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There should be a box called “treating child like an adult” for the parents that expect their ten year olds to pay rent and babysit their infant siblings
I believe that's called parentification.
Exactly what I was thinking!
True that!!!
You can call it "sir that is a child"
My mother used to do this. She'd tell me I'm still a child or to grow up and act my age whenever it suited her narrative.
"We have a bit of transphobia here... Great!"
"We have a little bit of homophobia, isn't that absolutely amazing?"
man this bingo cannot exist without context 😭😂
Wellll.... this vid is the context
It's like Mambo No. 5 but awful
@@BingQilinLITTLE BIT OF HOMOPHOBIA IN MY LIFE-
@@Frostfern94thanks for making me wheeze-laugh
Agreed, it’s just nostalgia of people being normal!
Some parents only look at their kids as cash cows when they're old enough to work. The only reason my mom and stepdad are 'accepting' that I'm transitioning is because I pay rent. I can almost certainly bet that will change when I move out. And honestly I think that'll be for the best. They already worry that me being trans is going to confuse my 5 year old niece.... But the funniest part is that my sister who's in prison has more sense than them, and actually wants to respect me, my gender, and knows that I'm not a danger to her daughter. And she's wanting to know more about what I'm going through
My sister and I never got along growing up, our father pitting us against each other constantly and preventing us from having a healthy childhood. But since she's been in prison she's been actually nice to talk to, and eager to grow a relationship with me. She's more mature than my parents
@@prueidkiGood for you for progressin' through it all despite the obstacles your parents set up! Wish ya' the best! :)
@@prueidki
I'm sorry, you don't have to answer this but I'm just curious why your sister is in prison? I hope she gets out soon, and you two can be happy together
A person in prison has more sense than your parents. What a surprise. (Like seriously, why are parents almost always worse than some people in prison? I know, it depends on the crime and parents' childhood but still)
Never underestimate children. They are made for learning. They do it a hell of a lot better than adults do. The thing confusing your niece would be your family intentionally 'avoiding confusing' them. But you probably knew that.
I like how he either paid someone to make a land-shark shaking its butt or learned to animate so he could do it himself.
I would animate that without being paid actually
Implying someone didn't make it for themselves and just let click use it
Proud of our furry man
@@MooseShower furry? what? but the click has never been to furryirl... yet
@@3CatsInATrenchoatSem speaks in third person too, apparently
When I was diagnosed with autism, my dad told me that mental illness didn't exist and was just an excuse for people to be lazy.
So how does that work with ADHD people? Their condition is literally the opposite of lazy.
@@AIHumanEquality"you're lazy, careless, and if you only applied yourself…" I guess
@@AIHumanEqualitywell, not really. People with adhd get called lazy a lot too since they don't do the things they're "supposed to" do, and I believe they have executive dysfunction too
@@AIHumanEquality my dad didn't care about being correct, just about being right.
@@literalsarcasm1830 ohhhh, do I ever know how that feels... my dad is the exact same way.
"Privacy is a privilege, your door will cost u an extra $50 for rent and babysitting your sister for a month." - My mom, when I was 13 and got my first job. my sister was 3. my rent was already $100 so I was paying her my entire paycheck from when i got home from babysitting AND THEN after that I had to babysit my BABY sister for free. Like wtf girl
i'm so sorry you had to live through this what the actual hell
@@TheShrimpcel Wait, you got a job when you were 13? My mom said you had to be 14 to get a job? Is there differences depending where you live?
@@reginaldgrose6185 someplace they just kinda turn a blind eye and let the kids in illegally.
That mother texting her child non-stop while they're _driving_ stressed ME out.
And I'm not even the one receiving them, goddamn.
My anger issues could never
The first 1 got me simply cause I've heard so much crap about my name. Our last name that is Saint- (Blorp redacted) too.
I would actually just crash on purpose at that point. I mean holy shit
my mom will call me while im biking.... when school is getting out... with crazy teenage drivers... a cop litterally voluntered to give tickets to speeding kids so he would stop having to tell parents that their kids died...
Legit! Do you want your kid to text and drive? That could kill them!
My own mom actually expected my autism to disappear after I became old enough to vote, so that “mental illness is for teenagers” bit is disappointing but not surprising.
Also it’s very concerning to me how normal this weird obsession homophobes have with their own children’s naughty bits is. Eugh…
You'll find that in conservative cultures SA against kids and minors is higher than any other area. That kinda happens when you don't see kids as allowed to have consent or as humans
Best of luck to you
As a member of adhd and autism spectrum and anxiety disorders I feel pretty bad for you your mom needs to do her research one disorders are ones that you are born with it doesn’t go away by becoming a teen
But there are many ways to help with it like seeing a therapist I mean every disorder is different in life but It can help out
So weird, this is why im an introvert cause ppl like that scare me.
@@pequenaesposa3286 It's insane that they can use shame tactics to silence their victims because they KNOW victims would be verbally abused more than they would be helped because them being abused is somehow THEIR fault. IT IS MASHING MY BRAINS HOW EVIL THESE PEOPLE ARE.
oof-
We need a space for scapegoating, favoritism/pitting siblings against each other, empty nester desperate for connection, using child for cheap clout/social advancement, and child expecring to act like an adult
What s scapegoating?
@@CheeZe208 iirc it's blaming something you did on someone else who witnessed it???
Idk that's all I remember about it
Scapegoating is basically blaming person B for something actually done by person A or forcing person B to endure the consequences of person A's actions. Since there's so much religion in this video, I'll use that as an example. Jesus is the scapegoat of Christianity though they will never admit it. He died for their sins. He took the punishment for their actions.
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@EllariaZer the old testament is actually where the word scape goat comes from! It's part of a ritual where you kill one giat and drive another into the wilderness, the one you didn't kill carries your sin away, so in a way Jesus is a expansion on the scapegoat concept but he's also a willing agent so that separates them.(theologians are still arguing over it)
Having pretty bad dandruff myself, I can confidently say it is way easier to treat than my autism, ADHD, or anxiety.
FR! Oh! Random but good info! The stuff they put in dandruff shampoo is good to wash the whole body with on humid days or after sweating, and can clear up certain skin problems including smelly feet
I also have dandruff. I can confirm that it is annoying and problematic at times (especially moisture changes) but is overall much easier to treat then my ADHD, depression and trauma
Same! i have all four. Dandruff is very easily managed
My dandruff is very much better now, my anxiety isn’t
Anybody try spritzing with vinegar? It helps when there's itching...& easy to keep a little spray bottle handy.
I’d add a square for emotional incest, which is when someone treats their family member like they’re your romantic partner. Also for parentification, which is expecting your child to act like the parent.
Got both of these, both of my parents
@@j.woodard2452....Jesus christ
@@j.woodard2452 good parents is rarity isn't?
@@j.woodard2452man, stay strong
@@j.woodard2452when your older or if you are old enough to live alone, pls separate yourself from them, that’s terrible to live with. I’m sorry
16:44 I am getting the sense that Zach, the grandma's son, got tired of his mother's bullsh1t and was the one to go no contact with his mother. And if I had to guess, it was likely over his mother disrespecting his wife.
This would explain why the daughter-in-law keeps deferring to what her husband wants and keeps bringing him into the mix.
"You know that you've messed up your priorities as a parent when you make it onto a bad parenting bingo card."
The "actually wholesome" space:
To be fair, the "actually wholesome" space here was used for an update post of someone escaping a bad parent.
"Am I a joke to you?"
The "postal service is literally the devil" mom is clearly having some VERY serious mental breakdown...
As someone who works for the postal service I can confirm it is the literal devil /s
What? You mean flying demons don't deliver your mail? That's just me?
Well considering a mailman already almost killed me because he was driving ON THE SIDEWALK, yes they are the devil
Also the French postal service created a new service: send them a mail which they print and send to someone... the literal only use I see is send an e-mail to someone who you only know the physical adress but not the e-mail of which is arguably a very rare situation. Also it's more expensive than just sending the letter so... satanic imo
Yeah, the total lack of proper grammar and so many repeated phrases sounds like the "disorganized thoughts/speech" aspect of psychosis to me.
@@hippiusteenius Could be a mental illness or they could be drunk or on drugs. No way to know.
Ugh, when I went off to university my parents *"informed"* me that I needed to call or text them EVERY DAY!!! I'd figured out by that point that they were a little overbearing and controlling, but thought that was excessive even for them, and told them that wouldn't be happening because that's ridiculous. Their rebuttal? "Well how will be know you're still alive?". Like IDK, you could call me? I gave them my schedule so they would know when I was free, and without fail for the entire semester they only called me during class and complained I never answered the phone. It got so bad I had to put my phone on mute during class because if I didn't answer they would call back like 6 times in a row. The first time it happened I stepped out of class figuring it was an emergency (cause why else would they call me 6 times in a row when they knew I was in class) only to find out they wanted to know if I could visit in a month. I hung up and went back to class only for them to scream at me about being rude. Cause apparently calling 6 times during class for a non emergency isn't rude? Every time I'd point out I didn't answer because I was in class (you know, the responsible thing to do) they'd say they didn't know and how were they supposed to know my schedule. Like IDK, cause you asked me for it and I personally printed it out and taped it above the phone for you?
And yeah, it only took me like three weeks into uni to figure out they weren't just a "little" overbearing and controlling. Then they confirmed it several weeks later when they showed up to my dorm building unannounced (and they live in a different city) and called me to ask me to let them in. Seeing as I was sitting in a restaurant when I answered the phone I was VERY confused. Like, let you in where? Very snarkily I was told "Your building????" as if I should've known they were standing outside of it. I told them I was out with friends and they demanded to know where I was "because we came all this way to see you so you have spend time with us". When I told them this trip had already been rescheduled multiple times and I wasn't cancelling, at which point I was called rude for disrespecting their time and plans. 🤦 Like oh yeah, you don't say. At which point I told them to have a nice day, hung up and turned off my phone. When my friends asked what my parents wanted I told them they'd driven out to visit me and demanded I cancel my plans to spend time with them they all thought I was joking, and then got really quiet when they realized I was being completely serious.
Oh, and they have no idea why I don't visit more often. I mean besides the first thing I can usually hear is screaming, and yes, I mean from outside the house. But apparently that's not an argument, "just a mild disagreement".
I would have changed my SIM card, and left an email via SMS before doing so.
This is plain harassment.
My friend went through something very similar. She's a survivor of Munchausen's by Proxy. Poor girl, took her 10 years to escape her parent's hell-house. Her mom pro-actively sabotaged her career 4 times in 4 different fields, causing her to not have any proper financial support on her own.
She's barely managing to afford food & shelter now, trying to recover.
We have a long standing rule in my household that unless in very rare and few exceptions, nobody is to call someone multiple times in a row unless it is an emergency. Two back to back calls means to call back asap. Even when my parents have been having...a moment, they still wait a minute or so before calling again. It's a good rule of thumb that I keep hoping I can get some others to adopt, especially with people who are nutty about calling. Hopefully you've gotten that sorted out cause that sucks
@@towcat oh that's my operating rule too. However they still called my "bluff" that I would take them off DND breakthrough and not answer calls for two weeks, and then they wondered why they couldn't get ahold of me for 2 weeks. I also just avoid interacting with them as much as possible so I'd have no problem going two months.
Remindse of a time we had a cousin over at new years super late. She stayed untill like 2 and I swear her mother, whome she doesn't live with anymore, called her every half hour on the dot starting at 9:30 ten minutes after they left and she eventually got fed up and answered the phone with "Mom, I'm not dead yet"
I wish I had the gall to do that cause it was really funny
@@towcat "I'm not dead yet" 🤣 your cousin sounds awesome
I feel really bad for the 17 year old kid who’s mom was making them pay rent.
And the fact that they were paying rent for however long before it got “worse” just makes it even more terrible.
I wish for only the most safe and supportive session with CPS for this person when they turn 18.
IKR? Where is it legal to not provide housing for your minor children?
Why when they turn 18? They should stop sending their mom money and send her the CPS RIGHT NOW! Or send her to court. I'm 100% certain it's illegal to demand rent from one's minor child!
$50 for (i assume) monthly rent is kind of a ridiculous amount to ask too, I'm sure this kid is only working part-time at a minimum wage job so that's probably over half a paycheck...
I just wonder how early of an age did that guy had to rent. Did it start as just chores for rent? Did he get an allowance or would it all go to rent? Did he even get the option to get toys (cause this one really matters, if he never got toys then that's absolutely taking it to extreme.)
@@LRM12o8 They either live in england or they had bad experience with CPS.
I love the way he voice acts the people in these chats. The son/daughter sounds like a polite man, and the parent sounds like dollar tree Kim Kardashian.
That is the best description of that type voice that I've ever heard
"Dollar tree Kim Kardashian"💀💀💀💀 love it
I was a freak as a kid. Instead of crying, I laughed to make the pain go away, as a coping mechanism. It worked for the most part, but I freaked the f out of my mom. At one point when I fell down a hole and hurt my leg badly, my mom actually begged me to cry instead, cuz it was freaking her out.
Were you like that because your parents and society said it wasn't okay to cry or were you just freaky all on your own?
@@AmieMorley-st6tz Don't really remember that far back, I was under 10. I think it was on my own, honestly. Parents' upbringing was strict, but I had the freedom to do whatever. Also clean up my own mess caused by said whatever. So from that I would say they didn't tell me either way how I should act or react, other than "You stir up shait, you apologize and ask how you can make it right". Emotional expressions, crying and such was all pretty much left up to me, which might be why I developed laughter for pain as a coping mechanism.
@MattBotor
I'm glad they let you choose how to self regulate and express your emotions, they sound like good parents based on that. I hope you know it's oki to cry now and you're dealing with your emotions and mental health in a constructive way
@@AmieMorley-st6tz Well my life is a big ball of stress now :). Owning a business and working 84-90 hours a week. Haven't cried since my grandpa died 13 years ago. Now that I'm grown up, I smile and chuckle when I get irritated and angry.
Other than that, I'm coping well. No serious mental issues other than lack of sleep. I'd like to think I turned out ok, have a good relationship with all 4 parents. They remarried ;) (divorced when I was 18).
@@MattBotor
Oh that doesn't sound good, but not as bad as it could be. As long as you cry and vent your emotions when you feel the urge to, I think what you're doing is healthy. As long as this is working for you then keep doing what you're doing :)
“No bingo without homophobia” that seems like something a deranged Alzheimer’s patient would say
I just imagined that in my head 😭
my school is hosting a fucking bingo istg this sounds like smth a little shit at my school would say
So Click
@@crossbowcatistg?
@@jacthing1istg = I swear to god
We need a box on the bingo card that says: "Conveniently forgetting the past"
Gaslighting needs to be in there. Could blanket the "forgetting" in with it easily, as that's usually what it is.
can relate
or one that’s just “denial of past”
it can fall under “ignoring big issue” but…yeah that’s a space that needs to exist.
"Being the Axe" should be the title ❤
I truly hate when people use peoples deadnames. Like, when I thought I was cis, I didn’t understand that, but now, whenever I’m called my deadname it feels like getting punched.
It feels so wrong 😭. I get a feeling of wrongness (like, “Gross, that’s not me, why are you calling me the wrong name??”) and irritation whenever it happens, unless it’s my twin brother and his GF cuz I know they aren’t doing it intentionally, they just have a harder time adjusting to calling people by different names. And in my brother’s case, part of it is due to the fact that he has brain damage from suffering epileptic seizures and former drug abuse that ended up making his already existing epilepsy worse. My husband has only done it a few times, purely by accident because he knew me by my former name when we first met years ago, and he’s immediately apologized after and called me the right name. I still give him an involuntary reaction-look though, cuz for him to call me the wrong name feels especially wrong to me.
Well since I am cis I don't completely get it but I know at least be anointing and confusing and maybe even disrespected, but then again idk. I hope you gays have better luck with getting people to call you by your new/right name, and have a great day. ❤
@@LuciannaS you gays 💀💀💀
@@LuciannaS You just told everyone how extremely transphobic you are. EW
Wtf is a dead name
"Don't have kids, it's genetic!"
As a child and sibling of people with Schizophrenia, who didn't develop it but probably have a carrier gene, I am offended that some people continue to stigmatize disorders and disabilities. We can't turn it off, KAREN.
They're also dismissing that people like me got it from war. Literally dismissing every veteran with schizophrenia from PTSD.
If everybody with potentially genetic conditions didn't have kids, humanity would've gone extinct a VERY long time ago. People saying stuff like that are just stupid. Idea: Every time someone like that tells one of us with a genetic condition not to have kids, we should tell THEM not to have kids in case stupidity is also genetic.
@nathryl03 yeah, although personally myself I'd feel like absolute shite if I had kids and they got one of the myriad genetic risk factors and genetic diseases I have. Especially if I didn't do anything to stop it when I could've. I'm going to at the very least do embryonic testing, and if it's viable at that point, maybe do some germ line editing.
After all, science is a pathway to abilities many would consider to be... _unnatural_
And nature f***ed me over about sixteen different ways then shoved me off a cliff into a dumpster fire, and I'll be damned if my kids have to put up with that too, or their kids.
I hadn't watched the video yet and was *this* close to commenting something along the line of "ofcourse having kids is genetic, thats what adoption is for" but now in the context of the actual thing its way worse
@@atashgallagher5139 I absolutely agree, I feel the same way, I don't want any descendant of mine dealing with the crap I deal with. I just think it's wrong to tell somebody they shouldn't have kids because of their genetics, because science gives us potential ways to prevent the worst. I don't care that the science might be "unnatural".
I wish all these bad parents unhappiness, and hope their kids can escape them.
it's always sad to see such unhinged parents. Some parents eventually change and realize what they're doing wrong and apologize later/try to fix the relationship in a reasonable manner(like my mom), but not all have this realization and change, sadly.
As a kid (now an adult) who escaped, I appreciate this.
Fr these people made me feel better about being an introvert
yes
As a child of an insane parent
Thank you :')
18:04 OMFG! This is EXACTLY what I went through with my MIL. After years of verbal abuse from that woman, she expected me to just let her have free run over my child. I finally left the *state* when they sued for visitation after pushing me too far and cutting them off.
Dang Im sorry you dealt with that, I hope you and your kid are in a safe and healthy environment now. Peace and prosperity be with you
I grew up in foster care and i recently started seeing my biological parents and now i know why i was removed from them. One of their red flags is that they have told me that they have the right to kill me because they brought me into the world and "they can take me right back out." They say only they have rights over my life and that my life belongs to them even though i barely know them. They're always telling me how disappointing i am and my dad is always talking about how he wants to "slap me around." I regret meeting them
Just go ahead and un meet them as soon as you get the chance. Get adopted by friends and their parents.
I wish
Are you forced to see them or can you refuse?
What the ACTUAL FUCK
@@amxploringyou wish as in you’re being forced to see them? Serious question.
I want to join Click's retirement home: a mix of DnD campaigns and Meme Bingo sounds like a great vibe.
I want to join too. I don't care if it's not in my country. I want to join Click's retirement home !
@@HastyTheADHDcrewmate sounds like after i retire i will leave israel to sweden to join clicky's retirement home
I'd be moving to Sweden just for that.
I'd just be happy with Click streaming Dnd.
I'm moving there as well
Get me out of this hell hole called america
The spamming mother got so much patience I swear.
I would have put my phone on plane mode after telling her to fuck off
The funniest thing about things like the Satanic Temple is that Jesus would most likely be in agreement with most of their principles and be appalled by how oppressive and hateful some organized religions that use his name have become. The irony is just overflowing.
Jesus: Love thy neighbor. Be tolerant. Be respectful. Accept everyone.
Christians: Force everyone into worshipping your name and shun anyone who doesn't. Got it.
@@AIHumanEqualityfr tho, Im a christian who doenst go to church by choice because theyve corporatized it. Organized church is not what it should be. I believe the Bible does in fact say that church isnt a building, its wherever you praise God. Ive hated organized church since I learned what they talk about during meetings. My brother wanted to be a preacher and went to a preacher meeting to see what theyre about, and they were bragging about how much money they were getting from tithes and how many people there were on sunday. That COMPLETELY ruined church for me, so while I do still believe in God and all that, I dont go to church by choice.
@@alayzard4295 the Bible at least alludes to the whole "church is not a building but the place you praise in" thing, because it literally has whole stories about people suffering all kinds of godly wrath for building big needlessly extravagant temples (kind of like megachurches and cathedrals), and also has the most of the holiest people (like Jesus) just teaching in random places, like probably people's back yards or in parks, on the side of the road etc. Personally I'm a big advocate for one's practice being the praising, so like volunteering at the local soup kitchen is better prayer than repeating some Bible verses or giving money to a church. And ya not everyone has the time for that, but if you got money for church, then you also have the money to drop off some nutritious food to your local food bank that can actually help someone who needs it instead of helping your preacher pay for their 2nd car. Do what Jeezy boi would do, not just brown-nose his dad. lol
@@BlazeNStar I don't understand how people can think they need to build great big things and amass massive amounts of money when the person they're supposedly worshipping was a homeless hippie man who hated the rich.
Although where I live many churches run food banks and they do a good job. They don't preach or anything they just serve food if you need it. No religion shaming or anything, all are welcome.
@dcornect53 I honestly love you for this. This is what religion should be. As an atheist myself, I may actually join a religion despite not believing in it if this was what religion wholeheartedly was.
The bingo videos are my favorite- plus it’s really fun to see bad parents 💀
yeah. reminds me of JJJACKSFILMS
I love the bingo videos so much istg💀
I was a fan of cringe bingo since Jarvis Johnson’s Dhar Mann vids, shame the so called moral philosopher of RUclips was shitty towards his employees,
leading Jarvis to make the ethical decision to suspend the series
If she says you can’t cry while you have hot coals inside the back of your shirt, then she can’t complain when you poor boiling hot water on her face.
Those two things are kinda different (escapable dry heat vs an inescapable wet heat in a much worse place) but you got the spirit
"but I'm a woman! You can't do that to a woman! you're a boy!"
@@Demon-hj3fh Dude, seriously? Are you actually using this to make fun of feminists? Why are you lot even in Click's following? You know he's not a biggot, right? You know feminists also consider "a man should never hit a woman" to be sexist 'cause it started to make men stop beating their wives and men started saying it to mean "we're stronger than women and thus should never hit those weaker than us"? I've seen so many people saying stuff like this specifically here and it's so outdated and stupid. Why, when you hear feminism, a movement about equality, do you jump straight to worrying about not being able to hit women? People shouldn't hit each other, and no one ever said you weren't allowed to (reasonably) defend yourself, so why do you still try to discredit a movement for equality with this nonsense?
I have BPD, and knew instantly this woman had it too. This is what untreated BPD can sometimes look like in older age. Selfishness. Pure selfishness. I empathize for those struggling with untreated BPD, but that does NOT excuse poor behavior that harms others. Horrible. :(
Big difference between explanation and excuse for a behavior
It really is a matter of understanding where self-responsibility lies, but because she abandoned all social sense of responsibility for the simple reason that she doesn’t believe in mental illness beyond teenage years..
It’s just a big yikes all around isn’t it?
Sending love and strength to you
for real! seeing posts of people with untreated personality disorders makes me sad, and makes me super happy i got diagnosed young and started treatment right away. i couldve turned out like that, and it makes me sad bc anyone whos illness is so unchecked that they act like this is definitely hurting a lot too
@@whalesharksYep. While for example NPD doesn’t make you inherently abusive (ppl who get therapy and work on themselves can end up with pretty functional lives), about 80% of these parents act exactly the same with the same abusive patterns, and it’s pretty obviously untreated narcissistic abuse. Unfortunately being blind to your behavior as a central symptom and result of the disorder makes you much less likely to seek help, which is why so many abusive parents tend to be narcissists who were never able to refused to get help for their own untreated childhood trauma. I’m glad you were able to get help, bc personality disorders in general seem really hard to deal with
when I confronted my parents about their treatment of myself and my 2 older siblings, i was told i was a liar, and that I'm evil.
the last thing my dad asked was "if it was so bad, why did you stay in the house for so long?"
Recently i've been diagnosed with PTSD and Bipolar 2 disorder, and i'm working on getting help for it this week.
seems silly to tell a bunch of people on youtube about this, but i'm never going to tell my family. mainly because i dont think i'll ever talk to them again, and also cause they will never believe me anyway
It's really hard to get help when the people that are *supposed* to take care of you instead inhibit and disapprove of your progress.
So as a stranger of the internet, I offer my genuine words of encouragement:
You are doing the right thing! Best of luck to you, you will get through this! Things are going to start getting better!
Going no contact sounds like a good coice!
Im gonna start therapy this month. I only told me online friends and one irl friend that I trust.
I do hope that the treatment is going well for you. Sending a hug, stay strong.
"You should've run away when you were 6 and starved in the woods"
Having been in an abusive situation myself as a child, I completely understand the subconscious reasoning to always seek your parents approval. it's only once you have gotten the help/support you deserve, distanced yourself from toxic people, and been allowed to grow and create healthy relationships with others, that you realize it is actually because you only wanted to be loved and that you were being deprived of it, and that you subconsciously sought it out, but that you had no control over the situation at that time. It is also so difficult to get out of the situation in the first place because this becomes your "normal" and there is a subconscious fear of change. Basically because you've been through it before, you know you will be able to survive it somehow (predict and plan etc), versus jumping into the unknown. I understand because I sometimes stayed in the situation myself, because when placed in foster care instead, the situation sometimes became worse than it was at "home", and I didn't like the idea of that possibly occurring multiple times. Sometimes I simply was just too young or didn't have the means to survive on my own. But honestly, those situations were crap and if any of the "adults" whose care I was in actually acted like how parents are supposed to, my sense of "normal" maybe wouldn't have been so twisted. I have thankfully been out of that situation for 12 years now and have been no contact for 6. I'm doing a lot better now and have come to better terms with my experiences and trauma over the years (we all are our own worst critic, and I try not to beat myself up too much with "would've/could've/ should've" or thinking that somehow I deserved it, or that I am worth less, etc). Even though I don't think I will ever be fully "okay," I am significantly better than I was then, and I have learned to appreciate that, and not tear myself down, or hold myself to impossible expectations. It's okay to not be okay, and it's also healthy to get help when you need it. And having mental illness, a disorder, trauma, or getting help doesn't make you weak. Just finding the courage enough to get out of the situation or distance yourself from toxic people is strength in itself, as well as continuing self-care/help ❤ I wish you happiness and hope things work out for you too!
36:36 "We have Oddly Explicit Rants, we have Religious Nonsense, we have Drunk Texts, we have Dismissal of Mental Health, then we have Location Tracking!"
Sounds like a good Friday night XD /s
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"Jesus please take control of his mind and don't let James being taken advantage of" the cognitive dissonance is UNREAL
"it's not brainwashing when it's jesus!" Gotta love religious double standards
WOW this is why I hate how political Christianity has become. "Ah yes I will completely ignore the ENTIRE message of the bible because one verse in Deuteronomy (and maybe once somewhere else?) says you shouldn't do that!" The entire POINT of Christianity was to be a recognizable source of love and acceptance whoever you are, and yet we have somehow become a voice of hate due to a major fixation on laws.
@@thetechyboiI don't think it's that christianity has become political, but rather that due to there being less members those that remain are more conservative in their political opinions and then justify those political Leanings with their faith.
@@thetechyboi It really depends what religion is to someone. I don't think it's fixation on laws, it's a method of controlling behaviour. It just happened that fear and scaremongering are better clickbait than positive messages.
Imagine, you're a sentient human being and there's a moral problem. For example, someone somewhere says "you can't eat red apples". Sentient human beings will have a think and be capable of coming to their own conclusion, they might consider things like causing harm to something or someone due to this activity, their own opinion etc will be formed after some process, they might decide to eat or not eat red apples. They will also be capable of reanalysing the red apple moral problem and possibly changing their stance on red apples later in life. Because surely, if eating red apples is a moral problem, there will be more data later in time and someone's similar thought process but with different data might genuinely lead them to a different conclusion. This is healthy. But you are effectively becoming a judge of every single issue, and you need to be responsible for your own decision, and not everyone will be like that.
Political religion is when someone doesn't want to come to their own conclusion. They want someone to tell them what the rules are, and they are willing to blindly follow those rules in exchange for 0 moral workout. They are offloading the moral dilemma onto others and are pretty much at their mercy, because most religions are all or nothing. So if X tells you that you are not a good person or you will not reach salvation if you eat red apples, and your priority is to be good person/salvation, you will obey red apple rule if you're not willing to take the risk of making decision yourself. If X then updates rules to add 'no green apple', then you just continue to obey. Political religion is so 'anti' everything, heavily focused on what one can't do rather than on things you have to do to meet religion's criteria of salvation. As people follow those bans and rules, they get so deep that at some point, changing your opinion or developing your own opinion becomes impossible - you don't want to admit you were wrong and you blindly followed batshit crazy set of rules. It's like Stockholm's syndrome.
There's also normal religion and normal people. Some religious rules are morally universally correct and undisputable. Don't kill, don't steal and the like. They are good enough to be a religion on it's own, and frankly can just be abstract moral ruleset one chooses for themselves without calling it a religion. Religious radicals felt like it doesn't give them enough control so they keep developing more moral contructs (it's like a parent that invents silly household rules in order to bend the child to their will). I know some Christians that follow basics of the religion and don't feel the need to go obey more arbitrary rules. This type of person is also the most likely the type of person who will assume that everyone should think for themselves - because that's what they themselves do. They are silent, and logically so, the moment you start preaching about anything, you become the rule giver so exactly what autonomous sentient human being chose to not do.
@@keit99But there aren't any fewer members, there are more than there have ever been. Christianity is the most widely practiced religion in the world.
With each passing day, seeing these people completely dismiss mental illness and disorders entirely just further fuels me more and more to pursue a career in psychology
I feel the same way. People who dismiss mental illness are disgusting to me. No compassion, no care. The irony is that these same people are likely mentally ill themselves in someway.
there are many jobs that are making it impossible for them to receive any repercussions for firing someone based on mental illness and or mental breakdowns. It's sad.
@@dragonwolfzero820 It gets really disheartening to see shit get more unfair for people who have things they can’t control. And on top of that, getting ridiculed for seeking out help with such. Damned if you do and damned if you don’t. It’s ridiculous and sad. But, we can certainly try our best to make things better for people and for ourselves. Just might take awhile, unfortunately
Wish you luck in your studies
@@nopekat1991 Thank you so much, I appreciate that
19:52 you know their relationship is bad when the contact name is just a flipping off emoji💀
Read this when it came up
"Family is much more than blood." This quote has always stuck with me since the first day I heard it and I think more people need to hear it.
Reminds me of the full saying the blood of the covenant is thicker than the waters of the womb, the shortened version was twisted to say the opposite
Absolutly!!!
I am also very partial to "no one cares who your parents where, only what kind of parent you will be"
Which is a very mando way of saying, the thing that matters are your own actions and what you decide on doing with your life, not the circumstances in which your life was created
Being human is more than just being defined by your blood, good morals also determines if you are a true human. There are a lot “True humans” (good morals) on this planet, but the same also be said about the “non-human humans” (human by blood only).
I'm adopted so that completely rings true!
The circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant. It is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are.
21:14 My mother and little sister share a tracking system. Both know and agree to it. This became a thing because her afternoon school bus would often have something go wrong. So whenever something happens mom can just pull up the tracker and go to that location. It's less stressful for both parties.
This is what I believe is a good example of a parent using a tracker for a child. An example, to counteract the insane parent.
yea! im fine with my mum asking me to isntall a tracker, bc i tend to get lost- but the tracker app she chose also does some other stuff like tracking sounds and apps and she has asked me at some point to enable those .... :/
@@supercheesewizardUgh, yeah that sounds v much like crossing a boundary... I hope she is understanding if/when you try to talk to her about it
@@sugoish9461 i mean, she hasnt asked again recently so hopefully shes forgotten xD
Yesss, i would allowe my mom yo track me at the field trip and stuff, she never needed tho
I let my husband track me bc I’m hard of hearing and don’t always hear my phone.
We need one called "child favoritism" bc some parents have some INSANE child favoritism moments (including my own 🥲)
Also this whole video is just PERFECTIONNNNNNNNNNNNN
Christian parents never seem to understand how disrespectful they are to their non-Christian kids. Usually their kids are respectful of their religion like going to church with them, not being rude during a prayer, not openly badmouthing their religion in front of them, etc. But when it comes to us saying something like "Hey could you please not bring up your religion constantly during every conversation" they get all pissy and act like you just said the most horrifically blasphemous thing ever. They are so obsessed with their religion that it's literally a personality trait at this point. I can't think of a single topic that I manage to squeeze into every single conversation yet these parents can do it multiple times.
Bigotry is fundamental to the faith. Plenty of verses support and encourage it. So does the culture
@@kissit012 Fundamental to a hypocritic faith? Completely. The bible's message is about loving and respecting one another, and idk how but somehow the church has become the thing it swore to destroy- laws restraining people's ability to love and respect every person on the planet. There are a handful of verses about it not supporting sexual diversity, that is true. But SOMEHOW in the process the second greatest commandment is completely ignored- "Love one another as yourself." On behalf of those in the church who haven't been blinded by hateful legalism, I'm sorry for all hate that law-first Christians may have caused you, your family, friends, or community.
I only ever had one incident like that happen before, and I haven't spoken up about religion since.
My aunt is Christian, whereas I'm not really religious. She doesn't know that though. I never said anything about the difference in beliefs; I complied with going to church for about 2 years when she forced me to, I never spoke while we prayed during some dinners or when she told us to pray as a family for someone, etc.
One day, she was taking my sister and I somewhere. I was having a bad day, and wasn't in the mood to deal with the Christian music she listens to. So when she turned it on I politely asked, "can we maybe listen to something else?"
She slammed on the brakes in the middle of the highway - causing my seatbelt to choke me - then screamed at me for 5-10 minutes before turning the car back around and brought us home.
All because I politely asked to listen to something other than Christian music.
bruh I'm religious and I get mad cuz even though my parents are part of the same religion they shit on me for being more religious than they are like teasing me for not drinking alcohol. It seems some parents are just searching for an excuse to get annoyed at their "kids" even when those kids become adults smh. part of me is glad I'm marrying an atheist to help our future family be more open minded, but it does feel weird and awkward because our religious views are so different. we're working on it 👍
I feel like most of the time when we see posts about Christian parents, they're not really good representations of what Christianity is. Christianity teaches that we should show love to everyone, including our enemies. Even if someone has different beliefs than us, we shouldn't be rude or disrespectful. We may believe that what the person is doing is wrong, but we shouldn't hate the person for it. It's really sad to see how oppressive some of these "Christians" have become and I'm sorry about your bad experiences.
"boys absolutely cry, everyone has weak moments"
He got hot coals stuffed down his back, I wouldn't call that a weak moment XD
Seriously, what is wrong with the sibling putting hot coals down their brother’s back?!
if the kid has hot coals down his back bcs of a sibling, I don't think the parents are the only insane ones here
@@leonardorolingstella8554 Exactly! What is wrong with that child?!
@@catlover2223I’m on a alt account,but that reminds me of when my moms brother put a hamster IN A MICROWAVE
@@peggythornton2550 Poor hamster!
My birthgiver and her husband spent at least a month threatening to force me into Gastric Bypass against my will if I did not lose forty pounds. I was a fourth grader.
"Birthgiver and her husband" is crazy but understandable for "parents" that shitty
That does not sound legal god i'm so sorry. (Also may I recommend the name Spawnpoint?)
what the actual fuck
Well good news for you is that no doctor or surgeon would ever do that if you're not morbidly overweight or have a fatty liver (which can kill you)... because if you're not overweight, it'll kill you... and then they'll lose their license and probably end up in jail.
Might I recommend the name of sperm donor for "dad"?
I think insaneParents is one of the more important subs because it lets kids know that their parent's behavior isn't normal and its ok to be honest about how they grew up.
Not normal, but way too common.
@@Saje3DThis!! It's so horrible... I'm very glad that our generation seems to be really taking mental health, mental illness, abusive behaviors etc very seriously
it helped me realize i was in an awful situation and start trying to heal, so i definitely agree
@@sugoish9461same. I'm proud.
It also lets kids who are in abusive situations know that it can get better, which could literally save their lives.
the more i watch these vids, the more i come out of the dark realizing that my parents probably belong on this subreddit. and the longer i'm in therapy, the more i realize that it's _their_ fault, and not mine, that i have a therapist in the first place.
i'm still trapped. just a few more years, though. i can make it. and all of the grown adults standing up to their shitty parents are giving me the strength to keep going.
thank you, click.
Stay strong, and I hope you find happiness and people who love and support you.
Hang in there ❤
You've got this, you WILL make it, you will be free, and finally breathe. It's a beautiful feeling.
Hey as someone who climbed over that fence - please know that you can do it. Even if things get dark and awful, please have faith. It absolutely does get better!!
Keep going, keep going! We're behind you.
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I'm gonna be honest with you, I've never heard this many buzzwords in a single paragraph, in my entire life, and thats saying something.
The undiagnosed mental illness one reminds me of me, my oldest son, and my mother. I didn't realize that I had ADHD until my son was diagnosed with it. And my mother assumes that everyone deals with the same issues. My little cousin was diagnosed at around 10. That was back when "They just want to drug up energetic kids and turn them into zombie" started.
The drugs thing isn’t far off. Pharmaceutical companies went crazy to lobby for approval to drug kids then intentionally pushed doctors to over prescribe, causing the next generation of prescription drug addicts and following drug epidemic
As someone who had (No contact 2 yrs) toxic insane parents I feel like I'm healing watching scenarios similar to mine and seeing that others know its not normal nor healthy. Also having it as Bingo makes it fun and less stressful as I used to only watch Click an OT with earbuds at midnight so my parents wouldn't yell at me about the *gay agenda*. Thank you Click for being a safe space I could learn that the environment I grew up in was not healthy or allowing me to flourish.
Same same, although no contact for more like 4 or 5 years for me. I paused at the beginning and went through the bingo card to see how many my biological mother would have checked. I didn't count the emoji space, but got 12. That's half. My dad? Zero. This is why I'm estranged from my biological mother, but still drive 7+ hours multiple states away twice a year to see my dad. (and also why I still use the short nickname "dad" while biological mother gets the full title or a nasty name)
the way it helps should not be understated. It heals something deep inside my soul
I went no contact with my family as well. It's not easy. I wish you all the peace and love in the world. I promise, it does get better.
I’ve been no contact 5 months and my therapist has told me she’s seen the stress literally melt off of me the longer I don’t speak to them. Like the ptsd episodes have mostly stopped and nightmares are rare now, all because my controlling mother no longer has my phone number to harass me with, which triggered me constantly.
Like everything I did before NC felt like walking on thin cracked ice, like I was physically paralyzed with fear and couldn’t move, because I knew my mother would interrogate me later and lying wouldn’t make her stop. And this was even with me living over 500 miles away from her. I lived my life constantly thinking of what my mother would think, want or say to me over the phone all because she was so invasive that lying to her to get any kind of privacy was impossible. Usually the lie would make her go off about another thing she hated about me or how I was living my life-always something to critique.
And some things I _did_ have to lie about for safety, like my gender, sexuality, plans for transition, attending support groups and therapy. My mother knew about my gender and sexuality because I came out, but she was incredibly cruel and forced me back into the closet. It’s much more freeing that I can be honest and not hide anything. She was what was holding me back from getting in testosterone-after coming out she was even more critical of my appearance, mannerisms, and voice.
I was in a mental hospital with one of these ranty text message moms, she was a retired teacher. She was complaining to me about her son not talking to her anymore and showed man AND read out to me the last text messages she had sent him. They were her trying to guilt trip him into talking to her, comparing him to his wife and how she was so much better than he deserved, basic "you are a terrible child" stuff. It sent on and on and on. I kept thinking she would see the problem as she read on but no, she seemed to think this was a positive was to get her son to talk to her again. At the end she said: "I don't understand why he didn't answer me!" I didn't says anything cause the unspoken rule of the hospital is to not judge others, we were all there for a reason and it was her journey to figure out what was wrong about this. I don't know what happened to her, if she ever figured it out, all I know is that she really didn't want to be in the hospital and tired to escape a couple of times.
I feel really bad for these kids who have to live with these parents, hope they can move out sometime and cut off all communication with these crazy parents.
In most civilized countries child services would be stepping in but unfortunately they don't seem to be very good in the US.
@@AIHumanEqualityUnfortunately most of these parents are the type to stick to threats, emotional abuse and manipulation, and severe control. CPS only cares about severe obvious neglect or severe physical abuse, and most of these parents are smart enough not to make it obviously physical (unfortunately).
Yeah, that's how it was for me growing up. I moved out during the divorce. Dad (pedo) won the kids, then stalked & had others stalk me. He knew not to leave visible markings (too often), and was in the judge's pockets. It was so bad I had to cut contact with everyone in order to be safe. I still get a strange empty nest kind of grief over my siblings bc I was their only real parent while just a kid and I truly miss them but couldn't do anything about the situation. My therapist said to live my own life and trust they'll find their way.
I feel like people who haven't lived with abusive caregivers (OR, who have but are in total denial about it!) are way too prone to idealising blood relations and accusing survivors of family abuse of exaggeration, making things up for attention, or just being selfish...? It's such a failure of empathy, & a really damaging one!! 😞
Although the "family first" & "blood is thicker than water" narratives are so socially entrenched, sadly yes some parents & grandparents really ARE this toxic? We all need to accept that No Contact is oftentimes the safest response, & NOT guilt-trip people who choose that route. Kids in those circs usually need wider community support too in becoming financially independent & finding safe accommodation, esp. if LGBT+. I feel like we can all do better in this space...
@@RenaissanceRockerBoyand if they keep a clean home, it doesn't matter much. That's why poor families tend to have longer issues. They're homes are more likely to be a bit messy as they tend to have less space and are often working long hours, meaning they have less time to dedicate 6, 8+hrs to deep cleaning the house everyday. And since those that are poor tend to be automatically labeled as dirty, just a little bit of clutter, so as in not filth, will go against them. And it tends to look more cluttered because, again, they often have smaller spaces to live in. I don't know about in other countries, but in the u.s., child services don't have a lot of authority and have to be let in. So if you refuse to answer the door, they can't make you. This is how a LOT of abusers get away with things. They can't be investigated of they refuse to cooperate because unlike with the police, there are no ramifications. So pretty much unless you already have enough evidence to present to the police to show a judge, there isn't much they can do in those cases.
My older brother is 23 and has made it very clear to everyone that when (IF!) he has kids, he's going to make them start paying rent when they hit 16 to "teach them how the real world will work." I keep telling him that that's a one way ticket to his kids going no contact once they're out of the house, and he says they'll be grateful for it. I also keep telling him that I think it's better for their futures to let them save their money instead of paying their parents to avoid being neglected, but it's always "well, you can parent your way, and I'll parent my way." He also made it clear that he's going to spank his children anytime they misbehave.
He has bad anger issues and used to abuse me when we lived with our parents until my stepfather finally put him in a group home. Not to protect me by the way, but because he was frustrated that he didn't listen to him. I know that he'll use his anger to justify hurting his kids, so if he ends up managing to keep a relationship going long enough to have kids, I will do my damndest to make sure those kids are safe.
Suffice to say, my stepfather did a number on him. He and I are polar opposites because he looks up to our stepfather and I learned what NOT to do by watching my stepfather.
Yikes. I hope for the theorhetical kids' sake that your brother never does have kids. Can speak from experience that spanking only makes kids fear and resent their parents; it definitely does not actually teach them morals or logical thinking. And that's assuming the spanking is controlled and not just a thinly veiled way to let parents vent their anger on the kids. Can also confirm that making your child pay rent, even when they're 18 or even 22 and graduated college, is a surefire way to get them to move out immediately. It doesn't 'teach how the world works' but rather makes them realize that they'd be better off living somewhere that their money is used to get safety and security and privacy and personal freedom instead of overbearing and controlling parents over their shoulders and invading their privacy. Here's hoping you never have nieces, nephews, or whatever the nonbinary term is from that sibling.
a better way to teach a child about the "real world" is explaining to them the importance of saving and spending money on things that will matter later. instead of insisting they pay rent, insist that instead they put some of their money aside for later.
Best skills for parents to teach kids:
saving money, cooking their own food, incentives to keep their living space clean/discussions of what can grow/appear in dirty spaces.
I don't know what can be used for discipline since I was never brought up with any healthy kind (don't worry I probably won't end up with kids, and if kids do end up involved there will be another mind involved)
@@animeartist888 Yeah, same here. I have similar experiences to you, so I know both of those things are bad ideas for a variety of reasons. I'm not opposed to calling cps if it comes down to it.
@@dragonwolfzero820 I agree. I told him instead of making them pay him, he could make them put that money in a savings account to teach them how to save and help them save for their futures, but he insisted that they should pay him to learn how to pay rent instead. To me, that's always just seemed like a thinly veiled way to squeeze money out of your vulnerable children under the guise of "helping them."
Ugh, reminds me a bit of my father. He purposely didn't pay for all of my sister and I's education even though it would've been completely affordable for him because, and I quote, "Debt builds character". Like no, no it doesn't. Oh, and the only debt he's ever had in his life was a house mortgage he paid off in 13 years.
The 17 year old being forced to pay rent is all too familiar. I had the same thing, except I was forced to pay quite a lot more each month, do all the housework, go to a church in a religion I did not believe in, and hold down a job that I never agreed to on top of it all. ...It gets much worse, but that's the surface-level stuff.
Oh, a few details that matter at that surface level that I forgot: I was never allowed to use my own money on anything else except for paying them, and I was not permitted any outlet (friend(s), internet, etc) to lighten the weight of it all.
Damn, kids needs lawyer these days
Bingo night with Click? Man, I feel like a granny already
11:47 reminds me of a bad fight I had with my family because I told them I was depressed and they told me to "be grateful".
Fr
I got yelled at at 14 when I was openly showing symptoms of being super depressed. 20 years on I still am, I just avoid that family member like they got the plague.
But then his way of helping was to scream at symptoms until I masked them, and then declare problem solved.
I now have complex health issues in addition to depression. And I will never forgive him.
My grandmother told me that a firm walk will help to get the blues away. I was, and still am, depressed because of being bullied at the age of 12. This caused me to mentally skip puberty, and always made me feel not being able to fit in with my age peers. Now I (at 46), simply start to accept that I will always be the odd one out.
Welp I do hope that you have a support group to help you seeing as your family refuses to step up and make an attempt at the very least to be supportive.
Yeah... you're not alone in that. It gets worse when said parents have untreated mental issues/traumas : you can't be "sad"/"depressed", you have loving parents that provide for you! I did not have what you had, so you are not allowed to feel bad! (Said, while yelling at my teen self. Suffice to say, it got worse the following years, and they almost lost a child. Being grateful has nothing to do with mental health! In my case it worsened it)
Schizophrenia is not only genetic but can be gotten from PTSD. Claiming it's not real is basically saying every veteran with PTSD is just faking it. Oof.
It certainly doesn't fix itself if you just "be happy" either.
I did not know there was a link between ptsd and schizophrenia! Have to look into that, that's really interesting, thanks for sharing!
I heard it can also be triggered by head trauma though it is rarer. The issue is that it's one of those conditions with such a long list of different symptoms and that the media has warped it to mean something it's not. So we have people who don't get treated out of fear or being misdiagnosed and people who are getting treated that have those around them treat them poorly which is depressing.
@@Decarus37Two things you can always count on to spread misinformation and fear around mental illness, the news media and Hollywood.
I would clarify, if you have a predisposition to a mental illness, the symptoms can be brought on by trauma, even if there were no signs of it before. Depression and BPD often work the same way. The predisposition was likely always there. So someone on the outside looking in is not in any position to declare it's not real.
28:35 funnily enough, Satanism isn't even devil-worship, it's literally just being an atheist with a moral code, including but not limited to:
-let people be themselves
-do not harm children, and protect them
-don't push your religious views on other people, especially not your kids
-all sexualities are valid, including asexuality (which, given the satanic bible is from 1969 (nice) was a pleasant surprise to read, especially bc I'm ace), and consent is important
“Jesus will separate the sheep from the goats” (goats being like satan). I am now starting to understand why Satanists don’t like conformity. Literally calls the “good guys” sheep.
@@EntropyAndSingularity huh. My first thought was rather toward how we've domesticated goats and sheep from the same animal, and that they attributed it to Jesus somehow lol- guess my thinking is too literal for this stuff. (Well, that and the concept of the judas-goat)
"Satanist" was essentially a slur for non-believers, to scare believers away from questioning things or lacking in showing devotion and subsequently being associated with devil-worship - an "us vs them" mentality.
Can't speak for other people, but I personally don't mind conformity in some ways, so long as it isn't enforced upon me.
These days, Satanist groups mainly use their status as an acknowledged "religion" to keep the church and state separate, or provide hygiene products and condoms in communities where proper sex-ed is severely lacking.
Before i got my own appartement, my parents always told me that they prefer having me and my boyfriend over, just to give us a safe place to be and to actually make sure that we were okay and that if anything happened they could actually help. My parents were (and stil are) not perfect but that mindset really stuck with me and actually really made me feel confortable to talk to them about personal stuff! They are also very open to talk about thing like sex, alcohol and drug and, in my opinion, it really had a great impact on my siblings and I! We never really felt the necessity of trying those stuff behind my parents back because we knew that they would't be mad at us for it, they would more likely be worried about our health. I feel like the more we make things taboo the more I becomes '' dangerous'' or the more teenagers tend to take it too far.... Just my two cents
My parents did the same and I whole heartedly agree ,but my brother doesn't which is sad.
Me, diagnosed with ASD, trying to have a conversation with my dad who has pretty much the exact same autistic behaviours and sensitivities, and struggles but was never diagnosed: "but, just hear me out as someone who studies people. What if that ISN'T something that everyone struggles with?" and so he doesn't believe anyone who is related to him who isn't nonverbal has ASD. Its like navigating a minefield, and you have a map of where to go and where not to step, but the map is 40 years old and hasn't accounted for any of the many changes that occurred since then.
Oh yeah, I've noticed a lot of the anti-vaxxer moms who think that autism was given to their children by vaccines kind of have a lot of autistic traits but I've never really known how to say anything on that without it seeming somewhat inappropriate...
@@darcieclements4880vaccines cause adults
Here's something awful: My mom would always have something negative to say about my appearance throughout my time in high school. Now she expects me to go everywhere with her and her friends.
Uh, no. This is what you get for giving me social anxiety. Add my mental conditions to the mix, and it's no wonder I'd prefer to stay home when I can.
This subreddit is like an emotional car crash I can't look away from. It's filled with objectively bad scenarios yet incredibly investing.
I am so glad you brought up broken limbs in this one. My Sperm donor "because I refuse to call him a father" he's not, did not take me to the hospital to get my finger put in a cast when I cut it on a miter saw when I was 16. Instead he drove to Publix "a local grocery store in the states" bought gauze a rubber thimble and burn ointment, put it on my finger and told me to go back to work when we got home. I was in pain for months. My finger healed in a weird way and the spot I cut is still tender to this day. I have to be careful not to hit it on anything or it will sting for the rest of the day.
Ouch.
Have you seen a doctor for it? They might be able to treat it or at least give you decent pain meds.
Sounds like nerve damage, might be wise to get it looked at and possibly treated
That sounds like getting it checked and possibly corrective surgery would be great, but if you're in the states, that's probably not an option?
Hope you get better :/
yowch. please get that looked at, there are definitely better ways to fix your finger than cheap burn ointment and a rubber thimble... i hope you're doing okay, but again please get your finger looked at 😓
Also one thing i would like to address is the whole "you should forgive your parents because they are your parents afterall"
Just because they are your parents doesn't give them the right to abuse you and then expect you to forgive them.
For example my parents are both extremely abusive and once i am financially independent i am cutting all ties with them. I have no regrets about it and many people tell me to "let it go" and "family is important" but screw that
My mental health is more important
Insane parents are getting so common that we can predict their actions
I don't know about you, but i dont think i could have predicted whatever the hell the rant at 36:50 was
1) you had a 4th bingo, diagonally from lower left to upper right.
2) sending positive vibes for Lia, and for the newly engaged couple.
The person who thought that QR codes were satanic absolutely killed me lmao
it's real, a qr code convinced my dad to cheat on my mum, i swear /s
They are, they must have been maliciously planned by the devil to force our people to use the phone camera (and thus, unnecesary battery use + space if yours doesnt come with qr reading so you need a spyware app) to read the fucking menu, when they could just like, give the ones they already have? That they made like a decades ago and has remained literally the same? Not that it would matter as they just putted printed pages into books, god I miss those
I do have one that says "Get the Frick up!"
The one about boys not crying hit me hard because I have so many friends that no matter how hurt they feel they try so hard not to cry because they think it’s weak and it breaks my heart so much. These parents are absolutely awful and they don’t deserve kids and I do hope that these kids can get away from them
I always find it so sad when my guy friends struggled with that. The world is hard enough without being told stupid rules like "you have a d*ck, no crying for you" no matter how bad things feel.
Weak
Men need time to cry sometimes. I’m lucky that my friends are understanding because recently (I’m still in school) my dad yelled at me for no reason, I had missed the bus and was out of breath but he couldn’t understand that. He yelled at me and ignored the giant issue at hand and when i pointed out what he did wrong he just yelled louder. I needed to quickly vent to my friends and cried at the end and they just ignored it. No condescending “it’s gonna be okay”. Just let me cry. My friends are the best.
@@Homer_Simpson248 Says the one with homer simpson as username, you have as much IQ as that character. Zero.
I work in child care and there once was a boy (he was one of the cool kids but he was indeed pretty cool) who was stung by two bees at once. The dad was so angry with him because he was crying from the pain.
Poor kid. When he came the next day we told him it's okay to cry because beestings hurt
It's always wild to me when parents demand rent from their children. Maybe because I was privileged enough to have a wet blanket of a mother, but even IF you REALLY need the rent money, don't make a fuss for a couple of hours!?!
Oh no, no no, it's all about control. "I want the $50 and you're DISOBEYING me by refusing to take it out of your savings and waiting a few hours for your check." If that mother was less concerned about appearances, she would be talking that kid's entire income and only dolling some of it out to them when SHE decides it's necessary.
it's not about money, it's about control. if they paid the $50 on demand, that mother would rant about something else.
my parents have an agreement with me and my siblings that if we're living with them after 18, a third of our salary goes to the household, and I think it's fair. We have a lot of younger siblings and come from a poor background, and it's a simple way to support everyone and help pay for food we're all eating. If you don't have a job for a while, there's no salary, therefore no need to pay, and they're not strict with it. and literally any work before 18, we got to keep our money to treat ourselves since we never had an allowance :)
my mom was a single parent
stressed to hell, not the greatest person to be around at the time but at least she understood one thing: children are to be supported as they grow up and are not tools to use to make money.
(my mom has realized her mistakes and bad behaviors and still apologizes to this day.)
@JelenaMajic A third sounds like a lot, ngl. 😳
Though I can't judge your situation with poverty, but generally I think parents should only charge rent from their adult children if it's absolutely necessary and only as much as needed. The main focus should be on enabling the adult child to save up to afford their own home and move into their own household, not to hold them down with rent payments. If you move out, that's probably a bigger financial relief to your parent's household than your rent payment could be anyway, so in the long run, allowing you to save up and live on your own as fast as possible would probably be the smarter decision for your parents.
Oh, and it's a good thing they don't demand rent from their underage children, since I'm very sure that would be ILLEGAL. Parents are supposed to provide food, shelter and adequate clothing to their underage children free of charge. That's like the minimum requirement to being a legal guardian.
theres a lot of dismissing mental health things but my parents know i have adhd or something similar but wont get me diagnosed either because they "forgot to make the appointment" or "want to keep me off drugs". and then they get mad at me for getting distracted and socially distant
35:55,
my therapist says: "Trauma may explain it, but it doesn't excuse it" and that is so true
That's why you never bring up an abuser's trauma, and when you do, make sure it's mean and dehumanizing. It'll make them feel the same pain their victims felt when they kept in contact with them all these years ago.
@@nevaehhamilton3493 that's uh- a little extreme don't ya think? Shouldn't you be trying to help them move on and seek help for their trauma?
@@starchildofthesun Abusers aren't people and don't deserve to be treated as such. Why can't you just enjoy the suffering they're enduring, especially if they deserved it? Doesn't it feel good to get vengeance for all the hurt you've experienced in your life? At the end of the day, hurt people hurt people.
Intrusive thoughts are a bitch lol
@@nevaehhamilton3493 look. If you hurt them, you're no better than them. I mean by NO means do you have to forgive and forget or whatever, but torturing others makes you just as much of a villain as your abusers, you're just continuing the cycle of hate
@@starchildofthesun then why do I feel happiness when misfortune falls upon them?
watching this series has made me realize how fked up my parents are, keep spreading awareness click 💀
Omg… are u ok?!
Ugh, I'm really sorry to hear :( I hope you have a good future
Please accept some mama hugs.
❤🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤎💙💗🤍
the "postal service and WHO are devil 666" mom's having a psychotic breakdown w persecutory delusions and disorganized thinking (the way she was unable to string together sentences) and needs help :( I REALLY hope she got to a hospital and didnt just get dismissed as "haha mom's being crazy"
Let's all wish Lia happiness in spite of her transphobic parents.
indeed, it’s so terrible that people can be so cruel.
i thought you were talking about sssniperwolf at first
@@tysonwastakenOop ironic because SSSniperwolf is transphopic
@@mushroomatethatDamn I used to like sssniperwolf but she's a total b'tch ngl
@@mushroomatethatoh crap she is?
I feel inspired to yell "The generational trauma ends with ME!"
Good for everyone who has gone no-contact with toxic people!
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from the emojis you posted it'S pretty clear that you are going to traumaize your kids on an entiery new level.
@tommerker8063 Want corrections? Yes? No? Well... "Judging by the used emojis, it is quite clear that you may as well traumatize your new kids on an entirely new level."* ((sorry for being a grammar police.
I beg to differ with those emojis
@@tommerker8063 Ah, yes, accepting kids for who they are by birth will definitely traumatize them on an entirely new level. As opposed to bullying them and telling them that they're somehow wrong for being born such a way.
8:51 I never realized how bad it was at home until I moved out. I am currently back home for the holidays and......oh my gosh.....I am so glad I am an adult now
Parents were away for 4 days, and i was at home alone. I have never in my life felt so good as i felt these past days
Fun animal fact: A hippo can open its mouth wide enough for a 4-foot-tall child to stand inside…(I wonder who tried this?😂)
Please tell me they don’t have an instinct to close their mouth when there’s something inside…
@@TheDMan2003Why wouldn't they have that instinct? /j
@@tealtalonflame4281forbidden cranberry juice 😋😋🍽️
Jesus Christ
@@tealtalonflame4281 I wonder if that’s why people say that hippos are the deadliest creature…
13:37 Fun Fact: Monopoly was created to frustrate and upset people as part of an anti-capitalist campaign
We do jokingly ask why family members are betraying us when we play cards or Monopoly, but there's a big difference between silly teasing drama and actually taking it seriously.
That's a little off the mark but still a hilarious way of putting it. So accurate to today's world.
Capitalism took advantage of it pretty quick too. One of hasbro's best selling games.
The DiL who the entitled grandmother was texting about seeing her grandkid is a goddamn SAINT. She was so clear and calm, even after all that evil woman put her through.
Ah yes, my favorite subreddit because I can relate to others who also have terrible (or not so terrible but still bad) parents
Same ong
@@ledfolf7193 omg furryy!1!!1???!1??
proto pfp *Pat*
@@Nobody_is_here_right_now *waggle*
Ugh, this reminds me of a story my mother told me about her younger brother, turning the bath water allll the way to hot while his sister's were out of the room; my mom and aunt screamed when they stepped in and he immediately bawled to their mom, who in turn screamed at THEM for making HIM cry. He was definitely old enough to know what he did and that crying would get him out of trouble. As for why the girls (mom and aunt) were still sharing baths at this point- he was born 12 years after his sisters, and grandma was the type to favor boy children.
6:28 omg reminds me when my dad said I'm not old enough to have depression when I was 14 XD
I would definitely hide/lock up those med bottles that mom wants to look at next time she’s over. The pills will probably end up in coffee grounds in her trashcan somehow.
When I once broke my leg, my mom said „Oh it’s fine, you just twisted your ankle“ and when I still couldn’t stand up after two days, she finally brought me to the hospital. It turned out, a whole piece of my bone broke off.
Yikes!
I hate how self-centered some of these parents are, like they can't accept that they're wrong or make mistakes bcs "they're older and role models to their children so they can't be wrong" and I just want to yell at them that no, parenting is not an instant "I'm right you're wrong" card
That's the thing though. If you admit to your child your mistakes, THAT is a good role model. 😅 when my toddler makes me shout out of anger, I apologise to her. Being a role model means accepting that nobody is perfect
"can't play bingo without homophobia" is a good out-of-context quote
Oh damn, I am 40 and my mom is still alive. She sadly checks so many of these boxes. My siblings and myself sat her down to discuss her behavior and actions. Her response was to pay for a IQ test to prove she didn't have any personality disorders.
She used to be in charge of the special education department at the local school. Was fired one day and still won't discuss the reasons leading up to that, I am disturbed that she may have been mentally abusive to her students.
"pay for an IQ test to prove she didn't have personality disorders" is one of the dumbest things I have ever heard.
My sympathies for you and her former students.
That'd be like taking a driving test to prove you don't have cancer, it doesn't work like that.
@@waffles3629 exactly!
my school has multiple adult employees who are like that...
5:09 YOU NEVER CARED THAT I HAVE A VAG.
Some people should not be allowed to come within 200 feet of a child, let alone parent one.
Regarding “men do cry”, I am 100 percent sure my dad has not cried since he was a child. This is not about masculinity or emotional insecurity, it’s just who he is. He doesn’t register emotions like most people. I was gobsmacked last week when I moved 2000km away and he gave me a hug before I left. I know he loves me, always has and always will, it’s just not something that is talked about, or shown, or acknowledged. Don’t get me wrong, he is definitely the outlier in this situation. I have no problem with men crying and in fact my brother wears his heart on his sleeve and has no problem showing it. It is shitty for a woman to tell someone “men don’t cry” though.
Yeah there's probably some life experiences that cause that for him. It is unfortunate but it affects a lot of people.
As a man, it's rare that I cry but sometimes it will just be random as hell. I almost freaking cry like a stupid when the graphics for a game or movie start out beautifully, even if I've seen it 1000 times. Other times I get close to cry is due to stress. Most commonly I actually cry at sad scenes with my own characters in my own writing XD
The line between nature and nurture is so blurry it's more like a gradient...
@@RenTheWrenTrue, but for the basic human emotions it’s definitelly heavier on the nurture
My dad was/is the same : never cries, never acknowledge emotions. SO, turns out my dad was Thoroughly abused by their own dad in childhood, and is a trans woman. (The trans bit not being related to no emotion showing, BUT to abuse).
I hope she's gonna be better as time goes on and therapy does its thing, but yeah, yey abusive parents ! They fuck up their child until their 55 years and somehow fuck up their child's relationships with anyone (partner, own children, even friends...)
I watch a lot of dark documentaries and scary/horror stories, and me, being stupid, do it at night. I always end up going to your channel to cure that from my brain before I go to sleep. Lots of love from Minnesota! ❤
43:58 My mom looked at my texts on the phone provider's website. And then she confronted me about being gay at a family dinner. Yeah, parents snooping through your shit can be traumatic on its own, let alone confronting you in front of family. Please don't do this to your kids.
that's such a horrible thing to do omg, I'm so sorry...
@@denkisupremacy Oh man, this happened years ago. I am *way* over it. Just one of those things ye remember. Not even close to the worst thing my family has done to me xD But I survived in spite of all that so fuck em lol
Gotta have the ‘treating a child like an adult’ bingo option
It's basically just "exploiting children to do labors that an adult should be doing, not the child."
27:45 - you're not facing your demons when you are the demon.
I was just talking to my mum about her insane and narcissistic mother earlier today.
Thankfully my mum stayed true to her conviction of never acting like her mother when she'd have kids and we actually have had very little contact with my insane nan growing up and no contact in between when she made up some insane stuff about my 4 year old brother. My grandfather has been dead for over a decade and I've seen insane nan once since then and that was just because she ended up being at a family function without our prior knowledge. Life is much better being NC with her.
Depression = 'Just be happy'
Asthma Attack = 'Just breathe'
Drowning = 'Just swim'
Lost = 'Just be found'
Falling = 'Just float'
Makes sense to me, I definitely don't see anything wrong with these statements! :D
Has severely broken legs = ‘Just walk’
Is mute = ´Just talk´
Is deaf = ‘Just listen’
Has ADHD: ‘Just pay attention’
Has autism: ´just be normal´
What about 'look what you made me do', 'parentification', 'emotional incest', and a square like 'oh, this is sad, this parent is actually sick and not just an asshole'?
I have autism. My dad is very sure, and so am I, that he is also autistic but because of the generation he grew up in it wasn't something he could be diagnosed with.
He is definitely understanding of my struggles though which I am thankful for.
We'll never know for certain, but when you're raised by a feral engineer (who is the son of an absent-minded professor who is the son of a probably bipolar math whiz who was the daughter of a woman who was clearly depressed...) you kinda start believing that vaccines caused neurodivergent behavior - because they allowed your equally neurodivergent relatives to live to adulthood and pass on the genes responsible for autism and ADHD.
I am glad this video came out because my weekend has been so chaotic because my father got into a car crash, and then one of my biggest fears happened today. I needed a video more serious than what I normally watch to calm down. I really feel for the children in this video; they have to deal with parents who are really not great. I hope they all end up in better situations.
I hope you will have a better week next time.
And is your father alright??
@@just-anna9923 thank you so much. Yeah he just hurt his arm and rib. He had to get surgery but it went fine and he's getting out of the hospital tomorrow.
@@Lostflightwarriorcats I glad he's OK and I hope he heals well and quickly!
Very scary & look how you've managed to get thru
Wishing you well!
@@echognomecal6742 aww thank you so much it genuinely means a lot
19:30 my personal policy is joke about my trauma, be completely honest about literally everything, and nobody can take advantage of my vulnerabilities because they’re all already out in the open.
Honestly, I love these bingo videos that The Click does cause it makes subreddits that are supposed to make you angry or sad actually into something funny lol. Plus the added humour in the bingo makes me not want to claw my eyes out after seeing the shit people say and do
I occasionally send these videos to my conservative Christian family and thank them for not being this batshit insane when it came to my sexuality and gender identity
Dont want to sound braggy, but i am in a christian family too, and we have the view of "It's your life, you live it." I dont have any problem with wherever people are on the rainbow, as long you dont try to make me believe anything, I dont really say anything about it. It's not my business, so I stay out of it for the most part. I just wish christianity as a whole wasn't brought down by the ones crazy enough to be so fanatical about it. Its meant to be a belief, not a policy.
ACTUALLY WHOLESOME
@@alayzard4295honestly as an ex Christian I wish the crazy minority wasn't the media's mouthpiece for religion as well, because there's a lot of actually very sweet and accepting people who are religious but it's not the side you generally see and ig it's because the quiet ones aren't insecure in their belief so don't need to constantly shove their ideals down other people's throats. Honestly probably not everyone's cup of tea (some of it ain't mine either and that's ok) but I actually like the song "Religion Reduced" by Simon Curtis because to me it def gives off the vibe of, religion anymore to so many people is more about power and status then a personal spiritual journey when it is, or at least it's supposed to be, the latter. I really hope some sense of balance is brought about though and the extremes of every single group online stop having such a big voice because they really do bring everyone down. Sorry about that, I was raised by one of those fanatics and ik they're not helping either of us when most of the rest of the church I used to get drug to were nice, I just went my own way as I saw fit and wouldn't try to force anyone either way since ik from experience that's how you get people to run from, not join your own belief system. Others do need to learn the meaning of the saying about bringing a horse to water and stop trying to drown the poor horse
@@discordiacreates6669 the crazy is a minority? i just have found crazy ones irl and rare cases of a mentally sane christian like @alayzard4295
i like to think it could also (intentionally or unintentionally) help to keep them in line lmao.
Like the thing where retail workers say "thank you for your patience" to a customer who is starting to look dissatisfied! Apparently it actually helps!
18:30 The non-apology apology is so fucking infuriating, especially if you can tell they don't mean it in the slightest. I remember being upset after a visit to a psychiatrist because he wasn't listening to me at all, my mother told me to calm down and I ended up snapping at her that I wouldn't even have to go there in the first place if she didn't beat me up to when I was physically able to start fighting back. She literally rolled her eyes and said "Sorry" in a "I'm sorry you feel that way" tone. That's the only apology I ever got from her, because on another occasion she told me she never did anything to me, I made my abuse up because I'm mentally ill and that's not her fault so I should stop blaming her. I literally have scars to prove it. I have three fucking siblings and the two I'm in contact with remember our childhood the same way. But sure, we all collectively made it up and I have BPD because I never went through any trauma at all. 🙃
Im sorry you went through that. I hope youre doing better now. Peace and prosperity be with you
i actually have a similar story from just few weeks ago. I was crying in pain every day for two weeks on pain medication to a point where it fucked up my stomache that i couldn’t eat anymore before my mum took me to a doctor bcs she was saying „i’m overexagerating it“, turns out i had an extremely painful virus. Ive been home sick for 5weeks now, i’m getting better now though. This isnt the first time smth like this happened though.
Every time I got sick my father would blame it on me “not taking care of myself.”
As if he wasn’t my only role model in such areas.
Both of my parents have very painful diseases and so they always thought my sister and I to not complain about pain as we don't know what real pain is. It really affected us, me more than my sister. Every time I was in pain, no matter what it was, I just had to suck it up and carry on. I once went an entire day with a badly sprained ankle before being brought to the hospital. Not to mention all my abdominal pain that I went through for decades. Finally I got diagnosed with PCOS, a very painful medical condition and that I've had it since I started puberty (which happened when I was 10). The very (literally) painful lesson here is to not diminish others' pain because while it might not be the same as yours, it is no less real and can often be a sign of something very serious going on with them. Your pain is real, don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Also, everybody's pain threshold is different, it doesn't make anybody better because they can tolerate or handle it better than someone else.