How do I stop over thinking things? | Kati Morton

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  • Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
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Комментарии • 337

  • @robinperkins1008
    @robinperkins1008 5 лет назад +125

    i love how she always says "we" like we're not alone in the things we go through. much love!!

    • @BrittanySchank
      @BrittanySchank 5 лет назад +1

      Robin Perkins I totally agree ♥️♥️♥️

  • @mikeoct27
    @mikeoct27 7 лет назад +340

    when she ends her sentence with ''okay" super calming

  • @MrSk8guyJr
    @MrSk8guyJr 6 лет назад +43

    What has helped me deal with overthinking was listening to Alan Watts' lectures.
    “The person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about but thoughts, and lives in a world of illusions”

  • @purplebellunicorn1593
    @purplebellunicorn1593 8 лет назад +228

    I started crying when I heard the first question as I am not alone it's really hard to stop thinking bad thought. ...keep over thinking and it scares me to the point I wanna hide away incase I hurt myself and others

    • @sketchwish5982
      @sketchwish5982 8 лет назад +10

      take care

    • @sophiab5260
      @sophiab5260 7 лет назад +12

      You are not alone! wish for best for all of us

    • @Rafa-707
      @Rafa-707 6 лет назад +5

      Same here

    • @iiAngelic
      @iiAngelic 6 лет назад +8

      It's hard not to overthink, though!

    • @davidlinch2130
      @davidlinch2130 6 лет назад

      There are several ideas for how to make a guy fall in love with you
      take your time
      Use less words and choose them carefully
      Communicate with behaviour as well as words
      (I discovered about these and more from Maras magic words site )

  • @happysparrow5929
    @happysparrow5929 6 лет назад +123

    Wow, just can't get over how great it must feel to help sooo many people. Having so much understanding and compassion for such a variety of difficult problems - you are like my superhero.

  • @mylesbishop1240
    @mylesbishop1240 8 лет назад +85

    This is me spot on.
    When rumination strikes me during work I go to the bathroom and go nuts trying to shake the "trance".
    Never works.
    Ruins my day. I've tried praying, hitting myself, taking deep breaths I just can't shake the beast.
    It shows on my face and makes me look like someone completely diff.
    It definitely feels like a demon entering your head.

    • @controversialist01
      @controversialist01 8 лет назад +15

      You have given these thoughts ultimate power. The key is to know that these thoughts will constantly be circulating in your head, whether you like it or not. Most thoughts you have ever formed are floating in your head be it conscious or subconscious but most of them are silent waiting for a trigger or association to be brought to the conscious mind. The most powerful thoughts are the ones that you feed, and give your focus to. Rest assured these thoughts constantly roaming in your head will weaken if you let them pass through your head without giving them much attention, let them slip through as often as they like, knowing that you are not going to focus on them, by practicing non-thinking (some call it being present, mindful, or in the moment), and focusing your energy on uplifting thoughts. Becoming conscious of this shift will you lighten the weight of the bad thoughts and over time weaken and silence them.

    • @Mada_94_
      @Mada_94_ 8 лет назад +7

      try focusing on the now.observe the shape of objects focus on sounds or smells i am trying to ruminating ruined my life

    • @Rafa-707
      @Rafa-707 6 лет назад +3

      Myles Bishop you’re not alone brother it happened to me and I wanted to run far away

    • @claudiabrown6329
      @claudiabrown6329 6 лет назад +1

      May work for some and would be amazing if it could really work. It would put most mental health people in the poor house and looking for another and completely different job.

    • @PiusNgilaTV
      @PiusNgilaTV 6 лет назад +1

      You can Myles Bishop i truly Believe.

  • @melodyluna2455
    @melodyluna2455 8 лет назад +63

    Meditation can be a good tool for overthinking and anxiety. It can take a long time to get the practice rolling. It can feel awkward to sit there and listen to your thoughts as you attempt to gently move them aside. But it really helps me!

    • @estherpennington7826
      @estherpennington7826 6 лет назад

      Melody Luna it's a skill I often overlook. I need to try it more

    • @Sunvio
      @Sunvio 6 лет назад

      That was my first thought. Do meditation. And not guided meditation. Something like TM. It helps you separate your thoughts from yourself, if that makes sense. I stopped doing it but really need to get back to it. Sending hugs to all.

    • @ashleyashleym2969
      @ashleyashleym2969 5 лет назад +1

      I actually found meditation actually made anxiety worse.

    • @wolfsyn7741
      @wolfsyn7741 4 года назад +1

      Ashley ASHLEYM That can be because of a number of reasons. Meditation will never make your anxiety worse. Only you can do that. You could be fighting your thoughts and feelings under the misconception that meditation is about not thinking. Doing that gave me anxiety until I realized the goal is not to have no thoughts-but to observe your thoughts as a separate string of events from you. It’s a very gentle process. Another mistake people make is meditating as a verb. That means to meditate like you’re supposed to be doing something and achieving a goal (reducing anxiety, stopping your thoughts). Those still create a state of resistance to what is. I have definitely meditated to make a panic attack go away and it made me feel worse. That’s because I was still in resistance. Meditation isn’t about *doing* anything. It’s about simply sitting there in observance and acceptance of everything that comes, even the fear you may feel. Doing that over a course of time is proven to change the structure of your brain and increase happiness, concentration and relaxation and reduce the production of stress hormones like cortisol that cause anxiety.

    • @Seasonal-Shadow_4674
      @Seasonal-Shadow_4674 4 года назад

      Melody Luna how long until it started working?

  • @benjammin775
    @benjammin775 6 лет назад +4

    You exude the vibe of someone who has found their calling in life, works their ass off, and manages to wake up loving what they do everyday. It's inspiring

  • @controversialist01
    @controversialist01 8 лет назад +78

    There are two key things to know about overthinking, #1 thoughts are like bubbles in your mind. They float inside your mind all the time, they are everywhere and are constantly being created whether negative or positive. This is something you have to come to terms with and accept. The good news is. #2 We have control over which thoughts we choose to pay attention to, and strengthen. For many years I have believed that thoughts were uncontrollable, that they are there to haunt me. But After realizing this truth that they are there, and there is nothing I can do about them. Is when I felt I stopped pointing a finger at myself and calling myself insane. Then to find out it is up to me whether I choose to focus on these thoughts is when internal power really began. The more you choose to just let go of the negative thoughts, let them pass without the need to pluck them out and focus energy on them, the smaller and quieter they get. Then begin to focus attention on all the happy and joyful thoughts, and constantly become conscious of this shift. Feed these thoughts and strengthen them. When you reach a point where these thoughts are not easily switched off is when you will receive eternal bliss. I hope this helps. God bless.

    • @Mada_94_
      @Mada_94_ 8 лет назад +4

      for me even happy positive thoughts make me go crazy i can never live in the present moment its not about bad or good thoughts its about ruminating on stupid useless thoughts non stop

    • @lindabrookeable
      @lindabrookeable 7 лет назад +1

      Thank you! I've thought nearly the exact same thing before, and to see someone else saying it works for them further validates the method. :) Im so glad we are all in this together!

    • @duskofoolacile454
      @duskofoolacile454 6 лет назад +1

      Controversialist well that nice and evruthing but you have almost no controle over your Tougths if you hage OCD! It literly takes me a hour to process a simple tougth 😔

    • @claudiabrown6329
      @claudiabrown6329 6 лет назад +1

      Hmm? All of us have control over our thoughts. Sounds like a bit of an overestimation of what you think works. Find someone who has OCD or find lots of people with OCD. They will tell you about having control over their thoughts. You need to hear what they say before you make such blanket statements. Please do not bomb me for what I just said because first, it is my opinion, and second, I am not wrong. Not even a little bit. There is no wiggle room here.

    • @claudiabrown6329
      @claudiabrown6329 6 лет назад

      Just read your statement after I wrote the below remark. Hope he takes it seriously. Bubbles floating around in our heads? We have nightmares floating around in our heads that other people cannot even imagine. Controversialist needs to research OCD...alot. Plus, he/she should join an OCD group, give out the bubble analogy to people suffering. He will need a solid day or two to read what they say about his bubble advice.

  • @sinaw9637
    @sinaw9637 7 лет назад +21

    I have these ruminating thoughts as well.. my therapist tried to give me tips like "try to replace your bad thoughts with nice memories" and nothing helped me. When I started imagining how I take these thoughts out of my head with my hand and throw them on the ground so they break into pieces , I started forgetting about these things at least for a while. This was the only thing that could help me.
    another helpful but simple thing is to just talk about stuff with people and completely focus on the topic. this helps me destroy that circuitry of bad thoughts because sometimes I can't escape it.

  • @MattVogtMusic
    @MattVogtMusic 5 лет назад +5

    Kate! I came across your channel today after noticing (once again) my very loud inner critic. I just want to thank you for taking the time out to put this wisdom out to those of us who need it. You are a kind and beautiful person. Thank you!

  • @lilririah
    @lilririah 5 лет назад +5

    The last time I was experiencing intrusive amounts of ruminating thoughts I decided to muffle it out with impactful audios.
    For me, that was personal developement that would help me grow the skills that I felt the most limited in. A book that really helped me was Emotional Agility.
    Later on, I found that drawing out my emotions helped me to not contain them in my mind, physical activities have helped me to use the built up energy, and go forward in projects that I'm passionate about has helped me to feel like I'm being heard by myself.

  • @Carnage1707
    @Carnage1707 8 лет назад +1

    Katie,
    I just got out of an adult opp and you are amazing. Rumination is terrible and before I knew what it was I thought I was getting sick or was going to be stuck that way. My program was good but people like you make them great. I appreciate all that you do and can't thank you enough.
    The mental health system is really broken on top of our regular health system. Making it hard to find good people to help explain what is going on and tools to try.
    You have a special place up in heaven and I will be definitely be using your videos to remind me that self care is important and awareness helps bring healing.
    Thank you.

  • @jezahlie3793
    @jezahlie3793 8 лет назад +17

    WHY did I have to find your channel as I was going to bed!? This makes me think MORE but I don't want to stop watching! lol Thank you for posting these videos. I have a problem with this. I never thought of ruminating in that sense. I have this quote in my head, "Smells like puke from a mule been ruminating on asparagus for two weeks!" But I've struggled with depression and anxiety for the past twelve years and have finally decided to try talking to a therapist again. It's really hard to talk to people for me (friends or strangers, I could probably count on one hand the people I can even make eye contact with!) I feel like this was a great time for me to find your channel. You can thank Hannah Hart!

  • @Sandvichman.
    @Sandvichman. 5 лет назад +2

    Rumination... The perfect word. Danke! Reminds me of last year (2017), when I used to have ongoing anxious memories.

  • @daviniafaapoi1088
    @daviniafaapoi1088 7 лет назад +19

    I had extreme anxiety all throughout my high school years and I ended up turning to weed to help calm the thoughts. However, I started going on to other drugs so I knew I had to stop. Today I practice mindfulness meditation everyday and it has completely changed my life. Life is so good now and some days I don't even analyze at all which is a huge thing for me because before, I couldn't sleep until I analyzed each and every single thing I did on that particular day!

    • @lranieri1
      @lranieri1 6 лет назад

      Davinia Faapoi thanks for sharing. I need to learn more about it

    • @ashleyashleym2969
      @ashleyashleym2969 5 лет назад

      Weed to calm your thought?? I found weed actually gave me anxiety unless I drank alcohol while I was smoking weed. If I need to calm down I drink alcohol, weed is a hell no if I'm already anxious because that'll make the problem a million times worse.

    • @Seasonal-Shadow_4674
      @Seasonal-Shadow_4674 4 года назад

      Davinia Faapoi did ya have enough free time after your high school years to live your life , spend your free time well, and Do great and extraordinary things past your anxiety during high school?

  • @callumwilliams9953
    @callumwilliams9953 6 лет назад

    I've watched your videos for the past year Kati. They've helped a lot with my anger and anxiety. Thank you a lot. Only after ive improved have I seen how anxious and angry everyone else actually is and I can detach now rather than just bicker and react.

  • @melissakraft215
    @melissakraft215 9 лет назад +5

    Thank you for answering my question *****!!! I really appreciate your help, support, and advice.

  • @Lexahexx
    @Lexahexx 5 лет назад

    Kati, finding your videos this weekend have helped me cope & understand my intrusive thoughts so much and realize I’m not a bad person. Much love & keep it up!

  • @cooking_innovations
    @cooking_innovations 5 лет назад +1

    Thank you Katie. Listening to you always gives me relief

  • @Mrrp_huh
    @Mrrp_huh 4 года назад

    You are genuinely a wonderful person and thank you for the reassurance throughout your advice 💜

  • @TheInvisibilisation
    @TheInvisibilisation 4 года назад

    "Maybe we don't know anything and we are starting from scratch, but is't that awsome? We are learning about ourselves, we're going to start from scratch, we're going to figure it out." This is so encouraging. Thank you, Katie!

  • @natinico4226
    @natinico4226 5 лет назад +4

    Kati you are wonderful thank you for all the recommendations. Most of us know what we have to do, but tend to avoid it completely. I used to take an antidepressant to help with my GAD, but instead I developed horrible intrusive thoughts of harm and suicide. Ever since, I've learned how to handle the intrusive thoughts for the most part, but they still come back occasionally and make me feel so numb, without hope. It's still a struggle, but it's become much better. It's one of the reasons why I'm so scared of looking for help, but it might just be necessary to keep trying. Blessings to you~

  • @andrewberhow8540
    @andrewberhow8540 5 лет назад

    I lessened my overthinking by not worrying about anybody else. I do whatever I want whenever I want and it feels better than trying to please the world and worry about being a "good person".

  • @ninejot
    @ninejot 5 лет назад

    Thank you so much Kati! Your videos have a soothing effect on my turbulent mind space

  • @jamieann5567
    @jamieann5567 6 лет назад

    second question; it hit me to the core! it's not like it's so much of not knowing who we are, how to be normal, etc. It's REALLY more like letting my guard down. My life, although there are SO many great things, since the age of three, I have been hit left and right over and over AND over again, with adversities. so ultimately, I think not truly freeing oneself in this circumstance is a protection mechanism to not FULLY get caught off guard, and completely breaking down when that sense of self control has once again been shaken to the core. It sucks so bad to have that ingrained but, it does help knowing I have a sense of being somewhat prepared. I envey the people who can just be at calm and still handle. I just don't know how to do that...

  • @weesaldiaper
    @weesaldiaper 6 лет назад

    you are a beautiful soul. Its really sweet of you to make all these videos. You're helping out so many

  • @lysergiklich8205
    @lysergiklich8205 4 года назад

    Your vids randomly pop up in my front page & it's usually helpful & validating.

  • @juliafoxwell6730
    @juliafoxwell6730 8 лет назад +11

    You're amazing!

  • @livelovebeauty07
    @livelovebeauty07 9 лет назад +20

    The second question i could have written myself! It's exactly how i feel right now. I'm doing a lot better but I feel like I am holding myself back in recovery because of this. Thank you for the tips, I'll talk to my therapist and possibly journal as well :)

  • @terrifendley2761
    @terrifendley2761 6 лет назад

    LOOVVEE Kati’s videos!

  • @joemartins8500
    @joemartins8500 9 лет назад +6

    I am a huge fan of your channel, I am just about to get my Masters, and your channel is just great,,,keep up the good work

  • @sandratobias2158
    @sandratobias2158 7 лет назад

    This was such an informative video. One detail that I picked up on from watching this video is that actions such as rumination are experienced by others and that I am not alone; so, it raised my awareness on this topic.
    I found your channel yesterday and am preparing for a series of therapy session after graduating from college; these ideas may help facilitate conversations with my therapist so that they can better understands my needs. I'll continue to go through any videos that I have not yet seen on your channel and see what I can get from of them.

  • @natelord5570
    @natelord5570 8 лет назад +10

    ...wow...I found Kati through Chris Ballinger's Magic Monday awhile ago and um...I wasn't expecting the content to be this deep and amazing! I'm currently doing my nightly youtube runs and it's midnight...huge day at work tomorrow (and I'm always overthinking about that, go figure)...I guess I don't know where I'm going with this. Kati, I will be watching loads more of your videos in the near future! You seem like a very helpful, caring person...with a pretty voice and beautiful face as well. You win! :D

  • @lofiCicada
    @lofiCicada 4 года назад

    Kati, I recommended your videos to my therapist! Their newish to their career, but I hope they like it and find your channel super resourceful!

  • @kittymachine3798
    @kittymachine3798 6 лет назад

    CBT, Journaling and EFT have been so so so helpful.

  • @gonzo2550
    @gonzo2550 5 лет назад

    I've been struggling so much with cycling thoughts which cause me a lot of stress for..well I don't really know when it started but it's been very stressful in the past few months. I've searched for so long about what it could be, that's what brought me to your channel. I over think everything from test answers to really anything that has to do with anything so the title spiked my interest. I almost clicked off when you started talking about OCD and rumination because I know what I was going through wasn't similar. But I've never hear of rumination before. The way you described it made so much sense. Anyway, this video just clarified a lot of things for me and I really appreciate what you're doing

  • @clairesteinriede9110
    @clairesteinriede9110 4 года назад

    This! This is my own personal BIGGEST problem-(and mainly surrounding my children)-thanks for this Katie! I’ll keep working on it.

  • @diontaedaughtry974
    @diontaedaughtry974 4 года назад +1

    Thank you this was very helpful and informative 👍👍

  • @claudecarter246
    @claudecarter246 2 года назад

    I think this what I’m going through at the moment ,overthinking things .So finding this video is at the right time for me so this should be helpful.

  • @shristikumari394
    @shristikumari394 Год назад +1

    I accidentally found your channel and it's really fascinating to watch your videos.. lots of love from INDIA ❤️❤️

  • @clare.conservation98
    @clare.conservation98 5 лет назад +1

    This is still amazing, thank you

  • @TasiaMuffin
    @TasiaMuffin 6 лет назад

    Thank you so much this video was super helpful.

  • @romycullen17
    @romycullen17 8 лет назад +9

    my psychiatrist taught me your dendrits which are like the arms of your brain cells die when you're exposed to high anxiety, so over-thinking and getting anxiously constantly kills those. Taking meds help build them back so helps with therapy (: takes months to work but meds do help.

    • @ashleyashleym2969
      @ashleyashleym2969 5 лет назад +2

      They do work but typically if youre rather suggestable and in that case hypnosis and other Eastern medicines are just as likely to work AND theyre far less dangerous!

  • @eddietavaresjr.4773
    @eddietavaresjr.4773 4 года назад

    Kati Morton i love you and i love listening to you your advice is fantastic thank you so much for your help !!! 🤗

  • @mve9999
    @mve9999 9 лет назад +5

    I really hope you know the amount of lives you're potentially saving Kati! I can only hope to be half the person you are :)

  • @chaery842
    @chaery842 6 лет назад

    I have this amazing strategy I use that I got from my love of English class. There’s something called AEC (assertion, evidence, and commentary)..so basically I have the thought that keeps coming into my head..let’s go with the example of “I think my friend is talking behind my back.” There’s our assertion. After that we have to get at LEAST 3 pieces of evidence to back up the assertion (this is the most important step so don’t skip it!!) and those evidences will prove your thought is correct, then if you can’t find evidence for that thought then it’s false and you can relax. Last step is commentary, where you would confront there person or whatever the thought is about if necessary. Thanks for reading all this and I hope it helps a lot of people!

  • @soulrevive9715
    @soulrevive9715 6 лет назад +28

    I over think a lot. I hate it.

  • @balakrishnansreenivasan8992
    @balakrishnansreenivasan8992 5 лет назад

    Kati is my idea of a great therapist. A fun person who explains the most serious things in an engaing manner.

  • @samdouglas596
    @samdouglas596 5 лет назад

    When ever you have a problem always seek help. Thank you kati

  • @maddalena5708
    @maddalena5708 5 лет назад

    LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!!

  • @purgatory.salmon1683
    @purgatory.salmon1683 9 лет назад +1

    I struggle with multiple anxiety disorders, when I find myself ruminating to the point of an anxiety attack, I force myself to stop for a second, ask myself rational questions of what I'm ruminating about, like what is the likelihood that event will actually happen, what is the likelihood that those people will really think poorly of me, am I really as worthless as I feel and think I am, what is making me feel worthless etc, I find it helps most the time when I try it.

  • @ks0racassiopeia874
    @ks0racassiopeia874 6 лет назад

    very informative. thanks for the help.

  • @PatrickAllenNL
    @PatrickAllenNL 6 лет назад

    My gosh you're amazing at this

  • @insertun
    @insertun 4 года назад

    I feel really connected when I watch her videos Its so calming uwu

  • @ejdoe5122
    @ejdoe5122 5 лет назад

    I’ve become so obsessed and so comfortable in my mental illnesses and I know it’s not healthy, but I’m just so convinced that if I don’t have these experiences and I’m no good for this world.

  • @SombraPiloto
    @SombraPiloto 5 лет назад

    Omg that question about not wanting to get better was a gut punch. Nail on head for me.

  • @sophiab5260
    @sophiab5260 7 лет назад

    Thank you, all of you and take care

  • @tonidunsmore5989
    @tonidunsmore5989 4 года назад

    I stumbled across your videos and I thoroughly enjoy them. Have you done a segment on letting go?

  • @JOJO-mz8gj
    @JOJO-mz8gj 7 лет назад

    YOU ARE AMAZING

  • @hayleyamanda4493
    @hayleyamanda4493 9 лет назад

    Great questions Kati :) I've been having ruminating thoughts the past couple of days myself after being told I'm 'too at risk' and 'not stable enough' for help. All these thoughts have started going round in my head about how it doesn't make any sense and that I obviously don't deserve help or that I'm not well enough or not sick enough for help. I don't know. I guess I just have to get better on my own. Kati and this community keep me going though and I'm so grateful for that.

    • @hayleyamanda4493
      @hayleyamanda4493 9 лет назад

      I know right? I still can't understand it myself. Thank you so much for your kind words and support. I really appreciate it xxx

  • @sarahrojas7759
    @sarahrojas7759 3 года назад

    Thank you for this wow

  • @staciemccann2898
    @staciemccann2898 3 года назад

    Thank you 😢

  • @atomnous
    @atomnous 9 лет назад

    Kati, I've been going to my first therapy session, and you know what, it's one of the best decision I've ever made. It's weird how it works fast to me, I don't even know what depression feel like now. It's gone. But I'll wait for a little bit, I've been known to be unstable in my optimism. This feeling is different, tho. It's like I'm in control and not being overwhelmed.

  • @minners19
    @minners19 7 лет назад

    OMG, that 2nd question! That's ME! I never realized it until you talked about it! I've been stuck in depression for YEARS, and that's basically become my identity. The "loser one in the family that can't get her shit together." I LITERALLY overheard my own, not so nice grandma talking to a friend saying "I don't know why she can't get her shit together!" WHO SAYS THAT about their grandchild that you live with??!?? Then she's nice to my face! Oh it pisses me off! Then I feel guilty for being mad at her! Eeeks, well that was a rant! Lol. But this is how I feel! Thanks Kati and to whomever asked that question!! I think I now know what to work on! 💖

  • @lou-who4965
    @lou-who4965 9 лет назад

    Thank you so much *****

  • @khizerabbas1155
    @khizerabbas1155 4 года назад

    Katy you are amazing

  • @jessicalenny3768
    @jessicalenny3768 6 лет назад

    I wish you were my therapist!! Your awesome.

  • @SwedenBeautiful
    @SwedenBeautiful 9 лет назад

    I hade my last meeting with my school concullor this week (because i'm going to start a new school after the summer). WE talked about how far I've come and so on. In the end she said ¨My advice for you in the future is just to stop thinking so much, just do and just be, don't think.¨. And I know that is my biggest problem: to stop overthinking. but it's so hard...

  • @arabia9733
    @arabia9733 7 лет назад +2

    thanks a looooot dear for this useful video 😍👍👏⚘

  • @kendrakane8400
    @kendrakane8400 3 года назад

    Self talk is so important. I read something I really liked. It says replace bad thoughts with good memories. Especially with people type thoughts. Also I talk to myself like a bossy loving mom. Like “ No Kendra. Not today honey. Move on and do something. Stay busy.” Lol

  • @paulcooper5748
    @paulcooper5748 3 года назад +2

    I overthink when i feel someone has misunderstood what i was saying and i overthink it that much it drives me crazy.

    • @anushka3528
      @anushka3528 3 года назад

      Hey your comment is relatable to me. Can we talk?

    • @hybrid_9933
      @hybrid_9933 2 года назад

      Same I need to talk as well

  • @jessicac391
    @jessicac391 5 лет назад

    Positive affirmations help me ALOT! (But it gets annoying always have to affirm for Avery negative thought) some times .

  • @ypresofficial
    @ypresofficial 6 лет назад

    I constantly ruminate that I will hurt people I love, I know it's pointless and has no valid truth, I developed anxiety this year on top of my 16yr. struggle with OCD and it sucks!! I feel like there's no hope but nothing could be further from the truth.. all of us struggling will get better as hard as it is stay positive.

  • @nickblue3995
    @nickblue3995 5 лет назад

    This helped me so much...I know I need to see someone but I looked up videos to try and ease my mind because i am just sitting at home and feel like i am living in someone elses body and just thinking every little thing I feel is a life or death situation constantly day in and day out and its exhausting....I put my mother through this and she just cries because she has no idea how to help her child and everytime I go to my doctor's they just tell me its anxiety and I felt so hopeless like this would go on forever because no one seemed to care enough to get me the help i needed...I am going to find someone to talk to instead of just relying on others feedback from now on. This might not make a lot of sense to a lot of people but it makes me so much better by expressing it! :)

    • @BrittanySchank
      @BrittanySchank 5 лет назад +1

      Nick Blue Hey Nick! Have you ever had anxiety attacks? One symptom of anxiety attacks is to not feel like yourself or like you aren’t in your body. ♥️♥️

  • @sofiaalex8200
    @sofiaalex8200 6 лет назад

    This happens to me a lot and I really don't like it 😭😓😔😯☹🙁😩😦😨and whenever I hear something on the internet or sicknesses going around I freeze and just get so scared I'm not really sure what to do it's horrible but your helping me a lot and I really appreciate it 🙂I'm starting to feel a bit better about it thank you Kati☺🌹🌷⚘🌿🌼I'm also always shaking because of anxiety. 😔

  • @nathangeary5606
    @nathangeary5606 4 года назад

    Yeah I recently noticed I overthink a lot. What I try and do is that when I catch myself overthinking I tell myself "im not being present" because I think overthinking is just not being present and if you can somehow return to the present it can help me snap out of overthinking/anxious thoughts

  • @arandeeprai997
    @arandeeprai997 6 лет назад

    The main thing I try to do is block the thoughts by staying busy- going to the gym, spending time with family, finding a work project. I have told my friends and family about my over thinking and holding onto one thought and they usually help to snap me out of it when they can see I'm not with them but living in my head instead! If you don't have anybody around you then find some quotes online to help you through the day. I usually Google self acceptance quotes and learning to love myself no matter What regardless of mistakes that I have made. I am also reading a book called 'the subtle art of not giving a f***' which is really helpful too. Another tip is tell yourself you don't know what the future holds, live in the present. If everything is ok right now and you are blessed then carry on smiling and go with the flow of life. Some things will not be in your control and that's ok (this is coming from a control freak!!) But you have to realise that we cannot control everything- just let it go and things will eventually fall into place. Hope this helps x

  • @ErinGaffney4Centuries
    @ErinGaffney4Centuries 7 лет назад

    Overthinking still can be a real problem for me. I usually do mindfulness "in the moment" or try to "complete" the thought as quickly as possible. As far as long-term work, I'm working on meditation.

  • @latexcumluvr
    @latexcumluvr 5 лет назад

    Around the middle of you video, question 2 "Is it normal to not want to get better..." resonated with me. For the past year I have been seeing a therapist as part of my transition. My gender dysphoria was not crippling but I did, and still do, deal with bouts of depression, genralized anxiety disorder, and Pure-O OCD (ruminative type). As my therapy has progressed I have found myself to be better able to deal with my mental health issues but as I go along I find myself resisting any feeling of happiness and joy. I have no expectations about anything or anyone because I have been burned and disappointed numerous times, so I don't allow myself the "luxury" of hopeful expectations that 1.) my life will get better than it is now; 2.) that friends and family will do as they say and be there for me if I need them; and finally 3.) that my co-workers are being genuine in their expressions of concern about my questioning why do we need to be happy... about anything. I find myself ruminating on this last point quite often "Why do I need to be happy?" Don't get me wrong the people I work with are fantastic and the culture where I work is to celebrate everything no matter how small. When asked about my birthday I just gave a vague answer that it was coming up and I specifically stated that if they were find out when it was I did not want any celebration around my birthday whatsoever. By and large they have mostly complied with that request. I have told my boss if he feels the absolute need to praise me for something I have done at work that it be done privately and not in front of other people because I feel extremely uncomfortable at best and at worst I build up internalized anger over it. My boss sometimes forgets, like he did recently, I politely said thank you but inside I felt numb and angry at this gesture which then causes me to overthink everything I have done up to that point in an effort to figure out how to avoid it happening again. This causes me to make more mistakes in my work than I would have otherwise made. Is it wrong for me to not want people to want to nice things for me, as I believe that my happiness it is not their responsibility. This will be a topic of discussion with my therapist, as I brought this up, at my next appointment.

  • @redruby747
    @redruby747 7 лет назад +15

    OMG I HATE WHEN THIS HAPPENS I FEEL SICK

  • @jennym9743
    @jennym9743 9 лет назад

    I have asked that second question SOOOO many times. The reason why I feel like I don't want to recover is because I still feel like my eating disorder specifically is a part of me. So who am I if I'm missing that piece. Then it's also a coping mechanism that is so habitual that I struggle to stay away.

  • @affentat8723
    @affentat8723 4 года назад

    Omg that was really insightful. I keep talking to people about my mental issues, I hardly talk about anything else. I guess I was playing the victim to get attention.
    If I recover, what will I talk about?
    I actually don't know who I really want to be, or who I can be.

  • @MonicaSilva-zx5gh
    @MonicaSilva-zx5gh 8 лет назад

    Great video thank u for sharing :) I have ruminating thoughts on the past and I sometimes dwell on things I cant remember and I stay stuck on the thought, have u heard of that before? I'm going to start therapy for it

  • @emosag
    @emosag 6 лет назад +7

    This may sound strange but I find that when my blood sugar dips too much I get ruminating thoughts. Also, I had allergies to some foods like dairy and gluten and they caused me OCD too.

  • @paulbrooks7685
    @paulbrooks7685 7 лет назад

    I overthink to the point that I feel I'm inadaquit and too mentally complexed for most people to deal with since as early as 7yrs old now 47 and climbing, I've been an over thinker my whole life. I found that learning a different language taught me patients on thinking about other things, otherwise I'd go insane! I still overthink but now in different languages which in itself a major happy breakthrough so that language barrier breaking is my calm in another wised crazy boring everyday dull world, hope this ejemplo ayudas mi amigos .

  • @jude999
    @jude999 4 года назад

    You look so pretty with hair back!

  • @juliab.75
    @juliab.75 5 лет назад

    I have the SAME PROBLEM right now!! And I'm also in college!

  • @kyilmaz2
    @kyilmaz2 5 лет назад

    great video
    kati

  • @lahdeedah3584
    @lahdeedah3584 9 лет назад

    Thank you so much for this video. Both of these questions were very relevant to my situation. I tend to ruminate a lot and this video brought to the surface that I haven't done it in a while!! I mean I think that I've just been ignoring and denying the reality of how I really feel but it has stopped the ruminating. But I am also on an antidepressant and maybe it's finally working because I have had a lot of adjustments since it wasn't working before. But I guess in relation to the second question can medication not work if you are too scared or aren't ready to get better?

  • @frankbush8368
    @frankbush8368 6 лет назад

    Kati, I wish I could travel to CA for sessions with you. I like your style. Believe it or not, it is really difficult to find a a good therapist here in Seattle when you are on Medicaid. There are some low income mental health clinics, but these places have either burned-out psychologists that have been there for a while, or new therapists that grow unhappy with the bad organization and pay/ case-load, and have a high turnover rate. Sub par mental health facilities. However, it is easy find a psychiatrist, but I am looking for frequent talk therapy sessions- not 15 min of talk while the doc analyzes symptoms to think of a med to prescribe. .So many things to talk about... not enough quality help. I wish I could preview all of the available psychologists in my area -here on youtube. Thanks for your videos.

  • @iheartkidcudiforevr
    @iheartkidcudiforevr 9 лет назад

    I struggle with ruminating thoughts and I guess I just assumed there wasn't really anything to help me with that but I guess hearing Kati say it I should see a therapist but something that helps me that's a bit more immediate that therapy so it helps but you most definitely should NOT rely on is smoking cannabis. It has helped me with my anxiety and all those ruminating thoughts so much and I still need to see a therapist to deal with the issues, smoking can help relieve the stress and all that

  • @benjaminbelzer5693
    @benjaminbelzer5693 4 года назад

    Buy yourself a flower with a purpose behind it. Each flower means something, like beauty or forgiveness. Think ok what you want in your home and buy a flower that reminds you, so you have that visual.

  • @endangeredneedsprotection3379
    @endangeredneedsprotection3379 6 лет назад

    Please can you do a video about how to not feel down about your self. I’m always saying bad things about myself. Please do this I would your help.

  • @devkapur429
    @devkapur429 6 лет назад

    *Your hair looks beautiful like this*

  • @cherryblossom5162
    @cherryblossom5162 9 лет назад +8

    Hey , Kati! I'm glad I found you on the media! You've helped me a lot with learning things about mental illnesses and etc. I'm struggling with overthinking, jealous and I think I have a narcissistic personality disorder, because I act like a narcissistic person. I went to school psychologist in the past , but it didn't help me . What do I do ? I live in Russia , and it seems that I will not be able to afford this kind of thing . I want to help myself firstly .there's no one to help me . What do I do ?

    • @cherryblossom5162
      @cherryblossom5162 9 лет назад +1

      Also , I'm afraid of my bad behavior . I think I'm a despotic person , and it hurts me a lot . I know this is stupid and it's not a kind of thing that can heal , but can I change my character ?can I change the way I am ? I don't want to be bad .

    • @peaceatlast8286
      @peaceatlast8286 7 лет назад

      Елена Свиридова have you thought of moving out of Russia and come here to the United States? You can apply for health benefits right away at the State Welfare office. Lots of benefits for people with a low income here in the USA.

    • @JutkaUno
      @JutkaUno 4 года назад

      @@cherryblossom5162 yes you can change it, you just have to find the right tools for you. Keep looking, never give up ♥️💞

  • @brianlouis2590
    @brianlouis2590 3 года назад

    They sound so real

  • @PiusNgilaTV
    @PiusNgilaTV 6 лет назад

    Be Blessed Guyz!

  • @macarenalm
    @macarenalm 9 лет назад

    i am new watching your chanel Katie but I totally love it and it is so helpfull! thanks you so much! I would like to know where can i read all the #journaltopic so I can write some of them on my notebook for motivation :)

  • @Wildmetalhead
    @Wildmetalhead 7 лет назад +14

    I think overthinking and expectations have ruined my recent relationship and that fucked me up. :/ I'm getting through it.. eventually but ya.. it sucks. :/