Healing Gay Church Trauma - Religious Trauma Therapist: Dr. Laura
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- Dr. Laura, PhD. religious trauma expert and author of When Religion Hurts You shares her experience with religious trauma growing up in the evangelical church, and how it effects the LGBTQ community. She then offers some practical advice on how to start healing from church trauma.
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Jesus grant you His inner peace and what we're all looking for: PEACE of MIND and freedom from unnecessary anxiety. Anxiety doesn't come from God. Depression doesn't come from God either. These are negative mental states. Narratives about hell is negative thinking and unhealthy . A peace which the world can't give. I myself identify as Trans AND Christian. It's not a problem to me to pray and have a loving personal with Jesus Christ. You can be LGBTQ AND Christian. God loves everyone.
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Love this! What an incredible guest!!
I don't think it even has to be a "high control" religion. All kids are extremely idealistic and will tend to judge themselves harshly through whatever sin/hell/heaven programming they were brought up with.
My brother for over 20 years has tried to make me feel less than and that I need to change..
It amazes me that he still doesn't understand the damage his fear of me causes..
Nice.. “it’s their own shit they need to be taken care of.”
In the beginning of my journey to self-acceptance I did exactly what Dr Laura said…
I ran to this…I’m gonna be gay and I’m gonna get into a relationship and I’m gonna live happily ever after. F whoever doesn’t agree including my 30+ year old religious indoctrinated self.
But God in His inifinte wisdom and compassion whispered to me to slow down at the very beginning of my journey. I heard Him, but then I still got anxious and tried to make my next happen. Dr Laura said it perfectly. That was a setup for me to fail. God works moment by moment laying brick any brick and intentionally prepares us for our next. Going slow and giving ourselves and our bodies grace and compassion to catch up to our minds and new revelation.
The distance between one’s mind and your body is a journey and not always a instantaneous process
I can so SO relate. I was a Baptist Pastor and Missionary, married to my accepting wife for 51 years who had MS for 26 years before she passed. I was her carer. But I am gay, medically proven. I went through 13 years of reparative therapy including electronic shock therapy, which proved medically I am gay. I am now free to be the gay man I always was. I have very little to do with the church now. The Baptist Church told me I am not welcome to even attend church. I never was. But my son and daughter and their families are very accepting, which is great. I live in Australia. I am proudly gay. But there is one issue about gays that the church NEVER has a problem with and that is when gays give money to the church. Solution....LEAVE the church yesterday. I live in Australia.
this seems like a really good episode and I want to come back to it later but today I am exhausted and cant handle the triggers. I only just recently admitted to myself that I’m gay after years and years of unconscious repression and it has opened up some serious wounds inflicted by the church. I’m a pastor’s granddaughter too… my own grandfather was the one yelling at me from the pulpit about how people like me are perverts who go to hell. it hurts to see the damage thats been done to my mental and physical health and to know that it will take years to heal but I’m ready, whatever it takes.
Never miss an episode! Love you guys!
There's good religion, and bad religion. Sometimes it can be harmful and dangerous and knock a person down. And sometimes it can edify and build up and heal us with peaceful and loving messages. Mother Mary look after us. Keep us positive.
Very gooood!!!!! Love this!!!!
Thank you- this was wonderful. I just bought the book!
Ye are beautiful people. God bless with love.
Thank you and great info. I too have "all the letters". I've been explaining what makes something potentially traumatic, instead of just an adverse experience, is if it's an inappropriate loss of innocence and how much agency you have. We all have to lose innocence and if we live long enough there will be many negative experiences. If we are underdeveloped because of our age or the event is so abrupt and out of context there is no appropriate preparation, then this unprocessed energy can cycle through our body/mind creating imbalance. An example of a potentially traumatic event that can be mitigated and transmuted with preparation, education and support is sex and birth. With the appropriate, measured framework these things are transcendent and literally life giving. With fear, shame and self-hatred attached at the subconscious level, it can be hell. Simply put, it was the abusive and neglectful parents at home that set the stage for the fundamentalism I was surrounded by to have such a deep and long lasting effect. Even though I could logically see through most of it since I was a child and have had a loving, spiritual relationship with Jesus since single digits. It's heartbreaking how much I can't control the shame of just being. When I seek Him in silence and usually in the wilderness, He never condemns who I am, who I love or what I prefer out of the variety and diversity of His creation. He absolute condemns my hatred and lust though. These are mostly byproducts from trauma and repression. I believe Christ guided me to that truth and not to free me from responsibility, but to teach me how to avoid it all for my son. Blessings!
My situation is not one of shame. I deal with being a disappointment the parents, family, and friends. I always say I am too gay for the church and too church for the gay community.
Awesome interview ✌🏾
The Church may harm us because it is made up of humans; God does not harm us - it's the difference between religion and relationship. The cause is the translation of the original writings; God's Word is true but, our translations contain human biases.
God also permitted genocides. You know why? Because it's man made. Some things should just remain inside a book.
Church and Society both have this fear which is expressed through homophobia. This is about the only issue that the Church and Society have always agreed upon. This, itself, should say a lot.