Oof, yes it is understandable that you felt humiliated, but I think it's not so much because other people will think you are not strong but because they will think that you are a poor judge of your own capabilities, and no person (especially not an adult male) wants other people to think they're not "in control". But it sounds like you learnt the right lesson - there's nothing wrong with asking for help, people are almost always happy to help and they won't disparage you for it. And especially at the gym, I go to a very ordinary gym and the people there are very friendly and happy to help when I need it. I've been going to the gym for a few years now (for the exercise, not to become muscular) and I've never gone heavier than 30kg on the bench press, I'm terrified that my skinny arms will fail and that the barbell will fall on my neck! Anyway, I hope you are able to find a therapist soon, thanks for talking honestly :)
I'm always happy to see your thoughts on the stuff I talk about johnnzboy! The therapist lookout seems to be working btw, today I received an email saying that this one therapist unfortunately not having the capacity for a new patient but that they would love to have two diagnostic sessions. And I thought, yeah why not? Although this therapist most likely won't be my therapist but experience is experience right? I thought it could help me understand what therapy is like as it's core. And that can be useful too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Like I said, I'm really happy to read from you and wish you a lovely, safe, and a happy week!
Oof, yes it is understandable that you felt humiliated, but I think it's not so much because other people will think you are not strong but because they will think that you are a poor judge of your own capabilities, and no person (especially not an adult male) wants other people to think they're not "in control". But it sounds like you learnt the right lesson - there's nothing wrong with asking for help, people are almost always happy to help and they won't disparage you for it. And especially at the gym, I go to a very ordinary gym and the people there are very friendly and happy to help when I need it. I've been going to the gym for a few years now (for the exercise, not to become muscular) and I've never gone heavier than 30kg on the bench press, I'm terrified that my skinny arms will fail and that the barbell will fall on my neck! Anyway, I hope you are able to find a therapist soon, thanks for talking honestly :)
I'm always happy to see your thoughts on the stuff I talk about johnnzboy! The therapist lookout seems to be working btw, today I received an email saying that this one therapist unfortunately not having the capacity for a new patient but that they would love to have two diagnostic sessions. And I thought, yeah why not? Although this therapist most likely won't be my therapist but experience is experience right? I thought it could help me understand what therapy is like as it's core. And that can be useful too.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Like I said, I'm really happy to read from you and wish you a lovely, safe, and a happy week!
I just keep the bar on my chest and lie there hoping someone would notice.
😭😭😭😭 so me