Society puts far too much importance on sex! Do it, don't do it it truly is all up to the individual & nobody else. We've got to stop making such a huge deal over nothing, especially the very 1st time. THAT is usually award af the 1st time. Seriously just imagine if we treated _any_ other physical activity like we do sex. Ie: Did you hear? Jimmy & Susan have never ever jumped rope before?! You mean they've _never_ jumped rope together or ever? Jenny has been jumping rope since she was 16?! She's _such_ a good jumper, a real professional. I hear she enters to do it in competitions & has won money for her skills! 😂😂😂😂
I'm 47, and a virgin. I have zero problems telling people or talking about it. No balls involved because it shouldn't be an issue that's maligned as much as it apparently is in society.
@@RYZNBand Indeed. When you are a teenager or in your 20s hormones alone make it a huge deal breaker for many. And yeah, I get it, sex is a huge thing for people these days for various reasons. But once you get past a certain age (and not just being a virgin mind you) it's just not that big a deal anymore. Though I assume it's still awesome if you have sex lol
The balls on this man to speak out and try to comfort others who may be feeling a certain way about their own situations. This is brave. Kudos, sir. Mad respect. 🤘
The ironic thing about this situation is that this guy will make an absolutely fantastic husband and father. He will be totally committed and dedicated to his wife and any children. When he says "till death do us part", you know that he will totally mean it. A really good man and I hope he finds the woman of his dreams before it is too late.
Dude, he's a virgin at 44. He has no social skills and no experience with dealing with women. Plus, he's probably got a lot of anger and frustration inside of him. Not to mention non-existent self-esteem in terms of being a lover or a partner. For now, he would have been a terrible husband.
@@pab1972Stop infering stupid things like that. God knows what kind of father/husband he'd be... And when it comes to being a good lover, it doesn't require much skill or experience, we all know it. He's attractive enough, it is therefore just a matter of luck and openess to other people's desires...
@@Keeptheirheadzringin You know whats really stupid? Your wishful thinking. I pointed out what may pop up once he gets into a relationship. He doesn't know what he likes. He doesn't know how it feels to share space with a spouse. His social skills and ability to communicate with someone close are one big question. You won't be a good lover/partner without it. He's gonna have to learn, and it may be difficult because people develop those skills when they're teens or in their early twenties. I'm not saying its impossible for him to turn his life around. It wont be easy, though.
Love his answer to "Have you ever watched porn?". Seems like a thoroughly decent, interesting, intelligent gentleman with a great sense of humour. Good for him.
He is very self aware, honest, and respectful. He claims to struggle with confidence, but I think he more confident than the average person. I hope that he finds the love that he has been waiting for.
I’m 55 and have never shared a genuine romantic moment with another living soul. Have never even kissed a girl, much less had sex. It is profoundly embarrassing. Honestly, once I turned 40, I kind of knew it wasn’t going to happen. I hate it and would really have loved being involved with someone but I am blessed in other areas of my life and try to focus on the good things. The worst is when people put me on the spot and ask specific questions about being single that I don’t want to answer. Doesn’t happen often but it will occasionally.
That's one of the greatests issues indeed, virgininity itself is not a big deal for most people (unless you are a sex addict or something like that). One could live their entire life without ever having sex and don't give a damn about it (me included). Honestly I had sex for the first time at 28 yo and it wasn't a big deal at all. The big problem is the social and psychological stigma that comes with it, society and your subconsciousness will judge you for being a virgin. We shouldn't let others (society) make us feel bad...
Another angry reminder that cases like this are male dominated and it should be obvious and that is because due to how nature and reality dictates that men have to do the pursuing and be the ones to actively seek the woman out
@@ElCazador66 I think the real issue is we forgot how to be silly, to embrasse ridicule, and to accept our failures. Shame is a state that you and only you can inflict upon yourself. We live in an egocentric society, people are afraid their ego could be hurt, and they're even more afraid to hurt someone else's ego. It's a vicious circle. @a32tl The reasons you're still a virgin are either tragic or laughable; and mostly likely both... "I am blessed in other areas of my life and try to focus on the good things" Look at you, trying to protect your little ego at your own expense, focusing on your successes to hide your failures from yourself... Go talk to women, ask them out, do it wrong, be awkward, get rejected most of the time, get your ego crushed, laugh about it and be happier.
@@europeansovietunion7372 "Shame is a state that you and only you can inflict upon yourself", then you state "The reasons you're still a virgin are either tragic or laughable; and mostly likely both...". I will skip over the personal attacks in the rest of the comment.. My brother, this is some peak irony. Couldn't make this shit up. This is exactly why people don't feel comfortable talking about this stuff. You will always have this lovable individual making these out of pocket comments and patronizing blanket advice. Honestly it's disgusting. Who are you to talk to strangers like that? Do you even have a successful and long-lasting marriage before coming at people like that ? Actually, scratch that. I wouldn't even entertain the idea that anyone could put up with this kind of bullshit for any amount of time.
Being lovely and genuine doesn't help it when you are shy, inexperienced and lack persistence. Most women don't openly express their affection and expect men to figure it out and take action. But this requires certain degree of courage and experience from man. So when the man is shy and inexperienced, it's easy to start acting creepy and thus quickly become repulsive to a woman (most people learn these things during their teen years, so one is expected to know all this when being an adult, which is not the case when one is an old virgin). And the more he gets rejected, the more he is negatively reinforced to avoid taking any action, including just showing affection. Also, the fact that woman's way of showing affection is usually indistinguishable from "just trying to be nice" doesn't make it easier. I am a 40 year old virgin myself, and I also heard similar things quite a few times (while I was still living in my country, where asking personal questions is more common than in the west).
People like this have always existed but modern society with its over-emphasis on "equality" and false belief that "technology will solve all our problems" has ironically exacerbated the problem.
Respect. More proud masculinty in this video than any sports jock on TV. Being a virgin is not necessarily something to be proud or ashamed of however conducting yourself as Stephen has, being the person that Stephen is is comendable beyond words.
Im female but was a virgin until i was 27. I was so stressed about people judging me and feeling stigmatised - even from my parents!! Its horrible the stigma. Being virgin regardless of age should be normalised rather than stigmatised
yup, it's gone full circle, when I "came out" to my mother that I don't have casual s3x she went on how it's "not natural", like what neolibs think conservative parents are like
Idk how your getting shamed for being a virgin is it mostly done by women or men that trying hook up with you? I’m asking because the stigma is dif for men and women
What a nice bloke. I hope he finds the woman he deserves. Going on the telly and speaking up shows immense character. I also liked the way he spoke about women, not an ounce of misogyny in him. That's a really good quality.
I think it's sad they felt it necessary to ask him his opinion on women because the assumption is that he'd be misogynistic be default since he's a virgin.
Maybe a little misogyny would not hurt tho? Like lets not pretend women are some perfect creatures without a flaw please its BS and you know it. Knowing that might help with confidence just trying to get some for self satisfaction instead of thinking in idealistic terms.
Shyness is crippling especially when coupled with anxiety, respect to him for speaking about this so openly in a society that can treat someone like a criminal for not having had sex!
I don't know how that will continue when the younger generation (at least from stats) are anxiety ridden and vast majority of guys are virgins apparently (think this is 18-24 if I remember stat properly).
35 and in the same situation as Stephen. Dealing with this is not easy. This shit can lower your self worth and self esteem. They become worse if you try to find someone so many times but still fail. But you have no choice but to keep on trying, cope and try to find fulfillment in other aspects of life.
I can share with you that sleeping around doesn't make you happy either. I'm 33, lost my virginity at 19. Had a few girlfriends but they always broke my heart in some way or lied to me. Losing your virginity does give you confidence but it's not the be all end all.
When he said he’s kissed and cuddled I died a little inside. I’m 32 and never kissed or have had any sort of affection experience. I kind of hoped I could relate but even this man has had a little window into what it feels like to be wanted. But good for him!
If you want to hear a funny story, I only ever had one girlfriend. The furthest we ever got was holding hands. She said something like “your hands are so cold!” 💀 Then summer ended and we went back to different colleges and broke up before Christmas break. And that was 6 years ago 💀 I’ve got time though 😅
Some aspects of this get easier as you get older in my experience. And it's simply by virtue of everyone involved being older. So, you can leverage that just as long as you don't let your nerves sabotage you. And there's no law against telling your partner that you are a virgin if doing that helps your nerves.
@@Gino_567 I'm saying he might look "happy" outside but you never know if he's truly happy. Relationships and sex are two of the biggest things that fulfill us after all. Also define "happy". You might look happy outside but be suicidal inside.
I've had plenty of one-night-stands (currently 29) and have been in a couple of brief relationships, but I've never felt truly loved by a partner. It eats away at me. Sex is great, but it means fuck-all when you don't share that experience with someone you love.
This guy deserves to find love and finally pop his cherry with the right lady. He's interesting, funny, charismatic, and best of all thoroughly decent. Being a virgin is the least interesting or significant thing about him, it really doesn't matter. Good luck Stephen, i hope you find the woman of your dreams very soon 😊
@@longjonwhite I think they'd asked him for an example of the sort of women he likes. There's no point him saying Sandra from down the road as nobody would know who he meant! He's got good taste, Darcy Bussell is bloody lovely 😍
I am quite taken aback by this video. This man has made me feel a bit better about my situation, and he is incredibly gutsy. He and I are pretty much the same, except I am 36, don't have many people in my life, and am generally lonely. It is not easy living in modern society, where human connection is sparse and nowhere near valued as it was years past.
Respect to you Stephen for stepping up to talk about this; Your honesty is so important and much needed when it comes to the destigmatisation of this subject. I very much hope you find what you’re looking for, when it comes to your love life and in life in general. ❤🙏🏼😊
All signs indicate he is always "just being himself". He's shy he said. It's being himself that seems to be the issue & I in no way mean that to be derogatory. Shyness can be a real issue when trying to date.
@user-yc3mq2wm3v apps are a complete wasteland for women too, men aren't more hard done by. The messages we get are 99% foul. But yes, on apps they're all based on looks. We need more avenues for people to mix and mingle in person.
@@aussiejubes someone women like shy guys, I'm shy and my girlfriend is very energetic and an extrovert and we balance each other out, I really hope he finds someone like that
@@lovroleutar8511 he only needs to go bald and grow a beard, ditch the glasses, change clothes, a plus if he works out and puts on muscle, girls will follow. He has good voice tho, not high pitched like I thought. If he has worked to build something on himself, has savings etc. He will find a girl.
I was very scared of this happening to me at 23. I met the right woman who was patient with me and kind. Were coming up on 1 year, very grateful to her. It was so much easier than i thought it would be
This is often the case. People build things up too much in their heads. I see it all the time with seemingly trivial stuff in my day job. So when it comes to something like sex I can see why some people struggle so much with going there.
Bless his heart. Not bad looking, great sense of humor, has 2 successful businesses. He's a catch! I hope he gets Therapy and meets a Wonderful person he can Marry. 🙏🏾💜
He definitely needs therapy, he’s idealising the idea of the first moment, (which it’s usually s***) and I think he’s connecting it with “the ideal person” to such a point that nobody has matched his criteria in 44 years. He seems to be very nice btw
A woman who is a virgin in her 40s? How is that possible? Saving sex for marriage? Just asking because most Society will never expect something like this for women unless the woman is choosing to wait until marriage
@@nobodysperfect06 It’s much more common than you’d ever imagine. I’m a 34 yr old female virgin. I kissed a couple of guys at university, but other than that nothing. I’m not waiting for marriage or anything, it’s just never happened for me. It’s never really bothered me, and on the occasions when it has, I just think ‘ehh, it’s only hormones, just chemicals in my body.’
@@RA-wp6th Well nobody has ever been interested in me, other than the odd drunken kiss at uni, and I’ve always been too shy of rejection to tell those guys I’ve liked how I feel. I once bought a valentines card to send anonymously to a guy but chickened out in posting it!
@@amyhardwood most people and most of society don't expect cases like this for women and the reason why is because of how for all time men have always been expected to make the first move and ask the woman out and be the initiators
I actually see this man as quite confident and secure with himself, because most of the men that sleep around, or have sex with sex workers, are missing something inside themselves and need validation through that.
It doesn't really, lots of virgin men would have been open to taking LadBible's offer. It takes more balls to join the military or fight a fire as a firefighter.
@@ArranVid And you know that for a fact do you? I for one wouldn’t, as people I know would know that fact about me, and may be joking behind my back. Notice how you said “more balls”. So it does take some balls to come out and say you’re are a virgin at 44 years old?
Best of luck to Stephen for his future. Being a bit more then 10 years younger, but heading down the same path, I know how frustrating and mood destroying it can be. Especially since the older you get the less likely it feels to ever find someone. Not to mention all the years of lonelyness and lost time that you could've spent with that special someone.
Why the hell would it become less likely? People don't stop having sex/romantic interests after any given age. And, when it comes to love, "experience" isn't really a thing. You start from scratch everytime a story ends.
@@Keeptheirheadzringin "People don't stop having sex/romantic interests after any given age" Yes, the part you're not getting however is that doesn't mean you'll be desirable and you'll get less desirable as you get older So if you're already undesirable at a young age, well that only amplifies as you age
@@user-vx3wc8yc9v It depends, if the "issue" was linked to one's behaviour, as is often the case, then things can change quickly. Teenagers and people in their early twenties also tend to pay a lot of attention to what others might think of their partners (and therefore dismiss people not only when they don't like them, but also when they think that others won't). Past a certain age, they often forget about this crap, and focus on what's important to them personnaly. This leaves a wider range of possibilities, I think.
@@KeeptheirheadzringinPeople tend to become set in their ways as they get older. Especially if you're single for decades, everything in my life has revolved around ME, my house, car, whatever it is I've never done under the pretense of WE or US. Just me.
@alexcarter2461 Yes, that is very true. But not only virgins live that way, obviously, it is a way broader, and common phenomenon. Habits are about daily life, not dreams/emotions though. Living with someone else might be exhausting at first, and may not be recommended right away. But loving shouldn't be a problem, and not all forms of partnerships require more of your free time than friends or family member. Also, being somewhat self-sufficient is something that is appreciated in relationship!
I really loved his bit at the beginning addressing why he's a virgin. People like to paint the image that something must be hyperbolicly wrong if someone struggles to obtain intimate relationships (socially inept, massive poor hygiene, bigoted). Sometimes it's just as simple as being a little shy, which could place anyone of us into a situation like his.
@@joomping-rng Most people in relationships don't remotely meet the standards of attractiveness society sets for people because very few people who meet those standards actually exist.
@@heathernikki5734 Yes, he is, but that’s fine. It’s not a crime to be unattractive lol… come on, be honest. I can’t really address your first point here/now, sorry!
Amazing respect for coming out like this. I'm sure there are many people in the same boat who think they are alone. Shyness may seem cute or attractive bur trust me it is a curse and can make life very difficult and lonely at times. It's something you have to try and overcome every day just to get on in society. There is always someone out there for you, you just need a bit of luck finding them and it often happens when you're not even trying.
Dear Stephen, your confidence is high you went to LAD Stories & shared your story kind sir. As a 41 year old virgin who is a woman, I know the feelings you feel. But I've truly never wanted to get married or have kids & I am happy. Your sense of humor is brilliant!
Wishing you all the best mate! Fair play for talking about it, you’ve probably helped a lot of other people with this interview. You seem like a decent fella, hope your dreams come true!
I hope Stephen finds fulfilment in his life, whatever that looks like for him. I'm really happy for him that he is in a better place with confidence and mental health, and I hope that continues with or without a partner
There is not a single thing wrong with you, and I wish you nothing but the best in life! Your honesty and intentions are also very respectable to me for personal reasons. Thanks for taking part in this video!
I'm nearly 43 and still a virgin. Never been in a relationship or even kissed anyone lol. This used to bother me when i was younger but I've now accepted that it will never happen for me.
Never say never! I think try and find someone nice if possible even if it doesn’t work out in the end, then you’ll know if having a partner might be worth pursuing. I lived in Cornwall for a few years after a breakup and it was super easy to stay single if I didn’t socialise!
There’s a dude named Nick Notas who runs a website. Helped me a lot. You made the first step by being open. Authenticity is a looked after skill for women. There are men without limbs who get married. You seem honest, idk why you should let a life failure be permanent.
No one asked the guy in the video, so I’m curious whether you ever tried to meet someone or just don’t know how / too shy? It sounds like lately you’ve given up on it entirely, but was it different in the past?
I am a 42 year old man that is still a virgin. I have never kissed a woman, never anything and I have actually turned out fine. Society tells me I am messed up but in reality I am really alright. I was isolated after high school for some time and my generation abandoned me so here I am today as a 42 year old man that actually does not feel all that bad. Some day I would love to hug a beautiful woman but one day it could happen. My problem honestly is I don't even try due to confidence issues. I really need to work on it and I think the many other men and women that are stuck like this don't try either. I think we don't need to walk around holding such shame about ourselves and feeling like shit about it. I really don't think anyone cares and if you do meet somebody that you connect with then go for it but it really happen at any age. I do see lots of really scary women out there I am glad I never got involved with so it's a good thing.
Have been on dates before? I am a 23 year old guy living in Bangalore in India but born in Siliguri in West Bengal in India and never had a girlfriend and only been on 1 first date many months ago at the age of 22 and then a month later hanged out with my female friend, hugged only 2 girls in person and still never had my first kiss. I am studying MBA now and in my University too had crush on this girl for 7 months who is also 23 now but 5 months ago got crush on another prettier girl(sadly she wasn't into me either but she was the 2nd girl I hugged in person) in the same University so my previous crush stopped talking to me and I miss her. I had a summer break from University for 3 months and today finally new semester started for us and I literally initiated conversation with 3 girls in my University who are MBA students too and within 21-23 age range and I had a long enough conversation with one of them who too was comfortable enough to talk to me but idk about my chances as I look like a nerd in my glasses and she is really pretty too. But it was a big change and improvement for me as I had always been shy near girls and in my high school days I completely avoided talking with girls as I was bullied a lot in school and continued being shy further too in my undergrad and even in my MBA too few months ago, I was still shy to initiate conversation with girls and even though I could talk with my crushes, there was still some nervousness here and there but today I went out of my comfort zone and talked with not 1 not 2 but 3 girls. Thats only because I initiated conversation with 3 expat women in my city Bangalore and they were white Caucasian women (yes foreigners do come to Bangalore as expats as its one of the major metropolitan city of India and popular for its IT(tech). First one was a French woman with whom I talked near my University almost 5 months ago who was within 22-26 age range and the next was a German woman 2 months ago and then yesterday again I saw another white blonde lady who looked to be within 26-30 age range and probably from Germany or maybe some Scandinavian country too and I waved my hand at her as she was walking and smiled at her saying her Hi and she too waved her hand back at me with a bit of a smile but couldn't have a conversation as the cab that I booked had arrived but would love to meet her again. So yeah I am happy that finally I can talk with women now whether Indian or foreigner but sadly it took me 23 years to get rid of my shyness.
You’re 42 bro stop waiting around waiting for shit to happen. Everyone lacks confidence and self esteem, fake it until you make it! Get on tinder, get a hooker, you can even get active sex therapists these days.
10 yrs younger than this guy and also haven't "done it" haven't been in any relationship, haven't kissed anyone, haven't even held hands... and it hurts, oh it hurts so badly... the hollow emptiness in my chest that pierces like a blade. I hate myself, I blame myself, it seems that this is just the way my life is written. But it was very comforting watching this video, and feeling like someone understands.
Hmm, I'm 2 years older than that guy but am in the same predicament as you. And yet I do not feel that level or depth of pain, nor hollowness or self hate. I don't know why my feelings turned out differently than yours; so I'm at a loss of what advice to give you. I have Asperger's so that probably helps. I think having a career and hobbies that occupy my time well keep the loneliness at bay. I had a dog for 17 years that kept me company; he passed away last April, so I have felt a bit more lonely recently than in the past. I think I've just adapted to my solitude and enjoy it. I'm fulfilled by my own company. Nietzsche, for me, said it best: "My solitude doesn’t depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company."
Also ten years younger and also found this comforting 😅 (Btw, I’m considering film school so your username intrigued me… just checked out your channel!)
This reminds me of the guy who posted a video about being ugly ("Being Ugly, MY EXPERIENCE") and then a very attractive girl commented that he was cute, they met up, and a few years later they got married. I'm sure a woman or two will find this guy charming and handsome, so he better check his DMs and hidden messages on social media (and he should post those on here). Good luck, dude!
They are currently on a "break" she moved back to her home country. He said they will be apart for several years. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship💀💀
that guy went viral and had many MILLIONS of views achieving internet fame. This guy in this current video only has 40k views so I don't think he's gonna be inundated with much offers....
I‘d like to tell this man how much him speaking out means to me. I‘m now 22 and already struggling with this topic since turning 18. We really do need more acceptance in our society.
Major props to this guy for being so open about this. He seems very emotionally mature and would probably be a better partner than many men. I didn't have sex until I was 26 and I definitely had a sense of shame about it, but I bet it's more common than people think. I had a lot of fear about letting anyone get too close to me (either physically or emotionally!) so I barely even attempted dating until I was mid 20s, and then it took a while before the right man came along with enough patience to slowly prove himself trustworthy! 😂
This dude seems like such a good guy, from his want to help others, his respect for women, and people, his sense of humor etc etc. In 2024 to go on LADBIBLE and answer these questions takes bravery, confidence and a level of intelligence and understanding that so many people don't have. I bet he'd be a great person to meet, a great friend, and partner. I hope he finds what he's looking for, everyone deserves intimacy, love, companionship etc. (if they want it).
Being alone (and not having sex) is not the end of the world! Much better than being in a bad relationship (with sex). Now that can ruin one’s self esteem for sure. Best of life wishes for you Stephen. ❤❤
I disagree with you. If you are in a bad relationship you have an option to end it. If you cannot find anyone who wants you then the feeling of powerlessness and lack of freedom is totally crippling. It is a totally different experience never having found anyone then it is if you are in between relationships and are just waiting to find your next.
There is a big difference between being alone after a breakup and having memories of love you felt versus being alone and never have experienced love. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I've had a very long dry spell recently. It didn't feel nearly as bad as in my twenties being a virgin.
This video was definitely validating. I'm a 38 (almost 39) year old man and still a virgin. Never held hands with a girl or even been kissed. It's complicated to explain why I've been this way for so long. But I feel my upbringing played a big part of it. It's a combination of being bullied a lot as a kid, sheltered family life, trust issues because of my parents being dismissive and betraying me when I needed their support, and constantly being made to feel like I'm never good enough. I've tried to put myself out there. However, being constantly rejected and overlooked has reinforced that inner message about never being enough. Finally, in 2003, I started dabbling into porn which snowballed into a full blown addiction which I've been trying to quit for several years now. When I try to quit, I always feel this void inside me that I try to replace with things that I enjoy, but it's not enough. Something is missing that I can't nail down. I don't have a solid reason to quit because I don't feel like I have anything to look forward to after quitting. Everywhere I turn, I see people having an easy time with dating, happy relationships, and friendships. Knowing I'm the odd one out makes me so resentful.
Aww hope he finds someone. He seems comfortable with himself, not at all creepy or weird and has a great dry sense of humour. Hope he finds the right lady soon ❤
What a beautiful, brave and lovely man!! He pushed himself so hard for this and delivered such polite and well-thought answers. Kudos to his incredible dude!
This would have been me had I not met my partner. I am 35 years old and did not get into a relationship until I was 20. This may sound crazy to some of you, but the world was different back then in 2003-2007. Many of my peers had boyfriends/girlfriends and I was constantly getting picked over. I'm grateful for my partner for accepting me and giving me the chance to know love.
I really feel like this is such an amazing human. He seems very kind, smart and just makes me feel calm and safe. I really do wish the best for him and I hope he finds his forever person, he deserves someone just as amazing as he is! Very brave for speaking about this and its more common then you think! I think this video is for a lot of help for people.
@@kollegeschnurschuh6428 It is. This comment section is literal proof. Everyone says how lovely, funny, kind and cool he is but no one wants to date him. Personality goes only after looks.
Stephen, you are terrific. I adore your sense of humor. You are bright, good looking and very well spoken! I'm not a virgin. But I only had one boyfriend. And after that i never dated again. I don't do casual sex. Its not for me. And i'm also NOT socially inept!! I think being timid is a serious obstacle! I just wanted to say: thank you for normalizing this!
Being lonely as a guy is honestly one of the worst feelings ever. Once your into the negative mindset there is no way out and as a guy no one will save you apart from yourself. Huge respect to this man.
I love this guy's whole outlook, personality, general vibe based on this video. If I met a man like this and was asked out on a date, I'd say yes in a heartbeat.
Exactly lol. Women say they like guys like this yet almost every women has a toxic ex. Toxic guys are never single and always have girls around them yet women expect guys to believe that they actually prefer kind guys
@@cseptember6562 attractive guys are never single* They are toxic because they get away with it, not because women are attracted to it. They're attracted to looks
He looks like a good lad. Calm, good mannered, and looks smart. I hope you find someone who is willing to see the good in you and be with you for the rest of your days mate !
As a 34 year old virgin, I'm happy to see people who practice sexual abstinence come forward to share their stories. It's important for the world to know that people like us exist and aren't ashamed. The world will always uplift promiscuity, but that doesn't mean we should go along with. I hope to get married and have kids one day, preferably with a man who shares the same views as myself with regards to sex.
The thing is, it's one thing if you are a late virgin before you're "saving yourself". It's another thing to still be a late virgin because you just can't get the opportunity.
I lost my virginity at 25 and it's one the things I'm the proudest of. It was with the right person and absolutely amazing. When I hear the stories about all of their first time being awful, I was really happy about my decision. Sex is VERY important.
Thank you to Stephen for sharing his story. He would like to pass on a message - '"If you lose hope, you lose a chance."
Hey Stephen, try going bald!! I shaved my head and have gotten WAY more attention!
Society puts far too much importance on sex! Do it, don't do it it truly is all up to the individual & nobody else. We've got to stop making such a huge deal over nothing, especially the very 1st time. THAT is usually award af the 1st time. Seriously just imagine if we treated _any_ other physical activity like we do sex. Ie: Did you hear? Jimmy & Susan have never ever jumped rope before?! You mean they've _never_ jumped rope together or ever? Jenny has been jumping rope since she was 16?! She's _such_ a good jumper, a real professional. I hear she enters to do it in competitions & has won money for her skills! 😂😂😂😂
@@Digitalhunny then take this man ^ on a damn date lol
@@evilrooster9960 I would actually but, he lives far across the ocean in another frickin' country!
LADbible , you know what to do lol
Fair play to him for speaking out, takes balls to admit something like that at 44.
Now if we can direct the energy it takes to speak like this and put it in to pulling😂
I'm 47, and a virgin. I have zero problems telling people or talking about it. No balls involved because it shouldn't be an issue that's maligned as much as it apparently is in society.
It’s an issue only for teenagers, grown adults down really care.
@@RYZNBand Indeed. When you are a teenager or in your 20s hormones alone make it a huge deal breaker for many. And yeah, I get it, sex is a huge thing for people these days for various reasons. But once you get past a certain age (and not just being a virgin mind you) it's just not that big a deal anymore. Though I assume it's still awesome if you have sex lol
Big ball after 44 years of no sex!
The balls on this man to speak out and try to comfort others who may be feeling a certain way about their own situations. This is brave.
Kudos, sir. Mad respect. 🤘
He’s got massive balls, huge blue ones, 44 years is a lot of backlog.
It is just cringe. He can sleep whenever he wants. Stop acting like it is a feat to sleep with women
@@BonShula Yeah man, respect to him for speaking out. I hope he finds himself a nice woman, seems like a good man.
@@SmokingLaddy But still, it is not a feat to sleep with women. Anyone can do it. It just takes some effort and 0 education
@@BonShula You seem personally offended by another person being a virgin for some reason. Is this some sort of projection or something?
The ironic thing about this situation is that this guy will make an absolutely fantastic husband and father. He will be totally committed and dedicated to his wife and any children. When he says "till death do us part", you know that he will totally mean it. A really good man and I hope he finds the woman of his dreams before it is too late.
It's too late
Dude, he's a virgin at 44. He has no social skills and no experience with dealing with women. Plus, he's probably got a lot of anger and frustration inside of him. Not to mention non-existent self-esteem in terms of being a lover or a partner. For now, he would have been a terrible husband.
lol it's literally over
@@pab1972Stop infering stupid things like that. God knows what kind of father/husband he'd be...
And when it comes to being a good lover, it doesn't require much skill or experience, we all know it.
He's attractive enough, it is therefore just a matter of luck and openess to other people's desires...
@@Keeptheirheadzringin You know whats really stupid? Your wishful thinking. I pointed out what may pop up once he gets into a relationship. He doesn't know what he likes. He doesn't know how it feels to share space with a spouse. His social skills and ability to communicate with someone close are one big question. You won't be a good lover/partner without it. He's gonna have to learn, and it may be difficult because people develop those skills when they're teens or in their early twenties. I'm not saying its impossible for him to turn his life around. It wont be easy, though.
Love his answer to "Have you ever watched porn?". Seems like a thoroughly decent, interesting, intelligent gentleman with a great sense of humour. Good for him.
Where’s that question in the video?
it's clear that he is an addict
@@spartanguitarist6579 No it isn't. Obviously not impossible but nothing from this video gave me that impression.
and so are you @@spartanguitarist6579
@@archie7218 I sincerely doubt a 44 year old man who owns his own businesses even has time to be a p*rn addict without it ruining his bottom line.
I know I said his message was for men and teenage boys but as a 29 y/o woman who's a virgin, it really inspired me.
really bringing out the copium smokers in the comments
Ignore the comment above me, I'm aroace and a virgin woman in my late 20s too! Nothing wrong with it
@@lm86531Same here! Woman, late 20s. No rush for me tbh
no woman is a virgin
@@PaulTC97 yeah just make that absolutely normal comment with no explanation, that'll make you look intelligent 😀
He is very self aware, honest, and respectful. He claims to struggle with confidence, but I think he more confident than the average person. I hope that he finds the love that he has been waiting for.
No, it will not happen. Love is supposed to be found when you are still a teenager/young adult. Past that its over.
@@JustChill-zd4ibYou sure?
@@JustChill-zd4iblmao thats totally not true and there are plenty of examples
@@JustChill-zd4ibyou are wrong.
@@antonioblagaic1072 yes. youth and beauty and love go hand in hand
I’m 55 and have never shared a genuine romantic moment with another living soul. Have never even kissed a girl, much less had sex. It is profoundly embarrassing. Honestly, once I turned 40, I kind of knew it wasn’t going to happen. I hate it and would really have loved being involved with someone but I am blessed in other areas of my life and try to focus on the good things. The worst is when people put me on the spot and ask specific questions about being single that I don’t want to answer. Doesn’t happen often but it will occasionally.
That's one of the greatests issues indeed, virgininity itself is not a big deal for most people (unless you are a sex addict or something like that). One could live their entire life without ever having sex and don't give a damn about it (me included). Honestly I had sex for the first time at 28 yo and it wasn't a big deal at all. The big problem is the social and psychological stigma that comes with it, society and your subconsciousness will judge you for being a virgin. We shouldn't let others (society) make us feel bad...
Another angry reminder that cases like this are male dominated and it should be obvious and that is because due to how nature and reality dictates that men have to do the pursuing and be the ones to actively seek the woman out
@@ElCazador66 I think the real issue is we forgot how to be silly, to embrasse ridicule, and to accept our failures.
Shame is a state that you and only you can inflict upon yourself.
We live in an egocentric society, people are afraid their ego could be hurt, and they're even more afraid to hurt someone else's ego. It's a vicious circle.
@a32tl The reasons you're still a virgin are either tragic or laughable; and mostly likely both...
"I am blessed in other areas of my life and try to focus on the good things"
Look at you, trying to protect your little ego at your own expense, focusing on your successes to hide your failures from yourself...
Go talk to women, ask them out, do it wrong, be awkward, get rejected most of the time, get your ego crushed, laugh about it and be happier.
I'm 35 and have also never kissed or had a relationship with anyone. Out of curiosity, why do you feel it's embarassing?
@@europeansovietunion7372 "Shame is a state that you and only you can inflict upon yourself", then you state "The reasons you're still a virgin are either tragic or laughable; and mostly likely both...". I will skip over the personal attacks in the rest of the comment..
My brother, this is some peak irony. Couldn't make this shit up. This is exactly why people don't feel comfortable talking about this stuff. You will always have this lovable individual making these out of pocket comments and patronizing blanket advice. Honestly it's disgusting. Who are you to talk to strangers like that? Do you even have a successful and long-lasting marriage before coming at people like that ? Actually, scratch that. I wouldn't even entertain the idea that anyone could put up with this kind of bullshit for any amount of time.
This guys calm demeanor and deadpan humor are really special. Good man stephen!
6:52 : How do you view women?
"Well, I adore them."
What a lovely, heartwarming answer
one of the reasons why he's a virgin. women don't respect him.
@@MrKrille93he literally said he’s extremely shy it’s always something he hasn’t pursued
@@MrKrille93So it’s women’s fault he’s a virgin?
@@Gumdrop2 Yes
@@MrKrille93why wouldn’t they respect him?
Saw him on the dozen podcast. It's sad society has made him feel like that. A legend for speaking out.
Virgin “legend”
🤭
@@JohnHausser The fact that you hold someone back the title of legend purely because they haven't "tango'd" is crazyyyy
depends how you look at it mate, think he was meaning being a virgin is as good as a legend@@fazeverdansk9276
@@JohnHausser🔔end
@@JohnHausser you must be the playboy surley
A truly intelligent, honest and strong person with a lot to offer. As young man, I'm greatly impressed by this man.
massive respect to Stephen! Very brave and honest! I pray he finds a wonderful wife in the future! God bless you Stephen 🙂
Who says he's looking to marry?
@@davidz3879 Many people aren't until they find the right person.
@@srccde Yes, but millions of others never marry or want to even if they meet the right person.
@@davidz3879 a girlfriend then, or a one time sexual partner. it's not that deep
@@GhostOfThisHouse How can he? What's appealing about him?
What a sweetheart! I'm actually quite surprised he hasn't found a wife, seems very genuine and lovely.
I'm not surprised at all
And I agree, he seems lovely
His situation says much less about his character and more about society as a whole
@@Brambrewcompletely agree
Being lovely and genuine doesn't help it when you are shy, inexperienced and lack persistence. Most women don't openly express their affection and expect men to figure it out and take action. But this requires certain degree of courage and experience from man. So when the man is shy and inexperienced, it's easy to start acting creepy and thus quickly become repulsive to a woman (most people learn these things during their teen years, so one is expected to know all this when being an adult, which is not the case when one is an old virgin). And the more he gets rejected, the more he is negatively reinforced to avoid taking any action, including just showing affection. Also, the fact that woman's way of showing affection is usually indistinguishable from "just trying to be nice" doesn't make it easier.
I am a 40 year old virgin myself, and I also heard similar things quite a few times (while I was still living in my country, where asking personal questions is more common than in the west).
50 years ago he could, our culture is too crazy now.
People like this have always existed but modern society with its over-emphasis on "equality" and false belief that "technology will solve all our problems" has ironically exacerbated the problem.
Oh, the way he talks about women is so lovely, I hope he gets a partner who genuinely loves him
"Life is too precious..."
The man said it all.
Thank you, I think a lot of us needed to hear this today.
Did we? 😂
Respect. More proud masculinty in this video than any sports jock on TV. Being a virgin is not necessarily something to be proud or ashamed of however conducting yourself as Stephen has, being the person that Stephen is is comendable beyond words.
Marriage should be avoided at all costs
@@Akiru-qn5tx Quickest way to tell people that you're unable to communicate, compromise, or put anyone above yourself even when needed.
@@shaniyehia8730 Just stating facts
@@Akiru-qn5tx you're right, my response was completely factual
@@shaniyehia8730 I was just stating facts.
Im female but was a virgin until i was 27. I was so stressed about people judging me and feeling stigmatised - even from my parents!! Its horrible the stigma. Being virgin regardless of age should be normalised rather than stigmatised
yup, it's gone full circle, when I "came out" to my mother that I don't have casual s3x she went on how it's "not natural", like what neolibs think conservative parents are like
What was the reason it took so long for you?
Idk how your getting shamed for being a virgin is it mostly done by women or men that trying hook up with you?
I’m asking because the stigma is dif for men and women
of course my response outlining my experiences when I came out as virgin was deleted... bro it's like the 1930s again
@@renze1559does it matter? None of your business.
Best comeback I ever heard for the 'virgin' teasing is:
"I'm not a virgin. Ask your sister."
"I don't have a sister."
"You will in 9 months"
epic! LOL
Oh, crap, that's terrible! Can't stop laughing.
unless they ask their sister
Hahaha Boom Boom 🦊
Response: mother is dead
What a nice bloke. I hope he finds the woman he deserves. Going on the telly and speaking up shows immense character. I also liked the way he spoke about women, not an ounce of misogyny in him. That's a really good quality.
Why would he be misogynist?
@@keithkarvelis82 because he could feel mad about women for not being attracted to him, but he's humble and knows it's not the womens' fault
@@user-rk3me2qk6r right, it's his fault. and you wonder why those things happen
I think it's sad they felt it necessary to ask him his opinion on women because the assumption is that he'd be misogynistic be default since he's a virgin.
Maybe a little misogyny would not hurt tho? Like lets not pretend women are some perfect creatures without a flaw please its BS and you know it. Knowing that might help with confidence just trying to get some for self satisfaction instead of thinking in idealistic terms.
Shyness is crippling especially when coupled with anxiety, respect to him for speaking about this so openly in a society that can treat someone like a criminal for not having had sex!
I don't know how that will continue when the younger generation (at least from stats) are anxiety ridden and vast majority of guys are virgins apparently (think this is 18-24 if I remember stat properly).
@Umbrella2, even if he was not shy or anxious he did not get a leg up on genetics
35 and in the same situation as Stephen. Dealing with this is not easy. This shit can lower your self worth and self esteem. They become worse if you try to find someone so many times but still fail. But you have no choice but to keep on trying, cope and try to find fulfillment in other aspects of life.
Sex for joy is overrated. Creates more stress than it relieves.
My advice is look into looksmaxxing, but not too far because those the extremes in that community are far too obsessed
What cringy advice.
@@captainquagmire859
no omg dont go into looksmaxxing lmao@@captainquagmire859
I can share with you that sleeping around doesn't make you happy either. I'm 33, lost my virginity at 19. Had a few girlfriends but they always broke my heart in some way or lied to me.
Losing your virginity does give you confidence but it's not the be all end all.
When he said he’s kissed and cuddled I died a little inside. I’m 32 and never kissed or have had any sort of affection experience. I kind of hoped I could relate but even this man has had a little window into what it feels like to be wanted. But good for him!
You'll find it too bud, just don't give up. There's a girl out there for you, guaranteed 😊
If you want to hear a funny story, I only ever had one girlfriend. The furthest we ever got was holding hands. She said something like “your hands are so cold!” 💀 Then summer ended and we went back to different colleges and broke up before Christmas break. And that was 6 years ago 💀 I’ve got time though 😅
Why do I get the feeling you're a guy and male
X2. Aunque realmente es entendible, quizás era demasiado que no hubiese besado nunca a los 44 años
@@walkourwoofers853 How do you know? Hopefully you're right for his sake.
He's literally me I'm 25! I'll come back here when I'm 44, so long
I'm 33... still got my v card...
44 magnum
I am 31 and have my v card but as a female
Some aspects of this get easier as you get older in my experience. And it's simply by virtue of everyone involved being older. So, you can leverage that just as long as you don't let your nerves sabotage you. And there's no law against telling your partner that you are a virgin if doing that helps your nerves.
34 here...
My brother's 45 and a virgin. Never even had a girlfriend. He's happy, that's all that matters
Are you sure he's happy?
Coping well and being happy are two different things...
@@datanerd6935how would you know if he's happy or not?
@@Gino_567 I'm saying he might look "happy" outside but you never know if he's truly happy. Relationships and sex are two of the biggest things that fulfill us after all. Also define "happy". You might look happy outside but be suicidal inside.
@@datanerd6935I understand what you're saying, because I myself project joy to hide anguish.
So happy to see the majority of comments are so nice n supportive n fair play to bro for sharing 🥰
Supporting delusion
for me it's not the sex I'm missing out on, it's to be loved and to love somebody
I've had plenty of one-night-stands (currently 29) and have been in a couple of brief relationships, but I've never felt truly loved by a partner. It eats away at me. Sex is great, but it means fuck-all when you don't share that experience with someone you love.
@@Proxinem it's good that you're seeking love too and not only sex. You will find it soon, don't worry about it.
@@Proxinem It's like a job.
You can get paid all you want, but it's gonna tire you if you don't like it and you're not gonna like your lifestyle.
Hi Stephen! Takes great courage to speak out publicly about this. Big respect! 👍👍
This guy deserves to find love and finally pop his cherry with the right lady. He's interesting, funny, charismatic, and best of all thoroughly decent. Being a virgin is the least interesting or significant thing about him, it really doesn't matter. Good luck Stephen, i hope you find the woman of your dreams very soon 😊
Wtf is this comment “pop his cherry” like wtf that’s not how it works.
@@Sureshots. That's how it works in Britain. (=
@walkourwoofers. Yeah, but he should maybe stop dreaming about Darcy bloody Bussel and set his sights a little lower…
@@longjonwhite I think they'd asked him for an example of the sort of women he likes. There's no point him saying Sandra from down the road as nobody would know who he meant! He's got good taste, Darcy Bussell is bloody lovely 😍
@@Sureshots. It's a figure of speech in the UK for blokes losing their virginity.
I am quite taken aback by this video. This man has made me feel a bit better about my situation, and he is incredibly gutsy. He and I are pretty much the same, except I am 36, don't have many people in my life, and am generally lonely. It is not easy living in modern society, where human connection is sparse and nowhere near valued as it was years past.
Respect to you Stephen for stepping up to talk about this; Your honesty is so important and much needed when it comes to the destigmatisation of this subject. I very much hope you find what you’re looking for, when it comes to your love life and in life in general. ❤🙏🏼😊
He's a proper, decent bloke - they are rare these days. ❤
The awful truth is that it’s all about looks
"Find something you enjoy, and you'll never be lonely". So inspiring and true, this is a beautiful statement
He's got a good sense of humour 😂, he should just be himself, he seems like a great guy
All signs indicate he is always "just being himself". He's shy he said. It's being himself that seems to be the issue & I in no way mean that to be derogatory. Shyness can be a real issue when trying to date.
@user-yc3mq2wm3v apps are a complete wasteland for women too, men aren't more hard done by. The messages we get are 99% foul. But yes, on apps they're all based on looks. We need more avenues for people to mix and mingle in person.
@@aussiejubesyou can be yourself and fix the element that's not winning you a women (being shy)
@@Gino_567 exactly.
@@aussiejubes someone women like shy guys, I'm shy and my girlfriend is very energetic and an extrovert and we balance each other out, I really hope he finds someone like that
I don't understand how he is not married; independent businessman, funny, confident.
I guess it will happen soon.
Good man. Fair play to him!
If it hasn't happened for all this time, I see no reason why it will happen soon. Unless something has drastically changed in his life.
Looks
@@lovroleutar8511 he only needs to go bald and grow a beard, ditch the glasses, change clothes, a plus if he works out and puts on muscle, girls will follow. He has good voice tho, not high pitched like I thought. If he has worked to build something on himself, has savings etc. He will find a girl.
Shyness, lack of “game”.
I was very scared of this happening to me at 23. I met the right woman who was patient with me and kind. Were coming up on 1 year, very grateful to her. It was so much easier than i thought it would be
This is often the case. People build things up too much in their heads. I see it all the time with seemingly trivial stuff in my day job. So when it comes to something like sex I can see why some people struggle so much with going there.
Bless his heart. Not bad looking, great sense of humor, has 2 successful businesses. He's a catch! I hope he gets Therapy and meets a Wonderful person he can Marry. 🙏🏾💜
He doesn't need therapy, he claimed that he wants sex to be a private and special thing. Sounds like he is saving himself.
He definitely needs therapy, he’s idealising the idea of the first moment, (which it’s usually s***) and I think he’s connecting it with “the ideal person” to such a point that nobody has matched his criteria in 44 years. He seems to be very nice btw
canthal tilt
@@AdamTravelsTheWorld therapy would definitely help. He struggles with confidence and is also on a never ending search for an ideal partner
Who says he's looking to marry?
as a 42 year old female virgin this was so validating, thank you
A woman who is a virgin in her 40s? How is that possible? Saving sex for marriage?
Just asking because most Society will never expect something like this for women unless the woman is choosing to wait until marriage
@@nobodysperfect06 It’s much more common than you’d ever imagine. I’m a 34 yr old female virgin. I kissed a couple of guys at university, but other than that nothing. I’m not waiting for marriage or anything, it’s just never happened for me. It’s never really bothered me, and on the occasions when it has, I just think ‘ehh, it’s only hormones, just chemicals in my body.’
@@amyhardwoodWhy hasn’t it happened, you never met the right guy?
@@RA-wp6th Well nobody has ever been interested in me, other than the odd drunken kiss at uni, and I’ve always been too shy of rejection to tell those guys I’ve liked how I feel. I once bought a valentines card to send anonymously to a guy but chickened out in posting it!
@@amyhardwood most people and most of society don't expect cases like this for women and the reason why is because of how for all time men have always been expected to make the first move and ask the woman out and be the initiators
my salutes to this man .he is brave to bring up such a sencitive subject and treat it with a great wisdom . thank you for the advices.
He’s a good man. I wish him all the best in this life.
Nothing but respect for you Steve.
I actually see this man as quite confident and secure with himself, because most of the men that sleep around, or have sex with sex workers, are missing something inside themselves and need validation through that.
go sleep with him then... kiss.. kiss :-x
@@deadlypendroppingby are you looking for attention?
Sorry that prostitutions not "sex workerrs"
He’s totally adorable and a great catch. I can tell he will cherish and make a lucky lady very happy one day! All the best to him!
Keep coping. Idk why you do it but yeah...
Just stop it
You guys literally all say the same thing
Wow, there's some really unhappy people in these replies, it seems 😕
Top bloke. Type of guy that is probably a reliable and true friend.
This takes a lot of balls to come out and say this. Good on you buddy.
It doesn't really, lots of virgin men would have been open to taking LadBible's offer. It takes more balls to join the military or fight a fire as a firefighter.
@@ArranVid And you know that for a fact do you? I for one wouldn’t, as people I know would know that fact about me, and may be joking behind my back.
Notice how you said “more balls”. So it does take some balls to come out and say you’re are a virgin at 44 years old?
@@ArranVid i would not lol
I am inspired by these comments, been reading for a while, no horrible comments as usual on social media, gives me hope ♥️
These types of men r actually very high quality because of their humility gained throughout life
Much respect to this guy. I can relate to a lot of what he said. What a nice guy too. Hope he finds someone.
Best of luck to Stephen for his future. Being a bit more then 10 years younger, but heading down the same path, I know how frustrating and mood destroying it can be. Especially since the older you get the less likely it feels to ever find someone. Not to mention all the years of lonelyness and lost time that you could've spent with that special someone.
Why the hell would it become less likely? People don't stop having sex/romantic interests after any given age. And, when it comes to love, "experience" isn't really a thing. You start from scratch everytime a story ends.
@@Keeptheirheadzringin
"People don't stop having sex/romantic interests after any given age"
Yes, the part you're not getting however is that doesn't mean you'll be desirable and you'll get less desirable as you get older
So if you're already undesirable at a young age, well that only amplifies as you age
@@user-vx3wc8yc9v It depends, if the "issue" was linked to one's behaviour, as is often the case, then things can change quickly.
Teenagers and people in their early twenties also tend to pay a lot of attention to what others might think of their partners (and therefore dismiss people not only when they don't like them, but also when they think that others won't). Past a certain age, they often forget about this crap, and focus on what's important to them personnaly.
This leaves a wider range of possibilities, I think.
@@KeeptheirheadzringinPeople tend to become set in their ways as they get older. Especially if you're single for decades, everything in my life has revolved around ME, my house, car, whatever it is I've never done under the pretense of WE or US. Just me.
@alexcarter2461 Yes, that is very true. But not only virgins live that way, obviously, it is a way broader, and common phenomenon.
Habits are about daily life, not dreams/emotions though. Living with someone else might be exhausting at first, and may not be recommended right away. But loving shouldn't be a problem, and not all forms of partnerships require more of your free time than friends or family member.
Also, being somewhat self-sufficient is something that is appreciated in relationship!
I really loved his bit at the beginning addressing why he's a virgin. People like to paint the image that something must be hyperbolicly wrong if someone struggles to obtain intimate relationships (socially inept, massive poor hygiene, bigoted). Sometimes it's just as simple as being a little shy, which could place anyone of us into a situation like his.
Or being biologically unattractive (in this case it is that simple.)
@@joomping-rng Most people in relationships don't remotely meet the standards of attractiveness society sets for people because very few people who meet those standards actually exist.
@@joomping-rngwhat? There’s a TON of incredibly unattractive people in relationships. He’s not even bad looking.
@@astralcamisado648 Why are you mentioning societal standards?
@@heathernikki5734 Yes, he is, but that’s fine. It’s not a crime to be unattractive lol… come on, be honest. I can’t really address your first point here/now, sorry!
Amazing respect for coming out like this. I'm sure there are many people in the same boat who think they are alone. Shyness may seem cute or attractive bur trust me it is a curse and can make life very difficult and lonely at times. It's something you have to try and overcome every day just to get on in society. There is always someone out there for you, you just need a bit of luck finding them and it often happens when you're not even trying.
What a brave, honest, and sweet guy. Good luck to you, Stephen. I hope you find a special woman to grow old with.
He won't and he does not need to.
@@JustChill-zd4ibThere’s always gotta be some toxic comment reply under a positive comment. It happens on every RUclips video. I don’t get it.
Dear Stephen, your confidence is high you went to LAD Stories & shared your story kind sir. As a 41 year old virgin who is a woman, I know the feelings you feel. But I've truly never wanted to get married or have kids & I am happy. Your sense of humor is brilliant!
Everyone has a calling in life, and it doesn't have to always involve anything sexual. You don't have to be ashamed.
Wishing you all the best mate! Fair play for talking about it, you’ve probably helped a lot of other people with this interview. You seem like a decent fella, hope your dreams come true!
I hope Stephen finds fulfilment in his life, whatever that looks like for him. I'm really happy for him that he is in a better place with confidence and mental health, and I hope that continues with or without a partner
There is not a single thing wrong with you, and I wish you nothing but the best in life! Your honesty and intentions are also very respectable to me for personal reasons. Thanks for taking part in this video!
Apart from his hairdo 😂😂😂😂
It's like looking into a mirror 24 years into the future. I even own that same Lacoste shirt
It's Joever
Nice shirt 👍🏻
Chill you're just 20
Update?
Any update?
I'm nearly 43 and still a virgin. Never been in a relationship or even kissed anyone lol. This used to bother me when i was younger but I've now accepted that it will never happen for me.
Never say never! I think try and find someone nice if possible even if it doesn’t work out in the end, then you’ll know if having a partner might be worth pursuing. I lived in Cornwall for a few years after a breakup and it was super easy to stay single if I didn’t socialise!
Your case makes me mad because it reminds me that they are male-dominated
There’s a dude named Nick Notas who runs a website. Helped me a lot. You made the first step by being open. Authenticity is a looked after skill for women. There are men without limbs who get married. You seem honest, idk why you should let a life failure be permanent.
@@guillaumegiroux9425 any notable cases of Men Without Limbs?
No one asked the guy in the video, so I’m curious whether you ever tried to meet someone or just don’t know how / too shy? It sounds like lately you’ve given up on it entirely, but was it different in the past?
I am a 42 year old man that is still a virgin. I have never kissed a woman, never anything and I have actually turned out fine. Society tells me I am messed up but in reality I am really alright. I was isolated after high school for some time and my generation abandoned me so here I am today as a 42 year old man that actually does not feel all that bad. Some day I would love to hug a beautiful woman but one day it could happen. My problem honestly is I don't even try due to confidence issues. I really need to work on it and I think the many other men and women that are stuck like this don't try either. I think we don't need to walk around holding such shame about ourselves and feeling like shit about it. I really don't think anyone cares and if you do meet somebody that you connect with then go for it but it really happen at any age. I do see lots of really scary women out there I am glad I never got involved with so it's a good thing.
Have been on dates before? I am a 23 year old guy living in Bangalore in India but born in Siliguri in West Bengal in India and never had a girlfriend and only been on 1 first date many months ago at the age of 22 and then a month later hanged out with my female friend, hugged only 2 girls in person and still never had my first kiss. I am studying MBA now and in my University too had crush on this girl for 7 months who is also 23 now but 5 months ago got crush on another prettier girl(sadly she wasn't into me either but she was the 2nd girl I hugged in person) in the same University so my previous crush stopped talking to me and I miss her. I had a summer break from University for 3 months and today finally new semester started for us and I literally initiated conversation with 3 girls in my University who are MBA students too and within 21-23 age range and I had a long enough conversation with one of them who too was comfortable enough to talk to me but idk about my chances as I look like a nerd in my glasses and she is really pretty too.
But it was a big change and improvement for me as I had always been shy near girls and in my high school days I completely avoided talking with girls as I was bullied a lot in school and continued being shy further too in my undergrad and even in my MBA too few months ago, I was still shy to initiate conversation with girls and even though I could talk with my crushes, there was still some nervousness here and there but today I went out of my comfort zone and talked with not 1 not 2 but 3 girls. Thats only because I initiated conversation with 3 expat women in my city Bangalore and they were white Caucasian women (yes foreigners do come to Bangalore as expats as its one of the major metropolitan city of India and popular for its IT(tech). First one was a French woman with whom I talked near my University almost 5 months ago who was within 22-26 age range and the next was a German woman 2 months ago and then yesterday again I saw another white blonde lady who looked to be within 26-30 age range and probably from Germany or maybe some Scandinavian country too and I waved my hand at her as she was walking and smiled at her saying her Hi and she too waved her hand back at me with a bit of a smile but couldn't have a conversation as the cab that I booked had arrived but would love to meet her again. So yeah I am happy that finally I can talk with women now whether Indian or foreigner but sadly it took me 23 years to get rid of my shyness.
You’re 42 bro stop waiting around waiting for shit to happen. Everyone lacks confidence and self esteem, fake it until you make it! Get on tinder, get a hooker, you can even get active sex therapists these days.
Oh mate, totally relate, and I'm 47, so no, you're not alone, well done on doing this and thanks.
So you are a 47 year old virgin??
My mate is 54 and still a virgin.
10 yrs younger than this guy and also haven't "done it" haven't been in any relationship, haven't kissed anyone, haven't even held hands... and it hurts, oh it hurts so badly... the hollow emptiness in my chest that pierces like a blade. I hate myself, I blame myself, it seems that this is just the way my life is written. But it was very comforting watching this video, and feeling like someone understands.
I understand and know there will be hope
Hmm, I'm 2 years older than that guy but am in the same predicament as you. And yet I do not feel that level or depth of pain, nor hollowness or self hate. I don't know why my feelings turned out differently than yours; so I'm at a loss of what advice to give you.
I have Asperger's so that probably helps. I think having a career and hobbies that occupy my time well keep the loneliness at bay. I had a dog for 17 years that kept me company; he passed away last April, so I have felt a bit more lonely recently than in the past. I think I've just adapted to my solitude and enjoy it. I'm fulfilled by my own company.
Nietzsche, for me, said it best: "My solitude doesn’t depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company."
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Never hate yourself. Know that your life is in your hands and you can change things for the better the second you decide to do so. God bless
Also ten years younger and also found this comforting 😅
(Btw, I’m considering film school so your username intrigued me… just checked out your channel!)
This reminds me of the guy who posted a video about being ugly ("Being Ugly, MY EXPERIENCE") and then a very attractive girl commented that he was cute, they met up, and a few years later they got married. I'm sure a woman or two will find this guy charming and handsome, so he better check his DMs and hidden messages on social media (and he should post those on here). Good luck, dude!
They are currently on a "break" she moved back to her home country. He said they will be apart for several years. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship💀💀
that guy went viral and had many MILLIONS of views achieving internet fame. This guy in this current video only has 40k views so I don't think he's gonna be inundated with much offers....
@@ANM21985Omg give him time it hasn’t even been 24 hours
@@ANM21985Nearly 67,000 now.
@@adamg6711what country was she from?
Yes and so have you 😂 he's funny, seems gentle and is easy on the eye. I'm glad he's still here on earth.
I‘d like to tell this man how much him speaking out means to me. I‘m now 22 and already struggling with this topic since turning 18. We really do need more acceptance in our society.
Major props to this guy for being so open about this. He seems very emotionally mature and would probably be a better partner than many men. I didn't have sex until I was 26 and I definitely had a sense of shame about it, but I bet it's more common than people think. I had a lot of fear about letting anyone get too close to me (either physically or emotionally!) so I barely even attempted dating until I was mid 20s, and then it took a while before the right man came along with enough patience to slowly prove himself trustworthy! 😂
thats exactly how it should be and you should try and set a example to young women.
28. Exactly the same as you regarding dates etc in my mid 20's
This dude seems like such a good guy, from his want to help others, his respect for women, and people, his sense of humor etc etc. In 2024 to go on LADBIBLE and answer these questions takes bravery, confidence and a level of intelligence and understanding that so many people don't have. I bet he'd be a great person to meet, a great friend, and partner. I hope he finds what he's looking for, everyone deserves intimacy, love, companionship etc. (if they want it).
Thanks, Stephen.
To be speaking out to our demographic with hope and honestly takes some seriously big, full balls.
Being alone (and not having sex) is not the end of the world! Much better than being in a bad relationship (with sex). Now that can ruin one’s self esteem for sure. Best of life wishes for you Stephen. ❤❤
Having had plenty personal experience with both of these scenarios, I can say that you are 100% correct!
True and hes not alone in life. Hes got friends and is social.
I disagree with you. If you are in a bad relationship you have an option to end it. If you cannot find anyone who wants you then the feeling of powerlessness and lack of freedom is totally crippling. It is a totally different experience never having found anyone then it is if you are in between relationships and are just waiting to find your next.
John Callahan once said ' Sex is like air, it's not important unless you aren't getting any.'
There is a big difference between being alone after a breakup and having memories of love you felt versus being alone and never have experienced love. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
I've had a very long dry spell recently. It didn't feel nearly as bad as in my twenties being a virgin.
Thank you Stephen for being so moral and kind. I admire you for your stance on not using women just for sex.
Why not?? At this point he don’t have nothing.
He has his dignity to not lower his standards. He is a strong person in that reagrd@@Sureshots.
‘Find something you’re interested in and you’ll never be lonely’’. Beautifully said. I truly hope you’ll find that someone special.
"Don't worry bro. You have time you'll meet someone eventually"
*ends up like this guy*
💀💀💀
Stop the fake wishful positive thinking man cope
I genuinely hope he finds someone special ❤
This video was definitely validating. I'm a 38 (almost 39) year old man and still a virgin. Never held hands with a girl or even been kissed. It's complicated to explain why I've been this way for so long. But I feel my upbringing played a big part of it. It's a combination of being bullied a lot as a kid, sheltered family life, trust issues because of my parents being dismissive and betraying me when I needed their support, and constantly being made to feel like I'm never good enough. I've tried to put myself out there. However, being constantly rejected and overlooked has reinforced that inner message about never being enough. Finally, in 2003, I started dabbling into porn which snowballed into a full blown addiction which I've been trying to quit for several years now. When I try to quit, I always feel this void inside me that I try to replace with things that I enjoy, but it's not enough. Something is missing that I can't nail down. I don't have a solid reason to quit because I don't feel like I have anything to look forward to after quitting. Everywhere I turn, I see people having an easy time with dating, happy relationships, and friendships. Knowing I'm the odd one out makes me so resentful.
It's time to eliminate all the garbage and start loving yourself more brother
at some point bro..u just gotta jump
no more excuses
yep. undesired men are a silent army all over the world. You aren’t alone and it’s only natural to feel resentment.
The thing you are missing in your heart is God.
What a lad! Mad respect for him doing this interview, it requires some balls of steel! Great humor and a good dresser. I'd have a pint with him.
Lovely guy. Charming, witty, great values. Admire his stance hugely.
This guy seems like the most chill and cool guy, would have never guessed he was a virgin
Aww hope he finds someone. He seems comfortable with himself, not at all creepy or weird and has a great dry sense of humour. Hope he finds the right lady soon ❤
right 😂 i think theres reason it didnt happen for 40 years 😂
@@SociologistEugenFitzherbert He doesn't have any sex appeal
25 and in the same boat! Best of luck to you Stephen!
What a beautiful, brave and lovely man!! He pushed himself so hard for this and delivered such polite and well-thought answers. Kudos to his incredible dude!
Hope he finds someone who he can live his life with and not be lonely anymore. He seems a decent guy.
This would have been me had I not met my partner. I am 35 years old and did not get into a relationship until I was 20. This may sound crazy to some of you, but the world was different back then in 2003-2007. Many of my peers had boyfriends/girlfriends and I was constantly getting picked over. I'm grateful for my partner for accepting me and giving me the chance to know love.
He looks like an artist! An actor, and he's funny too man! Keep it up dude, im sure there's someone waiting for you out there
Cope
Like my late nan used to say , " for every sad bastard , there's another sad bastard "
He seems like a great guy, good looking, coherent, funny! Hope he gets what he's looking for
I really feel like this is such an amazing human. He seems very kind, smart and just makes me feel calm and safe. I really do wish the best for him and I hope he finds his forever person, he deserves someone just as amazing as he is! Very brave for speaking about this and its more common then you think! I think this video is for a lot of help for people.
He's actually a lovely, funny guy.
but it doesn't matter. It's all about looks
But he looks normal and average@@FloppaTheBased
@@FloppaTheBased based.
@@FloppaTheBased it's not
@@kollegeschnurschuh6428 It is. This comment section is literal proof. Everyone says how lovely, funny, kind and cool he is but no one wants to date him. Personality goes only after looks.
Stephen, you are terrific. I adore your sense of humor. You are bright, good looking and very well spoken! I'm not a virgin. But I only had one boyfriend. And after that i never dated again. I don't do casual sex. Its not for me. And i'm also NOT socially inept!! I think being timid is a serious obstacle! I just wanted to say: thank you for normalizing this!
Being lonely as a guy is honestly one of the worst feelings ever. Once your into the negative mindset there is no way out and as a guy no one will save you apart from yourself. Huge respect to this man.
The dude is funny as F. He will find his mate when the time for him is right. Maximum respect for him. 👊
when would that be? when he is 60? 70?
That's the thing. People must understand that men should deal with the possibility they will never find anyone no matter how respectable they are.
Don't hold your breath.
no stop it
I like the guy, and he's so honest. You're not gonna find many men like this guy.
This guy is very self aware and honest
I love this guy's whole outlook, personality, general vibe based on this video. If I met a man like this and was asked out on a date, I'd say yes in a heartbeat.
Lmao
What's stopping you from asking them out?
@Dennis37591 dude, who hurt you 😂? You don't know me 😋.
@@Elvira-k3r Go ask him out, he's too shy to ask out ladies so why don't you spare yourself the regret of inaction?
@dislikebutton1712 😂. Seriously though, if I didn't live in a different country and weren't already happily spoken for, I would 😊.
It’s always the kindest people that never find affection. You never see lonely assholes. Anyone else notice this?
Exactly lol. Women say they like guys like this yet almost every women has a toxic ex. Toxic guys are never single and always have girls around them yet women expect guys to believe that they actually prefer kind guys
@@cseptember6562 Women want those toxic guys to be kind to them. They want to tame the horse instead of being handed a tame horse.
@@cseptember6562 attractive guys are never single* They are toxic because they get away with it, not because women are attracted to it. They're attracted to looks
@@HenriZwols cope. If this guy was toxic everyone would just say that this is the reason why he's single lol. It's all about looks
@@FloppaTheBased Yea thats true
Kudos for being real and honest. Respect. sending you positive vibes
This was incredibly interesting/entertaining to listen to. What s lovely human he is.
He seems like a great guy. Love his personality! I hope he finds someone he can adore dearly ☺
He looks like a good lad. Calm, good mannered, and looks smart. I hope you find someone who is willing to see the good in you and be with you for the rest of your days mate !
As a 34 year old virgin, I'm happy to see people who practice sexual abstinence come forward to share their stories. It's important for the world to know that people like us exist and aren't ashamed. The world will always uplift promiscuity, but that doesn't mean we should go along with. I hope to get married and have kids one day, preferably with a man who shares the same views as myself with regards to sex.
The thing is, it's one thing if you are a late virgin before you're "saving yourself". It's another thing to still be a late virgin because you just can't get the opportunity.
I lost my virginity at 25 and it's one the things I'm the proudest of. It was with the right person and absolutely amazing. When I hear the stories about all of their first time being awful, I was really happy about my decision. Sex is VERY important.
Actually most people lose it at around 25..alot of people who say they lost it at 17 didn't.
Same! I was 26, still with my partner 16 years later.
I was 22, strange how its only really a problem because other people make it a big deal
Yes, but those stories are much more entertaining and reveal a form of audacity that I respect
25 all respect to you if that what makes you happy. I was told I was late for waiting until 17!
I respect this man and how open and honest he is. I am sure there are plenty of women interested in him.
Here king you dropped this 👑