Why Narcissists Refuse to Back Down - And What They Do To Punish You
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A skilled narcissist can send you to hell, especially if you fall in love. The mental torture can be worse than physical scars and there's nothing to see.
You got that right! And a lot of them do commit homicides.
They know what they are doing. Lies and harming others works for them.
100% true
Hell yeah, i m just there and still loving her. Madness
@@holeef...v2994 its does get easier once you get your head around what she was all about.
My covert narc husband went secretly behind my back to every one of my siblings, went on dinner dates with my sister, and covertly told all of them and our friends that I am 100% insane and that I am an abuser. They flip the narrative and keep you from knowing…until of course, they need to aim their cannon of hurt and betrayal at you so they can enjoy the explosion of pain on your face, in your eyes, and in your world. A covert narcissist will set bombs off in your life because they feel interminable, deep, pervasive shame and cannot respond to human beings in any way besides on a 3-7 year old emotional level. Always, always, always they “did not do it.” Gaslight, gaslight, aaaaaaand gaslight. I partner with myself now. II haven’t stopped trusting. No! I just trust myself that what happened right in front of me is real and I can trust myself. My heart is with you if you’re also trying to survive the narc’s behavior. ❤️
Explosions cannons and bombs is exactly right. I have stepped on many of their land mines. Yes, while they are peeking from behind a tree. They will show up to get a closer look at your grimacing and pretend to care.
You are a strong lady. My sister married to a narcissist. Going on to eight years she still thinks he is prince charming. I on the other hand am an ogre the cruel ungrateful stupid sister. Unfortunately living with them in my parents house 😢. Not financially stable so can't move out. Was just sitting here thinking am crazy he can't be a narc. Weird how is it that the wife is treated so well when she is usually the one who sees behind the mask and family fooled. Guess this narc is playing a different game or maybe he likes causing rifts between us.
My Covert mother had emotional landmines throughout our family home. It has taken me two years to get most of it cleaned out. Every time I start cleaning out a room, it sets me back (emotionally & mentally) months. I feel like one more thing of mine is gone and I will just lose it! Seriously, even in death, she is still hurting me! I feel so helpless! I just found out a few months back she threw away most of my personal pictures...it never stops!😢
I believe you as I am going through this 👍
They are beyond evil. Imagine living life like that, looking to cause so much harm to someone. Their smears can never be taken back.
As a child I did not understand my passive aggressive family. I would sometimes lash out in anger and confusion against it. Then I was severely punished for my anger. Awful.
This is why, for the most part, I feel they know what they’re doing. Either that or I’m an utterly un-strategic dunce. Because what they’re trying to do is multifaceted. They’re holding a grudge, while trying to appear like, “It’s all good and they’re all good”, so you let you guard completely down and so you and others never see a strike coming and may never know from whence it came. This also helps them get away with a perpetual, multi-strike offense, which never stops. The effect is that it can bloody their target, emotionally, psychologically, socially, financially and permanently, for what have merely been an unintended or perceived slight, that the victim doesn’t even know to apologize for or shy away from, if that was even deserved, in the first place.
My Covert mother would throw away my stuff every chance she got. She even stole things from me and then helped me look for them. I wished I had this information years ago. She threw away all our family photos, my personal photos, half of my shoe collection and so much more all awhile telling me that she loved me. Come to figure out, she punished me for just being. born. No one seemed to see the abuse she did to me...not even me for a long time. She definitely punished me for things I didn't know I did. By time I did there was no way out. People thought of her as a good person, but all I see is the monster who caused me so much pain. I should've never came back home. Now, she is dead and my house is filled with "Emotional landmines." She couldn't punsh me enough. It never occurred to me that she hated me:(
I think Coverts are the worst & the most dangerous because you never see them coming & you never know what they are really up to.
True that I am sorry for what you have been through
@@zakithiganyaza5525 Thank you❤️
@@mday3821 I am also! 😔 It’s time for you to heal now. You deserve to be healthy and happy and at peace with God and with yourself. YOU were not a mistake. You were meant to be here, or you wouldn’t be. GOD makes these choices ... not us! 🥰
@@onlyhis5870 Thank you. God bless you.❣️💞
Narcissists seem to NEED to have someone to torment, in the same way that they NEED to have their egos constantly stroked…to be able to get through every, single day of their codependent, needy lives. They can not cope with feeling the least bit slighted by anyone, while at the same time…they are constantly holding grudges and being childishly vindictive towards those they feel have slighted them…and believe their own vindictive actions should be accepted and forgiven, to feed their sense of superiority and power. So twisted.
Silent treatment, breadcrumbs of interest given . They’re only ever interested in being seen as someone who is really good , without any form of nastiness. However we have to be aware of the fact that the majority of their manipulative silence and and control is one of the most evil and destructive forms of their behaviour. Please do your best to ………Run 🏃🏼♀️ 🙏🏼
I can run, but what about my son? They are sneaky, so mask fall after birth, when she got me on the hook.
@@holeef...v2994
I’m so sorry to see you going through this …🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@christinethornhill thank you, i ll do my best
@@holeef...v2994 ❤️
IF they KNOW what they are doing and want to be seen as good people then why fake it...just do things good ppl do...like fake that and they will be seen how they want to be seen..🤔.their minds are really damaged
This information is priceless. Even not currently being in a toxic relationship is so good to look back and get more understanding.
As always, Thanks again, Clarice!
Yes good
I second this! Very grateful for the info. Thank you! 🙏🏼
Everything right there 💯! 30yrs in 6mths out! Thank you Lord
They never forget or forgive. Ever!
My husband's narcissistic SIL uses this tactic with me. I've come to the conclusion that I bring out her insecurities, and she's no longer the only daughter-in-law gaining attention, therefore she chooses not to acknowledge my presence in order to remain "on top/in control". But I choose to enjoy her silence because when she does speak to others, she either dominates/controls the conversation, tells a sob story, or makes passive-aggressive jokes/remarks. (Need I mention her husband can't even speak for himself in her presence.) I find her extremely annoying and would rather interact with someone else.
Theyre far too fragile to back down or admit theyre wrong sometimes. Also that would make them human and capable of errors like the rest of us.
Yes. With my second husband. He was able to drive me to show beautiful places around his country side, and say nothing. Or just words. And he was able to get aout the bed without any touch, eye contact. He maximised this after our marriage. He ghosted me 5 month later despite we use to work together before the martiage 2,5 years. I did not see him for 9,5 years and can not devorce. No reactions. He is american and I am hungarian.
I wrote him letters. Only one response: he want my to pay the half of the devorce costs. He was always in the middle, also in my family. He lost his family in past in car accident. And her mom abused him for decades. After watching many ofthese videos, I am glad that we did not continue this relationship. Still ghosting. I felt like an omen this in my life. A famuse doctor but covert narci.
Because They Don't Got A Life
They do maintain grudges forever and sauced with
passive aggressive tactics😕
Narcissist Ain't Gonna Catch Me
The nex would always talk about how his coworkers were two faced-he was talking about himself 😂😂😂
Yes, I am a victim, have been a victim throughout my few years of marriage!!
Ooof they all did that to me, acted like things were okay with me when they really were not even when I initiated the tough talk
Yes I have. Big Time! My immediate neighbors that work in unison.
They are very Envious People. I brought a New Car two years ago, a couple of months later, my car was keyed on the Driver's side. Until this Day, I believe that my Husband did it.
How does it make sense for anyone to willingly opt to be harming others (or enjoying when others suffer) rather than improving their own lives?
Is it because they are unwilling or unable to improve their own lives?
Do you get pleasure out of helping somebody out? Do you feel a sense of human community or brotherly love?
They don’t. They have too much internal: jealousy, hate, selfishness, entitlement and an inferiority complex overcompensated with a superiority complex.
They squash down their empathy and guilt in order to be able to do whatever it takes to win, get what they want or come first. They are so used to this mindset that when you ( the object, like a toaster ) don’t work right, they start to react in I’ll-mannered ways. That’s what’s going on. Their brains don’t work right.
@@bonnielee316 Spot on!
@@bonnielee316 Right, I guess their mindset amounts to this question:
What I can get or extract from this situation or person to my (and only my) benefit?
@tombyddy100,
That leans more towards psychopathy or Machiavellism. Narcissists have a problem with their ego. They have an inferiority complex that they over compensate with a superiority complex. They, somehow, put themselves into a delusion where they think that they are god. A god-like complex. And they are forever trying to not have this bubble burst or delusion break. That’s why they get angry at you.
They, the narcissist/psychopath, are bullies. They get a type of sadistic pleasure beating you down to rise themselves up. You must stay inferior and they superior. They beat you up physically and or mentally for that reason and for pleasure. They feel much better about themselves after they do it.
So they know what they do is wrong. Have you ever heard of the saying that the husband has a bad day at work so he goes home and kicks the dog or yells at the wife? Yeah, pretty much, that’s what they’re doing. Somebody has to pay and it’s going to be their nearest and dearests behind closed doors where nobody will see. They are literally righting wrongs this way because they lack empathy, humility, guilt, remorse or a conscience. The closer that they are to narcissism, than psychopathy, they can feel embarrassed and they hate that feeling and will do anything to avoid it. Hence. More of the NPD ( narcissistic personality disorder) playbook antics.
@@bonnielee316 Well explained.
So, there are overlaps between narcissist and psychopath, but narcissists are more concerned and scared of being embarrassed and called out for their behavior.
That is why they tend to abuse people closest to them, because the less witnesses the better. As least that is how they see it.
Basically Narcissists are angry people. They’re angry with the past and the abuses they suffered as children.
Now they are determined never to back down again.
As far as I know, they tell you what you did wrong with great satisfaction, rather than pretend you didn’t hurt them. They tell you they are over it now because they are such saints . But inside they never forgive or forget.
I had such a wicked cruel one in my life for years, proud to say if she were drowning I would not lend a hand! I would walk away laughing at her!!!
Yes
I was in love with this girl who was an alcoholic and a narcissist they both don't mix well, as sometimes use alcoholic to make it worse, or after affects of alcohol, would change her, and family issue like difficult daughter, her ex calling her ugly after breakup, money problems, tell me to go after another woman that was 5 years
I was upset when she gave me a second chance a break up using me for sex for 3 seeing someone at the time as me then denies anything happen with me and her, then saying don't text much, after realising after 3 years we are just friends, so instead of giving me a reason she lied, she als said she only wants me and noone else, don't want to lose me now I'm heartbroken
OoOH! YESSS!
Thank you 🙏 Clarice. My brother would basically threaten me and my family if we refused to comply with his manipulations. We even had to call the Police 👮♀️ on him once. Did you take your kids to see the movie 🍿 Cars 🚗 way back in the day? What do you think of the movie cars 🚗?
I didn't have children yet when that movie came out. But they have seen it. Yes have seen a few of them. Very selective of what my children watch but those 2 and Planes were ok.
Hi clarice with respect ,can you explain me in detail, narc are driven to crave what is dark and negative, u have used in passive aggressive behaviours episode.
They thrive on negativity and love chaos. They hate peaceful situations and crave continious confusion. For e.g they refuse to answer a yes or no question with just yes or no. Instead they will cause an argument by claiming you said something you didn't say, mean or do. They refuse to let things run smoothly. Their goal is to derail everything that is bringing positivity.
@@asset23libu36 Yes, they pretend they misunderstood something you tell them, and believe you fell for it.
But if such tactics fails, and they are cornered to come clean, they instead lash out accusing you of asking provocative questions or mistreating them.
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@@tombuddy100 So true
Haha yes I was accused of interrogating and asking probing questions
You just described so many of my family members. I am so grateful to be the black sheep. 🙏🏼❤️♾️🫀🧠💪😊
To me all they are all emotinless souls empty inside just pretending
With Trump so prominent in the headlines, we are all victims of a malignant narcissist.
Why Trump again