I play games on my phone while watching movies, series (the worst because of the binge-ableness), podcasts, or audiobooks. I will do this even when (or because) I have an important deadline looming. When I get to the point where I can put it down, it is a fight to not pick it up again and disappear from my stress. It’s definitely an issue for me.
Right now it's 1:33 am and I am still watching mbti videos. I have a professional call tomorrow which is stressful to me, and the less sleep I get the less I'll be able to handle to call professionally. Yet I keep watching. I very often do this. I also over eat, and I did so today. Thank you for this video
@@natalieencarnacion9113 Hi Natalie, it all turned out well in the end, thank you! And thank you for your understanding. I have noticed that sometimes an intelligence within me, which is beyond or below my conscious thought, puts it in place that i stay up late, before an important meeting, I've noticed that when i am more tired, i am often softer on myself. I thought this was very sweet when I realised this. Maybe I can learn to be softer without having to deprive myself of sleep! But I am grateful for my unconscious intelligence, it knows well.
I usually indulge in overeating and daydreaming, anything to ESCAPE into another world. And it doesn’t take a lot for me to overstress now because I have a habit of holding it all in and I feel like it’s broken my “stress meter”.
Loved this video! Personally I struggle with GRIP stress and this really help me to visualize it better (car analogy was awesome!) My go to sensory things are Food, Loud Music, Cleaning and TV watching/FB scrolling. Looking forward to more videos!
Stephanie N Yes!! I totally relate to the fb scrolling. I had to eliminate social media for a few weeks not long ago so I could reduce my stress. I was overindulging for sure! After I did that I actually started misplacing my phone because I was just using it as a phone hahaha
I have a tendency to binge social media, obsessively clean, and eat a lot LESS when I’m really stressed. I also overindulge in consuming information online and get high from it in a way, but then end up starting to feel really scattered and have to shut it down and take breaks. I’m a wellness coach trained in yoga and meditation so I have a lot of body awareness and a lot of tools I use to stay balanced, but I also stress out easily (Empath and HSP +INFJ) sooo this was very insightful and helpful thank you!
Good talk! When I'm stressed I used to binge drink a couple times a week (almost 2 wks no alcohol now though, yay!). Now I tend to use binge-watching TV and online shopping as a fix...working on it though!!
foxy shizzamm I hear ya! Always a work in progress. Lord knows Amazon makes a ton of money off of me when I binge shop at night. Congrats on the no alcohol! You can do it 🙌🏾
Yes!!! I love your videos, super helpful! I love your analogy of being an INFJ! I binge watch videos, and drink a glass of wine almost every night before bed. It use to be eating.
This just opened my eyes so much as to why I over indulge in things. I use to over eat but it turned into over exercising. I also go throughout cycle when I’m stressed where I’ll simultaneously clean all day and watch RUclips with my AirPods on super super loud (my phone literally gives me a notification saying lower your volume). Thank you 🖤 I never understood why I did this.
Mine is excessively cleaning, daily alcohol consumption, or loafing around doing nothing at all. Mainly the cleaning and organizing. I just thought that was the way I was wired. This is so informative, that you….
Overeating, binge-watching Netflix while cleaning the house every day, overexercising and taking two or three cold showers per day. I may be a bit stressed lately. Oopsi.
i just didnt realize that this behavior are the grip of stress for me as INFJ, i just dont know it was.. because i recently doing it, i tend to ignore all thing coming for me and start to do that habbits...
DN if it's relevant...but this last year I keep trying to excessively control my time (cuz I have none, and I have little control over it), and do everything all at once...or flip to the other extreme, and GET RID OF IT...in the attempt to achieve immediate relief...
The car analogy is🤯. 45 I’m just learning I am INFJ. Very stressed. Internal stress Learning to recognize stress.And not deal with it by falling back on my crutches, eating TV and avoidance. Why is it we are so good with other peoples problems but our own? I liked your coaching very much Your advice is helpful to all INFJ’s including us men. 🙏✌️
Addicted to masturbating, spending money, listening to music, watching RUclips all day especially when I have set boundaries. Back when my grandma passed and my parents were planning to get a divorce, I got obsessed with stealing money to spend it on Trading Cards, gaming, food. What's crazy was that all these things that I do are very robotic, very "out of body". Like my consciousness got kicked out of the body and observe it doing all these things. My conscience kept screaming for attention trying to take back control but my body just kept on indulging. No feelings, no thoughts, no worries for consequences, I just DO IT. It feels good and relaxing at first, but the feelings of tremendous guilt and shame soon overwhelm. A very distorted and "fucked up" way of "living in the moment" I would describe.
I am currently experiencing the "grip". I actaully eat less and will go days without eating. Also, i noticed i will do unnecessary shopping because i usually dont shop unless its out of necessity. I have bought things i dont need only because it felt good to have them. I will also get stuck in a negative thinking loop. Its really bad, almost scary at times. However. I am currently in therapy working through these issues. Hopefully i will overcome this soon.
I wish I’d excessively clean during grip. Usually constant mess is what get me into one and then I just binge watching Netflix and eat tons of carbs and sweet, wanting to die.
I play the piano for learning purposes. I play when I’m stressed, sometimes for hours. I also binge Korean TV series. My stress caused me to get really good at flute in my teenaged years as I would play 3 hours at a time. It’s addicting to let the baby drive because music pulls your focus from the world and allows you to accomplish something at the same time. But my anxiety is progressively getting worse.
Holly Harrison Yes! It’s so tempting and addicting because it’s immediate gratification and a quick fix so unfortunately anxiety and depression creep up on you.
Hi there, I'm an IFNJ, and I found this very helpful. I am useless when it comes to time management at work. I just can't seem to fit everything in one day.. then I get stressed ... And when I get stressed I overdo everything, from eating too much to binge watching 😟 I excel in what I do at work, however feel like I can do so much more be even better if I can just got everything in one day and not run around like a headless chicken. Please help, any tips or advise needed right now.
Beverly Witbooi I can totally relate to that! So stressful. I have a few tips that help me. My first tip is to do block scheduling. This involves working on specific tasks during a specific time. For example: from 9-10am I’m only going to go through and answer email. From 10-11am I’m just writing reports. 11-12 lunch. 12-1 work on presentations. So on and so on. This helps me be truly focused on the specific task and I end up completing more work by not trying to multitask all day. Another tip is to expand block scheduling to days. For example mondays are my admin days so I don’t even try to work on my projects. I just get my email under control and answer questions all day. Tuesday’s I write reports all day etc. my last tip is to take more breaks during the day. I actually get more work done when I stop and run the stairs at work or go for a walk. I come back to my desk with a clear mind and I zoom through my work. And on my way home from work I listen to a playlist I created of music that makes me feel good and I listen to this on my way home from work so when I get home I’m not still stressed and start eating. I also walk my dog longer to help bring my stress down as soon as I get home. I hope these tips help!!
Overeating is my favorite, binging youtube or listening to music non stop is also easy to slip into, but also unfortunately seeking sexual gratification, (I perved at my co-workers like wth) I‘m not premiscious but I will fantasize a lot and god forbid if I‘m ovulating. 🤦🏻♀️
I am in the final two weeks of studying for the bar exam. My family has conflicts. I ate three Pillsbury orange rolls today, which I have never done before. I used to clean when I was stressed, and it helped, but I can't do that anymore because of an auto accident injury. So now, I guess I eat. I'm hoping you have a video on being in a marriage where one's husband repeatedly shuts one down.
Rahab2011 oh no! If the bar exam is the trigger then you will feel much better very soon. Being in school and under all that stress was definitely a trigger for me. What’s your spouses MBTI type? Understanding how his personality can help improve communication and connection.
@@natalieencarnacion9113 He is a very broken INFP. Getting the exam behind me will help, but basically, I am seeing a counselor because he won't, and if we're both mental, our marriage doesn't stand a chance.
Sheila w Aboslutely! Depression is a common symptom of extreme stress along with anxiety. The trick is knowing when you reach a clinical level of depression which I would recommend seeking assistance from a mental health professional to get you to a manageable level. In the past when I have neglected my emotional health for long periods of time I have sought help and received medication and counseling. When I am conscious of what’s going on in my life I have been able to manage and reduce my stress independent of counseling and medication. It’s also important to know the source of your depression (chemical imbalance vs. lifestyle). I hope this helps! Let me know if you want to discuss further.
This is so accurate. I never understood why I am the way I am until I discovered I’m an INFJ. My stress levels have been building up and I’ve been binge eating then flipped to cleaning non stop. I procrastinate, lose all concentration and try to do anything externally to avoid being stuck in my head. Thank you so much for allowing me to understand why I do this ❤️
I play games on my phone while watching movies, series (the worst because of the binge-ableness), podcasts, or audiobooks. I will do this even when (or because) I have an important deadline looming. When I get to the point where I can put it down, it is a fight to not pick it up again and disappear from my stress. It’s definitely an issue for me.
Gosh this is my problem too!
Me sometimes too.
Or IS IT? You will find your way, organically.
Like all INFJs, you came, you made your mark, and you disappeared…much love to you, from your brethren. -INFJ woman
Right now it's 1:33 am and I am still watching mbti videos. I have a professional call tomorrow which is stressful to me, and the less sleep I get the less I'll be able to handle to call professionally. Yet I keep watching. I very often do this. I also over eat, and I did so today. Thank you for this video
Isolde Buí I know the feeling! Hang in there. I hope the call went well 💖
@@natalieencarnacion9113 Hi Natalie, it all turned out well in the end, thank you! And thank you for your understanding. I have noticed that sometimes an intelligence within me, which is beyond or below my conscious thought, puts it in place that i stay up late, before an important meeting, I've noticed that when i am more tired, i am often softer on myself. I thought this was very sweet when I realised this. Maybe I can learn to be softer without having to deprive myself of sleep! But I am grateful for my unconscious intelligence, it knows well.
Isolde Buí I’m so glad!!
Funny I was watching this at 3:31 today, cue twilight zone music lol
I usually indulge in overeating and daydreaming, anything to ESCAPE into another world. And it doesn’t take a lot for me to overstress now because I have a habit of holding it all in and I feel like it’s broken my “stress meter”.
Loved this video! Personally I struggle with GRIP stress and this really help me to visualize it better (car analogy was awesome!)
My go to sensory things are Food, Loud Music, Cleaning and TV watching/FB scrolling.
Looking forward to more videos!
Stephanie N Yes!! I totally relate to the fb scrolling. I had to eliminate social media for a few weeks not long ago so I could reduce my stress. I was overindulging for sure! After I did that I actually started misplacing my phone because I was just using it as a phone hahaha
I have a tendency to binge social media, obsessively clean, and eat a lot LESS when I’m really stressed. I also overindulge in consuming information online and get high from it in a way, but then end up starting to feel really scattered and have to shut it down and take breaks. I’m a wellness coach trained in yoga and meditation so I have a lot of body awareness and a lot of tools I use to stay balanced, but I also stress out easily (Empath and HSP +INFJ) sooo this was very insightful and helpful thank you!
Wow just found your channel first video- I love it
Infj here! Glad I found your RUclips account ! 💕
Whitney Perez Welcome fellow INFJ!
Good talk! When I'm stressed I used to binge drink a couple times a week (almost 2 wks no alcohol now though, yay!). Now I tend to use binge-watching TV and online shopping as a fix...working on it though!!
foxy shizzamm I hear ya! Always a work in progress. Lord knows Amazon makes a ton of money off of me when I binge shop at night. Congrats on the no alcohol! You can do it 🙌🏾
Yes!!! I love your videos, super helpful! I love your analogy of being an INFJ! I binge watch videos, and drink a glass of wine almost every night before bed. It use to be eating.
This just opened my eyes so much as to why I over indulge in things. I use to over eat but it turned into over exercising. I also go throughout cycle when I’m stressed where I’ll simultaneously clean all day and watch RUclips with my AirPods on super super loud (my phone literally gives me a notification saying lower your volume). Thank you 🖤 I never understood why I did this.
Mine is excessively cleaning, daily alcohol consumption, or loafing around doing nothing at all. Mainly the cleaning and organizing. I just thought that was the way I was wired. This is so informative, that you….
Yup. I overeat and overindulge in TV shows, youtube, music etc.
Wonderful video
I love this picture 😊🚗
Overeating, binge-watching Netflix while cleaning the house every day, overexercising and taking two or three cold showers per day. I may be a bit stressed lately. Oopsi.
i just didnt realize that this behavior are the grip of stress for me as INFJ, i just dont know it was..
because i recently doing it, i tend to ignore all thing coming for me and start to do that habbits...
overeating, binge playing video games, making plans impulsively, walking for miles kendksnsksj
DN if it's relevant...but this last year I keep trying to excessively control my time (cuz I have none, and I have little control over it), and do everything all at once...or flip to the other extreme, and GET RID OF IT...in the attempt to achieve immediate relief...
The car analogy is🤯. 45 I’m just learning I am INFJ. Very stressed. Internal stress Learning to recognize stress.And not deal with it by falling back on my crutches, eating TV and avoidance. Why is it we are so good with other peoples problems but our own? I liked your coaching very much Your advice is helpful to all INFJ’s including us men. 🙏✌️
Addicted to masturbating, spending money, listening to music, watching RUclips all day especially when I have set boundaries. Back when my grandma passed and my parents were planning to get a divorce, I got obsessed with stealing money to spend it on Trading Cards, gaming, food. What's crazy was that all these things that I do are very robotic, very "out of body". Like my consciousness got kicked out of the body and observe it doing all these things. My conscience kept screaming for attention trying to take back control but my body just kept on indulging. No feelings, no thoughts, no worries for consequences, I just DO IT. It feels good and relaxing at first, but the feelings of tremendous guilt and shame soon overwhelm. A very distorted and "fucked up" way of "living in the moment" I would describe.
Thank you
From a sigma infj_t male
I am currently experiencing the "grip". I actaully eat less and will go days without eating. Also, i noticed i will do unnecessary shopping because i usually dont shop unless its out of necessity. I have bought things i dont need only because it felt good to have them. I will also get stuck in a negative thinking loop. Its really bad, almost scary at times. However. I am currently in therapy working through these issues. Hopefully i will overcome this soon.
I wish I’d excessively clean during grip. Usually constant mess is what get me into one and then I just binge watching Netflix and eat tons of carbs and sweet, wanting to die.
I would love to hear ENFP!!!
Bummer you’re not more videos:(
I play the piano for learning purposes. I play when I’m stressed, sometimes for hours. I also binge Korean TV series. My stress caused me to get really good at flute in my teenaged years as I would play 3 hours at a time. It’s addicting to let the baby drive because music pulls your focus from the world and allows you to accomplish something at the same time. But my anxiety is progressively getting worse.
Holly Harrison Yes! It’s so tempting and addicting because it’s immediate gratification and a quick fix so unfortunately anxiety and depression creep up on you.
Hi there, I'm an IFNJ, and I found this very helpful. I am useless when it comes to time management at work. I just can't seem to fit everything in one day.. then I get stressed ... And when I get stressed I overdo everything, from eating too much to binge watching 😟 I excel in what I do at work, however feel like I can do so much more be even better if I can just got everything in one day and not run around like a headless chicken. Please help, any tips or advise needed right now.
Beverly Witbooi I can totally relate to that! So stressful. I have a few tips that help me. My first tip is to do block scheduling. This involves working on specific tasks during a specific time. For example: from 9-10am I’m only going to go through and answer email. From 10-11am I’m just writing reports. 11-12 lunch. 12-1 work on presentations. So on and so on. This helps me be truly focused on the specific task and I end up completing more work by not trying to multitask all day. Another tip is to expand block scheduling to days. For example mondays are my admin days so I don’t even try to work on my projects. I just get my email under control and answer questions all day. Tuesday’s I write reports all day etc. my last tip is to take more breaks during the day. I actually get more work done when I stop and run the stairs at work or go for a walk. I come back to my desk with a clear mind and I zoom through my work. And on my way home from work I listen to a playlist I created of music that makes me feel good and I listen to this on my way home from work so when I get home I’m not still stressed and start eating. I also walk my dog longer to help bring my stress down as soon as I get home. I hope these tips help!!
@@natalieencarnacion9113 thank you so much I will definitely try this out🙂
Overeating is my favorite, binging youtube or listening to music non stop is also easy to slip into, but also unfortunately seeking sexual gratification, (I perved at my co-workers like wth) I‘m not premiscious but I will fantasize a lot and god forbid if I‘m ovulating. 🤦🏻♀️
Where did you get your certification? I want to get mine
I am in the final two weeks of studying for the bar exam. My family has conflicts. I ate three Pillsbury orange rolls today, which I have never done before. I used to clean when I was stressed, and it helped, but I can't do that anymore because of an auto accident injury. So now, I guess I eat.
I'm hoping you have a video on being in a marriage where one's husband repeatedly shuts one down.
Rahab2011 oh no! If the bar exam is the trigger then you will feel much better very soon. Being in school and under all that stress was definitely a trigger for me. What’s your spouses MBTI type? Understanding how his personality can help improve communication and connection.
@@natalieencarnacion9113 He is a very broken INFP. Getting the exam behind me will help, but basically, I am seeing a counselor because he won't, and if we're both mental, our marriage doesn't stand a chance.
My INFJ mother excessively cleans
Does this apply to depression as well as stress? Do we use se when depressed?
Sheila w Aboslutely! Depression is a common symptom of extreme stress along with anxiety. The trick is knowing when you reach a clinical level of depression which I would recommend seeking assistance from a mental health professional to get you to a manageable level. In the past when I have neglected my emotional health for long periods of time I have sought help and received medication and counseling. When I am conscious of what’s going on in my life I have been able to manage and reduce my stress independent of counseling and medication. It’s also important to know the source of your depression (chemical imbalance vs. lifestyle). I hope this helps! Let me know if you want to discuss further.
Besides the normal things we do, it has boiled down to sex.
chocolate, alcohol, binge watching (WISH I'D "excessively cleaning")
This is so accurate. I never understood why I am the way I am until I discovered I’m an INFJ. My stress levels have been building up and I’ve been binge eating then flipped to cleaning non stop. I procrastinate, lose all concentration and try to do anything externally to avoid being stuck in my head. Thank you so much for allowing me to understand why I do this ❤️
Over eating, too much Netflix and Anime, Porn too. Just a mess.