I love the part where the mistress is so Catholic that she wants to marry in a cathedral, but not Catholic enough to be a mistress. Oh! The hypocrisy! 😂
Lol, hypocrisy is their trademark, but I get your point. Also, he seems like a manipulative narcissist so in a way she probably would have been better off not marrying him in the end.
I was thinking the same thing and searching the comments for this point. That request was 1000% weird and considering the context, they should have gone to a JOP to marry.
Charlotte, as a born Catholic, who went to Catholic school and Catholic college, I believe this story is even Worse than you think. Although I've since left the Church, I still know the rules. It sounds like They don't want to just get married in this Cathedral because they like the building. They want to get "Married in the Church" which is a Sacrament. And the only way that can happen for someone divorced is to have the Church Annul that first marriage. So the reason the priest wanted to meet with you could be to proceed with the annulment process. Which means he wanted to wipe out your first marriage as if it didn't exist. Those people are Monsters!!! I am so glad you didn't go. I can't imagine how devastating that would have been for you. Please don't delete me as a subscriber. I love your channel, and you, and have no desire to hurt you. In fact I thought long and hard before writing this. But you seem to be a truly fine and loving person and you do not deserve this. And you seem to be looking for answers. They didn't even have the respect and courtesy to tell you what they were really up to. So your instincts were absolutely accurate. Never speak to any of these people again. Stick with the people who love you. You definitely made the right choice. Much love and many hugs.🤗❤💚
@@TracyD2 I just didn't want her to delete the messenger. If this is new news, and she was really upset (I would have been) I simply hoped she wouldn't react. This is a particularly upsetting story for anyone. I'm furious at what these people tried to do. So I can't imagine she wouldn't be as well. Just didn't want the negative association to stick on me too, I guess. Nothing, Nothing bad about Charlotte, I assure you.
As Charlotte was telling the story and mentioned that the woman was a Catholic, the first thing I thought of was the aunullment process. I used to be Catholic too and know how they operate.
@@Iwona886 Indeed. This goes back for hundreds of years. It's why Anne Boleyn drove Henry VIII to create the Anglican Church. Catherine of Aragon wouldn't agree to annul her marriage to Henry, so Anne and Henry couldn't have their marriage sanctified by the Catholic Church. It spawned major upheavals in Britain and the eventual start of the UK state religion. And the Catholics and Anglicans in England, Scotland, and Ireland have been fighting ever since. Of course, when Henry took back all of the Catholic Church's property, killed a bunch of priests, and stole all of the precious metals and relics, as a pressure tactic against the Pope, it was bound to tick a lot of people off. Wars in the UK were fought for centuries after that for that very reason. And many Kings and Queens killed as well. So, in this story, Charlotte is our Catherine.
I think your ex is a complete narcissist!! This request and his actions just show what a coward and cad he is! I am so glad you didn't respond and that you took the high road by being so kind about the whole thing. Lastly, I am most happy with the fact that you are happier than ever! You deserve the very best life! You are a gem! ❤
I love that the woman wasn't too Catholic to cheat with a married man, but was suddenly Catholic when it came to her own wedding. And the husband not having the balls to ask himself and making another woman do it for him. Their behavior wasn't just rude or unreasonable, it was downright abusive. So glad this guy is in your rear view mirror, Charlotte.
I agree the silence from him is deafening but to send papers to her place of work is even worse, some company’s open all mail as policy, thank goodness for a discrete administrator a nosy one should have Charlotte’s business all over the office. It is absolutely disgraceful. He did the deed, suck up the consequences. So angry for Charlotte. Knowing someone who went through an annulment she did absolutely the right thing.
The one that sticks for me was his saying that you won’t be a good mother. Fast forward and your love and complete commitment to your husband and especially, your children, jumps off the screen. You are so sweet. Love Charlotte’s story time.
As a devout Catholic who is also divorced, you did the right Charlotte. If you had given the interview and been truthful, and they had not been allowed to get married in the cathedral, you would've been blamed. The audacity of your ex and his mistress was next level.
You’re absolutely right. “It’s not my fault I married and committed to this person and then cheated on her and got a divorce. It’s my ex-wife’s fault because I badgered her into talking to the church and she told the church what happened in 2010.”
Ohh...I would talk to that priest... "oh yeah, it was a huge affair, lots of sex I hear, lots of profanity, alcohol. If it's a sin, they did it. You know, I dont even think he's religious. He's an atheist, actually. Lots of priest jokes. Jokes about you specifically, actually " 😂
I would have talked to the Priest too but only to tell him the truth. Charlotte's right. They had to have lied to him. As a Catholic I don't see how anything she would have said would have benefited them. I don't go looking for trouble but if it knocks on my door and I know I'm not in the wrong in any way I will address the situation...
My guess is the priest was trying to determine if your Ex could pursue an annulment. I’m a divorced Catholic and know that the church doesn’t recognize divorce. The only way a Catholic can marry or remarry in the church is if any previous marriage was annulled by the church. In a nutshell, an annulment means that the marriage should never have happened in the first place. You made the right decision to stay the heck out of it. Your Ex could have sought an annulment on his own. He was just trying to use you in an attempt to expedite the process.
He disregarded your feelings when he had an affair. He disregarded your feelings when he asked his friend to talk to you, and he continued to disregard your feelings when he allowed the priest to send you that letter. One person's feelings that he never, in any of those situations, disregarded was his own. He refused to swallow his pride or admit that he was wrong and ask you for your help. He knew that what he was asking of you was ridiculous, but there was no way he was going to put his feelings out there to please his mistress (fiancée). She is well aware of who she is getting married to. She has seen his traits. But let's not forget she also plays a huge role in this horrible situation as well. They deserve each other. I'm so happy that you have such a peaceful and happy life with Danny and your children. You deserve it!!❤
I originally found your channel when Mel passed away. You made a video speaking with such love and the way you described you, your feelings etc I just thought we were similar in a way. I saw the original divorce story and now this follow up if we can call it this way and I can only say you are such a nice person. Whoever can call you a friend, he or she is a lucky person ❤ and I genuinely love your unhinged stories 😂 they always make my day
As someone raised Catholic, I would have called the priest to tell that not only are they cheaters who have no respect of the Sacrament of marriage, but now they are using him to stalk you. I would, at that point, do my part to make sure they not only could not be married in that Church, but were not even feel welcome to even attend a Mass there. He was seeking to have your marriage annulled, deemed non-existent, which he would need to marry in the Church, but by lying and without even asking or telling you.
Who would imagine an ex-spouse would have such clueless gaul??? People never fail to amaze me with their self-absorption. I'm glad you put the letter in the shredder. People like that are 100% toxic.
Wow, just wow. Unhinged doesn’t really begin to cover it. I think you are being remarkably gracious in not finding a way to completely mess with such a charmer.
I feel like their severe lack of empathy really shows in this situation. They must know how much they have hurt you so to get back in touch and ask this from you...screams two narcissits in love to me! 😅😅 I give it a year. No marriage that starts from an affair can have much trust.
While I'm listening to your story I'm constantly wondering: WHAT did he expect you would tell that priest, that would be in their favour? WHAT was he thinking??? WAS he thinking at all? It reminds me of a nanny we had for one of our children and we split up in a not so nice way. After a few years I got a call from an unkonwn woman to whom the nany had given my number for recommendation. I was speechless... You handled the situation like a boss, Charlotte
Your ex's request, and the way it was made was most certainly "bonkers and unhinged ". Charlotte, you are incredibly thoughtful, gracious, and kind. You deserve every happiness in your life.
You are a better person than me. I would have had to tell the priest exactly what happened and then washed my hands. My ex had our marriage annulled for his next wife who was Catholic. I felt very strange about that. Like, so all of that pain and heartbreak didn’t happen? Right… I love your stories, Charlotte. I can’t imagine anyone being mean in response.
You are a far better person than I could ever be. I would have said yes just to unload on the priest and if they asked anything else of me, I would have walked out with a few choice word😅 you took the high ground and you are a strong, happy and healthy individual and good on you
Same. And I am a Christian, not catholic but Christian. 😅 😢 yet im 99% sure that after all that betrayal, heartbreak and cowardly moves… I’d have told the priest EVERYTHING. Literally everything. I guess im not a good person or Christian after all. :/ Although that rant would’ve been the truth. If the truth can cause any damage, it’s on them, I did what they asked me for. 😂
You gave the situation careful consideration and handled everything in a classy manner. Major respect and hearing this story, I have to say my flabber was gasted...loved that:) Stay as you are.
When it comes to the unmitigated audacity and entitlement of men, nothing surprises me. Even then your story was pretty wild. Thank you for sharing with us!
You absolutely did the right thing. The sense of entitlement that your ex had is next level. Honestly your restraint in NOT speaking with the Priest is admirable because the Petty Betty in me would have given my ex the FAFO treatment.
I think you were RIGHT ON THE MONEY to stay out of it. I was totally not surprised to hear that they asked that of you, I mean these are the people who were running around behind your back. They’re just not good people. You got your beautiful husband and children in the end and whatever happened to them is on them. I’m hella proud of you. ❤
I think you made the right decision. I've been in situations where I was taken advantage of and paid great mental cost for someone else's benefit. This would have been that, and honestly the lack of self awareness and empathy to you make your suffering in it definitive. To me, in that situation, refusing is not out of pettiness or residual negative feelings, but out of self-protection.
If the first marriage was in church, and was a sacrament, only a marriage annullment could make them eligible for a new one. But I personally think a lot of these annullments are very sketchy and people get them for ridiculous reasons. And even if the person who got married in church was only declaring that they were a believer, but didn't really believe in God, it doesn't mean that God didn't exist when they were getting married, so the sacrament and marriage vows will be valid until the death of one of the spouses. It's hard to swallow for some people, but it's really better not to remarry and to avoid any possibility of committing sin and trading faithfullness to Jesus for a nice family life with a new person. Hope this helps ;)
Charlotte, you conducted yourself with extraordinary dignity and integrity. Behavioural traits those two narcissists will be entirely unfamiliar with! You take the gold for upholding your boundaries.from people who thought nothing of stomping all over them.
It was very unreasonable to be asked to be involved in this situation!!! I hope I would be as gracious and classy as you are Charlotte! Thank you for you tutorials and stories!🥰
My blood pressure went through the roof just listening to this 😅 kudos to you for living through it! Good for you for taking care of your peace and happiness, and saying no!
You might not see this amongst all the comments, but I’ve just played my fiancé the part where you say your husband is the best reward for your ex…I showed that to him and cried as that’s exactly how I feel and it’s so lovely to hear someone else say those things too. Yes, yes, yes to your absolutely dignified responses throughout that experience!!😊🎉
The part where you said that your ex-husband was no longer the man that you knew when you were married. Hearing that today has given me peace and clarity. Thank you!
Amazing how you really, really thought it through, and didn't just go with a knee jerk reaction. That, in and of itself, was a huge kindness to them. And understaning the cost to yourself, and not compromising on that, is admirable. So often we (women)want to be nice, and want to please others, and allow ourselves to suffer in the process.
The audacity of your ex is ghasting my flabber! The cheeky sod after all he put you through. You definitely did the right thing 100%, go Charlotte!!!! 🙌❤️xxx
part of me wishes you’d done the interview just so we’d get another video of how a catholic priest questioned you about whether your marriage was ‘consummated’ so they could annul it 😂😂
I cannot believe the audacity. Why do people like that always seem to find sweet people like you to constantly torment? I’m so happy you put yourself first. You inspire me to be gentle but strong.❤
You made the right decision. He went in one direction, and you the other direction, and that is how peace is maintained. You demonstrated class and elegance by not responding.
During my very bitter divorce from a man who abandoned me and two very vulnerable kids, I thought Facebook was a relatively safe space to say raw but reasonable personal stuff. Not so. I ended up being attacked verbally by my ex for having the audacity to express myself on my own space, as some a****** mole had been reporting what I'd been writing to him. I never did find out who it was, and despite many people defending me and declaring they would never do such a thing, I was left feeling so vulnerable and embarrassed and without a community. I live abroad and the divorce forced me to move counties so most of my friends and family were only accessible via Facebook so it was particularly isolating. My misanthrope definitely ratcheted up a few notches and I did a very heartbreaking cull of my friends list because I just didn't know who I could trust. To this day it still makes me feel angry and betrayed and I really don't share anything particularly personal anymore. Sorry, bit of a long-winded way of saying "solidarity!" for what you went through. May our 40s be much freer of horrible bonkers people!
Fb is not the place to air your feelings or your life privacy, people will twist your words in all sorts of ways. This is my opinion from personal experience
You did the right thing. And it was beyond disgusting that they wanted you to aide in their marriage. They sound like two self absorbed people and sounds like you came out so much happier and blessed with a much better partner!
My dearest Charlotte, My father asked my mother for an annulment after 36 years of marriage. There was no cheating as a cause, just a deterioration of the relationship. I will not share my mother’s comment and her mother, my grandmother, went apoplectic. You were correct in your response as it was being true to yourself. Yes, you were gifted with a great husband and family for the pain of the divorce. God bless you and keep you. Christine from a grieving State of Maine, USA
Wowser. I think if he had asked personally then I would have considered it but the fact he was so gutless and couldn’t ask you directly speaks volumes and he doesn’t even deserve your consideration.
Charlotte: when they went low, you went high. God knows I wouldn’t have had the same composure and grace. You should be very proud of yourself because you behaved the only way we wish we had in hindsight.
It sounds like a movie script - you could not make this level of unbelievable audacity and entitlement up. Charlotte, that you even questioned that you had made the right decision hurts my heart. You behaved like an angel and I don’t think I could have been as gracious xx
you did exactly the right thing - not spiteful or hateful, just protecting yourself and maintaining a good boundary (as much as you were able) from someone who clearly did not care about your wellbeing. and yes they were asking way too much of you. very entitled selfish behaviour on their part.
Use ‘audacity’ in a sentence. “Jeff had a heavy amount of audacity.” Wow! Hard to believe someone would think that is okay to ask of someone else!!! Well handled Charlotte!
If it had been me, once that letter showed up at my place of employment, i would have given them what they wanted.... and spoken with the Priest. *insert evil smile*
I am flabbergasted at the gall of those people!! What in the world was your ex thinking??? I am also shocked that the priest wrote you a letter...that is nuts!! You not only did the right and classy thing but it was the ONLY rational thing to do!!!!!
I would not have even considered it for a second. And lets not forget, how you get someone is also how you end up losing them…I am so happy you moved on and have built a wonderful life with Danny
Charlotte, the fact that you thought about it at ALL makes you literally a saint. I would have laughed so hard and found 50 ways to say nah, no, nuh-uh, nope, also... NO. What audacity! Good thing you got away from that man and his selfish a$$. You are a great person and they were 100000% in the wrong. I hope they got married at the courthouse (if at all).
You are a wonderful person (odd how we feel like we know someone online) who married a narcissist when she was young. I am impressed you harbor him no ill will - I truly admire that. But you are 110% in the right and i can’t imagine anyone with self respect could say otherwise!
Charlotte, I remember watching your divorce story video years ago and my heart went out to you. Now to hear this story, I’m so glad you said no. It has infuriated me! The cheek!! You’re far more gracious than I would be. 🥂 here’s to the continued peaceful, wonderful life with the love of your life and no more “interruptions” from people that don’t deserve to breathe the same air you do ❤
OMG, you absolutely did the right thing. I cried when I first watched your divorce story. This request was totally insane. I was getting so pissed at the asshole listening to this story. 🤬
It’s crazy that they thought you would actually do that for them. These people disrespect you with the cheating and then again when asking that you do something do insane
You absolutely made the right decision and I have immense admiration for your wishing them all the best as well. Shows how gracious a person you are to even feel that way after being put in such a position. I'm very happy for you to have found happiness and the ability to look back at that horrible time with confidence and gratitude for what you have today. Hopefully, they will find peace and happiness and be able to move on in the same way.
Dear Charlotte, You are a kind, gracious, and lovely person! You handled the situation with utmost class. They should be ashamed of themselves, not only to have tried to drag you into this situation, but also for lying to the priest. As a woman, and a Catholic, I am appalled. I am impressed with how much thought you put into your decision. It would’ve been so easy to tell them to get lost right from the beginning. I wish you and your husband and children all the blessings you deserve. I love watching your videos here across the pond in NJ. You always make me smile. ❤
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
I proffer that this was your _first_ 'love'. A person's first love (the head-over-heels type) is actually a _delusion_ - & one which the one of you snaps out of before the other. In this instance - she saw it first, if she was even on the same page (i.e. were you each other's first love). You have to experience it first with a human - to know what it is to truly love something - but then you are supposed to supplant that with something actually worthy of that type of love - & it will never be a human, because humans are completely fallible. If you keep chasing that feeling with another human - you will keep on catching it (esp with others also looking to bottle the feeling) - & keep on losing it. You gotta look up - & look inside.
Charlotte, You are 100% in the right. Also, it seems to me that the ongoing behavior of your ex and his partner is exactly the reason why they don’t allow such people to be married in the church.
Nah, that rule has nothing to do with their behaviour. The problem of the church is that he was married before, the real problem with him though is that he is a toxic narc and an a-hole. The church also doesn't let good people who have been divorced marry bc of antiquated bs that is completely detached from reality and causes a lot of unnecessary difficulty and pain. Historically, they've never had much of a problem with shitty behaviour of their members in any way that actually matters.
Charlotte, you did the right thing. They had no respect when they cheated, all they were concern was what's in it for them. They go on to prove that they still have no respect for you and for the church. You did the absolute right thing by not getting involved. Bravo!
You handled that bonkers situation with the utmost class and dignity. I love you and your channel. You have the greatest sense of humor! Thank you for sharing these stories.
None of my friends would even dream of asking me something like that in fear of my reaction...which would be volatile. You handled it so much more graciously than I would have. I'd be like that Elmo gif with the flames 🔥🔥🔥 🤣😂
I’m sorry you had to go through all of that.❤ My experience is that some people can be really rotten to others, and then later have no understanding about why that person might not want to ever lay eyes on them again. 🤯
I remember this video ❤ you are sooo classy and I respect u .....and because u care about doing the right thing....you are happy and free and deserve every minute of it....shame on them for trying to draggggg you back into selfish toxic behavior....❤
Wow seriously????? This is unbelievable!!!!! It shows what kind of good person you are to even CONSIDER it! I would have immediately told them to f... off. Good for you that you stayed out of it! Sending lots of love from Amman / Jordan❤
I’m so sorry Charlotte. I listened to your divorce story a while ago and after hearing this I was speechless for a while. I certainly have a lot to say now but too much to write. You dodged a bullet when your ex left. That man is a true narcissist. They don’t care about anyone’s feelings, just whatever is in their best interest. The fact that what he was asking and how he went about it was so beyond inappropriate probably didn’t even face him. I’m so glad you have a good life now, you deserve it!!! ❤
I definitely wouldn’t have spoken to the priest except maybe after the letter. I’d let him know that they didn’t respect my wishes and decline speaking further. Goodness. People truly show who they are when you give them a boundary! My word! Sorry you had to live through that.
I'd have done the same: reply to the priest that they lied about my agreement to cooperate, and let him know this is my only statement, please put me on your 'do not call list', etc.
OMG, the audacity! I really applaud the way you handled the situation. (I admit a part of me wished you had called the priest after he sent you the letter and explained the whole story… but your way was better and healthier 😊). I am very glad for you that you found true love with your second husband ❤️ And I have to say that you tell your stories in such a riveting way, better than any book or tv show!😊 Love love love your content!❤️🌷
Fully support and respect your choice. I think the selfish and cowardly way this was handled mirrors the selfish and cowardly way he tested your relationship and I’m SO glad you found your karmic reward. Love you. ❤
You were absolutely right to do what you did. My divorce many years ago happened in similar circumstances to yours, the mistress was my best friend at the time! If they had come back to me with that ask via a friend, my response would not have been polite, or thought about, at all. The second word would have been 'off'! I don't know what goes on in their heads thinking you would even want to help them after what they did. My ex for some bonkers reason sent me a photo of the 1ct diamond engagement ring he got for my ex best friend to see if I thought she would like it! I deleted the email and didn't even bother to respond.
Sweet Charlotte. What these people did was so completely violating, disrespectful, selfish, and cruel. You should be so proud of how you handled this situation. I don’t think I could have been so noble as you were. I am glad you have such an incredible family now, you truly deserve it! Thank you for sharing, it’s such a good example of taking the highest of high roads.
There is nothing better than “Unhinged Stories with Charlotte”😂 Just love you🥰. So glad you closed that door with no plans to open it. You have such beautiful class and grace❤️🙏❤️ Xo 🇨🇦
To be honest, I'm shocked that this happened to you! I find this disrespect impossible and would have acted exactly like you. Some people just have no sense of shame and know no boundaries..
Well done. I had been contacted by a nun who was counselling my ex and wanted to know if I was interested in salvaging the marriage after I divorced him. My reply was due to infidelity and brutality I wasn’t interested and felt justice was served. That was that. Honest and clear in 3 sentences.💖
Wow. I really have no words! I believe you absolutely did the right thing. I'm continue to be astonished at the audacity of people, the older I get. The most toxic situation I have been in was one where the person would just. not. leave. me. alone. After so much pain I just wanted to be left alone. I cut off the relationship to protect my peace, which affects not only me but my family too. Some people can only see themselves in any situation and are just so morally bankrupt it really makes no sense, especially to kind souls like you. I'm happy you've found happiness with your husband and children. Thanks for sharing your story with us! 💖✨✝
Oh my God! It is completely absurd that he would even think of asking and plus he didn’t even have the balls to ask himself. Him leaving is the biggest blessing in disguise and these two characters truly belong with each other. I am so happy for you and that you met an amazing man and can put this horrible situation way behind
Charlotte, you've got your REVENGE, girl!! It doesn't happen so often, life is not fair, but in your case it was!!! This video was SO satisfying to watch/listen, thank you so much for it!!! 💞💞💞
No one should expect their former spouse to comply with a church annulment request. It’s truly ridiculous.
I love the part where the mistress is so Catholic that she wants to marry in a cathedral, but not Catholic enough to be a mistress. Oh! The hypocrisy! 😂
Came here to say exactly this 😃
That was my first thought too!
Not only that but then lie to a priest about the consent. Just like God would have wanted. 🤣
Exactly what I thought when I heard that.
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If the mistress was so religious, she wouldn’t have been having an affair with a married man to start with
Lol, hypocrisy is their trademark, but I get your point. Also, he seems like a manipulative narcissist so in a way she probably would have been better off not marrying him in the end.
I was thinking the same thing and searching the comments for this point. That request was 1000% weird and considering the context, they should have gone to a JOP to marry.
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Exactly!! Adultery is a sin
Charlotte, as a born Catholic, who went to Catholic school and Catholic college, I believe this story is even Worse than you think. Although I've since left the Church, I still know the rules. It sounds like They don't want to just get married in this Cathedral because they like the building. They want to get "Married in the Church" which is a Sacrament. And the only way that can happen for someone divorced is to have the Church Annul that first marriage. So the reason the priest wanted to meet with you could be to proceed with the annulment process. Which means he wanted to wipe out your first marriage as if it didn't exist. Those people are Monsters!!! I am so glad you didn't go. I can't imagine how devastating that would have been for you. Please don't delete me as a subscriber. I love your channel, and you, and have no desire to hurt you. In fact I thought long and hard before writing this. But you seem to be a truly fine and loving person and you do not deserve this. And you seem to be looking for answers. They didn't even have the respect and courtesy to tell you what they were really up to. So your instincts were absolutely accurate. Never speak to any of these people again. Stick with the people who love you. You definitely made the right choice. Much love and many hugs.🤗❤💚
What did you say that would warrant her to consider deleting you.
@@TracyD2 I just didn't want her to delete the messenger. If this is new news, and she was really upset (I would have been) I simply hoped she wouldn't react. This is a particularly upsetting story for anyone. I'm furious at what these people tried to do. So I can't imagine she wouldn't be as well. Just didn't want the negative association to stick on me too, I guess. Nothing, Nothing bad about Charlotte, I assure you.
Yeah, I'm a Catholic and no church would allow to marry a divorced person without the Annul. It's not just that "strict" Cathedral...
As Charlotte was telling the story and mentioned that the woman was a Catholic, the first thing I thought of was the aunullment process. I used to be Catholic too and know how they operate.
@@Iwona886 Indeed. This goes back for hundreds of years. It's why Anne Boleyn drove Henry VIII to create the Anglican Church. Catherine of Aragon wouldn't agree to annul her marriage to Henry, so Anne and Henry couldn't have their marriage sanctified by the Catholic Church. It spawned major upheavals in Britain and the eventual start of the UK state religion. And the Catholics and Anglicans in England, Scotland, and Ireland have been fighting ever since. Of course, when Henry took back all of the Catholic Church's property, killed a bunch of priests, and stole all of the precious metals and relics, as a pressure tactic against the Pope, it was bound to tick a lot of people off. Wars in the UK were fought for centuries after that for that very reason. And many Kings and Queens killed as well. So, in this story, Charlotte is our Catherine.
I think your ex is a complete narcissist!! This request and his actions just show what a coward and cad he is! I am so glad you didn't respond and that you took the high road by being so kind about the whole thing. Lastly, I am most happy with the fact that you are happier than ever! You deserve the very best life! You are a gem! ❤
They lied to a priest. Let that marinate for a minute. You are so right to gracefully stay away from that situation.
❤ you did the right thing. When a man marries his mistress the mistress position now has a vacancy to fill.
I love that the woman wasn't too Catholic to cheat with a married man, but was suddenly Catholic when it came to her own wedding. And the husband not having the balls to ask himself and making another woman do it for him. Their behavior wasn't just rude or unreasonable, it was downright abusive. So glad this guy is in your rear view mirror, Charlotte.
I agree the silence from him is deafening but to send papers to her place of work is even worse, some company’s open all mail as policy, thank goodness for a discrete administrator a nosy one should have Charlotte’s business all over the office. It is absolutely disgraceful. He did the deed, suck up the consequences. So angry for Charlotte. Knowing someone who went through an annulment she did absolutely the right thing.
Could not have said better
The one that sticks for me was his saying that you won’t be a good mother. Fast forward and your love and complete commitment to your husband and especially, your children, jumps off the screen. You are so sweet. Love Charlotte’s story time.
As a devout Catholic who is also divorced, you did the right Charlotte. If you had given the interview and been truthful, and they had not been allowed to get married in the cathedral, you would've been blamed. The audacity of your ex and his mistress was next level.
You’re absolutely right. “It’s not my fault I married and committed to this person and then cheated on her and got a divorce. It’s my ex-wife’s fault because I badgered her into talking to the church and she told the church what happened in 2010.”
Ohh...I would talk to that priest... "oh yeah, it was a huge affair, lots of sex I hear, lots of profanity, alcohol. If it's a sin, they did it. You know, I dont even think he's religious. He's an atheist, actually. Lots of priest jokes. Jokes about you specifically, actually " 😂
I would have been tempted to speak all as well, however, the fact she would NOT do it, spoke way louder!!!
@@LisaMarlene. Oh definitely, I'm just joking 😂 in reality, I wouldn't waste my time. She had clearly moved on
I would have talked to the Priest too but only to tell him the truth. Charlotte's right. They had to have lied to him. As a Catholic I don't see how anything she would have said would have benefited them. I don't go looking for trouble but if it knocks on my door and I know I'm not in the wrong in any way I will address the situation...
My guess is the priest was trying to determine if your Ex could pursue an annulment. I’m a divorced Catholic and know that the church doesn’t recognize divorce. The only way a Catholic can marry or remarry in the church is if any previous marriage was annulled by the church. In a nutshell, an annulment means that the marriage should never have happened in the first place. You made the right decision to stay the heck out of it. Your Ex could have sought an annulment on his own. He was just trying to use you in an attempt to expedite the process.
Holy crap! Yes your ex is completely and utterly bonkers!! You absolutely made the right decision. I'm sitting here in shock of their audacity!!!
He disregarded your feelings when he had an affair. He disregarded your feelings when he asked his friend to talk to you, and he continued to disregard your feelings when he allowed the priest to send you that letter. One person's feelings that he never, in any of those situations, disregarded was his own. He refused to swallow his pride or admit that he was wrong and ask you for your help. He knew that what he was asking of you was ridiculous, but there was no way he was going to put his feelings out there to please his mistress (fiancée). She is well aware of who she is getting married to. She has seen his traits. But let's not forget she also plays a huge role in this horrible situation as well. They deserve each other. I'm so happy that you have such a peaceful and happy life with Danny and your children. You deserve it!!❤
Jeff is a Prince, isn't he? Getting rid of Jeff and ending up with Danny is falling into a pit of shite and coming out smelling of killian ❤
😂😂😂absolutely spot on! This comment deserves more likes!!!
“Omg I’m going to jail. I’m not entirely sure what for” 😂😂
I originally found your channel when Mel passed away. You made a video speaking with such love and the way you described you, your feelings etc I just thought we were similar in a way. I saw the original divorce story and now this follow up if we can call it this way and I can only say you are such a nice person. Whoever can call you a friend, he or she is a lucky person ❤ and I genuinely love your unhinged stories 😂 they always make my day
As someone raised Catholic, I would have called the priest to tell that not only are they cheaters who have no respect of the Sacrament of marriage, but now they are using him to stalk you. I would, at that point, do my part to make sure they not only could not be married in that Church, but were not even feel welcome to even attend a Mass there. He was seeking to have your marriage annulled, deemed non-existent, which he would need to marry in the Church, but by lying and without even asking or telling you.
Who would imagine an ex-spouse would have such clueless gaul??? People never fail to amaze me with their self-absorption. I'm glad you put the letter in the shredder. People like that are 100% toxic.
Wow, just wow. Unhinged doesn’t really begin to cover it. I think you are being remarkably gracious in not finding a way to completely mess with such a charmer.
I feel like their severe lack of empathy really shows in this situation. They must know how much they have hurt you so to get back in touch and ask this from you...screams two narcissits in love to me! 😅😅 I give it a year. No marriage that starts from an affair can have much trust.
omg, their narcissism knows no bounds......wow.....NOT a reasonable request.
While I'm listening to your story I'm constantly wondering: WHAT did he expect you would tell that priest, that would be in their favour? WHAT was he thinking??? WAS he thinking at all? It reminds me of a nanny we had for one of our children and we split up in a not so nice way. After a few years I got a call from an unkonwn woman to whom the nany had given my number for recommendation. I was speechless... You handled the situation like a boss, Charlotte
Your ex's request, and the way it was made was most certainly "bonkers and unhinged ". Charlotte, you are incredibly thoughtful, gracious, and kind. You deserve every happiness in your life.
Hell no I would have gone full on petty mode had the interview with all the truth exposed. Ughhh Charlotte’s out here reminding us to rise above.
You are a better person than me. I would have had to tell the priest exactly what happened and then washed my hands. My ex had our marriage annulled for his next wife who was Catholic. I felt very strange about that. Like, so all of that pain and heartbreak didn’t happen? Right… I love your stories, Charlotte. I can’t imagine anyone being mean in response.
You are a far better person than I could ever be. I would have said yes just to unload on the priest and if they asked anything else of me, I would have walked out with a few choice word😅 you took the high ground and you are a strong, happy and healthy individual and good on you
Same. And I am a Christian, not catholic but Christian. 😅 😢 yet im 99% sure that after all that betrayal, heartbreak and cowardly moves… I’d have told the priest EVERYTHING. Literally everything. I guess im not a good person or Christian after all. :/ Although that rant would’ve been the truth. If the truth can cause any damage, it’s on them, I did what they asked me for. 😂
You gave the situation careful consideration and handled everything in a classy manner. Major respect and hearing this story, I have to say my flabber was gasted...loved that:) Stay as you are.
When it comes to the unmitigated audacity and entitlement of men, nothing surprises me. Even then your story was pretty wild. Thank you for sharing with us!
You absolutely did the right thing. The sense of entitlement that your ex had is next level. Honestly your restraint in NOT speaking with the Priest is admirable because the Petty Betty in me would have given my ex the FAFO treatment.
how disgusting! the gall of those people! i still can't believe they would ever ask you such a thing. I applaud you for not insulting them.
I think you were RIGHT ON THE MONEY to stay out of it. I was totally not surprised to hear that they asked that of you, I mean these are the people who were running around behind your back. They’re just not good people. You got your beautiful husband and children in the end and whatever happened to them is on them. I’m hella proud of you. ❤
Yummy yummy just desserts
What goes around comes around 😊
I think you made the right decision. I've been in situations where I was taken advantage of and paid great mental cost for someone else's benefit. This would have been that, and honestly the lack of self awareness and empathy to you make your suffering in it definitive. To me, in that situation, refusing is not out of pettiness or residual negative feelings, but out of self-protection.
As a Catholic, I can confirm you did everything right. What an audacity. ♥️❣️
May I ask, as Catholics, what would make them eligible for a new marriage? And what wouldn’t?
If the first marriage was in church, and was a sacrament, only a marriage annullment could make them eligible for a new one. But I personally think a lot of these annullments are very sketchy and people get them for ridiculous reasons. And even if the person who got married in church was only declaring that they were a believer, but didn't really believe in God, it doesn't mean that God didn't exist when they were getting married, so the sacrament and marriage vows will be valid until the death of one of the spouses. It's hard to swallow for some people, but it's really better not to remarry and to avoid any possibility of committing sin and trading faithfullness to Jesus for a nice family life with a new person. Hope this helps ;)
Charlotte, you conducted yourself with extraordinary dignity and integrity. Behavioural traits those two narcissists will be entirely unfamiliar with! You take the gold for upholding your boundaries.from people who thought nothing of stomping all over them.
It was very unreasonable to be asked to be involved in this situation!!! I hope I would be as gracious and classy as you are Charlotte! Thank you for you tutorials and stories!🥰
My blood pressure went through the roof just listening to this 😅 kudos to you for living through it! Good for you for taking care of your peace and happiness, and saying no!
You might not see this amongst all the comments, but I’ve just played my fiancé the part where you say your husband is the best reward for your ex…I showed that to him and cried as that’s exactly how I feel and it’s so lovely to hear someone else say those things too. Yes, yes, yes to your absolutely dignified responses throughout that experience!!😊🎉
The part where you said that your ex-husband was no longer the man that you knew when you were married. Hearing that today has given me peace and clarity. Thank you!
Amazing how you really, really thought it through, and didn't just go with a knee jerk reaction. That, in and of itself, was a huge kindness to them. And understaning the cost to yourself, and not compromising on that, is admirable. So often we (women)want to be nice, and want to please others, and allow ourselves to suffer in the process.
The audacity of your ex is ghasting my flabber! The cheeky sod after all he put you through. You definitely did the right thing 100%, go Charlotte!!!! 🙌❤️xxx
This is absolutely insane and you were amazing to have NOT gotten involved. Your ex was not worthy of a minute of your time.
part of me wishes you’d done the interview just so we’d get another video of how a catholic priest questioned you about whether your marriage was ‘consummated’ so they could annul it 😂😂
I cannot believe the audacity. Why do people like that always seem to find sweet people like you to constantly torment? I’m so happy you put yourself first. You inspire me to be gentle but strong.❤
You made the right decision. He went in one direction, and you the other direction, and that is how peace is maintained. You demonstrated class and elegance by not responding.
You handled yourself with grace and integrity ❤
During my very bitter divorce from a man who abandoned me and two very vulnerable kids, I thought Facebook was a relatively safe space to say raw but reasonable personal stuff. Not so. I ended up being attacked verbally by my ex for having the audacity to express myself on my own space, as some a****** mole had been reporting what I'd been writing to him. I never did find out who it was, and despite many people defending me and declaring they would never do such a thing, I was left feeling so vulnerable and embarrassed and without a community. I live abroad and the divorce forced me to move counties so most of my friends and family were only accessible via Facebook so it was particularly isolating. My misanthrope definitely ratcheted up a few notches and I did a very heartbreaking cull of my friends list because I just didn't know who I could trust. To this day it still makes me feel angry and betrayed and I really don't share anything particularly personal anymore. Sorry, bit of a long-winded way of saying "solidarity!" for what you went through. May our 40s be much freer of horrible bonkers people!
Fb is not the place to air your feelings or your life privacy, people will twist your words in all sorts of ways. This is my opinion from personal experience
I certainly don't disagree with you now, sadly.
You did the right thing. And it was beyond disgusting that they wanted you to aide in their marriage. They sound like two self absorbed people and sounds like you came out so much happier and blessed with a much better partner!
My dearest Charlotte, My father asked my mother for an annulment after 36 years of marriage. There was no cheating as a cause, just a deterioration of the relationship. I will not share my mother’s comment and her mother, my grandmother, went apoplectic. You were correct in your response as it was being true to yourself. Yes, you were gifted with a great husband and family for the pain of the divorce. God bless you and keep you. Christine from a grieving State of Maine, USA
❤ to Maine❤❤❤❤😢
You did the right thing Charlotte. He chose to step out of your life so he should respect when his presence is no longer wanted
"Jeff" is straight up GUANO to think it was ok.
Wowser. I think if he had asked personally then I would have considered it but the fact he was so gutless and couldn’t ask you directly speaks volumes and he doesn’t even deserve your consideration.
Charlotte: when they went low, you went high. God knows I wouldn’t have had the same composure and grace. You should be very proud of yourself because you behaved the only way we wish we had in hindsight.
It sounds like a movie script - you could not make this level of unbelievable audacity and entitlement up. Charlotte, that you even questioned that you had made the right decision hurts my heart. You behaved like an angel and I don’t think I could have been as gracious xx
you did exactly the right thing - not spiteful or hateful, just protecting yourself and maintaining a good boundary (as much as you were able) from someone who clearly did not care about your wellbeing. and yes they were asking way too much of you. very entitled selfish behaviour on their part.
My flabber was ghasted hearing this story too Charlotte!!
Use ‘audacity’ in a sentence.
“Jeff had a heavy amount of audacity.”
Wow! Hard to believe someone would think that is okay to ask of someone else!!! Well handled Charlotte!
Exactly, Jess had no business even asking you that, and she should have screamed at him saying...NO, how dare you, Jeff. Seriously
If it had been me, once that letter showed up at my place of employment, i would have given them what they wanted.... and spoken with the Priest. *insert evil smile*
Wow he sure is a piece of work… unreal. You handled yourself exactly how you wanted to - with grace and self respect. ❤
I am flabbergasted at the gall of those people!! What in the world was your ex thinking??? I am also shocked that the priest wrote you a letter...that is nuts!! You not only did the right and classy thing but it was the ONLY rational thing to do!!!!!
I would not have even considered it for a second. And lets not forget, how you get someone is also how you end up losing them…I am so happy you moved on and have built a wonderful life with Danny
Charlotte, the fact that you thought about it at ALL makes you literally a saint. I would have laughed so hard and found 50 ways to say nah, no, nuh-uh, nope, also... NO. What audacity! Good thing you got away from that man and his selfish a$$. You are a great person and they were 100000% in the wrong. I hope they got married at the courthouse (if at all).
I was actually getting really nervous when she said she considered it!
“Jeff” bumped his head that was bonkers! Too much audacity and you did well. It was a healthy response to shred the letter. ❤❤❤
I would have called the priest the second that letter arrived and they probably would have been excommunicated as a result.
You are a wonderful person (odd how we feel like we know someone online) who married a narcissist when she was young. I am impressed you harbor him no ill will - I truly admire that. But you are 110% in the right and i can’t imagine anyone with self respect could say otherwise!
How could they possibly ask you such a thing? 😮
So glad that you are happy now Charlotte. ❤
I had to keep pausing so I could update my husband on various parts of the story 😅 the audacity is breathtaking
I wish every person I deal with in my life was as smart and reasonable and amazing as you. Absolute gem of a human. ❤❤❤
The audacity of these people - it’s unbelievable 🤯😤💕
The best “revenge” is being happy, I’m glad you found a more deserving partner.
Charlotte, I remember watching your divorce story video years ago and my heart went out to you. Now to hear this story, I’m so glad you said no. It has infuriated me! The cheek!! You’re far more gracious than I would be. 🥂 here’s to the continued peaceful, wonderful life with the love of your life and no more “interruptions” from people that don’t deserve to breathe the same air you do ❤
OMG, you absolutely did the right thing. I cried when I first watched your divorce story. This request was totally insane. I was getting so pissed at the asshole listening to this story. 🤬
It’s crazy that they thought you would actually do that for them. These people disrespect you with the cheating and then again when asking that you do something do insane
You absolutely made the right decision and I have immense admiration for your wishing them all the best as well. Shows how gracious a person you are to even feel that way after being put in such a position. I'm very happy for you to have found happiness and the ability to look back at that horrible time with confidence and gratitude for what you have today. Hopefully, they will find peace and happiness and be able to move on in the same way.
Dear Charlotte, You are a kind, gracious, and lovely person! You handled the situation with utmost class. They should be ashamed of themselves, not only to have tried to drag you into this situation, but also for lying to the priest. As a woman, and a Catholic, I am appalled. I am impressed with how much thought you put into your decision. It would’ve been so easy to tell them to get lost right from the beginning. I wish you and your husband and children all the blessings you deserve. I love watching your videos here across the pond in NJ. You always make me smile. ❤
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Please dont stalk your ex. Just grow up and leave her alone
I proffer that this was your _first_ 'love'.
A person's first love (the head-over-heels type) is actually a _delusion_ - & one which the one of you snaps out of before the other. In this instance - she saw it first, if she was even on the same page (i.e. were you each other's first love).
You have to experience it first with a human - to know what it is to truly love something - but then you are supposed to supplant that with something actually worthy of that type of love - & it will never be a human, because humans are completely fallible.
If you keep chasing that feeling with another human - you will keep on catching it (esp with others also looking to bottle the feeling) - & keep on losing it.
You gotta look up - & look inside.
We are living in a mad world Charlotte , keep it up ❤❤
Charlotte, You are 100% in the right. Also, it seems to me that the ongoing behavior of your ex and his partner is exactly the reason why they don’t allow such people to be married in the church.
Nah, that rule has nothing to do with their behaviour. The problem of the church is that he was married before, the real problem with him though is that he is a toxic narc and an a-hole. The church also doesn't let good people who have been divorced marry bc of antiquated bs that is completely detached from reality and causes a lot of unnecessary difficulty and pain. Historically, they've never had much of a problem with shitty behaviour of their members in any way that actually matters.
Charlotte, you did the right thing. They had no respect when they cheated, all they were concern was what's in it for them. They go on to prove that they still have no respect for you and for the church. You did the absolute right thing by not getting involved. Bravo!
You’re the best, Charlotte! Never stop doing what you’re doing!! ❤
You handled that bonkers situation with the utmost class and dignity. I love you and your channel. You have the greatest sense of humor! Thank you for sharing these stories.
You were absolutely in the right. But you had me laughing right from jump. You are sublimely hilarious. Just love your channel.
None of my friends would even dream of asking me something like that in fear of my reaction...which would be volatile. You handled it so much more graciously than I would have. I'd be like that Elmo gif with the flames 🔥🔥🔥 🤣😂
I’m sorry you had to go through all of that.❤ My experience is that some people can be really rotten to others, and then later have no understanding about why that person might not want to ever lay eyes on them again. 🤯
I remember this video ❤ you are sooo classy and I respect u .....and because u care about doing the right thing....you are happy and free and deserve every minute of it....shame on them for trying to draggggg you back into selfish toxic behavior....❤
Wow seriously????? This is unbelievable!!!!! It shows what kind of good person you are to even CONSIDER it! I would have immediately told them to f... off. Good for you that you stayed out of it! Sending lots of love from Amman / Jordan❤
I’m so sorry Charlotte. I listened to your divorce story a while ago and after hearing this I was speechless for a while. I certainly have a lot to say now but too much to write. You dodged a bullet when your ex left. That man is a true narcissist. They don’t care about anyone’s feelings, just whatever is in their best interest. The fact that what he was asking and how he went about it was so beyond inappropriate probably didn’t even face him. I’m so glad you have a good life now, you deserve it!!! ❤
I definitely wouldn’t have spoken to the priest except maybe after the letter. I’d let him know that they didn’t respect my wishes and decline speaking further. Goodness. People truly show who they are when you give them a boundary! My word! Sorry you had to live through that.
I'd have done the same: reply to the priest that they lied about my agreement to cooperate, and let him know this is my only statement, please put me on your 'do not call list', etc.
OMG, the audacity!
I really applaud the way you handled the situation.
(I admit a part of me wished you had called the priest after he sent you the letter and explained the whole story… but your way was better and healthier 😊).
I am very glad for you that you found true love with your second husband ❤️
And I have to say that you tell your stories in such a riveting way, better than any book or tv show!😊
Love love love your content!❤️🌷
Fully support and respect your choice. I think the selfish and cowardly way this was handled mirrors the selfish and cowardly way he tested your relationship and I’m SO glad you found your karmic reward. Love you. ❤
You were absolutely right to do what you did. My divorce many years ago happened in similar circumstances to yours, the mistress was my best friend at the time! If they had come back to me with that ask via a friend, my response would not have been polite, or thought about, at all. The second word would have been 'off'! I don't know what goes on in their heads thinking you would even want to help them after what they did. My ex for some bonkers reason sent me a photo of the 1ct diamond engagement ring he got for my ex best friend to see if I thought she would like it! I deleted the email and didn't even bother to respond.
Sweet Charlotte. What these people did was so completely violating, disrespectful, selfish, and cruel. You should be so proud of how you handled this situation. I don’t think I could have been so noble as you were. I am glad you have such an incredible family now, you truly deserve it! Thank you for sharing, it’s such a good example of taking the highest of high roads.
There is nothing better than “Unhinged Stories with Charlotte”😂
Just love you🥰.
So glad you closed that door with no plans to open it. You have such beautiful class and grace❤️🙏❤️
Xo 🇨🇦
To be honest, I'm shocked that this happened to you! I find this disrespect impossible and would have acted exactly like you. Some people just have no sense of shame and know no boundaries..
Well done. I had been contacted by a nun who was counselling my ex and wanted to know if I was interested in salvaging the marriage after I divorced him. My reply was due to infidelity and brutality I wasn’t interested and felt justice was served. That was that. Honest and clear in 3 sentences.💖
Wow. I really have no words! I believe you absolutely did the right thing. I'm continue to be astonished at the audacity of people, the older I get. The most toxic situation I have been in was one where the person would just. not. leave. me. alone. After so much pain I just wanted to be left alone. I cut off the relationship to protect my peace, which affects not only me but my family too. Some people can only see themselves in any situation and are just so morally bankrupt it really makes no sense, especially to kind souls like you. I'm happy you've found happiness with your husband and children. Thanks for sharing your story with us! 💖✨✝
Oh my God! It is completely absurd that he would even think of asking and plus he didn’t even have the balls to ask himself. Him leaving is the biggest blessing in disguise and these two characters truly belong with each other. I am so happy for you and that you met an amazing man and can put this horrible situation way behind
Charlotte, you've got your REVENGE, girl!! It doesn't happen so often, life is not fair, but in your case it was!!! This video was SO satisfying to watch/listen, thank you so much for it!!! 💞💞💞
This is insane. The entitlement is astounding. They deserve each other.