I'm relieved to know that the compliments and relationship were manufactured. It actually helps my brain to stop processing everything and being on a loop. It gives me more hope for the future and other relationships. This answers so many questions. The relationship I was in felt so intense and so amazing. I didn't think anything could come between us. I'd never felt like that before and I was sure I'd never find it again. But, thankfully I won't. I want something real and sustainable. And this helps me to know what to look out for.
I went through the same intensity and the most amazing feeling in my life especially at the beginning of the relationship but as time went on, everything changed and got more bitter lots of fights and constant keeping me awake at nights with quarrels about minor and made up things, it was really bad with ofcourse verbal abuses and disrespect. To be honest it wasn’t the best relationship towards the end but I still miss the person she was in the love bombing stages because all seemed so real and heavenly. 6months since the discard but it feels like I’m stuck and can’t move on, and yet I clearly know she’s moved on and even moved in with their new person. It really hurts. But yeah
@@oceanz2174 Mine was living with his ex in the 5 months he stayed at my house and love bombed me. He was telling me he wanted to marry me and change my name. I'd posted a picture of us on Facebook, publicly, on Christmas. The next day, she contacted me saying they lived together and he lied about it. Inside I knew he was lying. I kicked him out and we were back and forth a few months because he said he was going to leave her, but he didn't. Our last fight, he broke my foot. In a way, I'm lucky because it's what kept me from going back for more abuse. Then in my healing process, I found these videos and realized what I'd been dealing with. It's hard though. Certain things trigger tender or good memories, but knowing even the good times were manufactured helps put it behind me. I'm out just 6 months too. I'm sure you've had more growth than you realize in that time. I'm sorry for what you went through. It really is like falling in love with a demon.
@@brookerutherford6249 so such painful experiences we had to go through, thankfully now we know better and we’ve chosen the right way to go about it and that is learning about it and understanding that these are not healthy people to date or get married to. We have the knowledge as we heal and that’s the most important part of it.
@@oceanz2174 And we're out of it! We never have to go through it again. The hardest part is behind us! Now we have the chance and opportunity for real love and the connection we've wanted to happen in our lives 😊
@@brookerutherford6249 yessss that’s so true. I just wish we can find someone that matches our energies and reciprocating it naturally as it’s supposed to be, someone that’s got high level of empathy and cares and genuinely feels the way we do. I put that On God.
This video hits home. My ex mimicked everything I was insecure about. But then use them against me as a weapon at the end. He told me I wasn’t a good partner because I was insecure and paranoid for asking him any questions.
My late husband, a very good and emotional healthy man died in my arms Christmas Eve 2017....after a long and happy marriage. Whole sharing heart ache....he talked about a MARRIED woman he had an affair with less than a year and that I would never understand the kind of depth they had...that my marriage was superficial. He never knew me or my husband. Then got mad that I had me empty for him when his MARRIED lover left him...
No matter how hard I tried, nothing was good enough. He always said "you're pushing me away" . Oh the other good one is "I'm not attracted to you" . I never understood this because he sure loved my body sexually!
I got "don't push me away," "Why can't you just relax," "You're so dramatic," and when he dumped me I was "too emotional" for him. Made me feel like the toxic one. 😪
Mine used to do that to me, little by little I felt like I wasn't pretty enough etc. He seemed to always find prettier nicer body. Etc. Tore down my self esteem and made me insecure. Are they generally shallow...all about looks? Doesn't matter how my heart was just the outside!
My ex was entirely shallow, superficial, vacuous, one-dimensional, vapid, and not even smart. I believe in his younger days (he's pushing 60, I met him six years ago) he was the jock/Ken doll type. I do not know what he was doing with me, I'm considered very deep, intelligent, a woman of substance, world traveled, etc. Since I'm now getting educated on the covert narcissist, which he is, he mirrored my sensibilities so that he could manipulate me into even focusing on him (I did not have any focus on him for the longest time). His ex wife, ex baby mama, etc., etc., and his next supply he discarded me for are all "Barbie" type females, the female counterparts to him (they are all in their late 50s).
I can relate to his playing on my insecurities as a way of grooming/ future faking/ mirroring. Yet, I didn't get much if hardly any love bombing and can't hardly remember any really good times. Lots of waiting on him to get out of his dwi program (not his fault...right-lol) so we could do things together which always had one excuse another after another for not transpiring. Once he got out of the dwi program he immediately went back to hard core drinking which only propelled his ( unbeknownst to me at that time) npd. One day in one of his half drunken stupers I asked him why he never did any of the things with me he always said we would do. His reply, (one eye open with a smirk on his face) " I already had my fun in life." Then I let the room, feeling devastated, stupid and gullible. He fell sound asleep, woke up the next day as if nothing had transpired. One big lesson I learned through that hellish season of my life. It is not my right or responsiblity to try and " fix" anyone, especially someone that is their own worst enemy and doesn't view that as a problem never less that fact that if their words don't match their actions they are showing you who they really are so believe them and move on or run the other direction.
My coworker in a nutshell.. he was the security guard and abused his camera privileges to stalk me around our store.. and then he abused the fact I'm a trans woman, with social anxiety, and also not popular at our job, for several reasons, imbedding thoughts that no one would ever believe me. And he was right. At least within that store, no one would take my word over his. Even if they started as My "friends".. not his! The second I left that job, he immediately got back with his ex, the same week, the one he would trash talk to me about All The Time, unprovoked. And proposed to her 3 months later. And i see, a year into their marriage or engagement, he's just started a couples Instagram, filled with the best pictures of them hes taken iver the last year! And he is the first comment under almost every single one of her Instagram pics, on her personal page.. as if they're likely not sitting right beside each other. I admit, i still love him.. but I truly believe now that a majority of his trauma, and abuse, was to fulfill his goal of confusing me.. having my brain so wrapped up in "who did he really like? Was it me, or another coworker!?", because i made the mistake of telling him "in the jealous type", all of this confusion, and heartache, just so I cant see all the trauma HE was causing me, let alone on PURPOSE! But instead, just like you said, i was obsessed with changing myself to be perfect for Him. Comparing myself to every girl he would talk to. Wondering if i wasnt as attractive as I once was before.. yet other guys seemd to like me still. I did, and still do struggle with feelings of unworthiness for him.. especially wifh all the inages he shares online of his near perfect wife . . And all the "adventures " they go on together. I think ill always care about him.. but I'm learning nore about who he really is now, with the help of your videos.. Thank you!
This is so spot on and accurate. He would praise all of the physical. Then, I noticed little by little over the course of two years, he’d make snide remarks and backhanded compliments. Your videos are very helpful! Thank you.
Thank you for this video! Can you tell us why narcissists can be overly positive?!? Like they just want “positive vibes only” when that’s not how life really is…
I think it's because they struggle so much with shame and feeling bad about themselves that they need someone to reflect back positive things to them, to help them feel good, or to have positive experiences to distracted from how they feel inside.
@Claire M: this particular narcissist I was dealing with would always say I was messing up his energy and being negative when in fact I was just being realistic about whatever topic was at hand. It’s like if it wasn’t about “positive vibes only” , he didn’t want to hear it.
@@heavenlyprecog23 Yes, I've had that too. A refusal to deal with issues and instead wanting to have fun, saying 'why do you have to turn a positive into a negative?''why can't we just have a good time?'
When I met the Narcissist, it was whirlwind and just storybook. Into the fourth month, the ex stayed over in the Narcissist's apartment and we were dating a lot. I was told later on, "I have experienced a real spiritual change and I want to pursue it". My Ex has been to a new Church.... left the Church and over ten years, start and stop, rekindle and dumped. Never again. I have a life lesson that will help me from here on.
My Narc did just that and is still doing it today now that I have rejected him. Playing music he took the piss out of when I started listening to it. I totally ignore him when he plays it. I can tell who he’s been with during the day, as he comes home talking like them.
I went through some feeling of great intensity and the most amazing feeling in my life especially at the beginning of the relationship but as time went on, everything changed and got more bitter lots of fights and constant keeping me awake at nights with quarrels about minor and made up things, it was really bad with ofcourse verbal abuses and disrespect sometimes I got hit and scratched on the back with lots of nail marks and she could make jokes about the marks and laugh about it. To be honest it wasn’t the best relationship towards the end but I still miss the person she was in the love bombing stages and all those memories of the things we did together because all seemed so real and heavenly. 6months since the discard but it feels like I’m stuck and can’t move on, and yet I clearly know she’s moved on and even moved in with their new person. It really hurts. But yeah painful
Thank you Ben ! Reminds me of the grandiose narcissist I dated in college. Discarded after 8 months. Nice triangulation, oh that person has such a great body. Nice example of breadcruming when they take away the validation.
My husband is exactly like this. The first 3 years he physically abused me, when I would cry he was just annoyed and would mock me. Then after apologizing and crap he would somehow make it about how I caused him to hit me, If I didn't do xyz then it wouldn't of happened, I made him do it. He's done ALOT of work and recognition on his self since 3 years ago but I still see some of these things in him "the complimenting, he's said literally the same exact things to me that you've said only I just smile I don't return it. He still does the saying one thing but a hour later when he's irritated does and says the COMPLETE opposite, making sure to make me feel so shitty ab myself. It doesn't even fase me anymore I feel better when I know he wassnt successful at controlling my emotions. Now that he's aware of some of these things he's admitted that's exactly what he was doing and the fact that I wassnt feeding into it made him even more irritated
Omw! He used to sit at restaurants with me and then show me who he would date... Im his wife...i was so confused by that. Now I totally understand. He used to get upset at anyone complimenting me or even looking at me. Wow! Now I finally understand ⚠️
I have a boss that’s like the the playlist thing was literally discribing him he’s always making us feel like we’re going crazy, and gaslighting, his personality was charismatic, generous, etc but he made passive aggressive comments toward me describing him to a T
BINGO! you described my situation 100% - I want to talk to you: how do I get out of this situation- we purchased property together he owes me $$$ - he refuses to buy me out
Wow its crazy to know this is a pattern they all do! My Narc ex boyfriend of 7 to 8 years, I originally thought he was the best listener, I spoke about family issues with him and things that I never spoke about with anyone else! He would listen and ask questions and seemed sincerely interested! He made it seem like we had a lot in common and were both like the black sheep of our families and bonded on that.. I thought he was innocently listening, until one day like bullets he shot whatever he could some of the most hurtful things I've been through and threw it right back in my face! For a simple issue and saying that's why... like Venom! I was in shock and never experienced anything like that before.. Then I would block him and he found a way back, after that I would be more cautious what I told him...
@@Indyghurl RIGHT? Or if it was a very long relationship, and you know that the secretly compete and copy? You start to say things you don’t actually want to do just to experiment with if and when they’ll do the same. Crazy.
I’d love to know: why the narcissist picks the person or people they do. It’s odd: I was and suppose Still am the main supply. No one he’s cheated with has been ANYTHING like me. I’d imagine a few were contenders for main supply. I don’t fool myself with anything at all. I wonder why they were ALLLL my total physical and personality opposite?? They actually were more like him. Shitty and vain. Im not just saying this bc they were the other women. I have more clarity and much less of an emotional response. I need a therapist well versed in this. Not all are. He’s most certainly fooled many a therapist…edit as far as I’m aware and this is counting the marriage counselors he’s fooled every single one except ONE, an emdr trauma specialist who did a psych eval for the courts after a DV incident. (Punched me in the face, threw me by the neck-literally said “I did not hit you” AS HIS FIST CONNECTED and I heard a bone break) oooooof that cognitive dissonance is the tea he sips. That therapist said he has NPD on top of the other things that have always been at the forefront…I wanted to hug her so tight. He was FURIOUS and has since managed to scrub that based on the fact that he was still an active alcoholic and you technically aren’t supposed to diagnose ppl in the middle of active addiction or in process of withdrawal…but she was ordered and she was honest. Not much has changed since the booze left. He’s less heavy. Less hung over. Still lives in a thick fog of denial.
where can you get some decent therapy cos not many therapist seem to know and understand whats actually happened. do you do therapy. i had the universe brought us together and its up to the universe to bring us back together.
This is off, A Narc,will never pretend or admit any insecurity, the make fame cognitive empathy,but never admit a flaw,and a psychological path will never do this either,they have no empathy,this would fail in short time
Are they conscious of this? They know they do this in every relationship? How is it every single narcissist is the same and can pick up these behaviors? I'm not doubting what you're saying I'm just curious as to how almost every narcissist has the same set of behaviors.
@@RawMotivationsy wife and I have been married 18yrs and thanks to you my eyes are wide open on how narcissist she is so im divorcing her cause im going to let her treate or my son like shit anymore. She calls my son a looser and a piece of shit and with me i cant do anything wright everything is my fsilt
@@RawMotivations im divorcing my wife after 18yrs of narcissist abuse and my son aswell calling him a looser and a piece of shit. Ive almost killed myself cause of this woman. Now im having a problem with letting go. And within 2 months of being separated shes got a new man
He use to tell me that “no one holds a candle to you”. I use to say, if this is the case, why do you continue to cheat on me and hurt me? He responded with a number of reasons why, one was that he was a “f&j?-up” , “I’m trying to get it together”, “I’m greedy”. It seems like it was all apart of the grooming🥲
I’m greedy actually sounds pretty honest. Hmm. He definitely was gas lighting and self deprecating in order to garner sympathy! I hope that you’re free.
Yes say you are the best thing that ever happen to them. Then tell you you're worse than their ex.
#Classic
Wild how we all experienced the exact same things.....
I'm relieved to know that the compliments and relationship were manufactured. It actually helps my brain to stop processing everything and being on a loop. It gives me more hope for the future and other relationships. This answers so many questions. The relationship I was in felt so intense and so amazing. I didn't think anything could come between us. I'd never felt like that before and I was sure I'd never find it again. But, thankfully I won't. I want something real and sustainable. And this helps me to know what to look out for.
I went through the same intensity and the most amazing feeling in my life especially at the beginning of the relationship but as time went on, everything changed and got more bitter lots of fights and constant keeping me awake at nights with quarrels about minor and made up things, it was really bad with ofcourse verbal abuses and disrespect. To be honest it wasn’t the best relationship towards the end but I still miss the person she was in the love bombing stages because all seemed so real and heavenly. 6months since the discard but it feels like I’m stuck and can’t move on, and yet I clearly know she’s moved on and even moved in with their new person. It really hurts. But yeah
@@oceanz2174 Mine was living with his ex in the 5 months he stayed at my house and love bombed me. He was telling me he wanted to marry me and change my name. I'd posted a picture of us on Facebook, publicly, on Christmas. The next day, she contacted me saying they lived together and he lied about it. Inside I knew he was lying. I kicked him out and we were back and forth a few months because he said he was going to leave her, but he didn't. Our last fight, he broke my foot. In a way, I'm lucky because it's what kept me from going back for more abuse. Then in my healing process, I found these videos and realized what I'd been dealing with. It's hard though. Certain things trigger tender or good memories, but knowing even the good times were manufactured helps put it behind me. I'm out just 6 months too. I'm sure you've had more growth than you realize in that time. I'm sorry for what you went through. It really is like falling in love with a demon.
@@brookerutherford6249 so such painful experiences we had to go through, thankfully now we know better and we’ve chosen the right way to go about it and that is learning about it and understanding that these are not healthy people to date or get married to. We have the knowledge as we heal and that’s the most important part of it.
@@oceanz2174 And we're out of it! We never have to go through it again. The hardest part is behind us! Now we have the chance and opportunity for real love and the connection we've wanted to happen in our lives 😊
@@brookerutherford6249 yessss that’s so true. I just wish we can find someone that matches our energies and reciprocating it naturally as it’s supposed to be, someone that’s got high level of empathy and cares and genuinely feels the way we do. I put that On God.
This video hits home. My ex mimicked everything I was insecure about. But then use them against me as a weapon at the end. He told me I wasn’t a good partner because I was insecure and paranoid for asking him any questions.
Don't Ever Listen 👂🏾 to shit they say. Good or Bad ....it's Distorted! .......once we stop 🛑 Listening. They can't Touch us.
Omg yes
My late husband, a very good and emotional healthy man died in my arms Christmas Eve 2017....after a long and happy marriage. Whole sharing heart ache....he talked about a MARRIED woman he had an affair with less than a year and that I would never understand the kind of depth they had...that my marriage was superficial. He never knew me or my husband. Then got mad that I had me empty for him when his MARRIED lover left him...
That is so scarily accurate! All that flattery and praise and comfort, then they not just take it away, but they give it to someone else.
Starting to see how my trying to fix others made me a prime target. Thanks, Ben.
No matter how hard I tried, nothing was good enough. He always said "you're pushing me away" . Oh the other good one is "I'm not attracted to you" . I never understood this because he sure loved my body sexually!
He did not love your body. He wanted sex from the supply. As simple as that.
I got "don't push me away," "Why can't you just relax," "You're so dramatic," and when he dumped me I was "too emotional" for him. Made me feel like the toxic one. 😪
Oh and my emotional side was one of the things he loved about me. Go figure
Everything was manufactured and my soul knew it but I chose to ignore
Each of your videos give me "vocabulary" for concepts that I knew existed--but didn't have the words to express them.
Thank you for watching. Yes, I'm glad you are able to validate those feelings that you know existed.
Mine used to do that to me, little by little I felt like I wasn't pretty enough etc. He seemed to always find prettier nicer body. Etc. Tore down my self esteem and made me insecure. Are they generally shallow...all about looks? Doesn't matter how my heart was just the outside!
Often yes shallow.
@@RawMotivations he got mad if I didn't work out
My ex was entirely shallow, superficial, vacuous, one-dimensional, vapid, and not even smart. I believe in his younger days (he's pushing 60, I met him six years ago) he was the jock/Ken doll type. I do not know what he was doing with me, I'm considered very deep, intelligent, a woman of substance, world traveled, etc. Since I'm now getting educated on the covert narcissist, which he is, he mirrored my sensibilities so that he could manipulate me into even focusing on him (I did not have any focus on him for the longest time). His ex wife, ex baby mama, etc., etc., and his next supply he discarded me for are all "Barbie" type females, the female counterparts to him (they are all in their late 50s).
I can relate to his playing on my insecurities as a way of grooming/ future faking/ mirroring. Yet, I didn't get much if hardly any love bombing and can't hardly remember any really good times. Lots of waiting on him to get out of his dwi program (not his fault...right-lol) so we could do things together which always had one excuse another after another for not transpiring. Once he got out of the dwi program he immediately went back to hard core drinking which only propelled his ( unbeknownst to me at that time) npd. One day in one of his half drunken stupers I asked him why he never did any of the things with me he always said we would do. His reply, (one eye open with a smirk on his face) " I already had my fun in life."
Then I let the room, feeling devastated, stupid and gullible. He fell sound asleep, woke up the next day as if nothing had transpired.
One big lesson I learned through that hellish season of my life. It is not my right or responsiblity to try and " fix" anyone, especially someone that is their own worst enemy and doesn't view that as a problem never less that fact that if their words don't match their actions they are showing you who they really are so believe them and move on or run the other direction.
My coworker in a nutshell.. he was the security guard and abused his camera privileges to stalk me around our store.. and then he abused the fact I'm a trans woman, with social anxiety, and also not popular at our job, for several reasons, imbedding thoughts that no one would ever believe me.
And he was right. At least within that store, no one would take my word over his. Even if they started as My "friends".. not his!
The second I left that job, he immediately got back with his ex, the same week, the one he would trash talk to me about All The Time, unprovoked. And proposed to her 3 months later.
And i see, a year into their marriage or engagement, he's just started a couples Instagram, filled with the best pictures of them hes taken iver the last year! And he is the first comment under almost every single one of her Instagram pics, on her personal page.. as if they're likely not sitting right beside each other.
I admit, i still love him.. but I truly believe now that a majority of his trauma, and abuse, was to fulfill his goal of confusing me.. having my brain so wrapped up in "who did he really like? Was it me, or another coworker!?", because i made the mistake of telling him "in the jealous type", all of this confusion, and heartache, just so I cant see all the trauma HE was causing me, let alone on PURPOSE!
But instead, just like you said, i was obsessed with changing myself to be perfect for Him. Comparing myself to every girl he would talk to. Wondering if i wasnt as attractive as I once was before.. yet other guys seemd to like me still.
I did, and still do struggle with feelings of unworthiness for him.. especially wifh all the inages he shares online of his near perfect wife . . And all the "adventures " they go on together.
I think ill always care about him.. but I'm learning nore about who he really is now, with the help of your videos..
Thank you!
This is so spot on and accurate. He would praise all of the physical. Then, I noticed little by little over the course of two years, he’d make snide remarks and backhanded compliments. Your videos are very helpful! Thank you.
Thank you for this video! Can you tell us why narcissists can be overly positive?!? Like they just want “positive vibes only” when that’s not how life really is…
I think it's because they struggle so much with shame and feeling bad about themselves that they need someone to reflect back positive things to them, to help them feel good, or to have positive experiences to distracted from how they feel inside.
@Claire M: this particular narcissist I was dealing with would always say I was messing up his energy and being negative when in fact I was just being realistic about whatever topic was at hand. It’s like if it wasn’t about “positive vibes only” , he didn’t want to hear it.
Positive to not feel shame and not acknowledge the past things they have done.
Thank you Ben! I feel sorry for him and others like him that have crossed my path in life. But these men are not my problem anymore 🥳🥳🥳
@@heavenlyprecog23 Yes, I've had that too. A refusal to deal with issues and instead wanting to have fun, saying 'why do you have to turn a positive into a negative?''why can't we just have a good time?'
When I met the Narcissist, it was whirlwind and just storybook. Into the fourth month, the ex stayed over in the Narcissist's apartment and we were dating a lot. I was told later on, "I have experienced a real spiritual change and I want to pursue it". My Ex has been to a new Church.... left the Church and over ten years, start and stop, rekindle and dumped. Never again. I have a life lesson that will help me from here on.
My Narc did just that and is still doing it today now that I have rejected him. Playing music he took the piss out of when I started listening to it. I totally ignore him when he plays it.
I can tell who he’s been with during the day, as he comes home talking like them.
I've thought thats what it was but ended up telling myself its just me overthinking. Its such a trip when they do that.
I went through some feeling of great intensity and the most amazing feeling in my life especially at the beginning of the relationship but as time went on, everything changed and got more bitter lots of fights and constant keeping me awake at nights with quarrels about minor and made up things, it was really bad with ofcourse verbal abuses and disrespect sometimes I got hit and scratched on the back with lots of nail marks and she could make jokes about the marks and laugh about it. To be honest it wasn’t the best relationship towards the end but I still miss the person she was in the love bombing stages and all those memories of the things we did together because all seemed so real and heavenly. 6months since the discard but it feels like I’m stuck and can’t move on, and yet I clearly know she’s moved on and even moved in with their new person. It really hurts. But yeah painful
Wow Ben! This video was mind blowing I’ve had such a breakthrough with my trauma bond. Thank you so much 💙 for all you do
You are so welcome, thank you for watching!
Everything you said is so true as I look back at the toxic relationship I lived 22 years .
Glad you’re out
Thank you Ben ! Reminds me of the grandiose narcissist I dated in college. Discarded after 8 months. Nice triangulation, oh that person has such a great body. Nice example of breadcruming when they take away the validation.
Got the book Psychopath Free today. Can't wait to start reading.
Awesome. Let me know what you think!
@@RawMotivations I haven't been able to put it down.
I'm Just Asking To Be Let Go Spiritually and I've asked Him And He Said I Will Call You Back Later.
My husband is exactly like this. The first 3 years he physically abused me, when I would cry he was just annoyed and would mock me. Then after apologizing and crap he would somehow make it about how I caused him to hit me, If I didn't do xyz then it wouldn't of happened, I made him do it. He's done ALOT of work and recognition on his self since 3 years ago but I still see some of these things in him "the complimenting, he's said literally the same exact things to me that you've said only I just smile I don't return it. He still does the saying one thing but a hour later when he's irritated does and says the COMPLETE opposite, making sure to make me feel so shitty ab myself. It doesn't even fase me anymore I feel better when I know he wassnt successful at controlling my emotions. Now that he's aware of some of these things he's admitted that's exactly what he was doing and the fact that I wassnt feeding into it made him even more irritated
Feels bad. It is nice to have friends and family again. Still feels bad.
This is powerful stuff. I’m so grateful you’re sharing this. Thank you. All of this has happened to me, and I’m dumbfounded.
Omw! He used to sit at restaurants with me and then show me who he would date...
Im his wife...i was so confused by that. Now I totally understand. He used to get upset at anyone complimenting me or even looking at me. Wow! Now I finally understand ⚠️
I have a boss that’s like the the playlist thing was literally discribing him he’s always making us feel like we’re going crazy, and gaslighting, his personality was charismatic, generous, etc but he made passive aggressive comments toward me describing him to a T
Super informative, sheds a lot of light on the way I felt with him only to be discarded now. Thank you!
You're so well versed and articulate. I am so glad you popped up in my feed🙏🤗💖
Thank you so much!
Was very accurate
He brought up passed trauma but he looked so off telling me. Similar to what I went through. I didn't know how to feel about it 🤣
This is scaryyyyyyy accurate!! 👀👀👀👀👀
I knew afterward and it was long, and i am so sad and feel shameful
BINGO! you described my situation 100% - I want to talk to you: how do I get out of this situation- we purchased property together he owes me $$$ - he refuses to buy me out
This video is so accurate! But why do narcs do this what is the point in all of the evilness? A complete waste of time!
Wow, you absolutely nailed it! So articulate and insightful. Lots of great ideas thank you!
Thank you!
Wow its crazy to know this is a pattern they all do! My Narc ex boyfriend of 7 to 8 years, I originally thought he was the best listener, I spoke about family issues with him and things that I never spoke about with anyone else! He would listen and ask questions and seemed sincerely interested! He made it seem like we had a lot in common and were both like the black sheep of our families and bonded on that.. I thought he was innocently listening, until one day like bullets he shot whatever he could some of the most hurtful things I've been through and threw it right back in my face! For a simple issue and saying that's why... like Venom! I was in shock and never experienced anything like that before.. Then I would block him and he found a way back, after that I would be more cautious what I told him...
You get good at talking about the weather
@@Indyghurl RIGHT? Or if it was a very long relationship, and you know that the secretly compete and copy? You start to say things you don’t actually want to do just to experiment with if and when they’ll do the same. Crazy.
Just ordered this book on audible thank you .
OMG this is it…. 100 % all of it …WOW
Thank you 🙏
Soooo true
It's like my ex was textbook... But do narcisists do the same as psychopaths? How can you tell the difference? 🤔
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Great video!
I’d love to know: why the narcissist picks the person or people they do. It’s odd: I was and suppose Still am the main supply. No one he’s cheated with has been ANYTHING like me. I’d imagine a few were contenders for main supply. I don’t fool myself with anything at all. I wonder why they were ALLLL my total physical and personality opposite?? They actually were more like him. Shitty and vain. Im not just saying this bc they were the other women. I have more clarity and much less of an emotional response. I need a therapist well versed in this. Not all are. He’s most certainly fooled many a therapist…edit as far as I’m aware and this is counting the marriage counselors he’s fooled every single one except ONE, an emdr trauma specialist who did a psych eval for the courts after a DV incident. (Punched me in the face, threw me by the neck-literally said “I did not hit you” AS HIS FIST CONNECTED and I heard a bone break) oooooof that cognitive dissonance is the tea he sips. That therapist said he has NPD on top of the other things that have always been at the forefront…I wanted to hug her so tight. He was FURIOUS and has since managed to scrub that based on the fact that he was still an active alcoholic and you technically aren’t supposed to diagnose ppl in the middle of active addiction or in process of withdrawal…but she was ordered and she was honest. Not much has changed since the booze left. He’s less heavy. Less hung over. Still lives in a thick fog of denial.
WOW wow wow
where can you get some decent therapy cos not many therapist seem to know and understand whats actually happened. do you do therapy. i had the universe brought us together and its up to the universe to bring us back together.
Yup, most of this. Never got the compliments though.
This is off, A Narc,will never pretend or admit any insecurity, the make fame cognitive empathy,but never admit a flaw,and a psychological path will never do this either,they have no empathy,this would fail in short time
XD my past friends.
So childish XD
Can you please tell us what book is that. I want to buy it please give us link
The book is Psychopath - Part 3 is UP now ruclips.net/video/pKD6l5mmwaI/видео.html
I thought he was my twinflame,but he was a false one! and a covert narc.I see treu him...and no contact fore me never again💪🏾💯💥
Are they conscious of this? They know they do this in every relationship? How is it every single narcissist is the same and can pick up these behaviors? I'm not doubting what you're saying I'm just curious as to how almost every narcissist has the same set of behaviors.
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Hello how can I set up a one on one with you ?
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Would a narc lie about being molested by there dad
They can
@@RawMotivationsy wife and I have been married 18yrs and thanks to you my eyes are wide open on how narcissist she is so im divorcing her cause im going to let her treate or my son like shit anymore. She calls my son a looser and a piece of shit and with me i cant do anything wright everything is my fsilt
@@RawMotivations im divorcing my wife after 18yrs of narcissist abuse and my son aswell calling him a looser and a piece of shit. Ive almost killed myself cause of this woman. Now im having a problem with letting go. And within 2 months of being separated shes got a new man
I dont like narcissist ism
He use to tell me that “no one holds a candle to you”. I use to say, if this is the case, why do you continue to cheat on me and hurt me? He responded with a number of reasons why, one was that he was a “f&j?-up” , “I’m trying to get it together”, “I’m greedy”. It seems like it was all apart of the grooming🥲
I’m greedy actually sounds pretty honest. Hmm. He definitely was gas lighting and self deprecating in order to garner sympathy! I hope that you’re free.
Very cruel