Growing Up the Ugly Friend...
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- Опубликовано: 15 май 2024
- Growing up the ugly friend sucks. It totally ruins your self esteem, confidence, and makes it hard to love yourself. I hope you enjoy today's video where we talk all about loving yourself, glowing up and self worth. Here's to healing our inner childhood trauma and learning to love ourselves!! xo -Alisha Marie
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Comment below something you LOVE about yourself!! 💕
MY CURLY HAIRRRRR❤
MY CURVESSSSS❤
MY NOSEEEE❤
MY HAZEL EYESSSS❤
one of the thing that i love about myself is my comebacks (if you hurt my feeling i will do the same sorry not sorry😉)
my blue eyes!!
My hair, and written creativity
My smile even though I don’t smile much in pictures anymore
Can we just take a moment to appreciate Alisha for giving us a fee therapy session. She had to go through this to let us know how to deal with it so we don’t feel the way she did. An underrated queen
LOVE THIS COMMENT!! 🤍
i love you this meant so much!!
All her “therapy” talk is so generic
@@eyesofivyeasy fix don’t watch her videos then☠️
Alisha, im going to cry (in the good way i promise). I really needed to hear that. “Just because someone has something you don’t doesnt make you less than.” Ive been struggling so much lately and I think i needed to remind myself that I am more than okay just the way I am.
i came across this after a super bad mental health day, and it’s safe to say i feel way better than i did 16 minutes ago.
i love my smile, my laugh, and my sense of humor.
I love this vibe Alisha, it’s so comforting 🥲
omg so glad you like it!!
Its so funny that you uploaded this video because all of this past days I’ve been thinking on how much “being the ugly friend” has effected me , not only it has effected me in my confidence, insecurities, but also in my life decisions and life overall. It was genuinely nice to hear you talk and describe this topic so well and feeling understood. Your my favorite RUclipsr and you will always be my favorite and my inspiration. 🫶🏻❤️
The way I relate to this is overwhelming❤
It feels good to not feel alone about this 💗
I don’t normally comment, but this video hit me somewhere that I didn’t expect and really spoke to me. Thank you for posting this, Alisha!!
The negative internal talk is the worst.. you don’t even realize how much you break yourself down and screw with your own perception of yourself.. thank you for sharing that you deal with these struggles as well and that we aren’t the only ones going through this and dealing with traumatic things from our childhood ❤️❤️
this is the type of content i love in youtube, it makes me feel so seen! i’m so glad i found alisha 9 years ago and still is my fav youtuber, we’ve been through so much but seeing you grow physically and most importantly MENTALLY makes me so happy and proud of you💘
I was always made fun of for being short. I would get really down about it. I talked to my mom a lot who is only 5ft tall. She had so much good advice for me. When someone makes fun of you for being short just respond back with “thanks you! You’re soooo tall!” Like what the world am I supposed to do about it. We are all made differently!
I’m so impressed be how Alicia is really digging in and getting to really grow within herself. I was abused physically and emotionally as a child for 10 years by 4 family members and till this day I still have problems. It’s almost like I’m stuck as that little girl. And no matter what, I can’t not forget. But the best thing I know about myself is “I’m trying “ and as a 53 year old I’ve made so many mistakes with friends and family. I have a 23 year old son and I have to be honest, I thank God everyday for his father, and my family because I couldn’t get out of bed. I couldn’t be the mother that I
Wanted to be because of my past. I was afraid to change his diaper, give him a bath, see him naked because I thought I was doing something wrong. But I realize now that it wasn’t me, it was my past. I would never have hurt him in any way. It stopped with this generation. No more ! I eventually started to to finally be a mother after my last attempt At suicide, his friends asked him why I tried to kill myself and he didn’t go to school or go outside at all. At that moment, I realized that I’m a mother and I will not let my son become depressed or anxious, and have to live that way. I finally talked to him at the age of 12 about my life. And I was completely honest about it. He was an older 12 year old. And he came to me at the age of 21 and ask me why I was not a good mom to him. So I talked to him again and let him know it had nothing to do with him at all. It was completely me, and what I went through. It was my fault. He grew up to be such an amazing man and I give most of the credit to his dad. His dad did everything he could to teach him to be the man he is today. I did have a lot to do with him growing up and gave him the best advice and be there for him. So I did have a little to do with him growing up. We take vacations together and go places together to get to know each other. And it’s been the best thing in my life to get to know what an incredible man, respectful, spiritual and hard working man he has turned into. He is such a loving human being. I just don’t know now what I would do without him. He is truly my life. It just took him to become a man for me to realize what I missed in his life. But like I said I’m getting better and I work on myself everyday! Thank you for your pod cast and I really hope you keep doing it. You my love have come so far in your life and you were and always will be a beautiful woman inside and out!
As impressive as it is, I'm more impressed by how you managed to misspell her name despite it being her channel name and written in the description.
thank you for sharing your story with us! i wish you, your son and your family all the best
@@hannahwalmer1124what an asshole comment.
Wow this just inspired me. Thank you for being so open!
It’s crazy how we always try to break the cycle with our kids but somehow ended up falling short and traumatizing them a different way
I remember someone said “just because someone else is beautiful doesn’t mean you’re not.” That stuck with me ever since.
The way this whole video felt like I was talking to my best friend about insecurities, or talking to a sister. This felt really warm and personal and it made me smile a lot to see how far you have grown Alisha❤
I love how sensitive I am. It's something I've always been insecure about and people have told me that I'm too much for them to handle. But I've tried to start and see it as a positive thing rather than negative. I love that I'm able to feel as deeply as I do and no matter how overwhelming it gets sometimes, I think its beautiful.
This video really made me cry 😭 as someone who just entered college and is currently recovering from both Body dysmporphic disorder and an eating disorder this video really hit home. Something my therapist taught me is that at the end of the day you are making yourself your worst enemy when in fact u should be the one that's always there for you, u have to live with yourself and if you can't accept yourself that journey becomes 10 times harder. Something I have started to do now is every time I put on makeup or a cute outfit I ask myself if it's truly for me and not for some external validation. Anyway Love this series 🫡🫡🫡🩷🩷🩷
YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW RELATABLE I FEEL TO THIS VIDEO. THIS ONE HITS HOME😢 THANK YOU FOR SHARING IT MADE ME FEEL LESS LONELY❤❤❤
I really like this vibe, it's really comforting. Also, one thing I like about myself is how creative I can be at times. Now, do I take from some things that were done in the past? Sure. But I make it my own. And I have a ton of ideas in my head to where it's kinda overwhelming.
Thank you so much Alisha! I have been feeling like “the ugly friend” and it has really made me feel less then others. Thank you for making this video and helping me see I am not alone. 💗
I once saw an interview with Audrey Hepburn where she was talking about how much she’d always hated her appearance and she couldn’t name one thing she liked about it… it’s in the documentary about her that’s here on RUclips. I couldn’t believe my ears hearing her actually saying that she thought she was ugly considering she’s looked upon as the standard of beauty… even to this day! Goes to show you how relatable this video is to everyone - people you’d never even consider included I think 🖤
Thank you so much for this Alisha. I also feel like I was the "ugly friend" in primary school and early high school. I really needed to hear this. Anyone who is reading this, you are so beautiful, don't ever change for anyone 🤍
I have been feeling this way my entire life (I’m 21 now) and hearing this from you now is just so helpful and something I need to hear and wish my younger self could hear. Thank you!
You have no idea how much people need to hear this! For me personally, I feel like turning 25 has put me in a huge transitional period of figuring out who I am and what I want and deserve out of life. And I didn't realize how much my lack of confidence was hindering me from simply enjoying living and being alive. It can be really difficult to grow out of those self-deprecating habits but I really hope I, and anyone else who's struggling, continue down a road of truly loving myself/yourself and life.
I really needed this. Ive been feeling so insecure & am constantly comparing myself to others and I’ve been trying to figure out why I do that. This just really helped me see I’m not alone & that I need to love my self/be confident
I literally love these sit down videos they feel like therapy!
This video hits so close to home for me and I really needed to hear it today. I have been following you for almost 10 years now and I feel like I have grown up with you (I'm almost 20 now). Something I love about myself is my empathetic personality.
The fact you’re telling us all this and putting it out there showing us that we aren’t as alone as we think we are.
Thank you for sharing this.
Thanks for healing wounds you never caused ✨
I LOVEDD THIS! I was always the ugly best friend growing up too and it definitely made me lean on being funny and develop a personality I really love but that deep seeded insecurity and jealousy toward other women took half of my twenties to unlearn. I would have changed so many things about myself then and I am so glad I didn’t. I swear EVERYONE looks exactly the same in LA EXCEPT for Alisha and her friend group and I just feel like it is so important and healthy to see you all thriving and beautiful without looking like every other influencer that has had a million things done to look like the Kardashians. Embrace your unique beauty girls! It’s what will make you stand out in the future 🥰 MORE OF THESE PLEASE!
This has helped me so much. I’ve always wanted to go to therapy, but it isn’t in my price range or my parents price range. I love that this is like a free therapy session that I can always go back to and watch over and over!! Thank you Alisha for being open and sharing with us what you learned!! Love you so much!!
This video was so comforting Alisha. I really appreciate you being vulnerable with us!! Also, something I love about myself is my compassion for others 😊
Alisha I felt this. This really helped to hear that we should not compare ourselves. And after watching this video I needed to think about what do I love about myself. I just feel so good and I’m ready for my healing journey
please make more videos like this. im not the one that stays for these types of videos since i think its boring just watching a person talk but you kept me engage since its relatable at most parts. you dont always give life advice but your relatability kept me hooked so PLEASEEEE
This has been something I’ve been trying to unpack for a while, so this video is everything. Ilysm & thank you for making this video and being vulnerable ❤❤ .. if I had to choose something I love about myself I’d say my lips
The editing is top notch. Great video. You're inspiring.
I love Alisha she’s the definition of my childhood and a beautiful person regardless and she is so transparent now and my inspiration
thank you for being so vulnerable and honest here, that takes a lot of courage and you are HELPING so many girls who feel the same way. society tells girls to make achieving 'beauty' and validation their NUMBER ONE mission when chasing that is actually a never-ending, depressing and meaningless dopamine chase
Thank you so much Alisha for making this video. I can completely relate this as a 90s baby when back then there's no such thing as inclusivity in the fashion and media industry. And I live in Asian country where body shaming and striving for perfection is a norm in our society, which affected me so much! Lucky for me I came across Alisha and appreciate how she's open about her mental health, which I can relate a lot. I've read a book called the Four Agreement which i recommend so much for people who struggle with their internal demons. It has really changed my perspective towards people who body shamed me.
Alisha you inspire me everyday! I’ve followed you since I was little and it’s interesting to see that even as my taste changes, you have always been a constant in my life. And as you’ve been releasing videos like these, it’s so wholesome to see you growing too. It makes me happy to know that even though we’ve grown out of some things, we both come back here and connect on some level. Never stop being you because you are enough and loved by many!❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this video! I've always struggled with self-esteem and often felt like I wasn't attractive. But lately, I've been on a journey of self-discovery, and this video is like a free therapy session.
I used to obsess over my flaws, but now I've started to appreciate my unique features. I've come to recognise that my face proportions are actually quite nice, and I'm beginning to appreciate the beauty in my own eyes, my perfectly fine nose, and my lovely lips.
The way you explore and celebrate self-acceptance in your content is truly inspiring. Please keep sharing such empowering videos, Alisha!
This video spoke to me in a way i never could've thought. Things lately have been hard on my self esteem especially with my appearance. But this made me realise i dont have to feel that way. My favourite thing about myself is my hair. I, for years, have been teased about my red hair and really took it to heart but now that im older i know my hair is beautiful and so am i.
Thank you soo much alisha i think we all needed this right now ❤
“just because you don’t look like somebody who you think is attractive doesn’t mean you aren’t attractive. flowers are pretty but so are christmas lights and they look nothing alike.”
Alisha, I am 25 and I totally feel like I am going through this and trying to find how to Love my self. I also gave myself that title of "being the ugly friend". Thanks for putting this video out because this is so relatable!
Not only did I relate to Alisha so much from her story but it felt amazing to be reminded that you really do need to love yourself in order to love your friends/family/relationships. Alisha thanks for being you and doing these videos! 🥹😍🥰❤️
I know I'm late to this upload but this video has made me realise the way I talk to myself and the way I feel towards myself when I look at myself vs when I look at my friends. I just wanna say thank you Alisha for making this and making me feel so seen and so human for the way I view myself.
I've been in a wonderful relationship of 3+ years, and I feel just as if not more insecure about myself than when I was single. That's something that I decided I want to work on recently! This was a great video I really appreciate people like you being so vulnerable. And one thing I love about myself is how I'm willing to try new things. Recently I've been getting more out of my comfort zone to make friends and connections. And working towards the life that I want to have :)
This is extremely relatable. Thank you for being vulnerable.. the beauty standards in our society are so unrealistic and obviously just make us want to go and spend money on procedures we don’t even need. We are all born beautiful. I respect those who want to do whatever they want with their own body. That’s not my business. But yeah. Thank you for putting this video out there. You are using your platform in a very healthy and informative way. Love you!
i love that we have these sorts of videos out now it feels like a huge therapy session we can all finally heal our inner child from 😭😭 thank you alisha, i appreciate you being so vulnerable with us bc i can truly relate to you, it’s crazy that this is such a universal thing that so many ppl go through. like finally we all can be comfortable talking abt this!!
dont usually watch/listen to podcasts but I feel really moved by this. it takes courage to share especially to the world. Thank you for this ❤
The negative self talk is the worst! Love the vibe of this video! So authentic and real. My best trait? My wit and wisdom. Second best trait? My memory. I amaze myself at how witty I can be and the exact details I remember about things from like 1977. Hello? Who even am I? Honestly.
I really appreciate this video and actually needed this so much ❤ I was the tallest and chubbiest all of my life. A few years ago, ironically the same time you entered your gym baddie era, I lost a lot of weight, felt confident and hot. The last year was really tough for me and I gained it back. But this summer I broke my ankle/had surgery and have been stuck home. Walking is hard and I’ve been in baggy clothes for so long that I feel so disconnected from being confident and feeling attractive. This made me want to try to, at least, fake it til I make it. And work on loving myself within again. Who says I can’t be hot on crutches + at a different size? (I have to go to a wedding on crutches rip) but you bet your ass I bought a gorgeous dress! Thanks girl ❤
This was the video I needed! I resonate so much to the feeling growing up of being "the pretty girls friend" as I too was the tallest person (not only girl) in the entire class up until seventh grade. Thank you so much for making this video Alisha! What I love about myself then and now is how my ability to reframe situations and for my empathy towards others. Keep doing what your doing girlypop! You are beautiful inside and out!!
i have been watching you for 7 years now and honestly saying i never once felt or thought about your appearance i always felt like you are really pretty because of your personality, your aura, your energy. everything about you made me feel so safe and so confident. i love you for that.
Had a nice self care routine right now and watched that video. It made me unbelievably happy and I kinda love myself a little more right now. Thank you so much for this, it’s such an important topic and I loved watching it! ❤
I love how vulnerable you are with all your viewers, it makes me feel more connected to you and makes me feel like you're more than a person on my screen xx
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Thing i love about myself: my eyes
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I've been watching Alisha since 2016, and this is so beautiful to hear from a long-time role model. I grew up with her and even in my late teens, I'm so thankful for this channel. Thank you❤
Genuinely love this series so much! I honestly didn't know I needed to hear this until I watched it. You make me feel so seen and I relate a lot to your experiences. Thank you for making this series because you are helping so many people feel validated, myself included! When it comes to something I love about myself I would say my smile, my eyes, my laugh, and my ability to stay true to who I am even if sometimes that can be hard!! ♥
I definitely felt this. I grew up as a minority and was friends with the “pretty” and “popular” girls but never felt up to par
I love this video so much! Really a deep conversation that covers what people went through as a kid. I love you so much Alisha keep it up 💖
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I teared up when you shared about the therapist asking to name what you love about yourself, felt similarly back then when I used to go to therapy and can relate so much. 🫶🏻
Love seeing your continued growth. You are beautiful inside and out! ❤
One thing I love about myself are my tattoos because they remind me of my family. ❤
It feels so good to know I’m not alone in feeling like this, something that I’ve been working on retraining my brain to not think this way since March of this year 😂
Oh my goodness, I relate so much to this. I was always a taller friend and just the thicker in general. I also know purity culture really messed with my head. I'm so grateful that she dived into this and now I have something to think about for my next therapy session
Being in highschool currently this really stuck with me. I’ve really struggled with comparing myself to others, especially my friends and older siblings, but this really opened my eyes. Thank you for this!
i do appreciate these types of vids you do now
I am so glad you uploaded this today. YOU ARE MY HERO GIRLL. Tomorrow its the first day of my last year in high school and i was scrolling threw pinterest to find fits and soft makeup and stuff for tomorrow. I saw a cute girl with amazing makeup. I was like oh i should try it right now! I tried it. Took a pic of myself and i noticed that my eyes and lips are uneven and i compared the pic i saw with mine. I got so aggressive towards my face for not being like hers. I started crying and i didn't want to go tomorrow. But after watching this video i regained my confidence. I am not ugly. I am me. I am enough. Plus its not even that noticeable. I have a beautiful smile that brightens someones day and gorgeous brown eyes that allow me to see the world and the people i love .Thank you for reminding me that Alisha :). I hope you have a wonderful day
Thanks Alisha! I needed this❤
Growing up, I always felt like the ugly friend. Something I love about myself is my eyes. 👀
I have the biggest exam of my life tomorrow morning (it’s my registration exam for the pharmacy board to be a pharmacist). This is the last thing I’m watching before I go to bed. This made me feel so calm & confident in the fact that no matter what happens tomorrow, I’m still amazing & I don’t need to focus on whether or not my friends are passing. Either way I’m still valuable. If I could say one thing I love about myself right now, it’s that I’ve managed to get to this point with my education & I’m very proud of that. Thank you for this video Alisha❤️
I truly needed this
My whole life I felt ugly and I'm finally starting to fix my insecurities and starting to love myself and I was at one of my low points when I saw u upload this and it just made me feel so much better.
Thank you Alisha I love you.
This topic hits hard ... am still struggling with that label but with all these videos about insecurities etc, at least we feel seen ❤
I didn’t realize I would relate to this video so much. I always thought I was the ugly friend as well. Because I was so insecure about my own self. I needed validation from people in order to pretend to feel confident. I was an attention seeker. I don’t think I had my glow up and really found myself until these last couple years!
i’m glad this is something so many can relate to. insecurity really messes with your mind, to compare or especially search for approval or validation. i know i become bitter at times when i compare myself to this one certain girl, and i beat myself over it. it can go so deep. it’s scary but also relieving in a way when you realize no one can say anything to hurt you more than yourself. those “cliche” phrases are so true though. thank you for addressing this alisha♥︎and i am so for a single podcast; i love these
I love this style of video so much! Thank you for sharing bc I feel like this isn’t talked about enough on social media
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Love a premiere with Alisha Marie ❤❤❤❤
I love how comfortable I am with myself now. I use to always think something was wrong with me because I grew feeling not loved or cared about. Girls at school would make fun of my because I was hairy and had scars on my arms. I would always hide and hold back my personality because someone told me I was to much so I shrunk myself. I love how I show who I am now and I’m happy to say I’m learning to love myself everyday. ThankYou for sharing this with us I truly appreciate your honesty🤍
Just last week I was thinking about how much I’ve grown into my features as I’m getting older. Things that used to make me insecure because they weren’t proportionate to the rest of my body 10 years ago now fit me perfectly. Thank you for getting so vulnerable about this
I just love how I discovered Alisha when I was 12, now I'm 21 and both have grown into beautiful women
please do more therapy/what to write in journal and mental health videos please !!!! they really help 😊 and please have a solo podcast ❤️❤️❤️
Brilliant ideas
I am so happy and beyond grateful that I came across this video, I need to hear this because I've felt the same way and still do at times. Thank you so much Alisha Marie for being vulnerable and sharing this, it truly helped me.
This video made me tear up, i grew up watching alisha and when I decided to see how she's doing now and i came across this vid and it matches how i feel rn, thank youuu for this 🥺❤️
thank you for this.
Awe, I loved this video. It resonated with me. It especially resonated today because I’m insecure that I developed beard burn on my chin. I know it’ll go away haha but it’s uncomfortable. I almost feel like expressing sexuality can bring insecurities. That could be a good topic ❤
Alisha you feel like a really close friend. It made me feel more open and ready to explore more rather than my usual of holding it back and throwing it under the rug. I myself right now am questioning the definition of beauty to me. thank you ❤
I love when I'm a fan girl. When I get lost in a world and begin to build my own.
I cried at the end, I've always found that what I hide the most is my personality as I somehow think others might think I'm weird or cringe. That's why the last part spoke to me where you talked about being yourself and if no one laughs or goes along IT'S FINE!💕
Lmao, my trauma is leaving my body. You touched on something I’ve internalized my whole life! Love your transparency and honesty!
Thank you alisha it meant so much to me because I've experienced the same in high school and also now.
I think I love my wavy hair❤
It’s crazy bc as i grew up watching your videos i always saw you as a flawless person who had her life put together but ig we never really know what people battle with. love you girl ❤️
Thank you Alisha.
I’m still growing and I just turned 18 but just seeing how far I’ve come within my mindset and how I’ve turned as a person.
I really like myself now because I let out my true self and hopefully when getting older it gets even more better then this.
Something that I really like about myself is my eyes and my lips and my moles around my eyes
It feels like I’m talking to the big sister I never had omg 😭
I was also the "ugly friend" in middle school through HS and my own best friend "the pretty one" would bully me along with the other bullies.. I was finally able to stand up to her recently in my late twenties how she messed me up and she told me "It's not my fault that I was the pretty friend" and I FINALLY BLOCKED HER. What's funny is she's the ugly duckling now and I had a glow up ahahahHAHAHAHA.
It’s crazy to me how relatable this is to absolutely everyone, from your average everyday people all the way up to the biggest celebrities who are considered the standard for beauty. The fact that we all admire each other but feel this way about ourselves is just insane. It’s such an awful universal experience and mindset that’s so damaging but we all seem to have it.
I honestly really needed this today and appreciate your vulnerability! 💕 I love my resilience and my ability to see the good in people ☺️ I used to kick myself and sometimes still kick myself for giving people chances or letting them treat me poorly but i’ve learned its more a reflection on them. I’ve learned to appreciate my hard earned lessons and to never be jaded or compromising on who i am because of others.
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She should have a podcast channel jst of podcasts bc there too go I should be called "the solo pod"
I've been watching you for 10 years and you truly feel like a true best friend with the best advice
I honestly really needed to see this. I grew up the “ugly friend” too. I was always bigger than the other girls and just different idk. My friend would tell me to my face i was the “DUFF” and that i needed make up to be pretty and things like that. I spent years hating myself and restricting my personality because i just wanted to fit it. It’s so true how much you shine when you learn to love yourself. We love you Alisha keep this up i love your realness it’s so nice to hear someone deals with the same issues i do
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When u said get a journal I already had a journal in my hand 😂😂😂
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Alisha, From a follower that has followed you sense 2014, I love how you have grown into a person that we can all follow & resonate with. Not only have you matured but we have matured with you. I just love you girl!!! Your self worth is all you need! Anyways had to come on here & just brag. 🎉
Thank you for posting this! I struggled with the same mentality for years. But im currently on a very hard journey to loving myself fully and completely. I love my humor, my body and the way I do my makeup. My personal style makes me feel like myself. I love putting a cute outfit on and feeling good about it! I needed to hear this. I felt relieved and amazing after I watched the video(:
I'm loving these solo sit down podcasts thank you for sharing your life lessons and journey. One thing I love about myself is how thoughtful I am of others feelings. I never want to purposely hurt someone's feelings knowing we are all going through a hard time at some points in our life. But I also don't let people walk over me I'm quite switched on and catch certain things people say or do that others may not and I'm always sus of everyone 🤣🤣🤣 I don't have energy to argue so I'd just cut that person off or build a wall and be kinda cold but not rude and not the same person again with them only to protect my own self.