Come and see my whole consequence series the private membership: jadyatribe.com/ My Website: www.jdalearning.com/ Elemental Phonics: On Amazon:amzn.to/46jNHFA As a download: www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Elemental-Phonics-Teach-your-Child-to-Read-Level-1-7976823?st=fbbd66e11608e855025e08036a729c17 Follow me on pintrest for ideas on education: www.pinterest.com/JadyAhomeschool/
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and her tongue is the law of kindness. Proverbs 31: 26 Thank you Ms. Jady for sharing words of wisdom. Patience and kindness paired with firmness and consistency has been a heavy conviction for me in transforming my way of discipline. I appreciate your videos ❤
Love all the examples like how to deal with public situations, restaurants and church. Boundaries aren’t always easy to fix for recovering permissive parents, so thank you for your examples.
This was lovely Jayda. I really enjoyed it. Single mom here from Jamaica with 7 and 3 year old boys. God bless. I really like how you end with encouraging us to show them grace because when we look at how we hurt God, we must also show them grace as He has shown us. Thanks for.helping me in my parenting experience. It's inspiring and motivating.
I do not spank my 10 year old son hardly EVER, but when I do it’s usually for disrespect and constant backtalk, refusal to make a change. This is last resort but I love all of these suggestions they’re so good and no youtube, chat room, social media stuff for pre-teens is sooo game changing. Thank you Jady for expressing your opinions in an honest respectful way, I love your channel!
I love this video so helpful. I am a mom of 4 ages 5,6,11 and 17. I'm trying to learn how to get us away from screens so much and more time doing activities together and having more things available for them to go around the house for independent play and ideas on how you do those things will be great. I also wouldn't mind help with how to help with sibling rivalry. My 5 and 6 yo debate and argue so much but are the best friends and i just can't seem to help them to play together without what's fighting we always have to separate them
I have a video I made on sibling rivalry just type in ‘Sibling Rivalry Jady A’. I will be filming our no screens to the weekend system we have for the kids and what they do all week. Stay tuned!
Try cooking together: making pasta from scratch, ice cream making, grating cheese, pizza dough from flour, etc. Each child has a their own task in making food and they learn to work together instead of fighting.
This is a great resource thank you! Sometimes, I cook a meal and my little one will say that she wants something that is entirely different when dinner time comes. She doesn't always argue about meals but when she does, it feels like a real power struggle between the two of us. I am not being violent or spealkng to harshly. She just doesnt love it when she doesnt get her way.What boundary would you create? How can I change? How do you feel if you create a boundary or logical consequence for your kids and has anything boundary you've put up caused your kiddos to be upset or cry? I think tears can come whenever No is involved. I want to strengthen our bond, but am feeling its a little strained since I am often the disciplinarian. As a Christian mother sometimes I wonder if my daughter will come to know Jesus through my No's but I do know that No is important. I know that boundaries are important. I hope I don't push my daughter away from wanting to have a relationship with Christ by creating clear boundaries.I've been talking to the Lord about this and I really feel that the posture of the heart is critically important. Thanks as always!
When our kids don't want what we've made, I calmly say that this is what is on the menu tonight, we can have xyz tomorrow. I let them know that if they choose not to eat, I'm not making something else. Most times they end up eating what has been made, even if it's just a few bites. Some other options: - Have a PBJ or something you know they like already made and prepped. If they don't want the food you made, have them try two bites and if they tried it and just genuinely didn't like it, give them the backup food you gave prepped. - Meal prep for the week and let your child choose which item they want from what's been prepped already. Also, please keep in mind that you're the parent - not their friend. You're not going to ruin your bond or their relationship with Jesus by saying no. You are actually honoring God by saying no as needed and guiding and teaching your child. The Bible says that a parent that doesn't discipline (to teach) their child hates them. I hope all of this helps!! I know it can be hard and we can feel so much guilt no matter what we do, but you're a great mom. Just keep seeking God and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in every parenting decision you need to make specifically for your child. ❤️
Interesting that you mention putting the toddler in the shopping cart. When I would take my 1 year old-month old out and have her in a shopping cart/stroller I would feel guilty seeing other people walking around the store with their toddler. I even posted on social media about this and someone told me “let them walk, make the trip about them.” I was expecting another baby and didn’t listen, but still felt so bad like a “lazy” mom for using a stroller/shopping cart 😅
I have not yet began the video but omg I have been finding myself wanting to use violence yelling at my baby boy who’s 3. We’re currently on vacation and he’s been on his worse behavior ever since we got here. He was great before we got here and no nobody has been hitting anybody. I feel so bad just gave him a baby slap in his hand and he said mommy you hurt me, no hitting mommy
Hi Jady, Can you help with picky toddler eater, or boundaries around eating? If toddler doesn’t eat much or anything at meals do you let them leave the table or insist eating …?
Remove snacking and stick to 3 core meals a day. They should not be drinking milk or juice as toddlers through out the day. When they are hungry they will eat. You can't not force a child who is not hungry to eat. It is a pointless battle. My kids sometimes skip meals and eat a super big meal later. I do not battle kids with food but there is also no snacking, drinking juice or milk through out the day. So when I serve a meal- there is hunger!
@@JadyAthe problem is that my 3 year old simply won’t eat at all and can go days without eating if I don’t “force” encourage him to. Even the things he likes he won’t eat. He’s been like this since birth was a micro preemie. Also he never wanting to drink milk he’s pediatrician even use to give us syringe to feed him the milk and it would only be 2oz until almost 2 now that he’s 3 he’s asking for milk at night and we give it to him by bottle. We should stop right?
Hi Jady! So I have a one year and half who get extremely angry, and will throw anything in her sight when she gets upset, it’s honestly exhausting and idk what else to do to help her through this ill behavior. She didn’t want to take a nap and so from her crib she throws the toys on the floor. I never have any toys or anything for that matter in the crib she just happens to have them in her hand when I put her there and I was going to take them when I came back with her bottle. Now my husband and I are not aggressive ppl and we don’t model this behavior at home so I’m just not sure what to do anymore.
I’m trying to be a better mom I have bpd / anxiety depression ptsd I have some mental issues I’m dealing with my daughter is driving me fucking nuts in trying to not yell anymore it’s so hard I hope these tricks help !!!
@JadyA where can i email you in depth about one of my children? Hes my oldest and i am really struggling with him. I seriously trust you may have some great advice for us. Please let me know thank you!
Jady what about if a 5 year old wants to take a coloring book or a notebook and pen to church to color and draw in her seat while the sermon ? Do you think that is incorrect? Am I making or teaching them not to self regulate with this action?
There is nothing wrong with bringing a coloring book to church. I do not bring toys or snacks because I want to teach self regulation but you can bring coloring books I see nothing wrong with that.
@@JadyA Thank you so much for taking time for answering my question I really appreciated. You're such an amazing woman and daughter of God. !!!!!!! God bless you and your family for all what you do.!!!!! I really admire you and your family a lot. I would like to be your daughter 😁😁. All what you teach us and share it really works. Thanks one more time.
Can you give tips on how to correct children ages 7 and 8 one girl and one boy; who have become introduced to adult matters that are sexual? From the television, to songs, to actually seeing these acts at home and at school. Im baffled at the amout of conversations they have which is centered around this topic. The girl who is 7 is behaving as if she 15. Wanting to wear heels, clothing that is too revealing, and wanting to wear makeup. When I was growing up this was not the norm. To make matters worse, no one else in the family sees what I see or thinks that it is a problem. They both have not mastered self regulation. Simple things like waiting to go on an elevator they can't stand still and they are very loud. In a library, restaurant, etc. No self control
What about the scenario … its bed time and they need to lay down and be quiet but they keep messing around. Your nursing the baby and their brother is trying to obey but is enticed and starts interacting with his brother. Then I end up getting snappy which I hate. I don’t want to control my children with my frustration. It’s truly foolish yet I find myself struggling. At the same time I need them to be quiet and lay there u til they fall asleep. He has shown the ability to do this when I’m napping her and he wants to be in the room. (Not his nap time just wants to be near me) and he is able to do so just fine mid day. Ideas?!
Wake them up early everyday no matter if they are tired and bedtime at the same time daily. My kids go to bed 8:30 in summer and are up by 6-7am. Having a consistent routine daily will remove this issue.
Ms Jady … i have been practicing discipline for my son since he was 3 and now hes 5 years old . Bit my sisters say that you have done wronge things you should have let him do his things and first 7 years of childs life should be only giving love and not discipline? What do you think of this reply please
On time out what you do if they are screaming like crying is so stressful everybody be listen that sometimes I confess I am not consistent on that just because my app is small and my neighbor probably is already disturbed. Pleaseeee with all my heart help me. My children when I say no for any reason they start to cry and all that. And my house is look like a war. I have a girl 6.5 and 3 boys one 2, 3, and 4 almost 5.
Replace No with Not yet but you can…. or You can’t…but you can … redirect their attention somewhere else. Also good to explain the reason they may not be able to do xyz.
Consistency is key. It takes 30 days to change a behavior. If he is used to listening to you only when you yell or hit then that is what he has been trained to do. Things can change if you start a new method and use it for 30 days straight. Things take time and effort.
Come and see my whole consequence series the private membership:
jadyatribe.com/
My Website:
www.jdalearning.com/
Elemental Phonics:
On Amazon:amzn.to/46jNHFA
As a download:
www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Elemental-Phonics-Teach-your-Child-to-Read-Level-1-7976823?st=fbbd66e11608e855025e08036a729c17
Follow me on pintrest for ideas on education:
www.pinterest.com/JadyAhomeschool/
This information is more precious than gold. Upbringing our children is the most important role as a mother. You are a remarkable!
Jady your ministry is worth more than gold. You have been my role model since your oldest was 5.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and her tongue is the law of kindness.
Proverbs 31: 26
Thank you Ms. Jady for sharing words of wisdom. Patience and kindness paired with firmness and consistency has been a heavy conviction for me in transforming my way of discipline. I appreciate your videos ❤
Thank you for sharing this scripture. ❤
Love all the examples like how to deal with public situations, restaurants and church. Boundaries aren’t always easy to fix for recovering permissive parents, so thank you for your examples.
Thank you Jady for the tip on praying with your kids afterwards. I am going to start doing this. I believe in the power of prayer.
This was lovely Jayda. I really enjoyed it. Single mom here from Jamaica with 7 and 3 year old boys. God bless. I really like how you end with encouraging us to show them grace because when we look at how we hurt God, we must also show them grace as He has shown us.
Thanks for.helping me in my parenting experience. It's inspiring and motivating.
I do not spank my 10 year old son hardly EVER, but when I do it’s usually for disrespect and constant backtalk, refusal to make a change. This is last resort but I love all of these suggestions they’re so good and no youtube, chat room, social media stuff for pre-teens is sooo game changing. Thank you Jady for expressing your opinions in an honest respectful way, I love your channel!
I am always seeking to learn and grow as a mom and how to discipline and raise my children well. Thank you for sharing this!❤❤❤
I really loved this video... such perfect timing because i have a toddler..
Wonderfully said Ms. Lady A. Keep the videos coming All Praises To The Most High for this Knowledge…💜🙌🏾🙏🏾
Thank you, I will
This was lovely, thank you for sharing!
I love treating children with respect and value these suggestions so much!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you Jady for sharing I deeply appreciate you
I ordered this book on Amazon boom! My 5 year old can read now ❤❤❤❤❤ thank you so much sending my love and hugs 🥰
Make a video on mother's mental health too. Homeschooling is something I love but I live in an extended family system and have mental health issues.
Thank you for sharing! Your videos are always so encouraging, helpful, and on time for me.
amazing info as usual
I love this video so helpful.
I am a mom of 4 ages 5,6,11 and 17. I'm trying to learn how to get us away from screens so much and more time doing activities together and having more things available for them to go around the house for independent play and ideas on how you do those things will be great. I also wouldn't mind help with how to help with sibling rivalry. My 5 and 6 yo debate and argue so much but are the best friends and i just can't seem to help them to play together without what's fighting we always have to separate them
I have a video I made on sibling rivalry just type in ‘Sibling Rivalry Jady A’. I will be filming our no screens to the weekend system we have for the kids and what they do all week. Stay tuned!
Try cooking together: making pasta from scratch, ice cream making, grating cheese, pizza dough from flour, etc. Each child has a their own task in making food and they learn to work together instead of fighting.
Thank you so much for this information. It means so much to me.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you! 😊
Thanks you. Everything you said I had on my hart to do but did not know how to implement it. Your videos help more than you can think!
Thank you! ❤
This is a great resource thank you! Sometimes, I cook a meal and my little one will say that she wants something that is entirely different when dinner time comes. She doesn't always argue about meals but when she does, it feels like a real power struggle between the two of us. I am not being violent or spealkng to harshly. She just doesnt love it when she doesnt get her way.What boundary would you create? How can I change? How do you feel if you create a boundary or logical consequence for your kids and has anything boundary you've put up caused your kiddos to be upset or cry? I think tears can come whenever No is involved. I want to strengthen our bond, but am feeling its a little strained since I am often the disciplinarian. As a Christian mother sometimes I wonder if my daughter will come to know Jesus through my No's but I do know that No is important. I know that boundaries are important. I hope I don't push my daughter away from wanting to have a relationship with Christ by creating clear boundaries.I've been talking to the Lord about this and I really feel that the posture of the heart is critically important. Thanks as always!
When our kids don't want what we've made, I calmly say that this is what is on the menu tonight, we can have xyz tomorrow. I let them know that if they choose not to eat, I'm not making something else. Most times they end up eating what has been made, even if it's just a few bites.
Some other options:
- Have a PBJ or something you know they like already made and prepped. If they don't want the food you made, have them try two bites and if they tried it and just genuinely didn't like it, give them the backup food you gave prepped.
- Meal prep for the week and let your child choose which item they want from what's been prepped already.
Also, please keep in mind that you're the parent - not their friend. You're not going to ruin your bond or their relationship with Jesus by saying no. You are actually honoring God by saying no as needed and guiding and teaching your child. The Bible says that a parent that doesn't discipline (to teach) their child hates them.
I hope all of this helps!! I know it can be hard and we can feel so much guilt no matter what we do, but you're a great mom. Just keep seeking God and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in every parenting decision you need to make specifically for your child. ❤️
@@kendallbradstreet9591 thank you for the thoughtfulness. I feel deeply encouraged.
Thank you for this, Jady! Very helpful!
Thank you so much! I was desperate for it!
Thank you for such a timely video ❤
Interesting that you mention putting the toddler in the shopping cart. When I would take my 1 year old-month old out and have her in a shopping cart/stroller I would feel guilty seeing other people walking around the store with their toddler. I even posted on social media about this and someone told me “let them walk, make the trip about them.”
I was expecting another baby and didn’t listen, but still felt so bad like a “lazy” mom for using a stroller/shopping cart 😅
Thank you so much for this!!! I need it so badly but for a 6 & 10 year old! Please could you do a video on this!
Please join us on the private membership for the consequence series where I go into detail for what to do with older children.
jadyatribe.com/
Thank you for sharing!❤
I appreciate your content so much ❤
This was very helpful. Thank you very much
I have not yet began the video but omg I have been finding myself wanting to use violence yelling at my baby boy who’s 3. We’re currently on vacation and he’s been on his worse behavior ever since we got here. He was great before we got here and no nobody has been hitting anybody. I feel so bad just gave him a baby slap in his hand and he said mommy you hurt me, no hitting mommy
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Hi Jady,
Can you help with picky toddler eater, or boundaries around eating? If toddler doesn’t eat much or anything at meals do you let them leave the table or insist eating …?
Remove snacking and stick to 3 core meals a day. They should not be drinking milk or juice as toddlers through out the day. When they are hungry they will eat. You can't not force a child who is not hungry to eat. It is a pointless battle. My kids sometimes skip meals and eat a super big meal later. I do not battle kids with food but there is also no snacking, drinking juice or milk through out the day. So when I serve a meal- there is hunger!
@@JadyAthe problem is that my 3 year old simply won’t eat at all and can go days without eating if I don’t “force” encourage him to. Even the things he likes he won’t eat. He’s been like this since birth was a micro preemie. Also he never wanting to drink milk he’s pediatrician even use to give us syringe to feed him the milk and it would only be 2oz until almost 2 now that he’s 3 he’s asking for milk at night and we give it to him by bottle. We should stop right?
@@FemiaLovethis is my kid also 😩
💯 exactly correct 👌
How about kids 8-11 pls
thank you!! 🥰
Can you speak about jealousy between siblings
This is so good, thank you for your specific examples.
Do you let your children snack in between meals? If so, what are they allowed to snack on?
What if a child in timeout NEVER calms down no matter how long you keep them in timeout?
Thanks for the information,
Please ma, how do I get the phonics book?
Hi Jady! So I have a one year and half who get extremely angry, and will throw anything in her sight when she gets upset, it’s honestly exhausting and idk what else to do to help her through this ill behavior. She didn’t want to take a nap and so from her crib she throws the toys on the floor. I never have any toys or anything for that matter in the crib she just happens to have them in her hand when I put her there and I was going to take them when I came back with her bottle. Now my husband and I are not aggressive ppl and we don’t model this behavior at home so I’m just not sure what to do anymore.
I’m trying to be a better mom I have bpd / anxiety depression ptsd I have some mental issues I’m dealing with my daughter is driving me fucking nuts in trying to not yell anymore it’s so hard I hope these tricks help !!!
@JadyA where can i email you in depth about one of my children? Hes my oldest and i am really struggling with him. I seriously trust you may have some great advice for us. Please let me know thank you!
Can you make a video with older children? Specifically a 7 year old over who had a lot of energy.
Jady what about if a 5 year old wants to take a coloring book or a notebook and pen to church to color and draw in her seat while the sermon ? Do you think that is incorrect? Am I making or teaching them not to self regulate with this action?
Please let your 5 year old color or read quietly, most preachers are meant for 5 years old let alone adults barely follow them.
There is nothing wrong with bringing a coloring book to church. I do not bring toys or snacks because I want to teach self regulation but you can bring coloring books I see nothing wrong with that.
@@JadyA Thank you so much for taking time for answering my question I really appreciated. You're such an amazing woman and daughter of God. !!!!!!! God bless you and your family for all what you do.!!!!! I really admire you and your family a lot. I would like to be your daughter 😁😁. All what you teach us and share it really works. Thanks one more time.
@@hydspirit thanks for answering that's true sometimes is too long for the little ones.
Can you give tips on how to correct children ages 7 and 8 one girl and one boy; who have become introduced to adult matters that are sexual? From the television, to songs, to actually seeing these acts at home and at school. Im baffled at the amout of conversations they have which is centered around this topic. The girl who is 7 is behaving as if she 15. Wanting to wear heels, clothing that is too revealing, and wanting to wear makeup. When I was growing up this was not the norm. To make matters worse, no one else in the family sees what I see or thinks that it is a problem. They both have not mastered self regulation. Simple things like waiting to go on an elevator they can't stand still and they are very loud. In a library, restaurant, etc. No self control
What about the scenario … its bed time and they need to lay down and be quiet but they keep messing around. Your nursing the baby and their brother is trying to obey but is enticed and starts interacting with his brother. Then I end up getting snappy which I hate. I don’t want to control my children with my frustration. It’s truly foolish yet I find myself struggling. At the same time I need them to be quiet and lay there u til they fall asleep. He has shown the ability to do this when I’m napping her and he wants to be in the room. (Not his nap time just wants to be near me) and he is able to do so just fine mid day. Ideas?!
What are the ages? how many kids do you have 2 or 3
What about bedtime, keep getting up or messing around
Wake them up early everyday no matter if they are tired and bedtime at the same time daily. My kids go to bed 8:30 in summer and are up by 6-7am. Having a consistent routine daily will remove this issue.
Ms Jady … i have been practicing discipline for my son since he was 3 and now hes 5 years old . Bit my sisters say that you have done wronge things you should have let him do his things and first 7 years of childs life should be only giving love and not discipline? What do you think of this reply please
Goodness if you didn’t teach young you will be in trouble after 7 so bad, a parent who loves discipline his child it’s biblical
What if child wont listen to your consequences and ran away
I am wondering the same! My son just laughs and run away.
Lmao how old 😭😭
On time out what you do if they are screaming like crying is so stressful everybody be listen that sometimes I confess I am not consistent on that just because my app is small and my neighbor probably is already disturbed. Pleaseeee with all my heart help me.
My children when I say no for any reason they start to cry and all that. And my house is look like a war. I have a girl 6.5 and 3 boys one 2, 3, and 4 almost 5.
Replace No with Not yet but you can…. or You can’t…but you can … redirect their attention somewhere else. Also good to explain the reason they may not be able to do xyz.
@@bdowiemama3310thank you very much for the message a really appreciate it.
@@PreciousBB18 thank you very much for the message a really appreciate it.
@@CDP-ParaElas You're welcome.
The majority of this advice is gentle parenting
I don't think I've had much idea about this when my six year old was this age. Hope this can still helpful.
If i gave him time out he doesn’t listen and ignores my instructions
Consistency is key. It takes 30 days to change a behavior. If he is used to listening to you only when you yell or hit then that is what he has been trained to do. Things can change if you start a new method and use it for 30 days straight. Things take time and effort.