If You're Shy, You Die.
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0:00 You would have DIED 100 years ago
0:59 Easy analogy to understand why you are shy
2:40 Stop using your energy the wrong way
4:27 Socializing after a LONG break or 'dry spell'
7:23 The best way to feel good, is spending time with humans
10:06 Social media is LIEING to you
11:28 How to LOVE yourself again
13:47 A rant from me.
If You're Shy, You Die (Social Anxiety Will Kill You)
Being shy, lonely, anxious or unhappy is nature's way of MOTIVATING YOU to stop being a loser. You got this bro
Of course, because feeling good, safe and happy is nature's way of demotivating you to be a winner.
You honestly have to as a guy cuz being good looking is still not enough to attract and keep women interested. Women can afford to be shy and anxious and still have many guys if they look good.
Not if you’re an author
I'm the opposite 🤔 I'm 33 and the most shy I've ever been...
@Denmosocial Why do you have Romanian Flag 🇷🇴 on your back of the laptop, I seen at 4:00
I'm tired of spectating life, I want to participate in life. I hope this video helps because I'm cruelly shy.
Same
Others who have watched these types of videos for approximately 7 years think the same, but nothing will help you if you are ugly and poor, videos like these that seek to "magically solve your shyness" do not work.
you got this brotha
My "problem" is that participating in life isn't as fun as in my imagination of it when I'm spectating. So I'll always go back to spectating because I just love daydreaming too much.
@@Alex-on8yudamn … it sucks to be an incel. The times that iv had the most success with women was when I had nearly zero money. I promise you.
39, almost 40. Social skills and confidence way better in the last year or so thanks to improving myself. Have a girlfriend for the last 6 months because of the improvements I made to myself via the advice from this channel.
Good for you, that's awesome. I'm 38, starting doing cold approaches. No numbers or dates yet but I'm going to keep on impving my social skills and confidence though
I'm 34 and just ruined the best relationship I've ever had. I thought I was ready but I made one huge mistake; I sacrificed the system I had developed to make myself a good, fit, and mentally healthy mate to shower her with my time and attention. What happened? All of the qualities she was initially attracted to disappeared because I gained weight, lost confidence, and lost all of my mental health from trying to please her and failing to balance all of my other responsibilities. Best advice I can give to younger guy; when you do find the love of your life, don't sacrifice your health and well being for her sake. It will do neither of you any good and you will lose her! You have to put yourself, your health, and your well being first. Only then will you be the optimal boyfriend/husband that you want to be/that she needs, and she will recognize that. Best of luck brothers
Here was your very 1st mistake:
"You put her first"
Women hate that & quickly tire of it after a short season.
43 just learnt how to tease and flirt with girls, I have adhd, on a spectrum of sorts, maybe autisim, always been skinny with horrible confidence but getting better with channels like this. I wasted my 20's but I made the most of my 30s as much as I could. got the career I like, had a few girlfriends.
20. Feels like i haven't even started living yet. Damn
I’m 32 & same boat😢
20 is super young still for a man. Just turned 28 and still building. Men from 18-30 is really the hustle and muscle years while being considered “young”. You have time to take bigger risks than someone at 35, 40
We're living, living a shitty and empty life.
then start. right now lol
I’m 25 & I wish I was 20 lmao
How do I know I’m depressed? The thought of death no longer comes with fear, but peace of mind.
I think that just comes with age
@@residentevilfreakk55 I know old people terrified of death.
I'm 26. Still watching videos about how to approach girls. Only making 22k a year. Living with my dad. No gf. Been single for 10 years. No social life.
dont listen to this video. Being shy or not does not matter. What matters is you being attractive or not and having your own place/car. Im 23 and I want to start living life but I first gotta get good looking and get up out my moms place.
37 - making moves to improve my dating life again. Life is better in the company of another person
Unless they are abusive grifters.
Not really dating sucks and is kinda stupid..if your the kind of person who needs someone try too find someone but I can't stand traditional dating
38, making moves as well with my dating life and other aspects of my life so I can become the best version of myself
37 as well. Doin the damn thing. Get it homies!!
Shy or not women either find you attractive or not.
cope. You're someone who is looking for excuses not to improve yourself.
@@Casarzino I have improved myself more than you know. The biggest players I know don't put any effort in their lives and women are lining up at their door.
@@BrooklynBumhow do these players meet these women ?
Next time you go shopping, try to concentrate on couples where he's seemingly uglier than her.
And you need to stop finding excuses, like "if he's ugly but has a 7+/10 girl, he got money"
You can improve as much as you want and be rich as you want, with that mindset, you'll simply lose in life 😅
@@gregallen1381 all they do is just show up anywhere and women find ways to meet them.
22 yo, I feel like everyone around me is miles ahead.
I feel the same way
Get off social media
Lot of "millionaires" are not real they spend 30k month to break even in ecom
I feel the same way bro. You ain’t alone!
Start now by the time your 40 you will be ahead of 80%
News flash everyone dies alone, regardless if you are shy.
You would’ve died 1,000 years ago, not today. So therefore, if you’re shy today, you will not die.
I’m 21 and I don’t have many friends or a gf. Thanks Denmo for letting me know that I can use my shyness as energy to get out and socialize to get better at it obviously at first it will be hard and I will be shy but continuing to try and get better at it. I will see progress. As opposed to numbing myself and torturing myself watching videos and playing video games. Now it’s time to think of this as energy to get out and do so!
I’m 27 and I’m shy because I really lack in social skills. Even if I was comfortable with the person, I have a ton of trouble carrying a conversation. I’m a virgin that has never been on a date or kissed a girl
It even affects my ability to find a job that doesn’t pay minimum wage. I ask different trades men if they need laborers and I’ve applied to warehouse jobs and apprenticeships, I never get interviews. I might try my luck with oilfield work just so I can move out of my mom’s house
same almost 29y
Another reminder on how my mindset and perspective has changed towards the social dynamics of dating and seduction.
It's another reminder that it's like only men that were meant to go through a long journey of self-improvement, or men are the only gender that were meant to do work in order to reap Rewards.
It's like men are the only gender that were meant to become a better person as a result of improving your dating life but not the other way around.
I think a huge reason why that is is because for the most part women are basically born with value for simply just existing
@@nobodysperfect06 woman Are Born with value of course.
i've heard people say, its the mans role to be interesting, its the womans role to be interested
I realized that I simply don't have enough social interactions to "practice" them properly. But then there is also the fact that I often unconsciously avoid such situations because my shyness makes them uncomfortable for me, especially with strangers. A real dilemma 😅
Window shopping
The 50th Law by Robert Greene, thank me later.
I'm 25 and I am really learning through you, thank you for this content Denmo.
I went back to school full time to pursue my goals to change the world. I was going to be nobody and beat to death as a mechanic. Sacrifice for the better…
Bro, your videos made me change. I am still shy but trying everyday by small steps socializing with people
Im 25 now and started dating and get my shit together. so you're not behind ,you should just figure out what you're doing and keep going. You got this 😉
What bro ?
Please explain in simpler words ?
I am 22 and so much self expectations in dating and sexual frustration has affected me badly.😭😭😭
@@personalitydev Easy, you have to do everything society tells you, go to the gym 24/7 and study something that makes you money, plastic surgery and pretend to be the coolest and most confident guy in the world.
Very false and unrealistic, right? Don't do anything to change, stay as you are if you want.
@@Alex-on8yu
But bro are you saying to remain away from girls ?
I don't have fear of rejection, but I have fear of social repurcussions, that will the girl tell her family member or someone else. This is the main reason of my not getting my sexual frustration over 🥲
@@Alex-on8yuthe only part i need is the last part
estas en todos lados XD@@Alex-on8yu
Thank you. I needed this video
I haven’t been watching Denmo videos in a while. Not because I dislike them, they’ve actually helped me tremendously. It’s because I’ve gone out and applied the advice he’s given. Once you put yourself out there, you don’t feel the need to seek out these videos any longer.
Well, then watch out for phase 2 !!
Darius M
Type in:
'Woman REFUSES To Sign Prenup & Gets INSTANTLY DUMPED!'
Exactly what I needed ❤️🔥
Being out in the woods alone brings a kind of ecstasy you cant find in a group setting but i take your point overall
Stop going to the woods nothing is out there. I have spent a lot of time in the woods the past few years looking for answers. The answers lay in reality, not running away into the woods. If i spent all the time I did in the woods self improving I would probably have a girlfriend already and not be a 23yo v1rgin.
Nothing is found in the woods trust me. Ive spent so much time out there the past few years when I should of been improving my appearance.
I'm 32 year's old. Love your videos ❤
I was born a shy child but I remember I never had anxiety really I just remember being shy but then life took a turn and a lot of things caused me to become mentally not right, trust issues and not knowing better. Already in my home town no one was really friendly like that kids chose to listen to rap music and smoke ect and no one was out here playing w eachother and being friendly so that’s one reason I don’t just start having conversations with people, I remember after my parents divorcing I just didn’t wanna socialize at all in 7th grade also I went to a new school and was shy, I didn’t say a single word much during that school year and it carried onto 8th grade, in 9th grade someone asked me why I looked so depressed and I got mad and said that I’m not, I’m not even lying I haven’t really heard the word depressed till that day and I didn’t even know it was a thing, I was so used to the way I felt by then I didn’t know any better, I now can say I was probably highly depressed, I hated school and I hated my house, I had a mean step dad who was an asshole and always made passive aggressive comments for no reason, he said when I turn 18 I’m not going to live there anymore, he’d never let me make any noise cause he’d yell at me and say I’m loud and he never let us talk during dinner and I hated school and home, eventually I graduated and still had no role models or adult guidance and my dad lived in a diffrent city and my mom was never home she had work or school so I was basically a child w no good guidance or life even tho it wasn’t the worst. After graduation I still was not right and just getting jobs just to get me food and stuff I need then 4 years went by, now for the first time in my life I can say I’m thinking clear and I am good now for the most part yet still have things that are stuck in me that are difficult to change. This is why I seem so outlasted towards the world and then I’m seeing how everyone is passing me in life in relationships ect and now I am trying to change and grow but all I really have is myself these days. When demo says stuff sometimes I just feel dumb like I’m not a normal person and it would be better if I was
24 - just got a job where I’m seating customers at a restaurant. I have to interact with every single person that comes in the door. It’s pretty stressful because I have a lot of social anxiety, but I’m just focused on taking where I’m at right now, and doing just a little bit better in every interaction or every new day I come in.
It’s a lot of stress, but I realise that that’s where I’m at, and as long as I keep it up I’ll get over it and start thriving.
Yea bro keep going right mindset
I volunteered just yesterday and initially it was hard but eventually I was better at it. Thing is, I have a stutter impediment so its hard for me to even want to say something.
28 from Brazil, I’m not exactly shy and I agree with most of the things Jack just said. And I feel that shyness comes from inexperience - if you never experienced talking to a girl, or talking in public, … you will second guess and be shy - and low self esteem because you can feel like we are not worthy. The key takes here, as Denmo said, is go out and live. Speak with people, go create your tribes and experience new things, up to some point you will stop caring about the results and just enjoy socializing and trying new things, because you tried so many new things in life that this starts being a enjoyable.
Then you try so many new things that it gets old. And even socializing gets old.
Hey wow where are you from oh cool hey oh yeah you like this and that oh wow yeah I’ve literally never heard anyone say that ever you’re the first person (until the next one) that is so cool oh hey you want to go to this place and drink their beverages and eat their food and then go to this place and enjoy their entertainment that you’ve never done before oh and yes let’s take pictures of all of this and never look at them again unless we’re deleting them to make room for more useless pictures.
27.
Best hack ever:
*Get a puppy*
It makes it SO easy to talk to girls and just people in general. This is coming from someone with really bad anxiety. The puppy “cures” my anxiety and really allows me to open up.
I noticed even without the puppy, I can be relaxed and show more of my personality. It’s almost as if my social skills were rediscovered.
Just my $0.02. Hope this helps someone!
When it turns into a dog just get a new puppy
I went walking with a friend that walked his dog a few times. Sometimes he would ask me to hold the leash. There were a few women that came up to pet the dog while I was holding the leash and they never said a word to me. I was still invisible. I guess in the women's reality, the end of the dog leash was floating next to the dog.
@@Tarotraptalk Haha literally came to comment the same thing. But nah, that's why you gotta get a dog that girls still love after it's grown, like a Snow Huskey which girls go gaga for
Girls will be more attracted to your puppy than they are to you 💀
that's just sad, getting a dog just to get girls lol
21 and going in the right direction praise God
"From the last couple of years"
Ha, my PC is over 9 years old now
21, feeling good in life, especially since the virginity issue doesn’t bother me anymore. I don’t care if I’m ahead of other guys, I only want to be better than my current self.
57 and although I have had some amazing long term girlfriends, I'm still shy and it's still hard at times.
I'm between girlfriends nkw and on a bot of a drought. My shyness doesn't help because I am a bit lonely at times.
I do vet out every day though which is great
Coffee shops
Work
Walks
Loved video. Watched full way. Keep pushing for success people!! Keep inspiring change Denmo! And for petes sake, live in the Present, not in all this Digital World. Bye.
Love the reframe of being lonely is an important and necessary signal.
6:05 exchange of love
9:50 pain to solve shyness
10:09 going to computer
10:35 coping mechanism internet
11:04 talk like you know them close
11:25 when you love yourself, exercise
12:14 one success is what you need
14:30 use it or lose it (humans)
14:48 small amount stress is progressing
Dude, I’m handsome but i so awkward at social interactions. It seems that something in my head is holding me back. I need to take action!
subscribed for 1 year what are you doing man
"We are running on very old software", so true 😂
I'm shy, I haven't died
I’m 24 years old, and I do feel behind right now. Extremely shy. And I am definitely trying to improve myself socially. And Denmo, you really do know how to encourage us to go out there and talk to females
Are you attractive? Theres no point in putting yourself outthere if your unattractive, trust me I know. Growing up I was attractive but shy, didnt matter though was always invited to things women went out of their way to talk to me. At 19 I lost my looks but was no longer shy. No one bothered to be my friend anymore. Im 23 now and trying to get back to good looking status.
Thanks denmo , you changed my life
gotchu brother
29. Slowly becoming better at socializing after prioritizing doing well in school, getting good grades, being a good family guy, entering the job force of my choice.
No luck yet in the dating world. But figuring out how socializing works more.!
I was really confident as a kid: I was open, I had balls of fire. I went on stage to play violin when I was five by myself in front of a huge crowd. I’d go up to people. I’d laugh so hard and make friends with everyone. But things happened down the line where I was called things and I was completely destroyed by society. So it’s taken me a longer time (still the case to hav confidence again. That and I just couldn’t relate to people my own age in middle and high school. This all has made it harder for me to exit my own bubble. Even to say what I want openly without deleting I’m going to get stampednonx
Dude I'm also 29 and this also happened to me. 😢
We all die alone.
Use it or lose it is so true. Persistence is key, if you make effort to socialize for one week then think you got it and don’t need to continue practicing you’ll just fall right back into the old ways
What a bro. Wish this guy was around in my early 20s. Im 27 now😢
you got time bro
I wish I was 27.
It makes sense, I did die.
I never accomplished any single damn thing. I let my life go away because fear had won.
I never crossed the gap, I could never build anything, I could never dare talk to women.
I'm 31 now, and I've wasted all the best part of life. I wasted the best years of my life! I WASTED THEM! The BEST FVCKING YEARS!! Wasted!!
I can't show my failure of a face to other people now because I'm too much of a failure and the shame is unbearable. I can't let people know how truly pathetic I am. I can't let other people see the real failure beneath my mask.
I don't even know what normal people even talk about.
It's lost, it's all lost.
Time has passed, it's lost. But that doesn't mean, that you cannot conquer the future.
me too mate, one big F up
Bro is doing women's motivation😂😂😂
I'm 25. I do feel like I'm getting something done in life, I'm finishing my studies in engineering and hitting the gym hard. But I want more social life basically. More dates, parties and experiences with friends generally.
18 and few friends, no girls. Definitely very behind socially
46 - doing decent, enjoy a variety of things and always feel proud of myself when I approach an attractive woman I am interested in.
The Denmo videos have helped with boosting my self-confidence. But I also use a telehelth therapist which is going to be much more customized to your individual problems.
Banger video
Good video bro 😎
33, married for a year now. but I do like your videos about building confidence. Definitely a shy kind of person. I work as an overhead electrical lineman so I only ever communicate with a handful of coworkers.
fair enough man ill do more videos on confidence
@@Denmosocial you have an awesome channel man.
Great damm video 💪🏾❤️
Im 15 and im kinda doing good in life. Just need to start working more on myself and finance and talk to more girls
Youngsters here hahah, im 17, and same as you trying same stuff... budd keep it up you'll get it and there sure will be hard and wierd times but its all worth it in the end
7:57 we have something called winter 😂
27 just graduated with masters degree in a good field, still slim af, no girls, friends / social circle is pretty good I'd say but things could still be a lot better
16 I guess you could say in a comfortable spot my AAU basketball season just ended and now I’m just training an waiting for things to start back up
Thank you Denmo for inventing talking heads videos.
no problem man, it was only a matter of time
21 Years Old Stuck in a Vicious Cycle of Trying To Change Making Progress and then Regressing Back to my Old Ways
0:15 to 3:00 Yes I find this very informative and the struggle I see is that even during the 2010s living in Africa people had to stick to tribes for food rations and survival. Seeing if youre shy you die is a good motto. Denmo is good professor I love his videos. I'm 20 and I begin first on campus University semester this Fall, but I socialize with 3 different friends I met at Community College. Past 6 months I doubled my life lessons from Denmo and other RUclipsrs like Crash Course and Liberal Destiny. Ask me anything.
I watched this video, just got it over with, and it worked. Real world proof this ain't fake
my man. how did it go
@@Denmosocial pretty well thanks, made some convo, chucked a cheeky joke in there made her laugh and then asked her if she wanted to come join me on something and got her number. Was nervous as hell but it didn't kill me haha
19. I'm fit, handsome, smart, very mature for my age. Due to Jack's advices I have started talking to random people and I'm really enjoying it. I fell like my social skills and confidence have exploded over this time. Still in most cases can't force myself or find a way to talk to girls ://
21 and i still feel like nothing is getting better
I'm 28 and don't have any friends and never had a true girlfriend
If You're Shy, You Die 😂 I´m shy since 53y, and i feel good. If people are shy, they don't have to be "losers," as is often claimed today. I am not a fan of making people feel guilty just because they are what they are. I find this "higher, better, more" exhausting. I went along with everything, but in the end - it was just hustling and mental load.
m 17 I am in a feedback loop where i improve myself and after a few months go back to being depressed . Seeing my peers i feel left behind in life like i am doing nothing
This is legit the best video you have made.
glad it helped you man
@Denmosocial much love dude ❤️ 🤘💪
It was interesting to compare my confidence now vs highschool. I was fucking beast in highschool at my 18 y. o. . 2 girlfriends, 15 in dms, guitar, charisma, athletic body, i was gathering groups of people around me easily. Now I'm depressed af at 22. I don't feel left behind since im doing almost the best from all the people i know, i got the job with higher than average wage, I've got the home, clothes, gadgets, watches (no car tho). I got a geodesy bachelor degree yesterday and going for the masters. I just feel stuck, depressed, completely isolated, stressed the hell out. The problem is - i don't have a girlfriend, or at least any girl on sight rn. I see the attention, yet i can't find the words or courage to even speak. Somehow I went complete 180 and got the money, potential career, got better in sports, intellectually as well, but lost all my confidence and bravery because i just don't have a girl for the past almost 3 years. Been working hard as hell this whole time, but still depressed. I thought maybe i can just go higher and higher In my improvement and job, but it didn't help at all, now im just depressed and with money. I'm clearly attractive, i see how girls react on me talking to them, yet i STILL can't manage to build the confidence.
Yeah, there were many traumatic events last few years, but I don't think they are the main problems, maybe just additional aspects.
How one can overthrow inner shy bitch and factually accept outer chad? 😂
23 - getting jobs definitely helped me with my social anxiety, but I feel like I'm moving at a slow pace. It's quite hard when you have to reparent yourself.
What kind of job position do you have?
I'm a tram driver, but I'm also doing my engineering bachelor's (final year) on the side. The point I'm trying to make, is that nowadays you work with people everywhere, so having social skills is a must. Or if you lack them like I did for a long time, you'll eventually develop them if you are patient enough.
Sure. I'm also 23 with autism. I graduated from a technical college a couple of months ago, studying multi-media design. I currently don't have a job for that position because I'm considering whether I should or should build an online business selling my personal graphic art and photography. I'm also looking to practice more on my social skills to interact with classmates before I go to another college to study more on animation.
@@jacobb8832 The key is, never be afraid of taking risks. Yes, you will struggle and many things are not going to go your way.
The more work you put in, the more work you see is left.
What I took away,
dating a woman is like walking a dog.
Ok, I'm not being super serious there. heh
People always told me I was just shy,
but it might be more of social anxiety as the thing I had.
I just somehow had to endure the pain of not being able to talk to people the way I wanted to,
and deal with it.
It is like going through life blindfolded, handcuffed, and with the deadmau5 head on.
Modern day advances in technology allows someone to live a shy and sheltered life without any major repercussions. You don’t need to socialize with anyone if you don’t want to which is a luxury.
The best way remains to stay connected with God. peace and blessings.
Im 17, Ive wasted all my teen years. Didnt party, or anything. When school starts back in August, Im doing football 💯
good luck 🔥🔥🔥🗣️
What the fuck lol youre only 17 chillout. You got many more struggles and temptations on the way to be bragging about how you dont do shit and youre tough. Wait till ylure really tested
you are just a kid, seriously, you have your whole 20's, make the most of them. try to minimise regrets, rejection is 1000000x better than regret in your 40's trust me, all thre shots you didnt try will haunt you.
I was shy until I turned 20 which is now, haha I got my first job if I’m shy I die thanks for remainder jack
It'd be a lot easier to take this more seriously if so much of it wasn't for the purposes of picking up girls
This is the type of video I needed I like that if your shy you’ll die
There would never have been a situation where a hunter gatherer would ever have to approach strangers or overcome shyness because they would have lived their entire lives in the same tribe that they were born into. They wouldn't have ever been lonely in the first place, unless they were outcasted from the tribe, and to have been outcasted, they would have had to do something fairly egregious (like murder).
You're starting from a faulty premise.
I’m 18 just graduated high school two weeks ago and damn I don’t feel so lost and behind in life
Denmo the type of guy that casually gives you a lifetime worth of knowledge in a single video
20 year old kid here. I've had self-confidence issues my entire life. I'm always overthinking every situation I'm in and second-guessing every decision I make. I always doubt myself and have 0 hope that I can actually do anything good despite being in the army. If feeling like this is nature's motivation to get out of it then I am cooked.
I just turned 23, finally getting my act together. Trying to utilize the male advantage around 27-28. Getting in shape and getting more money
Good on you, king! 💪
I'm autistic and at the age of 23 as well. I've been focused on willing to get my act together and utilize my male advantage, too. I'm doing pretty decent in improving my well-being, getting in shape, and trying to have a better mindset this year, but still haven't gotten a lot of money. I still procrastinated most of the time and lacked greater results than before for a few months. I'll get there someday, but you're gonna do much better than I do.
You got this. Don't let anything or anyone whom doesn't do you good stop you from pursuing success.
@@jacobb8832 appreciate the goodwill. We all are born with our own innate gifts. Find yours and give it to the world. I’m sure it will make space to let your light shine brotha. Keep in grinding!!! 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
@@Meliodas_369 Thanks. I definitely will.👍
I'm currently planning a more serious 6-month self-improvement journey from July to December of 2024 so that I can truly make a big change by then. I'm still willing to change myself for the better and learn to let my light shine to the world with my gifts, except, I still don't know what my true gifts are. I used to have a vision and big aspirations for the future, but after the pandemic occurred, I seem to have lost my own potential and now feel like I don't know what to do as of today. I'm still trying to look for my true purpose and passion. I can't just go through life without offering something special to the world. That would be a disservice.
How do I find my gifts? How do I get them back and use them?
31, Probably too old to be watching these kinds of videos but I think I'm doing good in life.
At 35 I'm far less shy then i was in my teens and 20s. I have poverty. Money is my limiting variable. It's what I'm slowly, but consistently working on. If all goes well, I should be able to reach the median income by the time I'm 45.
The problem for me is I hate people in general but if I want some play this isn’t going to work.
Im 28, going to work and home and repeat. No desire to socialize because of my stammer and even if i didnt have one i just dont know what to talk about with people. Im just so behind 💀
the world is beautiful because it is varied, everyone has their own personality, respect for oneself first of all. being shy is not a limiting factor if you meet the right person you certainly won't be a playboy
Iam watching RUclips 8 hours in day without any break
No we only die alone when they poisen us... shy people can live alone normal people can't stand being alone... Re whole society is pushing everyone to be shy even extroverts
I'm 20 , I have many friends as I study at the university, but every time I talk with girls(e.g. parties or at the university) I'm often stressed and I often don't know what to talk with them about, so then I run with them a small talk. What should I do?
I am 20 and i think i am doing pretty good in life, when it comes to religion, health, and money i am doing really good on that side for my age but i lack a little bit on the social part which is what i am tryna get better at
mu age is 16.
I think i'm confused if I'm doing right or not.
I have got an interview tomorrow for my 1st job(in cafe).
I play games 1 to 2 hrs max in a day.
I read books like atomic habits(on pg 220btw)
im 19 and i am so introverted towards girls
That’s good
I'm going to be 19 soon, an introvert, but i'm enjoying being by myself. There's 3 friends of mine, others are just acquaintances with whom i have neutral or positive relationships. In society i'm mostly just listener and don't talk much, but i'm not hating this role, because i know it's natural for me and changing myself to be more sociable would only annoy me.
Had no romantic relationships, although there were women in my life who found me attractive. As almost any guy i have desire to try sex once, but i'm specifically build hard rules for myself to have it only with the one in life, and problem is that i haven't found one and i have a feeling that'll take a long time. But it's fine, this romantical stuff isn't top priority in my life, it just like a bonus.
I'm a quiet guy in society, not rare for me to be lonely, but i accept as a part of me, since i don't feel anxiety, nervousness, unconfidence and some feeling that something is wrong with me, i'm cool with the way i am as i have this warmness in my chest. So i don't think this video will influence me, but still interesting stuff
And yeah, introvert ≠ shy, nervous nerd who can't speak to women or be in the center of the crowd. Introvert means we prioritise more time with ourselves rather than being around other people. Learn it already
Any advice for an autistic person that has a hard time not being shy and is bad at socializing?
It is possible brother. I was in your situation, but I decided one day I was absolutely tired of being shy, so I tried to push through one step at a time, and now I’m confident enough to go up to random people and start conversations with them. It takes time, and you have to be patient with yourself, but it’s worth it. Hope this helps.
Just turned 20 a few months ago, currently game technologies engineering student. I am gonna switch to cyber security on next January. I have almost zero friends and neither a gf. My high school years was a total flop, I digged into a very deep hole with my social anxiety. So I am trying to socialize again on my campus, I have succeeded a bit already but battle is not won yet. I didn't get my hoped echo from fellow students, but maybe I get a new chance on cyber security side. I have thought about cold approaching girls but it feels just so far, cause I have hard of hearing so I'm afraid of quietly talking people...
With the way divorce is, dying single and not bothering with dating is winning.
I tried socializing in the cafeteria at work and already got burned. Now, I keep to myself and watch videos on my Tablet instead. If the women, in the cafeteria at work, don't like you, you are just getting amogged by other guys, then you have to make peace with it (ie if you don't have the looks, or whatever), and move on. At least the youtube videos / streaming content allows you to do that. Also I'd be more worried about the eternal destiny rather than whom I'm "dying" with. (ie if I'm close to Jesus at that time, etc...) The wrong girl can lead you to hell. In that case, I'd rather be alone then end up there.
I've been burned many times in those situations, so I fully understand