6 Signs You’re Bottling Up Your Emotions
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 17 май 2024
- Do you feel emotional numbness? Are you feeling helpless about your situation right now or have trouble identifying how you feel? You could be bottling up your feelings and are dealing with suppressed emotions. This can be detrimental to your mental health. So, the first step is to recognize that you’re closing yourself off, and so, let's look into the signs to find out whether you may be bottling up your emotions. If you relate to this video and wonder what to do next, it's time to look into the root cause of emotional numbness. We've also made a video on why we may feel emotionally numb if you want to check that out: • 7 Reasons Why You Feel...
#emotion #numbness #psych2go #bottledupemotions
Writer: Arusha Patil
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Andrew Allan
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
References
The University of Texas at Austin. “Psychologists find the meaning of aggression: ‘Monty Python’ scene helps research.” ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 24 March 2011.
www.insider.com/why-its-dangerous-to-bottle-up-your-emotions-2018-12
Hey Psych2Goers, we've recently launched a few merch T-shirt designs to bring a piece of Psych2Go physically to you! Which of these do you like best? We might be giving out a few as well to those who may not be able to afford them. The intention of these designs is to remind you that each day, your mental health matters. 🙂
"Learn To Rest" Short-Sleeve Unisex T-Shirt
bit.ly/2DFweOu
"Time Heals Everything" Short-Sleeve Unisex T-Shirt
bit.ly/3h5hsz7
"Everyone Grows At Different Rates" Short-Sleeve Unisex T-Shirt
bit.ly/2CIozPe
"You Matter" Short-Sleeve Unisex T-Shirt
bit.ly/3ey8U2a
Thanks for this video💖
Psych2Go henlo
Thank you for this video! I share your channel with my friends since the usually ask me psychology questions. These help me understand myself 😊
Umm hi psych2go, I can't afford a shirt but if I could have a shirt it'd mean the world to me!!
I’m an emotional person I’m the kind that cry’s at a movie but when it’s not something like that I try so hard to hold back the tears from everyone when I feel sad or hurt kind of a weird mix
"Did you recognise any of these signs in yourself?" Oh honey
*I am these sign*
@@syahrezadifachri5121 lmao accurate
literally all of them
I'm all of them
I'm all of them...
this whole video said, “this you?” 👁👄👁
Fr
I prefer “homi if you cry ur a fucking dumbness and go die in a hole” other than “bottling up ur emotions”
That’s how I see it
Yeah that's me all right
Same
The fact that we can't tell others that they are hurting us 🥲
or we are trying but they don't get it 😢
@@alessia5151 yeah maybe🙃
Its happening right now in my life and i just cannot for the life of me confront her about how i feel bcuz i feel like it'll make me look pathetic💀it sucks honestly
@@alessia5151 exactly.gaslighting at its best
or, the route I got stuck with, it got turned around on you and they are the victim here, you need to change, and that person was my mother, thankfully, I recently moved in with my dad.
This is super long, thanks to anyone who can be bothered reading this.
I've been bottling up my emotions for as long as I can remember, and now I can't stop. It's gotten to a point where it feels like I am just filtering out anything bad that happens, then burying it deep inside me. Because I've been doing this for so long, I physically will not let myself cry in front of people anymore, even if I really want to. I've been aware of myself bottling up emotions for a long time as well, and i've been attempting to find out why I'm experiencing this for so long... I've arrived at some kind of childhood neglect trauma??? I have all the symptoms, but i don't have a therapist to tell me whats rlly happening (cause I won't open up to my parents cause it just feels weird)... idrk, but the worst thing is, when I told my friend that I might possibly have trauma, and she said that I definitely don't, because I have such an amazing life, and that she has it way worse then me... wtf. I mean, she's my best friend and she doesn't even know me, because I fudging internalise all of my bad feelings 24/7, and she's here telling me that there's not possibly anything wrong with me. I just want to be seen, but she can't do that for me because I wont let her. After that conversation she went to sleep, and I had a mental breakdown, (kinda). I felt so much like crying, but I couldn't so I just lay there for 3 hours feeling a big black chasm open up inside me, and my sadness and anger washing over me like waves in the ocean, and all I could think was... Somebody get me a fudging therapist.
Basically, I deal with all of my problems internally, by myself, cause thats just how i've done it for pretty much my whole life, and I really just want someone to notice that I'm dying inside, but the fact is that they never will because I hide it too well. Also, I only let myself feel these things during the night, when I'm alone, so I don't really feel any of these things during the day? Except with the 3rd person perspective thing, that happens to me a lot... It's weirdly specific ik, but just go with it.
Pls like this comment if u can relate because I would really like to know if other people have this, or if i'm just special, yk? :)
You can bring it up slowly or little by little to your mom or dad I’m the same way I can talk to you often on RUclips if you want
Thank you :) its nice to know i'm not alone. I'll try what you suggested,
I try to slowly let it out at night, but they somehow always hear the whimpers.
I definitely empathise with this...
It's gotten to the point where I can barely stand to look at myself when I'm crying.
Also, sometimes I find it literally impossible to tell people things (especially if I need to tell them something personal).
tysm for replying... all the likes and comments on this just feel like a big hug. I know i can't know exactly how you're feeling, but I know what its like, and its pretty sh*tty. If you ever want to talk i'm here
Me: *has emotions
Also me: absolutely disgusting, never do that again
You ok?
*virtual hug*
Can I join in on the virtual hug?
@@duck363 Yesssssssssssssssssssss
*big virtual hug and cookies*
Yah
Can I Join the Hug.... Maybe I am not good enough to join the hug.... :)
"2. You distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy."
*Who else clicked on this video to distract themselves from feeling uneasy*
Me-
... I-.. Me
Hehe....me
Me
Me
6 signs you're bottling up emotions:
0:52 - you rarely yell or cry, but can erupt over small issues
1:42 - you distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy
2:09 - you feel like you're a different person around others than you are by yourself
2:49 - you often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people
3:16 - you experience life from a third person perspective
3:46 - you avoid confrontation and never address the cause of you emotions
Hold on why do I relate to all of these? 😰
I never realized just how much I bottle my emotions until I watched this, this genuinely helped.
Okay now how to stop xd
Same
I don't think it's necessarily bad, it's better to have one giant burst of emotions than to constantly have small bursts, and the plus of containing them is that if nothing bad happens for a while, they'll eventually go away on their own and the cooldown meter will reset.
@Dangamer Top I agree! With me for awhile I has having these problems, and I explained to a close friend that if I lash out it's not from anger it's from bottled emotions and such and it really helped after word bc I easier to let them out in a healthy way and instead of a explosion of confusion anger and a lot of other bad stuff to the point I rare have them anymore
@@dangamertop9253 I agree.
The fact that this was in my recommended is concerning
I got “by the way, are you a sociopath?” Showed all of the signs bro
They know I got like 4 of them
Idk if RUclips is trying to tell me something...
Ikr
And I also knew I was bottling my emotions before but still clicked anyway-
AND YOUR PFP IS BAKUGO AHAHA
its the worst feeling to feel like youre just existing instead of living
I’ve had that feeling for a while but have never properly been able to put it into words, thank you
Right? You see people running through their lives and doing fun or important thing while you are stuck and not moving, just being in the same day over and over again.
@@stephaniex_x7275 You think about making change but... I feel like physical health stops a lot of us from making change towards our mental health
True
mood
I honestly understand you right now.
I’m maybe still in denial that I’ve had ‘trauma’. Once you bottle up your emotions as a child you then use that as your coping mechanism…. The only problem with doing that continuously is it’s damaging your mental health every day, trust me.
I’ve walked around with my bottled up emotions for 10-15 years and it feels uncomfortable for me to even cry with a close friend watching. All emotions are valid, and all emotions need to come out. If bottling up your first negative emotional experience was your way of coping, that’s what you’ll continue to do untill it puts you into a dark place. I can’t express how to change this ongoing cycle, breaking down Infront of those you have around you and trust will benefit. I’m going through something similar and I understand the urge to bottle emotions with in you. But they have and will come out. Like mine have without me being able to control it. One huge thing is definitely acceptable that the way you originally coped with those negative emotions has lead you on an ongoing dark path. It’s painful but you must feel every emotion because they are valid and need to escape!
If you’re anything like me it’s painful and extremely vulnerable/exposing to not only recognise an emotions but to let somebody else see it, but it’s what will get you though :)
@Chelsee Sharma yeah its very annoyin really.Initially its disappointing when people we consider friends and family dont understand our issues,but later on it becomes annoying 😅.I really want to to say ' see,I understand that you feel moral obligation to ask if am ok, but the thing is,you dont understand,no matter how many times I explain and how earnestly I explain,so lets cut this BS and leave me alone' 😬 😅.In the past I have paid to be heard, I mean a counsellor haha.No drama there,no random baseless life coachin thrown like 'oh its only a miscarriage,complete social isolation,divorce and job loss.it isnt that hard,why cant u get over it'
"All emotions need to come out" not in public or strangers.
Rather to express them or ignore it, we should solve it.
I bottle my emotions and let it out and get yelled at for it then bottle it back up and then then loop repeats.
Same
same here tho they don't yell at me but they say I shouldn't be like that with a dissapointed look on their face which makes it even worse and then that loop repeats aswell
Deal with them. Solve them.
Yeah,same.
i have to cry silently to not be heard by my sister or parents, anyone else?
are you my doppleganger?
@@magma3785 yup
:0
Me too
i cry in silent mode not so hear my own self.
me: depressed
also me: YOU CANT BE DEPRESSED THATS PATHETIC
i relate✋
@@SEA-hp6zo and it’s because of this dialogue in my head that i’m depressed ;-;
@@sungh00nzz :(
kinda same for me tbh
@@SEA-hp6zo big sad
@@sungh00nzz big sad:(
I've been consciously bottling up my emotions since early childhood to avoid erupting conflict. I'm not really sure I can live any other way at this point. I always wait for that bottle to blow, but suppressing emotions is second nature, so it never does. I think I'm quite an emotional person, but only when I'm by myself, and I'm absolutely terrified of intimacy. Up to this point I never could openly express or talk about my emotions without prejudice, not even to my parents or a psychiatrist. I feel like I'm not actually living my life, more so just going along with whatever that ends a conversation or discussion the fastest. I want to live life as an actual person with substance, but it's becoming more and more apparent, that the hole I dug for myself is now inescapably deep. I don't know what to do, I feel so hopeless.
I know how you feel I've had to bottle up my emotions for years because nobody has ever let me properly express them. Now it's to the point where I don't even feel comfortable just being vulnerable around someone or letting people know how I feel, and it doesn't help that my father doesn't listen to anything that I say. Whenever I try to tell him how he makes me feel with the things he does and/or says, he just gets mad and starts an argument or walks away, not even willing to just listen to me.
The only person I can really talk to is my therapist, but it doesn't feel like enough. I want my parent to listen to me, to understand my feelings, but I know that won't happen, cuz he's too stubborn and self-centered.
@@jorienwachukwu466 It's such an icky situation. The only advice I can give is to maybe try seeing things from his perspective. To be clear, I don't know your dad, nor your relationship with him, but generally people from his generation were told to 'man up' and stop whining, so dealing with emotional vulnerability isn't his strong suit. He was only shown disappointment and rejection in his time of weakness, so that's the experience he draws from. That's just how it is with my father, and it's partially the reason for why I bottle up. Maybe talk to your therapist about this. I'm no professional, but they might be able to provide you with a better way to deal with this. You're lucky to have someone who can help, so don't pass up this opportunity.
I thought I was sad and bottling up emotions because of recent events. But now I see that I am bottling up emotions as a defense mechanism and have been doing it since I was very small. I was in so deep that I was even hiding them from myself. I won't talk in detail, but everything you said was true. The thing is with being the clown and normally energetic. It's all just a mask that I have been developing for a long time.
Me: _Already knows I bottle up my emotions_
Also me: *_Acts surprised when I have all the signs_*
Lmao, that was my reaction too
JAJA I can relate 😂
I don’t know if it is sad tho _(._.)_
Lmao same 😂
This was my reaction 😂
I already knew I bottle all my emotions I just wanted to see how it affected me and if they were right about the signs..... I was genuinely surprised to see I had all of them tho 😅😅
"you feel as though nobody truly knows you, including yourself"
That one cut deep
Same here
Fr😥
Cut real deep
Same
God that's exactly how I feel
i literally have never related to any video of yours more than this, once again i feel like crying SO BAD, but my supressing of emotions has gotten so bad i not only am unable to cry inf ront of others, but even in front of myself i just have a huge empty hole that hurts
I've been having a lot of mental problems recently and have been wishing to be able to cry for weeks but not a single tear would come out. However watching this video suddenly forced some tears to burst out, i have no idea why, i'm guessing its somehow related to just hearing how accurate every point on this video was to my life. I'm glad i found this video, thank you.
it's not that i don't want to talk about my emotions, it's just this guilty feeling of putting the burden on them with my problems :(
Yes I feel the same way 😭🤧
I know right😪
Ya
Same
same :I
Me: * *already knows im doing this* *
* *clicks anyway* *
Same, I’m very aware that my mental health is really bad but I have no way to change it right now.
Same situation. I know what's happening, like a 3rd person view but I don't have the guts to improve anything in my life
Ultimately all you need it to know who you are, doing this isn't bad. It makes life difficult, but life is difficult anyway. You don't need to change as long as you can accept who you are.
Crying and showing some emotions is embarrassing I'm not doing that shit
Yeah same I also knew this but I clicked anyway just to actually make sure and like I suspected....I am....
Lately, I've been trying so hard to express my emotions instead of bottling them up, but it's hard to do that when it has been a habit for so long.
I recall times that something small would happen, and I would break down into tears because that little thing was the straw that broke to camel's back. If my friends/family was there, they would keep asking me what was wrong, and I repetitively kept saying 'I don't know, I don't know!' because I felt like I really didn't know. Tears just came, and I couldn't do anything about it; all the emotion just came pouring out.
I've been sharing so many of your videos with a friend of mine. They're 20 and they never really learned how to express their emotions because they would always be met with anger and hostility. They keep it all in and just as you said in this video, don't really know HOW to feel their emotions because they've been taught that those feelings are wrong. Thank you Psych2Go for everything you do. Your videos helped me save another friend from suicide. I love you guys, Keep it up!
When RUclips knows me more than my own parents.
True
Same
damn
Relatable
Too true
I do feel uncomfortable around people who are crying, because I am unable to help them. And I feel useless that I can't help them.
Just being there for them and letting them cry their heart out still make a big difference..advicing or helping them isn't always necessary!❤
@@Honestviews05 thanks.
Neck
I would say just offer them a hug. But sometimes a easier approach to it, how you wanted to be treated if someone saw you crying?
GhostGhostGaming i ask myself that too. but i dont know what i want when im crying. i never cry in front of people ever so i dont know to deal with someone who is crying
My life is a loop same thing go to school go home, eat lunch, do work, sleep, wake up later on wednesday fail a quiz, and I am always feeling down but i always joke with my friends but my thoughts are always negative, i always feel disconnected far away from my friends even though i'm right next to them, sometimes in public my eyes water because i don't cry with friends or family so the retained tears just spill out. I am used to pain so self harm is normal and i am always thinking about why iam like this and why i am so sad around people i like and why i can't socialise with anyone but this shines some light thank you
Watching this as my bottle exploded, thank God on time... Will never bottle up emotions again
1 : "You rarely yell or cry but you can erupt over small issues"
My parents call me too emotional to have a rational discussion with :")
For some reason yeh it sucks just cuz were kids doesnt mean we cant feel anything and adults cant understand it for some reason and would just brush it off by calling it a phase or being too emotional ://
Or over sensitive.
Or when you explain things like deppression and anxiety they'll just say things like no your to young, or you dont even know what those words mean
@@hihowareya6861 I said to my dad Im stressed out once because i really was and I didnt know what to do and he just laughed and said Im too young to be stressed.
They laugh or mock whenever I get upset in a conversation with them. Either that or I'm hearing my inner voice berate me over it.
Me: Is sad and wants to cry
Also me: Pathetic
pleas the most accurate thing i’ve read
And its worse for guys becuase we live in a society where if we cry people say “man up” or “if you are a real man-“
The worst part for me is that I have a loving supportive family and a counselor that I can talk to about anything yet I choose not too
I'm an asshole who's got a whole woe is me attitude becuase I'm too lazy to deal with my bullcrap
Just felt like ranting here, I just feel bad right now
@@justinaguilar9650 That's bullshit. It's okay to cry, it's okay to feel sad. Crying is very manly. Crying is being human.
@@catenjoyer76
Im female, also I'm full of bullcrap for not dealing with my issues not for crying
I go to a highly demanding school so I have at least 2 quizzes a day. Last week I had a spelling quiz, grammar quiz, oral book report, Bible test, and a volcano project due on one day. A different day I had a math test, history test, and earth science quiz. I try my very best not to think about the many things that I have coming up or that I have to finish that day, but I can't help but notice my bad habits that I'm slipping into. On weekends I stay home in my pajamas and play video games all day. I can't focus sometimes too. I was trying to read one of my literature stories for homework yesterday, and I had to read the same paragraph over and over again because I wasn't even comprehending it. I constantly feel tired and worn out even if I get good sleep. I feel like no matter what I can't get rid of that tiredness. My acne started getting bad too when school started again. Somedays when I have to memorize a poem or write a paper, I can't do it. I just can't. I'll sit there for an hour trying to memorize a poem and I still won't have any of it done. When I write a paper, I cannot think of anything. It's hard to explain, but it feels kind of like art block. That's another thing I noticed. I used to draw a lot, and be very passionate about it, but ever since I moved to my new school, it doesn't sound fun. I can't tell if it's just because I'm growing up though. This video made me realize a lot. Sorry for the rant
goodluck man
@@issacyong9119 thanks
I bottled up my emotions because my dad and grandpa always told us to stop crying when I was like 5 and so this stuck with me and my friends are noticing major shifts in my personality. So thank you for this video. I could finally find a therapist.
"You distract yourself whenever you start to fee uneasy"
Me reading and creating fake scenarios to distract myself 😃
This is so me
@@fadedpink me too
Same here
me eating food to distract myself and become 130 pounds 😃
@@matutinam2673 I can relate, when I feel stressed out I turn to food. And it starring to become a problem, your still beautiful loves even if you gained weight don't forget that 🥰
Me relating to every single thing : "nah I'm fine"
Omg tell me about it 🙄
@@texastea5686 fr 🙄
Frfr
Same..
Don’t talk about that shhhhh
This made me tear up because I do ALL of these things...and the fact that I know why I do it makes it worse...
the only reasons i rarely talk about my emotions is because my ability to explain things is absolutely terrible
LMAO OMG all these sad comments and I see this BAHAHAHAHHA BRO YOU CHANGED THE VIBE SO QUICK I CQNT - IDK IF IM CRYING OF THE SAD VIBE IN CHAT OR LAUGHING BY THIS
Same...Virtual hugs❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
dude that sounds so me
my mother always scold me when I cant explain her anything like technology so something
I say wrong words and use wrong idioms to express myself.
I convey my sadness and anger better when I’m with my friends. But when I tell my parents about it, I struggled in explaining my problems in a filtered way
1: you rarely yell or cry but you can erupt over small things - *yes*
2: you distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy - *describes me*
3: you feel like a different person around others than by yourself - *yes*
4: you often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people - *yes*
5: you experience life from a 3rd personal perspective - *yes*
6: you avoid confrontation and never address the cause of you're emotions - *describes me again*
*time to do nothing about it*
Same tbh around some people my emotions bottle up and then its just awkward :v
but then around some other certain people that i have known longer in my life, my emotions go 😂😵💫😑🤩🥳😭😰😡🤬😅😁😀🙄😖😏😒
But then around some other people i havent known very long (1-4 years) in like 😑😐😅😐😐🙂😐🤨😐😥😶🌫️😶🌫️
But then again im somewhat confused at the fact that before with friends who i have known 1-4 years i used to be like 🥳🥳🤩🤩🥳🥳🥳🤩🤩🥳🥳🤩🤩😐😐😐😐🥳🥳😏😏😏🥳🥳🥳😁😂
True.
@@ravenflght7005 The emojis were I unnecessary but I get your point. I do all but the third person thing.
@@MC-ur6qv sorry 😅
HOW TF DID THEY TELL EVERYTHING ABOUT ME
Crying alone at night , silently is the new normal to me
I got progressively more scared about how everything mentioned was scarily relatable to me.
I can't talk to anyone without feeling pathetic afterward.
Edit: when the hell did this blow up? Thanks anyway..
Edit 2: I'm sorry to everyone in the replies. Everything will be okay eventually, we just gotta be patient. I'm now around 9 months clean of self harm, isn't that amazing? I'm having trouble with eating and sleeping now though.
I relate to this so much. I would accidentally say something I think was hurtful and then go over it in my brain for a whole week. So most of the time I remain silent.
@@eliseng2762 Ikr. Recently I've been thinking about this thing I did to an old friend of mine. He told me he liked me and instead of friendzoning him, (Which seems harsh but it's way better than what I did) I told everyone and humiliated him. I've moved far way from him now so I feel uneasy knowing I can't do anything about it. I just wanna give him a hug and apologize. He didn't deserve what I did to him.
@@sabrinacollard8077 maybe you should. don't let her damage you, know that she's wrong and it's okay to feel like shit sometimes. some parents are just extra tough. maybe you could open up and she'll be more empathetic but I'm sorry about this. it's okay to feel your feelings it is so bad to bottle them up. i hope you have others to support you stay strong
@@TheUltimateWaifu I did sth similar too... He told someone untrustworthy that he liked me and he or she spread it. I felt super uncomfortable as everyone kept shipping us together. In the end I told them I hate him and blocked all his social medias... Feel so much like apologizing too rn..
Same
The reason certain people such as teens bottle up their emotions is because when they express how they feel, their parents get all angry at them for feeling a certain way.
You just described my life in one sentence
👁👄👁
true..
you just nailed it.
Yea, and then they go all out about how you should feel and what you should do to feel better...or if your Christian or Catholic, go to God about it. But really I just want you to understand how I feel and just comfort me...I want your love not your sappy advice.
You just described my who life in a paragraph
Everyone knows me as the calm friend because I don't really show that many emotions and literally no one has seen me cry or be angry really. If I have to cry or am sad I will isolate myself from others as a coping mechanism. I can't remember the last time I cried in front of someone. Thanks for this video, it helped me to realise that others go through similar things
Literally same :(
Same...
Its just anger with me i wish i could suppress it better, My bastard parents always listen me & have a hidden camera & microphone in my room & then tell me to stop when i get angry which makes me even more pissed to the point that i wanna end them. Pathetic weaklings then wonder why I absolutely despise them & every other living being in existence (including myself). My language is pretty much death threats at this point.
I know why im like this but what it makes it worse is that i cant do anything about it. I really hate anyone who is better than me at things simply because i cant improve no matter what & thats bc of my bad genetics. Things out of my control hinder my enjoyment of life
This video hit too close to home. I don’t have a great situation with my siblings and i have lots of physical conditions. I also have anxiety and depression and i know what it feels like to have to bottle your feelings. It feels like anytime you cry people look down on you and you feel embarrassed, something that i have been trying to get into the habit of lately is writing my feelings down in a private place or even sharing them anonymously to ask for help and it makes me feel a bit better and think out my feelings as i write them. If any of you think either keeping a private journal or asking for help online is a good idea i encourage you to try it.
My fbi guy: I see you watching this, let's talk about it.
I wish they were like this &:&::@:9
😕
@@l4r1n3 same
I wanna talk to my fbi guy about my feelings 😭
Where they at though? 😭😭
Me: * has all of these signs *
Also me: “Guys I’m fine! You don’t have to worry about me at all!”
😓
Same
same here :/
Same...why is this so relatable?
The one time i dont like being able to say same
The comment section is always so relatable. That's my place to express my emotions
I hate being this way. I related to quite a few of these signs. I have noticed over the last several years if my life, I have been a very good listener and advisor. I have listened to many people, friends and family members talk about personal experiences and issues and come to me for advice on them. I have noticed that many people say I am a great advice giver and I have found a kind of fulfillment in that. I genuinely love helping others, it brings me joy. But this has come at the expense of my inability to reciprocate this kind of interaction. I have hardly ever expressed my own emotions (specifically painful or angry ones) or talk about my feelings and issues with others. I find this to be an incredibly daunting, intimidating and scary thing to do. I struggle a lot with being vulnerable. I don’t mind being around others who have no difficulty doing so because I am there to listen and support them. But when it comes to my turn to do the same, which there have been many cases where it seems like the person I am talking with expects me to open up just like how they did, I simply don’t and cower away from this opportunity. I am very comfortable in expressing my feelings and talking about them on my own. But doing the same thing with or in front of other people? That’s a whole different story. And I know this is problematic, I know this is unhealthy. But I fear reaching out for help so much. I feel the stigma around this so deeply. And I know I shouldn’t… I know there really is nothing wrong with asking for help and being honest about this part of myself. But it is so hard for me to do. It’s nearly impossible for me to be vulnerable in front of the ones I love.
For the people who'd rather not watch the entire video:
1. You rarely yell or cry, but erupt over small issues.
2. You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy.
3. You feel like you are a different person by yourself than around others.
4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people.
5. You experience life in a third person perspective.
6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions.
You are amazing thank you
I want my 5 minutes back
yep i have all of them
Thanks dude
@@only4gojo me too girl, me too..
“Why are you depressed, I provide for you”
-My Parents
Wow, you need to tell your parents that just because you provide for me doesn’t mean other bad things are happening, they should understand that…
This happens to me all the time and I know your pain... Hope you are doing okay ❤❤
My mother used to say that: "y'all should be walking around here smiling and happy, all you have to do is go to school and come back" while we were living in our grandmother's cramped apartment and I slept on the floor and often didn't know when our next meal was gonna come from and they all constantly verbally degraded me every single day, but I should be "happy"
@@gojosgirl6487 what I hate is most parents get mad when we show negative emotion like crying or anger even if it’s towards them in a respectful way. I fully understand how that feels and words like that is the reason why I can’t show my emotion because I feel it’s a sign of weakness and I’m “just acting for attention”. I remember when my mom told me that I was acting for attention and from that day to now I don’t show anger or cry because I’m scared I’m acting for attention, hell I could cry when my grandma died. The only situations I’ll ever get close to crying is if I mess up at my new job because I feel like a failure when I make mistakes, I have been working at my job for 10 days now I have told my manager you can fire me if I mess up. To sum it up I know I need to open up because I’ll never be a good therapist if I can’t help myself
Sorry if this is long
money doesn't make happy
Some of my friends asked me if I ever cried in my life because normally in school I’m a chill, confident, energetic person, but when I get home I look depressed and with no motivation sometimes when I’m in school and some of my friends tells me something I didn’t like I just laugh it off and say “Wow” or I just laugh at there comment but in my mind it hurts when I hear those words but since I’m normally a happy person in people’s eye I don’t cry, because I feel like if I cry, they’re going to start calling me, pick me or dramatic,attention seeker,etc
This video tells me everything I do in a daily bases 😭😭
i cry over the simplest things, like when i get pushed away, or them not listening of the things that im passionate about. i just feel left out.
Me: starts bottling up emotions because no one cares
Also me: Searches signs of bottling up emotions
We are same....
same-
you sure you didn't get this from my diary?
Haha... That's what I was doing😅
I’ve been doing this
Me : * shows emotions *
Also me : nope nope. Nope never do that again * holding them back and not letting to escape *
I have to keep mine hidden so I'm not seen as an attention seeker or a dramatic teenager.
@@annee721 i dont show them cuz i just dont like the feeling of them
I accidentally cried today, it wasn't my intention. And now I'm regretting it.
You also do that? I do it so that people wont judge me and i kinda hate the feeling of showing it
@@x3n_s0m3thing0i Too used to hiding them, so when they do show you're not sure what's happening?
Over the last few years of healing my trauma, I have stopped doubting myself. But I limit and restrict myself from showing emotions. I’ve even abused myself for showing emotions. I don’t allow myself to cry, I don’t allow myself to get upset, nervous, sad, or anything like that. Thankfully, I don’t use unhealthy coping skills. I use healthy coping skills like music and sensory items, but I use them to run from my emotions, reject them, and make the emotion magically go away to where I never cry again. I get mad at myself for showing emotions, and sometimes I feel like I need to either slap myself or disrespect myself for feeling emotions that aren’t related to happiness.
One day at church I hid in a closet that was always locked. Stayed in there and cried for 20 minutes in the dark.
What was funny was that it was Christmas Eve, and everyone else there was happy and joyful. When I came out, i just wiped my tears away and put on a fake smile.
Cuz that’s what I always did for 5 years.
I learned how to silently cry when my best friend moved away in 3rd grade.
5 years later I still think of her… I’m sorry because I never said goodbye to her.
So I bottle up all that sadness, I binge watched so many tv shows and ate candy.
After I came out that closet I went downstairs and interacted with my ‘friends.’
It was as if I never cried.
That’s what hurts the most.
No one knows.
So no one cares.
"1: You rarely yell or cry but get angry over little things"
Me: Ok this is already to close for comfort 🙃
Same bro same
Why are you me LMAO
*chuckles*
"I'm in danger"
Same here fam
Why is this meee
Me: these signs kinda-
Brain: *no*
Me: but don't I always bottle up my emotions just to not upset other peo-
Brain: *n o.*
Completely relatable
When u want somebody to fell bad for you:
how do you superlike a comment
Same
BRO SAME
no matter how much i try i still cant escape
the fact that every single one of these signs are exactly what i do makes me honestly feel quite comforted. now i know what’s wrong with me. thank you for sharing this video.
Me: "i'm not bottling up my emotions, but let's watch this video, it looks interesting"
Me, five minutes later: "STOP DESCRIBING MY LIFE"
*sudden extreme raging*
aaaa
same!!! throughout this whole video, i was like so surprised by how accurate this describes me
xDDDD
STOP DESCRIBING MY LIFE
This has got to be RUclips's most relatable comments section.
I relate to all of this
it hurts that it is
It isn't your problem it's our problem
Yes me too
@Rhyanna Graves ikr 😭
Psych2Go you just called me out with every single sign here.
"I'll watch this just cuz I'm curious, there's no way this is me"
Famous last words
1. You rarely yell or cry
2. You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy
3. You feel like you are a different person around others than you are around yourself
4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people
5. You experience life from a third person perspective
6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions
Oh shoot i have few of these-
@@LandoBando-pj5ox bruhh..... i can relate to all of these.... :(
All 6 :c
@@randomartist5039 👊👊 Bros!!!! Or sis, whatever 😂😂
@@LandoBando-pj5ox me too
you ever just cry but then remember that you have homework to do so you end up working with tears running down your cheeks and just pretending that you’re perfectly fine and not literally crying?
uh, how r u so accurate?!?!? 🤯🤯🤯
Yep, done that three times this week :/
i have 4 hours to do 10 assignments because I put them off but I think I’ll just cry this time
Yup doing that right now
Are you doing okay? This is very specific!
Even though I mostly relate to your videos, I do like the fact that you say rather comforting things at the start and your voice is really calm.
i love how they speak like they know what people actually feel, I love this way of slow speaking and understanding thank you so much! : )
Who else thinks that her voice is really calming .
Maybe
Me
Her voice is so calming I can actually sit through the videos. I can rarely watch full videos.
Me🖐🏻
Me
So, I relate to every sign.....
*Chuckles*
*"I'm in danger"*
Thank god I only relate to a few of these
Don’t worry, you’re not alone :,)
Lol
Welcome to the club buddy
S a m e
finally, someone who understands pain.
I've always saw myself as a pretty normal human who makes bad mistakes, watching depression videos and stuff until I saw this, it basically described my life
1. You outburst over this relatively minor issue can be a sign of deeper, more suppressed troubles on your relationship or personal life.
2. You distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy
3. You feel like you're a different person around others than you are by yourself
4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people
5. You experience life from a third person perspective
6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions
Outburst*
I hate that I relate to ALL of these omg
Tick
Tick
Tick
Tick
Tick
Tick
well then looks like that’s me
The thing is i know i’ve been bottling up my feelings, it’s a coping mechanism for me.
Seeing “you experience life through a third-person perspective” really hit home..
I don't know if it counts, but I usually talk & tell a story using my name as third-person perspective instead of "I" with my family. I don't even know why I do that🤷♀
kinda relate cause I literally say to myself "we being bad a visualization cause we always watch person and not being the person"
truly ;-;
literally did that since young, still doing it lol
fr- i keep imagining that whenever i do ANYTHING, i look at myself from anothers point of view, or imagine if someone else did the same thing as me and.. hjcjhdfjhsfn it just happens way too much, i gotta stop but i cant💀 its one of my reasons why im so quiet and dont talk a lot
Thank you for making this! I didn't realize how much of this I've been doing and I've become more mindful!😁
This just explains my whole life every bit of this video
Friend : **Cries**
Me : Uhhhhhh- **Pats shoulder**
Also me : Why the heck did i do that?
Same I just go:
Uhm- what's wrong?
My mind: god your dumb their crying DO SOMETHING
Same I also:
Me: Hey are you ok,?
Them: _No,_ :(
Me: Uhm yeah, that’s a mood *Walks away*
For me it's
Friend: **cries**
Me: ummm...
Friend:**continues crying**
Me:**stands there awkwardly**
Someone else:**handles the situation**
i don't pat their shoulder i just stare at them not knowing what to do and when someone comes to help them i just slowly walk in and try to go with what they're saying
@@user-rm5fh8yz9h Same, i pat my friend's to "comfort" them only once..
i think this video is the one i can relate to the most. All of these tick off the boxes in my brain and i think all of these points i recognize in myself. it’s been a while since i let out a good cry and my mom keeps describing me as calm cool and collected when i don’t even know myself, and we even had an assignment in my health class about masks and i remember writing about how i feel like i wear many masks on the daily, even when i’m by myself. I also only have 1 really close friend and a few other nice friends, but i also feel like i’m living as 2 different people with the same face. It’s also a bit hard to help my really close friend with emotions since i don’t really know how to cope with them too. One thing i tried was drawing and what came out was a drawing of hands covering someone’s eye, mouth, ears, and holding them by the throat. I don’t know what that means, but i feel that has something to do with my mental state. Hopefully anyone that read this can somewhat relate and i hope you have a good day or night
Number 4 is so true, whenever someone cry’s during a class everybody will literally go over to comfort them. And then I’m in the back like:
👁👄👁
👉 👉
Ya like jazz?
Same lmao 😂
Omgggg same I thought I was the only one
Omg sameee
I’m just sitting in the corner wishing I could help them but knowing I can’t
Scorpy Kawaii same i’d just be like
“errr u k?”
Left brain: already know im bottling my emotion*
Right brain: "Act like you're surprised"
Me
Me
Same
Me
*surprised pikachu face*
Oh wow, can't say I'm that surprised though. Being suicidal doesn't just form in one's head for no reason.
I just wanna say thank you so much for trying to help spread mental awareness this video made me cry because I know I won’t be able to do anything no matter how badly I want to
anyone else here just very quietly cries in their room in the dark to not let any of their family members hear because they don't know how to tell them
hello :), i would just like to make an edit to this, this is more than a year after i made this comment, and im actually kind of shocked by how many people relate to this so much so i just wanted to let everyone know that this is a perfect example of that you are not alone, we're all together in this so, if you would like to share a certain thing or feeling that you don't think you have anyone that can sit down and listen to you talk about you can share it here in the replies because i feel like we can all understand each other and how we're feeling, there will be zero judgement or anything if you're worries about that and i will read every single one of them and try to reply to them too if you would like, you're not alone in this we're all with you
in the dark, under the blanket, holding in the sniffles, just tears forming around the eyes, sometimes not even letting it flow down because I'm wiping it away as soon as tears form
yeah, pretty much
I don’t wanna tell my family at all mostly because I’d feel awkward about, and they’d make my situation worse while trying to help
And is even worst when they are the cause of it😕.
@@heykian7454 yep definitely and even if they find out and ask me what the reason is i wouldn't know what to say
I don’t even cry I keep it in which is worse I swear one time my uncle died and the whole damn funeral I was not crying. At the end when I put the flower in the coffin I *almost* cried but I didn’t.
"You rarely yell or cry-"
Me: oh I dont think its me-
"But you can erupt over small issues"
Me: 👀
Edit: 2:06 how did you'll know?💀
Nemjoons Brain XD yes
I have broken or damaged objects just because they were slightly off of what/where I wanted them to be after not being able to easily fix that , guess now I know why , it isn't exactly an anger issue and just bottled up shit... still the vid doesn't say what should we do to "fix" it
Me in cuphead in a nutshell
@Joey Fish hmm..as the video says I've been distracting myself for years and I don't think I can bring myself to cry lol . I appreciate the reply , have a nice day/night :D
Yes me either
It's funny how these videos do more for me than a psychologist ever could just by talking about the things that are going through my head.
Thank you for that, thank you for just talking because it helps.
"bottling up your emotions can actually make them more powerful"
*starts bottling up happiness*
"You're overwhelmed by highly emotional people"
Joke's on you, *I AM the highly emotional person*
Same, I just don’t show it 🏃♀️
Same, and i show it.
@@theblondeone181 omg same
I’m also
@@theblondeone181 same
**REASONS I DON'T SHOW MY EMOTIONS.**
*1. My parents ground me for crying*
**THANK YOU FOR READING**
Aw, I hope things get better for you. I feel the same way honestly ^^’
The fabulous sentence:
-If you continue to cry, I’m gonna give a real reason to cry
@@youronlydadou1546 One time I had to hide in the bathroom so lol
Yukimaru Takemichi Like crying in the shower like that nobody know what is your REAL tears and what is the water 😣
@@youronlydadou1546 I see myself just crying into the fucking shower and my mum asking "ARE YOU SHOWERING" and me answering yes
Idk if it's normal, but I seem happy when I'm around someone, but when I'm alone, ohhh man do I just wanna be sad
WHY IS THIS SO ACCURATE!?
Psych2Go: releases video
Me: *I’m in this video and I don’t like it*
Same.
Same
@@cassiescreations4085 same...
@@cassiescreations4085 same
@@cassiescreations4085 Me though
"You might think that crying is embarrassing or bad"
Me : *wants to cry but holds their tears until they are in a room alone to cry because they think crying in public is embarrassing*
when comments are your best friends bc they relate to u so much
Same, I hide in my room to cry
I just cried in public today and then i didn't talk to anyone who witnessed for the whole day
@@kakaf4n I feel you....
i don’t even cry when im alone because im embarrassed for myself. i dont want myself to think of me as weak
1. I don't cry around people, I felt like that's a weak emotion but I yell sometimes if I'm actually angry
2. This is a big yes
3. That's actually true
4. Sometimes and yes
5. This is so true
6.described me
Well..
Does anyone else cry while uttering the words about how u feel to anyone u trust and afterwards feel like u shouldn't have told them?
That moment halfway through where you’re too far to stop now but all you want to do is shut down and run away
No, that's the complete opposite of what the video is about
Yes
Sometimes when I have a break down and someone asks me if I'm okay I say I'm fine its just a teenager thing.But I really hate when others treat how I feel like it's a phase and that makes me hate myself even more cause I'm using that as an excuse.
Ofcourse. No one really cares, everyone has their own issues to deal with.
"Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways." - Sigmund Freud
You know, there's a reason I wouldn't quote Freud. First up, let's say this is a personification: if you bury someone alive, they'll very much die. What? No, wait up: if you bury anyone alive, it means they're*alive*. This, it will die from suffocation. So... They will die if I bury them alive?
Second: this guy is so overrated, it's not very wise to think too much about him if you ask me. During my psych lessons I was pretty much told that many things he said are outdated. Just if you wanted to know why I think this way
@@Raidon484 ever heard of a metaphor?? also u’ve got plenty of time to live before u finally die of suffocation whether u like it or not ur body instinctively will fight for survival as goes the metaphor of ur emotions fighting to get out of the dirt they were buried in. u can also think of it like a zombie. zombies aren’t exactly real and we’re not sure if Reanimation is even fully possible but it’s a big and well known concept that a zombie is a human that died and came back to life, or should i say: came forth later in uglier ways.
The dude you are quoting ripped apart 100 eels to find their balls in a scientific study, then dropped an n-bomb when he couldn’t find them, and is also the reason psychology was invented just because people couldn’t take his bullshit anymore
i'll keep burying them until i can't hold it anymore - Me, Me 2022/07/24
Nice quote allthough it comes from the guy who said we all want to screw our mothers (or fathers or whatever)
I remember crying once because of fight with my dad/mom, I don't remember anymore, but what I remember very well is how my mom laughed at me because I was crying. In general, she laughs more at my brother when he cries, he is more inclined to show his emotions and he is more emotional than I am, and when he cries, mom laughs right in his face, and sometimes says she will beat him if he continues to cry. I am an emotional/sentimental person myself, and it is easy to hurt me, but I have become more emotionless, it seems to me that other people will also laugh at me if I am more emotional, and this includes not only fear, sadness, but also anger and an excessively cheerful mood.
i find your voice very calming, and it honestly helps. with videos like this using more energetic snd youtuber-y(?) i can listen, but its harder to really take in. with your videos, it feels more like youre informing me than convincing me of something
“You try to escape by watching tv”
* pauses kdrama that I have been binge watching for six hours *
lol-
I’m so fed up I just want it to end. I want this meaningless existence to end.
@@SelfImprovement1111 me too
@@SelfImprovement1111 me too, try to find professional help soon. I heard it could help, I’ve personally never done it but people highly suggest it
@@aprilchen1268 but therapist are so robotic, they’ve been numbed down to people’s distress. I don’t want to here a scripted person if you know what I mean.
The worst part about this is that I know I have a supporting parent, but I'm afraid to tell them how I'm feeling because I'm scared of being neglected. Which may sound dumb, but it's true.
(Edit: yuh 1.9k ty)
Or even honestly telling them, and feeling like you are just 'whining' over small things. It's complicated.
I understand that feeling @stay safe
@@CatMuto this is exactly how I feel.. My Mom and my sister want me to talk to them when I have problems. But I don't do it, cause they always react the same way.. "It's no big deal", "That's just a phase" and other phrases.. Well.. I guess thanks for nothing?
I have a close situation. My mom tells me to tell her anything and it will be okay even though the problem is her. I have all of the signs in this video and I always stop my feeling when they overflow. It should happen and day now because when ever the smallest thing happens I stop myself from crying. But my mom has put me in some bad situations and so, I can't have a regular conversation with her without thinking about them.
hi! idk if you'll read or see this, but i was in a very similar situation. i was (still am) in a deep depression phase for almost two years now. things were starting to get worse and worse as time went on, and the whole time i never really told anybody about these feelings. how you just described opening up to your parent and scared of being neglected is exactly how i felt. but, about 3 or 4 weeks ago, i told my mom about what's been going, and everything was ok! she was very accepting and just really wanted to help; she's been constantly checking with me, and while my feelings aren't exactly close to gone, she's helped a lot! it wouldn't hurt to try! :)
hopefully it works out and i hope things will get better for you.
This woman just read me in the sweetest way