This should be REQUIRED viewing before graduating high school!
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Thank you for including me in this video, I really appreciate the awareness. ❤. You are doing good work here.
Thank you for letting me use your clips! Pinning this comment.
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@@kimberlymiller655 HaydenVio was the young woman in the video clip shown at the beginning - the one with the hoarder dad
@@kimberlymiller655 I was the girl in this tiktok he showed, he used my video
As a fellow adult child of hoarders, I want to give you a hug. I escaped it. My brother didn't. I'm proud of you for creating a better space for yourself.
All those times my dad screamed “you live like a pig, clean your room” I was what, six? No one showed me how. He acted like it was second nature. Thanks for this video, hon.
this is how my dad has acted with every single thing, he starts getting angry and screaming and yelling and threatening to call the police whenever I kindly ask for help
Sounds like a military guy. You figure it, just get it done asap!
mine always explained it, but in a way I struggled to understand. it was always too simply explained and I had to basically figure it out in spite of the instructions. it was miserable cuz it got me yelled at a lot for not getting it right, and he didn't like me veering away from doing it a specific way even if it was more comfortable for me.
as I got older I learned to ask him for details. and he still wouldn't explain it in more details, he'd just repeat the same instructions but in a different way. :/
Exactly! Even today I barely know how to organize my room
Comment and all these replies are relatable af. I’m thankful for people who actually care and who want to help people learn
Really appreciate seeing a normal house being cleaned, not a model show home that looks unlived in.
As a buddy of mine said when I told him that the house wasn't super clean because we'd been busy with something, "I'm asking to come over and see you, not your place. That's fine."
@@RandomPerson-nd2ey real homies don't judge✊️
"My wife has ADHD so we're going to leave her piles here, but I've made them organised & symmetrical" now that's a beautiful marital compromise if ever I saw one
Houses like that still look like mansions compared to our houses here in the Philippines
@@johnnye87This is how I clean for cluttered people. They love it.
I feel like I was raised by the internet, I learn the most basic stuff here, while my mom just humiliated me for not learning how to do it by aging.
"You're X years old, you have to know this!" :rolling_on_the_floor_laughing:
Thisssss
Your mom was probably repeating what was done to her too. Parenting doesn't come with a handbook, and most of us made countless regrettable mistakes trying our best to raise those we love the most. 💞
Yep. Was never made to cook, or clean, or anything, and then they got mad at me for.. y'know... not being able to cook, or clean, or anything. Parents can be loving but neglectful. It's still abuse, albeit a bit more unintentional.
Yep. I wasn't allowed to help with cleaning as a kid, because "there will be time enough when you are older" and when I was older she was shocked I didn't know how to clean anything. The internet has been a blessing teaching me all the little things my parents didn't.
To be honest the fact that you also leave some messes and explain that "it's my house, I can be lazy sometimes" really comforts me, you don't leave on a pristine spotless mansion, you live in a house with stuff in the middle you need to move to another spot to clean a space.
Really loved this video, really helped
I love videos that show people how to be adults without being condescending. Straightforward and educational.
Yes. Your kindness does so much good. As an adult I have discovered that there are a lot of things I "missed the memo on" your videos often bring me to tears with your kindness and compassion. Thank you. I hope you get your play button soon, you deserve it.
Dad/Mom, How Do I? Are great channels for this too
With all the products I've bought, my house still doesn't clean itself, damn it.
That's the problem I have!!
Stoopid ungrateful house! *fake spits at it*
I need a Mr. Handy like in Fallout.
😂 I'm that weirdo friend everyone has that absolutely loves to clean everything 😂😂
@@pixie3760 Can I be your friend?? I have all the things you need
ADHD wife here. Thank you for respecting the piles. My husband moves them or destroys them and then it takes me at least an hour to remember what the pile was, what was in it, and what I was saving it for. Lots of tears.
This video is so freaking wholesome. the lack of judgment, the empathic understanding and just clear intentions of wanting to help others just brings so much joy.
Right??? This sums up my impression just perfectly. what a genuine and friendly person he is. a real treasure.
Mack is the best! My favorite goofball full of kindness 💜
My dad slipped an index card full of chores, under our doors, every Saturday. There were five of us, my dad, an elementary school principal, knew how to keep children busy. We hated it, couldn’t go anywhere or watch tv until our chore list was done. He itemized each chore with 1.) Clean sliding glass doors a.) Clean bottom after vacuuming dust out, b.) clean glass inside and out side. Each chore was explained in detail. I realize not everyone had a dad like mine, it definitely taught me how to clean. Love your channel.
I'm going to try this on my children.
@@taraquosame! Sounds great 😊
I was the only child of my single mom mom. I swear to god... Cleaning, cooking... We were a team of 2... It was what it was. To this day I hate any dust gathering rug sitting for nothing 😂😂😂😂
Our mom made each of us a list of chores with instructions every Saturday morning! Funny how that was such a drag as kids but is now a sweet memory. I’d give anything to have a list of chores from her now, miss her every single day. 😢
I had a single bio-mother, twin and half brother... After starting 4th grade, it became apparent that I was better at making sure my chores were done, done right, and done the first time around... so I became the maid. And because of that, "allowances" stopped for all 3 of us.
I hate doing dishes and folding clean laundry. Everything else goes fine... but I'm also disabled now, so being able to clean our whole apartment in one go. My partner works insane, unpredictable and random hours, so relying on her to be not completely exhausted by the time she gets home is like relying on a single nail in the wall to hold the 44" TV...
I know how to clean and organize better than my twin and half-brother, and essentially everyone in my friend group- and the only one who gets close (my partner) is mostly because of her job.
When my son finished his A levels and had a four month break before he went to university, I taught him how to wash and dry clothes. How to cook the meals he enjoys. How to clean. What products to buy. How to shop. I’d been teaching him how to budget since he was five and started getting pocket money. He’s now been at university 2 years almost, and often helps his friends out. The first weeks they didn’t even know how to use a washing machine. They didn’t realise you need to change bed sheets and wash them!😮. They couldn’t cook. He said it was actually quite shocking. So you can understand how some kids who’ve been brought up in certain situations don’t know how to manage. People blame them, but they haven’t been given the skills in life❤️
Aren't A levels taken at like 16 or 17 years old? It's awesome you taught him, but my mom had us learning those chores from age 7 or 8, with increasing skill and complexity so we could help and she didn't have to do it all herself! (Or with dad's help, because dad did clean) Whatever happened to childhood chores?
@@jenniferpearce1052 Divorced parents and working moms with ADHD and pretty unsupervised kids. I wasn't sh0own all the chores I was expected to do and then got in trouble for not completing them. I was ADHD and head strong and got by because my babysitter brought boys over, so I blackmailed her to do my chores to keep my mouth shut. I did gain some skills when I spent weekends and weeks during the summer with him, as he did show us and did not made sure we got it. It did not even care about clean after awhile. When I started caring I had an autistic legally blind daughter, who spent her first 10 days in NICU, had heart surgery at 6 weeks and had other anomalies at birth. At 29, I started learning to clean, care and do whatever it takes to raise my awesome daughter. I am still not very good at cleaning, but these videos are really helping me and inspiring me to be better, so I can help my daughter do better. She is now 32 and living independently in a special needs apartment complex with 2 roommates and caregiver support once a week, plus me until we can get more help or do better. I am 60 and still learning to keep my house, yet trying to teach my daughter too... talk about the blind leading the blind, but we manage even if e don't excel. I cannot tell you how happy I am that I found this awesome RUclips channel, as it is really helping us improve in both of our homes!
It seems I referred to my Dad as him. I think if I could have been raised by my dad, I would be a completely different person today. They did not do that is the late 60'sw, though
@@jenniferpearce1052 EXACTLY what I was thinking. Geeeez!
you were excellent parents!!
I LOVE the fact that you kept your wife’s items in the same areas because of her ADHD. It drives me bonkers when things I have on counters at home get put upstairs or shoved in a bag because I now have absolutely no clue where specific things like letters or bills are, but I get blamed for having a mess or get told I should have cleaned up and they wouldn’t have had to clear the table when they got tired of MY things being there. It is literally just how our brain works.
i can relate to u, i dont have adhd but even if my table's a mess, i know where my stuffs are. and it really bothers me when someone cleans it and misplaces everything
Or, just pick up after yourself. I have severe ADHD. The only mess I have is in my room. It’s not difficult.
@@SnailHatan If you have ADHD then I’m sure you’re 100% aware that it affects everyone differently. Glad you don’t have issues cleaning. Congrats on that 🎉 My ADHD, however, clearly affects me differently. It’s really not that difficult to understand.
also have ADHD, this problem can also be solved by indeed picking up after yourself instead of leaving your stuff all over shared living space
It think I'd they want to clean actually communicating to you that they are moving the stuff because of soemrhhjbg rh2y need to do there would be nice
“It’s gonna smell like alcohol.. because it’s alcohol”.. lol 😆
I love how he addresses people’s sheepish freak outs.
Do you know I actually cried watching this??? I'm showing it to my teenage sons to help them out. I was raised by a perfectionist that never taught me anything because I wouldn't do it right. Thank you so much for sharing this video. We all have ADD or OCD in our family. I'm 50 yo now and still learning.
This is beautiful. You are an awesome mom. 👍💕
PS make sure to wipe off the flush handle on the toilet.
Yes.. What a good Man to show ppl, especially young ppl who may have never learned how to clean!
The perfectionist in me wants him to show how to air dry the toilet brush. But I'll bite my tongue haha.
My mom was also a perfectionist and she didn’t teach me how to clean either. It was hard for me when I had my own home.
Added context below. Additional reminder that some people don't build habits at all, ever (thanks, neurodivergence!), so having the _bare minimum_ explained in a gentle way like this is incredibly helpful.
Editing to add: This comment has gotten a lot of traction, so I'm going to attempt (once) to add a bit of the context I initially tried to leave out for sensitivity.
The technical definition for "habit" is "any regularly repeated behaviour that requires *_little or no thought_* and is learned rather than innate" [emphasis added]. Those of us who cannot form habits require conscious thought for every decision train. We use coping mechanisms, systems, frameworks, labels, triggers, reminders, and organization (to name just the few I use myself) _instead of_ "thoughtless" habits. We may be very good at operating within these frameworks and from the outside it _looks like_ we've got habits, but I can say from personal experience that each one is an analogue to something I was "supposed to" have learned as a child and "should be able to" do without thinking about it as a result. I'll list them if you want me to, but seriously, it's endless.
I deliberately used the broad term "neurodivergence" because the inability to form habits applies to so, so many diagnosed and undiagnosed brainspaces (including ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, and executive function disorder, just to name a few I'm familiar with).
I deliberately used the term "inability" because I'm _not_ referring to lack of motivation, lack of repetition, or lack of guidance - I, for example, am autistic and cannot for the life of me remember to brush my teeth _even though_ my parents 100% taught me how and repeated the action with me throughout my childhood. I'd love to have fewer cavities.
I hope this helps explain a few of the misconceptions I've seen in the conversation below. And as always - if you know, you already know. *_*hug*_*
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That's usually stating it a bit strong, but there definitely are people that are resistant to forming habits in the first place and get off track almost immediately and have to start over if interrupted.
anyone can build habits unless they are functionally retarded and you may be retarded but you are definitely not functionally retarded it just takes more work and more time for some people
@SmallSpoonBrigade I'm in this comment. xD I'm ADHD inattentive, and cleaning falls into the "I generally know how, but always forget to do it until it's not easy anymore and gets overwhelming" category for me specifically because I have such a hard time building habits. The ones I have built have either been because they immediately impact my life, like knowing where my glasses are in the morning, or after multiple really bad experiences, like remembering my keys BEFORE I leave the house.
@@Xanthelei There's a reason why I said usually. In some ways I think the OCD and ASD tend to balance out my ADHD a bit in that regard. I prefer to have a set of keys and everything else that I take with me everyday either in my pants pockets or in a bag I take with me everywhere. It makes that a lot easier. And a check list of what goes in it can help do a quick check from time to time. In practice, I rarely need to check the bag.
I started watching this video and thought, “Who doesn’t know how to clean a counter?” I started reading the comments and realize how many people DON’T know. I also didn’t know how many people have triggering memories attached to cleaning. I certainly do. I had a mother who let dishes, pots and pans pile high. There was trash in the sink and old food. Then, she would pick a fight and punish me by telling me I had to wash the dishes. I have always had some lower back pain so the hour and a half it took would hurt me. When I moved out, I washed dishes immediately so I would never be at the sink for an extended period of time or see nasty dishes in the sink. Thank you for this video.
Same. Now I need to send this to my hubby because I'm realizing that maybe he doesn't know how to clean....
@@53jrodriguez awwww!
They know. They just are the typical conforming to whatever video they watch. You have to be short bus certified to not understand these basic tasks. It's really embarrassing looking at these comments. "I was never taught how to clean!" Nah, you are just lazy. Then again, it's very possible these people need their hand held still across the street. See short bus for more information.
@@ItIsYouAreNotYour Everything about your comment, even your username, reeks of arrogance
@@panic.betrayer They're a low effort troll, just ignore. Likely doesn't do anything worth while IRL and is upset at others being supported so they lash out online. Not worth the effort.
So comforting. No screaming, no shaming, just a man parenting all of us who were never taught but still shamed to hell and back. Only in my 20's did I realize that I only ever tried to figure it out on my own, but never actually knew how. My dad would scream and shout, but he wasn't that clean at all either. For the last few years, I've just been realizing all the stuff that I never even knew needed cleaning. I never saw it, I never looked at it, yet one day I'm like: shit, this can probably be cleaned, somehow. 🤦♀️
The "I SAID GET-EM OUTTA HERE" as if he's upset they didn't magically disappear made me fucking die laughing. Great video dude.
though it is funny he had to grab a couple of them back up cuz he actually used some :p
The attitude is great.
I got a panic attack cause it reminded me of my abusive parents and ex husband. 😔
That caught me off guard I was like “wtf”
@@makiisbro1129 same. i debated to not watch the video after
I'm actually gratified to hear a 6'4" tall dude say that scrubbing bathtubs takes a lot of effort, and he hates it. I'm a nearly 60 year old woman built like a garden rake and scrubbing the bathtub has been the bane of my existence. Until I realized that I could use a scraper, I avoided it like the plague, and the tub always ended up looking awful. It was only when I realized I could scrape it (mine has a smooth surface) that I realized my bathroom could look nice, and it motivated me to clean it every month, top to bottom. I'll give barkeeper's friend a shot, too.
You're absolutely right that cleaning isn't intuitive AT ALL. My mom's mom died just as my parents got married, so my mom never had the chance to lean on her mom's knowledge when she got her own home and family to maintain. It wasn't until I discovered Aurikaterina and you that I really got a full-on grip on how to get things clean, and it's a hell of a mood lifter to be in a clean home. After getting the entire bathroom sparkling, I even just like walking in there and looking at it. My mind and mood sees it as being in control of my environment rather than at the mercy of it.
Your last sentence sums it up perfectly! Thank you, I’m borrowing it for my new mantra!
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Finding Aurikateriina changed my life too. She was the gateway to my love of cleaning RUclips channels, including this one
oh I wish teaching kids to clean was all that was needed my Autistic son whose in his mid twenties to date does not matter how many times I stand with him and explain what is the process is, left to himself does not do even the basics.
If i say for example have youncleaned your room as asked reply yes. If I go up and look he may have for example picked up his dirty laundry and brought it down for the laundry fairy to process, or maybe he vaccummed the carpet. He will not have picked up the thrash (not much but some) he will not have wiped the sheleves over even if he split a drink on them.
He also knows if mum is out and he is home on his laptop when she returns she gets annoyed if the sink is filled with dishes especially if the dish washer is empty and yet any day I go out when I come home dishes in the sink. Does not matter how often I say to him please do not do this. In one ear out the other side.
I hate the tub cleaning too. I just tried a Chinese spin brush I charged it and voila where have you been all my life. I wish I would take more showers and use the spin brush more. Apparently I'm not evolving but there is a glimmer of hope now.
I'm definitely not crying over someone explaining cleaning to me non-judgementally. Thank you ❤️
My mom has ADHD and my dad's autistic, so I grew up in a dirty house that we manically cleaned the morning of having people over every time. And every time, my parents would fight with each other and yell at us and tell us we were doing it wrong. I'd get handed a cleaning product and was expected to just know what to do with it. I'm autistic, so I did what made sense to me, which was, of course, not "correct".
Aww, baby, I hope you’re good now! My kids are grown and newly married. I’m looking at this and hoping I did a good job with them. Sometimes we fail, but I hope you felt loved because you wrote a great letter that I’m certain made this man feel much better. Stay strong and be happy on your own- you can do it! 😊
"If you're not showering you never need to clean your tub" 😂😂
Okay, but literally, pre-pandemic I showered exclusively at the gym for this exact reason. It was great.
I learned about wiping down the shower while you're in there. Mind blowing!
I am an adult with autism, and growing up my sister and I had to do chores around the house. I always got in trouble because I wasn’t doing things “correctly” and my side of our bedroom was always messy. It wasn’t until I became an adult where I had a conversation with my mom and sister about it. I told them I don’t know how to clean my house. Every time I go to my sister’s house it’s immaculate, and I’m flabbergasted as to how. It’s a natural thing for her, so she was confused that I was confused. This was a longwinded comment to say this video was very helpful.
I identify exactly with this comment. Internet friend, thank you and you are not alone.
Also an adult wirh autism. My mother and older sisters akways get mad i don't know how to clean when they've never taught me once or left it to professionals. I need direct instructions, all their getting mad I never do it right makes me feel like never doing it.
do you and your sister learn differently? can you give an example of what would have helped? asking for my daughter - simple things are tough to explain to her (and make it stick) sometimes
@@MK-er7cx My sisters and mother were all raised with the expectations of doing household chores. Something that would have helped is Midwestern Magic Cleaning's thorough step by step explanations instead of just getting mad I can't do a thing they know, to their standard, without teaching me it ever.
ADHD is a comorbidity of autism too. Don't ask how I know.😅
Do I know how to clean? Yes. I have a blackbelt in cleaning and organization. Did I watch this whole video? Of course I did. Thank you for doing this. So many people don't know how to clean. I remember working a job and I cleaned and organized and my boss was stunned because they could never figure out how to do it. Someone showing you how (judgement free) is invaluable.
I'll sub if you teach ❤
I agree. Judgement free, it makes all the difference. No use in shaming anyone, we don’t know what we don’t know.
I know some of the basics but I was never properly taught because of some childhood issues so I just wanted to make sure I didn't miss anything important!
domestic work isn’t as valued as other types of work even tough it’s what keeps us healthy.
I remember my mom literally yelled at me for using more than 7 squares of toilet paper to clean myself and later yelled at me for "living like a slob" when I was a pre-teen. I watched her clean a 1600 sq ft. property wide-eyed and panting because she was in her 50s. It wasn't until semi-recently, and I am 32, that I realized she never actually taught me to maintain and nurture my living space. I'm not being angry or pointing fingers at my momma but just making a realization. Thank you for making this video.
My mom was a housewife as well, but she never taught me a thing. I occasionally ironed my clothes and did some cleaning for fun. I probably watched a movie showing cleaning. I learned how to clean the first year I was married (23 at the time). I only cooked for fun before then, so I had to learn practical meals. My husband had a job where he needed to be at work by 5 am, so I needed to send him off with a lunch and breakfast.
Honestly, I hate washing dishes. It's the chore I dislike the most because I do a sanitation soak like in the restaurants to avoid getting sick. Our dishwasher broke down last year, but we're definitely going to get another one if we see a good deal. Technology exists to help us if we let it.
It took me years to realize you didn't need to feel upset while cleaning. The maintenance is a chore, of course, but it can be made fun or enjoyable. You don't have to feel bad when you're doing a good thing - it doesn't make the cleaning any better.
@@IlonaJuhanson Put on Music or some other thing like a Podcast and you do not notice the Time go By.. Best is when you do it with another Person..
My mother was the eldest of 5 in the 1950's to a single mom who was autistic enough some kids were taken away for neglect. For my mother the topics of food and cleaning are emotionally charged to the point she drives herself, solely by her own actions, to hysterics. So I couldn't learn from example, and as a child became a keen observer of other peoples' domestic habits. Why I watch videos like this.
So what you're saying is that you spent years watching her do these cleaning tasks and never thought to copy her actions?
People are terrifying.
15:30 for people who have bad backs and knees, cleaning the tub with a standing pole scrubber instead of using a handheld sponge can make a world of difference.
Such a good tip! Thank you
For those of us returning as we clean-
Timestamps:
1:36 Cleaning supplies
4:20 General surface cleaning
8:35 Toilet | Inside
9:31 Windows
11:58 Mirrors
13:07 Sinks
15:30 Bathtub & shower
19:30 Dusting
21:31 Vacuuming
26:03 Toilet continued | Outside
29:27 Dishes | Dealing with grease
31:05 Final thoughts
Thank you so much MMC!! This was so helpful!!
I appreciate you!
Underrated comment!
2:24 I SAID GET THEM OFF HERE!
Thank you
Thank you 🎉
You're the first person I've ever seen make a "cleaning for dummies" video. Thank you ❤
Well said heather 👍👍
I know huh?!! Embarrassing to admit, I am old ....I was never taught anything! You were very matter of fact... Not demeaning.
Hmm, not quite. There are PLENTY of ‘how to clean xyz quickly and easily’ videos available. Mac brings a fresh and fun perspective to doing house cleaning, that is a pleasure to watch. :)
@@annwilliams6438 they said “the first person I’VE seen” not “the only person to ever do it”..
Probably because there's more than one way to clean.
It really brightens my day when I see videos like this. There's a generation of kids who are growing up on the internet with almost no parental guidance. But the internet doesn't have to be a force of evil. It's a tool. And we can use it to help others immensely. A+ video, the internet needs more people who want to help.
I'll be honest. I know all of this. I was just hyped to see a normal looking home be cleaned to the level I try to get it. It was nice to be encouraged throughout the video too
I remember having to explain to a friend of mine who couldn’t understand how a person’s house could get so messy. I pointed out she learned from her mom, but not all mom’s know how to clean and maintain a household. And some people were taught to clean but told so often “if you can’t do something right don’t do it at all” which when they’re older with their own place they think “Well, I don’t have time to mop the proper way so I can’t mop” even though there are countless methods and most of them are good enough! Also some people were raised with chores as punishment, so as they got older they think “why do I have to do the dishes? I’ve been good!” I had to make a drastic shift in my mind set before I could even begin to get a handle on cleaning regularly. Flylady helped, not so much her method but her mindset. Cleaning is blessing your home, it’s blessing your family. Sorry, I took the long rambling way to say what you’re doing is fantastic and your wife is 100% right, cleaning is not always intuitive. It’s something you learn.
I like FlyLady too. I learned to clean from her. Picking it up again to teach my kid, and get me out of the mess my back got us into.
Love FlyLady! “You can do anything for fifteen minutes” and “It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just have to get done” were a game changer for me, as were her routines.
I'm in the boat of having chores as punishment, not really ever been shown how to clean anything, and having ADHD. I've been watching this channel for awhile now and it's the only one I contribute monetarily to because I have found it lifechanging. I've cried more than once after watching a video. I struggle so much with cleaning and this channel helps me feel like I'm not a failure.
This is so true! Another example is when your room got messy when a kid and your mom cleaned it for you while you were away and then got the feeling of guilt and shame and the pressure in comments like now keep it clean! As my mental health is declining clean home gives me tremendous anxiety so as soon as I clean up, I feel awful and start to hoard everything back.
Yup, exactly this. I grew up with a combination of cleaning being a punishment and developing depression right when I'd really start to shape those habits.
So now I'm here at 23, I want a clean organized space but it feels so hard to maintain. So now I'm also reshaping how I think about things.
Dishes have gotten a lot better, I actually somewhat enjoy it if I have music going. The othere stuff, were still getting there
I adore how genuinely unbothered your animals are by the vacuum. Your dog just gets up and moves to a different room, and your cat just watches.
I struggle with my vacuum more than my cats do. They side eye it and one of them stalks it, but unless I'm using the small handheld one, I have earplugs in and can only do small areas at a time because the noise bothers me.
@@hattiecattieacoustic?
You can tell he actually uses his. Unlike me and my animals. 😅
@@StonedSammieSue I can't tell if you meant acoustic, or autocorrect got you and you meant autistic. Both of those fit except acoustic doesn't make sense as a question lol
@hunszaszist its a joke where people use Acoustic to refer to Autism
this kinda makes me wanna cry, I also grew up with a hoarder, bless my mom I love her. But we never were taught how to clean, she assumed it was intuitive and that we were lazy as children. when I moved away, I learned through my ex's mom since she cleaned daily and since moving back home I'm incredible overwhelmed but slowly want to learn
I’m actually sobbing right now watching this. I was just talking with my therapist about how i still felt so confused on if i was doing any sort of cleaning correctly because no one taught me how to do it as a child. I would be screamed at for not knowing but i was never taught and it seemed like everyone else knew how already. I have severe ADHD and that in combination with my father’s verbal abuse makes cleaning often a triggering and painful event. I cannot explain how good the timing was on this video or how much i appreciate it ❤️
Your comment warmed my heart, and I wish you good luck on all your healing. You're doing great!
It's very brave of you to show your home as it is and not bother prettyifying it just because it's on camera. You're showing us your real lived in home and demonstrating how cleaning works with your own stuff. This is very real and we see it and appreciate it.
You know I was thinking the same thing. I really like their simple home.
how’s teddy doing?
I'm autistic so often "common sense" isn't common or sensical to me. People expect me to just know things, and this video helped a lot with me figuring out what the proper way is to clean something because I just do not learn in the same way a lot of people do. Having someone patiently explain it helps A LOT.
I wish I could just have someone explain everything to me in life because I’m not joking when I say I genuinely don’t understand a lot of things without help.
it's terrible how there's so many people who could thrive in society but don't simply because when growing up, their parents weren't patient or understanding, whether it be with explaining chores, self hygiene or homework.
That's not what autism is.
@davidrobinson7260 I think I'd know being that I have it? I'm speaking about my personal experience, not every autistic person in existence.
@@davidrobinson7260 ~ The arbiter of autism and who has it
Crazy to see someone actually being considerate of the ADHD piles. Kind of changed my perspective on it after being guilted for so long. As long as there’s compromise and effort, it shouldn’t really be a problem.
I think you have done more healing than most therapists with this one video judging by the comments! Great work!
My parents got arrested and they need to serve time. They left me with a hell hole of a room with so much clothes(washed and unwashed), dirty plates, rotting garbages and rotten wood boards. The aunt who is kind of the home owner(It's a family house) was getting on my nerves so being there to clean their mess up had been a dreadful thought to me because all of my life my parents had gaslit me into believing that I was a lazy, filthy child when 1. they've never taught me how to clean, 2. They're the one making messes, 3. I have undiagnosed chronic illnesses they refused to get check since I was 12.
I always put your video on whenever I need to clean up the place even before they got arrested, but I've never need to do it as throughly as this time, so this video is a life-saver to me, it relieved me so much fear and anxiety. You may not ever saw my comment, but I would like to tell you how you basically helped me dig myself out of my misery since I was a teen who has no way of escaping that hell of a family by giving me the push to clean up after myself and making me realize that I can make it in this life, despite everything.
Good luck
I think the hope in your last sentence is a great place to be. “I can make it in this life, despite everything.” You have already proven that you can do hard things. I have no doubt that you will succeed and have a better life than what your past would predict. Keep on going! ❤
I’m heartbroken when I hear of people thrown into awful situations like this. I’m sorry your parents left you in such a situation, but it also sounds like you’ve been incredibly resilient. Keep it up, you’re awesome.
I'm so proud of you kiddo. I came from similar neglect/abuse and it takes a lot of courage to learn new ways when the adults who made you didn't bother to raise you. ❤
God bless you Jesus loves you! You will make it keep going! I hope now that you are more in control of your space it helps your illnesses have a good day!
Reassurance tip: the first time you clean properly around the outside of the toilet, you will be horrified at how cruddy it is. But, it will never be that bad again, because you will (hopefully) get into the habit of doing it regularly, and then it will be just be a "swoosh" clean every time. So much easier after it's done right once!
Some random guy at a party my roommate and I had in college said to me, I think that's the cleanest toilet I've ever peed in. I thought what a weird thing to say. Now that I'm older and seen how most toilets look I get it. I can't let my toilet get like that. Lol (no judgement, I just have a need to keep mine super clean)😊
I'll be honest: Once I understood what a poor job of cleaning I'd been doing since I didn't know better, I hired a professional to come in and deep clean some things. The toilet and tub were at the top of my list because I knew they'd be difficult to get to a clean state. I know that's not an option for everyone but it was money well spent. It was a lot easier to then clean properly once I had a "clean" slate to start.
My dad taught my brother and me how to clean the bathroom when we were first assigned it as a chore. He told my brother that no matter who had the toilet cleaning duty (we alternated) that it was HIS job to wipe of any splatter from the floor or wall because I wasn't responsible for peeing outside the toilet! Thanks, Dad! And I'm sure my sister in law thanks you too.
I just do enjoy seeing manly man do household cleaning. Honestly I've never seem such a thing...so satisfying.
But like, what's regularly? How many times is that
Genuinely cried while watching this because things finally make sense. I've always been told, "Just use this cleaning product" without any understanding of why or how. This explains all the questions I've had without the accompanying embarrassment of "how do you not know this already?"
Start teaching children how to clean as soon as you can. A 5 year old can learn to clean his space as easy as a 17 year old, you just have to give them opportunities to learn. Dont wait til HS to give them life skills, even if autistic, adhd, etc.and yes Im autistic too and so are my kids. Great content here, glad I found it! #supportautisticcreators
As kids in the 70’s I know my cousin and I were shipped off to our grandparents for the summer. We were taught how to do all this stuff. I had my own cleaning business as a kid because of it.
My elderly neighbors used to hire me out, clean houses, yards, wash cars, walk dogs, etc.
I still do it today. What puzzles me, WHY was HOME EC cancelled in schools? EVERYBODY NEEDS TO LEARN THE BASICS!
I would actually teach my younger friends cooking, cleaning, sewing, clothing and beauty. Give the younger ones a chance! They’re eager to learn, then TEACH!
After showing this amazing duo how to make tacos at hime, I came home to find CLASS for 15-20 young girls from their church ALL LEARNING HOW TO MAKE TACOS! They were laughing and eating, having a ball!
I seriously have never been so proud in my life. They had it DOWN!
I am so thankful for Home Ec. I learned so much, and I still know all the different sewing stitches, cooking, baking. it was my favorite class ever. I ended up becoming a full-time homemaker. I homeschooled my kids and taught my kids all that I learned. Anything else they don't know, they have learned on their own. Home Ec. is so necessary to learn for life's basic survival. I'm so glad that there are channels like yours that teach cleaning. I love to watch them and pick up any tips that would make cleaning easier.
Canceling home ec made it easier to sell things to most people and manipulate others
No room in the school budget for anything other than required core classes. Even the teachers don't get paid enough to live indoors-- I had one teacher who lived in her car and slept in the classroom.
It’s a sad thing that home ec is no longer a thing. It absolutely should be as well as a course in managing your finances, how credit works, etc.
Education budgets suffer because America prioritizes subsidizing unhealthy food over all other expenses. Meatonomics will teach you all about it.
I come from an abusive home. One of the abuser tactics my dad used was demanding that my mother "relax and let the kids deal with it." Whenever she started to clean the house and then call my sisters and I lazy and incompetent when we did clean and he was extremely over critical so it felt like everything we did was wrong until we just gave up and began to feel like it was not worth it to even try.
We lived in disorder, chaos and clutter. We got food poisoning a lot because he wouldn't let our mother put food away in time but then insisted we eat it so it won't go to waste.
It was only when I was in my midtwenties did I start to feel like I was developing mediocre cleaning skills. I'm now in my 30's and I'm finally in a place where I do the dishes regularly. I honestly don't feel like this would have been possible had I not met my husband. He's so kind and gentle and he helped me make a home where we feel safe and loved. I don't feel stressed. Part of my cleaning journey was definitely deeply ingrained in the healing and recovery process.
It's sad hearing what you went through. But great that you are now in a good place. Breaking the chain of bad parenting.
Mine wasn't as bad, and it took me until my forties to even grasp that "abusive" might apply (as I do love my parents, they do love me, and the issues seem minor in comparison to so many people's), but I did have my dad constantly criticizing my cleaning attempts -- in ways that I only in the past five years have determined are related to my ADHD. I was always not cleaning in a timely manner, or cleaning the wrong location, or cleaning the wrong sublocation, or getting distracted and not completing the job, or cleaning it inadequately, and every time he would be like "why didn't you do it over here and this way" until I learned that it was easier to not do it at all in the first place, since I'd get criticized either way.
Digging yourself out of that sort of hole is tough. I've got a long way to go, but at least I understand better the roots of some of my issues. I'm glad you've found the resources and support you need to progress to a better stage of life.
Im glad to see how far you come and that you have support. I had a rough time as well growing up and had a similar situation and thoughts when I seen this video.
We had electrical, plumbing issues, no ac or heat, so much junk, and we were broke. Im not sure but i think my parents spent their money on the wrong things. I remember wanting to clean so bad too; my room was good but we never had stuff like garbage bags, towels, clean wash cloths . I'm glad I've come to learn most this video in my 20s like you did. I still feel like there's other basic stuff that I don't even realize I'm still doing wrong tho.
Do you have my dad???? Also I’m glad your out of that and healing, I can’t leave yet.
My dad made everyone clean. I knew how to do the dishes when i was like 7. He was an asshole.
Genuinely needed this in my life. Lived real spoiled and stuff as a kid so my family despite WANTING me to, never disciplined me or forced me to learn or develop these habits. Ik ik I was a brat 100% living in my own apartment now I needed this and realize I should've listened to my fam all along.
my mum is a really clean person where she freaks out if one thing is off. Liking picking up dust from the carpet.
My brother is the opposite and I’m inbetween. I’m responsible for my own room but I feel like I never know what to do other than remove dust and vacuum.
This is so nice because things never got explained, they were just expected and if we didn’t know/do it, we’d be treated like we’re the dumbest people on earth and everyone had some secret knowledge no one wanted to share because everyone just knew. Thank you
In your Mum's defence, I will say though that if you've just vacuumed, put the vacuum away and you see a speck of something, there's no way I'm getting that vac with it's stupid lead back out. I'm picking that speck up, yes I am 😁
@@DonnaGB333 yeah I think that's totally valid, that in itself isn't bad. Just generally, like having one toy on the ground while playing when I was six and I got told my room looks like a pigsty. And like, polishing the stove after every meal, etc
Other than how informative it is, my favorite part of this video is how the green goblin occasionally takes over your body before you immediately convert to a professional demeanor.
When I worked as a nurse going to people's homes, I had one lady who complained about her vacuum cleaner not picking up. (Some people thought we were there to fix a variety of problems, not just health-related) I told her I'd take a look and when I did the canister was so full that it could not contain another speck of dirt. I showed her how to empty it and told her to empty it regularly. Enjoyed your video tonight.
I was a home health physical therapist assistant. Fixing things was part of the job!!
I helped an older lady I lived next too. Everyday I noticed her floors were dirty even after I'd just cleaned them the day before til I noticed her son coming in with his shoes on. Had to tell him he might as well take a load of dog shit and other crap and rub it into the carpets then pointed to the porch where everyone else had put their shoes.
I've never seen the penny drop so slowly in a 50 year old man. Then he started kicking the skirting boards to clean mud off his boots in the porch so I pointed to the massive rug and boot scraper outside and said you're supposed to do that out there I was at the point of thinking he must just hate his mother.
But still gave him the benefit and held my tongue. Until the day I cleaned out her bathroom and had it spotless, it didn't have running water so I left a bucket of water so you could fill up the tank after flushing because I'd already filled it. He took a shit in the bathroom and just left it.
So I told his mother and she told the rest of the family about all of it, including the time I caught him wiping snot somewhere. He's been on his best behaviour since, lets hope it stays that way.
"The dryer isn't working"
Have you checked the lint trap?
"The what?"
😬😬😬
@@valeriaswanne Or the water container for non-plumbed in dries is also a classic.
I've learnt a lot about cleaning during my mandatory military service. It's great. They never assume you know something unless they've taught it to you, whether it's cleaning or handling a weapon.
It's filled a lot of gaps in my knowledge left by a kind of chaotic childhood combined with ADHD. The unit I'm in is also one of the most thorough ones in my country regarding order, tidiness, and cleanliness, so it's perfect for me.
They also showed us a pretty detailed presentation about cleaning different types of rooms and surfaces and proper use and maintenance of common cleaning tools, made by the company who provides our cleaning tools. One thing they stressed a lot is that you rarely need to use any of the chemicals they've provided, as most things can be cleaned with just a slightly damp microfiber cloth.
I also grew up in a hoarder house. I "learned" to clean piece by piece as an adult by getting yelled at by roommates, then frantically trying to figure out how to do the things they were mad about. Sometimes I would ask for help understanding, but you learn pretty quickly that this often just makes people more mad at you than they already were. This was before we had so many resources on RUclips and the internet as a whole to learn how to clean. Even after all that, this video taught me a few things I had no idea about. I am a little bit teary--in a good way, I promise! Thank you for making this. There should be more content like this specifically made for people who grew up with hoarders or abusive parents.
When he said,"you don't need all of these so we're going to get'em off... Get'Em OFF!" And he tossed all the unnecessary cleaners in the floor, is the moment I gave my like!😂
As someone who has a mother who gets mad at me when I don’t clean I appreciate this. She’s never taught me how to clean anything properly but still gets unreasonably angry when I don’t do it throughly despite the fact she’s never taught me. Long story short I really appreciate you making this video.
The Thing is in previous generations like my grandmas they went to school for housekeeping. It makes complete sense to actually teach people how to run a household - mine is a mess and I was never taught how to do it, I wish I was though!
The irony of finding this video on Mother's Day. My mother was a perfectionist who never taught me any of this. Because I could never do it right. Thanks for this.
I don't think you understand how amazing this is. For you to take the time and make a video like this. People need to be more compassionate towards others, because not everyone comes from a living and caring family. Not everyone is talk this essential life lessons, these lessons others call 'common sense'. I really hate when people say condescending things such as 'common sense' isn't common anymore', because sometimes people need the 'basic' things explained because it was never taught to them. And if it was, it was taught in a condescending and abusive way, to the point where you think your effort is pointless. How about you grow up in a family where everything you did was rediculed? Where you were told that everything you did was wrong, even though you tried your best. That kind of 'teaching' really leaves people depressed and feeling worthless. So thank you for not being a condescending jackass, and explaining and realizing that we didn't all grow up in healthy environments that allowed us to grow and learn in a healthy way
This should be shown in the middle and high schools! The kids need this training!!!
Schools should teach kids how to clean early, like in Japan. When their school day is done, they begin cleaning their classroom.
Home Ec should honestly be brought back, the expectation that all kids are taught to cook and clean is so stupid.
This! My middle school kids could barely sweep a floor when I assigned classroom jobs 😑
@@chillfactory9000 I totally agree! I think showing kids how to rent an apartment or enter a contract/agreement should be taught as well. Maybe a lesson on interest with credit cards too.
Elementary school, maybe 5th grade honestly. Early middle school or upper elementary. Cleaning should be added to health class, which encompases sex ed and mental health. But bodily and mental health are definitely affected by your home environment!!!
My mother was always too busy to teach me anything. She just expected me to help even though she never taught me how, then she'd get angry that i didn't help her.
So here i am, 23 years old, finally learning how to clean my apartment. Thank you.
I am sure you are doing great!! be proud of you!! :)
Raised between sheltered and ignored, I grow up with a "I can stand living in a dirty space, since it doesn't affect anyone but me" kind of mind...
So this is gold.
That tidbit about twisting the top knob on the vacuum to instantly unspool the power cable just changed my whole life
Hahaa, noooo!
Hilarious, I find that you have to be careful to not get the cord tangled, though when you do that
😂
Was new to me too :)
Yeah my chord tangles up every time though
It would be cool if you had starter gift sets for sale with the empty spray bottle, gloves, bar keepers friend.... and an encouraging outline of simple steps (moose jokes included). These could be great graduation gifts.
Cute! Great idea
Also loving this idea! ❤
heck, id buy it for myself when moving to a new place!
Cleaning is not intuitive but can be learned and adjusted to your background.
- you do not need to buy expensive separate cleaners for difference surfaces
- what you need: dish soap and alcohol/bleach, superset toilet cleaner, scrubbing agent for bathtubs
- clean everything in two steps:
1. Emulsifier to get rid of dirt, grime, and grease.
2. Then follow behind it with sanitizing spray
- all purpose cleaner (APC) for the purpose of sanitization: 70% isopropyl alcohol and half a teaspoon of dish soap (5-6 drops)
- you don’t need microfiber but any dish rag or any rag works (even cut up t-shirt)
First you need to declutter your space, you can just move things over to clean the surface underneath.
2-step process:
1. Take one rag soak it with warm water and add a few drops of dish soap. Mix it together to there’s a little suds but not bubbling up like crazy. Then squeeze to ring it out so the rag is just damp not soaking.
Scrub your surface down with the rag which will do the grime cleaning. Then take another dry rag and rub it down to remove the cleaner.
2. spray your APC for sanitation. Let it sit for 30 seconds. After, wipe it down.
Add your items back on top!
Cleaning your toilet 8:36:
- point the tip upward into the bottom of the toilet bowl
- you do not need too much; enough to make contact with underside of the toilet and make sure it coats the sides
- let it sit for as long as possible!! Clean the rest of your house while it sits
Cleaning a window 9:30
- same way as countertop (take a soapy rag and wipe the window down. Before it dries* wipe it with a dry rag).
- clean both inside and outside
- another method that is easier (no scrubbing) but more costly: spray it with APC, wipe it with micro fiber, and dry it with ultrafine microfiber
Bathroom mirror 11:59
- APC is also good for shining up mirrors and windows
- same as window: spray it with APC, wipe it with micro fiber, and dry it with ultrafine microfiber
- if you have any marks on your mirror you don’t need more sprays but go in with the microfiber that is already damp and scrub at it
Bathroom sink 13:08
- emulsifier or
Great video! I was raised by two working parents (9-5), so they themselves don't often have the time to clean EVERYTHING in the house. So, I never had the opportunity to see some things get cleaned or to even know they were supposed to be cleaned... it has recently put me in an embarrassing situation with my current partner, who was so taken aback by the look of our oven that he took it upon himself to teach me how to clean it and then did it with me. I appreciate this video for the approach, even though I know how to do these specific things, I know how useful it is when somebody doesn't shame or judge you, but rather just teaches you how to do something you don't know how to do.
This is the most compassionate, comprehensive, and thoughtful instruction of essential cleaning I’ve ever seen. A preteen, teen, or adult would equally be able to watch this video and feel capable of cleaning a home to a level of reasonable sanitation. This is such a good skill building video!
This is such a great video. You’re not gatekeeping valuable information behind a paywall of affiliate links and ridiculous, unnecessary, consumerism-minded products. You have such respect for human kind. Thanks for all you do!
I really like that you showed the whole process and didn't just cut away once you explained how to do it. I cleaned with you!
A super informative, casual video about the basics of cleaning a regular ol' house is just what a lot of people really need these days. A lot of folks are trying to sell you on methods or products and affiliate links, and it can be confusing for someone who hasn't grown up cleaning a bunch of things to know when they're being marketed to or truly given good advice! I really appreciate you just moving things off to the side to get the surfaces clean, rather than spending who knows how long finding a place for everything first; getting everything away is a chore in and of itself, and that alone can be daunting enough to put you off cleaning something.
Something my husband struggles with when it comes to cleaning is knowing where to start; he wants to get things done, but the overwhelm of not knowing what to do first paralyzes him (thanks to his perfectionist mother). For anyone else who suffers with choice paralysis, whether learned or not, don't be afraid to google a list of house chores! Pick the room that's bothering you the most, grab your checklist, and follow the directions; remember that you don't have to finish everything in one day, the first time is always the most exhausting, but it does get easier.
I was a profesional cleaner, why am I watching this video i dont know but you are good for my mental health ❤
Well dang, you answered your own question, LOL.
I clean every day and come home and watch him lol 😂
I used to work as a cleaner too, but I am hopeless when it comes to cleaning my own house. No problem when it is someone else's clutter to deal with 😅
“Get em off here…”😂😂😂 BYEEEE SUPPLIES. I started on my Mom’s other rooms and have used your APC formula like crazy and the grid method. Truly works like “Magic” . I even found a baby Moose hiding under some doom piles of I don’t even know what! He was so happy to get cleaned!😂😂😂 I named him Mambo the Moose (it has been a long cleaning week😂). Happy Friday all….here is to “no special cleaners”!
I've used the APC mixture so much since learning about it, I now buy isotropy alcohol in 5 litre bottles. So many uses and kinder on lungs than other products.
Where I live his name would be Mardi Gras Mambo.
What a cute name for your little baby moose!
@@Hopischwopi awe thanks… wouldn’t it be awesome to actually find things like that in a pile of filth!!!😂
Those pesky mooses
Sometimes its really hard to clean just for myself, so i pretend someone is randomly coming to visit & boom! Im suddenly cleaning. Lol
I grew up in a hoarder house. I have extreme ADHD, with debilitating executive dysfunction, and was never taught how to clean. Thank you for making this video.
Hi Mac, I'm very lucky that my mum taught me all of this. The one thing I keep in mind is this "if it cleans for you, you must clean it" washing machines, dishwashers, vacuum cleaners etc., I'm watching from Scotland and I love your videos. xx
Hello fellow Scot!
This is so important!
I have to look up how to clean a washing machine. Embarrassed to say I never thought about cleaning mine
@@davinaz6885 This channel has shown that on another video where he used vinegar and the hot cycle and showed that it can be very easy if you do it that way 😊
@@davinaz6885 I actually just did this yesterday! I just ran an empty load on hot and used the built in bleach pouring funnel and did two full measures of bleach.
Ideally you shouldn't have to do anything too crazy to clean a washing machine, as long as it's functioning properly, but if you mostly run cold water loads it's a good idea to occasionally run a hot load with some sort of cleaner, because otherwise it can harbor mildew or mold.
Thank you for distinguishing that you don't need super expensive cleaners and can clean with a few simple things you probably already have lying around the house. That's really important to hear, especially considering most cleaning channels swear by a million products that not everyone can afford.
This video is so pure. This is what good parents should be teaching. Or good schools. But often those do not exist. Thank you for telling the truth and not trying to sell a bunch of different products. That's the struggle of learning things online, everything and everyone is trying to get in your wallet..
I love that you understand the difference between clean and tidy. My husband is a tidy ex-military guy. I am a clean, messy ADHD gal. We’re both pretty good at accommodating each other (after more than 20 years), but it was great seeing you clean while recognizing that there are still “piles” of things after the dirt and germs are gone.
This! I lived with someone who would clean their plate and fork after every meal, but not once in the 5 years we were together deep cleaned their OWN coffee maker - I don't drink coffee but when the glass coffee pot was so grimy inside its not clear glass anymore?
They always had an attitude of me needing to just do things the way they wanted and I guess according to society that seems "right", but I'm a lot more concerned about the actual cleanliness than the tidiness.
That was a long standing life lesson but I wish I had known sooner that there is a difference. It was hard on both of us to have different thresholds
If my stainless steel pans have a lot of burnt on food, instead of scouring them, I just put them on the stove with water and soap and boil the water. The burnt on stuff floats in the water and then I don't have to scrub them. Nice video
Same for me
I didn’t know that. Thank you for that tip. I’ve just switched from non stick to stainless steel and was struggling a bit! So great tip!😊
This is really good, it works even better w baking soda in there. I have even submerged stainless pains in other pans of boiling water and baking soda and gotten all those sticky spillover stains off of the sides and bottom
Vinegar half/half with water works well too. And - surprisingly enough - boiled rhubarb stalks! (But those are hard to come by these days. Unless you’re in the country or a country town.)
@@LauraMacMillan-el2kc My mum also did that,,,try olive oil soap,,it cleans everything, pots and pants and your kithchen counters and bathroom sparkly,,,,wash your clothes for hand and wash yourself with it.
I grew up in a hoarded house. Level 4/5. I’m an adult and I absolutely have no idea how to maintain my house. I have a housekeeper that comes every 2 weeks and resets me. I feel for that girl.
I really respect that you recognize that you need a housekeeper and do your part to hire one! My dad was a craftsman and could fix anything and he never once disrespected his father-in-law who couldn’t repair a lightbulb if he needed to, because his father-in-law was man enough to admit it and hire out anything that needed to get done and nothing was put aside or procrastinated on and every thing was maintained meticulously. As long as you get the job taken care of one way or another is all that matters!
I'm a young adult that actually started a housecleaning business to pay for my college. I don't necessarily *enjoy* cleaning, but many of my clients are seniors who need some help, or folks who just can't keep up with it due to their life circumstances, and I love giving them a cleaner, happier home to live in! Some folks act as though not being able to clean the home is some kind of personal failing, but it's really really not. (Especially with the busy lives people live nowadays!) Anyway, I'm glad you found someone to help you and you see the value in it - because Im sure she appreciates that too!
I feel you and I do the same but in my case it is more because I am autistic and no one taught me this stuff
5 + year home & hotel cleaner.
-Chux wipes
-Surface cleaner (antibac/sanitiser)
-Oven cleaner
-Windex
-Glass cloths
-Dry & wet cloth
- dish gloves X2 (kitchen/bathroom gloves)
-Toilet cleaner
Drill with polishing heads (cloth/plastic brush/wire brush heads)
-Stiff bristle toothbrush (grimy corners)
I love how its not condesending either, just helpful info. As somone that owns a house at 28 i realised that cleaning was not easy 🤣! Things can build up so quick if you dont clean frequently
Emily is right. It's not always intuitive. Ive watched you clean just about everything, but the "showing and explaining " really does help. That Emily is a keeper. ❤
I'm one of those people who doesn't have a bloody clue how to clean my own house. Thank you for this. Sincerely.
Sir, I absolutely cherish your humor that you add to these incredibly informative and helpful videos. Thank you for what you do.
This is genuinely the most helpful video i uave ever seen. I like so many others have issues with cleaning related to childhood trauma. Its nice to hear the information without being yelled at either before during or after. Simple facts and explanation not condescending remarks and harmful words. I have finally managed to convince myself that cleaning is for me not others which has helped me actually keep my space clean rather than live in filth out of fear of being told i didnt clean well enough. It was easier for me to be yelled at for not doing it at all than it was to be yelled at for doing it and not being good enough at it.
I am a professional cleaner and have been cleaning houses, rvs, boats, and cars in a professional setting for over 20 years. This video is all 100% correct.
I'm a homeschool mom of four, and all my kids are neurodivergent. This video is now part of my homeschool curriculum.
I love that. I suspect my toddler is ND as well.
@@heatherrae901 My son was diagnosed with autism at age three and my three girls diagnosed soon after, this is also how I found out my husband and I are also on the spectrum. Videos like this are essential for us to communicate with our kids when we fail to communicate how they need to hear the information. Not every person learns the same way, it's the same for neurodivergent kids.
@@SimplelikeQuantumPhysics I’m actually waiting for my son’s third birthday to see if there are any changes in speech, etc to see if we need an assessment. I knew nothing about autism until I became a mom. I found an entire community sharing their experiences and challenges exactly the way I had and even in ways I never knew how to explain. So it’s been interesting and has me wondering lol
@@heatherrae901 the best thing I did for my son and my girls was to make sure I was the best mom I could be for them. In my case it was healing from C-PTSD, make sure you are taking care of you.
Growing up no one ever explained to me anything, how to clean, cook, etc, adults would just judge and make fun of 6 year old me for not knowing how to do stuff. Thanks for this!
Kitty not being scared of the vacuum and instead just curling up for a nap shocked me!
My cat is gone the second the vacuum gets pulled out! 😂
Very educational video, thank you very much.
One little thing I do before putting away the toilet-scrubber-thingy, I tuck the handle under the toilet seat and let the brush air dry.
Minimal supplies and still getting the job done. Heck yeah.
TIL I have a two shelf rack full of cleaning supplies that I don’t need 😆
Me too! My son is a cleaner and every time his bosses decide to change products they send the previous stuff home with him. It’s an effort to remember to use it because it’s not what I would normally use.
Learning things like cooking and cleaning are so important. I went to a group home when i was 15 for a year and we had to clean the hell out of the place 3 times a day as a team. Learned alot through that, we also shared the cooking job with supervision. Those skills helped me so much as a young adult and carried over. I was amazed at how many of my friends at 19yrs old just didnt know how to do much of either. That was 2005, no i feel young people have even less guidance on the subject. Great video, i hope alot of people see this.
As someone with depression and possibly being on the spectrum.. this is a huge help. I could never really wrap my head around how and where to start even or which tools to use. I really don't know why the algorithm decided to show me this video, but I'm really happy it did. Thank you so much! ♥
I have an similar cleaning story but the opposite! I grew up with a mom with OCD. Everyday was deep cleaning day, I mean pulling the fridge out and mopping under there, power washing all the trash cans in the house, mopping the floors with boiling water mixed with bleach and pure ammonia (the stinging in your eyes meant it was working). If I had a mug in my room or a clothing item on the floor, my whole room had to be cleaned again. It was nuts and I never learned how to properly clean my space because cleaning to me was excessive and exhausting. I finally learned how to do it the normal way a few years ago and now my home is consistently an acceptable level of clean all the time.
Bleach and ammonia😦
@@kikialeaki1850 YEAH they didn't know it was toxic and dangerous they just thought they both clean good so mixing them must clean better.
@@haliknipe6108 so sorry for your lungs😅
She was gassing y'all out 😢
I might as well have a PhD in cleaning but I absolutely loved this video not just for the humor and empathy (like all other videos on this channel), but because it reminded me of older classic you tube videos. Subscribed for life!
Hello from a fellow cleaning PhD! Just kidding but that made me laugh. I also may as well have a PhD in cleaning too because I’ve been cleaning all my life and I am constantly doing it!
20 years ago if you told me I'd be voluntarily watching a grown man clean his house via the internet, I'd think you were crazy. But here we are...
Great video!, your wife is correct that it’s not intuitive lol. My mom was a paranoid schizophrenic and when I was lil, around 8-9yrs old mental health services send a lady to our house to teach me how to clean, use vacuum, stove, iron, all the “house keeping” know how. I think of her (Holly) often when I am tending my own home. Also I have a scrub Daddy and holder in my showers so whenever we are in the showers we can also scrub down the shower while we are in there, lol really saves me on time when I do my weekly deep cleaning. Thanks for all you do Mac and Jason ☺️
Don't forget to clean the lint out of the dryer. Just look at the lint trap and take out the old lint after every dryer load. I love your cleaning show I learn something new every time.
I appreciate the mention that you don't need to follow all cleaning advice and to find what works for you. I'm autistic with a strong tendency to follow rules, and a lot of my adult life has been learning what rules aren't necessarily important for everyone and how to lessen stress.
I can't tell you how amazing this video is. I grew up with an OCD parent with narcissistic tendancies who thought I'd just "pick up" on cleaning when being screamed at and shown aggressively without explanation. I'd have supplies ripped away from me if I used the incorrect hand motion while cleaning a counter. I never properly learned and was always told I had "no common sense" as if cleaning should just be second nature. I literally did a double take when you mentioned you were allergic to bleach!! I looked into it and I definitely have a bleach allergy. The number of times I was called dramatic and a weasel because I would have to take breaks from cleaning due to excessive coughing, eyes watering until I couldn't see, my nose swelling shut, and red swollen/burning hands, and my parent acted like I was doing it to "get out of" cleaning... I literally thought that bleach was just a harsh chemical and was SUPPOSED to do this, and that I was overreacting and everyone else just dealt with it! You're telling me this was not normal!!! We can swap bleach to alcohol!!! My parent's OCD was so bad they refused to use anything but bleach because "nothing else cleans as well." I don't have to suffer with bleach in adulthood. I literally feel like crying. Thank you for this video!!
Like many of the viewers on here, I was brought to tears by the simple recognition that you stated. I was raised in a chaotic, painful household, and I was never taught how to clean, but being “messy” and “dirty” was one of the main issues my sibling and I were punished for. I didn’t even realize this until very recently, and I am almost 50. With all my heart, thank you for making this video. I hope it gets a lot of reach, and many more people can understand that it isn’t a moral, nor genetic, failing to not know how to clean. Take the shame away, and learn it. It’s another aspect of being human and taking care of yourself.
You're right - a rag in hot, soapy water will clean most things. And thanks for pointing out that you have to clean before you sanitize. I was taught in nursing school is that you have to remove the dirt before you use a disinfectant. One thing I will add to this really helpful video is that if you have real wood furniture you do need some type of furniture polish or spray. Don't use all purpose cleaner on good wood furniture. However, I will acknowledge that I'm in my 60s and we have mostly real wood antiques or vintage furniture. It does seem that most younger people these days have IKEA type furniture and that doesn't require the same level of care to protect the finish.
yeah most of modern "wood furniture" is just plywood or those horrible plates of pressed together sawdust with texture painted on top of them, alcohol usually takes care of those, with the added bonus of making it shine nicely, though I still prefer bleach, because It's just a habit of mine at this point.
~~~ Timestamps ~~~
Intro & context - 00:00
Supplies - 02:14
The basic 2 step process - 05:11
Toilet prep - 8:34
Windows & mirrors - 09:30
Sinks - 13:06
Bathtubs - 15:29
Dusting - 19:29
Vacuuming - 21:25
Toilets - 26:01
Grease - 29:20
Conclusion (learning the why behind the how) - 31:00
Outro & Jason update - 32:56
thanks for this video! a lot of important basics to adapt into my own routines :)
People forget that sometimes these things aren't taught, it can lead to problems for adults because they don't know where to begin. Thank you for being the perfect person to teach without making someone feel bad for not knowing!
I wanna throw it out there that for others like myself who have historically hated vacuuming - ear protection makes a difference. I wear ear plugs now when vacuuming and I really enjoy it
i blast some good music into my earbuds and go to town