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I’m an emotional person I’m the kind that cry’s at a movie but when it’s not something like that I try so hard to hold back the tears from everyone when I feel sad or hurt kind of a weird mix
GhostGhostGaming i ask myself that too. but i dont know what i want when im crying. i never cry in front of people ever so i dont know to deal with someone who is crying
Right? You see people running through their lives and doing fun or important thing while you are stuck and not moving, just being in the same day over and over again.
Its happening right now in my life and i just cannot for the life of me confront her about how i feel bcuz i feel like it'll make me look pathetic💀it sucks honestly
or, the route I got stuck with, it got turned around on you and they are the victim here, you need to change, and that person was my mother, thankfully, I recently moved in with my dad.
I already knew I bottle all my emotions I just wanted to see how it affected me and if they were right about the signs..... I was genuinely surprised to see I had all of them tho 😅😅
I can't talk to anyone without feeling pathetic afterward. Edit: when the hell did this blow up? Thanks anyway.. Edit 2: I'm sorry to everyone in the replies. Everything will be okay eventually, we just gotta be patient. I'm now around 9 months clean of self harm, isn't that amazing? I'm having trouble with eating and sleeping now though.
I relate to this so much. I would accidentally say something I think was hurtful and then go over it in my brain for a whole week. So most of the time I remain silent.
@@rosienguwu Ikr. Recently I've been thinking about this thing I did to an old friend of mine. He told me he liked me and instead of friendzoning him, (Which seems harsh but it's way better than what I did) I told everyone and humiliated him. I've moved far way from him now so I feel uneasy knowing I can't do anything about it. I just wanna give him a hug and apologize. He didn't deserve what I did to him.
@@sabrinacollard8077 maybe you should. don't let her damage you, know that she's wrong and it's okay to feel like shit sometimes. some parents are just extra tough. maybe you could open up and she'll be more empathetic but I'm sorry about this. it's okay to feel your feelings it is so bad to bottle them up. i hope you have others to support you stay strong
@@TheUltimateWaifu I did sth similar too... He told someone untrustworthy that he liked me and he or she spread it. I felt super uncomfortable as everyone kept shipping us together. In the end I told them I hate him and blocked all his social medias... Feel so much like apologizing too rn..
6 signs you're bottling up emotions: 0:52 - you rarely yell or cry, but can erupt over small issues 1:42 - you distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy 2:09 - you feel like you're a different person around others than you are by yourself 2:49 - you often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people 3:16 - you experience life from a third person perspective 3:46 - you avoid confrontation and never address the cause of you emotions
For some reason yeh it sucks just cuz were kids doesnt mean we cant feel anything and adults cant understand it for some reason and would just brush it off by calling it a phase or being too emotional ://
@@hihowareya6861 I said to my dad Im stressed out once because i really was and I didnt know what to do and he just laughed and said Im too young to be stressed.
I honestly understand you right now. I’m maybe still in denial that I’ve had ‘trauma’. Once you bottle up your emotions as a child you then use that as your coping mechanism…. The only problem with doing that continuously is it’s damaging your mental health every day, trust me. I’ve walked around with my bottled up emotions for 10-15 years and it feels uncomfortable for me to even cry with a close friend watching. All emotions are valid, and all emotions need to come out. If bottling up your first negative emotional experience was your way of coping, that’s what you’ll continue to do untill it puts you into a dark place. I can’t express how to change this ongoing cycle, breaking down Infront of those you have around you and trust will benefit. I’m going through something similar and I understand the urge to bottle emotions with in you. But they have and will come out. Like mine have without me being able to control it. One huge thing is definitely acceptable that the way you originally coped with those negative emotions has lead you on an ongoing dark path. It’s painful but you must feel every emotion because they are valid and need to escape! If you’re anything like me it’s painful and extremely vulnerable/exposing to not only recognise an emotions but to let somebody else see it, but it’s what will get you though :)
@Chelsee Sharma yeah its very annoyin really.Initially its disappointing when people we consider friends and family dont understand our issues,but later on it becomes annoying 😅.I really want to to say ' see,I understand that you feel moral obligation to ask if am ok, but the thing is,you dont understand,no matter how many times I explain and how earnestly I explain,so lets cut this BS and leave me alone' 😬 😅.In the past I have paid to be heard, I mean a counsellor haha.No drama there,no random baseless life coachin thrown like 'oh its only a miscarriage,complete social isolation,divorce and job loss.it isnt that hard,why cant u get over it'
The reason certain people such as teens bottle up their emotions is because when they express how they feel, their parents get all angry at them for feeling a certain way.
Yea, and then they go all out about how you should feel and what you should do to feel better...or if your Christian or Catholic, go to God about it. But really I just want you to understand how I feel and just comfort me...I want your love not your sappy advice.
I've been having a lot of mental problems recently and have been wishing to be able to cry for weeks but not a single tear would come out. However watching this video suddenly forced some tears to burst out, i have no idea why, i'm guessing its somehow related to just hearing how accurate every point on this video was to my life. I'm glad i found this video, thank you.
I thought I was sad and bottling up emotions because of recent events. But now I see that I am bottling up emotions as a defense mechanism and have been doing it since I was very small. I was in so deep that I was even hiding them from myself. I won't talk in detail, but everything you said was true. The thing is with being the clown and normally energetic. It's all just a mask that I have been developing for a long time.
I don't know if it counts, but I usually talk & tell a story using my name as third-person perspective instead of "I" with my family. I don't even know why I do that🤷♀
fr- i keep imagining that whenever i do ANYTHING, i look at myself from anothers point of view, or imagine if someone else did the same thing as me and.. hjcjhdfjhsfn it just happens way too much, i gotta stop but i cant💀 its one of my reasons why im so quiet and dont talk a lot
I've been consciously bottling up my emotions since early childhood to avoid erupting conflict. I'm not really sure I can live any other way at this point. I always wait for that bottle to blow, but suppressing emotions is second nature, so it never does. I think I'm quite an emotional person, but only when I'm by myself, and I'm absolutely terrified of intimacy. Up to this point I never could openly express or talk about my emotions without prejudice, not even to my parents or a psychiatrist. I feel like I'm not actually living my life, more so just going along with whatever that ends a conversation or discussion the fastest. I want to live life as an actual person with substance, but it's becoming more and more apparent, that the hole I dug for myself is now inescapably deep. I don't know what to do, I feel so hopeless.
I know how you feel I've had to bottle up my emotions for years because nobody has ever let me properly express them. Now it's to the point where I don't even feel comfortable just being vulnerable around someone or letting people know how I feel, and it doesn't help that my father doesn't listen to anything that I say. Whenever I try to tell him how he makes me feel with the things he does and/or says, he just gets mad and starts an argument or walks away, not even willing to just listen to me. The only person I can really talk to is my therapist, but it doesn't feel like enough. I want my parent to listen to me, to understand my feelings, but I know that won't happen, cuz he's too stubborn and self-centered.
@@jorienwachukwu466 It's such an icky situation. The only advice I can give is to maybe try seeing things from his perspective. To be clear, I don't know your dad, nor your relationship with him, but generally people from his generation were told to 'man up' and stop whining, so dealing with emotional vulnerability isn't his strong suit. He was only shown disappointment and rejection in his time of weakness, so that's the experience he draws from. That's just how it is with my father, and it's partially the reason for why I bottle up. Maybe talk to your therapist about this. I'm no professional, but they might be able to provide you with a better way to deal with this. You're lucky to have someone who can help, so don't pass up this opportunity.
LMAO OMG all these sad comments and I see this BAHAHAHAHHA BRO YOU CHANGED THE VIBE SO QUICK I CQNT - IDK IF IM CRYING OF THE SAD VIBE IN CHAT OR LAUGHING BY THIS
I convey my sadness and anger better when I’m with my friends. But when I tell my parents about it, I struggled in explaining my problems in a filtered way
My mother used to say that: "y'all should be walking around here smiling and happy, all you have to do is go to school and come back" while we were living in our grandmother's cramped apartment and I slept on the floor and often didn't know when our next meal was gonna come from and they all constantly verbally degraded me every single day, but I should be "happy"
@@gojosgirl6487 what I hate is most parents get mad when we show negative emotion like crying or anger even if it’s towards them in a respectful way. I fully understand how that feels and words like that is the reason why I can’t show my emotion because I feel it’s a sign of weakness and I’m “just acting for attention”. I remember when my mom told me that I was acting for attention and from that day to now I don’t show anger or cry because I’m scared I’m acting for attention, hell I could cry when my grandma died. The only situations I’ll ever get close to crying is if I mess up at my new job because I feel like a failure when I make mistakes, I have been working at my job for 10 days now I have told my manager you can fire me if I mess up. To sum it up I know I need to open up because I’ll never be a good therapist if I can’t help myself Sorry if this is long
1.You rarely yell or cry, but you can erupt over small things 2. You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy 3. You feel like you're a different person around others than you are by yourself 4. You often feel uncomfortable arround highly emotional people 5. You experience life from a third perspective 6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions
i literally have never related to any video of yours more than this, once again i feel like crying SO BAD, but my supressing of emotions has gotten so bad i not only am unable to cry inf ront of others, but even in front of myself i just have a huge empty hole that hurts
1: you rarely yell or cry but you can erupt over small things - *yes* 2: you distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy - *describes me* 3: you feel like a different person around others than by yourself - *yes* 4: you often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people - *yes* 5: you experience life from a 3rd personal perspective - *yes* 6: you avoid confrontation and never address the cause of you're emotions - *describes me again* *time to do nothing about it*
Same tbh around some people my emotions bottle up and then its just awkward :v but then around some other certain people that i have known longer in my life, my emotions go 😂😵💫😑🤩🥳😭😰😡🤬😅😁😀🙄😖😏😒 But then around some other people i havent known very long (1-4 years) in like 😑😐😅😐😐🙂😐🤨😐😥😶🌫️😶🌫️ But then again im somewhat confused at the fact that before with friends who i have known 1-4 years i used to be like 🥳🥳🤩🤩🥳🥳🥳🤩🤩🥳🥳🤩🤩😐😐😐😐🥳🥳😏😏😏🥳🥳🥳😁😂
1. You rarely yell or cry 2. You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy 3. You feel like you are a different person around others than you are around yourself 4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people 5. You experience life from a third person perspective 6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions
same here tho they don't yell at me but they say I shouldn't be like that with a dissapointed look on their face which makes it even worse and then that loop repeats aswell
1. You outburst over this relatively minor issue can be a sign of deeper, more suppressed troubles on your relationship or personal life. 2. You distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy 3. You feel like you're a different person around others than you are by yourself 4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people 5. You experience life from a third person perspective 6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions
right, im probably bottling up stuff all the time on a lower level to the point I'm not even noticing bc i do it so often or something??? i dUNNO AHSDNJSNDJSa
like i dont cry every night i just get emotional sometimes but its not that serious but then i feel like maybe it should be or something because i want to feel valid but isn't that wrong because who wants to feel like shit but idfk
When you know there’s people out there dealin with worse stuff than you, it makes it hard for you to talk to people about your problems without feeling dumb or weak
I relate so so so so much when I have anxiety about something my mind tells me their are people going thru much more than you and that doesn''t make things better.
Exactly. My parents always tell me there're fates worse than you out there, so as a result you must try harder. Well what do they know? Not everyone has the same limit, I've already reached mine. They may be stronger than me, fine. They can endure more than me, whatever. Just don't force that expectation on a weakling like me
fr tho, i usually dont say anything because people go thru so much more than me, it just feels like im ungrateful and just attention seeking for stuff that are small
i opened up a little to my grandmother once and she told me that "yes, while others are going through a lot worse then you, that doesn't make your feelings any less valid" and i truly do wish i could take that to heart it's just whenever i'm feeling down again it's the first thing i think of.
Ultimately all you need it to know who you are, doing this isn't bad. It makes life difficult, but life is difficult anyway. You don't need to change as long as you can accept who you are.
You know, there's a reason I wouldn't quote Freud. First up, let's say this is a personification: if you bury someone alive, they'll very much die. What? No, wait up: if you bury anyone alive, it means they're*alive*. This, it will die from suffocation. So... They will die if I bury them alive? Second: this guy is so overrated, it's not very wise to think too much about him if you ask me. During my psych lessons I was pretty much told that many things he said are outdated. Just if you wanted to know why I think this way
@@Raidon484 ever heard of a metaphor?? also u’ve got plenty of time to live before u finally die of suffocation whether u like it or not ur body instinctively will fight for survival as goes the metaphor of ur emotions fighting to get out of the dirt they were buried in. u can also think of it like a zombie. zombies aren’t exactly real and we’re not sure if Reanimation is even fully possible but it’s a big and well known concept that a zombie is a human that died and came back to life, or should i say: came forth later in uglier ways.
The dude you are quoting ripped apart 100 eels to find their balls in a scientific study, then dropped an n-bomb when he couldn’t find them, and is also the reason psychology was invented just because people couldn’t take his bullshit anymore
For the people who'd rather not watch the entire video: 1. You rarely yell or cry, but erupt over small issues. 2. You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy. 3. You feel like you are a different person by yourself than around others. 4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people. 5. You experience life in a third person perspective. 6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions.
i knew i hide all my emotions but i didn’t realize how serious it was until i lost one of my dogs and found myself numb and hiding emotions so much. watching this video really helped me realize how bad it actually is. thank you so much for
This is something that really sucks, especially when you have people you want to help but when the time comes you just sit there awkwardly or don’t know what to say or do despite knowing you should do something. It hurts, and really brings out the guilt in you.
I always give an excuse like "I'm sorry I'm not good at giving advices, but I'll lend an ear if you need it" and they'll be ok with that but it's true that there's still some guilt left in your heart. Not only does it feel like you're not helping at all even when they give you affirmation, it makes you think if you're really a friend :
@@aristheia_ same tho :(( when my friends go through something, I always wanna try cheering them up but I don’t really know how. On the other hand, when I have problems, they can easily give me advice which just makes me guilty because I can’t do the same for them.
you ever just cry but then remember that you have homework to do so you end up working with tears running down your cheeks and just pretending that you’re perfectly fine and not literally crying?
@@Psych2go honestly I never knew that I had been bottling up my emotions, but hey, atleast I know now. Thank you Psych2go, I've really discovered myself by watching your videos. Never knew that there was much wrong with me but I'm happy that I finally have understood and will be taking help soon ❤️
Lately, I've been trying so hard to express my emotions instead of bottling them up, but it's hard to do that when it has been a habit for so long. I recall times that something small would happen, and I would break down into tears because that little thing was the straw that broke to camel's back. If my friends/family was there, they would keep asking me what was wrong, and I repetitively kept saying 'I don't know, I don't know!' because I felt like I really didn't know. Tears just came, and I couldn't do anything about it; all the emotion just came pouring out.
Whenever i TRY to talk abt my emotions with a "trusted adult," they get brushed off as childhood fears and stuff. Im 15. I want to be taken seriously :(
My parents just say I’m 2 young 2 have these emotions or they don’t even try and understand i mean my mum listens but she don’t understand and it’s so frustrating
Sometimes when I have a break down and someone asks me if I'm okay I say I'm fine its just a teenager thing.But I really hate when others treat how I feel like it's a phase and that makes me hate myself even more cause I'm using that as an excuse.
The worst part about this is that I know I have a supporting parent, but I'm afraid to tell them how I'm feeling because I'm scared of being neglected. Which may sound dumb, but it's true. (Edit: yuh 1.9k ty)
@@CatMuto this is exactly how I feel.. My Mom and my sister want me to talk to them when I have problems. But I don't do it, cause they always react the same way.. "It's no big deal", "That's just a phase" and other phrases.. Well.. I guess thanks for nothing?
I have a close situation. My mom tells me to tell her anything and it will be okay even though the problem is her. I have all of the signs in this video and I always stop my feeling when they overflow. It should happen and day now because when ever the smallest thing happens I stop myself from crying. But my mom has put me in some bad situations and so, I can't have a regular conversation with her without thinking about them.
hi! idk if you'll read or see this, but i was in a very similar situation. i was (still am) in a deep depression phase for almost two years now. things were starting to get worse and worse as time went on, and the whole time i never really told anybody about these feelings. how you just described opening up to your parent and scared of being neglected is exactly how i felt. but, about 3 or 4 weeks ago, i told my mom about what's been going, and everything was ok! she was very accepting and just really wanted to help; she's been constantly checking with me, and while my feelings aren't exactly close to gone, she's helped a lot! it wouldn't hurt to try! :) hopefully it works out and i hope things will get better for you.
Do you ever think “I rather feel awful than have the people around me feel bothered..”? Edit: Thanks for all the likes :3 I hope you guys are able to talk about your feelings to people you deeply trust! :) feel free to talk to me in the comments as well :)
I immediately started tearing up as the video progressed because I finally realized this is what I needed to hear despite me fighting myself to listen. Thank you it really helped me with my problems.
@@Vnce-hq9hn sometimes instead of holding them in try to express them as much as possible, but don’t get angry because then the people you were trying to express it to won’t take it very well.
I think it’s best to keep them restrained and suppressed. It seems weak to show the symptoms of emotions e.g. crying when you’re upset. more often than not, I reckon you end up worse off than if you controlled it. Once you can control your emotions and look at situations logically and think clearly instead of acting off of impulse, you can get a lot more done, and many situations end up better for you. You can get what you want quicker and with greater chance of success if you think clearly instead of being weak and letting the emotions think for you.
anyone else here just very quietly cries in their room in the dark to not let any of their family members hear because they don't know how to tell them hello :), i would just like to make an edit to this, this is more than a year after i made this comment, and im actually kind of shocked by how many people relate to this so much so i just wanted to let everyone know that this is a perfect example of that you are not alone, we're all together in this so, if you would like to share a certain thing or feeling that you don't think you have anyone that can sit down and listen to you talk about you can share it here in the replies because i feel like we can all understand each other and how we're feeling, there will be zero judgement or anything if you're worries about that and i will read every single one of them and try to reply to them too if you would like, you're not alone in this we're all with you
in the dark, under the blanket, holding in the sniffles, just tears forming around the eyes, sometimes not even letting it flow down because I'm wiping it away as soon as tears form yeah, pretty much
I don’t even cry I keep it in which is worse I swear one time my uncle died and the whole damn funeral I was not crying. At the end when I put the flower in the coffin I *almost* cried but I didn’t.
@@evirji7844 me too, I feel like I am over exaggerating my feelings and I often think that nobody will care about my problems because they have their own stuff to worry about. Whenever my friend asks ‘how are you’? I sit there for so long wondering whether I should tell them how I really feel :/
@@bendyalien I just go with a simple, “I’m fine” with a smile, I honestly really don’t know how I feel but I *know* I’m not okay. About the over exaggerating, you’re right about that too, sometimes I feel like maybe I’m making a big thing out of something that might not even be there and I don’t have anyone who can help me realize what’s wrong with me at the moment so I tend to not share feelings The funny thing is that I’m literally the “listener” in my friend group if yk what I mean, kinda like a counselor so no one thinks there’s anything wrong with me because I’m capable enough to help them lol Anyways sorry for bothering y’all with stuff y’all prolly don’t even want to know😅
My life is a loop same thing go to school go home, eat lunch, do work, sleep, wake up later on wednesday fail a quiz, and I am always feeling down but i always joke with my friends but my thoughts are always negative, i always feel disconnected far away from my friends even though i'm right next to them, sometimes in public my eyes water because i don't cry with friends or family so the retained tears just spill out. I am used to pain so self harm is normal and i am always thinking about why iam like this and why i am so sad around people i like and why i can't socialise with anyone but this shines some light thank you
@@matutinam2673 I can relate, when I feel stressed out I turn to food. And it starring to become a problem, your still beautiful loves even if you gained weight don't forget that 🥰
The worst part for me is that I have a loving supportive family and a counselor that I can talk to about anything yet I choose not too I'm an asshole who's got a whole woe is me attitude becuase I'm too lazy to deal with my bullcrap Just felt like ranting here, I just feel bad right now
i don't pat their shoulder i just stare at them not knowing what to do and when someone comes to help them i just slowly walk in and try to go with what they're saying
People are selfish. They want us to be the way they want us to be. The "don't hold it" part is how they deal with shit. But when others deal with their shit in the same manner, it triggers them. Don't let others be higher than you. Place yourself higher than others.
the 3rd person perspective is really striking cause i feel like i’m an option, instead of a priority with my friends. it feels like i’m just there to spectate them having fun because it feels like they’re better friends with each other always having something to say, even when i try to speak up sometimes i get overshadowed by someone speaking louder. Even when i’m enjoying myself it doesn’t feel real at times
I Hate It! This was the number one fact that hit so incredibly close to home. It feels like I don't even exist to my "friends", even though I care about them so much.
I can totally relate it seems like they're better off without me sometimes cause they know what to talk about with each other and seem as if they're better friends with each other. I get jealous sometimes and I feel bad for doing that. It's so easy for them to talk to others and each other and I feel so left out sometimes, like I'm not even there or wanted, they care about me a lot i just don't know anymore. It's like one friend is holding the entire friend group together.
i have all the signs, and almost cried when you talked about the 3rd person perspective because it's the first time i hear what i always feel around my friends, like i'm replaceable, and that i don't fit in the group
I expressed that back then and they didn't understand. I lost them over it. Nowadays I have a really hard time with relationships. I'm alone most of the time, even tho there are people who like me. It never seems enough tho.
I feel this too especially because in all my friend groups ive been the one intruding after already establish inseparable friendships have been made and it feels like I’m just watching their friendship.
I have problems making friends because I've been hurt so many time (If anyone is uncomfortable with rants then just scroll along). I'm currently home schooled because there were some problems with bullying and lack of proper care from teachers but I had a pretty nice friend group, I thought that it would be that bad because I assumed they would still wanna hang out during weekends and I had their numbers, Although then they just stopped talking to me, they wouldn't come to my birthdays and they wouldn't even invite me to theirs. The only friend I had eventually started to ignore and avoid me but when I eventually left him then he started trying to get me back, I didn't except and now I don't have contact with him anymore, but now from all this rejection, I have this one friend now who lives in a whole different country and now I'm going to this home schooling centre and meeting with some new people
I just wanna say thank you so much for trying to help spread mental awareness this video made me cry because I know I won’t be able to do anything no matter how badly I want to
Who else has just been bottling things up, then one day you burn a piece of toast and it sets you over the edge. And then a few minuets later someone walks in to the kitchen and finds you crying on the floor. Then when they ask why you are crying you either scream I don't know, or you start rambling about everything but they cant understand you because of how hard you are crying.
not that kind of scenariobut somewhat similar like I was just disconnected to the wifi as I was doing my research, I could just reconnect (it's that easy) but instead I screamed in anger and when my mom came into my room I started ranting about irrelevant things till I get that anger off my chest makes me confused whether im bottling up emotions or just have anger issues :
I just would bottle up ALL of my emotions, and when my dad comes to wake me uo in the morning i jump out of bed, wait for him to leave and start crying into and punching my pillow and my dad comes in and asks whats wrong and i just scream idk and just hide in my closet.
My emotions are so weird. I can cry my eyes out because I dropped my pen or during a semi intense conversation, but I don’t say a word when it really matters
Number 4 is so true, whenever someone cry’s during a class everybody will literally go over to comfort them. And then I’m in the back like: 👁👄👁 👉 👉 Ya like jazz?
I'm a person who can't withstand any critisism, so when i was younger the moment I had any debate with someone I started crying. Because of that to simply communicate with people i learned to supress my tears. And the worst part for me that it had gone so far I can't even cry right now, i unconsciously supress my tears (except for really bad situations when I'm on the edge). When I just think about stuff in my head (it's pretty mess there) and want to burst with tears, my eyes just go wet but that's it. And this hit the hardest for me. (Also, sorry for my english it is not my native language)
I grew up in a home where crying was punished “stop crying or ill give you something to cry about.” My whole life is just bottling up my emotions bc I associate crying with fear and punishment. So when my mom is yelling, I’ll try desperately not to cry, bc then she will be even more mad. It confuses me when she says is okay to cry. Once, I hit my head, and the pain was immense. I was trying so hard not to cry but then my mom said, “y’know, you can cry, if it hurts that bad” I was confused, but slightly glad to be able to express myself. But look on the bright side. I’m now a great Actress!
I never grew up in that situation, but I bottled up my emotions anyway because I felt like people would judge me. I knew that they weren't going to, but I hated crying in front of others, or admitting that I was stressed, angry, or confused in front of others. My friends always looked up to me because I was the mom of the friend group, so I wanted to seem responsible. And I was also the oldest sibling, and I always listened to my parents. They said that I should show a good example and that I was more mature. However, when I was 12, I started piano. I slowly started to hate doing it. I never told anyone, until one day I was practicing and finally decided that I shouldn't be doing stuff I didn't like doing because it brought me stress, anger, and sadness. I would always cry in my room alone after a lesson because I didn't want to do it anymore. So, I walked up to my parents. I couldn't really tell them at first, but then eventually I broke down crying, screaming that I didn't want to do piano anymore, I hated it, and that I can't be the perfect older example sibling that you hoped for. I told them how much stress this was causing me, it was messing with my grades, my health, and just everything. I cried for what seemed like a good 20 minutes because I just couldn't hold any of it in. And when I finally stopped, my parents fully supported me. They told me they didn't mean to make me feel that way, and told me that I could always talk to them if I needed to. I still bottle up my emotions a little bit, but I'm not afraid to cry in front of others or admit I have idea what I'm doing in front of others anymore. 😊
Actually that weird emo stage in life applys to everthing no one understands you because there not you you Could be highly sensitive but they see it as crybaby parents see it as temper tantrums
interresting how everyone in the comments has these problems and we were all brought together by this video, how did it find us, youtube really knows us better than we think
RUclips knows us better than our own parents. it's because we can't open up with our parents fearing they might laugh or reject us. Here, everyone is fair and have the same feeling so it makes sense.
I had problems with myself during middle school then I pretended I was fine and now all my emotions are coming back because of the whole debunkle of 2020
This is so true, I am an introvert and at first I thought I would like this social distancing... But I realized this is not only social but also emotional distancing, and now the level of overthinking has increased so much that I really just want this all to end quickly.
Crying is the perfect way of letting go! Even society believes men shouldn’t cry, I believe it is for both men and women the best way of letting go suppressed emotions 🌟
@@Psych2go one time I was upset because of something my older sibling did to I began to cry and then his step grandmother tried forcing what was wrong with me but I told her I needed my alone time to calm down she ignored me and bright my brother there I still didn't talk and later she spoke to my mom and called me a wimp behind my back and I almost lashed out at her this vid made me realize I don't cry because when I do I hate myself because of it I feel weak and like an embarrassment for it being a boy when I was little I used to cry because of trauma and it's unheald I was sensitive but because of other ppl thinking I'm soft I had to shut it down out of fear of being called out as weak or soft
same quick question: have any of you daydreamed/imagined a scenario where you opened up your feelings to someone and cried (either in reality or in the daydream, or both), but never really proceeded to actually open up to others??
I just start crying out of nowhere , no reason , no face expression , just crying and when they ask ‘why’ I don’t know. I just...started crying. Is it just me?
I've always saw myself as a pretty normal human who makes bad mistakes, watching depression videos and stuff until I saw this, it basically described my life
1: you rarely yell or cry but you can erupt over small things - yes 2: you distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy - describes me 3: you feel like a different person around others than by yourself - yes 4: you often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people - yes 5: you experience life from a 3rd personal perspective - yes 6: you avoid confrontation and never address the cause of you're emotions - describes me again
I’ve kept myself bottled up for 6 years My trick is to hate myself and blame myself for everything 😎👍 Edit; okay this has 9 likes, so um Don’t do this, it’s unhealthy
When I cry I cry alone in my room or just hold in my tears and try to forget whats making me upset. I don't want to cry Infront my parents they will probably make fun of me like call me weak or a big baby. They already call me a big baby sometimes and it kinda hurts. Edit: Awwww I hope you guys feel better😟. Here's a screen hug 'hugs you all' I hope you guys get better
I feel you my aunt has been doing thid when i cry she call me weak my mind just says "i don't cry because im weak, its because ive been too strong for too long"
When she said about feeling like a different person depending on whether you are alone or not, I remembered, how it hurts to be the most positive person in the group, but heading back home, you're just noone. Not something good or bad. Just a void.
I feel like that’s the opposite with me, when I’m at home I feel more like myself and I’m feel free. But when I’m at school around my friends I feel like I’m not myself or I can’t express myself anymore. Idk it’s weird 🤷🏾♀️
I've always been the clown of the group. The one that would do anything you double dare him to. The one always being the centre of attention, but at home... It's just grab a snack and head to bed
All of my friends and classmates really thought of me as really kind and always happy, altho I dont joke but Im always smiling, even some of them never seen me angry or in bad mood. But when im home yeah, Im gonna go to bed and stay there as much as possible
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I’m an emotional person I’m the kind that cry’s at a movie but when it’s not something like that I try so hard to hold back the tears from everyone when I feel sad or hurt kind of a weird mix
"you feel as though nobody truly knows you, including yourself"
That one cut deep
Same here
Fr😥
Cut real deep
Same
God that's exactly how I feel
I do feel uncomfortable around people who are crying, because I am unable to help them. And I feel useless that I can't help them.
Just being there for them and letting them cry their heart out still make a big difference..advicing or helping them isn't always necessary!❤
@@Honestviews05 thanks.
Neck
I would say just offer them a hug. But sometimes a easier approach to it, how you wanted to be treated if someone saw you crying?
GhostGhostGaming i ask myself that too. but i dont know what i want when im crying. i never cry in front of people ever so i dont know to deal with someone who is crying
its the worst feeling to feel like youre just existing instead of living
I’ve had that feeling for a while but have never properly been able to put it into words, thank you
Right? You see people running through their lives and doing fun or important thing while you are stuck and not moving, just being in the same day over and over again.
@@stephaniex_x7275 You think about making change but... I feel like physical health stops a lot of us from making change towards our mental health
True
mood
The fact that we can't tell others that they are hurting us 🥲
or we are trying but they don't get it 😢
@@alessia5151 yeah maybe🙃
Its happening right now in my life and i just cannot for the life of me confront her about how i feel bcuz i feel like it'll make me look pathetic💀it sucks honestly
@@alessia5151 exactly.gaslighting at its best
or, the route I got stuck with, it got turned around on you and they are the victim here, you need to change, and that person was my mother, thankfully, I recently moved in with my dad.
i have to cry silently to not be heard by my sister or parents, anyone else?
are you my doppleganger?
@@magma3785 yup
:0
Me too
i cry in silent mode so i don't hear my own self.
Me: _Already knows I bottle up my emotions_
Also me: *_Acts surprised when I have all the signs_*
Lmao, that was my reaction too
JAJA I can relate 😂
I don’t know if it is sad tho _(._.)_
Lmao same 😂
This was my reaction 😂
I already knew I bottle all my emotions I just wanted to see how it affected me and if they were right about the signs..... I was genuinely surprised to see I had all of them tho 😅😅
I can't talk to anyone without feeling pathetic afterward.
Edit: when the hell did this blow up? Thanks anyway..
Edit 2: I'm sorry to everyone in the replies. Everything will be okay eventually, we just gotta be patient. I'm now around 9 months clean of self harm, isn't that amazing? I'm having trouble with eating and sleeping now though.
I relate to this so much. I would accidentally say something I think was hurtful and then go over it in my brain for a whole week. So most of the time I remain silent.
@@rosienguwu Ikr. Recently I've been thinking about this thing I did to an old friend of mine. He told me he liked me and instead of friendzoning him, (Which seems harsh but it's way better than what I did) I told everyone and humiliated him. I've moved far way from him now so I feel uneasy knowing I can't do anything about it. I just wanna give him a hug and apologize. He didn't deserve what I did to him.
@@sabrinacollard8077 maybe you should. don't let her damage you, know that she's wrong and it's okay to feel like shit sometimes. some parents are just extra tough. maybe you could open up and she'll be more empathetic but I'm sorry about this. it's okay to feel your feelings it is so bad to bottle them up. i hope you have others to support you stay strong
@@TheUltimateWaifu I did sth similar too... He told someone untrustworthy that he liked me and he or she spread it. I felt super uncomfortable as everyone kept shipping us together. In the end I told them I hate him and blocked all his social medias... Feel so much like apologizing too rn..
Same
6 signs you're bottling up emotions:
0:52 - you rarely yell or cry, but can erupt over small issues
1:42 - you distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy
2:09 - you feel like you're a different person around others than you are by yourself
2:49 - you often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people
3:16 - you experience life from a third person perspective
3:46 - you avoid confrontation and never address the cause of you emotions
Hold on why do I relate to all of these? 😰
1 - Very much this.
2 - Way too often.
3 - Way too much.
4 - Yes...on both sides of the aisle!
5 - Sometimes.
6 - Yes.
Me: *has emotions
Also me: absolutely disgusting, never do that again
You ok?
*virtual hug*
Can I join in on the virtual hug?
@@duck363 Yesssssssssssssssssssss
*big virtual hug and cookies*
Yah
Can I Join the Hug.... Maybe I am not good enough to join the hug.... :)
it's not that i don't want to talk about my emotions, it's just this guilty feeling of putting the burden on them with my problems :(
Yes I feel the same way 😭🤧
I know right😪
Ya
Same
same :I
1 : "You rarely yell or cry but you can erupt over small issues"
My parents call me too emotional to have a rational discussion with :")
For some reason yeh it sucks just cuz were kids doesnt mean we cant feel anything and adults cant understand it for some reason and would just brush it off by calling it a phase or being too emotional ://
Or over sensitive.
Or when you explain things like deppression and anxiety they'll just say things like no your to young, or you dont even know what those words mean
@@hihowareya6861 I said to my dad Im stressed out once because i really was and I didnt know what to do and he just laughed and said Im too young to be stressed.
They laugh or mock whenever I get upset in a conversation with them. Either that or I'm hearing my inner voice berate me over it.
I honestly understand you right now.
I’m maybe still in denial that I’ve had ‘trauma’. Once you bottle up your emotions as a child you then use that as your coping mechanism…. The only problem with doing that continuously is it’s damaging your mental health every day, trust me.
I’ve walked around with my bottled up emotions for 10-15 years and it feels uncomfortable for me to even cry with a close friend watching. All emotions are valid, and all emotions need to come out. If bottling up your first negative emotional experience was your way of coping, that’s what you’ll continue to do untill it puts you into a dark place. I can’t express how to change this ongoing cycle, breaking down Infront of those you have around you and trust will benefit. I’m going through something similar and I understand the urge to bottle emotions with in you. But they have and will come out. Like mine have without me being able to control it. One huge thing is definitely acceptable that the way you originally coped with those negative emotions has lead you on an ongoing dark path. It’s painful but you must feel every emotion because they are valid and need to escape!
If you’re anything like me it’s painful and extremely vulnerable/exposing to not only recognise an emotions but to let somebody else see it, but it’s what will get you though :)
@Chelsee Sharma yeah its very annoyin really.Initially its disappointing when people we consider friends and family dont understand our issues,but later on it becomes annoying 😅.I really want to to say ' see,I understand that you feel moral obligation to ask if am ok, but the thing is,you dont understand,no matter how many times I explain and how earnestly I explain,so lets cut this BS and leave me alone' 😬 😅.In the past I have paid to be heard, I mean a counsellor haha.No drama there,no random baseless life coachin thrown like 'oh its only a miscarriage,complete social isolation,divorce and job loss.it isnt that hard,why cant u get over it'
"All emotions need to come out" not in public or strangers.
Rather to express them or ignore it, we should solve it.
Who else thinks that her voice is really calming .
Maybe
Me
Her voice is so calming I can actually sit through the videos. I can rarely watch full videos.
Me🖐🏻
Me
When RUclips knows me more than my own parents.
True
Same
damn
Relatable
Too true
The reason certain people such as teens bottle up their emotions is because when they express how they feel, their parents get all angry at them for feeling a certain way.
You just described my life in one sentence
👁👄👁
true..
you just nailed it.
Yea, and then they go all out about how you should feel and what you should do to feel better...or if your Christian or Catholic, go to God about it. But really I just want you to understand how I feel and just comfort me...I want your love not your sappy advice.
You just described my who life in a paragraph
I've been having a lot of mental problems recently and have been wishing to be able to cry for weeks but not a single tear would come out. However watching this video suddenly forced some tears to burst out, i have no idea why, i'm guessing its somehow related to just hearing how accurate every point on this video was to my life. I'm glad i found this video, thank you.
This has got to be RUclips's most relatable comments section.
I relate to all of this
it hurts that it is
It isn't your problem it's our problem
Yes me too
@Rhyanna Graves ikr 😭
"1: You rarely yell or cry but get angry over little things"
Me: Ok this is already to close for comfort 🙃
Same bro same
Why are you me LMAO
*chuckles*
"I'm in danger"
Same here fam
Why is this meee
psych2go really be uploading whenever i feel depressed
Yea uploading at 3 am
Mhm it’s 1 am for me twt me feel so sad and stuff..
True I was just crying about an idol who passed this year
Fuzzfuzzy Girl :(
Damn same I was about to cry
I thought I was sad and bottling up emotions because of recent events. But now I see that I am bottling up emotions as a defense mechanism and have been doing it since I was very small. I was in so deep that I was even hiding them from myself. I won't talk in detail, but everything you said was true. The thing is with being the clown and normally energetic. It's all just a mask that I have been developing for a long time.
"Did you recognise any of these signs in yourself?" Oh honey
*I am these sign*
@@syahrezadifachri5121 lmao accurate
literally all of them
I'm all of them
I'm all of them...
Seeing “you experience life through a third-person perspective” really hit home..
I don't know if it counts, but I usually talk & tell a story using my name as third-person perspective instead of "I" with my family. I don't even know why I do that🤷♀
kinda relate cause I literally say to myself "we being bad a visualization cause we always watch person and not being the person"
truly ;-;
literally did that since young, still doing it lol
fr- i keep imagining that whenever i do ANYTHING, i look at myself from anothers point of view, or imagine if someone else did the same thing as me and.. hjcjhdfjhsfn it just happens way too much, i gotta stop but i cant💀 its one of my reasons why im so quiet and dont talk a lot
So, I relate to every sign.....
*Chuckles*
*"I'm in danger"*
Thank god I only relate to a few of these
Don’t worry, you’re not alone :,)
Lol
Welcome to the club buddy
S a m e
I've been consciously bottling up my emotions since early childhood to avoid erupting conflict. I'm not really sure I can live any other way at this point. I always wait for that bottle to blow, but suppressing emotions is second nature, so it never does. I think I'm quite an emotional person, but only when I'm by myself, and I'm absolutely terrified of intimacy. Up to this point I never could openly express or talk about my emotions without prejudice, not even to my parents or a psychiatrist. I feel like I'm not actually living my life, more so just going along with whatever that ends a conversation or discussion the fastest. I want to live life as an actual person with substance, but it's becoming more and more apparent, that the hole I dug for myself is now inescapably deep. I don't know what to do, I feel so hopeless.
I know how you feel I've had to bottle up my emotions for years because nobody has ever let me properly express them. Now it's to the point where I don't even feel comfortable just being vulnerable around someone or letting people know how I feel, and it doesn't help that my father doesn't listen to anything that I say. Whenever I try to tell him how he makes me feel with the things he does and/or says, he just gets mad and starts an argument or walks away, not even willing to just listen to me.
The only person I can really talk to is my therapist, but it doesn't feel like enough. I want my parent to listen to me, to understand my feelings, but I know that won't happen, cuz he's too stubborn and self-centered.
@@jorienwachukwu466 It's such an icky situation. The only advice I can give is to maybe try seeing things from his perspective. To be clear, I don't know your dad, nor your relationship with him, but generally people from his generation were told to 'man up' and stop whining, so dealing with emotional vulnerability isn't his strong suit. He was only shown disappointment and rejection in his time of weakness, so that's the experience he draws from. That's just how it is with my father, and it's partially the reason for why I bottle up. Maybe talk to your therapist about this. I'm no professional, but they might be able to provide you with a better way to deal with this. You're lucky to have someone who can help, so don't pass up this opportunity.
the only reasons i rarely talk about my emotions is because my ability to explain things is absolutely terrible
LMAO OMG all these sad comments and I see this BAHAHAHAHHA BRO YOU CHANGED THE VIBE SO QUICK I CQNT - IDK IF IM CRYING OF THE SAD VIBE IN CHAT OR LAUGHING BY THIS
Same...Virtual hugs❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
dude that sounds so me
my mother always scold me when I cant explain her anything like technology so something
I say wrong words and use wrong idioms to express myself.
I convey my sadness and anger better when I’m with my friends. But when I tell my parents about it, I struggled in explaining my problems in a filtered way
“Why are you depressed, I provide for you”
-My Parents
Wow, you need to tell your parents that just because you provide for me doesn’t mean other bad things are happening, they should understand that…
This happens to me all the time and I know your pain... Hope you are doing okay ❤❤
My mother used to say that: "y'all should be walking around here smiling and happy, all you have to do is go to school and come back" while we were living in our grandmother's cramped apartment and I slept on the floor and often didn't know when our next meal was gonna come from and they all constantly verbally degraded me every single day, but I should be "happy"
@@gojosgirl6487 what I hate is most parents get mad when we show negative emotion like crying or anger even if it’s towards them in a respectful way. I fully understand how that feels and words like that is the reason why I can’t show my emotion because I feel it’s a sign of weakness and I’m “just acting for attention”. I remember when my mom told me that I was acting for attention and from that day to now I don’t show anger or cry because I’m scared I’m acting for attention, hell I could cry when my grandma died. The only situations I’ll ever get close to crying is if I mess up at my new job because I feel like a failure when I make mistakes, I have been working at my job for 10 days now I have told my manager you can fire me if I mess up. To sum it up I know I need to open up because I’ll never be a good therapist if I can’t help myself
Sorry if this is long
money doesn't make happy
1.You rarely yell or cry, but you can erupt over small things
2. You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy
3. You feel like you're a different person around others than you are by yourself
4. You often feel uncomfortable arround highly emotional people
5. You experience life from a third perspective
6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions
Why did you put a link to a website that doesn't exist. Honestly it's just irritating.
@@sud1881 lol it was an accident
@@lilapercyperson5742 I don't understand wym it's not a intended link?
@sudwap it is a simple mistake. Such as:
Go.to the doctor.
Not to mean to say that to you lol.
i literally have never related to any video of yours more than this, once again i feel like crying SO BAD, but my supressing of emotions has gotten so bad i not only am unable to cry inf ront of others, but even in front of myself i just have a huge empty hole that hurts
1: you rarely yell or cry but you can erupt over small things - *yes*
2: you distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy - *describes me*
3: you feel like a different person around others than by yourself - *yes*
4: you often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people - *yes*
5: you experience life from a 3rd personal perspective - *yes*
6: you avoid confrontation and never address the cause of you're emotions - *describes me again*
*time to do nothing about it*
Same tbh around some people my emotions bottle up and then its just awkward :v
but then around some other certain people that i have known longer in my life, my emotions go 😂😵💫😑🤩🥳😭😰😡🤬😅😁😀🙄😖😏😒
But then around some other people i havent known very long (1-4 years) in like 😑😐😅😐😐🙂😐🤨😐😥😶🌫️😶🌫️
But then again im somewhat confused at the fact that before with friends who i have known 1-4 years i used to be like 🥳🥳🤩🤩🥳🥳🥳🤩🤩🥳🥳🤩🤩😐😐😐😐🥳🥳😏😏😏🥳🥳🥳😁😂
True.
@@ravenflght7005 The emojis were I unnecessary but I get your point. I do all but the third person thing.
@@MC-ur6qv sorry 😅
HOW TF DID THEY TELL EVERYTHING ABOUT ME
1. You rarely yell or cry
2. You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy
3. You feel like you are a different person around others than you are around yourself
4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people
5. You experience life from a third person perspective
6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions
Oh shoot i have few of these-
@@LandoBando33 bruhh..... i can relate to all of these.... :(
All 6 :c
@@randomartist5039 👊👊 Bros!!!! Or sis, whatever 😂😂
@@LandoBando33 me too
Left brain: already know im bottling my emotion*
Right brain: "Act like you're surprised"
Me
Me
Same
Me
*surprised pikachu face*
I bottle my emotions and let it out and get yelled at for it then bottle it back up and then then loop repeats.
Same
same here tho they don't yell at me but they say I shouldn't be like that with a dissapointed look on their face which makes it even worse and then that loop repeats aswell
Deal with them. Solve them.
Yeah,same.
Me: * has all of these signs *
Also me: “Guys I’m fine! You don’t have to worry about me at all!”
😓
Same
same here :/
Same...why is this so relatable?
The one time i dont like being able to say same
1. You outburst over this relatively minor issue can be a sign of deeper, more suppressed troubles on your relationship or personal life.
2. You distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy
3. You feel like you're a different person around others than you are by yourself
4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people
5. You experience life from a third person perspective
6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions
Outburst*
I hate that I relate to ALL of these omg
Tick
Tick
Tick
Tick
Tick
Tick
well then looks like that’s me
The thing is i know i’ve been bottling up my feelings, it’s a coping mechanism for me.
the thing is i dont even know what is causing me to feel like this
same like i dont even understand its so annoying
right, im probably bottling up stuff all the time on a lower level to the point I'm not even noticing bc i do it so often or something??? i dUNNO AHSDNJSNDJSa
like i dont cry every night i just get emotional sometimes but its not that serious but then i feel like maybe it should be or something because i want to feel valid but isn't that wrong because who wants to feel like shit but idfk
Yeah that's make me so confused and then continue to blame my self x_x
Bro exactly so if someone were to ask my whats wrong i would just cry but theres nothing to explain because i dont know WHY.
My fbi guy: I see you watching this, let's talk about it.
I wish they were like this &:&::@:9
😕
@@l4r1n3 same
I wanna talk to my fbi guy about my feelings 😭
Where they at though? 😭😭
When you know there’s people out there dealin with worse stuff than you, it makes it hard for you to talk to people about your problems without feeling dumb or weak
I relate so so so so much when I have anxiety about something my mind tells me their are people going thru much more than you and that doesn''t make things better.
Exactly. My parents always tell me there're fates worse than you out there, so as a result you must try harder. Well what do they know? Not everyone has the same limit, I've already reached mine. They may be stronger than me, fine. They can endure more than me, whatever. Just don't force that expectation on a weakling like me
fr tho, i usually dont say anything because people go thru so much more than me, it just feels like im ungrateful and just attention seeking for stuff that are small
i opened up a little to my grandmother once and she told me that "yes, while others are going through a lot worse then you, that doesn't make your feelings any less valid" and i truly do wish i could take that to heart it's just whenever i'm feeling down again it's the first thing i think of.
@@grlgmfu bro this is litreally me
I thoght that i was the only one feeling like this
It's kinda nice and sad to see people are there like me
Me: * *already knows im doing this* *
* *clicks anyway* *
Same, I’m very aware that my mental health is really bad but I have no way to change it right now.
Same situation. I know what's happening, like a 3rd person view but I don't have the guts to improve anything in my life
Ultimately all you need it to know who you are, doing this isn't bad. It makes life difficult, but life is difficult anyway. You don't need to change as long as you can accept who you are.
Crying and showing some emotions is embarrassing I'm not doing that shit
Yeah same I also knew this but I clicked anyway just to actually make sure and like I suspected....I am....
Watching this as my bottle exploded, thank God on time... Will never bottle up emotions again
What’s worse than not knowing you bottle up your emotions is not knowing why you’re bottling up your emotions.
i feel that
We bottle up emotions to not show them to others.
Or how
@@sveps8883 no shit? someone get this guy a Nobel Prize 🙄😒
@@sveps8883 the question is why we don't want to show them to others or maybe to ourselves as well
"Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways." - Sigmund Freud
You know, there's a reason I wouldn't quote Freud. First up, let's say this is a personification: if you bury someone alive, they'll very much die. What? No, wait up: if you bury anyone alive, it means they're*alive*. This, it will die from suffocation. So... They will die if I bury them alive?
Second: this guy is so overrated, it's not very wise to think too much about him if you ask me. During my psych lessons I was pretty much told that many things he said are outdated. Just if you wanted to know why I think this way
@@Raidon484 ever heard of a metaphor?? also u’ve got plenty of time to live before u finally die of suffocation whether u like it or not ur body instinctively will fight for survival as goes the metaphor of ur emotions fighting to get out of the dirt they were buried in. u can also think of it like a zombie. zombies aren’t exactly real and we’re not sure if Reanimation is even fully possible but it’s a big and well known concept that a zombie is a human that died and came back to life, or should i say: came forth later in uglier ways.
The dude you are quoting ripped apart 100 eels to find their balls in a scientific study, then dropped an n-bomb when he couldn’t find them, and is also the reason psychology was invented just because people couldn’t take his bullshit anymore
i'll keep burying them until i can't hold it anymore - Me, Me 2022/07/24
Nice quote allthough it comes from the guy who said we all want to screw our mothers (or fathers or whatever)
For the people who'd rather not watch the entire video:
1. You rarely yell or cry, but erupt over small issues.
2. You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy.
3. You feel like you are a different person by yourself than around others.
4. You often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people.
5. You experience life in a third person perspective.
6. You avoid confrontation and never address the cause of your emotions.
You are amazing thank you
I want my 5 minutes back
yep i have all of them
Thanks dude
@@itsquartz_ me too girl, me too..
i knew i hide all my emotions but i didn’t realize how serious it was until i lost one of my dogs and found myself numb and hiding emotions so much. watching this video really helped me realize how bad it actually is. thank you so much for
This is something that really sucks, especially when you have people you want to help but when the time comes you just sit there awkwardly or don’t know what to say or do despite knowing you should do something. It hurts, and really brings out the guilt in you.
I might sound rude, but be careful. Try to make sure they're not taking advantage of you.
Sometimes I felt that way
I always give an excuse like "I'm sorry I'm not good at giving advices, but I'll lend an ear if you need it" and they'll be ok with that but it's true that there's still some guilt left in your heart. Not only does it feel like you're not helping at all even when they give you affirmation, it makes you think if you're really a friend :
@@aristheia_ same tho :(( when my friends go through something, I always wanna try cheering them up but I don’t really know how. On the other hand, when I have problems, they can easily give me advice which just makes me guilty because I can’t do the same for them.
this is me like i want to help so badly but i don't know what to say
you ever just cry but then remember that you have homework to do so you end up working with tears running down your cheeks and just pretending that you’re perfectly fine and not literally crying?
uh, how r u so accurate?!?!? 🤯🤯🤯
Yep, done that three times this week :/
i have 4 hours to do 10 assignments because I put them off but I think I’ll just cry this time
Yup doing that right now
Are you doing okay? This is very specific!
It's hard accepting the fact that there's something wrong with you when you always pretended that you are okay.
How did you feel after watching this video?
The first step to fixing something is seeing that it needs fixing in the first place. Take the step.
@@Psych2go honestly I never knew that I had been bottling up my emotions, but hey, atleast I know now. Thank you Psych2go, I've really discovered myself by watching your videos. Never knew that there was much wrong with me but I'm happy that I finally have understood and will be taking help soon ❤️
Yeah and when you try to open up , people just say you're fine. Stop overthinking. Everything is fine. It's all in your head.
Psych2Go hic, I almost got everything that you talked about. Oh dear
Lately, I've been trying so hard to express my emotions instead of bottling them up, but it's hard to do that when it has been a habit for so long.
I recall times that something small would happen, and I would break down into tears because that little thing was the straw that broke to camel's back. If my friends/family was there, they would keep asking me what was wrong, and I repetitively kept saying 'I don't know, I don't know!' because I felt like I really didn't know. Tears just came, and I couldn't do anything about it; all the emotion just came pouring out.
Whenever i TRY to talk abt my emotions with a "trusted adult," they get brushed off as childhood fears and stuff. Im 15. I want to be taken seriously :(
Omg wooord!! It's literally the most annoying thing and it happens waay too often
I'm 22. No one takes me seriously anyway.
Not your parents, if the people you try to talk to act like that they are not "trusted adults".
@@szecr yeah should've put that in quotes, im gonna do that real quick
Edited for spelling
My parents just say I’m 2 young 2 have these emotions or they don’t even try and understand i mean my mum listens but she don’t understand and it’s so frustrating
Does anyone else cry while uttering the words about how u feel to anyone u trust and afterwards feel like u shouldn't have told them?
That moment halfway through where you’re too far to stop now but all you want to do is shut down and run away
No, that's the complete opposite of what the video is about
Yes
Sometimes when I have a break down and someone asks me if I'm okay I say I'm fine its just a teenager thing.But I really hate when others treat how I feel like it's a phase and that makes me hate myself even more cause I'm using that as an excuse.
Ofcourse. No one really cares, everyone has their own issues to deal with.
The worst part about this is that I know I have a supporting parent, but I'm afraid to tell them how I'm feeling because I'm scared of being neglected. Which may sound dumb, but it's true.
(Edit: yuh 1.9k ty)
Or even honestly telling them, and feeling like you are just 'whining' over small things. It's complicated.
I understand that feeling @stay safe
@@CatMuto this is exactly how I feel.. My Mom and my sister want me to talk to them when I have problems. But I don't do it, cause they always react the same way.. "It's no big deal", "That's just a phase" and other phrases.. Well.. I guess thanks for nothing?
I have a close situation. My mom tells me to tell her anything and it will be okay even though the problem is her. I have all of the signs in this video and I always stop my feeling when they overflow. It should happen and day now because when ever the smallest thing happens I stop myself from crying. But my mom has put me in some bad situations and so, I can't have a regular conversation with her without thinking about them.
hi! idk if you'll read or see this, but i was in a very similar situation. i was (still am) in a deep depression phase for almost two years now. things were starting to get worse and worse as time went on, and the whole time i never really told anybody about these feelings. how you just described opening up to your parent and scared of being neglected is exactly how i felt. but, about 3 or 4 weeks ago, i told my mom about what's been going, and everything was ok! she was very accepting and just really wanted to help; she's been constantly checking with me, and while my feelings aren't exactly close to gone, she's helped a lot! it wouldn't hurt to try! :)
hopefully it works out and i hope things will get better for you.
This is really helpful to someone like me who has been dealing with bottled up emotions for about 10 years and normally feels nothing but anger
Do you ever think “I rather feel awful than have the people around me feel bothered..”?
Edit: Thanks for all the likes :3 I hope you guys are able to talk about your feelings to people you deeply trust! :) feel free to talk to me in the comments as well :)
yeah :(
@@ab-vn8bm :c
Absolutely.
........,
@@ciel6249 :^
me: depressed
also me: YOU CANT BE DEPRESSED THATS PATHETIC
i relate✋
@@SEA-hp6zo and it’s because of this dialogue in my head that i’m depressed ;-;
@@sungh00nzz :(
kinda same for me tbh
@@SEA-hp6zo big sad
@@sungh00nzz big sad:(
I immediately started tearing up as the video progressed because I finally realized this is what I needed to hear despite me fighting myself to listen. Thank you it really helped me with my problems.
Happy it did
Yeah
Same
@@Vnce-hq9hn sometimes instead of holding them in try to express them as much as possible, but don’t get angry because then the people you were trying to express it to won’t take it very well.
I think it’s best to keep them restrained and suppressed. It seems weak to show the symptoms of emotions e.g. crying when you’re upset. more often than not, I reckon you end up worse off than if you controlled it. Once you can control your emotions and look at situations logically and think clearly instead of acting off of impulse, you can get a lot more done, and many situations end up better for you. You can get what you want quicker and with greater chance of success if you think clearly instead of being weak and letting the emotions think for you.
This just explains my whole life every bit of this video
anyone else here just very quietly cries in their room in the dark to not let any of their family members hear because they don't know how to tell them
hello :), i would just like to make an edit to this, this is more than a year after i made this comment, and im actually kind of shocked by how many people relate to this so much so i just wanted to let everyone know that this is a perfect example of that you are not alone, we're all together in this so, if you would like to share a certain thing or feeling that you don't think you have anyone that can sit down and listen to you talk about you can share it here in the replies because i feel like we can all understand each other and how we're feeling, there will be zero judgement or anything if you're worries about that and i will read every single one of them and try to reply to them too if you would like, you're not alone in this we're all with you
in the dark, under the blanket, holding in the sniffles, just tears forming around the eyes, sometimes not even letting it flow down because I'm wiping it away as soon as tears form
yeah, pretty much
I don’t wanna tell my family at all mostly because I’d feel awkward about, and they’d make my situation worse while trying to help
And is even worst when they are the cause of it😕.
@@heykian7454 yep definitely and even if they find out and ask me what the reason is i wouldn't know what to say
I don’t even cry I keep it in which is worse I swear one time my uncle died and the whole damn funeral I was not crying. At the end when I put the flower in the coffin I *almost* cried but I didn’t.
"2. You distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy."
*Who else clicked on this video to distract themselves from feeling uneasy*
Me-
... I-.. Me
Hehe....me
Me
Me
Everytime I talk to anyone about my feelings it makes me feel like I’m just being dramatic or being to much :/
yeah i feel so vulnerable or a drama queen
I just feel like people are gonna think I’m an attention seeker and judge me so I’d rather just not you know?
yup.
@@evirji7844 me too, I feel like I am over exaggerating my feelings and I often think that nobody will care about my problems because they have their own stuff to worry about.
Whenever my friend asks ‘how are you’? I sit there for so long wondering whether I should tell them how I really feel :/
@@bendyalien
I just go with a simple, “I’m fine” with a smile, I honestly really don’t know how I feel but I *know* I’m not okay.
About the over exaggerating, you’re right about that too, sometimes I feel like maybe I’m making a big thing out of something that might not even be there and I don’t have anyone who can help me realize what’s wrong with me at the moment so I tend to not share feelings
The funny thing is that I’m literally the “listener” in my friend group if yk what I mean, kinda like a counselor so no one thinks there’s anything wrong with me because I’m capable enough to help them lol
Anyways sorry for bothering y’all with stuff y’all prolly don’t even want to know😅
My life is a loop same thing go to school go home, eat lunch, do work, sleep, wake up later on wednesday fail a quiz, and I am always feeling down but i always joke with my friends but my thoughts are always negative, i always feel disconnected far away from my friends even though i'm right next to them, sometimes in public my eyes water because i don't cry with friends or family so the retained tears just spill out. I am used to pain so self harm is normal and i am always thinking about why iam like this and why i am so sad around people i like and why i can't socialise with anyone but this shines some light thank you
"You distract yourself whenever you start to fee uneasy"
Me reading and creating fake scenarios to distract myself 😃
This is so me
@@fadedpink me too
Same here
me eating food to distract myself and become 130 pounds 😃
@@matutinam2673 I can relate, when I feel stressed out I turn to food. And it starring to become a problem, your still beautiful loves even if you gained weight don't forget that 🥰
I love this person’s voice. So calming...
Same :)
Same!
Same
Im gonna be honest. I just don't agree but i respect your opinion
@@Zailscode me 2. I think the voice is sad and, well, the tone makes it a bit hard to thoroughly listen
Me: Is sad and wants to cry
Also me: Pathetic
pleas the most accurate thing i’ve read
And its worse for guys becuase we live in a society where if we cry people say “man up” or “if you are a real man-“
The worst part for me is that I have a loving supportive family and a counselor that I can talk to about anything yet I choose not too
I'm an asshole who's got a whole woe is me attitude becuase I'm too lazy to deal with my bullcrap
Just felt like ranting here, I just feel bad right now
@@justinaguilar9650 That's bullshit. It's okay to cry, it's okay to feel sad. Crying is very manly. Crying is being human.
@@catenjoyer76
Im female, also I'm full of bullcrap for not dealing with my issues not for crying
Crying alone at night , silently is the new normal to me
Friend : **Cries**
Me : Uhhhhhh- **Pats shoulder**
Also me : Why the heck did i do that?
Same I just go:
Uhm- what's wrong?
My mind: god your dumb their crying DO SOMETHING
Same I also:
Me: Hey are you ok,?
Them: _No,_ :(
Me: Uhm yeah, that’s a mood *Walks away*
For me it's
Friend: **cries**
Me: ummm...
Friend:**continues crying**
Me:**stands there awkwardly**
Someone else:**handles the situation**
i don't pat their shoulder i just stare at them not knowing what to do and when someone comes to help them i just slowly walk in and try to go with what they're saying
@@李小美-f6z Same, i pat my friend's to "comfort" them only once..
The fact that this was in my recommended is concerning
I got “by the way, are you a sociopath?” Showed all of the signs bro
They know I got like 4 of them
Idk if RUclips is trying to tell me something...
Ikr
And I also knew I was bottling my emotions before but still clicked anyway-
AND YOUR PFP IS BAKUGO AHAHA
They say “don’t hold it in” but when you let it out they get mad at you for doing so. Why is life like this?
Why is society like this!?
Why are you preaching right now?😔 so true man
People are selfish. They want us to be the way they want us to be. The "don't hold it" part is how they deal with shit. But when others deal with their shit in the same manner, it triggers them. Don't let others be higher than you. Place yourself higher than others.
@@AK-mf1bo That's easier said than done
exactly. that’s why i keep it in around others and let it out when im by myself. no one around me cares.
Me: these signs kinda-
Brain: *no*
Me: but don't I always bottle up my emotions just to not upset other peo-
Brain: *n o.*
Completely relatable
When u want somebody to fell bad for you:
how do you superlike a comment
Same
BRO SAME
the 3rd person perspective is really striking cause i feel like i’m an option, instead of a priority with my friends. it feels like i’m just there to spectate them having fun because it feels like they’re better friends with each other always having something to say, even when i try to speak up sometimes i get overshadowed by someone speaking louder. Even when i’m enjoying myself it doesn’t feel real at times
And I thought I'm the only one...
I Hate It! This was the number one fact that hit so incredibly close to home. It feels like I don't even exist to my "friends", even though I care about them so much.
welcome to being introverted/anxious/weird/awkward/numb/me
This, this right here sums up my life 😓 never thought someone else could feel what i feel
I can totally relate it seems like they're better off without me sometimes cause they know what to talk about with each other and seem as if they're better friends with each other. I get jealous sometimes and I feel bad for doing that. It's so easy for them to talk to others and each other and I feel so left out sometimes, like I'm not even there or wanted, they care about me a lot i just don't know anymore. It's like one friend is holding the entire friend group together.
i have all the signs, and almost cried when you talked about the 3rd person perspective because it's the first time i hear what i always feel around my friends, like i'm replaceable, and that i don't fit in the group
I expressed that back then and they didn't understand. I lost them over it. Nowadays I have a really hard time with relationships. I'm alone most of the time, even tho there are people who like me. It never seems enough tho.
ya especially when the person you really like in the friend group ignores you
I feel this too especially because in all my friend groups ive been the one intruding after already establish inseparable friendships have been made and it feels like I’m just watching their friendship.
I have problems making friends because I've been hurt so many time (If anyone is uncomfortable with rants then just scroll along). I'm currently home schooled because there were some problems with bullying and lack of proper care from teachers but I had a pretty nice friend group, I thought that it would be that bad because I assumed they would still wanna hang out during weekends and I had their numbers, Although then they just stopped talking to me, they wouldn't come to my birthdays and they wouldn't even invite me to theirs. The only friend I had eventually started to ignore and avoid me but when I eventually left him then he started trying to get me back, I didn't except and now I don't have contact with him anymore, but now from all this rejection, I have this one friend now who lives in a whole different country and now I'm going to this home schooling centre and meeting with some new people
Jokes on you, I don't have friends.
I just wanna say thank you so much for trying to help spread mental awareness this video made me cry because I know I won’t be able to do anything no matter how badly I want to
Me relating to every single thing : "nah I'm fine"
Omg tell me about it 🙄
@@texastea5686 fr 🙄
Frfr
Same..
Don’t talk about that shhhhh
Who else has just been bottling things up, then one day you burn a piece of toast and it sets you over the edge. And then a few minuets later someone walks in to the kitchen and finds you crying on the floor. Then when they ask why you are crying you either scream I don't know, or you start rambling about everything but they cant understand you because of how hard you are crying.
not that kind of scenariobut somewhat similar like I was just disconnected to the wifi as I was doing my research, I could just reconnect (it's that easy) but instead I screamed in anger and when my mom came into my room I started ranting about irrelevant things till I get that anger off my chest
makes me confused whether im bottling up emotions or just have anger issues :
@@aristheia_ same because I get annoyed so easily and in school when small stuff happen I get annoyed and plus I’m quite sensitive sometimes
I just would bottle up ALL of my emotions, and when my dad comes to wake me uo in the morning i jump out of bed, wait for him to leave and start crying into and punching my pillow and my dad comes in and asks whats wrong and i just scream idk and just hide in my closet.
My emotions are so weird. I can cry my eyes out because I dropped my pen or during a semi intense conversation, but I don’t say a word when it really matters
same but i accidentally dropped my trumpets mouthpiece
The way I cope with bottling up my emotions is talking to myself. It doesn't release all the pain, but I does help
I have conversations with myself all the time
I usually talk out loud if there is no one around
Lol same, my mom thinks im crazy, im guessing your parents think like that too?
You got used to it right
Yea my sibling also
@@Apulsee I always talk to myself I make these people in my head like a friend or even my own therapist inside my head lol. I think I’m crazy
I really honestly want to give this entire comment section a hug... sure I might need one too but hey it seems all of us need it right now
Number 4 is so true, whenever someone cry’s during a class everybody will literally go over to comfort them. And then I’m in the back like:
👁👄👁
👉 👉
Ya like jazz?
Same lmao 😂
Omgggg same I thought I was the only one
Omg sameee
I’m just sitting in the corner wishing I could help them but knowing I can’t
Scorpy Kawaii same i’d just be like
“errr u k?”
1:44
"You distract yourself whenever you start to feel uneasy."
*Me who's scrolling through RUclips and other social medias to be distracted*
oh dang-
same-
With me its nit scrolling through social media ir watching tv i always sit on my swing and i Really get mad when someone disturbs me when im there
I hope you guys are doing okay now :')
Lmao and then theres me who got distracted and had to rewatch this entire video
when I feel sad, I just watch a whole lot of happy videos to make me happy
**REASONS I DON'T SHOW MY EMOTIONS.**
*1. My parents ground me for crying*
**THANK YOU FOR READING**
Aw, I hope things get better for you. I feel the same way honestly ^^’
The fabulous sentence:
-If you continue to cry, I’m gonna give a real reason to cry
@@youronlydadou1546 One time I had to hide in the bathroom so lol
Yukimaru Takemichi Like crying in the shower like that nobody know what is your REAL tears and what is the water 😣
@@youronlydadou1546 I see myself just crying into the fucking shower and my mum asking "ARE YOU SHOWERING" and me answering yes
I'm a person who can't withstand any critisism, so when i was younger the moment I had any debate with someone I started crying. Because of that to simply communicate with people i learned to supress my tears. And the worst part for me that it had gone so far I can't even cry right now, i unconsciously supress my tears (except for really bad situations when I'm on the edge). When I just think about stuff in my head (it's pretty mess there) and want to burst with tears, my eyes just go wet but that's it. And this hit the hardest for me. (Also, sorry for my english it is not my native language)
I grew up in a home where crying was punished “stop crying or ill give you something to cry about.” My whole life is just bottling up my emotions bc I associate crying with fear and punishment. So when my mom is yelling, I’ll try desperately not to cry, bc then she will be even more mad. It confuses me when she says is okay to cry. Once, I hit my head, and the pain was immense. I was trying so hard not to cry but then my mom said, “y’know, you can cry, if it hurts that bad” I was confused, but slightly glad to be able to express myself. But look on the bright side. I’m now a great Actress!
wow, good for you. i also kinda grew up in the same situation.
Yeah I've been in that environment myself. It's wild how much of an effect it had on me
I never grew up in that situation, but I bottled up my emotions anyway because I felt like people would judge me. I knew that they weren't going to, but I hated crying in front of others, or admitting that I was stressed, angry, or confused in front of others. My friends always looked up to me because I was the mom of the friend group, so I wanted to seem responsible. And I was also the oldest sibling, and I always listened to my parents. They said that I should show a good example and that I was more mature. However, when I was 12, I started piano. I slowly started to hate doing it. I never told anyone, until one day I was practicing and finally decided that I shouldn't be doing stuff I didn't like doing because it brought me stress, anger, and sadness. I would always cry in my room alone after a lesson because I didn't want to do it anymore. So, I walked up to my parents. I couldn't really tell them at first, but then eventually I broke down crying, screaming that I didn't want to do piano anymore, I hated it, and that I can't be the perfect older example sibling that you hoped for. I told them how much stress this was causing me, it was messing with my grades, my health, and just everything. I cried for what seemed like a good 20 minutes because I just couldn't hold any of it in. And when I finally stopped, my parents fully supported me. They told me they didn't mean to make me feel that way, and told me that I could always talk to them if I needed to.
I still bottle up my emotions a little bit, but I'm not afraid to cry in front of others or admit I have idea what I'm doing in front of others anymore. 😊
Going through that right now actually. Stay strong...
Actually that weird emo stage in life applys to everthing no one understands you because there not you you Could be highly sensitive but they see it as crybaby parents see it as temper tantrums
I almost cried over not being able to press the "x" botton on an ad
oh love i’m sorry
I do that all the time, is it not normal?
@@ddazxi Some ads don't have it so you are forced to watch the whole thing but they are usually less than a minute.
@@ddazxi no your to sensitive
@@ddazxi to help you u need a man to beat the angry out of you
Me: starts bottling up emotions because no one cares
Also me: Searches signs of bottling up emotions
We are same....
same-
you sure you didn't get this from my diary?
Haha... That's what I was doing😅
I’ve been doing this
Thanks!
Thank you for the donation! Which part of the video was helpful for you?
interresting how everyone in the comments has these problems and we were all brought together by this video, how did it find us, youtube really knows us better than we think
RUclips knows us better than our own parents.
it's because we can't open up with our parents fearing they might laugh or reject us. Here, everyone is fair and have the same feeling so it makes sense.
I found this video while looking for what to do when liking a friend and when I was searching for a video about depression and the signs for that 😅
I didn’t notice i was bottling up my emotions and I was suprised because since I have adhd my anger and sadness is stronger
I think youtube is spying on us
@@angle5222 yes they dooo, youtube too, idk what im writing im inn another world, but you probsbli wont understand
I feel like this whole quarantine is making our self-esteem even lower than it was, especially for those who had problems with it before.
Yes. I had depression years ago but then i became happy again. Now im sad again and idk why.
I had problems with myself during middle school then I pretended I was fine and now all my emotions are coming back because of the whole debunkle of 2020
This is so true, I am an introvert and at first I thought I would like this social distancing... But I realized this is not only social but also emotional distancing, and now the level of overthinking has increased so much that I really just want this all to end quickly.
I just wrote this and someone liked it instantly, I can't expresses the sudden burst of joy this gave me.
I would just say.... Thank you.
You're welcome :)
Crying is the perfect way of letting go! Even society believes men shouldn’t cry, I believe it is for both men and women the best way of letting go suppressed emotions 🌟
I believe crying makes almost everyone mad at me so I try not to
Crying makes me feel disappointed in myself and makes me feel weak
Thanks for sharing! This is true :) What do you recommend we should do to lessen the stigma?
Crying makes me feel like i am putting on a show and begging for attention.
@@Psych2go one time I was upset because of something my older sibling did to I began to cry and then his step grandmother tried forcing what was wrong with me but I told her I needed my alone time to calm down she ignored me and bright my brother there I still didn't talk and later she spoke to my mom and called me a wimp behind my back and I almost lashed out at her this vid made me realize I don't cry because when I do I hate myself because of it I feel weak and like an embarrassment for it being a boy when I was little I used to cry because of trauma and it's unheald I was sensitive but because of other ppl thinking I'm soft I had to shut it down out of fear of being called out as weak or soft
wow, i never realized how this showed my reality in things
Me: "i'm not bottling up my emotions, but let's watch this video, it looks interesting"
Me, five minutes later: "STOP DESCRIBING MY LIFE"
*sudden extreme raging*
aaaa
same!!! throughout this whole video, i was like so surprised by how accurate this describes me
xDDDD
STOP DESCRIBING MY LIFE
Me: I want to talk about my emotions with others.
Also me: Please don’t ask me anything. Please don’t look at me. I hope I’m invisible.
Same
same
Same
same
quick question: have any of you daydreamed/imagined a scenario where you opened up your feelings to someone and cried (either in reality or in the daydream, or both), but never really proceeded to actually open up to others??
@@aristheia_ yes in a daydream
I just start crying out of nowhere , no reason , no face expression , just crying and when they ask ‘why’ I don’t know. I just...started crying.
Is it just me?
Same!
;D
* virtual hug*
@@internetacorn7584 can i get one too?!
@@music_therapy242 Yasssssss
*aggressive virtual hug*
Hope everything’s alright,
Need a hug?
*finger guns*
you are not alone
I've always saw myself as a pretty normal human who makes bad mistakes, watching depression videos and stuff until I saw this, it basically described my life
1: you rarely yell or cry but you can erupt over small things - yes
2: you distract yourself whenever you feel uneasy - describes me
3: you feel like a different person around others than by yourself - yes
4: you often feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people - yes
5: you experience life from a 3rd personal perspective - yes
6: you avoid confrontation and never address the cause of you're emotions - describes me again
Army!!!
@@GoofyAhhCat_27 yoo army!!
Yay, ARMIES
Same
@@vanshikakachhawa9604 Yaaa!!! How's it going?? 💜💜
I’ve kept myself bottled up for 6 years
My trick is to hate myself and blame myself for everything 😎👍
Edit; okay this has 9 likes, so um
Don’t do this, it’s unhealthy
well you know, if im "always strong enough to pull through", THEN I GUESS ITS MY FAULT THAT I FEEL THIS WAY :DDDDDDD
.... um u nu my mum?
Same lol😅
Kenya Mcknight this might not help but, I love you stranger for being alive, and for staying strong even though no one is supporting you ❤️
Well, no one's able to hate me more than I already hate myself 👉👉
Me : * shows emotions *
Also me : nope nope. Nope never do that again * holding them back and not letting to escape *
I have to keep mine hidden so I'm not seen as an attention seeker or a dramatic teenager.
@@annee721 i dont show them cuz i just dont like the feeling of them
I accidentally cried today, it wasn't my intention. And now I'm regretting it.
You also do that? I do it so that people wont judge me and i kinda hate the feeling of showing it
@@x3n_s0m3thing0i Too used to hiding them, so when they do show you're not sure what's happening?
Her voice is very calming I can actually sit through the videos.
this whole video said, “this you?” 👁👄👁
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I prefer “homi if you cry ur a fucking dumbness and go die in a hole” other than “bottling up ur emotions”
That’s how I see it
Yeah that's me all right
Same
I guess I needed this video.
I really don’t think anyone truly knows me.
I blame myself for that because I don’t let them in.
Same :(
like when she said you have two different faces and im like 'only two? i have ten or more'
this is the only comment that i can relate to
@@alexpaz2788 thanks! This makes me really feel like I'm not alone in the world and other people feel like me
@@rebeccaogden7455 yea man we going thru the same shit together man
When I cry I cry alone in my room or just hold in my tears and try to forget whats making me upset. I don't want to cry Infront my parents they will probably make fun of me like call me weak or a big baby. They already call me a big baby sometimes and it kinda hurts.
Edit: Awwww I hope you guys feel better😟. Here's a screen hug 'hugs you all' I hope you guys get better
I feel you my aunt has been doing thid when i cry she call me weak my mind just says "i don't cry because im weak, its because ive been too strong for too long"
This is what happens to me with my uncle i feel very sad but cant express my emotions because they call me weak when i do
Same with me :(
I kinda understand it, my grandma always told me when I was crying that if nobody died or anything bad happened where is no reason to cry...
I hate when they say why are you crying after they just yelled at you
WHY IS THIS SO ACCURATE!?
When she said about feeling like a different person depending on whether you are alone or not, I remembered, how it hurts to be the most positive person in the group, but heading back home, you're just noone. Not something good or bad. Just a void.
I feel like that’s the opposite with me, when I’m at home I feel more like myself and I’m feel free. But when I’m at school around my friends I feel like I’m not myself or I can’t express myself anymore. Idk it’s weird 🤷🏾♀️
I've always been the clown of the group. The one that would do anything you double dare him to. The one always being the centre of attention, but at home... It's just grab a snack and head to bed
Ahaha same
All of my friends and classmates really thought of me as really kind and always happy, altho I dont joke but Im always smiling, even some of them never seen me angry or in bad mood. But when im home yeah, Im gonna go to bed and stay there as much as possible
@@Jldndy , god... I hope we'll survive this nightmare.