I asked my mum 2 weeks ago if she's making her famous dish for xmas... without missing a bit she said.... nope! Her reason a certain ingredient she couldn't find. My husband asked her 2 days before Christmas (without knowing i had already asked her). On Christmas day she rocks up with it... and my husband was just smiling from ear to ear. My sister and I were speechless.
Indeed. I think my Mom was more broken up over my brother's first breakup than he was. She even had a momentary relapse the first Christmas after it because she'd already bought his ex presents when it happened.
Therapist here. This kind of thing actually happens a lot. Parents tend to have cultural conflicts with their kids, when their kids grow up in a country different than the parents. A lot of the time, this means that the parents will try to push their traditions on the kids, while the kids will sort of rebel and refuse to fully accept the parent's traditions in order to maintain their independence. However, when a new person is trying to get into the family, they usually want to make the best impression possible, so they typically try to follow the traditional rules as closely as possible. And for a parent who's spent their whole life worrying that their kids won't take their traditions seriously, seeing one of their kids' friends or partners lean into that tradition is a breath of fresh air. Because it shows the parents that the kids might come around to their traditions after all. 😌 It's nice - and as you can tell, it's usually hilarious!
Yep. Dating the only son of Colombian parents with five sisters, I actually won them over because I knew enough Spanish to get by. Only one brother in law knew Spanish.
I did a lot of push up meeting my In-laws, though Nigeria based in Nigeria that push up part is alien to my tribe. I had to do it for my baby girl. PS: Nigeria has more than 150 languages and tribes we all don't have same culture. It's strange to lay on the floor in my culture, rather you scout
I’m married to a Nigerian man. He didn’t give me all the rules when we went to Nigeria for the first time together. I hugged his parents too 😂 😂 he told me later that he they don’t do hugs. He then received the first memorable hug from his dad when we left Nigeria. Now we’re a family of huggers 😂
I'm can imagine it's hard to imagine how nice a hug can be until someone you just met and really enjoy goes in for it out of pure emotion 🥰 affection can be contagious!
Really how is that going to happen when she is a Lesbian....is she going for rent a sperm. Can you imagine a kid waking up and seeing two women in bed kissing, one confused kid he,she will be.
@@goldenaye3 It’s not confusing at all kids aren’t stupid if you’re raised with two moms you know that that’s a possible family and that’s it. Just like how kids aren’t confused when others have only one parent they’re just told that’s their family and the adapt. Not complex at all
@@di7209 You must be lesbian, single, is single parent and not a kid waking up to see two women in bed kissing each other or one looking butch pretending to be a man or They. What perversion is the western world promoting
As a Nigerian they grew up in Nigeria, I can assure you that Nigerian parents don't show physical affection.😂😂. But we still know that our parents love us
My friends love my parents like my parents were at all their weddings, my mom was like I was talking to Derrick today on the phone and I’m like “tf you talking to my friend on the phone you don’t even talk to me on the phone!”
I remember a time when my sister got my grandmother to say I love you back to her. I was absolutely livid! I questioned why she said it back, she said my sister seemed like she needed it. After that point, much to my grandmother‘s annoyance, I will tell her I love her. Firstly she would reply grudgingly I love you too, there are you happy? After a few months it became a really sweet I love you too. When my mum heard this, she was livid. She demanded her mum tell her she loved her too. Spiralled into all of her children (my grown ass uncles and aunts) demanding to be told that they were loved too. It was hilarious and beautiful at the same time. Gina have loved you forever ❤❤❤
This has to be one of the funniest and most relatable stories ever. Most of us grew up being 'scared' of our parents. It was all a facade. They become softies as they age.
@@luckyigbomor4088 Aye, and not even biological parents. I'd never seen my foster mum cry all my life, not even when her 20+ year old Scottish Terrier passed. Then when I moved out, my social worker told me my foster mum was in tears and choking up.
@@eddieisverygay7937 Really? I mean I can understand maybe mixing it up with a neighbouring country. That happens. But knowing the general area is sort of something I would assume most people know. Like hearing a European country and knowing if it’s more northern, southern, eastern or western. Might not be sure on the specifics. But should know a general area. Right?
@@gardenshed6043 I don’t really think the location of countries that aren’t SUPER well known is necessarily general knowledge, I only know where it is due to a country guesswork game. (also I’m american so i’m not sure how familiar other places would be with country locations)
Am a born Nigerian woman married a white man. I grew up greeting my dad on both knees. When I went back home with my children and saw mu dad, I went on my knees to greet him and my junior ones started laughing at me saying they don't do that anymore. I was angry at them. That's how we where raised but no hugging and no telling each other I love you and back. I taught my mother to say I love you. The first time she said I love you to me was very quick on the phone. She said it fast and hang the phone. I laughed. At the end of her days and months, she drove me mad with the word I love you. That's one of my sweet memories of my mum. I never got the chance to do the same with mu dad. Nigeria culture is changing fast. Thanks Gina. I always love watching you over the years my Nigeria sister ❤
@@edible0pig typically with food (when i visit dad buys my childhood favorites, even though they haven't been favorites for years), giving you money you don't need (my mom still gives me 20 bucks when I go out with my friends) and bragging about what a great kid you are to family and friends (they won't tell you that you are great).
@@edible0pig yeah the only drawback is until I'm married off they still consider me a child. I'm almost 32 and my dad still insists on picking me up or dropping me off at the bus stop... and he makes it a point to tell everyone that I'm his little baby (last born problems).
It's so weird and hilarious how some people think White and Black people are 'opposite races' or that they are so different that it's out of this world amazing when they can relate 🙄. Like, people are not paint.
I think reply’s comments are really of a very narrow view. First people are jumping to conclusions about why this gentleman feels he has little in common with this person. A 48 year old, female, homosexual British raised, Nigerian person with strict parents who have a particular set of expectations may very well have little in common with this chap. Who knows where he’s from, what religion he may have been raised in. Perhaps he wasn’t raised religious at all. Over half of Nigeria is Muslim and nearly the entire population is religious. They would likely have a particular set of feelings regarding homosexuality. This might be very different from his experience. He could be a very different age. Age does affect experience. It has since the beginning of humanity and it always will. He’s male. Men and women have different life experiences. Non-binary people, intersex people and trans people have different experiences. That’s real life. If everyone in this world had the same experiences despite these things, whats all the hubbub? Why are women, trans, gay, intersex, minorities etc still fighting for full equality. Of course these people have different sets of experiences than the next. He might be straight. Straight and gay people have different experiences that can further be heavily influenced by country, culture, religion, age, education and socioeconomic standing. Does he also likely have some common ground? Yes. But he also realizes they have a lot difference. Who is anyone to insist those aspects are illusions or whatever? They are real differences. When I was young the whole “everyone is the same,” thing was all the rage. Then we got to a place where we accepted that people are different and that those differences are beautiful and should be embraced and celebrated. I was very glad for this as I didn’t appreciate my differences being treated like a third eye it would be rude to pay attention to. Please tell me we have not circled back around.
This is so true! I did this same thing with my English girlfriend to my two elderly Jamaican grandparents, and I was pleasantly shocked at how much they welcomed her. I never underestimated them again.
I adore Gina and have for years. She's so funny and clever. I always feel sad that she left Britain to go to America but our loss is most certainly their gain.
That’s so sad to hear that. It’s unfortunate. I’m a Caribbean immigrant in the US and our community absolutely love her. I think the same is true for Trevor Noah from South Africa.
She’s hit the ceiling in the UK. She worked with the BBC and ITV being ambitious she wanted more but there was no more in the UK. Has nothing to do with race or lack of appreciation. Many British talent leave the UK for America. The UK is a small island so theres a limit to success. The US is massive. Even David Beckham left and football (soccer) isn’t even that popular in America yet the pay check was higher😂
LMFAO!!! That part about her mom talking through the plot of the Nigerian movie. I'm a Nigerian American and my mother does THE EXACT SAME THING!!! hahaha!!!!
@@jacquelinemarshall3694 Ingrained in our DNA lol! Especially a horror movie! 'Don't go in there, the killer is in there! Ooo, b*&$&, I told you not to go in there!' 😆
Well, I don't want to mess up your worldview, but I'm a German mother and I do it the same way...🙈🤭😄 It's also clear that when the children are young, in the first eight years, you explain the film to them, and in the 50 years after that you just can't stop...😅
I love Gina so much. As a child of African parents I can relate. My dad wore his heart on his sleeves. He was strict but always told us know much he loved us. My mum, she's a different story. No need to explain. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
South African here, I never understood why parents wouldn’t be affectionate to their children, my mother, my grandmother, the rest of my family are all affectionate. Living among Nigerians in London I used to find it shocking when my daughter tells me that her friends aren’t affectionate with their parents. I’m a big hugger. When my children are sad, not well or even just being in each other’s company I just hug them. ! One of the best things about hugging as a parent is that it helps when you are regulating your children’s emotions. A hug is like a love medicine to your little ones, soothing and comforting.
I was never hugged as a kid, but I know my parents loved me to death. I know how my mom comes to our bed after a tiring day for her and she fans us to sleep in the sweltering heat because there no electricity. I know how she comes with a lantern and keeps the mosquitoes that lands on our bodies. I know how she wrecked her health to make sure we were fed and went to school, she taught me how to read because the schools were not reliable and i know how she taught us to be upstanding individuals. She never told me i love you once ever and i dont expect her to say it, i know it. I am in my mid 40s now and i remember she hugged me for the very first time a few years ago. Now when she sees me, she hugs me but it is still awkward for me but i hug her back because now she needs it more than me. I am also ready to die for her. I hope that for the remaining years left for her, I will always be there and make her happy. She did this for 7 of us and we are eternally grateful.
The time my dad hugged me was when cameroon scored against Maradonna's Argentina during Italy 90....the legacy he left showed his love for us , more than any hug will ever do...thanks dad 🤣
This really reminds me of meeting my ex-girlfriend's parents. We got pretty close and her mom would hug me. My ex would say that even her mom doesn't hug her. But the same thing happened when my parents hugged her but not me! Lol
In Nigerian culture, there is less of a distinction between in-laws and family. So, in Gina's mum's mind, Nina is her future daughter and she has to pamper her accordingly. I'm Nigerian-American and all my girlfriends were similarly pampered when introduced to my family:)
My parents are from the same village. Their families speak the same language. I legit don't know the difference between my relatives from my mom and dad's families. Just realised it might be different for other people.
THE TRUTH IS THAT NIGERIAN PARENTS BELIEVE "DO UNTO STRANGERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE YOUR OWN CHILDREN TO BE TREATED IN ANY FOREIGN LAND" Nina at that environment was like queen's arrival
Your Nigerian and you introduced many girlfriends to your parents? LOL. My parents would’ve circumsized you again. How many women you wan’ bring? It’s only 1 you need to marry…..
I could not stop laughing. I am a Black women raised in America by West Indian parents. I could not believe how much Gina's mother and my family were alike. Thanks Gina.
I was never hugged as a kid, but I know my parents loved me to death. I know how my mom comes to our bed after a tiring day for her and she fans us to sleep in the sweltering heat because there no electricity. I know how she comes with a lantern and keeps the mosquitoes that lands on our bodies. I know how she wrecked her health to make sure we were fed and went to school, she taught me how to read because the schools were not reliable and i know how she taught us to be upstanding individuals. She never told me i love you once ever and i dont expect her to say it, i know it. I am in my mid 40s now and i remember she hugged me for the very first time a few years ago. Now when she sees me, she hugs me but it is still awkward for me but i hug her back because now she needs it more than me. I am also ready to die for her. I hope that for the remaining years left for her, I will always be there and make her happy. She did this for 7 of us and we are eternally grateful.
This is sooo hilariously accurate. As a Nigerian-American man, engaged to a Latina, the bow is clutch. Two family events and a whole lot of bowing later, my fiancé is now my mother's favorite child 🤣!
My mom didn't start hugging me or saying I love you to me until she was hospitalized. Maybe something about that experience on top of her just being plain horrible to me growing up probably made her rethink her stance on showing affection.
I love Nigerian people. I have a counselor from Nigeria. She's such a great spirit! I have learned so much from her. Funny to hear this comedian talk about Nigerian mothers. There should be a handbook: About The Nigerian Mother.
When Nigerian mum says, “Mmmhmmm...” it's good. It's positive. You're safe, but don't let your guard down, it can all go arss-up any second now. Take it for what it is. And role with it.
If the mom hugged her back it seems like she respected the girl greeting her in the Nigerian way, therefore she'll step out of her comfort zone and allow her to show affection in the American way. The mom knows she either didn't know or forgot that Nigerians don't hug. Her daughter, on the other hand, would probably be expected to know since she's known her her whole life and has a better grasp on her comfort zone.
I love Gina.... the stories she tells remind me of when I was a kid. I grew up in an area of London with a lot of Nigerian folks and her take on things always makes me laugh or just beam ear to ear with memories!
Oh, Gina! This is my first time hearing you do stand-up. You are intensely funny! I love you on Bob heart Abishola, and your producer credit on that show! Keep prospering because you are amazingly talented. Nothing but love for you, sister,
From the moment her girlfriend did that courtesy to her mom I predicted everything else. I'm French with Cameroonian descent. Everything she said I can relate. Up to that sense of betrayal when your mom complements your white friend for been closer to our Cameroonian culture than you 😒
As a Nigerian-American, I can relate to the bit about coming out gay to her Nigerian mom because I had to come out atheist to my Nigerian family and it's a very similar nightmare!!lol
Yes and i also grew up in a household where hugs and kisses was non existent so now that im older my siblings and i we hug each other often and my mom feels left out and she is trying to hug us ever time we see her but it just feels akward and forceful...Poor lady
That's how I knew my mother loved my husband. She gave him some of her chocolate.... and she never shares her chocolate.... not even with my dad... For Christmas she sent my husband an image of a hoodie saying "My son is law is my favorite child" and wanted to know if he wanted it. He threw that in my face just like he did about the chocolate. Lol. I just rolled my 👀. 🤣🤣
Thanks to standup comedy, I can touch and feel cultures which I’d never get acquainted with! Thank you Gina! I’m from North, loved how bright and hilarious you are!
Did you actually grow up in Nigeria or did you spend your life being a lap 🐕 to a bunch of 👱🏻♂️ in Europe and mentally are. If the latter, you are not using “I am a Nigerian” correctly.
@@b1crusade384 awwn sweetness, i have never left Nigeria. Presently based in the motherland🇳🇬💞✨ with no intentions to live or die anywhere else. Next time, it would be nice to express somewgat offensive opinion in your chest, perhaps. Love and light darling♥️✨🌚. And yes, shout out to Gina, "Adupe Ma"🙏🔥
@@danbauchihauwa1231 Thanks for the correction. As for my comments appearing offensive, I make no apologies for someone who has Nigeria blood but seemed polluted by its enemies. Hold your breath waiting for an apology. It makes life easier for the rest of us 😆.
Love u guys, as a Bengali its creeping me out how much I related to this 😭, restricted career options (legit only engineers lawyer, doctor) no hugging, calling our uncles "uncle", bowing as a greeting to elders How is this possible? 💀
Gina is legend ; grew up in London watching her over the years ; I never once pay attention to her sexuality; she is as always beautiful and sooo funny 😁😁
That’s clever. The search on google to impress them in their own way is like saying “I know your culture and I appreciate it and this is how I pay respect to you”, what a queen.
I miss Gina Yashere. I grew up watching her in London. I wondered what happened to her, but she moved to NYC apparently. Good to see her again, and see she's happy and still has "it".
@@iyamugeorge5835 my parents are very traditional and despite me being in my early 30s one is over 70 and the other ell 0ver 80. So no its not that its that my parents were showed love in an affectionate way and or realised the lack of it wasn't going to be their portion.
My mum is black African too... she was so strict, I asked her once when I was young so do you love us (my siblings and I) she said I feed you don't I 😂😂😂😂
Sounds just like my African mum 🥹 I was 15 when I realised I had never been hugged, let alone told “I love you” but we didn’t grow up bad lols, mum took care of us, older generation of African parents aren’t very affectionate they didn’t grow up with that themselves so they’re put off by it 🤣…. But the one time I saw her hug one of my Caucasian best friends… I WAS FURIOUS 😤😳😡, in my mind I was like “this bitch is the one that badly influences me, AND YOU HUG FIRST BEFORE MEEEE!???” 🤦🏾♀️💀🤣 I was LIVID LOL. It legit hurt my lil teen heart💔, but I still love her very much and I know she loves my “disappointment of da family” ass 😂. I’m the rebel bisexual who’s madly in love with Women and also transitioned from Muslim to Christian so in an African house THAT is an automatic failure of the family title and I wear it with pride 🫡🤪🤣. But it’s all love anyways, I swear it’s funny being in an African family lols ❤
Same here, was hugged rarely and never told "I love you", but I knew I was loved by their actions, they are from a different generation and it was different back then.
Cultures may have their differences but "wtf, did my partner just become my parent's favorite child??" Is universal
This comment is blessed
Lol, I'm my mother-in-law's favorite child. She'll take my side over her son's any day.
I asked my mum 2 weeks ago if she's making her famous dish for xmas... without missing a bit she said.... nope! Her reason a certain ingredient she couldn't find. My husband asked her 2 days before Christmas (without knowing i had already asked her). On Christmas day she rocks up with it... and my husband was just smiling from ear to ear. My sister and I were speechless.
😂👍👍👍
Indeed. I think my Mom was more broken up over my brother's first breakup than he was. She even had a momentary relapse the first Christmas after it because she'd already bought his ex presents when it happened.
“Mom do you love us?
I LIKE ALL MY CHILDREN” 🤣😂🤣😂
I'd say that's a win.
Better than my mum XD
Mum: "I don't like children"
Us: *all laughing* And yet you had three?
Mum: *shrugs and stares at us harder*
The mom was like 'Love...? Don't push it, let's not get crazy here...' lol...
That’s a win - keep it movin’ 🤣🤣🤣
My mum has said this for years !!! 😂 She’s 🇯🇲 Jamaican !
The outrage over her mom hugging Nina back!!! 😂😂
"Stranger danger! You don't even know this b*tch!" 😂
vex 🤣🤣🤣
I’ve seen this story so many times and it still makes me howl. She paints a scene so well that I can picture the whole thing happening like a film!
😭😭😭 right
Oh I fuckibg died this is my first time seeing it. I was so hoping it would take the turns it did
Exactly
Raw talent
Ikr I actually saw this couple of years ago I think but I still love the story
"This white woman is a better Nigerian than you.". Haha, as the very American son of Cuban parents, I can relate to that shit.
Therapist here. This kind of thing actually happens a lot. Parents tend to have cultural conflicts with their kids, when their kids grow up in a country different than the parents. A lot of the time, this means that the parents will try to push their traditions on the kids, while the kids will sort of rebel and refuse to fully accept the parent's traditions in order to maintain their independence. However, when a new person is trying to get into the family, they usually want to make the best impression possible, so they typically try to follow the traditional rules as closely as possible. And for a parent who's spent their whole life worrying that their kids won't take their traditions seriously, seeing one of their kids' friends or partners lean into that tradition is a breath of fresh air. Because it shows the parents that the kids might come around to their traditions after all. 😌 It's nice - and as you can tell, it's usually hilarious!
Spaniards are white 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Nuyoricans and Italians are non-white 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Nuyoricans and Italians are non-white 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Yep. Dating the only son of Colombian parents with five sisters, I actually won them over because I knew enough Spanish to get by. Only one brother in law knew Spanish.
Im nigerian, the accuracy in this broo 😂🎯
"Men do a whole push up" 🎯😂
The accuracy 😂😂😂😂
Yoruba style
You mean Yoruba men
I did a lot of push up meeting my In-laws, though Nigeria based in Nigeria that push up part is alien to my tribe. I had to do it for my baby girl.
PS: Nigeria has more than 150 languages and tribes we all don't have same culture. It's strange to lay on the floor in my culture, rather you scout
@@josephokwute4830 Exactly. We don't do push-ups in South-South.
“This white woman is a better Nigerian than you!” I DIED.😂😂😂😂
haha 😂
Hilarious!
I’m married to a Nigerian man. He didn’t give me all the rules when we went to Nigeria for the first time together. I hugged his parents too 😂 😂 he told me later that he they don’t do hugs.
He then received the first memorable hug from his dad when we left Nigeria. Now we’re a family of huggers 😂
You did that 😁👏🏿
That’s beautiful!
So you were a positive influence? Nice!
The just needed you to start it for them 😉
I'm can imagine it's hard to imagine how nice a hug can be until someone you just met and really enjoy goes in for it out of pure emotion 🥰 affection can be contagious!
Nina said ‘she might like all her children but she will LOVE me!’
Really how is that going to happen when she is a Lesbian....is she going for rent a sperm. Can you imagine a kid waking up and seeing two women in bed kissing, one confused kid he,she will be.
@@goldenaye3 It’s not confusing at all kids aren’t stupid if you’re raised with two moms you know that that’s a possible family and that’s it. Just like how kids aren’t confused when others have only one parent they’re just told that’s their family and the adapt. Not complex at all
@@di7209 You must be lesbian, single, is single parent and not a kid waking up to see two women in bed kissing each other or one looking butch pretending to be a man or They. What perversion is the western world promoting
@@di7209 eh sounds like theyre confused, not we lol
@@goldenaye3I have bad news: kids up to a certain age are confused seeing Mom and Dad in bed kissing, too.
As a Nigerian they grew up in Nigeria, I can assure you that Nigerian parents don't show physical affection.😂😂. But we still know that our parents love us
Correct 💯
The last time my mom hugged me July 24th 1998. I was 16 years old and it was my graduation from secondary school. I will be 41 in January
@@micaholadapo2581 😂😂
I'm going to make an attempt to hug mine and see her reaction
Lol
This must be peculiar to Nigerians. Francophone Africans are more likely to kiss and embrace.
Bruh my dad started texting me that he loves me and I was scared he was dying
No matter your race, creed, religion, etc....this just shows, all parents will act different and clown tf outta you in front of complete strangers.😂😂😂
They LOVE it!
They get a kick out of it 😂
AWESOMELY HILARIOUS SHE IS SO FUNNY I LOVE 😘 NUBIAN QUEEN 👑💚😷💕🤗❤️
My friends love my parents like my parents were at all their weddings, my mom was like I was talking to Derrick today on the phone and I’m like “tf you talking to my friend on the phone you don’t even talk to me on the phone!”
Exactly 🤣🤣
I remember a time when my sister got my grandmother to say I love you back to her. I was absolutely livid! I questioned why she said it back, she said my sister seemed like she needed it. After that point, much to my grandmother‘s annoyance, I will tell her I love her. Firstly she would reply grudgingly I love you too, there are you happy? After a few months it became a really sweet I love you too.
When my mum heard this, she was livid. She demanded her mum tell her she loved her too. Spiralled into all of her children (my grown ass uncles and aunts) demanding to be told that they were loved too. It was hilarious and beautiful at the same time.
Gina have loved you forever ❤❤❤
This is great. "She demanded her mum tell her she loved her too". 'Mum 😡 tell me you love me 😡😡😡'
Yaaayyy healing
This has to be one of the funniest and most relatable stories ever. Most of us grew up being 'scared' of our parents. It was all a facade. They become softies as they age.
@@luckyigbomor4088 Aye, and not even biological parents. I'd never seen my foster mum cry all my life, not even when her 20+ year old Scottish Terrier passed. Then when I moved out, my social worker told me my foster mum was in tears and choking up.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Amen ooo
As a half German half Malian (West Africa) gay man, I sooo relate to that. Introducing a partner to my African family goes exactly like this!
Am I the only one that finds it sad you have to specify Mali is in West Africa? I thought that was obvious.
Aw that's sweet haha
@@gardenshed6043 I think a lot of people don’t know where Mali is lol
@@eddieisverygay7937 Really? I mean I can understand maybe mixing it up with a neighbouring country. That happens. But knowing the general area is sort of something I would assume most people know. Like hearing a European country and knowing if it’s more northern, southern, eastern or western. Might not be sure on the specifics. But should know a general area. Right?
@@gardenshed6043 I don’t really think the location of countries that aren’t SUPER well known is necessarily general knowledge, I only know where it is due to a country guesswork game. (also I’m american so i’m not sure how familiar other places would be with country locations)
I told my African Dad “I love you”
He said “thank you.”
I repeated it back to him a little louder “I LOVE YOU”
This man said “back to sender.”
Lol
🤣😂
🤣🤣
Return to sender! 🤣🤣🤣
I still hear that to this day!!!
😂😂
That’s sad why did he even have kids smh
Am a born Nigerian woman married a white man. I grew up greeting my dad on both knees. When I went back home with my children and saw mu dad, I went on my knees to greet him and my junior ones started laughing at me saying they don't do that anymore. I was angry at them. That's how we where raised but no hugging and no telling each other I love you and back. I taught my mother to say I love you. The first time she said I love you to me was very quick on the phone. She said it fast and hang the phone. I laughed. At the end of her days and months, she drove me mad with the word I love you. That's one of my sweet memories of my mum. I never got the chance to do the same with mu dad. Nigeria culture is changing fast. Thanks Gina. I always love watching you over the years my Nigeria sister ❤
Kenyan here and I can relate. There are many ways our parents show affection, hugging has never been one of them.
Kenya here agreeing. The first time my mom kinda hugged me was at the airport on my way to America. I could tell she was uncomfortable and so was I.
How do they show affection? :)
@@edible0pig typically with food (when i visit dad buys my childhood favorites, even though they haven't been favorites for years), giving you money you don't need (my mom still gives me 20 bucks when I go out with my friends) and bragging about what a great kid you are to family and friends (they won't tell you that you are great).
@@dimphodimplesmarata9456 Sounds delicious and lucrative!
@@edible0pig yeah the only drawback is until I'm married off they still consider me a child. I'm almost 32 and my dad still insists on picking me up or dropping me off at the bus stop... and he makes it a point to tell everyone that I'm his little baby (last born problems).
When someone with nothing in common with you can laugh at your jokes, you're an amazing comedian!
nothing in common? apart from being human?
Nothing in common.
Mmmm not even ability to speak English, walk, breathe, or..... being a human being. Nothing?????
That’s actually a good point.
It's so weird and hilarious how some people think White and Black people are 'opposite races' or that they are so different that it's out of this world amazing when they can relate 🙄. Like, people are not paint.
I think reply’s comments are really of a very narrow view. First people are jumping to conclusions about why this gentleman feels he has little in common with this person. A 48 year old, female, homosexual British raised, Nigerian person with strict parents who have a particular set of expectations may very well have little in common with this chap. Who knows where he’s from, what religion he may have been raised in. Perhaps he wasn’t raised religious at all. Over half of Nigeria is Muslim and nearly the entire population is religious. They would likely have a particular set of feelings regarding homosexuality. This might be very different from his experience. He could be a very different age. Age does affect experience. It has since the beginning of humanity and it always will. He’s male. Men and women have different life experiences. Non-binary people, intersex people and trans people have different experiences. That’s real life. If everyone in this world had the same experiences despite these things, whats all the hubbub? Why are women, trans, gay, intersex, minorities etc still fighting for full equality. Of course these people have different sets of experiences than the next. He might be straight. Straight and gay people have different experiences that can further be heavily influenced by country, culture, religion, age, education and socioeconomic standing. Does he also likely have some common ground? Yes. But he also realizes they have a lot difference. Who is anyone to insist those aspects are illusions or whatever? They are real differences. When I was young the whole “everyone is the same,” thing was all the rage. Then we got to a place where we accepted that people are different and that those differences are beautiful and should be embraced and celebrated. I was very glad for this as I didn’t appreciate my differences being treated like a third eye it would be rude to pay attention to. Please tell me we have not circled back around.
This is so true! I did this same thing with my English girlfriend to my two elderly Jamaican grandparents, and I was pleasantly shocked at how much they welcomed her. I never underestimated them again.
This is the first accurate description of a typical Nigerian household.... every single mention is on point 😂😂😂
You should watch the sitcom she’s on. It’s basically this. It’s perfection
@@xxprettylittlethings What one? I've seen her on panel shows in the UK before but I didn't know she moved to the US!
@@CM_CM_ Bob Hearts Abishola
@@xxprettylittlethings Thank you! I'll check it out
"You are telling me my daughter is a Gay Clown" 😂😂
"I like all of my children!" 🤣
Lmaooooo
Hysterical 😅
So true!
Right🙌🏾🤣🤣🤣
The word love is used less in Nigeria because it's perceived to have "dirty" connotations. Hence, like comes to the rescue!
I adore Gina and have for years. She's so funny and clever. I always feel sad that she left Britain to go to America but our loss is most certainly their gain.
Agreed. I feel sad that she is not celebrated by the British people and Nigerians.......
That’s so sad to hear that. It’s unfortunate. I’m a Caribbean immigrant in the US and our community absolutely love her. I think the same is true for Trevor Noah from South Africa.
@@liona1657 Who said she's not celebrated by Nigerians?
She’s hit the ceiling in the UK. She worked with the BBC and ITV being ambitious she wanted more but there was no more in the UK. Has nothing to do with race or lack of appreciation. Many British talent leave the UK for America. The UK is a small island so theres a limit to success. The US is massive. Even David Beckham left and football (soccer) isn’t even that popular in America yet the pay check was higher😂
Keep your 🗑. Take the heifer back.
LMFAO!!! That part about her mom talking through the plot of the Nigerian movie. I'm a Nigerian American and my mother does THE EXACT SAME THING!!! hahaha!!!!
Listen....I think all black people do that...
@@jacquelinemarshall3694 Now this might be true.
@@jacquelinemarshall3694 Ingrained in our DNA lol! Especially a horror movie! 'Don't go in there, the killer is in there! Ooo, b*&$&, I told you not to go in there!' 😆
Well, I don't want to mess up your worldview, but I'm a German mother and I do it the same way...🙈🤭😄
It's also clear that when the children are young, in the first eight years, you explain the film to them, and in the 50 years after that you just can't stop...😅
There’s no other way to watch Nollywood though 😂😂😂
I love Gina so much. As a child of African parents I can relate. My dad wore his heart on his sleeves. He was strict but always told us know much he loved us. My mum, she's a different story. No need to explain. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So your mum's response to "do you love us?" would be something like, "you're still here, aren't you?"
@@salaltschul3604 EXACTLY!!! 💯 🤣😂🤣😂 All in all we know she loves us. ❤️❤️❤️
I love her too ❤! Love from U.K.! British Nigerian x
haha 😆
South African here, I never understood why parents wouldn’t be affectionate to their children, my mother, my grandmother, the rest of my family are all affectionate. Living among Nigerians in London I used to find it shocking when my daughter tells me that her friends aren’t affectionate with their parents. I’m a big hugger. When my children are sad, not well or even just being in each other’s company I just hug them.
! One of the best things about hugging as a parent is that it helps when you are regulating your children’s emotions.
A hug is like a love medicine to your little ones, soothing and comforting.
A lot of parents thinks it makes their kids stronger and smarter
Exactly. Hugs are amazing.
I was never hugged as a kid, but I know my parents loved me to death. I know how my mom comes to our bed after a tiring day for her and she fans us to sleep in the sweltering heat because there no electricity. I know how she comes with a lantern and keeps the mosquitoes that lands on our bodies. I know how she wrecked her health to make sure we were fed and went to school, she taught me how to read because the schools were not reliable and i know how she taught us to be upstanding individuals. She never told me i love you once ever and i dont expect her to say it, i know it. I am in my mid 40s now and i remember she hugged me for the very first time a few years ago. Now when she sees me, she hugs me but it is still awkward for me but i hug her back because now she needs it more than me. I am also ready to die for her. I hope that for the remaining years left for her, I will always be there and make her happy. She did this for 7 of us and we are eternally grateful.
The time my dad hugged me was when cameroon scored against Maradonna's Argentina during Italy 90....the legacy he left showed his love for us , more than any hug will ever do...thanks dad 🤣
Just about spat out my coffee when she said stranger danger to mama
This really reminds me of meeting my ex-girlfriend's parents. We got pretty close and her mom would hug me. My ex would say that even her mom doesn't hug her. But the same thing happened when my parents hugged her but not me! Lol
"You see this, Gina? This white Woman is a better Nigerian than you. Look at her. LOOK AT HER!" 😂😂😂
@@madisynissaquah243 4:18 :/
@@madisynissaquah243 believe me, using your ears isn't as hard as you think.
@@hombojimbo 😂😂😂
In Nigerian culture, there is less of a distinction between in-laws and family. So, in Gina's mum's mind, Nina is her future daughter and she has to pamper her accordingly. I'm Nigerian-American and all my girlfriends were similarly pampered when introduced to my family:)
My parents are from the same village. Their families speak the same language. I legit don't know the difference between my relatives from my mom and dad's families. Just realised it might be different for other people.
THE TRUTH IS THAT NIGERIAN PARENTS BELIEVE "DO UNTO STRANGERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE YOUR OWN CHILDREN TO BE TREATED IN ANY FOREIGN LAND"
Nina at that environment was like queen's arrival
That’s lovely.
Your Nigerian and you introduced many girlfriends to your parents? LOL. My parents would’ve circumsized you again. How many women you wan’ bring? It’s only 1 you need to marry…..
Wow that is so sweet
This is a beautiful story of love and acceptance. My heart is warmed by it
I could not stop laughing. I am a Black women raised in America by West Indian parents. I could not believe how much Gina's mother and my family were alike. Thanks Gina.
As a Vietnamese, I weirdly related so much to the auntie, uncle bits. It took me years to know my relatives' names.
Korean American here, and seriously -- I'm 46 and I still don't know the "adult" relatives' names.
Gina Yashere is so funny as Kemi on ‘Bob ❤️’s Abishola’ Her character is a SCREAM! She is also a writer & Executive Producer on the show, it’s great
I was never hugged as a kid, but I know my parents loved me to death. I know how my mom comes to our bed after a tiring day for her and she fans us to sleep in the sweltering heat because there no electricity. I know how she comes with a lantern and keeps the mosquitoes that lands on our bodies. I know how she wrecked her health to make sure we were fed and went to school, she taught me how to read because the schools were not reliable and i know how she taught us to be upstanding individuals. She never told me i love you once ever and i dont expect her to say it, i know it. I am in my mid 40s now and i remember she hugged me for the very first time a few years ago. Now when she sees me, she hugs me but it is still awkward for me but i hug her back because now she needs it more than me. I am also ready to die for her. I hope that for the remaining years left for her, I will always be there and make her happy. She did this for 7 of us and we are eternally grateful.
This is sooo hilariously accurate. As a Nigerian-American man, engaged to a Latina, the bow is clutch. Two family events and a whole lot of bowing later, my fiancé is now my mother's favorite child 🤣!
Sounds like Nina’s a keeper! 😂
They're still together after many years 😄😄
Stranger danger
@@anz10that’s the funniest, most wholesome part!!!!
My mom didn't start hugging me or saying I love you to me until she was hospitalized. Maybe something about that experience on top of her just being plain horrible to me growing up probably made her rethink her stance on showing affection.
I love Nigerian people. I have a counselor from Nigeria. She's such a great spirit! I have learned so much from her. Funny to hear this comedian talk about Nigerian mothers. There should be a handbook: About The Nigerian Mother.
When Nigerian mum says, “Mmmhmmm...” it's good. It's positive. You're safe, but don't let your guard down, it can all go arss-up any second now. Take it for what it is. And role with it.
If the mom hugged her back it seems like she respected the girl greeting her in the Nigerian way, therefore she'll step out of her comfort zone and allow her to show affection in the American way. The mom knows she either didn't know or forgot that Nigerians don't hug. Her daughter, on the other hand, would probably be expected to know since she's known her her whole life and has a better grasp on her comfort zone.
Oh my!!! Nigerians hug.
Nigerians hug.
Nigerians hug, some parents were not hugged so don’t hug but once you teach them to hug they love it.
I’m Nigerian-American and I am a doctor. Lol. My parent’s dream!
This is so funny and so true, and I speak as a British Nigerian!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m from Nigeria and she ain’t lying at all. She rocks cos she makes it funny:)))
"stranger danger, you don't even know this b*tch" lmao 🤣🤣
My goodness, I'm old. I remember young Gina when she started out in the UK back in the late 90s. Good on ya, Gina 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I love Gina.... the stories she tells remind me of when I was a kid. I grew up in an area of London with a lot of Nigerian folks and her take on things always makes me laugh or just beam ear to ear with memories!
Oh, Gina! This is my first time hearing you do stand-up. You are intensely funny! I love you on Bob heart Abishola, and your producer credit on that show! Keep prospering because you are amazingly talented. Nothing but love for you, sister,
Her whole set was great...she looked great and sounded amazing. Laughed so hard with that damn bow
This is so hilarious and true of nigerian parents being a Nigerian🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬
“I like all of my children” Lol something my mom would say so you’re definitely not alone
The auntie/uncle/mum's name/no hugging thing is also prevalent in my culture 😂 I keep coming back to Gina Yashere!
It is funny how my Mami did not even know she was of Nigerian descent until recently, but the culture was still so evident in her.
From the moment her girlfriend did that courtesy to her mom I predicted everything else. I'm French with Cameroonian descent. Everything she said I can relate. Up to that sense of betrayal when your mom complements your white friend for been closer to our Cameroonian culture than you 😒
As a Nigerian-American, I can relate to the bit about coming out gay to her Nigerian mom because I had to come out atheist to my Nigerian family and it's a very similar nightmare!!lol
We call that "double wahala" 😂 but not funny sha
@@sundaykigbu1876 Haha! Agreed. They nearly disowned me. "What do you mean you don't believe in God"?!!!! Lol
Wow… and they let you live to tell about this? 😰😮💨
@@oluwaremilekunbell6159 you will eventually find out 👺👹🔥
@@simonsez1787 IKR? We'll see if I'm in the will or not later:) lol
Gina cracks me up. She’s a great story teller.
I love her, I'm glad I stumbled across her work,
Yes and i also grew up in a household where hugs and kisses was non existent so now that im older my siblings and i we hug each other often and my mom feels left out and she is trying to hug us ever time we see her but it just feels akward and forceful...Poor lady
I can relate with the aunty and uncle greetings 😂😂😂
It's the accent the makes it better. ❤️
First girl I ever brought home my freshman year of college, my dad started referring to her as the Good Son and me as the Other Son.
"My daughter is a gay clown" 😹😹
You just described my mum! I've seen her physically recoil from human touch. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hysterical!!! 🤣🤣🤣 First time watching Gina. What a hoot!
"I didn't know my mother's name till yesterday" 😅🤣😂🤣😅🤣😂🤣😆
😅
I am proudly Nigerian, this is an amazing story lol
That was such an amazing opportunity for a punch line she could’ve taken us from laughing standing up to on the floor
That's how I knew my mother loved my husband. She gave him some of her chocolate.... and she never shares her chocolate.... not even with my dad... For Christmas she sent my husband an image of a hoodie saying "My son is law is my favorite child" and wanted to know if he wanted it. He threw that in my face just like he did about the chocolate. Lol. I just rolled my 👀. 🤣🤣
Gina Yarshra, you are the best. Glad I found this. Thank you for sharing.
First time seeing this comedian... Loved it... 😂😂
Gina is amazing. I love all of her standup routines. She is just so funny!!
She is so funny and talented!
This is so funny. I laughed through the whole set. Incredible😂😂😂
Lol african parents are the best. Loved this🤣🤣 she's hilarious
Gina Yashere is definitely a very funny comedian! Love her!
I love how in every language screaming "SHIT!!!" transcends accents, lol.
Thanks to standup comedy, I can touch and feel cultures which I’d never get acquainted with! Thank you Gina! I’m from North, loved how bright and hilarious you are!
I love this chick, so hilarious🤣🤣🤣 I have tears from laughing!!
Always love to hear this story again! 😂
I've never heard of this lady but she's really funny.
Look up her routine about Air Cubana. I was in pain from laughing!
I'm so Nigerian and i can relate🤣🌚. Much love🇳🇬💞🌈
Did you actually grow up in Nigeria or did you spend your life being a lap 🐕 to a bunch of 👱🏻♂️ in Europe and mentally are. If the latter, you are not using “I am a Nigerian” correctly.
@@b1crusade384 awwn sweetness, i have never left Nigeria. Presently based in the motherland🇳🇬💞✨ with no intentions to live or die anywhere else. Next time, it would be nice to express somewgat offensive opinion in your chest, perhaps. Love and light darling♥️✨🌚. And yes, shout out to Gina, "Adupe Ma"🙏🔥
@@danbauchihauwa1231 Thanks for the correction. As for my comments appearing offensive, I make no apologies for someone who has Nigeria blood but seemed polluted by its enemies. Hold your breath waiting for an apology. It makes life easier for the rest of us 😆.
@@b1crusade384 by all means darling😘
Love u guys, as a Bengali its creeping me out how much I related to this 😭, restricted career options (legit only engineers lawyer, doctor) no hugging, calling our uncles "uncle", bowing as a greeting to elders
How is this possible? 💀
This is so funny. Also, Nigerian movies are awesome. Y'all have a great film industry
Thank you for noticing!😅
Gina is legend ; grew up in London watching her over the years ; I never once pay attention to her sexuality; she is as always beautiful and sooo funny 😁😁
I adore Gina! I love this routine!!
That’s clever. The search on google to impress them in their own way is like saying “I know your culture and I appreciate it and this is how I pay respect to you”, what a queen.
😆 I love this. I love Nigerian culture and their spirit. 💜
Nigerian mothers are indeed an experience that makes life interesting. I have one at home myself.😂
“Mum you don’t even know this woman! Stranger danger! You don’t even know this bitch!” Oh my god I’m cracking up. She’s so funny
I miss Gina Yashere. I grew up watching her in London. I wondered what happened to her, but she moved to NYC apparently. Good to see her again, and see she's happy and still has "it".
I haven’t seen a standup that had me laughing straight through in a long time, this was hilarious 😂💯💯💯💯💯💪🏾
Wow! What a very funny and talented comedian!! Thoroughly enjoyed her set.👍❤
She's hilarious!!! Congrats on the success (and the hugs). :)
When Gina mentioned the careers Nigerian parents approve of, she forgot to mention 'pharmacist'.
If you can’t be a doctor.. you must be a pharmacist 📌
And accountant too 😄
@@Ra_dia Nigerian parents here actually means "upper middle class Nigerian parents". So teacher isn't on the list
@Leslie A Nah, Nigerian teachers are hungry.
@@luckyigbomor4088 i swear ooooo 😂😂😂🤣
Not all Nigerian parents lack affection. My mum, brothers and sister cant help but say I live you ten trillion times a day.
You must be adopted 😂
Your parents have new generational parents. They have been watching Hollywood for a long time
@@iyamugeorge5835 my parents are very traditional and despite me being in my early 30s one is over 70 and the other ell 0ver 80. So no its not that its that my parents were showed love in an affectionate way and or realised the lack of it wasn't going to be their portion.
My mum is black African too... she was so strict, I asked her once when I was young so do you love us (my siblings and I) she said I feed you don't I 😂😂😂😂
That’s how so many parents feel😅😅😅 what’s with this touchy feely white people mess.
I need to watch this comedy set! SO GOOD!
Sounds just like my African mum 🥹 I was 15 when I realised I had never been hugged, let alone told “I love you” but we didn’t grow up bad lols, mum took care of us, older generation of African parents aren’t very affectionate they didn’t grow up with that themselves so they’re put off by it 🤣…. But the one time I saw her hug one of my Caucasian best friends… I WAS FURIOUS 😤😳😡, in my mind I was like “this bitch is the one that badly influences me, AND YOU HUG FIRST BEFORE MEEEE!???” 🤦🏾♀️💀🤣 I was LIVID LOL. It legit hurt my lil teen heart💔, but I still love her very much and I know she loves my “disappointment of da family” ass 😂.
I’m the rebel bisexual who’s madly in love with Women and also transitioned from Muslim to Christian so in an African house THAT is an automatic failure of the family title and I wear it with pride 🫡🤪🤣. But it’s all love anyways, I swear it’s funny being in an African family lols ❤
Same here, was hugged rarely and never told "I love you", but I knew I was loved by their actions, they are from a different generation and it was different back then.
This lady is brilliant, I could visualise her mum sitting on the sofa with Nina, hilarious.
That's a pretty wholesome story actually made me smile 😊😆
I'm so proud of our various cultures here in Nigeria