begging never works and only empowers a person and makes them feel you will be around no matter what, they will turn you into a doormat. Ignoring always works.
Initial begging actually helps in reattracting the person. Why? Because what it does is, it puts them on a major pedestal and makes them feel incredibly important. Secondly, it gives them overconfidence in thinking they can have you any time they want you. However, if you can then just walk away (and mean it), their sense of importance is suddenly diminished. It also does something else, it makes them respect you for going from such a weak position to such a strong one so quickly. What they start thinking is, 'If that person has instantly forgotten me after begging it so bad, then they must have met someone else -- someone better than me'. Their curiosity starts driving them nuts.
badad187, Yep, I got shut out 2 months ago, she phones me last Tuesday, but I ignored her call, and never bothered contacting her back. I'm at a point where I just don't care anymore.
Which means "Never be NEEDY" Cause neediness distroys not only relations with girlfriends but even friendships which means NEVER let them in your heart until you're sure they've opened their hearts for you...
I still wonder why my ex unblocked me 5 days befor her bday after 40 days no contact.. What is her deal in ur opinion? Should i have wished her happy bday? Did i miss a big opportunity to reach out then? Did she want to see if i still cared or just ego stroke? Do i still have a chance?
Damn you turn her down because you knew it wasn't going to work out. Savage af. Well done, man. I'm not sure I could do that. That shows a lot of maturity.
I admire your courage and honestly when you said that you cried and you were vulnerable despite how society poison us men that we should not show emotions or cry.
gslaw11 keep begging on purpose and then go straight to no contact to see how she feels. I’m actually doing this right now with my ex and then boom I wanna see her reach out to me haha idk man pretty sure I’ll work out because your putting them on a pedestal.
@@Luis-gh3in Hi people, watch those guys and start to take red pills and stop being the white knights (Alpha Male Strategies) ruclips.net/channel/UC0it1cu-mt_IcvLTQ4CWcHw and (Darius M) ruclips.net/user/lastsecshotvideos They changed my life:D I'm 43 and see women are the same all over the world.
@@paulcruz1611 me too😓I've been begging for the past three weeks and today it's day 4 of my no contact challenge ... I'm really gaining my power back and I catch him starring alot so it must be working
don't count the days.. focus on your improvement areas and be the one who you want to.. things will fall into your place once u be the better version of u
After 20 days of no contact, don’t contact them for whatever reason. Continue no contact. They decided to abandon you and break your heart just because they weren’t getting the bits and pieces that they wanted in a man, and tell you “I’m not ready I’m sorry” instead of talking to you about it and try to work it out. Then a month later they get with another dude knowingly that you’re still in turmoil. So because of this, they don’t deserve to hear from you. If they don’t care that their not going to hear from you again, then that should tell you what kind of partner they are. Know your worth, if you’re treated like one of many options, remove yourself from their equation. Life is too short to be crying over someone that treats you like another bottle of liquor where they just discard you when they can’t get anymore of what they want outta you
wow that amazing....so you went from begging and pleading, to having the option to decide if u wanted her back....and then u decided that u did not...well wow there is hope for us all.....I soooo wish I could feel how u do!...that was like magic!
What I loved most about this was that he had enough self respect to walk away. It's pretty motivating and he seems suuuper sweet he'll find someone way better that actually deserves him :)
Great video but I'd like to point out that contacting them after 30 days is a big mistake. Most people aren't ready after such a short time. You yourself said it took your ex about 1 month and 3 weeks. You should actually never contact them again. 95% of the time, they will get a hold of you at some point.
Don't fallow this... TheArtOfLove.... you know that contacting them back correctly gets them back, that's what happened with my ex... i dumped her 1 month after but still it works. Contact them after 30 days, and try to keep it casual. like you have 30 days to date and enjoy life in the meantime ^^
you did the absolute right thing! In fact she came back because she wanted to take the power back from you and she could just not accept the fact that you moved on. This is what happens to women that act in such way. Always remember the one that breaks up the relationship will be the one to suffer the most and you will become so much stronger and confident after that, good luck to you!
I'm in the process of no contact now. it's been 3 days, but it feels forever. thanks a lot for sharing your experience here! I will subscribe you right away :)
THANK you for sharing your story, I’’m exactly 1 week into NC and dyyyyyying 🤦🏻♀️ it’s exactly like you said... feels like hell. You handled yourself so incredibly well. Thanks for your vulnerability. I’m glad I stumbled across this before going to sleep.
Carl, you are a brave man, and a real man for opening up like this. Your no-holds-barred personal account of your experience will help many other men navigate through one of the most difficult times in a man's life. God bless.
Your value with a girl will go straight up when you're no longer easily available. They want a challenge, they will play this manipulation game with you after you fall in love and get close to them, after that, there's nothing more to earn from you cause you're giving away your love so easily. Remain a bit of a challenge and for Gods sake, never ever beg a girl to stay, you'll turn her off even more. Let them go, they'll usually come back but don't just allow her easy access to you all over again, she has to EARN every inch of her way back to you.
No, he's 100% right.... women need to be challenged. obviously don't be unobtainable, but in the relationship, remain somewhat of a challenge...dont just lose sight of your identity for a woman. its the same for both genders, people in GENERAL like a healthy challenge.
Jack Bravo If he follows me on social media and looks at my status update is that against the no contact rule ? Should i make my status updated on for example instagram invisible for him ?
When you are truly in love, the games are not really necessary. You reach a point where you don't have to pretend to be less available. You can be vulnerable. Adults in love should be able to grow their love very deep without having to play head games.
Dude your the most sincere person I’ve seen on here, your absolutely right, I been dating for about 15 years and every year I realize more and more how much my dad knew when he said the key is indifference and not investing all of yourself
Love that song "sweater weather". I like how casual your story is and got straight to the point. I'm actually just thankful for you telling me your personal story as it's similair to mine and actually gives me hope but to also move on. Thank you.
Dear I will introduce you to the same Relationship Restorer from POLAND who restored my broken relationship, he can bring your ex back just fine he's a very good man;;
As a mom of a teen who just had a break-up, thank you. We are never too old or smart to learn and to pass on knowledge to others. Your candor and vulnerability will help many in their struggle. Much success in all you do!
You became a strong centered man. Never let someone try to bring you off center again. You are a good guy. Women are in abundance and your mindset should be like that. Thanks for sharing. Walk away and never look back.
Dude it takes a lot of heart and courage to mention how this experience affected you. I salute you my friend and hope things are better for you because they always end up better. As long as you allow things to get better. Especially for your young age. I know your probably older now but nice work dude.
My boyfriend broke up with me through text after we have been together for two years and a half. I did beg him the day after and I spilled all my feelings and all he said was it's better this way. I hope he realizes what he lost honestly through the no contact period. Because I feel like I am being eaten inside without him and it hurts so much
he actually got a new girlfriend. turns out he was just full of lies and bullshit and he is not even worth going through all of this for, so i just let it go.
Sandy I went thru the same thing after 2.5 years she dumped me thru text and got on tinder within one day and got with someone within one week I was so broken inside and I did want her back before I knew what she did but in the end people like this are not worth and it's been two months and it still hurts but it's less and less everyday. I hope you're much happier today
Sandy , I know I'm in the same boat, he told me to " never ever contact him again, it's been 13 days I still cry alot and listen to love songs, I love him so much I just have to " suck it up" I guess that's all I can do.
You seem like a really good person and you did great on your situation. You deserve the best. Don't let people treat you like garbage then come back just to act like they didn't hurt you. Your life will turn out great I assure you that.
Great video but REAL no contact involves never EVER contacting them after "20 days" or however you put it. You are supposed to walk away as if you will never ever speak to them again and move on for YOURSELF. If they contact you one day, then so be it, but contacting them after a few weeks will do absolutely nothing but just give them all the power back yet again. You may get some conversation and even a hangout out of it, but 95% of the time you will not get them back. It must ALWAYS be the dumpers decision to reach out, not the dumpee's.
Thank you so much for making this video. It is really nice to see someone who went through the same thing and understands how heart breaking it is to be broken up with by someone you love so much. I admire your strength to be happy on your own and to not get back with your ex! Thank you for giving me hope that the no contact rule works, and hope that when it does work I may just be happy without him. You are awesome!
I have had 3 break ups. These are my experience on how I cop up during No contact :- 1. Listen to songs like "i mean it", "G.O.M.D sickick", "i dont fuck with you", "formidable", "fuck you - lily allen " 2. Listen to these songs right after you wake up. And 3times a day like medicine. 3. Hang out with your friends. Go to party, go to watch movies with your friends. 4. Flirt with new girls, different girls even if you don't feel like it. 5. Don't do one night stand thing. 6. Try to get in a rebound relationship even if you don't feel like dating at all. 7. Absolutely do not listen to love songs and sad love songs. 8. Watch movies , I prefer "horror comedy" and avoid romance genre. I have once even watched 4 movies in a day. 9. Listen to motivational video, and "word porn" , 3 times a day, like medicines. 10. Masturbate at least 1-2 times a day. 11. If you feel like crying, don't be afraid to cry like a baby. 12. Invest yourself in your hobby, i like to draw and learn foreign languages. 13. Your girl is not any precious. She sucks dick like a hoe, masturbates thinking of celebrities and go to toilet and poop like any other normal girls. She is also here to play the game of life. 14. Stay strong in "no contact" no matter what. More you start giving her your attention, more you will be engulfed in your feelings. 15. Start exercising , exercise releases feel good hormones. 16. Talk to your "mom" or "sisters". They are the richest source of oxytocin hormones. 17. Remember that your relationship to your girl is governed by "addiction hormones" and "habit forming hormones + basal ganglia". You can replace your addiction to your girl with another addiction such as playing computer games. You can only break your habits of being in touch with your girls by staying strong in "no contact". 18. Remember that No contact is your best bet. Giving her your attention only makes it worse. Begging her kills your chances absolutely. 19. Write down all the negative points about your Ex. Read it every day. 20. Read books, especially self help books like "think and grow rich". "rich dad, poor dad", "power of habits", "7 habits of highly successful people", etc. Or any other genre you may like. I am in my 9th day into my no contact, and i am doing really good as compared to by first and second break ups.
@@deenbernads Yeah. It was almost 3 years ago. We continued for 1 year more and then again broke up during Corona pandemic. I didn't pursue her anymore. Now I'm in new relationship. Going good with new girl.
Why do adults try to act like we're supposed to be retarded? Lol. Like did u forget how intelligent u were when you were a teen/young adult? Because yall try to act like we're so intelligent when we say anything remotely inspiring or smart when in reality it's just us using our brains like a regular person.
After 9 months of dating it only took me about 3 weeks to get over her. The no contact made me realize I wanted us to work out and I pointed out what I didn't like she wasn't willing to make the effort and so yeah
Thank you for sharing your story. For being open, honest and vulnerable to go there, that takes a lot of courage to share something so intimate w/ millions and anyone. You are a really sweet guy, intelligent and handsome!!Im sorry to hear about your heartbreak and unfortunately it happens to us all. It does suck at first but w/ a different perspective relationships always teach us something about ourselves. I think it's so great that you were able to heal, move on and have that full circle come back again and then decide your good. You are a catch and I'm so glad to hear that you are happy!!! 😁 All the Best to you~
Carl though you're much younger then me, but that part where you say its really more off about finding yourself then getting her back is the most under rated and unrecognized fact of it all. So all the best and thanks man :) Dont do these videos for subscribers and shit, keep making such tiny differences. Brotherly advice there lol
Very brave of you to be so open with your circumstances. You are right about the limitations older people face with regard to numbers of daily contacts. No matter, no contact is hard. Thanks 🐈
yeah,,, good for you😉 👍 this is what I want as well! I want the 30 day no contact rule to help me just get over him, moreso than to have him back in my life.
My story is about the same. I have been in no contact almost 7 months, she texted me 3 months after no contact about wanting to be friends and I never responded to her. My friends always give me shit about not wanting to talk to her and personally I think that talking to her is not an option anymore. I’m not the type of person who believes that hanging around your ex is a not good thing, because as much as people tell me to move on from what happened, I can’t delete what was already done it will always be there. My way of moving on is not keeping her around me. The problem is that she is still friends with all of my friends. So it’s kinda hard to hang out with my friends because she’s always around. So one day I’ll have to speak to her again, tell her that we can be acquaintances but not friends.
A very moving story Im so glad you managed to get over your ex. You made a very tough decision and you know what sometimes not being with the one you loved is hard initially. I just broke up with a girl I loved a few months ago. but time as they say is the greatest healer.
Damn man, that's how you build character, im glad you didn't take her back. You seem like a great guy. You know I got dumped on new years eve and got sent home after i had travelled 250miles to be with her. She had lost feelings for me because she had met some new guy BUT still she wanted to drag me up 250miles just to "double check" if she had any feelings for me left. That's really fucked up. But you know funny thing is that guy ditched here over another girl some time ago. Well i have kept no contact for 2month soon! Not a word from her, but i would'nt be surprised if she would contact me soon now when it's over with here "new guy". But i would not take her back, i still like here as a person, but i can't really get over that she waited untill fucking NEW YEARS EVE to break up (we had planned what to do like 3months earlier, booked resturant etc etc), i spent most of new years eve in a fucking BUS crying!
Thanks man that means a lot, and when a girl dumps you for another guy it honestly makes everything just hard. It's feels like your insides are being torn apart but you just have to fight threw it. I didn't take her back because I thought about how I've met so met so many different girls who are great and fun to be around I just had to tell myself to let go and trust in what I'm doing but good for you man. If she does come crawling back don't shut her out completely, if she really wants another go at it make one date and see if things can be like they used to. That's what I did and something in the back of my mind said that things weren't right and to just let her go. But good luck in the future! (:
You look like a sweetheart and you did really good wt this video I’ve been struggling with some weird relationship things and this really helped me so thank you !!!!
Omg this kid looks so much like my son. Kid I'm 32 and u r a- freaking-mazing. My ex has broken up with me so many x in the past 5 years and I still take him back. I need to do what u did and just realize there is never going to be a future with him bc he will continuously keep hurting me. I for real am glad ur happy and doing well!!
This video is 2 years old so I'm not sure if youre gonna see this message. But im going through this as we speak. It's been a TOUGH week. Your video actually brought a little light to me. Thank you for sharing brotha!
Thank you for your story. I’m glad you were able to move on and you were so open with your story. I’ve just had a break up and I’m so upset but this video has helped me.
Thx bro. Just learning about the no contact rule dealing with a recent separation from my wife. My favorite takeaway: The no contact rule is for you... to get your head straight. Thx again!
thank you. It’s nice to hear your experience as a high school student like me, I feel a little stronger now so I can go through these 20/30 days. I just have a question. See, I removed him off (not blocked) of social media, because it was hurting me to see what he was doing when he said he “couldn’t” see me. I was wondering if that is giving him the wrong idea that I never want him back or something...
Hey Nice Video... My girl after ten months just broke up with me yesterday. I didn't cry. I acted like I was totally fine with it and walked away. I'm doing no contact. I can't wait to see if it works, kind of as an experiment, if she doesn't contact me... I'll be cool. I love her but I've had a lot of relationships and they get easier to end but I have always wept and begged and tried to talk to them. I'm a bit older and I'm not going to fret if someone doesn't want to speak to me. I will stay strong! I deleted her phone number off my phone and took her off facebook. One day down! Lol
Josef Zammit Yeah man... I'm working on myself. She and I are in the same circles and we cannot avoid each other so I'm going to work on me and attract her back or get someone better. Mark my words... If I really master myself she will start chasing me... and like I said if she doesn't I'll get someone better. She wasn't perfect. But, I do still love her.
Hey thanks man. Yeah I belong to a certain social circle and so does she... When we first got together I was always around and ignored her. I was the only guy who didn't hit on her... I talked to other girls instead and by the time I finally did talk to her she wanted me bad because I had ignored her. But, then I lost all control and became a beta male in the relationship. Man, I always want to go back because you can see how you messed up in the relationship... but it's hard to see while you're in the "shell" of the relationship. I'm just going to try that again, ignore her, make myself wanted by others... OR maybe I'll pull her off the pedestal in my mind. That's what I really desire... to not desire. Lol I will man!
Yeah, I did... but, she wasn't the one for me. Looking back now I wasn't happy with her. She is boring and I have totally stayed away from where she is. A lot has changed. I dumped my whole social circle. Not good people. I couldn't stand being around her and us not even saying "Hi" and us acting like we don't know each other... it's ridiculous, sick, and immature. Some of my close friends tried to bang her too... fuck them. Oh God the pain of everything is over... it takes time. I'm looking forward to dating again next year. I'm staying alone all year... get to know Elderberry again. I'm lifting weights and trying to make the best me. No Woman No Cry.
I got dumped 2 weeks ago after 4 years of being together by a text message. We had spent the weekend together and had fun she left in the morning telling me she loved me like always and later that day she had send the text... She did not want to explain, talk or see me, the text was all i got. I was broken, cried, felt miserable and started blowing her phone up right away for two days. I found the nc video's and sucked it up right away. Currently i am in 12 days of no contact. It is really hard but possible for me too do since it feels like the best chance of getting her back. I love her so much and hope she contacts me and we can work this out... Nice video Carl! Thanks alot.
Funny how i get a comment right at the time i feel so low again haha. Nothing worked out Zane, she doesn't love me anymore, she is all over other guys, ignoring me and besides all posting things on social media that really hurt my feelings. I was just watching more "how to get your ex back video's", i know its stupid. My mind knows it is over, she will never get back and that i don't deserve to be treated like this (i was the best i could for 4 years, we never had a fight, id always help her get trough tough times and be there for her). But my damn hearth keeps playing tricks with me, i know its damn over but why do i keep hoping and getting hurt, hoping and getting hurt... i have no idea. I have miss the company man, i want to get things of my chest but have no one that understands me the way she does and besides i have nobody at all at the moment. So... i am doing worse then before man :/
Dude, let us keep in touch. I know what you are going trough. I am in the same situation right now. Well, the starting state of yours. 4 years of a relationship, a week of no contact after begging him to come back a day after the breakup. If you need to vent or need some support, feel free to get in touch with me somehow, we can figure this out. You are not alone. You are strong. You weighed in your love and yours just outweighed hers.
I am so sorry tho hear that.. i hope things work out for the better for you! I would love to have someone to talk too that knows what i am going through, thank you so much for the offer. Is it ok if i send you a msg on yt privately with my social media? Don't want to blow up Carl's video comment box..
I’m very glad you posted this. I need to hear that there is a chance to push on and or get back together with you ex. I’m wanting my ex and she has a rebound already after 2 weeks and it hurts. But I’ve been trying this no contact rule and hope that things go as well as your story in feeling that reconnection again. Like I’m sad you both didn’t get back together but in the end YOU had the power to choose on whether you wanted to get with them or move on. It’s a powerful story to hear
If your ex has an interest level above 5 on a scale of 1 to 10. She will contact you again. If her interest level is less than that you will NEVER hear from her again. Thank God you just got spared from a lifetime of misery. She did you a favor.
I wanna thank you for making this video, it definitely was very helpful! Thanks bud, i appreciate you taking some time to make this video and most importantly sharing your experience, thanks again and take care of yourself!:)
Man this video has been 2 years already but i really liked it. I thought to myself is this true? and you change my mind. I hope i find my answers through this no contact rule.
This is a great video sweetie! Wow this shows what a wonderful man you are! Any girl would be lucky to have you!! U made the best decision for yourself and your life ❤️
I believe that this is one of the best video on the topic, it is genuine. However, most of the videos found here are business oriented and at the end of the video most of the coaches are playing a psychological trick to drag the audience in to the golden ring. Thx buddy, a good work.
Bro, that paused and blank stare at 5:46 is the funniest thing ever.... “I went to here house and we... (long pause)... I felt everything we used to have” lmao!! I think we know what you guys did. Thanks for the laugh.
Hey so here is my deal : I was with a girl for 1 year and 6 months. The last 2 months we were always arguing about stupid stuff and when we made an year and 6 monts, she broke up with me and blocked me on instagram and fb. Should I apply the no contact rule and what do you think about this situation ? EDIT : Our relationship was very good and we truly loved eachother, she is 17 and im 19
I feel the same way. I was with someone and I tried the no contact rule a couple of times; when we got together and things felt fine for a couple of days next thing i know it was back to nothing. At some point i realized that the no contact rule helped me grow some self respect and I noticed that i was taken for granted. Right now i am about 2-3 weeks NC and i honestly do not care about talking to him. I do think of him but i honestly am better without him.
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Carl can i chat with you on any social media you had
Gagas POHEC DM me on instagram CarlLoganSavory
i just add you already
Did you inform her about the no contact rule? And is it a good idea to do so
Can I Dm you on IG bro ?
begging never works and only empowers a person and makes them feel you will be around no matter what, they will turn you into a doormat. Ignoring always works.
Abby Normal you described what I was... how foolish was I... I’m so glad I finally let go... it hurts but I know it’s best
Initial begging actually helps in reattracting the person. Why? Because what it does is, it puts them on a major pedestal and makes them feel incredibly important. Secondly, it gives them overconfidence in thinking they can have you any time they want you. However, if you can then just walk away (and mean it), their sense of importance is suddenly diminished. It also does something else, it makes them respect you for going from such a weak position to such a strong one so quickly. What they start thinking is, 'If that person has instantly forgotten me after begging it so bad, then they must have met someone else -- someone better than me'. Their curiosity starts driving them nuts.
badad187, Yep, I got shut out 2 months ago, she phones me last Tuesday, but I ignored her call, and never bothered contacting her back. I'm at a point where I just don't care anymore.
Which means "Never be NEEDY"
Cause neediness distroys not only relations with girlfriends but even friendships which means NEVER let them in your heart until you're sure they've opened their hearts for you...
I still wonder why my ex unblocked me 5 days befor her bday after 40 days no contact.. What is her deal in ur opinion? Should i have wished her happy bday? Did i miss a big opportunity to reach out then? Did she want to see if i still cared or just ego stroke? Do i still have a chance?
This boy looks like such a sweetheart
María José Olivet thank you ☺️
Excellent comment a skier, lol
i agree
okay lol
María José Olivet there are still good guys out there. I’m in my mid 30s and I refuse to let these women change who I am
Damn you turn her down because you knew it wasn't going to work out. Savage af. Well done, man. I'm not sure I could do that. That shows a lot of maturity.
I admire your courage and honestly when you said that you cried and you were vulnerable despite how society poison us men that we should not show emotions or cry.
I dont know what make people think men shouldn't cry we are humans as well
Never show a woman craying.
gslaw11 keep begging on purpose and then go straight to no contact to see how she feels. I’m actually doing this right now with my ex and then boom I wanna see her reach out to me haha idk man pretty sure I’ll work out because your putting them on a pedestal.
@@Luis-gh3in Hi people, watch those guys and start to take red pills and stop being the white knights (Alpha Male Strategies) ruclips.net/channel/UC0it1cu-mt_IcvLTQ4CWcHw and (Darius M) ruclips.net/user/lastsecshotvideos They changed my life:D I'm 43 and see women are the same all over the world.
Not poison. Stoicism.
I'm so sad right now, I'm on day 5 and having no friends is hard, I am always home and sad and lonely, it's very hard.
same for my. my girl was the only person close to me and i told her to leave in anger! huge mistake i made!
Damn same to me , it’s been 2 weeks and I miss her so much😔I wish things could just go back to the way they were as before
@@paulcruz1611 me too😓I've been begging for the past three weeks and today it's day 4 of my no contact challenge ... I'm really gaining my power back and I catch him starring alot so it must be working
don't count the days.. focus on your improvement areas and be the one who you want to.. things will fall into your place once u be the better version of u
how ru doin....
You're a very intelligent young man. You handled that more maturely than adults twice your age. Good for you.
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After 20 days of no contact, don’t contact them for whatever reason. Continue no contact. They decided to abandon you and break your heart just because they weren’t getting the bits and pieces that they wanted in a man, and tell you “I’m not ready I’m sorry” instead of talking to you about it and try to work it out. Then a month later they get with another dude knowingly that you’re still in turmoil. So because of this, they don’t deserve to hear from you. If they don’t care that their not going to hear from you again, then that should tell you what kind of partner they are. Know your worth, if you’re treated like one of many options, remove yourself from their equation. Life is too short to be crying over someone that treats you like another bottle of liquor where they just discard you when they can’t get anymore of what they want outta you
This!
If they like you then they will always come back
T984e37 S true. But they come back when you’ve moved on and it’s too late. They always come back.
Well said!! No contact is forever!!
What you're describing sounds like narcissistic abuse
wow that amazing....so you went from begging and pleading, to having the option to decide if u wanted her back....and then u decided that u did not...well wow there is hope for us all.....I soooo wish I could feel how u do!...that was like magic!
What I loved most about this was that he had enough self respect to walk away. It's pretty motivating and he seems suuuper sweet he'll find someone way better that actually deserves him :)
sam myy Thank you (:
She heard you dated someone else and got jealous.
That's the onlyyyy time they gaf..the minute they think u moved on or have a great new guy or girl that ur HAPPY with. Like they smell n sense it .
Exactly buddy
u seem like such a nice guy....can also tell by the way u handled that kitty cat walking across the camera....
Thanks😂
did anyone else go through a phase where you listen to breakup songs after a relationship ends?
rational millennial . Am doing that now. He broke up with me on the 2/1/17
Plum Lemon i cant listen to music after a break up memories frustrates me which pisses me off because, i absolutely love music
Plum Lemon Absolutely! Breakup songs help me deal with it.
Plum Lemon Lol yes!
Yes (don't ask me why but it made it easier for me to get over it)
Kudos young man!!! You are light years ahead of 99% of men out there in this area of life.
Good for you!! 👍👍
Great video but I'd like to point out that contacting them after 30 days is a big mistake. Most people aren't ready after such a short time. You yourself said it took your ex about 1 month and 3 weeks. You should actually never contact them again. 95% of the time, they will get a hold of you at some point.
95% of the time? I sure hope that's right.
At some point.. Jesus Christ that's a long time
The art of love. Thank you for your videos. They are very interesting, you are right about the no contact rule .
i hope the 95% is true !!
Don't fallow this... TheArtOfLove.... you know that contacting them back correctly gets them back, that's what happened with my ex... i dumped her 1 month after but still it works. Contact them after 30 days, and try to keep it casual. like you have 30 days to date and enjoy life in the meantime ^^
For a kid. Your pretty mature and good advice. U had advice for people in their 30s too.
I'm 40, going through this, and this actually gave me some hope. Thank you.
you did the absolute right thing! In fact she came back because she wanted to take the power back from you and she could just not accept the fact that you moved on. This is what happens to women that act in such way. Always remember the one that breaks up the relationship will be the one to suffer the most and you will become so much stronger and confident after that, good luck to you!
I'm in the process of no contact now. it's been 3 days, but it feels forever. thanks a lot for sharing your experience here! I will subscribe you right away :)
emmy febrianti just finished day one
emmy febrianti any updates
emmy febrianti did it work?
Update plz did they contact you
one of the best and honest video on no contact topic. thanks for posting.
THANK you for sharing your story, I’’m exactly 1 week into NC and dyyyyyying 🤦🏻♀️ it’s exactly like you said... feels like hell. You handled yourself so incredibly well. Thanks for your vulnerability. I’m glad I stumbled across this before going to sleep.
Carl, you are a brave man, and a real man for opening up like this. Your no-holds-barred personal account of your experience will help many other men navigate through one of the most difficult times in a man's life. God bless.
You are right...up to a point. You can't contact them in anyway because when you do, you are giving the ex attention a.k.a. power.
Am heartbroken right now and I can't just can't keep myself from listening to ur experience over and over again
Your value with a girl will go straight up when you're no longer easily available. They want a challenge, they will play this manipulation game with you after you fall in love and get close to them, after that, there's nothing more to earn from you cause you're giving away your love so easily. Remain a bit of a challenge and for Gods sake, never ever beg a girl to stay, you'll turn her off even more. Let them go, they'll usually come back but don't just allow her easy access to you all over again, she has to EARN every inch of her way back to you.
No, he's 100% right.... women need to be challenged. obviously don't be unobtainable, but in the relationship, remain somewhat of a challenge...dont just lose sight of your identity for a woman. its the same for both genders, people in GENERAL like a healthy challenge.
She'll get every inch.....from me.
Thanks
Jack Bravo If he follows me on social media and looks at my status update is that against the no contact rule ? Should i make my status updated on for example instagram invisible for him ?
When you are truly in love, the games are not really necessary. You reach a point where you don't have to pretend to be less available. You can be vulnerable. Adults in love should be able to grow their love very deep without having to play head games.
This video is so honest. Love this video, Man!
Thank You!
Dude your the most sincere person I’ve seen on here, your absolutely right, I been dating for about 15 years and every year I realize more and more how much my dad knew when he said the key is indifference and not investing all of yourself
Love that song "sweater weather". I like how casual your story is and got straight to the point. I'm actually just thankful for you telling me your personal story as it's similair to mine and actually gives me hope but to also move on. Thank you.
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As a mom of a teen who just had a break-up, thank you. We are never too old or smart to learn and to pass on knowledge to others. Your candor and vulnerability will help many in their struggle. Much success in all you do!
You became a strong centered man. Never let someone try to bring you off center again. You are a good guy. Women are in abundance and your mindset should be like that. Thanks for sharing. Walk away and never look back.
Dude it takes a lot of heart and courage to mention how this experience affected you. I salute you my friend and hope things are better for you because they always end up better. As long as you allow things to get better. Especially for your young age. I know your probably older now but nice work dude.
Love this video man good on you for opening up and making it. Massive props and respect to you.
My boyfriend broke up with me through text after we have been together for two years and a half. I did beg him the day after and I spilled all my feelings and all he said was it's better this way. I hope he realizes what he lost honestly through the no contact period. Because I feel like I am being eaten inside without him and it hurts so much
Sandy Xo hey any luck with him?
he actually got a new girlfriend. turns out he was just full of lies and bullshit and he is not even worth going through all of this for, so i just let it go.
Sandy I went thru the same thing after 2.5 years she dumped me thru text and got on tinder within one day and got with someone within one week I was so broken inside and I did want her back before I knew what she did but in the end people like this are not worth and it's been two months and it still hurts but it's less and less everyday. I hope you're much happier today
Sandy , I know I'm in the same boat, he told me to " never ever contact him again, it's been 13 days I still cry alot and listen to love songs, I love him so much I just have to " suck it up" I guess that's all I can do.
Bonnie Nagel he needs you alot more than you need him trust me on that!!
Bro, I don’t know you obviously but I have too much respect for you, as a men, is difficult talk about our feelings and you did! Congrats men!
You seem like a really good person and you did great on your situation. You deserve the best. Don't let people treat you like garbage then come back just to act like they didn't hurt you. Your life will turn out great I assure you that.
You seem like the kindest soul. Thank you for sharing your experience and being so honest. You helped me this morning.
I honestly felt like I had a genuine conversation with a best friend. Thanks!
Great video but REAL no contact involves never EVER contacting them after "20 days" or however you put it. You are supposed to walk away as if you will never ever speak to them again and move on for YOURSELF. If they contact you one day, then so be it, but contacting them after a few weeks will do absolutely nothing but just give them all the power back yet again. You may get some conversation and even a hangout out of it, but 95% of the time you will not get them back. It must ALWAYS be the dumpers decision to reach out, not the dumpee's.
Thank you so much for making this video. It is really nice to see someone who went through the same thing and understands how heart breaking it is to be broken up with by someone you love so much. I admire your strength to be happy on your own and to not get back with your ex! Thank you for giving me hope that the no contact rule works, and hope that when it does work I may just be happy without him. You are awesome!
You're very welcome, and stay strong❤️
You should make more videos! :D
+Jessie Schultz I plan on it!! I might take in relationship emails and give my advice on them. I'll also do some "story times"
Awesome! I would send you emails! Lol
hey, what's the update? Can you please share your experience here?
I have had 3 break ups. These are my experience on how I cop up during No contact :-
1. Listen to songs like "i mean it", "G.O.M.D sickick", "i dont fuck with you", "formidable", "fuck you - lily allen "
2. Listen to these songs right after you wake up. And 3times a day like medicine.
3. Hang out with your friends. Go to party, go to watch movies with your friends.
4. Flirt with new girls, different girls even if you don't feel like it.
5. Don't do one night stand thing.
6. Try to get in a rebound relationship even if you don't feel like dating at all.
7. Absolutely do not listen to love songs and sad love songs.
8. Watch movies , I prefer "horror comedy" and avoid romance genre. I have once even watched 4 movies in a day.
9. Listen to motivational video, and "word porn" , 3 times a day, like medicines.
10. Masturbate at least 1-2 times a day.
11. If you feel like crying, don't be afraid to cry like a baby.
12. Invest yourself in your hobby, i like to draw and learn foreign languages.
13. Your girl is not any precious. She sucks dick like a hoe, masturbates thinking of celebrities and go to toilet and poop like any other normal girls. She is also here to play the game of life.
14. Stay strong in "no contact" no matter what. More you start giving her your attention, more you will be engulfed in your feelings.
15. Start exercising , exercise releases feel good hormones.
16. Talk to your "mom" or "sisters".
They are the richest source of oxytocin hormones.
17. Remember that your relationship to your girl is governed by "addiction hormones" and "habit forming hormones + basal ganglia". You can replace your addiction to your girl with another addiction such as playing computer games.
You can only break your habits of being in touch with your girls by staying strong in "no contact".
18. Remember that No contact is your best bet. Giving her your attention only makes it worse. Begging her kills your chances absolutely.
19. Write down all the negative points about your Ex. Read it every day.
20. Read books, especially self help books like "think and grow rich". "rich dad, poor dad", "power of habits", "7 habits of highly successful people", etc. Or any other genre you may like.
I am in my 9th day into my no contact, and i am doing really good as compared to by first and second break ups.
Is your girlfriend came back?!
@@deenbernads Yeah. It was almost 3 years ago. We continued for 1 year more and then again broke up during Corona pandemic.
I didn't pursue her anymore. Now I'm in new relationship. Going good with new girl.
A lot of wisdom for someone your age
Chantel Earth Based Mom thank you
Why do adults try to act like we're supposed to be retarded? Lol. Like did u forget how intelligent u were when you were a teen/young adult? Because yall try to act like we're so intelligent when we say anything remotely inspiring or smart when in reality it's just us using our brains like a regular person.
Man I appreciate this video a lot I’m going through a rough time right now needed it big time
Intelligent young man.
Thank you so much for a very honest and inspiring video. Stay true to yourself.
Marilyn Harper you're welcome! And thank you!
Honestly, thanks dude. My breakup was really recent and your video just made me feel slightly better about being open to new experiences 🙂
Wow,,love this advice so much,,strong young man
I truly hate when ppl use new ppl to move on. So unfair to hurt someone else cose you are hurt. Lame , but lots of ppl do it.
After 9 months of dating it only took me about 3 weeks to get over her. The no contact made me realize I wanted us to work out and I pointed out what I didn't like she wasn't willing to make the effort and so yeah
Thanks for sharing this story, I really admire you for how you handled it and for sharing it with the world man
I'm glad I watched your video...it gave me courage to let go of the so call man I had in my life just sucking up space for no reason...
I'm very happy it worked out for you. Stay blessed and focus on your dreams, career and everything that makes you happy.
Thank you for sharing your story. For being open, honest and vulnerable to go there, that takes a lot of courage to share something so intimate w/ millions and anyone.
You are a really sweet guy, intelligent and handsome!!Im sorry to hear about your heartbreak and unfortunately it happens to us all. It does suck at first but w/ a different perspective relationships always teach us something about ourselves. I think it's so great that you were able to heal, move on and have that full circle come back again and then decide your good. You are a catch and I'm so glad to hear that you are happy!!! 😁
All the Best to you~
whispering wind thank you!(:
This works. He is right.
Carl though you're much younger then me, but that part where you say its really more off about finding yourself then getting her back is the most under rated and unrecognized fact of it all. So all the best and thanks man :) Dont do these videos for subscribers and shit, keep making such tiny differences. Brotherly advice there lol
Umair Raza thank you 👍🏼😀
THANK YOU YOUNG MAN FOR YOUR HONESTY AND ADVICE , GOOD LUCK IN YOUR FUTURE
I am extremely proud of you ❤️ this takes a lot
Very brave of you to be so open with your circumstances. You are right about the limitations older people face with regard to numbers of daily contacts. No matter, no contact is hard. Thanks 🐈
That was amazing bro. You're an inspiration
I’m happy you took control with self respect and dignity.
yeah,,, good for you😉 👍 this is what I want as well! I want the 30 day no contact rule to help me just get over him, moreso than to have him back in my life.
Bro thank you so much. I saw your video for so long in the list but i only watched it now. Thanks for this tip. Now i feel lighter than before.
You are a lot younger than me but you have more wisdom and maturity than most people my age. I'm going through a breakup myself and this really helps.
My story is about the same. I have been in no contact almost 7 months, she texted me 3 months after no contact about wanting to be friends and I never responded to her. My friends always give me shit about not wanting to talk to her and personally I think that talking to her is not an option anymore. I’m not the type of person who believes that hanging around your ex is a not good thing, because as much as people tell me to move on from what happened, I can’t delete what was already done it will always be there. My way of moving on is not keeping her around me. The problem is that she is still friends with all of my friends. So it’s kinda hard to hang out with my friends because she’s always around. So one day I’ll have to speak to her again, tell her that we can be acquaintances but not friends.
People need to learn how to stay single rather trying to please a motherfucker
A very moving story Im so glad you managed to get over your ex. You made a very tough decision and you know what sometimes not being with the one you loved is hard initially. I just broke up with a girl I loved a few months ago. but time as they say is the greatest healer.
Damn man, that's how you build character, im glad you didn't take her back. You seem like a great guy. You know I got dumped on new years eve and got sent home after i had travelled 250miles to be with her. She had lost feelings for me because she had met some new guy BUT still she wanted to drag me up 250miles just to "double check" if she had any feelings for me left. That's really fucked up. But you know funny thing is that guy ditched here over another girl some time ago. Well i have kept no contact for 2month soon! Not a word from her, but i would'nt be surprised if she would contact me soon now when it's over with here "new guy". But i would not take her back, i still like here as a person, but i can't really get over that she waited untill fucking NEW YEARS EVE to break up (we had planned what to do like 3months earlier, booked resturant etc etc), i spent most of new years eve in a fucking BUS crying!
Thanks man that means a lot, and when a girl dumps you for another guy it honestly makes everything just hard. It's feels like your insides are being torn apart but you just have to fight threw it.
I didn't take her back because I thought about how I've met so met so many different girls who are great and fun to be around I just had to tell myself to let go and trust in what I'm doing but good for you man. If she does come crawling back don't shut her out completely, if she really wants another go at it make one date and see if things can be like they used to. That's what I did and something in the back of my mind said that things weren't right and to just let her go. But good luck in the future! (:
+Carl Savory through
I just got dumped on this last new years eve 😂😂😂
You look like a sweetheart and you did really good wt this video I’ve been struggling with some weird relationship things and this really helped me so thank you !!!!
Omg this kid looks so much like my son. Kid I'm 32 and u r a- freaking-mazing. My ex has broken up with me so many x in the past 5 years and I still take him back. I need to do what u did and just realize there is never going to be a future with him bc he will continuously keep hurting me. I for real am glad ur happy and doing well!!
This video is 2 years old so I'm not sure if youre gonna see this message. But im going through this as we speak. It's been a TOUGH week. Your video actually brought a little light to me. Thank you for sharing brotha!
Thank you for your story. I’m glad you were able to move on and you were so open with your story. I’ve just had a break up and I’m so upset but this video has helped me.
Thx bro. Just learning about the no contact rule dealing with a recent separation from my wife. My favorite takeaway: The no contact rule is for you... to get your head straight. Thx again!
thank you. It’s nice to hear your experience as a high school student like me, I feel a little stronger now so I can go through these 20/30 days. I just have a question. See, I removed him off (not blocked) of social media, because it was hurting me to see what he was doing when he said he “couldn’t” see me. I was wondering if that is giving him the wrong idea that I never want him back or something...
Bro! That was awesome story, very well spoken and very positive. Really bro, that amazing video
But what if he broke up with me because he likes someone else?
Thanks for sharing this young man. You helped me so much. It’s only been 4 days. I almost reached out today. I won’t thanks to you.
Hey Nice Video... My girl after ten months just broke up with me yesterday. I didn't cry. I acted like I was totally fine with it and walked away. I'm doing no contact. I can't wait to see if it works, kind of as an experiment, if she doesn't contact me... I'll be cool. I love her but I've had a lot of relationships and they get easier to end but I have always wept and begged and tried to talk to them. I'm a bit older and I'm not going to fret if someone doesn't want to speak to me. I will stay strong! I deleted her phone number off my phone and took her off facebook. One day down! Lol
Josef Zammit Ha! I contacted a lot. Blew it. Lost my mind... I'm looking for someone new. lol
Josef Zammit Yeah man... I'm working on myself. She and I are in the same circles and we cannot avoid each other so I'm going to work on me and attract her back or get someone better. Mark my words... If I really master myself she will start chasing me... and like I said if she doesn't I'll get someone better. She wasn't perfect. But, I do still love her.
Hey thanks man. Yeah I belong to a certain social circle and so does she... When we first got together I was always around and ignored her. I was the only guy who didn't hit on her... I talked to other girls instead and by the time I finally did talk to her she wanted me bad because I had ignored her. But, then I lost all control and became a beta male in the relationship. Man, I always want to go back because you can see how you messed up in the relationship... but it's hard to see while you're in the "shell" of the relationship. I'm just going to try that again, ignore her, make myself wanted by others... OR maybe I'll pull her off the pedestal in my mind. That's what I really desire... to not desire. Lol I will man!
Yeah, I did... but, she wasn't the one for me. Looking back now I wasn't happy with her. She is boring and I have totally stayed away from where she is. A lot has changed. I dumped my whole social circle. Not good people. I couldn't stand being around her and us not even saying "Hi" and us acting like we don't know each other... it's ridiculous, sick, and immature. Some of my close friends tried to bang her too... fuck them. Oh God the pain of everything is over... it takes time. I'm looking forward to dating again next year. I'm staying alone all year... get to know Elderberry again. I'm lifting weights and trying to make the best me. No Woman No Cry.
@@everettelderberry5362 did she contact you again?
I got dumped 2 weeks ago after 4 years of being together by a text message. We had spent the weekend together and had fun she left in the morning telling me she loved me like always and later that day she had send the text... She did not want to explain, talk or see me, the text was all i got. I was broken, cried, felt miserable and started blowing her phone up right away for two days. I found the nc video's and sucked it up right away. Currently i am in 12 days of no contact. It is really hard but possible for me too do since it feels like the best chance of getting her back. I love her so much and hope she contacts me and we can work this out... Nice video Carl! Thanks alot.
How is everything going thus far?
Funny how i get a comment right at the time i feel so low again haha. Nothing worked out Zane, she doesn't love me anymore, she is all over other guys, ignoring me and besides all posting things on social media that really hurt my feelings. I was just watching more "how to get your ex back video's", i know its stupid. My mind knows it is over, she will never get back and that i don't deserve to be treated like this (i was the best i could for 4 years, we never had a fight, id always help her get trough tough times and be there for her). But my damn hearth keeps playing tricks with me, i know its damn over but why do i keep hoping and getting hurt, hoping and getting hurt... i have no idea. I have miss the company man, i want to get things of my chest but have no one that understands me the way she does and besides i have nobody at all at the moment. So... i am doing worse then before man :/
Dude, let us keep in touch. I know what you are going trough. I am in the same situation right now. Well, the starting state of yours. 4 years of a relationship, a week of no contact after begging him to come back a day after the breakup. If you need to vent or need some support, feel free to get in touch with me somehow, we can figure this out. You are not alone. You are strong. You weighed in your love and yours just outweighed hers.
I am so sorry tho hear that.. i hope things work out for the better for you! I would love to have someone to talk too that knows what i am going through, thank you so much for the offer. Is it ok if i send you a msg on yt privately with my social media? Don't want to blow up Carl's video comment box..
FBBBO Feel free to write me privately! I hope Carl is understanding about this.:)
Thanks man you are giving me some confidence thanks
boy ur handsome
Fatima Badshah yes
Thanks for sharing and your story inspires me to stay and be strong 💪🏻
I’m very glad you posted this. I need to hear that there is a chance to push on and or get back together with you ex. I’m wanting my ex and she has a rebound already after 2 weeks and it hurts. But I’ve been trying this no contact rule and hope that things go as well as your story in feeling that reconnection again. Like I’m sad you both didn’t get back together but in the end YOU had the power to choose on whether you wanted to get with them or move on. It’s a powerful story to hear
If your ex has an interest level above 5 on a scale of 1 to 10. She will contact you again. If her interest level is less than that you will NEVER hear from her again.
Thank God you just got spared from a lifetime of misery. She did you a favor.
Mark Michael LePianka that sounded like coach Corey wayne advice :)
Mark Michael LePianka
Steven Lau i immediately noticed too.
at least he is memorizing material and learning from Corey Wayne good
the guy who will talk bullshit, because he doesnt realize he knows nothing
I wanna thank you for making this video, it definitely was very helpful! Thanks bud, i appreciate you taking some time to make this video and most importantly sharing your experience, thanks again and take care of yourself!:)
Thank you so much, you too
Good for you honey. I'm happy you're happy. Much love to you and luck. 😊🙏🏼
No contact is about respect yourself no about to get your girlfriend back and move on.GOOD JOB KID.
Man this video has been 2 years already but i really liked it. I thought to myself is this true? and you change my mind. I hope i find my answers through this no contact rule.
Thanks for sharing your story. Catching for more from you
This is a great video sweetie! Wow this shows what a wonderful man you are! Any girl would be lucky to have you!! U made the best decision for yourself and your life ❤️
You are awesome. You have shown all of us.
I believe that this is one of the best video on the topic, it is genuine. However, most of the videos found here are business oriented and at the end of the video most of the coaches are playing a psychological trick to drag the audience in to the golden ring. Thx buddy, a good work.
Thanks man, this really helps
Thanks Bro
I totally agree that the no contact rule is more for the one who has been dumped..
Thank you 😊🙏
We value what we no longer have, good job on you kid
Great video, I'm on week 3 of NC and the first week was really hard and its been easier to move on
Bro thank you su much ! I wish you all the best in future relationship (s). ! U seem very good person!
Hey man anytime and thank you, you too
Thank you for sharing this video to everyone. it really helps me a lot. i had done enough heart broken period after 4months braking up with my ex.
Bro, that paused and blank stare at 5:46 is the funniest thing ever.... “I went to here house and we... (long pause)... I felt everything we used to have” lmao!! I think we know what you guys did. Thanks for the laugh.
Hey so here is my deal :
I was with a girl for 1 year and 6 months. The last 2 months we were always arguing about stupid stuff and when we made an year and 6 monts, she broke up with me and blocked me on instagram and fb. Should I apply the no contact rule and what do you think about this situation ?
EDIT : Our relationship was very good and we truly loved eachother, she is 17 and im 19
Great video Man! I'm happy for you...
I feel the same way. I was with someone and I tried the no contact rule a couple of times; when we got together and things felt fine for a couple of days next thing i know it was back to nothing. At some point i realized that the no contact rule helped me grow some self respect and I noticed that i was taken for granted. Right now i am about 2-3 weeks NC and i honestly do not care about talking to him. I do think of him but i honestly am better without him.
This brought tears to my eyes😭😭😭😭