How Should I Respond to Someone That Asks The Same Question Over and Over?
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- Опубликовано: 4 май 2024
- 0:00 Introduction
0:42 GEMS State Model
29:08 Redirecting Tunnel Vision in Diamonds
50:17 Reflecting Emotion and Intensity in Emeralds
1:18:47 Supporting Repetition with Emotional Distress
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I wish that your videos were required education for family members when they need to check loved ones into an institution. You have helped me tremendously as I interact with my best friend who is suffering with dementia. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Hi, @dianebishop4560, so glad that you have been hepled in your interactions with your best friend. It would be wonderful if we could get others to want to watch our videos and try to think about their approach. While we can't make it a requirment at this time, we can ask folks like you to share it with others. Please consider subscribing to our channel (ruclips.net/channel/UCSXrEX7LkWOmfTaV6u1C7wQ) to get notifications of new videos and to pass them on to others or refer them to our site www.teepasnow.com for help. Thanks for watching and commenting!
This was so helpful and so terrifying (for me) at the same time. I feel like I'm both people...forgetting words while I talk and trying not to be frustrated and also trying to be as gentle as Alejandro to the person with whom I don't seem to be able to have satisfying conversations anymore. Thank you for trying to teach us these things. I only wish I had watched this years ago and had learned how to properly interact with my poor mom.
Hi, @susie5254, so glad to hear that you found it helpful and if you are terrified, please reach out to our team to talk. Even though you didn't find before, you've found us now and maybe we can help you feel better about your communication and connections. Check out our Champion Courses (teepasnow.com/resources/for-professionals/#knowledge) if you want to learn how to use these techniques, or visit the website (www.teepasnow.com for even more information).
I’m caring for a wonderful lady & I so enjoy time with her. We have the same conversation(s) every day. She intro’s her dog to me & tells me about her. We talk about her family & she asks me about my family, where I live... She intro’s some of hers. Occasionally, she remembers something from before.
I wish she were suddenly healed, for her, but I love her as she is. She is someone from my local church who did help raise me. That’s the way I think of all of our clients. They were there & helped raise us. Maybe that particular person wasn’t in my life, but in general these people/this generation are the ones that raised us all, taught us what was right & wrong & loved us despite all our failings.
I realize that didn’t happen for everyone & it makes my heart hurt when I hear those stories, but we must keep going & keep loving them the way they should’ve loved their children, because that’s what God wants us to do.
🙏🏼🎶🎉💫😇🙏🏼🇺🇸
I get the "timeout!" Thank you.
When she feels trapped without words. Yes!
I see that you understand more now, @kimberlyasborno1250!
Very great video I love all of your videos very educational
As if one could not get better this one is on the list as most excellent. I appreciate the level of engagement of this webinar. Providing examples, role play and questions are effective learning strategies. I can go from this webinar to my mom with “what to do when she asks the same question or comments over and over”. I wish, PCP, neurologist, Alzheimer’s groups, and memory care living communities could work as a team with caregivers and family members on a timeline. Thank you to all involved.
Wow, thanks, @michaele-lynnjackson7839! So glad to know that you can take things from this webinar and use it immediately with your mom. Good job on beingwilling to try what you learned here. If you would like some help on forming a team of all of those involved, please reach out to us at consult@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671 for a free 30-minute session. We help people create teams all the time.
Thank you, this is a very helpful video to help our aging loved ones needs be met❤
Glad that you find it helpful, @dianneleon2522!
My mother in law was diagnosed 3 years ago and unfortunately it became too unsafe for her to stay at home by herself. We moved her into a wonderful group home earlier this year and I visit her almost every day. I felt so lost as I navigated through some of the very same scenarios in this webinar. I was introduced to these videos from my boss actually, and they have provided my wife and with invaluable information. Thank you Teepa. You have a new subscriber.
Hi, @mirkrovi! We are so happy that you have found invaluable information here and thanks for subscribing. If you ever want to talk about things, please reach out to one of our consultants (consult@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671). We offer a free 30-minute session.
I thank God for your videos. Im learning so much. Our mommy has just been diagnosed with advanced vascular dementia. We had to get her to a rest home on Tuesday. Everything is so raw still. We see through your videos that this shadow has been with us for years😭
God bless you. You are giving us a real picture of our mommy's reality 😢
Hi, @inhisways7298, I hope that the move hasn't been too hard for all of you so far. We are glad that you are learning from our videos. You may also want to check out www.teepasnow.com or contact us at consult@teepasnow.com for a free 30-minute session with one of our team to help you discover next steps.
@@teepasnowvideos thank you so much I will definitely make contact!
God bless!
Thank you for the helpful suggestions on how to best work with a love one when they are in asking the same question. I truly appreciate the role play examples.
This is an awesome training. The group pictures that pop in and out are a bit distracting.
At the time frame of approximately 1 hour in, Teepa's explanation of how/why to get the individual's attention by saying their name is beautiful! I think it simplifies how they feel wonderfully. Thank you for your dedication of being an avenue for us on the other side to understand and relate in a human way to those who have locked-down communication❤
Thanks, @csaunders80723! We are glad that you found this training to be awesome. We're sorry that there was some distraction of the group pictures. We will try to do better in the future.
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊 @DianaRojas-hn3xh!
This is so educational for so many individuals. I wish the Home Health Care were able to have you educate them.
Hi, @cindyjohnson4378, we are trying to work with Home Health Care too. If you have any ideas of how we can reach those in your local area, please contact us at info@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671. We offer many education methods for them. Here's a link to more information too (teepasnow.com/dementia-education-for-organizations-overview/)
I can't really do so officially, but I recommend y'all every time I get a chance to our CNA students and home care aides.
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Teepa was giving a seminar locally, Greenville, SC. The agency I worked for encouraged and allowed time off for a few of us to attend. What a blessing! YT videos and Webinars have been invaluable to me! 1:44:12
Thanks Teepa, PAC Team, etc!
The Diamond into Emerald state scenario was an eye opener & really helpful for me.
I love the format-Scenario/Pause/ Review.(I know it's always done this way, it's just different...or is it me??😲🤗🦋
Hi, @karencreekmore889 (Creeky)! So glad that you found the diamond into ermerald state scenario so eyeopening. Love that you are continuing to watch and learn!
I’m going to have dementia before long just trying to figure out all of this. 😅
I’m in over my head.
Hey, @owlsomevintage2230, I'm sorry that you feel like you are in over your head. Please know that our team is here to help. Please contact consult@teepasnow.com or call us at 1-877-877-1671 for a free 30-minute session.
I've been binge watching your videos in hopes that we can help our mom. I wish someone had been able to teach these things when I was a CNA at several nursing homes years ago.
Mom keeps mentioning both that she doesn't understand why she's so tired all the time & that she knows she has memory problems but doesn't understand why??
Should we remind her that she has dementia, when it's going to upset her, try to change the subject, or what???😢
Thanks again Teepa & your great crew; you are all great!!!❤
Hi, @tandiparent1906! Thanks for binge watching our videos and we're glad that are wanting to learn more about how to help your mom. Can I ask what good would it do to remind her that she has dementia? If you think the answer is no, then I wonder what would happen if you just went along with her in whatever she's talking about and then try to ask question or find another thing to do or try. I also wonder if you would be interested in chatting with someone about this and other situations. We offer a free 30-minute consultation with a member of our team. Please contact us at 877-877-1671 or consult@teepasnow.com.
What would come after “Ooo, hey Teepa”?
I have watched a lot of your videos, but for some reason I’m still perplexed what I would say in this specific situation. As always, I learned A LOT from this video. Thank you!!!!!!
Good question @jkramer8468! I hate to say, "it depends" What we say next depends on where we are, how well we know Teepa, what we think she might want to try. This technique of "Ooo, hey Teepa" is a way for both of us to pause and respond instead of reacting so that we can have a better interaction. If you are dealing with something like this in your life, please reach out to our consulting team to practice with you. Consult@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671
Persistent
Yes, @maryellenbrown4187, persistence is a part of this care partnering journey for both people. Thanks for commenting.
Normally love your videos. The information is always good. This one is difficult to watch due to the zoom type environment.
Hi, @cindyenglish9845. I'm sorry that this one was difficult for you to watch. We appreciate that you are continuing to watch though.
I wish your videos were a requirement for all staff working with dementia patients.
Hi, @citysurvivor4919, thank you for the endorsement. We would like everyone work with someone living with dementia to get our training too. We are working with organizations to insure that required hours of dementia training come from our curriculum, but it is a difficult task as every state and type of agency has difference requirements. We will continue to work in this area and if you know of any ways to help influence those discussions, please share with us at info@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671.
My mother in law is between a diamond and an emerald. She has help in the home from 5-8 every night. We don't live with her.
If we happen to go there at that time she keeps saying "that girl is here for 3 hours,that's too long, we don't need somebody (it's supposed to really be for her husband (who is 95, she is 86) for that long...what does she do anyway,she just sits there." This is not true, she helps to get dinner,she gives him a shower(,she takes care of her personal care fine right now). She doesn't remember this and she was the type anyway to not want people in the house she doesn't know. She gets really fiesty about this and gets increasingly upset....HOW do we calm her down and make her see this CNA is so nice and helpful?
Also the fact that she wants to go home etc...won't she forget all about the letter the next day and you'd have to tell her all over gain?
Hi, @loribecchi8819! It sounds like you are looking for some stratgies to better communicate with your mother-in-law. It can be so difficult for someone else to see your truth when they don't remember it that way. I'm wondering if it might be helpful to talk with one of our consultants (we offer a free 30-minute session) and so some role-playing with you to determine the best way forward. Please reach out to us at consult@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671. You may also want to check out this video (shop.teepasnow.com/product/gems-emerald-distress/)
Going to talk about the painting again and again
Hi, @maryellenbrown4187. Thanks for commenting.
Teepa
I’m mom neurologist said she’s in the last stages of Alzheimer’s. How does the doctor know their in the final stage of Alzheimer’s) what a the time line of Alzheimer’s and what testing should her neurologist be doing to help s out as care givers. I feel my moms doctor should not be telling us consider memory care no to explanation why. Please help me
Thank you
Hi, @kathitorowright7602, thanks for asking your question. It is very difficult to figure out where a person might be in the disease process, but if you would like to talk with someone to help you explore things and discuss possible questions to ask the doctor, please contact our consultants at consult@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671. We are here to help you figure things out!
Do I just keep saying I'm sorry that happened when my gal brings up off-the-wall memories?
@kimberlyasborno1250, acknowledging the feeling might be a good thing to keep saying and then redirect her to something else if possible.
I think that's great in a controlled environment but what if you need to go out of state for a funeral of a family member of which you already made arrangements and she says she's not going because God told her not too?
Wow, that sounds like a difficult situation @goddesignd. It must have been very upsetting to you that you worked hard to make plans and now she doesn't want to it. We know that happens often. I wonder if you asked her more about what God said would you find that maybe she worried or afraid or can't handle a funeral or being with other people right now. If you would like to discuss this in more detail, one of our consultants would be happy to talk. Please reach out to us at consult@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671.
Thank you. I'll give you guys a call. Thank you for being here.
Why can' t we tell them why they are there?
Hi, @MJLR2410, thanks for the question. Let me ask you one - how would you feel if you believe something and then someone tells you that you are wrong? Would that cause you to be upset or something else? Maybe instead of telling them where they are, we be curious and try to figure out where they think they are and why. What's the emotional or physical need behind their question. If you'd like to talk about this some more, please reach out to us at consult@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671.
My gal keeps repeating stories that according to her son, are not true. Emotional memories.
For example, her deceased husband's affair. And the abusive nuns at the Catholic school. How her Mother mistreated her.
Having trouble reading between the lines so I can redirect the conversation because she is way off-base( from the truth). I don't want to encourage her crazy & mistaken memories.
Hi, @kimberlyasborno1250, I don't have a specific answer for you, but I do have a number of questions. What is happening before these topics come up? Are you watching something? Is someone doing something that might make her uncomfortable? What might be an unmet need that is bringing up these ideas?
If you'd like to talk this issue through in more detail, please reach out to us at consult@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671 for a free 30-minute session.
Oh boy. The dislike. Thats when i leave.
Yes, @kimberlyasborno1250, the dislike might be a good time to leave (or at least step out for a few moments to reset your own feelings).
26:28 I take care of Mom with my sister she has alz moderate is the level the geriatric doctor said she’s at , we are looking at assisted living ( the guilt and the $$ cost ) how do you deal with those feelings?
I guess I want to correct my gal because she brings up terrible memories that just aren't true.
Hi, @kimberlyasborno1250, please see my earlier response.
This is all fine, but the reality is it's all repetitive, they forget within 5 minutes.😢
Hi, @JayeMariotti-im5dp, yes is it repetitive and so hard. We can just keep trying to stay connected and help them, right? Thanks for watching and sharing.
My mom forgets within 30 seconds. When she gets fixated on something, redirects or changing the environment does not help.
Thanks ❤🦚