my Mom opens up about being married to a NARCISSIST husband

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  • @lillyhubbard
    @lillyhubbard  2 года назад +170

    Thank you for watching. Please click the thumbs up button. It really helps the algorithm 😊🙏

    • @judithsegundaroa6083
      @judithsegundaroa6083 2 года назад +4

      Thank you for your inspiring story. God bless you abundantly always.

    • @SL-bo7ui
      @SL-bo7ui 2 года назад +6

      Hi Lily, I thought you had a younger brother?

    • @Gadol_Adonai_196
      @Gadol_Adonai_196 2 года назад +2

      I did

    • @tonjaruff223
      @tonjaruff223 2 года назад +3

      Lilly do you have a way for someone to send a special gift to you and your mom? I can send to two different places. Example…. One to you in Thailand and one to your mom in the states. I know some people have PO Boxes. Thanks and much love to you and your mom.

    • @ernestt47
      @ernestt47 2 года назад +4

      Thank you for sharing your struggles. It made you a stronger person.

  • @donnawade5787
    @donnawade5787 11 месяцев назад +53

    I was married to a narcissist for over 20 years. I wanted to leave so many times. I didn’t want to want to be a failure and be judged. He was horrible to me and my children as they grew up. He asked for a separation 8 days after I was diagnosed with Ovarian cancer in 2013. He was 17 years older and he told me I wasn’t going to be the younger prettier wife. This was the biggest heartbreak for me but I realized if I was going to live I had to fight for me. I am now remarried and my life is beautiful and I am still alive.

    • @anneefroc4234
      @anneefroc4234 11 месяцев назад +2

      10years ago. You are a surviver and sound happy. You will be always younger than him and have a happy heart. ❤

  • @emilylotts8833
    @emilylotts8833 2 года назад +54

    I wanted to hear the experience from her mother's point of view but Lilly did not let that happen because of constantly interrupting her mom n never let her complete wat she was saying

  • @lizettestewart8118
    @lizettestewart8118 2 года назад +219

    I love your mom She is amazing. Lilly, please stop interrupting her. Let her tell her story in her own words. Sending love and light ❤❤

  • @sissy8563
    @sissy8563 2 года назад +71

    And I would like to add for everyone getting upset about how Lilly is butting in, you can clearly tell this isn't just an interview this is a therapy talk between them both. this wasn't just Gigi's crazy life the kids had to process this as well and is still trying to unpack all of this.

    • @lizarce272
      @lizarce272 Год назад +1

      Yes Doctor. Why are you angry because a few people are saying the obvious?? You may not to reflect on this.

    • @sissy8563
      @sissy8563 Год назад

      @@lizarce272 lol this was posted 7 months ago lol so I dont know what you are so triggered about 😁🤣

    • @RosemaryOltarzewski
      @RosemaryOltarzewski 8 месяцев назад +3

      Yes I feel this was therapy for both of them. Mum and Daughters talk like this. ❤

  • @victoriamyatt1709
    @victoriamyatt1709 2 года назад +51

    I think lily's trying to guide her mum and steer her through it as she's said she doesn't like talking about it. When you both know the same story, you both talk together ❤

    • @heatherpoulsen8780
      @heatherpoulsen8780 10 месяцев назад

      Totally agree, her mom got emotional.

    • @gracemoore7779
      @gracemoore7779 5 месяцев назад

      Yeah but there is a difference and that’s all we’re pointing out😉

  • @margiedaniel894
    @margiedaniel894 2 года назад +231

    I wanted to hear the story from her mother’s perspective and not to be constantly interrupted by Lily. Lily’s mum has a great knack for story telling, hope she can speak uninterrupted next time. Thanks anyway for opening up and speaking about your dark past Gigi 🙏🏼

    • @christinejunk8184
      @christinejunk8184 2 года назад +27

      I think that Lily was chiming in at times to support her mom as it was a difficult story to tell. I found the interruptions to be support interruptions and in that way it was understandable.

    • @MsEller316
      @MsEller316 2 года назад +28

      @Margie... you have a valid point there.. because Lilly's perspective of her father as a child would have been different ...and this was her mother's story...However it was still good .....and Lilly.remember you don't always have to control the conversation..many victims of controllers have to guard against becoming controllers themselves....allow and trust the Holy Spirit to flow the Vlog....you closed out nicely though...we're all learning and can learn from each other...be still and know that He is God...❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @PJEC
      @PJEC 2 года назад +26

      My words exactly 💯 Lilly is a Narcissist as well. That's why she allows her husband to live off her and her moms money. She needs to stop it so that those boys will grow up to be strong men and not live off women

    • @TRAN-FAM
      @TRAN-FAM 2 года назад +24

      Thanks for sharing however yes it was not coherent with the interruptions from Lily. Would have been better if you had let your mum finished her sentence first before continuing…

    • @adrianaglavin3762
      @adrianaglavin3762 2 года назад +24

      Lilly did bad conversation, she interrupted her mum the whole time, it was irritable.

  • @imo.124
    @imo.124 2 года назад +57

    Lilly please let your Mother talk. You kept interrupting her. I realize I do that a lot to my Mom too. She will actually stop me sometimes and tell me to be quiet so she can finish lol. So I totally understand but watching you made me realize I need to follow my own advice. Btw you and your Mother have very pretty eyes. Thanks for having your Mother to share her story 😊

    • @adrianaglavin3762
      @adrianaglavin3762 2 года назад +3

      Lilly has ADHD, she does nothing with her children , therefore has help of nunny

    • @lizdahl847
      @lizdahl847 2 года назад +5

      Now u can understand why Lily is so controlling over her husband Wat. She was so traumatized by her father and her dark childhood that it has affected her relationships with her husband and family members.

    • @joanncoopertroupe3506
      @joanncoopertroupe3506 2 года назад +1

      Shes does it they are on a time thing on RUclips videos!!

    • @joanncoopertroupe3506
      @joanncoopertroupe3506 2 года назад +1

      @@adrianaglavin3762 shes a wonderful Mommy! Shes a Great Wife to Wat!! shes in Business with her Mom!

    • @lizdahl847
      @lizdahl847 2 года назад +2

      @@joanncoopertroupe3506 Lily can't help herself. It's her controlling personality. Has nothing to do with a time frame.

  • @jbsamjam
    @jbsamjam 2 года назад +139

    I love your mom. She’s an amazing woman that has a lot of wisdom to impart.

  • @kimkerley4218
    @kimkerley4218 Год назад +13

    I was marr to a narcissist for 30 yrs and the stress caused my adrenals to shut down. Get out people! It can kill you. It’s left me very sick. I need prayer please!!!

  • @BlackHistory365Days
    @BlackHistory365Days 2 года назад +47

    Such an interesting story, but I would have loved to hear Gigi tell the story with less interruptions - difficult to listen to.

  • @rayannfatimah4334
    @rayannfatimah4334 2 года назад +11

    I understand everything your mother is talking about because I am married to a malignant narcissistic person with narcissistic psychopath tendencies. Financial abuse can take the toll on you because it's like they're trying to destroy you in every way they can . I'm tired, and I feel like I'm living in a nightmare. With the help of God, I'm going to get out of this nightmare and go on to a healthier non-toxic life.

  • @rascaldog5303
    @rascaldog5303 2 года назад +281

    I agree that Lilly should have let her mother tell her story with less interruptions from her. Her mom is very articulate and intelligent!

    • @lizdahl847
      @lizdahl847 2 года назад +37

      Lily needs to stop trying to control her Mother's story. It's very disrespectful to her sweet mother and very annoying to viewers. Please stop Lily.

    • @dmacdinfl3
      @dmacdinfl3 2 года назад +24

      Her daughter is just keeping her on point. Doesn't bother me at all.

    • @lizdahl847
      @lizdahl847 2 года назад +36

      @@dmacdinfl3 Well it bothers alot of us. Lily doesn't need to keep her Mother on point. She is very capable of telling her own story without constantly being interrupted by Lily.

    • @aijingsukmitri9309
      @aijingsukmitri9309 2 года назад +10

      I agree

    • @thegatesofdawn...1386
      @thegatesofdawn...1386 2 года назад +13

      We have to consider that Lilly had to endure the suffering as well.

  • @jenniferbalaguer7750
    @jenniferbalaguer7750 2 года назад +64

    Lilly, your mom is the strongest, most intelligent, hard working woman. Be so proud of her❤️

  • @diannam8796
    @diannam8796 Год назад +4

    Wow, what a strong and resilient woman your mom is.

  • @bridgettkyle5818
    @bridgettkyle5818 2 года назад +30

    I was going to say the same thing about over talking her mom , how rude

    • @lillyhubbard
      @lillyhubbard  2 года назад +8

      Thank you for watching Bridgett. I will do better next time 🙏🏻

    • @davidwolstenholme4676
      @davidwolstenholme4676 10 месяцев назад +1

      SADLY MANY FEEL THE NEED TO COME ON LINE CRYING TELLING THERE TALES OF WOE

    • @graerindley6312
      @graerindley6312 6 месяцев назад +5

      For me it was not rude they seemed to speak well together in combination

    • @wafo133
      @wafo133 6 месяцев назад +4

      @@graerindley6312Lilly is like a reporter, she filled in the details that her mom might have left out 😊 Lilly is very thorough 😊

    • @bygraceandmercy
      @bygraceandmercy 4 месяца назад

      ​@@davidwolstenholme4676It heals other women going through the same pain. Healed women make better mums. Mums play a significant role in raising children just like dads.❤

  • @tonjaruff223
    @tonjaruff223 2 года назад +56

    My mother was a narcissist I understand completely!!! My sons father was a narcissist I left him when my son was a year old with nothing. I had to leave secretly while he was at work. Scared and freaked out n afraid he would follow and find us. I can understand everything your mom is saying. Between him and my mother I had a double dose of narcissism. When my son was born, I was the bread winner. I went back to work in 1 week. It was awful. When I left him he never offered any support or help. He eventually came and took my car and I had no way to get to work. But, my son made it through. My son is now 31 and it was the best decision I had ever made to leave. Oh I didn’t tell you my deciding factor that made me leave him. He locked me out of our condo by gun point. I sat under my babies window all night. Bless us all that deal or have dealt with narcissistic people. And thank you Susan for sharing your story. I DO KNOW how difficult it is to talk about even after all these years. The scars never go away!!! @Lilly please don’t interrupt in the middle of an interview or a story!!! I think you are awesome but give someone a chance to talk especially about their pain. Love ❤️

    • @sk.n.9302
      @sk.n.9302 2 года назад +2

      Tonja, I went thru similar, leaving my ex-husband when my daughter was almost 3. Then he tried his best to destroy me. I was so fearful when I had to take the dog out & would necer go the same way. My daughter is now 16 & doing well, thank goodness.

    • @blossom6235
      @blossom6235 2 года назад +1

      Your story sounds like my story, when I use to be married to a vile narcissist, like you say the scars never goes away, and like you it was the best decision I took to leave when I was 2 months pregnant and a 13 year old at the time, my boys are now 29 and 16, he went on to he's next victim after I left him, I've never heard or seen him after I left him, I have no contact with him, I was told by people I know, Karma caught up with him, and that he's in a terrible state, the woman he got married to after me have two son's and they dont put up with he's nonsense, I was also told that he met he's match now, apparently the woman comes from a gangster back ground, all her brother's are gangsters and her two kids, thank God for Karma!!!

    • @graerindley6312
      @graerindley6312 6 месяцев назад

      But she did give her plenty of chances to talk and she talked well

  • @jeanniesaltwaterla8718
    @jeanniesaltwaterla8718 2 года назад +49

    Thank you for sharing your heart Gigi. I’m divorced from a bipolar narcissist attorney. My life was hell. Married at 24 he was 35. Educated at a top Ivy League college, can’t keep a job, because everyone else has the problem. Many addictions, money problems, multiple bankruptcies, and so much more. My 3 children have suffered so much. I’ve been divorced 8 years and still dealing with his craziness. When I filed, he said he would destroy me, and he did. I called him “napalm Perry” because he loves to come in and destroy everything and everyone that make him angry. Never paid me, and my daughter and I were homeless for 2 years. I’m glad to hear your story as much as well to painful to tell. Thank you! Much love to you! ❤

    • @hennagal7360
      @hennagal7360 2 года назад +3

      Oh Jeannie that really is a stinging combination 😔 bipolar, narcissist and an attorney so that his professional training was how to find fault and argue - best wishes for you in your life now 🌻

    • @GigiAtGraceAndJoy
      @GigiAtGraceAndJoy 2 года назад +2

      Oh my that is so hard. I had some help from my parents and his family were also very supportive of me. But even now after 25 years it’s hard for me to think about.

    • @deliamurphy382
      @deliamurphy382 2 года назад +3

      Sounds like many of us STRONG women are in the same boat. Keep rolling.

  • @JustmeDiane
    @JustmeDiane 2 года назад +41

    Your moms life sounded like mine, I finally had enough with my ex when my girls were 6 years and 14 months old. I was tired of being physically and emotionally abused. Didn’t want my girls to think it was ok to be treated like that. I remarried when my girls were 7 & 12 years old, to a wonderful man who helped me raise my girls, whom I’m still with today 28 years married now. God truly blessed me the 2nd time around. We have a son together who is now 24 years old. Much love to you both for your story! ❤

  • @hexhex7220
    @hexhex7220 2 года назад +49

    Hardest part is not realizing you're living with a Narcissist...and feeling alone. Even if/when you finally break free, the scaring that is left from the abuse can last a lifetime. Surely feels better knowing others have endured and survived. Thanks for sharing your story. Although it stirs up emotions you would prefer to forget about, know that your voice helps untold number of people. Message of hope. :)

    • @GigiAtGraceAndJoy
      @GigiAtGraceAndJoy 2 года назад

      Yes I did not know what a narcissist was’

    • @deliamurphy382
      @deliamurphy382 2 года назад +1

      @@GigiAtGraceAndJoy I am sorry you had to have sooooooo much pain. I am in the same boat, You all just need love and acceptance, I am forever feeling I have to explain, I need my daughters to know the pain and how hard I tried. But you know, I think they get fed up always hearing me defending myself as their mum. I think you have to have lived it, to truly understand the emotional impact it has on a mother. Now I know and understand, no matter how much I want to justfy myself, the past is the past. We just need to live in the day and love, respect, and cherish the present. Sending you both love and light. The past was a prison and a test, leave it there. Embrace both your freedom and start creating your dreams, You are all free now. From a person who is still married 30 years now, it's still hard. It is not easy to get away, have to share a home, and live separately, I do all the house stuff, and he is very ill. So in limbo. Don't worry, I'm still smiling as WE always do to the world anyway.

  • @veronicathornton8798
    @veronicathornton8798 2 года назад +18

    I love your Mama such a classy lady and full of grace and love. God Bless You All!

  • @misssaiwasn6935
    @misssaiwasn6935 2 года назад +22

    Thank you Gigi and Lilly for sharing your story. I was married to a Borderline narcissist for 24 years. It started beautifully and turned into a hellish nightmare, just like everyone knows, who had an experience with a narcissist. We had no kids, thanks God, but I am still struggling, now 3 years after finally getting the divorce. The experience has casted a dark shadow over my soul and has even affected my once very strong faith in God.
    I'd love very much, if you'd say a short prayer for me. I know it will help. My name is Christina.
    Thank you sweet ladies and God bless.

    • @beckystrozenski5187
      @beckystrozenski5187 2 года назад +1

      Prayers for you Christina 🌹

    • @misssaiwasn6935
      @misssaiwasn6935 2 года назад

      @@beckystrozenski5187 Thank you Becky🌹when very little I've learned that showing pain was considered 'weakness' and only made things worse. My mind knows that sane people do not react with hostility when noticing other human's pain, experiencing it though, is what's truly healing ♥grateful for your prayer 🙏

    • @lisav834
      @lisav834 6 месяцев назад

      ⁠@@misssaiwasn6935 Hi Christina, I pray that the LORD will bless and protect you, and that he will show you mercy and kindness. May the LORD be good to you and give you peace, amen 🙏🏻
      Much love 💗 Lisa

  • @nangnuon6314
    @nangnuon6314 2 года назад +5

    Omg! I went thru similar situations with my kid's dad. Whom, I finally had the courage to leave 12 years ago. One thing I can tell you. The reason why a person is so sweet and kind, is because they went thru so much heartache and pain. They treat people with love and respect because they know what it feels like to be treated badly. And they don't want others to feel that way.

  • @Fhenia
    @Fhenia 2 года назад +16

    Gigi you should write a book about your life story. Thx for sharing your story.

  • @marythomas8898
    @marythomas8898 2 года назад +27

    I can see the angst in your eyes Gigi! You're so brave & gutsy & your strong resilient character is really a good lesson for your kids to learn life lessons from. I have the utmost respect for you!

  • @genesis1716
    @genesis1716 2 года назад +6

    I was also married to a narcissist and was with him for over twenty years. It was exhausting. Me and the kids were never good enough for him. I tried everything I could to change him. No human being can ever change who he is.

  • @heiders8488
    @heiders8488 2 года назад +58

    I would have loved to hear your mom's story without interruption. She was on the verge of saying important things and she was cut off! Your mom can tell the story best...a wife's perspective.

    • @rsingh9900
      @rsingh9900 2 года назад +2

      The mom want to acknowledge the good parts of her husband. I am a child of alcoholic father. My mother cope with it because she had 8 children to care for. I am more angry than my mother. I understand her point of view also

    • @verlindaallen3335
      @verlindaallen3335 2 года назад +2

      Trauma makes us interact like this will talking about the Trauma. PLEASE try to understand .

    • @heiders8488
      @heiders8488 2 года назад +2

      @@verlindaallen3335 I do understand them so much more now. ...today, I wouldn't make that same post...I spoke too soon..so sorry 💕

  • @heaven-leeneville3156
    @heaven-leeneville3156 2 года назад +85

    Thank you Gigi for bravely opening up about the tender parts of your TESTimony! Lilly, thanks for gently encouraging your beautiful momma to do so! Bless✨

    • @denisemoon9572
      @denisemoon9572 2 года назад +6

      Thank you for sharing your story. Your positive outlook on life and giving God the credit brought tears to my eyes. I’m so glad I found lily’s channel.😊❤

    • @xx2108abc769
      @xx2108abc769 2 года назад +5

      I noticed that, but the time is limited to more questions to be discussed. Lilly needs to bat in or interrupt Mom, otherwise, she wld go on and on, overwhelming sharing the past. Peace out♥️

    • @elizabethmountain525
      @elizabethmountain525 2 года назад +1

      Mom has gorgeous eyes. So soft.

  • @joysmith1213
    @joysmith1213 2 года назад +6

    Happened to me, too, at a young age. They know to get you while your naive. Then you have children and you're stuck. We were married for 12 years and I found a picture of a young girl in the same pose he had me do 12 years prior and he left me with 3 little kids below age of 6 for her. She was 17 years younger. Young and dumb, too. He stopped paying child support and I raised my kids alone for 5 years and then met my soul mate who married me for who I was, strong and resilient now

  • @rebajohnson8035
    @rebajohnson8035 2 года назад +4

    Your mom has the best advice, pray and get out! That's literally all you can do in a relationship with a narcissist.
    They do everything to save their ego, even if it's in the moment

  • @karenfoley2756
    @karenfoley2756 2 года назад +1

    Thanks!

  • @michellelee5163
    @michellelee5163 2 года назад +26

    Your mom is beautiful inside and out. She's wise and so well spoken. I hope she continues to flourish and continues to help those around her. I know she is such a hard worker and her heart is in the right place. Enjoy the journey ladies and remember to continue to help those less fortunate than yourself. Most important to learn from this is... health, mental or physical is not chosen it is part of the way we've been created. Learning to live with empathy, humility and compassion for those we encounter is the journey.

  • @Sharnecau
    @Sharnecau 2 года назад +7

    I have been through it, he was a phyopath.. 10 years of a mental marathon. It's crazy how strong you have to be. Thank you for sharing Gigi

  • @gloriasanmartin3712
    @gloriasanmartin3712 2 года назад +17

    This is about you mother, so please let her to speak.

  • @christinejunk8184
    @christinejunk8184 2 года назад +23

    Gigi I am sure it took a lot of courage to tell us some things about your past. I can only imagine it can help others. Your advice about forgiveness is powerful.

  • @luba1143
    @luba1143 2 года назад +11

    I admire your mom’s resilience while going through such a challenging period in her life in the past. She truly deserves the happiness that she has found in her present relationship with your stepdad!
    Love to watch both of you!!
    ❤️❤️

  • @rhondagirard5472
    @rhondagirard5472 2 года назад +10

    Lilly your mom is such a beautiful soul!!!!!

  • @Gadol_Adonai_196
    @Gadol_Adonai_196 2 года назад +12

    Lilly, .... I surprised Gigi went through all that, I recovering from 21 years of narcissistic abuse.... Thanks for sharing about your struggles, it gives me hope that my story will get better someday....

  • @genevieveculbertson1611
    @genevieveculbertson1611 2 года назад +4

    I have an old good friend who has a husband who is very similar erratic, you never know what he's going to do. Really sad. I hope she figures it out soon before her two kids are affected negatively. She's reached out to me alot but we live far apart. It's hard to know what to say to her over the phone. I feel like she really does need to leave him. But she's gotta make that decision in her own time. God bless you guys! WOW your momma and you Lilly have the same beautiful eyes! Your momma is a warrior!

  • @PhoenixRising-p2v
    @PhoenixRising-p2v 2 года назад +8

    I am so sorry that you had to endure that 😔 💔 you still managed to raise i credible children. Im so happy you met George. He is kind, respectful, positive and so funny! You deserve the world.

  • @Alice-jm4gr
    @Alice-jm4gr 2 года назад +20

    Very sad. I wish Lilly would have let her mom speak without so many interruptions.

  • @wildflower5869
    @wildflower5869 2 года назад +6

    So irritating to see Lily interrupting her mom ever now and then.. I think you should learn to let other talk without interrupting.. you are an amazing woman , Lily so I know you’ll work on this too

  • @eileenraman17
    @eileenraman17 11 месяцев назад +2

    Yes Lily is trying to help her Mum through her story after all she is putting it out to the world
    Well done beautiful Mother, a saint if ever there was one in the world right now. Have a happy third half to your life and family. Enjoyed this story everyone should listen to this it’s the story of many silent Mothers.❤❤

  • @RG-lg3mj
    @RG-lg3mj 2 года назад +9

    Inspiring story. Talking about our traumas help us heal.

  • @trishandrews2773
    @trishandrews2773 2 года назад +14

    I think Lilly meant well but it was difficult with the interruptions.

  • @Kira-kira-sparkles
    @Kira-kira-sparkles 2 года назад +12

    Inspiring story with an important message. I’d love to hear a happy story next about how your mom met her new husband!

    • @lizdahl847
      @lizdahl847 2 года назад +4

      Miss Kay. Great comment. Lets hear a happy story for a change
      Instead of all the doom and gloom from Gigis first husband.

  • @shawnmcquillan3874
    @shawnmcquillan3874 7 месяцев назад +3

    Best comment EVER Gigi, ‘he gave me those 3 beautiful children!’ Amen❤

  • @sharonlyom1458
    @sharonlyom1458 2 года назад +6

    I just want to give your mom a hug, she was brave enough to share her story, even though as she said, she didn't want to. God bless her and George xx

  • @jos1678
    @jos1678 2 года назад +6

    Don’t just make her relate past unhappiness becos u need content. She is an amazing lady. Past is past.

  • @selfesteem3447
    @selfesteem3447 2 года назад +3

    As someone who has benefited from the single MOST healing modality...
    👉 of studying narcissism👈 and studying it extensively, 6 years, and I give myself credit for the 55 years, that I've lived, having a grown up scapegoated in narcissism and with two sisters who turned out to be narcissist AS LEARNING about Narcissism.
    and as a matter of fact my father, deceased, and two sisters are all also, psychopaths,...
    I appreciate you and your mom for being generous, telling us y'all's stuff, telling us about your experience in narcissism. Thank you. Your mom is awesome, love her.
    When your mom says, the narcissist is not going to listen to you. YEP.
    "The Narcissist will NEVER participate in life" ~ Sam Vaknin

  • @jenaya_laila2442
    @jenaya_laila2442 2 года назад +8

    Thank you for sharing GIGI! You are not alone in your experiences! I just got out of a narcissistic relationship after 21 years. I was also 18 when I met him. He was older than me, charismatic and good-looking. I can totally relate to everything GiGi said about the way she was at the beginning and why she married him. I also lost everything in this relationship, my health, several children, friends and money. I also tried to help him and save him with all my strength and even a couple of therapists. In the end, I had to save myself. I am sure I would have died if I had stayed. God saved me. I don't think I could have gotten out and lived if he hadn't saved me. I have been out for 9 months now, and all I want is to heal and start a new life! I am praying to God for a new life and light in my life!

  • @lindadorman2869
    @lindadorman2869 2 года назад +12

    Thank you for sharing your very personal story. I am always amazed at how mothers manage to turn the worst situations into better times for their children. There's a strength, a fortitude that makes them say "I have to make a change for the safety of my children." and do whatever it takes to make it happen. I was truly blessed to have two wonderful, stable parents who raised us well and, at age 62, I'm still grateful every day for the choices (and sacrifices) they made.

  • @ladygoldfinch8945
    @ladygoldfinch8945 2 года назад +1

    Yes, walking away is the best I did. It is never too late to start over when trusting in a higher power and yourself. I was 60 and had faith it will work out and it has. Moving forward with life and living happy and free.

  • @bettymaclennan2000
    @bettymaclennan2000 2 года назад +9

    We never know what other people are dealing with. God bless you Gigi.

  • @susanboddie1120
    @susanboddie1120 2 года назад +2

    I’m married to one. It’s pure hell. You never know who they’ll be from hour to hour.

  • @christineviking1578
    @christineviking1578 2 года назад +8

    That was heavy.. thank you Susan for sharing. My father (RIP) had bi-polar disorder and was very creative and extremely narcissistic during the manic episodes of this disorder. It was like I had 2 fathers, a depressed dad who would hide away and read and the manic dad full of grandiose ideas.
    When Lilly refers to families being cursed with darkness, she is describing what is termed intergenerational trauma.

  • @mimic7848
    @mimic7848 2 года назад +1

    Thank you "Mom" for your openness. My family went through a similar life with our Dad. God heals and delivered me from that. I am a strong Godly woman because of my life. God bless your journey

  • @gigip4417
    @gigip4417 2 года назад +20

    Lilly, you have a mom with a beautiful heart. Try to be like her.

  • @alecram28
    @alecram28 2 года назад +11

    Your mother was exceptional to do this video with you...
    She has helps so many by expressing her history... Tell her I love her and admire Her strength.

  • @gloriabatista8619
    @gloriabatista8619 2 года назад +3

    it's good to tell your story, because so many people are going through the same.

  • @MMOKC-z4x
    @MMOKC-z4x 4 месяца назад

    I’m so sad your sweet mom is no longer here. This popped up on my feed and it made my heart lurch. She was such a force of good and love. I loved her positive energy and her strong faith. Her story is truly inspiring. I know you miss her so very much. We lost our beloved son Hayden (15) in March 2023. I was so devastated and still am. Sending love and prayers from OKC to you all! 💕🙏🏻💕

  • @silviemarksilverstein3031
    @silviemarksilverstein3031 2 года назад +10

    Dear Lilly: Your mom is truly inspiring. Her strength and courage is so admirable. I am very happy to hear that your mom has a blessed life now.🤗🤗

  • @ritarodrigues9946
    @ritarodrigues9946 2 года назад +1

    I just found yr videos. I love yr mom, she is a terrific Lady, so Gracious. No wonder she supported you in your life’s journey.
    Blessings!!

  • @annmariesmith-eakins1327
    @annmariesmith-eakins1327 2 года назад +5

    I’m so happy you shared your story. We all need to hear how God intervene’s. Thank You

  • @Jennie-forever405
    @Jennie-forever405 2 года назад +3

    I am admired your mom, Lily.
    God is good and He’s always good to us.

  • @paulalitinetsky97
    @paulalitinetsky97 2 года назад +8

    A very relatable video! Your mom is awesome.

  • @sunshinemyson
    @sunshinemyson 2 года назад +14

    Thanks to your mom for being so open and honest with her story. We all have dark moments and how she has chosen to live her life inspires us all. We can learn and benefit from each other. Your in my prayers.

  • @JSong2010Alive
    @JSong2010Alive 2 года назад +6

    Lilly...this was Really hard for your Mom to do and I just want her to know that I am so glad she came through all the struggles! I am especially glad that she chose to forgive and mentioned it, because that truly is so important for all of us to do. She is a beautiful lady inside and out! 💖

  • @lesliemiller9345
    @lesliemiller9345 2 года назад +2

    When a person has a story it's their story to tell and yes that's your mom but you can't take the lead in her story you have your own 🙌

  • @treyandreas4934
    @treyandreas4934 2 года назад +7

    I love your mom, SO inspirational, I know she doesn't like to talk about it but it's so important and I love that she can laugh, that's how I get through things as well!! Praise God!

    • @GigiAtGraceAndJoy
      @GigiAtGraceAndJoy 2 года назад

      Thank you so much, Praise God.

    • @treyandreas4934
      @treyandreas4934 2 года назад

      @@GigiAtGraceAndJoy It's you! Haha Looking radiant in Italy safe travels to you all!

  • @HazeleyesCat
    @HazeleyesCat 2 года назад +2

    Gosh your mum has so much strength and gentleness at the same time… her story touched me to the core… after dark times with the help of God we can find good times if we remain good to people. God bless❤

  • @mgmilw4966
    @mgmilw4966 2 года назад +3

    It's Gigi's story to tell and only hers. So sorry for your experience Gigi. May the Lord bless you for the rest of your life.

  • @bel250
    @bel250 2 года назад +2

    Your Mom is amazing...and so are you. You are beautiful as well...She's definitely have a story to tell that we all can learn from...Let her tell her story...

  • @RosemaryOltarzewski
    @RosemaryOltarzewski 8 месяцев назад +3

    Love your sweetheart of a Mother ❤🎉. Bless her on her journey through her illness. ❤ 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

  • @TheLamba444
    @TheLamba444 2 года назад +1

    My children have cut me off from all the lies, except the older two, who know what we were struggling through. Finally starting to regain what I lost, slowly. Please pray for that healing for my family, one daughter who has a tight relationship with her father, does not let me see my grandchildren. I got divorced from him, she was a teenager and did not see what was happening, being married to a covert Narrcissist was the worse experience in my life. I felt as if I was in a dark pit trying to get out.

  • @rebeccalucero3666
    @rebeccalucero3666 2 года назад +3

    Me to, blessed can't even keep up with my blessings having survived lots of dark times, I'm protected by the grace of God 🙌

  • @sissy8563
    @sissy8563 2 года назад +2

    You can tell this is still very very raw for her & for Lilly. I'm sure Gigi was more upset because she knew she was dragging these small babies into all of this craziness and she just wanted them to be safe and comfortable.

  • @user-2911
    @user-2911 2 года назад +6

    Oh my yes
    I understand- our daughter is two yeaRs away from her PhD in psychology because of my spouse I’m crying because I get it. That is all because I don’t like talking about it either so I know I’m validated! THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT THE DEMONIC SPIRITS-a lot of people don’t understand that!

  • @jkolodge
    @jkolodge 2 года назад +2

    Seeing "Narcissist" in the heading of this RUclips made me watch and listen to this immediately. As with many in this world; being married to a Narcissist is not easy to escape from as you become "co-dependent!" I didn't realize what was wrong, just it was hell and I couldn't escape. After years of thinking it might be "me" I kept asking his GP Dr. to help. He didn't and eventually three weeks before my husband died and after years and years of asking for some diagnosis, six week before he died, my husband was diagnosed with Lewy body Dementia. Narcissism and other negative mental behaviors are part of LBD. We need more funds directed into education of LBD and mental health disorders. Doctors obviously don't know much about LBD. I am still recovering from TSD and the problems from living and caring for someone with this illness. Please, when you read this, realize that until you experience living and being married to someone who has this "Narcissic" behavior, you can't just leave!! Life isn't as simple as that!

    • @marpb7005
      @marpb7005 2 года назад

      Pero el que sí lo pueda hacer que no lo dude ni por instante sálvese arranque y váyase de inmediato de esa relación tóxica dañina, sin mirar atrás sin lamentarse y sentirse culpable de nada y establezca un contacto CERO de por vida.
      Planifiquen bien su salida ponga a Dios en su plan y todo saldrá bien. No hay como respirar aire libre de tóxicos estar libre de ese yugo mental espiritual emocional y físico porque usted tiene que amarse primero sobre todas las cosas para poder amar a los demás. El tolerar abusos el sacrificarse por alguien que jamás lo hará por uno son energías y tiempo perdido y estar controlado por el MIEDO todo el tiempo eso nos vida usted vino al mundo para amar y se amada de forma y manera sana, balanceada y correcta y recíproca.
      El narcisismo y la psicopatía es un trastorno de la personalidad y está gente nacieron así no tienen "arreglo" no es como un bipolar un esquizofrénico, un histriónico un borderline un TOC que más o menos se pueden controlar y vivir una vida decente con cierta paz y armonía con sus semejantes pero con tratamiento médico profesional: medicamentos de por vida y terapia de la conducta. Pero estos narcisistas psicópatas no sienten empatía por nada ni nadie no tienen respeto consideración ni agradecimiento, son egocéntricos, manipuladores, mitómanos, controladores, abusadores, viciados, son como vasijas vacías no tienen alma me parece que son demonios encarnados en cuerpos humanos y de esos está lleno este planeta los tienes a la vuelta de la esquina: tus padres, hermanos, vecinos, profesores y compañeros de escuela, compañeros de trabajo, supervisores y jefes, en profesiones como abogados, policías, ejércitos, políticos, dueños corporaciones, la banca, etc. el infierno está vacío porque sus demonios andan sueltos disfrazados de humanos en este planeta y en estos tiempos aún más.

  • @s.harris9691
    @s.harris9691 2 года назад +8

    Lilly thank you for sharing you and your mom’s story with us. I have a lot of respect and admiration for Gigi. She is a courageous and strong woman. I can tell you got your strength and positivity from her. Now in this season of life she can look back, not with regrets but how it has shaped her and her children. God bless you both🙏🏽❤️

  • @anaisabelbermingham
    @anaisabelbermingham 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thank God you made this video.
    You got to show us who your mom really was and I believe she was
    one in a million.
    I feel so bad for all of you.. I can t believe she has left all of us....
    What a beautiful woman inside and out. I"miss. her so much in your vlogs.
    And George..... What a great man she has as a husband....
    Remember, she will be watching over all her family and you will know
    when she is, sending love and prayers to all of you...
    This journey has been so cruel and hearth wrenching ❤❤❤

  • @yestheveganlife
    @yestheveganlife 2 года назад +7

    What a story of your mom God Bless her! I just wish you wouldn't keep interupting her ugh it's her story.

  • @danneeley7248
    @danneeley7248 2 года назад +1

    What a great video. Your mother is a hero. I loved her kind, gentle but incredible strength. Bless you both

  • @NinthJewel
    @NinthJewel 2 года назад +4

    Thank you for sharing , so happy that God blessed you with a new lovely husband

  • @youaremyrefugee
    @youaremyrefugee 2 года назад +2

    I love your mom story and she has beautiful and amazing life now, may Lord continue to bless you and your family grace over grace ❤

  • @kandidkay
    @kandidkay 2 года назад +5

    I loved that your Mom could tell her story and be a living testimony to others. I too was in a bad relationship and am on the other side of it now with my children and grandchildren whom I love dearly. It great to see you have found love again and George is such a great guy so I have hope. Thank you and God bless you.

  • @svetlanab655
    @svetlanab655 2 года назад +14

    Such an important topic, especially in our world today. As we all know there can be a genetic factor with respect to mental illness and I think it is highly commendable that both of you beautiful ladies took the time and effort to step out of your comfort zone and share a very difficult part of your personal life with us. It can at times be so easy to be judgmental toward someone that you know nothing about, as we are all pretty adept at making assumptions. Gigi you are the epitome of Grace and Joy 💜 Lilly I'm proud of you for not being afraid to show your true colors. Sending you both a big hug, much love and many Blessings 🙏 Enjoy every moment of your trip 💖

  • @colleen1770
    @colleen1770 2 года назад +3

    You just told my life story. Thank you, I don't feel so alone.

  • @jaktag
    @jaktag 2 года назад +5

    Your mom is such a lovely lady and a wonderful caring mom,so strong.Thank you for telling us your story.💕x

  • @taenneukom3309
    @taenneukom3309 2 года назад +5

    I love how you two are very positive people. Good inspiration ❤️

  • @tonilevinson8511
    @tonilevinson8511 2 года назад +8

    GiGi and Lilly, Thank you so much for telling your story. I can honestly say thst almost everything discussed in this video was exactly how my Dad lived his almost entire life. He embezzled from family including my husband and bankrupted his elderly parents. I know how hard this was, but I thank you! I think you retelling your experiences will help many of us!

    • @GigiAtGraceAndJoy
      @GigiAtGraceAndJoy 2 года назад

      Thank you for your kind reply. I know many more people have had worse times than me.

  • @margarettownsley9500
    @margarettownsley9500 2 года назад +5

    Thank you Lilly and Susan I can relate to everything you both have said my life has been broken and ripped apart with a full narcissistic family it was terrible only god was my comfort and protector I believe the good lord is not finished with me yet and I’m waiting and ready for his blessings thank you dear sisters in Christ may the good lord continue to bless you both with every good thing

  • @mariantemple2364
    @mariantemple2364 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing, I love that the Lord kept you from bitterness.

  • @lesliesangle
    @lesliesangle 2 года назад +4

    Thanks For Sharing With Us, And I Understand It’s Hard To Talk About, I’ve Got A Closet Full Of Stories That My Mom Put Us Through With Her Men, After My Dad Passed When I Was 5…..Love You Both..

  • @irmarios7957
    @irmarios7957 Год назад +1

    I lived with one as such too Gigi..it was unsafe for me to and I had to leave. I've never hated him though..I was so hurt that we didn't matter..the Lord changed my mourning into dancing...healed all my hurts and to this day I wish him well...

  • @cynthiajohnson6653
    @cynthiajohnson6653 2 года назад +3

    Thank you so much Gigi and Lilly for sharing. I can relate to your story. I am overwhelmed happiness that you got out of this situation. You show how strong willed you are with your mind and strength to move on with your children, no matter what barriers were put in your way. I enjoy watching your channel Lilly and glad everyone in your family is in a better positive place now. Many continious showers of blessings!

  • @maureencopeland5300
    @maureencopeland5300 2 года назад +1

    Thank you, Gigi, for your brave testimony. Your husband was guilty of Domestic Violence. Abusers never change and what happened was not your fault. You are a Survivor! God bless you

  • @aig1111
    @aig1111 2 года назад +5

    Im so glad you and your mum hv trust and faith in God. The one true God who came in flesh to dwell among us. Amen

  • @abeliever7029
    @abeliever7029 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for sharing Lily's mum. Please don't feel you need to share , what you are uncomfortable with. You have achieved quite alot in your life, much deserved. I see were Lily gets her strength from.. You are a strong, driven person, extremely hard working and fair minded. I am not sure, i could have forgiven , had i been in your shoes.

  • @pinkymoon5039
    @pinkymoon5039 2 года назад +8

    You mom reminds me of my own mother. She was abandoned and cheated on by my biological father who was and is still a narcisst. I don't have a relationship with him but I hear he has a bad reputation still all these years later. She went through a lot of heart ache as a young woman in her twenties but luckily met my step dad who is a wonderful man. My mom is also very hard working and many people praise her work ethic. I think it came from her heart ache just like how your mom had to take charge.