Most parents that have a golden child and even most people think "being the bigger person" means exactly that, letting bullies get away with everything because no one wants to deal with them. Can you really be surprised OP can't know the difference? Most adults that look functional and even successful don't know it.
@@MrDoverfield She's probably been brought up like that and had it ingrained from a very young age given how her parents used her as free childcare since the very beginnings of the sister's life, probably OP herself was barely out of toddler age.
@@SidereusOfTheFallen idk to me it just smacks of weakness and stupidity. Like I feel like something such as this shouldn’t have to be spelled out...like it’s ONE thing to pick your battles but it’s quite another to just let somebody run all over you.
@@yeetdiscreet1278 if you don't know any different and you have basically been bent into compliance from a young age it can take years. Do not be so harsh.
Op in story one pretty much help create that little monster of sister of hers. It’s unfortunate that it took that long to something about it. And what’s too stop it from happening again?
It’s sad it took her overhearing how toxic her sister was from the proverbial horse’s mouth to realize it. I question the sincerity of the apology Sonae she is starting up with the same toxic antics and backstabbing. OP needs to cut her off and go no contact since based on her actions/attitude (then and now), she never had a sister anyway.
@@NeoRazgriz She is a sociopath. Next you know she will kill you if she could gain anything from it. Disowning her no matter the dire situations she creates for herself is the only chence to stay safe.
I mean it’s more ops parents than op themself. You can’t expect a kid to properly raise a younger kid. Especially when you’re supposed to show them unconditional love. But Op grew up and learned she needed to teach the youngling a lesson.
Story 1. Everyone just let the little sister do whatever with no consequences. OP even said she took the blame for stuff. Everyone in this girls life failed her. She grew up thinking it’s ok to do this stuff
Sotry 1, conflict is a obstabcle in life we all have to face. Everytime I read/hear someone say they're non-confrontational, it becomes codeword for "doormat".
By the same token, once the doormat gets sufficiently angry, the doormat becomes the most dangerous person in the room. People need to be reminded of that. You don't know the person's triggers, but once those triggers are set off, one needs to watch out. The gloating sister realized just how dangerous a doormat can become. "Treat others as you would wish to be treated." The gloating sister wants to be treated like dirt? Be careful what you wish for.
the first story pissed me off so much and the tipping point was the "nuclear revenge" that was the WEAKEST shit ever for what she's done to her god I hate op so fucking much
OP in story 1 unknowingly created a little monster but is also a massive wimp. They’re not “the bigger person”. They had no spine and let their sibling step all over them.
My younger brother is responsible for doing some pretty crappy things to me, some of it with my step dad kind of pushing him to do it. My Mom finally pushed my step dad to intervene and stop us when he realized that the two of us were stupid enough to actually try and kill each other and eventually we went no contact. We were able to mend our relationship thankfully after I befriended his oldest daughter and began taking her on little outings to Toys’r’Us and to the movies from time to time. This kind of helped my brother and I form a friendship and mend our relationship.
The last story reminded me of this... There is a pair of female Celebrity Chefs / bffs, one of them was complaining about not being able to find a good man, the other says 'I know the perfect guy for you, my ex-husband...' They have been happily married for over 30 years now.
"I spoiled my sister her whole life and helped create the attention-hungry entitled monster she became. But she turned into a viper and ruined my life at every turn! My naïve self refused to believe it. Where did I go wrong?” “She was so used to having her way that it seemed like she could get away with anything!” - Says the one who made her get used to having her way and literally getting away with anything. LOL
Even if OP [1st Story] Would have explained 2 parents About Sneaky Little Sis It wouldn't Have Worked REMEMBER INNOCENT FACE + A LIAR!! PLUS Parents would have put it down 2 -Jealousy -Not getting her OWN Way -Trying 2 get Little Sis in Trouble THE LIST GOES ON + ON
When I read the title I was like what's bbf ? until you said in the intro bff lol. I was thinking ⤵️ BestBitchFriend? BigButtedFriend? BadBitchFriend? BigBallsFriend? Idk it could be anything
i am sorry but OP in story 1 pisses me off. sure get along with your sibling but don't let them do what ever they want. even animals lash out at one another to put eachother in a proper place.
The Shania Twain /Mutt Lange story wasn't the first such story in country music. There was a similar story about Glen Campbell & Mac Davis long before that.
I have a sister and honestly me and my sister would never do anything like that to each other she wouldn’t do what your sister did to me and I would certainly not do what you did to her and vice versa I just can’t believe her sister to be so heartless towards her own sister me and my sister view each other as like a built-in friend
Story 2: Good thing this is not AITA. The only thing we get here is her point of view so you could say it definetly sucks that her friend dated the Ex. But. OP and him knew they will never be on the same page about kids (funnily enough she only asked him if he wants to change his mind, but never crossed her mind to change her mind). So, they broke up. Yes, technically its a dick move to jump at the first situation to date the ex of a friend but, how is it OPs decision when its allowed to date? OPs friend lied about the dating, sure. But we dont know how OP is with jealousy.
I thought it was op's "best friend" who had decided for the group that dating the other's ex was a no-go and even seems to be the first to break said rule? Also I get what you're saying about the kids question, but it's honestly rare that someone with that strong of a desire, to even think about changing their opinion and I don't see the point of bringing it up, as the story isn't "AITA for pleading with my boyfriend to have kids with me then breaking up with him when he says no?"
My god #2 was so long. Over half the details could have been cut out. So much of it was pointless filler. I kept skipping forward to get to the point already. Best friend makes a rule you don't date each other's ex's. Said best friend breaks that rule. OP marries ex best friends ex fiance. There!
🙄I don't know how many times I'll have to say this, but PEOPLE ARE NOT PROPERTY. Your relationship was unsalvageable given your different life goals. You had no further claim on your ex. It doesn't matter how much you loved him. You cannot set limitations on his love life, nor that of your bff. No one has to tell you a thing, because it's none of your business. Furthermore, your marriage is based on revenge and obsession for your ex, so don't get your hopes up too far.
You wouldn't sound as insufferable as you currently do if: 1. said BFF was not into him all along and planned this out 2. didn't start seeing him using what she confided to her in a moment of pain and grief 3. didn't lie about it to people 4. had waited until her friend was over the grief to start dating BBF was malicious and selfish, and it's more about her motives and carelessness than "dating her ex".
@@SidereusOfTheFallen This may come as a shock to you, but your self-assured opinion means absolutely nothing. Your little list means nothing. The relationship ended amicably and with good reason. Op had no further claim on her ex. Would she be so upset if the new gf was a complete stranger? No. Her BFF and ex are not property, not pets. She has no control over their lives, and you arguing that any of it is justified makes you look emotionally driven and intellectually stunted.
@@callofthewild9175 We're even then, I have no fucks to give to people that pay no mind to context and case-by-case circumstances. But I know, here I thought somebody on the internet was not just here to type stuff just to feel better or morally superior. Also, my compliments for coming directly at me to insult me while I only criticised your words on here. Thanks for confirming that you ARE insufferable, you don't just sound like it!
@@SidereusOfTheFallen 🤦🤣 You come at me sideways, you're going to get it right back. You said I sound insufferable for my words, I said you look emotional driven and intellectually stunted for yours. It's the same thing. The difference between us is I'm honest and not emotionally attached to this argument. Grow up.
Unpopular opinion-while OP was in the right this time around, the bro code and the girl code when it comes to dating exes is stupid. Ppl aren’t property; they can date who they want. Your ex may be more compatible with your friend, and that’s OK. By itself, there’s nothing wrong with that so long as it’s done under the right circumstances. Why should you have a stake in who your friend dates? Why do you care if they’re your ex? If you care THAT much then don’t break up with them.
story one "being the bigger person" doesn ot mean letting ppl get away with everything it means you accept and RE-EDUCATE them on what they did.
Most parents that have a golden child and even most people think "being the bigger person" means exactly that, letting bullies get away with everything because no one wants to deal with them.
Can you really be surprised OP can't know the difference? Most adults that look functional and even successful don't know it.
OP thinks “being the bigger person” mean not only allowing entitled people run amok but enabling it.
@@MrDoverfield She's probably been brought up like that and had it ingrained from a very young age given how her parents used her as free childcare since the very beginnings of the sister's life, probably OP herself was barely out of toddler age.
@@SidereusOfTheFallen idk to me it just smacks of weakness and stupidity. Like I feel like something such as this shouldn’t have to be spelled out...like it’s ONE thing to pick your battles but it’s quite another to just let somebody run all over you.
@@yeetdiscreet1278 if you don't know any different and you have basically been bent into compliance from a young age it can take years. Do not be so harsh.
Op in story one pretty much help create that little monster of sister of hers. It’s unfortunate that it took that long to something about it. And what’s too stop it from happening again?
It’s sad it took her overhearing how toxic her sister was from the proverbial horse’s mouth to realize it. I question the sincerity of the apology Sonae she is starting up with the same toxic antics and backstabbing. OP needs to cut her off and go no contact since based on her actions/attitude (then and now), she never had a sister anyway.
@@NeoRazgriz She is a sociopath. Next you know she will kill you if she could gain anything from it. Disowning her no matter the dire situations she creates for herself is the only chence to stay safe.
OP made her even more toxic.
I mean it’s more ops parents than op themself. You can’t expect a kid to properly raise a younger kid. Especially when you’re supposed to show them unconditional love. But Op grew up and learned she needed to teach the youngling a lesson.
Yup and why feel bad about ruining her college prospects? Her sister is an evil bitch who totally deserved it, she was far from innocent.
Story 1. Everyone just let the little sister do whatever with no consequences. OP even said she took the blame for stuff. Everyone in this girls life failed her. She grew up thinking it’s ok to do this stuff
The sister story comes down to you either offing yourself or charged with homicide. I'm of the latter.
Sotry 1, conflict is a obstabcle in life we all have to face. Everytime I read/hear someone say they're non-confrontational, it becomes codeword for "doormat".
Yeah, the part where she talks about them as kids, super doormat. Like, I've never seen anyone be that spineless.
Is always the same. A person that hate confrontation being a doormat and everybody walking all over them.
By the same token, once the doormat gets sufficiently angry, the doormat becomes the most dangerous person in the room. People need to be reminded of that. You don't know the person's triggers, but once those triggers are set off, one needs to watch out.
The gloating sister realized just how dangerous a doormat can become. "Treat others as you would wish to be treated." The gloating sister wants to be treated like dirt? Be careful what you wish for.
Demons run, when a good man goes to war
@@chasefrost1401 friendship dies and true love lies. When a good man goes to war.
Yeeesh..... OP in story 1 sounds like a real doormat.
"Being the bigger person".... No, that's called being a bloody doormat.
the first story pissed me off so much and the tipping point was the "nuclear revenge" that was the WEAKEST shit ever for what she's done to her god I hate op so fucking much
Story One OP was an extreme doormat. Was she waiting for someone to die to do something?
OP in story 1 unknowingly created a little monster but is also a massive wimp. They’re not “the bigger person”. They had no spine and let their sibling step all over them.
Story 1 : Assault charge leaving sibling crippled and disfigured
Sister almost murders her and she doesn't bat an eye lol.
Ha, not feel sympathy at all for the first OP, the doormat let her sister step on her again just because they start to talk again. Lol
My younger brother is responsible for doing some pretty crappy things to me, some of it with my step dad kind of pushing him to do it. My Mom finally pushed my step dad to intervene and stop us when he realized that the two of us were stupid enough to actually try and kill each other and eventually we went no contact. We were able to mend our relationship thankfully after I befriended his oldest daughter and began taking her on little outings to Toys’r’Us and to the movies from time to time. This kind of helped my brother and I form a friendship and mend our relationship.
The last story reminded me of this...
There is a pair of female Celebrity Chefs / bffs, one of them was complaining about not being able to find a good man, the other says 'I know the perfect guy for you, my ex-husband...'
They have been happily married for over 30 years now.
"I spoiled my sister her whole life and helped create the attention-hungry entitled monster she became. But she turned into a viper and ruined my life at every turn! My naïve self refused to believe it. Where did I go wrong?”
“She was so used to having her way that it seemed like she could get away with anything!”
- Says the one who made her get used to having her way and literally getting away with anything. LOL
I've never understood how someone like that sister wastes so much energy and time making other people miserable. Why? 🤔
First story: 🤭🤯this is how sociopaths are made.
Even if OP [1st Story]
Would have explained 2 parents
About Sneaky Little Sis
It wouldn't Have Worked
REMEMBER
INNOCENT FACE + A LIAR!!
PLUS
Parents would have put it down 2
-Jealousy
-Not getting her OWN Way
-Trying 2 get Little Sis in Trouble
THE LIST GOES ON + ON
When I read the title I was like what's bbf ? until you said in the intro bff lol.
I was thinking ⤵️
BestBitchFriend?
BigButtedFriend?
BadBitchFriend?
BigBallsFriend?
Idk it could be anything
By your logic your mom is a total BBF
It’s actually “big balled fucker”
@@Bojangles26 hahahahaha
First story: offing people should some times be legal. The sister is pure evil
Two ultra-longs, neither really grabbed me...
Just because you are good at something, that doesn't mean you have to do it, be it children, a specific job, etc...
i am sorry but OP in story 1 pisses me off. sure get along with your sibling but don't let them do what ever they want. even animals lash out at one another to put eachother in a proper place.
For real, her parents made her into door mat for her sister.
"Not dating your friends' ex." Is a dumb rule in the first place, but good for OP for met her love of her life.
Question for story 1: I love my sister dearly but AAAHAHAHA _I would destroy her if she acted like that to me_
Op in first story was stupid and spineless. And took way too long to get to the point. And the ending wasn’t even satisfying. Complete waste of time
I know what's BFF but what the hell is a BBF FROM THE TITLE
Being good with kids doesn't mean you want them.
The Shania Twain /Mutt Lange story wasn't the first such story in country music. There was a similar story about Glen Campbell & Mac Davis long before that.
Hamburger cheeseburger Big Mac Whopper
Story 1: that op is pathetic hwe aiatwr tries to ruin her life and ahe just grins and takes it what a perfect doormat even when getting even
I have a sister and honestly me and my sister would never do anything like that to each other she wouldn’t do what your sister did to me and I would certainly not do what you did to her and vice versa I just can’t believe her sister to be so heartless towards her own sister me and my sister view each other as like a built-in friend
OP in story 1 is a fucking doormat. I don't feel sorry for them.
The cheer story is all BS, it's the plot of the movie
Bring it on"
hows every ones day going
Story 2: Good thing this is not AITA. The only thing we get here is her point of view so you could say it definetly sucks that her friend dated the Ex. But. OP and him knew they will never be on the same page about kids (funnily enough she only asked him if he wants to change his mind, but never crossed her mind to change her mind). So, they broke up. Yes, technically its a dick move to jump at the first situation to date the ex of a friend but, how is it OPs decision when its allowed to date? OPs friend lied about the dating, sure. But we dont know how OP is with jealousy.
I thought it was op's "best friend" who had decided for the group that dating the other's ex was a no-go and even seems to be the first to break said rule? Also I get what you're saying about the kids question, but it's honestly rare that someone with that strong of a desire, to even think about changing their opinion and I don't see the point of bringing it up, as the story isn't "AITA for pleading with my boyfriend to have kids with me then breaking up with him when he says no?"
My god #2 was so long. Over half the details could have been cut out. So much of it was pointless filler. I kept skipping forward to get to the point already. Best friend makes a rule you don't date each other's ex's. Said best friend breaks that rule. OP marries ex best friends ex fiance. There!
🙄I don't know how many times I'll have to say this, but PEOPLE ARE NOT PROPERTY. Your relationship was unsalvageable given your different life goals. You had no further claim on your ex. It doesn't matter how much you loved him. You cannot set limitations on his love life, nor that of your bff. No one has to tell you a thing, because it's none of your business. Furthermore, your marriage is based on revenge and obsession for your ex, so don't get your hopes up too far.
You wouldn't sound as insufferable as you currently do if:
1. said BFF was not into him all along and planned this out
2. didn't start seeing him using what she confided to her in a moment of pain and grief
3. didn't lie about it to people
4. had waited until her friend was over the grief to start dating
BBF was malicious and selfish, and it's more about her motives and carelessness than "dating her ex".
@@SidereusOfTheFallen This may come as a shock to you, but your self-assured opinion means absolutely nothing. Your little list means nothing. The relationship ended amicably and with good reason. Op had no further claim on her ex. Would she be so upset if the new gf was a complete stranger? No. Her BFF and ex are not property, not pets. She has no control over their lives, and you arguing that any of it is justified makes you look emotionally driven and intellectually stunted.
@@callofthewild9175 We're even then, I have no fucks to give to people that pay no mind to context and case-by-case circumstances. But I know, here I thought somebody on the internet was not just here to type stuff just to feel better or morally superior.
Also, my compliments for coming directly at me to insult me while I only criticised your words on here.
Thanks for confirming that you ARE insufferable, you don't just sound like it!
@@SidereusOfTheFallen 🤦🤣 You come at me sideways, you're going to get it right back. You said I sound insufferable for my words, I said you look emotional driven and intellectually stunted for yours. It's the same thing. The difference between us is I'm honest and not emotionally attached to this argument. Grow up.
Unpopular opinion-while OP was in the right this time around, the bro code and the girl code when it comes to dating exes is stupid. Ppl aren’t property; they can date who they want. Your ex may be more compatible with your friend, and that’s OK. By itself, there’s nothing wrong with that so long as it’s done under the right circumstances. Why should you have a stake in who your friend dates? Why do you care if they’re your ex? If you care THAT much then don’t break up with them.
I agree, I just think that the way OP’s friend did it was just not right. She should’ve just been flat out honest with her.
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