I kissed a girl, held a girls hand and lost my virginity last year at the age of 25. Now I have a GF. I started working out, taking care of myself and getting a better style. I'm not obsessive about any of those things. I'm still a little chubby and most of my clothes are from Walmart. But still, just doing these simple things will help you stand out so much from the crowd of guys who do next to nothing to improve themselves. I went on my first date at the age of 25. I was so scared and nervous, but after each date I got a little better. Just bite the bullet, man up and start talking to people. You will be surprised how quickly you will come out of your shell.
@natalieromanoff my superintendent was like 4'10'' chubby and an asshole. He was married with a few kids cuz he pursued his own goals. That height bone structure shit literally does not matter after high school/ college
Remember guys, the golden rule is to focus on yourself, work on improving yourself and once you have done that stay humble and find the partner you have worked for. Remember -do not try to find a girlfriend, try to find a wife -do not find a woman to fill your lust, but to recharge your batteries -be her best friend, not her potential tool for pleasure
@@ab_7723 That's pretty deep. Relationships are an essential part of one's personality development, specially in men. You will slack behind if you don't truly connect with people
I completely disagree with the dating app part - they're literally like porn - people only going on them for attention and dopamine/ causal sex, and even without doing so, it's a massive gamification of dating, searching for the most physically attractive man possible. Social media is precisely what has ruined dating.
I believe people miss the point when someone says "join a yoga class". It's not about asking out every girl in the said class, it's about improving your social skills and experience. Let's say you join a cooking class, you meet some like minded people, some men, some women, some you're attracted to, some you're not. Maybe you make friends with a couple of them over shared interest in cooking. Even if you can't score dates with any of them, maybe they set you up with someone. Maybe they introduce you to their friend group and one of them sets you up with someone. You collect social xp and unlock skillpoints like empathy, listening, humor, being fun, being a good friend etc. And you get to know a lot of people, build somewhat of a social network and go from there. Anyway, I'm just a socially awkward 19 year old dude lol so take this with a huge sack of salt. Anyway, the rest of the video is spot on!
I heavily disagree on the suggestion of having to use social media and how it's foolish to approach, I completely disagree. That is literally how it has always been since the beginning of time and men have gotten so much from it besides just women. You gain confidence, charisma, the ability to converse, natural game, you even pick up your own swag. And dating apps are the worst, they're literally rigged from the start. Only 10-20% of tinder users are women, the game is already rigged and most guys that are decent looking get their confidence crushed
I agree. I've had more success approaching women in public and getting her in bed then I did trying to meet woman from social media and dating apps. I've done both but in person felt more natural. You are showing your confidence, personality, etc etc. No way in hell can you display those traits messaging.
A great video, but I can't agree with one thing. Avoiding social media is not necesarilly "not being a sheep". I genuinely feel worse when I use social media too much, that's why I'm limited to Facebook and Reddit only. I've never been able to use Instagram, it just caused my self esteem to drop.
That last bit about thinking you need to be perfect hit me hard. I've been thinking that for a while, I feel like I need to be at a certain level before I start dating. I've felt that way because I know the type of women I want and I feel like they only want the top 1% man. I definitely think I need to get out there and start going on more dates.
Maybe u need to change the typa woman you’ll shallow minded if you want woman that only want the top 1% there probably shallow n godldiggers n u shouldn’t want no woman like that anyways get a genuine woman who wants u for u n not for what u got
dont be obsessive. first thing above all else is to focus on being the best version of yourself that you can be- whether that's going to the gym, improving your style, maintaining a career path and be a desirable man when you look in the mirror. a girlfriend should be your best friend, someone you can look to for emotional support at all times. no ones perfect, but that admiring even thoughout all those imperfections is what love truly is.
If u dont care about them, they dont care about you. Ans when you care about them they reject you. Getting your money up isnt the way anymore. It was 20-30 years ago for our dads but not for us. If u are not perfect you cant get girls. Thanks to social media, they easily can find one on a daily Basis. Thats why 10 percent of men have 90 percent of women
Disagree hard on the social media part. The more you practice cold approaching (random people not necessarily just girls) your confidence and social skills will develop fast to the point where you will be a cut above the average dude who relies solely on dating apps
tbh, dating apps are demotivating. most of the guys get one like in months and sometimes those turn out to be fake profiles. on dating apps girls want an aesthetic guy with 6ft and above height.
"After 10 dates you'll find a girlfriend for sure bro. Wait, you're asking how to get those 10 dates when you never even made it that far despite trying for years? Quit porn you loser."
I love what you said at the end because guys think they need to be a finished product to get a gf, as long as they’re on the self improvement journey I don’t see nothing wrong with trying to get a gf
@@MyNameisRevenant yeah America sucks, in Europe they get taught better and it’s crazy too because if you wanna buy someone a cup of coffee here they’ll think it’s harassment but in Europe they take it as a nice gesture
It's one of the best videos there about dating i have ever scene, this video is really up to date and shows that you don't need to know a lot of tactics to make a girlfriend
a few things i learned while going through this ongoing journey is that - if you make a girl your motivation for getting up in the morning, you won't have one when you potentially lose them - don't "look" for a girlfriend, improve and focus on yourself and if you happen to find someone attractive, go for it - to have a healthy relationship you need to be your own person, not dedicating all of yourself and therefore changing yourself for the worst just for this specific persson - when you think you find a girl attractive, you need to seriously consider if you're attracted to them, or you're attracted to the attention they give you
That's interesting. Also it's important to notice that women aren't only attracted to physical appearance, they are also attracted to personality. The main personality trait they're attracted to is confidence. You can build confidence by having success. If you have a success, even if it's a small one like getting your job done, take your time to enjoy it, that's gonna build up your confidence.
This should work wonders, aslong as you dont have impostor syndrome. But yeah, doing things or completing feats should increase a person's self esteem.
Quite ironic doesnt it? Women want a man who has his life already set up, and i wonder why would a guy be complacent to get one woman if he has it all?
Keep up the good work. You're adding clips of nearly all improvement youtubers I regulary watch so probably you watched them too. It makes it more convincing that you know what you are talking cause you have the same input as me.
I've been alone my entire life... I was so alone that it became a disease, now I hate people around me for no reason, especially couples... I want love... I want to have someone who could help me... but in the same time I fking hate it, I hate speaking to people, it's stupid... it's like I have two diferent voices inside of my head in a never ending fight... I don't know what to do anymore
This is gonna be really long, but if you're watching this video, I was one of you for years and incredibly depressed. Please read if you have the time. I know people don't give a shit, but I'm 33 and married now. My 20s were a hellscape of depression anxiety and loneliness. When I was 19 the "red pill" didn't have a name yet, but lots of guys thought this way. Myself included. The resentment I felt towards "stupid jocks" and girls over having values I thought were shitty and vapid (let's be real, they were) eventually turned to self-resentment when I realized that everyone else, including people that weren't "chads" where dating and marrying and starting to build good lives. This began a decade or so long process of really looking inward and struggling to unlearn all of the horrible toxic ideas I grew up with in the 90s and 2000s. And it hurt. One thing I realized is that when I used to think the thought "girls only like chads" what I'm really thinking is "a certain type of girl that looks a certain way, who makes me look alpha to others just by being near her, only likes chads". There were a lot of girls who were maybe a little awkward or maybe had a body type different than I thought was good that showed real interest that I didn't even acknowledge as "women" in my mind. That's so fucked up! And the most attractive people? A lot of times they are the least interesting, because when you never have to solve any problems or learn from your failures you never grow! It's okay to have tastes or preferences, but I feel like for most men, they're just afraid of what others will say or think about them if they date certain people versus others. They don't add enough "value" to them so unless a woman falls into some idealized version, they're basically invisible. If you're a virgin and struggling with this, how do you know you wouldn't like getting physical with someone bigger than you if you've never been physical with anyone? Ultimately I had to learn that my life was for me and I had to do things for my sake. I acknowledge the opportunities I had, but the trick is taking them. I'm blessed with being tall, but I'm neurodivergent as all shit. None of the shit I cared about, my peers cared about. I was a dork. I got the shit kicked out of me daily. In the 3rd grade a kid smashed my face in with his arm cast while a gang of others stayed an helped enable it. Then my not rich parents got me in to a church school for cheap cuz my dad played the organ. It was worse. Kids threw dog treats at me. I used to weigh 250 lbs. I had anger issues. I was forced to go to counseling outside of school. I didn't graduate. I got a 1.8 GPA and a GED. Shit sucked, but at one point I met a guy who worked out and knew what was up. He helped me lose 80 lbs. It took over a year of working out 4 days a week regularly. It was fun and something I did with my friend. I won't get in to everything, but growth feels good. Period. To me growth is the single most fulfilling human experience one can easily attain. Even something stupid like learning the harmonica is great. It's a simple, cheap instrument, with an endless wormhole of experimentation and technique to learn. The bonus? It's part of a communal hobby that thrives on groups. Picture this: you go to a bar and some blues band is playing. You bust out a harmonica from nowhere and start riffing cuz youve been practicing for 2 years and the universe has given you your moment? You're the coolest guy there! There's a catch. You don't wanna be the "harmonica" guy. You need to have a wide and diverse set of skills and interests. Not only because that's what it means to be an interesting person, but because of the power, experience, opportunity it gives you in the real world. Not to mention getting good at shit is just plain fun and rewarding. When I was 18 was a dropout who was okay ish at music. I was a fat goth kid with backne bad style bad hygiene and no skills outside of xbox and 4chan posting. Now Im 2.5 of 5 years through a union trade school, play in a couple working bands, I speak passable Spanish (useful at work sometimes) I have an eclectic taste in media, I can game with the best of em, I can work on computers and electronics, I could build a house from the ground up. I'm not special, I'm talking 10+ years of actively saying "fuck it why not" to whatever opportunity outside of my comfort zone that wasn't intolerable. And here's where I'll disagree with the creator. Given the above, I understand why you say porn is harmful, but I think it can be a healthy outlet. There were times in my life I was so depressed that it was the only thing that felt good. Other times I was so depressed I couldn't bring myself to take care of myself like that. But as long as you're mature enough to realize that these are human beings playing a role (THIS INCLUDES ONLY FANS) you know, someone's sister, aunt, mother, daughter, taking advantage of a lucrative market in a shitty economy. The other thing I disagree with is the emphasis on online dating and social media. That shit warps your brain. Those apps are built to get you to feel isolated and milk money out of vulnerable people. Example from one tinder date. I had The girl was a single mom, unemployed, cute but not a model, and not very interesting because all her time was devoted to her kid. She showed me her inbox. She had 4000 likes to my 8 or so. If you really wanna meet more people, volunteering is great. There are all kinds of mutual aid groups and the like where good people who want to help can go do good work. But like the creator says, you have to be there for you cuz they will smell your intent from a mile away. But you'll make friends who care about making sure the people in their community are taken care of. If you've made it this far, grats! I'll tell you the single most life changing choice I made. IF YOU ARENT IN COLLEGE, GET IN TO A UNION TRADE APPRENTICESHIP. Above average pay, and you get paid the whole time you're learning. It will enable you to never need a job interview again. You can work in any state in the country. You get health insurance that you dont pay in to. Pensions, etc. The skills you learn are invaluable and the foundation of many others I have.
One thing to add: the standards these guys set are fucked up too. Because I was so heavy, I have some visible abs, but it doesn't even matter cuz I had so much belly stretching that I look like I was pregnant once. That will never go away. But the older you get the more people care about like how clean you are vs what your scars look like
A appreciate this so much dude. I'm 19 and I'm in college now. I'm doing ok, but I just constantly feel this weird emptiness that is somehow slowly but surely getting worse. Two things I hate that people say are 1. "You shouldn't date while studying, because this can ruin your career etc." 2."A gf won't solve your problems, and she's probably not looking for a guy with problems in the first place". I can agree with these things but like how would anyone know what kind of issues I have? What if meeting a girl that shares my interests and cares about me is just enough to make me feel like myself again? I'm just struggling at this point
@jasonkolchek6936 the general standards of success people have are largely bullshit. Everyone knows this one some level which is why it's so easy to make fun of nickelback. Some of the most "mature" people I know are also the worst people. The point is it's all bullshit. We're literally fuckin apes. You gonna let what some ape thinks affect doing things that are good for you? And do it at your own pace too! At 19 you have time to learn and quit 2 whole careers before it starts getting a bit late to start over (but it never really is) Unless someone is like "yes I am a doctor of intimacy here are 170 peer reviewed double blind studies on relationships and happiness" then maybe take their advice seriously.
"you don't need to be a finish product to be someone worthwhile of seeing." do not improve to impress someone, improve for your self. life is temporary, improve yourself to be the better version of yourself so that at the end of the day, you won't regret the memories of your past. everything is temporary.
If you really wanna stand out then hopping on a dating app ain't gonna cut it. Most girls don't even get approached these days, even I rarely do it but I'm trying to improve there. I was in a club yesterday and I noticed that there were plenty of girls and a lot of guys who just DIDN'T approach them. There is so much opportunity for us guys but we refuse to act and that is why we watch these vids 🙄
Been with a girl for 7 years, she just moved out yesterday. Luckily I kept my physical shape ok but the rest I need a refresher 😅 perfect timing finding this channel
@@JohnYoungcook72 nah cause when you hit then gym and become a better person you will grow smarter and more creative and you will realize that you should be training for urself because of others ...train with discipline not motivation
100% disagree on only meeting through social media and dating apps. Approaching in public is a great way to step out of your comfort zone, gain confidence, and increase your social skills. You don’t even necessarily have to go out of your way, if you see someone you like at a coffee shop just talk to them and try and plan a date if you vibe.
If you see someone that you like at a coffee shop or anyplace else, assuming that you like healthy women, they are unavailable. Years of thousands of such meetings and always even at first if they seem unattached , they always have a child, a boyfriend, a spouse and or a large diamond. Usually I just look down at the hand, whenever I see an interesting girl/ woman and there it is. Can't t even try- there is no point.
cold approaching is the best the way i usually start talking with random girls is asking them if we met already or if i know her from somewhere then ask for their name and keep talking for a few seconds then ask for their Instagram it works everytime
Don’t try to get a girl if you don’t have freedom example: time,money,transportation and an strong mind.Try to improve on those things and everything will be easier 🔥
Tbh I disagree with meeting/approaching a girl in public. Why would you not approach them if you find them attractive and most of the time you won’t notice „signals “ she is giving you and with just approaching you build up confidence and also gain experience
There is one quote I do remember "If you were a girl, with all the choices she has.. would you choose you?" It stands true no matter what, because realistically there needs to be a reason why you of all people deserve her
I’m now 4 months deep in a relationship with my girlfriend, met her through school, and she says she fell for my humor. It’s not too late for us boys ❤️
My man Tesla was a virgin for life, I mean that's an extreme example but the dude was focused on his craft and he was focused on a higher goal. Maybe if you focus on something other than propping up your dating life, you'll paradoxically attract many more women than you would've had attracted if you focused only on them. Now take this advice with a grain of salt cause I'm also a 23 yo virgin, so, I don't know, maybe I'm wrong.
Sometimes I feel upset because I'm always putting excuses I'm 20 years old and I have only had one relationship and it was because just accepted my feelings for a bet and that girl cheated me with my best friend now I started working out and taking care of my self but I got troubles as a mistrust and I'm always thinking every guy is better than me
This is the worst advice I heard. Dating apps? Serious? Do you even know how dating apps look like for guys? There are three times more men on dating apps than women, so even if you pair up every woman with a guy, then 66% of men would still be single. And the "don't approach unless they give you hints they want to be approached" advice is also terrible. It's like waiting for your boss to come to you to give you a raise.
No one, I repeat, no one, should be using dating apps regardless of what these youtubers are saying. You have to get confident in actually approaching people in public, whether you know them or not. And yes, it's true, not every girl wants to be approach, but you have to try. Because there are many women who are open to conversations. Especially if they're in a group setting. I'm a disabled man. I get better results approaching women in public. As a couple of people stated, the reality is approaching women has been normal since the beginning of time. That's not going to change
@@grapeboi9256 interesting, sure some girls are difficult to talk to, we need to be more socially aware than them so we can detect in time if she is not up to talk to us. Mind games all over the social circle. I can definitely resonate with you here.
As a guy who don’t need this video at all I just want to say to everyone that the other things in the video can be done like meeting people in real life and not on instagram but the true thing and the most important like he said is the mental block and it works for everything, remember find a girl who you think is perfect for you and you’ll see she’s not a “finished product” too and you can grow together too and this will a 100000% strengthen your relationship a lot
I as an european would say, this is bullshit. Maybe thats how it works in the US. But better online than outside in the real world? No way. Of course these apps are not horror, but you definetly can live without these apps. And Instagram - hell no, thanks. This self advertising social Media is sick, in my opinion. I do found good girls online, but also in the real World outside. I mean...who do you want to be? A shy man without the guts to speak to women outside in....who knows where.... just because its not up to date, not modern anymore. I means...thats just bullshit. We are human beings. It should never be 'oldschool' or 'out of time', to speak to somebody outside. This is just crazy. Are you prefer walking across the streets with starring on your damn phone to watch or search for girls and all this bs, than just looking around you? No, this video I really do not appreciate. But of course....just my 2 cents.
I am pretty sure Tinder is rigged. Last time I reinstalled it and recreated my profile altogether, I got three likes in a couple hours (one was a guy) and none in following days. Also I barely come across any distinct profile while swiping. I am not the type to swipe right every girl hence my scoring shouldn't be low. I feel like Tinder shadowbans all not-hypersexual profiles and it's no fun.
The thing is guys relationship is not something you just get into just bcus "you feel like you need someone" you need to have a good reason for it. Alot of teens these days have no knowledge of how things work and how. We are mostly taught what to think but now how to think. And because of that most of the guys don't even know why they want a relationship, they don't even know who they are themselves then how are they supposed to know what their needs are. Guys the truth is work on yourself, look inside yourself first learn to love yourself and understand who you are. Only then you will have a strong reason to get into a relationship and it would make perfect sense. Just getting into these temp relationship just bcus your hormones acted up and ending up mentally exhausted and heartbroken is the worst thing that can happen to you.
I completely disagree with not picking a hobby to meet people , If you are average or below average , you have way better chances in real life than on dating apps .
The one thing I love the most about this channel compared to other channels out there, is the lack of toxic masculinity and the saying that every man needs to be exactly like that to get a girl. I hate all the advices on how to be an "alpha male". Like no I don't want to be that guy. I think those guys are total douchebags. And luckily the type of girls I am attracted to think the same. So I am really glad that this channel exists. It's so chill and normal. Like fr you don't need to be the alpha male and top 1% guy to get a girlfriend. No you just need to know the basics and understand what the women you are attracted to really want. Don't change your personality, because you won't get the girl of your dreams if you are not showing her, who you really are. The girl of your dreams will love you the way you are (don't take this toooo serious, you probably still need to do the things that are mentioned in this video). She might not even want a guy who is like the perfect alpha male with millions on his bank account. Like even if you try to hide your real personality from her, you can't live a life like that. Sooner or later she will get to know the real you. If you are a submissive guy, then there is nothing wrong with getting a dominant girl. Attraction is a very subjective thing, so you need to know which type of girl suits you. Don't force yourself to be the alpha dude just to get a girl. At that point you just try to get the respect of all the men out there. But what if I tell you that this is not real respect. Real respect comes from people who respect you for showing your true self to them. It comes from people who respect you for who you are. And this will be way more important for your confidence and overall wellbeing than the respect you get from men if you are an alpha. Surround yourself with those people. They will really help you in your life. The same goes for women. Don't chase the girls everybody has a crush on. Chase the girl you have a crush on. There is a difference!!!! And maybe you think this sounds stupid but it's damn true. Think about it. Maybe you're also thinking wrong. Thank you for listening hahahaha god damn why am I always writing these extra long comments So as I said. Love this channel
Yesss, you will get very far in life, and in relationships with this mindset! I wish you find a girl u like who likes you, me you have a long me meaningful relationship!
@@marvin2678 well, everything isn’t what it seems, all the guys I know who tried to be alpha male and tried to “dominate” women or try to be someone they are not, ended up dying alone, in nursing homes, because eventually people got tired of them. The ones who didn’t end up dying alone just had ALOT of money so they paid people to be around them, but they didn’t have any real connections. The men I know who took an honest route and were honest about what they wanted and what they were willing to give ended up happy, with a family, a wife, kids. And there were some who didn’t want a wife or kids, but they were up front about it, and didn’t try bothering women who wanted to be wives either. Truth is you don’t get far being fake, and tyrannical. I mean you might get far but will it last? Before everything comes falling down like the London bridge.
Allocate time to discover your true self, foster self-love, and prioritize self-care. By doing so, you will not only cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself but also attract love into your life.
I dissagree with the instagram and dating app tip. I am 19 years old and people in my generation just cant get off of their phones and stop worrying about who likes or sees their stories. I personally have no social media but when I did have it, I fell in the same trap which almost makes you feel like your whole life is online. Instagram is a double edge sword and a very fine line to walk on in terms of meeting people. Although I havent really talked to girls or have gone on any dates since deleting social media 1 year ago, I'd rather meet someone naturally in the real world than thorugh a screen. Thats just the way I want to live but if you disagree I can see why.
I kissed a girl, held a girls hand and lost my virginity last year at the age of 25. Now I have a GF. I started working out, taking care of myself and getting a better style. I'm not obsessive about any of those things. I'm still a little chubby and most of my clothes are from Walmart. But still, just doing these simple things will help you stand out so much from the crowd of guys who do next to nothing to improve themselves. I went on my first date at the age of 25. I was so scared and nervous, but after each date I got a little better. Just bite the bullet, man up and start talking to people. You will be surprised how quickly you will come out of your shell.
proud of you
You said what I said above but way simpler thank you lol
What's your height?
@natalieromanoff my superintendent was like 4'10'' chubby and an asshole. He was married with a few kids cuz he pursued his own goals. That height bone structure shit literally does not matter after high school/ college
@@natalieromanoff 5'10
Remember guys, the golden rule is to focus on yourself, work on improving yourself and once you have done that stay humble and find the partner you have worked for.
Remember
-do not try to find a girlfriend, try to find a wife
-do not find a woman to fill your lust, but to recharge your batteries
-be her best friend, not her potential tool for pleasure
U r single aren't u 🤣
@@CliffLopez15 how is he wrong?
Man, you are this guy who never had a girlfriend💀
i agree with some of them but i think your full of shit
-Be emotionally and sexually attracted to them cuz both are needed in a relationship!!
man that last line hit me hard, i always find excuses to postpone finding a relationship lol
Same 🤧
One will get too old before his personality is fully developed. it will be so hard to even realize how much time has been wasted in all those years
@@ab_7723 That's pretty deep. Relationships are an essential part of one's personality development, specially in men. You will slack behind if you don't truly connect with people
@@ab_7723 Getting a girl shouldn't be a man's goal. Men can find women half his age if they're financially stable
@@fftere Wrong. Men don't need women to improve themselves.
I completely disagree with the dating app part - they're literally like porn - people only going on them for attention and dopamine/ causal sex, and even without doing so, it's a massive gamification of dating, searching for the most physically attractive man possible. Social media is precisely what has ruined dating.
FACTS
i completely agree
instagram has literally become a dating app now
Same opinion
Yup. I don’t think I can do the dating app thing again, I’ve gotten too much casual sex on them to trust it
@@ishyameru6232 stop caping
I believe people miss the point when someone says "join a yoga class". It's not about asking out every girl in the said class, it's about improving your social skills and experience. Let's say you join a cooking class, you meet some like minded people, some men, some women, some you're attracted to, some you're not. Maybe you make friends with a couple of them over shared interest in cooking. Even if you can't score dates with any of them, maybe they set you up with someone. Maybe they introduce you to their friend group and one of them sets you up with someone. You collect social xp and unlock skillpoints like empathy, listening, humor, being fun, being a good friend etc. And you get to know a lot of people, build somewhat of a social network and go from there.
Anyway, I'm just a socially awkward 19 year old dude lol so take this with a huge sack of salt. Anyway, the rest of the video is spot on!
I'm also a socially awkward 19yo lol
Deadass same💀💀💀
Same ;-;
I like how you use the phrase "social xp" because comparing it to a leveling system makes it more enticing to go out of your comfort zone
Same shit bro. 19 yo. Beating my social awkwardness since 17. We just gotta socialize... That's it...
0:44 "...just be a normal guy..."
**shows Patrick Bateman**
I heavily disagree on the suggestion of having to use social media and how it's foolish to approach, I completely disagree. That is literally how it has always been since the beginning of time and men have gotten so much from it besides just women. You gain confidence, charisma, the ability to converse, natural game, you even pick up your own swag. And dating apps are the worst, they're literally rigged from the start. Only 10-20% of tinder users are women, the game is already rigged and most guys that are decent looking get their confidence crushed
I agree. I've had more success approaching women in public and getting her in bed then I did trying to meet woman from social media and dating apps. I've done both but in person felt more natural. You are showing your confidence, personality, etc etc. No way in hell can you display those traits messaging.
As Mark manson once said, " *Learning more* is the most seductive form of procrastination. "
And " *Planning more* is the second most. "
Step 1, don't be ugly.
Or average
Step 3: Cover yourself in fragrance oil
A great video, but I can't agree with one thing. Avoiding social media is not necesarilly "not being a sheep". I genuinely feel worse when I use social media too much, that's why I'm limited to Facebook and Reddit only. I've never been able to use Instagram, it just caused my self esteem to drop.
"Facebook and reddit ONLY"
Reddit is disgusting lol. I found myself improving in every realm of life once I deleted reddit.
It's a you problem bro. You have work to do on yourself. Start with being honest there.
@@rayyanshaikh5591 Reddit is fine if you stay away from the popular subreddits and stick to smaller ones, but otherwise yeah it's garbage lol.
I think reddit is one of the worst ones too.
Especially now a days lack of social media can actually hurt you socially
This channel is a a diamond in the rough. So much solid advice, on all vids. Straight to the point and realistic. Thanks
That last bit about thinking you need to be perfect hit me hard. I've been thinking that for a while, I feel like I need to be at a certain level before I start dating. I've felt that way because I know the type of women I want and I feel like they only want the top 1% man. I definitely think I need to get out there and start going on more dates.
Maybe u need to change the typa woman you’ll shallow minded if you want woman that only want the top 1% there probably shallow n godldiggers n u shouldn’t want no woman like that anyways get a genuine woman who wants u for u n not for what u got
I have same problem🥲
dont be obsessive. first thing above all else is to focus on being the best version of yourself that you can be- whether that's going to the gym, improving your style, maintaining a career path and be a desirable man when you look in the mirror. a girlfriend should be your best friend, someone you can look to for emotional support at all times. no ones perfect, but that admiring even thoughout all those imperfections is what love truly is.
If u dont care about them, they dont care about you. Ans when you care about them they reject you. Getting your money up isnt the way anymore. It was 20-30 years ago for our dads but not for us. If u are not perfect you cant get girls. Thanks to social media, they easily can find one on a daily Basis. Thats why 10 percent of men have 90 percent of women
Disagree hard on the social media part. The more you practice cold approaching (random people not necessarily just girls) your confidence and social skills will develop fast to the point where you will be a cut above the average dude who relies solely on dating apps
Make a video on aesthetic wardrobe essentials for guys
There are two easy steps:
1) Be born tall
2) Be born attractive
tbh, dating apps are demotivating. most of the guys get one like in months and sometimes those turn out to be fake profiles.
on dating apps girls want an aesthetic guy with 6ft and above height.
My height is ok, but my face is well below average so the apps don't work.
Yes man , he is giving wrong advice
One should use dating apps if he is jobless and shit at home ideally
“How do I get a gf?”
“Lmao bro just date girls”
Thanks for the help G
Yet... are you doing it?
"After 10 dates you'll find a girlfriend for sure bro. Wait, you're asking how to get those 10 dates when you never even made it that far despite trying for years? Quit porn you loser."
Short, to the point, and down to earth! This is becoming my new favorite Self improvement channel! Keep up the great work!
I love what you said at the end because guys think they need to be a finished product to get a gf, as long as they’re on the self improvement journey I don’t see nothing wrong with trying to get a gf
I think it is an American problem, women are taught to wait at the finish line to picl the victor.
@@MyNameisRevenant yeah America sucks, in Europe they get taught better and it’s crazy too because if you wanna buy someone a cup of coffee here they’ll think it’s harassment but in Europe they take it as a nice gesture
im getting to the point where im just going to accept that im going to be alone for the rest of my life
You'll find someone ❤
We're all gonna make it brah
@@akshattiwari4957 I really hope so, cause I dont want to go through life alone. Its too painful to bare...
@@jakehart4903 I hope so brother!
@@user-xedwsg yea i feel you ,almost 26 never even score a date,and decent looking with ok job.
i agree about everything except the social media aspect
It's one of the best videos there about dating i have ever scene, this video is really up to date and shows that you don't need to know a lot of tactics to make a girlfriend
a few things i learned while going through this ongoing journey is that
- if you make a girl your motivation for getting up in the morning, you won't have one when you potentially lose them
- don't "look" for a girlfriend, improve and focus on yourself and if you happen to find someone attractive, go for it
- to have a healthy relationship you need to be your own person, not dedicating all of yourself and therefore changing yourself for the worst just for this specific persson
- when you think you find a girl attractive, you need to seriously consider if you're attracted to them, or you're attracted to the attention they give you
that last one hits home
So true
That's interesting. Also it's important to notice that women aren't only attracted to physical appearance, they are also attracted to personality. The main personality trait they're attracted to is confidence. You can build confidence by having success. If you have a success, even if it's a small one like getting your job done, take your time to enjoy it, that's gonna build up your confidence.
This should work wonders, aslong as you dont have impostor syndrome. But yeah, doing things or completing feats should increase a person's self esteem.
Its more about finding a partner who supports you at your goals rather than having already achieved everything besides that.
Quite ironic doesnt it? Women want a man who has his life already set up, and i wonder why would a guy be complacent to get one woman if he has it all?
bros advice is no better than the others.
I dont think theres any advice you can give to anyone. Its just one of those things where you have to do it to understand.
The last line reminds me of a quote from Carl Von Clausewitz: "The enemy of a good plan, is the dream of a perfect plan"
quick growth onpointfresh!! i subscribed you when you had 3-4 digit subscribers
congrats on the growth!!!
Your welcome 😋
Are you single 😉
@@ajmeershah5248bro what 😂
Keep up the good work. You're adding clips of nearly all improvement youtubers I regulary watch so probably you watched them too. It makes it more convincing that you know what you are talking cause you have the same input as me.
I've been alone my entire life... I was so alone that it became a disease, now I hate people around me for no reason, especially couples... I want love... I want to have someone who could help me... but in the same time I fking hate it, I hate speaking to people, it's stupid... it's like I have two diferent voices inside of my head in a never ending fight... I don't know what to do anymore
You must learn to love people first bro
Am so thankful for this channel
Love this channel because there's no BS, thx
This is gonna be really long, but if you're watching this video, I was one of you for years and incredibly depressed. Please read if you have the time.
I know people don't give a shit, but I'm 33 and married now. My 20s were a hellscape of depression anxiety and loneliness. When I was 19 the "red pill" didn't have a name yet, but lots of guys thought this way. Myself included.
The resentment I felt towards "stupid jocks" and girls over having values I thought were shitty and vapid (let's be real, they were) eventually turned to self-resentment when I realized that everyone else, including people that weren't "chads" where dating and marrying and starting to build good lives. This began a decade or so long process of really looking inward and struggling to unlearn all of the horrible toxic ideas I grew up with in the 90s and 2000s. And it hurt.
One thing I realized is that when I used to think the thought "girls only like chads" what I'm really thinking is "a certain type of girl that looks a certain way, who makes me look alpha to others just by being near her, only likes chads". There were a lot of girls who were maybe a little awkward or maybe had a body type different than I thought was good that showed real interest that I didn't even acknowledge as "women" in my mind. That's so fucked up! And the most attractive people? A lot of times they are the least interesting, because when you never have to solve any problems or learn from your failures you never grow!
It's okay to have tastes or preferences, but I feel like for most men, they're just afraid of what others will say or think about them if they date certain people versus others. They don't add enough "value" to them so unless a woman falls into some idealized version, they're basically invisible.
If you're a virgin and struggling with this, how do you know you wouldn't like getting physical with someone bigger than you if you've never been physical with anyone?
Ultimately I had to learn that my life was for me and I had to do things for my sake. I acknowledge the opportunities I had, but the trick is taking them.
I'm blessed with being tall, but I'm neurodivergent as all shit. None of the shit I cared about, my peers cared about. I was a dork. I got the shit kicked out of me daily. In the 3rd grade a kid smashed my face in with his arm cast while a gang of others stayed an helped enable it. Then my not rich parents got me in to a church school for cheap cuz my dad played the organ. It was worse. Kids threw dog treats at me. I used to weigh 250 lbs. I had anger issues. I was forced to go to counseling outside of school. I didn't graduate. I got a 1.8 GPA and a GED.
Shit sucked, but at one point I met a guy who worked out and knew what was up. He helped me lose 80 lbs. It took over a year of working out 4 days a week regularly. It was fun and something I did with my friend.
I won't get in to everything, but growth feels good. Period. To me growth is the single most fulfilling human experience one can easily attain.
Even something stupid like learning the harmonica is great. It's a simple, cheap instrument, with an endless wormhole of experimentation and technique to learn.
The bonus? It's part of a communal hobby that thrives on groups.
Picture this: you go to a bar and some blues band is playing. You bust out a harmonica from nowhere and start riffing cuz youve been practicing for 2 years and the universe has given you your moment? You're the coolest guy there!
There's a catch. You don't wanna be the "harmonica" guy. You need to have a wide and diverse set of skills and interests. Not only because that's what it means to be an interesting person, but because of the power, experience, opportunity it gives you in the real world. Not to mention getting good at shit is just plain fun and rewarding.
When I was 18 was a dropout who was okay ish at music. I was a fat goth kid with backne bad style bad hygiene and no skills outside of xbox and 4chan posting.
Now Im 2.5 of 5 years through a union trade school, play in a couple working bands, I speak passable Spanish (useful at work sometimes) I have an eclectic taste in media, I can game with the best of em, I can work on computers and electronics, I could build a house from the ground up.
I'm not special, I'm talking 10+ years of actively saying "fuck it why not" to whatever opportunity outside of my comfort zone that wasn't intolerable.
And here's where I'll disagree with the creator. Given the above, I understand why you say porn is harmful, but I think it can be a healthy outlet. There were times in my life I was so depressed that it was the only thing that felt good. Other times I was so depressed I couldn't bring myself to take care of myself like that. But as long as you're mature enough to realize that these are human beings playing a role (THIS INCLUDES ONLY FANS) you know, someone's sister, aunt, mother, daughter, taking advantage of a lucrative market in a shitty economy.
The other thing I disagree with is the emphasis on online dating and social media. That shit warps your brain. Those apps are built to get you to feel isolated and milk money out of vulnerable people.
Example from one tinder date. I had
The girl was a single mom, unemployed, cute but not a model, and not very interesting because all her time was devoted to her kid.
She showed me her inbox. She had 4000 likes to my 8 or so.
If you really wanna meet more people, volunteering is great. There are all kinds of mutual aid groups and the like where good people who want to help can go do good work.
But like the creator says, you have to be there for you cuz they will smell your intent from a mile away.
But you'll make friends who care about making sure the people in their community are taken care of.
If you've made it this far, grats! I'll tell you the single most life changing choice I made. IF YOU ARENT IN COLLEGE, GET IN TO A UNION TRADE APPRENTICESHIP.
Above average pay, and you get paid the whole time you're learning. It will enable you to never need a job interview again. You can work in any state in the country. You get health insurance that you dont pay in to. Pensions, etc. The skills you learn are invaluable and the foundation of many others I have.
One thing to add: the standards these guys set are fucked up too. Because I was so heavy, I have some visible abs, but it doesn't even matter cuz I had so much belly stretching that I look like I was pregnant once. That will never go away. But the older you get the more people care about like how clean you are vs what your scars look like
A appreciate this so much dude. I'm 19 and I'm in college now. I'm doing ok, but I just constantly feel this weird emptiness that is somehow slowly but surely getting worse.
Two things I hate that people say are
1. "You shouldn't date while studying, because this can ruin your career etc."
2."A gf won't solve your problems, and she's probably not looking for a guy with problems in the first place".
I can agree with these things but like how would anyone know what kind of issues I have? What if meeting a girl that shares my interests and cares about me is just enough to make me feel like myself again? I'm just struggling at this point
@jasonkolchek6936 the general standards of success people have are largely bullshit. Everyone knows this one some level which is why it's so easy to make fun of nickelback. Some of the most "mature" people I know are also the worst people.
The point is it's all bullshit. We're literally fuckin apes. You gonna let what some ape thinks affect doing things that are good for you? And do it at your own pace too! At 19 you have time to learn and quit 2 whole careers before it starts getting a bit late to start over (but it never really is)
Unless someone is like "yes I am a doctor of intimacy here are 170 peer reviewed double blind studies on relationships and happiness" then maybe take their advice seriously.
Thank you for your effort of writing this. This does put a smile on my face, knowing I can make it :)
imagine telling your kids that you found your wife through a dating site, nah man i don't want that.
"how to find a girlfriend... become attractive and make a dating profile then go on a bunch of dates" oh wow how helpful
"you don't need to be a finish product to be someone worthwhile of seeing." do not improve to impress someone, improve for your self. life is temporary, improve yourself to be the better version of yourself so that at the end of the day, you won't regret the memories of your past. everything is temporary.
If you really wanna stand out then hopping on a dating app ain't gonna cut it. Most girls don't even get approached these days, even I rarely do it but I'm trying to improve there. I was in a club yesterday and I noticed that there were plenty of girls and a lot of guys who just DIDN'T approach them. There is so much opportunity for us guys but we refuse to act and that is why we watch these vids 🙄
And because false sexual harrassment accussations are common place.
The advice in this video is real bad for an average to below-average guy. I don't think you're set in reality.
Bruv. Stop coping.
This channel changed my mentality and my life too.
Those last few lines hit me so hard and really made me realize I was just finding excuses not to ask out the single hot girl at school 😂
Been with a girl for 7 years, she just moved out yesterday. Luckily I kept my physical shape ok but the rest I need a refresher 😅 perfect timing finding this channel
"Stop having a negative mindset bro. Your ex gf didn't break up with you, she's just gave you the ultimate pre-workout motivation!1!!"
@@JohnYoungcook72 nah cause when you hit then gym and become a better person you will grow smarter and more creative and you will realize that you should be training for urself because of others ...train with discipline not motivation
@@strongest_bishop and you'll still remain bitchless or if you're lucky you marry a single mom
This is it. This is the channel
100% disagree on only meeting through social media and dating apps. Approaching in public is a great way to step out of your comfort zone, gain confidence, and increase your social skills. You don’t even necessarily have to go out of your way, if you see someone you like at a coffee shop just talk to them and try and plan a date if you vibe.
If you see someone that you like at a coffee shop or anyplace else, assuming that you like healthy women, they are unavailable. Years of thousands of such meetings and always even at first if they seem unattached , they always have a child, a boyfriend, a spouse and or a large diamond. Usually I just look down at the hand, whenever I see an interesting girl/ woman and there it is. Can't t even try- there is no point.
cold approaching is the best
the way i usually start talking with random girls is asking them if we met already or if i know her from somewhere then ask for their name and keep talking for a few seconds then ask for their Instagram
it works everytime
that's how extinction happens. Maybe it's someone else's plan.
Don’t try to get a girl if you don’t have freedom example: time,money,transportation and an strong mind.Try to improve on those things and everything will be easier 🔥
"You don't have to be a finished product to be someone worthwhile of seeing!"
- Game publishers
Definelly needed it
If you’re reading this. Its ovER
Finally a brocel in this delusional channel. 90% of viewers are exactly like us bro.
They are one bad day away.
Just quit porn , shower and put on perfume! It's that simple chud
Tbh I disagree with meeting/approaching a girl in public. Why would you not approach them if you find them attractive and most of the time you won’t notice „signals “ she is giving you and with just approaching you build up confidence and also gain experience
The last point is so true! I didn't know it was a phenomenon others experienced too 😭
My mother : why don’t you stop playing this game and find a girlfriend ?
Me as a gamer : my game has lower requirements than any girl.
You can still be a somewhat good looking person but it’ll be hard if you are on the spectrum also
1) Make a ton of money
2) Realize that now you are too old
3) The end
I watched a 7 minutes video on how to find GF in 20 minutes because I paused to cry, nice advice too
This man knows what my subscribe channels.
There is one quote I do remember
"If you were a girl, with all the choices she has.. would you choose you?"
It stands true no matter what, because realistically there needs to be a reason why you of all people deserve her
This channel is great bro
Keeping it real. I like it
Enjoyed that, thanks.
The absolute best and only dating advice you'll ever need. Nothing but truth in this video. Really well done.
*never clicked faster on a video*
One of the best videos I ever seen
I’m now 4 months deep in a relationship with my girlfriend, met her through school, and she says she fell for my humor. It’s not too late for us boys ❤️
is her name Skyler?
@@weeyum99 is she ff character
Maybe for you if you still in school
Thank you I will use this now!!!111!!
I've only had one girlfriend in my life and I'm still a virgin at twenty-seven years old.
My man Tesla was a virgin for life, I mean that's an extreme example but the dude was focused on his craft and he was focused on a higher goal. Maybe if you focus on something other than propping up your dating life, you'll paradoxically attract many more women than you would've had attracted if you focused only on them. Now take this advice with a grain of salt cause I'm also a 23 yo virgin, so, I don't know, maybe I'm wrong.
I agree with almost everything beside using dating apps.
why do people say dating apps are the way? acting like people 20 years ago weren’t meeting through normal ways
Thank you so so much
I've never thought I was that off from this lol
We need this kind of channel for girls!!
Girls don't need it, you play dating on easy mode
@@portman8909 bro why you toxic
Thank you so much ❤️
This guy doing bits for the Community, Keep it up :)
Sometimes I feel upset because I'm always putting excuses I'm 20 years old and I have only had one relationship and it was because just accepted my feelings for a bet and that girl cheated me with my best friend now I started working out and taking care of my self but I got troubles as a mistrust and I'm always thinking every guy is better than me
10/10 video 👏
This is the worst advice I heard. Dating apps? Serious? Do you even know how dating apps look like for guys? There are three times more men on dating apps than women, so even if you pair up every woman with a guy, then 66% of men would still be single. And the "don't approach unless they give you hints they want to be approached" advice is also terrible. It's like waiting for your boss to come to you to give you a raise.
No one, I repeat, no one, should be using dating apps regardless of what these youtubers are saying. You have to get confident in actually approaching people in public, whether you know them or not. And yes, it's true, not every girl wants to be approach, but you have to try. Because there are many women who are open to conversations. Especially if they're in a group setting. I'm a disabled man. I get better results approaching women in public. As a couple of people stated, the reality is approaching women has been normal since the beginning of time. That's not going to change
This was the most realistic advice i have seen on the internet i hope i will find a girlfriend soon👍
NGL this channel has the best quality content🔥
how is it going ?
@@marvin2678 Asking the real questions fr 😂
good to know my dating experience from the 3rd to 8th grade will help me
what movie is the one in the experience section?
Any girl who is healthy and attractive, regardless of age, is unavailable.
3:16 go on 10 dates. Can't even find a girl to give 1
Are you in prison or gender restricted community? Your affirmation of not been able to find a girl has me curious.
@@MyNameisRevenant no it's just it's hard talking to someone when you don't know what will actually interest them. Lots of women feel like brick walls
@@grapeboi9256 interesting, sure some girls are difficult to talk to, we need to be more socially aware than them so we can detect in time if she is not up to talk to us. Mind games all over the social circle. I can definitely resonate with you here.
Thx dude, i already have it
Good luck to y’all on dating apps lmao
:be a normal guy.
*shows Patrick Bateman*
Great video! Could you make a video for eyebrows because I have low visibility of eyebrows and they are blonde which makes it worse.
A title ' Girlfriend Maxxing' would have got more engagement lol
As a guy who don’t need this video at all I just want to say to everyone that the other things in the video can be done like meeting people in real life and not on instagram but the true thing and the most important like he said is the mental block and it works for everything, remember find a girl who you think is perfect for you and you’ll see she’s not a “finished product” too and you can grow together too and this will a 100000% strengthen your relationship a lot
aint no way bro put hamza in their like bro he's high key goated
I as an european would say, this is bullshit. Maybe thats how it works in the US.
But better online than outside in the real world? No way. Of course these apps are not horror, but you definetly can live without these apps.
And Instagram - hell no, thanks.
This self advertising social Media is sick, in my opinion.
I do found good girls online, but also in the real World outside.
I mean...who do you want to be? A shy man without the guts to speak to women outside in....who knows where.... just because its not up to date, not modern anymore. I means...thats just bullshit. We are human beings. It should never be 'oldschool' or 'out of time', to speak to somebody outside. This is just crazy.
Are you prefer walking across the streets with starring on your damn phone to watch or search for girls and all this bs, than just looking around you?
No, this video I really do not appreciate. But of course....just my 2 cents.
Facts
I am pretty sure Tinder is rigged. Last time I reinstalled it and recreated my profile altogether, I got three likes in a couple hours (one was a guy) and none in following days. Also I barely come across any distinct profile while swiping. I am not the type to swipe right every girl hence my scoring shouldn't be low. I feel like Tinder shadowbans all not-hypersexual profiles and it's no fun.
The thing is guys relationship is not something you just get into just bcus "you feel like you need someone" you need to have a good reason for it. Alot of teens these days have no knowledge of how things work and how. We are mostly taught what to think but now how to think. And because of that most of the guys don't even know why they want a relationship, they don't even know who they are themselves then how are they supposed to know what their needs are. Guys the truth is work on yourself, look inside yourself first learn to love yourself and understand who you are. Only then you will have a strong reason to get into a relationship and it would make perfect sense. Just getting into these temp relationship just bcus your hormones acted up and ending up mentally exhausted and heartbroken is the worst thing that can happen to you.
Word up! ✨💯
Thank you! Thanks for the reminder 💯
I completely disagree with not picking a hobby to meet people , If you are average or below average , you have way better chances in real life than on dating apps .
Girls have dating apps or social media too
The one thing I love the most about this channel compared to other channels out there, is the lack of toxic masculinity and the saying that every man needs to be exactly like that to get a girl. I hate all the advices on how to be an "alpha male". Like no I don't want to be that guy. I think those guys are total douchebags. And luckily the type of girls I am attracted to think the same. So I am really glad that this channel exists. It's so chill and normal. Like fr you don't need to be the alpha male and top 1% guy to get a girlfriend. No you just need to know the basics and understand what the women you are attracted to really want. Don't change your personality, because you won't get the girl of your dreams if you are not showing her, who you really are. The girl of your dreams will love you the way you are (don't take this toooo serious, you probably still need to do the things that are mentioned in this video). She might not even want a guy who is like the perfect alpha male with millions on his bank account. Like even if you try to hide your real personality from her, you can't live a life like that. Sooner or later she will get to know the real you. If you are a submissive guy, then there is nothing wrong with getting a dominant girl. Attraction is a very subjective thing, so you need to know which type of girl suits you. Don't force yourself to be the alpha dude just to get a girl. At that point you just try to get the respect of all the men out there. But what if I tell you that this is not real respect. Real respect comes from people who respect you for showing your true self to them. It comes from people who respect you for who you are. And this will be way more important for your confidence and overall wellbeing than the respect you get from men if you are an alpha. Surround yourself with those people. They will really help you in your life. The same goes for women. Don't chase the girls everybody has a crush on. Chase the girl you have a crush on. There is a difference!!!! And maybe you think this sounds stupid but it's damn true. Think about it. Maybe you're also thinking wrong.
Thank you for listening hahahaha god damn why am I always writing these extra long comments
So as I said. Love this channel
Nah your comment is pretty good, sounds hundred pc honest
Yesss, you will get very far in life, and in relationships with this mindset! I wish you find a girl u like who likes you, me you have a long me meaningful relationship!
what about toxic femininty ?
@@gazelle888 doesnt really sounds like it
@@marvin2678 well, everything isn’t what it seems, all the guys I know who tried to be alpha male and tried to “dominate” women or try to be someone they are not, ended up dying alone, in nursing homes, because eventually people got tired of them. The ones who didn’t end up dying alone just had ALOT of money so they paid people to be around them, but they didn’t have any real connections.
The men I know who took an honest route and were honest about what they wanted and what they were willing to give ended up happy, with a family, a wife, kids. And there were some who didn’t want a wife or kids, but they were up front about it, and didn’t try bothering women who wanted to be wives either. Truth is you don’t get far being fake, and tyrannical. I mean you might get far but will it last? Before everything comes falling down like the London bridge.
Women are attracted to men with money. Get money.
broooo best. video. ever.
As a girl we don’t want a guy who’s obviously trying to hard we just want a chill normal person 😭
Starting to believe I'm ugly asf so I might as well give up at this point 🙃
Allocate time to discover your true self, foster self-love, and prioritize self-care. By doing so, you will not only cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself but also attract love into your life.
Women don't have self care detectors
@@sp123 they do
The dating apps don’t work, even when you pay to subscribe.
Not easy getting a girlfriend even when working on yourself as I am in this process.
Bro why you calling me out for the last advice I took personally offense to it😭, but anyways thnks for the advices really appreciate it.
I dissagree with the instagram and dating app tip. I am 19 years old and people in my generation just cant get off of their phones and stop worrying about who likes or sees their stories. I personally have no social media but when I did have it, I fell in the same trap which almost makes you feel like your whole life is online. Instagram is a double edge sword and a very fine line to walk on in terms of meeting people. Although I havent really talked to girls or have gone on any dates since deleting social media 1 year ago, I'd rather meet someone naturally in the real world than thorugh a screen. Thats just the way I want to live but if you disagree I can see why.