I whole-heartedly agree, Georgi. I was amazed by this performance as I watched it. He captures the character's mental illness in a poignant, humane way that makes the character sympathetic rather than alienating.
The final line "My day's been going good, man. How your day been goin?" is so good. It implies that the cab driver may have simply asked Ben how his day was going when he got in the car as a pleasantry and Ben has been talking non-stop for possibly an hour or more.
Or everything he says in between that question and his answer in this scene is his thoughts in that moment (non-verbalized) - a scramble which seems like minutes but in real time is seconds
This episode was powerful . Ben really paints a painful picture of a fraction of what it’s like to live with someone with metal illness... I can’t imagine how painful it is being Ben .. this episode should get an award
@Ian Because The real battleground is in your mind. thats where the fight is You lay down with it,you get up with it, you go to work with it, you cant digest your food because of it, smiling infront of people And nobody knows that theres gunfire going off in your head... T.D Jakes
problem with this awful award shows is that are just a giant circle jerk is that only few people can be nominated and there are allways people that are angry their favorite show didnt get a nomination. its all b s
One of THE BEST monologues of all time. Fear, compassion, madness, anger, strength, clarity, confusion, and kindness. All with authenticity, and with three cameras in his face.
The actor for ben is just SUPERB. The emotion he portrays in the last 4 episodes of this season is done so unbelievably well. Seeing him cry genuinely breaks my heart. It's almost as if the actor and ben are the same person he takes the role and turns it into reality.
Him and Laura Linnely (Wendy), really perfected their roles in those emotional scenes. It was actually hard to watch, because of how real and their acting was.
@Dawn Green YES! This is the character where most of us GL fans knew he would make it! His acting on GL was amazing! I am watching 1st season of iron fist and I see Tom’s talent wasted. I have seen clips of him in iron fist, so I know there will be some great scenes where Tom shows his talent, but I’m not there yet.
@@Frivia I also hated his character but writing aside, i think some of his scenes were some of the best of the season like the "emotional terrorists" one or this very one. A bowl of baking soda, what a shameful behaviour, insulting because of "my tastes > your tastes" ... .
Frivia his character is used as a gut check for the Byrdes, to realize what they have been doing is terribly wrong. Ben may have been annoying but his purpose was definitely served this season.
As someone with bipolar, THIS is what it's like when you're off your meds. Fast talking, stream of consciousness conversation, forcing your ideas on others, jumping from one topic to another. I wasted so many years thinking I wouldn't be "myself" on medication, and I ended up wasting years of being like this scene. It's not "real", it's not "pure", it's not "artistic". It's active mental illness. This is 10000% the most accurate representation of bipolar I've ever seen on film.
I just wrote pretty much exactly what you said before I saw your comment!!! I agree, this is a fantastic portrayal. One bipolar to another. I hope you are doing well.
It's spot on. I'm pretty low-grade and will go through my cycles, and I tend to catch myself. I don't medicate, but it is a war. My best friend growing up makes Ben look like a Boy Scout. He was the nicest dude ever until he was about 18, and then he lost it. He'd go on rants like this all the time, and if you tried to carefully calm him down, he'd storm off and then next thing you hear a voice mail from a psych ward that was a veiled death threat. His parents put him in over 20 times, and somehow I was always the one to blame. He was a dim mirror of how bad I could be if I didn't take care of myself. I cut him out of my life, and I have no regrets.
Idk if I’m actually bipolar. I am trying to get around the idea of that. One of my therapists had told me I was but I had tried the meds and I felt like a zombie. Vowed to never do meds again. Went back to anti depressants and I’m going cold turkey on that too….again…..but this scene hits so extremely hard and I cannot believe how much I can relate to this scene.. Amazing performance but god damn….it just hits so hard..
@@stephaniemodelowitz3829 Find something positive to ground yourself in. If you are BPD you have to admit you are a human pendulum. If you start getting too excited in a positive way, the swing back could be just as strong. Best of luck.
This scene totally tore me up, the character came out of nowhere, shockingly introduced into an already complex plot, and had the deepest story arc of the season. Maybe the only person on the entire show so far who was actually pure of heart, despite his instabilities. If you haven't already check him out in Banshee as a reformed nazi turned smalltown cop, supremely talented actor.
ikr. When he showed up the first time I was like 'who tf is this maniac?' But then we get to know his deal and can't help but to feel really sorry for him.
@@ysoleil99 Amazon Prime, its an amazing show, so criminally underrated. The protagonist alone is amazing, played by the same guy who went along to play Homelander in The Boys(also on Amazon Prime). It will pretty much always be a series close to my heart.
@@7bonehead7 Tom Pelphry steals every scene he's ever in,check him out in the show "Banshee", fucking incredible. He also makes the show "The Iron Fist" bearable.
His acting is so good you would think he wasn’t acting during this scene, felt like he really did understand and feel what it’s like, like he had actually been through this in reality
@@aplus1080 it's not easy having chemical imbalance in your brain...it's feels like a hive of bees or gunfire in your head and you sleep with it it's pain
Such a great performance by this man. In my opinion the best performance the show has had by a large amount and that's saying something. This season was full of excellent ones too, but man this guy killed it.
I have never in my 30-year-old life had a full on panic attack because of a TV show/movie until this dude went and gave us the most raw and heartbreaking performance there is! Not only did I have one panic attack, I had two. It's nothing to boast about, I'm just stating that Tom Pelphrey's acting felt SO REAL that it evoked a reaction in me I haven't had in 10 years and never had because of something I've watched! I've always been good at detaching myself and remembering it's just a movie but he got under my skin! Tom Pelphrey needs to become a household name! Hollywood's not even ready for this kind of raw emotion.
Hey there.i haven't watched this show yet but I've decided to watch it.. Can I directly watch season 3 cuz they say this guy is only in this season and Ive decided to watch the show just because of this guy
@@qurashifatina7594 I honestly don't see why not but I would watch Netflix's few minute recaps of season 1 and 2 before jumping in so you have an idea what's happening haha! But jumping straight in season 3 should work fine because there's a time skip between seasons 2 and 3
Been a fan of Tom Pelphrey since seeing him play Kurt Bunker in Banshee. He was so intense but believable. The fury just creeping below the calm exterior. His portrayal of someone struggling with mental illness was so hard to watch but phenomenally well acted. Really hoping he gets many more opportunities in the future so we can all see him shine.
Kurt Bunker is a great character. I feel like for Banshee, they tackled a rehabilitated neo Nazi the best they could. He brought such heart to that character, knowing he lived a past of incredible shame, just trying to get passed it. Banshee is just fantastic!!!
Wild. This struck a chord with me…and I immediately saw your words. It really feels just right, those words. Simple but so accurate. Can’t find that..click.
Some people are saying this isn't an accurate portrayal of male bipolar disorder, or manic depression. But as a first hand account, after dealing with it all my life, this is the first accurate portrayal that I've EVER seen. Everyone has different experiences, but I'm just telling you mine.
I have friends who are mental health nurses. I'm a general nurse myself and trust me.....they have said and i agree this guys portrayal is pitch perfect! I hope you are doing ok
favorite part of all of ozark. he encapsulates a man trying to comprehend a world he cant work in, got me in tears at the end of the season. "I worry. I just worry... About other people."
A flat out Tour de Force of acting in this scene. I remember how moved I was the first time I saw this. Anything less than a Best Supporting Emmy / Golden Globe would be a crime.
Vloggerihardlyknowher ofc not but i think he’s just explaining that ben feels he has a “good reason” to do it. he feels the people he’s doing it to deserve it, therefore he’s still a “good” person kinda
This is exact: I am bipolar and I was having a great day till nothing happened. I ran away and talked a strangers ear off and was hit with this scene and almost lost it… but because I decided to pull my phone out and watch this scene it. This episode may of or may of not saved my life. But I didn’t feel alone when I watched this. And that’s all I needed at the time was to not feel alone for 5min. If you are dating someone that is dealing with this just please be gentle and read into it. It’s never going to be about you anymore, it’ll feel like you are taking care of someone rather dating. Even though which you may not know is we will do anything in our power to keep who we love happy even if we are not. Goodnight world
Not to undermine anything that you said, but ending with "goodnight world" sounds ominous and could be interpreted in such a way that people might think you're suicidal. I truly hope that isn't the case but I thought you should be aware that based on what you wrote, it appears that way.
@@Mr.Majestic77 absolutely not, the only one who wanted Ben dead was Helen & we know what happened to her. We never saw Ben's body and then Jonah saw the ashes that weren't normal. My guess is that he's alive and the Hitman didn't kill him because he had already been given orders that Helen was to die and so they faked his death to not arise Helen's suspicion. Ben's alive he's gotta be, you don't add a phenomenal actor like him just to kill him off, he was too good and an immediate fan favorite.
@@Shadoefax760 So only Nelson knows that Ben's not dead? Wendy and Marty both believe he is dead? I think still that it would fuck up the relationship between Jonah and his mom, and between Wendy and Ben, and Ruth for that matter. Since Wendy agreed to him being killed
@@stephenm107 very true but I just can't see the cartels hitman having much mercy when he saw Ben at the restaurant. But who knows?! Maybe he sparred his life!
@@sniper99zulu the showrunner has since confirmed that Ben is definitely dead. His death served a very powerful purpose, it's the point of no return for Marty and Wendy... this is how far they are prepared to fall and theres no coming back. Ben making a surprise comeback would serve no purpose. Great character though, and a phenomenal performance.
He deserves an award, but not just for this, but for the whole season. He made me cry so hard like I haven't in years (not in these scene actually), it was crazy. I was so shocked. I wanna see Tom and thank him, I wish I could do it to his face. Thank you so much Tom.
In my warm bed… Roof over my head... I love the way he starts rhyming his own words as if he’s poetic. Hell it’s not even poetry, it’s a reasoning. He’s working it out as he says it out loud. Don’t get me wrong he is poetic as an actor in this scene, it’s just sad that his character wouldn’t be seen this way in real life. Please win every Emmy ever
Actually you know what the saddest thing is in the scene? Its when he acknowledges he could never do what the cabdriver did as a soldier, but he doesn’t realize that he’s going through the same thing and all he did was get born. He has no idea his entire life has been posttraumatic stress disorder. My heart goes out to anyone feeling this way.
I think that the show actually did a good job with that. Because even though he does feel logical and poetic or like he's seeing something, he's also very illogical at the same time. The way Wendy treats him is also very similar to how it is in the real world. When they have those moments of logic, or those logical feelings and reactions it can be wrapped in illogical actions or behaviour and its easy to say "you're having an episode" or dismiss the parts that are admirable about what they're saying or doing or feeling. Great season, great performance by Tom.
He superbly hit all the nuances in his role with mental illness. The poetry we call in medicine is "clang association." You can tell the "flight of ideas" as well. Award winning performance. Got me pretty emotional watching it.
Damn this dude is captivating. I mean the writing and stuff deserve some credit yes but he took what could have been a laughable or cringe-worthy role and performance and made it amazing he just carves his way out of the screen into your soul
Watching this scene is pretty heartbreaking for myself. My Dad had pretty severe bipolar, and when he was manic he acted the exact same way. Only 3 and a half months before he died he acted exactly the same as he does in this scene
He deserves a Emmy simply because of this scene. He easily stole every scene he was in. The way he portrayed a mentally unstable man stole everyone's heart and when he died it broke everyone's heart.
Best onscreen depiction of mental illness I've EVER seen. It almost made me physically ill watching it. So completely gut wrenching. What a performance.
Good god this is literally one of the most AMAZING scenes I have EVER seen in movie, in TV, in anything. This actor is literally so good he threw me into his mind and made me feel EVERYTHING he felt. Every scene he’s in is so real and raw and provoking seriously he’s amazing
He made me cry so hard in this monologue. Tom Pelphrey knocked it out of the fucking park in this one, he's just such a talented actor. I knew he was just by watching Iron Fist.
The most incredible performance I've ever seen!! I got chills, teared up, you name it, I felt it. THIS is what every actor should aspire to accomplish with their acting.
I’m on my second rerun and I just saw his last episode and I had to come to RUclips immediately cause I already miss him and I want to know more about his character ... he deserves all the awards. I can’t believe he didn’t win an Emmy but he’s definitely on his way. Broke my heart over and over on his last episode.
I don’t get emotional much but Tom’s performance in Ozark surfaced some deep emotions in me resulting in tears. What a brilliant, committed artist. Just superb.
I remember meeting Tom Pelphrey and I told him that this scene left me more emotional than almost any scene I've watched on television or film. He was very humble and appreciative of it. Great actor snd phenomenal performance.
Awards are for the most part a popularity contest, look how much emmys won got cast, and just the póster boys/ girls, kit harrigton winning an awards fornthat wooden af acting, the same as Emilia Clarke? Pure bs
This acting scene is up there with DDL monologue in There Will Be Blood, and the Interview scene with Joaquin Phoenix and Phillip Seymour Hoffman. Absolutely breathtaking.
This scene absolutely DESTROYED me. Ben was my favorite part of season 3. He just nailed every scene he was in. But this scene-I can’t even put into words how this scene made me feel.
Having a Son with bipolar and he also looks like this actor tore me to shreds. This was a scene out of my own life. I can tell you from my own experience that this actor was spot on, it was an amazing performance, this scene should be used in every acting class......it was perfection.
I have watched this for a while now.. Continuously. The depth of despair here is real. That ‘click’ is something different. This is real. This comes from the heart.
As someone who's struggled with bipolar disorder for most of his life (being diagnosed quite late, in my 40s), and who's been in management mode for the past five years, watching Tom Pelphrey's incredible performance as Ben Davis was, in a strangely paradoxical way, both extremely difficult and extremely cathartic. I cried with him during his lowest moments because I've been there and know how crushing it could feel. I've cheered along for his small but (sadly) temporary victories because I was rooting for him to emerge from this crazy adventure safe, even though as the season progressed and he got more tangled up in the Byrdes' business, it seemed less likely. I've screamed "NO!!" at the screen with every bad decision he unconsciously made because I've made plenty of those in the past and they've devastated me and those around me. I'm not aware of any previous portrayals of characters with bipolar in entertainment, but Pelphrey captured everything about this condition so realistically, it will definitely go down in history as one of the greatest. I was so pissed that he was snubbed for an Emmy, I felt like punching the hell out of a wood chipper operator and using his machine to make smartphone smoothie.
*Credit the writer, Miki Johnson.* Pelphrey (Ben) even gives the script a wealth of credit for the scene's success. Miki had a significant burden: write a scene depicting someone reeling from chaos and slipping into mania without using bipolar caricatures. She nailed it. The "talking without saying anything" quality rather than "psychobabble"; ups and downs associated with each tangent; and being jovial to tearful and back to jovial again, are hallmarks of an initial descent into mania. You don't just make this up. The writing feels inspired. Job well done all around.
tom pelphrey, if you ever stumble across this somehow, thank you for your incredible acting in this scene. a frequent watch for 3 years, it makes me feel understood when i'm in the thick of it.
The character was played so beautifully that at one point you get angry at him, then everything feels justified and he becomes more human than others who are so called normal than him. Just hats off to the actor for such beautiful and exceptional acting skills
I feel what he is saying so much right here. It touched something really deep in side me when he said at times you know who you were before that thing that fucked your mind up!!!!! Wow, that's powerful right there!!!!! One of the most powerful scenes ever!!!!!!
I love someone so very much that is exactly like this. This scene is so difficult for me to watch and I applaud him for this performance. I have never seen my fiancé appropriately portrayed until this episode. I had to pause the scene because it was so hard to watch for me. Bravo.
As an autistic person, I come back to to this every now and then and just bawl my eyes out. Theryyes always a scene, a lyric, or a image that just explains you to you're core and you feel understood. Personifying those comfusing feelings in your body.
This scene was so powerful, what an actor. Unforgettable. Some scenes in movies are like gems that you never forget because you were so deeply moved. This is one of them for me.
I cried through his every scene. His acting is so real and well researched. Tom did a great job with his role, he deserves appreciation for this. My brother was diagnosed with bipolar 4 years ago. Since then my family has been fighting his illness. For those who don't know, if your loved one is a bipolar it is very hard to do anything for them. The health facility thing is so genuine in this show. Yes they can be dangerous but they are still too smart to be drugged up in an asylum. My brother is chaotic and hiperbolic, but he is crazy genius, too smart for even psychiatrics. Doctors feel like primitives in front of him. Plus they are very sweet and innocent make it all more difficult.
This is probably the best, most-realistic portrayal of mental illness that I’ve ever seen, and easily the best acting in the entire series, which is saying something, as it’s all fantastic. Phenomenally heavy. Tragic character arc.
I have bipolar so think I may be able to comment on this performance. It is one of the best portrayals I have ever seen on film! He captures the scattered thoughts, the rolling ideas, the HUGE sense of empathy and the horror of going down deep into what you imagine others feel. Bipolar is NOT about thinking you are a God is most cases.. it's about feeling things so deeply that you cannot shake it... believing you are the only one who can truly understand and then trying to explain to people why you feel the way you do without even being sure that you actually feel what you do. You're thoughts are often scattered... you try to stop speaking... as he shows by looking out the window... but then feel what you have to say is important... and sometimes it IS important. And the waking up with thoughts that can cripple your day, worrying what others feel and feeling that you are the only one that can truly empathise... running from heartbreak to joy... realising that you aren't living that life and then acknowledging that you, too, are deemed mentally unwell.. It's a really good depiction. The character is harmless but driven to do right... even if that hurts others. Don't even get me started on the crippling depression side... That is hell. As a rapid-cycling bipolar person I feel this scene.
For every person who says **** is so underrated.This is what underrated truly is.He runs circles around his peers, and still gets snubbed.I felt every fibre of his emotion
I have bipolar. This performance isn’t how it is for EVERYONE with bipolar but it is extremely accurate for me. Acting means a lot to people. Thanks for it.
Wow!!! Man, what a performance!! As an actor, I'd easily put this as one of the best monologues ever done. Jeez, so much going on. All brilliant. Wow. I dream (and work) to be this good and captivating on screen.
He was such a time bomb. He was like a car crash you could see coming but couldn’t stop. I can relate to Wendy as I have a family member with mental illness. Sometimes you can convince yourself that you can help them and you put months, then years into helping them. And then you realize you don’t have a life anymore, now you are living their life. And you realize they are still the same person they always were despite the hell you have put yourself through. Their relationship is so accurately portrayed in terms of a family dealing with mental illness.
I just finished watching the series and, I believe this actor with this amazing performance represents the creative side of the show, and this scene really touched me, he deserves an Emmy award honestly.
His performance blew me away. What a force to be reckoned with. You completely forget he’s even acting. His character broke my heart. When Wendy left him at the restaurant and the camera panned to him just sitting in the booth is the only time I cried during the show.
One of the most captivating and heart-wrenching monologues on modern television. This scene alone made me hold my breath the entire time. I worked with vets to help navigate their health issues and medical insurance for 14 years and it is so on point, I have to believe he drew on a personal experience
He deserves an award for his performance... amazing actor!
One of the best piece of acting I've ever seen. Fantastic!
I whole-heartedly agree, Georgi. I was amazed by this performance as I watched it. He captures the character's mental illness in a poignant, humane way that makes the character sympathetic rather than alienating.
@@imOJOmran I've just edited it, you're right!
I agree!
Facts
The final line "My day's been going good, man. How your day been goin?" is so good. It implies that the cab driver may have simply asked Ben how his day was going when he got in the car as a pleasantry and Ben has been talking non-stop for possibly an hour or more.
Or everything he says in between that question and his answer in this scene is his thoughts in that moment (non-verbalized) - a scramble which seems like minutes but in real time is seconds
@@EverGreen1888 I never thought of it like that , if that’s really how they intended this scene to play out is fucking genius !!!
Half an hour. As they believe it is always half an hour drive in Ozark.
Thanks man, i never thought about it like that
Really kicked in when I thought about it that way.
This episode was powerful . Ben really paints a painful picture of a fraction of what it’s like to live with someone with metal illness... I can’t imagine how painful it is being Ben .. this episode should get an award
what episode is this
@@alexisretzepis8502 Season 3, Episode 9
Every episode 9 ever
Its horrible...
@Ian Because The real battleground is in your mind. thats where the fight is
You lay down with it,you get up with it, you go to work with it, you cant digest your food because of it, smiling infront of people
And nobody knows that theres gunfire going off in your head...
T.D Jakes
"Oh, I remember what my mind was before the thing happened that ruined my mind "
That one hurts so much
Holy shit that hit harder
Yup.
i don't
Absolutely brilliant!
Came here after he wasn't nominated for the Emmy. I am so upset, he was unbelievable.
So many deserved rolls got snubbed this year
Did the or this show win anything? I just finished the series and there’s no way they didnt
Julia garner ( ruth langmore) got 2 emmys for supporting in 2019 and 2020 actress role and Jason Bateman got an emmy for directing in 2019
problem with this awful award shows is that are just a giant circle jerk is that only few people can be nominated and there are allways people that are angry their favorite show didnt get a nomination. its all b s
Who did he lose to? 🤔
One of THE BEST monologues of all time. Fear, compassion, madness, anger, strength, clarity, confusion, and kindness. All with authenticity, and with three cameras in his face.
"I remember what my mind was, before the thing that happened that ruined my mind"
Goosebumps
It’s been a while since I watched-does anyone know/can you remind me what happened to him to “ruin his mind”? Or was it never explicitly revealed?
@@Legomax18 He ran over a kid on a scooter and killed him. Ben has never emotionally recovered from it.
@@drewmorgan9276 thanks bro.
Been true a burnout this year, those very words hit hard.
Mental illness really does make you feel like a completely different person
The actor for ben is just SUPERB. The emotion he portrays in the last 4 episodes of this season is done so unbelievably well. Seeing him cry genuinely breaks my heart. It's almost as if the actor and ben are the same person he takes the role and turns it into reality.
That’s the thing about acting...the writer writes the story and the acting brings it to life and he did a wonderful job in doing just that.
Him and Laura Linnely (Wendy), really perfected their roles in those emotional scenes. It was actually hard to watch, because of how real and their acting was.
@Dawn Green YES! This is the character where most of us GL fans knew he would make it! His acting on GL was amazing! I am watching 1st season of iron fist and I see Tom’s talent wasted. I have seen clips of him in iron fist, so I know there will be some great scenes where Tom shows his talent, but I’m not there yet.
the scene with him crying and freaking out almost made me turn the show off and take a walk or something. it sounded too real, like it wasn't acting.
He UTTERLY SLAYED this role. The humanity. The honesty. The betrayal. The struggle. God dammit. It's so beautiful and so fuxking heartbreaking.
This scene will go down in television history
i hated his character and it shouldnt have been in the show, it was filler and was there to create useless contraversey
Frivia wow😭😭😭 idiots really out here
@@Frivia Well you're entitled to your opinion I guess. But you can't deny his acting skill in this scene at least.
@@Frivia I also hated his character but writing aside, i think some of his scenes were some of the best of the season like the "emotional terrorists" one or this very one. A bowl of baking soda, what a shameful behaviour, insulting because of "my tastes > your tastes" ... .
Frivia his character is used as a gut check for the Byrdes, to realize what they have been doing is terribly wrong. Ben may have been annoying but his purpose was definitely served this season.
after this the cab driver never asked anyone how their day was going.
As someone with bipolar, THIS is what it's like when you're off your meds. Fast talking, stream of consciousness conversation, forcing your ideas on others, jumping from one topic to another. I wasted so many years thinking I wouldn't be "myself" on medication, and I ended up wasting years of being like this scene. It's not "real", it's not "pure", it's not "artistic". It's active mental illness. This is 10000% the most accurate representation of bipolar I've ever seen on film.
I just wrote pretty much exactly what you said before I saw your comment!!! I agree, this is a fantastic portrayal. One bipolar to another. I hope you are doing well.
glad you are better now, man
It's spot on. I'm pretty low-grade and will go through my cycles, and I tend to catch myself. I don't medicate, but it is a war. My best friend growing up makes Ben look like a Boy Scout. He was the nicest dude ever until he was about 18, and then he lost it. He'd go on rants like this all the time, and if you tried to carefully calm him down, he'd storm off and then next thing you hear a voice mail from a psych ward that was a veiled death threat. His parents put him in over 20 times, and somehow I was always the one to blame.
He was a dim mirror of how bad I could be if I didn't take care of myself. I cut him out of my life, and I have no regrets.
Idk if I’m actually bipolar. I am trying to get around the idea of that. One of my therapists had told me I was but I had tried the meds and I felt like a zombie. Vowed to never do meds again. Went back to anti depressants and I’m going cold turkey on that too….again…..but this scene hits so extremely hard and I cannot believe how much I can relate to this scene.. Amazing performance but god damn….it just hits so hard..
@@stephaniemodelowitz3829 Find something positive to ground yourself in. If you are BPD you have to admit you are a human pendulum. If you start getting too excited in a positive way, the swing back could be just as strong. Best of luck.
This scene totally tore me up, the character came out of nowhere, shockingly introduced into an already complex plot, and had the deepest story arc of the season. Maybe the only person on the entire show so far who was actually pure of heart, despite his instabilities. If you haven't already check him out in Banshee as a reformed nazi turned smalltown cop, supremely talented actor.
Me too.
Oh man, you nailed it. I felt like i had to move closer to the tv to absorb all of it. Where can I find Banshee?
ikr. When he showed up the first time I was like 'who tf is this maniac?' But then we get to know his deal and can't help but to feel really sorry for him.
@@ysoleil99 Amazon Prime, its an amazing show, so criminally underrated. The protagonist alone is amazing, played by the same guy who went along to play Homelander in The Boys(also on Amazon Prime). It will pretty much always be a series close to my heart.
@@ysoleil99 I watched it on HBO max!
I hope this guy got paid handsomely for his part in the show.
I am sure it will pay off one way or another
That and I hope he gets casted in more movies and shows after this. He's an absolutely incredible actor and I'd really like to see more of him.
Yeah he was so good
@@7bonehead7 Tom Pelphry steals every scene he's ever in,check him out in the show "Banshee", fucking incredible. He also makes the show "The Iron Fist" bearable.
I really hope the guy has a long successful career. He is such a great actor.
His acting is so good you would think he wasn’t acting during this scene, felt like he really did understand and feel what it’s like, like he had actually been through this in reality
Quite simply one of the best monologues ever written or played. The shooting, the pace, the delivery... just genius all around.
Watch Better Call Saul.
The best five minutes of acting I've seen for a long time. I hope this guy has a long and distinguished career because he's absolutely brilliant.
I remember thinking "is he just monologging?" So f'ing heartbreaking for these people out here just like him.
watch bad lieutenant church scene THAT is the best display of all time
@@aplus1080 it's not easy having chemical imbalance in your brain...it's feels like a hive of bees or gunfire in your head and you sleep with it it's pain
He's the new Philip Seymore Hoffman. Not the same look, but the same chops. The man can play anything.
Such a great performance by this man. In my opinion the best performance the show has had by a large amount and that's saying something. This season was full of excellent ones too, but man this guy killed it.
I have never in my 30-year-old life had a full on panic attack because of a TV show/movie until this dude went and gave us the most raw and heartbreaking performance there is! Not only did I have one panic attack, I had two. It's nothing to boast about, I'm just stating that Tom Pelphrey's acting felt SO REAL that it evoked a reaction in me I haven't had in 10 years and never had because of something I've watched! I've always been good at detaching myself and remembering it's just a movie but he got under my skin! Tom Pelphrey needs to become a household name! Hollywood's not even ready for this kind of raw emotion.
don't watch Gravity :)
If you haven't already, check him out in Banshee.
Nailed it!
Hey there.i haven't watched this show yet but I've decided to watch it.. Can I directly watch season 3 cuz they say this guy is only in this season and Ive decided to watch the show just because of this guy
@@qurashifatina7594 I honestly don't see why not but I would watch Netflix's few minute recaps of season 1 and 2 before jumping in so you have an idea what's happening haha! But jumping straight in season 3 should work fine because there's a time skip between seasons 2 and 3
Been a fan of Tom Pelphrey since seeing him play Kurt Bunker in Banshee. He was so intense but believable. The fury just creeping below the calm exterior. His portrayal of someone struggling with mental illness was so hard to watch but phenomenally well acted. Really hoping he gets many more opportunities in the future so we can all see him shine.
I agree with you totally, He's one of a kind
Kurt Bunker is a great character. I feel like for Banshee, they tackled a rehabilitated neo Nazi the best they could. He brought such heart to that character, knowing he lived a past of incredible shame, just trying to get passed it. Banshee is just fantastic!!!
Holt shit I didn't realize till I seen this comment that he played as kurt bunker on banshee and I watched all of banshees seasons twice
He was great in Banshee even though season 4 was much weaker than the first three.
I was actually a fan of his because of the show "Iron Fist" He plays Ward
“But he can’t….find the click…”
Fuck, Tom floored me with his performance in this scene. It is criminal that he didn’t even get nominated.
Hit it on the nail with that line. Couldn't have said it better
Wild. This struck a chord with me…and I immediately saw your words.
It really feels just right, those words. Simple but so accurate.
Can’t find that..click.
Some people are saying this isn't an accurate portrayal of male bipolar disorder, or manic depression.
But as a first hand account, after dealing with it all my life, this is the first accurate portrayal that I've EVER seen.
Everyone has different experiences, but I'm just telling you mine.
Who would argue with that? It's a textbook example of mania.
I agree
I’m sorry you have to deal with this. Wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy
I have friends who are mental health nurses. I'm a general nurse myself and trust me.....they have said and i agree this guys portrayal is pitch perfect!
I hope you are doing ok
I become like this when I do molly/mdma.
favorite part of all of ozark. he encapsulates a man trying to comprehend a world he cant work in, got me in tears at the end of the season. "I worry. I just worry... About other people."
A flat out Tour de Force of acting in this scene. I remember how moved I was the first time I saw this. Anything less than a Best Supporting Emmy / Golden Globe would be a crime.
Me too. I couldn’t believe what I was watching. Absolute acting perfection
"I worry. I just worry... About other people."
The complete opposite of Wendy and Marty. Who are leaving behind a road of broken lives and families.
Well he did beat the shit out of a guy over a tie... And lawn care worker because he wanted to destroy teenagers private property.
Vloggerihardlyknowher with the tie guy he was taking anger out on him bc of what frank jr did to ruth. And the school incident was about the girl
@@sixum5556 that doesn't even remotely begin to justify what he did.
Vloggerihardlyknowher ofc not but i think he’s just explaining that ben feels he has a “good reason” to do it. he feels the people he’s doing it to deserve it, therefore he’s still a “good” person kinda
@@erin.19 Him feeling like a guy who is just fucking having a drink deserves to be beaten does not make it remotely okay. WTF ?
He’s just a guy he’s just guy he’s just a guy
Cause he cant cause he cant cause he cant
Find that click
In my warm bed, Roof over my head...Food in the fridge, Fridge in the first place
he should've at least gotten an Emmy nod for this. so underrated.
They haven't made the nominations yet, so he still could get one
Justin Zinkowski smh the Emmy’s did him dirty
it’s ridiculous he didn’t get nominated
Emmys are a joke anyway just like the Grammys and any other award show it’s all bullshit and rigged
This is exact: I am bipolar and I was having a great day till nothing happened. I ran away and talked a strangers ear off and was hit with this scene and almost lost it… but because I decided to pull my phone out and watch this scene it. This episode may of or may of not saved my life. But I didn’t feel alone when I watched this. And that’s all I needed at the time was to not feel alone for 5min. If you are dating someone that is dealing with this just please be gentle and read into it. It’s never going to be about you anymore, it’ll feel like you are taking care of someone rather dating. Even though which you may not know is we will do anything in our power to keep who we love happy even if we are not. Goodnight world
Not to undermine anything that you said, but ending with "goodnight world" sounds ominous and could be interpreted in such a way that people might think you're suicidal. I truly hope that isn't the case but I thought you should be aware that based on what you wrote, it appears that way.
@@hypnos9336 dude I'm Bipolar too please let us know you're okay
@@larryloveland1911 me? I'm fine (well, not exactly fine but I'm still giving life a chance). Not sure about Dylan though
This scene is so tragic in so many ways. RIP Ben
He's not dead
ShadoeFax please explain. The hitman killed him. Am I wrong?
@@Mr.Majestic77 absolutely not, the only one who wanted Ben dead was Helen & we know what happened to her. We never saw Ben's body and then Jonah saw the ashes that weren't normal. My guess is that he's alive and the Hitman didn't kill him because he had already been given orders that Helen was to die and so they faked his death to not arise Helen's suspicion. Ben's alive he's gotta be, you don't add a phenomenal actor like him just to kill him off, he was too good and an immediate fan favorite.
@@Shadoefax760 So only Nelson knows that Ben's not dead? Wendy and Marty both believe he is dead? I think still that it would fuck up the relationship between Jonah and his mom, and between Wendy and Ben, and Ruth for that matter. Since Wendy agreed to him being killed
He’s not dead! They’ve shown every single dead characters dead body but his... they even showed Helen’s he’s not dead
This scene is a rare piece of art. The writing combined with his acting is remarkable. Too bad he was only in one season.
ah, but we never saw him die and we never saw his body.
@@stephenm107 very true but I just can't see the cartels hitman having much mercy when he saw Ben at the restaurant. But who knows?! Maybe he sparred his life!
Don’t forget the Editing that tied this together perfectly
Stephen M pretty sure we saw them put him in the furnace
@@sniper99zulu the showrunner has since confirmed that Ben is definitely dead. His death served a very powerful purpose, it's the point of no return for Marty and Wendy... this is how far they are prepared to fall and theres no coming back. Ben making a surprise comeback would serve no purpose. Great character though, and a phenomenal performance.
He deserves an award, but not just for this, but for the whole season. He made me cry so hard like I haven't in years (not in these scene actually), it was crazy. I was so shocked. I wanna see Tom and thank him, I wish I could do it to his face.
Thank you so much Tom.
His acting here is simply amazing. He deserves many awards !
In my warm bed… Roof over my head... I love the way he starts rhyming his own words as if he’s poetic. Hell it’s not even poetry, it’s a reasoning. He’s working it out as he says it out loud. Don’t get me wrong he is poetic as an actor in this scene, it’s just sad that his character wouldn’t be seen this way in real life. Please win every Emmy ever
Actually you know what the saddest thing is in the scene? Its when he acknowledges he could never do what the cabdriver did as a soldier, but he doesn’t realize that he’s going through the same thing and all he did was get born. He has no idea his entire life has been posttraumatic stress disorder. My heart goes out to anyone feeling this way.
@@zacharybrown2413 damn, didn't even think about it that way. Good one.
I think that the show actually did a good job with that. Because even though he does feel logical and poetic or like he's seeing something, he's also very illogical at the same time. The way Wendy treats him is also very similar to how it is in the real world. When they have those moments of logic, or those logical feelings and reactions it can be wrapped in illogical actions or behaviour and its easy to say "you're having an episode" or dismiss the parts that are admirable about what they're saying or doing or feeling. Great season, great performance by Tom.
He superbly hit all the nuances in his role with mental illness. The poetry we call in medicine is "clang association." You can tell the "flight of ideas" as well. Award winning performance. Got me pretty emotional watching it.
“My days been going good man, how’s your day going?” Powerful performance.
Damn this dude is captivating. I mean the writing and stuff deserve some credit yes but he took what could have been a laughable or cringe-worthy role and performance and made it amazing he just carves his way out of the screen into your soul
Check him out in the film from 2020 "American Murderer". Unreal!
I walked into my mom watching this show at this scene and now I instantly feel everything for this man
Watching this scene is pretty heartbreaking for myself. My Dad had pretty severe bipolar, and when he was manic he acted the exact same way. Only 3 and a half months before he died he acted exactly the same as he does in this scene
Rip
He deserves a Emmy simply because of this scene.
He easily stole every scene he was in. The way he portrayed a mentally unstable man stole everyone's heart and when he died it broke everyone's heart.
Best onscreen depiction of mental illness I've EVER seen.
It almost made me physically ill watching it. So completely gut wrenching.
What a performance.
What. A. Scene. Tom Pelphrey absolutely killed this!
Good god this is literally one of the most AMAZING scenes I have EVER seen in movie, in TV, in anything. This actor is literally so good he threw me into his mind and made me feel EVERYTHING he felt. Every scene he’s in is so real and raw and provoking seriously he’s amazing
Award winning actor right here. Incredible job!
He made me cry so hard in this monologue. Tom Pelphrey knocked it out of the fucking park in this one, he's just such a talented actor. I knew he was just by watching Iron Fist.
The most incredible performance I've ever seen!! I got chills, teared up, you name it, I felt it. THIS is what every actor should aspire to accomplish with their acting.
One of the best acted scenes in all of television/web series history
I’m on my second rerun and I just saw his last episode and I had to come to RUclips immediately cause I already miss him and I want to know more about his character ...
he deserves all the awards. I can’t believe he didn’t win an Emmy but he’s definitely on his way. Broke my heart over and over on his last episode.
This is a once in a lifetime moment. ❤ The detail. The changes in breathing. The ride of all those emotions. Each blink of his eyes. ❤
I don’t get emotional much but Tom’s performance in Ozark surfaced some deep emotions in me resulting in tears. What a brilliant, committed artist. Just superb.
I remember meeting Tom Pelphrey and I told him that this scene left me more emotional than almost any scene I've watched on television or film. He was very humble and appreciative of it. Great actor snd phenomenal performance.
This is possibly the best performance I've ever seen. His performance feels so visceral that it dredges up old nightmares.
The fact that he was not nominated for an Emmy is beyond me
Awards are for the most part a popularity contest, look how much emmys won got cast, and just the póster boys/ girls, kit harrigton winning an awards fornthat wooden af acting, the same as Emilia Clarke? Pure bs
BRILLIANT. I teared up when I first saw this scene. Tom deserves all the awards because of this 1 scene alone.
“I remember what my mind was, before the thing happened, that ruined my mind.” Damn 😔 Amazing job from Tom and the writers, just wow! 👏🏾
This acting scene is up there with DDL monologue in There Will Be Blood, and the Interview scene with Joaquin Phoenix and Phillip Seymour Hoffman. Absolutely breathtaking.
This scene absolutely DESTROYED me. Ben was my favorite part of season 3. He just nailed every scene he was in. But this scene-I can’t even put into words how this scene made me feel.
Having a Son with bipolar and he also looks like this actor tore me to shreds. This was a scene out of my own life. I can tell you from my own experience that this actor was spot on, it was an amazing performance, this scene should be used in every acting class......it was perfection.
I have watched this for a while now.. Continuously. The depth of despair here is real. That ‘click’ is something different. This is real. This comes from the heart.
As someone who's struggled with bipolar disorder for most of his life (being diagnosed quite late, in my 40s), and who's been in management mode for the past five years, watching Tom Pelphrey's incredible performance as Ben Davis was, in a strangely paradoxical way, both extremely difficult and extremely cathartic. I cried with him during his lowest moments because I've been there and know how crushing it could feel. I've cheered along for his small but (sadly) temporary victories because I was rooting for him to emerge from this crazy adventure safe, even though as the season progressed and he got more tangled up in the Byrdes' business, it seemed less likely. I've screamed "NO!!" at the screen with every bad decision he unconsciously made because I've made plenty of those in the past and they've devastated me and those around me. I'm not aware of any previous portrayals of characters with bipolar in entertainment, but Pelphrey captured everything about this condition so realistically, it will definitely go down in history as one of the greatest.
I was so pissed that he was snubbed for an Emmy, I felt like punching the hell out of a wood chipper operator and using his machine to make smartphone smoothie.
This scene has stayed with me longer than any other that i've seen in the last 20 years or more
*Credit the writer, Miki Johnson.* Pelphrey (Ben) even gives the script a wealth of credit for the scene's success. Miki had a significant burden: write a scene depicting someone reeling from chaos and slipping into mania without using bipolar caricatures. She nailed it. The "talking without saying anything" quality rather than "psychobabble"; ups and downs associated with each tangent; and being jovial to tearful and back to jovial again, are hallmarks of an initial descent into mania. You don't just make this up. The writing feels inspired. Job well done all around.
What a fantastic performance!!!
This scene broke my heart. Beautifully acted!
I love that the monologue is him having an episode between his answer to how your day was. He obviously checked out.
At the 1m mark, the way the shadow falls over his face as he's thinking about "the kid" is flawless editing.
tom pelphrey, if you ever stumble across this somehow, thank you for your incredible acting in this scene. a frequent watch for 3 years, it makes me feel understood when i'm in the thick of it.
The character was played so beautifully that at one point you get angry at him, then everything feels justified and he becomes more human than others who are so called normal than him. Just hats off to the actor for such beautiful and exceptional acting skills
I feel what he is saying so much right here. It touched something really deep in side me when he said at times you know who you were before that thing that fucked your mind up!!!!! Wow, that's powerful right there!!!!! One of the most powerful scenes ever!!!!!!
This is theatre on television. Just sitting with a character and watching them piece something together in real-time. So compelling.
I love someone so very much that is exactly like this. This scene is so difficult for me to watch and I applaud him for this performance. I have never seen my fiancé appropriately portrayed until this episode. I had to pause the scene because it was so hard to watch for me. Bravo.
Iconic scene absolutely iconic. Reminds me of heath ledger in the Dark Knight
Total masterclass
This is so touching and brilliant. Tom Pelphrey is my new acting crush now. Give that man an Emmy!
This is one of my favorite scenes of television of all time. Give this man all the awards.
As an autistic person, I come back to to this every now and then and just bawl my eyes out. Theryyes always a scene, a lyric, or a image that just explains you to you're core and you feel understood. Personifying those comfusing feelings in your body.
I hope he wins an emmy for this, he really deserves it...
This scene was so powerful, what an actor. Unforgettable. Some scenes in movies are like gems that you never forget because you were so deeply moved. This is one of them for me.
This man is an amazing actor
I cried through his every scene. His acting is so real and well researched. Tom did a great job with his role, he deserves appreciation for this. My brother was diagnosed with bipolar 4 years ago. Since then my family has been fighting his illness. For those who don't know, if your loved one is a bipolar it is very hard to do anything for them. The health facility thing is so genuine in this show. Yes they can be dangerous but they are still too smart to be drugged up in an asylum. My brother is chaotic and hiperbolic, but he is crazy genius, too smart for even psychiatrics. Doctors feel like primitives in front of him. Plus they are very sweet and innocent make it all more difficult.
Most accurate depiction of being Bi Polar that I've ever seen on film. This performance deserves an award!
This is probably the best, most-realistic portrayal of mental illness that I’ve ever seen, and easily the best acting in the entire series, which is saying something, as it’s all fantastic. Phenomenally heavy. Tragic character arc.
Caring too much can be a curse.
He should have won an Emmy for this.
Tom Pelphrey finally nominated for an Emmy! The guy deserves it his performance as Ben was fantastic
It is criminally unfair that he didn't receive an Emmy nod for this.
I have bipolar so think I may be able to comment on this performance. It is one of the best portrayals I have ever seen on film! He captures the scattered thoughts, the rolling ideas, the HUGE sense of empathy and the horror of going down deep into what you imagine others feel. Bipolar is NOT about thinking you are a God is most cases.. it's about feeling things so deeply that you cannot shake it... believing you are the only one who can truly understand and then trying to explain to people why you feel the way you do without even being sure that you actually feel what you do. You're thoughts are often scattered... you try to stop speaking... as he shows by looking out the window... but then feel what you have to say is important... and sometimes it IS important. And the waking up with thoughts that can cripple your day, worrying what others feel and feeling that you are the only one that can truly empathise... running from heartbreak to joy... realising that you aren't living that life and then acknowledging that you, too, are deemed mentally unwell.. It's a really good depiction. The character is harmless but driven to do right... even if that hurts others. Don't even get me started on the crippling depression side... That is hell. As a rapid-cycling bipolar person I feel this scene.
For every person who says **** is so underrated.This is what underrated truly is.He runs circles around his peers, and still gets snubbed.I felt every fibre of his emotion
I have bipolar. This performance isn’t how it is for EVERYONE with bipolar but it is extremely accurate for me. Acting means a lot to people. Thanks for it.
Wow!!! Man, what a performance!! As an actor, I'd easily put this as one of the best monologues ever done. Jeez, so much going on. All brilliant. Wow. I dream (and work) to be this good and captivating on screen.
He was such a time bomb. He was like a car crash you could see coming but couldn’t stop. I can relate to Wendy as I have a family member with mental illness. Sometimes you can convince yourself that you can help them and you put months, then years into helping them. And then you realize you don’t have a life anymore, now you are living their life. And you realize they are still the same person they always were despite the hell you have put yourself through. Their relationship is so accurately portrayed in terms of a family dealing with mental illness.
As a person with mental illness it makes profoundly sad to think I make the ppl who care about me go through hell.
"my days been going good.man, how's your day been going" 💔
That line at the end is everything. Just adds the extra layer to make your hair stand up.
they should have kept him for the rest of the season, one hell of an actor,,, hes just a guy, cse he cant
Yes!!!! He was so good!
No. glad he's gone. liability.
@@isobel64 what.the.fuck.
I just finished watching the series and, I believe this actor with this amazing performance represents the creative side of the show, and this scene really touched me, he deserves an Emmy award honestly.
What would it have been like watching Tom get through this scene. This is so fucking powerful
wonder how many takes they shot
The character build in this episode is epic. You feel like you know Ben personally.
I can’t believe he got snubbed by the emmys. He deserved a nomination at least
His performance blew me away. What a force to be reckoned with. You completely forget he’s even acting. His character broke my heart. When Wendy left him at the restaurant and the camera panned to him just sitting in the booth is the only time I cried during the show.
Oh, Netflix! Do the actor and yourself a favor. Put Tom Pelphrey's name in the video title!
Right!! Give Tom Pelphrey proper recognition
One of the most captivating and heart-wrenching monologues on modern television. This scene alone made me hold my breath the entire time. I worked with vets to help navigate their health issues and medical insurance for 14 years and it is so on point, I have to believe he drew on a personal experience
The man was robbed of a nomination when he should have won the award
Amazing actor with so much intensity.., next level kudos
amazin acting, amazing actor. absolutely epic. Bravo 👏👏👏👏
Tom Pelphrey deserved an Oscar for this monologue alone.