@@EveryonesRUclips100 I mean that when I stuck some problem or business, I only think how I can do it, what I can change around me for this. but new friends, new happens or places changes something in your mind, your perception of the world, your approach, so we develop and move on. and sometimes I need to do it myself. not a first time and not a last time probably :)
It's so trippy how every single thing counts and either helps or sabotages you. I try to remind myself to think about the future whenever I make a decision. Now I am more mindful of what I eat and things I do
I am because of we. Profound and truth is in your statement,life altering. Consider reading/listening to “BE YOUR FUTURE SELF NOE” by Dr. Benjamin Hardy easy read, easier to apply and changed my trajectory in life the first day in the program and continuing daily gains now. Heal,be well, be you and LOVE US !--O’DELL
The best way to start going to the gym is to just show up at the same time every day! Maybe you decide you’re not in the mood in the parking lot and go home, or maybe you only work out for 15 minutes-but that’s ok. Without pressure it’s much easier to form the habit, and eventually it’s just easier to head inside and work out a little bit since you went through the hassle of getting dressed and going there!
I just joined for the first time in my life! It’s doable, even when you don’t feel like it! Literally never thought I could do it but here we are. Good luck!
I. The Gap (4:10) II. Becoming a Match (9:40) III. Closing the Gap (13:05) IV. Sticking to it (20:39) V. Accountability (23:40) VI. Being our Own Authority (26:25) VII. Negative & Positive Connotations (27:44) VIII. Being Consistent (32:49) IX. Taking the Risk (34:36) time stamps for future me. what a beautifully explained video.
On “waiting for energy” I don’t think people understand how much energy our digital entertainment sucks from us. I recently cold turkeyed video games and suddenly I’m sleeping on time, getting out to pursue my interests consistently, and all that good stuff. A lot of people cope for their instagram/gaming time when honestly, as far as keeping motivated in your life, they are poison.
i lost my mother a few months ago and watching your videos has really helped. a lot of the things you talk about in these videos are things my mother would say to me and advice she would give. it’s crazy because a lot of the things you’re saying is word for word things she’s said to me and it’s nice to me. So it’s really nice to not only hear these things my mother would tell me but to hear them being expanded upon. I like to think that my mom sent me your videos to encourage me to not get stuck and keep going even with her not here. so thank you for your videos they’re very comforting and inspiring.
this honestly kinda organizes my overthinking and hyper-self awareness. ive had a "feel like it" mentality for so so long, and the fact that this video was recommended to me definitely felt like a wake up call lolll. love your perspective and how you compare it to other real life experiences. its pretty comforting knowing im not the only person with a "feel like it" mentality. i hope we all can figure it out in the end :)
Hyper self-awareness = perfectionism I struggle with this too and there are unnecessary things that I’m trying to focus less and it helped me be with my self and aware in general
The gratitude game has helped me reduce the pain of the guilt I feel for making excuses to avoid growth. The balance is coming in tiny steps, thank you for your words!
This is one of the best parts about having a dog. I care so much about their quality of life that I'll step out of my comfort zone to get outside and take care of their needs which benefits me so much in turn.
Yessss. For waking up early I’d suggest going on a nice walk. It’s so quiet out and you can hear the birds. I look forward to my walks now aka waking up
That is so true my friend. You will never have enough motivation, you will never be rested enough. You have to do it NOW. People who do it NOW have the same level of stress and lack of motivation as the people who do nothing. But people who do it NOW know there will never be enough motivation to do it. Just go for it.
Yes! I recently realised the exact same thing. I spend two weeks studying something every day before I start to put in effort to be proficient. For me that's rising to the level of the goal.
This video is perfect! Waking up for me is easy because Im excited to get the day started. Im an night owl btw! Attaching habits to existing ones is so easy. I have the habit of brushing my teeth in the morning, I attached exercise and meditating to it. Didn't need to spend a month redirecting my focus on doing the habit because I attached new habits with existing ones. Starting a new habit is easier said than done. When the excuses come in, personally what helps is telling yourself why you'd love it. Why do I have to brush my teeth in the morning? I love making sure my teeth are clean. Why do I have to waste 2 minutes brushing my teeth? it'll be fast and while I brush I can think about day and what I wanna do. These are the thoughts I had when creating this habit 2 years ago. now it's just automatic like a robotic like clock work get up brush teeth. Thanks for making this video and I hope my comment helps other people enjoy the rest of your day :)
your question examples reminds me of the "choose your hard" line thats been passed around the webs lately. the reframing of decision making is so relieving T. T < 3
Just wanted to say, I've only recently stumbled across your musings, and I wholehearted appreciate you putting this stuff out there. I've been on a bit of a rollercoaster with my own creative journey and so much of what you present hits home hard. I know much of it empirically, but somehow the way you present it makes it feel more doable and hopeful. Thank you.
@@inayah0 Proud of you, lady. Way to show up for your unknown community. We don't know who will change our lives, or whose life we will change until we speak up, be genuine in ourselves and connect with honesty and transparency. Thank you for lighting the way.
I have given up on habits. There is an alternative. When I think about doing something I let myself off the hook for having to keep at it. So maybe I see something that makes me want to work on something specific on my body, I have a very specific reason and motivation to do it, my why. So it’s not just oh I should excercise… So I do it as much as I feel like while the inspiration is high. Maybe I wonder, why do I never feel like cleaning? I realize it’s because I was looking at it as my job when I really want to focus on reading and writing and my cleaning is a support of that. So I realize why don’t I write? I don’t have a good quiet place to write, so I work on that. There is a lot surrounding things you do that can support what you want, but sometimes you have to go about it in a roundabout way to figure it all out. So I do follow inspiration.
Damn I love that you prioritised this beautiful sunset light at the price of some noise rather than soaked yourself in tons of bright lamps for a crisp image. The image looks so soft, beautiful
I love how there’s no judgement here. I’m not being berated or told I need to be better by you, I’m told by someone who is human too, going through the same thing telling me how they’re figuring it out. Thank you, we’ve got this, we’re gonna make our goals come true!
Tell you what, I've been a night owl myself for many years, and what helped me to get up early was simply to use an alarm clock to brutally wake me every morning (sometimes I change the time one hour forward or back if I want to get up later or earlier). I got used to it and often wake up even before the alarm sounds. The time going to bed doesn't really matter. Even today, I often can't sleep in a structured way, but the point is that I woke up at the right time no matter how many hours I slept. Since I get tired when I drink coffee (during the day too), I simply drink coffee even in the evening or at night. To me, the point was to accept that I can't sleep at fixed times. I just take the sleep that I get. Using a nature sounds app on my Echo device helps me fall asleep faster (things like ocean waves or wind with wind chimes). Ever since I've been doing this regularly, it's become very easy now and I don't even think about it anymore. I make things easy for myself, I have food ready to eat, so I don't have to cook in the evening (here in Germany, this isn't common anyway -- people normally eat dinner at noon). But eating anything in the evening is good b/c it gives your body power to sleep. Because we eat only so we can go back to sleep. Thus, eating something in the evening helps me to get to bed earlier. But I don't force myself to get to bed early, I only force myself to get up early (except on weekends, so my body can have more freedom on weekends).
One of the points that this video does a good job of emphasizing is that motivation is fleeting. I love the book Atomic Habits, but I think its most influential lesson is simple: The five minute rule. Just five minutes of doing anything will bring the motivation. If I put on my gym clothes, grab my gym bag and start the car, how am I **not** going to the gym. If I take my laptop and hit the coffee shop, how am I not going to write? Motivation comes after the action. Waiting for motivation or waiting to “feel like it” will never happen, or it’s too rare to rely on. Using this psychology in tandem with systems and habits that work for you is the only way to go.
I love this channel! the simplicity of sitting down and crafting an arrangement of flowers whilst having a lovely conversation about the inner workings of growth. So here for this
this video was in my watch later list and i am so glad i listened to you, it was an immaculate experience. sidenote; i actually cried a little when i was washing my dishes, thats how you know you got me 💘💝💌
My mother always say this phrase when I was younger,"You're mind is more powerful than you think." And after watching thie video, it made me realize that I have the control to overcome with this uncomfort feeling and that I can do it without feeling it.
I’ve always been a morning person so waking up early has never been the problem. However, I used to lounge around for an hour before getting out of bed. Something unexpected that changed that was getting an automatic feeder for my pet and setting it to 6am. She will pester me until I get up to open the door and then I’m like “well, now I’m up” and start my day right then. This external factor had a significant improvement of behavior that I never thought could be solved from a pet feeder. You might give it a try!
24:44 this part is so true. i've been wanting to get a gym membership for a while now. i have such good excuses such as: social anxiety, i've never been to a gym before in my life, i'm a student and it costs a lot, i live with my mom and brother and i have chores in the house to do, including walking my dog, i want to have a job during summer to save up money, i want to visit my grandma in a different city often, i have to wake up in the morning instead of sleeping in because the morning schedule of the gym is cheaper + there will be less people in the gym at that time etc. but NONE of these are good or valid enough. i'm going to apply TODAY for a 4x a month membership and stick to it. i decided! good luck to everyone reading this and watching this video!! we got this
Got an amazing take away from this that is getting me out of bed rot, I realize I overthink habits or things I want to do and that just builds up how much I really don’t wanna do it. Instead, I’m trying to act on impulse; get up, speak up, do the things before your brain catches up and makes excuses.
honestly at the beginning I thought this was going to be superficial, but you touched on some seriously insightful points, even acknowledging the inner child. The part of me that is refusing is also the wounded angry child that wants attention. Thank you
this video coming up while im procrastinating studying for my math final was very much needed, thank you for just keeping it real and making these goals feel so much more approachable
i’m not kidding, i was just having a breakdown because of not realizing my goals, not actualizing them, and i opened youtube to find a tarot video that would give me advice lolll, and yours is the first video i saw on my recommended… so weird
thanks for reciprocating the energy I've been putting out into the 🌟cosmos 🌟 , the last 4 months of my life have been a complete shift in priorities, motives and overall perspective and its led me to question some aspects of our world and spend a little more time understanding and making sense of the human experience, I've been struggling to find like-minded perspectives and yours is truly refreshing. stay pondering shawty.
I just listen to music whenever I MUST do something I reeealy don't want to do, like washing the dishes, moving to a new home, building a space ship, terraforming Mars, and the list goes on. Listening to music while doing chores (ex. building your hadron collider) is most likely going to help you keep going.
@@Schoolboner she really doesnt have to say anything profound for her audience to resonate with her. i believe that her motive is to simply spread awareness and help people become better versions of themselves :]
Real, I said I was gonna study when I feel like it, when my mind and body is ready but that never came to fruition for a whole year 😭 plus, due to constant pressure and procrastination, I didn't really get anything else done too. Now, I know better and will change for the better 🙌✨
i haven't even finished the video yet but this has already changed my perspective on manifestation and the importance of affirmations in my progress, ty for this video 💗
I appreciate the knowledge you’re sharing in this video. I wanted to share that a couple years ago, I had to take a job that started at 5:00am. My alarm went off at 3:30. I didn’t even have the willpower to prepare myself in advance of the starting day. But what was interesting is this: the first day I was tired and loopy, but fine. The second day was a little better since I crashed at night and made up sleep. By the third day, it was as if I’d always woken up at 3:30am. I was full of energy.
Your channel randomly popped up on my feed and you are a gift! Everything you're saying is so true. Plus you're authentic. Thank you for the encouragement and realistic perspective
-I appreciate how this video feels like a series of affirmations aimed at becoming a better and more dedicated person. While I have encountered similar advice before, I find your approach particularly engaging as you consciously work on building a positive inner dialogue. Whatever your doing, thank you for encouraging both yourself and your viewers to adopt a more positive but in the same time a more conscious attitude💕
Great video. The theme of positive vs negative connotation (Pavlov training, neurons that fire together wire together, etc.) brings to mind how neurodivergent brains have this experience also yet sometimes in different ways. For example; if you have ADHD and grow up in a household where routines & practices aren’t implemented to support your needs as an ADHD person, it can be that much harder to have a positive association with things like routine and time management. Let alone figuring out which organization tools work for you and what doesn’t, etc… I find this video very useful motivation, and it’s also good to hear that everyone struggles with this, and not just neurodivergents!
Growing up in a household that holds a lot in past and not that open about growth in general makes me feel stuck. I want to make my home the first place feeling that growth but I don’t feel it. I instead feel that push outside(in school) it helped me have that new way of opportunities, but again the home I have is not making a way of it.
I wanted to add on a little comment, mostly just for myself, on the topic of how we tell ourselves that making these small habits won't lead achieving our big goals: Even if (I'm using my own personal situation here) creating the habit of waking up earlier, doesn't directly effect me making a career for myself in music (the end goal rn). It does prove to myself, that I can ALSO stick with sitting down every day that I can and practicing, or teaching myself something about music production. Which is something that I really struggle with motivating myself to do because it's the one thing that I am not super familiar with in the process, and it is daunting to push through it, especially on days when I don't exactly feel like it. Additionally, improving yourself in any way, is always a net positive, because it will make you feel better about yourself. As well as increase the number of days or the amount of time that you do actually feel good, energized, and motivated to do the things that will get you to your end goal.
I just stumbled across this video. I am a closeted trans person, and I just found out relatively recently that one of my parents has a very rare form of cancer. This video has made me realize the complicated feelings I have right now. The reality is, being a trans person is not ideal, and at the same time my life always feels like a ticking clock in the sense that I always feel like I'm running out of time and that I've wasted my life by not being myself. I'm afraid of the treatment I could face if I transition, and I'm afraid of being in my deathbed pre-transition wishing I chose myself over internalized hate. And it's hard to validate your dysphoria when the world hates and kills trans people. And now there's a genuine time clock of the confusion of the illness. Thank you for this video, as hard as it is I think my next steps have to be coming out. Are any trans people watching this? Any advice? For context I am a 20 year old college student.
hi! another closeted 20 yr old trans person here. what's even spookier is i also have a parent who's been diagnosed with kidney cancer for over a year now. (only indicated difference is i'm not a student.) upon reading your comment, i felt a sense of pensive kinship over what you must be going through. i personally have no plans of coming out, not while i still live in my parent's house. because of this, i've found it impossible to feel like my authentic self. since we're sort of in the same boat, i don't know if i'm qualified to give you any advice. i will just say that i hear you loud and clear; it really is an impossible task. to balance the turmoil of who you are not being what others see you as, caring for a parent with a horrifying illness, worrying over the potential falling apart of your relationships if you were to be honest with them, knowing that the life you're going to live is entirely in your own hands... but, yeah. i'd say the first step is to be brutally honest with yourself, accept whatever your reality is. what follows depends on the reality you are going to walk towards. (sorry if that was just a convoluted mess of ramblings. maybe something in there will resonate with you, though. truly hope your situation improves, that both of our parents will be okay, and that whoever you may come out to is understanding and loving. best of luck to you
Fellow trans person here. Just started HRT a week ago and I live with my parents who love leaving FOX News on all day to give you an idea of their ideology. Coming out to them was easily one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, bar none. They took it pretty well, better than I would've expected. They call me by the right pronouns for the most part and have never demeaned me about my transness. My dad was the one who picked up my HRT prescription at the pharmacy last week. Sometimes people surprise you. I was expecting the worst. Sometimes we overthink the worst, but we don't think about the other outcome: what if they love us? Sometimes that idea is scarier to contend with. But even if they don't, I think you deserve to live your life in love and not fear. Life will align itself accordingly, and sometimes there are things you might "lose" along the way, but the people and places and experiences on the other side are greater than any gain you could imagine, because you're aligning yourself with truth, with your heart. You have a beautiful idea of who you are, who you want to become. Transness is spiritual to me, like a calling, an awakening of sorts. That kind of deep seated sense of love and peace, the realest thing there is. There's a lot of stuff in the world to cloud that judgement: opinions, politics, society, doesn't really matter what you call it, it's all just fear. There's a million pretty heavy excuses you could make alone, and I don't blame you in this day and age. But you really only get two choices in life: make choices in love, or be ruled by fear?
What i like about your videos is that the things you say and how you word everything you can tell it truly comes from your own personal growth and not just to push out another video! Its a change for sure
Wow. Literally everything you’ve said, are things I’ve been experiencing within myself when it comes to consistency and changes. Literally everything you’ve said I’ve had to learn for myself thru experience. And tbh I’m rn at the point where I trust myself that I will get to where I want to be no matter what because I try my best to continue to do the little actions even when I miss a day or two I keep going back to it and I trust that I will get there. Thank you so much for making this video. It was so refreshing to hear this.
I never thought I would listen to these "mumbo jumbo" motivational life lesson talks but damn...you got me. These are so good and I actively appreciate watching/listening to you. Thanks.
One of the “bosses” I struggle in my growth journey is having a home that doesn’t had that mindset. It just dissapoints me sometimes and Idk if I should be grateful with it or face it seriously. It’s the external thing keeps me back and forth of my self-growth journey.
Love the voice, love the hair, love the gesticulations (finally... a chance to take that unusual compliment, and pay it forward). Loving the vibe of your talks and presentation. So calming.
RUclips keeps recommending me these videos, so now I’m going to start working on myself, I’ve been trying to lose weight and lower my stress levels because I’m at risk of a lot of conditions that run in my family, but I needed motivation to do this. This video helped a me a lot in finding small ways to work towards this goal, and that these smalls things must be done, even if it feels inconvenient Thank you for helping!!! Hopefully I can stick to my health this time
inayah, ive been at the start of my "spiritual journey" (whatever that means) and i think thats whats been drawing me to your channel. i really appreciate the descriptions of vibrations and what not, a lot of this is new to me and youre opening my mind to things, like a teacher:> im excited to see what your next video will teach
I've been challenging myself to oaint everyday and I have been, aside from one, for the whole year. And what you said about creating positive connotations with our habits leading them to feel like rewards in and of themselves, it's been so true. Committing to one consistent habit makes it easier to implement new ones ✌🏼🎨
So many things you said in this video I felt I had already said to myself in a more primitive way, but you worded the entire feeling so precisely and beautifully. I think this just gave me the strength and the right outlook to finally do what I've been putting off, so thank you. I will come back to this if I make it, I hope it's rather sooner than later but I'd be happy to come back either way!
One thing that helps me form habits is telling myself just do this one tiny step. Like getting out of bed when the alarm goes off “at least get up and go to the bathroom. Then you can decide what to do next.” And then that part of the routine just becomes a routine. And you just keep building it little step by little step. And you won’t have to think about all the steps along the way. You just do the first step and then your body will automatically just do the next steps because you set it up that way.
You give off such good vibes! Your voice, the setting, the flower arranging, even your cat - I love the beautiful simplicity and practicality of it all. The points you bring out are stuff that many of us already know, but the way you convey the info feels so motivating. I’m so glad to have come across your channel, Inayah! I’ve been listening to your videos at work to keep my brain occupied, and I’ll definitely put these reminders into practice.
Ngl this video made me realize that as I make excuses for big tasks, I also follow these excuses with more for smaller things. For example, to clean my room I love to listen to music but even now I find myself making excuses on how it’s ‘too much work’ to put on music because deep down I know this small task is followed by a bigger one. I definitely think that a lot of my problems can be solved by simply acknowledging these problems. Your video was super helpful, and I hope it pops up next time I’m laying in bed overthinking a big task and scrolling on RUclips instead :) ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. Everything in your videos: your words, your vibes ... literally EVERYTHING is perfect & I truly need it. The way you talk really says that it's from personal experience & that's why it makes me believe that I can do it too!! Truly thank you so much!!
Kalyn's insights on bridging the gap between where we are and where we want to be are spot on! 💡 Consistent small actions pave the way for habit-building and long-term progress toward our goals.
this is so life changing! an example in my life is that I am currently an independent artist and I just started releasing my own music this year. it’s SO HARD to do everything by myself and it’s a very big goal. it’s hard to stay consistent sometimes because I don’t see the success just yet but then I always remember that things can change for the better and if you keep sticking to what your goal is, eventually you will see the rewards from your work. I’m so glad this video came up on my recommended! ❤️
needed to hear this so much! dreaming a dream, and putting in the work every damn day to live that dream, are two very different things! have been struggling tonnes with it, but thank you for this
I just took the plunge and signed up for a gym membership and powerlifting sessions and honestly I'm sad that I waited for so long, bc I'm actually really enjoying myself. The movement feels good and I actually found that I fit in with the people there so well and that it has become a part of my socialization really quickly.
the hardest thing to realize getting older is that changing IS HARD! there is no way to cheat and skip the journey from who I am today to who I want to be! But the journey does not need to be miserable. I can have the gratitude and appreciation to feel proud of where I’m going.
im watching this while im baking, i really needed to hear this, i recently lost my job and now i feel stuck at home w no routine, i find it hard to get up of bed and do something productive w my day bc i honestly dont feel like it jajaj and this is nice to hear, i dont feel alone
if it helps anyone, the coziness i have found in waking up early is getting to experience the peace and quiet of the world before everybody is awake. waking up with a nice, slow, warm shower; getting to watch the sunrise as you have a hot drink in the morning after getting out of the shower and feeling refreshed... sometimes nothing quite hits like it :-)
This video has several good points, I’ll come back to this every time I need a reminder of what it takes to change, and that we’re all capable. Thank you so much for your words, this video came to me at a really good time
hi, seeing this video a few months after the upload date as it was just recommended by the algorithm but i wanted to leave a comment with my appreciation anyways! not gonna leave my whole life story in this comment but tl;dr i'm autistic and have adhd, depression, anxiety, the whole shebang lol and after a certain point in my life and school career i began to have extreme motivational and attention issues. which naturally i didnt deal with at all just kind of coasted and suffered indefinitely until i graduated hs, got into college, then spectacularly went down in flames during my second semester and dropped out. im a year out from that decision and for the first time ever i'm actively seeking out content that would help me with, ideally, being a human being. not a lot of stuff online clicks for me but your format, way of speaking, and presentation of information is really helpful and keeps me in the right headspace. your explanation of affirmations is the first time it's actually made sense to me and not sounded like pseudoscience! so thank you very much for this, genuinely. i'll wrap this comment up but your arrangements are so beautiful as well. one of my mother's close friends is a florist and growing up i would always love seeing them when we visited. i hope your journey has been going well so far :)
sometimes I forget that my mind and thinking are not a final form of it
Wdym? (Not a rude comment) just want u to elaborate a little :)
@@EveryonesRUclips100 I mean that when I stuck some problem or business, I only think how I can do it, what I can change around me for this. but new friends, new happens or places changes something in your mind, your perception of the world, your approach, so we develop and move on. and sometimes I need to do it myself. not a first time and not a last time probably :)
This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you
@@alliekarrenbauer3538 thank you too for saying that
eternal mood
you actually got me to close minecraft, go shower, do my laundry and clean my room, thank you gorg
Good on ya! thats not easy sometimes!
enjoy the progress
What are the most common triggers
What's that right feeling... Not a morning person.
Did you sustain this or did you come back to your old self?
It's so trippy how every single thing counts and either helps or sabotages you. I try to remind myself to think about the future whenever I make a decision. Now I am more mindful of what I eat and things I do
Wait can you elaborate because I think something you said may have clicked in my brain
@@alexhaslemore75your actions have consequences lmao
*now i am anxious
I am because of we. Profound and truth is in your statement,life altering. Consider reading/listening to “BE YOUR FUTURE SELF NOE” by Dr. Benjamin Hardy easy read, easier to apply and changed my trajectory in life the first day in the program and continuing daily gains now. Heal,be well, be you and LOVE US !--O’DELL
Thanks girl! Literally just took a tour of a gym, and thought to myself "I'll sign up when I feel like it". This video called me out in the best way.
The best way to start going to the gym is to just show up at the same time every day! Maybe you decide you’re not in the mood in the parking lot and go home, or maybe you only work out for 15 minutes-but that’s ok. Without pressure it’s much easier to form the habit, and eventually it’s just easier to head inside and work out a little bit since you went through the hassle of getting dressed and going there!
I just joined for the first time in my life! It’s doable, even when you don’t feel like it! Literally never thought I could do it but here we are. Good luck!
I. The Gap (4:10)
II. Becoming a Match (9:40)
III. Closing the Gap (13:05)
IV. Sticking to it (20:39)
V. Accountability (23:40)
VI. Being our Own Authority (26:25)
VII. Negative & Positive Connotations (27:44)
VIII. Being Consistent (32:49)
IX. Taking the Risk (34:36)
time stamps for future me. what a beautifully explained video.
thank youuuuuu
THANK U
this comment needs copied and pinned. love yu
What an angel🫶🏼
On “waiting for energy” I don’t think people understand how much energy our digital entertainment sucks from us. I recently cold turkeyed video games and suddenly I’m sleeping on time, getting out to pursue my interests consistently, and all that good stuff.
A lot of people cope for their instagram/gaming time when honestly, as far as keeping motivated in your life, they are poison.
Real
real, i’ve basically deleted every social media besides youtube and it’s been great
i lost my mother a few months ago and watching your videos has really helped. a lot of the things you talk about in these videos are things my mother would say to me and advice she would give. it’s crazy because a lot of the things you’re saying is word for word things she’s said to me and it’s nice to me. So it’s really nice to not only hear these things my mother would tell me but to hear them being expanded upon. I like to think that my mom sent me your videos to encourage me to not get stuck and keep going even with her not here. so thank you for your videos they’re very comforting and inspiring.
Thank you for sharing these beautiful words, you have touched my heart. ❤️ I am sending you so much love.
you have no idea how good your videos really are, never stop
That means the world to me
this honestly kinda organizes my overthinking and hyper-self awareness. ive had a "feel like it" mentality for so so long, and the fact that this video was recommended to me definitely felt like a wake up call lolll. love your perspective and how you compare it to other real life experiences. its pretty comforting knowing im not the only person with a "feel like it" mentality. i hope we all can figure it out in the end :)
I completely relate! Yes, we are all doing it together. You got this 💗
Hyper self-awareness = perfectionism
I struggle with this too and there are unnecessary things that I’m trying to focus less and it helped me be with my self and aware in general
The gratitude game has helped me reduce the pain of the guilt I feel for making excuses to avoid growth. The balance is coming in tiny steps, thank you for your words!
This is one of the best parts about having a dog. I care so much about their quality of life that I'll step out of my comfort zone to get outside and take care of their needs which benefits me so much in turn.
Yessss. For waking up early I’d suggest going on a nice walk. It’s so quiet out and you can hear the birds. I look forward to my walks now aka waking up
YESS!! The quiet start to the day is unbelievable once you've been doing it for a while and can't imagine not giving yourself that gift every day ❤
That is so true my friend. You will never have enough motivation, you will never be rested enough. You have to do it NOW. People who do it NOW have the same level of stress and lack of motivation as the people who do nothing. But people who do it NOW know there will never be enough motivation to do it. Just go for it.
Yes! I recently realised the exact same thing. I spend two weeks studying something every day before I start to put in effort to be proficient. For me that's rising to the level of the goal.
This video is perfect! Waking up for me is easy because Im excited to get the day started. Im an night owl btw! Attaching habits to existing ones is so easy. I have the habit of brushing my teeth in the morning, I attached exercise and meditating to it. Didn't need to spend a month redirecting my focus on doing the habit because I attached new habits with existing ones. Starting a new habit is easier said than done. When the excuses come in, personally what helps is telling yourself why you'd love it. Why do I have to brush my teeth in the morning? I love making sure my teeth are clean. Why do I have to waste 2 minutes brushing my teeth? it'll be fast and while I brush I can think about day and what I wanna do. These are the thoughts I had when creating this habit 2 years ago. now it's just automatic like a robotic like clock work get up brush teeth. Thanks for making this video and I hope my comment helps other people enjoy the rest of your day :)
your question examples reminds me of the "choose your hard" line thats been passed around the webs lately. the reframing of decision making is so relieving T. T < 3
Just wanted to say, I've only recently stumbled across your musings, and I wholehearted appreciate you putting this stuff out there. I've been on a bit of a rollercoaster with my own creative journey and so much of what you present hits home hard. I know much of it empirically, but somehow the way you present it makes it feel more doable and hopeful. Thank you.
Proud of you! We’re on this rollercoaster together, I get it ❤️ sending love!
@@inayah0 Proud of you, lady. Way to show up for your unknown community. We don't know who will change our lives, or whose life we will change until we speak up, be genuine in ourselves and connect with honesty and transparency. Thank you for lighting the way.
this!!! exactly this.
I have given up on habits. There is an alternative. When I think about doing something I let myself off the hook for having to keep at it. So maybe I see something that makes me want to work on something specific on my body, I have a very specific reason and motivation to do it, my why. So it’s not just oh I should excercise… So I do it as much as I feel like while the inspiration is high. Maybe I wonder, why do I never feel like cleaning? I realize it’s because I was looking at it as my job when I really want to focus on reading and writing and my cleaning is a support of that. So I realize why don’t I write? I don’t have a good quiet place to write, so I work on that. There is a lot surrounding things you do that can support what you want, but sometimes you have to go about it in a roundabout way to figure it all out. So I do follow inspiration.
Damn I love that you prioritised this beautiful sunset light at the price of some noise rather than soaked yourself in tons of bright lamps for a crisp image.
The image looks so soft, beautiful
I love how there’s no judgement here. I’m not being berated or told I need to be better by you, I’m told by someone who is human too, going through the same thing telling me how they’re figuring it out. Thank you, we’ve got this, we’re gonna make our goals come true!
Tell you what, I've been a night owl myself for many years, and what helped me to get up early was simply to use an alarm clock to brutally wake me every morning (sometimes I change the time one hour forward or back if I want to get up later or earlier). I got used to it and often wake up even before the alarm sounds. The time going to bed doesn't really matter. Even today, I often can't sleep in a structured way, but the point is that I woke up at the right time no matter how many hours I slept. Since I get tired when I drink coffee (during the day too), I simply drink coffee even in the evening or at night. To me, the point was to accept that I can't sleep at fixed times. I just take the sleep that I get. Using a nature sounds app on my Echo device helps me fall asleep faster (things like ocean waves or wind with wind chimes). Ever since I've been doing this regularly, it's become very easy now and I don't even think about it anymore. I make things easy for myself, I have food ready to eat, so I don't have to cook in the evening (here in Germany, this isn't common anyway -- people normally eat dinner at noon). But eating anything in the evening is good b/c it gives your body power to sleep. Because we eat only so we can go back to sleep. Thus, eating something in the evening helps me to get to bed earlier. But I don't force myself to get to bed early, I only force myself to get up early (except on weekends, so my body can have more freedom on weekends).
One of the points that this video does a good job of emphasizing is that motivation is fleeting. I love the book Atomic Habits, but I think its most influential lesson is simple:
The five minute rule. Just five minutes of doing anything will bring the motivation. If I put on my gym clothes, grab my gym bag and start the car, how am I **not** going to the gym. If I take my laptop and hit the coffee shop, how am I not going to write? Motivation comes after the action. Waiting for motivation or waiting to “feel like it” will never happen, or it’s too rare to rely on.
Using this psychology in tandem with systems and habits that work for you is the only way to go.
I love this channel! the simplicity of sitting down and crafting an arrangement of flowers whilst having a lovely conversation about the inner workings of growth. So here for this
this video was in my watch later list and i am so glad i listened to you, it was an immaculate experience. sidenote; i actually cried a little when i was washing my dishes, thats how you know you got me 💘💝💌
My mother always say this phrase when I was younger,"You're mind is more powerful than you think." And after watching thie video, it made me realize that I have the control to overcome with this uncomfort feeling and that I can do it without feeling it.
I’ve always been a morning person so waking up early has never been the problem. However, I used to lounge around for an hour before getting out of bed. Something unexpected that changed that was getting an automatic feeder for my pet and setting it to 6am. She will pester me until I get up to open the door and then I’m like “well, now I’m up” and start my day right then. This external factor had a significant improvement of behavior that I never thought could be solved from a pet feeder. You might give it a try!
24:44 this part is so true. i've been wanting to get a gym membership for a while now. i have such good excuses such as: social anxiety, i've never been to a gym before in my life, i'm a student and it costs a lot, i live with my mom and brother and i have chores in the house to do, including walking my dog, i want to have a job during summer to save up money, i want to visit my grandma in a different city often, i have to wake up in the morning instead of sleeping in because the morning schedule of the gym is cheaper + there will be less people in the gym at that time etc. but NONE of these are good or valid enough. i'm going to apply TODAY for a 4x a month membership and stick to it. i decided! good luck to everyone reading this and watching this video!! we got this
It’s been 2 months now, how are you doing? Are you still going to the gym?
Got an amazing take away from this that is getting me out of bed rot, I realize I overthink habits or things I want to do and that just builds up how much I really don’t wanna do it. Instead, I’m trying to act on impulse; get up, speak up, do the things before your brain catches up and makes excuses.
Magick is psychology. Practicing our craft is the real therapy. Its nice to se others express it in action.
I appreciate your existence so much. You’re so very inspirational.
I appreciate your existence so much
“Doing even you don’t want to”
These words embodied your whole dedication once you go in.
honestly at the beginning I thought this was going to be superficial, but you touched on some seriously insightful points, even acknowledging the inner child. The part of me that is refusing is also the wounded angry child that wants attention. Thank you
I'm learning english with your videos. I love them, and you have a such beautiful voice!
* such a beautiful voice
@@shishi2776 Ok man, there's a lot of native comments to you fix too. Pass to next.
@@shishi2776 but thank you, by the way.
@@shishi2776people like you suck
@@MariliaFranca-yo5bz right! that comment was very unnecessary , i read your comment and didn't see any problem , your english seems great!!
this video coming up while im procrastinating studying for my math final was very much needed, thank you for just keeping it real and making these goals feel so much more approachable
I needed this 3 years ago ;-; but I’m thankful to hear it now!
i’m not kidding, i was just having a breakdown because of not realizing my goals, not actualizing them, and i opened youtube to find a tarot video that would give me advice lolll, and yours is the first video i saw on my recommended… so weird
wow, a singer, dancer, actor and motivational RUclipsr; Lady Gaga is truly talented.
thanks for reciprocating the energy I've been putting out into the 🌟cosmos 🌟 , the last 4 months of my life have been a complete shift in priorities, motives and overall perspective and its led me to question some aspects of our world and spend a little more time understanding and making sense of the human experience, I've been struggling to find like-minded perspectives and yours is truly refreshing.
stay pondering shawty.
I just listen to music whenever I MUST do something I reeealy don't want to do, like washing the dishes, moving to a new home, building a space ship, terraforming Mars, and the list goes on.
Listening to music while doing chores (ex. building your hadron collider) is most likely going to help you keep going.
This video almost brought me to tears. You have no idea how much your mind and voice helps me . Thank you so much.
She isn’t actually saying anything profound. Ive binged her videos for a couple of weeks now
@@Schoolboner she really doesnt have to say anything profound for her audience to resonate with her. i believe that her motive is to simply spread awareness and help people become better versions of themselves :]
@@Schoolbonerits not about being profound. alot of people just need to hear a message and have it fully articulated
showing the flowers arrangements at the end adds such a beautiful metaphor to the video
Real, I said I was gonna study when I feel like it, when my mind and body is ready but that never came to fruition for a whole year 😭 plus, due to constant pressure and procrastination, I didn't really get anything else done too. Now, I know better and will change for the better 🙌✨
so glad your channel came up in my recommendations, everything about your videos (& yourself!) is so calming. Hope you have a wonderful weekend ❤
i haven't even finished the video yet but this has already changed my perspective on manifestation and the importance of affirmations in my progress, ty for this video 💗
I just love these talks, its so natural and warm!! Thank you so much!
I appreciate the knowledge you’re sharing in this video.
I wanted to share that a couple years ago, I had to take a job that started at 5:00am. My alarm went off at 3:30. I didn’t even have the willpower to prepare myself in advance of the starting day. But what was interesting is this: the first day I was tired and loopy, but fine. The second day was a little better since I crashed at night and made up sleep. By the third day, it was as if I’d always woken up at 3:30am. I was full of energy.
Your video looks like a moving pretty painting I love the flowers
love u so much. everything u say in every video resonates
I don't have the slightest idea how I found you. But I feel you're talking to my heart. Thank you for the video!
It’s nice having someone to listen to. 💗
Your channel randomly popped up on my feed and you are a gift! Everything you're saying is so true. Plus you're authentic. Thank you for the encouragement and realistic perspective
Thank you for being here! ❤️
no one's talking about she being a goddess??? stunning T.T
-I appreciate how this video feels like a series of affirmations aimed at becoming a better and more dedicated person. While I have encountered similar advice before, I find your approach particularly engaging as you consciously work on building a positive inner dialogue. Whatever your doing, thank you for encouraging both yourself and your viewers to adopt a more positive but in the same time a more conscious attitude💕
Great video. The theme of positive vs negative connotation (Pavlov training, neurons that fire together wire together, etc.) brings to mind how neurodivergent brains have this experience also yet sometimes in different ways. For example; if you have ADHD and grow up in a household where routines & practices aren’t implemented to support your needs as an ADHD person, it can be that much harder to have a positive association with things like routine and time management. Let alone figuring out which organization tools work for you and what doesn’t, etc… I find this video very useful motivation, and it’s also good to hear that everyone struggles with this, and not just neurodivergents!
Growing up in a household that holds a lot in past and not that open about growth in general makes me feel stuck. I want to make my home the first place feeling that growth but I don’t feel it. I instead feel that push outside(in school) it helped me have that new way of opportunities, but again the home I have is not making a way of it.
I wanted to add on a little comment, mostly just for myself, on the topic of how we tell ourselves that making these small habits won't lead achieving our big goals: Even if (I'm using my own personal situation here) creating the habit of waking up earlier, doesn't directly effect me making a career for myself in music (the end goal rn). It does prove to myself, that I can ALSO stick with sitting down every day that I can and practicing, or teaching myself something about music production. Which is something that I really struggle with motivating myself to do because it's the one thing that I am not super familiar with in the process, and it is daunting to push through it, especially on days when I don't exactly feel like it.
Additionally, improving yourself in any way, is always a net positive, because it will make you feel better about yourself. As well as increase the number of days or the amount of time that you do actually feel good, energized, and motivated to do the things that will get you to your end goal.
This changed my week, probably my month, most likely my year. Just subscribed. Thanks for talking about this stuff. It was really helpful
Just got done cleaning my apartment and have been living my whole life and got this video. It’s worth it to just do it!
i always tell people this. the best way to get yourself started in anything is to force yourself to do it until it becomes a routine.
I just stumbled across this video. I am a closeted trans person, and I just found out relatively recently that one of my parents has a very rare form of cancer. This video has made me realize the complicated feelings I have right now. The reality is, being a trans person is not ideal, and at the same time my life always feels like a ticking clock in the sense that I always feel like I'm running out of time and that I've wasted my life by not being myself. I'm afraid of the treatment I could face if I transition, and I'm afraid of being in my deathbed pre-transition wishing I chose myself over internalized hate. And it's hard to validate your dysphoria when the world hates and kills trans people. And now there's a genuine time clock of the confusion of the illness. Thank you for this video, as hard as it is I think my next steps have to be coming out. Are any trans people watching this? Any advice? For context I am a 20 year old college student.
hi! another closeted 20 yr old trans person here. what's even spookier is i also have a parent who's been diagnosed with kidney cancer for over a year now. (only indicated difference is i'm not a student.) upon reading your comment, i felt a sense of pensive kinship over what you must be going through. i personally have no plans of coming out, not while i still live in my parent's house. because of this, i've found it impossible to feel like my authentic self. since we're sort of in the same boat, i don't know if i'm qualified to give you any advice. i will just say that i hear you loud and clear; it really is an impossible task. to balance the turmoil of who you are not being what others see you as, caring for a parent with a horrifying illness, worrying over the potential falling apart of your relationships if you were to be honest with them, knowing that the life you're going to live is entirely in your own hands... but, yeah. i'd say the first step is to be brutally honest with yourself, accept whatever your reality is. what follows depends on the reality you are going to walk towards.
(sorry if that was just a convoluted mess of ramblings. maybe something in there will resonate with you, though. truly hope your situation improves, that both of our parents will be okay, and that whoever you may come out to is understanding and loving. best of luck to you
Fellow trans person here. Just started HRT a week ago and I live with my parents who love leaving FOX News on all day to give you an idea of their ideology. Coming out to them was easily one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, bar none. They took it pretty well, better than I would've expected. They call me by the right pronouns for the most part and have never demeaned me about my transness. My dad was the one who picked up my HRT prescription at the pharmacy last week. Sometimes people surprise you. I was expecting the worst. Sometimes we overthink the worst, but we don't think about the other outcome: what if they love us? Sometimes that idea is scarier to contend with. But even if they don't, I think you deserve to live your life in love and not fear. Life will align itself accordingly, and sometimes there are things you might "lose" along the way, but the people and places and experiences on the other side are greater than any gain you could imagine, because you're aligning yourself with truth, with your heart.
You have a beautiful idea of who you are, who you want to become. Transness is spiritual to me, like a calling, an awakening of sorts. That kind of deep seated sense of love and peace, the realest thing there is. There's a lot of stuff in the world to cloud that judgement: opinions, politics, society, doesn't really matter what you call it, it's all just fear. There's a million pretty heavy excuses you could make alone, and I don't blame you in this day and age. But you really only get two choices in life: make choices in love, or be ruled by fear?
What i like about your videos is that the things you say and how you word everything you can tell it truly comes from your own personal growth and not just to push out another video! Its a change for sure
Wow. Literally everything you’ve said, are things I’ve been experiencing within myself when it comes to consistency and changes. Literally everything you’ve said I’ve had to learn for myself thru experience. And tbh I’m rn at the point where I trust myself that I will get to where I want to be no matter what because I try my best to continue to do the little actions even when I miss a day or two I keep going back to it and I trust that I will get there. Thank you so much for making this video. It was so refreshing to hear this.
I never thought I would listen to these "mumbo jumbo" motivational life lesson talks but damn...you got me. These are so good and I actively appreciate watching/listening to you. Thanks.
One of the “bosses” I struggle in my growth journey is having a home that doesn’t had that mindset. It just dissapoints me sometimes and Idk if I should be grateful with it or face it seriously. It’s the external thing keeps me back and forth of my self-growth journey.
I’ve been waiting to “feel like” cleaning my home for a long time…I’m taking baby steps to clean right now, because of this video. Thank you 🖤
Beautiful video! Truth about stepping out of our comfort zone delivered with real advice and compassion. Very helpful
Love the voice, love the hair, love the gesticulations (finally... a chance to take that unusual compliment, and pay it forward). Loving the vibe of your talks and presentation. So calming.
RUclips keeps recommending me these videos, so now I’m going to start working on myself, I’ve been trying to lose weight and lower my stress levels because I’m at risk of a lot of conditions that run in my family, but I needed motivation to do this.
This video helped a me a lot in finding small ways to work towards this goal, and that these smalls things must be done, even if it feels inconvenient
Thank you for helping!!! Hopefully I can stick to my health this time
inayah,
ive been at the start of my "spiritual journey" (whatever that means) and i think thats whats been drawing me to your channel. i really appreciate the descriptions of vibrations and what not, a lot of this is new to me and youre opening my mind to things, like a teacher:>
im excited to see what your next video will teach
I've been challenging myself to oaint everyday and I have been, aside from one, for the whole year. And what you said about creating positive connotations with our habits leading them to feel like rewards in and of themselves, it's been so true. Committing to one consistent habit makes it easier to implement new ones ✌🏼🎨
i found you right on time. you say things i've been trying to formulate well for a long time. thank you!
So many things you said in this video I felt I had already said to myself in a more primitive way, but you worded the entire feeling so precisely and beautifully. I think this just gave me the strength and the right outlook to finally do what I've been putting off, so thank you. I will come back to this if I make it, I hope it's rather sooner than later but I'd be happy to come back either way!
One thing that helps me form habits is telling myself just do this one tiny step. Like getting out of bed when the alarm goes off “at least get up and go to the bathroom. Then you can decide what to do next.”
And then that part of the routine just becomes a routine. And you just keep building it little step by little step. And you won’t have to think about all the steps along the way. You just do the first step and then your body will automatically just do the next steps because you set it up that way.
Things I learned/reminded me:
Fill in the gaps
Imagine yourself
Be grateful
this video came up on my home page right when i needed, procrastinating on working on the music i love and needed to pick it back up 🙏🏽
You're so pretty
You're so well spoken
You're so knowledgeable. Love your content 🥰
You are so exquisite, I see you going through every little tiny steps during the deep thinking process and really trying to comfort others
thank you, truly. it really helped me a lot to feel relief about the stress i’ve been feeling about past few weeks. thank you for being there
You give off such good vibes! Your voice, the setting, the flower arranging, even your cat - I love the beautiful simplicity and practicality of it all.
The points you bring out are stuff that many of us already know, but the way you convey the info feels so motivating.
I’m so glad to have come across your channel, Inayah! I’ve been listening to your videos at work to keep my brain occupied, and I’ll definitely put these reminders into practice.
This is true. I always find a way to put off things that I should be doing. It's a bad habit that I need to change.
you speak so articulately and make things so easy to understand. thank you for sharing
Ngl this video made me realize that as I make excuses for big tasks, I also follow these excuses with more for smaller things. For example, to clean my room I love to listen to music but even now I find myself making excuses on how it’s ‘too much work’ to put on music because deep down I know this small task is followed by a bigger one. I definitely think that a lot of my problems can be solved by simply acknowledging these problems. Your video was super helpful, and I hope it pops up next time I’m laying in bed overthinking a big task and scrolling on RUclips instead :) ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. Everything in your videos: your words, your vibes ... literally EVERYTHING is perfect & I truly need it. The way you talk really says that it's from personal experience & that's why it makes me believe that I can do it too!! Truly thank you so much!!
Shocked how you get what i've been feeling from confidence vid to this ilysm
Kalyn's insights on bridging the gap between where we are and where we want to be are spot on! 💡 Consistent small actions pave the way for habit-building and long-term progress toward our goals.
this is so life changing! an example in my life is that I am currently an independent artist and I just started releasing my own music this year. it’s SO HARD to do everything by myself and it’s a very big goal. it’s hard to stay consistent sometimes because I don’t see the success just yet but then I always remember that things can change for the better and if you keep sticking to what your goal is, eventually you will see the rewards from your work. I’m so glad this video came up on my recommended! ❤️
every time i think about some sort of givin up i remember your videos the things your sayin are truly helpful thank you so much
Your videos are so aesthetically pleasing for some reason
added this to my watch later playlist. will watch it later when i feel like it
have seen this in my recommended for weeks but wasnt ready for it until today -- didn't feel like being motivated.. but now I do!
needed to hear this so much! dreaming a dream, and putting in the work every damn day to live that dream, are two very different things! have been struggling tonnes with it, but thank you for this
Such a good way of putting it- we’re doing it together!
I just took the plunge and signed up for a gym membership and powerlifting sessions and honestly I'm sad that I waited for so long, bc I'm actually really enjoying myself. The movement feels good and I actually found that I fit in with the people there so well and that it has become a part of my socialization really quickly.
Gesticulating with the flowers is so precious as a fellow hand-talker myself
omg girl if you've never considered being a therapist/psychologist, you would be AMAZINGGG
actually opened this to procrastinate my reading so I’m closing now 10 seconds in, thankssss
the hardest thing to realize getting older is that changing IS HARD! there is no way to cheat and skip the journey from who I am today to who I want to be! But the journey does not need to be miserable. I can have the gratitude and appreciation to feel proud of where I’m going.
Consistency is extremely important part of parenting as well. I have three grown children, and I know that for a fact.
im watching this while im baking, i really needed to hear this, i recently lost my job and now i feel stuck at home w no routine, i find it hard to get up of bed and do something productive w my day bc i honestly dont feel like it jajaj and this is nice to hear, i dont feel alone
if it helps anyone, the coziness i have found in waking up early is getting to experience the peace and quiet of the world before everybody is awake. waking up with a nice, slow, warm shower; getting to watch the sunrise as you have a hot drink in the morning after getting out of the shower and feeling refreshed... sometimes nothing quite hits like it :-)
first self help video that made me whip out a note book i took so many omg thank you this makes sense to me
This video has several good points, I’ll come back to this every time I need a reminder of what it takes to change, and that we’re all capable. Thank you so much for your words, this video came to me at a really good time
hi, seeing this video a few months after the upload date as it was just recommended by the algorithm but i wanted to leave a comment with my appreciation anyways! not gonna leave my whole life story in this comment but tl;dr i'm autistic and have adhd, depression, anxiety, the whole shebang lol and after a certain point in my life and school career i began to have extreme motivational and attention issues. which naturally i didnt deal with at all just kind of coasted and suffered indefinitely until i graduated hs, got into college, then spectacularly went down in flames during my second semester and dropped out. im a year out from that decision and for the first time ever i'm actively seeking out content that would help me with, ideally, being a human being. not a lot of stuff online clicks for me but your format, way of speaking, and presentation of information is really helpful and keeps me in the right headspace. your explanation of affirmations is the first time it's actually made sense to me and not sounded like pseudoscience! so thank you very much for this, genuinely. i'll wrap this comment up but your arrangements are so beautiful as well. one of my mother's close friends is a florist and growing up i would always love seeing them when we visited. i hope your journey has been going well so far :)