5 Signs You Should Consider Therapy
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- Опубликовано: 7 июл 2024
- Is your mental health taking time for the worse? Have you been experiencing self destructive thoughts or habits? Do you feel you have no more control over your thoughts? Maybe it's time to consider trying therapy. Although therapy often has a social stigma, we encourage the Psych2Go community to recognize that therapy can improve life for us all. Psych2Go is a platform to help reduce the stigma associated with mental health problems. Sometimes, to do that, we ourselves have to be willing to take the first step towards therapy ourselves. There are many free resources online and offline out there too if we take the time to look for them.
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What's holding you back from trying therapy?
Money.
Not trusting them or anybody
not sure if i really need it and I might waste money
Unfortunaly I can't open up
My family
I simply cannot genuinely open up to people I don’t know. I can barely do it with people I do know 😂 exercising, eating well, making sleep a priority, and not drinking have all helped me immensely.
Same I don’t know how to and don’t like opening up to people and if I do I regret it immediately , like what do they have to do with what’s happening to me why should I annoy them with my problems while they might have much more important things
It’s understandable that some people have difficulties opening up to anyone, especially strangers, but whatever issues you have they are real and deserve attention just as much as anyone else. You are not a burden or annoyance.
@@Zexor27 It might be feel weird the first time. But often it really helps. Everything you tell them is completely private. Everybody's issues are important. There doesn't need to be huge things. I think it is better go when there isn't even huge things. I mean some people go just to know themselves better.
When you get used to it, I think it is much easier than with people you know.
same i got shit on for opening up never again lmao
1:16 - You experience uncontrollable Sadness or Anger
1:54 - You're engaging in ADDICTIVE or SELF DESTRUCTIVE behaviors
2:53 - There's a DISCONNECT between your "outer world" and "inner world"
3:22 - Your relationships are SUFFERING
4:00 - You feel like you don't have control of your THOUGHTS
i have all of those for the past 4 years
I came to a point in high school where I had all these and was eventually brought into treatment/therapy.
Bro it's literally me 👁️
But I doubt I need therapy
@@survivor7061 everyone needs therapy, it's recommended for everyone
This defines me. I know i need therapy. But sadly i cant afford it:(
I've always wanted, and most importantly, NEEDED therapy, but who said health care is free? Here in our country it's HELLA expensive, with even fewer therapists because people can't afford it, which makes it more expensive because there's less help in the industry, sounds stupid coming from an 18 yrs old, but I'm guessing me pushing everyone away and asking if either I'm too out-going or if people are UNAPPROACHABLE, isn't normal
I'd suggest (cautiously) that it depends on how you exactly seem to push people away... Is it "over-sharing"??? OR do you actively lash out at someone for probing too much or being too curious???
In conversations, as we try to build on relationships, there's frequently an imbalance of interests between any two people at any point in time. That's just how humans are, because each one is a relatively unique individual, with his or her own concerns, issues, and problems. There are things that I don't even necessarily want to know about a "casual acquaintance" simply because I haven't known them long enough to become that "close" as it were...
We can also (just as easily) get a bit too curious or concerned for our own good... I've been at both ends of the spectrum. You are about right with the thought that pushing folks away and then deciding they're unapproachable isn't entirely "normal" but it's not always necessarily toxic either... You're just figuring out your way to navigate and negotiate this weird and complicated interaction and social process thing, from casual conversations with strangers to the deep, time-lost process of truly interpersonal sharing between true and close friends and family.
Figuring out how to rate any given friendship or other relationship involves trial and error and a lot of discovery, both realizing that someone considers you more important than you thought and finding out when someone doesn't really have a value on your friendship like you'd originally guessed... or hoped.
AND yes, some kind of counseling or help with that would be WONDERFUL, especially if it wasn't so g** d*** expensive... BUT... well... here we are. Aren't we? ;o)
Well, it isn't that bad, for me it's all about just man up and stop relying on people, because I have no time for complaining to stranger for money, I need to work and train.
For you probably bettering at something you like and trying to avoid bad habits dealing more with troubles than people, it's hard but worth a try, and there is no shame in taking a break when there is no forces left.
Self help is quite free.
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 I mean, like, yeah like I have an anger issue and that it seems like I really REALLY like arguing, especially about how I dislike religion, and because almost everyone around me(because my country is still quite primitive and is late in everything) is religious and are homophobic and sexist they most certainly will argue back
But that's just one piece, this is the most accurate I can explain this, I talk to people to much and they would then stop replying, LITERALLY this has happened to me so many times, people would act so open and all goody the first time around even if we don't encounter the problems I've stated they would somewhy ignore me, FOR. FUCKS. SAKE.
@@fumetsu4323 yeah, toxic masculinity is all over my country too, with double standards people really are sexist here I hate it
But I mean yeah I just help myself out, that's why I'm trying to be a yt animator, so people would shut up about me being useless and such
@@TheNegative69 which particularly? I am in Russia.
Well I wouldn't call it toxic, in the end its geniusly simple to take destiny in your hands and carry on, what I wouldn't tell about relaxing at every day off, earning a big fat belly and multiple chin.
To be honest I am related to anger recently as well, but it's more about physical approach, so training should hold me back from ruining my future, despite cause of all the troubles are hypocrite people, not my behavior.
I am in therapy. I was in high functioning depression and anxiety thinking too much about the past when times were good. I hit a breaking point and found a therapist that is perfect for me. I've been going for two years and it has been life changing. She has taught me coping skills and worked through trauma in my childhood I have kept for far too long. I only wish I had started therapy sooner. Please, if you need help, get it. It will make you life better.
no one can help me and I should just comment suicide what if my therapist does't help me no one knows that I am depressed and suicidal and it's so easy to just hide behind a mask and then no one will know
@free2think I am in so much pain
@free2think As I said in my post, "I found a therapist that is perfect for me." The first therapist you see may not be a good fit, so keep looking. When you find the right one, it will make your life better.
How do I ask though? My parents would want me to “talk it out with them” and I don’t wanna do that plus, my cousin has anxiety and depression and sometimes I get mad when she can’t come over for a whole family dinner so my parent’s’ll think i’m attention seeking
@@Ja7nD03 the only way I can get therapy is to tell my parents I need one but I am too scared
Here's the thing though...
This video paints a romantic vision of therapy, where every outcome is always positive or productive. Where, in truth, a multitude of factors could result in therapy making you either no better or even worse off:
1. Bad therapists, this is the obvious one, your therapist either doesn't understand your situation, uses destructive techniques or goes round in circles. Depending on the institution, they could even be threatening by requesting institutionalisation.
2. Money/Lack of coverage. Not everyone has the luxury of affording a therapist and the ones that do may question if such a venture is even worthwhile financially. Most nations, even first world nations have grossly underfunded/understaffed mental health services that make accessing therapy difficult if not impossible.
3. External Factors. Not everything is your fault, and sometimes you ACTUALLY can't do anything about it: Maybe you live in a place where public areas don't exist, maybe you live in an abusive household that refuses to allow you to leave, maybe there's a greater societal bias against you that makes confrontation an unwinnable situation. A therapist could identify a problem, but can't give a solution.
Please, please, PLEASE don't ignore this message, Psych2Go, you can't solve every mental health problem with the therapy card and I really recommend making a "5 signs you should NOT consider therapy" video.
I AGREE!! specially abt the first one...actually all. this video actually makes me cringe and im thankful you said what you said
No, the video is fine, it’s just that they should make another video about it just like Spearka said. Because I’m really starting to get that “pink glasses” feeling from psych2go too nowadays.
It looks just very oversimplified, guys at psych2go should make videos about coping with the situation if you can’t do anything about it at the moment or something similar to that.
Not everything is that simple as psych2go tries to imply, so yeah I heavily agree with your comment, Spearka
Couldn’t agree with you more.
That's why u should not choose a therapist randomly,
Doing a research on the person u r choosing is important
If u go to insta, u may see many therapist spreading positivity but only few are really good in their profession
Not every mental health problem can be solved by therapy, i agree, some need to meet psychologist or some need medication and for that u need to meet psychiatrist
U may feel like its cringey to meet a professional rn, but when the condition gets worst u would feel meserable
I am not a therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist
But as a person who is suffering the consequences of thinking similarity like how u did, i just want to tell u this
Psych2Go cannot make a video that will target each and every person in the world. It's our decision as viewers to take things with a pinch of salt.
Yes therapy does not solve everything. But there are chances where people think that therapy can't solve anything, but in reality it actually does help them.
The most important thing for us viewers is to try out these advices. It wont always work, but that's better than not getting any help at all.
I’ve been so mentally down recently. I can’t get out of bed easily, I feel miserable after eating 2 meals. I feel so mentally null. But good enough, I’m getting therapy. Today I’m going to talk to my new therapist to elaborate about what I want to achieve. I hope you guys one day cna all get the help you need, and if you cant, just hold on, i believe in you, i’m proud of you for already getting this far. have a good day/night
My wife, she needs therapy, I begged and pleaded to her to try therapy and she rather chose to divorce me. I am going through therapy myself to understand her behavior and temperament in her difficult time since she started behaving distant. It will be a year now in August, therapy is essential for your mental hygiene, I learnt so much. Thank you, Psych2go. You're one of the key reasons I am more aware of the mental health issues.
5 signs you NEED therapy
1: 1:20 You experience uncontrollable sadness or anger
2: 1:55 You're engaging in addictive or self destructive behaviors
3: 2:55 There's a disconnect between your "outer world" and your "inner world"
4: 3:24 Your relationships are suffering
5: 4:01 You feel like you don't have control over your thoughts
Unfortunately I suffer from all of these
Il get one soon… i need
'What comes to mind when you think about therapy?'
Me: Money..
Yes
Before I was not accepting the fact that I need therapy but after watching your videos I realised I should take it and that was the best decision of my life.
Thanks Psych2Go
I had my doubts but after I almost went over the edge May 2021 I decided to seek therapy. I may not have missed too well with my first counselor but after doing a little bit of digging I found one that really gets me thinking it has helped me achieve some of the goals I’ve set for myself. I know it’s scary to open up to a stranger but these people are true professionals and most know what they’re doing.
Believe me it does help.
@free2think My therapist is a professional. I trust him and he never pushes any beliefs on me
@Itachi sometimes you just have to keep looking or talk to a doctor about these. There’s all sorts of medication‘s and methods used to help treat depression. Even man I need someone who you generally trust I’m just talking to them can help give you some insight.
Incredible person who is reading this. Want to let you know that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Blessings upon blessings come to you daily. Everything you need it’s on its way to you! Be ready to receive! You are healthy. You are strong. You are capable. True wealth is coming for you. You are blessed beyond measure. You are loved so much by many. Receive this TRUTH! Bless you always with everything great you deserve. You are greatness! ~❤️Nat
I was like this. Prayer, my father's support, the right meds, a good job, and socializing more helped me. It was a process that continues.
You are so lucky that you have a supportive father 🙂
@@immadison1751 Thank you. It does help more than I can say. I wish you strength and happiness.
My sister framed me for 7 years during my childhood. My parents didn't believe me which only reinforced her behavior. My parents sent me to see a therapist who also didn't beleive my side of the story. My only option was to lie my way through therapy. I know i need a therapist to get through the trauma this has caused me that has lingered for the past 23 years, but due to my past experience i can't bring myself to trust a therapist.
I love therapy, I can say anything and I don't get judged
I really really wish I could go to therapy. But a massive reason I'm so broken is because of therapy itself.
Last time I almost went to a session, I cancelled last minute and almost drank myself to death.
I so want help, but I can't do it.
same, went to 2 counsellors and both are pathetic and unbothered, felt humiliated everytime i exited the counselling room, but then (though i hate to say this cause im pretty mad at counselling now) the first step is always the hardest, and slowly sessions after sessions of counselling i became happier, but if you feel like your therapist is shitty find another one. it was also nerve-wrecking for me when i first went, since its school's one i was a first year and didn't know much and just barged in to the counselling room like some hooligan while the counsellor was eating her lunch so...
I would encourage you to find a close friend who you trust and who would be willing to listen to you. Or find someone with more life experience who has gone through whatever you are going through. Therapy isn't the end all be all. There is something special and healing about sharing your heart with a peer or someone who is, more or less, on equal footing. They can be there for you in ways that therapists can't. I thought therapy was my ticket to getting better, but in the end, it almost cost me my life, and I feel the repercussions of going to therapy to this day.
You've got what it takes to heal, to move on, to grow, already inside of you. I wish you the very best!
I definitely need therapy after watching this. 4 out of 5 of these signs I have. Ive boxed myself in for over 10yrs and not knowing how many years has passed. I missed out on so much of myself because of my own negative inner thoughts. I should of been seek therapy years ago and now I dont know if its too late. I lost my girlfriend my mom my family and even myself. Im in a very dark space right now and dont know how I even got here. Now I have heart problems along with waking up and going to sleep crying. I stay alone and have no true friends, i believe thats what making it worse. I pray multiple times a day and struggling to keep my faith. Im seeking therapy starting tommorrow. My relationship with my gf might be over especially after catching her talking to other men about me so that made it worse. Having support from my job does help but its not nearly enough but im grateful for that. Please keep me in yall prayers
Do you think your religious beliefs are helping or harming?
@@jakeaurod I been praying more and nowadays and yes it seems to be helping.
Last week I finally went to get assessed for mental illnesses after a year of watching your videos. Thank you so much for helping me develop confidence in finding out my inner problems with your content.
I haven’t gotten my results back, however I know that once I do I’ll be one step closer into finding a solution and taking back my life :)
Edit: Got my results back, Depression and Anxiety. Been working on challenging the negativity in my mind and reconstructing my maladaptive thinking ever since!
I have serve depression and suicidal thoughts
@@lukecohen9833 I’m sorry to hear that man. Know that you are loved even if it doesn’t seem like it, and I highly recommend calling up the suicide hotline for help with those suicidal thoughts as well as therapy. I’m no expert on mental health, but the people who work those jobs are! I believe in you and I wish you the best of luck👍🏽
@@traskindustries4970 thanks
*When you can’t afford therapy*
Funny thing is that I've actually already been to therapy once for social anxiety and depression, and while it really helped, after I was done I never wanted to do it again. Even to this day I'd say that therapy was one of the hardest experiences of my life thus far, so now that I'm in a situation that I need to go back, I'm honestly terrified. I really don't want to repeat that process again, but I also know I'm just hurting myself by procrastinating on it.
dont worry you're not really alone, im kinda in a similar situation except i dont know, i dont think i can open up to my counsellor now, i just don't really know how to voice my thoughts, i used to be able but now i can't and now i even hate my own counsellor.
You were brave enough to take that step the first time, so you can definitely do it again.
I totally agree. My regular doctor wants me to go back to therapy and see if the newer drugs will help my depression. My husband agrees. I don't want to change meds as it's a trial-and-error process and I have no one I trust with handling me during the "error" part. And I don't want to relive all of that again. My husband says that I live it every day. I find that very encouraging {please read the sarcasm in the last line}. I'm afraid of what I know that I will do. Before I lived with my Mom {no, I don't care what anyone says, she was my best friend and now she is dead}, but she could tell when I was at my lowest and she knew to watch me. My husband and close friends don't know the signs of my depression going out of control. This could really kill me, as I am suicidal anyway. I'm too afraid to try again.
Therapy is a safe space.
non-judgemental
supportive
calm
helps you find root problems
I need therapy but I don't know how to get it I am too scared to tell my parents that I need it but I don't know how I am suicidal
Yes,You should consider for therapy asap.
I had the opinion that therapists are thugs who loot money but when I was undergoing turmoil I recognised their importance.
Currently I am undergoing therapy in India's best Psychiatrist Institute,
named Central Institute of Psychiatry located at Kanke,Ranchi, Jharkhand .
My counselor is from Kerala and my Psychiatrist is an Associate Professor at this institute.
Both of them had been very cooperative to me in times of my need since a year and a half.
Very soon I would thank them for their kind gesture, may be on 15th August,2022.
China, India & USA have terrible mental health services. They also have the most depression.
Therapy saved me and I’m still not even done. It helped me realize so much. It helped my inner face become my everyday face 😊.
I love knowing I’m trans and transitioning and it’s all thanks to therapy.
And trust me I did not want to start it because of social stigma. Just remember being afraid and still going is the bravest thing you can do.
I am scared
Yeah, I know I need therapy but I can't afford it right now. I'm glad to be validated that I have reasons to go, but I guess I still have to tolerate the pain until I can access therapy.
I was almost to my mental breaking point a couple months ago because a terrible breakup resurfaced almost everything I had bottled up. I really, deeply wanted therapy, but it costed too much. Even if I was eligible for insurance to pay for part of it, I'd still have to pay quite a bit. Healthcare is just too expensive. It's getting to the point where it's detrimental to seek help for any issue (physical or mental)
There are still some ways to get therapy almost free or free. If you are religious, your pastor can counsel you. That is free. If you go to school, most have free counselors. Just some ideas.
@@LtRee96se Thank you for the ideas :)
@@tyranthet-rex8198 I hope it helps
Just been going through a total emotional breakdown this last month... finally decided it's time to try therapy! Hope it helps in the long run
I was so lucky that I sought out therapy when I originally noticed something was wrong, because so much has happened while I was in therapy and there are so many issues I was able to fix before they got too big.
I have depression and suicidal thoughts but I can't tell my parents I am too weak I should just die
@@lukecohen9833 You’re not weak at all. You are very strong for dealing with everything you’re going through. Getting help from the people that care about you and talking about how you feel are very important.
@@pieman2142 I should just kill myself cause I can't be saved
@@lukecohen9833 But if they're likely to tell you you're weak or be otherwise critical or abusive, talk to someone who is caring and supportive. Perhaps a teen crisis line?
@@globalheartwarming I am weak and powerless I can't live much longer the pain is unbearable it's too much for me to deal with help me I have lost all will power to keep fighting
Whats holdin me back frm therapy is:
1) Its still taboo at my country here (more often, the "cure" here is to seek a religious official cuz you're apparently "possessed")
2) Not enough qualified mental health officials/therapists. (cuz a person I knw was given the wrong medicines and prescription multiple times which sorta messed up her eyesight one time. so Im kinda scared...)
3) A lot of "self-diagnosed" ppl I knw had been misusing the mental health term often to their advantage. So it left a bad mark to the mental health image too
Personally, I've been wanting to see a therapist after dealing with a lot of issues with all my childhood trauma n work with toxic working environments. But, Im still pushing on. Working out, getting some sunlight, listening to audiobooks/documentaries and sometimes meditating does help!
The main thing that annoys me about getting therapy is that I got given a first appointment in 3 months - that's a long time to wait to get help and that was on the quicker side of things as well~
After using psychiatrist-administered antidepressants for 10 years, I have finally started therapy because the one my doctor gave didn’t seem to work out. I have my second appointment today. I have lots of things to discuss with her. I don’t have any close friends to disclose myself to so it is the best way to go in my opinion ☺️
no one can help me and I should just hang myself
And, all these are why I started therapy this year!!. My therapist is amazing, because of the safety I feel there to just be me.
Thank you for making therapy a less stigmatizing topic. I hope many more people will get the help they need and not feel ashamed for doing so 🙏
I always thought I needed therapy, yet had a second thought thinking I was being overdramatic. Cause that's what I'm constantly told, at the same time I'm still a kid so I cant really cover the financial bit.
Anywho thx for reading this and stay strong! One day all this pain will go away, even if it's been a while and still nothing has happened yet, it will happen, good things come to those who wait, love yall and take care peeps
Have a wonderful day/night
❤🧡💛💚💙💜💖🖤
Same here
Same here, I feel your pain fella😔
Here free hug ⊂((・▽・))⊃
@@jenaah426 same but I am too sacred to tell them and also I am better just taking my life than just asking for help I am just a kid what if they throw me into a crazy person place and I have a friend she has therapy she says it great but what if my therapist does't help me and everyday when I wait for these thoughts to go away it just gets worse and I have lost all hope
@@lukecohen9833 hi!
I’m no professional but I just want to help
having mental health issues isn’t restricted to a certain age limit, it doesn’t matter how old or young you are, it is alright to feel the way you do, any you should try to not consider yourself weird or crazy. Like said in this video, there may be a stigma around this, however there are so many people in the world who are willing to help anyone who is struggling!! Just try to reach out to someone, doesn’t have to be a therapist, can be parents, close friend, sibling etc, anyone who you feel comfortable with!
Also I don’t think you’ll be a thrown into crazy person place or an asylum (certainly didn’t happen to me) More than 450 million suffer from mental health problems, so even if it feels like you are going through this alone you’re not! I assure you :)
don’t lose hope because while you may think things are gonna get worse, they could also get better!!
Sorry for the ramble lol just hoping to help :)
@@evek5019 I will talk to a close friend but dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts is very hard I am weak and powerless
Well that confirms it. CLEARLY I “need therapy”. O well, too bad, I’m too broke and too busy working paying for being on my own.
Thank you so much, Psych2Go!! I can't thank you enough for this channel that helps one to proceed further with clarity. And it is a safe place when one feels vulnerable. Thank you for existing. ♥️
I have so many issues omg
Just thinking about therapy makes my feel terrible-
Damn. Found myself absolutely in point 3. I'm holding back myself because i always think i have to do my s**t alone, while i have to help every other one
I missed out on all the vids posted in the last three months or so. And I feel I should not have done that. Thank you Psych2go for reminding me how important mental health is.
I hit all of these signs. I've been getting therapy since I was a child, and honestly, I've kind of given up on it because at the ripe young age of 31, I'm still a hot mess and haven't had much improvement throughout the years. Coming to accept that I'm destined to be horribly depressed and anxious my whole life.
there are therapists that won’t connect with you and some that will be perfect for you, keep going i hope you’ll be alright
You don't need a therapist to get better. If you've been going to them consistently since you were a kid and now you're 31 and still don't feel better, it might be time to give them a break. Therapy can make people worse, like it did for me. Reliving things in order to "process" them can be good for a season, but if it's something you are constantly doing week after week, that's got to be draining. It actually might be harming you instead of helping you.
I would also encourage you to not view yourself as being depressed and anxious your whole life. Those words serve no purpose but to tear you down. You are going to find what you are looking for. Instead of declaring what you are or where you are at. Declare who you want to be and where you are going in life. I say this as someone who also thought I would be depressed and anxious for the rest of my life. I had it really, really bad. Ironically, it was brought on because I had so many harmful and traumatic experiences with therapists that I almost ended my life. I thought I was going to be in that pit of despair for the rest of my life. It took me two and a half years to get back on my feet. I haven't "arrived" by any means, but I have started talking to myself a little better, I've started viewing myself with a kinder lens. Initially it might feel like you are lying to yourself. Push through that. It really can be a "fake it til you make it." But if you say it enough times, you will eventually believe it.
I wish you the very best! Have an amazing, blessed week!
@@nathanieljohnson6259 I appreciate your kind and encouraging words. Whenever I do say what I want to be, the little voice then says that I'll never be that person. It's a never-ending cycle. I also believe that there's something even deeper that's wrong with me that's begetting my mental problems. I know ADD can be the cause, but I also think that I have autism. And I'm pretty sure that I'm still suffering from emotional trauma I never recovered from. Maybe all that is causing my seemingly endless symptoms: Depression, anxiety, social anxiety, insomnia, fatigue, anger, low self-esteem, possibly rejection sensitive dysphoria, etc. And perhaps it's my lifestyle too, but I digress.
Depression has such a strong influence that I can't seem to break free; therefore I need therapy to not make me get better, but to help uncover the deep roots in my mind.
If you do not heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you - Unknown
How can we begin the healing process for ourselves?
Understand we have to open ourselves up to experience true intimacy with another person. Look for life lessons you can learn when you get hurt. Forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be vulnerable and forgive the other person for hurting you. Talk about it with someone you trust. Do not lose your sense of self-worth
and what if i don't trust anyone enough to talk about it
@@sobinaromana2092 Trust isn't like a light switch, where the only options are trust fully or not at all. You don't have to share everything all at once. Test them. See how they respond with the little things before handing over the larger things.
Your videos are very calming, thank you guys for posting:) you help a lot of people💖
I think I relate to the 3rd sign a lot, In school, I am so outspoken and very friendly and social but as soon as I am out of school or on my way home I feel tired, and sometimes even emotional. I just try to avoid contact with people by just listening to music, also I am an introvert and none of my friends believe me for that, but after some time with my friends, I need time to recharge myself, and even if I tell them my opinions of why I am an introvert they ignore it by just staying silent or start changing topic, sometimes I think if my friends really know about me and that makes me sad, that I don't have any close friends that you share a lot with since I also have trust issues since they give me less then I give them, and sometimes I think if they just want me for some work, and I always get disappointed and that made me lose trust in friendship, so I mostly try to just enjoy my time myself even tho I get sad sometimes, at least I cant backstab myself. (also sorry for the long comment, I just wanted to make a short one but ended up expressing a lot more :( )
While I’m not against therapy, I fear that therapy could be weaponised against people. For example, if someone harasses you just to make you angry and then you finally snap, and they accuse you of having anger issues.
Or telling you to stop talking about what you like even though it’s not hurting anyone.
I really hope someone responds to this.
if no one responds to this then i think you should put your question on quora or smthin, like rarely would anyone manage to see all the question and not everyone is wise enough to answer or word it properly so..
People who do that are being abusive. A good therapist should help you with that. Not all are trained in it, unfortunately. There are a lot of good videos on narcissistic abuse that point out these dynamics and how not to get pulled into them or that encourage us to get away from such people. Is this the sort of response you were looking for, or something else? Don't let bullies stop you from getting help or support you need. They're avoiding their own issues by putting them off on others.
I mean , it can be and is weaponized. In the therapy room itself, the therapist can get you involuntarily committed if they want to. People say, "Hey you should go to therapy." sometimes as a way to brush you off. People will then use it to stigmatize you.
If you have something that you really want in your life, spend lots of time thinking about it. The more you think the more ideas will pop up the more creative your gonna start to get. Your subconscious mind doesn't care if your vision is crazy. It doesnt care if you dont know how to do it.
When you see a thing clearly in your mind, your creative "success mechanism" within you takes over and does the job much better than you could do it by conscious effort or willpower.
A different psychedelic from a different planet every nanosecond.
All sorts of dreams are possible.
The human nervous system cannot tell the difference between an "actual" experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail.
Synthesize "experience," to literally create experience, and control it, in the laboratory of our minds.
A vision is a very emotional image, the most powerful image that you can come up with for yourself at this time. This vision will become like a hallucination in other peoples mind and this could be the cause of them creating extraordinary things. On a certain level, we have a drug store in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.
I was crying and then you posted this 😭
What I actually struggle the most with is whether seeking therapy is the right thing to do for myself. I'm a very sensitive ( HSP, tho never officially diagnosed ) person, I have a hard time getting help for myself. Until now, I was always the person that helped. Many friends come to me for advice, but when I have problems myself, I cant really open up to people about it. It sounds worse than it is, I always coped somehow, I'm good at handling those things myself. But I find myself overwhelmed or uncomfortable in a lot of situations, and also have some minor childhood trauma (which doesnt actively affect me anymore tho).
To come to an end, I find myself being uncontrollably sad sometimes and I'm very afraid of facing my thoughts, which makes me distract myself with books, my phone and music a lot.
Whether that all is a reason to seek therapy... god, I dont know
I’m in love with your soothing voice ❤️
If i try therapy my parents won’t be proud of me
Its cuz im a perfect child so i should not be mild and
If i do my life will be ruined,
On second thought, it might help
Maybe it will if i just go through with it
So i could tell my parents or maybe not
I’ll never be brave enough and also couldn’t 🙂
"I believe that a different therapy must be constructed for each patient because each has a unique story." - Irvin D. Yalom
Therapy can definitely make it worse, so be careful.
I had so many harmful and traumatic experiences in therapy that it almost resulted in me ending my life. I am not the only one. I've read thousands of stories similar to mine. I am all for ending the stigma around mental health, but I do think there should be a healthy amount of stigma around therapy. It has the potential to cause some serious harm if you are not careful.
bro the control over your thoughts got me
I take these as like tests to learn more about Myself
1st sign: Yes, Extremely.
2nd sign: Yes.
3rd sign: Kinda
4th sign: Mostly not.
5th sign: Yes, Extremely.
Sign one: you get recommended this video
I've considered therapy, and this video has proven what I feared to be the case for needing it. Every point has applied to me, but there are two reasons why I can't take it: 1. My parents don't exactly trust the therapy system, and as much as I tried convincing them, they don't get the whole point of it. 2. I can't open up, and even when I considered opening up more to friends or family I remind myself that I can't be a bother to them. I know it's important, but I can't help but feel selfish wanting to tell others my problems, bc I don't want them to feel like it's their problem too. I can't. I've already taken the role of a young adult so I can't, otherwise I'll just be seen as overdramatic.
There's a certain something that you need to address, but you dread facing it"
This hit me HARD. I do have memories that I need to address, but I can hardly remember enough to be able to address it. Even for the things I can remember, it's not enough to be able to talk about long enough for me to get properly "healed"
If you thinking of going to therapy, it's a good time to go.
I cant afford that.... Ima just take the pain and just help myself..
I have a lot of trouble talking to people, money, parents, trust issues, overthinking, overcomplicated. I don't even know where to begin :(
hi, thanks for posting all these videos, they really do help
To be honest people have been saying that I should go to a therapist since I've been 6-7 y.o, and I can now I see that I've been avoiding all that for whole 6 years. But at the same time I can't just go to a therapist because my parents don't believe in depression, suffering and anxiety when it comes to children. They just say that it's laziness and a sigh of being Ungrateful for what you have, so even if I go and tell them:
"Mom, Dad can I go to a therapist"
they'll just say:
"No you don't have any problems, you're just being lazy"..
I'm sorry you have shitty parents. Hope things get better for you
I’m only on sign 1 and it’s not looking good for me 💀
The fact that I was thinking about it then see this video in my subscriptions is sign enough
I have been to therapist, at least once. I’m right now 11, but about the end of 10, I went to there once.
It actually kind of helped me, I’m not going to lie. But the therapist didn’t really cared how much I feel numb or empty, or sometimes too emotional, which I have talked if it’s depression by any chance. Well, she moved on with the topic because I was too “young” to be depressed, which kind of made me close my mind again once again. Not only her though, my parents called me insane when I wasn’t going to therapist, then after going there, it’s crazy how they didn’t care about how I was feeling, they asked the therapist for results in addiction in internet. It still hurts a lot. I hope anyone going through something here just would know,
I don’t really know how much you’ve gone through, but I know it was a tough time.
You are the bravest, strongest person I have ever met, you’ve came this far, fighting through so much things. I’m very proud of you staying till’ today, in this cruel world. Thank you again for staying until here, in this place, reading this comment. Thank you so much.
Please talk about anxiety disorder and depression 😓
I know that therapy helps. I've talked to some of them but none was fitting for me.
The only good therapist I've ever found was too far from my house and expensive.
My problem is that in my area there aren't good therapist for my needs, they're all too far 😞
GnopKing Have you looked for remote or telehealth therapy, over internet or phone?
@@globalheartwarming yes, they are all too expensive, but honestly I think that finding a good therapist Who can inspire us trust , is like winning the lottery
@@JJShalashaska I know what you mean. 😐
@@globalheartwarming sometimes all we need is a good friend in a mutual exchange of respect and care. Theoretically friends are for free.
@@JJShalashaska Those are good friends. Sometimes hard to find too.
I’ve never attempted therapy even at my darkest places because I always told myself it never mattered/nobody cared.
Sometimes someone not caring is a good thing. Family and friends care, which is why they can get into fights or try to manipulate others, but a therapist is a professional and so it can be good that they don't care in the same way.
My relationship broke apart. Feels like no point in getting one anymore. Number 5 is reappearing again on my end.
I Have it comes to anger, and self hatred, that’s why I came to therapy but is it kinda the same as school’s? 💗💙🙏🇺🇸🇰🇭
What should you do if all your relationships are failing, but you don't see anything wrong with what you're doing or what is even making other people mad?
Maybe ask somebody that knows you if there's something off about your character? I understand things like that are subtle; kinda hard for yourself to notice sometimes. This is a recurring problem for me too though.
@@mannyruiz5221 my friends keep saying I'm fucked up for stuff I view as normal and to seek therapy, but I don't view anything they say as wrong
@@Ian-fw2fp just believe you'll be ok man, they know how you are already n if you weren't like that they probably wouldn't be your friend. You probably got a unique sense of humor or something. Maybe just notice the things your saying and the certain people your saying them to. Like Not every bodies built to laugh at certain things just like some people dont like scary movies. Accept yourself for who you are; you're not a weirdo. Just expect some people to have different views than you because EVERYBODY is different.
@@Ian-fw2fp dont feel weird if you think you should go to therapy though, everybody can probably learn something if they went.
Wow i really needed this video at this very moment thank you💖
I can relate to most - all of these, but actually have therapy trauma, and don't like thinking, nevertheless talking about my feelings and all. Instead, I tend to get them out through my writing and art, as well as listening to music (typically dark pop, pop from bands like Panic! at the Disco and Sub Urban, and rock). Reading horror and mysteries are also therapeutic to me. It might seem odd, but that's what works for me. Not everyone needs a therapist, but that doesn't mean that not everyone needs something to always be able to fall back on to help them. If something helps you cope with things, don't be afraid to use it, just as long as it doesn't hurt you.
There's always someone out there that cares, you just need to realize it. I hope that everyone is doing well, but if you aren't, that's okay, too. Because, no matter what, you can get through it. You're strong. You're beautiful. You, with every tiny flaw, are 100 (one-hundred) percent perfect. I might not know you, but I love you just the same. 💝
1-You experience uncontrollable saddness or anger
2-You're engaging in addictive or self destructive
3-There's a disconnect between your "outer world" and your "inner world*
4-Your relationship are suffering
5-You feel like you dont have control of your thoughts
First
This channel is like free therapy
I have needed therapy for years as even when I've struggled with my prescription and that I have diabetes that was misdiagnosed and looked over for years. I also have PTSD due to an accident involving a scissor lift. My autism, depression and anxiety also factor in how badly I've been feeling and dealing with everything. I also struggle financially with over $70,000 I'm debt and no way out. My living situation isn't the best either. My brain thinks nonstop about everything and I can't deal with it much longer. I hate asking for help but I really need it.
First
No one cares
Lol congrats
@@itz_syruuup527 I do
Second
Ooh I like ur pfp it’s nice!
John 3:16
[16]For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Luke 13:3
[3]I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
John 14:6
[6]Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
Matthew 18:11
For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost.
John 8:12
[12]Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.
Matthew 4:17
From that time Jesus began to preach, and to say, Repent: for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.
Romans 10:9
That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
Romans 10:13
For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
Luke 6:27-38
But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you,
6:28 Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.
6:29 And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take thy coat also.
6:30 Give to every man that asketh of thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again.
6:31 And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.
6:32 For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them.
6:33 And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same.
6:34 And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again.
6:35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.
6:36 Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.
6:37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:
6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.
Ephesians 2:8-9
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Not of works, lest any man should boast.
2 Chronicles 7:14
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
Matthew 5:2-12
King James Version
2 And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying,
3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
4 Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
5 Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.
6 Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.
7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.
8 Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.
9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
10 Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.
12 Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.
Matthew 24:4-14
And Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you.
24:5 For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many.
24:6 And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet.
24:7 For nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom: and there shall be famines, and pestilences, and earthquakes, in divers places.
24:8 All these are the beginning of sorrows.
24:9 Then shall they deliver you up to be afflicted, and shall kill you: and ye shall be hated of all nations for my name's sake.
24:10 And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another.
24:11 And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many.
24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
24:13 But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.
24:14 And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come.
Exodus 20
King James Version
20 And God spake all these words, saying,
2 I am the Lord thy God, which have brought thee out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage.
3 Thou shalt have no other gods before me.
4 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.
5 Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me;
6 And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.
7 Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.
8 Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.
9 Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work:
10 But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates:
11 For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it.
12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
13 Thou shalt not kill.
14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.
15 Thou shalt not steal.
16 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour.
17 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.
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Unlike a lot of others, I find it so easy to vent out everything that's been going in my life to a total stranger. They're not going to over-react. They're not going to do anything I don't want them to do. They're going to help me get better. They're going to help me feel worth something. I find it hard to talk to my parents, school councillar or even my friends 'cause I'm so afraid it'll change how they see me. Venting to a stranger? I don't give a damn about what they think of me. Hell, I'd love it if they'd give me advice. Or tell me something positive. Even though other people still do that, sometime sit feels forced. Not forced/fake love, but, like, theyre saying it so I won't get mad (I have sever anger issues, and my anger is trigged quickly 'cause all my negative emotions (sadness, fear, ect) get turned into it).
Even better, they don't know my sister. It feels like everybody always assumes I am my sister because she also had anxiety (not nearly as bad as mine, though) before me, and she's visted all the places I have.
(Extra rant: I'm always forced to be the positive one. To see the bright side in everything. I ust cannot do it. I hate myself and I tell other people not to hate themslves but, here I am, the USELESS, USELESS, USELESS hypocrite who can't do anything right. I ducking hate myself so goddamn much. I wish I was never alive. I wish I was never created. I wish I wasn't ducking lesbian. I wish I didn't feel anything. That would make life so much better.)
I'd love therapy, proper therapy, and my mother has promised it. Been waiting for over 2 years now. But I have hope - though hardly any - that she'll keep her promise, especially now that I have vented to her abut things going on in my life.
Thank you for coming to my rant-- Stay safe, and I love you to death, regardless race, gender, abilities, sexualities, and pronouns (ect). :)
Are there any more signs, Amanda?
Because I've become a very jaded and resentful person lately.
I don't lash out or feel bad, i just want to stop feeling this way. I feel like Stan when everything turned to shit for him.
Jesus is the way the truth and the life nobody comes to the father except through Jesus Christ
your voice itself is kinda a therapy... thanks a lot
When I reached that point, I basically had to convince my parents into letting me get therapy. Two almost 3 years later I'm thinking about stopping it because it's not helping as much anymore. Like, my problems have been dealt with.
If I'm not at school I'm in my room watching tv, I don't get out much but recently I think I've been getting out a bit more than I usually do. Also your videos are amazing! I love watching your videos so much, they make me happy and they also make me realise some things. I still have some unanswered questions but thats alright, not all questions in life will be answered and I know that. I don't know if talking to a Councillor at school counts but honestly I don't know if it helped much, I still feel pretty much the same. I asked my mum I think a few days or weeks ago if I could talk to a proper therapy, councillor person and she said yea, or something but I do know it wasn't a no or maybe, but honestly I don't know if its the right thing or not. I find it hard making decisions, usually I have to ask someone else what they think or something but usually I end up saying something along the lines of "I don't mind." Ahhhh! Sorry I just went on typing and just kind of writing what I was thinking, or at least I think its what I was thinking, well I was writing it so of course I was thinking it while I was typing it- ok im going to stop typing now.
Ive had therapy and yet i still am uncontrollable. My friend carson once was my best friend... and then he forgot me forever... those were the old days...
Thanks for this video, it's simply explained
Amazing video as always thanks!
The first point hit the nail in the coffin!
Im going...
I never know what exactly is bothering me. I’ve been through a lot of trauma and overall I just try not to think about it, I push everything to the back of my head and usually it doesn’t come to the surface for years. I’m always in just a “fine” mood or rather numb.
I know several people in my life that seriously misunderstand what therapy is. & that really bothers me because it’s saved & improved my life so much. They act almost as if I’ve wasted the vast majority of my life by going & it bothers me a bit
Calm, professional, and patient? Sounds like my dad!
yeah it is so so so so freaking important. Though for normal people, or "neurotypical" people having depression and anxiety kinda maybe have different levels of exposures to traumatic/events before developing them, but for me or for those who are like me I just got diagnosed with adult ADHD at age 20, that I've always noticed I'm kind of different from other people, why do I overshare or there're times when I speak there's just no break that I speak out my thoughts immediately that I lost some friends that way, why can't I behave like them normally, why I can't or it's so hard doing tasks that isn't that much interesting or there's no pressure of "do it now," why I have a hard time going into places with a lot of stimulus like going to public places, as well as why do I have this rage when I felt rejected as well as so sensitive that my emotions are so of a kid compared to my actual age, as well as so stimulated at night thinking of things from one thing to another without breaks.
I don't know, for others it is not a gift, but for me kind of and kind of not, because when I do get interested into something that deep dive I have to focus and achieve it often produced good things specially in school that even if I failed some subjects that's so mundane and boring those other subjects I liked keeps on having synthesis of information and so fast in doing so. And on the other hand, a feral dog tried to bite me as I was walking along the high way and here's what happened: I thought that if I continued running to my direction I may end up on another group of dogs so I thought going to the other side may buy me sometime if it ever attract other dogs but what? I forgot that I am in a highway, in a road where lots and fast vehicles are going through and there I woke up my left thigh's bone are fractured. And there's also this being lost in time when deep diving that I didn't know it's this time already, as well as in school if nobody told me I would not know that there's a quiz, or this kind of info or it's exam week already or it's that time to pay bills (as a college student that breaks my confidence so much that the fear cripples me more) and then that impostor syndrome stuff comes in and you grind but instead of it making your life for the better it added more problems, specially health problems.
If I have known earlier maybe I could've been more aware or be mindful that now it offshoot into anxiety and depression, what a comorbidity. If you think that some parts of you are quite hindering you from functioning normally in school, work, socially or you may hurt yourself or others maybe it's time to visit a professional (no doctor but if you think you need professional help then maybe you do) and good luck on your journey to rediscovering yourself and building yourself up day after day
Thank you for this. ❤️
I realised how emotionaly damaged I was when I didn't react when I almost died but had a panic attack when I messed up in singing practise damn I wept for hours in school
"We may define therapy as a search for value." - Abraham Maslow
Totally enjoying my subscription to this channel…💯
I'm back in therapy. Working hard on rebuilding my self esteem and I don't want to drain my friends.
At my first job, I casually mentioned to a coworker that I see a therapist. I figured it was safe because it was a weight loss place and many patients had some sort of mental health issue that led to their weight gain. That coworker, a personal trainer, seemed rather surprised and asked what I go to therapy for. He guessed anxiety and I just said yes because everyone could tell how socially anxious I was and explaining everything else like depression and being LGBTQ+ would be a lot. You'd think that people would know a little more about sensitivity especially in that kind of environment but I guess not. I'm not in therapy now because my therapist keeps missing my emails in spam and is slowly moving out of insurance coverage so I can't afford anymore. But I'm trying out medication and hopefully it's working.
Meanwhile, my dad has medication but his personality is all over the place. He's really nice to the neighbors but not nice to family. He lives off the praise he gets from them and keeps giving food, doing yardwork, or turning our house into a pet hotel to get it. He's found ways to alienate me, my mom, his younger sister, and younger brother and thinks we're the ones who are cr*zy for going against him. He's too busy doing nice things for other people to do chores. For several months, I couldn't park inside because my garage spot was his junk. Mom and I had to clean it up ourselves to have space, especially after someone in the neighborhood was breaking windows. Now his junk is all over the backyard and side hallway. The neighbor across from us moved out so he took a lot of their stuff. We have a massage chair from them blocking the front door. I'm certain my dad needs therapy. He's avoiding his problems. But after retiring, he refused to use his brain anymore or learn new things so he needs help finding the right words. My mom had to be there for his psychiatrist appointments for him to get medication. He refuses to accept that he's anything but the Mr. Nice Guy persona he puts out. Some of the stuff he did before, I did, so I get it. I don't see how he can claim that he's the adult and I'm the childish one when he's the one doing all the things deemed as such. I'm probably more the adult now since I'm not the one throwing tantrums over the smallest criticisms. Sometimes it's not even a criticism and he takes it as one so he's definitely a handful. But he won't go to therapy because he can't convey his thoughts and will always say that he has nothing to say. He can have that choice. My therapist said that I could have group therapy but it was my choice as I'm an adult. I knew it wouldn't help because my parents would spend the whole time justifying their actions and no one else gets to have a say. I've come to terms with how they affected me. Dad hasn't come to terms that everyone is always learning. He claims that he doesn't have to learn anymore because he's old. With that kind of mentality, one can only go downhill. Plus he's trying to cook new foods so that's learning. But after the first attempt, he started modifing the spice concentration and adds whatever he wants so it no longer tastes like what it should. He's not getting better at anything. He only cares that neighbors love his food. He doesn't care that we may think the food is too salty. He's just denying himself of the truth since they're not going to criticize his cooking. But they are pretty tired of being obligated to give something back to him because they don't want his food anymore either because he makes huge portions and probably doesn't taste good anymore, depending on the food.
I read you story. Thank you for taking the time to share. I don't know what to say other than that I wish you and your family the very best! Have an amazing, blessed week!
I found myself nodding to all of these points, I've often found myself going into a separate 'mindset' when these points come up, so I can be a therapist for my friends, which is actually more helpful than a therapist since they have to distance themselves from their patients
Your voice is so calming...