One of my favorite quotes of all time is, "Remember, the next time you are upset about how old you are, remember, some people were not accorded that privilege." My sister died at age twenty-six, my grandmother at age forty-nine. My parents both died at age ninety-three. My husband is age eighty-five I am sixty-three Every year is a gift, be grateful.
When I was a teenager I thought my teachers looked so old - and some were women in their twenties! I recently opened my high school yearbook for the first time in decades, and was shocked by how much younger they looked than I remember them. Everybody over twenty looks ancient when you're a teenager.
It works vice versa too that you think that, as a teen to the older adults, you seem more mature and not so young- but actually when you grow up and you're in your mid 20s and 30s you realise that 14-16 years olds seem sooooo young. Then you realise all the older men who hit on teen girls were gross AF.
@@domtekos7761 I once took a male friend to visit the doctor. It turned out the doctor was a freshly minted female graduate who was 24 at the time. She looked shockingly young to me, far to young to be a doctor.And my friend, who was in his 70's, was answering questions about his prostate!
True !! I remember when I was In college at 19 I thought 30 was grandma age. I thought 30 was super old. Now that I’m passed 30 and when I see an 19 year old I think they look 12 lol. Funny the older we get the less older people look
My cousin just passed away at 59 after her three year battle with cancer, two weeks later my brother who just turned 53 passed away after taking his own life. So… enjoy the ride while you can people, your body is just a vessel and this life is short, one is SO lucky to grow old. Be Thankful for Every Moment.
I agree. I do color my hair - fun colors, not brown - but overall I don't care. Right now I am having problems with my back that will result in surgery. I've had to walk with a cane for several months. At first I resisted because it's not an image of myself that I like, but I really need it and now I've changed how I see myself. Fun hair color, a few wrinkles, needs cane!
@mychaelebeal9267 No, it's not better. Let's stop kidding ourselves. Enjoy 45, it's one of the best times, the best of prime and maturity. The 50s suck, but we try to make the best of it.
When I was a teenager all we cared about was partying and having fun, music concerts and hanging out, and if anything, we wanted to look OLDER. So glad I grew up without internet.
Ahah that’s right! I remember being so upset and wishing to be much older. Anyway, I always looked much younger but suddenly people started to say I look my age. At least that ! 😅 I think the prob is many people just don’t feel good and so they try to make others unhappy too 💅 that’s it.
I’m going to be 80 this summer. I’ve had a great life and have had many experiences. I recovered from a stroke in my early seventies and I’m just so happy to be alive and well. My hair is now white and I have lots of laugh lines. These show that I’ve lived a good life. Don’t sweat the small things.
Love this! I just turned 40 and have been feeling kind of down. We get so many messages as women and girls that our value is in our looks and youth. It's hard not to take that messaging in. It's inspiring to hear from older women like you who say how great they feel. Thank you 😊
Do you ever mourn your youthful beauty? You’re obviously a beautiful woman still, do you ever long for your younger self in that way? I think as women, it’s something we have to adjust our perspective to.
@@itsjustmyopinionbut1671I’m 63 and I have always been beautiful. But I really take good care of my skin. I would never have surgery, botox or fillers. Just 2 days ago waiting for the train after an 18 hour day. A young man walked by and told me I was gorgeous. I never think about my age or anyone else’s. I don’t miss my youthful beauty at all. And I had no privacy because everyone was staring at me when I was in public. Your mind grows with age so your values change and you just aren’t consumed with yourself. So unless you haven’t grown emotionally you will be quite happy. But that is rare to not mature and it’s probably only the mentally immature who are unhappy with their age.
I started working for Walmart at age 56. I just retired. I worked there nearly 19 years. I’ll be 75 in August. Around the time I was 60, or a little more, I was on a register helping a young man check out. Before he left he said, I just have to say that you’re very beautiful. I was dumbfounded… I spluttered and said something stupid. I’m old enough to be your grandmother. He smiled and said, Even if that’s true, it doesn’t change the fact that I think you’re beautiful. I gathered my wits sufficiently to say thank you. I had become so accustomed to being invisible. To only get the qualified compliment….for your age. That day I received a golden nugget to relive…. I wasn’t invisible and probably never was…. Thank you for a wonderful video!💛
In my country, I no longer exist, I'm 45! Everything is stop, when you turn 45! No jobs, no more man's atentions ( just for fun), no more beautiful dresses, bikini, no more everything you can imagen...I'm done with my life, it's so hard. My husband go with girl she is in early 30, childrens go away, they over 18....I'm alone, I will lost my job next year, so no job, no nothing..just go and rooth, old granny. That's hurt soooo sooo much! Still full of life, still wish for some love ( IMPOSIBLE), still wish to work (maybe online something). I can't even get a help from my country for house..just ppl under 45 - willl be homless! Oh Gosh..my face is change over night...I just wish to live life, with no ageism, and be usefull as just one year youngers. Depression here is bff for women my age in my position, and a lot of woman as me live just to be alive...sad.
Yeah the neurotic level of obsession with their looks is downright disturbing. It’s pathological. The smart phones have destroyed the healthy development of an entire generation.
yes, they are so obsessed with their physical appearance, they won't cope. AND they'll be shallow and out of touch, and not cope when the next generation takes their place.
@@iamReptar true. I have empathy for them for that. I remember being a kid and thinking other's opinions are so important. It takes a few more decades to figure it out 😒
Some random 21 year old guy tried to guess my age completely unprompted....I told him I'm not old but I'm old enough to not appreciate that sort of interaction especially unsolicited
I am 22 years old, part of Gen Z. Worked a lot of retail/food service and many of my coworkers were in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. As an esthetician, most of my clients are over 40. People age so differently yet remain beautiful. I hear alot of negative self-talk from women who are older than me and it's sad. I always tell them, trust me I've seen many faces and you do in fact look your age, and many people have the same skin concerns, your skin is normal, and you look beautiful. This whole comment sounds like virtue signaling but the purpose is really to show that we are not all doomed and that there is no point in having an us-vs-them mentality when it comes to age. The generation war hurts us all in the end. Ageism and filters destroy us all. For every young girl who asks me what to do about her "too big" pores, there is a old woman who says there is no hope for her skin, as if her appearance is a lost cause. Besides, my young ass will be a old ass one day. Why would I say mean things about my future self?
It’s a blessing to grow old. Not everybody gets to grow old, unfortunately. I try to tell myself that my wrinkles are a blessing, on days when they irritate me.
I’m 27. One thing I find really heartbreaking is the genre of post that goes something like “I’ve trained myself not to move my face/eyebrows/forehead when I laugh or speak so that I don’t get wrinkles.” It is so evil that this obsession with looking young is making women not want to laugh, smile, or emote. I will not give up expressing my joy for the next 60+ years to avoid looking “old”
They don't even realise they are basing their identity on being sad fuckable objects to men, which is perhaps the worst thing any woman can do. They will not succeed, because even if they freeze their face skin into porcelain plates, they will with time inevitably learn and experience life and all its sorrows and joys and become wiser and less malleable and less insecure, and the kind of older dudes that go for 19 year olds don't want to be around women with any sense of self or experience to sniff out idiots, whatever they look like.
I’m a little guilty over here, but thankfully not just for my looks. I get headaches easily when smiling too much. I wish that wasn’t the case though! 😅
I have 2 words, Terry Schiavo. It's very sad but she was in a coma for years, barely moved her face, didn't get sun obviously and she still aged. When she finally was allowed to pass away she looked her age, not 26.
I'm 61 and ageing gracefully is SO liberating. I look after my skin with inexpensive skincare, eat decent food, don't smoke or drink, still wear a small amount of makeup everyday, dress well, love nature and walk regularly and never been so happy in my own skin. We all need to embrace and learn to love ourselves instead of comparing and being brainwashed into self loathing....that's freedom x
I love this!! This sounds like a thing to look forward to, not fear. We need to hear more about the inward blessings that accompany aging, and less of the anxiety around actually looking like we're aging. I'm looking forward to being so deeply rooted and happy as I grow older
Yea me either. I’m 30 and I didn’t spend any time in my 20’s thinking about how old anyone looked to me. It’s a strange concept to me. I honestly can’t wait for the gen z bullies to get older though so they can see what it’s like.
I did look younger than my age , but a decade of chronic pancreatitis due to a botched gall bladder surgery, changed all that. But I quickly realized that being alive deserved first place in my priorities. I dress for me, for joy, for mucking out the barn in old jeans and boots, for dinner out with my husband. Do I look my age? YES! And thank goodness I am here to see it.
Like she said, there is no "for your age." We all have internal clocks and science believes there is sort of a switch in our cells that is genetically set for each of us to turn on and to tell our bodies, "ok, it's time to start aging." I look at that like it's our bodies getting on with the natural progression of life. Looked at in that way, our days are very much a gift: only so many sunrises and sunsets to behold. Only so many sleeps. Only so much laughter and learning... In that regard, the way we "look" is so very trivial, and prioritizing it and trying to keep to a standard of some imaginary metric that tells us we look "good" or "bad" for our age is nonsense.
Same, at 40 had ppl thinkin I was my 10 years younger friends equal, then got Chronic Fatigue Syndrom 10 y ago, then 8 years ago Breastcancer. Didn't even had chemo yet, but now there's days were I feel I look like my 70 y old mother. Sunken dark and tired eyes, because of anti hormone therapy all skin looking dry, hanging, lots of wrinkles. But at the end it doesn't play a role, bc of back surgery for bone metastases I look like Quasimodo, and because I had no energy anyway since 10 years, dating was never an option for all that time anyway. Now I can just be happy if I can survive some more time, manage the pains, my ever collecting new symptoms boy and be there for my kids a bit more
This is exactly what we should think. There is a privilege in getting older. We are lucky enough to still be here. I am going to a funeral shortly of a beautiful woman (she was truly beautiful, with or without make up) in her very early fifties, she loved life and grasped it by the balls, so I am exceptionally grateful that I woke up this morning in my mid fifties. What matters is that we take the best care of ourselves that we can.
I’m 53 and my body and skin are not the same as at the age of 20, of course, but I feel more feminine and beautiful than ever. I forgave myself for not being perfect and feel better about how I really am
I am also 53yrs young and I love who I have become. In my 20s, I was aggressive and miserable. Now, in my 50s, like you, I am much more feminine, happy, hopeful, and grateful for my years in the 80s and 90s. I like who I am ag this age and all the wisdom I have picked up along the way.
My mom is 70 and she is so obsessed with being told she looks younger than she is. I find it sad that she cares about her face so much but not her actual health.
Unfortunately, people look @ your face and make quick judgments in a few nano seconds. Strangers & peopje you know. Its not fair, but it doesn't stop you from making quick judgments
I have a coworker who is 65 and I was shocked cause she could pass for 45 but she takes really good care of herself. She’s active mentally and physically
I'm 49 and when I was young I knew the difference between the looks of someone who had access to all the beauty and healthcare their millions could buy. The problem as I see it is that there's a blurring of the lines between reality and artifice now. Look at the TV shows presented as 'reality' but far from it.
I’m 63 and enjoy some Botox,filler, and wear makeup everyday but at some point it’s true that “you’re as young as you feel”. A bigger gift than looking 10 yrs younger is feeling 20 years younger than some of my peers - working out, having energy and endurance, waking up without aches and pains. Hopefully young women will value their health at least as much as what’s in the mirror.
Golden Girls dealt with this issue forty years ago; the success of the show proved that older women could be perfectly successful in leading roles and the show still holds up today. They even did an episode on ageism in season 5 ("Rose Fights Back")
Interestingly, these women were in their fifties 50's! But we think it they were older because the hair, clothes, makeup, etc. We thought it was about them in their 60-70's
Unfortunately, ageism is alive and well even in these days and times. An example that i experience all the time is why do I still have long hair? I am in my 60's and for some reason people feel the need to stop me and comment on when do I plan on cutting my hair? I tell them Well, it's healthy, and I like it long and my husband loves it. But why do people still think when you reach a certain age you are supposed to cut your hair? Last night on a T.V. show a young man said he thinks older women should not have long hair; he couldn't tell you why not just that he felt it was so wrong. And then he was asked at what age should a women cut her hair and he said 42. What? Well, men have notoriously never been kind to older women but why can't women support each other in all ages instead of tearing each other down, how sad.
It's probably because they associate long hair with sexual desirability and thus seeing it on a woman they consider non-viable in this regard makes them feel deeply uncomfortable. Which is they own bloody problem for being so fragile and snowflakey. I laugh at dudes like this and mock them to hell, and they tend to get sullen and shut their traps. Which is the desired outcome. How dare they run around dictating hair length to anyone? Most men dress like crap and do nothing to look good for women, especially as they age. So nah, their opinions are neither sought nor listened to.
Agree!! Or, just as bad - that we should dress "appropriately"! My ex's 90 yr grandmother had beautiful long silver hair that she wore in a pretty, classy bun and would let it down each night and brush before bed. I always said I would be just like her when I was in my earlyv30's. I'm 59 two days ago & although I think I would be heartbroken to give into going grey someday, I still wear my hair to my mid back. It's naturally curly and red and everyone loves it. But, I'm very fortunate and still get carded to buy alcohol, occasionally!! 🎉
So relatable! I’m in my 60’s and have long hair and my male 24 year old hairdresser just suggested I cut it drastically. I really should have asked him why he thought it was a good idea. My hair is very thick, healthy, and looks amazing. I’m told all the time how fabulous it is. I’ll cut my hair when I’m good and ready and it won’t be because some 20 something year old suggested it. Glad you’re rocking yours long! I love seeing it on our age group.
When my son was about 17 his girlfriend's mom chopped all of her long beautiful hair off. He asked me why women do this when they turn 40. Told him I had no clue why. He said "please don't do that when you turn 40, there is no good reason to." I'm 52 with waist length healthy hair. I get it cut regularly to keep the ends in check but I have no intentions on ever whacking it all off. My mom has had the Golden Girls haircut all of my life. I have promised my son and husband that I won't ever be doing that. No thanks! When I saw the YT video "How Golden Girls would have looked like in 2022", it was all the incentive I need.
@@Lovenarek When my 22yo nephew was in school to be a hairdresser, he told me that I was too old to have long hair. I was 35, I wanted to slap the little $H!T!! He was convinced that I was lying and that I just had a head full of extensions. I told him to feel around, you won't find any. He seemed annoyed and never took me up on my offer. He believed once you were 30, you needed to go short. I never let him get near me with scissors with that attitude. I assumed he was taught this in school because short haircuts need more frequent visits for upkeep, frequent visits = more money.
I think people today as a whole truly do look much younger for longer, but I think modern styling really skews that perception. I recently saw pictures from a high school reunion that took place in 2004. Everyone in the pictures were in their mid 30s, and I thought they truly looked much much older than me or any of my friends (I’m 32). My friends and I have not had surgeries, fillers, or Botox.However, I think the outdated clothing and hair styles were influencing how I perceived their age. If you took the same men and women and gave them modern clothes and hair, maybe I would see them as much younger. One positive change I notice in society is people wearing whatever they want no matter their age. Growing up, I remember shopping with my mom and she would try things on and say “this is for a much younger woman” even if she looked amazing in it! I don’t think people care quite as much about “dressing their age.” I see people dressing in more elevated, and high quality clothes as they get older, but they are still very much on trend.
Yes. I am 37 and wear pretty much whatever i want. And i like staying up to date on trends (though not always following them lol), dressing stylish etc, despite my "advanced years"! My mom at 38 looked absolutely beautiful, but there was always this hidden perception she had to "dress like a mom".
@@minervarose7664 yes, exactly! Who created those 'rules' 😢 I'm a 39yr old mum and I wear whatever I like and keep up with trends if I like them and feel like they suit me. If not then I don't bother . . . Simples 🤷🏼♀️ I dress for me - always have done and always will do 💯💯 I don't feel any different to in my 20s (except maybe wiser🤔) so why dress any different
Dont look at it like that. Think of about it, being younger means stupidity in mans eyes. Immature and impressionable. Why be in line to get picked first for abuse, cheating, and betrayal? Beauty and nice bodies dont save you from any of that. It makes you first target.
You wouldn't want to be with that kind of 50 year old man. You really wouldn't. A fifty year old who goes for a twenty something as a life partner is broken and fixated on having a sex trophy (ironic when that's the age the dysfunction and lower sex drive sets in men, perhaps this is why they reach for the trophy to signal to other men they still have it?) or worse, some naive young thing they can push around and expect to buckle under their demands. They are juvenile for their age, they lack maturity. These marriages or relationships inevitably head south anyway.
Love you so much, Charlotte. I just turned 70. I’ve never dyed my hair which was fully gray/silver/white in my early 40s. Back then everyone thought I was much older than I was. Now they tell me I haven’t changed in 30 years 😂😂. I think I look my age and I think I look fantastic. Cancer survivor and grateful to be here. You’re the best, Charlotte.
Another part of the discussion is: who do young people think they are?! Why do they get to set the tone and why do we look at them with awe and admiration when the only thing they have going for them is the shell? What about what goes on on the inside? I would argue that the inner life of our plus 40 bodies (heads, really) is so much more interesting than those in their twenties.
What I find absolutely ridiculous, when you see an unfiltered picture from, for example, Jlo, there are comments like "this photo is so edited, why do you do this to her". What the hell? People don't know how real people look like anymore. It's so sad!
It feels like a general disrespect for their elders...with that said, I am 65, and would never wish to be in my 20s, 30s or 40s again...I love my age...I'm in better shape, my skin is healthier, my relationships authentic
It’s easy to look young in your 30’s and early 40’s if you take care of yourself. Hormone changes in your mid-to-late 40’s and 50’s are so extreme they literally are you. Menopause causes a 30% reduction in collagen in your skin…30% is a massive amount. Also, chronic insomnia is common due to hormone changes, and chronic lack of sleep ages people. It’s hard without HRT to not age at a certain point.
This is what most women who brag in the comments along the lines of "I am 43 but look much younger" are not aware of....It does not last, it ends with the menopause..That is why there are many women in their early 40's who pass for 30's - but there are no women in their LATE 40's that still do....The switch happens almost over night. 44 - you're still young , 48 - you look like your grandma...Women in general seem to not be informed about this.
You age a ton even with hormone replacement. I always took care of myself and didn't begin to age until my very late 30s, and it wasn't much, just a loss of fat in my face (I'm also thin, which doesn't help). At 40, I still didn't have a wrinkle in sight, and my body was the same as ever. But by my late 40s, I didn't even recognize myself anymore, and it happened overnight. I just feel like everything I spent decades doing to avoid aging horribly like my mother was a waste of time: hiding from the sun, wearing hats, using sunscreen daily, eating healthy, not smoking, not drinking, exercising, etc. Menopause won in the end. I'd like my 30-something hormones back!
@natasha09179 I have been on a combo birth control pill for over 30 years. I started skipping the placebo week in my early 30s to suppress my long, painful periods. So, technically, I could be post-menopausal, but I highly doubt it based on family history. I have a GYN, and she's on board with my staying on the pill to avoid most peri-menopausal symptoms and keeping my bones strong and heart healthy, plus lowering the risk of certain cancers. All I know is something happened 2 years ago, which is when all the weird symptoms started, like alopecia, forgetfulness, etc., plus the rapid aging and very mild weight gain. Oh, joy.
@@oceans.and.deserts those all sound like classic menopause symptoms (like the brain fog), which is odd if you are on birth control, even if you are in menopause. I don’t seem to follow the typical pattern, personally. I have no heavy periods, for example, but the other symptoms are present if I get off HRT. Regular BC gave me horrendous joint pain and swelling in my legs, even a super low dose, and I couldn’t deal with it. The only other thing I am hearing is to use estrogen directly on the face (the weak kind made for the labia), because the systemic stuff doesn’t seem to do enough to combat signs of aging. That is my personal plan, as of now. Dr. Erin Hirsch from Harvard med mentions this.
I'm 46 on Friday and perimenopausal and it makes me extremely grumpy that my partner gets to look more handsome/wise/successful/whatever as times passes and I will slowly turn into an invisible raisin. Outrageous.
@@jazmeen04 I think she means society's perception of aging in men and women. Men are praised for looking more handsome etc with age, whereas women become more invisible, as society takes a dim view of women aging
To all of the women out there know you are beautiful no matter your age, height, weight, or wrinkles you may or may not have. Thank you for the wonderful video.
I'm in my 50s and work with college/university students and they always think I'm sooo old. I don't think many of the young tiktok users can tell how old people are. Also, I am thankful for this discussion because I often feel that these women in my age range on social and other media look so much better than I do. I haven't had any "work" done and I don't get Botox, etc. so I am sure those women do look younger than I, but I resent that I am expected to do all that stuff. Let's get real about what is most important. I have had potentially fatal conditions, so FFS I am just happy to be here.
To be fair I think we all thought that way when we were younger. For teens and early 20s people I think especially because they feel so grown up and adult and yet have so few years behind them looking at someone twice their age seems so old comparatively to their experience. I think it somewhat works both ways. The older we get the more we see how young in their development they are too.
@@AnyaLevine yes, its all relative. When you were in middle school, being in your 20's , you really believed @ that age, you have kids and drive an SUV
Don't worry as 3 year olds have a 10 step skin care routine nowadays, when i was 3 i just liked playing in the mud (which may have been better for my skin actually) 😂
I'm your age and have worn sunscreen religiously since I was 19 in the early '90s. There was info out there about photoaging back then, especially in fashion magazines, which is where I learned about it. Sunscreen and sun avoidance won't stop the aging process, but I did look young for a lot longer than most people, and still get told I have nice skin by other women. Due to perimenopause, I am now rapidly aging and it's rather frightening. I had no idea that occurred if you take hormone replacement, but it does. I think Baby Boomers on up aged more than GenX due to sun damage and smoking, so it is good if people have adopted healthier lifestyle habits.
You brought up such a good point. It’s the representation of what age looks like that creates the mindset. Gen Z are going to hit 40 and be so depressed. It’s tragic, really.
I wll be 61 this year. All my adult life people have mistook me for younger. Yes its flattering, but I'm getting to the point I dont really care - its not like I look in the mirror and swoon over how young I look - all I see is my face which hasnt changed much. I have an auto immune disease and I would rather have my health back.
Same here - always told how I look young for my age, about to turn 55, and I don't care to hear it anymore. It used to matter, and it no longer does, which I quite enjoy. ❤
I got told I look like I’m 60 at 41 because I don’t get Botox so I have forehead wrinkles. By gen z today . When I just look like my age . You are right
"You look good for your age" is a dubious compliment. Even worse is "you must have been beautiful when you were young". When people see photos of my mother in her 20s they always comment "wow you really looked beautiful when you were young", the insult is they always say it with surprise, implying she looks far from beautiful now.
You know, when I was in high school my best friends mom was my school teacher. An incident that I still always remember: I had seen photos of her in her 20s and I said oh wow you were stunning!! And I kept gushing. And I remember I was surprised at her reaction that she was surprised at my comments/didn't take it really as a compliment/seemed hurt. I didn't realized at the time that I was implying you don't look like that now/I never would assume that you could look so beautiful. Now I know that obviously is how it comes across. So it is a difficult situation to handle in the moment because sometimes its just a natural reflex reaction. From our perspective we see it as a compliment and from theirs they may be hurt by it. Now we can learn to be extra sensitive and tone our reflex reaction down and add "and your even more beautiful now!!"
Yes, exactly! I’ve gotten that comment more than I’d like to remember. I’d rather someone just not comment than to say a half assed compliment with the defeating word “were”. 🫤
You can say that. "I'm uncomfortable with guessing people's ages, so I have a personal policy not to answer these types of questions." Then find something to compliment them on since that's all they wanted anyway. Learn how to say no to people. It's fun, and you'll have a much less stressful life.
@@SatipatthanaSakuraDragonaThanks for the advice. It is a difficult position to be in. I was pushed into giving an answer once. I said I was bad at guessing ages. Really bad. But she kept pushing. So I answered 15 years younger than I thought. Still guessed too old. I felt bad. I assume she did not feel good. I never ask anyone how old they think I am because I don't want the answer.
@@dawnelder9046 Here are two phrases that can help you: 1) "No means no" said with a chuckle will usually make people understand they're being out of line in a non-confrontational way. 2) If they don't get it, just say "I'm not going to argue with you" in a matter-of-fact way. If they utter another peep that's not changing the subject, just walk away.
I'm 47 and I JUST said the other day, I feel old and irrelevant. Many women are talking about impossible beauty standards, but how do we fix that?? Great video!
I did not know this was a problem with Gen Z's reality. But now that you pointed it out, I totally see how they got there ...Gen Z really does live in a different reality which is scary.
This is the age old question… When women age, lots of things surface. Some transit wonderfully. Some become bitter. Gen Z will be no exception. Great video! ❤
I am 46. When I was younger I promised myself to age with grace and dignity. Luckily, i still have same opinion. I would rather live alone in woods then trying to fit into societal norms and looking ridiculous. Fear of own age is always ridiculous. We can fear sicknesses, we can fear of losing someone but age??? And I would love to hear how many of us would do the same.
Well said Charlotte. When I was in my 20's, 30's, even 40's, applying SPF 50 to your face every day just wasn't a thing - in fact it was quite the opposite. You would slather yourself in cooking oil and sit out in the sun to get every inch of you tanned, especially your face as that's the body part most people saw. We didn't have botox and 'tweakments' back then and skincare contained very basic ingredients. Gen Z have the opportunity to age more slowly. However, social media does give everyone an unrealistic idea of what a person should look like at a certain age. My mum was 40 when she had me and looking back on photos, she looks a lot older than most 40 year olds do now. Age can be an attitude and state of mind as well as genetics etc playing a role. Putting a video out and and asking people to guess your age is just asking for trouble in my opinion because you're most likely not going to get the answers you crave. Some who respond are probably jealous or just being deliberately unkind.
I mean, it's interesting the ageing only seems to mean how facial skin looks. We age internally, genetically, our organs age, and Gen Z will fare poorly because they smoke, vape, inject their faces in the prime of youth with fillers that migrate around and they have poor diets based on a lot of junk and obesity levels which were only seen in late middle age are common in that generation, as is super morbid obesity, which is the one of the greatest predictors of poor health later in life, and by later I mean they will be rife with diseases in their early 40s and will not last to 70 or 80.
@littleblackpistol I'm a fat millennial. The fat on my face makes me look younger. I think it depends. A lot of fatter people don't drink enough water or eat enough veggies and fruits. That's most likely where the issue is. Water is a big deal with being healthy inside and out.
I am a musician and doing my thing at age 27. Since being 21 I got stressed to be too old to be successful. Just because the pop world shows us youngsters, who btw sold their soul to Disney/Hollywood. So don't stress, we have a whole life to live.
You hit the nail on the head babes insecurity despises confidence and happiness shameful behavior if we could all just appreciate one another this world would be a lot less dark
I'm part of Gen-X and have had time to adjust to seeing the signs of aging on my face. I can't imagine what seeing the signs of aging will be like for these young women who are putting everything in the "looks" basket. Unless they have great genetics, unlimited time, and/or wealth (facelifts are expensive!), their age will eventually begin to show and they won't have put anything else in the _other_ "baskets" that make for a fulfilling mid-life and beyond.
I mean, facelifts etc show your age. Just in a different way. You cannot hide being decades older than twenty. You can only put on different disguises and the ugliest one IMO is hacking at your features with knives and poisons until it resembles a pulled, filled, clown mask. Actual youth bears no resemblence to the plastic surgery look. None. Adjust your hair and style as you grow older to what suits the face you have, not the face you had thirty years ago, and you'll be fine.
I notice that on Swedish TV there are many older women on TV shows and movies. In Greece older women disappear from the TV channels somehow, while male presenters still work in their 50s and 60s. It says something about the equality of men and woman in different countries...
Facts I'm 42 and married to a 28yr old, I get so much hate from younger women over it. But me and my husband look the same age, his parents thought I was younger than him 😂
Yeah I guess it’s true, I’m 33 and I still get approached by random guys in their 20s, they usually are so cute and shy too. I always make sure to let them down politely (kinda easy since I’m married) and to compliment them for their courage bc I feel like nowadays guys really have to walk on eggshells when approaching women, it just feels like everything got so much more complicated than needed, they probably approach me because maybe I look more relaxed and easygoing than 90% of the girls who are actually their age lol
Aging don’t hit til 50s when your period stops! Looking good in your 40s isn’t anything amazing 🤦🏾♀️and being black you have scientifically thicker skin and will age better than us thin skin white people
I am a bit older than you and here in the States we had a television show called Beverly Hills 90210. The characters were all supposed to be in high school--so about 14-18. The actors/actresses on the show were all in their twenties and thirties. So, I thought I looked so young and immature in comparison. Then, when I finally got to my real 20s and 30s, I thought I was over the hill and looked terrible. Now, in my late 40s, I realize how lucky I have always been. I continue to put effort in my outward appearance because it pleases me and I love makeup, trips to salon, doing my nails, etc. I feel aging is privilege for me personally. I am trying to raise my child with acceptance for all--regardless of their outward appearance. I get a lot of eye rolls, but I hope the message is getting in!
Thank you so very much for this video! I am 56 and don’t dare to leave the house or take a video call without a full face of makeup. Ageism induced by social media is so real.
Another thing that's interesting is that in media, the "pre teen" category has largely gone away and with plastic surgery 40 year old women are now still playing 25-30 year olds in film and tv. So we're living in a world where 26 year olds are playing high school students, actual 26 year olds, 40 year olds etc... We've flattened the representation of age to be 26 no matter how old or young you are. Additionally- being unmarried, renting an apartment, and being child free used to be associated only w/ people under 30. Now a wide range of ages have that lifestyle (which can change the perception of adulthood). Lastly- Online shopping has also leveled access to expressing your style. When stores were brick and mortar you largely had "young" and "old" styles and stores. Now 15 year olds thrift "older" brands and 40 year olds are buying Revolve tops. This is why I think genx, boomers and millenials themselves perceive millenials as young looking, where anyone raised with filters, fillers, and the forever 26 saturation of media may feel differently.
Tik Tok is a ridiculous and harsh platform. So mahy people have nothing to do but trolll and perpetuate hate. It boggles my mind. But then again, put yourself out there, that's what you get. If these women were TRULY confident, why post?! Who needs the accolades of strangers? LOVE your videos!!
The idea that you deserve to be insulted for “putting yourself out there” is ridiculous. The reality is that posting online is the new public square. It wasn’t ok to randomly insult people for appearing in public before the internet so what’s changed?
I was always told I looked much younger than my age until about 10 years ago. I’m 64 now and decided several years ago that it was ridiculous to keep coloring my hair since it was only going to get more gray! I’m in great shape and am having fun in life. My husband and I have a RUclips channel, and I have noticed that this community is much kinder and more tolerant than others (especially TikTok) and suspect it’s the generational difference in viewers/commenters. Great video and conversation Charlotte!❤
I’m 59 and was born in 1965, the beginning of GenX. I have been having some fun watching GenXers talk about the things we did growing up. We had Hollywood and magazines telling us we didn’t measure up. But people say things on social media they would not say in real life, at least I hope they wouldn’t. We can be our own worst critics but apparently some social media users can be even harder on us than we are on ourselves. I don’t miss being attached to the wall to talk on the phone. But I think somewhere between cordless phones and today we got really lost. What if we didn’t have our phones with us all the time? What if we didn’t count on strangers on a glowing rectangle to tell us our value and worth? Every human being is of infinite value and worth no matter what. I have known that long before social media came along.
I am 64 and proud of it. I do not watch Tik Tok. There is so much pressure to staying young particularly women not so much men, go figure. Another thing I have noticed is that older men want to date younger women and older women want to date younger men. Great thought provoking video. Thank you Charlotte!💋❤
Lovely video and thoughtfully presented. Thank you. I think many confuse “getting older” and “maturity”. And comparing (which is always lethal) ourselves to “celebrity” is foolish to begin with. Look through history, those generations who came before lived much different lives…harder lives…more difficult lives. It shortened life spans and was written upon their brows. Celebrities were subjected to harsh lighting, the elements and time schedules. Most ate poorly, drank heavily, smoked incessantly, slept only on pills and woke to them as well. The constant worry of being rendered irrelevant was ever present. Today’s celebrities still practice much the same, but now avail themselves to filters, fillers, injections, surgery and medications. Never look to “celebrity” as a barometer for anything. You should look healthy and vibrant in your late thirties!! LOL!! You should look healthy (if all is well) in your forties!! Because you’re still YOUNG!!! LOL!!! And dare I say you’re still young into your 50’s and even 60’s nowadays when you put it into context of the grand scheme of things!!! LOL!! I am 61 and have never wanted to be any age other than the one I was currently occupying…just the best version of it! Attitude has everything to do with everything!! Think youthful…keep a youthful mind, but be proud of maturing. I was always mistaken for much younger most of my life…my twin sons were 18 and their teachers in their senior year still thought I was their sister!! LOL! Millennials and Zers DO NOT have a lock on “looking younger than other generations”.LOL!!! I remarried my ex-husband at 49 and looked like a youthful much younger bride. I had my babies young, so I’m a young youthful grandma too!! And let’s not forget the roll genetics play. My mom, her sisters and my grandma all looked years younger than their age…they had beautiful hands for ever because they grew up in a time where women wore gloves everywhere…stylish, feminine, and great sun protection. Menopause will hit ya, ladies and things will start to change, but life is not lost! LOL!! It really just begins, because of maturity…you start to sift out all the useless stuff and surround yourself with what truly matters!! It’s pretty wonderful and truly a blessing!! PS…regarding men being allowed to “age”…I think again, they are maturing. Men are thrilled to mature because most men feel gawky and awkward as younger men. They feel unsure of themselves and feel intimidated by more mature men (regardless of physical strength -they know the difference and the value of each)…men love to be seen as older, mature and wise.
THANK YOU. I just turned 69 and I don’t recognize the face in the mirror looking back at me. I haven’t for 45 years😂😂. She’s not a size 8, she has a saggy neck and jowls, droopy eyelids, and random chin and lip hairs. I do recognize the hair because I quit coloring it when I hit my mid to late 40s. I was curious what color it actually was. I was carded at the bars all the way into my mid 30s, and then they stopped asking for my ID and started calling me “ma’am”. Now, I walk into the drugstore to buy gift cards and I get asked if somebody told me to buy them. Ummm, no…I’m buying dinner and massages for my kids for Christmas…why are you even asking me that??? (I didn’t know that was a scam thing, but I don’t trust any emails I don’t recognize, and don’t answer unknown calls or texts anyway) Getting old is not for the faint of heart. It’s quite the humbling experience!
Gosh this is an important discussion. I’m currently 48 with a soon to be 9 year old daughter. I’m one of the older mums at her school and I do put a bit of pressure on myself to look my very best as don’t want to ‘look’ like the oldest mum. This said am also trying to model a healthy and realistic attitude to ageing as I’m concerned about social media’s influence in general. It’s really difficult to strike a balance. I’m using language like “I’m excited to reach level 49 of life and the wholesome food I eat and exercise I do helps keep me healthy” - “and makeup isn’t necessary but it sure does add colour to my look”. We can but try 🤷🏻♀️ Keep up the great work Charlotte. ❤
YEES! I am almost 39 with a three year old, and I am hyper aware of the fact I must model self love for this little human when there are 10 year olds buying out Sephora beauty products and making RUclips beauty videos where they say “I look ugly” before doing a full skin care routine and applying makeup! NOT ON MY WATCH! If Gen Z has it bad, imagine what these even younger people will experience if we are not really careful! It’s our duty as moms to keep healthy expectations and speak kindly of ourselves (and other women.) Raising daughters isn’t easy with the influence of social media, yet our influence is even more important! There are little eyes and ears watching and listening, and we are up against A LOT.
@@MMLZombie I wish this was an exaggeration, but it’s not. This is actually happening!! It’s a very real thing, and there has been a lot of debate about these tweens and the parents who give them hundreds of dollars to buy beauty products and the mothers who have Tik Tok accounts in their name… all the while they film their very young girls doing skincare routines and makeup routines for clout and “likes” and gifts from major brands! Most of these accounts are even receiving sponsorship from brands. It’s sickening!
I'll be turning 68 in less than 3 weeks, and am truly happy with the natural changes time has made to my face, knowing they reflect the experience and wisdom I have gained in life. Plus, I remember with good humor what my father always used to say when I was much younger and would make an ignorantly disparaging comment about older people: "Keep breathing, kid." And boy-oh-boy, was he ever right! 😁
You have always been so kind about makeup and aging. I remember a video where you read a comment where someone said they felt ugly without makeup and you were just so stunned. I tell you I don't feel "ugly" yet I don't leave the house without it. I'm 62 and feel like I look ill or possibly "my age" without makeup. I'm glad to know that people are comfortable going out bare faced, wish I was yet you can't teach this old dog new tricks. Great video Charlotte!
Gen-X (1965-80) was the tail end of tanning and tanning beds being the thing to do and the real beginning of sunscreen being important. Tretinoin became more accessible and well known and Botox became available. Edited- I mean that tanning and tanning beds went from being recommended to a point where we were finally told consistently and educated that they were bad. Of course people did still use them- they were popular when I was in high school and are still. That’s not even getting into how technology and skincare is evolving almost exponentially faster. We also need to be careful about the classism implied in how we look. It goes around every few years: “Are you ugly/old or are you just poor?”
Tanning was very much still a thing in the early 2000’s. I’d say the tail end was people born in the late eighties to early nineties. Remember jersey shore? GTL
You are 100% right, on both points. 1968 here. The Bain de Soleil generation. I get headaches from the sun, so my skin looks "young". My sister was a sun worshipper, has more wrinkles, and now dermatologist visits to check for cancer, G-d forbid. Also, nothing ages the skin and one's insides like smoking & drinking. I'm always amazed by how young people were, like in the Cheers example, when we teens thought they were so old. Your point about classism is very interesting. Sometimes I wonder why some people can't pull themselves together, get a decent haircut, etc, but often the priority is just to get to 2 different jobs, help family members, or deal with an old car. Appearance doesn't make the list. I think it's a complicated topic, with different expectations and how people are judged as well.
Yep. People generally don't tan or lay out anymore, they wear sunscreen, use retinols (especially at earlier ages), and smoking rates have decreased significantly.
I’ll be 64 on Monday and I’m more comfortable in my body and I’m definitely more happy overall, than I’ve ever been. I have made a real effort to remain engaged in life and I continue to learn new things and meet new people. Aging is inevitable. Becoming old is a choice. Physical appearance is so transitory. It’s basically an illusion because we continually change right down to the cellular level. Gen Z would be far more content if they put their energy into the inner beauty, which IMO is eternal.
Aging is a privilege. My mother passed away at 57 and I was THRILLED t0 turn 58!! And it is true that Gen Z has a different reference point. But who care how old anyone is?
every generation has a different reference point--and, in the end, we are all on the. same page. I am a Baby Boomer--and we were not supposed to "trust anyone over 30"!
Aging gracefully is a combination of sooooooo many things. We forget to take into account or vices (e g. smoking, drinking, etc.), or nutrition, socio economic status, sleep, stress, mental health, genetics, etc. We also have to STOP belittling one another. As women, it is important that we encourage and uplift one another. We make not like someone but that doesn't mean you cannot be kind. ❤️
I just had 12 inches of my long gray hair cut off. That's a foot of hair and it's still past my shoulders. Mostly because it does get hard to manage and very hot in the summer, but I will never dye my hair again. I hated it. Every 3 weeks I was dyeing my roots and then going to the hair dresser for a dye which got ridiculously expensive so I started over and let the dye grow out. No regrets.
I'm 53 and swore myself years ago to not dye my gray hair. I still don't have a lot of gray but my own sister (58) just told me this week: Women (in this case me) that don't dye their hair look unkempt 😳. I was speechless!!! Another great topic, Charlotte 👏👏! I think it's important to talk about this. When I remember my grandma at the age of 80 she was an ancient lady in a house frock. My mother, now 80 too, would wear my clothes if I would borrow them to her 😉. Not to forget the big progress the "beauty industry" has made (My (grand)mother never heard about Botox, fillers, laser therapy, Retinol.....) But I think the biggest difference between the generations is the pressure of social media. 😘
At 67 I am comfortable with how I look, that is not to say that I don't wish to have less eye baggage, etc. but I do consider that I am breathing and healthy the best bonus. I am in retail luxury sales and when I see the frozen foreheads and puffy lips on 20 and 30 somethings I am truly astonished. As women we should learn that to grow older means acceptance of how far we have come and have to go. Thank you for your commentary, excellent video.
LMAO true story this just happened on the weekend. My husband is 65, I'm 61, our son is 40 and our daughter turned 38 today. Our son was out for a visit so my husband said let's go get lunch. We went to town sat down for a meal the waitress came over she was probably in her 60s as well, and said " oh how nice your dad taking you kids out for lunch" I couldn't stop laughing and our son was mortified, he replied with eww these are my parents she is not my sister. 😂😂😂 my husband and I were laughing so hard, our son didn't think it was funny so my husband said to him how do you think I feel not the first time people have thought she is my daughter. It made my day 😁 just embrace the age we are no matter how any of us age, life is too short to worry about the small stuff, trust me I know this first hand as the youngest of our children another daughter passed away 24 years ago. Great video Love from Canada ❤
A few times I went to lunch with my son (he is now 31 but it was around when he was in his mid-late 20s; I am now 61) and people thought we were a couple (ew). Once when I was 50 I was on crutches after breaking my knee and I was in Trader Joe’s with my husband and cracked some stupid joke with the guy at the cash register (probably in his 50s or 60s) and the cashier guy said to my husband “you have a very funny daughter.” (We are the same age and he is SO proud of how young he thinks he looks). I have more stories like that. What Charlotte just said - it’s the ultimate compliment to be told you look younger than your age. Most of these incidents - ALL, actually - just spontaneously happened, I was not out asking people how old I look. I would never do that (although as I said in my comment above I know a lot of haters who read this - funny to hate someone you don’t even know for a comment on youtube but whatever - are going to come on here now and tell me I look at least 85. Not that you can tell from that tiny photo but knock yourselves out).
I too have a lot of stories like that lol, and it's funny how people can hate not even knowing a person. I always say I feel.sorry for those people, because it must mean they have nothing good in their life to cut others down. Like I said life is to short, have fun , everyone one to me looks beautiful no matter their age, I love being my age, thankful to have gotten to this age ( I'm a retired cop as is my husband)
I’m 35 and have been worried about aging since I was about 18. Because of this, I have gone to great lengths to ensure my skin is properly taken care of and avoid the sun like the plague. I won’t get any work done aside from veneers in about 10 years, but I strive to age gracefully.
Wow it’s crazy to see the pictures from 30 years ago and see how old people in their 30’s looked. I do think we are taking care of our skin much better than 30 years ago.
I'm soon to be 61, this year in our ONG dinner one of the Gen Z girls (we welcome all help no matter the age) asked me about my age when I told her I was 60 yo she answered really loud: "That's old!! But amazing....when I grow old I want to be like you!!!". Everybody laughed and she looked at me confused (poor thing) so I told her: "Right now I don't know if I should kill ypu or thank you! Laughing of course. Then I proceed to explain about what to say ir not about anyone's age. At the end...I stay with...When I grow older I want to be like you!!! That was so sweet!!
This is such an important episode! All women should watch it, and perhaps get a big dose of reality. You are such a shining light, Charlotte. Never change! ❤
I've always loved crows feet - I think they make a person's eyes look beautiful and twinkly when they smile! I have my own now at 46 and I've lost enough people to feel privileged to still be alive. My focus is purely on strength, health and functional mobility. It's a relief to no longer be striving for beauty.
So much of social media is curated. Only the "best" photos and videos are posted. When you see people in real life, it is so different than what is put out on social media. I'm 45, turning 46 and i'm so glad to just enjoy what I have. All my wrinkles and fine lines have been earned. In my 20s, I decided that I wasn't going to be bound by other people's determination of me. It made my life so much easier as time has gone on. Thank you for making this video. Gives a lot of food for thought.
Thank you for this video! I’ve just turned 52 and I’m so proud to have these years behind me and in front of me. I haven’t had any botox/ fillers as I want to look like me and grow old just the way nature intended. I look on instagram and everyone between 20-30 all look the same> genetic, it’s not for me ❤
‘84 baby here 🫶🏼 you are so spot on about how we looked at people in their 30s and 40s when we were young! The differences are insane! I recently became acquainted with a 24 year old and hearing her talk about Botox as if it was a higher priority than clothing or food was heartbreaking however in the past two or three years, I’ve definitely started becoming more concerned about these things myself! If anyone ever tells me I look young for my age all I feel is fear because I know that’s not gonna last! Idk how we change this but for the sake of every last one of us I hope we do! We don’t even need to reinvent the wheel, just to view age slightly more similar to men would be a huge improvement!!
Everyone should focus on pro ageing well vs anti ageing. That's more the issue. That, and the lack of focus on paying attention to working on the inner person vs the shell you're in.
The 24 year old has been sold a bill of lies but let's face its, they are quite stupid and gullible and bizarrely shallow too. I hear from a mate who works in a 16-18 college how a lot of the girls have lip fillers etc already at that age. Done by god knows who too, certainly not anyone qualified to be messing about shoving needles into places with nerves that can easily be hit and cause facial paralysis. I have no pity at this point, I hope the NHS isn't expected to sort out the inevitable health issues and psychiatric problems when they have a face that's collapsed into a weird clown mask by age 35.
Of course to a younger generation you do. I remember thinking that when I was young. Millennials are obsessed with age for some reason. Just be thankful your alive.
Gen Z is even worse, with some of them sauntering into Ulta, and demanding skin care routines (with retinol), no less. And many of them are obsessed with the makeup and skin care videos meant for adults! Some of them, I hear, are as young as 9 years old!
Exactly, I am 28 and people think I am 18 because people my age made so many procedures in their faces on the social media that people doesn’t know how someone in their 20 or late 20 should look. My only action to look young is just do nothing on my face during my life. These heavy make up and filler are gonna destroy this people plan to look younger in the future
My mom (who turned 60 this year) has always told me that regarding her age "she's always at her best" (quick translation from my native language that might make more sense in the original saying ^^'). It might sound stupid but when I started telling myself that (along with some version of "it's a privilege to get old") it really did change my view on how other people saw me.
When I was younger, people always thought I was older. Now that I’m 53 most people think I look younger than I am. Living long enough to grow old is a blessing; however, I don’t consider 53 old these days. I do think taking care of our bodies is important, especially as one ages. And by that I mean maintaining muscle mass with weight training, getting enough sleep, and eating whole foods (with enough protein) not junk. My salt and pepper has been growing in for a while now and I love how it looks. I’m also not ashamed of my age. I feel younger now than I did when I was younger and sick because I wasn’t taking care of myself. With age comes wisdom.
Aging is a privilege denied to many
100% well said 👏🏻 🙏🏼❤
So true ❤️🙌
One of my favorite quotes of all time is, "Remember, the next time you are upset about how old you are, remember, some people were not accorded that privilege."
My sister died at age twenty-six, my grandmother at age forty-nine. My parents both died at age ninety-three.
My husband is age eighty-five
I am sixty-three
Every year is a gift, be grateful.
Aging sucks 😞😔 but it's part of life 🧬
I’m 60 loving with multiple chronic illnesses. Type 1 diabetic for 35 yrs. I should be dead. Lucky to still be here. It really is a gift to age.
When I was a teenager I thought my teachers looked so old - and some were women in their twenties! I recently opened my high school yearbook for the first time in decades, and was shocked by how much younger they looked than I remember them. Everybody over twenty looks ancient when you're a teenager.
😆 it’s weird right?
It works vice versa too that you think that, as a teen to the older adults, you seem more mature and not so young- but actually when you grow up and you're in your mid 20s and 30s you realise that 14-16 years olds seem sooooo young. Then you realise all the older men who hit on teen girls were gross AF.
@@domtekos7761 I once took a male friend to visit the doctor. It turned out the doctor was a freshly minted female graduate who was 24 at the time. She looked shockingly young to me, far to young to be a doctor.And my friend, who was in his 70's, was answering questions about his prostate!
@marcusmoonstein242 haha yeah, when you are much older many 20 something year olds still look like teens 😂
True !! I remember when I was In college at 19 I thought 30 was grandma age. I thought 30 was super old. Now that I’m passed 30 and when I see an 19 year old I think they look 12 lol. Funny the older we get the less older people look
Worst thing we ever did was give everyone a camera.
With filters
With high definition
And a platform to show the world. Photos used to be private.
Underrated comment 👏
And filters! 😂
My cousin just passed away at 59 after her three year battle with cancer, two weeks later my brother who just turned 53 passed away after taking his own life. So… enjoy the ride while you can people, your body is just a vessel and this life is short, one is SO lucky to grow old. Be Thankful for Every Moment.
So sorry for your loss 😞
@@kacrichton4434 I appreciate your kindness
I’m so sorry you lost two loved ones so close together, that’s horrible. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us 🙏🏼
You have my condolences.
So sorry for your loss, and you're so right we should be thankful xxx
The best thing about getting into my fifties and now sixties is....the freedom of not caring what others think about anything LOL....
I agree. I do color my hair - fun colors, not brown - but overall I don't care. Right now I am having problems with my back that will result in surgery. I've had to walk with a cane for several months. At first I resisted because it's not an image of myself that I like, but I really need it and now I've changed how I see myself. Fun hair color, a few wrinkles, needs cane!
Amen! I am 45 today and I feel so free, cannot wait for 50's I heard it's even better.
Same lol
Damn straight! 👍
@mychaelebeal9267 No, it's not better. Let's stop kidding ourselves. Enjoy 45, it's one of the best times, the best of prime and maturity. The 50s suck, but we try to make the best of it.
When I was a teenager all we cared about was partying and having fun, music concerts and hanging out, and if anything, we wanted to look OLDER. So glad I grew up without internet.
I totally agree! I would try so hard to look older in the 90’s just to get a beer in the pub! The internet has a lot to answer for!! 😂
Omg right? We did want to look older. Now that I’m 34, I totally forgot about those times …
Yes! I always hated being told I looked younger
Ahah that’s right! I remember being so upset and wishing to be much older. Anyway, I always looked much younger but suddenly people started to say I look my age. At least that ! 😅 I think the prob is many people just don’t feel good and so they try to make others unhappy too 💅 that’s it.
Me too!
I’m going to be 80 this summer. I’ve had a great life and have had many experiences. I recovered from a stroke in my early seventies and I’m just so happy to be alive and well. My hair is now white and I have lots of laugh lines. These show that I’ve lived a good life. Don’t sweat the small things.
Love this! I just turned 40 and have been feeling kind of down. We get so many messages as women and girls that our value is in our looks and youth. It's hard not to take that messaging in. It's inspiring to hear from older women like you who say how great they feel. Thank you 😊
Glad you’re alive and well
Do you ever mourn your youthful beauty? You’re obviously a beautiful woman still, do you ever long for your younger self in that way? I think as women, it’s something we have to adjust our perspective to.
@@itsjustmyopinionbut1671I’m 63 and I have always been beautiful. But I really take good care of my skin. I would never have surgery, botox or fillers. Just 2 days ago waiting for the train after an 18 hour day. A young man walked by and told me I was gorgeous. I never think about my age or anyone else’s. I don’t miss my youthful beauty at all. And I had no privacy because everyone was staring at me when I was in public. Your mind grows with age so your values change and you just aren’t consumed with yourself. So unless you haven’t grown emotionally you will be quite happy. But that is rare to not mature and it’s probably only the mentally immature who are unhappy with their age.
Yet your picture don’t look 80. 🤷🏻♀️
A 50yo here 👋 reminding herself every day that “Comparison is the thief of joy” Roosevelt . Thank you for this video Charlotte 😊
I started working for Walmart at age 56. I just retired. I worked there nearly 19 years. I’ll be 75 in August.
Around the time I was 60, or a little more, I was on a register helping a young man check out. Before he left he said, I just have to say that you’re very beautiful. I was dumbfounded…
I spluttered and said something stupid. I’m old enough to be your grandmother. He smiled and said, Even if that’s true, it doesn’t change the fact that I think you’re beautiful.
I gathered my wits sufficiently to say thank you.
I had become so accustomed to being invisible. To only get the qualified compliment….for your age.
That day I received a golden nugget to relive…. I wasn’t invisible and probably never was….
Thank you for a wonderful video!💛
how marvellous! sometimes I see older folk and want to tell them how lovely they look, mind you I'm 52 so I have an appreciation for "ageing well" !
aww you are very beautiful
In my country, I no longer exist, I'm 45! Everything is stop, when you turn 45! No jobs, no more man's atentions ( just for fun), no more beautiful dresses, bikini, no more everything you can imagen...I'm done with my life, it's so hard. My husband go with girl she is in early 30, childrens go away, they over 18....I'm alone, I will lost my job next year, so no job, no nothing..just go and rooth, old granny. That's hurt soooo sooo much! Still full of life, still wish for some love ( IMPOSIBLE), still wish to work (maybe online something). I can't even get a help from my country for house..just ppl under 45 - willl be homless! Oh Gosh..my face is change over night...I just wish to live life, with no ageism, and be usefull as just one year youngers. Depression here is bff for women my age in my position, and a lot of woman as me live just to be alive...sad.
That young man was raised well! I can only hope I will raise my boys to be that genuine and kind.
Aw he’s sounds sweet and yes you are very pretty
That is exactly why people need to get off the social media and start living in their own reality.
Actual young people are so obsessed with apparence, it will be so hard for them to age...
They'll be aging w/o being able to hold the phone w/ filters on 24/7.
Yeah the neurotic level of obsession with their looks is downright disturbing. It’s pathological. The smart phones have destroyed the healthy development of an entire generation.
yes, they are so obsessed with their physical appearance, they won't cope. AND they'll be shallow and out of touch, and not cope when the next generation takes their place.
they will not, bc they will use botox, fillers, lasers, plastic surgery like wimen already do the last +20 years.
Hard and expensive 😂😂😂
Aging is crap on a physical level but on a psychological level, I've never be so strong.
So true
Actually I think that the Gen-Z are looking older than they are because they are already doing all the fillers that "older" women/men are doing🤭
Also, a lot of them are overweight which is aging.
Precisely. They're emulating old ladies
They are younger and fall more into pressure. And they are more likely to follow and just be posers.
@@iamReptar true. I have empathy for them for that. I remember being a kid and thinking other's opinions are so important. It takes a few more decades to figure it out 😒
@@cailllou25And smoking is getting more and more common again too.
Some random 21 year old guy tried to guess my age completely unprompted....I told him I'm not old but I'm old enough to not appreciate that sort of interaction especially unsolicited
Right. Don't comment on other people's bodies. That would include the face.
That 21 year old guy was probably hitting on you and doing a terrible job at it.
I am 22 years old, part of Gen Z. Worked a lot of retail/food service and many of my coworkers were in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. As an esthetician, most of my clients are over 40. People age so differently yet remain beautiful. I hear alot of negative self-talk from women who are older than me and it's sad. I always tell them, trust me I've seen many faces and you do in fact look your age, and many people have the same skin concerns, your skin is normal, and you look beautiful.
This whole comment sounds like virtue signaling but the purpose is really to show that we are not all doomed and that there is no point in having an us-vs-them mentality when it comes to age. The generation war hurts us all in the end. Ageism and filters destroy us all. For every young girl who asks me what to do about her "too big" pores, there is a old woman who says there is no hope for her skin, as if her appearance is a lost cause.
Besides, my young ass will be a old ass one day. Why would I say mean things about my future self?
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Absolutely beautifully said
Well said 👏🏼 from an old ass 54… 55…56… something year old age is but a number that I continually forget! 😅🤣
Very well said 👌🤗
It’s a blessing to grow old. Not everybody gets to grow old, unfortunately. I try to tell myself that my wrinkles are a blessing, on days when they irritate me.
I'm so here for this!
I love your channel people always tell me I look like I'm 21 and I'm 31
Omg Wayne is here what a treat 🤗🤗🤗
Hi Wayne, adore you always. ♥️🇨🇦♥️
So am I. I subscribed today.
Good job. And I have a Gen Z son. Thanks for the wake-up call.
This is why you're a make-up god (or should be) to anyone over 35.
I’m 27. One thing I find really heartbreaking is the genre of post that goes something like “I’ve trained myself not to move my face/eyebrows/forehead when I laugh or speak so that I don’t get wrinkles.” It is so evil that this obsession with looking young is making women not want to laugh, smile, or emote. I will not give up expressing my joy for the next 60+ years to avoid looking “old”
Holy shit… really???? In a way, guess im low key glad to have a natural RBF. 😅
They don't even realise they are basing their identity on being sad fuckable objects to men, which is perhaps the worst thing any woman can do. They will not succeed, because even if they freeze their face skin into porcelain plates, they will with time inevitably learn and experience life and all its sorrows and joys and become wiser and less malleable and less insecure, and the kind of older dudes that go for 19 year olds don't want to be around women with any sense of self or experience to sniff out idiots, whatever they look like.
I’m a little guilty over here, but thankfully not just for my looks. I get headaches easily when smiling too much. I wish that wasn’t the case though! 😅
I have 2 words, Terry Schiavo. It's very sad but she was in a coma for years, barely moved her face, didn't get sun obviously and she still aged. When she finally was allowed to pass away she looked her age, not 26.
Do people actually do that? I have only heard Melanie Trump does that. What's the point of living if we can't actually enjoy life?
I'm 61 and ageing gracefully is SO liberating. I look after my skin with inexpensive skincare, eat decent food, don't smoke or drink, still wear a small amount of makeup everyday, dress well, love nature and walk regularly and never been so happy in my own skin. We all need to embrace and learn to love ourselves instead of comparing and being brainwashed into self loathing....that's freedom x
Me, too 😊
I love this!! This sounds like a thing to look forward to, not fear. We need to hear more about the inward blessings that accompany aging, and less of the anxiety around actually looking like we're aging. I'm looking forward to being so deeply rooted and happy as I grow older
Im in my 30's, when I was the age of gen Z I didn't even think about looking younger or what older people looked like. Crazy how twisted its gotten
Yea me either. I’m 30 and I didn’t spend any time in my 20’s thinking about how old anyone looked to me. It’s a strange concept to me. I honestly can’t wait for the gen z bullies to get older though so they can see what it’s like.
I did look younger than my age , but a decade of chronic pancreatitis due to a botched gall bladder surgery, changed all that. But I quickly realized that being alive deserved first place in my priorities. I dress for me, for joy, for mucking out the barn in old jeans and boots, for dinner out with my husband. Do I look my age? YES! And thank goodness I am here to see it.
Like she said, there is no "for your age." We all have internal clocks and science believes there is sort of a switch in our cells that is genetically set for each of us to turn on and to tell our bodies, "ok, it's time to start aging." I look at that like it's our bodies getting on with the natural progression of life. Looked at in that way, our days are very much a gift: only so many sunrises and sunsets to behold. Only so many sleeps. Only so much laughter and learning... In that regard, the way we "look" is so very trivial, and prioritizing it and trying to keep to a standard of some imaginary metric that tells us we look "good" or "bad" for our age is nonsense.
Same, at 40 had ppl thinkin I was my 10 years younger friends equal, then got Chronic Fatigue Syndrom 10 y ago, then 8 years ago Breastcancer. Didn't even had chemo yet, but now there's days were I feel I look like my 70 y old mother. Sunken dark and tired eyes, because of anti hormone therapy all skin looking dry, hanging, lots of wrinkles. But at the end it doesn't play a role, bc of back surgery for bone metastases I look like Quasimodo, and because I had no energy anyway since 10 years, dating was never an option for all that time anyway. Now I can just be happy if I can survive some more time, manage the pains, my ever collecting new symptoms boy and be there for my kids a bit more
I am over 60, and I am thankful for my age.
Amen! I am thankful for my age! It's not normal to look young when we aren't! Or, it looks like we are "trying too hard."
Me as well!
Amen on that note
I agree. Living a long life is a blessing. We should be grateful for our bodies no matter how they look.
This is exactly what we should think. There is a privilege in getting older. We are lucky enough to still be here. I am going to a funeral shortly of a beautiful woman (she was truly beautiful, with or without make up) in her very early fifties, she loved life and grasped it by the balls, so I am exceptionally grateful that I woke up this morning in my mid fifties. What matters is that we take the best care of ourselves that we can.
I’m 53 and my body and skin are not the same as at the age of 20, of course, but I feel more feminine and beautiful than ever. I forgave myself for not being perfect and feel better about how I really am
53 as well. I am grateful for every moment... we survived a great deal, you and I!
I am also 53yrs young and I love who I have become. In my 20s, I was aggressive and miserable. Now, in my 50s, like you, I am much more feminine, happy, hopeful, and grateful for my years in the 80s and 90s. I like who I am ag this age and all the wisdom I have picked up along the way.
You look way younger keep up the good work 🎉🎉🎉
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You look great!
My mom is 70 and she is so obsessed with being told she looks younger than she is. I find it sad that she cares about her face so much but not her actual health.
Unfortunately, people look @ your face and make quick judgments in a few nano seconds. Strangers & peopje you know. Its not fair, but it doesn't stop you from making quick judgments
My Mum is 77 and she thinks the whole beauty industry is for vain people. Which is great, as a professional in the beauty industry... 😢
I have a coworker who is 65 and I was shocked cause she could pass for 45 but she takes really good care of herself. She’s active mentally and physically
I'm 49 and when I was young I knew the difference between the looks of someone who had access to all the beauty and healthcare their millions could buy. The problem as I see it is that there's a blurring of the lines between reality and artifice now. Look at the TV shows presented as 'reality' but far from it.
I’m 63 and enjoy some Botox,filler, and wear makeup everyday but at some point it’s true that “you’re as young as you feel”. A bigger gift than looking 10 yrs younger is feeling 20 years younger than some of my peers - working out, having energy and endurance, waking up without aches and pains. Hopefully young women will value their health at least as much as what’s in the mirror.
Golden Girls dealt with this issue forty years ago; the success of the show proved that older women could be perfectly successful in leading roles and the show still holds up today. They even did an episode on ageism in season 5 ("Rose Fights Back")
Its the best show. I watch an episode every day. Blanche is a legend 😂😂 ❤❤
@@tallisinwonderland4724you gotta love the golden girls, they were simply phenomenal!🥰
Interestingly, these women were in their fifties 50's! But we think it they were older because the hair, clothes, makeup, etc. We thought it was about them in their 60-70's
@@selenachan4230Right the youngest lady played the oldest.
Love that show, I watch it all the time.
I'm 42 and rocking my gray hairs. I'm proud to age. I worked HARD for these gray hair!
Unfortunately, ageism is alive and well even in these days and times. An example that i experience all the time is why do I still have long hair? I am in my 60's and for some reason people feel the need to stop me and comment on when do I plan on cutting my hair? I tell them Well, it's healthy, and I like it long and my husband loves it. But why do people still think when you reach a certain age you are supposed to cut your hair? Last night on a T.V. show a young man said he thinks older women should not have long hair; he couldn't tell you why not just that he felt it was so wrong. And then he was asked at what age should a women cut her hair and he said 42. What? Well, men have notoriously never been kind to older women but why can't women support each other in all ages instead of tearing each other down, how sad.
It's probably because they associate long hair with sexual desirability and thus seeing it on a woman they consider non-viable in this regard makes them feel deeply uncomfortable. Which is they own bloody problem for being so fragile and snowflakey. I laugh at dudes like this and mock them to hell, and they tend to get sullen and shut their traps. Which is the desired outcome. How dare they run around dictating hair length to anyone? Most men dress like crap and do nothing to look good for women, especially as they age. So nah, their opinions are neither sought nor listened to.
Agree!! Or, just as bad - that we should dress "appropriately"! My ex's 90 yr grandmother had beautiful long silver hair that she wore in a pretty, classy bun and would let it down each night and brush before bed. I always said I would be just like her when I was in my earlyv30's. I'm 59 two days ago & although I think I would be heartbroken to give into going grey someday, I still wear my hair to my mid back. It's naturally curly and red and everyone loves it. But, I'm very fortunate and still get carded to buy alcohol, occasionally!! 🎉
So relatable! I’m in my 60’s and have long hair and my male 24 year old hairdresser just suggested I cut it drastically. I really should have asked him why he thought it was a good idea. My hair is very thick, healthy, and looks amazing. I’m told all the time how fabulous it is. I’ll cut my hair when I’m good and ready and it won’t be because some 20 something year old suggested it. Glad you’re rocking yours long! I love seeing it on our age group.
When my son was about 17 his girlfriend's mom chopped all of her long beautiful hair off. He asked me why women do this when they turn 40. Told him I had no clue why. He said "please don't do that when you turn 40, there is no good reason to." I'm 52 with waist length healthy hair. I get it cut regularly to keep the ends in check but I have no intentions on ever whacking it all off. My mom has had the Golden Girls haircut all of my life. I have promised my son and husband that I won't ever be doing that. No thanks! When I saw the YT video "How Golden Girls would have looked like in 2022", it was all the incentive I need.
@@Lovenarek When my 22yo nephew was in school to be a hairdresser, he told me that I was too old to have long hair. I was 35, I wanted to slap the little $H!T!! He was convinced that I was lying and that I just had a head full of extensions. I told him to feel around, you won't find any. He seemed annoyed and never took me up on my offer. He believed once you were 30, you needed to go short. I never let him get near me with scissors with that attitude. I assumed he was taught this in school because short haircuts need more frequent visits for upkeep, frequent visits = more money.
I think people today as a whole truly do look much younger for longer, but I think modern styling really skews that perception. I recently saw pictures from a high school reunion that took place in 2004. Everyone in the pictures were in their mid 30s, and I thought they truly looked much much older than me or any of my friends (I’m 32). My friends and I have not had surgeries, fillers, or Botox.However, I think the outdated clothing and hair styles were influencing how I perceived their age. If you took the same men and women and gave them modern clothes and hair, maybe I would see them as much younger.
One positive change I notice in society is people wearing whatever they want no matter their age. Growing up, I remember shopping with my mom and she would try things on and say “this is for a much younger woman” even if she looked amazing in it! I don’t think people care quite as much about “dressing their age.” I see people dressing in more elevated, and high quality clothes as they get older, but they are still very much on trend.
Yes. I am 37 and wear pretty much whatever i want. And i like staying up to date on trends (though not always following them lol), dressing stylish etc, despite my "advanced years"! My mom at 38 looked absolutely beautiful, but there was always this hidden perception she had to "dress like a mom".
@@minervarose7664 yes, exactly! Who created those 'rules' 😢 I'm a 39yr old mum and I wear whatever I like and keep up with trends if I like them and feel like they suit me. If not then I don't bother . . . Simples 🤷🏼♀️ I dress for me - always have done and always will do 💯💯 I don't feel any different to in my 20s (except maybe wiser🤔) so why dress any different
Men in their 50's who are dating and marrying women under 30 are not helping ... I am 43 and feel so old sometimes...
well that's never going to change! men are shallow, they don't care for an intellectual equal.
Dont look at it like that. Think of about it, being younger means stupidity in mans eyes. Immature and impressionable. Why be in line to get picked first for abuse, cheating, and betrayal? Beauty and nice bodies dont save you from any of that. It makes you first target.
I'm 42 and my boyfriend is 29.
You wouldn't want to be with that kind of 50 year old man. You really wouldn't. A fifty year old who goes for a twenty something as a life partner is broken and fixated on having a sex trophy (ironic when that's the age the dysfunction and lower sex drive sets in men, perhaps this is why they reach for the trophy to signal to other men they still have it?) or worse, some naive young thing they can push around and expect to buckle under their demands. They are juvenile for their age, they lack maturity. These marriages or relationships inevitably head south anyway.
Yeah, I'm one of those couples - sorry it's not helping you ❤ but hey no one is stopping you dating a man in their 60s though 😉 ❤
Love you so much, Charlotte. I just turned 70. I’ve never dyed my hair which was fully gray/silver/white in my early 40s. Back then everyone thought I was much older than I was. Now they tell me I haven’t changed in 30 years 😂😂. I think I look my age and I think I look fantastic. Cancer survivor and grateful to be here. You’re the best, Charlotte.
Another part of the discussion is: who do young people think they are?! Why do they get to set the tone and why do we look at them with awe and admiration when the only thing they have going for them is the shell? What about what goes on on the inside? I would argue that the inner life of our plus 40 bodies (heads, really) is so much more interesting than those in their twenties.
Amen to that. I agree wholeheartedly.❤
Because they are relevant. And we are not
It's the advertisers and those who make money that set the agenda, not the youngsters. Let's not turn on younger people - lead by example.
What I find absolutely ridiculous, when you see an unfiltered picture from, for example, Jlo, there are comments like "this photo is so edited, why do you do this to her". What the hell? People don't know how real people look like anymore. It's so sad!
Just think of the torture they are setting themselves up for in 10-15 years. It's actually really sad.
It feels like a general disrespect for their elders...with that said, I am 65, and would never wish to be in my 20s, 30s or 40s again...I love my age...I'm in better shape, my skin is healthier, my relationships authentic
This is my aspiration as I get older!
It’s easy to look young in your 30’s and early 40’s if you take care of yourself. Hormone changes in your mid-to-late 40’s and 50’s are so extreme they literally are you. Menopause causes a 30% reduction in collagen in your skin…30% is a massive amount. Also, chronic insomnia is common due to hormone changes, and chronic lack of sleep ages people. It’s hard without HRT to not age at a certain point.
This is what most women who brag in the comments along the lines of "I am 43 but look much younger" are not aware of....It does not last, it ends with the menopause..That is why there are many women in their early 40's who pass for 30's - but there are no women in their LATE 40's that still do....The switch happens almost over night. 44 - you're still young , 48 - you look like your grandma...Women in general seem to not be informed about this.
You age a ton even with hormone replacement. I always took care of myself and didn't begin to age until my very late 30s, and it wasn't much, just a loss of fat in my face (I'm also thin, which doesn't help). At 40, I still didn't have a wrinkle in sight, and my body was the same as ever. But by my late 40s, I didn't even recognize myself anymore, and it happened overnight. I just feel like everything I spent decades doing to avoid aging horribly like my mother was a waste of time: hiding from the sun, wearing hats, using sunscreen daily, eating healthy, not smoking, not drinking, exercising, etc. Menopause won in the end. I'd like my 30-something hormones back!
@@oceans.and.deserts ahhh bummer! So you went on HRT way before you showed any signs of aging, and still “fell off a cliff”?
@natasha09179 I have been on a combo birth control pill for over 30 years. I started skipping the placebo week in my early 30s to suppress my long, painful periods. So, technically, I could be post-menopausal, but I highly doubt it based on family history. I have a GYN, and she's on board with my staying on the pill to avoid most peri-menopausal symptoms and keeping my bones strong and heart healthy, plus lowering the risk of certain cancers. All I know is something happened 2 years ago, which is when all the weird symptoms started, like alopecia, forgetfulness, etc., plus the rapid aging and very mild weight gain. Oh, joy.
@@oceans.and.deserts those all sound like classic menopause symptoms (like the brain fog), which is odd if you are on birth control, even if you are in menopause. I don’t seem to follow the typical pattern, personally. I have no heavy periods, for example, but the other symptoms are present if I get off HRT. Regular BC gave me horrendous joint pain and swelling in my legs, even a super low dose, and I couldn’t deal with it. The only other thing I am hearing is to use estrogen directly on the face (the weak kind made for the labia), because the systemic stuff doesn’t seem to do enough to combat signs of aging. That is my personal plan, as of now. Dr. Erin Hirsch from Harvard med mentions this.
I'm 46 on Friday and perimenopausal and it makes me extremely grumpy that my partner gets to look more handsome/wise/successful/whatever as times passes and I will slowly turn into an invisible raisin. Outrageous.
You age the same actually. Except for genetics
@@jazmeen04 I think she means society's perception of aging in men and women. Men are praised for looking more handsome etc with age, whereas women become more invisible, as society takes a dim view of women aging
Invisible raisin😂😂❤ I’m not at you but with you. I’m 55 and I can relate
@@twoleftfeet9626 men don't look better with age. Compare 60 year old men and women. It's the same.
guys over 45 look awful! I see tons od 45+ plus men with beer belly, bald heads, and wrinkled lie a raisin. yuck
To all of the women out there know you are beautiful no matter your age, height, weight, or wrinkles you may or may not have. Thank you for the wonderful video.
I'm in my 50s and work with college/university students and they always think I'm sooo old. I don't think many of the young tiktok users can tell how old people are. Also, I am thankful for this discussion because I often feel that these women in my age range on social and other media look so much better than I do. I haven't had any "work" done and I don't get Botox, etc. so I am sure those women do look younger than I, but I resent that I am expected to do all that stuff. Let's get real about what is most important. I have had potentially fatal conditions, so FFS I am just happy to be here.
Also people forget how expensive it all is too.
Amen to that ✔️
It's a privilege to make it to "old age"!
To be fair I think we all thought that way when we were younger. For teens and early 20s people I think especially because they feel so grown up and adult and yet have so few years behind them looking at someone twice their age seems so old comparatively to their experience. I think it somewhat works both ways. The older we get the more we see how young in their development they are too.
@@AnyaLevine yes, its all relative. When you were in middle school, being in your 20's , you really believed @ that age, you have kids and drive an SUV
Sweet, I’m about to turn 43 soon, if they think I look old then I am leaning so hard into weird old witch of the woods energy, nobody can stop me!
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Don't worry as 3 year olds have a 10 step skin care routine nowadays, when i was 3 i just liked playing in the mud (which may have been better for my skin actually) 😂
Yes Keke Chanel did a video about how 10 year olds are now doing Sephora reviews of skincare and makeup😂. It's crazy
50 here! SPF helped you guys! We had no clue about sun damage etc
Yup spent my whole childhood kicked outside with no sunscreen I’m 52 it’s now obvious all the sunscreen as an adult didn’t help
I'm your age and have worn sunscreen religiously since I was 19 in the early '90s. There was info out there about photoaging back then, especially in fashion magazines, which is where I learned about it. Sunscreen and sun avoidance won't stop the aging process, but I did look young for a lot longer than most people, and still get told I have nice skin by other women. Due to perimenopause, I am now rapidly aging and it's rather frightening. I had no idea that occurred if you take hormone replacement, but it does. I think Baby Boomers on up aged more than GenX due to sun damage and smoking, so it is good if people have adopted healthier lifestyle habits.
You brought up such a good point. It’s the representation of what age looks like that creates the mindset. Gen Z are going to hit 40 and be so depressed. It’s tragic, really.
I wll be 61 this year. All my adult life people have mistook me for younger. Yes its flattering, but I'm getting to the point I dont really care - its not like I look in the mirror and swoon over how young I look - all I see is my face which hasnt changed much. I have an auto immune disease and I would rather have my health back.
Same here - always told how I look young for my age, about to turn 55, and I don't care to hear it anymore. It used to matter, and it no longer does, which I quite enjoy. ❤
I got told I look like I’m 60 at 41 because I don’t get Botox so I have forehead wrinkles. By gen z today . When I just look like my age . You are right
"You look good for your age" is a dubious compliment. Even worse is "you must have been beautiful when you were young". When people see photos of my mother in her 20s they always comment "wow you really looked beautiful when you were young", the insult is they always say it with surprise, implying she looks far from beautiful now.
Its a tough thing not to comment in surprise in those situations.
You know, when I was in high school my best friends mom was my school teacher. An incident that I still always remember: I had seen photos of her in her 20s and I said oh wow you were stunning!! And I kept gushing. And I remember I was surprised at her reaction that she was surprised at my comments/didn't take it really as a compliment/seemed hurt. I didn't realized at the time that I was implying you don't look like that now/I never would assume that you could look so beautiful. Now I know that obviously is how it comes across.
So it is a difficult situation to handle in the moment because sometimes its just a natural reflex reaction. From our perspective we see it as a compliment and from theirs they may be hurt by it.
Now we can learn to be extra sensitive and tone our reflex reaction down and add "and your even more beautiful now!!"
Yes, exactly! I’ve gotten that comment more than I’d like to remember. I’d rather someone just not comment than to say a half assed compliment with the defeating word “were”. 🫤
@@monaattiah3976 Yes! Very nice! You recognize it and empathized enough to alter the comment. 👌🏼
I'm always horrified when someone asks me to guess their age. It's awful to put people on the spot like that.
I lie, and go under, even though they look 20yrs older
You can say that. "I'm uncomfortable with guessing people's ages, so I have a personal policy not to answer these types of questions." Then find something to compliment them on since that's all they wanted anyway.
Learn how to say no to people. It's fun, and you'll have a much less stressful life.
@@SatipatthanaSakuraDragonaThanks for the advice. It is a difficult position to be in. I was pushed into giving an answer once. I said I was bad at guessing ages. Really bad. But she kept pushing.
So I answered 15 years younger than I thought. Still guessed too old. I felt bad. I assume she did not feel good.
I never ask anyone how old they think I am because I don't want the answer.
I’m the same. I typically say “noooo idea, how old?”
Or
“Naaaah, I dislike this age game question”
@@dawnelder9046 Here are two phrases that can help you: 1) "No means no" said with a chuckle will usually make people understand they're being out of line in a non-confrontational way. 2) If they don't get it, just say "I'm not going to argue with you" in a matter-of-fact way. If they utter another peep that's not changing the subject, just walk away.
I'm 47 and I JUST said the other day, I feel old and irrelevant. Many women are talking about impossible beauty standards, but how do we fix that?? Great video!
I did not know this was a problem with Gen Z's reality. But now that you pointed it out, I totally see how they got there ...Gen Z really does live in a different reality which is scary.
This is the age old question…
When women age, lots of things surface. Some transit wonderfully. Some become bitter. Gen Z will be no exception.
Great video! ❤
I am 46. When I was younger I promised myself to age with grace and dignity. Luckily, i still have same opinion. I would rather live alone in woods then trying to fit into societal norms and looking ridiculous. Fear of own age is always ridiculous. We can fear sicknesses, we can fear of losing someone but age??? And I would love to hear how many of us would do the same.
Well said Charlotte. When I was in my 20's, 30's, even 40's, applying SPF 50 to your face every day just wasn't a thing - in fact it was quite the opposite. You would slather yourself in cooking oil and sit out in the sun to get every inch of you tanned, especially your face as that's the body part most people saw. We didn't have botox and 'tweakments' back then and skincare contained very basic ingredients. Gen Z have the opportunity to age more slowly. However, social media does give everyone an unrealistic idea of what a person should look like at a certain age. My mum was 40 when she had me and looking back on photos, she looks a lot older than most 40 year olds do now. Age can be an attitude and state of mind as well as genetics etc playing a role. Putting a video out and and asking people to guess your age is just asking for trouble in my opinion because you're most likely not going to get the answers you crave. Some who respond are probably jealous or just being deliberately unkind.
I mean, it's interesting the ageing only seems to mean how facial skin looks. We age internally, genetically, our organs age, and Gen Z will fare poorly because they smoke, vape, inject their faces in the prime of youth with fillers that migrate around and they have poor diets based on a lot of junk and obesity levels which were only seen in late middle age are common in that generation, as is super morbid obesity, which is the one of the greatest predictors of poor health later in life, and by later I mean they will be rife with diseases in their early 40s and will not last to 70 or 80.
@littleblackpistol I'm a fat millennial. The fat on my face makes me look younger. I think it depends. A lot of fatter people don't drink enough water or eat enough veggies and fruits. That's most likely where the issue is. Water is a big deal with being healthy inside and out.
Brilliantly said. Social media has poisoned our society.
I am a musician and doing my thing at age 27. Since being 21 I got stressed to be too old to be successful. Just because the pop world shows us youngsters, who btw sold their soul to Disney/Hollywood. So don't stress, we have a whole life to live.
Very interesting video. I'm over 60 and feel blessed to still be here.
You hit the nail on the head babes insecurity despises confidence and happiness shameful behavior if we could all just appreciate one another this world would be a lot less dark
I'm part of Gen-X and have had time to adjust to seeing the signs of aging on my face. I can't imagine what seeing the signs of aging will be like for these young women who are putting everything in the "looks" basket. Unless they have great genetics, unlimited time, and/or wealth (facelifts are expensive!), their age will eventually begin to show and they won't have put anything else in the _other_ "baskets" that make for a fulfilling mid-life and beyond.
I mean, facelifts etc show your age. Just in a different way. You cannot hide being decades older than twenty. You can only put on different disguises and the ugliest one IMO is hacking at your features with knives and poisons until it resembles a pulled, filled, clown mask. Actual youth bears no resemblence to the plastic surgery look. None. Adjust your hair and style as you grow older to what suits the face you have, not the face you had thirty years ago, and you'll be fine.
I notice that on Swedish TV there are many older women on TV shows and movies. In Greece older women disappear from the TV channels somehow, while male presenters still work in their 50s and 60s. It says something about the equality of men and woman in different countries...
When people in their 20’s look older, an actual older person who still looks hot is a threat….😮
Can confirm. -Elder Millennial who often gets approached by Gen Z men.
Facts I'm 42 and married to a 28yr old, I get so much hate from younger women over it. But me and my husband look the same age, his parents thought I was younger than him 😂
I’ve often thought there was some jealousy coming from people in their 20s and 30s towards women in 40s+. Like how dare you still look good!
Yup.
Yeah I guess it’s true, I’m 33 and I still get approached by random guys in their 20s, they usually are so cute and shy too. I always make sure to let them down politely (kinda easy since I’m married) and to compliment them for their courage bc I feel like nowadays guys really have to walk on eggshells when approaching women, it just feels like everything got so much more complicated than needed, they probably approach me because maybe I look more relaxed and easygoing than 90% of the girls who are actually their age lol
I just turned 40 10 days ago. Enjoying every minute with no work done on my face 💆🏾♀️
Aging don’t hit til 50s when your period stops! Looking good in your 40s isn’t anything amazing 🤦🏾♀️and being black you have scientifically thicker skin and will age better than us thin skin white people
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I am a bit older than you and here in the States we had a television show called Beverly Hills 90210. The characters were all supposed to be in high school--so about 14-18. The actors/actresses on the show were all in their twenties and thirties. So, I thought I looked so young and immature in comparison. Then, when I finally got to my real 20s and 30s, I thought I was over the hill and looked terrible. Now, in my late 40s, I realize how lucky I have always been. I continue to put effort in my outward appearance because it pleases me and I love makeup, trips to salon, doing my nails, etc. I feel aging is privilege for me personally. I am trying to raise my child with acceptance for all--regardless of their outward appearance. I get a lot of eye rolls, but I hope the message is getting in!
Thank you so very much for this video! I am 56 and don’t dare to leave the house or take a video call without a full face of makeup. Ageism induced by social media is so real.
Another thing that's interesting is that in media, the "pre teen" category has largely gone away and with plastic surgery 40 year old women are now still playing 25-30 year olds in film and tv. So we're living in a world where 26 year olds are playing high school students, actual 26 year olds, 40 year olds etc... We've flattened the representation of age to be 26 no matter how old or young you are.
Additionally- being unmarried, renting an apartment, and being child free used to be associated only w/ people under 30. Now a wide range of ages have that lifestyle (which can change the perception of adulthood).
Lastly- Online shopping has also leveled access to expressing your style. When stores were brick and mortar you largely had "young" and "old" styles and stores. Now 15 year olds thrift "older" brands and 40 year olds are buying Revolve tops. This is why I think genx, boomers and millenials themselves perceive millenials as young looking, where anyone raised with filters, fillers, and the forever 26 saturation of media may feel differently.
100% agree with all your points!
Tik Tok is a ridiculous and harsh platform. So mahy people have nothing to do but trolll and perpetuate hate. It boggles my mind. But then again, put yourself out there, that's what you get. If these women were TRULY confident, why post?! Who needs the accolades of strangers? LOVE your videos!!
The idea that you deserve to be insulted for “putting yourself out there” is ridiculous. The reality is that posting online is the new public square. It wasn’t ok to randomly insult people for appearing in public before the internet so what’s changed?
@@corinaferrara1164 I couldn't agree more! Sadly i think what has changed is anonymity
I was always told I looked much younger than my age until about 10 years ago. I’m 64 now and decided several years ago that it was ridiculous to keep coloring my hair since it was only going to get more gray! I’m in great shape and am having fun in life. My husband and I have a RUclips channel, and I have noticed that this community is much kinder and more tolerant than others (especially TikTok) and suspect it’s the generational difference in viewers/commenters. Great video and conversation Charlotte!❤
3:44 Charotte, you're fantastic!!!😂😘"...You look 400 years older than my great great grandma": you made my day!!!!!!!!!! Thanks dear!🤣🤣❤
I’m 59 and was born in 1965, the beginning of GenX. I have been having some fun watching GenXers talk about the things we did growing up. We had Hollywood and magazines telling us we didn’t measure up. But people say things on social media they would not say in real life, at least I hope they wouldn’t. We can be our own worst critics but apparently some social media users can be even harder on us than we are on ourselves. I don’t miss being attached to the wall to talk on the phone. But I think somewhere between cordless phones and today we got really lost. What if we didn’t have our phones with us all the time? What if we didn’t count on strangers on a glowing rectangle to tell us our value and worth? Every human being is of infinite value and worth no matter what. I have known that long before social media came along.
I am 64 and proud of it. I do not watch Tik Tok. There is so much pressure to staying young particularly women not so much men, go figure.
Another thing I have noticed is that older men want to date younger women and older women want to date younger men. Great thought provoking video. Thank you Charlotte!💋❤
Lovely video and thoughtfully presented. Thank you.
I think many confuse “getting older” and “maturity”. And comparing (which is always lethal) ourselves to “celebrity” is foolish to begin with. Look through history, those generations who came before lived much different lives…harder lives…more difficult lives. It shortened life spans and was written upon their brows. Celebrities were subjected to harsh lighting, the elements and time schedules. Most ate poorly, drank heavily, smoked incessantly, slept only on pills and woke to them as well. The constant worry of being rendered irrelevant was ever present. Today’s celebrities still practice much the same, but now avail themselves to filters, fillers, injections, surgery and medications. Never look to “celebrity” as a barometer for anything.
You should look healthy and vibrant in your late thirties!! LOL!! You should look healthy (if all is well) in your forties!! Because you’re still YOUNG!!! LOL!!! And dare I say you’re still young into your 50’s and even 60’s nowadays when you put it into context of the grand scheme of things!!! LOL!!
I am 61 and have never wanted to be any age other than the one I was currently occupying…just the best version of it! Attitude has everything to do with everything!! Think youthful…keep a youthful mind, but be proud of maturing.
I was always mistaken for much younger most of my life…my twin sons were 18 and their teachers in their senior year still thought I was their sister!! LOL! Millennials and Zers DO NOT have a lock on “looking younger than other generations”.LOL!!!
I remarried my ex-husband at 49 and looked like a youthful much younger bride. I had my babies young, so I’m a young youthful grandma too!!
And let’s not forget the roll genetics play. My mom, her sisters and my grandma all looked years younger than their age…they had beautiful hands for ever because they grew up in a time where women wore gloves everywhere…stylish, feminine, and great sun protection.
Menopause will hit ya, ladies and things will start to change, but life is not lost! LOL!! It really just begins, because of maturity…you start to sift out all the useless stuff and surround yourself with what truly matters!! It’s pretty wonderful and truly a blessing!!
PS…regarding men being allowed to “age”…I think again, they are maturing. Men are thrilled to mature because most men feel gawky and awkward as younger men. They feel unsure of themselves and feel intimidated by more mature men (regardless of physical strength -they know the difference and the value of each)…men love to be seen as older, mature and wise.
I never have watched tiktok.
And I will never ever
Me neither. I have no desire to watch Tiktok
Same
Me too!
Me either, its where all the crazies live
Well, I was absolutely gobsmacked when you said you are 40...you look no more than 30 and I thought you were probably 27-ish!! Lovely girl!! ❤
I'll be 59 this year. It just is what it is.
THANK YOU. I just turned 69 and I don’t recognize the face in the mirror looking back at me. I haven’t for 45 years😂😂. She’s not a size 8, she has a saggy neck and jowls, droopy eyelids, and random chin and lip hairs. I do recognize the hair because I quit coloring it when I hit my mid to late 40s. I was curious what color it actually was. I was carded at the bars all the way into my mid 30s, and then they stopped asking for my ID and started calling me “ma’am”. Now, I walk into the drugstore to buy gift cards and I get asked if somebody told me to buy them. Ummm, no…I’m buying dinner and massages for my kids for Christmas…why are you even asking me that??? (I didn’t know that was a scam thing, but I don’t trust any emails I don’t recognize, and don’t answer unknown calls or texts anyway) Getting old is not for the faint of heart. It’s quite the humbling experience!
Gosh this is an important discussion. I’m currently 48 with a soon to be 9 year old daughter. I’m one of the older mums at her school and I do put a bit of pressure on myself to look my very best as don’t want to ‘look’ like the oldest mum.
This said am also trying to model a healthy and realistic attitude to ageing as I’m concerned about social media’s influence in general. It’s really difficult to strike a balance.
I’m using language like “I’m excited to reach level 49 of life and the wholesome food I eat and exercise I do helps keep me healthy” - “and makeup isn’t necessary but it sure does add colour to my look”. We can but try 🤷🏻♀️
Keep up the great work Charlotte. ❤
YEES! I am almost 39 with a three year old, and I am hyper aware of the fact I must model self love for this little human when there are 10 year olds buying out Sephora beauty products and making RUclips beauty videos where they say “I look ugly” before doing a full skin care routine and applying makeup! NOT ON MY WATCH! If Gen Z has it bad, imagine what these even younger people will experience if we are not really careful! It’s our duty as moms to keep healthy expectations and speak kindly of ourselves (and other women.) Raising daughters isn’t easy with the influence of social media, yet our influence is even more important! There are little eyes and ears watching and listening, and we are up against A LOT.
@@amirahamwia6927Forgive my ignorance of these things, but were you being facetious or are there actually literal 10 year olds doing this??
Reaching level 49, I love it!!!
@@MMLZombie I wish this was an exaggeration, but it’s not. This is actually happening!! It’s a very real thing, and there has been a lot of debate about these tweens and the parents who give them hundreds of dollars to buy beauty products and the mothers who have Tik Tok accounts in their name… all the while they film their very young girls doing skincare routines and makeup routines for clout and “likes” and gifts from major brands! Most of these accounts are even receiving sponsorship from brands. It’s sickening!
Totally not going along with everyone else here but you're 40! Whoa you look good!
I'll be turning 68 in less than 3 weeks, and am truly happy with the natural changes time has made to my face, knowing they reflect the experience and wisdom I have gained in life. Plus, I remember with good humor what my father always used to say when I was much younger and would make an ignorantly disparaging comment about older people: "Keep breathing, kid." And boy-oh-boy, was he ever right! 😁
You have always been so kind about makeup and aging. I remember a video where you read a comment where someone said they felt ugly without makeup and you were just so stunned. I tell you I don't feel "ugly" yet I don't leave the house without it. I'm 62 and feel like I look ill or possibly "my age" without makeup. I'm glad to know that people are comfortable going out bare faced, wish I was yet you can't teach this old dog new tricks. Great video Charlotte!
Gen-X (1965-80) was the tail end of tanning and tanning beds being the thing to do and the real beginning of sunscreen being important. Tretinoin became more accessible and well known and Botox became available.
Edited- I mean that tanning and tanning beds went from being recommended to a point where we were finally told consistently and educated that they were bad. Of course people did still use them- they were popular when I was in high school and are still.
That’s not even getting into how technology and skincare is evolving almost exponentially faster.
We also need to be careful about the classism implied in how we look. It goes around every few years: “Are you ugly/old or are you just poor?”
Tanning was very much still a thing in the early 2000’s. I’d say the tail end was people born in the late eighties to early nineties. Remember jersey shore? GTL
You are 100% right, on both points. 1968 here. The Bain de Soleil generation. I get headaches from the sun, so my skin looks "young". My sister was a sun worshipper, has more wrinkles, and now dermatologist visits to check for cancer, G-d forbid. Also, nothing ages the skin and one's insides like smoking & drinking. I'm always amazed by how young people were, like in the Cheers example, when we teens thought they were so old.
Your point about classism is very interesting. Sometimes I wonder why some people can't pull themselves together, get a decent haircut, etc, but often the priority is just to get to 2 different jobs, help family members, or deal with an old car. Appearance doesn't make the list. I think it's a complicated topic, with different expectations and how people are judged as well.
Yep. People generally don't tan or lay out anymore, they wear sunscreen, use retinols (especially at earlier ages), and smoking rates have decreased significantly.
I’ll be 64 on Monday and I’m more comfortable in my body and I’m definitely more happy overall, than I’ve ever been. I have made a real effort to remain engaged in life and I continue to learn new things and meet new people. Aging is inevitable. Becoming old is a choice.
Physical appearance is so transitory. It’s basically an illusion because we continually change right down to the cellular level. Gen Z would be far more content if they put their energy into the inner beauty, which IMO is eternal.
Aging is a privilege. My mother passed away at 57 and I was THRILLED t0 turn 58!! And it is true that Gen Z has a different reference point. But who care how old anyone is?
every generation has a different reference point--and, in the end, we are all on the. same page. I am a Baby Boomer--and we were not supposed to "trust anyone over 30"!
@marileegarfield7436 lol true. Age doesn't always bring wisdom but I hope in case it has!
Aging gracefully is a combination of sooooooo many things. We forget to take into account or vices (e g. smoking, drinking, etc.), or nutrition, socio economic status, sleep, stress, mental health, genetics, etc.
We also have to STOP belittling one another. As women, it is important that we encourage and uplift one another. We make not like someone but that doesn't mean you cannot be kind. ❤️
I just had 12 inches of my long gray hair cut off. That's a foot of hair and it's still past my shoulders. Mostly because it does get hard to manage and very hot in the summer, but I will never dye my hair again. I hated it. Every 3 weeks I was dyeing my roots and then going to the hair dresser for a dye which got ridiculously expensive so I started over and let the dye grow out. No regrets.
i stopped coloring my hair during the pandemic; reckoned i'd save money but i learned self-acceptance - let grays sparkle ✨ enjoyed the video 🙏🏽
I'm 53 and swore myself years ago to not dye my gray hair. I still don't have a lot of gray but my own sister (58) just told me this week: Women (in this case me) that don't dye their hair look unkempt 😳. I was speechless!!!
Another great topic, Charlotte 👏👏! I think it's important to talk about this.
When I remember my grandma at the age of 80 she was an ancient lady in a house frock. My mother, now 80 too, would wear my clothes if I would borrow them to her 😉.
Not to forget the big progress the "beauty industry" has made (My (grand)mother never heard about Botox, fillers, laser therapy, Retinol.....)
But I think the biggest difference between the generations is the pressure of social media.
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At 67 I am comfortable with how I look, that is not to say that I don't wish to have less eye baggage, etc. but I do consider that I am breathing and healthy the best bonus. I am in retail luxury sales and when I see the frozen foreheads and puffy lips on 20 and 30 somethings I am truly astonished. As women we should learn that to grow older means acceptance of how far we have come and have to go. Thank you for your commentary, excellent video.
LMAO true story this just happened on the weekend. My husband is 65, I'm 61, our son is 40 and our daughter turned 38 today. Our son was out for a visit so my husband said let's go get lunch. We went to town sat down for a meal the waitress came over she was probably in her 60s as well, and said " oh how nice your dad taking you kids out for lunch" I couldn't stop laughing and our son was mortified, he replied with eww these are my parents she is not my sister. 😂😂😂 my husband and I were laughing so hard, our son didn't think it was funny so my husband said to him how do you think I feel not the first time people have thought she is my daughter. It made my day 😁 just embrace the age we are no matter how any of us age, life is too short to worry about the small stuff, trust me I know this first hand as the youngest of our children another daughter passed away 24 years ago. Great video Love from Canada ❤
A few times I went to lunch with my son (he is now 31 but it was around when he was in his mid-late 20s; I am now 61) and people thought we were a couple (ew). Once when I was 50 I was on crutches after breaking my knee and I was in Trader Joe’s with my husband and cracked some stupid joke with the guy at the cash register (probably in his 50s or 60s) and the cashier guy said to my husband “you have a very funny daughter.” (We are the same age and he is SO proud of how young he thinks he looks). I have more stories like that. What Charlotte just said - it’s the ultimate compliment to be told you look younger than your age. Most of these incidents - ALL, actually - just spontaneously happened, I was not out asking people how old I look. I would never do that (although as I said in my comment above I know a lot of haters who read this - funny to hate someone you don’t even know for a comment on youtube but whatever - are going to come on here now and tell me I look at least 85. Not that you can tell from that tiny photo but knock yourselves out).
I too have a lot of stories like that lol, and it's funny how people can hate not even knowing a person. I always say I feel.sorry for those people, because it must mean they have nothing good in their life to cut others down. Like I said life is to short, have fun , everyone one to me looks beautiful no matter their age, I love being my age, thankful to have gotten to this age ( I'm a retired cop as is my husband)
I’m 35 and have been worried about aging since I was about 18. Because of this, I have gone to great lengths to ensure my skin is properly taken care of and avoid the sun like the plague. I won’t get any work done aside from veneers in about 10 years, but I strive to age gracefully.
Wow it’s crazy to see the pictures from 30 years ago and see how old people in their 30’s looked. I do think we are taking care of our skin much better than 30 years ago.
I'm soon to be 61, this year in our ONG dinner one of the Gen Z girls (we welcome all help no matter the age) asked me about my age when I told her I was 60 yo she answered really loud: "That's old!! But amazing....when I grow old I want to be like you!!!".
Everybody laughed and she looked at me confused (poor thing) so I told her: "Right now I don't know if I should kill ypu or thank you! Laughing of course. Then I proceed to explain about what to say ir not about anyone's age. At the end...I stay with...When I grow older I want to be like you!!!
That was so sweet!!
This is such an important episode! All women should watch it, and perhaps get a big dose of reality. You are such a shining light, Charlotte. Never change! ❤
I've always loved crows feet - I think they make a person's eyes look beautiful and twinkly when they smile! I have my own now at 46 and I've lost enough people to feel privileged to still be alive. My focus is purely on strength, health and functional mobility. It's a relief to no longer be striving for beauty.
"All your money won't another minute buy. Dust in the wind, all we are is dust in the wind"
Is that a quote? Love it
@@56annieb That's Kansas. Yikes, I feel old.
@@56annieb Dust in the Wind - Kansas It is a song from the late 70's
So much of social media is curated. Only the "best" photos and videos are posted. When you see people in real life, it is so different than what is put out on social media. I'm 45, turning 46 and i'm so glad to just enjoy what I have. All my wrinkles and fine lines have been earned. In my 20s, I decided that I wasn't going to be bound by other people's determination of me. It made my life so much easier as time has gone on. Thank you for making this video. Gives a lot of food for thought.
Thank you for this video!
I’ve just turned 52 and I’m so proud to have these years behind me and in front of me. I haven’t had any botox/ fillers as I want to look like me and grow old just the way nature intended. I look on instagram and everyone between 20-30 all look the same> genetic, it’s not for me ❤
I have actually said this, "They all look the same!" No, thank you. What peer pressure.😢
I’m 37 and I have been confused by the images of older women all looking like they’re 20. So, thank you for your thoughts on this.
‘84 baby here 🫶🏼 you are so spot on about how we looked at people in their 30s and 40s when we were young! The differences are insane! I recently became acquainted with a 24 year old and hearing her talk about Botox as if it was a higher priority than clothing or food was heartbreaking however in the past two or three years, I’ve definitely started becoming more concerned about these things myself! If anyone ever tells me I look young for my age all I feel is fear because I know that’s not gonna last! Idk how we change this but for the sake of every last one of us I hope we do! We don’t even need to reinvent the wheel, just to view age slightly more similar to men would be a huge improvement!!
Everyone should focus on pro ageing well vs anti ageing. That's more the issue. That, and the lack of focus on paying attention to working on the inner person vs the shell you're in.
The 24 year old has been sold a bill of lies but let's face its, they are quite stupid and gullible and bizarrely shallow too. I hear from a mate who works in a 16-18 college how a lot of the girls have lip fillers etc already at that age. Done by god knows who too, certainly not anyone qualified to be messing about shoving needles into places with nerves that can easily be hit and cause facial paralysis. I have no pity at this point, I hope the NHS isn't expected to sort out the inevitable health issues and psychiatric problems when they have a face that's collapsed into a weird clown mask by age 35.
Of course to a younger generation you do. I remember thinking that when I was young. Millennials are obsessed with age for some reason. Just be thankful your alive.
Gen Z is even worse, with some of them sauntering into Ulta, and demanding skin care routines (with retinol), no less. And many of them are obsessed with the makeup and skin care videos meant for adults! Some of them, I hear, are as young as 9 years old!
I think we are beautiful at every age and stage of our lives!! Love yourself and respect yourself and be fearless ❤
Conversely, at 45, I think some people in their 20s look like they’re in their 30s because of all the filler and Botox 🤷♀️
Exactly, I am 28 and people think I am 18 because people my age made so many procedures in their faces on the social media that people doesn’t know how someone in their 20 or late 20 should look. My only action to look young is just do nothing on my face during my life. These heavy make up and filler are gonna destroy this people plan to look younger in the future
My mom (who turned 60 this year) has always told me that regarding her age "she's always at her best" (quick translation from my native language that might make more sense in the original saying ^^'). It might sound stupid but when I started telling myself that (along with some version of "it's a privilege to get old") it really did change my view on how other people saw me.
When I was younger, people always thought I was older. Now that I’m 53 most people think I look younger than I am. Living long enough to grow old is a blessing; however, I don’t consider 53 old these days. I do think taking care of our bodies is important, especially as one ages. And by that I mean maintaining muscle mass with weight training, getting enough sleep, and eating whole foods (with enough protein) not junk. My salt and pepper has been growing in for a while now and I love how it looks. I’m also not ashamed of my age. I feel younger now than I did when I was younger and sick because I wasn’t taking care of myself. With age comes wisdom.