I think it's funny how a lot of parents are like "no sex or anything like that" and then at a certain point they switch over to "where are my grandkids?! when will you finally give me grandkids?!" 1. it's just stupid 2. Creepy posessive over their childrens bodies and their (perhaps one day existing) grandkids
It's because they don't want you to have sex for any sort of pleasure, they want you to breed, like a farm animal. And more specifically, to do that with someone they think is worthy to carry on their genetics/someone who sucks up to them.
It's because there's a conservative desire to get 14 year olds married and pregnant but if they're not married first they want to torch them at the stake
One of my friends has parents like this and ended up infertile from pcos/endo and partner infertility and is devastated she didn't have a kid younger. Very sad.
A middle row to add to the bingo card: “threats of slander to family/friends,” “making an issue out of nothing,” “shaming of significant others,” and “utter insanity”
Also, “threatening to divorce other parent to prove a point”, “blaming everything on friends”, “using the ‘bad influence’ card”, “comparing to family”, and “attacking with deadly weapon”
Piggybacking off this comment to say that anyone who relates to it should look up the term "parentification". I've been a psychology geek for decades and still didn't happen to hear about it until quite recently, and learning about it caused me some MAJOR revelations and connected a lot of dots and helped me start healing a lot of stuff. My parentification was out of necessity and I have no resentment over it, but boy it sure also did mess me up in some important ways lol XD Not only do a lot of people stand to benefit from learning about parentification's impact on us, but also a lot of truly loving parents these days do parentify their kids unintentionally, or without realizing that it's harmful. It's something I think everyone could stand to discuss more and a term that should be more widely understood. I hope this comment helps someone out there!
I succumbed to parentification as a four year old child, and it caused PTS, because it was out of my siblings (3 and 2) being abused by my paternal grandmother. I appreciate that you can teach me something about psychology, I also have been fascinated about psychology and the brain from a very young age, like, around the time I finally was able to learn about these things I looked into psychology on search engines, and it opened up a lot to me. Edit - I wasn't exactly "expected to become a parent", it was more something I put up on myself, and I did block out a lot of that time. I have only pleasant memories from that time, but a lot of them I have to actively think back on to remember.
"God told me if there was something evil in the house." (Finds evil-cleansing supplies) "Ha, that's it!." Ma'am, you sure that's god you're talking to?
It seems like the sage was drawing out bad energy in the form of that person. And it definitely works if you lock them in a room with enough burning sage it will definitely cleanse that energy...
Oh my god passive aggressive guilt tripping is literally my parent’s favorite thing to do. Particularly done by my dad. Once I was watching TV, and there was a pile of laundry on the couch. My dad starting doing it, and I didn’t even notice. When he finished he started saying how I could’ve helped and basically trying to make me feel bad about it. My mom was there and she was able to mediate the situation by saying “she didn’t know.” Like moron if you wanted me to help you you could’ve asked me to don’t try making me feel bad about it what would even be the point of that.
My father screamed at me in high school for "hiding" my birth control from him. Which I was on for bad periods. Where did I hide it? Oh yeah, right out in the open on the kitchen table a whole foot from his elbow. Three months, it took him three months to find it. Also my mother was literally in the room when it was prescribed, do you ever talk to each other?
Treating symptoms instead of the cause - yup, sounds like our healthcare system. Did they at least get you checked out to make sure you're not anemic or have fibroids?
@@xejelah four blood tests and an ultrasound, apparently I just had a bad case of "drama". Yeah, three docs later my uterus got evicted. Recovery was less painful than my average period. Not my worst period, my average. Yeah, it was bad. And don't worry about it, I've wanted this since I was 10.
@@xejelah Some people just have more serious symptoms with their periods. Ever thought of that? My cramps aren't caused by anything but the period. (Nowhere near as bad as OP but i take painkillers and sometimes throw up on more severe months. My gf is on a type of period regulation because of her heavy flow and cramps.)They have said there is no cause, that's how it is for some.
@xejelah To be fair birth control usually is helpful for a lot of people struggling with painful periods. It’s also pretty non invasive, so it’s not wrong to start with prescribing them to see if that solves the issue. Remember you start with the most likely scenario and then proceed to increasingly less likely scenarios as you eliminate what it isn’t. Blood work should probably be done just in case, but it isn’t uncommon to wait to see if the simple solution works before doing one.
@@gachatana9656 yep. I was literally on narcotics for my cramps because otherwise they were so bad I passed out. Unfortunately no one bothered to tell me it might make my chest grow, or I wouldn't have taken it. Nothing was found, even after surgery. Though my doc did get a new appreciation for my pain tolerance when my biggest complaint about recovery was having to sleep on my back for over a month, and I took fewer painkillers than I did on many periods.
That father ranting about how his kid needed to "stop blaming him" for their problems triggered this insane flash bulb memory in my mind. My mother screamed pretty much the exact same thing at me during a shouting match once. I can still see her red face and buldging eyes. The ironic part is when I was 14-15 she was pushing my doctor to diagnose me with Borderline Personality Disorder, which is caused by long term on going abuse from a primary caregiver often the MOTHER. By that logic my problems were her fault. Most personality disorders aren't diagnosed until someone is at least 18 because you need an on going pattern and an actually developed personality. As a side note, there's other reasons to be taking birth control. Athletes take the pill so they can skip a period during competitions, it can help treat skin issues, can reduce period pain and irregularly etc. I know I started taking the pill at 15 because I was sick for 2 weeks with period pain and other symptoms. To attack someone over a choice they make for their health is unhinged.
My mum used to regularly ask if I was still a virgin until I was 25 when I finally started telling her it was none of her business. Then when I came out as bi/pan at 33 her first question was whether I've "done things" with women. I again told her it was none of her business. Why are parents so creepy?
@@TheMysteriousgirl9 my parents used to think that, but then I came out as trans and they just accepted asexuality and moved to the😨😨far more pressing issue
Absolutely! I love sending my partners stuff like that. Like, I distinctly remember once sending one of my partners "Hey ;)))) my parents aren't home;))))" We live together, he was in the next room over
honestly, i feel like as long as you’re close enough friends and it’s potentially relevant (which ABSOLUTELY includes partners), it can be fucking hilarious. with the right person. i currently only have 1 friend i could do this to (i mean…i live with them so…) but that number might go up if i get into a relationship or some of my friends do. because we’re all sarcastic twats who’d find it funny
The "having gay kids ruined my dreams about their wedding" thing would make me shoot back, "well, I wanted nice multi-millionaire parents, but you couldn't deliver on that either."
I hate the “so my son won’t be impressed by your daughter” garbage. It’s the toxic mother version of the dads that push modesty/purity BS for their daughters. Please stop trying to decide control your child’s lives and future.
I feel like something like "rules for thee, not for me" or some other form of hypocrisy should be in the Insane Parents Bingo board, alongside 7 more with a free space in the middle.
@@mommyofkittens4809 The free space is supposed to be nothing, and besides, doing that would mean coming up with yet another thing that is common between insane parents.
44:20 "Do you expect your mid-20s daughter to be celibate?" Yes. They expect EVERYONE to be celibate until marriage. Period. No exceptions. And then after marriage they expect no birth control because they expect them to just pump out babies without any preventative. They don't see it as being responsible, they see it as inappropriately encouraging sex before marriage and inappropriately preventing children after. It's why these people are opposed to contraceptives being covered by insurance - they believe NOBODY should be using them period.
Side note, but I actually take birth control to regulate my hormones (my body produces too much testosterone due to a medical condition), not to prevent pregnancy. And that isn't really anybody's business but mine and my doctors'. I actually used to grow facial hair before I started taking birth control. Not like, a full mustache and beard or anything; but yeah, facial hair. I literally had to get laser hair removal. 😩
@w1nterdays Hashimoto's Thyroiditis. It basically means that my body has trouble regulating my weight, hormones, blood pressure, etc, because it's attacking my thyroid, which is the organ that regulates those things. Anything that requires regulation, my body sucks at. It's in the same category as things like lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, and multiple sclerosis (an autoimmune disease). *A single solitary tear drips down my face.* 🥲 I had to get laser hair removal because I was legit growing a small beard. 😭
It is always EXTREMELY concerning when a parent (usually the mother but not always) sees every potential future partner of their child as a threat to their place in the child's life. Like...the parent position and the romantic or life partner position ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO OVERLAP!!!
It’s even worse when it’s like a father to his daughter and then it super concerning when the parent is like “I’m my child’s first love and blah blah blah”
Sadly, I was in a relationship like this. His mom mentioned several times herself about how she was jealous of my beauty and i thought that she was just trying to be nice to me until she started pairing that with rude remarks about my autism and how my sense of humor "disrespected her authority". She tried to backtrack by saying she just wants her son to be in a happy, healthy relationship. She constantly said and accused me of things to cause strains on the relationship and it worked because he basically dumped me cause she told him to. I'm very glad he did because im not in that toxic environment anymore, but very sorry he still lives with her.
My mom once told me she'd consider it a moral failing on her part if any of her kids were queer. Meanwhile I'm bi-ace and nonbinary just sitting there like 😐 I can't even count the amount of times I've had to be homophobic to save myself from being evicted. The number of women I've had a genuine connection with over the years who I've had to turn down because I was relying on my mom for housing and couldn't live on the streets with two dogs. I'm luckily free now! Just moved in to my new apartment a few days ago, and I'm looking forward to getting back into being social after two and a half long, long years of isolating myself so I don't have to deal with my mom's behavior if she, say, saw I was dating someone who isn't male. No more do I have to pretend to be grossed out by other nonbinary people to appease my mother! No longer do I have to suffer through her rants about "in her day people were just gay!" Not once more will i have to put up with her calling people on TV slurs because they're not cishet, white Christians! I'm ashamed of myself for having to blend into her style of thinking to survive, but I made it out, boys! A free man!
And… - "unnecessary, absurd circular conversations from hell" - "digging up conflicts from 20 years ago" - "random mood swings", - "guilt-tripping" - "wHaT iF tHeRe’S An EMeRGenCY?!", even though guilt-tripping - for 😭😱"must be available 24/7"😱😭 - deserves its own slot because it’s so ridiculously common, - "extreme immaturity" - "weaponised incompetence" - "emotional cruelty" - "blatant disregard of… [privacy, personal life, plans, work schedule, relationship, personhood, tastes, requests, boundaries etc.]" - "weird creepy obsession with sex life", "accusations of attention-seeking" (including slut-shaming young teens or even prepubescents for… existing as a female human), - but also "gimme graaaandbabies!!1!" - "insatiable hunger for attention" - "projection, wild conjecture & paranoia" - "dismissive reaction to feelings" - "attacking when sick or otherwise vulnerable" - "disagreement is treason (or a sign of immaturity or mental illness)" - "victim-blaming for abuse by 3rd party" - "loves & sides with child’s abusive exes but hates good partner/accuses ONLY them of abuse" - "going through personal belongings" - "theft" - "constantly demands money" - "colossal entitlement" in general and specifically "feels entitled to adult child’s belongings, money and living space" - "blows up phone" - "stalking" - "unpredictable past aka memory rewriting & gaslighting" - "I know I haven’t been a perfect parent" - ✨"You had clothes, food and a roof over your head!" ✨ (aka the legally required minimum to not be a literal criminal) …there’s a lot of insane classics, but if even the most common ones were added, there would be more fields than in a lottery. But hey, Mark can still use all of these suggestions for future insane parents bingos.
The comment about OP’s diary being “boring” kind of reads like the mom was disappointed there was nothing in it that she could justify getting mad at OP for.
The creepy, overbearing parents remind me of the "boy moms" funky frog bait covered It's really weird and it's kind of emotional incest and they say things like "his mom is his first love" and try to compete with their son's spouses when they're older
My mom is a «boy mom» and on multiple occasions when I was younger she said that, «I wish you were my husband»…Going to move out hopefully when I go to uni!
My dad struggled with alcoholism and I saw him drunk most days. NEVER did he make disgusting comments about me or my sister or say anything bad about us. That drunk texting dad 100% has those thoughts when he's sober. What a creep.
Alcohol doesn't make a person not be themselves...it makes them act out inner thoughts that they don't show. Whenever I'm tipsy I lose 50% of my filter and actually say or do the first thing I think of which most of the time doesn't happen, but I'm still aware of exactly what I'm doing and how weird it may be.
@@hamjuice345i can confirm this, one time my boyfriend got drunk (hes not an alcoholic luckily, he drinks super rarely) and the first thing he did was say "i love you" like 40 times and then cry in my arms and then he was just a goofball until he fell asleep. 100% a keeper
My dad was an angry, sometimes abusive alcoholic for most of my childhood. But he never hit us and he definitely never ever said or did any nasty stuff to me or even my mom. Anyone whi does stuff like that and uses alcohol as an excuse is lying. that guy was a sicko before alcohol.
I can't get drunk drunk because of the meds I'm on but my alcohol tolerance is so low anyway that even just a single drink makes me feel silly so one time I had a daiquiri, just one, and about ten minutes later I grabbed my partner's face and stared them in the eyes and said "You got flowers in your eyes, they're pretty!" My partner has heterochromia in both eyes where the outer part of the iris is green and there's a sunflower shaped pattern of hazel/gold around the pupil and I just sat there for like a solid ten minutes just admiring my partner's 'flower eyes'. I think my partner said at one point I went to fetch them a bottle of water to quote 'water the flower' and I insisted that they drink the entire thing and then got really happy when they did and fell asleep in their lap XDDD
Yeah, for the pandemic my bf gave me money for me to be able of have savings just in case of emergency, my mom went in my room searched then asking where did the money come from... I was 24
I love the section about "teaching my son useful life skills", but making it about showing up his potential girlfriend. Instead of just teaching him these things because they're useful.
@@pencilcase8068It's when parents treat their child as their romantic partner. Not in a sexual way, but acting like the kid is their spouse or getting oddly jealous.
@@pencilcase8068like the other commenter said but it can also be a parent who treats their kid like a "best friend" basically its a closeness that is unhealthy and emotionally dependent on the parents part but isn't sexual
@@zhenia2511I see, wewll thanks for the clarificatrion, with this in mind i can see how the "teachiong my son" lady is treating her son like a spouse in those aspects
@@LeonIsAlwaysSleepy well so basically its like a parent acting like how a clingy bf/gf would emotionally act (kinda bad analogy but it seems to make sense in my mind)
That def sounds like the parent who demands one child cover the shifts for the other constantly because “oh but don’t you know she’s sick?” Yeah, she’s sick alright…SICK IN THE HEAD LIKE HER MOM!!!! 😡🤬 There were a few of these posts where I felt like I had to hold back my rage and I’m not ANY of those people in those posts! 😡🤬
We need a "treating offspring like a spouse/Significant Other" on a future card, because of parents like the lady begging for her child's acknowledgement over a cabin and whining about said child having to work.
I almost feel like that can be applied to my life. The way my dad ‘jokingly’ treats me at times is both as if I’m two while also as if I’m not his daughter….
@scorseve If I knew it was a joke I might be ok with it, but yeah if it was serious then there needs to be a sit down conversation that happens about this kind of behavior.
@scorseve true, but it's a weirdly specific type of abuse when a parent does it. I've seen people unofficially call it emotional incest, and honestly, from personal experience, the name tracks and should be given a DSM entry.
I started crying half way through this because almost every one sounded like something my mom did to me. Until you hear exactly how crazy it sounds happening to someone else, you don't realize how much of a monster your own parent was.
The mom one where she doesnt want her son to be impressed with “your daughter” is so weird to me. Like, does she expect the wife to take care of her son like a baby? Most of them are not “I’m teaching my son how to take care of himself” but “I’m giving my son high expectations for his next caretaker”
100% the vibe I got too!! AKA "How to raise an entitled narcissist"? 😵 One can only hope the son doesn't share the mother's views, and is willing to minimize contact in future, both for his own sake & that of any prospective partner/s!
What struck me about those was how quickly they went from teaching her son useful things like how to fold a fitted sheet to using “teaching her son” as an excuse to brag about her wackadoo beliefs that she thinks make her superior, e.g. “I only feed my son raw milk.” Also, is this infant the son she was supposedly teaching how to clean and fold sheets? Because that proves it’s ALL just bragging about what a great mother she is/will be. That poor baby is in for a rough life with that totally batshit narcissist of a mom.
@@anondecepticon I was almost impressed at the start for the useful stuff, until it was all superior and toxic. Like it could have been so wholesome - teaching my son to cook so he won't excpect your daughter to do it all for him, teaching my son to hang laundry so he won't expect your daugter to do it all, etc. She will 100% become the "victim MIL" in 20-30 years time who blames her "horrible" DIL because she never sees her son or the grandkids (or the DIL, but lets be real, she won't wanna see her lol), but in reality it will be the son just cutting his mother out after his wife helped give him the confidence to realise how crazy mom is! (I've only realised how far-gone certain people in my life were asked I met my partner and was able to use him as a reliable point of reference for my own sanity, against my own self doubt after years of gaslighting.)
My father tried to confront me about me "doing drugs" once because he mistook my stretch marks (I was making an active effort to lose weight) as injection sites. This is also the guy who couldn't believe I wasn't able to make ends meet on £250 per month (with him taking £120 of that for rent) and wouldn't let me eat until the every transaction on my bank statement for the past 2 years was explained. Parents truly are insane. (: Going on 8 years NC at this point.
I think the saddest thing about that one anti-vaxx woman being off her meds is that chances are she's convinced her meds themselves are poisoning her too. I've suffered from paranoid delusions to the point that I haven't drank water for weeks because I was 100% convinced I would die the moment I drank it (/hyp) and it was really hard to break out of it.
@@yuzuchi5381 The unfortunate thing is a lot of "permanent care" leaves these people more traumatized than before. Psych wards or mental hospitals and such are, in most cases, more like prisons than hospitals and don't help :(
@@AethAbyss and if you're chronically ill you risk getting all of your meds abruptly cut off until they "can verify you actually need them". Or having your glasses or hearing aids taken away because "you could injure yourself with them".
@@waffles3629 THIS TOO!! I'm diagnosed with autism and so if I lived in the US I could quite literally be denied certain treatments because of it. Healthcare systems genuinely hate people with disabilities, it's awful.
A good square to add if you do this again would be ‘insulting the child over having a mental disorder.’ Two other squares could be ‘Favoritism over sibling’ and ‘Harsh comparisons to others’
Always appreciate the reminders that we dont owe our parents for simply raising us because its a thing they chose to do before we existed or could give input
yeah but like, you made those kids, so they owe you everything they earn for the rest of ever. that's how it works. you birthed and raised them, so they owe you. cuz you know, having that kid was totally something they asked you to do
With the veteran argument of “tHeY oNlY gEt OnE dAy”, they dont. In the US, we have three months dedicated for them. April for Military Children, May is Military Appreciation, and November is Veterans Month. Those who argue that veterans have one day to discredit Pride Month have no business talking about veterans and they don’t actually care about them. ~a child of a veteran
I’d argue for the first post also hitting the “ignore the main issue” box, since she kept avoiding the question of “why are you going through my things?”
a tip for anyone else with gaslighty parents, think of something theyve done thats wayyyyyy on the end of the spectrum and hold onto it. my mom loves gaslighting (including when she tried to gaslight me into thinking gaslighting wasnt real?), but it really only takes me remembering her sexting my father while me and him were in the hospital after my suicide plan was discovered to say nope im definitely not just crazy this lady is actually insane
That's a good tip. People who gaslight either want you to focus only on yourself so that you don't consider their behaviour, or they just have such low self-awareness that they don't realize what they're saying/doing, but either way it's their behaviour that definitely needs consideration
I'm just glad you didn't commit suicide because even if you don't know it, there is always at least one person out there that you have affected positively, and if you did die there is always going to be one person who will miss you after finding out
I'm glad you got the help you needed and as someone who is proud to say they are a REAL Christian who doesn't misconstrue the Bible, I will be praying for you to the true God who actually cares for all humanity as his children, instead of the false idol most "Christians" these days made-up to fit their values. God bless.
I think the thing that irritates me the most about people who hate Pride month because “the military only get a day” is that they clearly have no one in their life actually in the military. If they did they would know that there are numerous days for the military as well as the entire month of May being Military Appreciation month.
Also, it's not like you can go to certain restaurants all year round and be like 'Yeah, I'm gay. I fought for my people to have more rights and to live the way they want to without fear,' and they'll be like 'Oh, you brought about change of some kind? Well, in that case, lunch is 30% off!' Veterans can kinda just be handed things when they go to the right establishments. There's not a fucking Arby's in the world that's going to give you a free sandwich or a discount for being a lesbian. Not trying to trivialize what soldiers and veterans do in any way. I just think comparing their importance like that is asinine.
There are actually three. April is Month of the Military Child, May is Military Appreciation Month, and November is National Veterans and Military Families Month. Though similarly, the LGBTQIA+ community gets three months. June is Pride Month, October is LGBTQ+ History Month, and November is Trans Awareness Month. Notice how months can overlap, and how a disproportionate number of queer people have served in the military.
It reminds me of when people only seem to bring up mens mental health when something was specifically about women. Mens mental health is also extremely important,just stop only bringing it up to silence something else.
I also have a sneaky feeling that they don't even care about their veterans Also, I'm pretty sure Pride Month is international, so it isn't even a 'Murica thing (I assume most people who say that argument are American)
I read this comment, watched one video, ended up balling my eyes out and had to stop watching them because I have a meeting in 20 minutes and don't want puffy eyes 😂
@@joosyjulie sympathies... I was because my brother got his rebellious phase out in the teens like usual and my sister in her early 20s. I played the good kid until my thirties so I could build up enough money to escape.
@@joosyjulieI had the opposite problem, I was hoisted up as the "Golden Child" who got all the affirmation of how good I was, and the kid they could talk about to everyone because I was the oldest, and I did good in school, and I never acted out, blah blah blah, but I was also made to know that I was to be a Role Model from a Very early age.... And to make sure that my 2 Year Younger Brother (who has always been the Black Sheep) stayed out of trouble... x.x sometimes being the "Golden Child" is way too much to live up to x.x;;;
13:11 my best friend had this happen to her, but not over text. She has no contact with her dad and he left her and her mother when she was a baby. He literally did not want her and left her and her mother behind because he didn't want a girl. He then came back years later with his new family just to taunt my friend by telling her that she'll "Never be his family". I can't imagine how much that must have hurt. But with someone like that as a dad? I'd prefer him to leave and she's told me she's happier now that he doesn't have contact w her anymore. It's really horrible that people like this exist, but sadly they do.
Some of the wildest things my mother has said to me was when my friend passed away from cancer her response was "if only you had a husband to comfort you", and my favourite "if you're so depressed why don't you kill yourself?". Gotta love them emotionally immature parents
Reminds me of when, after my dad died, my mother just kept going on about how I didn't have it nearly as hard as her because "I lost my husband" and how traumatic the experience was for her, completely disregarding the fact that I had been the one to find him, and had developed several obsessive compulsions from the trauma
The one about the service dog reminds me of an uncle of mine. He's a real "holier than thou" type, and sent "anonymous" letters to my entire family *while I was in hospice* telling all of my aunts, uncles, my mom, etc that I was faking my illness, faked my disability so that I could "take my dog everywhere with me," etc. He also told my mom in her version of the letter that it was her fault I was dying because she didn't somehow force me to get better, and that if I died she would have to live with that guilt the rest of her life. Imagine saying that to a mother who has been told by multiple medical professionals that she has a very real chance of losing her adult child soon. For the record, I have a condition that is very slowly progressive and eventually terminal, but also highly unpredictable in terms of the exact path it will take. I've been admitted to hospice three times on death's door, but each time my illness - while it did worsen - leveled out enough for me to be discharged for "living too long." This uncle didn't seem to care that it takes an entire medical team (doctor, nurses, a social worker, etc) to admit someone to hospice. He didn't care about the variety of tests done when diagnosing me, or since then. In his mind, my illness is "too bad to be possibly true" and must therefore be in my head. So yeah. Anonymous letters sent to everyone in my life he could possibly contact, insisting I'm faking everything, and that my highly trained service dog was "just for fun" and to inconvenience others. Needless to say, I no longer consider that man family.
Sending huge sympathy hugs!! And very best wishes for navigating the ongoing medical challenges 😔 As someone living with thankfully non-fatal but pretty debilitating chronic progressive health conditions myself, it has been a real eye-opening education finding out how personally some people take that?? And how invested they can be in gaslighting us about our health issues! It's particularly hard to take from family & friends, though, so I do hope the rest of your rellies told him where to go, and am glad to hear you cut contact. Big hugs! 💞
A lot of these more negative subreddits have been too upsetting for me to enjoy in the past, but the new bingo format manages to make it a whole lot more bearable where I'm actually able to enjoy these too now, glad to see it's seemingly sticking around.
The main reason that these awful parents constantly stalk and harass their children after they try to cut off from them socially, due to how they act, is because they desire the control over their kid. They complain a lot about the child being horrible to them, but they also fear them leaving because that means that they don’t have that control over their lives anymore.
The “teaching my son” post just makes me want to go, “Teaching my kid to spot toxicity and set healthy boundaries so they’re not intimidated by their a-hole mother in law.”
I was just wondering how wild horses achieve that given the environments they are in and apparently the water needs can be mostly satisfied with just eating fresh grass
Just got back from vacation with my roommate's family and i am amazed because they are genuinely loving and she's not afraid of them. The kind of parents who bring mushrooms to the party and watch you to make sure that you don't drown while tripping in the hot tub. 10/10, would never put in a nursing home.
My dad was my favorite person ever. My rock and support. When I was a teenager testing my limits, he told me _not to not drink,_ but to do it where it's safe, if I did. Unfortunately, he passed away on a day before Valentine's when I was in my early twenties, some fifteen years ago. I can't imagine him bringing shrooms to a party, though.
@@TheRawrnstuff I'm sorry for your loss. My uncle was like a father figure to me (I don't talk to my dad), and he passed right on Valentine's Day. He was definitely the type to bring mushrooms to a party. When I went to see him one last time and saw how thin and frail he was (he had cancer), I immediately started to cry. He just says, "oh, stop crying, I'm not dead yet." Which may sound a bit harsh, but it was actually pretty comforting to me because that was just the type of person he was. It showed me he was still all there. I also found out that when my other uncle (his brother) was cleaning out his apartment after he passed, he found a copy of The Anarchist Cookbook lmfao. It's been 6 years but I think about him every day.
About the one with the phone being hijacked around the 20 min mark: the second (rude) text messages are from the OPs mom’s boyfriend. The mom is dating a horrible pos who takes her phone and makes awful comments about her children and verbally abuses them.
The woman 'showing off' to her son to directly compete with his future girlfriend(s) was such creepy vibes. Never seen the female equivalent to the father talking about his daughter like they're dating.
@@hmnhntr The equivalent is the "over protective" dad's that threaten the life of any guy that dares to look their daughters way, like those that make them use shirts with their face on it, the stereotypical shotgun dad too. Also there was the dad that said he was talking about his daughter sex life with her ex and the dad that was demanding his daughter to "stop fucking and respond" her phone, he was telling her she was no longer allowed to spend the night with her BF, at the age of 23.
@@hmnhntr So true! I have a friend with three kids, and her son is 14 now. Some time ago she dropped some BS like "I will have a close eye on his future girlfriend to see if she is good enough hahaha". This was so offputting to me that she is proud on the fact that she would try to controll her sons future relationships. The boy has no firends as it is. When we went camping this year, the boy joined a friend and me before his mother could come the next day. His dad was around too (the parents are seperated), but the boy stayed in our camp. I have basically know him since he was born so I am like a big cousin to him, and our families are very close. The one night his mom wasnt there and his dad was working nearby, the boy was so talkative, I have rarely seen him like this. He wanted to help with the fire, the cooking, did some wood carving and was overall very open and fun. The next day when his mom joined us he really shut down, just kept carving and ignoring his mom, who constantly needed attention from him, touched his hair, or picked grass of his clothes etc. My other friend and I just looked at each other and thought "Damn lady just let your son BREATHE for a minute on his own". Its really upsetting how many parents are like this, who wont let their kids develop on their own, and use them as a substitute partner.
As an American, a good percentage of my fellow Americans seem to think that abstinence only isn't a patently absurd obviously ineffective method. So yes, I totally expect a parent to flip out at the idea that their legal age daughter is sexually active and being responsible about it. Our country has a fuckton of issues, none of which we're actually addressing.
Yes, speaking as an American on the dividing line of gen x and millenial, you are right. "Abstinence only" started as "Just Say No" in the drug war, and our parents (Hippies, Flower Children and Baby Boomers, especially Boomers) became the worst druggies ever.
As a US American, THIS. I’m a Gen z and I swear, it feels like you are shamed or made to feel insane if you care about human rights on any scale, especially for people other than you. Like…it’s gross.
It's idealism; abstinence would be the best course, but it usually takes having a lot of sex to realize that. That being the case, we need all the birth control we can get. 😂
This is mainly due to the Puritans, they were so strict and annoying that they ended up getting kicked out of nearly everywhere else and only had the Americas to go to. It’s kind of a shame that they formed such a strong cultural impact on the US.
😂my mom found my birth control when I was 16, went wild and jumped to so many conclusions and instantly shut up when I told her the reason I took them was to help regulate heavy periods and the nurse at the family planning clinic was monitoring me every couple months. 😂
Ugh, my father took three months to find the bc I "hid"...on the kitchen table. That he saw me take every freaking school day. Oh, and my mother was in the appointment with me, do they talk to each other?
@@waffles3629 well in my parents case,they kinda just bickered when I was a kid, but now they don't talk at all unless my mother learned to use a ouija board 🤣
I had the opposite. My periods became irregular and I was too scared to tell my mom since it only happened 3 months apart and didn't know what to do. But i was honest with my doctor when she took me to my yearly physical exam, and it's how she found out. She fipped tf out and panicked that I was pregnant and called my dad, panicking him. She then made me take a pregnancy test (which came up negative) even though I told her repeatedly that i wasn't pregnant and still a virgin (I would have been nearly 4 months along and showing by now 🙄). After scaring herself and my dad half to death, she had the audacity to yell at me for scaring her and to not do it again instead of being supportive and getting me on birth control or something. Some parents are the worst
@@xChaosFlower ugh, my father flipped out on me in the ER when a nurse walked into the room and said "Surprise, actually you're not pregnant". I was just staring at the nurse like 'WTAF???? Why did you think I was pregnant? I'm here for my RIBS!!'. My father refused to believe that I hadn't told them something when he got kicked out of the room that would make them think he was r**ing me. Like he wasn't, and why the hell would that be the first thing on your mind when you brought me to the ER for my RIBS??? I had the rib equivalent of a sprained ankle and he spent the next few weeks trying to get me to "fess up" about having sex. All because "There's no way you didn't say something to them that made them think you were pregnant". Like dude, I've had a doctor use a condition I'd had for 1.5 years as "proof" I was pregnant and then say I was only negative because I "was too early". Doctors can be stupid.
All the dads jumping to talking about their daughter's sex lives/insinuating that their romantic relationships are for nothing but sex is such a disturbing depiction of men not seeing women as anything other than sex objects, even their own children 🤢
As a mom of 2 adult daughters I've always tried to teach them the importance of respect when it comes to intimate relations. Sex is a natural and healthy part of life. Sometimes we choose to explore romantically and some people choose to wait. Neither way works for everyone. But respect is something that always works. Respecting themselves and their partners and having a partner that respects you and your choices is best.
Thanks for this! As someone who related a lot to the poor kids in these texts, it felt oddly validating to watch someone witness this and go WTF. That little confirmation, that this shit aint normal, and no one should treat another human this way. It really helps when faced with similar guilt trips, or random guilt over standing up for yourself, or stepping away. Distance gets easier with time, but family is always tricky. I feel for the people in the posts and for everyone else in a similar situation. It usually takes a lot to grow up with such parents and get to place where you're able to stop letting this behaviour hurt you. It was also pretty healing to just laugh at the absurdity of it all. All the takes were so on point!
boy moms who are like “ teaching my son this so he wont be impressed with what your daughter does!”is so creepy. ma’am you are shaming a toddler about something they probably won’t do in the future 💀💀
5:23 White Sage (as seen in the photo she provided) literally _wards off_ evil- no wonder she hates it so much. Black cats do the same (ward off evil), but you bet she probably thinks they’re “the devil” too and refuses to take two seconds to look in a mirror
...I feel that. I think my dad would be confused and take it in stride. My mother... well she knows I'm an atheist and told me she's praying for me, so... yeah.
my mom says shes an ally but every time i bring up something about a girl that i am interested in, or just complimenting a girl in general, she'll stop talking to me for the next few days and say stuff under her breath like "you better have kids with a man" or some shit like that its so confusing 😭
Oh man, the "cover your sibling's work" one unlocked a memory from my childhood. My brother was sick, and that meant he couldn't do his paper route. And so I had to do it, whether I wanted to or not. I was also sick. But I was just very depressed, so it didn't count.
1) Depression (and all mental health issues) affect everyone on different levels 2) You have no right to deny someone else's experiences just because you "could just deal with it" Good for you, not everyone can without help 3) People like you are the reason so many suffering with mental health issues are afraid to talk to someone about it because they have to worry about being dismissed because "It's just an excuse"@@xejelah
@@ProtoV33MK1oh I absolutely agree with you. I did have that mindset, like I knew I wasn't feeling well since the lockdown but I'll pretend and pretend and keep pretending because I knew people around me would treat it as an excuse. I kept doing that till I failed to pass a really important exam and cue the breakdown. Only then did I realise just how worried my parents were and how they noticed that something was wrong with me all that time. They never blamed me for failing that exam even though they had high expectations for it. And now I have my second chance to hopefully crack that exam with my parents support. I'd like to believe I could've done it before if I simply hadn't closed myself off from people that cared about me
I had two siblings who had one as well as myself. I always somehow ended up being forced to do their Sunday morning round (I didn't have one then) and cover ALL of their papers for Christmas and new years and on their birthdays. And just whenever they didn't fancy doing it. I didn't get the money for them either.
Oh wow... that's not even legal in the civilised world, do you realise? Employment contracts are not something you can just mix & match willy nilly like you're redistributing halloween candy.
One of the great things about the internet is that it sheds a light on all the things that are not okay or normal. I grew up without the internet (yes, I'm ancient), and today I sometimes wonder if the kids in my class with bad family lives knew that it wasn't normal. That kind of abuse is usually hidden, so maybe they thought everyone's parents were like that in private. They only reason I knew who had crappy parents was because it was reflected in the children's behavior, or the occasional off-hand comment about house rules that were crazy. The rule is that you don't talk shit about other people's parents, and if they don't bring it up themselves, they suffer in silence.
Teaching both my female and male children unconditional love, how to cook, and take care of themselves so that they know they're supposed to be respected/respectful and won't have to deal with terrible mother-in-laws!!(or anyone else)
10:20 The fact that she is teaching her son these things so he can shame his future partner instead of just... teaching him so he can do half of it as well?
Yeah, nothing like a parent raising their entitled kid to expect others will pick up & clean up after them, and then shaming their prospective/actual SO for trying to encourage them to grow up a bit and learn some basic life skills..?. 🙈 Definitely influenced by some very outdated gender relations attitudes, making it extra-disturbing to see the relatively young age of the OP - they should know better...? 🙄
Those posts have nothing to do with “teaching her son” anything - he’s obviously a baby. They’re all about her, bragging about her fringe beliefs that she thinks make her superior, both as a mom and in comparison to his hypothetical future wife, who she already feels threatened by. Classic narcissistic thinking, convinced she’s better than everybody else, yet also really insecure.
23:00 This part hit me so hard. My mother used to do this exact thing but with "curses". Throughout my entire life she'd tell me and my brother that evil people were "cursing her" and that we had to pray for the curses to go away and a bunch of other bullshit like that, and she'd point out people we knew and say "Those people are evil spirits" and shit like that. Now I'm 22 and I'm pretty fucking sure my mother has some form of undiagnosed schizophrenia. She was never on meds of any sort and she's extremely anti-medication, and she had times of the year where she got 'better', like, she wasn't paranoid all of the time, but when she *was* paranoid about curses and evil spirits it was actually fucking terrifying. I still walk to places looking over my shoulder constantly like my mother taught me to because it's fucking ingrained in my head. I fucking hate it.
Oof. Mental illness of some form definitely does seem a likely diagnosis there sadly? I know what it's like having a parent who's unwell n that space but keeps rejecting the meds that could help them 😢 Awful seeing them live in such an unnecessarily stressful and troubled headspace, but I don't think it's possible to persuade them to change, unfortunately, esp. the older they become..? All one can really do is try to inject some sanity wherever possible, and provide support whilst maintaining healthy boundaries - always easier said than done of course. Big sympathetic hugs!
@@kellybmackenzieI’ve been through that myself. Please always remember that you’re not responsible for her actions or for her mental health. I went through a lot of guilt, thinking I should’ve helped my mom or done something to get her help, but you have to remember that as a child, there’s nothing you could’ve possibly done. Sending positive thoughts for both you and your mother. I pray you find peace, and that one day she gets well. ❤️
That last part reminds me of how my boyfriend constantly checks for cops and stuff while driving because of his mom’s paranoia from her drug days. She’s ingrained it in him to essentially be scared of cops and to always look for him due to her own issues and it’s honestly kind of upsetting.
@@anna_in_aotearoa3166 Yeahhhhhhhhh I hear you! My mom has BPD (borderline PD, not bipolar) and has gone through multiple bouts of deciding to just…suddenly stop taking her medication. Mind you, not only does this cause her to become significantly less stable mentally/emotionally, but it’s also really not good physically as these meds require slow and steady weaning to stop! She has repeatedly convinced herself that she is better and does not need them despite very much needing them or, at the very least, needing intensive therapy to replace them at the discretion of a qualified professional. We-my mom included-legit refer to her meds as her “happy pills” because she is completely unhinged when she stops taking them! (To be clear I love my mother dearly despite her issues and the severe effect they had on my and my siblings’ childhoods/our lives, and these days she is thankfully actually seemingly doing better!)
Giving kid raw milk. Raw. You do know why they invented pasteurization in the first place, right? Because raw milk can give you serious digestive issues and transmit disease. I can’t. 🤦♂️
The micromanaging the job thing hit so hard for me. I moved out when I started college at barely 19. My mother did not contribute to my home bills or college after that point, and yet was always asking what days I was working and saying I should work more or find a new job that would work me more. The thing was, I worked enough to pay my base responsibilities but limited my hours so I could focus more on college. It always frustrated me that she cared so much about my financials when she didn't contribute to them.
I know it probably isn't what your mom was about, but I know that some financially insecure people feel really compelled to project the "you need money" principles to others. I have 2 friends (from different circles) who come from unstable environments, and they exhibit similar mindset. When I mentioned I turned down a job even though it would pay a bit more, they were like "WHY?!?!?". When I explained that job wasn't interesting and wouldn't help me progress my career, they still insisted that more money is better. One of them picks up all possible shifts and pretty much works to herself to the bone, which I criticise as she's just not taking care of herself. And she's not in any desperate situation right now or in a place to need a lot of money, she has a decent chunk of savings, but dunno, I always feel like she thinks it's not enough. I am on the frugal side of things but damn, there needs to be some fun in life and definitely the goal is not to have health problems before you hit 40... I had another thought too, maybe your mom actually feels insecure about her lack of ability to help you financially if you would require it. If she's too shy or ashamed to say that as a reason, she might just end up pressuring you into getting more money without admitting that she's worried about her inability to help you out. Or she made some terrible mistakes in similar situation, when she overestimated her financials and turned into a mistake, so now she proactively nags you but without explaining her reasoning.
@@martam307 Pretty much this. I grew up in a household where my parents were struggling to pay bills, and found out when I was 8 or so that my parents would borrow money from people to buy me l birthday presents. (They had no clue I was aware of all this) I'm well into adulthood now, but I developed a mentality that money is the same thing as safety, because money pays for food, medical bills, housing, and just about everything else. It makes it harder for me to understand or rationalise when friends talk about how they spent their entire paycheck on some novelty item. It's like second hand stress because it makes me worry about their well-being even if they're actually fine.
There might be need for a "recless endangerment" square because raw milk keeps killing kids in the USA. Raw milk and honey aren't safe for kids under 1 year old and the cultural techniques for preparing them were interrupted so yogurts and cheeses might still put kids over that age at Risk. Also I think she was doing laundry for a toddler (like normal people) and contrasting that to a future partner (ew) who might be putting in less effort.
@@ricebeansrockroll882Poe's Law in full effect. Because there's absolutely mothers like that out there. Also, how does pasteurised milk make someone lactose intolerant? That don't make no sense!
I stopped keeping a diary as a teen because when I tried I hid it under my mattress and my stepmom and her daughter went sifting through my room while I was away. They not only searched my entire room to find it but they then read it and proceeded to make fun of me for the things I had written in it. I do not trust any of my family with my feelings anymore. I cannot stress how important it is to not be a shitty parent.
the one at 42:07 made me physically shrink back in my chair. these are all bad, but this one gives off the same vibes as “take catcalling as a compliment” and “you were asking for it”. parents shouldn’t push this shit on their kids.
Some ideas for bingo card 2.0: "Hypocricy", "Threats or blackmailing", "verbal abuse", "Dismissing valid argument", "That's not how we raised you", "Messages about not wanting messages" Probably most have already been suggested, but that might just give those more chance to appear
I like this bingo card-concept. Now, even though those parents still make me want to scream, using them to win a game fills me with a strange form of joy.
It can be played by 1 person, or more at any family holiday or gathering. Multiple siblings or cousins playing against the adults would be fun. Caveat: they point can only count on your card if it's against you.
As a non-Italian who has never lived in Italy and has never known any Italians, I can confirm that Click's Italian accent is completely accurate and has no flaws at all whatsoever
As a non-Italian who lived in Italy for a while but whose native tongue isn’t English but who saw videos of Italian people from Italy speak English with an Italian accent, I’m confused by my own comment now
I recently made the mistake of coming out to my mom as nonbinary, and it became a whole argument. At one point, she said “Life’s hard enough without you doing all this extra stuff to be different and complicating things.” So I looked her in the eye and said “Yea. Life is hard enough when you’re cishet. So why would you purposely go out of your way to insult and belittle me and make it more difficult for me to feel loved and accepted? Why wouldn’t you use that exact same amount of energy to show kindness and love and respect, which would make my life easier?” She genuinely had no response to that and instead defaulted to her usual “I saw a story on the news last week about an evil trans person” so she wouldn’t have to address the point I made. There’s simply no winning, it seems.
I'm so sorry for that. please know that a lot of people out there loves you and supports you no matter what. you're amazing and perfect the way you are ! best of wishes to you !
jeez sorry to hear that as a pan. i came out to mom and dad first as possibly gay. and my mom say and i quote ' i dont wanna be like my mom. so you do you but promise me you feel loved and happy thats all i want'' my dad chimed in with KNEW IT! and was slapped by mom :D but my mom was born into a very christian family and was really into metal. and was kicked out at 16 :( my dad had a same thing saying church is bullcrap. he wanted to focus on work and helping people. instead of attending. and thus was disowned. so both parents i have are very loving and open. even my uncle agreed their parents where way to strict. and stuck in the past. even going as far as saying : no electricity in the 70s sucked ass.
Smfh, the actions of one don't apply to the rest of folks. Not only that, you came out as nb so how the hell does that have do to with anythin'? Genuinely crazy ""logic"" she seems to have. So sorry you gotta' deal with that.
I really don't get this "urge" for young generations to "come out" to their (usually religious) parents. When I was young(after 13-4) I kept my secrets (admittedly bad,like heroin addiction) for a long time ,even though I knew that my parents would be supportive (in their own way). I wanted out but I had to do it alone, I wanted to spare them from the potential pain (natural response,yes,but I couldn't carry the responsibility of hurting them more than necessary. I got back with them after 25 years. They were over the moon, I was clean,had a boat and was sailing around Europe. Since then,we talk about the past as if it was a movie,and we were the protagonists (true in many levels). My point ,you don't need validation by anyone. You do you,and people will join you when they too are ready. Don't rush things. Except if you are in an oppressive situation (then leave) or in physical danger (ask external help) Hope this helps someone.
I love the little jabs Click throws at Blair now. Its sassy but well deserved. *Edit for context since not everyone knows: While I'm not super comfortable sharing the details about this as it's an ongoing situation and /very/ horrible, the abridged version of it is: Blair is an awful person that abused the old members of Sad Milk (One Topic, Click, Oz Media, and Wonder). She did everything in her power to destroy the old Sad Milk members after they split and is specifically targeting Oz Media and Wonderstruck. If you can, please consider donating to their GoFundMe's to help support them (please don't beat yourself up if you can't donate.)
A Dad seeming to be jealous of a boyfriend is disgusting to me and that is what that one story seems like. Dad is acting like he wants to be the center of the daughter's "affections". Not all anxious fathers seem this way, but this one does. My Dad was this way and I'm assuming I don't have to explain why.
Adding onto this with my own experiences with my dad. My dad is not anxious. But he does see me as property. He's overly affectionate, touchy, and flirty especially when I was younger. I'm 19 but when I was 16 I looked much older due to being at some formal event I don't remember. Anyway, someone approached us and asked if I was his wife or something and he said yes.
I love how you don't just read something, laugh, and then move on. You take your time on each one and make it a discussion. It's deep... it connects you with your viewers... and I love both your humor and your take on the world.
Click does transformative content, that’s why it’s good. The “laugh and move on” thing is non-transformative and essentially just plagiarism/intellectual property infringement, that’s why people who do that have boring content. Click’s style is thus both interesting and more moral.
Hey now... Being unmedicated doesn't make me a bad person. The side effects of the drugs were more unbearable than the symptoms I was living with. Please, don't lump me in with the Insane Parents. I doubt any of them are actually schizophrenic. Narcissistic or perhaps sociopathic, but not schizophrenic.
It's obviously not your responsibility what other people do and you don't need to apologize for them. That being said.... from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
Not your issue man. And to be fair it can be hard to keep on top of your meds specifically if you're the paranoid type, because during an episode you might start to think the medication is poison and people are trying to force you to poison yourself. Conversely you can start being convinced that you're perfectly fine and there's nothing wrong with you and you don't need them.
My mother dated a guy for about 2 years who was the exact opposite of the “Treats Adult kid like child” space. I was 10 and he expected me to act and behave like an adult. He was emotionally, mental and at times verbally abusive to me and I have lasting issues from the time we lived with him. My mom eventually came to her senses but moving out wasn’t easy since we were never financially well off with him. That’s the only thing I miss about that time, having money for food and bills with enough leftover to let everyone in the house relax and enjoy life a little is something I never had before and I’ve never had it since. Ironically enough, I wasn’t able to enjoy any of it because I was being made miserable the entire time. I think that was the only time in my life I was ever okay with having to go to school…
The one about the mom making a 180° by text at 19:43 is because her first text was the mom, and the second, slandering the daughter, was the dad who hijacked the phone. The daughter explained that she would block her mom's number until she'd get a new one hidden from her husband so they can communicate, and then repeat the process when he'd find out.
As someone whos been used as a bargaining tool, it is extremely dangerous at times for the child. I'm an adult and was in the ER about to die and my family was still trying to use me as a bargaining tool. I started shaking really badly and fainted and that's the whole reason they stopped for a little bit. I'm recovering now but yeah never use you kid as a bargaining tool
6:45 “Burned my pokemon cards”?!? Oh, she is the worst mother I have ever seen! Ever heard of privacy? Having fun? Collecting? HOW EXPENSIVE THE CARDS ARE?!
Sadly she was not the only one. Back in the late 90s/early 2000s there was an uproar for "satanic things for kids" which included pokemon cards. Many parents did the same thing thinking they were saving their kids souls. It was nuts.
LOL... aren't you overdramatising this a bit munchkin? I mean they're cartoons on cards, not a building or a vehicle. Grow up. As for how much money you chose to let the printing company rob you of, that is 100% your own fault.
@@InservioLetumThose cards are sold in packs, which are somewhat cheap (at least that's what I heard), and they may be worth a lot ($100+). And no, she's not overdramatic. Imagine, your parent takes something really expensive from you and burns it down for no real reason.
@@creepergoboom2943 It isn't for no reason, though. That the reasoning of the parents isn't something you can accept is fine, but let's not pretend this happened for no reason.
So here's the sad thing with my mom. I decided to do this bingo without her knowledge about a week ago and I have filled out almost the enitre card. The only ones I did not fill out were drunk texts, anti-vaxx, and transphobia. This is all within a week. Everyday just something different though I have noticed a pattern. I plan on enlisting into the U.S Military and I ship out to basic training 2 weeks before Christmas. My mom is unaware of this but knows that I am in my process. The really sad thing is that I am not going to tell her when I'm leaving till I am literally at the airport. If I tell her beforehand, the arguing is just going to get worse and I personally don't want to live with that. Btw before anyone asks, no I do not live with her I actually live with my dad who is fully supportive of my decision and has vowed to also not tell her when I'm leaving. Edit: Hiiiii. I didn't realize I'd be getting a lot of comments on here but thank you all for the kind words. I'm currently in the Air Force and I've actually already finished basic and tech training. I'm already on the working side of things. Now with my mom, it has gotten worse. I blocked her number, so she started calling my dad every single day while I was gone and has been honestly threatening to call the police and all that. I did in fact call her and tell her I'm fine but to leave me alone because I'm already out here doing my own thing. She has left me several voicemails over the last couple of months varying from "I love you" "You're an idiot for joining" "Why do you hate me?" "You need to call me now" etc. I have yet to actually call her again as I don't plan to. I'm enjoying my life right now and I'm stationed on the east coast while my family (including my mom) live on the west coast. So luckily I'm also on the other side of the United States. Thank y'all again for the kind words and Aim High... Fly-Fight-Win.
44:44 “someone who god approved of…” The kind of argument I have for those types is: “Sweetie, God is not homophobic. You are. Please stop projecting your hate on your deity and take responsibility for your own hatred and ignorance. Also stop believing the edited mistranslated version of the Bible.🤦🏻”
I totally agree with the sentiment and general message of your comment. Unfortunately, the situation around the Bible is a bit more complicated than simple mistranslations - eventually, people will need to understand that the Bible as it is cannot be infallible because it was written by humans. We always need to interpret it, and that generally means being confident about the central message of the Bible and judging everything else by how closely it represents that central message.
People need to start realizing that the Bible was made by people with specific historical reasoning behind its contents instead of thinking that it contains the “word of the Lord”
I'm so conflicted though, because on one hand I'm so happy to see some more Click Bingo, but on the other hand I'm disturbed by there being so many parents like this that they have sub--categories!
Some things that can be added to bingo: -I brought you into this world I can take you out. -using children as blackmail or guilt -funny name for parent in messages (like calling the parent spawn point in contacts” -less mature than children -shouldn’t have had children/free space -ends an abusive or manipulative message with “I love you”
imo the "I brought you into this world I can take you out. " arguement is so dumb because like?? ok than take me out tf? ion wanna be here no more so why are you hesitating💀
I'm pretty sure that comment section of those tiktoks where mother teaches her son to "not be impressed by your daughter" is filled with jokes like "Showing my daughter your tiktoks so she'd ignore your son on purpose in the future" 22:04 Actually, it's fine to not let your child to vaccinate at school, but only if you vaccinate them somewhere ELSE later, like a clinic. My mom doesn't let me vaccinate at school because once I felt extremely bad after school vaccine along with some other children (which was pretty much 90% of the vaccinated. A few even went to hospital). Turned out that they vaccinated all children of my class with the same syringe + they messed up and put God-knows-what in the syringe. After this all children in my school prefer to get vaccines from clinics, where we can be SURE the clean syringe and checked vaccine is used.
That sounds like a very serious problem that should have consequences. They could have like... Killed children with that kind of recklessness. Thats upsetting.
The mother who compared herself with his 4 year old son's future wife is a candidate for wearing a white bridal dress at her son's wedding and getting a complete meltdown.
I still think you should expand your bingo card to 5X5 with the emoji in the center square. You could add "your child/my bargaining chip," "I don't care if you're at work," and "encouraging sibling rivalry" squares to the card.
Yep. Or to go with the Latin version, 'in vino veritas' (in wine there is truth). Alcohol doesn't change your personality like some people claim. It merely disinhibits you. If somebody is a 'nice calm' guy and explodes into irrational anger, that stuff has been simmering under the surface repressed for a good while. That's why I despise the excuse 'I didn't mean that thing I said, it was the alcohol'. Nope, you almost certainly did mean what you said, you just wish you hadn't said it.
I think it's funny how a lot of parents are like "no sex or anything like that" and then at a certain point they switch over to "where are my grandkids?! when will you finally give me grandkids?!"
1. it's just stupid
2. Creepy posessive over their childrens bodies and their (perhaps one day existing) grandkids
Yep. Another one for the bingo chart, "are you pregnant/why aren't you pregnant?"
It's because they don't want you to have sex for any sort of pleasure, they want you to breed, like a farm animal.
And more specifically, to do that with someone they think is worthy to carry on their genetics/someone who sucks up to them.
It's because there's a conservative desire to get 14 year olds married and pregnant but if they're not married first they want to torch them at the stake
One of my friends has parents like this and ended up infertile from pcos/endo and partner infertility and is devastated she didn't have a kid younger. Very sad.
@@douglasmarshall6661you mean they don’t protect life?😂
A middle row to add to the bingo card: “threats of slander to family/friends,” “making an issue out of nothing,” “shaming of significant others,” and “utter insanity”
Also "wishing harm upon the family/child", "If I was dead, you'd care", and "drastic mood changes"
Kaeya! also I recognize that art style isn't it from an animation in the recent hoyofair?
Also, “threatening to divorce other parent to prove a point”, “blaming everything on friends”, “using the ‘bad influence’ card”, “comparing to family”, and “attacking with deadly weapon”
@@Parthgamer123 Yep
I should have died instead of **insert family member or loved one** !
(In hopes of sympathy)
For the next bingo card, "Treating underage offspring like an adult" would be a nice complement to "treating adult kid like a child"
Piggybacking off this comment to say that anyone who relates to it should look up the term "parentification". I've been a psychology geek for decades and still didn't happen to hear about it until quite recently, and learning about it caused me some MAJOR revelations and connected a lot of dots and helped me start healing a lot of stuff. My parentification was out of necessity and I have no resentment over it, but boy it sure also did mess me up in some important ways lol XD
Not only do a lot of people stand to benefit from learning about parentification's impact on us, but also a lot of truly loving parents these days do parentify their kids unintentionally, or without realizing that it's harmful. It's something I think everyone could stand to discuss more and a term that should be more widely understood.
I hope this comment helps someone out there!
These usually happen across the same person’s life…
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I succumbed to parentification as a four year old child, and it caused PTS, because it was out of my siblings (3 and 2) being abused by my paternal grandmother. I appreciate that you can teach me something about psychology, I also have been fascinated about psychology and the brain from a very young age, like, around the time I finally was able to learn about these things I looked into psychology on search engines, and it opened up a lot to me.
Edit - I wasn't exactly "expected to become a parent", it was more something I put up on myself, and I did block out a lot of that time. I have only pleasant memories from that time, but a lot of them I have to actively think back on to remember.
Also "Parents acting like a child" and "using children/little siblings as bargaining chip" should be on there
That mother being so mad about a smoking stick of sage which is used for cleansing bad energy/spirits etc is extra hilarious
"God told me if there was something evil in the house." (Finds evil-cleansing supplies) "Ha, that's it!."
Ma'am, you sure that's god you're talking to?
It seems like the sage was drawing out bad energy in the form of that person. And it definitely works if you lock them in a room with enough burning sage it will definitely cleanse that energy...
@@alecrisser12 intense-smelling smoke will do that to any person if you use enough of it
@@feuerling It could be odorless smoke and it'll do the same thing.
I bet ya at first she thought it was weed
I'd strongly recommend adding a "children are property" square to the bingo card, if you ever do this again.
Yes
I mean... that'd pretty much be a free mark, lol
@@Galeigh Don't you mean its a Reeeee mark?
That one would be stamped so much you wouldn't be able to see it.
@@MysticWarriorMJREEEEEEEEEeEEeEeEeeEeEeEeeEeEEeeEeEeeEEEEEEEE😊
Here's two options you can add to your next bingo card:
•Obvious favoritism towards a child
•Passive aggressive guilt trip
favouritism might be “golden child vs. the scapegoat”, it’s a classic narcissistic parent move
Oh my god passive aggressive guilt tripping is literally my parent’s favorite thing to do. Particularly done by my dad. Once I was watching TV, and there was a pile of laundry on the couch. My dad starting doing it, and I didn’t even notice. When he finished he started saying how I could’ve helped and basically trying to make me feel bad about it. My mom was there and she was able to mediate the situation by saying “she didn’t know.” Like moron if you wanted me to help you you could’ve asked me to don’t try making me feel bad about it what would even be the point of that.
My father screamed at me in high school for "hiding" my birth control from him. Which I was on for bad periods. Where did I hide it? Oh yeah, right out in the open on the kitchen table a whole foot from his elbow. Three months, it took him three months to find it. Also my mother was literally in the room when it was prescribed, do you ever talk to each other?
Treating symptoms instead of the cause - yup, sounds like our healthcare system. Did they at least get you checked out to make sure you're not anemic or have fibroids?
@@xejelah four blood tests and an ultrasound, apparently I just had a bad case of "drama". Yeah, three docs later my uterus got evicted. Recovery was less painful than my average period. Not my worst period, my average. Yeah, it was bad. And don't worry about it, I've wanted this since I was 10.
@@xejelah Some people just have more serious symptoms with their periods. Ever thought of that? My cramps aren't caused by anything but the period. (Nowhere near as bad as OP but i take painkillers and sometimes throw up on more severe months. My gf is on a type of period regulation because of her heavy flow and cramps.)They have said there is no cause, that's how it is for some.
@xejelah To be fair birth control usually is helpful for a lot of people struggling with painful periods. It’s also pretty non invasive, so it’s not wrong to start with prescribing them to see if that solves the issue. Remember you start with the most likely scenario and then proceed to increasingly less likely scenarios as you eliminate what it isn’t. Blood work should probably be done just in case, but it isn’t uncommon to wait to see if the simple solution works before doing one.
@@gachatana9656 yep. I was literally on narcotics for my cramps because otherwise they were so bad I passed out. Unfortunately no one bothered to tell me it might make my chest grow, or I wouldn't have taken it. Nothing was found, even after surgery. Though my doc did get a new appreciation for my pain tolerance when my biggest complaint about recovery was having to sleep on my back for over a month, and I took fewer painkillers than I did on many periods.
That father ranting about how his kid needed to "stop blaming him" for their problems triggered this insane flash bulb memory in my mind. My mother screamed pretty much the exact same thing at me during a shouting match once. I can still see her red face and buldging eyes. The ironic part is when I was 14-15 she was pushing my doctor to diagnose me with Borderline Personality Disorder, which is caused by long term on going abuse from a primary caregiver often the MOTHER. By that logic my problems were her fault. Most personality disorders aren't diagnosed until someone is at least 18 because you need an on going pattern and an actually developed personality.
As a side note, there's other reasons to be taking birth control. Athletes take the pill so they can skip a period during competitions, it can help treat skin issues, can reduce period pain and irregularly etc. I know I started taking the pill at 15 because I was sick for 2 weeks with period pain and other symptoms. To attack someone over a choice they make for their health is unhinged.
My mum used to regularly ask if I was still a virgin until I was 25 when I finally started telling her it was none of her business. Then when I came out as bi/pan at 33 her first question was whether I've "done things" with women. I again told her it was none of her business. Why are parents so creepy?
My mother thinks being asexual is just a phase...
Then she'll ask about grandchildren
Maybe they want you to kick them in the mouth? Idk 🤷
@@TheMysteriousgirl9 That "just a phase" argument is so dumb. Like who cares if it is just a phase. That doesn't mean it isn't real.
@@TheMysteriousgirl9 my parents used to think that, but then I came out as trans and they just accepted asexuality and moved to the😨😨far more pressing issue
speaking as someone poly, you absolutely *can* send your partner "stop fucking and reply" in several contexts that are funny or relevant
Absolutely! I love sending my partners stuff like that.
Like, I distinctly remember once sending one of my partners "Hey ;)))) my parents aren't home;))))"
We live together, he was in the next room over
honestly, i feel like as long as you’re close enough friends and it’s potentially relevant (which ABSOLUTELY includes partners), it can be fucking hilarious. with the right person. i currently only have 1 friend i could do this to (i mean…i live with them so…) but that number might go up if i get into a relationship or some of my friends do. because we’re all sarcastic twats who’d find it funny
Stop fucking and reply! LET ME IN! I lost my keys ;(
@@emmettmcnally740 AISJFBIHRG i love that. absolutely hilarious
lol! i got one of these the other day. "are you fucking over there or can i come over yet?!"
The "having gay kids ruined my dreams about their wedding" thing would make me shoot back, "well, I wanted nice multi-millionaire parents, but you couldn't deliver on that either."
They will then say "then why you chose to be born in this family". Or smthg stupid...
Counter attack: "Why you chose to spread your legs"@@RonLarhz
"Well, I wanted loving and accepting parents. I guess we are both unhappy then."
Burn!😂
Boom! 🎤
I hate the “so my son won’t be impressed by your daughter” garbage. It’s the toxic mother version of the dads that push modesty/purity BS for their daughters. Please stop trying to decide control your child’s lives and future.
Plus it’s just raising mamas boys who expect their partners to take care of them “like mommy used to!”
I was having coffee with my boyfriends mum today and I was legit talking about this, I was like... "have you heard of boy mums." She was so interested
It's so disturbing and gross when parents sexualize their own children like this. You don't own your son's penis or your daughter's vagina, sickos.
I think it was a joke, it was very funny
it reads like emotional incest /gag
I feel like something like "rules for thee, not for me" or some other form of hypocrisy should be in the Insane Parents Bingo board, alongside 7 more with a free space in the middle.
Make that the free space
@@mommyofkittens4809 The free space is supposed to be nothing, and besides, doing that would mean coming up with yet another thing that is common between insane parents.
The bingo card is literally not big enough for this crazy subreddit 😅
May need a 10x10 card.
maybe add narcissist's :D
44:20 "Do you expect your mid-20s daughter to be celibate?"
Yes. They expect EVERYONE to be celibate until marriage. Period. No exceptions.
And then after marriage they expect no birth control because they expect them to just pump out babies without any preventative.
They don't see it as being responsible, they see it as inappropriately encouraging sex before marriage and inappropriately preventing children after.
It's why these people are opposed to contraceptives being covered by insurance - they believe NOBODY should be using them period.
The way these parents go from expecting celibacy from their adult crotch goblins to asking for grandchildren gives me major whiplash
Side note, but I actually take birth control to regulate my hormones (my body produces too much testosterone due to a medical condition), not to prevent pregnancy. And that isn't really anybody's business but mine and my doctors'. I actually used to grow facial hair before I started taking birth control.
Not like, a full mustache and beard or anything; but yeah, facial hair.
I literally had to get laser hair removal. 😩
@@Hollyucinogenpcos? I take birth control for the same reason too
@w1nterdays Hashimoto's Thyroiditis. It basically means that my body has trouble regulating my weight, hormones, blood pressure, etc, because it's attacking my thyroid, which is the organ that regulates those things. Anything that requires regulation, my body sucks at. It's in the same category as things like lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, and multiple sclerosis (an autoimmune disease).
*A single solitary tear drips down my face.* 🥲
I had to get laser hair removal because I was legit growing a small beard. 😭
@Hollyucinogen yeah, sadly that's just something they don't care about, and a lot of people suffer for it.
It is always EXTREMELY concerning when a parent (usually the mother but not always) sees every potential future partner of their child as a threat to their place in the child's life. Like...the parent position and the romantic or life partner position ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO OVERLAP!!!
It’s even worse when it’s like a father to his daughter and then it super concerning when the parent is like “I’m my child’s first love and blah blah blah”
It is, unfortunately, extremely common in certain cultures, and certainly in South Asia.
It’s wretch inducing, I don’t know wtf is wrong with women who view their sons like this 🤢
Sadly, I was in a relationship like this. His mom mentioned several times herself about how she was jealous of my beauty and i thought that she was just trying to be nice to me until she started pairing that with rude remarks about my autism and how my sense of humor "disrespected her authority". She tried to backtrack by saying she just wants her son to be in a happy, healthy relationship.
She constantly said and accused me of things to cause strains on the relationship and it worked because he basically dumped me cause she told him to.
I'm very glad he did because im not in that toxic environment anymore, but very sorry he still lives with her.
It's propably quite common in those "showing my son how to x so he's not impressed by your daughter" tiktoks, i think it's called emotional incest
My mom once told me she'd consider it a moral failing on her part if any of her kids were queer. Meanwhile I'm bi-ace and nonbinary just sitting there like 😐
I can't even count the amount of times I've had to be homophobic to save myself from being evicted. The number of women I've had a genuine connection with over the years who I've had to turn down because I was relying on my mom for housing and couldn't live on the streets with two dogs. I'm luckily free now! Just moved in to my new apartment a few days ago, and I'm looking forward to getting back into being social after two and a half long, long years of isolating myself so I don't have to deal with my mom's behavior if she, say, saw I was dating someone who isn't male. No more do I have to pretend to be grossed out by other nonbinary people to appease my mother! No longer do I have to suffer through her rants about "in her day people were just gay!" Not once more will i have to put up with her calling people on TV slurs because they're not cishet, white Christians! I'm ashamed of myself for having to blend into her style of thinking to survive, but I made it out, boys! A free man!
Congrats on getting out of there! Have fun exploring the world!
That's amazing!!!! good for you!
A free man? U said ur non binary
I'm a cis woman and have used that expression myself when classes were canceled etc
@@mimiki1314
I would be ashamed of you too, I hope your mom can get over you being such a disappointment
We need to make the bingo card a 5 by 5 at least. Could also add "oddly specific insults," "contradictions," and "nonsense logic"
I know, bingo HAS to be 5x5, that’s like the entire game 😭
Maybe add "changing the subject" as well
And…
- "unnecessary, absurd circular conversations from hell"
- "digging up conflicts from 20 years ago"
- "random mood swings",
- "guilt-tripping"
- "wHaT iF tHeRe’S An EMeRGenCY?!", even though guilt-tripping - for 😭😱"must be available 24/7"😱😭 - deserves its own slot because it’s so ridiculously common,
- "extreme immaturity"
- "weaponised incompetence"
- "emotional cruelty"
- "blatant disregard of… [privacy, personal life, plans, work schedule, relationship, personhood, tastes, requests, boundaries etc.]"
- "weird creepy obsession with sex life", "accusations of attention-seeking" (including slut-shaming young teens or even prepubescents for… existing as a female human),
- but also "gimme graaaandbabies!!1!"
- "insatiable hunger for attention"
- "projection, wild conjecture & paranoia"
- "dismissive reaction to feelings"
- "attacking when sick or otherwise vulnerable"
- "disagreement is treason (or a sign of immaturity or mental illness)"
- "victim-blaming for abuse by 3rd party"
- "loves & sides with child’s abusive exes but hates good partner/accuses ONLY them of abuse"
- "going through personal belongings"
- "theft"
- "constantly demands money"
- "colossal entitlement" in general and specifically "feels entitled to adult child’s belongings, money and living space"
- "blows up phone"
- "stalking"
- "unpredictable past aka memory rewriting & gaslighting"
- "I know I haven’t been a perfect parent"
- ✨"You had clothes, food and a roof over your head!" ✨ (aka the legally required minimum to not be a literal criminal)
…there’s a lot of insane classics, but if even the most common ones were added, there would be more fields than in a lottery. But hey, Mark can still use all of these suggestions for future insane parents bingos.
Nonsense logic would be all of them lol
I read this too fast and saw “oddly specific nuts” HRLP-
The comment about OP’s diary being “boring” kind of reads like the mom was disappointed there was nothing in it that she could justify getting mad at OP for.
"Why does it feel like theyre all drunk."
Easy. Difficult for your average person to believe a sober person would act like this.
The creepy, overbearing parents remind me of the "boy moms" funky frog bait covered
It's really weird and it's kind of emotional incest and they say things like "his mom is his first love" and try to compete with their son's spouses when they're older
Yeah, super nasty stuff
My mom is a «boy mom» and on multiple occasions when I was younger she said that, «I wish you were my husband»…Going to move out hopefully when I go to uni!
@@Mhtheartzylolzwow that is terrifying. Hope you get by
@@Mhtheartzylolz What the fuck? That is the grossest thing I’ve heard today.
@@Mhtheartzylolz what the actual f*ck
My dad struggled with alcoholism and I saw him drunk most days. NEVER did he make disgusting comments about me or my sister or say anything bad about us. That drunk texting dad 100% has those thoughts when he's sober. What a creep.
Alcohol doesn't make a person not be themselves...it makes them act out inner thoughts that they don't show. Whenever I'm tipsy I lose 50% of my filter and actually say or do the first thing I think of which most of the time doesn't happen, but I'm still aware of exactly what I'm doing and how weird it may be.
@@hamjuice345i can confirm this, one time my boyfriend got drunk (hes not an alcoholic luckily, he drinks super rarely) and the first thing he did was say "i love you" like 40 times and then cry in my arms and then he was just a goofball until he fell asleep. 100% a keeper
@@waffler-yz3gw Oh that's AMAZING. Congratulations on finding your Forever Boyfriend :)))
My dad was an angry, sometimes abusive alcoholic for most of my childhood. But he never hit us and he definitely never ever said or did any nasty stuff to me or even my mom. Anyone whi does stuff like that and uses alcohol as an excuse is lying. that guy was a sicko before alcohol.
I can't get drunk drunk because of the meds I'm on but my alcohol tolerance is so low anyway that even just a single drink makes me feel silly so one time I had a daiquiri, just one, and about ten minutes later I grabbed my partner's face and stared them in the eyes and said "You got flowers in your eyes, they're pretty!" My partner has heterochromia in both eyes where the outer part of the iris is green and there's a sunflower shaped pattern of hazel/gold around the pupil and I just sat there for like a solid ten minutes just admiring my partner's 'flower eyes'. I think my partner said at one point I went to fetch them a bottle of water to quote 'water the flower' and I insisted that they drink the entire thing and then got really happy when they did and fell asleep in their lap XDDD
parents going through their kids rooms, especially when they’re 18+, is so mind blowing. that’s a one way ticket to the old folks home
I banish thou to the nursing home weirdo!
It's time to play!
Guess who's going to a retirement home!
@@Naofumi-Iwatanilmfao
Yeah, for the pandemic my bf gave me money for me to be able of have savings just in case of emergency, my mom went in my room searched then asking where did the money come from... I was 24
Under the patio
I love the section about "teaching my son useful life skills", but making it about showing up his potential girlfriend. Instead of just teaching him these things because they're useful.
Some serious "boymom" bullshit there.
There needs to be a "creepy incest undertones" bingo spot, because at least five different ones hit that mark
@MizukiHawkeye maybe "owning their child's sexual autonomy"
That felt so uncomfortable.
@@affsteak3530 Don't forget "ensuring child gets mobbed and laughed at in school".
The mom showing her son stuff so he’s not impressed by “Your daughter” has to be satire.
they’re called boy moms and they are crazy
Sadly toxic boy moms are real and that is how it can look 😅.
She looked like she was trying to tempt a daddy for her son
If you do this again you should add a category of “emotional incest”, that’s definitely the vibes the second one is giving me.
Before my mind races in ways that I don't want it to I have to ask, wtf is emotional incest 0_0
@@pencilcase8068It's when parents treat their child as their romantic partner. Not in a sexual way, but acting like the kid is their spouse or getting oddly jealous.
@@pencilcase8068like the other commenter said but it can also be a parent who treats their kid like a "best friend" basically its a closeness that is unhealthy and emotionally dependent on the parents part but isn't sexual
@@zhenia2511I see, wewll thanks for the clarificatrion, with this in mind i can see how the "teachiong my son" lady is treating her son like a spouse in those aspects
@@LeonIsAlwaysSleepy well so basically its like a parent acting like how a clingy bf/gf would emotionally act (kinda bad analogy but it seems to make sense in my mind)
You needed a golden child category on the bingo card.
For all the times one child gets excused at the expense of the other.
That def sounds like the parent who demands one child cover the shifts for the other constantly because “oh but don’t you know she’s sick?” Yeah, she’s sick alright…SICK IN THE HEAD LIKE HER MOM!!!! 😡🤬
There were a few of these posts where I felt like I had to hold back my rage and I’m not ANY of those people in those posts! 😡🤬
We need a "treating offspring like a spouse/Significant Other" on a future card, because of parents like the lady begging for her child's acknowledgement over a cabin and whining about said child having to work.
I almost feel like that can be applied to my life. The way my dad ‘jokingly’ treats me at times is both as if I’m two while also as if I’m not his daughter….
Tbh I would hesitate to accept that type of behavior from a SO as well 😬
@scorseve If I knew it was a joke I might be ok with it, but yeah if it was serious then there needs to be a sit down conversation that happens about this kind of behavior.
@scorseve true, but it's a weirdly specific type of abuse when a parent does it. I've seen people unofficially call it emotional incest, and honestly, from personal experience, the name tracks and should be given a DSM entry.
@@MissCaraMint its a red flag either way.
I started crying half way through this because almost every one sounded like something my mom did to me. Until you hear exactly how crazy it sounds happening to someone else, you don't realize how much of a monster your own parent was.
I hope you're in a safer environment now and can begin healing
@@miserablepumpkin9453 Both parents have passed and I've cut contact with other family members. I'm doing ok now, thanks
Sending you a virtual hug. Sorry you had to go through that. It really sucks.
The mom one where she doesnt want her son to be impressed with “your daughter” is so weird to me. Like, does she expect the wife to take care of her son like a baby? Most of them are not “I’m teaching my son how to take care of himself” but “I’m giving my son high expectations for his next caretaker”
100% the vibe I got too!! AKA "How to raise an entitled narcissist"? 😵 One can only hope the son doesn't share the mother's views, and is willing to minimize contact in future, both for his own sake & that of any prospective partner/s!
What struck me about those was how quickly they went from teaching her son useful things like how to fold a fitted sheet to using “teaching her son” as an excuse to brag about her wackadoo beliefs that she thinks make her superior, e.g. “I only feed my son raw milk.” Also, is this infant the son she was supposedly teaching how to clean and fold sheets? Because that proves it’s ALL just bragging about what a great mother she is/will be. That poor baby is in for a rough life with that totally batshit narcissist of a mom.
Wait till he discovers fast food or desserts and exclaims over what he's been missing out on!
Yes. That's called "conservative values"
@@anondecepticon I was almost impressed at the start for the useful stuff, until it was all superior and toxic. Like it could have been so wholesome - teaching my son to cook so he won't excpect your daughter to do it all for him, teaching my son to hang laundry so he won't expect your daugter to do it all, etc. She will 100% become the "victim MIL" in 20-30 years time who blames her "horrible" DIL because she never sees her son or the grandkids (or the DIL, but lets be real, she won't wanna see her lol), but in reality it will be the son just cutting his mother out after his wife helped give him the confidence to realise how crazy mom is! (I've only realised how far-gone certain people in my life were asked I met my partner and was able to use him as a reliable point of reference for my own sanity, against my own self doubt after years of gaslighting.)
My father tried to confront me about me "doing drugs" once because he mistook my stretch marks (I was making an active effort to lose weight) as injection sites. This is also the guy who couldn't believe I wasn't able to make ends meet on £250 per month (with him taking £120 of that for rent) and wouldn't let me eat until the every transaction on my bank statement for the past 2 years was explained.
Parents truly are insane. (: Going on 8 years NC at this point.
I think the saddest thing about that one anti-vaxx woman being off her meds is that chances are she's convinced her meds themselves are poisoning her too. I've suffered from paranoid delusions to the point that I haven't drank water for weeks because I was 100% convinced I would die the moment I drank it (/hyp) and it was really hard to break out of it.
People who suffer from heavy stuff like that should be under permanent care ... that shit can be really dangerous for them self or other :/
@@yuzuchi5381 The unfortunate thing is a lot of "permanent care" leaves these people more traumatized than before. Psych wards or mental hospitals and such are, in most cases, more like prisons than hospitals and don't help :(
I'm anti covid vaxx and proud of it
@@AethAbyss and if you're chronically ill you risk getting all of your meds abruptly cut off until they "can verify you actually need them". Or having your glasses or hearing aids taken away because "you could injure yourself with them".
@@waffles3629 THIS TOO!! I'm diagnosed with autism and so if I lived in the US I could quite literally be denied certain treatments because of it. Healthcare systems genuinely hate people with disabilities, it's awful.
A good square to add if you do this again would be ‘insulting the child over having a mental disorder.’ Two other squares could be ‘Favoritism over sibling’ and ‘Harsh comparisons to others’
If those were there my sperm donor would be a bingo all by himself
Insane parents bingo def needs a "give me your money" square. Too many parents taking their kids financial gains.
"I gave you food, clothes, and a roof over your head!!!"
@@affsteak3530They expect extra from us for doing what's expected of them from the government 🙄
Definitely! Also, nice profile picture dear stranger :) /gen
Always appreciate the reminders that we dont owe our parents for simply raising us because its a thing they chose to do before we existed or could give input
yeah but like, you made those kids, so they owe you everything they earn for the rest of ever. that's how it works. you birthed and raised them, so they owe you. cuz you know, having that kid was totally something they asked you to do
With the veteran argument of “tHeY oNlY gEt OnE dAy”, they dont. In the US, we have three months dedicated for them. April for Military Children, May is Military Appreciation, and November is Veterans Month. Those who argue that veterans have one day to discredit Pride Month have no business talking about veterans and they don’t actually care about them.
~a child of a veteran
I've never heard of April, interesting (neither my sibling nor I joined up, so makes sense I suppose)
And given the number of LGBTQ+ people in the military I’d say Pride Month can be for a lot of veterans, too
and yet i hear only bad stuff about veterans :(
seems those months do not enough.
I’d argue for the first post also hitting the “ignore the main issue” box, since she kept avoiding the question of “why are you going through my things?”
a tip for anyone else with gaslighty parents, think of something theyve done thats wayyyyyy on the end of the spectrum and hold onto it. my mom loves gaslighting (including when she tried to gaslight me into thinking gaslighting wasnt real?), but it really only takes me remembering her sexting my father while me and him were in the hospital after my suicide plan was discovered to say nope im definitely not just crazy this lady is actually insane
That's a good tip. People who gaslight either want you to focus only on yourself so that you don't consider their behaviour, or they just have such low self-awareness that they don't realize what they're saying/doing, but either way it's their behaviour that definitely needs consideration
I'm just glad you didn't commit suicide because even if you don't know it, there is always at least one person out there that you have affected positively, and if you did die there is always going to be one person who will miss you after finding out
I'm glad you got the help you needed and as someone who is proud to say they are a REAL Christian who doesn't misconstrue the Bible, I will be praying for you to the true God who actually cares for all humanity as his children, instead of the false idol most "Christians" these days made-up to fit their values. God bless.
I think the thing that irritates me the most about people who hate Pride month because “the military only get a day” is that they clearly have no one in their life actually in the military. If they did they would know that there are numerous days for the military as well as the entire month of May being Military Appreciation month.
Also, it's not like you can go to certain restaurants all year round and be like 'Yeah, I'm gay. I fought for my people to have more rights and to live the way they want to without fear,' and they'll be like 'Oh, you brought about change of some kind? Well, in that case, lunch is 30% off!' Veterans can kinda just be handed things when they go to the right establishments. There's not a fucking Arby's in the world that's going to give you a free sandwich or a discount for being a lesbian. Not trying to trivialize what soldiers and veterans do in any way. I just think comparing their importance like that is asinine.
There are actually three. April is Month of the Military Child, May is Military Appreciation Month, and November is National Veterans and Military Families Month.
Though similarly, the LGBTQIA+ community gets three months. June is Pride Month, October is LGBTQ+ History Month, and November is Trans Awareness Month. Notice how months can overlap, and how a disproportionate number of queer people have served in the military.
It reminds me of when people only seem to bring up mens mental health when something was specifically about women.
Mens mental health is also extremely important,just stop only bringing it up to silence something else.
I've never heard of May being Millitary Appreciation month until just now, why does it not have much recognition?
I also have a sneaky feeling that they don't even care about their veterans
Also, I'm pretty sure Pride Month is international, so it isn't even a 'Murica thing (I assume most people who say that argument are American)
You can go down a wholesome rabbit hole looking at adoption proposal videos. It's incredibly sweet.
I will check that out soon, I'll get back to you.
Oh my god, yes!
These always make me cry, at least they're good tears
I read this comment, watched one video, ended up balling my eyes out and had to stop watching them because I have a meeting in 20 minutes and don't want puffy eyes 😂
Story 1 OP’s mom is incensed lolol
I think "public shaming" or "threat of public shaming" needs to be on there, along with "golden child". Then my mom might be able to win a bingo!
Gawd yes, let me emphatically say I was NOT the golden child.
@@joosyjulie sympathies... I was because my brother got his rebellious phase out in the teens like usual and my sister in her early 20s. I played the good kid until my thirties so I could build up enough money to escape.
@@joosyjulieI had the opposite problem, I was hoisted up as the "Golden Child" who got all the affirmation of how good I was, and the kid they could talk about to everyone because I was the oldest, and I did good in school, and I never acted out, blah blah blah, but I was also made to know that I was to be a Role Model from a Very early age.... And to make sure that my 2 Year Younger Brother (who has always been the Black Sheep) stayed out of trouble... x.x sometimes being the "Golden Child" is way too much to live up to x.x;;;
Hah the threat of public shaming was met fron me with "go right ahead, my friends fkin hate you anyway."
Oh yeah. Threats of violence too
13:11 my best friend had this happen to her, but not over text. She has no contact with her dad and he left her and her mother when she was a baby. He literally did not want her and left her and her mother behind because he didn't want a girl. He then came back years later with his new family just to taunt my friend by telling her that she'll "Never be his family". I can't imagine how much that must have hurt. But with someone like that as a dad? I'd prefer him to leave and she's told me she's happier now that he doesn't have contact w her anymore.
It's really horrible that people like this exist, but sadly they do.
Some of the wildest things my mother has said to me was when my friend passed away from cancer her response was "if only you had a husband to comfort you", and my favourite "if you're so depressed why don't you kill yourself?". Gotta love them emotionally immature parents
Wow, just wow....
Damn.
You did/do not deserve that.
You also got the "if you're depressed, why don't you kill yourself?" comment. Twinning!
Sorry you had to go through that. I Hope you are better now. 🌻
Reminds me of when, after my dad died, my mother just kept going on about how I didn't have it nearly as hard as her because "I lost my husband" and how traumatic the experience was for her, completely disregarding the fact that I had been the one to find him, and had developed several obsessive compulsions from the trauma
The one about the service dog reminds me of an uncle of mine. He's a real "holier than thou" type, and sent "anonymous" letters to my entire family *while I was in hospice* telling all of my aunts, uncles, my mom, etc that I was faking my illness, faked my disability so that I could "take my dog everywhere with me," etc. He also told my mom in her version of the letter that it was her fault I was dying because she didn't somehow force me to get better, and that if I died she would have to live with that guilt the rest of her life. Imagine saying that to a mother who has been told by multiple medical professionals that she has a very real chance of losing her adult child soon.
For the record, I have a condition that is very slowly progressive and eventually terminal, but also highly unpredictable in terms of the exact path it will take. I've been admitted to hospice three times on death's door, but each time my illness - while it did worsen - leveled out enough for me to be discharged for "living too long." This uncle didn't seem to care that it takes an entire medical team (doctor, nurses, a social worker, etc) to admit someone to hospice. He didn't care about the variety of tests done when diagnosing me, or since then. In his mind, my illness is "too bad to be possibly true" and must therefore be in my head. So yeah. Anonymous letters sent to everyone in my life he could possibly contact, insisting I'm faking everything, and that my highly trained service dog was "just for fun" and to inconvenience others.
Needless to say, I no longer consider that man family.
Wow
Sending huge sympathy hugs!! And very best wishes for navigating the ongoing medical challenges 😔
As someone living with thankfully non-fatal but pretty debilitating chronic progressive health conditions myself, it has been a real eye-opening education finding out how personally some people take that?? And how invested they can be in gaslighting us about our health issues! It's particularly hard to take from family & friends, though, so I do hope the rest of your rellies told him where to go, and am glad to hear you cut contact. Big hugs! 💞
Oh my- He is insane
If I could, I would hug you rn, have a virtual hug. I'm literally so sorry that happened to you
I hope you are doing OK now and your illness has stabilized
A lot of these more negative subreddits have been too upsetting for me to enjoy in the past, but the new bingo format manages to make it a whole lot more bearable where I'm actually able to enjoy these too now, glad to see it's seemingly sticking around.
I would suggest that Click do this particular subreddit with a Bingo card every single time, for the same reason you said.
Definitely this, it's easier to get through the heavy stuff this way
The main reason that these awful parents constantly stalk and harass their children after they try to cut off from them socially, due to how they act, is because they desire the control over their kid. They complain a lot about the child being horrible to them, but they also fear them leaving because that means that they don’t have that control over their lives anymore.
The “teaching my son” post just makes me want to go, “Teaching my kid to spot toxicity and set healthy boundaries so they’re not intimidated by their a-hole mother in law.”
The worst thing about the original version I saw is teaching my son different things so she treats your future daughter right. 🤦🏾♂️
She is actually "in love" (in a sick way) with the child ,she treats him as a substitute for the (obviously) missing father.
Yup, I've seen the originals where she says shes teaching him to be a good man who won't mistreat women.
Fun animal fact: Horses like to drink and drink and drink: on average, a horse drinks up to 8-16 gallons (30-60 litres) of water a day.
I was just wondering how wild horses achieve that given the environments they are in and apparently the water needs can be mostly satisfied with just eating fresh grass
Meanwhile donkeys attempt to avoid water except when absolutely necessary (aka: gotta drink too)
So if you lead a horse to water you don't really have to make it drink cuz it'll probably drink on its own.
Just got back from vacation with my roommate's family and i am amazed because they are genuinely loving and she's not afraid of them. The kind of parents who bring mushrooms to the party and watch you to make sure that you don't drown while tripping in the hot tub. 10/10, would never put in a nursing home.
My dad was my favorite person ever. My rock and support.
When I was a teenager testing my limits, he told me _not to not drink,_ but to do it where it's safe, if I did. Unfortunately, he passed away on a day before Valentine's when I was in my early twenties, some fifteen years ago.
I can't imagine him bringing shrooms to a party, though.
@@TheRawrnstuff I'm sorry for your loss. My uncle was like a father figure to me (I don't talk to my dad), and he passed right on Valentine's Day. He was definitely the type to bring mushrooms to a party. When I went to see him one last time and saw how thin and frail he was (he had cancer), I immediately started to cry. He just says, "oh, stop crying, I'm not dead yet." Which may sound a bit harsh, but it was actually pretty comforting to me because that was just the type of person he was. It showed me he was still all there. I also found out that when my other uncle (his brother) was cleaning out his apartment after he passed, he found a copy of The Anarchist Cookbook lmfao. It's been 6 years but I think about him every day.
About the one with the phone being hijacked around the 20 min mark: the second (rude) text messages are from the OPs mom’s boyfriend. The mom is dating a horrible pos who takes her phone and makes awful comments about her children and verbally abuses them.
That's fucking awful honestly. It really sucks that mom is dating someone like that and OP is suffering because of it.
Click should also add "Emotional Incest/incestuous" to his bingo. We had a couple of big examples in the video.
Yup, at least 3 sets of these
The woman 'showing off' to her son to directly compete with his future girlfriend(s) was such creepy vibes. Never seen the female equivalent to the father talking about his daughter like they're dating.
@@hmnhntr The equivalent is the "over protective" dad's that threaten the life of any guy that dares to look their daughters way, like those that make them use shirts with their face on it, the stereotypical shotgun dad too.
Also there was the dad that said he was talking about his daughter sex life with her ex and the dad that was demanding his daughter to "stop fucking and respond" her phone, he was telling her she was no longer allowed to spend the night with her BF, at the age of 23.
@@hmnhntr So true! I have a friend with three kids, and her son is 14 now. Some time ago she dropped some BS like "I will have a close eye on his future girlfriend to see if she is good enough hahaha". This was so offputting to me that she is proud on the fact that she would try to controll her sons future relationships. The boy has no firends as it is.
When we went camping this year, the boy joined a friend and me before his mother could come the next day. His dad was around too (the parents are seperated), but the boy stayed in our camp. I have basically know him since he was born so I am like a big cousin to him, and our families are very close. The one night his mom wasnt there and his dad was working nearby, the boy was so talkative, I have rarely seen him like this. He wanted to help with the fire, the cooking, did some wood carving and was overall very open and fun. The next day when his mom joined us he really shut down, just kept carving and ignoring his mom, who constantly needed attention from him, touched his hair, or picked grass of his clothes etc. My other friend and I just looked at each other and thought "Damn lady just let your son BREATHE for a minute on his own".
Its really upsetting how many parents are like this, who wont let their kids develop on their own, and use them as a substitute partner.
@@marnadnay Exactly. Sadly I've become somewhat used to seeing that shit, but had never seen a mother doing the same kind of thing for her son.
As an American, a good percentage of my fellow Americans seem to think that abstinence only isn't a patently absurd obviously ineffective method. So yes, I totally expect a parent to flip out at the idea that their legal age daughter is sexually active and being responsible about it. Our country has a fuckton of issues, none of which we're actually addressing.
Yes, speaking as an American on the dividing line of gen x and millenial, you are right.
"Abstinence only" started as "Just Say No" in the drug war, and our parents (Hippies, Flower Children and Baby Boomers, especially Boomers) became the worst druggies ever.
As a US American, THIS. I’m a Gen z and I swear, it feels like you are shamed or made to feel insane if you care about human rights on any scale, especially for people other than you. Like…it’s gross.
It's idealism; abstinence would be the best course, but it usually takes having a lot of sex to realize that.
That being the case, we need all the birth control we can get. 😂
Add bonus points for where are my grandchildren lol@@kennethcook9406
This is mainly due to the Puritans, they were so strict and annoying that they ended up getting kicked out of nearly everywhere else and only had the Americas to go to. It’s kind of a shame that they formed such a strong cultural impact on the US.
😂my mom found my birth control when I was 16, went wild and jumped to so many conclusions and instantly shut up when I told her the reason I took them was to help regulate heavy periods and the nurse at the family planning clinic was monitoring me every couple months. 😂
Ugh, my father took three months to find the bc I "hid"...on the kitchen table. That he saw me take every freaking school day. Oh, and my mother was in the appointment with me, do they talk to each other?
@@waffles3629 well in my parents case,they kinda just bickered when I was a kid, but now they don't talk at all unless my mother learned to use a ouija board 🤣
@@salldarling im sorry but .. LOOOL .. wtf :'D
I had the opposite. My periods became irregular and I was too scared to tell my mom since it only happened 3 months apart and didn't know what to do. But i was honest with my doctor when she took me to my yearly physical exam, and it's how she found out. She fipped tf out and panicked that I was pregnant and called my dad, panicking him. She then made me take a pregnancy test (which came up negative) even though I told her repeatedly that i wasn't pregnant and still a virgin (I would have been nearly 4 months along and showing by now 🙄). After scaring herself and my dad half to death, she had the audacity to yell at me for scaring her and to not do it again instead of being supportive and getting me on birth control or something. Some parents are the worst
@@xChaosFlower ugh, my father flipped out on me in the ER when a nurse walked into the room and said "Surprise, actually you're not pregnant". I was just staring at the nurse like 'WTAF???? Why did you think I was pregnant? I'm here for my RIBS!!'. My father refused to believe that I hadn't told them something when he got kicked out of the room that would make them think he was r**ing me. Like he wasn't, and why the hell would that be the first thing on your mind when you brought me to the ER for my RIBS??? I had the rib equivalent of a sprained ankle and he spent the next few weeks trying to get me to "fess up" about having sex. All because "There's no way you didn't say something to them that made them think you were pregnant". Like dude, I've had a doctor use a condition I'd had for 1.5 years as "proof" I was pregnant and then say I was only negative because I "was too early". Doctors can be stupid.
I keep laughing at the "showing my son ... so your daughter..." because I always wonder what if they turn out gay😂
Never thought about that
My only thought was, "To impress your son, all a girl will have to do is be... not you."
All the dads jumping to talking about their daughter's sex lives/insinuating that their romantic relationships are for nothing but sex is such a disturbing depiction of men not seeing women as anything other than sex objects, even their own children 🤢
there should definitely be a square for "actual crimes".
As a mom of 2 adult daughters I've always tried to teach them the importance of respect when it comes to intimate relations. Sex is a natural and healthy part of life. Sometimes we choose to explore romantically and some people choose to wait. Neither way works for everyone. But respect is something that always works. Respecting themselves and their partners and having a partner that respects you and your choices is best.
You sound like an awesome mom!
You sound like an awesome mother. I remember when the Golden Rule was heavily enforced when I was a kid
Damn that's mature and thoughtful.
Thanks for this!
As someone who related a lot to the poor kids in these texts, it felt oddly validating to watch someone witness this and go WTF. That little confirmation, that this shit aint normal, and no one should treat another human this way. It really helps when faced with similar guilt trips, or random guilt over standing up for yourself, or stepping away.
Distance gets easier with time, but family is always tricky.
I feel for the people in the posts and for everyone else in a similar situation.
It usually takes a lot to grow up with such parents and get to place where you're able to stop letting this behaviour hurt you.
It was also pretty healing to just laugh at the absurdity of it all. All the takes were so on point!
boy moms who are like “ teaching my son this so he wont be impressed with what your daughter does!”is so creepy. ma’am you are shaming a toddler about something they probably won’t do in the future 💀💀
And what is she doing if her son is gay? 😅
I can only imagine the abuse those kids could endure if they come out as anything. These parents are terrible.
Edit: And these parents need help
5:23 White Sage (as seen in the photo she provided) literally _wards off_ evil- no wonder she hates it so much. Black cats do the same (ward off evil), but you bet she probably thinks they’re “the devil” too and refuses to take two seconds to look in a mirror
In America they are associated with bad luck and witches.
Ain’t that ironic lol.
If she did look into a mirror it would probably crack into pieces
Lol 😂 You nailed it with exquisite finesse! My cat extends her gratitude for spreading the word 🐈⬛ 💕
…She farts pink hearts, apparently.
@@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose you should get that checked out
Just imagining my religious conservative parents finding out I'm a gay furry.
I'd 100% be able to make it onto this subreddit.
hope that no one manages to tell them
Life will get way better when you move out. I hope you're able to hold on until then :3
If they find out just kick them out of the house/j
In all seriousness, leave them immediately and end all contact with them if they find out.
...I feel that. I think my dad would be confused and take it in stride. My mother... well she knows I'm an atheist and told me she's praying for me, so... yeah.
Wait a gay furry? That’s a first that I’ve heard someone openly say that, but I ain’t judging cause that would be rude.
my mom says shes an ally but every time i bring up something about a girl that i am interested in, or just complimenting a girl in general, she'll stop talking to me for the next few days and say stuff under her breath like "you better have kids with a man" or some shit like that its so confusing 😭
Oh man, the "cover your sibling's work" one unlocked a memory from my childhood. My brother was sick, and that meant he couldn't do his paper route. And so I had to do it, whether I wanted to or not. I was also sick. But I was just very depressed, so it didn't count.
1) Depression (and all mental health issues) affect everyone on different levels
2) You have no right to deny someone else's experiences just because you "could just deal with it" Good for you, not everyone can without help
3) People like you are the reason so many suffering with mental health issues are afraid to talk to someone about it because they have to worry about being dismissed because "It's just an excuse"@@xejelah
@@ProtoV33MK1oh I absolutely agree with you. I did have that mindset, like I knew I wasn't feeling well since the lockdown but I'll pretend and pretend and keep pretending because I knew people around me would treat it as an excuse. I kept doing that till I failed to pass a really important exam and cue the breakdown. Only then did I realise just how worried my parents were and how they noticed that something was wrong with me all that time. They never blamed me for failing that exam even though they had high expectations for it. And now I have my second chance to hopefully crack that exam with my parents support. I'd like to believe I could've done it before if I simply hadn't closed myself off from people that cared about me
I'm glad your family stood behind you and were ready to really help you through it.@@Autumn-xs1bt
I had two siblings who had one as well as myself. I always somehow ended up being forced to do their Sunday morning round (I didn't have one then) and cover ALL of their papers for Christmas and new years and on their birthdays. And just whenever they didn't fancy doing it.
I didn't get the money for them either.
Oh wow... that's not even legal in the civilised world, do you realise? Employment contracts are not something you can just mix & match willy nilly like you're redistributing halloween candy.
You definitely need to add "wHy wOn'T mY cHilD tAlK tO mE ?" to the bingo, I feel like we've seen it so many times
I love how this channel has become a safe space for calling out unhinged parents and that’s awesome ❤
One of the great things about the internet is that it sheds a light on all the things that are not okay or normal. I grew up without the internet (yes, I'm ancient), and today I sometimes wonder if the kids in my class with bad family lives knew that it wasn't normal. That kind of abuse is usually hidden, so maybe they thought everyone's parents were like that in private.
They only reason I knew who had crappy parents was because it was reflected in the children's behavior, or the occasional off-hand comment about house rules that were crazy. The rule is that you don't talk shit about other people's parents, and if they don't bring it up themselves, they suffer in silence.
the whole channel is a safe space for anyone really..
everyone who comments is a good person. damaged or not.
Teaching both my female and male children unconditional love, how to cook, and take care of themselves so that they know they're supposed to be respected/respectful and won't have to deal with terrible mother-in-laws!!(or anyone else)
10:20 The fact that she is teaching her son these things so he can shame his future partner instead of just... teaching him so he can do half of it as well?
Yeah, nothing like a parent raising their entitled kid to expect others will pick up & clean up after them, and then shaming their prospective/actual SO for trying to encourage them to grow up a bit and learn some basic life skills..?. 🙈 Definitely influenced by some very outdated gender relations attitudes, making it extra-disturbing to see the relatively young age of the OP - they should know better...? 🙄
Those posts have nothing to do with “teaching her son” anything - he’s obviously a baby. They’re all about her, bragging about her fringe beliefs that she thinks make her superior, both as a mom and in comparison to his hypothetical future wife, who she already feels threatened by. Classic narcissistic thinking, convinced she’s better than everybody else, yet also really insecure.
It has nothing to do with the son. She's an extremely bored housewife using her kid for cheap clout. Nothing more
The burning sage is supposed to repel evil spirits, kinda funny that the mom wants it gone
XD
Ah, well spotted lol
23:00 This part hit me so hard. My mother used to do this exact thing but with "curses". Throughout my entire life she'd tell me and my brother that evil people were "cursing her" and that we had to pray for the curses to go away and a bunch of other bullshit like that, and she'd point out people we knew and say "Those people are evil spirits" and shit like that. Now I'm 22 and I'm pretty fucking sure my mother has some form of undiagnosed schizophrenia. She was never on meds of any sort and she's extremely anti-medication, and she had times of the year where she got 'better', like, she wasn't paranoid all of the time, but when she *was* paranoid about curses and evil spirits it was actually fucking terrifying. I still walk to places looking over my shoulder constantly like my mother taught me to because it's fucking ingrained in my head. I fucking hate it.
Oof. Mental illness of some form definitely does seem a likely diagnosis there sadly? I know what it's like having a parent who's unwell n that space but keeps rejecting the meds that could help them 😢
Awful seeing them live in such an unnecessarily stressful and troubled headspace, but I don't think it's possible to persuade them to change, unfortunately, esp. the older they become..? All one can really do is try to inject some sanity wherever possible, and provide support whilst maintaining healthy boundaries - always easier said than done of course. Big sympathetic hugs!
@@anna_in_aotearoa3166
Thanks a lot, I really appreciate it.
@@kellybmackenzieI’ve been through that myself. Please always remember that you’re not responsible for her actions or for her mental health. I went through a lot of guilt, thinking I should’ve helped my mom or done something to get her help, but you have to remember that as a child, there’s nothing you could’ve possibly done. Sending positive thoughts for both you and your mother. I pray you find peace, and that one day she gets well. ❤️
That last part reminds me of how my boyfriend constantly checks for cops and stuff while driving because of his mom’s paranoia from her drug days. She’s ingrained it in him to essentially be scared of cops and to always look for him due to her own issues and it’s honestly kind of upsetting.
@@anna_in_aotearoa3166 Yeahhhhhhhhh I hear you!
My mom has BPD (borderline PD, not bipolar) and has gone through multiple bouts of deciding to just…suddenly stop taking her medication. Mind you, not only does this cause her to become significantly less stable mentally/emotionally, but it’s also really not good physically as these meds require slow and steady weaning to stop! She has repeatedly convinced herself that she is better and does not need them despite very much needing them or, at the very least, needing intensive therapy to replace them at the discretion of a qualified professional. We-my mom included-legit refer to her meds as her “happy pills” because she is completely unhinged when she stops taking them!
(To be clear I love my mother dearly despite her issues and the severe effect they had on my and my siblings’ childhoods/our lives, and these days she is thankfully actually seemingly doing better!)
21:15 FIRST BINGO OF THE DAY!
the 2 other bingos:...
I wondered if he would catch that lol
Giving kid raw milk. Raw. You do know why they invented pasteurization in the first place, right? Because raw milk can give you serious digestive issues and transmit disease. I can’t. 🤦♂️
Drinking raw milk is the dumbest thing ever. Why do people push it as something good. THAT'S HOW YOU DIE!
It's not as if it can kill people; it's natural! /s
@@ceeshnia…
@@Maelstr0mStudios/s means sarcasm
This is bringing up memories of drinking cows milk straight from the tit and eating cat shit as a toddler
The micromanaging the job thing hit so hard for me. I moved out when I started college at barely 19. My mother did not contribute to my home bills or college after that point, and yet was always asking what days I was working and saying I should work more or find a new job that would work me more. The thing was, I worked enough to pay my base responsibilities but limited my hours so I could focus more on college. It always frustrated me that she cared so much about my financials when she didn't contribute to them.
May be she wishes for u to cover up not only your needs but hers also? She understands that she cant hung on your neck financially
I know it probably isn't what your mom was about, but I know that some financially insecure people feel really compelled to project the "you need money" principles to others. I have 2 friends (from different circles) who come from unstable environments, and they exhibit similar mindset. When I mentioned I turned down a job even though it would pay a bit more, they were like "WHY?!?!?". When I explained that job wasn't interesting and wouldn't help me progress my career, they still insisted that more money is better. One of them picks up all possible shifts and pretty much works to herself to the bone, which I criticise as she's just not taking care of herself. And she's not in any desperate situation right now or in a place to need a lot of money, she has a decent chunk of savings, but dunno, I always feel like she thinks it's not enough.
I am on the frugal side of things but damn, there needs to be some fun in life and definitely the goal is not to have health problems before you hit 40...
I had another thought too, maybe your mom actually feels insecure about her lack of ability to help you financially if you would require it. If she's too shy or ashamed to say that as a reason, she might just end up pressuring you into getting more money without admitting that she's worried about her inability to help you out. Or she made some terrible mistakes in similar situation, when she overestimated her financials and turned into a mistake, so now she proactively nags you but without explaining her reasoning.
@@martam307
Pretty much this.
I grew up in a household where my parents were struggling to pay bills, and found out when I was 8 or so that my parents would borrow money from people to buy me l birthday presents. (They had no clue I was aware of all this)
I'm well into adulthood now, but I developed a mentality that money is the same thing as safety, because money pays for food, medical bills, housing, and just about everything else.
It makes it harder for me to understand or rationalise when friends talk about how they spent their entire paycheck on some novelty item.
It's like second hand stress because it makes me worry about their well-being even if they're actually fine.
How did the mom “teaching” her son cleaning/folding and giving him raw milk NOT get the “All about meeeee…” square?
There might be need for a "recless endangerment" square because raw milk keeps killing kids in the USA.
Raw milk and honey aren't safe for kids under 1 year old and the cultural techniques for preparing them were interrupted so yogurts and cheeses might still put kids over that age at Risk.
Also I think she was doing laundry for a toddler (like normal people) and contrasting that to a future partner (ew) who might be putting in less effort.
I think that was a joke? Like satire? It seemed like satire
@@ricebeansrockroll882Poe's Law in full effect. Because there's absolutely mothers like that out there.
Also, how does pasteurised milk make someone lactose intolerant? That don't make no sense!
It’s gross boy mom behavior. Pure egotism
If anything, pasturised milk is safer to drink in general...
'Why does my child hate me?'
'Why did my child buy a gun?'
'Why is my child throwing darts at a picture of me?'
And they wonder why
Super villain type shit on that last one
@@AnthonyboiYT LMAO
If your child does 2 and 3 in Europe you are allowed to call the police
'Why js my child on a genocide streak?'
Nah that isnt your child, thats Chara Dreemurr
I stopped keeping a diary as a teen because when I tried I hid it under my mattress and my stepmom and her daughter went sifting through my room while I was away. They not only searched my entire room to find it but they then read it and proceeded to make fun of me for the things I had written in it. I do not trust any of my family with my feelings anymore. I cannot stress how important it is to not be a shitty parent.
the one at 42:07 made me physically shrink back in my chair. these are all bad, but this one gives off the same vibes as “take catcalling as a compliment” and “you were asking for it”. parents shouldn’t push this shit on their kids.
Some ideas for bingo card 2.0: "Hypocricy", "Threats or blackmailing", "verbal abuse", "Dismissing valid argument", "That's not how we raised you", "Messages about not wanting messages" Probably most have already been suggested, but that might just give those more chance to appear
CLICK should do this at least EOW, if not weekly. Then maybe for fun a month end short recap with percentages. Educational Content!
4:38 omfg this is exactly my grandma. “Are you using it RIGHT THIS MOMENT?! NO?!?! TO THE TRASH IT GOES!!”
I like this bingo card-concept. Now, even though those parents still make me want to scream, using them to win a game fills me with a strange form of joy.
It can be played by 1 person, or more at any family holiday or gathering. Multiple siblings or cousins playing against the adults would be fun. Caveat: they point can only count on your card if it's against you.
As a non-Italian who has never lived in Italy and has never known any Italians, I can confirm that Click's Italian accent is completely accurate and has no flaws at all whatsoever
Lol
As an italian who has lived in Italy all her life, i concour.
As a non-Italian who lived in Italy for a while but whose native tongue isn’t English but who saw videos of Italian people from Italy speak English with an Italian accent, I’m confused by my own comment now
I recently made the mistake of coming out to my mom as nonbinary, and it became a whole argument. At one point, she said “Life’s hard enough without you doing all this extra stuff to be different and complicating things.” So I looked her in the eye and said “Yea. Life is hard enough when you’re cishet. So why would you purposely go out of your way to insult and belittle me and make it more difficult for me to feel loved and accepted? Why wouldn’t you use that exact same amount of energy to show kindness and love and respect, which would make my life easier?” She genuinely had no response to that and instead defaulted to her usual “I saw a story on the news last week about an evil trans person” so she wouldn’t have to address the point I made. There’s simply no winning, it seems.
I'm so sorry for that. please know that a lot of people out there loves you and supports you no matter what. you're amazing and perfect the way you are ! best of wishes to you !
Going no contact is the only win
jeez sorry to hear that as a pan. i came out to mom and dad first as possibly gay. and my mom say and i quote ' i dont wanna be like my mom. so you do you but promise me you feel loved and happy thats all i want'' my dad chimed in with KNEW IT! and was slapped by mom :D
but my mom was born into a very christian family and was really into metal. and was kicked out at 16 :(
my dad had a same thing saying church is bullcrap. he wanted to focus on work and helping people. instead of attending. and thus was disowned.
so both parents i have are very loving and open. even my uncle agreed their parents where way to strict. and stuck in the past. even going as far as saying : no electricity in the 70s sucked ass.
Smfh, the actions of one don't apply to the rest of folks. Not only that, you came out as nb so how the hell does that have do to with anythin'? Genuinely crazy ""logic"" she seems to have. So sorry you gotta' deal with that.
I really don't get this "urge" for young generations to "come out" to their (usually religious) parents.
When I was young(after 13-4) I kept my secrets (admittedly bad,like heroin addiction) for a long time ,even though I knew that my parents would be supportive (in their own way). I wanted out but I had to do it alone, I wanted to spare them from the potential pain (natural response,yes,but I couldn't carry the responsibility of hurting them more than necessary. I got back with them after 25 years. They were over the moon, I was clean,had a boat and was sailing around Europe. Since then,we talk about the past as if it was a movie,and we were the protagonists (true in many levels).
My point ,you don't need validation by anyone.
You do you,and people will join you when they too are ready.
Don't rush things.
Except if you are in an oppressive situation (then leave) or in physical danger (ask external help)
Hope this helps someone.
I love the little jabs Click throws at Blair now. Its sassy but well deserved.
*Edit for context since not everyone knows: While I'm not super comfortable sharing the details about this as it's an ongoing situation and /very/ horrible, the abridged version of it is: Blair is an awful person that abused the old members of Sad Milk (One Topic, Click, Oz Media, and Wonder). She did everything in her power to destroy the old Sad Milk members after they split and is specifically targeting Oz Media and Wonderstruck. If you can, please consider donating to their GoFundMe's to help support them (please don't beat yourself up if you can't donate.)
Totally caught that because I was thinking the same thing as he was saying it 😂
And the sass is very very earned 😏
Triangle Face deserves no moment of peace. 😊
I think I missed where he did that. Might not have been paying attention enough to catch it
@@Boundwithflame23 37:39
I just went back and caught it. How did I miss this the first time?
A Dad seeming to be jealous of a boyfriend is disgusting to me and that is what that one story seems like. Dad is acting like he wants to be the center of the daughter's "affections". Not all anxious fathers seem this way, but this one does. My Dad was this way and I'm assuming I don't have to explain why.
😢 I understand and I'm sorry.
Why u surprised when society have been perpetrating the idea that daughters are father's ex in another lifetime.
@@RonLarhzoh my god I've never heard this wtf
@@RonLarhzwhat in the actual the fuck, who said that need help
Adding onto this with my own experiences with my dad. My dad is not anxious. But he does see me as property. He's overly affectionate, touchy, and flirty especially when I was younger. I'm 19 but when I was 16 I looked much older due to being at some formal event I don't remember. Anyway, someone approached us and asked if I was his wife or something and he said yes.
I love how you don't just read something, laugh, and then move on. You take your time on each one and make it a discussion. It's deep... it connects you with your viewers... and I love both your humor and your take on the world.
Click does transformative content, that’s why it’s good. The “laugh and move on” thing is non-transformative and essentially just plagiarism/intellectual property infringement, that’s why people who do that have boring content. Click’s style is thus both interesting and more moral.
15:22 THIS TIME? THIS HAPPENED BEFORE??
As a medicated schizophrenic, I would like to apologize for my unmedicated counterparts.
Hey now... Being unmedicated doesn't make me a bad person. The side effects of the drugs were more unbearable than the symptoms I was living with. Please, don't lump me in with the Insane Parents. I doubt any of them are actually schizophrenic. Narcissistic or perhaps sociopathic, but not schizophrenic.
It's obviously not your responsibility what other people do and you don't need to apologize for them.
That being said.... from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
my first bf was an unmedicated schizophrenic guy (both of us 14), so yeah lol ty
Not your issue man. And to be fair it can be hard to keep on top of your meds specifically if you're the paranoid type, because during an episode you might start to think the medication is poison and people are trying to force you to poison yourself. Conversely you can start being convinced that you're perfectly fine and there's nothing wrong with you and you don't need them.
😂
My mother dated a guy for about 2 years who was the exact opposite of the “Treats Adult kid like child” space. I was 10 and he expected me to act and behave like an adult. He was emotionally, mental and at times verbally abusive to me and I have lasting issues from the time we lived with him. My mom eventually came to her senses but moving out wasn’t easy since we were never financially well off with him. That’s the only thing I miss about that time, having money for food and bills with enough leftover to let everyone in the house relax and enjoy life a little is something I never had before and I’ve never had it since. Ironically enough, I wasn’t able to enjoy any of it because I was being made miserable the entire time. I think that was the only time in my life I was ever okay with having to go to school…
The one about the mom making a 180° by text at 19:43 is because her first text was the mom, and the second, slandering the daughter, was the dad who hijacked the phone.
The daughter explained that she would block her mom's number until she'd get a new one hidden from her husband so they can communicate, and then repeat the process when he'd find out.
“Why doesn’t my child like me?” Yeah I wonder why.
As someone whos been used as a bargaining tool, it is extremely dangerous at times for the child. I'm an adult and was in the ER about to die and my family was still trying to use me as a bargaining tool. I started shaking really badly and fainted and that's the whole reason they stopped for a little bit. I'm recovering now but yeah never use you kid as a bargaining tool
Holy shit are you okay? Just what the hell were they using you for??
@@Naimu money, clout, and reputation. I'm ok now and live with other family
@@rainbowrafiki6022 thank goodness
6:45 “Burned my pokemon cards”?!?
Oh, she is the worst mother I have ever seen! Ever heard of privacy? Having fun? Collecting? HOW EXPENSIVE THE CARDS ARE?!
Sadly she was not the only one. Back in the late 90s/early 2000s there was an uproar for "satanic things for kids" which included pokemon cards. Many parents did the same thing thinking they were saving their kids souls. It was nuts.
That's just evil. and unnecessary.
LOL... aren't you overdramatising this a bit munchkin? I mean they're cartoons on cards, not a building or a vehicle. Grow up.
As for how much money you chose to let the printing company rob you of, that is 100% your own fault.
@@InservioLetumThose cards are sold in packs, which are somewhat cheap (at least that's what I heard), and they may be worth a lot ($100+). And no, she's not overdramatic. Imagine, your parent takes something really expensive from you and burns it down for no real reason.
@@creepergoboom2943 It isn't for no reason, though. That the reasoning of the parents isn't something you can accept is fine, but let's not pretend this happened for no reason.
So here's the sad thing with my mom. I decided to do this bingo without her knowledge about a week ago and I have filled out almost the enitre card. The only ones I did not fill out were drunk texts, anti-vaxx, and transphobia. This is all within a week. Everyday just something different though I have noticed a pattern. I plan on enlisting into the U.S Military and I ship out to basic training 2 weeks before Christmas. My mom is unaware of this but knows that I am in my process. The really sad thing is that I am not going to tell her when I'm leaving till I am literally at the airport. If I tell her beforehand, the arguing is just going to get worse and I personally don't want to live with that. Btw before anyone asks, no I do not live with her I actually live with my dad who is fully supportive of my decision and has vowed to also not tell her when I'm leaving.
Edit: Hiiiii. I didn't realize I'd be getting a lot of comments on here but thank you all for the kind words. I'm currently in the Air Force and I've actually already finished basic and tech training. I'm already on the working side of things. Now with my mom, it has gotten worse. I blocked her number, so she started calling my dad every single day while I was gone and has been honestly threatening to call the police and all that. I did in fact call her and tell her I'm fine but to leave me alone because I'm already out here doing my own thing. She has left me several voicemails over the last couple of months varying from "I love you" "You're an idiot for joining" "Why do you hate me?" "You need to call me now" etc. I have yet to actually call her again as I don't plan to. I'm enjoying my life right now and I'm stationed on the east coast while my family (including my mom) live on the west coast. So luckily I'm also on the other side of the United States. Thank y'all again for the kind words and Aim High... Fly-Fight-Win.
Damn, even though I don't know you, I can imagine how hard it is, I hope it gets better for you :)
I hope you will be okay In the future bud ❤🫂
Best of luck to you man, keep it going and stay strong 💪
Don't even tell her where you move to when you get your orders. I get the feeling she's the type to fly out there just to pester you over dumb shit
I salute you. Semper Fi. Or something idk I’m Australian
44:44 “someone who god approved of…” The kind of argument I have for those types is: “Sweetie, God is not homophobic. You are. Please stop projecting your hate on your deity and take responsibility for your own hatred and ignorance. Also stop believing the edited mistranslated version of the Bible.🤦🏻”
I totally agree with the sentiment and general message of your comment. Unfortunately, the situation around the Bible is a bit more complicated than simple mistranslations - eventually, people will need to understand that the Bible as it is cannot be infallible because it was written by humans. We always need to interpret it, and that generally means being confident about the central message of the Bible and judging everything else by how closely it represents that central message.
People need to start realizing that the Bible was made by people with specific historical reasoning behind its contents instead of thinking that it contains the “word of the Lord”
Click finally doing the bingo is healing my soul while simultaneously crushing it
I'm so conflicted though, because on one hand I'm so happy to see some more Click Bingo, but on the other hand I'm disturbed by there being so many parents like this that they have sub--categories!
@@obnoxiousbluebird6634isn't that just the dichotomy of watching r/InsaneParents videos
@@tomlxyz f o x
The Bingo should be bigger
I love bingo. It let's the audience actively participate and overall adds a delightful element.
agreed! and it's great for these subreddits at least for me, keeps my spirits up during insane parents and keeps me laughing lol
same i love it, i try to analyse every post to see if it can fit into the bingo
Some things that can be added to bingo:
-I brought you into this world I can take you out.
-using children as blackmail or guilt
-funny name for parent in messages (like calling the parent spawn point in contacts”
-less mature than children
-shouldn’t have had children/free space
-ends an abusive or manipulative message with “I love you”
That last one hits harder than it should have
Damn
The last one I feel in my soul and brings back not so good memories
imo the "I brought you into this world I can take you out. " arguement is so dumb because like?? ok than take me out tf? ion wanna be here no more so why are you hesitating💀
spawn point, 💀
I'm pretty sure that comment section of those tiktoks where mother teaches her son to "not be impressed by your daughter" is filled with jokes like "Showing my daughter your tiktoks so she'd ignore your son on purpose in the future"
22:04 Actually, it's fine to not let your child to vaccinate at school, but only if you vaccinate them somewhere ELSE later, like a clinic. My mom doesn't let me vaccinate at school because once I felt extremely bad after school vaccine along with some other children (which was pretty much 90% of the vaccinated. A few even went to hospital). Turned out that they vaccinated all children of my class with the same syringe + they messed up and put God-knows-what in the syringe. After this all children in my school prefer to get vaccines from clinics, where we can be SURE the clean syringe and checked vaccine is used.
That sounds like a very serious problem that should have consequences. They could have like... Killed children with that kind of recklessness. Thats upsetting.
OMG wtf??? Same syringe and unknown liquid in the syringe is so disgusting and disturbing
WHAT 💀 I hope it's just really bad ignorance and not just, malicious budging cutting-
Bro provided anti-vaxxers a source to say vaccines aré bad
@@lopezgonzalezfrancisco4731 bro provided an anecdote to say some people are irresponsible should not be trusted to provide medical services
The mother who compared herself with his 4 year old son's future wife is a candidate for wearing a white bridal dress at her son's wedding and getting a complete meltdown.
23:47 To paraphrase my Calc II professor:
"We used to have the concept of a 'village idiot'. Now the idiots have their own village."
Stealing this lmao *XD*
I still think you should expand your bingo card to 5X5 with the emoji in the center square. You could add "your child/my bargaining chip," "I don't care if you're at work," and "encouraging sibling rivalry" squares to the card.
I can just imagine that as soon as the father at 24:46 says this the victim of this bad parent hears “beep, beep, beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep”.
Like the meme said "Drunk words are Sober thoughts", alcohol simply removes your mental filter.
Yep. Or to go with the Latin version, 'in vino veritas' (in wine there is truth). Alcohol doesn't change your personality like some people claim. It merely disinhibits you. If somebody is a 'nice calm' guy and explodes into irrational anger, that stuff has been simmering under the surface repressed for a good while. That's why I despise the excuse 'I didn't mean that thing I said, it was the alcohol'. Nope, you almost certainly did mean what you said, you just wish you hadn't said it.
isnt it in line lies truth? but agree yeah. alcohol does open the door of restraint.@@diarmuidkuhle8181