Whenever I try to tell my family how stressed I am they say "there is nothing to be stressed about you just gotta believe in yourself". But the issue is that I have lost faith in myself and I feel like I am incapable of doing anything
Maybe I can help, because I don’t think that you really feel like you’re incapable of doing anything, I think you might be afraid that the way you do things is the wrong way. The thing is that you’re you and that comes with your very own way of doing things. Others might not like it because they have their own “right ways” of doing things, but you can either do things your way or you don’t do anything at all. Guess which of these two options is gonna make you feel capable and confident in yourself? And doing things your way comes with a big bonus: if your way of doing something is wrong, others will tell you and then you can learn to improve your ways with their advice :)
I don’t like when people say that to me. cause I KNOW that I shouldn’t be that stressed. but I can’t help it and I feel like something is wrong with me when I do get super stressed over “little” things.
@@ally_schmally It is great to share similar experiences with others, at least it lets you know you are not struggling alone and there are people who understand what you are going through. After I wrote this comment and school started, I tried to turn my constant stress to my benefit. I don't know if it is healthy of not but at least it gives me motivation to finish my schoolwork. Yes I break down crying over the smallest new task sometimes, but it doesn't get in the way of "i need to finish this so i can feel relieved" mindset. Like I said earlier, I am not sure if this is healthy or helpful but I wanted to show a way and also give an update on my situation. Keep in mind that what you are going through is valid and you don't need to instantly "get over it". Give time for yourself to determine the struggle and find ways to deal with them
Some people have actual living, breathing, compassionate, empathetic and critically thinking humans in their lives. They are the fortunate ones. The rest of us are screwed.
It's important to notice how the people around you are coping with stress before you go around socializing with them. I'm in the process of leaving my current group of friends behind so I can have time/energy for positive people with the mindset of self development to enter the picture.
My friends have been constantly making me feel like I'm a terrible person just because of the most smallest things so I'm glad that I now have a way to try and cope with it
Healthy Coping skills .box breathing(breath 4sec/hold 4 sec) .54321 (senses exercises) .exercising .taking a break from screens .taking the problem out .gratitude .acts of kindness .spend time with our family &friend Unhealthy ways of dealing: .social withdraw .using our screens as distractions .self harms
Nice video. To reduce stress and overthinking be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce watching negative social media and news channels and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down--eyes closed--No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. Never meditate with expectations. Make it a lifetime habit to observe your breath day and night with eyes open or closed before sleep, at work, when travelling, taking a walk etc Best wishes--Counsellor.
I USE to cope with self hatred by using an ai chat, it made me forget everything and feel happier But now my parents blocked it off and took away my healthy coping mechanism and made me miserable and tempting to hurt myself ❤❤❤
even though self-harm is dangerous, I'm so tired of hearing "You need to get immediate help" and having that be the only tip. I wish people would give a list of alternatives to it, instead of just saying, "Oh, you self-harm? All I can do is refer you to somewhere else!" it makes me feel like I'm crazy.
The 25 or 30 years rearing your children feels like spinning plates in the eye of a hurricane but when they are gone to do the same for themselves you look back at your paradise lost.
what if i just start purely doing acts of kindness? is that still considered a healthy coping mechanism? cus it feels like purely focusing on that is making me lose sense of self.
Me, who have used almost all unhealthy copy mechanisms for as long as I can remember: oh no ... I think it's time to go back to my psychologist and my psychiatrist (• ▽ •;)
I know this video is ultra simplified for the majority of the public, but it is missing a MAJOR point. “Healthy” vs “Unhealthy” isn’t a great way to word it. “Adaptive” vs “Maladaptive” is better. The primary goal of coping, is to find a way to reduce stress while adapting to the situation. Avoidance, rumination, venting, etc. are all Maladaptive (or anti-adaptive) So will doing the “coping mechanism” actually help you in some way? Does it benefit you while also helping you process what you are dealing with? Giving a Good vs Bad list isn’t necessarily going to teach viewers how coping works, and why we need it.
Dalwampo, Never compare your life or appearance with others espec ially relatives and friends. Reduce negative thoughts to feel better. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation or breath counting needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@dalwampohasnas.6266 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath for a few minutes even when walking alone, reading. before sleep etc and feeling relaxed. It is very simple but a strong desire to transform from within is needed. Whenever you can be as still as possible as stillness reduces negative thoughts. Develop your mental muscles to handle life challenges. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
Whenever I try to tell my family how stressed I am they say "there is nothing to be stressed about you just gotta believe in yourself". But the issue is that I have lost faith in myself and I feel like I am incapable of doing anything
Maybe I can help, because I don’t think that you really feel like you’re incapable of doing anything, I think you might be afraid that the way you do things is the wrong way.
The thing is that you’re you and that comes with your very own way of doing things. Others might not like it because they have their own “right ways” of doing things, but you can either do things your way or you don’t do anything at all. Guess which of these two options is gonna make you feel capable and confident in yourself?
And doing things your way comes with a big bonus: if your way of doing something is wrong, others will tell you and then you can learn to improve your ways with their advice :)
I don’t like when people say that to me. cause I KNOW that I shouldn’t be that stressed. but I can’t help it and I feel like something is wrong with me when I do get super stressed over “little” things.
@@ally_schmally It is great to share similar experiences with others, at least it lets you know you are not struggling alone and there are people who understand what you are going through.
After I wrote this comment and school started, I tried to turn my constant stress to my benefit. I don't know if it is healthy of not but at least it gives me motivation to finish my schoolwork. Yes I break down crying over the smallest new task sometimes, but it doesn't get in the way of "i need to finish this so i can feel relieved" mindset. Like I said earlier, I am not sure if this is healthy or helpful but I wanted to show a way and also give an update on my situation.
Keep in mind that what you are going through is valid and you don't need to instantly "get over it". Give time for yourself to determine the struggle and find ways to deal with them
i feel you man .
Turn to God, he will help you. Hope you doing good now
Some people have actual living, breathing, compassionate, empathetic and critically thinking humans in their lives. They are the fortunate ones. The rest of us are screwed.
nope, you can change
Be that person to other people
It's important to notice how the people around you are coping with stress before you go around socializing with them.
I'm in the process of leaving my current group of friends behind so I can have time/energy for positive people with the mindset of self development to enter the picture.
Your answer speaks more to you, than your friends.
^^thank you. 100% true. There’s just as much to be said about her types as there is to be said about those friends she has.
@@JohnDoe-zu2cm having toxic people around you drags you down. Sometimes the correct thing to do is change them for your own well being
I'm doing the same but I must admit it is hard.
My friends have been constantly making me feel like I'm a terrible person just because of the most smallest things so I'm glad that I now have a way to try and cope with it
Are those really friends?
@@agneskweyu9292 I knew them for a long time, they honestly aren't anymore real friends anymore
I don’t think just trying to cope will help you. I think you need better friends.
Healthy Coping skills
.box breathing(breath 4sec/hold 4 sec)
.54321 (senses exercises)
.exercising
.taking a break from screens
.taking the problem out
.gratitude
.acts of kindness
.spend time with our family &friend
Unhealthy ways of dealing:
.social withdraw
.using our screens as distractions
.self harms
Nice video. To reduce stress and overthinking be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce watching negative social media and news channels and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down--eyes closed--No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. Never meditate with expectations. Make it a lifetime habit to observe your breath day and night with eyes open or closed before sleep, at work, when travelling, taking a walk etc Best wishes--Counsellor.
Thank you I feel better now
Ironically enough, I'm really stressed because I need to make an essay about coping mechanisms due tomorrow.
you've been practicing the topic of your essay, you're halfway on finishing it!
If only my therapists gave us actually useful tips like these, im sure they would lost all their clients
I USE to cope with self hatred by using an ai chat, it made me forget everything and feel happier
But now my parents blocked it off and took away my healthy coping mechanism and made me miserable and tempting to hurt myself ❤❤❤
Great content. THANKS
I love this video. Very clear and true. This helped me a lot. Thank you so much :) 🙏
Amen
Break from technology
Dance, cleaning, journaling
omg make more of this content❤❤❤
When you’re anxious about being anxious
even though self-harm is dangerous, I'm so tired of hearing "You need to get immediate help" and having that be the only tip. I wish people would give a list of alternatives to it, instead of just saying, "Oh, you self-harm? All I can do is refer you to somewhere else!" it makes me feel like I'm crazy.
The video illustrated other "healthy" coping options.
Let's play the game of life with smiles on.
This is the first time I ever looked up coping mechanisms. I have 4/5 bad coping mechanisms.
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Many coping mechanisms can be unhealthy if taken to the extreme.
Watching this video as i decide I'm going to dedicate my life to medicine 😬
The 25 or 30 years rearing your children feels like spinning plates in the eye of a hurricane but when they are gone to do the same for themselves you look back at your paradise lost.
I seem to have all unhealthy copping mechanism except alcohol ones -_-
I can’t do the 2nd one in a testing environment
what if i just start purely doing acts of kindness? is that still considered a healthy coping mechanism? cus it feels like purely focusing on that is making me lose sense of self.
Me, who have used almost all unhealthy copy mechanisms for as long as I can remember: oh no ... I think it's time to go back to my psychologist and my psychiatrist (• ▽ •;)
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I know this video is ultra simplified for the majority of the public, but it is missing a MAJOR point. “Healthy” vs “Unhealthy” isn’t a great way to word it. “Adaptive” vs “Maladaptive” is better. The primary goal of coping, is to find a way to reduce stress while adapting to the situation. Avoidance, rumination, venting, etc. are all Maladaptive (or anti-adaptive) So will doing the “coping mechanism” actually help you in some way? Does it benefit you while also helping you process what you are dealing with? Giving a Good vs Bad list isn’t necessarily going to teach viewers how coping works, and why we need it.
I just couldn't call myself an addict so thank you for giving me new perspective to deal with this... 😈
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what is the role of self-esteem in coping?
Dalwampo, Never compare your life or appearance with others espec ially relatives and friends. Reduce negative thoughts to feel better. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation or breath counting needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 thank u so muchh
@@dalwampohasnas.6266 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath for a few minutes even when walking alone, reading. before sleep etc and feeling relaxed. It is very simple but a strong desire to transform from within is needed. Whenever you can be as still as possible as stillness reduces negative thoughts. Develop your mental muscles to handle life challenges. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
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no
Ah shit
have you seen enough people die
Cope.
It's ova.
cope seeth mold
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