If you have real good friends, you probably don’t notice or even care wether you are «ugly» or not. You are just a friend among friends. I was the «ugly» friend in my friend group in school, but I didn’t reflect on this or even notice it until I begun college and videos on glow ups showed up all over SO. Real friends doesn’t care about how you look, they just want to be with you because you are you.
I have always been super shy, introverted which is not helped being 'ugly' and an Asian among mostly white kids. So I never really had friends throughout school as I never approached anyone and no one approached me. It took me a while to figure out why I was diferent to the other kids in my class, why I didn't look like them, why I didn't relate to them etc. and even now in uni I still have not gained much confidence and have not made any friends .
This! I was the ugly duckling,my best friend (gorgeous girl) was always the pretty one and I knew that but she NEVER made me feel less or talked about my appearance in a negative way...now that I "glowed up" as the youngsters say,I can joke around about how "unfortunate" I looked and even now she doesn't agree that I wasn't pretty,bless her soul. Some people look good when they are teenagers and on some people the "developed" look looks weird,like,I didn't know how to take care of my skin,nor my hair (a curly matted mess always),I didn't know how to dress and my nose and teeth grew before my others features grew on my face so I just looked odd for a couple of years until I was an adult lol
Backing this up real hard. When I saw my picture in school, I asked my friends like, Why would you befriend me back then I look like a dirt? Then she replies, dude we all look like dirt wdym
I honestly think that most teenagers are insecure but the difference is that some chose to put others down to make themselves feel better whilst the others don't make it other people's problems.
You're the most beautiful and sweet girl that only lucky people will appreciate having you in their lives 🌻 I am also a female so i hope i didn't make you uncomfortable 😅
@@-Joyfullife-There’s no need to lie to lift others self esteem. Gentle honesty would make them feel a lot safer, unless you actually believe your lies.
You got me at "cutting my hair short" so "people won't compare me". I went through similiar experience in high school because of low self-esteem. Sometimes, I think people are so insecure that they project their insecurity on the others just because you actually got the genuine beauty and you can elevate yourself to the next level. I appreciate to hear how you overcome in your personal journey. Thank you for sharing similar experience.
I hate that every flaw and insecurity of mine.. I make it my personality so that people dont see me lacking anywhere.. I like to pretend to be happy at where i am and whatever i'm doing. To them i'm such a go lucky girl...
Yeah, the one compliment I got in elementary and middle school was always about my long hair. I got sick of it. My parents acted crazy about my long hair and everyone else would act like it was EVERYTHING. So, I cut it off. I hated having long hair because of others. I kept cutting it short despite hating how it made my baby face look until senior year. I bleached it twice but never had the courage to truly experiment with color. After senior year started I was worried about other things so instead of chopping my hair off to above my shoulders in August like I had been doing every year, I let it grow. Now I'm almost 19 and still havent cut it so its quite long again. I actually like how I look with long hair. Especially now that other people arent a concern. They lost interest after I "destroyed" my hair. Seeing my cousin experimenting and finding her style has inspired me though. I think I'll experiment too :)
i truly believe no one is actually ugly. A lot of people just dont have the confidence to try something new with their look and overtime they just get more and more insecure comparing themself to others [edit: my point in this is not just makeup and completely change yourself; i mean simple things like a new haircut, or wearing something that makes you feel confident]
EXACTLY, if people find the right hairstyle, makeup and clothing style, they're all going to look stunning. Sure there are extremely beautiful people out there like those supermodels but no one's ugly, everyone is pretty when they have confidence and their right style. Beauty is both subjective and objective, it is also very very diverse and that's so amazing. But when we consider the money aspects of it, there are certain limitations that's why more people cannot experiment on their styles, skincare and makeup. And when we see actors, models and influencers who use expensive skincare and other things which we do not know about, we unknowingly compare ourselves to them. Not to mention the unrealistic beauty standards which is set due to celebrities lying about plastic surgery and other cosmetic procedures.
We'll never be happy with our looks of we don't acknowledge that we still have to change to be accepted. You're Ugly and that's fine. You don't owe anyone shit. The fact we need to need to change our looks, gain or lose weight just so you won't be picked, shouldn't be the Norm .
You were not ugly. Let me repeat it: YOU WERE NOT UGLY. YOU LOOKED DECENT. GOD the freaking unrealistic expectations and pressure today have warped our young girls' minds!! UGH. Either way, I am sorry you were made to feel that way. You looked decent and you look good now, no doubt with the effort you put in. Don't care for the haters - A universal message. Easier said than done, but I hope all of you out there can march through this intact. No one needs to be made to feel bad about themselves because some shitty people out there want to feel better about themselves at the expense of others.
when i saw her highschool photo, I was like "sure she doesnt look the best but EVRYONE I KNOW LOOKS LIKE THAT😭" like bro!! DO PEOPLE EXPECT PEOPLE TO GET READY FOR 5 HOURS TO WORK ON THEIR CONCEALER AND WEIGHT
@@kohkoh6601 MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY?! she says shes the ugly friend but she wasnt even ugly and that picture especially WHAT DO YOU CALL PRETTY IF THAT IS UGLY?!
I am so sorry for you girls having to struggle with your own skin tone and appearance. As a Brazilian woman, 32 yo, it makes me really sad. I know how aesthetic pressure is and how it makes our own insecurities grow. I make a daily exercise trying to see beauty in every part of my body, maybe it can help you girls a little, and maybe the real glow up comes from the way we begin to see ourselves, with more confidence. I used to hate my nose, my long hands, my rabbit teeth, my feet, my thighs. And I believe it's someone's point of view fault: "we need to look thinner, we need to be feminine, we can't never be ourselves and have always to be trying to hide our feelings and the way we think". I just can hope the world change and people become more real 😢💜
I was not pretty growing up, but in my circumstance, I believe it was a good thing because at the school I was going to, the pretty girls were being taken advantage of by disgusting and perverted teachers and youth pastors. Since I was ugly, they weren't interested in me. Also, boys didn't want to date me, and I felt sad about that, but looking at it now, I'm glad that I didn't get involved in dating as a teen because it was a lot more fun to discover what I liked and hang out with my friends. I was too immature to date and get into "risky" and uncomfortable situations. Yixin, you are gorgeous. Thank you for the lovely video.
That girl was so mean, it honestly breaks my heart how people can be so cruel. You are a beautiful soul both internally and externally. I feel when someone is a beautiful person internally, it enhances their outward beauty ❤
Women are so much more than just their looks Omg. We’re PEOPLE. HUMANS. We have talents to explore, growth to experience etc. Not just sit and look pretty.
This is such a heartwarming story. Tbh I only started to follow you because I thought you were beautiful and totally had the look that I like. Then I started regularly watching your IG reels because they were so informative on Japanese culture and you seemed well travelled. It’s actually shocking to me that you were considered ugly and teased so much back in your younger days. It’s really inspiring to see you overcome all the bullying and now have so many followers admiring you. I bet a lot of the boys that wrote you off as ugly back in high school are now probably like me and are creepers following beautiful girls like you on social media 😂.
wow this was so nice to watch! i’m half chinese and half european so i was always surrounded by the asian (extreme) beauty standard because of family and friends. i grew up in europe and when i was younger i was one of the only asian people in my school so i ended up being picked on quite a lot, they would call me racist nicknames and pull their eyes back to look smaller, so in that way i was never really called pretty either. in europe i was too chinese and in china i was too european, so i never really had a place to belong. it was really hard for me growing up because i wanted to fit both of the beauty standards. but now that i’m older i’ve kind of just learnt to accept who i am and that as long as i think i’m pretty i’m happy😊 this video really resonated with me, i’m really happy i watched it, thank you so much for sharing your story!
Yup I really can relate to this story as well because I'm both Asian and white but when I grew up as an adult I don't give a fuck of what people can think of me and now I'm happy in my life with peoples who really cares about me and not see me just for my race !!!
im chinese and grew up in italy ina. very very small city. got the same treatment and high school was hell because these two boys were constantly calling me china and yelling it out loud everytime they saw me (so even at cinemas or public spaces) and I would get so mad and embarassed because they wouldn’t stop even if I stood up for myself. And now I have horrible anxiety and still problems accepting myself since I’m too asian for SOME italians and TOO italian for some chinese.
@@_.cantikgadis You know you can be from many different countries in Europe, right? I'm also half Asian half European but I just say European because saying "part Maltese part Italian part Irish part 5 more countries" just is unnecessary
oh my goodness, i would kill to have cheeks like yours theyre so adorable. I cant believe people were so mean to you you were and are so pretty naturally.
Toxic beauty standards in our society makes people believe that they're ugly and whatsoever, or something as ugly-people exist. The concept of "Glow-up" is loving yourself, not fitting other's beauty standards. If they don't accept you the way your are, it's their issue, not yours! You're not the problem, they just can't see the beauty in differences, and the beautiful differences we humans have. Pls stop trying to fit into other's beauty standards. Sending lots of love to all my girlies. 💌♡
super real on the asian beauty standard, im embracing my south east asian tan skin so much more now though :) thank you so much for sharing, im so glad that you're happy with how you present yourself now
girl, it felt like you were re-telling my childhood with the short lashes, chubby face, awkward teeth, having to dress less girly, and getting tricked into thinking your crush liked you back thing. The only thing is that I'm honestly still struggling to become "pretty", or at least grow my self confidence
I will always say, no one is ugly. It’s all about if you know how to style yourself. Anyone can be pretty. It’s all about if you know how to be. But regardless, the prettiest girls are the ones with the best personality
Hi Yixin, I was this girl growing up too. I found out in my 20s I was very sick my whole life and finally got treatment and then my glow up happened. While men did treat me a little better overall after treatment changed my appearance, i think the biggest thing was definitely finding a style of clothing i feel comfortable in so i felt confident in and men got that vibe from me. When you feel insecure about your looks men pick up those vibes from you. I hope things are better for you now love. Glad you made a video about this topic and I'm so sorry you had to go through this too. Kids can be very cruel.
Thanks for sharing your experience. Some of those things are not easy to talk about but I think this could help a lot of people who might be going through something similar. At the very least let them know they’re not alone and to love themselves more. 👍
I think you look best at 0:12. You have so much natural beauty! As an American who usually finds east Asian faces the most attractive (men & women) the beauty standards there seem so strange. I think slightly broader face looks good and cute on women. And I don't understand the heavy lower eye makeup. You have wonderful eyes! That style just makes women look like mannequins.
I had a slightly different experience because i was the only asian kid in a white school but the humiliation and the pain is the same. I grieve my teenage years when i was told my ethnic features were ugly, that I had "mean eyes" and wasn't pretty enough to even warrant basic respect. Thank you for posting this very personal story, and i am so happy you have found strength and beauty through your experience. The most beautiful people are the kind ones ❤
It's refreshing to hear a story like this that doesn't end up with the person getting surgery or fillers. Instead you embraced the imperfect and that itself is beautiful.
I feel heartbroken after your story, I never faced with such terrible treatment from other people, but have never being considered as "beautiful" at all. I'm very sorry you had to face such shitheads as your "friends" and closest ones...
I saw your reel on IG where you talked about your smile how you used to be insecure about it and smiled weirdly but now you don't... That truly hit me sooo deep I could never relate as hard as that and I did start to notice my insecurities and how badly they affected my look so I began to slowly accept and embrace each one of them :)
Idk why people are so toxic, i also have quite a rounded face and i think its cute, yours also looks so cute and it honestly matches your face perfectly! Im happy that your now much better (in mental) about how you look :) i just wish we werent in a world this toxic
“Embrace the non-perfect as a personal style” that hit me so hard. I will be bawling out to this. Thank you. I needed to hear this. I am on the peak of my body dysmorphia and my self esteem is at the lowest right now. I am too harsh to myself. Hearing this made it click for me that it’s not that I am weird or ugly, but that I am different.
i genuinely thought you had makeup at the beginning because i thought you’re so pretty and you look like a quokka, so cute! you went through a lot, i wish the best for you ❤
I also grew up as the ugly friend, it really helped me build character. Now I'm the most successful person among all my high school friends. I married a really beautiful wife, I run a successful business, and I have 2 loving children. Just keep in mind that its important not to compare yourself to other people, but just compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Soon enough, you'll end up being much further ahead in life than most people you know.
I'm almost in my 30's and I never got into makeup. I still don't know how to do it and I wish I knew how so I can look prettier. But I've never been a girly girl. At least makeup wise.
i dont think she was ugly tho. She just didnt find what suited her. (Im not saying this like to "Not make her insecure". im being honest, because it happens to a lot of people, they dont find what suits their body and face so it makes them look "ugly")
Yeah I’ve felt this way too I was always teased for acne in the past or my looks in general.. and it really hurt my confidence, but now I think something changed maybe it was being more confident? I was so insecure and a huge people pleaser, you would be able to see it too. But now my friends keep complimenting me and my friend called me pretty! And even popular girls I wish I looked like complimented me as well. I got rid of a decent amount of acne, started dressing better. Focusing on hairstyles, and learned how to do makeup better. And gained more confidence. I think with a little bit of effort, and surrounding yourself by the right people you won’t feel this way. Thank you for this video it was really nice to see. And btw I think your face shape and teeth are beautiful 🩷
I wouldn't say I'm "ugly", but I'm not super pretty either. Just mid. And tbh, that's not a bad thing!! I just want to glow up not in my looks but my personality and habits too. I want to change how I'm living but its so hard TT Hopefully I'm able to lock in... if u see this, remind me to lock in!!!
Literally all you said about your teeth and your chubby face, I find it really pretty on you. Like just before you start talking I was thinking "oh she looks really cute with that chubby look and pretty smile". Also you were really pretty in those pictures you shown us and you are still pretty now. Honestly I can't unserstand those mean people, I think that your smile and chubby face is what makes you 10 times more beautiful!
Thank you so much for this video, I’m a teen in highschool who’s insecure about her looks but you rly make me feel better; sometimes I see hate comments on your Instagram but I just wanted to let u know you rlly make me feel better with your back story and I’m striving to be like you one day!
i relate to this wayy too much. i always felt like the “ugly” friend, was teased for being a little weird and unpopular and was really shy throughout school. only towards the end of high school did i finally figure out how to properly do my hair and makeup, and now i’m in uni i look like a different person. i’m treated way differently now too, guys hit on me (which has never happened before and makes me feel totally weird), and people generally just accept me without me having to do much. pretty privilege is definitely real. what sucks now is that i feel like an imposter, like i’m just pretending to be someone else, cuz i hide all my nerdy hobbies that i developed in my “ugly phase” and now i feel like i can’t be honest about them anymore around the people that i’m with because they don’t really understand me. i know this is such a first world problem lmao but its been bugging me a lot lately and i’ve never told this to anyone. forgive the ranting lol
This hits so close to home, being made fun of or never being complimented for your looks and feeling ugly most of your school life, thanks for this video it genuinely helped me feel less alone. And you looked beautiful when you were in school and youre still so beautiful
i grew up ugly, but after i actually started taking care of my hygiene, dressing up and building confidence, people call me pretty way more than before finding my self-expression literally improved everything about my life
Thank you for uploading this 🫶 i can relate to you except the glow up. I haven’t yet glow up 😢 Please do a tutorial for your make up next, if you’re ok 🥺
I relate myself to u so much. I am a brown south Asian girl I was also terribly bullied entire school life for my skin tone. And I also got into makeup just like you through cosplay. ❤
It's crazy how people treat others who they believe are pretty, people are so hypocritical and even though they consider you a friend they'll still end up treating you different because you're "ugly. That's what people have normalized, you can't look at anything without seeing society's standards seeping in. It's so common that even children are being exposed to it and at a young age start worrying about their appearance thinking something is wrong with them. Sometimes we don't even recognize that we treat people that we find conventionally attractive and unattractive differently
There are 3 main reasons why I don’t like wearing make up even though I’m a girly girl. -Good make up is expensive and runs out quickly. I’d rather invest in expensive clothing that lasts forever. -It gives me so much acne so it defeats the purpose of putting make up. It just feels unhygienic when I have something foreign on my face, or using the same brush or sponge everyday and stuff (unless you totally disinfect them every single day.) -it takes so much longer to get ready. My sister spends like over an hour putting make up everyday covering her acne.. Sometimes you just want to go outside, but think about having to put make up for an hour, and suddenly you don’t feel like going out anymore. It is a really makes me feel the opposite of freedom. (But I do admire my sister for her determination to do it everyday. All her hard work and patience made her the successful person that she is right now.)
Im so sad this happend to you i hate societys standars some times all people deserve to be treated as people you sem like the sweetest girl and always rember you are beautiful whit or whitout makup ❤
I am 25 and people continue telling me I'm the nerd girl, and no one tell me I'm beautiful, only my boyfriend and my mom. I am really insecure, I cry almost every day because of that. I have really beautiful friends... I don't know what to do :,c
Nerds are intelligent. It's not an insult. You said you have a boyfriend and beautiful friends. I'm not sure if you mean they are physically or emotionally beautiful? But if your group is beautiful...well as the saying goes... birds of a feather stick together! A group of Beautiful girls won't adopt someone ugly. Look at the other groups next time! Do you see any groups with a conspicuous ugly sticking out? Or are the groups more homogeneous! Sweet girl, I think you are under an illusion caused by your own personal insecurity, and there are 2 strong reasons- Men NEVER EVER date someone they find ugly (unless they're getting some other compensation like money or access to perks they otherwise couldn't achieve) And a group of beautiful girls don't accept an ugly friend. You have what it takes, don't let insecurity erode your personality and other blessings from God 💜
I'm also in a similar situation as you, like chubby face, dark skin, timid, bunny teeth and weight etc.... but I'm now all about self love. 💗 Starting cosplay really save a part of my confidence and makeup but getting out of low self esteem is really hard for me and it took 7 years for me to learn self love. So take your time if you are struggling with self confidence.🌼
Wow that was so inspiring to watch.. this helped me see myself in a better light and this is proof that accepting yourself is one of the most important things you can do to yourself❤
In those photos, you didn't look like an "ugly girl", you looked like a high schooler. It's really sad that beauty standards are so important in a time where you're meant to be having fun! People are really mean, and I'm sorry you experienced that. Also, you're amazing at make-up!
I remember one of my friends from uni - popular, hot, every girls loved him, but he was a really kind and helpful dude, in general. Then I stumbled upon an old photo of him where he used to be an overweight, nerdy kid in middle school. I didn't expect that, but what I am trying to say is that sometimes, growing up ugly, and then glow up later, actually build character beyond appearance.
What's wrong with people? Like literally why do they care about how people look like. I don't really see it I'm surprised how people bullied you, you look sooo gorgeous naturally. People who called you ugly are just insecure.
thank you so much for this, i really needed it, i always feel so gross and ugly compared to other girls and hearing aboutg= how you found confidence even when so many people tried to bring you down really made me feel better thank you
im going through the same thing i was bullied all my life and still am by my family saying im overweight or i look ugly but that did not stop me from looking my self in the mirror and say to my self "your so pretty your so cute and your worth everything" for everyone who read this comment please look at ur self and say that ur beautiful no matter what u look like no matter what color no matter what others think ur beautiful no matter what and that's a fact don't ruin ur happiness for other people who well affect u badly in life enjoy it as much as u can and i wish u guys a wonderful life full of happiness and joy
Girl, your so pretty though. And you were pretty too. I can’t believe society has gone so bad that natural beauty is not acceptable anymore. So sorry you had to go through that. As an insecure person, I feel you. Your beautiful and valued, you were beautiful and should’ve been valued. It is their loss, your an amazing person as well.❤ Edit: I find comfort in your video and thank you for sharing. I am so glad your confident boosted and I know you’ll find amazing and loving people along the way because your such a lovely person. Looking back again, you were truly beautiful, how were you even bullied?! Your smile is very beautiful and warms my heart.
Loved the video,thank you for sharing this with us,it really was a relief knowing you grow out of it since I happen to be going through similar as a high schooler currently ❤ I really want to work towards it,workout,eat better,change mindset etc but I'm always surrounded by the thought that I'll never grow out of it nor the mentality but seeing you talk about,sharing your experiences and seeing your glow up really helped❤ I wish you the best
I randomly clicked on this video and im so glad I did. I related to it so much. I had so many of the same experiences even though I grew up on the opposite side of the globe in a different culture. Anyway Thank You.
What is sad about fake friends they use you as a scapegoat to make themselves feel better. I hope you are feeling ok emotionally, being bullied based on how you look really hurts your self esteem even when you have a glow up. You seem like a beautiful person and inside even before the glow up. I have bad teeth too and that alone destroyed my self esteem.
I am deeply sorry this was your experience, I have a lot of empathy for you because I was the exact same way growing up, always seen as the outcast and the ugly one. I look at those photos of you from high school and you are seriously so cute, I don't know what kind of a monster could ever call you ugly. But I have heard horror stories about bullying in Asia, I'm so sorry you experienced that. You have a gentle softness to your personality and words, I hope you can find the confidence to be yourself, because it seems to me like the person you have always been is gorgeous and unique 💕
Thank you so so so much for your word. 2024 has been a year of some pretty big decision making for me and I am FULLY ready to come back to RUclips on 2025!! Editing some new videos now, see you 2025 for my journey updates!!☺
Aweeee. I’m so sorry that happened to you during your most vulnerable times of youth. Everyone goes through an “ugly” phase in life. Luckily I grew out of mine in HS, so I got to enjoy a part of my youth, but I’ve peeked since then, so now I’m trying to re-find myself again😅 I realized my error was that I still let those around me control my thoughts and behavior. Not everyone who’s “nice” to you, is actually keeping your best interest in mind. I’m no longer “friends” with a lot of people who I would have called “My closest friends” at that time. I’m now almost 30, YIKES, lol. Not this yr though, wooh😅 in 1 more🙃 hehe. I’m not sure how old you are but my best words of wisdom to you is; “When your young, it seems as if all views, opinions, and glances of the world is the MOST sacred thing that must be approved in your life, but as you get older (a.k.a me now) you soon learn that the only thing that should be taken for high approval is what YOU want most for your own self. Not for the world, but for YOU❤”. Something I’m teaching myself still everyday. It’s hard to not want to fit into society. To be the “pretty, popular, attractive” one, but LITERALLY looks is only temporary. Heart and status is life. So sh*t on them with your kindness n success😎 Also, no one is ever really “ugly”. It’s the people around them who is.
the way you've come to terms with events that sound super traumatic is so wise and graceful. it must have been so hard but just watching you i feel so much admiration because to sit there and talk about it like that is.. wow. i hope i can heal from my trauma like that someday. along with your physical beauty, your mindset too is so beautiful. thank you for sharing this
My friend used to call me "Big Teeth" when I was in high school also. But, no one is perfect as you said. Just to let you know, you have your Big teeth friend here and your smile is really charming and gorgeous 😊
Omggg you are so pretty 🥺💖💖 i normally don’t say that to people so I really mean it. Seriously you look like one of those Chinese ulzzangs I put on my Pinterest board 😆 I had a similar story growing up where the boys that would bully and call me names and say that I was gross to my face ending up crushing on me later or wanting to date me cuz I had gotten a lot prettier. I’m on a glow up journey to be even more who I want to be/look like and you’re such an inspiration 🥹💖 so thank you for sharing this video!!! 🥹🥹🥰🥰 I feel more motivated to be the best version of myself!!
I’m so sorry about the amount of mistreatment you have had it was so uncalled for and you didn’t deserve any of it I’m glad you seem to be doing better. I am also going through something similar, I’m always known as ugly whether it’s family or friends they always make indirect comments about my appearance. If you can do you think you’re able to make a tutorial on how to look better I love your aesthetic and overall looks so if you’re comfortable with doing that I’d appreciate it so much!!
You are not ugly ! And you are no misformed to which ppl look away from. You are attractive 😍 People were jealous. My husband went through this. So much cruelty in Japanese culture. I know boys can be, girls too... I just ignore and must know your own self worth !!! ❤ I decided to sub because your attitude is perfect. 💯
You were never ugky sweetheart, its the society and the beliefs, culture and media that enbeds into ous and people around us hiw we should look like. If you don't fit thise standards, you are labelled as ugky which is disgusting. I'm happy you are feeling much more confident now with or without makeup ❤
No matter how much i look i really find your natural face that you were born with very beautiful ,you look like a sweet person but after changing it instead of accepting it because of others opinions is ridiculous if they don't like you than that it ,there are people who will like you for how you look will see all the flaws that you see as beautiful things and what is more that they will accept you for your personality not just look I hope you're doing well , don't overdo it with make up so you can stay healthy and beautiful when you grow old
I’m so sorry you had to feel this way but honestly you’re beautiful hunny, always remember people are too sad to have to inject things into themselves just to have a “pretty face” age naturally there is beauty in that ♥️
I think you look adorable and pretty before the makeup too! I am glad the guy called "James" was able to let you know how much of a two-face that girl was to you. I was also called ugly but it was during middle school and that was because I was still growing and didn't really blossom my full features yet at the time. After I got into high school I was stalked and hit on by a lot of boys/guys that I felt uncomfortable with. I was also cat-called often. But now that I am in my mid-twenties, I feel so old and past my prime. I have little makeup experience and knowledge since every time I do makeup, I always get my skin to be too dry and flaky. Maybe one day I will get better at it! I hope you can keep your self confidence high and believe in yourself and others who see you pretty for who you are too under the makeup as well! You're pretty and a late bloomer, so those people should go get a life.
Well that was just straight up traumatic. I'm sorry that happened to you, teenagers are assholes. Sadly this type of experience and bullying happens to alot of people, so take comfort in that you're not alone. You were never ugly, you were always beautiful. I know that reading this has little value from a stranger. But know that you deserve to love yourself, it is not an easy thing to do and it requires work, but I know that you can do it. Personally I always thought that I was a piece of shit and that I was not worthy of anyone. It wasn't until I was in my 30s that I identified the problem and started working on it. Much improvement was made but the trauma still lingers. But at least I don't blame myself anymore and that is freeing. I hope that you are also able to rediscover your true self. Good luck to you and anyone else that read this. You ARE worthy.
I'm really sorry you had that experience. Hahah, I also grew up knowing I was never going to be pretty, and with colorist being so rampant in my country I knew I was too dark and too hairy to be considered anything but that. It really sucks when you know that the only times guys ask you out is a part of a joke. It takes some time, and meeting the right people, to heal from that. Btw, I have respect for that guy. It was right to send you the screenshot of that convo. Most guys don't have the guts to do that.
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If you have real good friends, you probably don’t notice or even care wether you are «ugly» or not. You are just a friend among friends.
I was the «ugly» friend in my friend group in school, but I didn’t reflect on this or even notice it until I begun college and videos on glow ups showed up all over SO.
Real friends doesn’t care about how you look, they just want to be with you because you are you.
yeah
I have always been super shy, introverted which is not helped being 'ugly' and an Asian among mostly white kids. So I never really had friends throughout school as I never approached anyone and no one approached me. It took me a while to figure out why I was diferent to the other kids in my class, why I didn't look like them, why I didn't relate to them etc. and even now in uni I still have not gained much confidence and have not made any friends .
This! I was the ugly duckling,my best friend (gorgeous girl) was always the pretty one and I knew that but she NEVER made me feel less or talked about my appearance in a negative way...now that I "glowed up" as the youngsters say,I can joke around about how "unfortunate" I looked and even now she doesn't agree that I wasn't pretty,bless her soul.
Some people look good when they are teenagers and on some people the "developed" look looks weird,like,I didn't know how to take care of my skin,nor my hair (a curly matted mess always),I didn't know how to dress and my nose and teeth grew before my others features grew on my face so I just looked odd for a couple of years until I was an adult lol
Frrr
Backing this up real hard. When I saw my picture in school, I asked my friends like, Why would you befriend me back then I look like a dirt? Then she replies, dude we all look like dirt wdym
I honestly think that most teenagers are insecure but the difference is that some chose to put others down to make themselves feel better whilst the others don't make it other people's problems.
Hmmm
@@mochimonster3880 hmm
Usss❤
@@Najaf_the_best yess good on us👏
😊
It's the high-school curse
🥲🥲🥲
@@yixin.is.traveling * Headpats *
Ikr
Fr
been there wasn't my best time😢
if she was the ugly friend then i don't even know what i am
You're the most beautiful and sweet girl that only lucky people will appreciate having you in their lives 🌻
I am also a female so i hope i didn't make you uncomfortable 😅
@@-Joyfullife-There’s no need to lie to lift others self esteem. Gentle honesty would make them feel a lot safer, unless you actually believe your lies.
@@IHateEverybody4
You either cope by being delusional or you accept the truth and become depressed 🤷
@@frog6054 Or accept the truth and learn to live with it healthily.
@@IHateEverybody4 it's not that easy for everyone
You got me at "cutting my hair short" so "people won't compare me". I went through similiar experience in high school because of low self-esteem. Sometimes, I think people are so insecure that they project their insecurity on the others just because you actually got the genuine beauty and you can elevate yourself to the next level. I appreciate to hear how you overcome in your personal journey. Thank you for sharing similar experience.
Hmmm
I hate that every flaw and insecurity of mine.. I make it my personality so that people dont see me lacking anywhere.. I like to pretend to be happy at where i am and whatever i'm doing. To them i'm such a go lucky girl...
Yeah, the one compliment I got in elementary and middle school was always about my long hair. I got sick of it. My parents acted crazy about my long hair and everyone else would act like it was EVERYTHING. So, I cut it off. I hated having long hair because of others. I kept cutting it short despite hating how it made my baby face look until senior year. I bleached it twice but never had the courage to truly experiment with color. After senior year started I was worried about other things so instead of chopping my hair off to above my shoulders in August like I had been doing every year, I let it grow. Now I'm almost 19 and still havent cut it so its quite long again.
I actually like how I look with long hair. Especially now that other people arent a concern. They lost interest after I "destroyed" my hair.
Seeing my cousin experimenting and finding her style has inspired me though. I think I'll experiment too :)
Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ♥
i truly believe no one is actually ugly. A lot of people just dont have the confidence to try something new with their look and overtime they just get more and more insecure comparing themself to others
[edit: my point in this is not just makeup and completely change yourself; i mean simple things like a new haircut, or wearing something that makes you feel confident]
True
EXACTLY, if people find the right hairstyle, makeup and clothing style, they're all going to look stunning. Sure there are extremely beautiful people out there like those supermodels but no one's ugly, everyone is pretty when they have confidence and their right style. Beauty is both subjective and objective, it is also very very diverse and that's so amazing.
But when we consider the money aspects of it, there are certain limitations that's why more people cannot experiment on their styles, skincare and makeup. And when we see actors, models and influencers who use expensive skincare and other things which we do not know about, we unknowingly compare ourselves to them. Not to mention the unrealistic beauty standards which is set due to celebrities lying about plastic surgery and other cosmetic procedures.
its the "i cant workout untill im skinny" type of mindset
Lmao this is BS.
We'll never be happy with our looks of we don't acknowledge that we still have to change to be accepted. You're Ugly and that's fine. You don't owe anyone shit. The fact we need to need to change our looks, gain or lose weight just so you won't be picked, shouldn't be the Norm .
You were not ugly.
Let me repeat it: YOU WERE NOT UGLY. YOU LOOKED DECENT.
GOD the freaking unrealistic expectations and pressure today have warped our young girls' minds!! UGH.
Either way, I am sorry you were made to feel that way. You looked decent and you look good now, no doubt with the effort you put in.
Don't care for the haters - A universal message. Easier said than done, but I hope all of you out there can march through this intact. No one needs to be made to feel bad about themselves because some shitty people out there want to feel better about themselves at the expense of others.
when i saw her highschool photo, I was like "sure she doesnt look the best but EVRYONE I KNOW LOOKS LIKE THAT😭" like bro!! DO PEOPLE EXPECT PEOPLE TO GET READY FOR 5 HOURS TO WORK ON THEIR CONCEALER AND WEIGHT
Stop the cap. She was clearly below average. At least now, she is average.
I think you were beautiful before too, and your teeth and smile makes you prettier and charming.
Thank you so much for your warm words❤
A pretty bunny!!!❤
That 0:19 picture blew my mind. She legit looks like she could be a model. No man on earth would call that ugly.
@@kohkoh6601yeah, kinda baffled by the beauty standards there. She's adorable!
@@kohkoh6601 MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY?! she says shes the ugly friend but she wasnt even ugly and that picture especially WHAT DO YOU CALL PRETTY IF THAT IS UGLY?!
I am so sorry for you girls having to struggle with your own skin tone and appearance. As a Brazilian woman, 32 yo, it makes me really sad. I know how aesthetic pressure is and how it makes our own insecurities grow.
I make a daily exercise trying to see beauty in every part of my body, maybe it can help you girls a little, and maybe the real glow up comes from the way we begin to see ourselves, with more confidence. I used to hate my nose, my long hands, my rabbit teeth, my feet, my thighs. And I believe it's someone's point of view fault: "we need to look thinner, we need to be feminine, we can't never be ourselves and have always to be trying to hide our feelings and the way we think". I just can hope the world change and people become more real 😢💜
I was not pretty growing up, but in my circumstance, I believe it was a good thing because at the school I was going to, the pretty girls were being taken advantage of by disgusting and perverted teachers and youth pastors. Since I was ugly, they weren't interested in me. Also, boys didn't want to date me, and I felt sad about that, but looking at it now, I'm glad that I didn't get involved in dating as a teen because it was a lot more fun to discover what I liked and hang out with my friends. I was too immature to date and get into "risky" and uncomfortable situations. Yixin, you are gorgeous. Thank you for the lovely video.
That girl was so mean, it honestly breaks my heart how people can be so cruel. You are a beautiful soul both internally and externally. I feel when someone is a beautiful person internally, it enhances their outward beauty ❤
same for me but growing up fat it's soo traumatizing in east asian culture
🫂🫂We will find our own sparks
Dude the teacher came to me at lunch and told me to eat less because apparently I was the heaviest in the class 😭
@@makatsue4598oh, I hope u are doing better sweetie, don’t listen to the teacher.
@@makatsue4598if u are heaviest I think u should listen to the teacher ☠
@@maureenlovesskzso u are saying don't listen to the teacher and became obese 🤡
Women are so much more than just their looks Omg. We’re PEOPLE. HUMANS. We have talents to explore, growth to experience etc. Not just sit and look pretty.
Thankyou so much for leaving this comment.
good job
sadly how the ones that bully other's beauty mostly girls/women
@@SensitiveMenGoReportMeLolexactly. girls are so vile towards other girls but then you get called a pick me for pointing it out
This is such a heartwarming story. Tbh I only started to follow you because I thought you were beautiful and totally had the look that I like. Then I started regularly watching your IG reels because they were so informative on Japanese culture and you seemed well travelled. It’s actually shocking to me that you were considered ugly and teased so much back in your younger days. It’s really inspiring to see you overcome all the bullying and now have so many followers admiring you. I bet a lot of the boys that wrote you off as ugly back in high school are now probably like me and are creepers following beautiful girls like you on social media 😂.
Thank you so much for letting me know your story with me🧡 It‘s so inspiring for me when knowing why ppl follow and why stick around. 😊
wow this was so nice to watch! i’m half chinese and half european so i was always surrounded by the asian (extreme) beauty standard because of family and friends. i grew up in europe and when i was younger i was one of the only asian people in my school so i ended up being picked on quite a lot, they would call me racist nicknames and pull their eyes back to look smaller, so in that way i was never really called pretty either. in europe i was too chinese and in china i was too european, so i never really had a place to belong. it was really hard for me growing up because i wanted to fit both of the beauty standards. but now that i’m older i’ve kind of just learnt to accept who i am and that as long as i think i’m pretty i’m happy😊 this video really resonated with me, i’m really happy i watched it, thank you so much for sharing your story!
It’s not European jst say the country
@@_.cantikgadis i didnt want to thats why i said european! :)
Yup I really can relate to this story as well because I'm both Asian and white but when I grew up as an adult I don't give a fuck of what people can think of me and now I'm happy in my life with peoples who really cares about me and not see me just for my race !!!
im chinese and grew up in italy ina. very very small city. got the same treatment and high school was hell because these two boys were constantly calling me china and yelling it out loud everytime they saw me (so even at cinemas or public spaces) and I would get so mad and embarassed because they wouldn’t stop even if I stood up for myself. And now I have horrible anxiety and still problems accepting myself since I’m too asian for SOME italians and TOO italian for some chinese.
@@_.cantikgadis You know you can be from many different countries in Europe, right? I'm also half Asian half European but I just say European because saying "part Maltese part Italian part Irish part 5 more countries" just is unnecessary
Your cheeks are prefect for your future partner to pinch! 😊
Hope you find the one that will accept you totally, including when without makeup!
This.
Hahahah thank you for leaving such a cute comment😆😆!
@@yixin.is.traveling yep, i can tell you my partner absolutely adore my cheeks. He loves pinching it. Soooo yeahhh i approves this message ^^
Fr she looks so nice 😭😭
this made me feel better about my cheeks, ty 😭🤍
oh my goodness, i would kill to have cheeks like yours theyre so adorable. I cant believe people were so mean to you you were and are so pretty naturally.
You are so pretty 😭
Toxic beauty standards in our society makes people believe that they're ugly and whatsoever, or something as ugly-people exist. The concept of "Glow-up" is loving yourself, not fitting other's beauty standards. If they don't accept you the way your are, it's their issue, not yours! You're not the problem, they just can't see the beauty in differences, and the beautiful differences we humans have. Pls stop trying to fit into other's beauty standards. Sending lots of love to all my girlies. 💌♡
So you actually think ugly people don’t exist? 💀
you're a literal mf, I'm trying to spread positivity but u just FELT THE NEED TO SAY THAT 😭
@@IHateEverybody4 They literally dont...
@@IHateEverybody4 bro what is your problem
@@down-kg8mt I’m too honest, that’s my “problem”.
super real on the asian beauty standard, im embracing my south east asian tan skin so much more now though :) thank you so much for sharing, im so glad that you're happy with how you present yourself now
Tan giving such an elegant vibe😙😙 I‘m so happy you like this video!
girl, it felt like you were re-telling my childhood with the short lashes, chubby face, awkward teeth, having to dress less girly, and getting tricked into thinking your crush liked you back thing. The only thing is that I'm honestly still struggling to become "pretty", or at least grow my self confidence
I will always say, no one is ugly. It’s all about if you know how to style yourself. Anyone can be pretty. It’s all about if you know how to be. But regardless, the prettiest girls are the ones with the best personality
I’m so happy & proud you rose up from your bad experiences and didn’t let them change you’re kind character! 💕✨
Thank you so much!! 🥰
Hi Yixin, I was this girl growing up too. I found out in my 20s I was very sick my whole life and finally got treatment and then my glow up happened. While men did treat me a little better overall after treatment changed my appearance, i think the biggest thing was definitely finding a style of clothing i feel comfortable in so i felt confident in and men got that vibe from me. When you feel insecure about your looks men pick up those vibes from you. I hope things are better for you now love. Glad you made a video about this topic and I'm so sorry you had to go through this too. Kids can be very cruel.
Yes that's so true! Finding our own style!
Thanks for sharing your experience. Some of those things are not easy to talk about but I think this could help a lot of people who might be going through something similar. At the very least let them know they’re not alone and to love themselves more. 👍
I think you look best at 0:12. You have so much natural beauty! As an American who usually finds east Asian faces the most attractive (men & women) the beauty standards there seem so strange. I think slightly broader face looks good and cute on women. And I don't understand the heavy lower eye makeup. You have wonderful eyes! That style just makes women look like mannequins.
I had a slightly different experience because i was the only asian kid in a white school but the humiliation and the pain is the same. I grieve my teenage years when i was told my ethnic features were ugly, that I had "mean eyes" and wasn't pretty enough to even warrant basic respect. Thank you for posting this very personal story, and i am so happy you have found strength and beauty through your experience. The most beautiful people are the kind ones ❤
If you were in my school i bet my friends and i would love you in our group (we are not near popular though soo)
omg,, i really loved the video!
i wish this would have more views... i think that lots of people need to listen to this!
new follower!
Thank youuu❤
It's refreshing to hear a story like this that doesn't end up with the person getting surgery or fillers. Instead you embraced the imperfect and that itself is beautiful.
Embrace the none perfection,that’s what I got from that!!!!
I feel heartbroken after your story, I never faced with such terrible treatment from other people, but have never being considered as "beautiful" at all. I'm very sorry you had to face such shitheads as your "friends" and closest ones...
I have to say… 0:17 this is such a cute photo and I think your gums make your smile so much more genuine and cute! + That hair color suits you 🙃
Girl you are so pretty actually you don't have to listen to people's opinions..focus on yourself and keep going❤️❤️❤️
I saw your reel on IG where you talked about your smile how you used to be insecure about it and smiled weirdly but now you don't... That truly hit me sooo deep I could never relate as hard as that and I did start to notice my insecurities and how badly they affected my look so I began to slowly accept and embrace each one of them :)
Idk why people are so toxic, i also have quite a rounded face and i think its cute, yours also looks so cute and it honestly matches your face perfectly! Im happy that your now much better (in mental) about how you look :) i just wish we werent in a world this toxic
“Embrace the non-perfect as a personal style” that hit me so hard. I will be bawling out to this. Thank you. I needed to hear this. I am on the peak of my body dysmorphia and my self esteem is at the lowest right now. I am too harsh to myself. Hearing this made it click for me that it’s not that I am weird or ugly, but that I am different.
i genuinely thought you had makeup at the beginning because i thought you’re so pretty and you look like a quokka, so cute! you went through a lot, i wish the best for you ❤
Not a fan of those baggy eyes that they all seem to do tho looks weird
I also grew up as the ugly friend, it really helped me build character.
Now I'm the most successful person among all my high school friends. I married a really beautiful wife, I run a successful business, and I have 2 loving children.
Just keep in mind that its important not to compare yourself to other people, but just compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Soon enough, you'll end up being much further ahead in life than most people you know.
I feel all of this.
I’m 37yrs and still feel these painful feelings. I never had a “glow up” and as an tomboy still teaching myself makeup.
I'm almost in my 30's and I never got into makeup.
I still don't know how to do it and I wish I knew how so I can look prettier.
But I've never been a girly girl. At least makeup wise.
@@specialtwice4975 Exactly! 👌🏽
i dont think she was ugly tho. She just didnt find what suited her. (Im not saying this like to "Not make her insecure". im being honest, because it happens to a lot of people, they dont find what suits their body and face so it makes them look "ugly")
Yeah I’ve felt this way too I was always teased for acne in the past or my looks in general.. and it really hurt my confidence, but now I think something changed maybe it was being more confident? I was so insecure and a huge people pleaser, you would be able to see it too. But now my friends keep complimenting me and my friend called me pretty! And even popular girls I wish I looked like complimented me as well. I got rid of a decent amount of acne, started dressing better. Focusing on hairstyles, and learned how to do makeup better. And gained more confidence. I think with a little bit of effort, and surrounding yourself by the right people you won’t feel this way. Thank you for this video it was really nice to see. And btw I think your face shape and teeth are beautiful 🩷
I wouldn't say I'm "ugly", but I'm not super pretty either. Just mid. And tbh, that's not a bad thing!! I just want to glow up not in my looks but my personality and habits too. I want to change how I'm living but its so hard TT
Hopefully I'm able to lock in... if u see this, remind me to lock in!!!
Lock in
Literally all you said about your teeth and your chubby face, I find it really pretty on you. Like just before you start talking I was thinking "oh she looks really cute with that chubby look and pretty smile". Also you were really pretty in those pictures you shown us and you are still pretty now. Honestly I can't unserstand those mean people, I think that your smile and chubby face is what makes you 10 times more beautiful!
0:20 your smile is literally so adorable !! ❤
So confused how anyone could call you ugly 😭😭😭 you are genuinely so beautiful with and without makeup! I love your unique features.
Thank you so much for this video, I’m a teen in highschool who’s insecure about her looks but you rly make me feel better; sometimes I see hate comments on your Instagram but I just wanted to let u know you rlly make me feel better with your back story and I’m striving to be like you one day!
i relate to this wayy too much. i always felt like the “ugly” friend, was teased for being a little weird and unpopular and was really shy throughout school. only towards the end of high school did i finally figure out how to properly do my hair and makeup, and now i’m in uni i look like a different person. i’m treated way differently now too, guys hit on me (which has never happened before and makes me feel totally weird), and people generally just accept me without me having to do much. pretty privilege is definitely real. what sucks now is that i feel like an imposter, like i’m just pretending to be someone else, cuz i hide all my nerdy hobbies that i developed in my “ugly phase” and now i feel like i can’t be honest about them anymore around the people that i’m with because they don’t really understand me. i know this is such a first world problem lmao but its been bugging me a lot lately and i’ve never told this to anyone. forgive the ranting lol
This hits so close to home, being made fun of or never being complimented for your looks and feeling ugly most of your school life, thanks for this video it genuinely helped me feel less alone. And you looked beautiful when you were in school and youre still so beautiful
i grew up ugly, but after i actually started taking care of my hygiene, dressing up and building confidence, people call me pretty way more than before
finding my self-expression literally improved everything about my life
Your such a real person thank you for sharing this
I can't believe people called you ugly. you are so pretty and I love your hair
Thank you for uploading this 🫶 i can relate to you except the glow up. I haven’t yet glow up 😢
Please do a tutorial for your make up next, if you’re ok 🥺
Of course!! That's why I created this channel😊Is to share everything on how to glow up!
I relate myself to u so much. I am a brown south Asian girl I was also terribly bullied entire school life for my skin tone. And I also got into makeup just like you through cosplay. ❤
It's crazy how people treat others who they believe are pretty, people are so hypocritical and even though they consider you a friend they'll still end up treating you different because you're "ugly. That's what people have normalized, you can't look at anything without seeing society's standards seeping in. It's so common that even children are being exposed to it and at a young age start worrying about their appearance thinking something is wrong with them. Sometimes we don't even recognize that we treat people that we find conventionally attractive and unattractive differently
There are 3 main reasons why I don’t like wearing make up even though I’m a girly girl.
-Good make up is expensive and runs out quickly. I’d rather invest in expensive clothing that lasts forever.
-It gives me so much acne so it defeats the purpose of putting make up. It just feels unhygienic when I have something foreign on my face, or using the same brush or sponge everyday and stuff (unless you totally disinfect them every single day.)
-it takes so much longer to get ready.
My sister spends like over an hour putting make up everyday covering her acne.. Sometimes you just want to go outside, but think about having to put make up for an hour, and suddenly you don’t feel like going out anymore. It is a really makes me feel the opposite of freedom. (But I do admire my sister for her determination to do it everyday. All her hard work and patience made her the successful person that she is right now.)
Im so sad this happend to you i hate societys standars some times all people deserve to be treated as people you sem like the sweetest girl and always rember you are beautiful whit or whitout makup ❤
I am 25 and people continue telling me I'm the nerd girl, and no one tell me I'm beautiful, only my boyfriend and my mom. I am really insecure, I cry almost every day because of that. I have really beautiful friends... I don't know what to do :,c
Nerds are intelligent. It's not an insult. You said you have a boyfriend and beautiful friends.
I'm not sure if you mean they are physically or emotionally beautiful? But if your group is beautiful...well as the saying goes... birds of a feather stick together! A group of Beautiful girls won't adopt someone ugly. Look at the other groups next time! Do you see any groups with a conspicuous ugly sticking out? Or are the groups more homogeneous!
Sweet girl, I think you are under an illusion caused by your own personal insecurity, and there are 2 strong reasons- Men NEVER EVER date someone they find ugly (unless they're getting some other compensation like money or access to perks they otherwise couldn't achieve) And a group of beautiful girls don't accept an ugly friend.
You have what it takes, don't let insecurity erode your personality and other blessings from God 💜
If that's you in your pfp then you're not ugly at all c:
If you have a boyfriend you’re not ugly girl 😭
you have a boyfriend chill
I'm also in a similar situation as you, like chubby face, dark skin, timid, bunny teeth and weight etc....
but I'm now all about self love. 💗
Starting cosplay really save a part of my confidence and makeup
but getting out of low self esteem is really hard for me and it took 7 years for me to learn self love.
So take your time if you are struggling with self confidence.🌼
"Makeup acts like a weapon to protect myself." This. All of your experiences. So proud for you for opening up.
Wow that was so inspiring to watch.. this helped me see myself in a better light and this is proof that accepting yourself is one of the most important things you can do to yourself❤
In those photos, you didn't look like an "ugly girl", you looked like a high schooler. It's really sad that beauty standards are so important in a time where you're meant to be having fun! People are really mean, and I'm sorry you experienced that. Also, you're amazing at make-up!
the crush thing is so relatable. people were so mean.
I remember one of my friends from uni - popular, hot, every girls loved him, but he was a really kind and helpful dude, in general. Then I stumbled upon an old photo of him where he used to be an overweight, nerdy kid in middle school. I didn't expect that, but what I am trying to say is that sometimes, growing up ugly, and then glow up later, actually build character beyond appearance.
Real friends don't call you ugly or make fun of you. Period. Personally I don't care about how my friends look or what they wear.
Girl I totally feel you. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
I think you're super cute honestly. I understand where you're coming from and I support you, beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.
What's wrong with people? Like literally why do they care about how people look like. I don't really see it I'm surprised how people bullied you, you look sooo gorgeous naturally. People who called you ugly are just insecure.
thank you so much for this, i really needed it, i always feel so gross and ugly compared to other girls and hearing aboutg= how you found confidence even when so many people tried to bring you down really made me feel better
thank you
You have pretty eyes and a good soul. For real.
Just discovered your channel today~ you were so cute in HS and still are even now. I’m sorry people were so cruel. Glad you living life happy AF ❤
i followed you, you a truly inspiring ESPECIALLY as a an asian girly that’s chinese i feel u the beauty standards are so toxic and unrealistic
im going through the same thing i was bullied all my life and still am by my family saying im overweight or i look ugly but that did not stop me from looking my self in the mirror and say to my self "your so pretty your so cute and your worth everything" for everyone who read this comment please look at ur self and say that ur beautiful no matter what u look like no matter what color no matter what others think ur beautiful no matter what and that's a fact don't ruin ur happiness for other people who well affect u badly in life enjoy it as much as u can
and i wish u guys a wonderful life full of happiness and joy
Girl, your so pretty though. And you were pretty too. I can’t believe society has gone so bad that natural beauty is not acceptable anymore. So sorry you had to go through that. As an insecure person, I feel you. Your beautiful and valued, you were beautiful and should’ve been valued. It is their loss, your an amazing person as well.❤
Edit: I find comfort in your video and thank you for sharing. I am so glad your confident boosted and I know you’ll find amazing and loving people along the way because your such a lovely person. Looking back again, you were truly beautiful, how were you even bullied?! Your smile is very beautiful and warms my heart.
Loved the video,thank you for sharing this with us,it really was a relief knowing you grow out of it since I happen to be going through similar as a high schooler currently ❤ I really want to work towards it,workout,eat better,change mindset etc but I'm always surrounded by the thought that I'll never grow out of it nor the mentality but seeing you talk about,sharing your experiences and seeing your glow up really helped❤ I wish you the best
YOURE SO CUTE LIKE A SOFT BUNNY OMG
I randomly clicked on this video and im so glad I did. I related to it so much. I had so many of the same experiences even though I grew up on the opposite side of the globe in a different culture. Anyway Thank You.
What is sad about fake friends they use you as a scapegoat to make themselves feel better. I hope you are feeling ok emotionally, being bullied based on how you look really hurts your self esteem even when you have a glow up. You seem like a beautiful person and inside even before the glow up. I have bad teeth too and that alone destroyed my self esteem.
I am deeply sorry this was your experience, I have a lot of empathy for you because I was the exact same way growing up, always seen as the outcast and the ugly one. I look at those photos of you from high school and you are seriously so cute, I don't know what kind of a monster could ever call you ugly. But I have heard horror stories about bullying in Asia, I'm so sorry you experienced that.
You have a gentle softness to your personality and words, I hope you can find the confidence to be yourself, because it seems to me like the person you have always been is gorgeous and unique 💕
can you please upload more videos about your journey? i find so much comfort and not alone because of you sharing your experience ❤
Thank you so so so much for your word. 2024 has been a year of some pretty big decision making for me and I am FULLY ready to come back to RUclips on 2025!! Editing some new videos now, see you 2025 for my journey updates!!☺
Aweeee. I’m so sorry that happened to you during your most vulnerable times of youth. Everyone goes through an “ugly” phase in life. Luckily I grew out of mine in HS, so I got to enjoy a part of my youth, but I’ve peeked since then, so now I’m trying to re-find myself again😅 I realized my error was that I still let those around me control my thoughts and behavior. Not everyone who’s “nice” to you, is actually keeping your best interest in mind. I’m no longer “friends” with a lot of people who I would have called “My closest friends” at that time. I’m now almost 30, YIKES, lol. Not this yr though, wooh😅 in 1 more🙃 hehe. I’m not sure how old you are but my best words of wisdom to you is; “When your young, it seems as if all views, opinions, and glances of the world is the MOST sacred thing that must be approved in your life, but as you get older (a.k.a me now) you soon learn that the only thing that should be taken for high approval is what YOU want most for your own self. Not for the world, but for YOU❤”. Something I’m teaching myself still everyday. It’s hard to not want to fit into society. To be the “pretty, popular, attractive” one, but LITERALLY looks is only temporary. Heart and status is life. So sh*t on them with your kindness n success😎 Also, no one is ever really “ugly”. It’s the people around them who is.
the way you've come to terms with events that sound super traumatic is so wise and graceful. it must have been so hard but just watching you i feel so much admiration because to sit there and talk about it like that is.. wow. i hope i can heal from my trauma like that someday. along with your physical beauty, your mindset too is so beautiful. thank you for sharing this
My friend used to call me "Big Teeth" when I was in high school also. But, no one is perfect as you said.
Just to let you know, you have your Big teeth friend here and your smile is really charming and gorgeous 😊
I STARTED TWEAKING WHEN YOU SHOWED ME YOUR PAST SELF..UGLY? EXCUSE ME? YOU LOOKED LIKE THE MOST ADORABLE LITTLE QUOKKA 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💗💗💗
Omggg you are so pretty 🥺💖💖 i normally don’t say that to people so I really mean it. Seriously you look like one of those Chinese ulzzangs I put on my Pinterest board 😆 I had a similar story growing up where the boys that would bully and call me names and say that I was gross to my face ending up crushing on me later or wanting to date me cuz I had gotten a lot prettier. I’m on a glow up journey to be even more who I want to be/look like and you’re such an inspiration 🥹💖 so thank you for sharing this video!!! 🥹🥹🥰🥰 I feel more motivated to be the best version of myself!!
All the things that people made fun of you for make you look very cute. Ur so pretty and I can't see otherwise ❤
Your story is sooo relatable as a Chinese girl ;_;
I’m so sorry about the amount of mistreatment you have had it was so uncalled for and you didn’t deserve any of it I’m glad you seem to be doing better.
I am also going through something similar, I’m always known as ugly whether it’s family or friends they always make indirect comments about my appearance.
If you can do you think you’re able to make a tutorial on how to look better I love your aesthetic and overall looks so if you’re comfortable with doing that I’d appreciate it so much!!
You are not ugly ! And you are no misformed to which ppl look away from. You are attractive 😍 People were jealous. My husband went through this. So much cruelty in Japanese culture. I know boys can be, girls too... I just ignore and must know your own self worth !!! ❤ I decided to sub because your attitude is perfect. 💯
You were never ugky sweetheart, its the society and the beliefs, culture and media that enbeds into ous and people around us hiw we should look like. If you don't fit thise standards, you are labelled as ugky which is disgusting. I'm happy you are feeling much more confident now with or without makeup ❤
this video is really comforting, thank you and wish you everything the best🩷
Thank you for this warm comment
No matter how much i look i really find your natural face that you were born with very beautiful ,you look like a sweet person but after changing it instead of accepting it because of others opinions is ridiculous if they don't like you than that it ,there are people who will like you for how you look will see all the flaws that you see as beautiful things and what is more that they will accept you for your personality not just look
I hope you're doing well , don't overdo it with make up so you can stay healthy and beautiful when you grow old
My friends love me as i am, they call me pretty even though i think im not
I’m so sorry you had to feel this way but honestly you’re beautiful hunny, always remember people are too sad to have to inject things into themselves just to have a “pretty face” age naturally there is beauty in that ♥️
Relatable 🥹! Thank you for sharing your story and glad you found your confidence 🫶
Girl you’ve rlly learned how to embrace ur insecurities, and I hope I can do that to mine too
I think you look adorable and pretty before the makeup too! I am glad the guy called "James" was able to let you know how much of a two-face that girl was to you. I was also called ugly but it was during middle school and that was because I was still growing and didn't really blossom my full features yet at the time. After I got into high school I was stalked and hit on by a lot of boys/guys that I felt uncomfortable with. I was also cat-called often. But now that I am in my mid-twenties, I feel so old and past my prime. I have little makeup experience and knowledge since every time I do makeup, I always get my skin to be too dry and flaky. Maybe one day I will get better at it! I hope you can keep your self confidence high and believe in yourself and others who see you pretty for who you are too under the makeup as well! You're pretty and a late bloomer, so those people should go get a life.
You're gorgeous with and without makeup. I like how it turned out, but gosh, you're so naturally pretty.
Well that was just straight up traumatic.
I'm sorry that happened to you, teenagers are assholes.
Sadly this type of experience and bullying happens to alot of people, so take comfort in that you're not alone.
You were never ugly, you were always beautiful. I know that reading this has little value from a stranger. But know that you deserve to love yourself, it is not an easy thing to do and it requires work, but I know that you can do it.
Personally I always thought that I was a piece of shit and that I was not worthy of anyone. It wasn't until I was in my 30s that I identified the problem and started working on it. Much improvement was made but the trauma still lingers. But at least I don't blame myself anymore and that is freeing.
I hope that you are also able to rediscover your true self.
Good luck to you and anyone else that read this. You ARE worthy.
I'm really sorry you had that experience.
Hahah, I also grew up knowing I was never going to be pretty, and with colorist being so rampant in my country I knew I was too dark and too hairy to be considered anything but that. It really sucks when you know that the only times guys ask you out is a part of a joke. It takes some time, and meeting the right people, to heal from that.
Btw, I have respect for that guy. It was right to send you the screenshot of that convo. Most guys don't have the guts to do that.
I am glad you are doing better now
Great video, and an even greater story