@SocksWithSandalsEnjoyer I know that was my point. There is no reason to give for being quiet (or loud). The main comment made me feel there should be a reason for being quiet [by saying "there's no real reason"] as if being loud is the normal.
I feel like I found this video at the perfect time. I just started college this year, and it feels like the students who stand out the most are the extroverts who are always confident, talkative, and ready to express their thoughts at all times. Me being naturally quiet, I’ve felt so out of place in my class, I even started envying them to the point where I tried to act like them, but it was so draining. Every time I got home, I was completely exhausted, to the point where I didn’t even have the energy to talk to my family, that’s when it actually hit me that trying to be someone I’m not was only making things worse. This video was a great reminder that it’s okay to just be myself!! Everyone let's say THANK YOU Hannah!!!
omg, i'm literally in the same situation as you. somehow in my uni, it seems as if everyone is so extroverted and plus they can always make such good relationship with the teachers and other students that i feel left out. but i have understood that i feel comfortable being quiet and living in my own world. being quiet doesn't mean we don't talk at all either.
@@hoshf47 Exactly!! It’s so comforting to know that, even though we’re from different parts of the world, we all share similar worries and experiences.
I used to be very quiet before and I totally relate to this, I even got called ”Wednesday” and ”the quiet kid” but nowdays Im more vocal and have less anxiety about speaking up. Loved this video by the way💖
No way cuz I also got called Wednesday just a few days ago, and it was also because I wear all black fits. It's annoying, tbh. It makes me feel stupid.
One thing I’ve learned about being quiet is that people will either treat you like a child or treat you with disrespect because they think you’re not going to say anything My dad would always tell me to stand up for myself but the thing is if I knew what people ment, I would’ve stood up for myself I have delayed processing so I don’t sometimes I don’t realize that people are being mean to me until later after analyzing But if my pattern recognition tells me otherwise then I’m automatically going to stand up for myself, I won’t even think about it. But people are so shocked by it, and then they turn around and try to paint you as the mean one 🧍🏽♀️
It took me almost 30 years to realise that there was nothing wrong with being quiet and introvert. It caused me so much anxiety throughout my 20’s and I had been feeling guilty about it since kindergarten. I think that journaling does help a lot to clear up your thoughts. Also, because extroverts are so loud, we notice them more and tend to think that we’re the only ones who can’t talk and act like the others, but now I see that worldwide there are about the same amount of introverts as extrovert people (not evenly spread, though). The internet is a great help, if you use it mindfully. Making these videos will help you. I’ve also been doing similar things and found out that, ironically, once I realised that there was nothing wrong with being quiet I started to be able to talk more and being less uncomfortable in social situations. I’m glad that you’re having this clarity of mind a little earlier than me. What you said made perfect sense and was so relatable. I only clicked on it out of boredom and didn’t think I’d watch till the end, but it was quite engaging. I’ll check out your channel. Take care.
I don't think I've seen a video quite like this on RUclips and found it to be quite refreshing. I've always been a quiet person growing up, but I decided I wanted to be a speech therapist after helping my autistic cousin communicate when he visited. My teachers in college told me that I wouldn't be a speech therapist because I was too reserved. I still have people say "oh you don't like to talk. Why are you a speech therapist?" and I say, "My job is to listen and help my clients to communicate, not to talk over them." After college, I took a few gap years and taught abroad in Korea. One of my favorite things to do is to prove people wrong. Just because I'm quiet person it doesn't mean I can't be adventurous, travel the world, and work in an industry that is more extraverted in nature. As quiet people, we also have a voice to share with the world. We might just need some extra time and encouragement to have our voice heard.
dang this comment is actually inspiring to me. I'm studying to become a teacher, but I'm also reserved and quiet. in college, I've had professors doubting on me because of that. sometimes I think that they're right, sometimes I think I can make it it's a feeling fluctuates a lot but I'm trying to keep my hopes up. I'm halfway through the course and I remember I've had more reserved nad introvert teachers myself. thanks for your comment !
Being quiet Ive always been talked “at”, just a lack of respect because I’m not as lively as I should be… It took an embarrassingly long time to realize I shouldn’t be anything than what I am. I’m a boring friend and I’m okay with that :)
To be honest, what you say sounds like me. But there is something I want to say about your last sentence. We may be boring for some people, or even for most people, but that doesn't make us boring. At least not to the extent of saying "I am a boring friend". I am happy for you that you are able to accept yourself as you are sooner or later, but as I said, just because most people find us boring doesn't make us boring. I think we just haven't found the right person for ourselves
I would also use the last sentence to describe myself, but now that I'm seeing another person use it to describe themselves I just know that statement isn't true. I think about all the things I love or am interested in. There are many niche things that I am interested in and I'm sure you have a couple of those too. There's just not a safe space to really voice out our opinions about our niche interests. At least that's what I think
I've always felt so bad being a boring friend, but i can't bring myself to overreact or behave in a way i don't feel, especially when i'm socially exhausted
@@shydkneeI totally agree. All this time I've been thinking that I'm boring that's why people don't bother to hear my voice for what I have to say and stuff but truly those people around me have just made me feel unseen and unheard. Making me act quiet around them and I do have a voice and sometimes I do want to talk. When I do they just talk it off. Anyway, what I was trying to say is after finding a friend that actually stood by me unlike those group of friends. I realized I was never boring. I was just unappreciated. Just let your people find you or go out and meet them. I'm sure everyone has a person for them no matter how "boring" they may seem (^^)
There is no shame in being quiet. Most of the time in class I enjoy listening to what others have to say and keep my thoughts to myself. Go introverts!
i'd like to accept myself as an introvert, but being in highschool and always having this social pressure to be outgoing is so depressing for me. Any advices?
ever since 11th grade started,it's been kind of hard bcz almost everyone in my class is outgoing and funny..even the other quiet kids are surrounded with extroverted friends that genuinely support them in speaking up and stuff while I'm just stuck in a corner trying hard to fit in.I would just end up blabbering abt nonsense and then come home & think abt how stupid i acted that day.even my 'friends' have seemed to given up on me &they just hang with the other cool kids...I feel left out wherever i go but having seen ur video,i'm encouraged to just accept myself the way i am...i'm a really understanding person who always accept others for how they are so why do i still struggle with accepting myself,the girl i've known for all my life??
real i feel like there’s something wrong w me because i can’t form connections with people but other people who are quiet and introverted have loads of friends who make effort to be around them
@ysprnt8707 same here and i'm always left to wonder what i did wrong in life to not deserve people that actually 'want' me in their life...let's just hope that everything will be better in 2025 :)
It's really nice to get back in touch with my quiet girl side. I used to be very shy and quiet until my last years of college. Nowadays I'm much more talkative and not socially anxious at all, but sometimes I see everyone talking and interacting, and I feel bad for not doing the same or putting an effort to be included. Then I remember "wait, I do enjoy my own company quite a lot, I don't need to feel pressured to participate in every social interaction possible". It's truly a magical feeling of comfort whenever I think about it.
It’s disheartening how others criticize us for not being “loud” enough, pressuring us to conform to their way of being. It’s not just individuals, but society as a whole, that seems to demand this uniformity in traits. What they fail to realize is the beauty in embracing the unique qualities that make each of us who we are, instead of labeling or judging them. At the end of the day, overthinking leads nowhere-nothing in this world inherently makes sense when dissected too much. Let that be a reminder that there’s no absolute “right” way to exist, and the most fulfilling choice is simply to be yourself.
i feel like theres been a personality war on extroverts and introverts question is how can both personalities get along without judging their personality dont some introverts extroverts get along even if they dont like being quiet also im extroverted like being around others yes im very talkative very energetic i goof around a lot too.
I’ve always been very quiet too, always being told to speak up and be louder, but I did gain confidence through my silence and being alone, because I focused more on my interests and hobbies which helped me to stop comparing myself to others and just be myself :)
I’ve been planning to do the last bit! I cut loose with all my friends my first semester while even being a freshman. So I got no one again but it’s worth my peace
im 16 and i just started college, i can relate to everything you said in this video. ive spent so much of this year hating my personality because im so quiet, trying to modify myself but i realise that being quiet isnt bad. i dont have many friends at all and ive been feeling so lonely since ive started this academic year and its lead me to resenting my quietness even more. this had made me realise its not something i should be resentful of.
you're not alone dude, I feel like this too. Always trying to change my personnality because I think that there is something wrong with the way I am... it's draining, i'd like to be a natural extrovert because their seems to be more liked by society. But well, i think that acceptance is the first step for the journey of happiness:)
yeah I've started uni this year (I'm 18) and it was a big reminder of how quiet and reserved I am, after coming from home where I had made a lot of friends and all of a sudden basically knowing nobody, but ive still made some friends here and most people are very nice but at heart I think I am just someone who likes doing their own thing and I have a lot of presentations coming up this term and it absolutely makes me nervous lol but ive done plenty before so why should now be any different
A highschool student with social anxiety who is a strong introvert here🙋🏻♀️ Thank you so much for making this video, I'm so happy I'm not alone feeling that way about being "the quiet kid", your words truly comforted me and even made me cry! I relate to you so much and I'm glad I found you!🩷🥹
the reason i subscribed to you was because of how related you are! i also grew up very quiet and introverted as a child, which continues while I am in college. public speaking and talking to new people terrifies me, but I can see myself improving over time. thanks for sharing your story with us! :)
In another reality, I wouldn’t have to be “mean” in order to stand up for myself as a quiet person. Because I tried being kind, was taught to let things go and be the bigger person- all which made people think that they can take advantage of me till I finally had enough through lived experiences. What I learned as a quiet person is that sometimes you have to be mean if others are treating you indifferently to make you feel awful or stupid, you aren’t wrong for standing up for yourself. If others can defend themselves then so can I….
i don’t usually comment on youtube videos but, this one really resonates with me! i’ve always been a very introverted, quiet, and shy person. i didn’t think it was a “bad” thing until classmates and teachers started pointing it out to me. for a long time i disliked my personality because of this and wished that i was an extrovert for a very long time. since my junior year of high school, i’ve grown to accept my reserved and quiet personality. i still have a lot of growing to do but i’m satisfied with my progress :) thank you for making this video!
i used to be the quiet kid during my school years and i actually tried to fix that by being more loud and flamboyant (i was still shaking in my boots because all the attention made me extra nervous). some people hated that and told me that it was annoying. however, they also hated my quiet version and also found it annoying. the lesson here is you can't please everyone and you shouldn't. let's all be ourselves.
your point in this video is what my therapist has been trying to convince me of for like a year hahah. I want to love my personality, but it's just hard sometimes seeing my extroverted friends passing interviews, having fun at parties, and making more friends and relationships with ease, while I try to do the same but only manage at like 20% of their speed. Also I've improved my social anxiety a lot since I was in highschool, yet it's hard to accept that there is a part of me that will always be shy, and that it doesn't make me less valuable, and that it has some advantages that I forget about
wow, it almost felt like i was listening to myself lol. i literally wrote one of my college essays on this, how i saw being quiet as a weakness and how it may have taken away some opportunities for me, but i soon learned how it definitely has its strengths, the same way being loud and vocal does. it hurts knowing that so many people spend their childhood and, for some, even beyond that, thinking something is wrong with their natural personalities. thank u for this video, it was very comforting :))
this video is just so relatable from high school experiences to even thinking of the future. I am so scared about my future. My major includes a lot of networking and just overall voicing my opinions. The things is introverts usually have the best ideas or the most thoughtful opinions but we cannot speak as well as others if we are not in a safe space. I feel like in my family or even culture being extroverted is so important. I try so hard not to compare myself to others who are very extroverted.
I'm not one to usually comment on videos because as an introvert I do get nervous talking online too but this video was really comforting and I felt like I was just talking to you as a friend and it made me feel better about being quiet and introverted. ♡
Yes I agree, having a safe space is really comforting. As an introvert, I also have fear about public speaking and don’t talk as much as others. People tend to mistreat me because of this, so I often feel like I’m not good enough. But you encouraged me and made me realize how being quiet isn’t a bad thing and that we should accept our true personality. Tysm 💕
im extroverted i like being energetic and social a lot and being around others can talking to introverts be a challenge since im outgoing a lot and yeah i can be quite sometimes but it doesn’t mean im introverted cause i like being extroverted
i’ve always been content with being quiet, i think it makes me observant and i like listening to other people talk anyway :]] thanks a bunch for this video!!
hi! im also a really quiet person and have always been, so I can relate to everything you are saying. I was really insecure about it in the first two years of high school. I was teased about it a lot by not just students, but also faculty. I am not sure what made change my perspective about being quiet, but I guess it has something to do with what you said at 6:20 . In my country, there is a stereotype that quiet people are arrogant and I never understood the connection between the two, because I didn't feel arrogant at all, rather I felt inferior to everyone around me. I am currently in college and recently someone made fun of me for being quiet and she said something along the lines of I must be so "edgy" and "mysterious". It would have hurt me a few years ago, but now I just really didn't understand her logic. She never tried to talk to me, so how would she know? I think that's my main issue. People judge you for being quiet without actually trying to understand you. Anyway, thank you for representing us quiet girls and hope everything goes well for u!
I can relate to this and the stereotype of quietness being associated with arrogance and condescension (in France), thanks for sharing your experience and I wish you the very best for 2025! 💗
I've gone through several phases of life now, my most confident self was naturally loud and extroverted. But as I'm getting older I'm just...quieter. Getting comfortable with that is hard right now (I hear thats pretty common with change lol) so it's nice to hear someone happy and finding strength in a quieter way of being. Thanks for sharing.
i'm a little late but this small talk really resonated with me. i've always been on the quieter side of personalities and struggled with shyness so acknowledging that it's actually not a weakness at all makes me feel soooo comforted. sending love to all my fellow introverts out there
over time i've learned that being quiet allows me to better take in everything around me. since i'm more observant than most people i pick up on qualities that not everyone notices and its a nice way to appreciate those around me and better help others in little ways
your video just showed up in my home page and im so grateful for that , i feel so related to you because im having a hard time these days with college and this semester was the hardest for me from all sides (that I didn’t start studying for my finals cuz my energy and motivation are all gone :c and that’s make me more stressed and anxious ) and im so afraid that the next semester will be more harder and the future really scares me :( , but seeing you video at this moment really relieved me because i see myself in you and you became my safe place
hii! i really needed to see this video lol. in hs i was so quiet people often forgot i went there (my graduating class was only like 45 people too, lol). i've been really hard on myself lately bc ive been so shy and it's been hard to branch out and meet others, and it's nice to get a reminder that it's not a fault but just another aspect of my personality. i hope everyone has a great day
I absolutely loved this video! I can relate so much to being the quiet kid, especially in primary and secondary school. I also used to think it was a weakness because that was what most people told me. But as i got older and got to know myself, i realised that being quiet isnt my whole personality and so i began to slowly change and be more open to public discussions e.g. speaking infront of a class, taking part in a debate or giving a speech. I became more confident in speaking to strangers and even peers. so i agree that being quiet is definitely not a weakness because it alows you to take in the world in a quieter and more peaceful way, which i have found really conforting.
Well, I'm also such a quiet person . I used to always compare myself with my twin sister bc of her being very socialable and friendy and the way she's always loved and prased by others. Every teachers and people i met for the first time used to tell me that your sister has trampled your right of speaking (saying with laugher they though they're so funny) . Anyways i have been struggling so hard to accept my personality and prove others that i'm good the way i am and i am capable of doing anything and i'm not in a competition with anyone. We'll learn and grow just by the time pass. Thank u for sharing this video i could literally relate to your story and i don't feel like the only one anymore.❤ btw your so cute ㅠㅠ
Ur Sue is so cute! All my life I was told that i am too quiet, teachers, friends, family.. i always think that quietness was bad but with a lotttt of therapy, i realized that is my quality. There was nothing wrong with me. Recently i was deciding on my major and i was feeling very lost. But, as always, God always comes at the right time, and ur channel appeared to me. You gave me a lot of courage to make my decision in my college field. Thank you for you existence!! I always will think of u with a lot of love
after reading some of these comments and listening to your chat.. i realize that i may just be loud and energetic because i want people to respect me. i actually really enjoy being quiet and by myself. ive always seemed to gravitate towards people that are quieter and also enjoy their me-time, maybe its a sign!! thank you for posting this, its super comforting and it honestly feels safe here
I watched this video yesterday night and it was so comforting I could have cried. I truly felt what you said about people not taking someone into account just because they do not speak louder or voice their concerns while being gentle. I believe kindness and empathy are the key to being in peace with yourself and others.
This feels like i'm talking to an old friend, sharing our stories and still being relating each other's. Your video (this one especially) made me feel a lot better and comfortable with being alone and 'quite', also i became grateful that being scared of the future's expectations are normal to everyone, we're struggling ourselves in our own way. Soo thank you for making this video 🥹 i just want to say that you reached your target to make this video being relatable to some of us ❤
I'm not even korean, actually I grew up in the other side of the world but I used to love Sue, it was so fun to play those games when I was a child. It's so nostalgic to see her again😭💗
It's my first time commenting on RUclips and it's also my first time in this channel but I've never felt this much related because I am literally going through the same thing at the high school so this was very comforting, ❤️🩹
hi hannah! tysm for making these vids 😭 it has been so comforting to hear your struggles as being a quiet person bc I’ve been called that my whole life which is so frustrating. But as you said, there’re strengths to our quietness like being more observant and having the ability to carefully choose what we say. As I grow older, I have started to become more accepting of my quiet nature, and have learned that those who appreciate you for who you are will stick with you!
Thank you for this video, I’ve been struggling a lot within my job and comparing myself to others due to me being quiet and reserved. this has helped me see another perspective of it and I’m glad I’m not alone because the way society treats quietness is sad.. they think we’re a threat but we’re not T-T
Omg!! I'm from South America and that precious character (Sue) is one of my favorites games when I was a child, so many memories in just an image, lol. Your video come to me in the perfect moment in my life, thank you so much for talk about the quiet like that: is not a weakness, is just the way you are and that's perfect for real.
you’re so eloquent and well-spoken in expressing your thoughts. your video resonated with me as an introvert and as someone who values their alone time, i really can’t help but envy people who are expressive and social. i’ve learned to accept that i’m not someone meant to be in large groups of friends but that shouldn’t stop me from experiencing things others do :) you’re my new favorite youtuber.
Wow, this video is really helpful. I’m 14 years old and in this days I’m not feeling very well, also because it’s the end of the first term at my first year of highschool, but also because I’ve been called asocial even from my parents, but they don’t understand how much I love being alone by myself. I don’t have a huge amount of friends, I’d like to have it... but sometimes I reflect on my little life and I think (like you just said) that a little group (or also not a group but only 2 people) or friends is better than a bigger one. I’m really grateful of this type of videos that I love so much and that I discovered only a week ago, because they’re really comforting and can communicate to you that there are other people similar to you whit whom you can feel yourself at a safe place. (Sorry if in this message are some grammatical error but I’m not English ahah)
i was also supposed to be class of 2024, and have stayed back a year alone with no friends. it didnt end up working out for me, i felt incapable of dealing with it. now at home i am working towards my end of year exams to graduate in 2025. this is a very nice video
OMG I'm so grateful for RUclips recommending me this video :) As an introvert who's been judged and treated differently for being quieter, I finally feel seen
Girl I'm 30 seconds into the video and I'm already hooked, I loved playing those Sue games as a kid! Brings back so many fond memories of playing the games even though I didn't even know what language they were in.
i can definetly relate to this video(that i actually feel it like you had a script with my thoughts) and relate to so many things with you (i'm also a design student too!) that watching this video felt like a bandaid to the heart, i'm in my last year of teenage but i keep thinking sometimes and wishing that it would be better if i was more extrovert and all of that stuff, as you i really thing that life is much easier for extrovert people or for the ones that doesnt have problems to express themselves but lately i've been trying to convince myself that theres nothing wrong with being in the way that i am (wich it's kinda hard when you are surrounded of some "friends" that complain or make you feel bad because of that) i'm thankful for this video cuz it's glad to see that theres other people that it's also kinda struggling with being quiet in a world full of extrovert people just as me, so thank you for this 🫶🏻 (sorry if the text it's a bit long but i need to let it out)
I see myself so much on your experience. I was just like you growing up (and I still to this day try to control my heartbeats when a professor asks me a question in class or when I have to speak in public lol), and even what you said about the fears of life after college, about networking and stuff (I'll graduate this year) is so accurate. It's so interesting to see how people from around the world (I'm from Brazil) shares similar experiences. That Sue game was part of my childhood too, what a nostalgic feeling! (also, is that a meenoi pic on you wall? I adore her songs and style!)
i realised i had gotten more quieter after certain interactions that happened in the past which i guess had scarred me, since thinking back i can't seem to recall being afraid of going to gatherings, or getting nervous on how to talk to people but this happens all the time now, and i hate it, my own mom always criticises me for being so introverted as well, she always insists that i have to "step out of my comfort zone" and talk to people but oh i wish i could do that but without the feeling scared part.. i tried to fit in in class as well, tried to join the group of girls but i stopped trying eventually since they barely gave a shit about me, and now i'm just like the wanderer- trying to convince myself that it's good in a way, but the way people treat me all the time just stops me from being positive about it all the time
This whole video is exactly what I feel lately and I did have a time thinking about my personality was something wrong and I felt pressured when I was around loud people. So lucky that finally I found someone who also feel the same way as me❤
This is so comforting, someone just reviewing something that seems nostalgic is my cup of tea. I remember popin cookin kits or mini food kits and that’s what this reminded me of. I’m also an introvert and I love hearing people speak softly, it’s so relaxing :) 💕✨ I have stepped out of my comfort zone however and I speak up more now! I get called a yapper by people but it’s literally bc I grew comfortable, it wasn’t always this way since people drain me. It’s all about finding the right group, you know? Proud to be an INFP as well ✨
This is so incredibly comforting. This year my goal was to become more talkative and I couldn't achieve it. A lot of people have said to me "you're a gemini and have a lot of leo in your chart but you don't have any traits" so it made me think being so quiet since I was a kid was all just conditioning. But what if I really am naturally just a quiet person? I don't feel happy being so quiet but I think the reason for that is lack of acceptance. Maybe one day I could reach the "authentic" me but then again, what even is that? naturally we change and grow but we shouldn't force trying to be someone we've never been to fit into society's mould because that's unrealistic and may lead to disappointment or self loathing? idk but my goal for 2025 is to love myself until I naturally become more talkative if I want to
One of my teachers once thought I had a superiority complex just because I dont really talk to anyone... I just happen to be/love quiet and soft spoken people 🥲
What worries me the most as the quite kid is not being able tp make a single close friend. I'm almost 18 and don't habe any friend. I do manage to make some but i can't really get closer to them because i don't talk most of the time even if i want to, nothing really comes out of my mind . And there are days where i don't even wanna talk to them idk why tho. I just prefer to be alone and i also don't like texting thst much either . Even if i want to, nothing comes to my mind . I think that's the main reason why I'm struggling to make one.
i was feeling overwhelmed. saw this video pop up on my home page. i absolutely loved these 17 minutes! your voice is lovely and soothing. im glad i found your channel!❤
hi hannah thank you for talking about this topic! as someone who has been called quiet all my life and still struggles with accepting my reserved and slightly socially anxious self, it makes me feel less alone
I relate to this a lot. I’m introvert and prefer to be alone as well in general, but I never really saw it as some kind of weakness. That’s just who I am, and I just do what I want and like and I don’t relate to most teenagers nowadays who smoke, drink, go out a lot, (party’s) etc. That’s just not a thing for me, which is completely fine though. And doesn’t matter if people like it or not, they don’t have to. I just ignore them. But thank you so much for this video. It really helps regardless
I love people that are quiet, it's so calming to be around them!! And they have such satisfying voices mostly, idek why (I used to be one of the quiet kids too but I finally found people who accept me the way I am and it kind of disappeared)
can relate so much to everything that you said. i’ve been also trying to improve myself for the longest time when it comes to expressing myself and hearing you and reading from the comment section really makes me feel seen in a way with this feeling .. hugsss 💞💞
This is the first video of yours I have come across, I am currently in my break right before my 2nd semester in my first year of college as someone who right before covid started to feel left out from a goof group of friends. During covid I had absolutely no friends and when we came back I had 1 friend who then drifted away because of our class scheduels and then went through the rest of highschool with no one and watching big friend groups have fun and regularly go on outing, something I have never done before. In my senior year I started to feel more okay about being alone, although I still have many doubts from what ive watched from your channel so far I feel a lot better about it and I know this year I want to work on self-love and acceptance and just think you’re an amazing role model, I feel so much better knowing that i’m not the one person in the whole universe without friends even though I felt like that for sooo long but I can’t wait to watch more of your channel and appreciate you and everyone in the comment section so much
I’ve always been quiet and introverted and shy, it’s just my personality and it’s not due to any trauma (I was like this way when I was super young so that’s how I know). I’ve had to force myself to not be quiet and speak up and ask questions. I’m proud that I can speak up more now but it’s extremely defeating when all my years of hard work towards being less quiet just isn’t enough in so many situations. Especially in school and when job hunting, I keep bombing job interviews even though I practice hard and it absolutely wrecks me, the last one I’ve had hit me so especially hard because I prepared extra hard. They were literally fast food jobs too, minimum wage. Personally being this way has caused me zero pros in life, like it’s in hard mode or something. it’s caused so many problems in my life and I hate it. everyone expects people to be outgoing so it’s a double hit to be both shy and introverted (which are two totally different things), I’m just ranting because i so desperately want a job so I’ll go see myself out.
Side note, I’ve mentioned that I’ve practiced hard for years and years, this means I can actually talk quite a lot. But with that I either don’t talk/make awkward conversation that falls short or I rant off of random facts that I know from my head(I’ve been called a human encyclopedia lol) but my mind skips or jumbles up the story so I constantly have to restart or my mind blanks or I literally CANNOT get what I want to say out of my mouth it’s basically gibberish and at that point people start tuning me out. It’s frustrating so so muchhhhh ugh. When I don’t talk it’s a problem, and when I do it’s a problem too
I’m considered the “quiet girl” in school I really just like staying to myself and being my own person, some people don’t understand but that’s okay. I also have a hard time with public speaking. This video was really helpful for me, everything you mentioned was very true💗
Sue is the most iconic character from my childhood too, used to play so many of the computer games you mentioned especially the one with the witch and the potions!
This is just what I needed to hear after working on setting up an insta account to showcase my college work. I’ve always been a quiet and reserved person, but it’s been more prominent starting college where my close friends aren’t with me frequently in person anymore. But this makes me grateful of the times we do spend time together. Though with me being in college, I only really have one friend I’ve made and spend time with on campus- but a part of it feels lonely with the contrast of how different it is being with someone new and people who you’ve spent years with. In class itself, our entire class got split into class a and b due to there not being enough computers for everyone- and it just so happens our class (a) is full of introverts while the other (b) is full of extroverts. I try hard to push myself out into the world to make friends and stuff, but it is just very challenging with how I am. Regardless, I appreciate listening to this- it felt like catching up with an old friend. Subscribing 💕
Just watched a couple of your videos, and everything is just so comforting. Thank you for talking about this. I def suffer a lot with that characteristic
i wanted to do this exact thing! making a diary-channel seems so fun and comforting and feels like i'd be able to explore a lot of things and it would help me be more productive. Being a quiet person myself I felt happy knowing that there are lots of other people that enjoy solitude because everyone i know longs for friends and outdoorsy stuff. I also wanted to say you inspire me and youre also soso gorgeous
6:21 i understand it so well. my teacher and my classmates used to catch my attention and throw glances to me in a way sooo uncomfortable. always telling that the reason i didn’t spoke was just bc I’m selfish and don’t like them. has people who understand and actually respect it, but the most was rude and mean, especially in high school. honestly i feel bad for me because i was really trying.
you described my whole life experience so well and i can definitely relate as someone who has just entered their first year of college :'). i've started to journal (or at least attempt to)/write my feelings down in my notes app more often to let out thoughts like these and it definitely helps! i loved this video sm, it's such a comfort to know that other people experience this too. 🫶
it is so comforting because i always thought that there was something "wrong" with me..? So it's nice to know that i'm not the only one. Also, youre very calming
i understand you %100. i have experienced high school really hard bc of being introvert. everyday i felt like i am a big problem. day by day all got worse for me. i thought i was stupid, useless and actually people made me think like this. i cried everyday for being like this. i had high anxiety and depression. still can't get over those times but i am fine compared to other years. thank you for sharing this video.
were u bullied? because in school im extroverted not everyone has my energy especially when im talkative i had hard times finding friends but some introverts are cool depending on their personality trend
@@mattburrito Even my teachers have bullied me. I wasn't only introverted but also had social phobia. They forced me to talk more and they were thinking being an introvert is a temporary thing lol. Introverts and extroverts can be friends but depends on your connection.
hi hannah, i love the way you speak and i relate, i got pressure to become louder ive never stopped being a quiet girl at heart and i have been trying to undo a lot of the things
in my experience with friends i did not have a huge group of friends but my friends always complimented that i speak in a calm way and they can talk about deeper and more meaningful stuff .ı am not sure that this is a default or it is to our advantage but we also keep people away from us with that trait i experieneced that a lot people just assume that you do not like them or you look down to them and that leads to less friends and network we just need to find the balance bc i think this also harms us we lose some oppurtunities and when you are quite you can be overlooked too
I found this video just the day one of my coworkers told me I always look grumpy because I never talk and have trouble reacting to what he says and basically making me feel like I am weird and it upsets him. I just have trouble to connect with people because I don't feel safe to be myself with them which make me a quiet person and I really don't understand why society treats negatively quiet and introverted people. And most of the quiet people I've met are also some of the nicest most gentle soul ever and I don't undersand why people reduce all their qualities to this one characteristic. I personally don't have a problem with myself being introverted and quiet but it is tiring to have this impression that people will never truly accept me or give me the same credits as a human being because i'm quieter than them.
OMG i was searching high and low for this cute kit. I didnt know its name or the brand. NOTHING. but it was such a big part of my childhood 😭😭 the stickers were my favorite part OMG im so glad i came across your video TT
This is genuinely so comforting. Some people are just quiet and there’s no real reason why, it’s just how they are.
What is the reason to be loud? 🤷🏻♀️
@@JustWhy240 Same thing. That's just how they are.
@SocksWithSandalsEnjoyer I know that was my point. There is no reason to give for being quiet (or loud). The main comment made me feel there should be a reason for being quiet [by saying "there's no real reason"] as if being loud is the normal.
Foreal 🤌🏽
oh that part about people not having the same respect for you because youre quiet is so real.... its honestly so mean ...
they treat you as if you’re a toddler 😭
I feel like I found this video at the perfect time. I just started college this year, and it feels like the students who stand out the most are the extroverts who are always confident, talkative, and ready to express their thoughts at all times. Me being naturally quiet, I’ve felt so out of place in my class, I even started envying them to the point where I tried to act like them, but it was so draining. Every time I got home, I was completely exhausted, to the point where I didn’t even have the energy to talk to my family, that’s when it actually hit me that trying to be someone I’m not was only making things worse. This video was a great reminder that it’s okay to just be myself!!
Everyone let's say THANK YOU Hannah!!!
omg, i'm literally in the same situation as you. somehow in my uni, it seems as if everyone is so extroverted and plus they can always make such good relationship with the teachers and other students that i feel left out. but i have understood that i feel comfortable being quiet and living in my own world. being quiet doesn't mean we don't talk at all either.
@@hoshf47 Exactly!! It’s so comforting to know that, even though we’re from different parts of the world, we all share similar worries and experiences.
In the exact same situation lol
i’m in the same situation. i really feel so lonely and out of place at university, it has made me so depressed :(
i'm in the exact same boat!! just remember that other people like u exist, because you exist
I used to be very quiet before and I totally relate to this, I even got called ”Wednesday” and ”the quiet kid” but nowdays Im more vocal and have less anxiety about speaking up. Loved this video by the way💖
No way cuz I also got called Wednesday just a few days ago, and it was also because I wear all black fits. It's annoying, tbh. It makes me feel stupid.
I'm really sorry about that 😥@Sr16vga
wednesday is crazy 🙏
I also got called Wednesday growing up 😭😭
I got called Wednesday for being a trad goth
One thing I’ve learned about being quiet is that people will either treat you like a child or treat you with disrespect because they think you’re not going to say anything
My dad would always tell me to stand up for myself but the thing is if I knew what people ment, I would’ve stood up for myself
I have delayed processing so I don’t sometimes I don’t realize that people are being mean to me until later after analyzing
But if my pattern recognition tells me otherwise then I’m automatically going to stand up for myself, I won’t even think about it. But people are so shocked by it, and then they turn around and try to paint you as the mean one 🧍🏽♀️
Me too
same, people always tell me to talk more and stand up for myself but I just never rlly get it when to lol
exactly you would seem like an easy target when you say something you are suddenly overreacting and selfish
It took me almost 30 years to realise that there was nothing wrong with being quiet and introvert. It caused me so much anxiety throughout my 20’s and I had been feeling guilty about it since kindergarten. I think that journaling does help a lot to clear up your thoughts. Also, because extroverts are so loud, we notice them more and tend to think that we’re the only ones who can’t talk and act like the others, but now I see that worldwide there are about the same amount of introverts as extrovert people (not evenly spread, though). The internet is a great help, if you use it mindfully.
Making these videos will help you. I’ve also been doing similar things and found out that, ironically, once I realised that there was nothing wrong with being quiet I started to be able to talk more and being less uncomfortable in social situations. I’m glad that you’re having this clarity of mind a little earlier than me. What you said made perfect sense and was so relatable. I only clicked on it out of boredom and didn’t think I’d watch till the end, but it was quite engaging. I’ll check out your channel. Take care.
The way you talk in a soft spoken manner is very pleasing and soothing to the ear. Another benefit of being quiet!
I don't think I've seen a video quite like this on RUclips and found it to be quite refreshing.
I've always been a quiet person growing up, but I decided I wanted to be a speech therapist after helping my autistic cousin communicate when he visited. My teachers in college told me that I wouldn't be a speech therapist because I was too reserved. I still have people say "oh you don't like to talk. Why are you a speech therapist?" and I say, "My job is to listen and help my clients to communicate, not to talk over them." After college, I took a few gap years and taught abroad in Korea. One of my favorite things to do is to prove people wrong. Just because I'm quiet person it doesn't mean I can't be adventurous, travel the world, and work in an industry that is more extraverted in nature. As quiet people, we also have a voice to share with the world. We might just need some extra time and encouragement to have our voice heard.
dang this comment is actually inspiring to me.
I'm studying to become a teacher, but I'm also reserved and quiet. in college, I've had professors doubting on me because of that. sometimes I think that they're right, sometimes I think I can make it it's a feeling fluctuates a lot but I'm trying to keep my hopes up.
I'm halfway through the course and I remember I've had more reserved nad introvert teachers myself.
thanks for your comment !
@vi_toria_ best of luck to you, you can do it ☺️
Being quiet Ive always been talked “at”, just a lack of respect because I’m not as lively as I should be… It took an embarrassingly long time to realize I shouldn’t be anything than what I am. I’m a boring friend and I’m okay with that :)
To be honest, what you say sounds like me. But there is something I want to say about your last sentence. We may be boring for some people, or even for most people, but that doesn't make us boring. At least not to the extent of saying "I am a boring friend". I am happy for you that you are able to accept yourself as you are sooner or later, but as I said, just because most people find us boring doesn't make us boring. I think we just haven't found the right person for ourselves
I would also use the last sentence to describe myself, but now that I'm seeing another person use it to describe themselves I just know that statement isn't true. I think about all the things I love or am interested in. There are many niche things that I am interested in and I'm sure you have a couple of those too. There's just not a safe space to really voice out our opinions about our niche interests. At least that's what I think
I've always felt so bad being a boring friend, but i can't bring myself to overreact or behave in a way i don't feel, especially when i'm socially exhausted
@@shydkneeI totally agree. All this time I've been thinking that I'm boring that's why people don't bother to hear my voice for what I have to say and stuff but truly those people around me have just made me feel unseen and unheard. Making me act quiet around them and I do have a voice and sometimes I do want to talk. When I do they just talk it off. Anyway, what I was trying to say is after finding a friend that actually stood by me unlike those group of friends. I realized I was never boring. I was just unappreciated. Just let your people find you or go out and meet them. I'm sure everyone has a person for them no matter how "boring" they may seem (^^)
There is no shame in being quiet. Most of the time in class I enjoy listening to what others have to say and keep my thoughts to myself. Go introverts!
i'd like to accept myself as an introvert, but being in highschool and always having this social pressure to be outgoing is so depressing for me. Any advices?
not everyone likes introverts some say their boring and not fun but not all introverts are bad since im extrovert
@@mattburrito I don't think it should matter what random people think about you
Being quiet gives you this superpower to discern whether someone's shitty or not. Or maybe I have amazing intuition/ability to read others
but you even like extroverts in general?
@mattburrito wdym? I don't base that stuff off of how extroverted someone is. Whether they're a good person or not is what matters most
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ever since 11th grade started,it's been kind of hard bcz almost everyone in my class is outgoing and funny..even the other quiet kids are surrounded with extroverted friends that genuinely support them in speaking up and stuff while I'm just stuck in a corner trying hard to fit in.I would just end up blabbering abt nonsense and then come home & think abt how stupid i acted that day.even my 'friends' have seemed to given up on me &they just hang with the other cool kids...I feel left out wherever i go but having seen ur video,i'm encouraged to just accept myself the way i am...i'm a really understanding person who always accept others for how they are so why do i still struggle with accepting myself,the girl i've known for all my life??
This is so relatable :( we'll be okay ♡
@@angelt0pia thank u...i hope so too
@@jiahjeon1111 take care ♡
real i feel like there’s something wrong w me because i can’t form connections with people but other people who are quiet and introverted have loads of friends who make effort to be around them
@ysprnt8707 same here and i'm always left to wonder what i did wrong in life to not deserve people that actually 'want' me in their life...let's just hope that everything will be better in 2025 :)
It's really nice to get back in touch with my quiet girl side. I used to be very shy and quiet until my last years of college. Nowadays I'm much more talkative and not socially anxious at all, but sometimes I see everyone talking and interacting, and I feel bad for not doing the same or putting an effort to be included. Then I remember "wait, I do enjoy my own company quite a lot, I don't need to feel pressured to participate in every social interaction possible". It's truly a magical feeling of comfort whenever I think about it.
welcome to the extroverted world
It’s disheartening how others criticize us for not being “loud” enough, pressuring us to conform to their way of being. It’s not just individuals, but society as a whole, that seems to demand this uniformity in traits. What they fail to realize is the beauty in embracing the unique qualities that make each of us who we are, instead of labeling or judging them.
At the end of the day, overthinking leads nowhere-nothing in this world inherently makes sense when dissected too much. Let that be a reminder that there’s no absolute “right” way to exist, and the most fulfilling choice is simply to be yourself.
i feel like theres been a personality war on extroverts and introverts question is how can both personalities get along without judging their personality dont some introverts extroverts get along even if they dont like being quiet also im extroverted like being around others yes im very talkative very energetic i goof around a lot too.
I’ve always been very quiet too, always being told to speak up and be louder, but I did gain confidence through my silence and being alone, because I focused more on my interests and hobbies which helped me to stop comparing myself to others and just be myself :)
I’ve been planning to do the last bit! I cut loose with all my friends my first semester while even being a freshman. So I got no one again but it’s worth my peace
im 16 and i just started college, i can relate to everything you said in this video. ive spent so much of this year hating my personality because im so quiet, trying to modify myself but i realise that being quiet isnt bad. i dont have many friends at all and ive been feeling so lonely since ive started this academic year and its lead me to resenting my quietness even more. this had made me realise its not something i should be resentful of.
you're not alone dude, I feel like this too. Always trying to change my personnality because I think that there is something wrong with the way I am... it's draining, i'd like to be a natural extrovert because their seems to be more liked by society. But well, i think that acceptance is the first step for the journey of happiness:)
yeah I've started uni this year (I'm 18) and it was a big reminder of how quiet and reserved I am, after coming from home where I had made a lot of friends and all of a sudden basically knowing nobody, but ive still made some friends here and most people are very nice but at heart I think I am just someone who likes doing their own thing and I have a lot of presentations coming up this term and it absolutely makes me nervous lol but ive done plenty before so why should now be any different
A highschool student with social anxiety who is a strong introvert here🙋🏻♀️ Thank you so much for making this video, I'm so happy I'm not alone feeling that way about being "the quiet kid", your words truly comforted me and even made me cry! I relate to you so much and I'm glad I found you!🩷🥹
the reason i subscribed to you was because of how related you are! i also grew up very quiet and introverted as a child, which continues while I am in college. public speaking and talking to new people terrifies me, but I can see myself improving over time. thanks for sharing your story with us! :)
In another reality, I wouldn’t have to be “mean” in order to stand up for myself as a quiet person. Because I tried being kind, was taught to let things go and be the bigger person- all which made people think that they can take advantage of me till I finally had enough through lived experiences. What I learned as a quiet person is that sometimes you have to be mean if others are treating you indifferently to make you feel awful or stupid, you aren’t wrong for standing up for yourself. If others can defend themselves then so can I….
no you shouldn’t be mean in anyway than introverts will get disliked even more
Being liked is less important than being heard. @@mattburrito
This is unintentionally asmr and I LOVE IT
4:30 actually i love how quiet you're !!💓💓 just be yourself
As an introvert I love watching your videos your one of my comfort creators 🪼
this is such a big compliment and encouragement to me 😭🤍 thank you for being here
i don’t usually comment on youtube videos but, this one really resonates with me! i’ve always been a very introverted, quiet, and shy person. i didn’t think it was a “bad” thing until classmates and teachers started pointing it out to me. for a long time i disliked my personality because of this and wished that i was an extrovert for a very long time. since my junior year of high school, i’ve grown to accept my reserved and quiet personality. i still have a lot of growing to do but i’m satisfied with my progress :) thank you for making this video!
i used to be the quiet kid during my school years and i actually tried to fix that by being more loud and flamboyant (i was still shaking in my boots because all the attention made me extra nervous). some people hated that and told me that it was annoying. however, they also hated my quiet version and also found it annoying. the lesson here is you can't please everyone and you shouldn't. let's all be ourselves.
your point in this video is what my therapist has been trying to convince me of for like a year hahah. I want to love my personality, but it's just hard sometimes seeing my extroverted friends passing interviews, having fun at parties, and making more friends and relationships with ease, while I try to do the same but only manage at like 20% of their speed. Also I've improved my social anxiety a lot since I was in highschool, yet it's hard to accept that there is a part of me that will always be shy, and that it doesn't make me less valuable, and that it has some advantages that I forget about
wow, it almost felt like i was listening to myself lol. i literally wrote one of my college essays on this, how i saw being quiet as a weakness and how it may have taken away some opportunities for me, but i soon learned how it definitely has its strengths, the same way being loud and vocal does. it hurts knowing that so many people spend their childhood and, for some, even beyond that, thinking something is wrong with their natural personalities. thank u for this video, it was very comforting :))
this video is just so relatable from high school experiences to even thinking of the future. I am so scared about my future. My major includes a lot of networking and just overall voicing my opinions. The things is introverts usually have the best ideas or the most thoughtful opinions but we cannot speak as well as others if we are not in a safe space. I feel like in my family or even culture being extroverted is so important. I try so hard not to compare myself to others who are very extroverted.
I'm not one to usually comment on videos because as an introvert I do get nervous talking online too but this video was really comforting and I felt like I was just talking to you as a friend and it made me feel better about being quiet and introverted. ♡
Yes I agree, having a safe space is really comforting. As an introvert, I also have fear about public speaking and don’t talk as much as others. People tend to mistreat me because of this, so I often feel like I’m not good enough. But you encouraged me and made me realize how being quiet isn’t a bad thing and that we should accept our true personality. Tysm 💕
im extroverted i like being energetic and social a lot and being around others can talking to introverts be a challenge since im outgoing a lot and yeah i can be quite sometimes but it doesn’t mean im introverted cause i like being extroverted
i’ve always been content with being quiet, i think it makes me observant and i like listening to other people talk anyway :]] thanks a bunch for this video!!
hi! im also a really quiet person and have always been, so I can relate to everything you are saying. I was really insecure about it in the first two years of high school. I was teased about it a lot by not just students, but also faculty. I am not sure what made change my perspective about being quiet, but I guess it has something to do with what you said at 6:20 . In my country, there is a stereotype that quiet people are arrogant and I never understood the connection between the two, because I didn't feel arrogant at all, rather I felt inferior to everyone around me. I am currently in college and recently someone made fun of me for being quiet and she said something along the lines of I must be so "edgy" and "mysterious". It would have hurt me a few years ago, but now I just really didn't understand her logic. She never tried to talk to me, so how would she know? I think that's my main issue. People judge you for being quiet without actually trying to understand you. Anyway, thank you for representing us quiet girls and hope everything goes well for u!
Same here gurl
I can relate to this and the stereotype of quietness being associated with arrogance and condescension (in France), thanks for sharing your experience and I wish you the very best for 2025! 💗
I've gone through several phases of life now, my most confident self was naturally loud and extroverted. But as I'm getting older I'm just...quieter. Getting comfortable with that is hard right now (I hear thats pretty common with change lol) so it's nice to hear someone happy and finding strength in a quieter way of being. Thanks for sharing.
i love how this is not an asmr video but is giving off asmr vibes
i'm a little late but this small talk really resonated with me. i've always been on the quieter side of personalities and struggled with shyness so acknowledging that it's actually not a weakness at all makes me feel soooo comforted. sending love to all my fellow introverts out there
over time i've learned that being quiet allows me to better take in everything around me. since i'm more observant than most people i pick up on qualities that not everyone notices and its a nice way to appreciate those around me and better help others in little ways
your video just showed up in my home page and im so grateful for that , i feel so related to you because im having a hard time these days with college and this semester was the hardest for me from all sides (that I didn’t start studying for my finals cuz my energy and motivation are all gone :c and that’s make me more stressed and anxious ) and im so afraid that the next semester will be more harder and the future really scares me :( , but seeing you video at this moment really relieved me because i see myself in you and you became my safe place
hii!
i really needed to see this video lol. in hs i was so quiet people often forgot i went there (my graduating class was only like 45 people too, lol). i've been really hard on myself lately bc ive been so shy and it's been hard to branch out and meet others, and it's nice to get a reminder that it's not a fault but just another aspect of my personality.
i hope everyone has a great day
I absolutely loved this video! I can relate so much to being the quiet kid, especially in primary and secondary school. I also used to think it was a weakness because that was what most people told me. But as i got older and got to know myself, i realised that being quiet isnt my whole personality and so i began to slowly change and be more open to public discussions e.g. speaking infront of a class, taking part in a debate or giving a speech. I became more confident in speaking to strangers and even peers. so i agree that being quiet is definitely not a weakness because it alows you to take in the world in a quieter and more peaceful way, which i have found really conforting.
Well, I'm also such a quiet person . I used to always compare myself with my twin sister bc of her being very socialable and friendy and the way she's always loved and prased by others. Every teachers and people i met for the first time used to tell me that your sister has trampled your right of speaking (saying with laugher they though they're so funny) . Anyways i have been struggling so hard to accept my personality and prove others that i'm good the way i am and i am capable of doing anything and i'm not in a competition with anyone. We'll learn and grow just by the time pass.
Thank u for sharing this video i could literally relate to your story and i don't feel like the only one anymore.❤ btw your so cute ㅠㅠ
Ur Sue is so cute!
All my life I was told that i am too quiet, teachers, friends, family.. i always think that quietness was bad but with a lotttt of therapy, i realized that is my quality. There was nothing wrong with me. Recently i was deciding on my major and i was feeling very lost. But, as always, God always comes at the right time, and ur channel appeared to me. You gave me a lot of courage to make my decision in my college field. Thank you for you existence!! I always will think of u with a lot of love
after reading some of these comments and listening to your chat.. i realize that i may just be loud and energetic because i want people to respect me. i actually really enjoy being quiet and by myself. ive always seemed to gravitate towards people that are quieter and also enjoy their me-time, maybe its a sign!! thank you for posting this, its super comforting and it honestly feels safe here
I watched this video yesterday night and it was so comforting I could have cried. I truly felt what you said about people not taking someone into account just because they do not speak louder or voice their concerns while being gentle. I believe kindness and empathy are the key to being in peace with yourself and others.
This feels like i'm talking to an old friend, sharing our stories and still being relating each other's. Your video (this one especially) made me feel a lot better and comfortable with being alone and 'quite', also i became grateful that being scared of the future's expectations are normal to everyone, we're struggling ourselves in our own way. Soo thank you for making this video 🥹 i just want to say that you reached your target to make this video being relatable to some of us ❤
I'm not even korean, actually I grew up in the other side of the world but I used to love Sue, it was so fun to play those games when I was a child. It's so nostalgic to see her again😭💗
hii just came across this video from my home page and i relate so much
It's my first time commenting on RUclips and it's also my first time in this channel but I've never felt this much related because I am literally going through the same thing at the high school so this was very comforting, ❤️🩹
hi hannah! tysm for making these vids 😭 it has been so comforting to hear your struggles as being a quiet person bc I’ve been called that my whole life which is so frustrating. But as you said, there’re strengths to our quietness like being more observant and having the ability to carefully choose what we say. As I grow older, I have started to become more accepting of my quiet nature, and have learned that those who appreciate you for who you are will stick with you!
Thank you for this video, I’ve been struggling a lot within my job and comparing myself to others due to me being quiet and reserved. this has helped me see another perspective of it and I’m glad I’m not alone because the way society treats quietness is sad.. they think we’re a threat but we’re not T-T
Omg!! I'm from South America and that precious character (Sue) is one of my favorites games when I was a child, so many memories in just an image, lol. Your video come to me in the perfect moment in my life, thank you so much for talk about the quiet like that: is not a weakness, is just the way you are and that's perfect for real.
"struggled with liking my personality" same sis, same
you’re so eloquent and well-spoken in expressing your thoughts. your video resonated with me as an introvert and as someone who values their alone time, i really can’t help but envy people who are expressive and social. i’ve learned to accept that i’m not someone meant to be in large groups of friends but that shouldn’t stop me from experiencing things others do :) you’re my new favorite youtuber.
Those chocolates look so cute,i loved sue games when i was younger so everything related to her is really nostalgic and sweet for me🩷🩷
thank you for this!! i’ve been a quiet person since childhood and i find a lot of comfort in it so this video was really wholesome and soothing
Wow, this video is really helpful. I’m 14 years old and in this days I’m not feeling very well, also because it’s the end of the first term at my first year of highschool, but also because I’ve been called asocial even from my parents, but they don’t understand how much I love being alone by myself. I don’t have a huge amount of friends, I’d like to have it... but sometimes I reflect on my little life and I think (like you just said) that a little group (or also not a group but only 2 people) or friends is better than a bigger one. I’m really grateful of this type of videos that I love so much and that I discovered only a week ago, because they’re really comforting and can communicate to you that there are other people similar to you whit whom you can feel yourself at a safe place. (Sorry if in this message are some grammatical error but I’m not English ahah)
i was also supposed to be class of 2024, and have stayed back a year alone with no friends. it didnt end up working out for me, i felt incapable of dealing with it. now at home i am working towards my end of year exams to graduate in 2025. this is a very nice video
Thank for talking about this!!! I am a quiet kid myself and it's annoying how people assume that it us a weakness,thanks for raising this topic 😊
OMG I'm so grateful for RUclips recommending me this video :) As an introvert who's been judged and treated differently for being quieter, I finally feel seen
Girl I'm 30 seconds into the video and I'm already hooked, I loved playing those Sue games as a kid! Brings back so many fond memories of playing the games even though I didn't even know what language they were in.
i can definetly relate to this video(that i actually feel it like you had a script with my thoughts) and relate to so many things with you (i'm also a design student too!) that watching this video felt like a bandaid to the heart, i'm in my last year of teenage but i keep thinking sometimes and wishing that it would be better if i was more extrovert and all of that stuff, as you i really thing that life is much easier for extrovert people or for the ones that doesnt have problems to express themselves but lately i've been trying to convince myself that theres nothing wrong with being in the way that i am (wich it's kinda hard when you are surrounded of some "friends" that complain or make you feel bad because of that) i'm thankful for this video cuz it's glad to see that theres other people that it's also kinda struggling with being quiet in a world full of extrovert people just as me, so thank you for this 🫶🏻 (sorry if the text it's a bit long but i need to let it out)
I see myself so much on your experience. I was just like you growing up (and I still to this day try to control my heartbeats when a professor asks me a question in class or when I have to speak in public lol), and even what you said about the fears of life after college, about networking and stuff (I'll graduate this year) is so accurate. It's so interesting to see how people from around the world (I'm from Brazil) shares similar experiences. That Sue game was part of my childhood too, what a nostalgic feeling! (also, is that a meenoi pic on you wall? I adore her songs and style!)
i realised i had gotten more quieter after certain interactions that happened in the past which i guess had scarred me, since thinking back i can't seem to recall being afraid of going to gatherings, or getting nervous on how to talk to people but this happens all the time now, and i hate it, my own mom always criticises me for being so introverted as well, she always insists that i have to "step out of my comfort zone" and talk to people but oh i wish i could do that but without the feeling scared part.. i tried to fit in in class as well, tried to join the group of girls but i stopped trying eventually since they barely gave a shit about me, and now i'm just like the wanderer- trying to convince myself that it's good in a way, but the way people treat me all the time just stops me from being positive about it all the time
This whole video is exactly what I feel lately and I did have a time thinking about my personality was something wrong and I felt pressured when I was around loud people. So lucky that finally I found someone who also feel the same way as me❤
This is so comforting, someone just reviewing something that seems nostalgic is my cup of tea. I remember popin cookin kits or mini food kits and that’s what this reminded me of. I’m also an introvert and I love hearing people speak softly, it’s so relaxing :) 💕✨
I have stepped out of my comfort zone however and I speak up more now! I get called a yapper by people but it’s literally bc I grew comfortable, it wasn’t always this way since people drain me. It’s all about finding the right group, you know? Proud to be an INFP as well ✨
This is so incredibly comforting. This year my goal was to become more talkative and I couldn't achieve it. A lot of people have said to me "you're a gemini and have a lot of leo in your chart but you don't have any traits" so it made me think being so quiet since I was a kid was all just conditioning. But what if I really am naturally just a quiet person? I don't feel happy being so quiet but I think the reason for that is lack of acceptance. Maybe one day I could reach the "authentic" me but then again, what even is that? naturally we change and grow but we shouldn't force trying to be someone we've never been to fit into society's mould because that's unrealistic and may lead to disappointment or self loathing? idk but my goal for 2025 is to love myself until I naturally become more talkative if I want to
One of my teachers once thought I had a superiority complex just because I dont really talk to anyone...
I just happen to be/love quiet and soft spoken people 🥲
everything you say is truly comforting, thank you for sharing your thoughts and being so genuine, hannah💘there's bravery in being soft!
What worries me the most as the quite kid is not being able tp make a single close friend. I'm almost 18 and don't habe any friend. I do manage to make some but i can't really get closer to them because i don't talk most of the time even if i want to, nothing really comes out of my mind . And there are days where i don't even wanna talk to them idk why tho. I just prefer to be alone and i also don't like texting thst much either . Even if i want to, nothing comes to my mind . I think that's the main reason why I'm struggling to make one.
i was feeling overwhelmed. saw this video pop up on my home page. i absolutely loved these 17 minutes! your voice is lovely and soothing. im glad i found your channel!❤
hi hannah thank you for talking about this topic! as someone who has been called quiet all my life and still struggles with accepting my reserved and slightly socially anxious self, it makes me feel less alone
I relate to this a lot. I’m introvert and prefer to be alone as well in general, but I never really saw it as some kind of weakness. That’s just who I am, and I just do what I want and like and I don’t relate to most teenagers nowadays who smoke, drink, go out a lot, (party’s) etc. That’s just not a thing for me, which is completely fine though. And doesn’t matter if people like it or not, they don’t have to. I just ignore them.
But thank you so much for this video. It really helps regardless
off topic but I LOVE MAKING THOSE. whenever I go to like a Kmart or Korean grocery store I find those and they are so fun to make..nostalgia 😢
I love people that are quiet, it's so calming to be around them!! And they have such satisfying voices mostly, idek why (I used to be one of the quiet kids too but I finally found people who accept me the way I am and it kind of disappeared)
can relate so much to everything that you said. i’ve been also trying to improve myself for the longest time when it comes to expressing myself and hearing you and reading from the comment section really makes me feel seen in a way with this feeling .. hugsss 💞💞
I’m so happy your videos without music
This is the first video of yours I have come across, I am currently in my break right before my 2nd semester in my first year of college as someone who right before covid started to feel left out from a goof group of friends. During covid I had absolutely no friends and when we came back I had 1 friend who then drifted away because of our class scheduels and then went through the rest of highschool with no one and watching big friend groups have fun and regularly go on outing, something I have never done before. In my senior year I started to feel more okay about being alone, although I still have many doubts from what ive watched from your channel so far I feel a lot better about it and I know this year I want to work on self-love and acceptance and just think you’re an amazing role model, I feel so much better knowing that i’m not the one person in the whole universe without friends even though I felt like that for sooo long but I can’t wait to watch more of your channel and appreciate you and everyone in the comment section so much
I’ve always been quiet and introverted and shy, it’s just my personality and it’s not due to any trauma (I was like this way when I was super young so that’s how I know). I’ve had to force myself to not be quiet and speak up and ask questions. I’m proud that I can speak up more now but it’s extremely defeating when all my years of hard work towards being less quiet just isn’t enough in so many situations. Especially in school and when job hunting, I keep bombing job interviews even though I practice hard and it absolutely wrecks me, the last one I’ve had hit me so especially hard because I prepared extra hard. They were literally fast food jobs too, minimum wage. Personally being this way has caused me zero pros in life, like it’s in hard mode or something. it’s caused so many problems in my life and I hate it. everyone expects people to be outgoing so it’s a double hit to be both shy and introverted (which are two totally different things), I’m just ranting because i so desperately want a job so I’ll go see myself out.
Side note, I’ve mentioned that I’ve practiced hard for years and years, this means I can actually talk quite a lot. But with that I either don’t talk/make awkward conversation that falls short or I rant off of random facts that I know from my head(I’ve been called a human encyclopedia lol) but my mind skips or jumbles up the story so I constantly have to restart or my mind blanks or I literally CANNOT get what I want to say out of my mouth it’s basically gibberish and at that point people start tuning me out. It’s frustrating so so muchhhhh ugh. When I don’t talk it’s a problem, and when I do it’s a problem too
I’m considered the “quiet girl” in school I really just like staying to myself and being my own person, some people don’t understand but that’s okay. I also have a hard time with public speaking. This video was really helpful for me, everything you mentioned was very true💗
As an major introvert , i love ur videos!💖
You are sooo sweet... I need your words and your voice is calm and peace ❤
Sue is the most iconic character from my childhood too, used to play so many of the computer games you mentioned especially the one with the witch and the potions!
"Even though there's not too many people that watch me" - Nah, just one-hundred-thousand🤭
So relatable! And your voice is soo incredibly soothing.
This is just what I needed to hear after working on setting up an insta account to showcase my college work.
I’ve always been a quiet and reserved person, but it’s been more prominent starting college where my close friends aren’t with me frequently in person anymore. But this makes me grateful of the times we do spend time together.
Though with me being in college, I only really have one friend I’ve made and spend time with on campus- but a part of it feels lonely with the contrast of how different it is being with someone new and people who you’ve spent years with. In class itself, our entire class got split into class a and b due to there not being enough computers for everyone- and it just so happens our class (a) is full of introverts while the other (b) is full of extroverts.
I try hard to push myself out into the world to make friends and stuff, but it is just very challenging with how I am.
Regardless, I appreciate listening to this- it felt like catching up with an old friend. Subscribing 💕
I just found your channel and I'm very very happy .. you such a comforting person.. thank you for ur hard work we love you !
Just watched a couple of your videos, and everything is just so comforting. Thank you for talking about this. I def suffer a lot with that characteristic
i wanted to do this exact thing! making a diary-channel seems so fun and comforting and feels like i'd be able to explore a lot of things and it would help me be more productive. Being a quiet person myself I felt happy knowing that there are lots of other people that enjoy solitude because everyone i know longs for friends and outdoorsy stuff. I also wanted to say you inspire me and youre also soso gorgeous
This was very relatable and it made me happy .It is very comforting .
YYASSSS THATS SO TRUE 11:45
6:21 i understand it so well. my teacher and my classmates used to catch my attention and throw glances to me in a way sooo uncomfortable. always telling that the reason i didn’t spoke was just bc I’m selfish and don’t like them. has people who understand and actually respect it, but the most was rude and mean, especially in high school. honestly i feel bad for me because i was really trying.
you described my whole life experience so well and i can definitely relate as someone who has just entered their first year of college :'). i've started to journal (or at least attempt to)/write my feelings down in my notes app more often to let out thoughts like these and it definitely helps! i loved this video sm, it's such a comfort to know that other people experience this too. 🫶
it is so comforting because i always thought that there was something "wrong" with me..? So it's nice to know that i'm not the only one. Also, youre very calming
Trust me girl.. this video made so much sense! ❤
I relate to it 1000% and so comforting, listening to you felt like someone's describing me..thank you for sharing
i understand you %100. i have experienced high school really hard bc of being introvert. everyday i felt like i am a big problem. day by day all got worse for me. i thought i was stupid, useless and actually people made me think like this. i cried everyday for being like this. i had high anxiety and depression. still can't get over those times but i am fine compared to other years. thank you for sharing this video.
i completely relate to this :(
were u bullied? because in school im extroverted not everyone has my energy especially when im talkative i had hard times finding friends but some introverts are cool depending on their personality trend
@@mattburrito Even my teachers have bullied me. I wasn't only introverted but also had social phobia. They forced me to talk more and they were thinking being an introvert is a temporary thing lol. Introverts and extroverts can be friends but depends on your connection.
hi hannah, i love the way you speak and i relate, i got pressure to become louder ive never stopped being a quiet girl at heart and i have been trying to undo a lot of the things
I relate to so much of what you’ve mentioned, this entire video felt like a safe space, subbing immediately
i love thiss!! people are threat by quiet people as well but I'm so glad you are making videos as finding your voice in making in this!
i find this video comforting because i resonate with u in many ways
in my experience with friends i did not have a huge group of friends but my friends always complimented that i speak in a calm way and they can talk about deeper and more meaningful stuff .ı am not sure that this is a default or it is to our advantage but we also keep people away from us with that trait i experieneced that a lot people just assume that you do not like them or you look down to them and that leads to less friends and network we just need to find the balance bc i think this also harms us we lose some oppurtunities and when you are quite you can be overlooked too
I found this video just the day one of my coworkers told me I always look grumpy because I never talk and have trouble reacting to what he says and basically making me feel like I am weird and it upsets him. I just have trouble to connect with people because I don't feel safe to be myself with them which make me a quiet person and I really don't understand why society treats negatively quiet and introverted people. And most of the quiet people I've met are also some of the nicest most gentle soul ever and I don't undersand why people reduce all their qualities to this one characteristic. I personally don't have a problem with myself being introverted and quiet but it is tiring to have this impression that people will never truly accept me or give me the same credits as a human being because i'm quieter than them.
OMG i was searching high and low for this cute kit. I didnt know its name or the brand. NOTHING. but it was such a big part of my childhood 😭😭 the stickers were my favorite part OMG im so glad i came across your video TT