How I Found Out I Am AUTISTIC | Autism in Women
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- Опубликовано: 19 янв 2025
- 🌻Autism in women is often misdiagnosed, which is what happened to me too.
Today I will try to explain how I found out that I am most definitely on the Autistic Spectrum. In later videos, I will go more into detail on how I experience this on a daily basis and what I am learning along the way.
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Re: Not fitting in - I describe it as feeling like an alien observing society. Not feeling superior to anyone. Not feeling inferior to anyone. But feeling like you don't quite understand what you're supposed to do so you can't blend in.
Exactly!
I think that I'm autistic too. I love your videos. Your hair looks really cool. I have taken those 2 tests u mentioned too, the AQ test and the Aspie quiz. The aspie quiz really gives a person a lot to think about on top of just autism like about intimacy issues and stuff. I like how it has the graphic too. I'm still feeling unsure and also now I'm even more confused by the idea that maybe I relate a lot about ADHD
😂 it was a Mom on the Spectrum video that got me down this rabbit hole too! I did all the tests she linked and they all came back with the same results.. I'm on the spectrum. So now I'm looking to get properly diagnosed.
I am autistic with adhd! I was always outside society! I am a selective mute, I am a toe walker, had the gastric issues, the spinning, swinging, stimming super strong sensory issues and I was diagnosed at 40. It is a relief to know! I am glad I am AuDHD and we find our own so that is why your bestie connects with you so well.
My boys are both adhd and autistic - we also have females in the family with it as well. My oldest (14) is Sheldon (tbbt) I got him watching it and he said that Sheldon was completely "normal" and it was the other characters that had problems. I can't wait to see your other videos on this topic and I hope that they help you as well as educating others
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Sheldon and Amy are the only normal people in the show 😁 it made so much more sense to me to watch TBBT after I knew I was on spectrum.
@@Lennroe i love Sheldon and Amy but also Leonard. I love most people
I was diagnosed with ADHD (mostly self-diagnosed but verified by a doctor) after feeling unique for a very long time. Sometimes I feel like I'm still outside of that even, and I honestly have been thinking a lot lately that I'm on the spectrum. I have family that are on the spectrum that were diagnosed as young boys.
And you know, watching you, who are someone I connect with a hell of a lot, makes me think it even more. So now I want to do more research so I can figure this out.
Oh, and I mask so hard that I tend to mimic people around me until I'm friends with them and can only behave like them around them.
Oh also, you're a lovely person. Keep being you.
Enjoy your research!!🥰🥰🥰
My 8 yr old son was recently diagnosed as autistic. My husband and I have realized we both definitely also are on the spectrum. I’m happy more of us are realizing and normalizing awareness of ASD. Much love! ✨❤️
Thank you for sharing❤
I hope it doesn't sound strange when I say this, but I'm so happy to hear this! I'm autistic, too, and I really love connecting with other autistic people. I can't wait to see your videos about your experiences in the future! ♥️♥️♥️
Oh I agree! I just saw the part where you're talking about the autistic community. I agree. I love the autistic community. Wonderful folks.
I'm sorry I'm writing you a whole block of text, but I wanted to say, for all the times I hear you say "You're one of mine," I felt the same way the first time you mentioned being autistic. Now you are also one of mine ♥️♥️♥️
It doesn’t sound strange at all! I think it’s wonderful! Thank you so much for being here🥰
@@AppalachianAllegory yeah it's an amazing community
Hi Nikki. I’m so proud of you for speaking out. My son was diagnosed with autism at the age of 5 and he is now 32. All his life people have misunderstood him and judged him and you know what; he couldn’t care less! They can’t offend him because he isn’t bothered. He is the most precious, beautiful pure soul I’ve ever known ( although I’m biased😀). Thank goodness perceptions are finally changing. It’s long overdue. On the subject of Sheldon Cooper, they have never once mentioned that he is autistic, even though it’s obvious, and I get really annoyed that they treat him as a complete nuisance. He is the most honest one out of all of them. Keep on being true to yourself and never mind fitting in with other people’s ideas of what you should be. More power to you 💕
I liked Sheldon the most 😅
I got diagnosed with autism about 2,5 years ago at age 29. It has been so helpful in learning to understand myself! I'm glad you are feeling so good about it and are finding your people :)
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Have you been offical diagnosed. As someone who has worked alongside people with severe autism. And it is so so important to be properly diagnosed As to many people are now saying I'm "autistic" and it's having a detrimental affect in serverly autistic people. Edited to add I'm not at all saying your not but please get an offical diagnosis which sadly can take months even years. But it is the best thing to do.
I’m just curious on how someone that is finding out on their own that they are autistic has a “detrimental affect “ on severely autistic people?
I’m confused? 🤔
@@debutawn because it has having a negative effect on what people perceive autism to be.
@@emmacoward5921 but that is what we need to address. Gatekeeping what is perceived as actually autistic doesn't seem like it will benefit anyone. The term " severely autistic" is bizarre just as "high functioning" is. It's a spectrum and as such encompasses many modes and means.
I’m so glad you discovered this & shared your story. I was diagnosed autistic last year. (I’m autistic, adhd +ocd.) Finding out about my autism was amazing - finally realised why I feel so alien, why I’m so literal & have so many miscommunications etc, why I get so overwhelmed by my senses, why I’ve always been called too much/ too dramatic/ too sensitive etc & why I burn out so much.
I love the following autistic youtubers: Yo Samdy Sam, Paige Layle & Purple Ella (I believe all 3 also have adhd). I also watch some male autistic RUclipsrs like Autism from the Inside & That Autistic Guy - I enjoy them too.
Also ‘How to ADHD’ is great if anyone is looking for a brilliant adhd only channel.
This video was fascinating Nikki! I applaud you for really taking the time to properly get to know yourself & what makes you tick. I have OCD which for years I tried to hide & was ashamed of! It’s so good now that mental health is discussed so freely & without as much judgement as there used to be. Great videos like this help people to understand & that can only be a good thing. Miss you btw 😘❤️
Hi hon! I’m so glad you like the video🥰🥰 I miss you too😘
I'm happy crying right now, and I'm so proud of you. Thank you so much for this video, I know it will be helpful for so many people. The fact that you choose to share it with your followers and help educate more people is just wonderful. I'm revisiting my personal diagnosis process, and it was so similar to yours! I've loved your content for such a long time, and related to you in many areas, from spirituality to ADHD and being slightly orkish 😅 and once again, the universe shows me that the people I'm drawn to, even online, tend to be neurodivergent! Welcome to the fam ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Nikki, thank you for that video! I know why I felt so good here, from the very first video I'd seen. Recently I got my official diagnose. Also I am in the process of ADHD diagnose. But I knew it for quite a while. So - I am really touched you are talking about it openly, and I do not know what to write. Lots of love ❤❤❤
Omg this makes me so happy to hear!🥰
Hi Nikki ❤️ I adore you and always just got you. I haven't figured myself out yet other than external things. My twins have some traits from when they were young. Sheldon is ground breaking model, love the show. The everyday interactions in that show yes. I always get teased about sitting in a certain spot in the sofa because it just throws me off if someone takes my seat. I'm so happy you are finding what makes you tick. Clarity on previous mysteries.
Hello. My name is also Nikki and I'm also autistic and have ADHD. I was diagnosed 3 months ago at 39 years old. I'm glad that I have found your channel.
Welcome!!
Thank you kindly for the shout out in your description. I am so happy to have your support!
You are so welcome! I am so happy to have found your channel!
I see so much of myself in you! I am at the beginning of this journey (the NHS has been absolutely terrible so far, lost referrals, gas-lighting, not trained in adult autism at all) but it's really helping to have people speaking openly to relate to. I am hyper-empathic and a strong communicator - but they don't see what goes on behind closed doors, behind the masking, sensory overwhelm and pain. Hormones causing turmoil! Luckily my partner has been very supportive - I watched another of your videos about your tattoos - haha - yes I relate to this also. Thank you & sending love!
Lots of love to you too🥰🥰🥰
I self-identify as on the spectrum although I've never been "officially" diagnosed. I just feel I am too old to go through that whole process and I don't feel it would be of any help. But my journey of self-discovery sounds almost exactly like yours and I figured it out only a couple years ago. But yes - it was like all of a sudden every little oddity, sensory issue, masking, stimming, miscommunications, special interests, meltdowns - it all now makes sense and helps me through my day to day now that i know. I've tried telling some others and i get a lot of the "you can't be autistic", "you don't look autistic" etc. That gets frustrating but I try not to let that get to me. I'm not trying to impress anyone with my autism - I just want to make sense of things and learn how to cope better. Im so glad you posted this and I look forward to more info on your stimming toys and more discussion and experiences :)
Thank you for sharing🥰
Exactly the same here! I have also been told I am just trying to "make myself feel better".... Thank you for sharing... it helps knowing we're not alone. 🙂
I'm happy crying right now, and I'm so proud of you. Thank you so much for this video, I know it will be helpful for so many people. The fact that you choose to share it with your followers and help educate more people is just wonderful. I'm revisiting my personal diagnosis process, and it was so similar to yours! I've loved your content for such a long time, and related to you in many areas, from spirituality to ADHD and being slightly orkish 😅 and once again, the universe shows me that the people I'm drawn to, even online, tend to be neurodivergent! Welcome to the fam ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Hey I'm 39 and was diagnosed ASD and ADHD last year. I'm in Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and used to get the DFDS ferry/boat across to Amsterdam every year before my physical health became a problem. Lol if you've watched big bang theory you will understand the end of my name on here! I love your makeup and I'm loving your creativeness in your background (I love to look at every little bit of it). I'm creative also. I was diagnosed with BPD and Bipolar starting at age 18, prior to that, anxiety and depression. Thank you for sharing xx
I definitely got your last name reference!🤣 thank you for sharing your story🥰🥰
Nikki, I love your channel. Thanks for sharing your personal story, much appreciated. Doing my own deep dive into autism, relevant in my family. Love Taylor's channel, been so helpful. Keep shining Precious 🥰💕
I watched that first video you said and ooof, all bull's eyes. I've been convinced that I'm like this because a few years ago I found out I'm an INFJ (and depressed but under treatment), and that already made me feel like I belong somewhere, at last, but at this point I'll try the test and look further into this. Thank you for these info!
I’m so glad I could help🥰🥰
Fun fact: NeuroDivergent (autistics, ADHD, dyslexics etc) is very common with Hypermobility conditions such as Hypermobility Spectrum Disorder and Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (13 types).
I read something about that, I wouldn’t be surprised if there is also a connection with fibromyalgia..interesting🤔
@@NikkiRaven fibromyalgia is common too with connective tissue disorders, sometimes though is being misdiagnosed, and patients actually have HSD/hEDS. These are the official hEDS criteria for a diagnosis, have a look if you want ehlers-danlos.com/wp-content/uploads/hEDS-Dx-Criteria-checklist-1.pdf
I identify with everything you said here. I always figured something was just not right about me that I don't fit in with the " norm". I've had ADD my whole life but I was good in school and at my job. My real life at home however is an unorganized mess. I was so socially awkward for a long time that I have compensated by mimicking people who are socially successful. I remain single and I know why lol
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I was over 40 when I found out I'm HSP (highly sensitive person). I had spent my entire life thinking, that there is something wrong with me, that I am just a bit weird and somehow faulty for not being able to be normal like everyone else and not being able to function normally in certain situations. It was such a relief to find out that I am not alone and there is absolutely nothing wrong with me!
I just followed some of those links you have here and I realised that there are quite a few same characteristics in both high sensitivity and autism. I may have to study more about autism.
I'm happy for you for finding your inner self and understanding yourself better! Self reflection is a good thing and it most often helps us to become who we truly are. ❤️ I wish you a very good journey! 😘
Thank you for sharing🥰
Nikki, I think you are great. Even though I am male I relate to so much of what you talked about. I was 52 years old when I was finally diagnosed. I have always felt weird. I have always been called weird by others and have suffered anxiety trying to understand why (even when I was in art school!) Now that I know I am autistic I am proud of my weirdness. Anyway, it was wonderful to hear your story. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Felt like I was on the outside of the snow globe looking in at all these little people doing all these very interesting things. Now 50, diagnosed 3 months ago Autistic (I KNEW already for a year), diagnosed 12 years ago with ADHD….and the anxiety/depression, etc. Thank you for being our teacher and our voice! I love reading all the comments…I learn so much about myself and it’s like 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯. It feels like an introduction to different parts of “my” self thru your video and our shares.
I’m so incredibly proud of you my sweet soul sister! It has been a honor to see you on this journey of self discovery and a BIG thank you for all the conversations because you helped me to discover a few things that gave me answers too !! I love that you are going to use this platform to discuss these types of things because you will help so many others 💜 love you 🫶🏼
Love you tooooo🥰🥰🥰
I have ADHD and OCD, and I'm also Demisexual/Demiromantic. I often wonder if I am on the spectrum. I've taken a few "Are you Autistic" quizzes in the past few years, and the end result has always been something like "you may be autistic" or "you have traits that could point to autism". But I always wrote it off as traits of ADHD and OCD overlapping with Autism. This video is encouraging me to do some more research.
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What you are, darling, is AMAZING!! A big big hug from Spain
Thank you for sharing this. I’m going to check out those resources.
Omg I watch you because I connect to you , I March to the best of my own drum , fly my freak flag like I don’t fit in anywhere . I also have the same fidget toy it relaxes me .
I will always support you and thank you for being brave and sharing .
Kisses from Queensland Australia 🇦🇺
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This is so interesting, and I have to say.. it makes sense to me.. because you're one of the only youtubers I always enjoy watching, and I feel like I understand you and your humor.. I have recently discovered autism too and I relate hard. I'm currently not diagnosed with anything, but I believe I am a mix of Autistic and ADHD. I have always felt exactly like you did, outside of society, never fitting in, misunderstood, like I didn't have the rule book.. so this video from you just makes my observation about myself even stronger. I got you.
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I have no experience (self or family) with this. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and journey. I hope that it will help me understand someone that I may meet in the future..💛💛💛💛
I’m so glad you are sharing about your journey on the autistic spectrum here, as I’m always interested to learn more. Our now 28-year-old nephew in Scotland was originally diagnosed with ADHD as a child, & he did indeed exhibit those symptoms, but it wasn’t discovered until later in his teen years that those were merely symptoms amongst many others that were part of a larger issue of mild Asperger’s ( a spectrum disorder with its own specific diagnostic criteria) which had been missed prior by other doctors. From what I’ve witnessed from his situation, it’s so critical to get a proper diagnosis, & if you are a parent & you feel that your child might be either misdiagnosed or under-diagnosed, it’s important to get more than one opinion whenever possible so that correct therapy/treatment can be applied. (It’s also important to rule out any potential physical/medical causes for things, as there are some neurological conditions that can manifest & cause similar behaviors, & a physician can parse those out.) Otherwise, it really puts the child at a disadvantage in knowing how to navigate the world & can cause more difficulties later in adult life than you’d ever imagine due to unknowingly exhibiting inappropriate behavior (& even getting involved in illegal activity) as well as inability to cope with life, or having meaningful friendships & relationships because of others who will take advantage of deficits, using those for their own benefit & causing a lot of pain to those on the spectrum who unwittingly trusted their motives. I’m sure that as with everything, everyone who is on the spectrum has their own unique level of symptom severity, & depending on how they’ve been equipped so far, their own ways of navigating through the nuances. I look forward to hearing more about your personal experience as a female in future videos, Nikki! 😊💕🌷🌷🌷
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Thank you for this. It was so hard for me as a parent to accept my oldest son being diagnosed on the spectrum. It was almost like stages of grief. For the longest time I was stuck in denial. It also took a very long time to say it out loud to people. We are still having a hard time trying to explain it to him now that he is older. Its hard to get him to understand what it means, I guess I don't know exactly what it means yet either. It is a journey we need to discover together ❤
I understand💚 I don’t know what he struggles with but I do know that he loves you even if he may not be able to express it. I can very much recommend orion Kelly (his channel is linked). He also has an autistic son😘
@@NikkiRavenThank you for this response. I plugged in “she” and reread it as if it was about me and my daughter. This just made my shrunken heart grow a lot! 🥹♥️ I’m not alone anymore with channels like yours that help me heal and forgive myself and others for what none of us or our parents knew. I thank God for platforms like this and hearing the shares in the comments. I would like to recommend videos by Dr Kim Sage. She is a 50 y/o Psychologist, diagnosed 2 years ago with Autism and others, and she did a video on SAMANTHA CRAFT’s female/male (focused on female in this list). I FELL OVER AND HAD TEARS STREAMING WITHOUT ME EVEN CRYING! THOSE TEARS WERE THE HEALING OF SOOOOO MANY MISUNDERSTANDINGS.
The more I listen to it and read the comments…I heal and each epiphany and its chain reaction of memories and “short video clips in my mind” come up in my hurt memories, and it’s like supernatural (spiritual) force reaches in and purges/releases out the hurts of the heart, and the looping memories, it gives room for a NEW path…with direction, thanks to so many other autistic podcasts, and yours! ♥️
This could have been written by me…except a daughter instead of a son. By now you may have a lot more in-site on communicating to him.
What helped me tremendously was a video from an autistic psychologist who is around 50 and diagnosed 2 years ago. Also ADHD, and other co-morbid’s.
On RUclips, Dr Kim Sage Samantha Crafts List of Autism in females (she also states that males can relate to thieve things also. She has soooo many good videos, and comes from her personal experiences, and from a psychologist’s point of view…and this adds to what’s already in the DSM…not taking away anything. Hope this helps♥️ Please update us on how you’re doing and your son as well.
In the best possible way from the very first video I saw from you, you screamed spectumy to me!! Good for you for digging in and learning about you!! Misdiagnosis is frighteningly high with women. I’m so happy for you 😘
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i was diagnosed early, at age 2 or so. My mother could tell there was something different about me compared to my older sisters. After the diagnosis, she got no further support from the Dr's. One wanted her to put me in a long term care facility, telling her I would never make any improvements (it was the early 80's). She took it upon herself to do her own research, and worked very hard with me. I owe so much to her. And i definitely identify with what you said about watching your friends interact with others and copy/pasting their behaviors. That's something I have always done too.I look forward to seeing more videos from you on this subject. Another RUclipsr you may want to check out is Olivia Hops.
Thank you so much for sharing.
I love Olivia! She is one of the channels that I watch a lot🥰
Oh Nikki, you‘ll never cease to make my days better and teach me something, I didn’t even knew, I should learn about! 😉 Thank you soooo much for being so sharing, brave and open - well, fabulously you! 🐝🕷😻
A friend recently shared their „suspicion“ that I might be on the spectrum… after listening to you, I might dive deeper into it, especially as I’ve had all the thoughts, feelings & lenses that you’ve just mentioned… but then again - if it wasn’t for you & very few other awesome creators sharing about their lives and thoughts - I wouldn’t have self diagnosed and checked it with my doc when it comes to ADHD! Now it‘s „official“ and many of the misguided diagnoses make sense, as also ADHD presents itself different in women & adults in general, but you already know all this ☺️ So, thank you again!!! Can‘t wait to see more of such videos (if you feel like doing so of course) sending you much love!
I am so glad I could help you! This is exactly why I want to share my experiences! 🥰🥰
@@NikkiRaven I’m so happy you did! 🥰
watching the first mentioned video right now ☺️ (yeah, already forgotten the title 🙈😂) guess my hyperfocus will kick in as soon as all the feelings & thoughts get a little quieter ☺️
This was an interesting video, Nikki. Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us.
Welcome to the community, Nikki. I found out for sure aged 50 but suspected it for many years. An autistic friend was the first person to suggest to me that I could be like her.
Dankjewel voor je video! Mijn dochter van 4 heeft autisme en ik krijg zelf binnenkort een gesprek bij een diagnose centrum voor mijzelf omdat ik veel van mezelf herken in autisme kenmerken. Ik kreeg ooit borderline als diagnose maar daar herken ik mij totaal niet in. Die twee diagnoses worden vaak door elkaar gehaald heb ik gehoord. Ik herken veel in wat jij zegt. Inderdaad het gevoel dat je nooit in een bepaalde "box" thuis hoort. Nogmaals thanks voor je video! X Chantal
Dank je wel voor het delen, ik hoop dat ze je kunnen helpen❤
As a woman who has bpd, bipolar disorder, ptsd and a number of other lovely things that screw with your mind and life, i am proud of you. For standing up, for declaring yourself and feeling no shame in what you have. Because you shouldnt! The stigma placed on mental health is bullsh*t and especially towards women. We are not weaker, helpless or less because of what we have or carry inside of us. In fact it makes us stronger. Most of us carry our mental illnesses and still carry our families, our jobs, our daily lives without batting a lash. Despite what might be going on inside, that is MASKING. As painful as our minds make our lives feel, we keep going, pushing through, raising children, cooking dinner, bandaging booboos, putting on makeup and doing whatever life demands of us. We survive! But....so few of us truly get to flourish behind that pain. Thats where support comes in, friends, family, medication, doctors, etc. Help in all its wonderful forms. Never stop reaching for help.
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I think it is wonderful that you are bringing awareness to Autism . I have 2 cousins that are Autistic. I feel so at home watching your channel and you make me feel okay to be a little weird🥰. I have always loved the unconventional. Yes it would be interesting to hear more on Autism!
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I would love to see a video that talks about the intersection between sensory issues and makeup, and how this can be a barrier to participating in makeup.
Oo that is interesting 🤔
I've watched you put make up on for a year now, but came across this video only now. I'm weird too, so many are. you are lovely,. don''t ever change!
Thank you for being so open and honest. Looking forward to see more of these videos ❤️
Thank you for watching🥰
My son was diagnosed just shy of his 3rd birthday. He was non-verbal for the longest time. School, therapy and having us really helped over the years.
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Even though I am not on the spectrum, I appreciate you talking about this! It is so important to bring awareness to things like this as the healthcare industry isn't exactly reliable. After years of no answers, I finally learned the name of a particular health issue that I have (dercum's) from watching Debbie's last video! As much as I don't want yet another word hanging over my head, I felt so relieved to finally get a better understanding and to know that I am not alone! Maybe someone watching this will get curious about themselves too and do research and find answers and experience that same sense of relief.
I am so glad that you finally know what it is, for me not knowing what it is but knowing that it is something drives me nuts😅
@@NikkiRaven absolutely!!! Same with not getting answers for almost 20 years!!!
This just warms my heart ! Love that we connected over discovery of Dercums Disease!! PaceYourselfFitness message me on IG sometime!
Blessings on your journey of discovery
Thank you so much🥰
Oh Nikky, I am wondering now if I am autistic. I have always felt different. I shall speak to my psychologist. What a revelation.
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Thank you for making this video. Like you did, I have been scouring every corner looking for information on autism.
Both my 20 year old and 13 year old daughters have been referred for ASD assessments (by different providers) in the last couple months. Because I didn't understand why (they are like me. What's the problem?) I looked up how the presentation in females can often look different.
Then BAM! It's me. I never noticed with them because I didn't think anything they did was unusual.
Now my entire life feels like it makes sense, yet also feels unraveled. I will be pursuing an official diagnosis because I need the validation (to not feel like I am in fact crazy). I think that the more women who put there experiences out there the better!
I understand what you mean so incredibly well! And I’m very happy to hear that you were finally able to discover this! The way you are feeling right now is very common, I feel the sam way😅
Lieve Nikki, dankjewel dat je dit deelt. Zo eerlijk en open, chapeau! Ik ga het zeer zeker volgen en je links doorlezen. Ik heb het gevoel dat ik veel ga leren en herkennen. Ik voel me vaak ook een alien, niet wetend waar ik thuis hoor. Daardoor ben ik heel introvert geworden. Alleen mensen waar ik een aantrekkingskracht bij voel ben ik wat opener. Fijn dat je video’s gaat maken over deze onderwerpen. Het zal zeker veel mensen helpen, daar ben ik van overtuigd. 😘
Dank je wel🥰🥰
I’m Autistic too! I was one in the first big wave of girls to actually be diagnosed with Autism in America during the late 90’s and early 2000’s. People at first honestly believed it only affected boys. But girls absolutely can be Autistic too! Welcome to the tribe, Nikki!
Makeup is actually my special interest and has been since I was a child. But people don’t even know that’s my big Autism trait because they automatically expect me to like makeup because of how they perceive me.
I'm a french 29 girl and have been officially known as ADHD last year and yesterday I learned that I'm probably a High potential too through tests I've done with my psychologist...
Time goes by and I'll never stop learning about myself day after day, and still learning how to live the me I still don't now.
Today I still don't know where I belong as well
You will find out, I’m sure of it and until then ( and after) you will belong here🥰🥰
This is really interesting. Thank you for sharing. I look forward to your future videos about this and I will check out the links.
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I am on the spectrum, and have been diagnosed for most of my life. It can definitely be different in women than for men. Hope you’re having a good day!
I just feel so immensely proud of you right now! I won't say I'm surprised but I'm also not not surprised 😄 and that just goes to show that you usually can't immediately tell if someone is autistic. My hubby also got diagnosed with ASD late in life, and I think it happens a lot to our age group coz they didn't know enough when we were kids. I'm sure it explains so much for you throughout your entire life. I just want to say that, it is such a good thing that you've finally realised this. I hope it improves your life and relationships and just everything. I also want to add that autistic people are some of the absolute best humans on the planet, and I for one value you greatly. Lots of love from the wife of an amazing autistic human 💛
Thank you so much hon🥰
Thankyou !!! … I hope this helps many others like it has me.
I hope so too!
My youngest sibling is autistic. I think it's wonderful that you are embracing it fully and feel proud to be you! 🙌🙌❤❤
Thank you so much🥰
My son is autistic and ADHD, and he is diagnosed. My daughter is probably autistic as well but as yet undiagnosed. There aren’t many clinicians who understand autism in girls and women. Weird is great!! 💖
Thank you so much ❤
Im diagnosed with BPD but this resonates with me.
I feel like your personality is very much Like myself.
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It's ovewhealming but also amazing to find out. I'm still learning 10 years after being diagnosed.
It certainly is😅
I think identifying who you are and if and where you sit on the spectrum (not a linear spectrum but bring fog has me right now for the right term), is fantastic. I can only see positives. It helps you navigate the world around you, can give you techniques and help those around you also understand.
We all see the world through our eyes and mind, and so to us what we experience is our 'normal' and sometimes that is different to others or what society deems 'normal'.
Amusingly my Dad used to test and identify kids with autism and other aspects. But not me. And I think so much more is known now and it's so much better understood. Someday I'll venture into assessment for myself, but one thing at a time 🤣
Having seen thousand of videos on this topic, including yours, very interesting, I am of opinion that Autisam has many mental disorders within.
I would say that mostly they are reasonably mild and not it necessarily always but more often then not they are there.
I am looking forward for the more research and more firm conclusions profesionak workd make.
Sure, we will feel more acepted and relieved by understanding our differences.
I am 57 and as early as the age if 5-6 I have luved with feeling that I was different. And I knew my parents was different from majority yet we lived like most of tge people around us. But I had that feeling and there was no explanation for our differences. Just that feeling that you don't fit no matter how hard you try.
The years of psychotherapy never brought the right answer.... Until story of HUGH FUNCTIONING AUTISAM spread over internet.
That HIT HOME like nothing before.
I found myself in HDHD, in OCD, in EATING DISORDER, BORDERLINE, I have some fobias, I can cry for no normal reason, I am emphatic..... but AUTISAM describes me the best.
At my age of 57 I lost many many many years of not understanding myself but this LABEL, or diagnoses, or GREAT DISCOVERY is welcome to new generations.
My daughter, that I did my best not to scrue up emotionally (I thougt I was!) turned out to be the same as I am.
It tells you one thing for sure. Autisam is physiological not psychological condition.
Thank you so much for sharing🥰
I am so happy that you are happy!!!!
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I am so thankful for all the ND women videos on TikTok and RUclips. I was just diagnosed adhd this year and have autistic traits. They certainly overlap in the middle at least. Are you also hyper mobile? That’s another deep dive to follow.
I was indeed diagnosed with hyper mobility.. a lot of things are coming together for me right now. So many things are related
Hi Nikki, I think you are ace! Thanks for the video 💚🐝 xx
Aww shucks
Hoi Nikki, wat fijn om jouw filmpjes over autisme te bekijken. Ik zou je Vera Helleman willen aanraden. Zij beschouwd autisme op een positieve manier die heel kloppend voor mij voelt. Erg anders dan de oude kijk....ik heb je filmpje nog niet helemaal gezien, misschien noem je haar nog wel realiseer ik me. Ik zelf kwam enkele jaren terug erachter dat ik autisme heb door het lezen van de roman ' Zondagskind' van Judith Visser, wat was dat bijzonder om de herkenning te ervaren tijdens het lezen. En erg emotioneel. Ook daarna nog. Heb ook een blijdschap en rouw gevoel omdat er zoveel op zijn plek viel en bepaalde dingen waarschijnlijk altijd moeilijk zullen blijven voor mij. Ik ga nu weer door een rouwfase.
Dank je wel voor de tip!💚
I so appreciate this video! I am in the discoverer phase but feeling like so many things finally make sense. ❤❤❤
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Hello!
I introduce myself as a weirdo too, I am what I am! In the end, EVERYTHING has good and bad, so it doesn't really matter, right?
I watched a documentary and stuff about Autism, because my brother is, since he was a baby... he has those typical eyes that brand him. He was told, it couldn't do and yet: he learned to drive, he bought a flat very young. The boy that was expected to be in need of care all his life, took care of my mum on his own for a year, while working. The most amazing thing, he's that he's living on his own for over a year now!!! HE SAID HE COULDN'T, I told him: you might not have a choice... Personally , I think that if he wasn't put into that box, he would have been better for him, it weighted him down. IF i'M TOLD i CAN'T DO SOMETHING AND i BELIEVE IT, HOW MANY CHANCES i HAVE THAT I'LL ever ACHIEVE THAT?
On that documentary, I've learned many things, including that Sheldon Cooper is autistic🙃. The being wired differently, definitely sound right for me as well and I probably will look up the videos that you linked. I wanted to be autistic, to show everybody that the intelligent one is just like her brother, that "normal" is just an expression and that a ROSE IS A ROSE WHATEVER YOU CALL IT. Once, I'm happy with myself, I accept what i am and it is as it is, does it matter anything/anyone else?
So it's interesting you bring this up. I think you are only two years older than me...I don't know about when you were a kid, but when I was a kid living on the south side of Chicago with my family, I mean, parents didn't take kids to psychologists or psychiatrists...That was considered a very bad thing. I wish my parents did, and I haven't gone to see a doctor yet myself, but I'm guessing I'm on the spectrum, not only because of how much I've read up on this stuff, but we have a lot of it present in my dad's side of the family. I will eventually go see a doctor myself to see if it's true or not.
I don’t think it was even a know thing when I grew up. And even if it was, a lot of my quirks were filed away under ptsd. Looking back I can definitely see the autism weave through that
I noticed I genuinly relate to other neurodivergents because I am one as well, most of my closest friends are on the spectrum and I always felt like a freak amongst 'normal' neurotypical people, but when I was younger it never accured to me and also noone really talked about it(and now have a feeling my mom have some sort of thing as well, thats why she never picked up on that, because to her there was nothing weird with me). Later in my 30s when my colleague who was openly autistic told me he thinks I am autistic as well I was sceptical because I was at that point I was convinced I have BPD, but getting a proper diagnosis living as an immigrant in UK is almost impossible, so it took me few years and lots of online research and talking to friends and therapy until I realized the fact that I can't put myself in one box is probably because I have both ADHD and ASD,( there is actually so many similar traits in ADHD and BPD so it is even more confusing) which suddenly made sense of eveything. Still though trying to get an official confirmation of ADHD,but I am quit sure at this point...and now I forgot the whole point that I was trying to make :D and overshared all my shit :D :D anyway, do you also have to speed up the youtube videos of others because everyone talks too slow and you just don't have any patience?
Thank you so much for sharing!
Yeah, over sharing and forgetting what you were talking about before is very well known🤣
Fun fact.. I actually speed up my own videos by 2% in my editing software🤣 if I don’t I feel like I’m talking in slow motion🙈
@@NikkiRaven same, feel like it's more engaging for the audience, though I should probably speed myself like 20% to make myself not boring 🤣
Thank you for Sharing your inner thoughts and Talk about this openly and freely. I guess my Brother in law is on the spectrum and it often makes me uncomfortable how He behaves around me and my Kids. But im SURE, that this doesnt have anything to do with him being on the spectrum
There are bad people everywhere. That someone is on the spectrum doesn’t automatically makes them a good person😘
A friend of mine is on the spectrum and has ADHS. She always tells us that this mixture helps her, because they regulate (to a point of course) themselves.
My teen son was diagnosed last year by a Neurologist. I see a Neurologist soon for other reasons however I believe I’m on the spectrum as well and hope to be evaluated/tested like my son.
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I’ve watched one video and i already love you ❤
OMG I watched the 16 signs video and I exhibit 15 of these. I've always been different and like you embraced my weirdness. I think it is a definite probability that i am on the spectrum. I have spent the past 65 years wondering what was my problem, why am I different than everyone else. I will be exploring this much more in the future.
Enjoy the research!🥰
@@NikkiRaven thank you so much for your video!!!
Welcome to the Spectrum Family. I'm spectrum, my son, and his 3 kids are specturm. My youngest grand is limited verbal at 11 years old. With all the rest of us on spectrum we at least get him. I hyperfocus, have some of the ADHD traits (if someone or something breaks the hyperfocus I'm confused then can't get my head settled back into it - too much distraction).
Ah yes, the lovely hyper focus…I know her well🤣
Love the peachy hair vibes!
Me too!
I had always thought i was just having anxiety. But same i went down a rabbit hole including the 16 traits and i fit so many. I took several online tests all came up that i should get tested. I will send you some of my favourite peeps too!
Some folks i watch: Chloe Hayden,
Hunter Hansen the life autistic,
Paige Layle
I’m so proud of you 🥹 and you look beautiful 🙏
Thanks so much hon🥰
i pass test for hp spectrum and i was general type of .. but not for the iq. i have 130 in two field and a little less in the other two. but i dont think i m hp .. i speak a lot with a friend who say that maybe... i m autistic. so i m happy to watch the six video you 've made.. surely it will help me to see if ....maybe i am too..oh and i self diagnose adhd too.. lol..
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NIkki this is a fascinating video, there is a thing I don't understand, you self diagnose first and then got verified by a doctor?
For my ADHD diagnoses, yes..
Hey Nikki, just came across this video of yours. Thank you so much for being open ❤ I know a lot has changed in your life by now. But if you still want to make a video about ADHD and Autism, could you please share what you think about this trend that a lot of people claim to have some ADHD or Autism for online attention? I was recently diagnosed with ADHD (I live in the NL too, so you can imagine, it was a long process 😂). And just as I started researching about it, I came across a lot of videos of people doing normal stuff like cooking or watching TV and calling it "hyperfocus mode". Or people saying that they have ADHD simply because they are not interested in studying at uni. It made me quite furious tbh. It's apparently "cool" to be a neurodivergent now. But it's not always cool living with it... What do you think about it? Where is this line for you between fighting a stigma and following a trend? Have you also encountered strange content like this on social media?
Hi hon, I don’t watch a lot of ADHD type content but unfortunately there will always be people who say that they have something because they think it looks cool.
For me adhd feels,like a spectrum (as it is with autism). People struggle with different things or learn to live in a way that they can manage what they struggle with. There also seem to be different levels in how much they struggle.
Both TV and reading can be a hyperfocus for me, depending on what I’m watching or reading, however I can also zone out when I’m watching tv (or reading) depending on how much stimuli I have had during the day.
I got my adhd diagnosis pretty late in life (in my 30s), so I already had my own ways of coping that are (aparently) not the norm🤣
Well, that's a very good point though. Indeed, there is a spectrum, and I've forgotten that ADHD can feel very different depending on a person. Although there will always be people who pretend like they have something. If you ever have time, could you share the strategies you use to cope with it? I'm in my 20s but it still feels so sad that I didn't know about ADHD when I struggled in my childhood and teenage years. So now I'm trying to get all the wisdom and tips from other people 🙏🏻
I do have ADHD and I've been awaiting someone to look over the official ASD questionnaire I took back in December just before my consultant psychiatrist retired. So still waiting to find out about that and then I have probably a few years of waiting to get seen by the assessors in the NHS
Also, I joined the Patreon but I don't think it shows my RUclips name and I'm not sure how to use Patreon lol
It’s ridiculous how long those assessments take🙄
My mother didn't find out she was autistic until she was in her late 50s - it's interesting how vastly undiagnosed autism is in women because of how differently it presents.
I'm a scientist and I feel compelled to warn people about self diagnosis, but that doesn't mean I'm against doing research and looking for answers. I know diagnoses are not always easy or accessible from medical professionals and a lot are hesitant to give them. What I will say is that if a self diagnosis helps anyone genuinely feel heard, understood, and brings that person relief and understanding of themselves, then it's a positive. Just be careful if anyone is self diagnosing which leads to negative thoughts and self judgement - in those cases, please seek external help from a professional. Sometimes it can be a huge weight lifted for ourselves just to have an explanation of why we feel the way we do. It's quite healing and to that I say congrats on your journey of self discovery. Stay weird 🖤🦇
I hear what you are saying and I am aware off the possibility of adding traits that aren’t yours because other people on the spectrum have them. It happened to my bestie when she got her diagnoses.
I’ve always felt an outsider & odd, a unique freak 😅. I think I’ll go & take those tests! Thank you for your honesty 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
My freaky likes your freaky😎
O lord. Firstly, I LOVE you. Secondly, see a doctor. Please. Because I love you, think about posting again about this subject matter until you do. It is so troubling on so many levels. I would be happy to explain why I believe this if you would like, but I’m sure the reasons are fairly obvious. Also, it’s not a way you look! Really? Self-diagnoses is DANGEROUS! I’m happy that you found a group of people that make you feel good . That’s always a positive. People diagnosed with mental illnesses are the most loving, caring people on earth. Just please take a second and think about posting and promoting this way of diagnosis.
Im not promoting self diagnoses, but I do think that a lot of us self diagnose first and then either seek a professional diagnoses or not. I don’t know if I need one for myself because I know without a shadow of a doubt that I am on the spectrum. But I’m not ruling a professional diagnoses out.💚
Awwwwh, I love you! I wish you were my best friend- I mean I kinda aready think you are 😁. I'm on the spectrum and we are all so different. One my three children are on the spectrum and she's so different than me- but also like me. 🤣
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I found after I joined the Neurodiversity groups at work. I have been diagnosed with adhd, but most ND people at work appeared to be autistic. I went to the autism meetings, read the literature on their website, and went... Oh, alarm bells. They also posted the Dr Hendricks video about atypical autism and i watched that and the bells were clanging very very loudly. I haven't gone for a diagnosis because the waiting list is 2 or 3 years in my area (we have a specialist adult adhd/aspergers team and they take a lot of referrals from out of area), and there's no real treatment, St least for adhd there are helpful meds. Anyway, I'm still trying to work things out
Ha ha also, someone at work called me weird, a few weeks back, and someone halfway down the office yelled 'mate, she OWNS weird!' 😂😂😂😂. If you haven't seen, would recommend the atypical autism video
We indeed own our weirdness🤣
Btw. I have found that Ritalin (I have one that is time released) helps with my ASD too. It kind of blocks the ehm..stimuly🤷♀️ so that I can still go to big social events and be able to drive back In one piece🤣
When I went searching, I found that Ritalin (or medikinet in my case) is / can being prescribed for autism as well
Good to know. I have Xenidate extended release but I've been off it a while for various reasons and need a medical before I go back on it, but yes, it did help a lot
I only use mine if I have to drive a long time or have to drive back from an event☺️
Although I’m not autistic but I have other labels behind my name. Welcome to the being different club!
I'm autistic too! though I was diagnosed as a child (never got any accommodations or understanding from my parents unfortunately, just a diagnosis, but at least that's better than nothing)
it's probably because I have selective mutism, though, so it was pretty obvious in comparison to most people's presentations- I wouldn't speak to anyone except my parents 😅
I've always felt like you were easy to understand in a way I couldn't place & maybe it's bc our brains work the same!
Thank you🥰🥰
Welcome to the club. Aren't we great? 😃
Yes we are!
Before I forget it happened I had a dream about you. I was on vacation with my family at some random beach. And you stayed at the same hotel as me and each hotel room had an ocean view with a big shared balcony for everyone that they could access through their individual rooms. You took a spot outside near where we were so I fangirled to myself, fixed up a plate of chocolates from room service to give you (turns out you had your own) , and grabbed a palette you collaborated with an indie brand (Either Oden's Eye, Menagerie, or Nomad) . I was going to ask if you would autograph it. Then I grabbed some palettes I just bought so we could talk about makeup and my haul lol. I had just sat down to talk to you and then I woke up lol. The takeaway here? You have a collab coming 😆
That sounds like an awesome vacation!😍
Search for Sarah Hendrickx on RUclips, she did a seminar that I thought could have been based on me! She's written a book too.
I think I have seen some of her videos and if I am not mistaken, she was also a guest on the Uniquely Human Podcast that I listen too
Radical acceptance. It heals.
So proud of you 😘😘😘
Same!M