Thank God men are reaching out and helping other men! 3 of my buddy's committed suicide per divorce rape and my own brother got served divorce papers after 20 yrs and 4 kids....she felt she deserved her freedom?! Stay strong brother and keep enjoying life and your freedom!! Timmy C Arizona
Tell me about it brother. We need more men to step up and help other men without calling them weak for needing help. We try so hard to be tough and unbreakable that we don't learn how to ask for help when we reach our breaking points. Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment bro. I truly appreciate the support.
Thank you for making this video. In about a month my ex-wife and son are moving from KS to AZ and I'm in full panic mode right now - but things like this help break it down into digestible pieces so I can turn a big situation into a smaller manageable situation. I know we can make this thing work, but I'm heartbroken and scared because it's such a life changing event. If anybody else is going through this, let's help eachother through comments. Gotta stay connected.
@@mattdad8429 I’m sorry to hear this brother. I have my almost 20 year old son with me this summer, and I’m already dreading him going back to his mom because I feel like I’ve had so little time with him these last 10 years. Still, I know the only reason he’s here this summer and the only reason we still have a great relationship is because of the work I’ve put in to remain a positive fixture in his life. Good luck brother!
Thank you for making this video. It came to me at a very difficult time - I have a six year old son from a drunken hook up basically. I'm not on the birth certificate. Had no naming rights. But I have been there since before we even knew what sex the child was. There for delivery, the whole nine yards.... Had to fight to get everything from 30 min visits when he was nursing to every other weekend to week on week off to two weeks on two weeks off. We've been doing this for years now but she moved six hours away so now I'm going to be reduced to a schedule like what you described. We have a magical father and son relationship. Which I hope doesn't change, but I needed to hear some real talk from someone who has tread that path before me. Because I know as he ages things will change. And you've encouraged me to be the one responsible for that relationship. You've made the world a better place. I understand what you were saying about it being the last full summer with your kid.... I hope you both get the best out of it you can and much respect for you for saying or whatever he decides to do. " Thank you for your service. You're awesome man
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a positive comment. It can be difficult to share all this with the world, but knowing that it helps others going through a similar situation let’s me know I’m doing the right thing. Good luck brother.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment on the video. I sincerely appreciate your input. You're absolutely right; it's often times hard for us to accept when we're at fault for something and take responsibility for our actions, but doing so is extremely important for self growth. Thanks again and please feel free to share the video/channel with anyone you think could benefit from watching.
It’s been almost ten years for me and it’s still incredibly difficult. But you have to stay strong and do your best for the sake of your child brother. You’ll feel like giving up more times than you can count, but if you do, your child suffers; so you have to keep putting forth your best effort no matter what. My thoughts are with you bro. Good luck!
Going though this now with my 1 year old daughter. Had a terrible break up with the mother and now she's using our daughter against me even if I had. Done nothing wrong with my daughter. Now she's bragging to replace me as our daughters father with her new man. Life sucks
Same, haven’t seen my 11 year old daughter in 8 months. I still have my other 2 kids, and my new wife and our 8 month old. Ex wife refuses to let me see my oldest and she wants nothing to do with me. Kill me inside
My boyfriend has 3 kids , his youngest lives a couple cities away . Omgosh it’s so hard ! I have 2 kids as well , their dad lives in the same city as my boyfriend’s daughter lol so I guess at least there’s that . But yeah , I have no idea how we’re going to keep managing this , we just are . The distance just sucks tho !
It’s incredibly tough, frustrating, nerve wracking, and downright soul crushing. My son turns 18 this fall. So this summer might be the last full summer I get to spend with him before he goes off to college or whatever he decides to do next. I’m hoping to make the most of this summer with him; especially now that my job moved me from Illinois to California (my son lives in Missouri) 😩 Good luck dealing with your children’a situation. It’s hard, but important work. I sincerely believe your children will reap the benefits of you trying your best to make things work.
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. Us men have to start opening up about the struggles in our lives so that we can help each other out. No more hiding behind the curtain of being a "tough" man. We can be tough while still admitting that we too experience sadness; we too face struggles. Thanks brother.
With the assistance of an attorney, I currently have an upcoming court date to modify Parenting-Time from liberal to a structured long distance plan. The objective is to spend "Meaningful Time" with my teenager, since my narcissistic ex deprives me of that opportunity. File your motion, put up your best defense, and put the burden in the hands of the court to make a fair decison.
This is great advice. We all need to fight for our rights as parents with the hope that the courts will grant us a fair solution. The downside of this is that even with a fair and court mandated parenting schedule, long distance parenting is a challenge. I’m super lucky to have an ex that allows me to see my son any time I want. Still, it never feels like enough. This was specially true when I was stationed in Japan for two years and he was in Missouri. Even now that I’m in California, the weekends, holidays, and vacation days we spend together are but a glimpse of all I’m missing out on.
Thank you for taking the time to comment. My divorce was painful, but I got over it after about a year or two. However, living far away from my son continues to hurt me in more ways than one despite the fact I divorced nearly 9 years ago. This stuff is hard brother, but all we can do is keep trying. For ourselves and for our kids. Thanks for watching brother. Much appreciated.
How do you handle when the other parent is uncooperative but makes it out to the child that they are doing everything to help when in reality they played a huge part in why things are bad right now? You stated phone calls and face times, but what if that parent with the child makes a huge deal when you miss a day or two and creates issues with the kid now feeling unloved even though you call every week several times. It’s so confusing.
Honestly brother, idk that I have the perfect answer for you. I can tell you what I did, but every situation is different. I did all I could to remain consistent, both with my ex and my son. Things with my ex were rough for at least two years, maybe more. When I started getting serious with someone many years later, we had issues again. I made it a point to NEVER fight with her and to financially support her and our son as much as I could. To this day, any time she needs money or help with something, I help her. To be fair, she’s not constantly coming to me for help, but when she does, I’m there. It’s been a long 9 year journey for us (this summer makes 10 years), but we have a great coparenting relationship now. Good luck brother. It’s not an easy road no matter what you do, but there are things that you can do that will only make things worse. Figure out what those things are, and don’t do them. At least then, if things continue to fall apart for you two, it won’t be because you didn’t give it your very best.
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Thank God men are reaching out and helping other men! 3 of my buddy's committed suicide per divorce rape and my own brother got served divorce papers after 20 yrs and 4 kids....she felt she deserved her freedom?! Stay strong brother and keep enjoying life and your freedom!! Timmy C Arizona
Tell me about it brother. We need more men to step up and help other men without calling them weak for needing help. We try so hard to be tough and unbreakable that we don't learn how to ask for help when we reach our breaking points. Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment bro. I truly appreciate the support.
Thank you for making this video. In about a month my ex-wife and son are moving from KS to AZ and I'm in full panic mode right now - but things like this help break it down into digestible pieces so I can turn a big situation into a smaller manageable situation. I know we can make this thing work, but I'm heartbroken and scared because it's such a life changing event. If anybody else is going through this, let's help eachother through comments. Gotta stay connected.
@@mattdad8429 I’m sorry to hear this brother. I have my almost 20 year old son with me this summer, and I’m already dreading him going back to his mom because I feel like I’ve had so little time with him these last 10 years. Still, I know the only reason he’s here this summer and the only reason we still have a great relationship is because of the work I’ve put in to remain a positive fixture in his life. Good luck brother!
Thank you for making this video. It came to me at a very difficult time - I have a six year old son from a drunken hook up basically. I'm not on the birth certificate. Had no naming rights. But I have been there since before we even knew what sex the child was. There for delivery, the whole nine yards.... Had to fight to get everything from 30 min visits when he was nursing to every other weekend to week on week off to two weeks on two weeks off. We've been doing this for years now but she moved six hours away so now I'm going to be reduced to a schedule like what you described. We have a magical father and son relationship. Which I hope doesn't change, but I needed to hear some real talk from someone who has tread that path before me. Because I know as he ages things will change. And you've encouraged me to be the one responsible for that relationship. You've made the world a better place. I understand what you were saying about it being the last full summer with your kid.... I hope you both get the best out of it you can and much respect for you for saying or whatever he decides to do. " Thank you for your service. You're awesome man
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a positive comment. It can be difficult to share all this with the world, but knowing that it helps others going through a similar situation let’s me know I’m doing the right thing. Good luck brother.
The truth is hard to swallow, but adults need to do it anyway, thankyou for your video of encouragement.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment on the video. I sincerely appreciate your input.
You're absolutely right; it's often times hard for us to accept when we're at fault for something and take responsibility for our actions, but doing so is extremely important for self growth.
Thanks again and please feel free to share the video/channel with anyone you think could benefit from watching.
I need to speak to you about this in more detail man. Going through this now. I feel for you sir, My heart is empty everyday he’s not with me
It’s been almost ten years for me and it’s still incredibly difficult. But you have to stay strong and do your best for the sake of your child brother. You’ll feel like giving up more times than you can count, but if you do, your child suffers; so you have to keep putting forth your best effort no matter what. My thoughts are with you bro. Good luck!
@@LivingMAD much appreciated man. You too!
Going though this now with my 1 year old daughter. Had a terrible break up with the mother and now she's using our daughter against me even if I had. Done nothing wrong with my daughter. Now she's bragging to replace me as our daughters father with her new man. Life sucks
Same, haven’t seen my 11 year old daughter in 8 months.
I still have my other 2 kids, and my new wife and our 8 month old.
Ex wife refuses to let me see my oldest and she wants nothing to do with me. Kill me inside
My boyfriend has 3 kids , his youngest lives a couple cities away . Omgosh it’s so hard ! I have 2 kids as well , their dad lives in the same city as my boyfriend’s daughter lol so I guess at least there’s that . But yeah , I have no idea how we’re going to keep managing this , we just are . The distance just sucks tho !
It’s incredibly tough, frustrating, nerve wracking, and downright soul crushing. My son turns 18 this fall. So this summer might be the last full summer I get to spend with him before he goes off to college or whatever he decides to do next. I’m hoping to make the most of this summer with him; especially now that my job moved me from Illinois to California (my son lives in Missouri) 😩
Good luck dealing with your children’a situation. It’s hard, but important work. I sincerely believe your children will reap the benefits of you trying your best to make things work.
An honest man. Men learn from their mistakes and share their wisdom to others.
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. Us men have to start opening up about the struggles in our lives so that we can help each other out. No more hiding behind the curtain of being a "tough" man. We can be tough while still admitting that we too experience sadness; we too face struggles. Thanks brother.
With the assistance of an attorney, I currently have an upcoming court date to modify Parenting-Time from liberal to a structured long distance plan. The objective is to spend "Meaningful Time" with my teenager, since my narcissistic ex deprives me of that opportunity.
File your motion, put up your best defense, and put the burden in the hands of the court to make a fair decison.
This is great advice. We all need to fight for our rights as parents with the hope that the courts will grant us a fair solution.
The downside of this is that even with a fair and court mandated parenting schedule, long distance parenting is a challenge. I’m super lucky to have an ex that allows me to see my son any time I want. Still, it never feels like enough. This was specially true when I was stationed in Japan for two years and he was in Missouri. Even now that I’m in California, the weekends, holidays, and vacation days we spend together are but a glimpse of all I’m missing out on.
Thanks for making this man
Thank you for taking the time to comment. My divorce was painful, but I got over it after about a year or two. However, living far away from my son continues to hurt me in more ways than one despite the fact I divorced nearly 9 years ago. This stuff is hard brother, but all we can do is keep trying. For ourselves and for our kids. Thanks for watching brother. Much appreciated.
How do you handle when the other parent is uncooperative but makes it out to the child that they are doing everything to help when in reality they played a huge part in why things are bad right now?
You stated phone calls and face times, but what if that parent with the child makes a huge deal when you miss a day or two and creates issues with the kid now feeling unloved even though you call every week several times. It’s so confusing.
Honestly brother, idk that I have the perfect answer for you. I can tell you what I did, but every situation is different.
I did all I could to remain consistent, both with my ex and my son. Things with my ex were rough for at least two years, maybe more. When I started getting serious with someone many years later, we had issues again. I made it a point to NEVER fight with her and to financially support her and our son as much as I could. To this day, any time she needs money or help with something, I help her. To be fair, she’s not constantly coming to me for help, but when she does, I’m there.
It’s been a long 9 year journey for us (this summer makes 10 years), but we have a great coparenting relationship now.
Good luck brother. It’s not an easy road no matter what you do, but there are things that you can do that will only make things worse. Figure out what those things are, and don’t do them. At least then, if things continue to fall apart for you two, it won’t be because you didn’t give it your very best.
Everything said 100 percent true
Thanks for watching and for taking the time to comment.
Very real.
This stuff is hard for sure, but we can do this bro! Thank you for watching and supporting the channel.