Here are some more habits: 1. Constantly interrupting others while they speak. 2. Talking only about oneself without showing interest in others. 3. Frequently being late or canceling plans last minute. 4. Not listening when others are speaking. 5. Being overly critical or judgmental. 6. Failing to follow through on promises. 7. Bragging or boasting about personal achievements. 8. Spreading gossip or rumors. 9. Dominating conversations and not letting others participate. 10. Being overly negative or pessimistic.
Oh how I hate when someone interrupts me when I'm about to say something. It feels like they're doing it on purpose! And I've seen couple of those who are overly critical to pretty much anything, but once they get even constructive criticism, they take it personally. But in the end, I was the bad guy... 👍
Sounds like this person has some narcissistic qualities. Actually, all of them. All these qualities are totally disrespectful of other people. I've eliminated these toxic types. My circle is small. I prefer quality over quantity. My family has a lot of these qualities. I know my limit at my mom's house ❤
Rudeness is subjective. Where some people barely find anything rude unless it is specifically directed as an insult to them. Other people will already find it rude when your personal opinion challenges their opinions. As an example, there are unfortunately plenty of people who would find my comment towards you, rude as hell and get fuming with anger. While others will see it as informative, some agree and there are people who may disagree. Learning to listen I strongly agree with though but I would replace the rudeness with understand who you are before looking for serious relationships in any form since only you can choose what type of people you want to hang around with. A star shaped object does not fit in a cubed hole, same goes with people.
@@marilynlucero9363 I agree with this a lot. People all interpret things differently. In my experience, it’s especially easy to come off as rude in text. To combat this, I use emojis and other indicators to seem more friendly :)
1. Not recognizing how feelings can spread 2. The Spotlight Effect 3. Vulnerability Dropping 4. Unconscious Micro aggressions 5. Thinking people can read your mind 6. Always taking, never giving 7. Giving, but expecting something in return
The fact I don't have any of this but still people don't like me and misbehave with me is BRUTUAL- I just want some appreciation and love from people that's it😭
For the 2 comments here, I'm sorry to hear that, but I guess that's just the way of life, but I believe someday you'll find someone who will appreciate y'all
My main problem is 'forgetting', and it always makes me feel guilty that later on I would start reflecting what I did or said few minutes earlier that can potentially hurt or offended someone. Even though my friends would understand that most of the time I can be airheaded and slow and sometimes I'm unknowledgeable most of the normal stuff from my people of my age.
brainfog from sleep deprivation? i often feel the same. id say try get more sleep, but i know how impossible that can be. wishing you good luck. keep trying
me too, honestly i feel more happier knowing someone out there has the same thing that i do. even still, forgetfulness isnt really perfectionism. im glad i ran into this comment!! hello! 😂😊
I'm the worst when it comes to being forgetful. I just try to make sure i tell everyone that i really don't mean it. I'm just honestly that absent minded sometimes. It's crazy to me how much people remember everything. It's even crazier that Ill remember things that people don't find significant. Some stuff sticks with me still.
@@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoyIt is probably sleep deprivation since it's been few years that I'm not having a proper sleep and probably stress too. The stress is mostly caused me to sleep deprivation. I really feel bad that I made everyone inconvenience for it. I wish you and everyone here are doing good well.🌸
00:03 Recognize and fix habits that hinder forming connections 01:06 Being mindful of the emotional tone while speaking to others is important 02:06 Being self-centered can lead to others disliking you 03:06 Express vulnerability with empathy 04:04 Microaggressions can make others feel unfairly treated 05:05 Not communicating openly can lead to misunderstanding and arguments. 06:09 Giving without expectation leads to stronger relationships. 07:11 Building genuine connections through trust and generosity
I was bullied for being kind in school..........when you be kind to everyone then you become a topic of joke everyone teases you for your kindness and often bully you😢
@@Vartulkumar1 the way i see it is id rather be alone than with people who make me feel that way and in turn that has filtered out everyone until i found friends who care and love me for who i am its well worth the pain they deserve my kindness and have earned it
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Just want to warn people that this channel isn't necessarily correct half the time, always find something else and check your sources. Oh and go ahead, leave negative comments, i don't care. It's a heads up warning, not an argument.
They actually paid for doing this! They do it for MONEY ! They are the queen and king of misinformation 😂🤣😂 and poor teenagers who actually believe everything they said ! Geez ! 😂🤣😂 They spy someone’s life everyday and described is as their Truth ! Any pop psychology do that actually and there are many on RUclips ! Some of them use IA to spread those misinformation ! But my question is that they have a legal permission do that ? I mean for the LAW ! Because it is called invasion of a person’s life so it is considered violation of a person’s privacy ! So the person can file a complaint as abuse of weakness ! And besides RUclips has already created at this moment a pact of all these pseudosciences and arrested them in some countries but it is still in progress !
The first time that I see this channel ! I already knew it : There are KING and QUEEN of misinformation ! Because they need MONEY and they paid for doing this ! Any pop psychology on RUclips actually ! Some use IA to spread misinformation like any subject actually ! They spy someone’s life everyday and create a video to have a view and like and have a lot of MONEY because of it ! My question is this is actually legal or the government gives them an autorisation to do that ! Because it’s called abuse of weakness and violation of someone’s privacy which is illegal ! And I think RUclips created now a law to arrested all of those pseudoscience but you have the check the law on every country for apply it ! P.S : And also I see that in this channel they love to say that this person is narcissist But in other hand They delete all the comments that are negative to them and they keep only the positives ! Now that they are treated other narcissists but they do exactly the same thing ! Where is the logic ? 😂🤣😂
I was like this. Ppl thought i was trying to be superior. Reality was i was SUPER socially anxious. Just standing there and listening and reacting normally was taking all life off me. Also i was super depressed. Also family problems. Also ovrall bad life. I was bad bad. I did not enjoy walking or talking robotically but my wntire existence of living energy was being used to "look normal"
I think it's also super important to remember that nobody follows all these social rules perfectly. We're all going to say dumb and insensitive stuff occasionally, but that doesn't mean we are unworthy of love. Your friends will annoy you and you will annoy them, but you can forgive them and vice versa because that's what real friends do. Make sure to apologize and take responsibility when you say something truly hurtful and if people still don't like you, that's their problem.
Wow! I guess some of those signs is one of the main reasons why I'm still friendless and single to this day. Problem is: sometimes, I'm not around people all that much. But I am trying to work on it.
(expresses empathy and care for you and your journey) Here's an internet hug if you need it and an encouragement to keep practicing until your intentions come off clearly. It's rough and takes years... so... you have my empathy.
Someone once told me that whenever I chimed in about personal experiences of my life, I think nothing of them but apparently they're a real downer. So I learned to just not share unless I'm asked... But no one ever asks about me 🤷🏽♀️ I'm incredibly lonely 😂
People: Dash, when you are down, please share your problems, a problem shared is a problem solved. *When Dash shares the problem* People: Dash drains the life out of us. People to people: guess what dash told us. Haha, such a looser.
*I learned these 5 lessons in life:* *1. READ THE ROOM BEFORE YOU ACT* *2. BE YOUR TRUE SELF* *3. DON’T TAKE THINGS WAY TOO SERIOUSLY* *4. LIVE IN THE PRESENT* *5. ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH, EVEN IF IT CAN BE A HEARTBREAKER*
Be your true self! As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum, and has seaPTSD, I do things differently than the average normal person. For example, I touch and explore everything. Everything that is around me, I touch and explore and feel all over it. This was something that I wasn’t allowed to do. In my opinion, I think it’s just me expressing a feeling of true curiosity. I’m really working hard to remove the mask. To just be my true, authentic self. To allow myself to touch and explore everything, to expressed my emotions, without going overboard or losing control. And to do the other things that truly benefit me, even though society sees them as different. The real truth is, I’m not hurting anybody. And I am not out to hurt anyone.
Taking the time to introduce yourself, not trying to be too close, don't over share, people don't need to know everything about you in the first hour, take the time to listen and reading the room. It's ok to talk about you, but telling what you like instead of what you dislike will make you more likeable in a group. Those are my thoughts. In my 49 years of life I've never had troubles making friends. Taking your place is important, just don't take all the place, let others talk. And it's ok if you're not in the mood to listen to someone who only see the negatives. Tell them as politely as possible that you're not in the mood for this now. You're not everyone psychiatrist. It's not arrogant to do so. It's called respecting your boundaries.
That’s some thing I’m definitely working on. Not Oversharing. When I first meet someone, I just tell them my name, and the diagnoses that I have, so that way they know how to approach me. I used to talk about why I had CPTSD. But now, I just tell someone that I have CPTSD and leave it at that.
Bro ! Do you whatever you want ! This channel is pure misinformation ! You don’t need to defend yourself ! You’re the only one who knows your life ! Don’t be weak !
It's interesting, I am reading some comments that are saying they don't do any of these things and they still don't have friends. Sometimes we can have the best of intentions when talking to others, but it might not come across that way. Just remember that people's perception of you is different than how you perceive yourself. Also, if you're still in school and you're struggling to make friends, you'll graduate and find people! Keep an open mind and continue to be social with people that share your interests
Timestamps! 1- 0:49 (Not recognizing how feelings can spread) 2- 1:55 The spotlight effect 3- 3:05 Vulnerability Dropping 4- 4:00 Unsconscious Microagressions 5- 5:00 Thinking people can read your mind 6- 5:51 Always taking, never giving (Psych2go, its suppossed to be 6, not 5.)
A lot of these issues come from personality disorders. So if people act like this around you, it is very likley they dont do it on purpose, but just dont realize its negative
Exactly! That’s a major aspect that wasn’t considered. Keeping this type of information in mind helps you have tougher skin, you just try not to take everything personally that said to you
Honestly just listen! For #3, definitely just listen. Usually people immediately want to fix. But sometimes, even us guys... We just want someone to hear. To want to listen is to care.
Same! It’s not hard to have manners and just to say thank you once in a while. We don’t expect praise all the time or expect anything back but at least show some kind of reciprocation that you appreciate our kind gestures. Even if you do appreciate, try to communicate those feelings or express your gratitude through your action, because otherwise you’ll be mistaken as someone that’s not humble and rude. I agree with your statement that you said, I hope that people are treating you good 🤍
0:49 1. Not recognizing how feelings can spread 1:55 2. The spotlight effect 3:05 3. Vulnerability Dropping 3:59 4. Unconscious micro-aggressions 5:00 5. Thinking people can read your mind 5:49 6. Always taking, never giving 6:34 7. Giving, but expecting something in return
Timestamps 1). Not recognizing how feelings can spread 0:48 2). The spotlight effect 1:54 3). Vulnerability dropping 3:05 4). Unconscious microaggressions 3:58 5). Thinking people can read your mind 4:58 6). Always taking, taking giving 5:48 7). Giving but expecting something in return 6:33 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I learned something very important in life. Always first ask the person you're with "How are you feeling today?" Or if they're sad, ask them "Is there anything you can do for them to feel a little better?" Or maybe ask "Is there any special things or places that would make you feel less sad?" Or "Do you need a friendly hug 🤗?"
1. Constantly interrupting others while they speak. 5. Being overly critical or judgmental. 7. Bragging or boasting about personal achievements. I am these , this really helped me and my friends might not notice but I have grown a closer relationship with them thank you for this vid it was really helpful!
Tbh I’ve been there and done that. I’ve been super lucky and grateful to have two of the greatest friends I could ever ask for cause we’re open and accepting with each other, helped one another through the good and worst times. I don’t think I’m gonna make any more friends, it could happen but I’m not gonna get my hopes up. Love wise, yeah there’s a slim to none chance that’s gonna happen so I’m just grateful for what I have. Word of advice: it’s better to choose quality over quantity.
That’s pretty wise of you. It’s usually best to keep your circle small. It makes it easier to know who you can trust and rely on. But it’s also okay to feel the way you do, it just takes time to find the right people that actually care about you they want you in their lives as well 🤍
I always was generous. My parents (father) always tried to teach me that that's not something good, and you should not gift someone something, without getting a gift back. I try to unlearn this so badly
It’s about finding the right people that’ll appreciate your efforts and kindness. You don’t have to change yourself. After all, it’s your way of showing your affection to people that you care about. It’s also good to notice, the difference between someone that is taking advantage of your kindness and someone that genuinely doesn’t care. That way, it eliminates the wrong people to give your heart to, but remember, it’s also okay to make mistakes 💜
Same ! I don’t care if people like or dislike me ! And I don’t wanna be likeable too, I’m not an object to please someone ! HAVE A DIGNITY ! I don’t have a love or hate neither ! I just live my beautiful life with myself and my family ! And that’s it ! The rest I really don’t care if it’s good or bad ! KNOW MY OWN LIFE !
Exactly! You’ll expect to not be liked by everyone. It’s normal to have dealt with some haters. We’re not perfect after all, trying to people please and trying to be liked by ‘everyone’ will just hurt you mentally in the long run
I’ve learned that people care more about themselves than they do about you (same is true for you as well), so talking about others will always make them like you more. The problem is reciprocity 🤷🏾♀️ deep connection requires that on both ends, so indeed show interest but make sure they are doing the same
My problem is losing their trust, just gotta give you all an advice to "think about your actions before making it" and unfortunately I learned the hard way. I still heavily regret doing that mistake 6 months ago, but I'm still damn happy that i still have that one friend despite being in the same friend group with the people i used to talk to without the feeling that they're just acting nice, and obviously he knows it is still my true friend up to this day.
A major social flaw of mine is having people pleasing tendencies. I'm constantly trying to seek approval and attention which is a major turn off for others. I don't like to put myself in the spotlight persay, but I try harder than I should to make good impressions. That with adhd just isn't a good combo.
I have always been passive aggressive because I wanted people to like me Now I’m speaking out on my behalf because I want people to respect me. There’s a huge difference between the two.
1. Not realising how feelings can spread 2. The Spot light effect 3. Vulnerability dropping 4. Unconscious micro aggressions 5. Thinking people can read your mind 6. Always taking, never giving 7. Giving but expecting something in return
But it seems like when I show interest in others and listen to them, they never stop talking about themselves, never ask me anything and treat me like I'm naïve and need to learn from them.
I'm a realist, so I am 100% sure I come across as more negative than I am... I'm actively avoiding my people now due to what I've got on my mind... I know it'll spill out at some point...
Thank you very much! I will keep all of this in my mind. I don’t feel well at present and I let everyone know and feel. Not good, I know. But I will improve, I promise… 🥺
A couple of these mistakes listed made me realize why i like my best friend so much, because although i really do like him alot, he has- well- flaws. But he makes me feel wanted and loved, he pays attention to me (or well- tries to-), and most importantly, he pulled me out of a rough patch. I could never ask for a better friend, and i genuinely wish he'd see that.
People attend to be superficial over by how somebody looks. It’s just a reflection of their own insecurities. There is better off, not giving those types of people a time of day. It’s better to focus your time on better things 🤍
@@jpjfrey5673 your feelings are valid, I was saying that directing your mind helps so it doesn’t lead to overthinking. Most people are only interested in their own feelings/issues
You're right, but there are some who, no matter what you do, just don't want to be friends. Some who simply think they're superiors, and in this case, nothing of what you said will work. I can't accommodate myself to somebody up to throw my nature, he/she too has to change.
You are so, totally right! As someone who was born completely blind, on the autism spectrum, and has CPTSD, I really think you have such a valid point with this comment! I work hard each and every day to get to where I wanna be! I work each and every day to stop certain things that I might have done in the past, or even right now. I do my best. I don’t try my best. I do my best!
Sometimes, being completely blind, can cause some of these things. Because I rely so much on verbal cues. I don’t always get that. Sometimes I just get a facial expression, and I can’t even see that. It’s part of life. But it doesn’t mean I can’t work on these certain behaviors! It doesn’t mean that I can’t fix them!
( Vulnerability dropping is a first class favorite of mine i have a lot of friends who cope by making jokes/just gotten use to it over the years when people talk about self harm and stuff in front of them they just laugh it of tho when they are alone all that bottled up emotions can over spill so i suggest if you do this go to a close friend or someone and spill the beans if you don't have anyone close to you then just vent to a stranger you'd be impressed how much they actually care if you're suffering to much you should probably go to therapy or just clear your mind by doing things you like and avoid things you hate .)
Ok the interrupting one. I gee up in an Italian fam in NJ. This is how we conversed all the time. I’m still shocked when ppl are like wait can I talk? I’m like yeah just chime in anytime. Idc when ppl interrupt me so we have a back n forth. lol
I haven't got a social gene in my body, and have serious concerns about putting negative problems in my life onto others in a search for comfort, so I'm hardly worth listening to. My dad, however is quite the opposite, and can strike up conversations with almost anyone. His advice, always, is to ask people about themselves. I think because it's extending an invitation, even a more introverted person will still respond.
It's important to say sorry if you have done a mistake...we can't forgive some mistakes like sexual harrasment,rape etc...I have created a scene in many places because of the disease bipolar...if at all I meet the same people in future I will say sorry.. it's straight from the heart... don't feel ashamed to say sorry
1. Nope 2. Nope. I shun the spotlight. 3. Nope. I take things serious when people are sharing personal things 4. Nope. I'm polite and sensible for people 5. Nope. I don't want and expect things from people 6 & 7 Nope. I give and give and gave with no expectation. No more People still are avoiding me
There is a bad side effect that I experienced when I was being generous. 1. People were abusing me for favors 2. They didn’t take me seriously 3. They didn’t care what I did and kinda just ignored me Make sure you are generous to people who don’t do this!
I think the biggest one from me, is not speaking up. Not speaking up when I’mdysregulated. Keeping it all to myself. And keeping it from other people. I always deal with it myself, and I don’t ask for help and support. I don’t cry in front of other people. I don’t want them to know that I’m crying. I don’t want them to know that I’m struggling. I don’t want them to know that I’m dysregulated or having a bad day. I definitely don’t complain anymore. I used to. But I feel like I’ve grown out of that.
@@hummingbird4934 another thing I don’t always allowed myself to do, is touch and explore my surroundings. Or run into things. Or do the things that truly benefit me, and I know I’m not hurting anyone. As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum and has PTSD, I do things differently than society. But I find that they don’t hurt me. But I still restrict myself from them. But I have a 100% strong gut feeling that I will remove these restrictions. I will remove these limitations, and just allow myself to be my true, authentic self!
It's one of those surface-level relationships right? Where you are fairly liked by people but not really close to anyone and doesn't have a group to belong to. Basically the liked loner-ish. Correct me if I'm wrong, I'm just drawing from my life@_ZO73M_
the people who know me best say I have a horrible personality, but at work and around random people, I can get almost anyone to "like" me (at least on an acquaintance level). You know how? I ask them about themselves, let them talk as much as they want, and I listen. Secret hack to get people to like you, no matter how awful you are.
Idc what people think about me, but I refuse to put up with any bs. People who have a problem with me can either take it up with me, or go on somewhere.
I remember feeling that way all the time. It took me 32 years to realize that wasn't true. But I do still deeply feel that way sometimes. It's honestly a daily struggle. But you are worth just as much love and compassion as you give others. Open your heart, take that in truly, and remember it 🤍
The only One thing that matters is that God loves you. Fudge what everyone thinks or says.You are a precious jewel in His eyes ❤ Talk to Him, cry out to Him. This world works in mysterious ways.
As someone else among the many with issues in regards to connecting with other people, I sincerely wish the best for each of us in the comments. Whether you want a quiet life alone to find that special person to adventure with as a duo or to find that group or society where you finally belong.
I always love quiet life alone and with my family ! The rest are not interested in me ! I’m social, polite and respectful but no need a relationship with someone or group !
And then there is being ugly where even if you do everything else right, people will still not want to be your friend and in most cases ignore your existence except when they want something (or want to lash out because they have bumped into you and realise you are a solid person). Most people don't have to worry about ugliness because their parents will get that fixed as soon as those signs are spotted and therefore relatively inexpensive to fix compared to when you are an adult and some of those solutions might not even work.
I don't think the average person has the time or the energy to constantly overthink and psychoanalyze every aspect of life to try to be good or make everyone like them, which I feel is a big flaw in the message of all of the videos on this channel. They seem to expect that people use every single piece of advice or information that is given to them, which is very unrealistic to try to accomplish.
Another thigs I hate is when someone jsut does what they want to do leaving others out when youre in a group and the worst is probably making friends just for connections like everytime I hear someone wants to befriend someone just to gain smth I jave the urge to go home and never talk to any human ever again
I don’t care. If not, everyone likes me. To be perfectly honest, I don’t want everyone in the world to like me. I am working on not caring what other people think of me. This really comes from masking. Masking my emotions, masking, my blind, isms, and just other things about me.
I do the exact opposite of what's said not to do in the video and with all my previous friendships, it always comes to the point where I become someone's personal therapist, then, when they don't need me anymore,they leave. I know a girl who does exactly what the video recommends not to do (talk exclusively about herself, be the spotlight always, never asks how you are doing) yet people say they find her behavior "cute" so she has long-lasting relationships and easily makes new friends. I don't understand. I don't ask for any of that, I just want a normal friendship in which I'm not taken advantage of.
I can relate to all of these to varying degrees. It was very hard to hear, but I was also happy to hear that I already was conscious of some of these and working of them😊
There's no such thing as a " micro aggression" that's just a manifestation of weakness and paranoia. If you start thinking like that you'll make yourself mentally ill. Imagine how bad things would get if you're walking around thinking every time someone gives you a compliment like "I like your new shoes" or "your hair looks nice" it's aggression!?
I don't assume that people could read my mind because I'm the one usually thinking what they are thinking of me or predicting what they're going to do next because of past experience. My family tells me that they're not "anyone" or "people" after I would accuse them of something that I think that they were going to do because I look at patterns of the exact situation with other people, which isn't a good habit to have. I'm just trying to prepare myself for things and not let myself be blindsided or disappointed again.
Here are some more habits:
1. Constantly interrupting others while they speak.
2. Talking only about oneself without showing interest in others.
3. Frequently being late or canceling plans last minute.
4. Not listening when others are speaking.
5. Being overly critical or judgmental.
6. Failing to follow through on promises.
7. Bragging or boasting about personal achievements.
8. Spreading gossip or rumors.
9. Dominating conversations and not letting others participate.
10. Being overly negative or pessimistic.
As someone with depression, I can’t avoid the last thing..
@@Flutter_Dragonz same I'm depressed
@@Flutter_Dragonz 🎉 congratulations you just demonstrated it perfectly
Oh how I hate when someone interrupts me when I'm about to say something. It feels like they're doing it on purpose! And I've seen couple of those who are overly critical to pretty much anything, but once they get even constructive criticism, they take it personally. But in the end, I was the bad guy... 👍
Sounds like this person has some narcissistic qualities. Actually, all of them. All these qualities are totally disrespectful of other people. I've eliminated these toxic types. My circle is small. I prefer quality over quantity.
My family has a lot of these qualities. I know my limit at my mom's house ❤
Two major issues, learn to listen and don’t be rude.
How is learning an issue .
Rudeness is subjective.
Where some people barely find anything rude unless it is specifically directed as an insult to them.
Other people will already find it rude when your personal opinion challenges their opinions.
As an example, there are unfortunately plenty of people who would find my comment towards you, rude as hell and get fuming with anger.
While others will see it as informative, some agree and there are people who may disagree.
Learning to listen I strongly agree with though but I would replace the rudeness with understand who you are before looking for serious relationships in any form since only you can choose what type of people you want to hang around with.
A star shaped object does not fit in a cubed hole, same goes with people.
@@marilynlucero9363 I agree with this a lot. People all interpret things differently. In my experience, it’s especially easy to come off as rude in text. To combat this, I use emojis and other indicators to seem more friendly :)
@@junitori6047👍🏾
Maybe, but they dont say it like this for a reason. Saying this doesnt change ass in people who need it most of the time
1. Not recognizing how feelings can spread
2. The Spotlight Effect
3. Vulnerability Dropping
4. Unconscious Micro aggressions
5. Thinking people can read your mind
6. Always taking, never giving
7. Giving, but expecting something in return
Thank you!
7/7 on the test we up 🔥🔥🙏
7/7 I'm miserable 🔥🔥
Thanks
Okay
The fact I don't have any of this but still people don't like me and misbehave with me is BRUTUAL-
I just want some appreciation and love from people that's it😭
I just want deep conversation... 🙄😒
Same, I don’t understand why people don’t like me. I try to be nice and I’m helpful and have other good qualities!
For the 2 comments here, I'm sorry to hear that, but I guess that's just the way of life, but I believe someday you'll find someone who will appreciate y'all
@@supermegaawesomeultragal7820you're gonna have one eventually ig..
This is how I felt too, but it turns out I may have undiagnosed autism!
My main problem is 'forgetting', and it always makes me feel guilty that later on I would start reflecting what I did or said few minutes earlier that can potentially hurt or offended someone. Even though my friends would understand that most of the time I can be airheaded and slow and sometimes I'm unknowledgeable most of the normal stuff from my people of my age.
brainfog from sleep deprivation?
i often feel the same.
id say try get more sleep, but i know how impossible that can be.
wishing you good luck. keep trying
me too, honestly i feel more happier knowing someone out there has the same thing that i do. even still, forgetfulness isnt really perfectionism. im glad i ran into this comment!! hello! 😂😊
I'm the worst when it comes to being forgetful. I just try to make sure i tell everyone that i really don't mean it. I'm just honestly that absent minded sometimes. It's crazy to me how much people remember everything. It's even crazier that Ill remember things that people don't find significant. Some stuff sticks with me still.
@@quinn-5243 It is honestly a relief too, it's good to know that we are not alone experiencing things as this. Hello too!
@@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoyIt is probably sleep deprivation since it's been few years that I'm not having a proper sleep and probably stress too. The stress is mostly caused me to sleep deprivation. I really feel bad that I made everyone inconvenience for it.
I wish you and everyone here are doing good well.🌸
00:03 Recognize and fix habits that hinder forming connections
01:06 Being mindful of the emotional tone while speaking to others is important
02:06 Being self-centered can lead to others disliking you
03:06 Express vulnerability with empathy
04:04 Microaggressions can make others feel unfairly treated
05:05 Not communicating openly can lead to misunderstanding and arguments.
06:09 Giving without expectation leads to stronger relationships.
07:11 Building genuine connections through trust and generosity
Thank you 😊
I was bullied for being kind in school..........when you be kind to everyone then you become a topic of joke everyone teases you for your kindness and often bully you😢
They think that you're trying to make them look bad. Those bullies are not good people though let them hate you.. you'll be just fine❤
@@Occ881 they severly affect my mental health😢......... And there is not even a single person with whom I can be comfortable 🫠
i was kind in school and i got taken advantage of so now i dont give my kindness out for free, if people want me to be kind they need to earn it now
@@ultimatewafflegaming1018 this sounds good but being alone has been a great challenge and I am constantly failing in it
@@Vartulkumar1 the way i see it is id rather be alone than with people who make me feel that way
and in turn that has filtered out everyone until i found friends who care and love me for who i am
its well worth the pain
they deserve my kindness and have earned it
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Can dr.porassss send to me in UK?
Just want to warn people that this channel isn't necessarily correct half the time, always find something else and check your sources. Oh and go ahead, leave negative comments, i don't care. It's a heads up warning, not an argument.
They actually paid for doing this! They do it for MONEY !
They are the queen and king of misinformation 😂🤣😂 and poor teenagers who actually believe everything they said ! Geez ! 😂🤣😂
They spy someone’s life everyday and described is as their Truth ! Any pop psychology do that actually and there are many on RUclips ! Some of them use IA to spread those misinformation ! But my question is that they have a legal permission do that ? I mean for the LAW !
Because it is called invasion of a person’s life so it is considered violation of a person’s privacy ! So the person can file a complaint as abuse of weakness ! And besides RUclips has already created at this moment a pact of all these pseudosciences and arrested them in some countries but it is still in progress !
The first time that I see this channel ! I already knew it : There are KING and QUEEN of misinformation ! Because they need MONEY and they paid for doing this ! Any pop psychology on RUclips actually ! Some use IA to spread misinformation like any subject actually !
They spy someone’s life everyday and create a video to have a view and like and have a lot of MONEY because of it !
My question is this is actually legal or the government gives them an autorisation to do that ! Because it’s called abuse of weakness and violation of someone’s privacy which is illegal !
And I think RUclips created now a law to arrested all of those pseudoscience but you have the check the law on every country for apply it !
P.S : And also I see that in this channel they love to say that this person is narcissist
But in other hand They delete all the comments that are negative to them and they keep only the positives ! Now that they are treated other narcissists but they do exactly the same thing ! Where is the logic ? 😂🤣😂
Hey ur right tho, always fact check information, no matter where you get it from, whether it be social media, a person irl, or an official website.
I once knew someone that kept talking strangely and kept walking like a robot. Not everyone liked him..
Can be true. I am like that 'someone'
@@shadow1703oh man.. sorry :/
@@JustDilasX
Don't be. I don't mind.
What if ur autistic lol
I was like this. Ppl thought i was trying to be superior. Reality was i was SUPER socially anxious. Just standing there and listening and reacting normally was taking all life off me. Also i was super depressed. Also family problems. Also ovrall bad life. I was bad bad. I did not enjoy walking or talking robotically but my wntire existence of living energy was being used to "look normal"
I think it's also super important to remember that nobody follows all these social rules perfectly. We're all going to say dumb and insensitive stuff occasionally, but that doesn't mean we are unworthy of love. Your friends will annoy you and you will annoy them, but you can forgive them and vice versa because that's what real friends do. Make sure to apologize and take responsibility when you say something truly hurtful and if people still don't like you, that's their problem.
These aren't social rules, they're perspectives from self awareness lol. Reflect.
It really is amazing how you can spread happiness just by looking happy.
feels good until you’re the only one around…
trying to gain internal validation from external sources leads to misery
That's what's so great about giving people random compliments and just smiling at them. It spreads so much joy 😊
"My negativity" depends on how you define "negativity."
That’s one way to put it, and I couldn’t agree more
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Wow! I guess some of those signs is one of the main reasons why I'm still friendless and single to this day. Problem is: sometimes, I'm not around people all that much. But I am trying to work on it.
(expresses empathy and care for you and your journey)
Here's an internet hug if you need it and an encouragement to keep practicing until your intentions come off clearly.
It's rough and takes years... so... you have my empathy.
@@zerg6205 thank you.
You can do it!
I was always scared to speak up about my life, because it might ruin the mood of my friends' conversations
Someone once told me that whenever I chimed in about personal experiences of my life, I think nothing of them but apparently they're a real downer. So I learned to just not share unless I'm asked...
But no one ever asks about me 🤷🏽♀️
I'm incredibly lonely 😂
People: Dash, when you are down, please share your problems, a problem shared is a problem solved.
*When Dash shares the problem*
People: Dash drains the life out of us.
People to people: guess what dash told us. Haha, such a looser.
*I learned these 5 lessons in life:*
*1. READ THE ROOM BEFORE YOU ACT*
*2. BE YOUR TRUE SELF*
*3. DON’T TAKE THINGS WAY TOO SERIOUSLY*
*4. LIVE IN THE PRESENT*
*5. ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH, EVEN IF IT CAN BE A HEARTBREAKER*
Be your true self! As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum, and has seaPTSD, I do things differently than the average normal person. For example, I touch and explore everything. Everything that is around me, I touch and explore and feel all over it. This was something that I wasn’t allowed to do. In my opinion, I think it’s just me expressing a feeling of true curiosity. I’m really working hard to remove the mask. To just be my true, authentic self. To allow myself to touch and explore everything, to expressed my emotions, without going overboard or losing control. And to do the other things that truly benefit me, even though society sees them as different. The real truth is, I’m not hurting anybody. And I am not out to hurt anyone.
MOST IMPORTANT MISTAKE: DO NOT CALL THEM A SLUR. THAT WILL ALMOST ALWAYS HAVE HORRIBLE CONSEQUENCES.
Taking the time to introduce yourself, not trying to be too close, don't over share, people don't need to know everything about you in the first hour, take the time to listen and reading the room.
It's ok to talk about you, but telling what you like instead of what you dislike will make you more likeable in a group.
Those are my thoughts. In my 49 years of life I've never had troubles making friends. Taking your place is important, just don't take all the place, let others talk.
And it's ok if you're not in the mood to listen to someone who only see the negatives.
Tell them as politely as possible that you're not in the mood for this now. You're not everyone psychiatrist. It's not arrogant to do so. It's called respecting your boundaries.
That’s some thing I’m definitely working on. Not Oversharing. When I first meet someone, I just tell them my name, and the diagnoses that I have, so that way they know how to approach me. I used to talk about why I had CPTSD. But now, I just tell someone that I have CPTSD and leave it at that.
Bro ! Do you whatever you want ! This channel is pure misinformation ! You don’t need to defend yourself !
You’re the only one who knows your life ! Don’t be weak !
It's interesting, I am reading some comments that are saying they don't do any of these things and they still don't have friends. Sometimes we can have the best of intentions when talking to others, but it might not come across that way. Just remember that people's perception of you is different than how you perceive yourself. Also, if you're still in school and you're struggling to make friends, you'll graduate and find people! Keep an open mind and continue to be social with people that share your interests
Timestamps!
1- 0:49 (Not recognizing how feelings can spread)
2- 1:55 The spotlight effect
3- 3:05 Vulnerability Dropping
4- 4:00 Unsconscious Microagressions
5- 5:00 Thinking people can read your mind
6- 5:51 Always taking, never giving
(Psych2go, its suppossed to be 6, not 5.)
A lot of these issues come from personality disorders. So if people act like this around you, it is very likley they dont do it on purpose, but just dont realize its negative
Exactly! That’s a major aspect that wasn’t considered. Keeping this type of information in mind helps you have tougher skin, you just try not to take everything personally that said to you
Honestly just listen! For #3, definitely just listen. Usually people immediately want to fix. But sometimes, even us guys...
We just want someone to hear. To want to listen is to care.
*taking down notes so people will like me less*
Fascination with spiders helps a lot
Only thing I'm good at is being generous without expecting anything in return.😒
You are very wise 🤍
Same! It’s not hard to have manners and just to say thank you once in a while. We don’t expect praise all the time or expect anything back but at least show some kind of reciprocation that you appreciate our kind gestures. Even if you do appreciate, try to communicate those feelings or express your gratitude through your action, because otherwise you’ll be mistaken as someone that’s not humble and rude. I agree with your statement that you said, I hope that people are treating you good 🤍
0:49 1. Not recognizing how feelings can spread
1:55 2. The spotlight effect
3:05 3. Vulnerability Dropping
3:59 4. Unconscious micro-aggressions
5:00 5. Thinking people can read your mind
5:49 6. Always taking, never giving
6:34 7. Giving, but expecting something in return
Timestamps
1). Not recognizing how feelings can spread 0:48
2). The spotlight effect 1:54
3). Vulnerability dropping 3:05
4). Unconscious microaggressions 3:58
5). Thinking people can read your mind 4:58
6). Always taking, taking giving 5:48
7). Giving but expecting something in return 6:33
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Bold of you to assume I care about being liked or disliked
You do care. You're probably just angry. Its easier to feel anger than hurt.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I like you already!
Try harder😂
@@debbiechadwick861 I feel neither hurt nor anger, I feel nothing at all
@@claudiamontiel26 you probably have some issues then
I always listen to others and i am not talking while they are...
This makes everyone want to be close to me 😊❤
Because you’re showing that you care and that you’re an empathetic person, that’s good at listening 🤍
I learned something very important in life. Always first ask the person you're with "How are you feeling today?" Or if they're sad, ask them "Is there anything you can do for them to feel a little better?" Or maybe ask "Is there any special things or places that would make you feel less sad?" Or "Do you need a friendly hug 🤗?"
It’s always the little things that matter that’ll end up making positive impacts in the long run 💜
@@anikamccandless8880 I agree with you 100% on that! Thanks for your positive feedback.
1. Constantly interrupting others while they speak.
5. Being overly critical or judgmental.
7. Bragging or boasting about personal achievements.
I am these , this really helped me and my friends might not notice but I have grown a closer relationship with them thank you for this vid it was really helpful!
Tbh I’ve been there and done that. I’ve been super lucky and grateful to have two of the greatest friends I could ever ask for cause we’re open and accepting with each other, helped one another through the good and worst times.
I don’t think I’m gonna make any more friends, it could happen but I’m not gonna get my hopes up.
Love wise, yeah there’s a slim to none chance that’s gonna happen so I’m just grateful for what I have. Word of advice: it’s better to choose quality over quantity.
That’s pretty wise of you. It’s usually best to keep your circle small. It makes it easier to know who you can trust and rely on. But it’s also okay to feel the way you do, it just takes time to find the right people that actually care about you they want you in their lives as well 🤍
I always was generous. My parents (father) always tried to teach me that that's not something good, and you should not gift someone something, without getting a gift back. I try to unlearn this so badly
It’s about finding the right people that’ll appreciate your efforts and kindness. You don’t have to change yourself. After all, it’s your way of showing your affection to people that you care about. It’s also good to notice, the difference between someone that is taking advantage of your kindness and someone that genuinely doesn’t care. That way, it eliminates the wrong people to give your heart to, but remember, it’s also okay to make mistakes 💜
I don't care whether other people like me or not. I'm already not very likeable anyway, even though I'm polite & respectful with everyone.
Same ! I don’t care if people like or dislike me ! And I don’t wanna be likeable too, I’m not an object to please someone ! HAVE A DIGNITY !
I don’t have a love or hate neither !
I just live my beautiful life with myself and my family ! And that’s it ! The rest I really don’t care if it’s good or bad !
KNOW MY OWN LIFE !
Exactly! You’ll expect to not be liked by everyone. It’s normal to have dealt with some haters. We’re not perfect after all, trying to people please and trying to be liked by ‘everyone’ will just hurt you mentally in the long run
@@anikamccandless8880
Spot on.
So... If ur shy, than u have to be hated......awesome.......
are you stupid also?
I’ve learned that people care more about themselves than they do about you (same is true for you as well), so talking about others will always make them like you more.
The problem is reciprocity 🤷🏾♀️ deep connection requires that on both ends, so indeed show interest but make sure they are doing the same
can already tell from the first one that there is not a shred of hope for my social life (as shown in this comment)
being a furry helps, im sure!
(sorry for my dry sarcasm, i am a furry aswell)
His voice is so calming it makes me want to pay attention! I found out how to be a better friend.
My problem is losing their trust, just gotta give you all an advice to "think about your actions before making it" and unfortunately I learned the hard way. I still heavily regret doing that mistake 6 months ago, but I'm still damn happy that i still have that one friend despite being in the same friend group with the people i used to talk to without the feeling that they're just acting nice, and obviously he knows it is still my true friend up to this day.
Dear god, I am guilty of so much of this. How did I not know these sooner? 😢
A major social flaw of mine is having people pleasing tendencies. I'm constantly trying to seek approval and attention which is a major turn off for others. I don't like to put myself in the spotlight persay, but I try harder than I should to make good impressions. That with adhd just isn't a good combo.
This should've been posted as soon as soon as I joined high school. This would've helped alot.
I have always been passive aggressive because I wanted people to like me
Now I’m speaking out on my behalf because I want people to respect me.
There’s a huge difference between the two.
1. Not realising how feelings can spread
2. The Spot light effect
3. Vulnerability dropping
4. Unconscious micro aggressions
5. Thinking people can read your mind
6. Always taking, never giving
7. Giving but expecting something in return
But it seems like when I show interest in others and listen to them, they never stop talking about themselves, never ask me anything and treat me like I'm naïve and need to learn from them.
I'm a realist, so I am 100% sure I come across as more negative than I am... I'm actively avoiding my people now due to what I've got on my mind... I know it'll spill out at some point...
Thanks for the advice! I’ll be sure to use these handy tips 👍
for the creators, mistake number six is numbered number 5 in the animation, turns out we all make mistakes LOL.
I'm going to assume that was intentional. 😉
Thank you very much! I will keep all of this in my mind. I don’t feel well at present and I let everyone know and feel. Not good, I know. But I will improve, I promise… 🥺
I am... alexithymic. I don't care for relationships. They are not helpful, generally speaking.
A couple of these mistakes listed made me realize why i like my best friend so much, because although i really do like him alot, he has- well- flaws. But he makes me feel wanted and loved, he pays attention to me (or well- tries to-), and most importantly, he pulled me out of a rough patch. I could never ask for a better friend, and i genuinely wish he'd see that.
I watched this to see if it was my fault for my friendship breaking right now, but I realised my friend is doing all of the above.
Let's be real here, if you're ugly, people just don't wanna talk to you
That, and if they don't need to speak to you in general
People attend to be superficial over by how somebody looks. It’s just a reflection of their own insecurities. There is better off, not giving those types of people a time of day. It’s better to focus your time on better things 🤍
@@anikamccandless8880 that doesn't solve the loneliness problem. It only attempts to hide it or repress it
@@jpjfrey5673 your feelings are valid, I was saying that directing your mind helps so it doesn’t lead to overthinking. Most people are only interested in their own feelings/issues
0:17 it looks like it’s kissing😂❤
You're right, but there are some who, no matter what you do, just don't want to be friends. Some who simply think they're superiors, and in this case, nothing of what you said will work. I can't accommodate myself to somebody up to throw my nature, he/she too has to change.
actually i am people pleasing enough to be liked a lot. too much tbh. i do not like most people and I wish I could tell them that.
I got a workmate who does all these mistakes, and STILL believes he's approachable 🙄
Last one can be ok if you are open about it... or I'm just some kind of sociopath...
Psychology is such a fine balance, especially those that have variations of autism, social anxiety, trauma, etc Thank you for the reminders
You are so, totally right! As someone who was born completely blind, on the autism spectrum, and has CPTSD, I really think you have such a valid point with this comment! I work hard each and every day to get to where I wanna be! I work each and every day to stop certain things that I might have done in the past, or even right now. I do my best. I don’t try my best. I do my best!
Sometimes, being completely blind, can cause some of these things. Because I rely so much on verbal cues. I don’t always get that. Sometimes I just get a facial expression, and I can’t even see that. It’s part of life. But it doesn’t mean I can’t work on these certain behaviors! It doesn’t mean that I can’t fix them!
Your voice just calms my anxiety
I relate to the wanting something back, I fear it comes from my previous friend group as I just didn’t feel cared about. I’m learning though!
( Vulnerability dropping is a first class favorite of mine i have a lot of friends who cope by making jokes/just gotten use to it over the years when people talk about self harm and stuff in front of them they just laugh it of tho when they are alone all that bottled up emotions can over spill so i suggest if you do this go to a close friend or someone and spill the beans if you don't have anyone close to you then just vent to a stranger you'd be impressed how much they actually care if you're suffering to much you should probably go to therapy or just clear your mind by doing things you like and avoid things you hate .)
“i probably do all of them” that’s what i thought before clicking the video
I find interacting with people hard work. I give up !
57 years on this world has made me weary !
I just trust in God now.
Humans are hard work!
Thus is very informative! Here's another solution: don't give a f*** bout the haters!!! It makes one seem admirable.
Anyone else absolutely obsessed with this channel? ❤️
The first point and the last two points are the ones I have to work on the most. Fortunately I realized this awhile ago and am slowly improving
My Mistake is existing, i don't need a video to tell me that
Same bro
Real, man
Me too.
Same bruh 😢
I feel you
My issue is being “ Honest “ and do not like “ social sugar coating “ . Therefore people are addicted to lies
Ok the interrupting one. I gee up in an Italian fam in NJ. This is how we conversed all the time. I’m still shocked when ppl are like wait can I talk? I’m like yeah just chime in anytime. Idc when ppl interrupt me so we have a back n forth. lol
I haven't got a social gene in my body, and have serious concerns about putting negative problems in my life onto others in a search for comfort, so I'm hardly worth listening to.
My dad, however is quite the opposite, and can strike up conversations with almost anyone. His advice, always, is to ask people about themselves. I think because it's extending an invitation, even a more introverted person will still respond.
I would also add extremely positive people when it comes to bad situations, their toxic positivity is just irritable
It's important to say sorry if you have done a mistake...we can't forgive some mistakes like sexual harrasment,rape etc...I have created a scene in many places because of the disease bipolar...if at all I meet the same people in future I will say sorry.. it's straight from the heart... don't feel ashamed to say sorry
I feel like i never have the green light to ask people about their day.
34 seconds ago is brutal
Bro think this is ig reels☠️
@@storm-3337i think you forgot to switch alts
the future is screwed
@@JustDilasXreal
@@shawk952ye
1. Nope
2. Nope. I shun the spotlight.
3. Nope. I take things serious when people are sharing personal things
4. Nope. I'm polite and sensible for people
5. Nope. I don't want and expect things from people
6 & 7 Nope. I give and give and gave with no expectation. No more
People still are avoiding me
A lot of my friends just start joking whenever I open up to them, so I end up having a fake personality that I show people.
There is a bad side effect that I experienced when I was being generous.
1. People were abusing me for favors
2. They didn’t take me seriously
3. They didn’t care what I did and kinda just ignored me
Make sure you are generous to people who don’t do this!
Quit worrying about whether people like you or not. If you're living right, most people will dislike you.
I have a friend who has been venting a lot to me. It’s already affecting me 😢
Thank you so much, Psych2go, for making amazing videos that help us everyday 🌠
I think the biggest one from me, is not speaking up. Not speaking up when I’mdysregulated. Keeping it all to myself. And keeping it from other people. I always deal with it myself, and I don’t ask for help and support. I don’t cry in front of other people. I don’t want them to know that I’m crying. I don’t want them to know that I’m struggling. I don’t want them to know that I’m dysregulated or having a bad day. I definitely don’t complain anymore. I used to. But I feel like I’ve grown out of that.
Sounds exhausting! I’m exactly the same I’m always policing myself!
@@hummingbird4934 another thing I don’t always allowed myself to do, is touch and explore my surroundings. Or run into things. Or do the things that truly benefit me, and I know I’m not hurting anyone. As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum and has PTSD, I do things differently than society. But I find that they don’t hurt me. But I still restrict myself from them. But I have a 100% strong gut feeling that I will remove these restrictions. I will remove these limitations, and just allow myself to be my true, authentic self!
I just realized that a lot of the friends that I got bad vibes from associate with at least two of these descriptions
My whole classroom is my friend but i ain't missing psy2go videos 💀
They are my friends because they don't dislike me
how 😭 pls some tips
It's one of those surface-level relationships right? Where you are fairly liked by people but not really close to anyone and doesn't have a group to belong to. Basically the liked loner-ish. Correct me if I'm wrong, I'm just drawing from my life@_ZO73M_
Same!
@@Faith_saves7 for me just try to understand their humor and care for them, but not overmuch.
the people who know me best say I have a horrible personality, but at work and around random people, I can get almost anyone to "like" me (at least on an acquaintance level). You know how? I ask them about themselves, let them talk as much as they want, and I listen. Secret hack to get people to like you, no matter how awful you are.
Idc what people think about me, but I refuse to put up with any bs. People who have a problem with me can either take it up with me, or go on somewhere.
My existence is the universe’s biggest mistake which makes people dislike me all the time.
Not really,I think we can be friends ❤
you’re wrong…
MY existence is the universes’ biggest mistake which makes people dislike me all the time ;)
I remember feeling that way all the time. It took me 32 years to realize that wasn't true. But I do still deeply feel that way sometimes. It's honestly a daily struggle.
But you are worth just as much love and compassion as you give others.
Open your heart, take that in truly, and remember it 🤍
The only One thing that matters is that God loves you. Fudge what everyone thinks or says.You are a precious jewel in His eyes ❤ Talk to Him, cry out to Him. This world works in mysterious ways.
Don't think like that, God loves all of us and created us equally. Even if you don't feel special at all, you are!
As someone else among the many with issues in regards to connecting with other people, I sincerely wish the best for each of us in the comments.
Whether you want a quiet life alone
to find that special person to adventure with as a duo
or to find that group or society where you finally belong.
I always love quiet life alone and with my family !
The rest are not interested in me ! I’m social, polite and respectful but no need a relationship with someone or group !
After listening to it explains why I am quite often liked and my brother disliked
And then there is being ugly where even if you do everything else right, people will still not want to be your friend and in most cases ignore your existence except when they want something (or want to lash out because they have bumped into you and realise you are a solid person). Most people don't have to worry about ugliness because their parents will get that fixed as soon as those signs are spotted and therefore relatively inexpensive to fix compared to when you are an adult and some of those solutions might not even work.
I don't think the average person has the time or the energy to constantly overthink and psychoanalyze every aspect of life to try to be good or make everyone like them, which I feel is a big flaw in the message of all of the videos on this channel. They seem to expect that people use every single piece of advice or information that is given to them, which is very unrealistic to try to accomplish.
waiting for someone to make a timestamp
The way i don't related to most of these but instead this vividly made me think of someone i really don't like who fit all of these
Another thigs I hate is when someone jsut does what they want to do leaving others out when youre in a group and the worst is probably making friends just for connections like everytime I hear someone wants to befriend someone just to gain smth I jave the urge to go home and never talk to any human ever again
for me i dont worry about what people think about me, bc thats there problem not mine :) even if its family
I don’t care. If not, everyone likes me. To be perfectly honest, I don’t want everyone in the world to like me. I am working on not caring what other people think of me. This really comes from masking. Masking my emotions, masking, my blind, isms, and just other things about me.
Woah im first, Good vid tho
I do the exact opposite of what's said not to do in the video and with all my previous friendships, it always comes to the point where I become someone's personal therapist, then, when they don't need me anymore,they leave. I know a girl who does exactly what the video recommends not to do (talk exclusively about herself, be the spotlight always, never asks how you are doing) yet people say they find her behavior "cute" so she has long-lasting relationships and easily makes new friends. I don't understand. I don't ask for any of that, I just want a normal friendship in which I'm not taken advantage of.
I've never done those things yet I still don't have friends.
I can relate to all of these to varying degrees. It was very hard to hear, but I was also happy to hear that I already was conscious of some of these and working of them😊
There's no such thing as a " micro aggression" that's just a manifestation of weakness and paranoia. If you start thinking like that you'll make yourself mentally ill. Imagine how bad things would get if you're walking around thinking every time someone gives you a compliment like "I like your new shoes" or "your hair looks nice" it's aggression!?
No no, I'm very consciously passive aggressive.
I don't assume that people could read my mind because I'm the one usually thinking what they are thinking of me or predicting what they're going to do next because of past experience. My family tells me that they're not "anyone" or "people" after I would accuse them of something that I think that they were going to do because I look at patterns of the exact situation with other people, which isn't a good habit to have. I'm just trying to prepare myself for things and not let myself be blindsided or disappointed again.