Wrong mindsets Women Have | Kingsley Okonkwo
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- Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
- There are mindsets women have entertained over time that have not given them the best results in relationships and even marriage.
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6 Wrong Mindsets😩
1. Feeling useless without marriage: Relationship with God and your purpose takes priority.
2. I will change him when we marry - do it before you marry.
3. If I lower the standards, he would love me.
4. Men have to take care of me.
5. Seeing other women as competitors - stop the contest😂
6. Not fully developing other aspects of your life
•Develop your hobbies
Thanks so much for this sir🙌
This shows that I have no wrong mindset. Cos I have been focusing on me since university days.
Used to have many of these mindsets, but fortunately I learned.
Thanks for writing this down, I appreciate it
I think one of the reasons women have these wrong mindsets is because of the emphasis and importance society places on marriage. The church community also contributes their own quota albeit unconsciously.
So you hear things like 'sister I am praying that God will settle you in your marriage' and such other comments.
Women place much emphasise on marriage because it has been entrenched in their consciousness quite early in life.
I hope we learn from teachings like this.
Precisely...you nailed it! Societal social conditioning
Especially African societies that act like women are useless without marriage
I totally agree with you. Even the competition mindset is engraved into your mind as you are growing up. For example: when a Woman gets Married, they tell her to breakup with their unmarried friends bcos they are traits. You can imagine.
The moment I see red flags,i take off. And I don't lower my standards & I don't see myself useless because am still single. I am enjoying my single life. When God says it is time,then it is time.
I just love your name combo
If you always see and run, you will never find the right one because there is red flag in everybody including you.
The best strategy is to stick around for a short period of time and see if these red flag are things the person is willing to work on. Most times, people don't even know they have red flags until a loved one kindly tells them about it. For a good relationship to be achieved, everybody must work. Nobody is perfect!
Think about this.
@@InspireVation Yea definitely. Everyone of us have red flags. And because I said d moment I see red flags I take off does not mean I don't stick around for some while. I only made my comment short. It is definitely after some time and I noticed the person is not willing to work on d red flags I would leave. Especially toxic/nassistics behaviors. Thanks!
@@opeyemioyewumi5960 You are bearing my brothers name. Oyewumi. Thanks!
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Bitter truth, everyone in this world will not get married.
If you do not have the desire to.....
U need to calm down till he announces u as his woman... Love dat part
L🤣🤣🤣🤣L I can’t
@@naturallygifted2002 lolzzzz. Kk ooo
It is the last mistake that got to me the most. So true....
You need to have a life before you have a life partner
Life is not all about attracting and keeping men ladies, we have a lot to live for.
I feel women need to hear things like this more
I think this post was made for me
Thank you
I agree with all he said but I believe the skin regime, hair care should not be done for just to attract a man. We should take care of ourself for ourself, to love what we see in the mirror, for our own mental health, our own physical health and even spiritually (all God made is beautiful). It all connects.
Pastor Kingsley! I appreciate you sir. Thank you for mentoring me through your messages. God prosper your ministry and family. Amen.
Most of these mindsets are traced to cultural practices and societal norms. You'd discover that some women had very good careers before they got married, only for their husbands to tell them to quit their jobs and take care of the children and home instead. But I really appreciate men who encourage their wives to be better in their careers and in the pursuit of their vision. Great video.
We like to fix things, I think you're right, we like project, I said this in my youtube video recently, women love drama, we don't stay with honest men, we don't want men who are nice and honest because they are BORING, we really want drama. but this isnt the right drama for our lives, running after men who are rich and 6ft 7 ft is not the right drama. i used to think, "what will talking about this do" but as much as people are hearing, things are changing in their minds. thank you Pastor K for this episode. our minds need renewing, remending and recharging
Another thing I’ll say is that we should never think we can change people, just as pastor K said. That’s what’s killing a lot of relationships. The red flags are there. Red flags we cannot deal with (because everyone has a red flag). It’s better to be truthful to ourselves and choose what we can deal with. God help us.
Why the need for drama?
@@joshramsey2844 some women, a good percentage gravitate towards something they can talk about. Shy guys, they won’t fare, oh he’s too quiet. And BLa bla bla... women gravitate toward the one with experience with tattoo, bad guy, hard guy, I don’t know... I’m just telling you what majority of women gravitate to, they don’t even know they’re doing it sometimes.
@@JourneytoLinPRinP being quiet is now a red flag and less preferable to the hard guy.... This your gender is funny... Make everybody dey stay their lane oh
@@joshramsey2844 who do you gravitate towards, nice women, shy women or quiet women or women who are outspoken, dress indecent or talk anyhow with no class. Pls telll me the kind of women you go out with. What are their characters if you do go out with our gender as you put it.
"Women compare themselves with the best, men compare themselves with the worst". I love that!
Is not everybody dat will marry.... So true
God bless u sir
Women generally love marriage, NOT necessarily to make her complete.
Point 2. Got my marriage crumbling. I waisted 6 years in years in Marriage but i still thank God. Thank you so much. I want to increase my Standard ooo
You did not waste 6 years. You had 6 years of learning and experience to know what not to allow in your next relationship
@@Lifewithoutborders24 that's so true and thanks a lot 🙏🙏🙏
Obodo Oyinbo TV recommended we listen to this channel...and I'm glad I did.
Thank you pastor Kingsley!
I was blessed with this video and the most thing that has touched me is the 'not developing other aspects of life!' It's really important for a woman, lady or girl to develop other aspects of her life and not just focus on a man... I've really been learning a lot from your videos, all thanks to God who has given you this wisdom you're using and sharing!🙏🙏
We really don't care about the price. And we don't even know which is which. Spot on Sir.
Number 3 is loud o. Number 5 shows that pastor has done his research well. 🙌
Great points. Looking forward to Wrong Mindsets Men Have video!!
KEVIN SAMUELS will give you a dose of reality. Women like the path of least resistance and are drawn to men who shower them with false enconmiums. It is a MYTH. Face the harsh reality or wallow in your comforting illusion.
It's out already
@@crypticcyril8005 If you listen to Kevin Samuels, then your ego is humongous & you're in trouble dear. He's a materialistic, narcissistic little man!
@@joyl3926 *"Little"*, *"Materialistic"* are all relative terminologies and to disabuse your mind of the reality of what has, over the years, transpired between genders (moreso black men and women) is embarrassingly outrageous and preposterous. Your views are based in aprioristic opinions rather than justifiable facts.
Focus on the contents of Kevin Samuels' messages and desist from ad hominem attacks and just maybe you might be able to navigate through and/or better articulate, more profoundly, the complexities and structure of this artificially engineered gender" war. Obviously, when one rationalises a situation from a lofty distance and perhaps, a biased position the odds are that there aren't any flicker of hope.
I hope this finds you well.
@@crypticcyril8005 My friend stop fooling yourself with nonsensical Big words. My Samuels assessments almost always consists of the following;
How old are you?
Do you have any children?
What's your weight?
What's your dress size?
Those are his qualities of what makes a high value human. If that's not stupid, I don't know what is.
Tell the MEN, the Tom, Dick & Harry need to be taught a higher standard. Stop bashing women ,all the behavior is on the women and the men are living wild, no accountability, no standards, no limits. All the teachings is telling women what to not do & what to do. It's TIME to TEACH OUR MEN. They lack knowledge, they don't know there is a King in them.
Amen
Errrm, this topic is for women... If you want to see teachings for men scroll through the channel.
@@victor_jonez She didnt say she is referring to this channel in particular but generally.
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 has there not been teachings addressing men? Honestly? I'm not against what she's saying but let's not sound like one sect is a victim and the other is not. Everybody needs adjustment.
@@victor_jonez lol if you are not in self denial, you would know that the african society makes excuses for mens wrong doings and not for women e.g, when a man cheats on his wife, its the devils fault and not his fault and the wife is told to be praying for her husband but when a woman cheats on her husband, its her fault and you deserves to be sent away, nobody will remeber that its the devils fault anymore and nobody will tell the husband to go and pray for her.the reality is that society make excuses for mens mistake.They need to start treating men the way they treat women.
Thank you pastor K😍😍😍
I would honestly prefer to hear this from another woman, who knows what it's like to be a woman. Great points, but a man can never understand to the crux what women go through.
I don't think it changes the truth in this statement. It doesn't need to come from a woman to be true. It's like saying a male obstetrician can not take a delivery cos he's not a woman and does not know the crux of being pregnant. He might not know the feeling but he has studied hard and well to be able to take the delivery just like the speaker.
Thank you so much much Pastor Kingsley and I'm always blessed watching your teachings , I pray that God add more to your knowledge and grants you a very long life .
Words of wisdom thank you so much
Profound wisdom 🙌🏽,Thank you Sir !
God bless u always sir... More wisdom
Wow. Thank you Pastor K. God bless you
I was so blessed by this Pastor Kingsley thank you so much for your leadership, teachings, encouragement and so many more. You're highly appreciated!
All the way from South Africa
I have learnt something unforgettable. Thank you so much
God bless you sir for this wonderful message.
Thank you for this message sir. I was really blessed
God bless you🙏 I’m extremely blessed by this video😍
God bless you Sir. Your filled with so much wisdom. Just on point 👌👌👌
Wow watt sheets message to women , thanks so much pastor.
Thank you Pastor Sir 🙏. Number 5&6 mmm🤔 Thank you 🙏
No 1 tip is so on point!
I will be ready for marriage when I'm 40☺️
Everyone is speaking to women because they attend the conferences, they buy the books, and they watch the videos. But it is the MEN that need the word, the teachings, the coaching, the conferences. WHO will pull & push our MEN even if they don't make a profit from the books & the conferences. Stop trying to prepare women for marriage. It is the MAN that needs to FIND a wife. Women stop chasing for a man. You are whole w/o or with a man. See about the things of God.
This man of God had spoken to us men many times. He also spoke about wrong mindsets that man have recently. I am a single man who have learnt a lot from this man of God.
@Di Stefano Linonoka is correct. Pastor Kingsley in particular has several materials for the men. However, as he's also noted several times, the men sometimes don't seek knowledge because they feel they know a lot. Sometimes, we the women have to listen to the messages targeted at men and share it with the men in our lives.
But that does not mean that we should stop learning for ourselves also. As much as there are several teachings for the women, many of us still have the wrong mindsets and make grave mistakes.
Indeed this video wasa blessing.. God bless u sir
I am definitely guilty of being too available
I love this sir May God bless you 🙏
Well spoken sir.
Thank you very much.
Very helpful. More Wisdom sir
Words of healing thank you so much sir, indeed God is here
Am so blessed with your messages!!
Thank you sir!
God bless you sir
Thank you Pastor K, you are a great Inspiration to me and my partner.
Thank you so much sir.This is a real eye opener.God bless you!
Thank you sir
This is one video I must watch over and over again. Thank you so much Pastor k
Yeahhh you are good
Maintain reasonable standards
Thanks Sir .God bless your efforts towards humanity .
Pastor your point number 3 on the men's section is why the views are almost double in the women section. "External Influence".
Word, thanks for sharing. God bless you 🙏
My husband must be able to take care of providing because I know the VALUE that I bring to the table. There is incredible value in managing the home and raising godly children. Today's society devalues these things and says you must go and earn a paycheck to be a good wife and let daycare raise your children. The bible says HE who findeth a wife earns God's favor. Ladies, don't settle for less than you are worth. Don't toss your pearls before swine!
I must confess,I love all ur talks.keep it up sir
Thank you sir...
Thanks for sharing. This was very informative
Well spoken sir.
Thank you so much pastor K
More grace pastor K
Quite insightful. More grace, Sir.
Wow thank you sir 🙏
Thank you sir. GOD BLESS YOU
God bless you richly sir 🙏
Thank you pastor
Thank you Pastor Kingsley
This is beautiful ❤️
Good points sir!
I truly needed this mgs. Bless you sir.
They need to hear more
Thank you sir ❤️
Thank you PK. God bless you
Thanks a lot Pastor K. ❤️
Wow so insightful
Thanks for sharing
thanks Ps K. It helpful
This is powerful
Thanks so much...God Bless you
Thank u sir
Thanks pastor!
Thank you sir, I am so blessed.
Hahahah men don't know which one is expensive and not expensive haha this killed me😜😜
I need your books
Nice
Great video 👌
God bless you sir😊
If I am not useless without marriage does it mean that I should not desire it nor I will never get married? I am just curious....
What about being married and not a be to have a child.
It's in the Bible not everyone is supposed to be married.Im a 60 year old female .That never was on a date .I m not a pretty person.So I always thought beautiful and attractive woman were to be married .I always thought they were the breeders .We,re not all here to breed.And that's another problem with me .I have very very high standards .I have a strong objection to men and there foolishness .
The woman still has to fist attract the man. A man does not look at an unattractive woman and say I bet she has a brilliant mind. I agree wholeheartedly in developing other aspects of your life. Men always tell me I am too busy for a relationship. I'm too independent. I do what I do for myself. I don't compete with other women. But I feel that a man must do things for me because he wants to, not because he has to. I would not have a man that did not wish to care for me.
Other woman are competition.If they want to keep there man.U said in another video that men can cheat whether they love there wife or not.Thats why woman feel they have to compete Dang I'm glad I don't have ur problems out there .Wow!
I disagree with the no1, It's natural for women to be so, and they can't change it, they can't help it, GOD created it to be so, I believe there is something God put inside them to make them feel so , for the sake of reproduction, the bible recorded men that didn't marry, but no woman ever recorded.
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Delightfully paradoxical how you make reference to the scriptures and losing the point entirely. **If marriage was so important God will have created both genders simultaneously***. I am struggling to make sense of that statement. Are you having a laugh?
Eve was created because God felt Man (Adam) needed a companion which supports the institution of marriage and floors your argument (duh). Your premise becomes a false equivalence of the reality of facts especially when your position is grounded in anecdotes.
What he meant is that we were each created alone. God created the man alone first before He saw the need to create the woman.
He implies it's important but shouldn't be obsessed about
God bless you sir
Thank you sir