Another great video girl! The more time you spend with your hair, the more you will learn and appreciate it. When I used to be frustrated with my hair, I would protective style.
Absolutely and I also wanna say following a hair chart system by a white man that said our hair is the least versatile is also damaging. There has to be a better way to give extra love and attention to black women with the tightest textures without using hair charts like that. I prefer greenbeauty channel's hair chart
I remind myself that my hair is beautiful & I just want it to be healthy. Also just how you’re looking at someone else thinking how nice it’d be to have hair like theirs, someone is looking at yours the same way
Yes 4c can be manageable but yet time consuming. I think when we (the 4c community) look at other textures, we are primarily looking at the time needed to bring 4c hair alive. So yes we are happy with our 4c hair but the time needed to appreciate our natural is insane. Please let us know of natural styles, with our own hair, that we can do that takes less than 10 minutes.
'Get to know your own.' the best advice for all naturals everywhere. Let 'her' show you what she is and what she can do. Hair well loved is full of surprises.
I used to envy girls who can execute twist-outs, wash and go, pineapple, and other styles, but I've come to realize it's either my 4b/4c hair can't do those things, or I'm doing something wrong. Comparison is the theft of joy! Instead of envying them for their genetics, I can do research and work with what I have. Do your research, find a Black dermatologist to look at your hair/scalp, eat healthy foods, drink water, and exercise.
I have an assortment of 4 a,b, c hair. Once I realized I was watching influencers with silky loose curls - not like mine, I found influencers whose hair looked and behaved like mine. I researched to find products that worked on my kinks, changed my diet, water consumption, sleep habits and finally remembering how my mother and grandmother took care of my hair, I became comfortable with my hair in it’s natural state. I am now able to look at all influencers to gleam methods, procedures and processes i can use to enhance my hair journey.
Thank you for your words! You just articulated my thoughts and feelings exactly. Over the years my hair has changed from what it was in my youth. I've learned to get over it, and keep moving forward. It was a journey, but...I love my 4c hair! It's a blessing!
BEING JEALOUS OF ANYONES ANYTHING IS NOT OF A GOD #1 AND WILL LEAVE YOU BITTER #2,I LOVE MY NATURAL HAIR WHEN IT WAS SHORT IN TWISTS (GIVING ME LAUREN HILL VIBES) AND WHEN IT GOT LONGER, I PRAISE GOD FOR MY NATURAL HAIR JOURNEY,WHEN YOU LOVE GOD STAY IN HIS WORD AND ALWAYS REMEMBER WHAT HE SAYS ABOUT YOU AND HOW HE MADE YOU,YOU WILL LOVE YOU AND ALL THE GOOD AND BAD OF YOUR HAIR💙💃🏽💪🏾
While reading your comment, I was reminded that God fearfully and wonderfully made us and that includes our hair as well. I just celebrated 1 year of being natural again and I am loving my hair. The only bad part of my journey to natural hair was figuring out what my hair liked and disliked. The only other bad thing about my hair is how long it takes to dry but that is not the bad thing, the bad is I hate sitting under a hair dryer.
@@a.mariedixon-jenkins YOU ARE SO RIGHT,AND GIRL ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL CAUSE GOD MADE YOU IN HIS IMAGE,AND YES SITTING UNDER A DRYER DOES TAKE A MIN,THATS WHY I BLOW DRY MY HAIR STR8 LOL
As someone with fine low density hair 99.99% of natural hair RUclips is not for me if I want to surround myself with positive images of hair that looks like mine. Then half the remaining people keep complaining about their fine low density strands. So I only follow one person, who has long healthy low density fine hair, and has a positive vibe about her hair. Love leads to health.
I need RUclips to give you more traction. You are what a lot of us look for on RUclips but don’t get. Informational. Nappy.(I mean that in NO derogatory way) Thique. And you educate on what you use. I love your content and I’ve learned so much from it! Thank you NappyFu, I’m NappyToo 🤣🤣🤣
I don't know y but I started crying during this video, especially when you showed the other RUclipsrs, everything you said was so true I love this thank you!
I have always loved my 4c hair, but when I decided to join the ranks of the natural hair army I began to have issues. My wasn't able to do the things 3c or 4a hair could do. But, the love affair reignited when I considered the versatility of my 4c hair. Now I am more in love with it than ever 😍
If I am unable to care for myself I remember the days in which i couldn't because I didnt have the transportation to buy products and the money to purchase those items. I appreciate the means I have now to care for myself
When I'm in that hair "blue zone" (mine is very fine, thin and stick straight) I remind myself of a joke I heard years ago: A woman only had 3 hairs on her head. She smiled and thanked God, and said, Today I will braid my hair. The next morning she finds one has fallen out and she only has 2 hairs. She smiles and says, Thank you Lord, today I will wear two pony tails, one on each side. The third morning she gets up only to discover only ONE hair remained. No problem, I'll wear it in a pony tail! And the 4th morning, alas, they are all gone, and she had NO hair--totally bald. She praised the Lord that today, she didn't have to BOTHER with fixing her hair.
I admire the way people take care of their 4c hair and then I realized that I myself wasn't taking care of my own. Until now, but overtime I learned and by watching your videos that I do have everything I need to get to know my hair.
Thank you for the tips. You inspired me to name my hair ” Cheveux de reine" Hair of Queen or Queen Hair. Literally just making that name today made me love my 4c hair more. Thank once again🤍🤍🤍
What gets me through those days is wearing a hat or headwrap, lol! I focus on detangling, moisturizing, twisting and then covering it up. Even though I do it out of anger, what ends up happening is that when I take the twists down and uncover it, I see how healthy my hair is after it was taken care of and I fall back in love. Otherwise, when I fuss over it and try to force it to do something its not meant for, I end up hurting it and it loses its luster.
When watching videos, if your hair didn't look like mine 4C, and I mean four cee, I would not watch your channel and it would really 😡ed me off if a video had 4C in the title and it wasn't. I guess I got over my hair envy in junior high. When I realized how versatility my hair was, is not a one trick pony, it can be kinky, it can be braided, straight and had it's own volume, not need for products. When I got to be an adult, and had full control over my hair, I remembered how beautiful my hair was when I was a child and started my journey to get back to that hair.
I LOVE this video! It's Super important! I grew up wishing I just had straight hair because my family insulted curly hair and promoted straight "easier to manage" hair. Got fed up with relaxers, went natural, gained confidence, and now my family is like "oh my god your hair is so pretty, i never thought your hair would be easy to manage!" 🤦
I don't think I'm envious, my problem is I get aggravated when I shampoo, condition/deep condition, moisturize and seal, and then twist my hair, leave them in at least 24 hours to dry and my hair looks a hot mess. Then I question my my hair don't turn out like other naturals. Sometimes I just ask myself if it's all worth it or should I just give up. I'm just AGGRAVATED & TIRED
I love personifying my hair and journaling about her. When I write about her I am more intentional with my thoughts, words and energy. I focus on the things I love about her, and the similar personality traits we share like being a bit shy and not fooling with too many 😏
My daughter's 4a/4b hair is DENSE!!!! Plus it detangles SO EASILY and it grows without much attention. So sometimes after dealing with hers I wish my medium density 4c hair could be as dense as hers. But then I remember how lazy I am and I think about how much torture it would've been if we both had the same kind of hair, either both dense, or both needing extra loving care and that helps a bit. I love my texture now thanks to you and others but being content with my density is a constant struggle. I look for RUclipsrs that have similar hair characteristics as mine and when I find myself envying another's density, I apologize to Ms Thang and send positivity to her
I truly envy the natural hair of Natural 85, Green Beauty, and a couple bothers. These ladies natural hair is phenomenal, just beautiful. Yes, I am jealous to the point of envy....I am just saying...
To answer the question, when I’m fed up with my type 4 hair and I’m not in the mood to deal with her, I literally tell myself whether I like it or not, I’m stuck with her FOR LIFE, so right now I’m gonna love her because that’s the first step that I can take to love myself. (I say this as I look at myself in the mirror)
What about naturals with thin or fine hair? We are also not well represented in the media and not even here on RUclips. I think we are even more discriminated against than people with 4 c hair. And it easy for us with this hair type to be envious of you guys and gals with that thick luscious hair no matter what the texture is. But thank you for making this video because as black men and women we have enough struggles with others not loving us and accepting us for who we are that we shouldn’t add to this problem by hating a part of what makes us who we are. Thank you again.
Totally agree, but having the opposite problem. Hard to find representation of women with high density thick strand hair women, so, many styles I find I just can not do. But for you, try Latoya Ebony. Not sure how fine your hair is, but she has fine 4c hair too...hope this suggestion helps you.
Preach! My strains be talking now that I know her! She like, look at me, love me, I am magic! Love my knicks, she curl sometimes and when she don't that's my fault!!!! Wrong treatment, get to know her or him. Treat the hair, like your kids.🥰🥰🥰🥰💯💯💯❣❣❣
Such a great video. I’m gonna share it with my cousin who’s like a sister to me but is frustrated with her natural hair. She always says she wishes her hair was like mine. I tell her that she can’t compare her hair to mine. She just started on her natural journey whereas I’ve been natural and learning my hair for over a decade. It takes time to learn, love and appreciate your hair. It never looks perfect in the beginning. Nobody’s does. So if anyone needs to hear your message about loving and appreciating your own hair, it’s her. Thanks so much for posting another awesome uplifting video 🥰
What gets me through is reflecting on the fact that I'm uniquely and wonderfully made!. There is no other and will never be anyone like me. I have two kids and grandkids and all of our hair is different. Jenn Jackson said in one of videos that there are no bad hair days. Now that I am connected to my hair (keywaki) I agree. She just do what she is made to do.
I love my hair so much. I like watching videos of others doing their hair. Once you love yourself completely, including your hair, you will never envy another person. It might be hard days dealing with your hair but that is completely normal. But when these days come just leave your hair alone and thank me later. You are enough and you are worthy ❤
I was on Instagram and the algorithm recommended this video. It was a woman who had 4C hair and was getting a relaxer in order for the hair to be 'manageable'. It was so sad because her hair was so dry.
Great chat ! I envy the skill that someone girls have to style theirs hair , so I started to practice and now I'm good enough to make different hairstyles on mine. 😀
I’m so so happy that you are still THRIVING as a gorgeous 4c youtuber….some haven’t for whatever the reason been able to sustain with excellent content…but you OUT HERE REPRESENTIN💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
Great content! Everything you said was on point! We all need to appreciate our natural hair for what it is and let no one discourage us from wearing it no matter how tight our coils. Over time I have learned appreciate my combination type 4 hair which is mostly 4b and c. A few years ago, when I began to feel even a tinge of envy I would get down to moisturizing and protective styling. My hair was always softer and more healthy looking when I did that, and the love came right back. Failing that, it was experimenting with scarves and half wigs for me. After a few days of the tightness on my head I was back to appreciating my hair as it was. Notice all this in past tense because I decided to braidloc my hair about 14 months ago. I am enjoying this new journey so far. But if I decide to revert to being a loose natural again I will go back to doing the above.
@@NappyFu For the most part I'm loving it and loving the newfound freedom but I must admit that just like loose natural hair, loc'd natural hair has it's challenges. I am willing to work with the cons though because the many pros outweigh them so far. Just bought another headband wig lol!!
Oh after I wash and condition my hair My grand daughter gently pulls my twist to watch it spring up again in Just one way I show her it ok the wear you hair natural
There's a BIG difference between admiring vs. envying someone's else's hair. I've hated my hair for years. But now.... with all the white spiraling in, my hair is dope!
Needed! I use to envy other naturals all the time. I got through and still get through by thinking how can I ignore what God gave me. It's as if saying what I have isn't as good as someone else's when it all came from the same source - so it's all good. I don't want to insult God by disregarding what He gave me. This literally brings the focus back to me. The more I focus on taking care of what I have, the more I appreciate it, the better it looks and the more love I have for it. Hope this helps someone. Blessings.
Omg I just had a similar topic, about my journey to self acceptance, because I always wanted defined curls!! Love this message about loving your curls, kinks or coils
Knowing that my hair is healthier in it's natural state than the last time it was relaxed and that I no longer have to wait hours in a hair salon to get my hair done. Taking care of my hair is as simple or complex as I make it to be. I can twist it in or out, flexi-rod it, blow-dry it, flat iron it, fro-it, wig-it and still have my natural hair @ the end of the day!
Yes. In the beginning, after the big chop, I was so frustrated with my hair. I could not find another youtuber with my hair type. I literally still have only seen like 2 others who had such a super tiny tightly coiled pen spring pattern. But now that I have more length to work with, it helped, because the shrinkage was like 75%.
Thank you for all your blessings in understanding my own hair. My hair is not 4c but your beautiful videos help me out to love my own hair. Keep doing the work and you are always going to be blessed 😊 sending you love and prayers for your blessings 🙏
I tried all the different things one could do to our hair. Then about 3 yrs. ago I decided to go natural. Before with jeri curl, straighten, blow drying, relaxer my hair stayed dry with split ends and wouldn't grow. Now my hair is growing and I get comments on how nice my hair looks. Bantu knots, braids(short or long), 2(what I call indian braids)going straight back. All kinds of pony tails( on top of my head, pushed back, down low. I used to go to hairdresser even though I couldn't afford it. Now I can do my hair myself. I love to watch tutorials and then I do the style. I LOVE MY HAIR. HALLELUJAH!!!
My answer will be freedom, not being restricted and having a panic attack when it’s not sunny out. Which is 90% of the time. But also seeing my beauty. I’m confident and I feel great even on days that the twist-out didn’t turn out like I wanted.
Do the simple well first then you can start to do the creative in time. Every week I was trying new styles and trying to be like the videos forgetting I got a whole Job, whole family and frankly a whole life 😂! I was never, that hair girl and I didn't even grow up in a house that promoted it. So why I thought in my 30s I was going to become a professional stylist via RUclips was ridiculous. So I taught myself with help from a real life hair stylist how to flat twist my hair. For years I would do two flat twist and lately I have been doing it into a style and it is gorgeous. It has been a journey and not something I could put into a 20-30 video. So I say all that to say figure out what you can do best and master that the rest will come. I promise!
I like to watch all sorts of hair channels. From 1a to 4c. Partly because I'm obsessed with hair care, but also because I think you can learn something from everyone. I like appreciating everyone's hair and it's beauty and I appreciate my own. I think we all just need to learn to see the beauty in everything. Someone with straight hair gets to see their length and don't have SSKs, but they also don't get to experience the springiness of my coils. So while I appreciate certain things about different hair types, I still find things I appreciate about mine. I love how fun my hair is now. It's a matter of getting to a point where you can say, "I think it's great their hair can do this, but I love what my hair can do that theirs can't."
Omg facts thank you sis we as black women need to embrace our natural beauty we are all individual that has been a tough journey for me I'm working on it
The only thing I struggle with is cornrows and flat twists. My mind will not allow to figure it out....I have been trying to learn how to do it for years and watched tons of tutorials. I have been shamed for being Black and not being able to at least cornrow.
I agree with you, there is a difference between simply admiring someone's hair and envying. I have Type 4 hair. My hair is 4A and low to medium density. With the exception of Bianca Renee, I am subscribed to Type 4 influencers: you, Star Puppy, Latoya Ebony, Jenn J, Naptural85, Hazel Godesss, NaturalReign, etc. I love my hair and its shrinkage because shrinkage gives my low to medium density hair the appearance of volume so I wear wash and gos which I don't fluff out or stretch. Hair density would have been something I was more likely to envy but I really like the ease of handling my hair density so I'm good. You have taught me so much about caring for my hair and I really appreciate you. I have been subscribed for a minute.
I needed to hear this video 😌. I haven’t wore a wig or a sew in sense August. I decided to spend quality time with my own hair. Really spend time and bond with my hair. Just learning to recognize my own’s hair true beauty because i just been wearing protective styles for a whole year. When I would wear my natural hair out I always receive compliments heavily all the time and I really couldn’t understand it 🤔😂. It use to be so frustrating to me because everyone else loves my hair except me. I’m like a 4a/4b and it’s very long and full, these past few months of me taking a break from weave has helped me appreciate my hair more.
I once was there until I started watching you, because my hair texture is just like your, and I learned to love and embrace my kinky textured. So please keep education your kinky followers. I’m a 64 year old women and I have been natural for 7 year and I now meaning 2 year ago now Love my Afro. Thank You for keeping it real. ❤️
'It wasn't giving what YOU thought it should have gave.... but it's actually giving.' If this isn't the 2021 appreciation quote 😶👀 Something/someone cannot be (give) what to YOU think it should be (have gave).... rather you should appreciate what it is. Be present in what you have. You can put in time and effort all day long.... but unless you APPRECIATE what you have then the joy won't come, and you know you deserve the JOY 🥰 P.s you made realise that this cuteness on my head needed a name... She is Glorious as such her name is indeed GLORY 😛😄
You are unique in all ways my hair has always been my crown Team Kinks glad we’re here for each other this what I would say to some in doubt of he blessing of 4c hair
I came on RUclips to find extra tips to get mid back length hair. I've been feeling a bit frustrated with my healthy hair that just doesn't get to the length or density that i see other women achieving. When i opened the app, the algorithm suggested this as my first video! I haven't watched it yet, but i sure did need an attitude adjustment.
Your hair is pretty irrespective of it color and texture. Rock it in various styles. God knows why you look how you do. You are just unique however you are and there's just one you ☺
I have used admiration to get past the funk. I want more and I see others who have achieved it, so I grind. I have 3 distinct textures on my head and no one person can give me what I need visually. So I focus on health and the best potential for me and my hair. I agree that envy takes from you and you then begin to hate. You can't fix what you hate. You can't love properly what you hate. That goes for all of you. People have envy for me and my hair and say oh I wish...why can't mine...but you have.... I tell them what I do and they don't follow through. I always encourage and I give advise and I check back up. This didnt happen over night. I found what my hair needed and I kept at it. Thanks for putting out this video.
I LOVE my hair. She is very manageable because she is moisturized and protein balanced. As for curls, I'm 4a, so I'm defined enough, and I don't mind my (crazy) frizz. BUT...sometimes I DO find myself in an envy state. A lot of the girls have gone natural at work, and when I see their hair hanging (even the tighter 4C haired girls), and mine (no matter what I do) doesn't. I kinda do a little sign. Again, I love my coily afro, but sometimes I just wish I can get that hang time once in a while like the other gals 😔. Im in that state of mind now. So, I'm did a cute headband afro style in my hair for this week. Now I'm back with a smile on my face. I guess my advise, if you feel envious, just switch up your style ❤.
Yes, Yes, Yes, loved this video! I used to spend hours on watching other people doing their hair, especially with absolutely not my hair type, without not really caring for my own hair. I then would try to buy their products in hoping it will turn exactly like theirs. It really doesn't make sense. Instead of really getting to know my hair, I would spend hours on admiring and envying their hair. I moved on now and love my coils, but still, sometimes a healthy envy is inevitable!! 😂
Every time I see a girl with a beautifully shaped afro I find myself wishing I could get my hair to do that. Just the other day I was watching ALove4Me shape her winter afro. I felt a little sad that I can only get that floppy, not quite rounded afro. I have type 4 hair but I've never been able to style a proper afro and some girls just seem to get them easily as if by magic. It was a brief moment but it passed quickly because I do love my hair I just admire a beautiful afro.
Yesssssss! I totally agree…! I feel that same way about music videos.. and how women bodies are displayed… if I am not in a good head space, I can make myself feel unappreciative over my own body… when in fact I am fine the way I am… ditto with the exact same way about my natural hair…🙌🏽.
Another great video girl! The more time you spend with your hair, the more you will learn and appreciate it. When I used to be frustrated with my hair, I would protective style.
Thanks sis.
When I’m frustrated with my hair, I remind myself that I have the luxury of having hair to be frustrated about and quickly end my pity party😉
True.
You said a mouthful there! I so agree with you
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Great tip
truth!!!
While doing my hair, I remember that the snap back and shrinkage means my hair is healthy and I take a moment to admire that.
🥰🥰🥰yess
Absolutely and I also wanna say following a hair chart system by a white man that said our hair is the least versatile is also damaging. There has to be a better way to give extra love and attention to black women with the tightest textures without using hair charts like that. I prefer greenbeauty channel's hair chart
@@NanaNaima1 a gay man?
I also think, 4c has the MOST BODY
1a hair and fine, cant hold a curl
I didn't know snap back and shrinkage was a good thing!
God didn't make a mistake. Our kinky hair is beautiful!
I remind myself that my hair is beautiful & I just want it to be healthy. Also just how you’re looking at someone else thinking how nice it’d be to have hair like theirs, someone is looking at yours the same way
Yes 4c can be manageable but yet time consuming. I think when we (the 4c community) look at other textures, we are primarily looking at the time needed to bring 4c hair alive. So yes we are happy with our 4c hair but the time needed to appreciate our natural is insane. Please let us know of natural styles, with our own hair, that we can do that takes less than 10 minutes.
'Get to know your own.' the best advice for all naturals everywhere. Let 'her' show you what she is and what she can do. Hair well loved is full of surprises.
I used to envy girls who can execute twist-outs, wash and go, pineapple, and other styles, but I've come to realize it's either my 4b/4c hair can't do those things, or I'm doing something wrong. Comparison is the theft of joy! Instead of envying them for their genetics, I can do research and work with what I have. Do your research, find a Black dermatologist to look at your hair/scalp, eat healthy foods, drink water, and exercise.
I have an assortment of 4 a,b, c hair. Once I realized I was watching influencers with silky loose curls - not like mine, I found influencers whose hair looked and behaved like mine. I researched to find products that worked on my kinks, changed my diet, water consumption, sleep habits and finally remembering how my mother and grandmother took care of my hair, I became comfortable with my hair in it’s natural state. I am now able to look at all influencers to gleam methods, procedures and processes i can use to enhance my hair journey.
Thank you for your words! You just articulated my thoughts and feelings exactly. Over the years my hair has changed from what it was in my youth. I've learned to get over it, and keep moving forward. It was a journey, but...I love my 4c hair! It's a blessing!
BEING JEALOUS OF ANYONES ANYTHING IS NOT OF A GOD #1 AND WILL LEAVE YOU BITTER #2,I LOVE MY NATURAL HAIR WHEN IT WAS SHORT IN TWISTS (GIVING ME LAUREN HILL VIBES) AND WHEN IT GOT LONGER, I PRAISE GOD FOR MY NATURAL HAIR JOURNEY,WHEN YOU LOVE GOD STAY IN HIS WORD AND ALWAYS REMEMBER WHAT HE SAYS ABOUT YOU AND HOW HE MADE YOU,YOU WILL LOVE YOU AND ALL THE GOOD AND BAD OF YOUR HAIR💙💃🏽💪🏾
While reading your comment, I was reminded that God fearfully and wonderfully made us and that includes our hair as well. I just celebrated 1 year of being natural again and I am loving my hair. The only bad part of my journey to natural hair was figuring out what my hair liked and disliked. The only other bad thing about my hair is how long it takes to dry but that is not the bad thing, the bad is I hate sitting under a hair dryer.
@@a.mariedixon-jenkins YOU ARE SO RIGHT,AND GIRL ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL CAUSE GOD MADE YOU IN HIS IMAGE,AND YES SITTING UNDER A DRYER DOES TAKE A MIN,THATS WHY I BLOW DRY MY HAIR STR8 LOL
As someone with fine low density hair 99.99% of natural hair RUclips is not for me if I want to surround myself with positive images of hair that looks like mine.
Then half the remaining people keep complaining about their fine low density strands.
So I only follow one person, who has long healthy low density fine hair, and has a positive vibe about her hair. Love leads to health.
Same! I really only subscribe to about 3 ppl that I watch religiously. And they each have fine strands and low density hair like me.
I need RUclips to give you more traction. You are what a lot of us look for on RUclips but don’t get. Informational. Nappy.(I mean that in NO derogatory way) Thique. And you educate on what you use. I love your content and I’ve learned so much from it!
Thank you NappyFu, I’m NappyToo 🤣🤣🤣
Oh my gosh sis!! Thank you sooooooo much!! You just made my heart smile girl. God bless you.
Yessssssss ALLL FACTS🙌🏽💃🏽
I don't know y but I started crying during this video, especially when you showed the other RUclipsrs, everything you said was so true I love this thank you!
I have always loved my 4c hair, but when I decided to join the ranks of the natural hair army I began to have issues. My wasn't able to do the things 3c or 4a hair could do. But, the love affair reignited when I considered the versatility of my 4c hair. Now I am more in love with it than ever 😍
If I am unable to care for myself I remember the days in which i couldn't because I didnt have the transportation to buy products and the money to purchase those items. I appreciate the means I have now to care for myself
Congratulations on your jealous of "Natural Hair Envy Is The Thief Of Appreciating Your Own | 4c Hair Chit Chat" inspirational thanks for sharing.💖
When I'm in that hair "blue zone" (mine is very fine, thin and stick straight) I remind myself of a joke I heard years ago:
A woman only had 3 hairs on her head. She smiled and thanked God, and said, Today I will braid my hair.
The next morning she finds one has fallen out and she only has 2 hairs. She smiles and says, Thank you Lord, today I will wear two pony tails, one on each side.
The third morning she gets up only to discover only ONE hair remained. No problem, I'll wear it in a pony tail!
And the 4th morning, alas, they are all gone, and she had NO hair--totally bald. She praised the Lord that today, she didn't have to BOTHER with fixing her hair.
I admire the way people take care of their 4c hair and then I realized that I myself wasn't taking care of my own. Until now, but overtime I learned and by watching your videos that I do have everything I need to get to know my hair.
Thank you for the tips. You inspired me to name my hair ” Cheveux de reine" Hair of Queen or Queen Hair. Literally just making that name today made me love my 4c hair more. Thank once again🤍🤍🤍
What gets me through those days is wearing a hat or headwrap, lol! I focus on detangling, moisturizing, twisting and then covering it up. Even though I do it out of anger, what ends up happening is that when I take the twists down and uncover it, I see how healthy my hair is after it was taken care of and I fall back in love. Otherwise, when I fuss over it and try to force it to do something its not meant for, I end up hurting it and it loses its luster.
When watching videos, if your hair didn't look like mine 4C, and I mean four cee, I would not watch your channel and it would really 😡ed me off if a video had 4C in the title and it wasn't. I guess I got over my hair envy in junior high. When I realized how versatility my hair was, is not a one trick pony, it can be kinky, it can be braided, straight and had it's own volume, not need for products. When I got to be an adult, and had full control over my hair, I remembered how beautiful my hair was when I was a child and started my journey to get back to that hair.
I LOVE this video! It's Super important! I grew up wishing I just had straight hair because my family insulted curly hair and promoted straight "easier to manage" hair. Got fed up with relaxers, went natural, gained confidence, and now my family is like "oh my god your hair is so pretty, i never thought your hair would be easy to manage!" 🤦
I don't think I'm envious, my problem is I get aggravated when I shampoo, condition/deep condition, moisturize and seal, and then twist my hair, leave them in at least 24 hours to dry and my hair looks a hot mess. Then I question my my hair don't turn out like other naturals. Sometimes I just ask myself if it's all worth it or should I just give up. I'm just AGGRAVATED & TIRED
I love personifying my hair and journaling about her. When I write about her I am more intentional with my thoughts, words and energy. I focus on the things I love about her, and the similar personality traits we share like being a bit shy and not fooling with too many 😏
My daughter's 4a/4b hair is DENSE!!!! Plus it detangles SO EASILY and it grows without much attention.
So sometimes after dealing with hers I wish my medium density 4c hair could be as dense as hers. But then I remember how lazy I am and I think about how much torture it would've been if we both had the same kind of hair, either both dense, or both needing extra loving care and that helps a bit.
I love my texture now thanks to you and others but being content with my density is a constant struggle. I look for RUclipsrs that have similar hair characteristics as mine and when I find myself envying another's density, I apologize to Ms Thang and send positivity to her
True true and true
I truly envy the natural hair of Natural 85, Green Beauty, and a couple bothers. These ladies natural hair is phenomenal, just beautiful. Yes, I am jealous to the point of envy....I am just saying...
God made all of different that's one of the great thing I know
To answer the question, when I’m fed up with my type 4 hair and I’m not in the mood to deal with her, I literally tell myself whether I like it or not, I’m stuck with her FOR LIFE, so right now I’m gonna love her because that’s the first step that I can take to love myself. (I say this as I look at myself in the mirror)
I love this. Thank you.
@@Jaisha26 you’re welcome ❤️
What about naturals with thin or fine hair? We are also not well represented in the media and not even here on RUclips. I think we are even more discriminated against than people with 4 c hair. And it easy for us with this hair type to be envious of you guys and gals with that thick luscious hair no matter what the texture is. But thank you for making this video because as black men and women we have enough struggles with others not loving us and accepting us for who we are that we shouldn’t add to this problem by hating a part of what makes us who we are. Thank you again.
Totally agree, but having the opposite problem. Hard to find representation of women with high density thick strand hair women, so, many styles I find I just can not do.
But for you, try Latoya Ebony. Not sure how fine your hair is, but she has fine 4c hair too...hope this suggestion helps you.
@@apara2005 thank you.. I will check her out
Preach! My strains be talking now that I know her! She like, look at me, love me, I am magic! Love my knicks, she curl sometimes and when she don't that's my fault!!!! Wrong treatment, get to know her or him. Treat the hair, like your kids.🥰🥰🥰🥰💯💯💯❣❣❣
Such a great video. I’m gonna share it with my cousin who’s like a sister to me but is frustrated with her natural hair. She always says she wishes her hair was like mine. I tell her that she can’t compare her hair to mine. She just started on her natural journey whereas I’ve been natural and learning my hair for over a decade. It takes time to learn, love and appreciate your hair. It never looks perfect in the beginning. Nobody’s does. So if anyone needs to hear your message about loving and appreciating your own hair, it’s her. Thanks so much for posting another awesome uplifting video 🥰
Thank you sis!!! Yes I agree it definitely takes time!! I pray this video blesses her! 🙏🏾
PREACH! I LOVE YOU!!!
Money answereth all things!
Keep it a milli!!!!✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
What gets me through is reflecting on the fact that I'm uniquely and wonderfully made!. There is no other and will never be anyone like me. I have two kids and grandkids and all of our hair is different. Jenn Jackson said in one of videos that there are no bad hair days. Now that I am connected to my hair (keywaki) I agree. She just do what she is made to do.
I'm learning to love and take care of my natural hair as I grow it out. I just need these edges to fill in sis😢
I always envy thick full hair regardless of texture lol
I love my hair so much. I like watching videos of others doing their hair. Once you love yourself completely, including your hair, you will never envy another person. It might be hard days dealing with your hair but that is completely normal. But when these days come just leave your hair alone and thank me later. You are enough and you are worthy ❤
I was on Instagram and the algorithm recommended this video. It was a woman who had 4C hair and was getting a relaxer in order for the hair to be 'manageable'. It was so sad because her hair was so dry.
Oh wow that is disturbing. I’ve also seen a few video suggestions of 4C naturals relaxing their hair. Most times I don’t watch it. 😬
@@NappyFu I usually don't. I thought she was getting a deep condition treatment.
Oouuuhhhhh you cuuuute! Loving the whole look!
Your looking so pretty. xoxo
I love the fact that you shouted out other 4c youtubers! I love it i love it i LOVE ITTTTTT😭😭😭😭😭🖤🖤🖤🖤
Great chat ! I envy the skill that someone girls have to style theirs hair , so I started to practice and now I'm good enough to make different hairstyles on mine. 😀
That's awesome. ❤❤
@@michelle_ajema oh thank you. And the crazy thing is that I have received so many complements from people (at my 51's )😁. Never happened before.
They all good but this one was beyond needed
I love your personality 🥰 and your skin is looking good. Thank you for this message and I agree with you.
I’m so so happy that you are still
THRIVING as a gorgeous 4c youtuber….some haven’t for whatever the reason been able to sustain with excellent content…but you OUT HERE REPRESENTIN💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
Great content! Everything you said was on point! We all need to appreciate our natural hair for what it is and let no one discourage us from wearing it no matter how tight our coils. Over time I have learned appreciate my combination type 4 hair which is mostly 4b and c.
A few years ago, when I began to feel even a tinge of envy I would get down to moisturizing and protective styling. My hair was always softer and more healthy looking when I did that, and the love came right back.
Failing that, it was experimenting with scarves and half wigs for me. After a few days of the tightness on my head I was back to appreciating my hair as it was.
Notice all this in past tense because I decided to braidloc my hair about 14 months ago. I am enjoying this new journey so far. But if I decide to revert to being a loose natural again I will go back to doing the above.
Thank you for sharing. How’s the loc journey going?
@@NappyFu For the most part I'm loving it and loving the newfound freedom but I must admit that just like loose natural hair, loc'd natural hair has it's challenges. I am willing to work with the cons though because the many pros outweigh them so far. Just bought another headband wig lol!!
Oh after I wash and condition my hair My grand daughter gently pulls my twist to watch it spring up again in Just one way I show her it ok the wear you hair natural
All hair that 's healthy is good hair
There's a BIG difference between admiring vs. envying someone's else's hair. I've hated my hair for years. But now.... with all the white spiraling in, my hair is dope!
Speak!👏👏👏👏😊
I can’t watch your video until I watch this 33 minute commercial. I’ll be back ❤️
YOU are my go-to natural on RUclips...just sayin'. Much love from South Africa! 🇿🇦
Everything you've said in this video is so on point.
Needed! I use to envy other naturals all the time. I got through and still get through by thinking how can I ignore what God gave me. It's as if saying what I have isn't as good as someone else's when it all came from the same source - so it's all good. I don't want to insult God by disregarding what He gave me. This literally brings the focus back to me. The more I focus on taking care of what I have, the more I appreciate it, the better it looks and the more love I have for it. Hope this helps someone. Blessings.
Omg I just had a similar topic, about my journey to self acceptance, because I always wanted defined curls!! Love this message about loving your curls, kinks or coils
You spittin FACTS straight FACTS💯 guilty as charged i needed to hear this 💯❤
Ooh girl you look cute today! I mean, you do all of the time but you know what I mean. xD
Knowing that my hair is healthier in it's natural state than the last time it was relaxed and that I no longer have to wait hours in a hair salon to get my hair done. Taking care of my hair is as simple or complex as I make it to be. I can twist it in or out, flexi-rod it, blow-dry it, flat iron it, fro-it, wig-it and still have my natural hair @ the end of the day!
Yes. In the beginning, after the big chop, I was so frustrated with my hair. I could not find another youtuber with my hair type. I literally still have only seen like 2 others who had such a super tiny tightly coiled pen spring pattern. But now that I have more length to work with, it helped, because the shrinkage was like 75%.
Thank you!!!
Thank you for all your blessings in understanding my own hair. My hair is not 4c but your beautiful videos help me out to love my own hair. Keep doing the work and you are always going to be blessed 😊 sending you love and prayers for your blessings 🙏
🥰🥰samee
I tried all the different things one could do to our hair. Then about 3 yrs. ago I decided to go natural. Before with jeri curl, straighten, blow drying, relaxer my hair stayed dry with split ends and wouldn't grow. Now my hair is growing and I get comments on how nice my hair looks. Bantu knots, braids(short or long), 2(what I call indian braids)going straight back. All kinds of pony tails( on top of my head, pushed back, down low. I used to go to hairdresser even though I couldn't afford it. Now I can do my hair myself. I love to watch tutorials and then I do the style. I LOVE MY HAIR. HALLELUJAH!!!
My answer will be freedom, not being restricted and having a panic attack when it’s not sunny out. Which is 90% of the time. But also seeing my beauty. I’m confident and I feel great even on days that the twist-out didn’t turn out like I wanted.
Eating healthy is showing through your glowing skin and hair.
Do the simple well first then you can start to do the creative in time. Every week I was trying new styles and trying to be like the videos forgetting I got a whole Job, whole family and frankly a whole life 😂! I was never, that hair girl and I didn't even grow up in a house that promoted it. So why I thought in my 30s I was going to become a professional stylist via RUclips was ridiculous. So I taught myself with help from a real life hair stylist how to flat twist my hair. For years I would do two flat twist and lately I have been doing it into a style and it is gorgeous. It has been a journey and not something I could put into a 20-30 video. So I say all that to say figure out what you can do best and master that the rest will come. I promise!
I like to watch all sorts of hair channels. From 1a to 4c. Partly because I'm obsessed with hair care, but also because I think you can learn something from everyone. I like appreciating everyone's hair and it's beauty and I appreciate my own. I think we all just need to learn to see the beauty in everything. Someone with straight hair gets to see their length and don't have SSKs, but they also don't get to experience the springiness of my coils. So while I appreciate certain things about different hair types, I still find things I appreciate about mine. I love how fun my hair is now. It's a matter of getting to a point where you can say, "I think it's great their hair can do this, but I love what my hair can do that theirs can't."
Omg facts thank you sis we as black women need to embrace our natural beauty we are all individual that has been a tough journey for me I'm working on it
The only thing I struggle with is cornrows and flat twists. My mind will not allow to figure it out....I have been trying to learn how to do it for years and watched tons of tutorials. I have been shamed for being Black and not being able to at least cornrow.
You cute! I really like this look on you (Hugs)
This one is so good
This video is timely for me and an answer to my hair dilemma. I dunno why humans tend to see beauty in others 'other' than themselves.
Yeassssss thank you for shouting out these beautiful influencerssssss that actually inform us on how to better take care of how luxurious curls💕
“I have my own identity...I beg” says it all. Love this video girl!!
Envying another person's anything is never a good place to be. I try to find something to be grateful about when I experience those days.
I agree with you, there is a difference between simply admiring someone's hair and envying. I have Type 4 hair. My hair is 4A and low to medium density. With the exception of Bianca Renee, I am subscribed to Type 4 influencers: you, Star Puppy, Latoya Ebony, Jenn J, Naptural85, Hazel Godesss, NaturalReign, etc. I love my hair and its shrinkage because shrinkage gives my low to medium density hair the appearance of volume so I wear wash and gos which I don't fluff out or stretch. Hair density would have been something I was more likely to envy but I really like the ease of handling my hair density so I'm good. You have taught me so much about caring for my hair and I really appreciate you. I have been subscribed for a minute.
I needed to hear this video 😌. I haven’t wore a wig or a sew in sense August. I decided to spend quality time with my own hair. Really spend time and bond with my hair. Just learning to recognize my own’s hair true beauty because i just been wearing protective styles for a whole year. When I would wear my natural hair out I always receive compliments heavily all the time and I really couldn’t understand it 🤔😂. It use to be so frustrating to me because everyone else loves my hair except me. I’m like a 4a/4b and it’s very long and full, these past few months of me taking a break from weave has helped me appreciate my hair more.
I once was there until I started watching you, because my hair texture is just like your, and I learned to love and embrace my kinky textured. So please keep education your kinky followers. I’m a 64 year old women and I have been natural for 7 year and I now meaning 2 year ago now Love my Afro. Thank You for keeping it real. ❤️
'It wasn't giving what YOU thought it should have gave.... but it's actually giving.' If this isn't the 2021 appreciation quote 😶👀
Something/someone cannot be (give) what to YOU think it should be (have gave).... rather you should appreciate what it is. Be present in what you have. You can put in time and effort all day long.... but unless you APPRECIATE what you have then the joy won't come, and you know you deserve the JOY 🥰
P.s you made realise that this cuteness on my head needed a name... She is Glorious as such her name is indeed GLORY 😛😄
Props Ecc 7:12; doing Eccl bible study right now. All is vanity... except wisdom
You are unique in all ways my hair has always been my crown Team Kinks glad we’re here for each other this what I would say to some in doubt of he blessing of 4c hair
Loved this video and the way that she shouted out other influences. Sisterlocks positively changed my hair experience
Lol! That’s why I love NappyFu! “Lord, can you give me…” How many times have I started a prayer about my hair like that😂🤭
thank you for this 🥺
You are so right girl I learnt my hair and it's so happy 😘
I came on RUclips to find extra tips to get mid back length hair. I've been feeling a bit frustrated with my healthy hair that just doesn't get to the length or density that i see other women achieving. When i opened the app, the algorithm suggested this as my first video! I haven't watched it yet, but i sure did need an attitude adjustment.
Your hair is pretty irrespective of it color and texture. Rock it in various styles. God knows why you look how you do. You are just unique however you are and there's just one you ☺
I have used admiration to get past the funk. I want more and I see others who have achieved it, so I grind. I have 3 distinct textures on my head and no one person can give me what I need visually. So I focus on health and the best potential for me and my hair. I agree that envy takes from you and you then begin to hate. You can't fix what you hate. You can't love properly what you hate. That goes for all of you. People have envy for me and my hair and say oh I wish...why can't mine...but you have.... I tell them what I do and they don't follow through. I always encourage and I give advise and I check back up. This didnt happen over night. I found what my hair needed and I kept at it. Thanks for putting out this video.
I LOVE my hair. She is very manageable because she is moisturized and protein balanced. As for curls, I'm 4a, so I'm defined enough, and I don't mind my (crazy) frizz. BUT...sometimes I DO find myself in an envy state. A lot of the girls have gone natural at work, and when I see their hair hanging (even the tighter 4C haired girls), and mine (no matter what I do) doesn't. I kinda do a little sign. Again, I love my coily afro, but sometimes I just wish I can get that hang time once in a while like the other gals 😔. Im in that state of mind now. So, I'm did a cute headband afro style in my hair for this week. Now I'm back with a smile on my face.
I guess my advise, if you feel envious, just switch up your style ❤.
This really touched home honestly, especially with the beginning of my journey.
I really enjoyed this video!
Thank you for sharing with us more natural hair channels that we can learn from 🥰
My pleasure sis!
Yes, Yes, Yes, loved this video! I used to spend hours on watching other people doing their hair, especially with absolutely not my hair type, without not really caring for my own hair. I then would try to buy their products in hoping it will turn exactly like theirs. It really doesn't make sense. Instead of really getting to know my hair, I would spend hours on admiring and envying their hair. I moved on now and love my coils, but still, sometimes a healthy envy is inevitable!! 😂
Such a word!!!! Yes 👏🏾
Every time I see a girl with a beautifully shaped afro I find myself wishing I could get my hair to do that. Just the other day I was watching ALove4Me shape her winter afro. I felt a little sad that I can only get that floppy, not quite rounded afro. I have type 4 hair but I've never been able to style a proper afro and some girls just seem to get them easily as if by magic. It was a brief moment but it passed quickly because I do love my hair I just admire a beautiful afro.
That’s real. I feel ya. The Afro is a style I don’t do that often. If I do I just let it sit hoe it wants to. Lol mine be floppy and lopsided. 🤣🤣
I'm just happy and blessed to have hair. ❣️
💙!!
Yesssssss! I totally agree…! I feel that same way about music videos.. and how women bodies are displayed… if I am not in a good head space, I can make myself feel unappreciative over my own body… when in fact I am fine the way I am… ditto with the exact same way about my natural hair…🙌🏽.
I spent yeeeaaarrrs envying my siblings hair. Soooo much time wasted. We are loving each other now.
PREACH!! 100% TRUTH!