I’m 42 and here are a couple of mine. You can’t waste your life because there’s nothing you’re supposed to do with it, and don’t romanticize regret. Just decide what you’re going to do today.
"pessimism DOESNT equal smart" PREACH!! I swear my family thinks I'm so naive for my optimism and career, but nothing is delusional if you have a plan!!
I always joke that I'm like the song pumped up kicks - I sound really positive but I'm actually really negative (I know its exaggerated). :( I've been realllyyy working on it. And I tell my friends to call me out.
you're not the main character of their life, you're the main character of your own life. that sentence helped me realise that i'm worthy and other's don't need to see that
Honestly, I know what that sentence means, but I don't fully get it. I need to come to that conclusion myself. It's like in math: if you don't get how someone came to a solution, you don't understand the solution.
There's a quote I love from, I believe, a tumblr post that I think is golden advice "To be the most authentic, complete version of yourself, you're probably gonna have to disappoint your parents a little." I 'm 24 and I still value my parents approval soso much and I need to loosen up a lil
I'm 23, and this is so relatable. If you grew up in a household in which you were encouraged to turn to your parents for every big decision, it becomes incredibly hard to suddenly become independent and completely self reliant.
that is So so true, even if your parents aren't strict or horrible they're gonna have their own vision of things and it's gonna be different from yours, also this doesn't mean that you need to cut contact with them- which is something I had to learn. you can just approach things in a nuanced way.
I am 20 years old and i am done with rotting in my bed asap. It crushes my soul and my spirit. I isolated myself for 2 years and i am ready to get out of my comfort zone. I will concentrate on fulfilling my dream of becoming a cardiac surgeon. It is better to at least TRY doing something than waiting around for things to happen, because guess what, nothing changes if nothing changes. I am scared and sad and i feel lonely and so lost, but i am also excited, and passionate, and optimistic, and loving, and caring, and so so hopeful. Wishing you all the best
25 was quite possibly one of the worst years of my life. I was depressed, going through a "quarter life crisis", feeling like mortality was slapping me in the face. I was fresh out of a master's program and working my first office job and feeling like "holy shit this cannot be the rest of my life." meanwhile, 26 has been AMAZING. I am so excited about life now and I feel like I know myself more and more everyday. Being in your late 20s is fucking awesome and I hate that we're led to believe that it's not or that we're "old"
I’m in the same boat, just turned 25 this year and in my quarter life crisis! I haven’t reached any of my age goals I’ve been striving for and I’m really trying to adjust my perspective to live day be day instead and to create new goals not associated with “where I want to be by x age,” which is difficult since it’s how we (typically) are all taught to create goals through the current schooling systems
i will remember you in particular, KrazyKaiser, whenever i feel like that. im only 21 and ive already felt that a few times. i wont steal your valor :)
Okay I'm just gonna share what I'm most ashamed of: That I am scared of going after my greatest passion. I will turn 26 in 2 months and the last five years I wanted to invest in learning music production. Well, I have learned a little. But just a little. And I am so ashamed because I am so so scared. I could have so many skills by now, but instead I watch tv shows or doom scroll because the fact that I still don't real know how to work with my sampler is something that makes me feel so ashamed and scared that it literally paralyses me, even though music is my biggest passion and I know that being able to create it myself, is my biggest dream in life. Oh well, but I will get there
omg feel it. i burned a lot of money for software and equipment a while ago to give me the feeling of commiting and i did NOTHING with it so far bc music software is really overwhelming. also mainly got into music production because i miss making music irl with other people so hard that i wanted to prove to myself that i am capable of making music all on my own bc my social anxiety keeps me from making new friends who are also into music. which, yeah, maybe is a bit counterproductive.
i'm experiencing this as well (turning 26 this year). my two cents is that i think we're afraid to be beginners. we have high expectations for ourselves. the solution to that is get curious! allow yourself to be a beginner, learn stuff along the way, know that with time, it's all about making a choice and making the best out of that choice. Time is finite (it's crazy i know) but that kind of helps somehow. it's either day one or one day.
it's nice to hear that I am not alone in this haha. I figure that my fear will never go away, if I don't try to do the things I am scared of on a daily basis. Which means when I first start, I have to do everything with fear and hope that the fear get's smaller one day. but yeah,thanks for your advice
yess i am the same with writing songs!! truly no human experience is unique lol. we just have to accept that we're not going to become instantly great at anything, we have to do stuff badly for a bit before getting good. it's really hard. we're too focused on having achieved something but the real goal should be the enjoyment of the process. my therapist says the moment we become perfect at something we stop being alive, because mistakes allow us to evolve, so being a beginner is actually the whole point. i still don't believe her but she's definitely right
Im the same with animation; im in the last year of my bachelors and i am learning 3D animation from scratch and its so. so. much. i dread getting on my pc and starting to work because i am so damn slow and 3d includes soooooo many different things. But i have to be patient with myself. and be kinder. noone learned something in a week.
I’m turning 22 in less than a month and I feel like even this small sliver of “my 20’s” that I’ve lived so far has been full of growth I have yet to see until now. My piece of advice is to give the ugly things the name they have earned. Abuse is abuse, don’t give it a nicer name to console yourself or others. Once I was able to see the things I’ve been through how they are instead of seeing them through the lens of the story I would use to comfort myself, I became able to grapple with them on an even playing field. You can’t know what weapons to bring to a battle if you don’t know the enemy you’re fighting, so I may not be in control of what happens to me, but I can give myself the proper tools to heal those wounds and come out stronger.
As someone who will be 29 in October (literally pushing thirty lol) I agree with everything you said here, and I'd like to add that as long as you aren't hurting anyone, always do what's right for you EVEN if your parents disapprove. Taking advice from them is great but it's very easy to end up living the life they want for you and not the one you want for yourself. Also, never trust a person who doesn't like pets. It's very sus. That's it, my two cents. Great video Charly ❤️
As someone who is 29 (and only JUST NOW learning about the points you've made) I really wish I had known about this sooner. I wasted a good 4 years in university just cause my dad said to go when I was 19, and wasted another 4 years doing a degree I hate just cause I thought "may as well finish what I started" only to decide to go into a career that didn't need a degree at all. I really wasted all of my 20's, but now I'm trying to live the life I want. emphasis on "trying".
Oh! heres one from me too! Don't assume you don't have talent or you can't do something because someone else is already more talented or meant for it. Anyone can master anything and become anything at any age with enough practice and willpower. So setting up everyday habbits executing them on a daily basis will not only get you closer to the goal, but also feel more content with yourself. Its all about habits!
i'm 21 and though i've basically been stuck in a perpetual "quarter life crisis"* for the past 4 or so years, ever since i turned 20 i feel it's gotten a lot worse. it's become painfully clear how behind i am compared to other people my age. i've never dated, i can't drive, i don't know how to make friends, i don't have any hobbies that i genuinely enjoy, i've never had sex, i have no idea what career i want to go into after college--the list just goes on and on. i think about my future and i can't imagine anything except a blank void. i started making more of an effort to actually do things with my time instead of just laying in bed scrolling, but it's hard. i get tired and discouraged and sad so easily. even then, i know i have no choice but to just keep trying. hopefully i will have a life someday that i am happy to live. * sidenote: i recently discovered that this may actually just be depression! haha
I'm no expert but maybe if you can get yourself checked for that depression? Because wouldn't it be great if you could take medication and then find that all of a sudden starting things and enjoying them could actually be doable :D I wish you all the best!
I feel like what you’re dealing with is how I felt at 20/21. A lot of those goals will be accomplished as you age. I’m now 23, and I realized you can’t fit all your goals in one year. So, I think making short terms goals like try x new hobby or join an activity at my college to try and make friends is a good starting point I did. All those goals also take time, so don’t be too hard on yourself.
I'm currently 33 years old. Even though I am battling my mental health issues throughout my 20s but part of me wishes that I didn't focus so much on wanting a boyfriend which has kept me from living my life and being my true self. Also, I've learned that we don't really have to have everything figured out in our 20s.
I'm 23 and i been feeling regretful for wasting so much life on issues and well suffered from my indecision. I've been making changes like leaving pessimistic people and just learning to move forward. There has been so many gems here so thanks.
So so so proud of you for speaking German with us for filming in the wild, for giving your best when it comes to filiming (such a progress, its insane!) and of course sharing your wisdom, which is so valid. I really wait for you to one day just casually vlog on the streets, you’re such a natural and it looks great to have you out and about 🥹 hugs and kisses from a fellow berlin girlie here!
YOU'RE GERMAN!? I've been using English as my main language for most of my life now and I can only dream of an accent as clean as yours. Incredible work!
After a three year relationship that ended recently, in a good way, these helped. We were different, and that's not bad. But time went and we still grew as people, it's difficult time atm yes, but it's not the end. Might feel like it, but it isn't
After 5 years I got broken up with, then we got back together, got promised the world for 2 weeks and broken up with (over text too... then blocked.) again when I went away to see my parents for the summer. I feel very confused as to how he changed his attitude towards me so fast, where the lies and truth begin and end, and how am I going to rebuild my self identity. This video helped me a lot. It will be ok, and you're right, I need to stop abusing optimism as a coping mechanism and just accept that I'll be sad for a while. Whatever the future holds I won't compromise on boundaries again.
dwelled on it a bit more. I'm actually feeling less guilt and aimless hope. thank you so much. i'll come back to this video every day until i don't need it for a while.❤🩹
You have such a talent for languages, your pronounciation (from what i can tell as a german haha) in all of those languages was so good im actually jealous
as a 27yo who is currently re-evaluating all her life choices, I relate SO MUCH with everything you said here! Some of these I learned myself in the past 2 years, some others I am trying to apply but for some I needed to hear the harsh truth to get the final push and ACT. So, thank you. (and extremely creative take on the format of the video!)
10:25 don't ask them why, it's not even their right to validate or invalidate, so even asking them why is kind of like giving their arrogance the time of day, like it means anything
I mean if it's someone you care about, like your friends or family, telling you this, I think asking why is a great callout. It's getting them to consider that they're the ones in the wrong, not you. It shifts the burden from you explaining why you feel a certain way and why it's ok, to them having to justify their own behavior.
Man, do I love seeing your videos. They've such a healthy and honest advices that literally speak to my soul. It straight up feels like I am waking up from a trance and focusing on myself again. Thank you lots for putting so much effort into these videos and helping others out like me! :]
here's mine: life isn't like the movies, hell, it isn't even like it is in your head! Appreciate the good things and always be aware that our brains make the past seem really nice when in reality it was mediocre
Don't worry guys. I'm 25 and of course I did some things that were wrong or bad but hey, I learned my lessons. I think this is part of growing up. As long as you feel good about your choices at one point or have the Courage to choose something else, everything will be fine. At least I hope so myself 😂
Needed this so much rn. I’ve been having a hard time dealing with certain things in my life, and I keep saying “I need some new perspective” and that’s always what these videos bring. 💕
I'd love to learn to let go more. Not everything is in my hands. I want to be more like water, flow with the stages of life and find out who I am and who I want to be in the meantime..
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This video was soooo good thank you for sharing all your insights! and it's good to see women becoming more confident in their own abilities to trust their intuition :)))
The second half of my 26 and the first of my 27 has been rough. Felt old and stuff. The second half of my 27 feeling better tho, I read some quote by Guillermo del Toro that helped me. Time passes anyways and not when and how you'd like to. And I don't even think much about making the most of it, just letting it be and maybe try not to let opportunities slip, and actually doing what you want if you can, I've been thinking like that lately.
I think this might be one of my new favorite videos from your channel. The lessons, the cut, the story-telling!! (Also I never knew you were German until now lmao) I love your channel and the person you've become and are still becoming, keep doing you girly
I usually find these style of x things at x age videos kind of boring and generic but I loved this one! engaging, insightful, and visually interesting!!
I'm not even 20, but I already feel like I've wasted those years given how many videos are made on the topic 😄. I can't tell if RUclips wants me to get outside and touch some grass or if it just enjoys my mental anguish, anyway thanks for the recommendation!
I remember once you said you're a different person when you speak German and now I get what you meant lol Also I loved this video! Your editing style is so unique and cool, and the speed of your videos makes watching them feel like being on a roller coaster, I love it!
absolutely fantastic video. i love every piece of advice given, and i can only hope they will stick. easiest saved video in my mind, and a quick go-to if i ever feel lost. i must subscribe now :) P.S. i have never heard german before, but speaking that fluent made my jaw drop; i know my next language to add to the list to learn heh heh
As someone who is almost 17, I just wanna say some shits that have made my life so sad, and things im afraid of, and things I am excited for. I know this is so off topic, buy the last days have been so hard for me, because I cant really talk to anyone about these things because most of my family members aren't open minded. So anyway, leys get started I will just be saying random stuff, and not everything will make sense, but i just need to write these things. Since i was young, i always wondered if other familys also go through hell, or is it just mine. I love my parents the most in the world, but since i was younger, i accepted that my parents aren't normal, like my mom slways manipulate and gaslight everone in our house hold, and lies so much, but on the other hand she is the kindest on certain days, meanwhile my dad is someone that just wants to make everyone happy, and does not know how to solve any issues, just like my mom, and he never stands up for himself. Ofc there is so much i can go on about judging them and selling more stories, but there is no need, bec there is no use saying stuff like that, but anyway, my mom and dad always forced me to de certain things, like hobbies, sports, and and never really cared(I know that some of you just think that I am just a rude young bitch that just complains, but the things i went through as a small child, and even still today, i wouldn't wish things like this to anyone)
And I am not saying that I haven't made mistakes, I have lied to my mother about so many things, while I wish I haven't, but she was the whole reason why I lied, because no matter how or what i fid, she always judged me, always finding a reason to take her anger out on us, and my dad, who never stood up against my mother when he clearly know what she did to me was wrong, and both of them that always lied to each other, and never truly trusting each other. I have been through so much, seen so much, have been depressed a bunch of times, wanted to commit suicide many times, forced to do so much, and no matter how good I have done, it was never enough. I have come over the point of trying to end my life, mainly because these is one thing that keeps me going, which is finding love, I mean real, true love. I know that that's a silly reason, but that is the only reason why I keep going, no matter how hard it gets, I feel like I have to try, so that I might have a good wonderful future with that person. I know that it is very hard to find a person like that, and the chances might not be high, and I am scared of falling in love in the future, and getting rejected, or that it just turns out to be one sided love. I think about things so much, and I want to write more stuff here, but I don't know how to change my thought into words. I also have a fear of getting rejected by my parents when they find out that I'm gay, but I have gone through so much tears and trauma, what is a little more sadness? I work on myself every day to be a better person, and every time I feel scared about messing my life up and ending up homeless, I stop worring because I know that I won't be able to let that happen to myself, because I care too much, and I love learning too much to let's things like that to happen. I also worrie if in the future, when I have found someone truly like in my dreams, and we life together, and what of there is a accident, and he dies, what will I do then? Will I be able to move on if the thing that I have worked for my whole life just disappears? How will I react? All that I want in my life is to have love( soneone that realy really really loves me, and that would stand up for me, so that I'm not the only person trying to give love, but so that the other person also gives real love back) and is to make other people happy, and is to do fun things together, and to ALWAYS tell the truth to each other, no matter how hard it is, because I will try as hard as I can to be better, to be kinder, and to learn and to love
I’m 42 and here are a couple of mine. You can’t waste your life because there’s nothing you’re supposed to do with it, and don’t romanticize regret. Just decide what you’re going to do today.
Thx random stranger
i'm 22 and thank you
thank you
I'm 20 and I needed to hear this, so thanks
"pessimism DOESNT equal smart" PREACH!! I swear my family thinks I'm so naive for my optimism and career, but nothing is delusional if you have a plan!!
100% YES!!
And optimism doesn’t make you dumb (I’m talking about general optimism not toxic positivity)
I always joke that I'm like the song pumped up kicks - I sound really positive but I'm actually really negative (I know its exaggerated). :(
I've been realllyyy working on it. And I tell my friends to call me out.
you're not the main character of their life, you're the main character of your own life. that sentence helped me realise that i'm worthy and other's don't need to see that
Absolutely!!
Yes As Long as your financial/housing and so situation is not dependent from them 😢
Honestly, I know what that sentence means, but I don't fully get it.
I need to come to that conclusion myself. It's like in math: if you don't get how someone came to a solution, you don't understand the solution.
@@zekiz774 i love that, wish you to actually get the meaning of it
There's a quote I love from, I believe, a tumblr post that I think is golden advice "To be the most authentic, complete version of yourself, you're probably gonna have to disappoint your parents a little."
I 'm 24 and I still value my parents approval soso much and I need to loosen up a lil
I'm 23, and this is so relatable. If you grew up in a household in which you were encouraged to turn to your parents for every big decision, it becomes incredibly hard to suddenly become independent and completely self reliant.
that is So so true, even if your parents aren't strict or horrible they're gonna have their own vision of things and it's gonna be different from yours, also this doesn't mean that you need to cut contact with them- which is something I had to learn. you can just approach things in a nuanced way.
I am 20 years old and i am done with rotting in my bed asap. It crushes my soul and my spirit. I isolated myself for 2 years and i am ready to get out of my comfort zone. I will concentrate on fulfilling my dream of becoming a cardiac surgeon. It is better to at least TRY doing something than waiting around for things to happen, because guess what, nothing changes if nothing changes. I am scared and sad and i feel lonely and so lost, but i am also excited, and passionate, and optimistic, and loving, and caring, and so so hopeful. Wishing you all the best
Same here! Going to CC for engineering and i'm almost 20 🫡 Good luck!
I feel you. I'm glad your getting back on that horse and trying again.
Hey, good luck! Keep it up!
25 was quite possibly one of the worst years of my life. I was depressed, going through a "quarter life crisis", feeling like mortality was slapping me in the face. I was fresh out of a master's program and working my first office job and feeling like "holy shit this cannot be the rest of my life." meanwhile, 26 has been AMAZING. I am so excited about life now and I feel like I know myself more and more everyday. Being in your late 20s is fucking awesome and I hate that we're led to believe that it's not or that we're "old"
Are you still at the office job? I've had this feeling before too.
i am currently very afraid of Death at 23yo
Feels good to read that, i am 24 and i am in a crazy quarter life crisis
I’m in the same boat, just turned 25 this year and in my quarter life crisis! I haven’t reached any of my age goals I’ve been striving for and I’m really trying to adjust my perspective to live day be day instead and to create new goals not associated with “where I want to be by x age,” which is difficult since it’s how we (typically) are all taught to create goals through the current schooling systems
If you are still in your 20s, you haven't wasted your 20s yet. That's stolen valor from those of us who actually did waste their entire 20s!!
i will remember you in particular, KrazyKaiser, whenever i feel like that. im only 21 and ive already felt that a few times. i wont steal your valor :)
Okay I'm just gonna share what I'm most ashamed of: That I am scared of going after my greatest passion. I will turn 26 in 2 months and the last five years I wanted to invest in learning music production. Well, I have learned a little. But just a little. And I am so ashamed because I am so so scared. I could have so many skills by now, but instead I watch tv shows or doom scroll because the fact that I still don't real know how to work with my sampler is something that makes me feel so ashamed and scared that it literally paralyses me, even though music is my biggest passion and I know that being able to create it myself, is my biggest dream in life. Oh well, but I will get there
omg feel it. i burned a lot of money for software and equipment a while ago to give me the feeling of commiting and i did NOTHING with it so far bc music software is really overwhelming. also mainly got into music production because i miss making music irl with other people so hard that i wanted to prove to myself that i am capable of making music all on my own bc my social anxiety keeps me from making new friends who are also into music. which, yeah, maybe is a bit counterproductive.
i'm experiencing this as well (turning 26 this year). my two cents is that i think we're afraid to be beginners. we have high expectations for ourselves. the solution to that is get curious! allow yourself to be a beginner, learn stuff along the way, know that with time, it's all about making a choice and making the best out of that choice. Time is finite (it's crazy i know) but that kind of helps somehow. it's either day one or one day.
it's nice to hear that I am not alone in this haha. I figure that my fear will never go away, if I don't try to do the things I am scared of on a daily basis. Which means when I first start, I have to do everything with fear and hope that the fear get's smaller one day.
but yeah,thanks for your advice
yess i am the same with writing songs!! truly no human experience is unique lol. we just have to accept that we're not going to become instantly great at anything, we have to do stuff badly for a bit before getting good. it's really hard. we're too focused on having achieved something but the real goal should be the enjoyment of the process. my therapist says the moment we become perfect at something we stop being alive, because mistakes allow us to evolve, so being a beginner is actually the whole point. i still don't believe her but she's definitely right
Im the same with animation; im in the last year of my bachelors and i am learning 3D animation from scratch and its so. so. much. i dread getting on my pc and starting to work because i am so damn slow and 3d includes soooooo many different things. But i have to be patient with myself. and be kinder. noone learned something in a week.
and even if you wasted your 20s: you have your 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s... there's plenty of time. you are enough. ❤
I’m turning 22 in less than a month and I feel like even this small sliver of “my 20’s” that I’ve lived so far has been full of growth I have yet to see until now. My piece of advice is to give the ugly things the name they have earned. Abuse is abuse, don’t give it a nicer name to console yourself or others. Once I was able to see the things I’ve been through how they are instead of seeing them through the lens of the story I would use to comfort myself, I became able to grapple with them on an even playing field. You can’t know what weapons to bring to a battle if you don’t know the enemy you’re fighting, so I may not be in control of what happens to me, but I can give myself the proper tools to heal those wounds and come out stronger.
Oh hey, also turning 22 in less than a month!
As someone who will be 29 in October (literally pushing thirty lol) I agree with everything you said here, and I'd like to add that as long as you aren't hurting anyone, always do what's right for you EVEN if your parents disapprove. Taking advice from them is great but it's very easy to end up living the life they want for you and not the one you want for yourself.
Also, never trust a person who doesn't like pets. It's very sus. That's it, my two cents.
Great video Charly ❤️
Omg YES to the pets thing!!!
You can tell so much from how a person treats their pets.
funny thing about this comment is i asked my parents for pets and they said no 🥲 heres to changing their mind tho! i think they're starting to!!
As someone who is 29 (and only JUST NOW learning about the points you've made) I really wish I had known about this sooner. I wasted a good 4 years in university just cause my dad said to go when I was 19, and wasted another 4 years doing a degree I hate just cause I thought "may as well finish what I started" only to decide to go into a career that didn't need a degree at all. I really wasted all of my 20's, but now I'm trying to live the life I want. emphasis on "trying".
Oh! heres one from me too! Don't assume you don't have talent or you can't do something because someone else is already more talented or meant for it. Anyone can master anything and become anything at any age with enough practice and willpower. So setting up everyday habbits executing them on a daily basis will not only get you closer to the goal, but also feel more content with yourself. Its all about habits!
i'm 21 and though i've basically been stuck in a perpetual "quarter life crisis"* for the past 4 or so years, ever since i turned 20 i feel it's gotten a lot worse. it's become painfully clear how behind i am compared to other people my age. i've never dated, i can't drive, i don't know how to make friends, i don't have any hobbies that i genuinely enjoy, i've never had sex, i have no idea what career i want to go into after college--the list just goes on and on. i think about my future and i can't imagine anything except a blank void. i started making more of an effort to actually do things with my time instead of just laying in bed scrolling, but it's hard. i get tired and discouraged and sad so easily. even then, i know i have no choice but to just keep trying. hopefully i will have a life someday that i am happy to live.
* sidenote: i recently discovered that this may actually just be depression! haha
I'm no expert but maybe if you can get yourself checked for that depression? Because wouldn't it be great if you could take medication and then find that all of a sudden starting things and enjoying them could actually be doable :D
I wish you all the best!
I feel like what you’re dealing with is how I felt at 20/21. A lot of those goals will be accomplished as you age. I’m now 23, and I realized you can’t fit all your goals in one year. So, I think making short terms goals like try x new hobby or join an activity at my college to try and make friends is a good starting point I did. All those goals also take time, so don’t be too hard on yourself.
Im currently finding the right type of content at age 25 as a dude and Im grateful. Thanks abunch
your content and cinematography is really so good, i love it
thank you so much!❤
I'm currently 33 years old. Even though I am battling my mental health issues throughout my 20s but part of me wishes that I didn't focus so much on wanting a boyfriend which has kept me from living my life and being my true self. Also, I've learned that we don't really have to have everything figured out in our 20s.
I'm 23 and i been feeling regretful for wasting so much life on issues and well suffered from my indecision. I've been making changes like leaving pessimistic people and just learning to move forward. There has been so many gems here so thanks.
So so so proud of you for speaking German with us for filming in the wild, for giving your best when it comes to filiming (such a progress, its insane!) and of course sharing your wisdom, which is so valid. I really wait for you to one day just casually vlog on the streets, you’re such a natural and it looks great to have you out and about 🥹 hugs and kisses from a fellow berlin girlie here!
I'm 57 and still learning! So excited for your future. Thanks for the wisdom.
recent 26 year old here too! thank you for the perspective. ageing is a privilege and I’m just taking it day by day
YOU'RE GERMAN!?
I've been using English as my main language for most of my life now and I can only dream of an accent as clean as yours.
Incredible work!
even though life has pushed me around i'm still getting up despite everything. thank you for this little perk up :') I feel so seen
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After a three year relationship that ended recently, in a good way, these helped. We were different, and that's not bad. But time went and we still grew as people, it's difficult time atm yes, but it's not the end. Might feel like it, but it isn't
Ich hab mich während des Lingoda-Sponsorships so abgerollt 😂 Das ist die beste Werbung, die ich je gesehen habe. Hut ab!
alles für Timothée ✊
After 5 years I got broken up with, then we got back together, got promised the world for 2 weeks and broken up with (over text too... then blocked.) again when I went away to see my parents for the summer.
I feel very confused as to how he changed his attitude towards me so fast, where the lies and truth begin and end, and how am I going to rebuild my self identity.
This video helped me a lot. It will be ok, and you're right, I need to stop abusing optimism as a coping mechanism and just accept that I'll be sad for a while. Whatever the future holds I won't compromise on boundaries again.
dwelled on it a bit more. I'm actually feeling less guilt and aimless hope. thank you so much.
i'll come back to this video every day until i don't need it for a while.❤🩹
Wishing you the best ❤
@@Jg20-n9x thank you so much 🩷
You have such a talent for languages, your pronounciation (from what i can tell as a german haha) in all of those languages was so good im actually jealous
She sounds 100% German. I’m German and I can tell xD
@@Ytchannel077I would hope so since she is German.
Number 5 is so comforting, I wish I had read more books from people that felt like I did than people that were what I wanted to be.
shame is such an intense experience for me!! im happy you brought it up, im going through a journey rn
as a 27yo who is currently re-evaluating all her life choices, I relate SO MUCH with everything you said here!
Some of these I learned myself in the past 2 years, some others I am trying to apply but for some I needed to hear the harsh truth to get the final push and ACT. So, thank you.
(and extremely creative take on the format of the video!)
I think this is one of the best videos I’ve ever watched for so many reasons
I wasn’t even done watching when I said that and I feel that way even more holy shit
This is good stuff. I'm turning 21 soon and I get to learn from your mistakes AND my own!
i needed that even if i'm 17 thank you!
10:25 don't ask them why, it's not even their right to validate or invalidate, so even asking them why is kind of like giving their arrogance the time of day, like it means anything
I mean if it's someone you care about, like your friends or family, telling you this, I think asking why is a great callout. It's getting them to consider that they're the ones in the wrong, not you. It shifts the burden from you explaining why you feel a certain way and why it's ok, to them having to justify their own behavior.
@@Leonardo-G then it would depend on whether these people even have the self awareness to take it that way, you're right
Bruh idk but you suddenly going HAM in german with the funny sound-bits cheered me up somehow!
Man, do I love seeing your videos. They've such a healthy and honest advices that literally speak to my soul. It straight up feels like I am waking up from a trance and focusing on myself again. Thank you lots for putting so much effort into these videos and helping others out like me! :]
icharly i miss you my queen pls come back
You’ve so quickly become one of my favorite channels to watch I rewatch your content all the time and still find new insights
Poorly aged white ♀️
here's mine: life isn't like the movies, hell, it isn't even like it is in your head! Appreciate the good things and always be aware that our brains make the past seem really nice when in reality it was mediocre
Absolutely true
When I turn 26, I'll come back to this video. See you in 4 and a half years.
the way you are able to voice these thoughts I've been struggling forever to find the right words for is incredible. everything just clicks!
sufjan stevens summer is so real
i'm 18 and im already worried if im wasting my 20s😭
Lmao I’m turning 18 next week and I’m watching bc I’m scared of doing everything wrong lmao 😭
Don't worry guys. I'm 25 and of course I did some things that were wrong or bad but hey, I learned my lessons. I think this is part of growing up. As long as you feel good about your choices at one point or have the Courage to choose something else, everything will be fine. At least I hope so myself 😂
Omg mich hats so krass verschoben als du angefangen hast deutsch zu sprechen giiiiirl yaaaaaaaas
ja mich auch haha, hab dann erstmal gar nicht gecheckt dass ich nicht die untertitel lesen muss, weil ichs ja auch so verstehe lel
Jaaa vorallem sie hat fast keinen akzent wenn sie englisch spricht
And I will be 20 this year ! Thanks a lot hope my stubborn mind uses these when it’s really needed !
I turned 27 last month n I still needed to hear this - much thnx!
i'm 16, and i'm TERRIFIED. i appreciate the advice.
Needed this so much rn. I’ve been having a hard time dealing with certain things in my life, and I keep saying “I need some new perspective” and that’s always what these videos bring. 💕
I love this editing style so muchhh
at 19 this made me feel very reassured and ready for my 20s :)
I'm 23 and I feel like I've wasted every year in my life, not because I've been doing nothing, but the bad exceeds the good, hope this changes
i love the pace of this video, is so beautiful
I feel like you are the only person who makes actual relatable content that most people go through but are to embarrassed to admit
Thank u❤
this is a stellar short film & if it wasn’t one tHEN HOLY WOOWEEE 🤯
I'd love to learn to let go more. Not everything is in my hands. I want to be more like water, flow with the stages of life and find out who I am and who I want to be in the meantime..
A little tip: May be better to state that that you are sponsored before talking about the sponsor, instead of at the end. Believe this is what most content creators do.
It makes it clear when the paid promotion starts, ensuring you are compliant with sponsorship rules.
love the structure of your vids, so authentic and fun!! thank u for blessing us today luv
the music i can’t think
This video was soooo good thank you for sharing all your insights! and it's good to see women becoming more confident in their own abilities to trust their intuition :)))
you freakin’ legend, loving vibing with you on the season of 26, here here!
my native german self was shook when you started speaking german
The second half of my 26 and the first of my 27 has been rough. Felt old and stuff. The second half of my 27 feeling better tho, I read some quote by Guillermo del Toro that helped me. Time passes anyways and not when and how you'd like to. And I don't even think much about making the most of it, just letting it be and maybe try not to let opportunities slip, and actually doing what you want if you can, I've been thinking like that lately.
standing still and not doing anything wiLL change NOTHING
also flaky vs growing
I just turned 20, and this video really helped me with some of my questions. Thank you so much! ❤️
love this as someone who’s turning 20 this year :0 and i love your channel sm!!
Your hair looks so pretty
I’m so so thankful for this video!!
I think this might be one of my new favorite videos from your channel. The lessons, the cut, the story-telling!! (Also I never knew you were German until now lmao)
I love your channel and the person you've become and are still becoming, keep doing you girly
Love the style of the video!!
I usually find these style of x things at x age videos kind of boring and generic but I loved this one! engaging, insightful, and visually interesting!!
Oooo love the scarf
i started living my life this year i turned 20
This is sinematic masterpiece!
26 facts my 20 year old ass needed to hear, Danke dir gurl ❤
Your editing rocks!
Und dein Video allgemein!
Ich liebe dich. I missed you sooo much. & Thank you for creating literal art : ) you are amazing.
I'm not even 20, but I already feel like I've wasted those years given how many videos are made on the topic 😄. I can't tell if RUclips wants me to get outside and touch some grass or if it just enjoys my mental anguish, anyway thanks for the recommendation!
oh i totally needed this THANKS
damn I really needed this right now .. thanks friend !
The last one hit me directly 🥲
26 and trying 😭
I am 29 soon to turn 30 and I wasted my 20s. It's K though we will get there, just gotta find those things we truly care about.
I remember once you said you're a different person when you speak German and now I get what you meant lol
Also I loved this video! Your editing style is so unique and cool, and the speed of your videos makes watching them feel like being on a roller coaster, I love it!
This was really sweet
absolutely fantastic video. i love every piece of advice given, and i can only hope they will stick. easiest saved video in my mind, and a quick go-to if i ever feel lost. i must subscribe now :)
P.S. i have never heard german before, but speaking that fluent made my jaw drop; i know my next language to add to the list to learn heh heh
Hey! You’re awesome, love you! 💜💜
This was sooo healing to listen to, thank you! ❤
Always a highlight to see you’ve posted a new video ❤️😊
always a highlight to have *you* back here ❤
As someone who is almost 17, I just wanna say some shits that have made my life so sad, and things im afraid of, and things I am excited for.
I know this is so off topic, buy the last days have been so hard for me, because I cant really talk to anyone about these things because most of my family members aren't open minded.
So anyway, leys get started
I will just be saying random stuff, and not everything will make sense, but i just need to write these things.
Since i was young, i always wondered if other familys also go through hell, or is it just mine. I love my parents the most in the world, but since i was younger, i accepted that my parents aren't normal, like my mom slways manipulate and gaslight everone in our house hold, and lies so much, but on the other hand she is the kindest on certain days, meanwhile my dad is someone that just wants to make everyone happy, and does not know how to solve any issues, just like my mom, and he never stands up for himself.
Ofc there is so much i can go on about judging them and selling more stories, but there is no need, bec there is no use saying stuff like that, but anyway, my mom and dad always forced me to de certain things, like hobbies, sports, and and never really cared(I know that some of you just think that I am just a rude young bitch that just complains, but the things i went through as a small child, and even still today, i wouldn't wish things like this to anyone)
And I am not saying that I haven't made mistakes, I have lied to my mother about so many things, while I wish I haven't, but she was the whole reason why I lied, because no matter how or what i fid, she always judged me, always finding a reason to take her anger out on us, and my dad, who never stood up against my mother when he clearly know what she did to me was wrong, and both of them that always lied to each other, and never truly trusting each other.
I have been through so much, seen so much, have been depressed a bunch of times, wanted to commit suicide many times, forced to do so much, and no matter how good I have done, it was never enough.
I have come over the point of trying to end my life, mainly because these is one thing that keeps me going, which is finding love, I mean real, true love.
I know that that's a silly reason, but that is the only reason why I keep going, no matter how hard it gets, I feel like I have to try, so that I might have a good wonderful future with that person.
I know that it is very hard to find a person like that, and the chances might not be high, and I am scared of falling in love in the future, and getting rejected, or that it just turns out to be one sided love.
I think about things so much, and I want to write more stuff here, but I don't know how to change my thought into words.
I also have a fear of getting rejected by my parents when they find out that I'm gay, but I have gone through so much tears and trauma, what is a little more sadness?
I work on myself every day to be a better person, and every time I feel scared about messing my life up and ending up homeless, I stop worring because I know that I won't be able to let that happen to myself, because I care too much, and I love learning too much to let's things like that to happen.
I also worrie if in the future, when I have found someone truly like in my dreams, and we life together, and what of there is a accident, and he dies, what will I do then? Will I be able to move on if the thing that I have worked for my whole life just disappears? How will I react?
All that I want in my life is to have love( soneone that realy really really loves me, and that would stand up for me, so that I'm not the only person trying to give love, but so that the other person also gives real love back) and is to make other people happy, and is to do fun things together, and to ALWAYS tell the truth to each other, no matter how hard it is, because I will try as hard as I can to be better, to be kinder, and to learn and to love
There is thousands of things that I could talk about, if anyone have questions, let me know
Was ich war so geschockt als du deutsch geredet hast lol. Aber danke für das Video. War definitiv gut das mal zu hören.
Noooo! Lionardo dicaprio won't date u no more :(
This video came perfectly in time for when I needed it, thank you ♥
Turned 30 in march, still not okay unfortunately
thank you, I really needed to hear this 💗
this is very informative and engaging video🥰I will be turning 20 soon and need these sm thank u
I love this video 😭 you put so much care to it and the advice is so good
Yoo, I needed to hear the last part. ❤
This was really nice, thanks.
im turning 26 in december and my boobs are sagging too 😌😌😌 im a sag through and through now 😚🤟🏻🤘🏻
and we loooove
@@iCharlyprime i love you too girly and i feel like we are friends although you have no idea who i am 😭