@@EveryonesRUclips100 I mean that when I stuck some problem or business, I only think how I can do it, what I can change around me for this. but new friends, new happens or places changes something in your mind, your perception of the world, your approach, so we develop and move on. and sometimes I need to do it myself. not a first time and not a last time probably :)
It's so trippy how every single thing counts and either helps or sabotages you. I try to remind myself to think about the future whenever I make a decision. Now I am more mindful of what I eat and things I do
I am because of we. Profound and truth is in your statement,life altering. Consider reading/listening to “BE YOUR FUTURE SELF NOE” by Dr. Benjamin Hardy easy read, easier to apply and changed my trajectory in life the first day in the program and continuing daily gains now. Heal,be well, be you and LOVE US !--O’DELL
The best way to start going to the gym is to just show up at the same time every day! Maybe you decide you’re not in the mood in the parking lot and go home, or maybe you only work out for 15 minutes-but that’s ok. Without pressure it’s much easier to form the habit, and eventually it’s just easier to head inside and work out a little bit since you went through the hassle of getting dressed and going there!
I just joined for the first time in my life! It’s doable, even when you don’t feel like it! Literally never thought I could do it but here we are. Good luck!
I. The Gap (4:10) II. Becoming a Match (9:40) III. Closing the Gap (13:05) IV. Sticking to it (20:39) V. Accountability (23:40) VI. Being our Own Authority (26:25) VII. Negative & Positive Connotations (27:44) VIII. Being Consistent (32:49) IX. Taking the Risk (34:36) time stamps for future me. what a beautifully explained video.
i lost my mother a few months ago and watching your videos has really helped. a lot of the things you talk about in these videos are things my mother would say to me and advice she would give. it’s crazy because a lot of the things you’re saying is word for word things she’s said to me and it’s nice to me. So it’s really nice to not only hear these things my mother would tell me but to hear them being expanded upon. I like to think that my mom sent me your videos to encourage me to not get stuck and keep going even with her not here. so thank you for your videos they’re very comforting and inspiring.
this honestly kinda organizes my overthinking and hyper-self awareness. ive had a "feel like it" mentality for so so long, and the fact that this video was recommended to me definitely felt like a wake up call lolll. love your perspective and how you compare it to other real life experiences. its pretty comforting knowing im not the only person with a "feel like it" mentality. i hope we all can figure it out in the end :)
Hyper self-awareness = perfectionism I struggle with this too and there are unnecessary things that I’m trying to focus less and it helped me be with my self and aware in general
On “waiting for energy” I don’t think people understand how much energy our digital entertainment sucks from us. I recently cold turkeyed video games and suddenly I’m sleeping on time, getting out to pursue my interests consistently, and all that good stuff. A lot of people cope for their instagram/gaming time when honestly, as far as keeping motivated in your life, they are poison.
The gratitude game has helped me reduce the pain of the guilt I feel for making excuses to avoid growth. The balance is coming in tiny steps, thank you for your words!
Just wanted to say, I've only recently stumbled across your musings, and I wholehearted appreciate you putting this stuff out there. I've been on a bit of a rollercoaster with my own creative journey and so much of what you present hits home hard. I know much of it empirically, but somehow the way you present it makes it feel more doable and hopeful. Thank you.
@@inayah0 Proud of you, lady. Way to show up for your unknown community. We don't know who will change our lives, or whose life we will change until we speak up, be genuine in ourselves and connect with honesty and transparency. Thank you for lighting the way.
I love how there’s no judgement here. I’m not being berated or told I need to be better by you, I’m told by someone who is human too, going through the same thing telling me how they’re figuring it out. Thank you, we’ve got this, we’re gonna make our goals come true!
This video is perfect! Waking up for me is easy because Im excited to get the day started. Im an night owl btw! Attaching habits to existing ones is so easy. I have the habit of brushing my teeth in the morning, I attached exercise and meditating to it. Didn't need to spend a month redirecting my focus on doing the habit because I attached new habits with existing ones. Starting a new habit is easier said than done. When the excuses come in, personally what helps is telling yourself why you'd love it. Why do I have to brush my teeth in the morning? I love making sure my teeth are clean. Why do I have to waste 2 minutes brushing my teeth? it'll be fast and while I brush I can think about day and what I wanna do. These are the thoughts I had when creating this habit 2 years ago. now it's just automatic like a robotic like clock work get up brush teeth. Thanks for making this video and I hope my comment helps other people enjoy the rest of your day :)
your question examples reminds me of the "choose your hard" line thats been passed around the webs lately. the reframing of decision making is so relieving T. T < 3
I love this channel! the simplicity of sitting down and crafting an arrangement of flowers whilst having a lovely conversation about the inner workings of growth. So here for this
Damn I love that you prioritised this beautiful sunset light at the price of some noise rather than soaked yourself in tons of bright lamps for a crisp image. The image looks so soft, beautiful
Yessss. For waking up early I’d suggest going on a nice walk. It’s so quiet out and you can hear the birds. I look forward to my walks now aka waking up
I have given up on habits. There is an alternative. When I think about doing something I let myself off the hook for having to keep at it. So maybe I see something that makes me want to work on something specific on my body, I have a very specific reason and motivation to do it, my why. So it’s not just oh I should excercise… So I do it as much as I feel like while the inspiration is high. Maybe I wonder, why do I never feel like cleaning? I realize it’s because I was looking at it as my job when I really want to focus on reading and writing and my cleaning is a support of that. So I realize why don’t I write? I don’t have a good quiet place to write, so I work on that. There is a lot surrounding things you do that can support what you want, but sometimes you have to go about it in a roundabout way to figure it all out. So I do follow inspiration.
My mother always say this phrase when I was younger,"You're mind is more powerful than you think." And after watching thie video, it made me realize that I have the control to overcome with this uncomfort feeling and that I can do it without feeling it.
Tell you what, I've been a night owl myself for many years, and what helped me to get up early was simply to use an alarm clock to brutally wake me every morning (sometimes I change the time one hour forward or back if I want to get up later or earlier). I got used to it and often wake up even before the alarm sounds. The time going to bed doesn't really matter. Even today, I often can't sleep in a structured way, but the point is that I woke up at the right time no matter how many hours I slept. Since I get tired when I drink coffee (during the day too), I simply drink coffee even in the evening or at night. To me, the point was to accept that I can't sleep at fixed times. I just take the sleep that I get. Using a nature sounds app on my Echo device helps me fall asleep faster (things like ocean waves or wind with wind chimes). Ever since I've been doing this regularly, it's become very easy now and I don't even think about it anymore. I make things easy for myself, I have food ready to eat, so I don't have to cook in the evening (here in Germany, this isn't common anyway -- people normally eat dinner at noon). But eating anything in the evening is good b/c it gives your body power to sleep. Because we eat only so we can go back to sleep. Thus, eating something in the evening helps me to get to bed earlier. But I don't force myself to get to bed early, I only force myself to get up early (except on weekends, so my body can have more freedom on weekends).
One of the points that this video does a good job of emphasizing is that motivation is fleeting. I love the book Atomic Habits, but I think its most influential lesson is simple: The five minute rule. Just five minutes of doing anything will bring the motivation. If I put on my gym clothes, grab my gym bag and start the car, how am I **not** going to the gym. If I take my laptop and hit the coffee shop, how am I not going to write? Motivation comes after the action. Waiting for motivation or waiting to “feel like it” will never happen, or it’s too rare to rely on. Using this psychology in tandem with systems and habits that work for you is the only way to go.
@@Schoolboner she really doesnt have to say anything profound for her audience to resonate with her. i believe that her motive is to simply spread awareness and help people become better versions of themselves :]
thanks for reciprocating the energy I've been putting out into the 🌟cosmos 🌟 , the last 4 months of my life have been a complete shift in priorities, motives and overall perspective and its led me to question some aspects of our world and spend a little more time understanding and making sense of the human experience, I've been struggling to find like-minded perspectives and yours is truly refreshing. stay pondering shawty.
this video coming up while im procrastinating studying for my math final was very much needed, thank you for just keeping it real and making these goals feel so much more approachable
honestly at the beginning I thought this was going to be superficial, but you touched on some seriously insightful points, even acknowledging the inner child. The part of me that is refusing is also the wounded angry child that wants attention. Thank you
Your channel randomly popped up on my feed and you are a gift! Everything you're saying is so true. Plus you're authentic. Thank you for the encouragement and realistic perspective
That is so true my friend. You will never have enough motivation, you will never be rested enough. You have to do it NOW. People who do it NOW have the same level of stress and lack of motivation as the people who do nothing. But people who do it NOW know there will never be enough motivation to do it. Just go for it.
Yes! I recently realised the exact same thing. I spend two weeks studying something every day before I start to put in effort to be proficient. For me that's rising to the level of the goal.
I’ve always been a morning person so waking up early has never been the problem. However, I used to lounge around for an hour before getting out of bed. Something unexpected that changed that was getting an automatic feeder for my pet and setting it to 6am. She will pester me until I get up to open the door and then I’m like “well, now I’m up” and start my day right then. This external factor had a significant improvement of behavior that I never thought could be solved from a pet feeder. You might give it a try!
-I appreciate how this video feels like a series of affirmations aimed at becoming a better and more dedicated person. While I have encountered similar advice before, I find your approach particularly engaging as you consciously work on building a positive inner dialogue. Whatever your doing, thank you for encouraging both yourself and your viewers to adopt a more positive but in the same time a more conscious attitude💕
i’m not kidding, i was just having a breakdown because of not realizing my goals, not actualizing them, and i opened youtube to find a tarot video that would give me advice lolll, and yours is the first video i saw on my recommended… so weird
I never thought I would listen to these "mumbo jumbo" motivational life lesson talks but damn...you got me. These are so good and I actively appreciate watching/listening to you. Thanks.
So many things you said in this video I felt I had already said to myself in a more primitive way, but you worded the entire feeling so precisely and beautifully. I think this just gave me the strength and the right outlook to finally do what I've been putting off, so thank you. I will come back to this if I make it, I hope it's rather sooner than later but I'd be happy to come back either way!
What i like about your videos is that the things you say and how you word everything you can tell it truly comes from your own personal growth and not just to push out another video! Its a change for sure
24:44 this part is so true. i've been wanting to get a gym membership for a while now. i have such good excuses such as: social anxiety, i've never been to a gym before in my life, i'm a student and it costs a lot, i live with my mom and brother and i have chores in the house to do, including walking my dog, i want to have a job during summer to save up money, i want to visit my grandma in a different city often, i have to wake up in the morning instead of sleeping in because the morning schedule of the gym is cheaper + there will be less people in the gym at that time etc. but NONE of these are good or valid enough. i'm going to apply TODAY for a 4x a month membership and stick to it. i decided! good luck to everyone reading this and watching this video!! we got this
Wow. Literally everything you’ve said, are things I’ve been experiencing within myself when it comes to consistency and changes. Literally everything you’ve said I’ve had to learn for myself thru experience. And tbh I’m rn at the point where I trust myself that I will get to where I want to be no matter what because I try my best to continue to do the little actions even when I miss a day or two I keep going back to it and I trust that I will get there. Thank you so much for making this video. It was so refreshing to hear this.
i haven't even finished the video yet but this has already changed my perspective on manifestation and the importance of affirmations in my progress, ty for this video 💗
I just listen to music whenever I MUST do something I reeealy don't want to do, like washing the dishes, moving to a new home, building a space ship, terraforming Mars, and the list goes on. Listening to music while doing chores (ex. building your hadron collider) is most likely going to help you keep going.
Great video. The theme of positive vs negative connotation (Pavlov training, neurons that fire together wire together, etc.) brings to mind how neurodivergent brains have this experience also yet sometimes in different ways. For example; if you have ADHD and grow up in a household where routines & practices aren’t implemented to support your needs as an ADHD person, it can be that much harder to have a positive association with things like routine and time management. Let alone figuring out which organization tools work for you and what doesn’t, etc… I find this video very useful motivation, and it’s also good to hear that everyone struggles with this, and not just neurodivergents!
Growing up in a household that holds a lot in past and not that open about growth in general makes me feel stuck. I want to make my home the first place feeling that growth but I don’t feel it. I instead feel that push outside(in school) it helped me have that new way of opportunities, but again the home I have is not making a way of it.
I appreciate the knowledge you’re sharing in this video. I wanted to share that a couple years ago, I had to take a job that started at 5:00am. My alarm went off at 3:30. I didn’t even have the willpower to prepare myself in advance of the starting day. But what was interesting is this: the first day I was tired and loopy, but fine. The second day was a little better since I crashed at night and made up sleep. By the third day, it was as if I’d always woken up at 3:30am. I was full of energy.
Love the voice, love the hair, love the gesticulations (finally... a chance to take that unusual compliment, and pay it forward). Loving the vibe of your talks and presentation. So calming.
inayah, ive been at the start of my "spiritual journey" (whatever that means) and i think thats whats been drawing me to your channel. i really appreciate the descriptions of vibrations and what not, a lot of this is new to me and youre opening my mind to things, like a teacher:> im excited to see what your next video will teach
Real, I said I was gonna study when I feel like it, when my mind and body is ready but that never came to fruition for a whole year 😭 plus, due to constant pressure and procrastination, I didn't really get anything else done too. Now, I know better and will change for the better 🙌✨
You give off such good vibes! Your voice, the setting, the flower arranging, even your cat - I love the beautiful simplicity and practicality of it all. The points you bring out are stuff that many of us already know, but the way you convey the info feels so motivating. I’m so glad to have come across your channel, Inayah! I’ve been listening to your videos at work to keep my brain occupied, and I’ll definitely put these reminders into practice.
I just stumbled across this video. I am a closeted trans person, and I just found out relatively recently that one of my parents has a very rare form of cancer. This video has made me realize the complicated feelings I have right now. The reality is, being a trans person is not ideal, and at the same time my life always feels like a ticking clock in the sense that I always feel like I'm running out of time and that I've wasted my life by not being myself. I'm afraid of the treatment I could face if I transition, and I'm afraid of being in my deathbed pre-transition wishing I chose myself over internalized hate. And it's hard to validate your dysphoria when the world hates and kills trans people. And now there's a genuine time clock of the confusion of the illness. Thank you for this video, as hard as it is I think my next steps have to be coming out. Are any trans people watching this? Any advice? For context I am a 20 year old college student.
hi! another closeted 20 yr old trans person here. what's even spookier is i also have a parent who's been diagnosed with kidney cancer for over a year now. (only indicated difference is i'm not a student.) upon reading your comment, i felt a sense of pensive kinship over what you must be going through. i personally have no plans of coming out, not while i still live in my parent's house. because of this, i've found it impossible to feel like my authentic self. since we're sort of in the same boat, i don't know if i'm qualified to give you any advice. i will just say that i hear you loud and clear; it really is an impossible task. to balance the turmoil of who you are not being what others see you as, caring for a parent with a horrifying illness, worrying over the potential falling apart of your relationships if you were to be honest with them, knowing that the life you're going to live is entirely in your own hands... but, yeah. i'd say the first step is to be brutally honest with yourself, accept whatever your reality is. what follows depends on the reality you are going to walk towards. (sorry if that was just a convoluted mess of ramblings. maybe something in there will resonate with you, though. truly hope your situation improves, that both of our parents will be okay, and that whoever you may come out to is understanding and loving. best of luck to you
Fellow trans person here. Just started HRT a week ago and I live with my parents who love leaving FOX News on all day to give you an idea of their ideology. Coming out to them was easily one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, bar none. They took it pretty well, better than I would've expected. They call me by the right pronouns for the most part and have never demeaned me about my transness. My dad was the one who picked up my HRT prescription at the pharmacy last week. Sometimes people surprise you. I was expecting the worst. Sometimes we overthink the worst, but we don't think about the other outcome: what if they love us? Sometimes that idea is scarier to contend with. But even if they don't, I think you deserve to live your life in love and not fear. Life will align itself accordingly, and sometimes there are things you might "lose" along the way, but the people and places and experiences on the other side are greater than any gain you could imagine, because you're aligning yourself with truth, with your heart. You have a beautiful idea of who you are, who you want to become. Transness is spiritual to me, like a calling, an awakening of sorts. That kind of deep seated sense of love and peace, the realest thing there is. There's a lot of stuff in the world to cloud that judgement: opinions, politics, society, doesn't really matter what you call it, it's all just fear. There's a million pretty heavy excuses you could make alone, and I don't blame you in this day and age. But you really only get two choices in life: make choices in love, or be ruled by fear?
I wanted to add on a little comment, mostly just for myself, on the topic of how we tell ourselves that making these small habits won't lead achieving our big goals: Even if (I'm using my own personal situation here) creating the habit of waking up earlier, doesn't directly effect me making a career for myself in music (the end goal rn). It does prove to myself, that I can ALSO stick with sitting down every day that I can and practicing, or teaching myself something about music production. Which is something that I really struggle with motivating myself to do because it's the one thing that I am not super familiar with in the process, and it is daunting to push through it, especially on days when I don't exactly feel like it. Additionally, improving yourself in any way, is always a net positive, because it will make you feel better about yourself. As well as increase the number of days or the amount of time that you do actually feel good, energized, and motivated to do the things that will get you to your end goal.
Got an amazing take away from this that is getting me out of bed rot, I realize I overthink habits or things I want to do and that just builds up how much I really don’t wanna do it. Instead, I’m trying to act on impulse; get up, speak up, do the things before your brain catches up and makes excuses.
RUclips keeps recommending me these videos, so now I’m going to start working on myself, I’ve been trying to lose weight and lower my stress levels because I’m at risk of a lot of conditions that run in my family, but I needed motivation to do this. This video helped a me a lot in finding small ways to work towards this goal, and that these smalls things must be done, even if it feels inconvenient Thank you for helping!!! Hopefully I can stick to my health this time
needed to hear this so much! dreaming a dream, and putting in the work every damn day to live that dream, are two very different things! have been struggling tonnes with it, but thank you for this
Ngl this video made me realize that as I make excuses for big tasks, I also follow these excuses with more for smaller things. For example, to clean my room I love to listen to music but even now I find myself making excuses on how it’s ‘too much work’ to put on music because deep down I know this small task is followed by a bigger one. I definitely think that a lot of my problems can be solved by simply acknowledging these problems. Your video was super helpful, and I hope it pops up next time I’m laying in bed overthinking a big task and scrolling on RUclips instead :) ❤️
you’ve perfectly described exactly what ive been experiencing and struggling with for the past 23 years of my life. the universe led me to this for a reason. bless you and many thanks 🤍
this is so life changing! an example in my life is that I am currently an independent artist and I just started releasing my own music this year. it’s SO HARD to do everything by myself and it’s a very big goal. it’s hard to stay consistent sometimes because I don’t see the success just yet but then I always remember that things can change for the better and if you keep sticking to what your goal is, eventually you will see the rewards from your work. I’m so glad this video came up on my recommended! ❤️
i swear to god you reprogrammed my brain with this video. i've watched it like a month ago, and i'm doing things my adhd brain only wished to be doing. reconnecting with nature after a catastrophical situationship might have helped too, but you were the main catalyst. may your pillow be cold on both sides til the end of the world
the hardest thing to realize getting older is that changing IS HARD! there is no way to cheat and skip the journey from who I am today to who I want to be! But the journey does not need to be miserable. I can have the gratitude and appreciation to feel proud of where I’m going.
One of the “bosses” I struggle in my growth journey is having a home that doesn’t had that mindset. It just dissapoints me sometimes and Idk if I should be grateful with it or face it seriously. It’s the external thing keeps me back and forth of my self-growth journey.
Kalyn's insights on bridging the gap between where we are and where we want to be are spot on! 💡 Consistent small actions pave the way for habit-building and long-term progress toward our goals.
I've been challenging myself to oaint everyday and I have been, aside from one, for the whole year. And what you said about creating positive connotations with our habits leading them to feel like rewards in and of themselves, it's been so true. Committing to one consistent habit makes it easier to implement new ones ✌🏼🎨
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sometimes I forget that my mind and thinking are not a final form of it
Wdym? (Not a rude comment) just want u to elaborate a little :)
@@EveryonesRUclips100 I mean that when I stuck some problem or business, I only think how I can do it, what I can change around me for this. but new friends, new happens or places changes something in your mind, your perception of the world, your approach, so we develop and move on. and sometimes I need to do it myself. not a first time and not a last time probably :)
This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you
@@alliekarrenbauer3538 thank you too for saying that
eternal mood
you actually got me to close minecraft, go shower, do my laundry and clean my room, thank you gorg
Good on ya! thats not easy sometimes!
enjoy the progress
What are the most common triggers
What's that right feeling... Not a morning person.
Did you sustain this or did you come back to your old self?
It's so trippy how every single thing counts and either helps or sabotages you. I try to remind myself to think about the future whenever I make a decision. Now I am more mindful of what I eat and things I do
Wait can you elaborate because I think something you said may have clicked in my brain
@@alexhaslemore75your actions have consequences lmao
*now i am anxious
I am because of we. Profound and truth is in your statement,life altering. Consider reading/listening to “BE YOUR FUTURE SELF NOE” by Dr. Benjamin Hardy easy read, easier to apply and changed my trajectory in life the first day in the program and continuing daily gains now. Heal,be well, be you and LOVE US !--O’DELL
Thanks girl! Literally just took a tour of a gym, and thought to myself "I'll sign up when I feel like it". This video called me out in the best way.
The best way to start going to the gym is to just show up at the same time every day! Maybe you decide you’re not in the mood in the parking lot and go home, or maybe you only work out for 15 minutes-but that’s ok. Without pressure it’s much easier to form the habit, and eventually it’s just easier to head inside and work out a little bit since you went through the hassle of getting dressed and going there!
I just joined for the first time in my life! It’s doable, even when you don’t feel like it! Literally never thought I could do it but here we are. Good luck!
I. The Gap (4:10)
II. Becoming a Match (9:40)
III. Closing the Gap (13:05)
IV. Sticking to it (20:39)
V. Accountability (23:40)
VI. Being our Own Authority (26:25)
VII. Negative & Positive Connotations (27:44)
VIII. Being Consistent (32:49)
IX. Taking the Risk (34:36)
time stamps for future me. what a beautifully explained video.
thank youuuuuu
THANK U
this comment needs copied and pinned. love yu
What an angel🫶🏼
i lost my mother a few months ago and watching your videos has really helped. a lot of the things you talk about in these videos are things my mother would say to me and advice she would give. it’s crazy because a lot of the things you’re saying is word for word things she’s said to me and it’s nice to me. So it’s really nice to not only hear these things my mother would tell me but to hear them being expanded upon. I like to think that my mom sent me your videos to encourage me to not get stuck and keep going even with her not here. so thank you for your videos they’re very comforting and inspiring.
Thank you for sharing these beautiful words, you have touched my heart. ❤️ I am sending you so much love.
this honestly kinda organizes my overthinking and hyper-self awareness. ive had a "feel like it" mentality for so so long, and the fact that this video was recommended to me definitely felt like a wake up call lolll. love your perspective and how you compare it to other real life experiences. its pretty comforting knowing im not the only person with a "feel like it" mentality. i hope we all can figure it out in the end :)
I completely relate! Yes, we are all doing it together. You got this 💗
Hyper self-awareness = perfectionism
I struggle with this too and there are unnecessary things that I’m trying to focus less and it helped me be with my self and aware in general
you have no idea how good your videos really are, never stop
That means the world to me
On “waiting for energy” I don’t think people understand how much energy our digital entertainment sucks from us. I recently cold turkeyed video games and suddenly I’m sleeping on time, getting out to pursue my interests consistently, and all that good stuff.
A lot of people cope for their instagram/gaming time when honestly, as far as keeping motivated in your life, they are poison.
Real
real, i’ve basically deleted every social media besides youtube and it’s been great
The gratitude game has helped me reduce the pain of the guilt I feel for making excuses to avoid growth. The balance is coming in tiny steps, thank you for your words!
Just wanted to say, I've only recently stumbled across your musings, and I wholehearted appreciate you putting this stuff out there. I've been on a bit of a rollercoaster with my own creative journey and so much of what you present hits home hard. I know much of it empirically, but somehow the way you present it makes it feel more doable and hopeful. Thank you.
Proud of you! We’re on this rollercoaster together, I get it ❤️ sending love!
@@inayah0 Proud of you, lady. Way to show up for your unknown community. We don't know who will change our lives, or whose life we will change until we speak up, be genuine in ourselves and connect with honesty and transparency. Thank you for lighting the way.
this!!! exactly this.
I love how there’s no judgement here. I’m not being berated or told I need to be better by you, I’m told by someone who is human too, going through the same thing telling me how they’re figuring it out. Thank you, we’ve got this, we’re gonna make our goals come true!
This video is perfect! Waking up for me is easy because Im excited to get the day started. Im an night owl btw! Attaching habits to existing ones is so easy. I have the habit of brushing my teeth in the morning, I attached exercise and meditating to it. Didn't need to spend a month redirecting my focus on doing the habit because I attached new habits with existing ones. Starting a new habit is easier said than done. When the excuses come in, personally what helps is telling yourself why you'd love it. Why do I have to brush my teeth in the morning? I love making sure my teeth are clean. Why do I have to waste 2 minutes brushing my teeth? it'll be fast and while I brush I can think about day and what I wanna do. These are the thoughts I had when creating this habit 2 years ago. now it's just automatic like a robotic like clock work get up brush teeth. Thanks for making this video and I hope my comment helps other people enjoy the rest of your day :)
your question examples reminds me of the "choose your hard" line thats been passed around the webs lately. the reframing of decision making is so relieving T. T < 3
I love this channel! the simplicity of sitting down and crafting an arrangement of flowers whilst having a lovely conversation about the inner workings of growth. So here for this
Damn I love that you prioritised this beautiful sunset light at the price of some noise rather than soaked yourself in tons of bright lamps for a crisp image.
The image looks so soft, beautiful
Yessss. For waking up early I’d suggest going on a nice walk. It’s so quiet out and you can hear the birds. I look forward to my walks now aka waking up
YESS!! The quiet start to the day is unbelievable once you've been doing it for a while and can't imagine not giving yourself that gift every day ❤
I appreciate your existence so much. You’re so very inspirational.
I appreciate your existence so much
I have given up on habits. There is an alternative. When I think about doing something I let myself off the hook for having to keep at it. So maybe I see something that makes me want to work on something specific on my body, I have a very specific reason and motivation to do it, my why. So it’s not just oh I should excercise… So I do it as much as I feel like while the inspiration is high. Maybe I wonder, why do I never feel like cleaning? I realize it’s because I was looking at it as my job when I really want to focus on reading and writing and my cleaning is a support of that. So I realize why don’t I write? I don’t have a good quiet place to write, so I work on that. There is a lot surrounding things you do that can support what you want, but sometimes you have to go about it in a roundabout way to figure it all out. So I do follow inspiration.
My mother always say this phrase when I was younger,"You're mind is more powerful than you think." And after watching thie video, it made me realize that I have the control to overcome with this uncomfort feeling and that I can do it without feeling it.
Tell you what, I've been a night owl myself for many years, and what helped me to get up early was simply to use an alarm clock to brutally wake me every morning (sometimes I change the time one hour forward or back if I want to get up later or earlier). I got used to it and often wake up even before the alarm sounds. The time going to bed doesn't really matter. Even today, I often can't sleep in a structured way, but the point is that I woke up at the right time no matter how many hours I slept. Since I get tired when I drink coffee (during the day too), I simply drink coffee even in the evening or at night. To me, the point was to accept that I can't sleep at fixed times. I just take the sleep that I get. Using a nature sounds app on my Echo device helps me fall asleep faster (things like ocean waves or wind with wind chimes). Ever since I've been doing this regularly, it's become very easy now and I don't even think about it anymore. I make things easy for myself, I have food ready to eat, so I don't have to cook in the evening (here in Germany, this isn't common anyway -- people normally eat dinner at noon). But eating anything in the evening is good b/c it gives your body power to sleep. Because we eat only so we can go back to sleep. Thus, eating something in the evening helps me to get to bed earlier. But I don't force myself to get to bed early, I only force myself to get up early (except on weekends, so my body can have more freedom on weekends).
One of the points that this video does a good job of emphasizing is that motivation is fleeting. I love the book Atomic Habits, but I think its most influential lesson is simple:
The five minute rule. Just five minutes of doing anything will bring the motivation. If I put on my gym clothes, grab my gym bag and start the car, how am I **not** going to the gym. If I take my laptop and hit the coffee shop, how am I not going to write? Motivation comes after the action. Waiting for motivation or waiting to “feel like it” will never happen, or it’s too rare to rely on.
Using this psychology in tandem with systems and habits that work for you is the only way to go.
This video almost brought me to tears. You have no idea how much your mind and voice helps me . Thank you so much.
She isn’t actually saying anything profound. Ive binged her videos for a couple of weeks now
@@Schoolboner she really doesnt have to say anything profound for her audience to resonate with her. i believe that her motive is to simply spread awareness and help people become better versions of themselves :]
@@Schoolbonerits not about being profound. alot of people just need to hear a message and have it fully articulated
I'm learning english with your videos. I love them, and you have a such beautiful voice!
* such a beautiful voice
@@shishi2776 Ok man, there's a lot of native comments to you fix too. Pass to next.
@@shishi2776 but thank you, by the way.
@@shishi2776people like you suck
@@MariliaFranca-yo5bz right! that comment was very unnecessary , i read your comment and didn't see any problem , your english seems great!!
“Doing even you don’t want to”
These words embodied your whole dedication once you go in.
I just love these talks, its so natural and warm!! Thank you so much!
no one's talking about she being a goddess??? stunning T.T
I needed this 3 years ago ;-; but I’m thankful to hear it now!
thanks for reciprocating the energy I've been putting out into the 🌟cosmos 🌟 , the last 4 months of my life have been a complete shift in priorities, motives and overall perspective and its led me to question some aspects of our world and spend a little more time understanding and making sense of the human experience, I've been struggling to find like-minded perspectives and yours is truly refreshing.
stay pondering shawty.
this video coming up while im procrastinating studying for my math final was very much needed, thank you for just keeping it real and making these goals feel so much more approachable
honestly at the beginning I thought this was going to be superficial, but you touched on some seriously insightful points, even acknowledging the inner child. The part of me that is refusing is also the wounded angry child that wants attention. Thank you
Magick is psychology. Practicing our craft is the real therapy. Its nice to se others express it in action.
so glad your channel came up in my recommendations, everything about your videos (& yourself!) is so calming. Hope you have a wonderful weekend ❤
It’s nice having someone to listen to. 💗
Your channel randomly popped up on my feed and you are a gift! Everything you're saying is so true. Plus you're authentic. Thank you for the encouragement and realistic perspective
Thank you for being here! ❤️
That is so true my friend. You will never have enough motivation, you will never be rested enough. You have to do it NOW. People who do it NOW have the same level of stress and lack of motivation as the people who do nothing. But people who do it NOW know there will never be enough motivation to do it. Just go for it.
Yes! I recently realised the exact same thing. I spend two weeks studying something every day before I start to put in effort to be proficient. For me that's rising to the level of the goal.
showing the flowers arrangements at the end adds such a beautiful metaphor to the video
I’ve always been a morning person so waking up early has never been the problem. However, I used to lounge around for an hour before getting out of bed. Something unexpected that changed that was getting an automatic feeder for my pet and setting it to 6am. She will pester me until I get up to open the door and then I’m like “well, now I’m up” and start my day right then. This external factor had a significant improvement of behavior that I never thought could be solved from a pet feeder. You might give it a try!
-I appreciate how this video feels like a series of affirmations aimed at becoming a better and more dedicated person. While I have encountered similar advice before, I find your approach particularly engaging as you consciously work on building a positive inner dialogue. Whatever your doing, thank you for encouraging both yourself and your viewers to adopt a more positive but in the same time a more conscious attitude💕
i’m not kidding, i was just having a breakdown because of not realizing my goals, not actualizing them, and i opened youtube to find a tarot video that would give me advice lolll, and yours is the first video i saw on my recommended… so weird
love u so much. everything u say in every video resonates
I don't have the slightest idea how I found you. But I feel you're talking to my heart. Thank you for the video!
I never thought I would listen to these "mumbo jumbo" motivational life lesson talks but damn...you got me. These are so good and I actively appreciate watching/listening to you. Thanks.
Just got done cleaning my apartment and have been living my whole life and got this video. It’s worth it to just do it!
This changed my week, probably my month, most likely my year. Just subscribed. Thanks for talking about this stuff. It was really helpful
So many things you said in this video I felt I had already said to myself in a more primitive way, but you worded the entire feeling so precisely and beautifully. I think this just gave me the strength and the right outlook to finally do what I've been putting off, so thank you. I will come back to this if I make it, I hope it's rather sooner than later but I'd be happy to come back either way!
What i like about your videos is that the things you say and how you word everything you can tell it truly comes from your own personal growth and not just to push out another video! Its a change for sure
24:44 this part is so true. i've been wanting to get a gym membership for a while now. i have such good excuses such as: social anxiety, i've never been to a gym before in my life, i'm a student and it costs a lot, i live with my mom and brother and i have chores in the house to do, including walking my dog, i want to have a job during summer to save up money, i want to visit my grandma in a different city often, i have to wake up in the morning instead of sleeping in because the morning schedule of the gym is cheaper + there will be less people in the gym at that time etc. but NONE of these are good or valid enough. i'm going to apply TODAY for a 4x a month membership and stick to it. i decided! good luck to everyone reading this and watching this video!! we got this
It’s been 2 months now, how are you doing? Are you still going to the gym?
Wow. Literally everything you’ve said, are things I’ve been experiencing within myself when it comes to consistency and changes. Literally everything you’ve said I’ve had to learn for myself thru experience. And tbh I’m rn at the point where I trust myself that I will get to where I want to be no matter what because I try my best to continue to do the little actions even when I miss a day or two I keep going back to it and I trust that I will get there. Thank you so much for making this video. It was so refreshing to hear this.
I’ve been waiting to “feel like” cleaning my home for a long time…I’m taking baby steps to clean right now, because of this video. Thank you 🖤
i haven't even finished the video yet but this has already changed my perspective on manifestation and the importance of affirmations in my progress, ty for this video 💗
I just listen to music whenever I MUST do something I reeealy don't want to do, like washing the dishes, moving to a new home, building a space ship, terraforming Mars, and the list goes on.
Listening to music while doing chores (ex. building your hadron collider) is most likely going to help you keep going.
Shocked how you get what i've been feeling from confidence vid to this ilysm
Great video. The theme of positive vs negative connotation (Pavlov training, neurons that fire together wire together, etc.) brings to mind how neurodivergent brains have this experience also yet sometimes in different ways. For example; if you have ADHD and grow up in a household where routines & practices aren’t implemented to support your needs as an ADHD person, it can be that much harder to have a positive association with things like routine and time management. Let alone figuring out which organization tools work for you and what doesn’t, etc… I find this video very useful motivation, and it’s also good to hear that everyone struggles with this, and not just neurodivergents!
Growing up in a household that holds a lot in past and not that open about growth in general makes me feel stuck. I want to make my home the first place feeling that growth but I don’t feel it. I instead feel that push outside(in school) it helped me have that new way of opportunities, but again the home I have is not making a way of it.
I appreciate the knowledge you’re sharing in this video.
I wanted to share that a couple years ago, I had to take a job that started at 5:00am. My alarm went off at 3:30. I didn’t even have the willpower to prepare myself in advance of the starting day. But what was interesting is this: the first day I was tired and loopy, but fine. The second day was a little better since I crashed at night and made up sleep. By the third day, it was as if I’d always woken up at 3:30am. I was full of energy.
Your video looks like a moving pretty painting I love the flowers
Your videos are so aesthetically pleasing for some reason
Beautiful video! Truth about stepping out of our comfort zone delivered with real advice and compassion. Very helpful
Love the voice, love the hair, love the gesticulations (finally... a chance to take that unusual compliment, and pay it forward). Loving the vibe of your talks and presentation. So calming.
i found you right on time. you say things i've been trying to formulate well for a long time. thank you!
this video came up on my home page right when i needed, procrastinating on working on the music i love and needed to pick it back up 🙏🏽
inayah,
ive been at the start of my "spiritual journey" (whatever that means) and i think thats whats been drawing me to your channel. i really appreciate the descriptions of vibrations and what not, a lot of this is new to me and youre opening my mind to things, like a teacher:>
im excited to see what your next video will teach
i always tell people this. the best way to get yourself started in anything is to force yourself to do it until it becomes a routine.
Real, I said I was gonna study when I feel like it, when my mind and body is ready but that never came to fruition for a whole year 😭 plus, due to constant pressure and procrastination, I didn't really get anything else done too. Now, I know better and will change for the better 🙌✨
You give off such good vibes! Your voice, the setting, the flower arranging, even your cat - I love the beautiful simplicity and practicality of it all.
The points you bring out are stuff that many of us already know, but the way you convey the info feels so motivating.
I’m so glad to have come across your channel, Inayah! I’ve been listening to your videos at work to keep my brain occupied, and I’ll definitely put these reminders into practice.
You're so pretty
You're so well spoken
You're so knowledgeable. Love your content 🥰
I just stumbled across this video. I am a closeted trans person, and I just found out relatively recently that one of my parents has a very rare form of cancer. This video has made me realize the complicated feelings I have right now. The reality is, being a trans person is not ideal, and at the same time my life always feels like a ticking clock in the sense that I always feel like I'm running out of time and that I've wasted my life by not being myself. I'm afraid of the treatment I could face if I transition, and I'm afraid of being in my deathbed pre-transition wishing I chose myself over internalized hate. And it's hard to validate your dysphoria when the world hates and kills trans people. And now there's a genuine time clock of the confusion of the illness. Thank you for this video, as hard as it is I think my next steps have to be coming out. Are any trans people watching this? Any advice? For context I am a 20 year old college student.
hi! another closeted 20 yr old trans person here. what's even spookier is i also have a parent who's been diagnosed with kidney cancer for over a year now. (only indicated difference is i'm not a student.) upon reading your comment, i felt a sense of pensive kinship over what you must be going through. i personally have no plans of coming out, not while i still live in my parent's house. because of this, i've found it impossible to feel like my authentic self. since we're sort of in the same boat, i don't know if i'm qualified to give you any advice. i will just say that i hear you loud and clear; it really is an impossible task. to balance the turmoil of who you are not being what others see you as, caring for a parent with a horrifying illness, worrying over the potential falling apart of your relationships if you were to be honest with them, knowing that the life you're going to live is entirely in your own hands... but, yeah. i'd say the first step is to be brutally honest with yourself, accept whatever your reality is. what follows depends on the reality you are going to walk towards.
(sorry if that was just a convoluted mess of ramblings. maybe something in there will resonate with you, though. truly hope your situation improves, that both of our parents will be okay, and that whoever you may come out to is understanding and loving. best of luck to you
Fellow trans person here. Just started HRT a week ago and I live with my parents who love leaving FOX News on all day to give you an idea of their ideology. Coming out to them was easily one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, bar none. They took it pretty well, better than I would've expected. They call me by the right pronouns for the most part and have never demeaned me about my transness. My dad was the one who picked up my HRT prescription at the pharmacy last week. Sometimes people surprise you. I was expecting the worst. Sometimes we overthink the worst, but we don't think about the other outcome: what if they love us? Sometimes that idea is scarier to contend with. But even if they don't, I think you deserve to live your life in love and not fear. Life will align itself accordingly, and sometimes there are things you might "lose" along the way, but the people and places and experiences on the other side are greater than any gain you could imagine, because you're aligning yourself with truth, with your heart.
You have a beautiful idea of who you are, who you want to become. Transness is spiritual to me, like a calling, an awakening of sorts. That kind of deep seated sense of love and peace, the realest thing there is. There's a lot of stuff in the world to cloud that judgement: opinions, politics, society, doesn't really matter what you call it, it's all just fear. There's a million pretty heavy excuses you could make alone, and I don't blame you in this day and age. But you really only get two choices in life: make choices in love, or be ruled by fear?
your energy is so pleasant and warm, i appreciate how you manage to talk about achieving your goals without sounding condescending or preaching 🤍
wow, a singer, dancer, actor and motivational RUclipsr; Lady Gaga is truly talented.
I wanted to add on a little comment, mostly just for myself, on the topic of how we tell ourselves that making these small habits won't lead achieving our big goals: Even if (I'm using my own personal situation here) creating the habit of waking up earlier, doesn't directly effect me making a career for myself in music (the end goal rn). It does prove to myself, that I can ALSO stick with sitting down every day that I can and practicing, or teaching myself something about music production. Which is something that I really struggle with motivating myself to do because it's the one thing that I am not super familiar with in the process, and it is daunting to push through it, especially on days when I don't exactly feel like it.
Additionally, improving yourself in any way, is always a net positive, because it will make you feel better about yourself. As well as increase the number of days or the amount of time that you do actually feel good, energized, and motivated to do the things that will get you to your end goal.
added this to my watch later playlist. will watch it later when i feel like it
Got an amazing take away from this that is getting me out of bed rot, I realize I overthink habits or things I want to do and that just builds up how much I really don’t wanna do it. Instead, I’m trying to act on impulse; get up, speak up, do the things before your brain catches up and makes excuses.
I'm obsessed with the way you edit your videos
PLEASE create a podcast!! I love your videos sooo much and you are genuinely so wise. Thank you for posting such great content, keep going!
this was such a breath of fresh air, thank you 🤍
actually opened this to procrastinate my reading so I’m closing now 10 seconds in, thankssss
thank you, truly. it really helped me a lot to feel relief about the stress i’ve been feeling about past few weeks. thank you for being there
RUclips keeps recommending me these videos, so now I’m going to start working on myself, I’ve been trying to lose weight and lower my stress levels because I’m at risk of a lot of conditions that run in my family, but I needed motivation to do this.
This video helped a me a lot in finding small ways to work towards this goal, and that these smalls things must be done, even if it feels inconvenient
Thank you for helping!!! Hopefully I can stick to my health this time
needed to hear this so much! dreaming a dream, and putting in the work every damn day to live that dream, are two very different things! have been struggling tonnes with it, but thank you for this
Such a good way of putting it- we’re doing it together!
Ngl this video made me realize that as I make excuses for big tasks, I also follow these excuses with more for smaller things. For example, to clean my room I love to listen to music but even now I find myself making excuses on how it’s ‘too much work’ to put on music because deep down I know this small task is followed by a bigger one. I definitely think that a lot of my problems can be solved by simply acknowledging these problems. Your video was super helpful, and I hope it pops up next time I’m laying in bed overthinking a big task and scrolling on RUclips instead :) ❤️
i just know these captions must take forever!! major props love your videos
this was genuinely very helpful, thank you
you speak so articulately and make things so easy to understand. thank you for sharing
have seen this in my recommended for weeks but wasnt ready for it until today -- didn't feel like being motivated.. but now I do!
you’ve perfectly described exactly what ive been experiencing and struggling with for the past 23 years of my life. the universe led me to this for a reason. bless you and many thanks 🤍
You just put into words what im feeling but couldnt describe. Much love!
this is so life changing! an example in my life is that I am currently an independent artist and I just started releasing my own music this year. it’s SO HARD to do everything by myself and it’s a very big goal. it’s hard to stay consistent sometimes because I don’t see the success just yet but then I always remember that things can change for the better and if you keep sticking to what your goal is, eventually you will see the rewards from your work. I’m so glad this video came up on my recommended! ❤️
i swear to god you reprogrammed my brain with this video. i've watched it like a month ago, and i'm doing things my adhd brain only wished to be doing. reconnecting with nature after a catastrophical situationship might have helped too, but you were the main catalyst. may your pillow be cold on both sides til the end of the world
Thank you! I needed this. 26:09 - 28:40 is a game changer, and I will be implementing that strategy in my life.
you have so much insight into being a person it's lovely hearing you talk
the hardest thing to realize getting older is that changing IS HARD! there is no way to cheat and skip the journey from who I am today to who I want to be! But the journey does not need to be miserable. I can have the gratitude and appreciation to feel proud of where I’m going.
I really needed this! Thank you 🩵
first self help video that made me whip out a note book i took so many omg thank you this makes sense to me
One of the “bosses” I struggle in my growth journey is having a home that doesn’t had that mindset. It just dissapoints me sometimes and Idk if I should be grateful with it or face it seriously. It’s the external thing keeps me back and forth of my self-growth journey.
Really enjoying your content. Your content is so prevalent in my life right now and greatly appreciate. Thanks for making videos 😊
Kalyn's insights on bridging the gap between where we are and where we want to be are spot on! 💡 Consistent small actions pave the way for habit-building and long-term progress toward our goals.
You are so exquisite, I see you going through every little tiny steps during the deep thinking process and really trying to comfort others
I've been challenging myself to oaint everyday and I have been, aside from one, for the whole year. And what you said about creating positive connotations with our habits leading them to feel like rewards in and of themselves, it's been so true. Committing to one consistent habit makes it easier to implement new ones ✌🏼🎨
Gesticulating with the flowers is so precious as a fellow hand-talker myself
Lovely shade on those cabinets