10 SIGNS YOU WERE RAISED BY A GERMAN MOTHER 🇩🇪
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Die Sache mit den Hausschuhen scheint mir auch regional verschieden zu sein. Ich bin in NRW aufgewachsen und habe das dort nie erlebt. Wohne jetzt aber schon viele Jahre in Hessen, und hier macht das einfach jeder! Wenn die Kinder Besuch haben oder sogar feiern, türmen sich an der Haustür Schuhberge, ohne dass das jemand verlangt hat. Auch die meisten Erwachsenen bieten es an beim Hereinkommen, sogar Handwerker, das ist wirklich interessant!
As a German I have to say that I don't agree with the list at all - maybe with the exception of being on time and trying to be healthy. But I have never in my life been offered slippers when I visited someone. I have never been to a birthday party with a bundt cake - neither have my kids. And I wouldn't say afternoon naps are a thing in Germany....To me it sounds as if an American with German heritage had written that article thinking that those habits were particularly German....just my thoughts.
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Echt? Also, ich kann die meisten Punkte persönlich bestätigen. Komme aus Vorpommern.
@@nebucamv5524 Vielleicht gibt es regionale Unterschiede, z.B. was das Tee trinken angeht. Aber ich kann die meisten Punkte nicht wirklich nachvollziehen.
Ich fand eigentlich alle Punkte ziemlich zutreffend. Ich komme übrigens aus Bayern und du?
Ich kenne diese Sachen alle, meine Mutter macht das genau so. Sie ist aber auch noch zu DDR Zeiten aufgewachsen. Bei uns in der Gegend habe ich es ansonsten aber auch nicht erlebt, gehört sich in meinen Augen aber einfach. Und ganz ehrlich: einem vierjährigen ist es komplett egal ob der Kuchen jetzt superschön aussieht oder ob der jetzt ein einfacher Gugelhupf ist. Hauptsache es schmeckt.
I'm German and I was never offered any Pantoffeln at any place haha. I guess it's normal to just walk around with your socks and you'll be fine. And about the tea: I'm from a part in Germany called Ostfriesland. This region is actually the most tea-consuming in the world. I live in Berlin now and didn't inherit the habit of drinking tea. I barely drink tea actually. Coffee is more my "cup of tea" in this regard ;)
I am from Ostholstein, never in my life have I been offered Pantoffeln either and yet I keep seing it being mentioned in expat videos. Must be a southern thing^^
The tea might be a regional ir a generational thing. Growing up we had hot tea with every evening meal in the fall and winter.
Same here - peppermint or fruit.
I am from Vienna/Austria and when my granddaughter brings a cake to Kindergarten, it has to be one "ohne Creme" without icing and without creme filling! Just imagine, a group of 2 to 5 years old, having this cream on their fingers and touching everything! Cake without creme ist very good too, and crumbles are easy to remove.
In Germany and Austria even little children are expected to eat themselves, they are not fed. So the food has to be prepared for that. The childred get a little fork or eat with their hands. Just imagine this, with cream in the cake!
I grew up with a German grandmother and she likes taking her naps because she was a farmer. she was very thrifty in how she did her minimalist. you're spelled out a lot of who she was for me and my life! I'm a lot like my grandmother I don't like a lot of stuff and I do like high quality items to have in my life!
frugal....
Re cake: In German we make a difference between Torte and Kuchen, the New Zealand cake would be a Torte, the Guglhupfn is a (Mamor-)Kuchen. 🙂
It depends on the occasion whether you are offered more Kuchen or more Torte, a kid's birthsday runs more smoothly with Kuchen...
Obviously not being a mom myself 😅, but here my memories on some of those topics.
- Deal with issues by not dealing with them: Depends on the severity of the particular issue. If there was just a smaller issue - even tearing up, my mom didn't always step in. On the long run it helped towards building up self confidence and to deal & solve such issues yourself, even being a small kid. On real issues however she stepped in to find a solution.
- Table manners were really important and we were made aware of it all time. Put feet on the table, speak with your mouth full and alike - just impossible behaviour and even as little childs we were admonished to follow the "Knigge" rules.
- Obsession with tea: Probably depends on the region but I remember drinking tea as a kid often in the afternoon or at dinner time, usually some fruity ones like peppermint or rose hip tea. Coffee wasn't for kids due to the caffeine... but nowadays I'm a coffee junkie and drink tea only if feel sick...
- Afternoons spent napping: Yes, I remember that. Even during the first year in kindergarten being a toddler, there was a room where mattresses were laid out and where you went into for some rest after lunch time. You were requested to be quiet and to try to sleep. After half an hour or so the kindergarten teacher came back into the room to wake you up. Didn't always like it.
- Guest house shoes (aka "Gäste-Pantoffeln" or alike): Never had those. When inviting adults they were asked to enter with their shoes on while they tried to take them off. As kids however we knew to take them off and therefore were usually running around just in our socks... when being at friends homes.
Besides this: Wish you all the best, a safe & happy trip visiting your kiwi family after such a long time of not being able to.
Punkt 2 kann ich nur verneinen. Meine Mutter hat mir beigebracht, dass einem Konflikt nicht aus dem Weg gegangen wird. So lebe ich seit 41 Jahren. Das habe ich auch immer an meine Neffen und Nichten weitergegeben. Es wurde alles geklärt und sich wenn nötig auch entschuldigt.
I've never heard of a Bundt cake in my life. Of course, I know the shape with a hole in the middle, so we always had the marble cake from a springform pan at home, for example.
Geht mir genauso! 😅
Marmorkuchen is always made in a Bundt Form. At least from what I have seen from my husband’s German family.
I know them only by the name of "Gugelhupf"
@@calise8783 Maybe the term Bundt form comes from America. In Germany, this form was never called that.
@@PalmyraSchwarz Yes, sure! That is what I was trying to say. it is what the form is called in the US and generally a Bundt cake is not a sweet, frosted traditional birthday cake but rather a simple cake such as a Marmorkuchen.
Sorry, my previous comment was written before my morning coffee.
My German family always makes a Marmorkuchen in a Bundt pan.
Everything what you said is true from A to Z ;-). I am a foreigner married to a German woman and we raised two kids. I absolutely agree to the all the points your raised. My kids often had issues with other kids in school, and you guess what? My wife called other mothers to discuss about the issues our kids have with other kids in the same school. ;;-))🥰
Thank you so much for this fun video! At one point I caught myself wondering: Why is "being organized" mentioned ? Isn't everybody??! Who would go to the playground without plaster or a packet of tissues or water or sunscreen or snacks etc. ?? - You definitely hit my blind spot there - sooo funny!
Naps in the afternoon only for grandmas or small children 😉 I remember being very sad when my children didn't like to nap anymore because I always took a rest as well then ;-) In my case I dont enjoy tea very much. Only herbal teas when s.o. is sick and in autumn or winter we sometimes like to have tea for dinner instead of cold drinks. Your video was really funny and I was smiling a lot for a feeling of being caught as a german mom!
As an Austrian mom a bundt cake (Gugelhupf/Kranzkuchen) for a child's birthday party at home is not common in my mind.
The only time I could think of is for the Kindergarten's birthday party as they specifically ask/would prefer a dry cake (or muffins) to bring to make it easy for the parents and also for them.
I do believe there is no specific style for a child's birthday cake here. For example I have seen a Maulwurftorte (German mole cake) and little construction vehicle toys placed on top for a little boy or a peach sheet cake where the peaches looked liked bees. Or a cake shaped and decorated like a bear. Or fondant cake...
Some moms will also bake a cake with ripe bananas in the dough without any extra sugar for their child's 1st birthday.
I agree with most as that's how it was when I grew up in Germany in the 60's and 70's. Surely things have changed somewhat. Gugelhupf for birthday cake, for sure. Am wondering if highly decorated iced ones are commonly used now. I reckon when they talk about the tea, they mean herbal teas. Fennel for babies, raspberry for lactating mums, Peppermint for tummy ache, etc etc. On time and German is a given. Avoiding conflict was definitely done. Still seeing that in the elderly generation now. No street shoes inside the immaculate homes, yes. Sceptical about anyone going barefoot however.
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I'm German, raised by a German mum (and grandparents) so a cup of Hagebuttentee in the morning was obligatory
And I turned out to be a tea lover with a quite decent collection of herbal and fruit tea (I even pick some myself and dry them, very recommendable [okay I see the thriftiness now too 😄])
What an open ended topic! But yes it always seems like mums from different countries all tend to do roughly the same things. I'm South African, living in NZ for 24 years now. This video got me thinking about SA mums and so many points came flooding back. I remember always being well fed with homemade food ( sometimes too well fed) Never, ever leaving the house looking scruffy ( unlike NZ, sorry) We always had brushed, neat hair, tucked in tops, proper dresses etc. Always being carried ( by both mum and dad) If at a casual gathering with friends or family, children always ate first. Then women, then the men. Mums always talking about what food they cook for their kids/family lol. Manners were taught at a very young age and were of utmost importance. These are just some things that come to mind. Now, I am a mum and my child was born here in NZ and this video has made me realise that it's important to not lose some of the ways in which we were brought up ( as long as it works for the child and mum) In a way, it's ensuring that a little bit of your home country will always carry on 😌
I always had to take a nap in the afternoon when I was little, even if I didn't want to 😅 now I am enjoying my Siestas here in Spain so much 😄😄
Nice video! :)
Volle Zustimmung in den meisten Punkten. Richtig viel Tee wird nur in Ostfriesland getrunken und von einem Nachmittagsschlaf habe ich noch nie gehört. Ich komme übrigens aus einem Haushalt, in dem alle Besucher ihre Schuhe anbehalten dürfen und so war es auch bei allen Verwandten und Bekannten. Diese Schuhsammlungen und Hausschuhangebote vor der Wohnungstür habe ich erstmalig bei ausländischen Familien kennengelernt.
Sparsamkeit und gutes Benehmen haben leider inzwischen sehr stark nachgelassen. Aber selbst vor 25 Jahren habe ich schon erlebt, dass Kinder, die gerade einen tollen perfekt organisierten Kindergeburtstag hinter sich hatten und netterweise von uns, sogar mit einem Geschenk, im Auto nach Hause gebracht wurden, nur die Tür aufrissen und grußlos verschwanden. Kein " Tschüss" kein "Danke für den schönen Nachmittag". Das fand ich damals schon krass.
Und wenn ich als Lehrerin jedem einzelnen Kind einer Klasse etwas schenke, muss ich beim Hinhalten schon ganz laut "Bitteschön" sagen und dem Kind freundlich in die Augen schauen, um zumindest bei 2/3 aller Kids ein "Dankeschön" zur Antwort zu bekommen. Ganz viele aufwändige Leistungen durch Erwachsene für Kinder werden von denen schon als selbstverständlich betrachtet. "Guten Tag" und "Auf Wiedersehen" kommen leider auch mehr und mehr aus der Mode.
Mag sein, dass es bei euch in einer fränkischen Kleinstadt noch besser ist als hier in NRW.
Das mit den Hausschuhen finde ich interessant. Ich (Baujahr 1983) komme aus Vorpommern und hier ist es üblich, seine Schuhe an der Tür auszuziehen.
Schuhe ausziehen habe ich auch erst durch Mütter meiner kleinen Tochter vor 20 Jahren kennengelernt. Das gab's vorher weder in Berlin noch jetzt hier in NRW. Kenne persönlich niemand der das praktiziert. Also nicht, dass man Gäste dazu zwingt
Ich bin 50 Jahre alt. Aufgewachsen kleines Dorf in Süddeutschland... keinTee nur bei Krankheiten(hier war meine Mutter kreativ,Zwiebeltee zum Beispiel) Nachmittagsschlaf war/ist Pflicht, Schuhe durften anbehalten werden, Pflicht war auch Höflichkeit zu Fremden und Umweltbewusstheit...so haben wir unsere 3 Kinder erzogen....
I'm originally from Nordrhein-Westfalen and now live in Schleswig-Holstein and the obligation to wear house shoes was never a thing.
You usually take of Your shoes and walk around in Your socks. On more formal occasions, like Christmas dinners or birthday parties, You usually keep Your shoes on.
I would say i like to drink an enjoyable cup of tea from time to time, especially in wintertime. But i wouldn't say that I'm obsessed it depends on the mood.
I don't have any house shoes or stuff like that, usually i don't wear any shoes at sometimes socks, but mostly I'm barefoot.
I’m definitely obsessed with herbal tea, but I’m 51 now. Sodas we got only by special occasions, birthdays or visits of family and friends. It has been something real special and not a every day thing. Every day we had red🤢tea. Today I prefer herbal tea, 2-3 pots a day.
To No 2 I can explain, my Mom used to say, life will deal with that itself, I love learning to understand this thru my life as German Mom now myself.
Many of those signs are the signs you were raised by a ukrainian mum, except may be number 6, and number 4 is just becoming usual, number 2 is controversial. And lots of things you are talking about Germany are the same here in Ukraine. My daugter is in Aachen since the end of March and she finds many things same. But I think they may be same for many Eoropean contries in genral.
Hey, stay Safe and Halsey! SLAV A Ukraine! Greetings from Hamburg!
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Nickerchen ist immer gut
dem Besuch soll es gut gehen. man hat Teppich keine Hausschuhe, Bodenheizung keine Hausschuhe,nur Fliesen dann Hausschuhe
And concerning nap time:
My Grandpa always saus all his family likes to take a lil nap after dinner
And there is this sauying that goes
'Nach dem Essen sollst du ruh'n
Oder tausend Schritte tun'
=After lunch/dinner you shall rest
Or take 1000 steps (a walk)
And I think both is beneficial and also a rather common human-thing 😊
I personally dislike tea but I grew up with all the adults around me drinking tea. Maybe it's a northern German thing, but every time the adults would meet there would be tea, doesn't matter if it's for breakfast, afternoon tea time or with dinner. And yes, nap time is sacred, growing up there was always "quiet time" after lunch where either we would have to nap or read/draw/do something quietly while the adults napped for an hour. I don't nap but I plan on having an hour of quiet time with my kids after lunch as well, I think it's great to calm down and have a break for everyone.
Maybe the authors mother was from Ostfriesland where they drink quite a lot of tea. Also I think German mothers love tea kind of as a medicine.
And napping in the afternoon is something a lot of children have to do even when they don't want to, I assumed this is similar in most countries?
And I think slippers are becoming less common, but I believe often due to floor heating etc, if the floor is warm you don't need to put on slippers.
Never heard of the word "bundt" :D Is that how you call it in English?
Guglhupf :)
Bundt musste ich auch erst nachschlagen, habe ich noch nie gehört. Guglhupf ist niedlicher. Ich kenne mehr den Rodonkuchen.
War auch mir neu! Komme aus Vorpommern.
Bundt is generally the shape of the pan/Form with most Bundt cakes being simple like a Marmorkuchen and not frosted/iced like a sweet traditional American birthday cake.
I love this ! I was raised by a German mom in South Africa - can relate with most points - tea as a baby instead of juice - but wouldn't say "obsessed with tea' but compared to how South Africans have tea i can appreciate a variety of diffrent tea like fennel or berry - where South Africans mpstly have Rooibos , which is also nice.
Def always on time , Def always prepared with plasters and wipes or water and snacks , even at 34 i still paxk a mini snack container incase - i love healthy food but also junk food - i had fizzy drinks growing up but i also had carrot juice and water - i enjoy Rye bread and regular white sandwich bread -
But have never had a budt cake for my birthday even though i do like it alot - my mom made character cakes like bart Simpson or little mermaid - i had both German and South African culture - i appreciate it alot more now that im older but in my teens/20s major identity crisis about it!
Naps yes!! Mostly only on sundays though , but id def have it more if i could ! Pantoffels ♡ my mom would get me bunny pantoffels for easter instead of easter eggs , she'd always try to replace sweets -
I'm a German mum, raised by generations of German mums, and married a non-German. Living abroad for more than three decades, I put some distance between my German-ness and me... but maybe not enough.
I agree with you - ignoring problems hoping they'd go away is not specifically German. We pride ourselves on our brutal honesty ;-) but much depends on the personality of the individual. Some people avoid conflicts.
Tea and house shoes play no role in my life. Table manners and punctuality do, as do healthy food. We also love fresh air and wish to raise independent children, I think that's also quite typically German. Wooden toys instead of electronic toys - is that still a thing?
I never heard about a Bundt cake and remember the heavy Buttercremetorten of my childhood, so it surprised me to see the simple birthday cakes. That's not typical, as far as I can tell. I'd say we do Torten for special occasions and Kuchen for Sundays.
The Tea drinking is a regional thing in westfalia or Ostfriesland it is a thing especially in Ostfriesland there is a whole tea-ceremony with firm rules how to drink your tea
I'd like to back up Opa Andre here totally on dealing with issues, table manners and afternoon naps - all the same for me when growing up . And I'm also not a mom...😜
And like him I've grown to be a coffee junkie - life without coffee is just not imaginable for me. When I grew up I only got to drink tea when I was sick. and then I always had to drink camomile tea. Even today (I'm 56y old now) I can't smell that flavour without getting the urge to throw up. I started to drink tea again after a visit to England and drinking Earl Grey tea there. Still do nowadays sometimes. But coffee is definitely my number one beverage of choice.
The expression "Bundt-Kuchen" has been totally unknown to me either. When I was a kid my favourite cake for birthdays was "Kalte Schnauze" or "Kalter Hund". Something I would'nt dream of eating now because it was overly sweet and consisted mainly of chocolate, fat and cookies (Butterkeks).
I had a German grandmother and can agree with the manners. She was very strict when it came to maners, you would get a light slap on the back of your head if you screwed up. From the time I was born until the age of 4 years old she lived 200 miles away so I only saw her for holidays or vacations but when my grandparents retired to Florida I saw them even less. My mother and I went to visit them in Florida when I was 5. My mom did all the cooking when we were there until one night she went out with her brother's new wife. Nana made dinner that night and she filled my plate and set it in front of me. I told Nana that I can't eat peas to which she replied "you'll eat everything on your plate." A few minutes later I projectile vomited the peas back up on the dinner table. My Irish grandfather picked up his plate and as he walked to the living room to finish his meal he said "Well, Rose he did warn you." My mom apologized for not telling her about my issues with certain foods. Nana was strict about table manners, and I still say please and thank you to everyone. Though in casual dining situations I might rest my arms on the table which used to get me a light slap on the back of my head.
Yes to pantoffeln in the house (Birkenstocks!), no to nap as I get grumpy (my German parents would nap though), yes to timekeeping, so important. Running late is causing me anxiety (doesn’t happen often though). My children are trained to be very polite, they are the only ones in their uk class greeting their teacher when entering the classroom and saying goodbye when leaving. Their ‘example setting’ politeness has just been mentioned in their school reports. Table manners are super important, I broke up with a man once who couldn’t eat properly. No way could I ever have introduced him to my parents!
No to tea (despite living in the uk for 15 years).
Always raincoat and sunglasses in the car.
My English husband is more thrifty than me. He repairs everything, even if it takes him days! 😂
Oh, and there is NO ‘sweet drawer’ in our house. My four year old loves beetroot pesto and sauerkraut on her pumpernickel bread! 😂
Are your kids still a bit younger or do they belong to the teens section already? I consider it to be normal to say "hello" and "goodbye" to your teacher when I enter or leave the room. My classmates and me we started in seventh grade, which is the year when we became 13, our school just had changed from classrooms to teachers rooms. In elementary school and Unterstufe I didn't do it regularly but it becomes more or less mandatory in Oberstufe latest. Nobody, neither teacher nor parent, says it to us but it's just expected.
Hallo Antoinette ! It's nice to see how you and other foreingers observe german habits. I as german have never thought that our behavior and acting is so unique. Let me tell you one thing about Germans and Tea: In the whole republik germans drink tea or coffee is 50/50% without one region : Ostfriesland - in the north-west of germany. Their consume of tea per person is higher than in the UK or India. I didn't know this since i saw a video from "the blackwood family" two or tree weeks ago.
do you mean the 'black forest family' ?
I grew up in Ostfriesland and I am 52 now, I moved to Hamburg when I was 23. Tea was a big thing in my first 23:years. I knew families that drunk tea five times a day, each time three cups of black tea, though the cups are small and in some families they fill them up only half the way. Nowadays I barely drink any black tea, only when I am visitlng anyone in Ostfriesland I do. But I drink a variety of other teas in the colder time of the year. Black Ostfriesentee only tastes good in Ostfriesland in my opinion. I am more of a coffee person now.
@@schuhschrank947 Being from and living in the north (not Friesland !) I drink at least 1 litre of strong black tea per day and considering the number of tea shops in my area I suppose drinking tea is a rather northern German thing.
I was raised by a German mom: I never got a Bundt, my mom, I am afraid, got far to involved in everything and also, I am afraid, she is always always ALWAYS late and she never took a nap or wore house shows nor did my German grandparents. But yes: manners and healthy food are a must. Tea is a very moderate must-have.
With a modest annual tea consumption of 30 liters per capita, Germany only ranks 84th on the list of tea-drinking countries. Nevertheless, the world champions in tea drinking are Germans, namely the East Frisians. They sip an incredible 300 litres per capita - even 100 litres more than the British.
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most german tea at all: Hagebuttentee zu jederzeit 🤣 especially on Wandertag in school,
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Yes I inherited all this and nap in the afternoon now (sometimes)🐣
Yes my grandma bring a 2nd set of clean slippers to wear my house or any fam like my dads se visits
I didn't know there was a German parenting style xD
Most of it is a no-brainer. Saying please and thanks is just general manners and the same in other countries too. Though for me it was my grandfather who was obsessed with telling me to take the elbows off the table 😂
Bringing the stuff you mentioned to the beach is just common sense inmo. If you have young children you're responsible for them not to fall ill, as simple as that. At least getting rained on or sunburn is something easily avoided.
Germans aren't generally obsessed with tea, rather with coffee. It's just that fruit tea is the standard drink for children.
my mum used to make tea for everyone every single night. we have huge tea cupboard at home. i definitely inherited that but i never realised other german mums do that too? (my mum isn't even german she's from poland but she came here as a young woman)
In Kindergarten, we were forced to have an afternoon nap (Mittagsschlaf). It was more a torture than something replenishing. To that time, parents didn't take naps, but grandparents did, I vaguely remember. So it could be a remnant of times.
I don't know if Kindergarten children are still forced to have a nap after meal. Time could have changed.
thrifty is right: my mum bought Legos for my brother, Books for us or dolls for my sister at the flea markets and for the grandkids she now does it 2nd hand online. Being late is so impolite that I really get annoyed by it. I write up each student's tardiness by the minute and after 5 strikes the have to sign their tardiness slip by their parents
I am a German mum and I am obsessed with tea 😄 and I LOVE to have naps 🤣 seems like I am just a 'regular' German mum.
I'm a german mom but was raised in the US but when ever we visited our family's in Germany everyone always left there shoe's outside the door even my grandparents who lived in an apartment, also all the stores would close at 1pm and open again at 3pm Germans would go home for lunch and even catch a power nap, and yes table manners were a must my brother and I were taught to eat with fork in left hand and knife in right hand.
For me being raised by an east-german mom...they are a few thing I struggle with...like tea...no we´re not obsessed by it like in northern culture, we actually drink more coffee...BUT I think what the article might refer to is that most Germans have a tea for every mild illness...like if you have a bad stomach drink chamomile tea...if you have a cold drink black tea with half a citrus and ginger and you´ll be fine! And NO German moms don´t hesitate to address issues! I feel like it´s the total opposite. My mom didn´t. Oh yeah, and I hated afternoon naps since I was 2 so I wasn´t forced to have them. It´s way more common in southern countries because of heat during the noon hours.
No Gugelhupf for birthday cake. My kids would wish for a topic and I would have made that happend. We had princess castles, olympic stadions and soccer shirts, for example. So a self baked cake yes a blundt seems very outdated.
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My experience is that most Germans rather drink coffee than tea. E.g. in my direct environment it's my father, my aunt, my grandparents, my brother, my best friend and me who drink coffee - and it's only my mom who drinks rather tea. As far as I see it's more that my non-German aquaintances drink rather tea than coffee.
A child isn't going to be drinking coffee. They will be drinking tea or something else that doesn't have caffeine.
My dad had a German grandmother and always took an afternoon nap at 12:30 pm to 1:45 pm. A 45 minute nap every day.
But that's a 75 minute nap 😁
That was 12:30 pmto 1:15 pm. Not 1:45 pm.
@@nebucamv5524 That was supposed to be 12:30 pm to 1:15 pm. Not 1:45 pm. I didn't catch the mistake until now.
When I was a child the only drinks in the house were water or unsweetend fruit tea. We were allowed Apfelschorle on Sundays and Holidays. I had my first Cola at age 15.So yeah, the tea thing might be true.
At my home: Kräutertee for breakfeast and for dinner: Malzkaffee. My parents drunk black tea for breakfeast and for dinner.
Noch eine Anmerkung:
So wie du auf die Aussagen von matadomenetwork eingehst, finde ich das okay. Genau wie letztens bei Hayley und hin und wieder bei Feli from Germany. Ihr zitiert nur kurz und sagt ausführlicher eure eigene Meinung dazu. Und wählt Beiträge, die euch zum Widerspruch angeregt haben oder welche, mit denen ihr voll übereinstimmt und wo jemand schon besser als ihr etwas auf den Punkt gebracht hat.
Aber in letzter Zeit begegnen mir leider auch ganz andere Videos. Die starten mit "American boy/girl/couple reacts" und teilweise ist sogar schon der Name des Kanals so. Darin wird oft ein mit viel Arbeit gemachtes Video eines RUclipsrs fast 1:1 wiedergegeben und nur unten rechts in der Ecke sieht man den Kommentator, der alles nur betrachtet und nur hin und wieder einen kurzen, nichtssagenden Kommentar abgibt.
So etwas ist in meinen Augen eine Unverschämtheit und höchstens zulässig, wenn ihr RUclipsr des Originalvideos großzügig an den Einnahmen beteiligt werdet. Ist das so? Für mich ist das ein Schmücken mit fremden Federn und ein großes Ärgernis!
Es ist genau so, wie du es beschreibst in diesen "reaction-videos". Schmücken mit fremden Federn...
Deswegen verbieten manche Fernsehsender zB dass man darüber in youtube spricht (bachelor zB)
After working in a German school for the last 16 years I can firmly say that the German "parenting" style is much more hands off than in the USA. They leave many simple things that were tought to me by my parents to the teachers or daycare workers in the after school programs (Hort) They do not seem to impose much discipline on their kids and the kids have absolutely no fear that mom an d dad are going to get mad when the teacher reports their bad behavuior... Leading to cahos in the classroom and a continual "talking back" to teachers... Being in a classroom with 20 little kids who all think they have "the right" to discuss every decision with you and will clearly tell you to your face that "Ich habe keine bock" (I just don't feel like do the assignment!)....They are afraid of nothing and the whole world revolves around them.
Wow, we are from Germany and your description is pretty true.
We have a bad history with authority, so kids are not raised with discipline.
On the other hand German kids have a short line.
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I wouldn’t say it’s about our history. I’m from Germany (born in the 80s) and was raised with discipline and had to listen to teachers.
Parenting styles changed since then but I wouldn’t be sure about the history part.
Parents in Germany became more and more helicopter parents, micromanaging their childrens lives. The increased pressure to send children to university isn’t helpful to not being involved in their childrens school life. Parents now have the need to give their children the „best“ chances to succeed in school and every disadvantage has to be erased.
I've been a teacher for 32 years in Canada. I find the exact same here. Back in the 90s kids had discipline from home and students and respected teachers. Parents respected teachers too. I personally think it's a generational issue not cultural. I feel your pain. I just retired. Teaching is such a rewarding job, yet vet stressful. Best of luck.
Die Sache mit dem „Schuhe ausziehen“ bei Erwachsenen ist nach meiner Wahrnehmung erst so mit der Jahrtausendwende gekommen. Dazu kommt noch, dass es öfters bei Wohnungen wie in Wohnhäusern vorkommt. In einem typischen Wohnhaus ist das Erdgeschoss der „öffentliche“ und das Obergeschoss der „private“ Bereich. Im öffentlichen Bereich muss man mit Schuhen rechten, im privaten nicht. Dies klappt natürlich nicht so gut bei Wohnungen. Natürlich ist es nur meine persönliche Wahrnehmung.
This is funny. And yes, I very much disagree with the hands-off claim as well. German Mums are definitely not helicoptering parents, and I love that, but they stand up for themselves or their children, just as you described.
Regarding the tea. It depends on where in Germany. In Ostfriesland, yes, you are not a human if you do you drink tea and don't you dare wash the teapot, otherwise the tea no longer tastes right :-) I got into trouble once when I stirred the tea. It would destroy the layers. That, I find is an obsession. But in a cute way. Their tea ceremony is their culture and I love that they live it and maintain it.
But, I find there is a different approach to tea in Germany than in the Anglo-Saxon world. Each household that I have been to (and I grew up there) had a huge selection to choose from. Anything from herbal, to fruit, to black, you name it, they have it. Here in Australia, people have tea, but mostly English Breakfast (normal :-) - another tea talk that makes me giggle ) or Earl Grey. Sometimes green or peppermint. But beyond those choices, I find it rare. It is starting to change, but it is slow. Comparing the "obsession" I find both Germans and Australians drink tea and enjoy it, but I fail to see the obsession. It is part of their life.
I think the tea thing has a strong relation to the protestant Diakonissen too. The only thing you get to drink whilst diner is tea. And the joke question, "Another German word for Diakonissenblut?", has it's reasons.
The answer is "Hagebuttentee", by the way.
Ha ha - I paused your video when I replied and now I reached the "Pantoffeln" part. I have spares for guests, as I want shoes off, but they should not have cold feet in these coooooold houses. How good are the heated houses in Germany?
Ok, I am German, my birthday cakes usually were a buttercream "Torte" or even whipped cream ( as I loooove Schwarzwälder Kirsch), very often it was a "Käse-Streusel" or a "Kirsch-Streusel" or "Donauwellen". My mother was a fantastic baker and I think I might have been the only one with such elaborate cakes. I actually do not remember other kids birthday cakes, just the games we played. The Gugelhupf (bundt-cake), very often also in a "loaf"-form, was more of a weekend-cake (not every weekend, just for special occasions).
Tea - I hate tea (and coffee, I basically hate every warm drink, I drink everything with loads of icecubes - I am the only one in my family - and I am allergic to milk), so my drink of choice is water, maybe with a little juice. My mother wasn't a tea drinker either, but she drank coffee, which I also don't drink.
Afternoon-napping was not a thing when I grew up, but I am in my sixties, so maybe different times?
However, I think you misunderstood that one, it talks about children being sent to their rooms for a nap, not the mothers taking a nap. They are probably too busy for that and just enjoy doing stuff without their kids disturbing them and that can only be accomplished if you send them to take a nap?
Pantoffeln - I have never in my life owned a pair of "Hausschuhe" and I don't remember anyone ever asking me to take off my shoes, though I usually do, as I do that in my home too, but I walk around barefoot (in summer) and in socks (in winter). I never had Birkenstocks either, just bought a pair recently: I am not a fan. - May I suggest a little help with the pronunciation for you? You said Pantoff-len - which is an inversion of the "el", It is written "Pantoffeln", not "Pantofflen". If you cut the word in halves it might make it easier to pronounce? Pantof-feln, if you say it slowly at first and then go faster it should be easier.
- When learning English I had to realize that I could not pronounce words the way I am used to in German, like the pronunciation of "ie" and "ie" in German and English are exactly the opposite. So with every language I learned, I know I have to throw everything I "know" overboard and just go with the flow and adapt the new languages pronunciation of certain letter-combinations. For example the Italian word "bruschetta", just very different from the German "sch". Same with "gnocchi", just had to memorize the pronunciation instead of reading (and pronouncing) the letters. It helps so much when I just acknowledge that every language has their own peculiarities and rules of how they are pronounced. I think what works best with the German language is cutting word in halves ... (or sometimes thirds and so on).
Let's just say Unterfranken and espionage Thüringen are much more fond of Kuchen rather than cake. These e.g. Blechkuchen can be rather elaborate and more then just a gugglehupf. But no Buttercream involved. Torte just ist more something for adults because it is often infused with alcohol.
I was raised by both my German grandmother until I was 6 and then just my German mother.. Not only myself but several other girlfriends who have German Mother's, we all have depression and anxiety. The child Rearing techniques that were taught after the war were totally abusive!! My family is still suffering from this intergeneration of abuse. It depends if they followed the advice in the parenting book Mentioned in the article on my link..😡💩😭 No one talks about it. It's a big dark secret but my cousin who lives in Germany. Still says he still sees this on living room coffee tables and book shelves. It's really very tragic and sand has ruined my relationship with my mother, and hers with her mother.
That’s is me!! 😂
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I think Kiwis and Polish people drink more tea than Gernans
Hausschuh, I am 78 years old, when I come home from somewhere first thing I do, take off my shoes. This is hygiene.
Who wants to bring dirt into the house. Greetings from Ontario.
Bundt cake def grew up German family
Every time I hear a non-American say "plasters" instead of "adhesive bandages" my first though is of a broken limb and then instantly think of adhesive bandages.
German Mom here. No slippers in our house, or the one I grew up in. We take shoes of, grown up guests are not asked to do this, or were asked in my childhood home. Children automaticly do it.
I believe it should be "Herbal Infusion" rather than tea. We cure all illnesses with that - yes.
Healthy food - yes, but treats are important. If you don't allow your kids treats, it will back fire. And at St. Martin /Karnival/Nikolaus we binge.
Cakes: My children actually disliked iceing/frosting or butter cream. My birthday cake in my childhood was usually a rectangular loaf shaped one, with either icing sugar - icing (thin and Gummi bears on, or thin chocolate (the pure one butter or cream) with smarties. Something like buttercream (half butter/half custard) was really just for the highest festivities, not just birthdays. Now that they are older they told me, they like cakes that taste good rather than cakes that look good. no more icing etc for us :-)
And when my kids were small and some kids came telling on them. "You son did/said/went ..." Ireally hate this sooo much. So I tended to tell the little snitches that I did not do anything and they should take it to that child of mine. It was always something small, as I never tolerated bullying or plain meanness. And I made a point to sit with my back to the children - they did not need the eagle eye on them - not with toddlers, and not in dangerous situations, but they have to learn on their own.
Personally, I thought the most german thing is "Kohlrabi" a german kid, or one growing up with them will run and eat raw veg, and Kohlrabi. People from other places will hate that :-)
I‘m not obsessed with tea - it‘s not for everyone 😁
Grandma birthday cake known as dry cake needs whip cream
all i can say, by picking germany to raise your children, it is a plus that we don't have natural predators, like poison snakes or crocodiles or venom spiders in the woods, but you gotta look out for ticks ;)
If I'm informed correctly NZ also lacks natural predators whereas Australia seems to be a predator paradise...😁😁
@@flamedealership yes, have u ever been kicked in the a by a kangoo?
Confused about the tea thing... I always thought of ourselves as a nation of coffee drinkers if anything.
Tea definitely is a British thing
I like the jewelry you wear and have already ordered something from the company.
But why don't you wear your wedding ring or your engagement ring?
Let me pls add a little thing... Nowadays the kids are not raised exclusively by the moms anymore... I brought in my part as well... You need a good team with the second parent to have this done "successfully"
Good point but Antoinette happens to be a mom and not a dad and the article was about being a mom - so it's only logical she focussed on that topic. But other than that I totally agree!👍😁
Almost all right. I am a German and we do not like to be late... its a waste of time, but more so, its disrespectful to the other person to let them wait. I have invited a whole bunch of Kiwis one day for a cooked dinner party... one came, but late, while others did not come at all without declining or saying they can't make it... . Never did a dinner party again in 30years living in NZ. You want to insult a German, this is it, hitting any German in the gut. The Pantoffel saga, oh well, only in those houses, who have their floors newly done. Usually taking off shoes is not the common thing, however I grew up in a generation, where you ask if you need to take them off. But it's one thing I like about Kiwis. They take off their shoes at any persons house... sometimes they should actually keep them on. Mothers not addressing problems is a saga... if one thing can be said about Germans (and not just women) its they do not shy away to address ANY problem. A thing that makes most Kiwis uncomfortable. So I learnt to hold my peace, until I have put the right wording together as to not offend Kiwis, and yet make things clear. It's not an easy relationship between Kiwis and Germans. COFFEE... Now THATS a German thing... like Kaffee und Kuchen. A must on a Sunday afternoon. Tea might be regional, but in Hamburg we drink coffee and lots of it.
Hallo Antoinette,
seid Ihr schon in Kiwi-Land oder übt (fliegt) Ihr noch..? Lass' mal von Dir hören...
So I am not a mother myself, but I have to chime in my 5 cents about the second point. There is no problem if you don’t face it. I guess it was meant to be more about family problems, or problems between you and your mom. And I really had a good laugh at this point, because it is so accurate. Especially my mom is currently ignoring me/the problem/the conflict we have right now. It is a pretty common German mom thing to do, at least what I witnessed from friends and family.
But as soon as it goes “outside” the own home, moms tend to be protective about their children and are ready to help them fight, as long as the kid needs help.
Hello, how are you?
This is pretty accurate for where i grew up (Mittelschicht). South germany, swabia. Of course there are exceptions, but the healthy food mothers within my friends are there. No sugar in bakery stuff, sweet the waffle dough with banana. Tea instead of lemonade. Getting "the stare", when you are relaxed watching your child eating overly sweet donuts and another one, too.
The shoes inside others home thing changed a bit. When i was a child it was a thing, i always carried pantoffeln to visit friends at home.
My mom and I are German 😊😊😊😊
This was fun, Antoinette! Here’s my two Pfennige: 1) dealing with things by not dealing with them is about ignoring your child. Viz: „Mamaaaaaa? Kannichnlolliiiiiiiihammmmmm?“ NO REPLY. Or: „I hate you! You are the worst mother in the world!“ NO REPLY.
2) horseshoes. These can be tricky. If host is in houseshoes, take off your own shoes - or offer to do so immediately. BUT: these are a secret class indicator. Nobody who was brought up with dogs and staff would ever dream of taking off any other shoes than a) galoshes b) skiboots b) tennis shoes.
Oops. Houseshoes. Obviously.
Den Kuchen nannten wir immer "Würgeengel".
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Sounds like your experience with germans are not wide, cakes vary, depends what the child wishes for its bday, discussing Problems: of course. nappies? Small children and Elder people, yes.
manners: I agree, thats important to us.
Healthy food: yes most mums
Rain coats? Sounds regional.
Prepared: think moms around the World are
On time is beeing polite. Too early is also not on time as too late.
Germans in General dont exist.
Tea Coffee juice milk kaba water. Obsessed on tea? Dont think so.
Pantoffeln? Really not. If its necessary to take shoes off then walk on socks. Some might offer Pantoffeln, It is absolutely no solid Tradition to expect from visitors to take shoes off and offer Pantoffeln. Some do. Some.
Maybe you think all germans are as your close people and havent met many others from other regions yet.
Germans are generally not obsessed with tea. Actually, most Germans like coffee much more than tea. Unless you are East Frisian - than you most likely will be truly obsessed with tea and will give the Japanese a run for their money regarding tea ceremonies. The East Frisians are actually world record owner in drinking tea - the rest of Germany drinks approx three times more coffee than tea.
Auf deutsch heißt dieser Kuchen "Napfkuchen"!
Ich kenne ihn eher als Guglhupf. Das Wort Napfkuchen hab ich zwar mal gehört, könnte aber ohne Kontext nichts damit anfangen.
@@folkehoffmann1198 Die Bezeichnung "Napfkuchen" ist im Gegensatz zum "Guglhupf" - könntest Du mir die Herkunft und Bedeutung erläutern? - selbsterklärend, denn der Kuchen wird in einem Napf, der Kuchenform - meist aus Keramik - gebacken!
@@Rainerjgs ist das gleiche, im Süden, in Österreich, in der Schweiz und im Elsass heißt er Gugelhupf
@@folkehoffmann1198 Guglhupf wird in einer anderen Form gebacken ( ist höher).
Rainer-JGS in Norddeutschland 'Topfkuchen'.
I disagree with some of the points. Probably because it’s written by an American of Germany heritage.
Number 2 are grandmothers but not mothers. It's actualy the exact opposite.
The nap after the lunch - oh, I can recall that. Cake: a Bundt cake at birtdays? Definetily yes; as known in southern Germany and Austria as Gugelhupf elsewhere as Napfkuchen or Bundkuchen. Tea: no, coffee instead.
Ok, I just missed your Kiwi style of "mother-ing" at each topic, not just at the birthday cake. E.g. if "going well prepared to the beach" might be a german thing, how do Kiwis do that in comparison?
Hmmm an dem Artikel stimmt so einiges nicht. Bunt ist eine Bezeichnung für viele verschiedene Farben. Geburtstagskuchen sind völlig unterschiedlich. Je nachdem was das Geburtstagskind mag. In meiner Kindheit wurde bei allen Kindern immer Kuchen gebacken die man mit den Fingern essen konnte, also keine Cremetorten weil das zu argen Sauereien geführt hätte.
Was die Manieren angeht, nun ich finde das ist unabhängig von der Nationalität. Egal welche Nation, zumindest in meiner Gegend, haben alle die gleichen Manieren.
Auch was die organisierten Mamas angeht, ist das nicht nur bei Deutschen so. Italienische, Griechische, Türkische Marokkanische Mamas sind genauso organisiert.
Unpünktlichkeit ist mit Respektlosigkeit und Unhöflichkeit gleichzusetzten. Egal wo im Alltag, pünktlich sein ist Pflicht. Nicht nur in Deutschland.
Tee???!!! Deutschland ist eher ein Kaffeeland, würde ich sagen.
Mittagsschlaf? Sowas gab es bei uns nicht. Ich kannte nur 1 Nachbar die das immer gemacht haben. Die meisten gehen arbeiten und den restlichen Tag will der Haushalt gemacht sein.
Schuhe ausziehen. Auch das ist so eine Sache die ich gar nicht kenne. Außer bei den Türkisch und Marokkanisch stämmigen Haushalten. Das Schuhe ausgezogen werden bevor man ins Haus geht kenn ich nur vom Winter bzw regen Wetter.
Ich bin deutsche, in Hessen aufgewachsen und lebe hier seit 1979.
Ich denke, alle Mamas dieser Welt machen einen tollen Job der viel zu wenig honoriert wird, egal aus welchem Land. Und wir wollen die Omas nicht vergessen. 😉
Ich komme auch aus Hessen und kann es gar nicht leiden wenn Leute ihre Schuhe in meinem Haus anlassen. Nachmittagsschlaf? Ja bitte. Vor allem wenn man sehr früh morgens aufstehen muss.
I don*t know the word Bundt
North America frosting on cake yes
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I haven´t owned a pair of house shoes for almost 40 years! 🤣 My last pair was chewed up by the Mittelschnauzer, my parents got, while I was in the US as an exchange student for a school year. In my house/my parents house no one has to take of the shoes! Among my friends is one person where I have to take off my shoes! My parents never had to take off their shoes when friends invited them for dinner or a birthday party and I have picked them up from a lot their friends over the years.
Karen had called the manager, for complaining her kid is left out!
Jaaa, der gute alte Guglhupf durfte auf keinem Kindergeburtstag fehlen. Am liebsten als Marmorkuchen. Ich bin geschockt wieviele in den Kommentaren keinen Guglhupf kennen. 🤯 Und ja... ein Nickerchen nach dem Essen ist mein liebstes Hobby. 🤣
Glaub das gibts nur in Bayern
Bundt cake is an American term not a German one.
KIDS IN THE NETHERLANDS ARE THE HAPPYES.
I'm first, yay.
Wow you are so beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Deutschland soll ein Tee-Land sein? Das deckt sich überhaupt nicht mit meiner Erfahrung. In Deutschland wird weitaus mehr Kaffee als Tee getrunken, außer in Ostfriesland vielleicht. Natürlich gibt es auch Teeliebhaber, aber ich kenne mehr Menschen, die weder Kaffee noch Tee trinken, als echte Teetrinker.
I’m a German living in the U.K. and I have slippers for my guests haha
Definitely wouldn’t say Germans are obsessed with tea though !
I don't like this article and also have some criticism on the video. Why does everyone talk about mums only wtf? Dads are not mentioned at all. This article and also the video kind of implies that kids are only the responsibility of mums/women and that dads have nothing to do with it. Why don't you talk about PARENTS who raise their kids?
I agree. Most German fathers take part in the education. But it's different in other countries. I just had a discussion within a livestream of a German/Japanese couple living in Japan and I was told that in very many East Asian countries most women give up their jobs after the birth of their first child. And maybe will stay mother and housewife most of their life. And they are the ones who control the family's finances.
Es sollte so nicht sein, aber es ist so, die Mütter machen den Hauptteil der Erziehung aus. Außer stillen könnten wir alles.
Es ist wohl eher über Generationen hinweg gemeint.
@@arnodobler1096 naja sie meinte ja die jetzige Generation, also sich selbst als Mutter und die Mütter, die sie kennt. Finde ich traurig, dass Väter da wohl keine Rolle spielen oder es tun, aber hier 0 erwähnt werden, was die Stereotype dann wieder stärkt. (Also wenn wir immer nur von Müttern reden)
I was actually wanting to make a part two talking about German dads. This video was just focusing on mums but it doesn't mean I don't think Dads aren't important, they absolutely are!
@@AntoinetteEmily thanks for the answer. But this still doesn't make so much sense to me, because all of the points listed could be done by dads. Baking cakes, teaching your kids manners, packing the bag, providing houseshoes, being organized, being healthy, not ignoring issues, being on time etc etc ist not a mom thing? It is a parent thing. Why call one video "German mums" and one "German dads" if the activities, which are talked about, are done by both? Also if you only see this video, it implies moms are responsible for those things and not everyone will see the video about dads.