I agree. All she does is concentrate on giving HERSELF forgiveness, while doing nothing to acquire any from the person she hurt. Biggest red flag for refusing accountability there is! He's joined in playing the victim with her.
@@raven4090 She does way more than just concentrates on forgiving herself. She creates whole videos about how EVERYBODY is to blame for this except for her. Whole society, social media, woke culture, everything - just not her. And now she has a bunch of videos giving tips on how to "move on". Basically, everyone else is at fault and she will NOT do ANYTHING to fix the relationship. If the child doesn't submit, child can go f*ck themselves.
When she described her TikToks as “hard to watch” and “exotic cosplays” That tells you all you need to know folks. This Mom seems like she was very judgmental and not supportive.
I couldn't agree more. Like what is so mentally deficient in you that you cannot see how toxic Lady Di is? But people (other estranged Narc parents) don't seem to see any issues let alone understand why so many of us nope out on parents like her.
Anyone else notice the "Self-Love Affirmations" her mom tried to send in the "emails of things she might like". Yep, I've been gaslit like that before. That's an expert level move! 😆
What's funny to me is the thought of her editing this video being like "okay cue the dramatic violin and piano music here maybe we can get some tears out of them"
I didn’t even think about that. Somehow, I had a hard time believing that these people not only are crazy enough to say those things, but that this is something they made and isn’t part of a documentary about unhinged parents.
I hate it when parents say "we've put so many resources money etc. into our child so now we feel betrayed" you chose to put this child into the world. So it's your responsibility take care of them. And the child owes you nothing. They didn't choose to be in this world.
I'm a 70 year old single woman who has worked in the arts. The first time I saw one of Diane's videos, my immediate reaction was, "I do not believe a word this woman is saying". Why? Because it was the most overproduced, theatrical "movie of the week" "be sure to film my best angle" manipulative hit job I have seen in a long time. You're telling us all this personal stuff about your daughter. Why not just read the whole letter? Just you facing the camera with no fancy editing. Edit: OMG. the noble, holding back tears "crying" at the. Bitch, your mascara didn't even run.
Diane saying that she hopes her daugter is with people who love her for who she is and not a persona is a sly way to try and get her not to trust her present entourage, and shows that she is used to telling her daughter who she is, ie negate her.
At 16 minutes She admits it's both daughters that have gone no contact. She said hopefully "they" come back but if not "they" have videos to watch of mom She said "they" Good for "them"
OHHH. 3 of 4 siblings in my family are NC. My 4 nieces and nephews are. My mum's siblings and extended family are NC. And my dad's work friends cut him off bc they visited after they all retired and my mother was SO SHITTY. Ie one of my dad's best friends doesn't like his food to touch and can't eat stew or soup with gagging. My mother made stew or chili when they visited for dinner. I lost it on her. The next time I saw her I walked out and went NC. (I am pretty sure he is autistic--my partner is and I just got diagnosed so I understand the food textures and touching thing. Even before I met my partner I was understanding about textures bc I care if ppl are uncomfortable with something)
They don't list anything except initiating the estrangement that the daughter did wrong. So according to them, the daughter didn't do anything wrong and neither did they. She's just being unreasonable. And the fact that they can't even imagine why she doesn't want to talk to them means that they lack the empathy to understand her perspective. Which, in my mind, is absolutely sufficient grounds for a person to cut someone else out of their life. If you lack empathy for that person, it would be a legitimate choice for them to protect themselves from you.
She’s a piece of work. I’ve been through difficult times with one of my kids, and I’m able to understand the parents side because I’ve been through it. I don’t think there’s any hope for Diane. Poor Hayley.
"I did my best" was something my mother would say all the time. I snapped one day, finally, and shouted back "Then you should take your own advice: Do the best of someone better or get the fuck out of my way!"
She specifically said she didn't even tell her child about her father's death, then said her child didn't seem to care. This woman is so triggering for me. She finds out her daughter is neurodivergent and immediately wonders if that explained her child's behavior. She would have had that kid in hard-core ABA if she had known and may even have been one of those that had their kid drinking bleach. If her kid had not already proved she could be independent, I wonder if she'd try to get legal conservatorship over her. Also, her other child became a nun and I can't help wondering if escaping her mom without having to deal with this stuff played into it.
With the letter... I doubt the letter was "90% politics". It was probably 90% "I was hurt by this, that, the other that YOU DID!" and she ignored all that to focus on the political part, which she PRETENDS has nothing to do with her. I was a conservative for 45 years... and a subsequent video of Diane's proves she is WAAAAAAY more conservative than I ever was!!! She's both Boomer-Light and practically Q-Anon-Light!!!
She def just chose one argument she thought she could win and left it at that. She also deleted a video where she goes into racist and transphobic rants so "not very political" just very very very right wing
@@MaximmminoOkay, I bet her "daughter" isn't a woman. I'm guessing non-binary. I'm non-binary too and if my mum knew she would also misgender me like Diane seems to be doing. I wish I knew her daughters @ for IG. These Zoomers are awesome cosplayers.
So let me get this straight, daughter went no contact fall of 2020 by mother's Day of 2021 Diane's already spoken about buying herself a present for her daughter's birthday "every year". But how many birthdays could she have had since the estrangement? So she just told on herself, Diane buys herself a present for her daughters' birthdays every year. Did I get that right? Wack
A thank you card? That is SO NOT normal but as kid, how were you suppose to know? Maybe it’s better you didn’t know that was really fuqed up. So much cringe might have stunted your growth! 😬
UGH! Crying without tears is so on brand for this horrible woman. When she got teary, it was crying for herself. The part of her daughter’s letter that she did read aloud was done in a mocking manner. I just couldn’t listen to her and immediately understood where her daughter was coming from. 🤮x
I was the best parent I could be for ny son. I'm not perfect but I made sure he always knew he was loved, supported and respected. If he came to me and said "this is how you hurt me growing up" I would absolutely listen and apologize sincerely for hurting him. You can ABSOLUTELY unintentionally harm your child while trying not to. What's so hard for these people to accept that they did things wrong and it hurt their kids?!? Too much contrition? Seriously?!?
This right here!! Say it louder for the people in the back! Anyone admitting that they aren’t a perfect parent, or person for that matter, is not an indicator of that they are a bad parent! This woman is ridiculous and has no emotional intelligence whatsoever.
According to the NIH (National Institute of Health) more than one in four children on average suffers from abuse and neglect, typically from their family members... This woman is saying that one average 27% of adult children become estranged from their parents. What and odd correlation. 🤦♀️
to hear her say it, her daughter is totally unreasonable, and she is entirely reasonable. Then you get tiny little hints, like the birthday present thing. That is such classic narcissistic behavior: narcissists have to be the bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral, they must make everything about them. The one-year anniversary letter is another huge little thing, you called it exactly "you owe me". Another that stood out to me is the way she almost seemed to think that deaths in the family "earned" her a conversation.
It sounds like she likely cut her own father off and that's why her daughter didn't know him. I don't believe her "grief" about her dad. She also said she didn't tell her that he died so off course she didn't care
I think she mentions in an earlier video that she had a good relationship with her father and so did her daughter and that makes it seem really bad that she's willing to message her daughter for no reason to cross her boundaries but not the one time her father passes when it would've been appropriate
Thank you for this. Diane and Ted are like my estranged parents. Mine discarded me 4yrs ago when I was 53. It's been a nightmare. People like Diane lack empathy. They know how to mimic it, however they don't understand it. I find your videos to be very validating and a comfort 🤗 Stay strong survivors 💪💜🙏
She says things throughout that indicate she's never accepted or loved her daughter for who she was from birth. My mom was like that with me. I haven't cut her off completely, because she's not as bad as Diane. Her husband is just as bad. My dad loves me. The part about autism is bad because: 1: It's not something you want everyone to know because of the cruel biases that exist about it. I know this because I'm AuDHD, too. Diane had no right to announce that to the universe. 2: She isn't trying to learn about ways that things could have been different if she had known her daughter was ND, and trying to find ways to improve her approaches to things. It took 10 years after my diagnosis, but my mom is finally open to learning about autism, and being more understanding. This is one reason I still have contact with her. Diane could do better too, if she wanted to. BTW, you don't need to be a liberal to see those parents are horrible.
This lady is a super narcissist! She has a whole lifetime worthy video that she posted online for sympathy... I can't believe she watched this back, edited it and still thought this makes me look like a good mom.
I just clicked on this video and I thought Diane's opening scene was a viagara or diabetes commercial and was waiting for the skip option to come up. 😅 She needs better stock videos. 😂
I'm estranged from my mother. She literally looks like this woman. I haven't seen her since 2014, and the only time she's spoken to me was when my dad died, because she was upset to lose alimony.
Someone in my family-circle tried that "so called tolerant left" thing at me and I clapped back with "I never said I was tolerant, you did, I'm judgmental AF towards sh** behavior" and they about peed themselves laughing coz they were just trying to pick on me and I can't imagine anybody being this serious about it. Oh my god it must be so uncomfortable being in her head all the time. Like sheeeeesh.
Your channel is such a valuable resource to both children who go no contact and parents of estranged children because I fit into both demographics. Though the reason for my estranged and my daughter’s are very different though the same result. My favorite thing about your channel is highlighting that parents need to meet their children where they’re at from the perspective of understanding why their children feel the way they do. All I hear is parents blaming their children and making themselves the victim like as parents they’re entitled to some type of loyalty solely on blood relation. Parents owe children! I wish more estranged parents would really watch your channel because it would help them become better people overall
I just found your content. Loving it! You had me when you commented about how many tabs she had open. And REALLY good point about the daughter probably being in one of the marginalized groups that Trump goes after.
As someone who has parents that I've considered going low/no contact with on and off, these parents make me unbelievably frustrated. Between the missing missing problem, the gaslighting, the supporting someone who is actively promising to hurt people like me/ny friends, refusal to acknowledge their real shortcomings and making the conversation entirely about how they're the victim, it just makes me wonder how they can be so ignorant and willfully blind to reality.
Her narcissism will not allow her to accept any responsibility. My mother was the type of person who thought nothing of waking me at 7 in the morning to ask me my zip code. When I emailed her later in the day about, "I'd appreciate it if you didn't do things like that", she acted like I'd done something horrible.
omfg. i couldn't tell where she was in those hammock shots, thought it was a weird angle in an unfinished basement or something. boohooing it for the camera in a hammock is outlandish
Thank you so much for really focusing on their political ideologies in this video and for defending the daughter as that being a legitimate reason. She sent that letter in the fall of 2020 and that was a really, really stressful time, fraught with disinformation, partisan virtue signaling, protests, conspiracies and a looming election. Even if Diane claims she's not political, everything we did became political that year based on which news sources we listened to. There is no consensus of reality anymore. If the daughter is autistic/ADHD she could have a really strong justice sensitivity and Diane is very dismissive of her views. Many autistic people don't have to be "right" but they do have to be "accurate." And just knowing that Ted got hospitalized with COVID during the Delta wave leads me to believe they didn't get the vaccine and could possibly be anti-mask as well. All of this, in addition to Diane's controlling personality and her transactional approach to parenting, it makes perfect sense to me why the daughter couldn't handle being in relationship with her anymore. If she really did claim that she's centrist and has been Democrat in the past it seems so stupid that she's unwilling to budge on her ideologies now for the sake of her relationship with her daughter which she seems to want back more than anything.
NOT RESPECTING THE BOUNDARY and going on the facebook to comment. You could have stayed in her life if you respected her boundary. I guarantee you it was not an oversight but a kindness that she left ypu on there initially
if she actually cared about and knew her daughter, she would make a donation to a charity that worked for her daughter's favorite cause on her birthday yearly, and respect her boundaries by not texting her and just donating in her name. but no, she buys a gift for herself and disrespects the very clear boundary being set. telling.
11:00 And why wasn’t she preventing the child from choking on things in the first place? You don’t get to be a hero for fixing the situation that you created.
wait wait also... the ''i buy myself a birthday present on my daughter's birthday instead of her because its like a consolation prize'' thing... a prize for what... having your daughter??? omg.
I guessed they leaned Republican, but then when a subsequent video blamed therapy and woke culture /cultural Marxism for the estrangement of adult children and their parents, that pretty much confirmed it.
Completely unrelated, but you freaking out over 55 tabs is hilarious to me: I have 300+ tabs open on my phone right now. My laptop would probably be the same if i used it for anything other than homework 😂
@@Maximmmino also, the "walking away" ass shots, and how, in the family movies, it seems like she was very conscious of her angles in front of the camera. Like, when leaning across the table at dinner to get her face in the frame, and how she posed with her baby daughter... there was just something very image-conscious about it (visually, anyway; no points for character). I can only imagine what it was like for her daughter to grow up with a mother so concerned with presenting a certain way publicly, but not how she was perceived by her own daughter.
my ma deals with an obsessive mom. Her mom was RLLY abusively religious (so was the whole family, excluding just us.) She ignored and blamed all of her abuse on just "I wasnt in a good spot" like yeah but..NOTHING ELSE? My ma said TONS OF TIMES to not contact us. But she sent a BIBLE to my sister, none of us are religious. She didnt ask to send it either. But to wrap it up, Obsessive family sucks. ESPECIALLY when they dont realize. Or they know but doesnt care. If anybody has an obsessive family that doesnt take hints. Just say fuck off and block them as much as you can. Or explain EVERYTHING you feel, then fuck off and block but yeah :3
I wonder if the daughter will ever say her end on the estrangement since all we are getting is the mother saying that shes jist being unreasonable and she'll get over it like a phase.
I watched that video before. I always wanted to hear the daughters side because i was neutral about it at first. Thanks for pointing out the manipulation
These estranged parents stories feel like hearing the same thing over and over. Her having a child actor (or childish AI voice) read her daughter's letter for the video, making the voice overlap with itself several times to imply confusion, and showing videos of her daughter as a baby and small child is another level of manipulation. She's trying to manipulate a whole internet worth of strangers to see her daughter as immature, childish, and implying that her point of view is invalid because she's too young to know what she's talking about. You know, the way older people talk about young children. "Seen and not heard" and all that.
Yeah I don't watch that stuff I guess cuz I got my own story. Everybody has skeletons and things going on in their life. And most usually it screwed up stuff
Dude, if you really think her daughters cut her and their stepdad off just for how they voted, that's pretty shallow. It's obvious by her lies and manipulation in the video that she's just a controlling, abusive, nasty narc and her husband is her flying monkey. The daughters just grew up enough to realize how abusive they were and simply 'had enough', each at different times. She says 'I'm not that political' and that it was the stepdad who was, but the daughter had no problem contacting him when he was very sick, and NOT HER MOTHER. I would very much love to read the real reasons the daughter gave in her long email but sadly there's no way the mother will ever post the whole thing to the internet, because it would make her look bad.
Wow, I usually like your videos, but your childish and controlling attitude towards people exercising their human right to vote for whomever they choose shows the toxicity which always spills over from lefties such as you. You think the orange guy is bad news and you have a right to your opinion, however, that is all it is, your opinion, yet you assume you are right. I think Trump is just as bad as the rest of the politicians, both left and right wing, but people are allowed to vote for those they percieve as better for the country and your arrogant, assumption that you hold the correct evaluation of Trump, just shows your own close mindedness and desire for control of others. Very sad and rather embaressing for you!
The daughter is off living her life. Only the mother is picking this fight over and over in public. It's borderline stalking and bullying. It's disgusting.
If respect had gone both ways from the beginning they wouldn't be where they are. Parents need to give their children the respect of being their parents and treating their children like people
Afaik the daughter barely says anything about it and is just living her life independently. It's the mom that keeps the conflict alive, constantly fanning the flames, constantly trying to push back in and making these overly dramatic highly edited videos.
he saying a lot of cosplayers fall into groups that trump has attacked (such as the lgbt+) and so she may be part of those groups or have friends with people who are.. not that cosplayers were directly attacked
@@kimiloid Aww…thanks for answering:) I knew/understood which group of people she was alluding to. I was trying to figure out in what way Trump had attacked them. I did’ent know about this from him.
Trump really hasn't done a lot of things he's been accused of but above all else I find it EXTREMELY sad that people are allowing politics to ruin family relationships 😱😱 I'm a Republican, my daughter is a Dem and yes we have gotten into debates about it. However we learned that nobody is going to change our minds so we don't discuss it. Obviously there are much deeper issues here and I understand that. It's just sad to me
This mother is so selfish I don’t blame the daughter from escaping. The parents did no self reflection at all.
None at all and it's infuriating listening to diane talk about all the self reflection they've done since
big fat ZERO
I agree. All she does is concentrate on giving HERSELF forgiveness, while doing nothing to acquire any from the person she hurt. Biggest red flag for refusing accountability there is! He's joined in playing the victim with her.
@@raven4090 She does way more than just concentrates on forgiving herself. She creates whole videos about how EVERYBODY is to blame for this except for her. Whole society, social media, woke culture, everything - just not her. And now she has a bunch of videos giving tips on how to "move on".
Basically, everyone else is at fault and she will NOT do ANYTHING to fix the relationship. If the child doesn't submit, child can go f*ck themselves.
When she described her TikToks as “hard to watch” and “exotic cosplays” That tells you all you need to know folks. This Mom seems like she was very judgmental and not supportive.
100%
Diane is just such a perfect example of the Narc mother breed. Anyone who doesn't recognize what she is scares me.
She's so bad. The amount of estranged parents feeding her ego is terrible
I couldn't agree more. Like what is so mentally deficient in you that you cannot see how toxic Lady Di is? But people (other estranged Narc parents) don't seem to see any issues let alone understand why so many of us nope out on parents like her.
The entire birthday narc arc.
Anyone else notice the "Self-Love Affirmations" her mom tried to send in the "emails of things she might like".
Yep, I've been gaslit like that before. That's an expert level move! 😆
Her daughter’s birthday isn’t even about her daughter, it’s “the day I became a mother”. Self-centered and gross.
What's funny to me is the thought of her editing this video being like "okay cue the dramatic violin and piano music here maybe we can get some tears out of them"
Yeah wild to me that she could watch any of this back and consider herself the hero
I didn’t even think about that. Somehow, I had a hard time believing that these people not only are crazy enough to say those things, but that this is something they made and isn’t part of a documentary about unhinged parents.
I hate it when parents say "we've put so many resources money etc. into our child so now we feel betrayed" you chose to put this child into the world. So it's your responsibility take care of them. And the child owes you nothing. They didn't choose to be in this world.
I'm a 70 year old single woman who has worked in the arts. The first time I saw one of Diane's videos, my immediate reaction was, "I do not believe a word this woman is saying". Why? Because it was the most overproduced, theatrical "movie of the week" "be sure to film my best angle" manipulative hit job I have seen in a long time. You're telling us all this personal stuff about your daughter. Why not just read the whole letter? Just you facing the camera with no fancy editing.
Edit: OMG. the noble, holding back tears "crying" at the. Bitch, your mascara didn't even run.
Diane saying that she hopes her daugter is with people who love her for who she is and not a persona is a sly way to try and get her not to trust her present entourage, and shows that she is used to telling her daughter who she is, ie negate her.
At 16 minutes She admits it's both daughters that have gone no contact.
She said hopefully "they" come back but if not "they" have videos to watch of mom
She said "they"
Good for "them"
OHHH.
3 of 4 siblings in my family are NC. My 4 nieces and nephews are. My mum's siblings and extended family are NC.
And my dad's work friends cut him off bc they visited after they all retired and my mother was SO SHITTY.
Ie one of my dad's best friends doesn't like his food to touch and can't eat stew or soup with gagging. My mother made stew or chili when they visited for dinner.
I lost it on her. The next time I saw her I walked out and went NC.
(I am pretty sure he is autistic--my partner is and I just got diagnosed so I understand the food textures and touching thing. Even before I met my partner I was understanding about textures bc I care if ppl are uncomfortable with something)
They don't list anything except initiating the estrangement that the daughter did wrong. So according to them, the daughter didn't do anything wrong and neither did they. She's just being unreasonable. And the fact that they can't even imagine why she doesn't want to talk to them means that they lack the empathy to understand her perspective. Which, in my mind, is absolutely sufficient grounds for a person to cut someone else out of their life. If you lack empathy for that person, it would be a legitimate choice for them to protect themselves from you.
It's why these people are so hard to talk to
She’s a piece of work. I’ve been through difficult times with one of my kids, and I’m able to understand the parents side because I’ve been through it. I don’t think there’s any hope for Diane. Poor Hayley.
"I did my best" was something my mother would say all the time.
I snapped one day, finally, and shouted back "Then you should take your own advice: Do the best of someone better or get the fuck out of my way!"
She specifically said she didn't even tell her child about her father's death, then said her child didn't seem to care.
This woman is so triggering for me. She finds out her daughter is neurodivergent and immediately wonders if that explained her child's behavior. She would have had that kid in hard-core ABA if she had known and may even have been one of those that had their kid drinking bleach. If her kid had not already proved she could be independent, I wonder if she'd try to get legal conservatorship over her.
Also, her other child became a nun and I can't help wondering if escaping her mom without having to deal with this stuff played into it.
oh 100% she would try to have that control
What a gaslighting bottom feeder. She’s worse than my mother and that’s saying something. Bravo to the daughter for saying, “DONE!”.
I would love to know what “self help” materials she sent. This woman (and her husband) are so delusional. The lack of self awareness is award winning.
I'm afraid they would love being awarded
@@Maximmmino exactly. I'd walk away and never contact that %#@& Hailey ever again
The fact she like “produced” the theatrical stuff is so god damn disturbing because it is so FAKE.
With the letter... I doubt the letter was "90% politics". It was probably 90% "I was hurt by this, that, the other that YOU DID!" and she ignored all that to focus on the political part, which she PRETENDS has nothing to do with her. I was a conservative for 45 years... and a subsequent video of Diane's proves she is WAAAAAAY more conservative than I ever was!!! She's both Boomer-Light and practically Q-Anon-Light!!!
She def just chose one argument she thought she could win and left it at that. She also deleted a video where she goes into racist and transphobic rants so "not very political" just very very very right wing
I know us queers love cosplay. I am betting she is one of us or a bad ass ally.
@@MaximmminoOkay, I bet her "daughter" isn't a woman. I'm guessing non-binary. I'm non-binary too and if my mum knew she would also misgender me like Diane seems to be doing. I wish I knew her daughters @ for IG. These Zoomers are awesome cosplayers.
AND SHE SENDS A VIDEO MESSAGE TO HER. No means no lady. psychopath
So let me get this straight, daughter went no contact fall of 2020 by mother's Day of 2021 Diane's already spoken about buying herself a present for her daughter's birthday "every year".
But how many birthdays could she have had since the estrangement?
So she just told on herself, Diane buys herself a present for her daughters' birthdays every year.
Did I get that right?
Wack
🎯🎯🎯
My mom always did. I thought it was normal. She wanted us to by her a thank you card on our birthday. I refused but my gc sister complied.
A thank you card? That is SO NOT normal but as kid, how were you suppose to know? Maybe it’s better you didn’t know that was really fuqed up. So much cringe might have stunted your growth! 😬
UGH! Crying without tears is so on brand for this horrible woman. When she got teary, it was crying for herself. The part of her daughter’s letter that she did read aloud was done in a mocking manner. I just couldn’t listen to her and immediately understood where her daughter was coming from. 🤮x
I absolutely see why her daughter did no contact. this woman is manipulative as hell
I was the best parent I could be for ny son. I'm not perfect but I made sure he always knew he was loved, supported and respected. If he came to me and said "this is how you hurt me growing up" I would absolutely listen and apologize sincerely for hurting him. You can ABSOLUTELY unintentionally harm your child while trying not to. What's so hard for these people to accept that they did things wrong and it hurt their kids?!? Too much contrition? Seriously?!?
This right here!! Say it louder for the people in the back! Anyone admitting that they aren’t a perfect parent, or person for that matter, is not an indicator of that they are a bad parent! This woman is ridiculous and has no emotional intelligence whatsoever.
God, I hate this woman. She reminds me sooooooo much of my mother
According to the NIH (National Institute of Health) more than one in four children on average suffers from abuse and neglect, typically from their family members...
This woman is saying that one average 27% of adult children become estranged from their parents.
What and odd correlation. 🤦♀️
to hear her say it, her daughter is totally unreasonable, and she is entirely reasonable. Then you get tiny little hints, like the birthday present thing. That is such classic narcissistic behavior: narcissists have to be the bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral, they must make everything about them. The one-year anniversary letter is another huge little thing, you called it exactly "you owe me". Another that stood out to me is the way she almost seemed to think that deaths in the family "earned" her a conversation.
It sounds like she likely cut her own father off and that's why her daughter didn't know him. I don't believe her "grief" about her dad. She also said she didn't tell her that he died so off course she didn't care
I think she mentions in an earlier video that she had a good relationship with her father and so did her daughter and that makes it seem really bad that she's willing to message her daughter for no reason to cross her boundaries but not the one time her father passes when it would've been appropriate
@@Maximmmino I thought that was her step grandfather in that part?
@@Chelsea-ph6cs oh actually you are probably very right and i'm just misremembering
@Maximmmino she drones on and on so it's easy to see how things got mixed up lol
Thank you for this. Diane and Ted are like my estranged parents. Mine discarded me 4yrs ago when I was 53. It's been a nightmare. People like Diane lack empathy. They know how to mimic it, however they don't understand it. I find your videos to be very validating and a comfort 🤗
Stay strong survivors 💪💜🙏
She says things throughout that indicate she's never accepted or loved her daughter for who she was from birth. My mom was like that with me. I haven't cut her off completely, because she's not as bad as Diane. Her husband is just as bad. My dad loves me.
The part about autism is bad because:
1: It's not something you want everyone to know because of the cruel biases that exist about it. I know this because I'm AuDHD, too. Diane had no right to announce that to the universe.
2: She isn't trying to learn about ways that things could have been different if she had known her daughter was ND, and trying to find ways to improve her approaches to things.
It took 10 years after my diagnosis, but my mom is finally open to learning about autism, and being more understanding. This is one reason I still have contact with her. Diane could do better too, if she wanted to.
BTW, you don't need to be a liberal to see those parents are horrible.
This lady is a super narcissist! She has a whole lifetime worthy video that she posted online for sympathy... I can't believe she watched this back, edited it and still thought this makes me look like a good mom.
I'd actually lean towards borderline personality disorder
50 tabs seems so organized to me, i have 4 tab groups of 500 open on my phone 😵💫😵💫
I feel like you need a trophy for that! 😅 That's actually impressive!
@aelwynwitch9460 truly. I get embarrassed once i have over 100 lol.
I just clicked on this video and I thought Diane's opening scene was a viagara or diabetes commercial and was waiting for the skip option to come up. 😅
She needs better stock videos. 😂
She is a racist, a narcissist why is she playing the victim ?
I'm estranged from my mother.
She literally looks like this woman.
I haven't seen her since 2014, and the only time she's spoken to me was when my dad died, because she was upset to lose alimony.
SHE KEEPS TEXTING AND COMMENTING. No means no
Someone in my family-circle tried that "so called tolerant left" thing at me and I clapped back with "I never said I was tolerant, you did, I'm judgmental AF towards sh** behavior" and they about peed themselves laughing coz they were just trying to pick on me and I can't imagine anybody being this serious about it. Oh my god it must be so uncomfortable being in her head all the time. Like sheeeeesh.
I always responded with "Tolerance doesnt mean I let you walk on me or my rights. Tolerance means I dont shoot you for disagreeing with me."
Your channel is such a valuable resource to both children who go no contact and parents of estranged children because I fit into both demographics. Though the reason for my estranged and my daughter’s are very different though the same result.
My favorite thing about your channel is highlighting that parents need to meet their children where they’re at from the perspective of understanding why their children feel the way they do. All I hear is parents blaming their children and making themselves the victim like as parents they’re entitled to some type of loyalty solely on blood relation. Parents owe children! I wish more estranged parents would really watch your channel because it would help them become better people overall
Honestly, what part of DO NOT CONTACT ME do you not understand???🤦🏾♀️
I just found your content. Loving it! You had me when you commented about how many tabs she had open. And REALLY good point about the daughter probably being in one of the marginalized groups that Trump goes after.
It's more than my autistic partner's tabs. (That's one of his ocd-like auti behaviours).
Her Kids are status symbols
As someone who has parents that I've considered going low/no contact with on and off, these parents make me unbelievably frustrated. Between the missing missing problem, the gaslighting, the supporting someone who is actively promising to hurt people like me/ny friends, refusal to acknowledge their real shortcomings and making the conversation entirely about how they're the victim, it just makes me wonder how they can be so ignorant and willfully blind to reality.
22:35 does anyone else see how this man is operating this woman from behind the scenes?
Her narcissism will not allow her to accept any responsibility. My mother was the type of person who thought nothing of waking me at 7 in the morning to ask me my zip code. When I emailed her later in the day about, "I'd appreciate it if you didn't do things like that", she acted like I'd done something horrible.
And the Razzy goes to... Diane!
Book: here's how to get your daughter back.
Mother: No.
omfg. i couldn't tell where she was in those hammock shots, thought it was a weird angle in an unfinished basement or something. boohooing it for the camera in a hammock is outlandish
Thank you so much for really focusing on their political ideologies in this video and for defending the daughter as that being a legitimate reason. She sent that letter in the fall of 2020 and that was a really, really stressful time, fraught with disinformation, partisan virtue signaling, protests, conspiracies and a looming election. Even if Diane claims she's not political, everything we did became political that year based on which news sources we listened to. There is no consensus of reality anymore. If the daughter is autistic/ADHD she could have a really strong justice sensitivity and Diane is very dismissive of her views. Many autistic people don't have to be "right" but they do have to be "accurate." And just knowing that Ted got hospitalized with COVID during the Delta wave leads me to believe they didn't get the vaccine and could possibly be anti-mask as well. All of this, in addition to Diane's controlling personality and her transactional approach to parenting, it makes perfect sense to me why the daughter couldn't handle being in relationship with her anymore. If she really did claim that she's centrist and has been Democrat in the past it seems so stupid that she's unwilling to budge on her ideologies now for the sake of her relationship with her daughter which she seems to want back more than anything.
7:43 poor kid, looks like they did something to her hair or she was was losing her hair as a baby
Peek not through keyholes lest you be vexed. It's not about you.
The production value tells us everything about you.
''its not MY fault my daughter went no contact, its her's!!''
If Di gave one flying fig for Hayley, she wouldn't put this overproduced video on the Internet. She burned every single bridge back to her daughter.
NOT RESPECTING THE BOUNDARY and going on the facebook to comment. You could have stayed in her life if you respected her boundary. I guarantee you it was not an oversight but a kindness that she left ypu on there initially
if she actually cared about and knew her daughter, she would make a donation to a charity that worked for her daughter's favorite cause on her birthday yearly, and respect her boundaries by not texting her and just donating in her name. but no, she buys a gift for herself and disrespects the very clear boundary being set. telling.
I'm glad my mother isn't so public about our relationship. It would be so embarrassing and rage inducing seeing my mother blame me for her actions 💀💀💀
Diane used a kid's voice for the voice over. Still treating her daughter like a child.
11:00 And why wasn’t she preventing the child from choking on things in the first place? You don’t get to be a hero for fixing the situation that you created.
This woman straight raises my cortisol levels. That’s all.
If my mom had a RUclips account, she would make the EXACT SAME content as Diane. Thanks, Max, for your commentary!
4:17 Ha!!!! Well, goodness gracious. I wonder why they want to move on from you, lady?
On my phone, I have 46 tabs open in Safari 🤣🤣🤣
The sad violin was hilarious
Honestly...this woman reminds me so much of my own Mom, and she didn't vote for "that guy."
wait wait also... the ''i buy myself a birthday present on my daughter's birthday instead of her because its like a consolation prize'' thing... a prize for what... having your daughter??? omg.
I guessed they leaned Republican, but then when a subsequent video blamed therapy and woke culture /cultural Marxism for the estrangement of adult children and their parents, that pretty much confirmed it.
Completely unrelated, but you freaking out over 55 tabs is hilarious to me: I have 300+ tabs open on my phone right now. My laptop would probably be the same if i used it for anything other than homework 😂
The music... ugh. So manipulative.
She really thought she did something here
@@Maximmmino also, the "walking away" ass shots, and how, in the family movies, it seems like she was very conscious of her angles in front of the camera. Like, when leaning across the table at dinner to get her face in the frame, and how she posed with her baby daughter... there was just something very image-conscious about it (visually, anyway; no points for character).
I can only imagine what it was like for her daughter to grow up with a mother so concerned with presenting a certain way publicly, but not how she was perceived by her own daughter.
my ma deals with an obsessive mom. Her mom was RLLY abusively religious (so was the whole family, excluding just us.) She ignored and blamed all of her abuse on just "I wasnt in a good spot" like yeah but..NOTHING ELSE?
My ma said TONS OF TIMES to not contact us. But she sent a BIBLE to my sister, none of us are religious. She didnt ask to send it either.
But to wrap it up, Obsessive family sucks. ESPECIALLY when they dont realize. Or they know but doesnt care. If anybody has an obsessive family that doesnt take hints. Just say fuck off and block them as much as you can. Or explain EVERYTHING you feel, then fuck off and block but yeah :3
subscribed ✨ I really appreciate your takes on things and can relate. I feel seen
"ME ME ME MEEEEEE" JFC.
I wonder if the daughter will ever say her end on the estrangement since all we are getting is the mother saying that shes jist being unreasonable and she'll get over it like a phase.
I can't stand the way she freaking smiles and speaks like a damn pastor.
It's creepy af.
I watched that video before. I always wanted to hear the daughters side because i was neutral about it at first. Thanks for pointing out the manipulation
I am guilty of rhe tab thing, i think my highest count back when my extension worked was in the 70s (most of them were in groups)
These estranged parents stories feel like hearing the same thing over and over.
Her having a child actor (or childish AI voice) read her daughter's letter for the video, making the voice overlap with itself several times to imply confusion, and showing videos of her daughter as a baby and small child is another level of manipulation. She's trying to manipulate a whole internet worth of strangers to see her daughter as immature, childish, and implying that her point of view is invalid because she's too young to know what she's talking about. You know, the way older people talk about young children. "Seen and not heard" and all that.
Aye my tabs looking like that too. 😆😆😆😆
Yeah I don't watch that stuff I guess cuz I got my own story. Everybody has skeletons and things going on in their life. And most usually it screwed up stuff
Dude, if you really think her daughters cut her and their stepdad off just for how they voted, that's pretty shallow. It's obvious by her lies and manipulation in the video that she's just a controlling, abusive, nasty narc and her husband is her flying monkey. The daughters just grew up enough to realize how abusive they were and simply 'had enough', each at different times. She says 'I'm not that political' and that it was the stepdad who was, but the daughter had no problem contacting him when he was very sick, and NOT HER MOTHER. I would very much love to read the real reasons the daughter gave in her long email but sadly there's no way the mother will ever post the whole thing to the internet, because it would make her look bad.
9:23 I know someone that does this
Wow, I usually like your videos, but your childish and controlling attitude towards people exercising their human right to vote for whomever they choose shows the toxicity which always spills over from lefties such as you. You think the orange guy is bad news and you have a right to your opinion, however, that is all it is, your opinion, yet you assume you are right. I think Trump is just as bad as the rest of the politicians, both left and right wing, but people are allowed to vote for those they percieve as better for the country and your arrogant, assumption that you hold the correct evaluation of Trump, just shows your own close mindedness and desire for control of others. Very sad and rather embaressing for you!
Honestly, this daughter seems a little over the top. The amount of self entitlement is amazing here. I think respect goes both ways.
The daughter is off living her life. Only the mother is picking this fight over and over in public. It's borderline stalking and bullying. It's disgusting.
If respect had gone both ways from the beginning they wouldn't be where they are. Parents need to give their children the respect of being their parents and treating their children like people
Afaik the daughter barely says anything about it and is just living her life independently. It's the mom that keeps the conflict alive, constantly fanning the flames, constantly trying to push back in and making these overly dramatic highly edited videos.
Entitlement? You mean like thinking you're entitled to a relationship with your adult child? Like that?
What exactly do you believe the daughter is showing entitlement about?
I've been trying to find the daughter's content so I can support her. 🫂
Wait!….what?!
How did trump attack this group of people?
Genuine question.
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he saying a lot of cosplayers fall into groups that trump has attacked (such as the lgbt+) and so she may be part of those groups or have friends with people who are.. not that cosplayers were directly attacked
@@kimiloid Aww…thanks for answering:)
I knew/understood which group of people she was alluding to.
I was trying to figure out in what way Trump had attacked them.
I did’ent know about this from him.
@justsaying.8017 trump and the right wants to roll back gay marriage and they are passing thousands of bills restricting trans people.
Trump really hasn't done a lot of things he's been accused of but above all else I find it EXTREMELY sad that people are allowing politics to ruin family relationships 😱😱 I'm a Republican, my daughter is a Dem and yes we have gotten into debates about it. However we learned that nobody is going to change our minds so we don't discuss it. Obviously there are much deeper issues here and I understand that. It's just sad to me
@@beckyboo1433 Republicans never understand how their politics reflect their morality lmao