The pain in my heart is unbearable, my husband leaving our marriage have put a ton in my heart, I have been telling myself am strong enough but am not sure I am, I haven’t been able to get him of my mind, I just want him back.
To quote you " You cant say the wrong thing to the "right person!!" I believe that too. All others will fall by the wayside for one reason or another!!
Once again, your words make so much sense. I loved your final summary with the point of living life to the fullest and stop wasting time on relationships going nowhere. Your words are very pertinent to me right now. Thank you- just what I needed to hear! I am so happy for you and your girlfriend- I know you have been wanting this and you have manifested it- you’ve done that self reflection and created a wonderful life. Thank you for being a role model and living/practicing what you say!! Best wishes, Jonathan!!
I've never had luck with long distance relationships. The last one I was in ended rather quickly. Good luck for anyone out there. I have heard of ones that work.
I've been in a long distance relationship for 18 months. Met him in 1995, we wrote letters and called on the phone for 3 years before internet, then it fizzled out. We were young. We reconnected 18 months ago but, alas, still long distance. My kids are grown up, his are small so he won't be able to move. We have never been physically intimate but are such good friends that it's painful to be away from him. We can talk for hours on the phone and time flies by. Hoping for a happy ending in a year or two.
@Jonathon Aslay Somewhat, not written in stone. I have to wait for my youngest to graduate school in a year and go off to college and then maybe we'll get serious or maybe it will fizzle out. For now, we are friends that care a lot for each other and visit each other occasionally.
I wouldn’t consider your dynamic a real long distance relationship because you have met in person and went on many dates and felt in-person chemistry from the very beginning. You guys weren’t only seeing each other through the phone. Also, it’s a wonderful thing that your girlfriend wants to move to your city! That means it was always meant to be. I feel so happy for you as if you were my uncle or teacher. You deserve to be happy, and to prove that your methods are healthy and do work, lol. And you will ALWAYS be relevant, Jonathan! You are an absolute gem. Everything you are and teach is golden. Age is a number, youth is a mentality!
Long distance is somewhat hard. My guy had to go to Sweden for work after we met. It has been 2yrs and we have talked about marriage when he returns. I hope by the time he comes back, all of that is still there! We talk daily, and all feels well, but I'm getting frustrated that he isn't back yet. I understand the job, he wants to retire. I support that but I want to get busy living.....BIG BIG HUGGS Jonathan ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I’m happy for you. My boyfriend is a long distance relationship! It has been challenging but we have been both be open and transparent and honest. It’s very good and healthy. He wants a long term relationship and ready to commit to me. It takes two willing people who are open and willing to
Hi Jonathon Sooo very sharp view on the real facts of the matter! For me the fact that you even mention the differences in men and women is very helpful! Thank you And congratulation with your love Greetings from the Netherlands
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It all designated with me I am in a long distance relationship, my boyfriend is in the states & I’m in Australia we met online, & I had a lot of doubt it would never work, but he is so optimistic it’s contagious & we are making plans for the future
@@JonathonAslay we have only talked on line, FaceTime & will meet in person in December 2022. He says I need to trust him that things will be ok, I have never had a long distance relationship before so am not very trusting I guess. He says it drives him crazy that I think like that 🤗
The “have to make it work” and “failure is not an option” is what keeps people in abusive relationships!! It should NEVER be idolized ever again. Leaving a situation that is corrosive is the strongest and most honorable thing to do, there is no glory in accepting suffering and allowing the children to see their parents be miserable, tortured, and disrespected on the daily. Especially because the kids will always subconsciously keep attracting abusers until they finally figure out the patterns and heal, but that often happens too late, and might never happen.
Yes, I agree... I meant if TWO PEOPLE believe failure is not an option and both people want to work it out, I believe love can prevail. Abusive relationships one person is bad and I would not advocate staying in unhealthy relationship.
@@carlinetorweihe4246 the principal of “I won’t allow this marriage to fail” used to be idolized, idealized, and romanticized until very recently. “Sticking it out” and just enduring was what was praised. Regardless of the QUALITY of the relationship. That needs to stop right now.
Ladies look for old fashioned maybe older man. Someone who takes time off to be with you. Someone who tells you they love you. He trusts you and believes in you and tells you so and visa versa. You have something in common. Opposites do not attract really. You need each other and your useful to each other means you do things for the other person. You give each other Goose Bumps! You need to be together and phone is only a tool to check in.
I'm 2 years behind to see this, of course I didn't need this 2 years ago. But great stuff, ordered the books...I'll keep on with this advice. Thank you!
I just thought of the song "The Gambler" by Kenny Roger. You got to know WHEN to HOLD them. KNOW when to FOLD them. KNOW when to WALK AWAY, KNOW when TO RUN........HA HA HA
I'm so happy you found a great girlfriend, Jonathon!!💗😊 I hope you both have a lovely rest of your summer together.💕 Oh, is that a picture of her on your wall? She is GORGEOUS!!💗
I'm a widow in a LDR with a man who is coming to see me over 600 miles away, seems that we have a connection, who knows until we'll see each other face to face.
really interesting topic. I don't think women bond over the phone either. The phone chats mostly occur at home so there's no reason for a woman to get dressed up and go out at night or during the day. If there's a huge time difference there's a difference in energy levels during chats. Also conversations about relocation or when to catch up naturally come up earlier than if you lived closer because naturally people want to see each other.
you have no idea how much you helped me I started a relationship on line with an 80 years old I am a senior too I was in the Keys He in California widow as myself It had everything to work I am sure about but a next door lady got him so my advices for another stupid as myself Don’t wait find an excuse and drop by his city it may work or not but at least you had a chance
Hello Jonathon , You found a beautiful girl friend from Colombia and you are a lucky guy . I am so happy for you, finally . You deserve to be in love and deserve to connect with another human being and be happy . I wish you a happy and healthy life . Thank you for this great video . I wish you the best and I look forward to your new video and new wedding ! Please send us invitations . This is the best thing that has ever happened in your life lately . Grab this opportunity and make the best out of it .
I have been in a long distance for the past 3 yrs or more.it was never a place of desperation for me , to be honest you are more open but that might not suit others, i would not swap my fiance for the world and we do not have anything in common with what your content held
@@JonathonAslay NO, I WOKE UP "BEFORE" I GOT BURNED BECAUSE I REALIZED THAT "EVERY TIME" I "SAW" THIS GUY BECAUSE HE WAS "SO" HANDSOME I JUST GOT ALL LA-LA AND NOBODY CAN BE THAT GREAT ALL THE TIME, BUT "HIS GREAT LOOKS AND SMILE" WAS ALWAYS A GREAT "DISTRACTION" FROM THE "REAL HIM" USING ME FOR HIS NEEDS, ALL I WANTED WAS TO JUMP HIS GORGEOUS BONES EVERY TIME I "PHYSICALLY SAW HIM"!! WORKED EVERY TIME!! AS THEY SAY, I COULDNT SEE THE FOREST FOR THE TREES? GREAT BEAUTY "HIDES" GREAT FLAWS, ESPECIALLY PERIODIC LDR PRE-PLANNED VISITS!! NO UNEXPECTED VISITS OR SPONTANEITY? REAL LIFE! LDR ROMANCE = LDR MARRIAGE AFTER THEY "HOOK" YOU!!!
I thought it could work but the lack of intimacy doomed it for me. We met and since we both were getting over our spouses deaths, I was ready, she really wasn't, and it had to end for me. It was ripping apart my emotions.
1:08 Wish it was ! There are as mane kinds of relationships as there are people....I am to tired this morning to tell about the long distance rs, I 've had for more than 2 years now.......being two people passed 70' it is still "situationships" and old wounds, that somehow are the the tough subjects...and this one has certain issues, I should like to tell you about some day, Jonathan, Love, Sophie in DK❤
Jonathan congratulations my darling handsome man I would go after you and give her a run for her money but I'm 82 so I think I'll just leave it at that and you sound so happy and so excited I hope she is worthy of you God bless you Jonathan
Sometimes the distance is a blessing in disguise because it prevents a soul-tie from happening. When you're in the same city, you can still develop an unhealthy attachment because the both of you are too accessible.
Been in long distance relationship for 8 years waiting for our plan and life together💕George William I love you but it is hard i would not give up on us
I love long distance love. My 2nd one. I do not need a babysitter. Since 4/24 I emailed a question. 2 days later he called back with an answer. as of now 1/8/25 the last two months he CALLS EVERY DAY... FOR NOVEMBER HE MISSED 2 DAY. I VISITED HIS CITY FOR CHRISTMAS. We met no fourth of July feeling s . We partied two day. NO SEX , NO KISS STILL CALLING
yes, you are super, and I have been telling you I am in a ldr ..London/Almeria, he works internationally, and is 10 years younger, I have been retired 15 years..our ldr is 5years strong.. but little physical contact, covid, so many cancellations of flights, holidays, hotels etc…and sadly for me no commitment …..am thinking of calling you as I do not want to rumble along for another 5 years ….
Jonathan I’ve heard you speak against sitting in your feminine energy but honestly, I’m almost certain that that’s exactly what attracted you to your girlfriend. A woman being in her feminine energy is not about sitting still and “hoping a man finds you and does all the work”. It’s more about being in touch with your feelings and being open to receive. Embracing all the things that are beautiful and unique about you and knowing what you are worthy of. I’m pretty sure that if your girlfriend was chasing you, leading the relationship, and acting out of desperation it would have turned you off. She is beautiful and appears to be a feminine woman. The teaching on how to be feminine was never meant for men anyway because what happens is that you (men) end up speaking against something that actually DOES work on you lol… You and your girlfriend work because you are polar opposites- she is feminine and you are masculine. It wouldn’t even feel right to you if she was a masculine woman. You all would clash. #JustSomethingToThinkAbout
"It’s more about being in touch with your feelings and being open to receive. Embracing all the things that are beautiful and unique about you and knowing what you are worthy of. " Why is feminine energy? Why can't men do this as well? BTW, if you ask my g/f she would tell you that I am more of the emotionally expressive one in the relationship, and we even joked she acted like a man, in the beginning, being less open/walled up. In fact, she even chased (made more effort) from the start as well. This is why I don't like the rhetoric because being a good healthy human is about both giving/receiving, and a lot of the feminine energy teachings set women up to expect more from the man, and given how f'd up men are... it's not going to work as they intend (IMHO).
One more thing, I feel like we work because of alignment vs. polarity. We have so much in common and we feel equally matched in our temperament and where we have a weakness, the other person has a strength which allows for balance because our egos don't judge the other person for the so-called (weakness) differences. Now, you might be looking at her femininity and yes, she acts like a feminine woman and yet she is strong in character and speaks up if something is on her mind (which is neither feminine nor masculine). And this is why I think we get along so well.
What if your girlfriend doesn't stay "chill". It was 3 years before my boyfriend saw the unchill side of me because I was triggered by something he did ( no, not cheating or anything like that) that reminded me of something that had happened in a prior bad relationship. Anyway my point is how will you react if and when that time comes.
Hi! I must say I agree with about 90% of your message. Men will build a connection on the phone when they have to. I have just recently found myself in this exact situation. He found me on Facebook, I responded & we have been chatting everyday for hours through texting for about 3 weeks. Now he is in the Military & currently deployed, but will be back in Florida in September. We have discussed everything & I mean everything. We have already committed to marriage very soon after he gets back. He has been engaged before so he knows what it is to be in love. Never married for me. However, I know what I want & he fits that mold. This isn't us being desperate or settling, but truly finding what we want in one another. We have sent pics, but never video chat & we are both on the same page. There is absolutely nothing left to do, but meet & get married. So YES it can work if you have done all the steps that you mentioned.
Question: Can anybody answer my question? A guy called me on the phone because of our similar comments abt. an article in Jerusalem Post. We are sending emails, including photos and shorts, each day. We live in an 800 km distance. He has had a very complicated operation and cannot travel right now, also because of his dog, whom he can only take in a car-ride. We have no idea, when we'll meet. Should I suggest to visit him first? I think he is ashamed of himself for not "functioning" the way he does. He describes himself as bear that retreated into his cave until he will be "normal" again.
Do I see a "kippa"? When there is no rabbi available, one of the "elders" can officiate in his absence. Sticking at a marriage is important for this group. They usually find the partner for the person concerned. Thousands of years of tradition makes them pretty good "Matchmakers" (Anatevka).
Beware of early vacation behavior! People are usually happy and easy going when they are on vacation and at a resort. It is not indicative of true life. Just beware.
I think it’s a mistake going on a honeymoon until you really know someone very well. I would use that money to visit each other in your own cities, and really get to see and know each other in your everyday surroundings. Personally, I need to see how someone reacts in traffic, with their family, when everyday irritations occur, during work-life stressors, etc. Most people are just great on holiday! Especially at a beautiful resort!
You are mixing things up and parsing my words. Having conversations about doing things doesn't make it facts. In addition, just because I might hope to be married in 10 years' time isn't a fact, merely thoughts. Thoughts/feelings are not facts. Regarding the communication before we met, I'm including telephone, text, and even our FB activity with each other. My feeling as I expressed in the videos, I felt I was meeting a friend vs. a total stranger. Lastly, just because something is ideal, like 3 or 4 days a week, is not set in stone, it's just an ideal, and furthermore, it's about spending regular time together, which we are trying to figure out given the distance.
If a client described the details (which I have not shared all the details with my audience), I would say... go for it. If she and her guy read 8 Dates, recited the dating vows and the check the boxes on my Relationship Iceberg... I'd say go for it.
@@ceregirl5852 not everyone can travel well together. There are a lot of opportunities for stressful situations. Like canceled flights, lost luggage etc. my ex could only “hold it together” for a few days even at a beautiful resort. Take a road trip driving for more than 6 hours as well. Peoples true colors will come out then as well.
@@sherryj738 I don’t want to get into details but I just got some input that I can apply into my life. It got me thinking about things to consider for my future plans.
I met a man 3 days ago on the POF dating site and he let me know first that he is his surgeon working in Ukraine. And and so we've been chatting for a few days and he's very intentional with his belief that we are going to make this work out. But I feel love bombed and it's uncomfortable. Should I wait and see or just wait for him to come back and me in person before I make any decisions about the future?
Not hearing about your investment in going to see her…I understand she knows people in LA, but that’s not what I’m talking about. I would be looking for that step in investment from a man if I was doing long distance
MAKE YOUR CHOICES FOR YOU, RIGHT OR WRONG, THATS ALL ANY OF US CAN DO!!! PERIOD. FYI STOP TAKING THAT "LOVE PILL" YOUR TAKING AT LEAST A FEW DAYS BEFORE YOU START MAKING THOSE LONG TERM DECISIONS!!!
Jonathon I watch you everyday and have my friends of both sexes. I love the fuck word and don't ever confirm to the eminions. I do take your therapy words and let it sink in. My friends say I always pick the guys who are emotional unavailable. I never needed a man to take care of me but for some reason I want to care for them. No so much money . But cooking and other things but on the other I'm a very hyper person before I got sick. I have felt feelings for guys that Ive just met and said hey this is weird but this is how I'm feeling. Of course I don't get the looks I think that deserves and there you are I'm embarrassed and confused. Most if my relationships were just that relationships. Now that I'm older and a little slower I've started dating. Just to see whats out there. A friend that I haven't seen in 30 years was one of first ones. This dude would actually make my whole body tremple
But he would push all my buttons at once I always stick up myself because there is not another person in my corner. They get confused and start backing away. I find him very sexy at this age but he does not believe me. Too bad because he is gorgeous. Then there is a younger man who claims to have loved me for some time.,anyway don't settle down please because I can only absord
Long-distance relationships require lots of face-to-face time to have any chance of working. Plus, there needs to be a real plan in place to shorten the distance. So video-only calls without face-to-face rarely work out.
My ex and I were 5 hours apart once we started dating and traveled to meet each other. 2 months into our relationship, his company had to close down their location and now have him traveling for his job in addition to doing his PhD. Due to this he broke off the relationship with reasoning of I can't bear the pressure and thought of everything and I can't handle this. I offered anything I could think of to try to make this work. But he said that this will be too much for him to handle, not being able to tend to our relationship. Should I just move on, or is there anything that I could offer? We just had such a good connection and hit it off from day 1.... So torn... idk what to do...
Women equally desire a face to face relationship and equally desire sex just as much as men. To be honest its not even a male vs a female thing, its based on the depth of their soul connection with each other. Some women can be very sexual than men 😊 it all comes down to the chemistry between the people. In the end its their soul connection to each other and honesty towards each other. Thats why humans are complicated. Its a case by case and not one size fits all.
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The pain in my heart is unbearable, my husband leaving our marriage have put a ton in my heart, I have been telling myself am strong enough but am not sure I am, I haven’t been able to get him of my mind, I just want him back.
This is a very familiar pain. I know how unbearable it feels.
Did you go through similar situation and how did you deal with it?
Yes I did but I got my partner back with the help of a spiritual Counsellor Father Akabu. He has a gift for restoring broken relationships.
Do you think he can help me?
I’m sure he can. You can find him online he’s a very powerful spiritualist.
To quote you " You cant say the wrong thing to the "right person!!" I believe that too. All others will fall by the wayside for one reason or another!!
Very true. Debra.
Once again, your words make so much sense. I loved your final summary with the point of living life to the fullest and stop wasting time on relationships going nowhere. Your words are very pertinent to me right now. Thank you- just what I needed to hear! I am so happy for you and your girlfriend- I know you have been wanting this and you have manifested it- you’ve done that self reflection and created a wonderful life. Thank you for being a role model and living/practicing what you say!! Best wishes, Jonathan!!
awe... thank you.
I've never had luck with long distance relationships. The last one I was in ended rather quickly. Good luck for anyone out there. I have heard of ones that work.
I've been in a long distance relationship for 18 months. Met him in 1995, we wrote letters and called on the phone for 3 years before internet, then it fizzled out. We were young. We reconnected 18 months ago but, alas, still long distance. My kids are grown up, his are small so he won't be able to move. We have never been physically intimate but are such good friends that it's painful to be away from him. We can talk for hours on the phone and time flies by. Hoping for a happy ending in a year or two.
Do you have a plan?
@Jonathon Aslay Somewhat, not written in stone. I have to wait for my youngest to graduate school in a year and go off to college and then maybe we'll get serious or maybe it will fizzle out. For now, we are friends that care a lot for each other and visit each other occasionally.
I wouldn’t consider your dynamic a real long distance relationship because you have met in person and went on many dates and felt in-person chemistry from the very beginning. You guys weren’t only seeing each other through the phone.
Also, it’s a wonderful thing that your girlfriend wants to move to your city! That means it was always meant to be. I feel so happy for you as if you were my uncle or teacher. You deserve to be happy, and to prove that your methods are healthy and do work, lol.
And you will ALWAYS be relevant, Jonathan! You are an absolute gem. Everything you are and teach is golden. Age is a number, youth is a mentality!
WOW! Thanks... I really appreciate your message; it just made my morning. HUGS
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Sooo Happy for you Jonathan !! You deserve it!! Wishing you both much joy and love!! ❤️👏🏼👏🏼😄
That's awesome that you found someone to share your time with.💞
awe... thanks.
Long distance is somewhat hard. My guy had to go to Sweden for work after we met. It has been 2yrs and we have talked about marriage when he returns. I hope by the time he comes back, all of that is still there! We talk daily, and all feels well, but I'm getting frustrated that he isn't back yet. I understand the job, he wants to retire. I support that but I want to get busy living.....BIG BIG HUGGS Jonathan ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
thank you
@@robinemery are you guys married now??
I’m happy for you. My boyfriend is a long distance relationship! It has been challenging but we have been both be open and transparent and honest. It’s very good and healthy. He wants a long term relationship and ready to commit to me. It takes two willing people who are open and willing to
Hi Jonathon
Sooo very sharp view on the real facts of the matter!
For me the fact that you even mention the differences in men and women is very helpful!
Thank you
And congratulation with your love
Greetings from the Netherlands
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks!
awe... thank you. Much appreciated.
Excellent and absolutely true. You have to be intentional or else you're fooling yourself and the other person. Thanks Jonathon.
How much each of you give and how little each of you take for granted, will determine the success of a relationship.
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Great point...
It all designated with me I am in a long distance relationship, my boyfriend is in the states & I’m in Australia we met online, & I had a lot of doubt it would never work, but he is so optimistic it’s contagious & we are making plans for the future
How many times have you spent face-to-face with each other?
@@JonathonAslay we have only talked on line, FaceTime & will meet in person in December 2022. He says I need to trust him that things will be ok, I have never had a long distance relationship before so am not very trusting I guess. He says it drives him crazy that I think like that 🤗
I'll take a guess that it didn't work out. And calling someone your boyfriend and you have never met is quite simply insane!
It's normal to not trust a complete stranger. Trust has to be built in person.
The “have to make it work” and “failure is not an option” is what keeps people in abusive relationships!! It should NEVER be idolized ever again.
Leaving a situation that is corrosive is the strongest and most honorable thing to do, there is no glory in accepting suffering and allowing the children to see their parents be miserable, tortured, and disrespected on the daily.
Especially because the kids will always subconsciously keep attracting abusers until they finally figure out the patterns and heal, but that often happens too late, and might never happen.
Idolize? Uphold. Upholding an abusive situation.
Yes, I agree... I meant if TWO PEOPLE believe failure is not an option and both people want to work it out, I believe love can prevail. Abusive relationships one person is bad and I would not advocate staying in unhealthy relationship.
@@carlinetorweihe4246 the principal of “I won’t allow this marriage to fail” used to be idolized, idealized, and romanticized until very recently. “Sticking it out” and just enduring was what was praised. Regardless of the QUALITY of the relationship. That needs to stop right now.
Abuse is a trauma bond.
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Safe People by Henry Cloud
Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
@@winxclubstellamusait's definitely still a thing in religious communities
Thank you for this video. Your videos are always so helpful to me. 👏
Ladies he is on point and I can state had I known this I would not have wasted 5 years of nothing
Thanks for sharing 🙏
I just started a long distance relationship…. 3 hour plane ride. So thank you so much for covering this topic!! ❤
Ladies look for old fashioned maybe older man. Someone who takes time off to be with you. Someone who tells you they love you. He trusts you and believes in you and tells you so and visa versa. You have something in common. Opposites do not attract really. You need each other and your useful to each other means you do things for the other person. You give each other Goose Bumps! You need to be together and phone is only a tool to check in.
You don't know how you made me think about my long distance relationship. Thank you very much 🙏
I'm so glad!
Great advice at the end!! ❤️❤️❤️
Thailand you are welcome. I love your videos, inspire and very helpful. Yes being power in life
Well definitely you look happier Jonathan!
I'm 2 years behind to see this, of course I didn't need this 2 years ago. But great stuff, ordered the books...I'll keep on with this advice. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Yeah .. I am watching this for the first time.. Love JA
I just thought of the song "The Gambler" by Kenny Roger. You got to know WHEN to HOLD them. KNOW when to FOLD them. KNOW when to WALK AWAY, KNOW when TO RUN........HA HA HA
Dating vows? That sounds interesting and something I need to use in my new long-distance relationship.💗 Thank you!! xo
You’re welcome 😊
I love listening to you ! you tell like it is!
I hope you never stop giving your advice!
awe... thank you.
Jonathan, that's awesome that you and your girlfriend read the 8 Dates book together! That book has helped me too.☺
Yeah! I'm happy for you and thank you.
I'm so happy you found a great girlfriend, Jonathon!!💗😊
I hope you both have a lovely rest of your summer together.💕
Oh, is that a picture of her on your wall? She is GORGEOUS!!💗
Thank you so much!!
I realize that I was falling in love to terrorist in the past time. So it's over now. I start over, love myself and keep positive with my life.
We do have a plan for our whole relationship
I'm a widow in a LDR with a man who is coming to see me over 600 miles away, seems that we have a connection, who knows until we'll see each other face to face.
Omg she made it to the Mix Tiles! That’s true blue!
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💜💜💜So happy to hear about all that has transpired with you and your girlfriend. 🥰💜💜💜
Bonding from a place of trauma is on point
I'm happy for you Jonathan.
really interesting topic. I don't think women bond over the phone either. The phone chats mostly occur at home so there's no reason for a woman to get dressed up and go out at night or during the day. If there's a huge time difference there's a difference in energy levels during chats. Also conversations about relocation or when to catch up naturally come up earlier than if you lived closer because naturally people want to see each other.
It seems like they do from my experience...
you have no idea how much you helped me I started a relationship on line with an 80 years old I am a senior too I was in the Keys He in California widow as myself It had everything to work I am sure about but a next door lady got him so my advices for another stupid as myself Don’t wait find an excuse and drop by his city it may work or not but at least you had a chance
🙏
Good for you!
Look if two people are that committed it will work the problem is commitment
Hello Jonathon , You found a beautiful girl friend from Colombia and you are a lucky guy . I am so happy for you, finally . You deserve to be in love and deserve to connect with another human being and be happy . I wish you a happy and healthy life . Thank you for this great video . I wish you the best and I look forward to your new video and new wedding ! Please send us invitations . This is the best thing that has ever happened in your life lately . Grab this opportunity and make the best out of it .
yess
awe... thank you. Your message made my day.
Agree
I have been in a long distance for the past 3 yrs or more.it was never a place of desperation for me ,
to be honest you are more open but that might not suit others,
i would not swap my fiance for the world and we do not have anything in common with what your content held
IT JUST "AMAZING" TO ME HOW "BLIND" EVEN SMART PEOPLE CAN BE WHEN IT COMES TO LOVES???
Amen. LOL!
That's true... sounds like you've been burned before.
@@JonathonAslay NO, I WOKE UP "BEFORE" I GOT BURNED BECAUSE I REALIZED THAT "EVERY TIME" I "SAW" THIS GUY BECAUSE HE WAS "SO" HANDSOME I JUST GOT ALL LA-LA AND NOBODY CAN BE THAT GREAT ALL THE TIME, BUT "HIS GREAT LOOKS AND SMILE" WAS ALWAYS A GREAT "DISTRACTION" FROM THE "REAL HIM" USING ME FOR HIS NEEDS, ALL I WANTED WAS TO JUMP HIS GORGEOUS BONES EVERY TIME I "PHYSICALLY SAW HIM"!! WORKED EVERY TIME!! AS THEY SAY, I COULDNT SEE THE FOREST FOR THE TREES? GREAT BEAUTY "HIDES" GREAT FLAWS, ESPECIALLY PERIODIC LDR PRE-PLANNED VISITS!! NO UNEXPECTED VISITS OR SPONTANEITY? REAL LIFE! LDR ROMANCE = LDR MARRIAGE AFTER THEY "HOOK" YOU!!!
I thought it could work but the lack of intimacy doomed it for me. We met and since we both were getting over our spouses deaths, I was ready, she really wasn't, and it had to end for me. It was ripping apart my emotions.
God's blessings and healing to all Amen 🍀🙏😇😇🙏😇🙏
You have to have trust I don't believe in long distance either
Congratulations so excited for and your future Mrs!!
My long distance just ghosted on me even after agreeing to meet me...
In a long distance relationship THEY ALWAYS KNOW WHEN YOU ARE COMING BY and when you visit them THEY CAN ALWAYS "PREPARE" FOR YOUR VISIT --- STAGED...
You pretty "Cool Cat". Thanks for input!
Yes, that's risk but what about LDR's that are only a few hours away?
1:08 Wish it was ! There are as mane kinds of relationships as there are people....I am to tired this morning to tell about the long distance rs, I 've had for more than 2 years now.......being two people passed 70' it is still "situationships" and old wounds, that somehow are the the tough subjects...and this one has certain issues, I should like to tell you about some day, Jonathan, Love, Sophie in DK❤
I am getting married one more time, but I will NOT get a divorce because we will work it out, this time.💗
Jonathan going thru that now. Great advice.
All my best...
I have fallen in love with a Man out of country and he professes his underlying love for me and we will be meeting in a couple months
Jonathan congratulations my darling handsome man I would go after you and give her a run for her money but I'm 82 so I think I'll just leave it at that and you sound so happy and so excited I hope she is worthy of you God bless you Jonathan
Sometimes the distance is a blessing in disguise because it prevents a soul-tie from happening. When you're in the same city, you can still develop an unhealthy attachment because the both of you are too accessible.
It goes the same when you end up living together. That’s typically when the fights and arguments start over petty stuff
Been in long distance relationship for 8 years waiting for our plan and life together💕George William I love you but it is hard i would not give up on us
Love it. 😊
I love long distance love. My 2nd one. I do not need a babysitter. Since 4/24 I emailed a question. 2 days later he called back with an answer. as of now 1/8/25 the last two months he CALLS EVERY DAY... FOR NOVEMBER HE MISSED 2 DAY. I VISITED HIS CITY FOR CHRISTMAS. We met no fourth of July feeling s . We partied two day. NO SEX , NO KISS
STILL CALLING
Sounds like a cyber relationship
I think a long ditance can work it takes work !❤
Yes... I agree
yes, you are super, and I have been telling you I am in a ldr ..London/Almeria, he works internationally, and is 10 years younger, I have been retired 15 years..our ldr is 5years strong.. but little physical contact, covid, so many cancellations of flights, holidays, hotels etc…and sadly for me no commitment …..am thinking of calling you as I do not want to rumble along for another 5 years ….
Schedule a session if you want to unpack this relationship...
Jonathan I’ve heard you speak against sitting in your feminine energy but honestly, I’m almost certain that that’s exactly what attracted you to your girlfriend. A woman being in her feminine energy is not about sitting still and “hoping a man finds you and does all the work”. It’s more about being in touch with your feelings and being open to receive. Embracing all the things that are beautiful and unique about you and knowing what you are worthy of. I’m pretty sure that if your girlfriend was chasing you, leading the relationship, and acting out of desperation it would have turned you off. She is beautiful and appears to be a feminine woman. The teaching on how to be feminine was never meant for men anyway because what happens is that you (men) end up speaking against something that actually DOES work on you lol… You and your girlfriend work because you are polar opposites- she is feminine and you are masculine. It wouldn’t even feel right to you if she was a masculine woman. You all would clash. #JustSomethingToThinkAbout
"It’s more about being in touch with your feelings and being open to receive. Embracing all the things that are beautiful and unique about you and knowing what you are worthy of. " Why is feminine energy? Why can't men do this as well? BTW, if you ask my g/f she would tell you that I am more of the emotionally expressive one in the relationship, and we even joked she acted like a man, in the beginning, being less open/walled up. In fact, she even chased (made more effort) from the start as well. This is why I don't like the rhetoric because being a good healthy human is about both giving/receiving, and a lot of the feminine energy teachings set women up to expect more from the man, and given how f'd up men are... it's not going to work as they intend (IMHO).
One more thing, I feel like we work because of alignment vs. polarity. We have so much in common and we feel equally matched in our temperament and where we have a weakness, the other person has a strength which allows for balance because our egos don't judge the other person for the so-called (weakness) differences. Now, you might be looking at her femininity and yes, she acts like a feminine woman and yet she is strong in character and speaks up if something is on her mind (which is neither feminine nor masculine). And this is why I think we get along so well.
I truly wish i could find true love again
I won't get married again. Its easy to get in it but hard to get out. Men have a hard time staying with one woman without cheating I've found.
You said it, Babe. Thanx.
That's not true for all men
There is truth in that statement Laurie.
Thx for sharing the vision of your future. I luv it, specially the part of the orange dripping. From your mouth to God's ears. Best wishes to you💮
What happens if he is at war?? 😢
You are just awesome!
Wow, thank you!
yep, and phone calls are not a relationship
Exactly
Exactly. Real and grownup relationships are in person.
Thanks for this Amazing information.
You're very welcome.
What if your girlfriend doesn't stay "chill". It was 3 years before my boyfriend saw the unchill side of me because I was triggered by something he did ( no, not cheating or anything like that) that reminded me of something that had happened in a prior bad relationship.
Anyway my point is how will you react if and when that time comes.
We talk about triggers when they occur...
Thank you Jonathon,
You're very welcome...
Hi! I must say I agree with about 90% of your message. Men will build a connection on the phone when they have to.
I have just recently found myself in this exact situation. He found me on Facebook, I responded & we have been chatting everyday for hours through texting for about 3 weeks. Now he is in the Military & currently deployed, but will be back in Florida in September. We have discussed everything & I mean everything. We have already committed to marriage very soon after he gets back. He has been engaged before so he knows what it is to be in love. Never married for me. However, I know what I want & he fits that mold. This isn't us being desperate or settling, but truly finding what we want in one another. We have sent pics, but never video chat & we are both on the same page. There is absolutely nothing left to do, but meet & get married. So YES it can work if you have done all the steps that you mentioned.
Sounds like a romance scam… please see Dr.phill scams
I'm in a long distance relationship with a celebrity. How do I keep this relationship together?
Pray... 🙏
happy for u n your so tight i moved frm fla . n it was a flop but yrs later met my soul mate . thks well ttaight
Question:
Can anybody answer my question?
A guy called me on the phone because of our similar comments abt. an article in Jerusalem Post. We are sending emails, including photos and shorts, each day. We live in an 800 km distance. He has had a very complicated operation and cannot travel right now, also because of his dog, whom he can only take in a car-ride. We have no idea, when we'll meet. Should I suggest to visit him first? I think he is ashamed of himself for not "functioning" the way he does. He describes himself as bear that retreated into his cave until he will be "normal" again.
Do what feels right for you.
Long distance relationships work, if you "work" them. 😉💗
Love that!
Do I see a "kippa"? When there is no rabbi available, one of the "elders" can officiate in his absence. Sticking at a marriage is important for this group. They usually find the partner for the person concerned. Thousands of years of tradition makes them pretty good "Matchmakers" (Anatevka).
Kippa?
Beware of early vacation behavior! People are usually happy and easy going when they are on vacation and at a resort. It is not indicative of true life. Just beware.
I think it’s a mistake going on a honeymoon until you really know someone very well. I would use that money to visit each other in your own cities, and really get to see and know each other in your everyday surroundings. Personally, I need to see how someone reacts in traffic, with their family, when everyday irritations occur, during work-life stressors, etc. Most people are just great on holiday! Especially at a beautiful resort!
My friend says vacations can make or break a relationship... I tend to agree.
You are mixing things up and parsing my words. Having conversations about doing things doesn't make it facts. In addition, just because I might hope to be married in 10 years' time isn't a fact, merely thoughts. Thoughts/feelings are not facts. Regarding the communication before we met, I'm including telephone, text, and even our FB activity with each other. My feeling as I expressed in the videos, I felt I was meeting a friend vs. a total stranger. Lastly, just because something is ideal, like 3 or 4 days a week, is not set in stone, it's just an ideal, and furthermore, it's about spending regular time together, which we are trying to figure out given the distance.
If a client described the details (which I have not shared all the details with my audience), I would say... go for it. If she and her guy read 8 Dates, recited the dating vows and the check the boxes on my Relationship Iceberg... I'd say go for it.
@@ceregirl5852 not everyone can travel well together. There are a lot of opportunities for stressful situations. Like canceled flights, lost luggage etc. my ex could only “hold it together” for a few days even at a beautiful resort.
Take a road trip driving for more than 6 hours as well. Peoples true colors will come out then as well.
New subscriber here. Nice content. Got a lot of insight. Thanks!
@@sherryj738 I don’t want to get into details but I just got some input that I can apply into my life. It got me thinking about things to consider for my future plans.
Awesome, thank you!
Would you suggest sharing this video with the person you have been talking to on the phone?
I thought the exact same thing Pat .
I believe yes
@@JonathonAslay Thank you Jonathon ❤️from NC
I met a man 3 days ago on the POF dating site and he let me know first that he is his surgeon working in Ukraine. And and so we've been chatting for a few days and he's very intentional with his belief that we are going to make this work out. But I feel love bombed and it's uncomfortable. Should I wait and see or just wait for him to come back and me in person before I make any decisions about the future?
Not hearing about your investment in going to see her…I understand she knows people in LA, but that’s not what I’m talking about. I would be looking for that step in investment from a man if I was doing long distance
I'm visiting her twice in the next 60 days.
Your girlfriend is absolutely gorgeous. I wish you all the best.
enjoy
TY
Jonathan im going thru that now. Great advice. Guesss im quiting. Dating app. Is making us crazy!
You got this!
*** YOU NEED TO SPEND 2 WEEKS IN HER ENVIRONMENT CHICAGO AND MEET HER CLOSE FRIENDS "BEFORE" SHE MOVES TO CALIFORNIA!!!!!!
That will happen in 3 weeks... and I'm visiting twice.
Super ‼️
MAKE YOUR CHOICES FOR YOU, RIGHT OR WRONG, THATS ALL ANY OF US CAN DO!!! PERIOD. FYI STOP TAKING THAT "LOVE PILL" YOUR TAKING AT LEAST A FEW DAYS BEFORE YOU START MAKING THOSE LONG TERM DECISIONS!!!
You do seem happier, Jonathon, since you met your new girlfriend.
😊💗😊
Can an older woman share a relationship at this later age in life?? A meaningful relationship???
Nice glasses. 🤓
Jonathon I watch you everyday and have my friends of both sexes. I love the fuck word and don't ever confirm to the eminions. I do take your therapy words and let it sink in. My friends say I always pick the guys who are emotional unavailable. I never needed a man to take care of me but for some reason I want to care for them. No so much money . But cooking and other things but on the other I'm a very hyper person before I got sick. I have felt feelings for guys that Ive just met and said hey this is weird but this is how I'm feeling. Of course I don't get the looks I think that deserves and there you are I'm embarrassed and confused. Most if my relationships were just that relationships. Now that I'm older and a little slower I've started dating. Just to see whats out there. A friend that I haven't seen in 30 years was one of first ones. This dude would actually make my whole body tremple
But he would push all my buttons at once I always stick up myself because there is not another person in my corner. They get confused and start backing away. I find him very sexy at this age but he does not believe me. Too bad because he is gorgeous. Then there is a younger man who claims to have loved me for some time.,anyway don't settle down please because I can only absord
If the connection is real and the guy is a good guy sex wont make him leave. We already have plans to meet up each month of the next several months.
Thank you
Thank you...
I’m suddenly curious about you and your girlfriends ages. What are they?
similar
We are tail end baby boomers.
Does it make a difference if the long distance connection is conducted not by phone but via video calls/facetime? 🤔
Long-distance relationships require lots of face-to-face time to have any chance of working. Plus, there needs to be a real plan in place to shorten the distance. So video-only calls without face-to-face rarely work out.
My ex and I were 5 hours apart once we started dating and traveled to meet each other. 2 months into our relationship, his company had to close down their location and now have him traveling for his job in addition to doing his PhD. Due to this he broke off the relationship with reasoning of I can't bear the pressure and thought of everything and I can't handle this. I offered anything I could think of to try to make this work. But he said that this will be too much for him to handle, not being able to tend to our relationship. Should I just move on, or is there anything that I could offer? We just had such a good connection and hit it off from day 1.... So torn... idk what to do...
I have that book 📕
Which one...
@@JonathonAslay on how to communicate. I actually have several books you recommended.
You’re hilarious and have a gorgeous girlfriend. Definitely how I want to live at your age
She ended it
@@JonathonAslayReally? Why?
Women equally desire a face to face relationship and equally desire sex just as much as men. To be honest its not even a male vs a female thing, its based on the depth of their soul connection with each other. Some women can be very sexual than men 😊 it all comes down to the chemistry between the people. In the end its their soul connection to each other and honesty towards each other. Thats why humans are complicated. Its a case by case and not one size fits all.
Well said 👏