My X husband left me for dead. He tortured me for 10 years , when I was diagnosed with Crohn’s I got so skinny he hated how I looked and one day he said I want a divorce because I’m not a nurse. When he left , on a year I was in remission…. These people are dangerously sick and cruel. LEAVE
@nancyrentas443 you're better off without him. I'm glad you are doing better, and keeping your distance from ANY narcissist won't hurt. Many good thoughts coming to you! ❤️
I was the opposite. I put on weight & I was ugly according to him. I think it was my body's way of protecting me. Your body does what it needs to do. Thank you for your comment ❤
I wanted ( and I DID) graduate in osteopathy in my late 30....he used to throw away my books and notes just 2 or 3 days before my exams. Well guys, I graduated at 40 with 2 kids ,Covid, moving and in the middle of a fierce battle against me AFTER DIVORCE! I've lost health but Jesus never left me. Never.
My narc husband told me the other day that I am selfish because I did not go with him to the doctor when he was having trouble with his knee. My son was forced to go with him at his demand. The truth is he has never gone with me to any doctor appointments even ones where I had a broken ankle. I went alone each and every time with no assistance from him or anyone. I did what I felt I had to do and did not blame anyone. I found ways to manage in my situation.
Oh man!! My parents used to fight the night just before my sister's exam and blame her for it and be lovey dovey after that......and it actually made her performance worse and she had to give repeat attempts!!....omg so strategic! We couldn't even notice these things that time!
These examples bring up soooo many bad memories of living with the narcissist. It is apparent that many people are suffering in the hands of narcissistic abuse. The idea that NPD is most devastating in relationships or in the workplace where the narcissist can enact their criminally intended behavior. But the narcissist will consistently blame others for the problems and continue to make a disaster of any situation.
These are the reasons I live alone, have no friends and go without. Many people are like this. Thanks for giving hope that recovery from severe mental health is possible and I can start to love again. God bless you Sir!
This video has been my life for years. Every time we go anywhere, he has started on me, shouting in my face on and on until he gets a reaction. When I finally snap and shout back, he says "what's wrong with you" and "are you ok". It's so stressful and disgusting. I've never argued with anyone else in public ever. I tried to address his behaviour this morning and he wouldn't listen. He wasn't interested, so I know this behaviour is going to continue if we go anywhere else. He sucks all of the happiness from my soul and makes me feel like I'm such a bad person. Now I don't want to go anywhere with him. He won't let me go anywhere alone because he's extremely controlling and I have health issues. I have to use 2 walking sticks when I go anywhere. I'm doing my best to plan my escape. These videos by Danish are an absolute blessing. They have made me realise I'm not a bad person and that there's hope to get away and start a new life on my own.
@MR-ly4xt I agree that these videos are a blessing!! I love Danish's videos that speak on self growth and healing after narcissistic abuse. They are very helpful and love felt. The most important thing I never received from a narcissist was love. This I had to give myself or from other family members. I would scream and cry whenever cousins would leave after visiting. As a child, I didn't know it was love I was missing, but obviously something was not there. No wonder I would find myself in more situations with a narcissist in control over me, covertly, of course. They know exactly what they're doing, and imo doesn't make them smarter. It makes the narcissist more cruel because intent is always there. I have healed from depression and continue to work daily alone and in group therapy on my own mental health following narcissistic abuse. It's a reality many are facing, so I never really feel alone. Years and years later, I broke the cycle by going no contact. What these people continue to do is beyond any calm and peace I call home, my inner sanctuary of love, truth, and the wisdom to find a life of peace. Horrible things happen by horrible people and sadly, it's a fact of life with the narcissist front and center. May your journey be gentle, giving, and let you keep growing. ❤️
@norcal1009 thank you so much. I'm sorry you went through that and I'm so glad you are working on your mental health in group and alone. It's not safe for me to reach out to a group yet, but as soon as I am able to, I will join a group for therapy. It's so soul destroying being around these people. My father was absolutely horrific towards me too throughout my childhood. I left home at 16 to escape him.
@MR-ly4xt My eyes are wet right now because I can empathize with you and what you're going through. I wish I had known of some way to prepare for the discard, and I hope you can find strength for that. It felt like heaven being free for about three months, but then, the real mental health issues started appearing. This had a lot to do with not having the support I needed immediately after the toxic relationship ended. It's very important to do anything you can do to start preparing. Narcissistic injury, so-called, will try to punish you at all costs for wanting to leave!! It's awful. I really understand what you are going through, and every day is a struggle to continue living with this person. So it's almost impossible to do anything else right now. But I will keep thinking and praying for you that you can get through this and arrive at a better place in the near future. ❤️
I definitely experienced everything you mentioned for 11 years with my experiences husband and although I had narcissistic parents and family dynamics . This was the ultimate monster I ever met.i mean narcissist. The parts that resonate highly is the manipulation with the children when I would react and also the tasks given that were just set to fail and become so overwhelming. It's hard for me to concentrate and my memory is very short and sometimes I can't talk.
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
I was raised by a narcissist. Unfortunately she’s still alive. She made my dads life a living hell may he rest in peace And now she remarried and the guy she’s married to is being abused by her. My dad didn’t let her get away with it as much as with this one. He lets her walk all over him. It’s just sad. The names the yelling so glad I don’t live that way
For weeks, I was supposed to practice with the cantors on a certain evening for a wedding. Just as I was about to shower to get ready to go, my narcissist husband shut the water to our house off at the street.
I've been outright called a witch by husband #2 not meaning just a disagreeable person but an evil person. Keep in mind I had no idea what I was dealing with at that time. So, I started lightning candles everywhere humming while I did. Whenever any little thing went wrong that he couldn't figure out. I'm like, "Well, you said I was a witch, didn't you??" I do not recommend the way I handled things to anyone as I always got severely punished at a later date. I will admit that I enjoyed the moments when I got to watch his eyeballs bounce around while he tried to make sense of it. I think he still wonders about it. Blessings 🙌 🙌 🙌. 💛💛💛💛💛
@Psychicblonde67 you are brave to play along. I did this, too, because of the much too long time spent with narcissists. Now I believe I can spot one a mile away, covert narcissists two miles away, lol. The best thing now is keeping myself away from all of them, even if it means cutting people off quickly when their true colors come out!!
@@norcal1009 I'm happily single for almost 5 years now. After decades of narcissists I have a very sharp edge to me. I still work on myself. Even now, I'm just starting to accept that wasn't me who did everything wrong.
@Psychicblonde67 so cool, I know about this edge you speak of, and I personally don't mind if it bothers people. People say I'm "witty" or being a "smart ass," but it is actually being in the moment, taking it all in at once and responding to people without fear. It's similar to not having a filter or sarcasm, but it's neither of those. In fact, it's not even a coping-mehanism or anything indicative of trauma. I'm so happy you responded to me because I've been wanting to share this with someone. I believe our sharp edge comes from a place of emotional intelligence and not letting others get the upper hand. We have dealt with so much abuse as narc survivors. Like you, the long situation taught me a lot that later, I've been able to digest, understand, and accept. It has taken many years of recovery to come this far. Now, the future has no limits and no plan. It's a much better place to be.
@norcal1009 I'm lucky if I can keep my mouth shut, lol! I try harder now, sometimes. I will not dumb it down if challenged. Then I'll say something really stupid like, "I'll give you a few minutes to look that up." It was much more gratifying pre-internet because then they'd have find a dictionary, assuming they even owned a book. Once again I took way took much joy in having them follow yelling, "What did you mean by that??" Me: "Didn't I just tell you to look it up?" Then it would be more deer in the headlights, frozen stance and all. Once again, I do not recommend as the punishment always comes. Oh, well. This is my story, this is what decades of them turned me into. That's why I strongly suggest leaving quickly, quietly and safely.
i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.
Verbal abuse is on steroids with a narcissist because everything you say is wrong, and you are only alive for them and what they demand of you. This abuse will continue with children, guaranteed.
The enmeshment becomes more important than anything. They drag you around keeping you fixing their disasters. Their emergencies one minute are forgotton the next. Chaos and it is your fault for not jumping high enough even though they just raised the bar. Always in your nerve endings.
i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.
😢THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME EVERY DAY AND NIGHT FOR ALMOST 30 YEARS. AFYER THAT LONG I WAS BELIEVING HIM. THEN I WOKE UP AFYER ALL THEOSE YEARS. HES GOT EVERYONE BELIEVUNG THAT IM IN THE WRONG. HES THE ONE THAT SAID THINGS WERE TERRIBLE. NOT ON PERSON ASKED ME MY DIDE OF THINGS. OF COURSE HIS FAMILY HATES ME BECAUSE OF HIS WORDS AND JEALOUSY. I WAS NOT IN A CIMPETION WITH WITH ANY OF THEM. I WOULDNT DO THAT. BUT THEY WERE WITH ME. THEY DAID YERRIBLE THINGS ABOUT ME AND MY FAMILY. IT WAS HELL ON EARTH AND I LUVED WITH SATAN.
@@GretchenRunge-xv2hs You are the strong one. Those people will have nothing left. Nothing. No love, no truth, and no one left to blame. You will heal. They never will. I believe that hell has a special place for all of them. Take care.
Break The Trauma Bond With a Narcissist
www.emotionalabuserecovery.com/breaking-the-trauma-bond
My X husband left me for dead. He tortured me for 10 years , when I was diagnosed with Crohn’s I got so skinny he hated how I looked and one day he said I want a divorce because I’m not a nurse. When he left , on a year I was in remission…. These people are dangerously sick and cruel. LEAVE
You r strong
@nancyrentas443 you're better off without him. I'm glad you are doing better, and keeping your distance from ANY narcissist won't hurt. Many good thoughts coming to you! ❤️
I read so many of these heartbreaking things they have done to good people. I hope life is good to you now, and stays good to you.
That really sucks I’m glad you left I hope your doing well on the healing path sorry about your Crohns Disease that disease sucks.
I was the opposite. I put on weight & I was ugly according to him. I think it was my body's way of protecting me. Your body does what it needs to do. Thank you for your comment ❤
I wanted ( and I DID) graduate in osteopathy in my late 30....he used to throw away my books and notes just 2 or 3 days before my exams. Well guys, I graduated at 40 with 2 kids ,Covid, moving and in the middle of a fierce battle against me AFTER DIVORCE! I've lost health but Jesus never left me. Never.
fantastic comment!
Congratulations to you on your accomplishments and resilience ❤
My narc husband told me the other day that I am selfish because I did not go with him to the doctor when he was having trouble with his knee. My son was forced to go with him at his demand. The truth is he has never gone with me to any doctor appointments even ones where I had a broken ankle. I went alone each and every time with no assistance from him or anyone. I did what I felt I had to do and did not blame anyone. I found ways to manage in my situation.
Oh man!! My parents used to fight the night just before my sister's exam and blame her for it and be lovey dovey after that......and it actually made her performance worse and she had to give repeat attempts!!....omg so strategic! We couldn't even notice these things that time!
@@golu48000 awful. I remember a heated argument when they picked me up from summer camp. Ruined my whole summer.
These examples bring up soooo many bad memories of living with the narcissist. It is apparent that many people are suffering in the hands of narcissistic abuse. The idea that NPD is most devastating in relationships or in the workplace where the narcissist can enact their criminally intended behavior. But the narcissist will consistently blame others for the problems and continue to make a disaster of any situation.
These are the reasons I live alone, have no friends and go without. Many people are like this.
Thanks for giving hope that recovery from severe mental health is possible and I can start to love again.
God bless you Sir!
God can heal you , 8 years has passed for me and God is still healing me, it is very eye opening and a process.
This video has been my life for years. Every time we go anywhere, he has started on me, shouting in my face on and on until he gets a reaction. When I finally snap and shout back, he says "what's wrong with you" and "are you ok". It's so stressful and disgusting. I've never argued with anyone else in public ever. I tried to address his behaviour this morning and he wouldn't listen. He wasn't interested, so I know this behaviour is going to continue if we go anywhere else. He sucks all of the happiness from my soul and makes me feel like I'm such a bad person. Now I don't want to go anywhere with him. He won't let me go anywhere alone because he's extremely controlling and I have health issues. I have to use 2 walking sticks when I go anywhere. I'm doing my best to plan my escape. These videos by Danish are an absolute blessing. They have made me realise I'm not a bad person and that there's hope to get away and start a new life on my own.
@MR-ly4xt I agree that these videos are a blessing!! I love Danish's videos that speak on self growth and healing after narcissistic abuse. They are very helpful and love felt. The most important thing I never received from a narcissist was love. This I had to give myself or from other family members. I would scream and cry whenever cousins would leave after visiting. As a child, I didn't know it was love I was missing, but obviously something was not there. No wonder I would find myself in more situations with a narcissist in control over me, covertly, of course. They know exactly what they're doing, and imo doesn't make them smarter. It makes the narcissist more cruel because intent is always there. I have healed from depression and continue to work daily alone and in group therapy on my own mental health following narcissistic abuse. It's a reality many are facing, so I never really feel alone. Years and years later, I broke the cycle by going no contact. What these people continue to do is beyond any calm and peace I call home, my inner sanctuary of love, truth, and the wisdom to find a life of peace. Horrible things happen by horrible people and sadly, it's a fact of life with the narcissist front and center. May your journey be gentle, giving, and let you keep growing. ❤️
@norcal1009 thank you so much. I'm sorry you went through that and I'm so glad you are working on your mental health in group and alone. It's not safe for me to reach out to a group yet, but as soon as I am able to, I will join a group for therapy. It's so soul destroying being around these people. My father was absolutely horrific towards me too throughout my childhood. I left home at 16 to escape him.
@MR-ly4xt My eyes are wet right now because I can empathize with you and what you're going through. I wish I had known of some way to prepare for the discard, and I hope you can find strength for that. It felt like heaven being free for about three months, but then, the real mental health issues started appearing. This had a lot to do with not having the support I needed immediately after the toxic relationship ended. It's very important to do anything you can do to start preparing. Narcissistic injury, so-called, will try to punish you at all costs for wanting to leave!! It's awful. I really understand what you are going through, and every day is a struggle to continue living with this person. So it's almost impossible to do anything else right now. But I will keep thinking and praying for you that you can get through this and arrive at a better place in the near future. ❤️
In the words of Kunta Kinte (Roots) you aren't going to learn to walk you are going to learn to run. We are all going to learn how to fly again.😊
I definitely experienced everything you mentioned for 11 years with my experiences husband and although I had narcissistic parents and family dynamics . This was the ultimate monster I ever met.i mean narcissist. The parts that resonate highly is the manipulation with the children when I would react and also the tasks given that were just set to fail and become so overwhelming. It's hard for me to concentrate and my memory is very short and sometimes I can't talk.
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
I was raised by a narcissist. Unfortunately she’s still alive. She made my dads life a living hell may he rest in peace And now she remarried and the guy she’s married to is being abused by her. My dad didn’t let her get away with it as much as with this one. He lets her walk all over him. It’s just sad. The names the yelling so glad I don’t live that way
I am so sorry for your loss.
For weeks, I was supposed to practice with the cantors on a certain evening for a wedding. Just as I was about to shower to get ready to go, my narcissist husband shut the water to our house off at the street.
I've been outright called a witch by husband #2 not meaning just a disagreeable person but an evil person. Keep in mind I had no idea what I was dealing with at that time. So, I started lightning candles everywhere humming while I did. Whenever any little thing went wrong that he couldn't figure out. I'm like, "Well, you said I was a witch, didn't you??" I do not recommend the way I handled things to anyone as I always got severely punished at a later date. I will admit that I enjoyed the moments when I got to watch his eyeballs bounce around while he tried to make sense of it. I think he still wonders about it. Blessings 🙌 🙌 🙌. 💛💛💛💛💛
@Psychicblonde67 you are brave to play along. I did this, too, because of the much too long time spent with narcissists. Now I believe I can spot one a mile away, covert narcissists two miles away, lol. The best thing now is keeping myself away from all of them, even if it means cutting people off quickly when their true colors come out!!
@@norcal1009 I'm happily single for almost 5 years now. After decades of narcissists I have a very sharp edge to me. I still work on myself. Even now, I'm just starting to accept that wasn't me who did everything wrong.
@Psychicblonde67 so cool, I know about this edge you speak of, and I personally don't mind if it bothers people. People say I'm "witty" or being a "smart ass," but it is actually being in the moment, taking it all in at once and responding to people without fear. It's similar to not having a filter or sarcasm, but it's neither of those. In fact, it's not even a coping-mehanism or anything indicative of trauma. I'm so happy you responded to me because I've been wanting to share this with someone. I believe our sharp edge comes from a place of emotional intelligence and not letting others get the upper hand. We have dealt with so much abuse as narc survivors. Like you, the long situation taught me a lot that later, I've been able to digest, understand, and accept. It has taken many years of recovery to come this far. Now, the future has no limits and no plan. It's a much better place to be.
@norcal1009 I'm lucky if I can keep my mouth shut, lol! I try harder now, sometimes. I will not dumb it down if challenged. Then I'll say something really stupid like, "I'll give you a few minutes to look that up." It was much more gratifying pre-internet because then they'd have find a dictionary, assuming they even owned a book. Once again I took way took much joy in having them follow yelling, "What did you mean by that??" Me: "Didn't I just tell you to look it up?" Then it would be more deer in the headlights, frozen stance and all. Once again, I do not recommend as the punishment always comes. Oh, well. This is my story, this is what decades of them turned me into. That's why I strongly suggest leaving quickly, quietly and safely.
You are amazing 🤩, you have helped me survive and leave my gf who is a narcissist
i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.
Verbal abuse is on steroids with a narcissist because everything you say is wrong, and you are only alive for them and what they demand of you. This abuse will continue with children, guaranteed.
The enmeshment becomes more important than anything. They drag you around keeping you fixing their disasters. Their emergencies one minute are forgotton the next. Chaos and it is your fault for not jumping high enough even though they just raised the bar. Always in your nerve endings.
@Ap50524 yep. Always in their heads, too.
Very informative respected Sir!🎉
i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.
😢THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME EVERY DAY AND NIGHT FOR ALMOST 30 YEARS. AFYER THAT LONG I WAS BELIEVING HIM. THEN I WOKE UP AFYER ALL THEOSE YEARS. HES GOT EVERYONE BELIEVUNG THAT IM IN THE WRONG. HES THE ONE THAT SAID THINGS WERE TERRIBLE. NOT ON PERSON ASKED ME MY DIDE OF THINGS. OF COURSE HIS FAMILY HATES ME BECAUSE OF HIS WORDS AND JEALOUSY. I WAS NOT IN A CIMPETION WITH WITH ANY OF THEM. I WOULDNT DO THAT. BUT THEY WERE WITH ME. THEY DAID YERRIBLE THINGS ABOUT ME AND MY FAMILY. IT WAS HELL ON EARTH AND I LUVED WITH SATAN.
@@GretchenRunge-xv2hs You are the strong one. Those people will have nothing left. Nothing. No love, no truth, and no one left to blame. You will heal. They never will. I believe that hell has a special place for all of them. Take care.
The evilness continues day in and day out....
Deadwood will always remain, just that...
My x mother in law a narcissist
Allow them to talk 👄🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪
@jananirajasekran9793 the speech of a chaotic narcissist mind.