feeling very closed off to me as if we were going to have just a very conversationally profound friendship, but finally he is at least touching my hand and being emotonal with THAT, he was crying, so very tender it really really moved me. Most recently he gave me a first lip peck in a restaurant. So strange at 75 and 82!
I am looking forward....hopeful. Sybil Francis PhD retired clinical psych professor
UPDATE: He is loving very eager to please at lovemaking. It is not the easy back and forth dance I had with my INTJ partner of 41 years but he does satisfy which is all I can ask. I AM quote easy to satisfy.
It has arisen that he neither speaks or FEELS in superlatives. He is rather numbed emotionally.He doesnt have highs and lows in the range I do and as an INTJ I am not high in E, but I certainly AM higher than my INTP is, as was my INTJ. When he is emotiona, heis teary but sort of at a wistful remove, as if he is not fully present.
He says he has had a greatly limited range of emotion and sexual experiences that I read as missed opportunities and signals from women, all his life.
It makes me miss my dead INTJ partner WHO WAS so good at this ...we were always on the same wavelength and the same intensity, yet I know THIS is a special man too.
I just wish I could give him more...open him up in a positive more intense way. He is and has lived a life covered in cotton batting...I feel deeply sorry for him as if he is still a little boy, not adequately loved in his family of origin....he felt estranged from them, yet they were not cruel, just remote.
Sad to live ones life never fully open, like a half closed scallop shell. I KNOW the difference ...I feel the difference. I am a clinical psychology professor retired, so understand emotions and cognitive functioning exceptionally well.
I wish I could go back and treat the little boy he was, but his personality is fully developed and entrenched now and I can only touch around the edges of it. He is deeply in love with me I know....women have held him at arms length his entire life and he hasnt known why...they have lived with him only sporadically, seeking distance from him, including his two exwives...it seems to have suited him alright at the time, yet he KNOWS he missed out on intensity and mostly was just tolerated....sad,sad, sad.
He isnt as skilled at lovelmaking as my mate was but I did not expect him to be...he is technically good enough, but he seems to be a participant observer when he is pleasing me....held back like a rationnal scientist doing an experiment , not getting pleasure HIMSELF ie compersion from the experience...he is analytical...a bit uneasymaking.
@@latinaalma1947 What type are you? It seems you are leading with your empathy. "a rational scientist doing an experiment".. hmmm. Maybe do a little test, if he can't kiss you, he's not for you. Be careful
@@latinaalma1947 your INTJ undersood and interested in emotions ? I thought these ones were not that way
@@latinaalma1947 This is so lovely to read. I wish you the best!
Another way to put it is a xxTP puts themselves all in and it comes across as needy and manipulative when it’s genuine honesty that people don’t know how to deal with
as an intp i got bored halfway through so maybe ill finish it in some other time
Loool understandable
Me too
Yes, I relate. -ISTP
Always interesting and educational except the background music has To GO 😮
For lists, I would very much appreciate timestamps 😊
Sounds like me...100 percent especially as a 40yr old woman Im very capable of being independent......Im a Virgo and this how we are ...lol..I really agree with everything soooo much...I can go on and on....my ex said I was too raw n real and I would say the truth hurts....
As an ENTP I couldn’t watch this!! I need time stamps. When does the title get answered for each type? 😅
😳 OMG! So true!
ISFJs could be this way too. Accuracy. (isfj, a, 4w5.) i wont ask why though. Im looking for it though.
I love the racial and SOGI diversity I see in this video! Thank you for making sure to represent POC and same-sex relationships
The toilet paper types 😂
yes yes yes
as an intp i know im incompetent
That's a sign of intelligence. As an INTP I am humbled by how much I don't know and how much better I can be. That's what drives you and keeps you playing, experimenting, and searching.
Why is there so much talking and no way to skip to the part I most want to hear? As an ENTP, shouldn't you know not to torture us this way?
The entire 15-ish minutes is about Introverted Thinking, a cognitive function relevant to all xxTP types. So… not sure which part you want to skip to.
-Antonia
Ok, I've done a lot of deep dives on cognitive functions over many years. I've studied the original sources, Socionics, more modern sources, the 8 function models, etc., etc. and I am without a doubt NiSe and TeFi (I even come up as INTJ in your own test), but this video mostly describes me and how I am in relationships and not my ISTP partner nor my INTP father. You are describing Te, not Ti. You get that wrong a lot. Te people are the ones who like data and who can't bear to be untrue to who they are (Fi) with their intimates. I've long suspected that Antonia is actually TeFi and this kind of proves it.
Holding space for your truth? That sounds like PC snowflake babble to me.
Can you explain what that actually looks like?
PC snowflake babble, huh?
It means not 'canceling' someone for sharing their thoughts outrageous, dissenting, contrarian, uncomfortable, etc as they may be to society/culture at large.
What that looks like: Pre-'cancel' culture when ppl spoke their minds freely without fear of being 'alienated', 'ostracized' or 'cancelled'.
@calture5086 rightly said...these people just don't go judging people they make space to understand and then gradually accept...
@@calture5086 sounds good to me.
But why not just use clear language?
Wow there is so much to learn. 😮 I wonder if any INTP finds themselves magnetic. Interesting. What is the most sexy thing for an INTP?! 🫠🤭💗
Yeah, I would like to know that too.
Brains and charisma?