90 Day Fiancé - Jeymi Interview
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- Dr. Kirk interviews Jeymi from 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
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I will never understand why people were ever against Jeymi. Something about how Kris interacted with Jeymi just felt almost uncanny.
Yes!!! That’s a really good word for it. It was just…off. Like, it didn’t feel like the way you’d treat someone who you have genuine care, let alone love for, you know? 😧. It was eerily…inconsistent and cold in a, “these actions don’t add up kind of way”. 🤔 Like someone pretending to be”love” someone but not even caring enough to want to make it convincing…
Yes exactly!! And just the way Kris kind of stares and way she shows anger, like anything could cause it at any moment was super unsettling to me. She had that creepy smile, like when you're young and acting up at the store and your mom gives you "the look" and you know you're in trouble. @@wackybrattyx
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Really hope you get to interview more people from the show to get their real story,I’d take this dive into the human element any day of the week rather than the played out edited drama from the show
PERIOD DR KIRK!!! GIVE THIS WOMAN HER REDEMPTION!!
Jeymi seems like a lovely and genuine person. I believe her, and I feel so sad for any negativity she receives/received. I'm glad she got a chance to speak her truth. Thank you, Dr. Kirk, for facilitating it.
People got stuck in the fact that Kris was sending Jayme money, so they jumped to the conclusion that Jayme was using Kris for money, particularly as Jayme is a Venezuelan immigrant who probably doesn’t have a lot of money. But they don’t take into account all of the other stuff, their arrangement, the rental, the request to quit. I believe Jayme, I think Kris lied too many times, lies that we can track even in the show, and maybe she lies from abuse of substance, addiction, or who knows why, but she lies. Jayme’s story tracks, Kris’s is all over the place. They weren’t fair to her in the Tell All, she looked frustrated and even cried, I can understand that, it’d feel very unfair.
I never thought she was using her for money. Hence, why I felt like people being against her/claiming she wants money was purely xenophobic. On the show, it literally showed Kris ASKING Jymie to quit her job, and Jymie being unsure. But Kris pleads and convinces her by claiming she has enough savings to keep them upfloat AND fund a business! 😬
And like a normal person, Jymie believes her (who wouldn’t trust their partner?!). Then Kris proceeds to disappear and potentially render this person who she promised to support homeless. Huh?! That’s so crazy and disturbing to me. 😮 Who would do that to someone they love?
She made her financially dependent then left her hanging. AND then, had the…frightening ability to twist things around and claim that Jymie was “using her” by asking for asking her for rent money.
No wonder Jymie is traumatized, confused, and has trust issues now. I’m not even her, and I’m aghast, stressed out, confused, and distressed just writing this out! Like? It’s just so callous…😳.
@@wackybrattyx I agree, Kris talked Jeymi into moving into a bigger apartment (Remember that? Kris needed an American-style kitchen?) then convinced her to quit her job so they could work full time on a food truck or in meal prep and delivery business. This socially isolated Jeymi, and rendered her financially and emotionally dependent on Kris. At the same time, Kris became dependent on Jeymi since the latter was the only one fluent in Spanish, the one most able to navigate the healthcare system, find business opportunities, read sale contracts, etc. This couple was in more of a situationship than in a real relationship.
Dr. Honda and friends, What Jeymi was trying to convey, and got lost in translation, is that she wonders if Kris is mostly into men, but because she knew she'd have more chances to be cast for 90DF if she had a female partner, she pursued a relationship with a foreign woman. If you go back to 23:58, the part when Jeymi was answering HOW they got on the show, what she's saying is that Kris REALLY wanted to be on the show, and thinking that being with a woman would make her storyline more "TLC worthy", she sought Jeymi and almost immediately brought up the idea of applying for an audition. Jeymi explains that she is aware that she might be misinterpreting Kris' intentions---out of frustration, confusion, and hurt---and admits, "I don't have security of this" meaning both "I'm not certain" and "I have no evidence" [if those were Kris' motivations,] "but it's something I've wondered" [if a female, and Jeymi specifically, was a pawn in a game of chasing fame]. She closes that part of the story by saying that she only knows what she, [Jeymi herself], felt and wanted, but was never sure of which of Kris' statements were real and which were not, and later adds, "then or now". So, it's clear that she feels Kris lied so much that she can't tell what was true, and what wasn't.
Thank you!!
I understood the same. Maybe because I speak some Spanish? Others didn’t get this?
@@nursetinalouise I saw comments expressing confusion about that part of the interview, so I felt it would be worth clarifying. (And yes, your knowledge of Spanish might've helped you, and if you have familiarity with learners of English, are bi- or multi-lingual yourself, and/or have a flexibility around linguistic diversity, that also greatly contributes to your comprehension when English learners' word-choice matches their dominant language's closer than it does English.)
I think you’re right.
She also talks about potential preference of dating men at the 4.50 mark and that being confusing - along with being ghosted - where do I stand with this person.
I love Jymie! And felt for her while watching the first time around. Heck, I felt confused and gaslighted as a viewer, so I can’t imagine having been the one DEALING with that crazy making behaviour. I hope she can heal and learn to trust again. ❤
She is my girl crush omg!!! The way it was edited I knew something was up. I was in her corner day 1.
Oh my god i screamed when I realized you were not going to react to an interview
I loveeee Jeymi she seems like such a sweet and genuine person.
Jeymi deserves all our love and support!
If you read this Jeymi. You are amazing!
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Jeymi is so sweet and kind and amazing. I never understood how anyone could think she was a gold digger. It was sooo clear she was in for a rough ride with Kris. The crap we put up with when we are in love huh. I hope Jeymi can learn to trust again, not everyone is as messed up and awful as Kris. My ex lied a lot too, the inconsistencies were so much I stopped being able to trust a single word they said. When I would call them out on it, they’d get really angry and turn it around accusing me of being ridiculous and having issues. It reminded me a lot of the way Kris just flew off the handle for daring to point it out. I’m in a great relationship now where I have trust in my partner because she’s proven over and over she is honest.
Love seeing more 90 Day Fiancé content Dr. Honda! Are you planning on returning to Brandon and Mary?
Yes!
As an alcoholic I can totally relate to everything you just said about binging and addiction. I had a wake-up call this week that scared the shit out of me and I’m terrified of drinking again but I know that I’m probably going to binge again… I’m very ashamed
I really hope you can find some support
Rooting for your sobriety! 🤗
hoping the best for you
@@virginiasoares826 I’m looking into outpatient programs ran by the university hospital. Not only do I need a sobriety program but I need therapy! I’m coocoo for coco puffs lol jokes aside thanks for the good wishes
@@precia123 i appreciate you!
Interview! What a pleasant surprise! 🎉
This is so great! I love Dr. Honda's reality tv interviews!
Omg I thought this was a reaction to interview she did! Congratulations to the PYS team f
So excited about this interview!! I love her!
It’s interesting the way he’s talking about addiction. I’d add just because someone gets sober or stops using, doesn’t mean they stop the lying behavior. They became adept at lying and use those skills to their advantage whether they use drugs/drink or not. If they didn’t have empathy when they used they don’t have empathy now.
Can't wait to watch thru this she got treated horribly on the show for being the
'foreign goldigger" which I don't feel like she is it really seemed like she got scammed by Kris and no one chose to see it in the cast. Kris is for sure a user and a liar Jeymi probably did some things but nowhere near Kris unacceptable behaviour and physical abuse and not listening to Jeymi all that we saw in the show.
A 💯. Like, how did those people even come to that conclusion? HOW?! Did they watch the show?!On the show, it literally showed Kris ASKING Jymie to quit her job, and Jymie being unsure. But Kris pleads and convinces her by claiming she has enough savings to keep them upfloat AND fund a business! 😬
Then Kris proceeds to disappear and potentially renders this person who she promised to support homeless. Huh?! That’s so crazy and disturbing to me. 😮 Who would do that to someone they love? It’s SO callous.
You don’t have to be a genius or…perceptive to see how she’s lying/gaslighting. You literally just have to have eyes, and trust objective auditory and visual reality. 😅
Yay!!! This is awesome. Thank you for interviewing her. I always wish you were the one asking the tell all questions.
Whhaaat! I never clicked on a video so fast ❤😂 thank you!
This is great because these are real people that have real lives. That's why I don't like watching the shows because they're all scripted and edited but yeah why play games with people's emotions thanks for doing this I've always liked this young lady❤❤ just from the Recaps that other people do on these stories
Love the interview! I’d love to see more of this. An interview with someone from Sister Wives would be very interesting.
Kris seems just…off. Her behaviour struck me as eerily…inconsistent and cold in a, “these actions don’t add up kind of way”. 🤔 Like someone pretending to be “love” someone but not even caring to fake it well. WHAT IS THAT? 😬
PLEASE DO A DEEP DIVE ON PATHOLOGICAL LIARS! I've lived with one and it was never clear where the lies end and truth begins. He was also suffering from addiction: online video games. He was lying a lot to enable his addiction. And YES please do more cast interviews.
I don't want to write something slanderous about a cast member, but it is difficult to think of another explanation for the disappearances than addiction. I mean, maybe was Kris was very uninterested in Jeymi and using her to be cast, but wouldn't she need to maintain the relationship to stay on the cast? Maybe Kris had extreme shame around her son's arrest or her need to work for more money, but she offered those explanations. Why not stay in basic contact and just ask to not talk too much about it if it so difficult? Being unconscious for stretches at a time seems like the only thing that connects the dots. Especially given that we know Kris's mother had an account Kris would use to transfer money to Jeymi. That sounds a lot like hiding what one is actually doing with the funds. Lying to cover the shame of use just seems to be only clear explanation. I guess catatonic depression fits the bill as well. I'm sure Kirk's hypotheses that pathological lying or unusual lack of empathy is playing a factor here. Whatever was going on with Kris, it was certainly irrational decisions to manage it and they didn't ultimately serve her well.
More of this, please! Loved this episode.
Hola de NYC! Yo te creo y espero que te encuentres bien. Tu ex actuo muy extraño y tenia una actitud agresiva. Aprende del pasado pero dejalo aya.
This was a fantastic interview with Jeymi!!
Kris seemed so crazy and somehow she was played as the victim
i loved this! dr honda does a very good job interviewing with all the right questions and the way he asks and gets the person to open up is different from any other. i hope he has other opportunities like this so that we get to undestand better what really goes on with the couples we follow on these reality shows.
Yes, more interviews like this!
yes, enjoyed watching this interview. if you get the opportunity it would be very interesting to follow-up with more these people and their experiences.
Super cool seeing you interview cast members! Would love to see more episodes like this
Ah man, that last story about you on the bus really touched my heart. Thanks for sharing that Dr. Honda.
Thanks!
(You still might make the playoffs!)
@@PsychologyInSeattle I really hope so!! Tomorrow is a must-win! (I’ll be saying that every Saturday for the rest of the season)
I loved hearing from Jeymi. I would like hearing from other cast members. I was so excited that she saw that you were genuine and not like some of the other critics. Well, you really aren’t a critic but they are.
So happy to hear more of Jeymi’s perspective!
Yeah this was an interesting video, breaking down what we saw there, its worth doing more of these. I hope other castmembers contact you. The "disappearing with binging" part was fascinating.
Love this yes do more interviews
Thank you for your posts Dr Honda. Will you be updating/following the new episodes of Welcome to Plathville? 🤞 The dynamics and blame shifting as the divorce/reconciliation is happening I would love to hear your opinion on what you make of it. That show is how I originally got hooked on your video - it gave me lots insight into my family dynamics/myself and pointers on what to discuss with my therapist at appointments that I otherwise might have overlooked. I’m so grateful. Thank you 🙏
You should do more recap videos where you give your conceptualization even if you don't get to interview them. The end of this video was great and I wish we had that for some of the other couples. Would be really good to make some vids like this on Big Ed and Angela and a few others too.
I follow her on social media. She's so sweet, from what I can see.
Love this!!
Yes, please do this again with different cast members like ED or Brandon or Mary.
Yayy
Enjoyed seeing you as a musician…of course you are multifaceted .
As a former addict myself ( I have just over 2 years clean), I would be sooooo shocked if Kris was not abusing drugs.
I hope more 90 day cast members interview with you 🙏🏼😌🌈🌺
Jeymi seemed lovely, I don't understand how people could think she was a "user".... Kris did not seem honest from the start, and she was given a good edit
I, for one, have a crush on Jeymi. Jeymi, you are beautiful inside and out. ❤🌈
I Honestly think Kris freaked out after realising she wasn’t really into women.
DIOS MIO MIS IDOLOS.🎉
"...Does anybody love anybody anyway?"
Look at you... Posting a "coming up in this episode"))))) remember, how you hated that in every production
I think Kris was lying all the time. She seemed liked all these excuses why she had to back to the US
Narcolepsy 😮? Well there's a random line to throw for her to grab on. It's kind of you l guess.
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Jeymi is hot 🔥🥵
I hope that an interview with the other lady can be had so an even story can be heard. Both women had issues and both contributed to the toxic atmosphere of the relationship.