I can relate with posting pics at the beach and a lot of things that are the highlight of my day / life at the time but looking back on it, it does feel like it was a fake life + flex, I like the RUclips community and the idea of just posting on here seems nice to me:) insta is good for companies like Gary V but feels a bit too demanding and invasive sometimes for sure When it comes to making content as a young woman. My mind is always much more clear when I detach from that app! I work on making my actual life more fun with Muay Thai classes and that seems like a great place for me to make new friends and I think connection to community is what I really wanted through instagram so now that I realize that I am winning in my own life I can care much less and have much less envy in my life since I’m not spending all my time trying to fit into an imaginary perfect box anymore haha! :)
Wow I absolutely love this!!!! I was also curious when you had muay thai on your name!! That is so so cool! I wish I could also learn Muay Thai ❤❤ I used to have similar thing in public speaking - there were quite a few times I was so happy meeting people alot older and having real conversations... but none of those moments were captured or posted at all!! Having a clear mind is the KEY to any success I believe so girl.. you are on the right path.. I'd love to see your content so keep going!! 😊
or when someone else posts somehting better and you feel inferior when you shouldnt be because not everything js about posts and social media. life is bigger than that!
I understand where you're coming from! I feel proud when I post something, but then I start to worry about what others might think. This overthinking began when I lived abroad. I wonder if my posts could make people feel insecure or inferior. Would they think I'm just showing off? Would they dislike me because of it? And I often find myself wishing I hadn’t posted anything at all.
The more I'm off social media, the more I realize a large part of happiness/a good life comes down to the good old: "Don't be eye candy, be soul food."
Oh yes!! New quote that hits home for me! "Don't be eye candy, be soul food".. you got it so right!! There is alot in real life outside the screen to discover that can fill your soul up!
I have disabled my social media accounts as I don't want to erase all of its memories. But damn it feels so good to not compare myself to anybody. I love it!
This video was so good. I am no longer on social media. I used to be such a performative person and would feel the need to post every little thing I was doing. Enough is enough. 🎉
Wow girl thank you! I love that word "performative person"!! Never thought of that before, it definitely described me back then!!! can totally relate to that enough is enough feeling!! 🎉🎉
Thank you Patty, I also no longer feel the need to flex. My inner peace and love is the most important to me now and that cannot be flexed or needs to be flexed.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and boldly sharing your true thoughts. I completely agree and have gone through similar experiences. Our true worth and authenticity aren’t determined by what we show on the outside. Sometimes, simply knowing our true selves is enough. The race for recognition is exhausting, and life would be much more beautiful if we understood the right path to take.
Absolutely! You are so right!!! The race for recognition has been extremely exhausting for me for many years. Just being able to cheer ourselves on privately.. and letting go of being responsible for other's perception of us is true freedom ❤❤ thank you for your comment!
I just came back to facebook to take a class for my new business and oh man, I got drawn back into the rat race and was tempted to post pictures, catching myself looking and searching for people's profile. I instantly uninstalled the app. It's such a creep and our curiosity can lead us to the wrong path at time. Thanks for a such insightful video as usual, Patty! Glad its going to many others ❤❤❤❤
WOW hahaha it's such a creep!!! I totally relate to that feeling. Not only would you search for other's profile, but I'm 1000% sure that once you post pictures of your new business and your personal upgrade to FB after 6+ months of monk mode, THEY will also come searching for you Delilah because you will glow in the pictures!!!! I was really taken aback when a few months, or even a year later, some people would replicate the exact posting style flex similar things that I used to!!! It's so good you uninstall the app.. so proud of your progress so far!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your support! Looking forward to making more contents like these and it must be very rewarding to help adolescent feel more confident in themselves! 😀
Some good ol' real deep talk on RUclips, love the message and also your intentional way of using social media (YT) for the greater good. Thank you Patty for sharing your truth! 🙌
Thank you Patty, I also no longer feel the need to flex. My inner peace and love is the most important to me now and that cannot be flexed or needs to be flexed.
Yes!! Go girl! Just reassuring yourself that you've already come so far will give you so much strength and inner peace, and help people connect more to you in real life ❤
My life’s actually pretty good. My parents aren’t super rich, but we’re upper middle class and doing fine. (I’m not flexing I just want to write about what’s wrong with sns) But every time I’m on social media, I end up feeling less happy with what I have. It’s like there’s no end to wanting more. If you can get Chanel, you start wanting Hermès. If you go to Bali, you get jealous of people going to the Maldives. It never stops. That’s why I quit social media - I realized my life’s not even bad. Social media just messed with my head 😩
YES!! absolutely love this point of view and 100% what happened to me. Exactly like what you said, I look back at the times where I DID check in at the restaurants and had a partner who took me there, but during those times, I always felt really poor.. because I wasn't at Bali or Maldives. So glad that you recognise this 🥰🥰My mum has her own Chanels that she worked very very hard for, but I never owned one till this day. Many times I'd ask her to pose with it for a few minutes, then give it back to her on the spot.. and it would look like I owned the Chanel girl! Never trust all you see!!
Thanks for sharing this, Patty. I have a lot of respect for you for coming to this conclusion and being public about it. I just deleted my Instagram account last week. And since that was my last social media account, I am now completely off all social media. (Not counting LinkedIn). I was on a vacation overseas when one morning I woke up and got the urge to delete my account. I was originally going to post something I thought was cool, but then it seemed pointless once I thought about it more. I think two of the main reasons people post anything on social media is because they want to flex and because they want to gain other people’s validation. I personally feel comfortable in my own skin and with my own life, so it seemed a little pointless to post for that reason. And second, flexing seems like a bad idea in my opinion because I think all that does is make a lot of people secretly jealous of you. Those people may even start to hate you or wish ill will toward you. And if you truly are living a good life, then I don’t think that is something you want to deal with. At least I don’t anymore. Social media posting just seems like a no win situation to me the more I think about it. Also, like others have stated, if you post something cool but no one likes it, all that does is make you feel bad about yourself. Finally, I’ll end with a Zen story I read that I always think about. Quick version: A student and his teacher were outside at night looking at the full moon. The student was not allowed to talk and supposed to just watch the moon in silence. One night the student said aloud, “It’s beautiful.” The teacher got mad, and told the student he couldn’t truly appreciate the Moon’s beauty if he was focused on trying to describe it. Your story about watching the sunrise made me think about this story 😊.
Wow this is an amazing breakdown of what I've always felt in the past towards social media! I love that your aha moment happened while you were overseas - there is something about immersing yourself in a different environment that gives you the perspective shift! You are right that majority of your contact won't really be happy for you if you give off the impression that you are surpassing them, and there's just no validation to seek at all. I used to also have the urge to post a very very nice angle at a restaurant, or near the beach, or when I'm fully glammed up, and I used to feel sick EVEN though I was still on vacation that was supposed to give me inner peace! Then a few months (or even a year later), there were certain people who replicated the exact "aesthetics" that I was creating.. and I realised that EVEN if you profit off flexing short term, you won't win long term! The story about the teacher and student watching full moon absolutely inspired me today! My day has been made with a new quote that I've never seen. What a perspective shift for me!!! Thank you so much for writing this, I enjoyed reading it so much, it was so interesting! Wishing you an awesome day 😊.😊.😊.😊.
@@Patsplatform Thank you! I’m glad my story helped you and made your day! I’m sure the social pressure is much worse for women than men when it comes to flexing on social media. But even I would feel it sometimes, especially because I would fall into the comparison trap. I would either feel like a loser because I didn’t have a stable working career or because I wasn’t as lean and have as big of muscles as some of my friends. Once I just started accepting my own journey for what it is, I felt a lot better. I’m so sorry you felt that way about feeling like you had to take good pictures of yourself, but I’m glad you were able to notice the problem and let that go. Life is so much more peaceful when the only person you try to please is yourself! And I also agree with you about leaving your home culture to see something new. I’m not sure about you, but I’m an American and I think there are a lot of toxic things about our culture. My trip I mentioned was to Kyoto, Japan which was special in a lot of ways. Japanese culture is generally more respectful anyway, but from what I understand, Kyoto is more traditional and spiritual than other cities in Japan. Just being there was so peaceful, and I made sure to visit many of their famous Buddhist temples and Shinto shrines since I am into that sort of stuff. It was great for my soul!
@Zack-y6z ah that is awesome. I am so sorry I missed this last reply.. but would love to respond to what you pointed out about cultural differences! You are absolutely on point with that one! 😊😊 thank you for your support.. and I am also glad you are able to find your power and not let anyone elses post makes you feel behind or not confident in yourself 😊😊
I deleted all socials except scrolling yt but realized it was my depression making me isolate myself. Well, it actually helped me 😅 bad move depression
Aww I hope you are able to gradually feel better and better.. and deleting socials like IG or FB would only help you focus more on your own happiness anyway so its a great move!!
Especially with fomo being one of the biggest causing factors of depression and other associated negative emotions among the youth. It's liberating for ones mental health and soul to take a step away from social media
Yes absolutely! If you don't know, you won't get triggered or magnify how "not enough" you already feel. But on a moment to moment basis, you CAN make decisions that make you FEEL enough by engaging with the present, and build the momentum around that!
Congrats to you! I did so 12 years ago and never looked back 😂 I remember EXACTLY where I was when I deleted social media! I was on a plane, looking out the window seat….. I took a picture , wanted to post it…. And all of a sudden out of nowhere thought, “you know what? FVCK this” 😂 deleted everything! 😂
YEAH!!! I thought I saw something similar to this comment before... but thats awesome!! Congrats to you aswell... you gave back so much extra time to enjoy that flight!!! I also remembered deactivating IG by then and just stared at the sunset from the plane.. one of the most beautiful things Ive seen!! 😀😀😀
@@Patsplatform they are designed to keep us on the platforms swiping swiping swiping away! Learning nothing! Requiem for a dream! Black Mirror! Idiocracy! Time consuming , energy consuming, spirit consuming, mind consuming! System Overload ! It’s not worth any of that!
I think technology such things as social media is a tool. I use all technology as a tool of motivation and to be true to myself and to improve. If it no longer is that and you are not being yourself but doing things for others, this tool is being used in a wrong way. So I am glad you found your way. I think all tools have different purpose for other people. You should be able to say what you want and ignore the things you deem harmful for yourself. The tools you use will evolve. Don’t let other people dictate what you need to do as long as it doesn’t hurt others. Sometimes there are gray area. There are people who will be hurt by something someone says but don’t be silenced by those who disagree with you or if people misuse your information as long as your approach is true and correct to your own moral standards.
Absolutely!!! You are very very on point with this one!! There have been countless lonely nights where I'd turn Youtubr podcasts on and thats when the turning points to my life started!! From the perspective of other people and the learnings I gained from just this platform! And it was all free!!! I really appreciate you point this out because technology IS like money.. it depends how you use it. It could really really turn your life around if the intention IS right!! 😀😀
Rachael!!! Im so happy to see you again. I had a rough last 3 days, so excited to see you here. You were my first comment on the video.. and inspired me to keep doing it girl!!! Hoping you are well 🥰🥰🥰🥰
It's a very important video! I went through similar journey. I used to brag about my life, but it was fake in lots of ways. I don't look up to influencers nowadays. And if nobody would watch this fake lives, those people wouldn't get money from it and went to some productive work in society
Thank you for this!! ❤❤ i think many people unintentionally do this because its normal.. kind of like when we smile and appear positive in social settings when we dont feel well. You are quite right about the last point! And I think more people are realising this 😊
Wow that is really really great to hear! I also find so much comfort from laying my head down on a soft pillow, and shutting off the screen. Thank you for leaving your comment here!
Thankyou for sharing ! I am on the same journey as well.i still take pics and videos like I used to do back then,only that I save them for me. I don't know if I will ever go back to being the active social media user I used to be.i said I wanted to make it to the end of this year,,and then I'll figure it out..
Thank you girl!! ❤❤❤ lovely to see you here. Just being aware that you want to take the pictures for you.. and putting less effort on social medial FOR YOU is the best decision!! Keep going girl I believe in you 😊
Kinda blowing my mind- the last time I used instagram was the exact date you mentioned- December 26, 2022. Must have been on a similar frequency. I feel so free not having an IG or FB account
I forgot my fb password and said "well, looks like I won't use it anymore". I made a new account and only one friend noticed. I used to have hundreds of fake "friends" on fb
YES definitely. Dec 26th was Boxing Day and I was trying to avoid Christmas and NYE posts!!! So glad we are on the same frequency and since then.. I've felt much more free! 😊
Water doesn’t need to be told that it is wet. Real confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud. Seeking validation externally is like trying to fill a bucket inside with a hole inside. There will never be enough. Fill it within.
@@Patsplatform Hahaha you’re welcome. I like you how you said something along the lines of “People need to stop flexing on their platforms, and use them instead to genuinely help other people get there, too.” I thought that was really beautiful. Imagine how much better the world would be if 90% of the time people on the internet spent flexing was spent genuinely helping other people thrive and be better also.
@@AidanVeritasTheAmazingDeist Yes! I've seen quite a few people on RUclips sharing real knowledge, and it has helped me alot when I felt stuck!! I also get inspired alot by artist achievements.. things like winning music or award shows are inspirational, but if it's just flexing or selling false dreams, then we should divert the attention to them to focus on ourselves! :)
Education is the most uploaded content. Social media is the work university if you want to use it. Take 10 mins a day to learn something related to new skills. In a year, that's 3365 minutes of new knowledge. That will help you improve your life. --- But watching others live life, won't improve you in any way.
That is ABSOLUTELY spot on. There are some really exceptional educational contents that are easy to understand and fun to watch here for free!! I used to struggle alot with studying because the delivery is so boring and the vocabulary was hard!! If people organise like you said.. 30 - 1 hr a day.. a few days a week to do deep focus with some YT's education content.. they could really build something from nothing! 😀
I downloaded tiktok after almost 4 months without it and let me tell you, I didn't felt contacted to the app like I was before it was just all boring and just annoying I could not stand it anymore. so once you delete the app, there is no way back to your old life 😊
Yes absolutely!!! I love this. 4 months IS enough to make a big difference, especially if you consistently use it everyday. So glad that you are able to take your power back 🥰🥰💗💗💗
At the same time, i bumped into an influencer who had just bought her new house just by posting make up contents and getting brand deal! To each of the own , im happy for them but not sure i can handle that life😂
yes!!! everyone has their own paths but it's so great that you have your own separate venture Delilah!! I am also very aware that if my business was dependent just on brand sponsors in the beauty niche especially, I won't be forever on the internet. I've never seen ANY Thai beauty influencers that are able to keep rising exponentially after that 5 years prime time, and after that prime time has passed, they'll be in the sustaining phase of their channel only. So there are pros and cons for every industry, it depends which one suits us the most long term!
Ignore that person’s comment. Remember Jesus Loves You ✝️🕊️ John 3:16-17 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Your video definitely helped many people. Social media nowadays is just flexing and living fake lives and all vanity. Remember to ignore invalid hate and criticism. There will always be haters. Even everyone hated Jesus even though he lived a perfect life and died for our sins at the cross. He is risen and living now. I can’t edit my comments for some reason. This is the second time I’ve posted this. First is under a reply by someone but I'm posting this in case that person deletes that comment. Since I saw negativity on such a positive and refreshing video.
Ah wow!!! Yes thank you so so much for this! This comment has really uplifted me in that you care for my mental well-being. You are so right that most of social media IS vanity.. I still feel insecure here and there aswell. But I am feeling much more empowered seeing comments like yours. I truly appreciate your support and thank you for strengthening me. Wishing you a lovely weekend 😀😀😀
I agree with you, a large majority of woman do want attention. I'm not really sure how to solve it in a larger scale than just to focus on what I'm doing right and keep doing it long term!
Good decision. I deleted Facebook back in 2019 and have no regrets. I only use RUclips. At the end of the day, no one really cares about you on social media.
YES same!!! I think different platforms have different purposes.. youtube does have really great long educational content that has also helped me alot.. where as FB (unless used to sell items) actually impacted my mental health
Ummmm so you stopped using social media and yet this video exists…on a social media platform??? 🤔 I don’t think you ever stopped living a fake life. People need to stop believing everything they see on the internet honey.
@Patsplatform Ignore that person’s comment. Remember Jesus Loves You ✝️🕊️ Your video definitely helped many people. Social media nowadays is just flexing and living fake lives and all vanity. Remember to ignore invalid hate and criticism. There will always be haters. Even everyone hated Jesus even though he lived a perfect life and died for our sins at the cross. He is risen and living now.
I can relate with posting pics at the beach and a lot of things that are the highlight of my day / life at the time but looking back on it, it does feel like it was a fake life + flex, I like the RUclips community and the idea of just posting on here seems nice to me:) insta is good for companies like Gary V but feels a bit too demanding and invasive sometimes for sure When it comes to making content as a young woman. My mind is always much more clear when I detach from that app! I work on making my actual life more fun with Muay Thai classes and that seems like a great place for me to make new friends and I think connection to community is what I really wanted through instagram so now that I realize that I am winning in my own life I can care much less and have much less envy in my life since I’m not spending all my time trying to fit into an imaginary perfect box anymore haha! :)
Wow I absolutely love this!!!! I was also curious when you had muay thai on your name!! That is so so cool! I wish I could also learn Muay Thai ❤❤ I used to have similar thing in public speaking - there were quite a few times I was so happy meeting people alot older and having real conversations... but none of those moments were captured or posted at all!! Having a clear mind is the KEY to any success I believe so girl.. you are on the right path.. I'd love to see your content so keep going!! 😊
@@Patsplatform Will do! Thank you for the support!☺️❤️✨
@savannasmuaythai my pleasure and thank you for your support aswell ❤😊😊
What also sucks is feeling proud about something then posting it on social media then not feeling so proud anymore when it gets ignored lol😢
YES you are so right!!! Every tiny accomplishment matters.. even as small as walking for 10 minutes! Thank you for pointing this out!
or when someone else posts somehting better and you feel inferior when you shouldnt be because not everything js about posts and social media. life is bigger than that!
I understand where you're coming from! I feel proud when I post something, but then I start to worry about what others might think. This overthinking began when I lived abroad. I wonder if my posts could make people feel insecure or inferior. Would they think I'm just showing off? Would they dislike me because of it? And I often find myself wishing I hadn’t posted anything at all.
The more I'm off social media, the more I realize a large part of happiness/a good life comes down to the good old: "Don't be eye candy, be soul food."
Oh yes!! New quote that hits home for me! "Don't be eye candy, be soul food".. you got it so right!! There is alot in real life outside the screen to discover that can fill your soul up!
@@Patsplatform Absolutely !!
To stop social media is so scarry in the beginning, but so liberating when you commit to it!
Yes it's only scary the first few days or weeks, but over long term.. you have more power over it!!!
I have disabled my social media accounts as I don't want to erase all of its memories. But damn it feels so good to not compare myself to anybody. I love it!
I love that! It absolutely feels empowering to only focus on you and what makes you worthy! Thank you for sharing :)
You’re so courageous for being vulnerable, that makes you 10000x prettier and cooler than all
Aww thank you!!! This comment really made my morning I didnt expect it at all! 🥰🥰🥰
This video was so good. I am no longer on social media. I used to be such a performative person and would feel the need to post every little thing I was doing. Enough is enough. 🎉
Wow girl thank you! I love that word "performative person"!! Never thought of that before, it definitely described me back then!!! can totally relate to that enough is enough feeling!! 🎉🎉
LOVE THIS PATTY - Shedding the old 🔥identity and stepping forward into the power woman that you are today .
Thank you so much Esther!!! thank you for being apart of the journey, it's so wonderful to grow together! 🔥🔥
Thank you Patty, I also no longer feel the need to flex. My inner peace and love is the most important to me now and that cannot be flexed or needs to be flexed.
Yes!! that is so great to hear! Inner peace is priceless and nobody can take that away from you 🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏
Thank you for being so vulnerable and boldly sharing your true thoughts. I completely agree and have gone through similar experiences. Our true worth and authenticity aren’t determined by what we show on the outside. Sometimes, simply knowing our true selves is enough. The race for recognition is exhausting, and life would be much more beautiful if we understood the right path to take.
Absolutely! You are so right!!! The race for recognition has been extremely exhausting for me for many years. Just being able to cheer ourselves on privately.. and letting go of being responsible for other's perception of us is true freedom ❤❤ thank you for your comment!
I just came back to facebook to take a class for my new business and oh man, I got drawn back into the rat race and was tempted to post pictures, catching myself looking and searching for people's profile. I instantly uninstalled the app. It's such a creep and our curiosity can lead us to the wrong path at time. Thanks for a such insightful video as usual, Patty! Glad its going to many others ❤❤❤❤
WOW hahaha it's such a creep!!! I totally relate to that feeling. Not only would you search for other's profile, but I'm 1000% sure that once you post pictures of your new business and your personal upgrade to FB after 6+ months of monk mode, THEY will also come searching for you Delilah because you will glow in the pictures!!!! I was really taken aback when a few months, or even a year later, some people would replicate the exact posting style flex similar things that I used to!!! It's so good you uninstall the app.. so proud of your progress so far!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Wtg! As an adolescent psychologist, I truly wish we had more content like this for the young people. Keep up the positive & empowering work!
Thank you so much for your support! Looking forward to making more contents like these and it must be very rewarding to help adolescent feel more confident in themselves! 😀
Some good ol' real deep talk on RUclips, love the message and also your intentional way of using social media (YT) for the greater good. Thank you Patty for sharing your truth! 🙌
Thank you for your feedback and dropping by! I love doing these kind of talks much more! 😊
i hear so much gratitude and humbleness out of your voice
I just saw this comment tonight and I'm going to fall asleep feeling so happy! thank you so much for this, this really made my night girl! ❤❤
Thank you Patty, I also no longer feel the need to flex. My inner peace and love is the most important to me now and that cannot be flexed or needs to be flexed.
Yes!! Go girl! Just reassuring yourself that you've already come so far will give you so much strength and inner peace, and help people connect more to you in real life ❤
And congratulations Pat,the community is really growing ❤
Thank you so much girl for being here on the journey! 😊❤
My life’s actually pretty good. My parents aren’t super rich, but we’re upper middle class and doing fine. (I’m not flexing I just want to write about what’s wrong with sns) But every time I’m on social media, I end up feeling less happy with what I have. It’s like there’s no end to wanting more. If you can get Chanel, you start wanting Hermès. If you go to Bali, you get jealous of people going to the Maldives. It never stops. That’s why I quit social media - I realized my life’s not even bad. Social media just messed with my head 😩
YES!! absolutely love this point of view and 100% what happened to me. Exactly like what you said, I look back at the times where I DID check in at the restaurants and had a partner who took me there, but during those times, I always felt really poor.. because I wasn't at Bali or Maldives. So glad that you recognise this 🥰🥰My mum has her own Chanels that she worked very very hard for, but I never owned one till this day. Many times I'd ask her to pose with it for a few minutes, then give it back to her on the spot.. and it would look like I owned the Chanel girl! Never trust all you see!!
@@Patsplatform btw the way you explain in the video is so relatable to me . new sub here ❤
@kmjzaespanewjeans thank you so much!! I will keep this in mind for future video ❤😊
Thanks for sharing this, Patty. I have a lot of respect for you for coming to this conclusion and being public about it.
I just deleted my Instagram account last week. And since that was my last social media account, I am now completely off all social media. (Not counting LinkedIn). I was on a vacation overseas when one morning I woke up and got the urge to delete my account. I was originally going to post something I thought was cool, but then it seemed pointless once I thought about it more.
I think two of the main reasons people post anything on social media is because they want to flex and because they want to gain other people’s validation. I personally feel comfortable in my own skin and with my own life, so it seemed a little pointless to post for that reason. And second, flexing seems like a bad idea in my opinion because I think all that does is make a lot of people secretly jealous of you. Those people may even start to hate you or wish ill will toward you. And if you truly are living a good life, then I don’t think that is something you want to deal with. At least I don’t anymore. Social media posting just seems like a no win situation to me the more I think about it. Also, like others have stated, if you post something cool but no one likes it, all that does is make you feel bad about yourself.
Finally, I’ll end with a Zen story I read that I always think about. Quick version: A student and his teacher were outside at night looking at the full moon. The student was not allowed to talk and supposed to just watch the moon in silence. One night the student said aloud, “It’s beautiful.” The teacher got mad, and told the student he couldn’t truly appreciate the Moon’s beauty if he was focused on trying to describe it.
Your story about watching the sunrise made me think about this story 😊.
Wow this is an amazing breakdown of what I've always felt in the past towards social media! I love that your aha moment happened while you were overseas - there is something about immersing yourself in a different environment that gives you the perspective shift! You are right that majority of your contact won't really be happy for you if you give off the impression that you are surpassing them, and there's just no validation to seek at all. I used to also have the urge to post a very very nice angle at a restaurant, or near the beach, or when I'm fully glammed up, and I used to feel sick EVEN though I was still on vacation that was supposed to give me inner peace! Then a few months (or even a year later), there were certain people who replicated the exact "aesthetics" that I was creating.. and I realised that EVEN if you profit off flexing short term, you won't win long term!
The story about the teacher and student watching full moon absolutely inspired me today! My day has been made with a new quote that I've never seen. What a perspective shift for me!!! Thank you so much for writing this, I enjoyed reading it so much, it was so interesting! Wishing you an awesome day 😊.😊.😊.😊.
@@Patsplatform Thank you! I’m glad my story helped you and made your day!
I’m sure the social pressure is much worse for women than men when it comes to flexing on social media. But even I would feel it sometimes, especially because I would fall into the comparison trap. I would either feel like a loser because I didn’t have a stable working career or because I wasn’t as lean and have as big of muscles as some of my friends. Once I just started accepting my own journey for what it is, I felt a lot better.
I’m so sorry you felt that way about feeling like you had to take good pictures of yourself, but I’m glad you were able to notice the problem and let that go. Life is so much more peaceful when the only person you try to please is yourself!
And I also agree with you about leaving your home culture to see something new. I’m not sure about you, but I’m an American and I think there are a lot of toxic things about our culture. My trip I mentioned was to Kyoto, Japan which was special in a lot of ways. Japanese culture is generally more respectful anyway, but from what I understand, Kyoto is more traditional and spiritual than other cities in Japan. Just being there was so peaceful, and I made sure to visit many of their famous Buddhist temples and Shinto shrines since I am into that sort of stuff. It was great for my soul!
@Zack-y6z ah that is awesome. I am so sorry I missed this last reply.. but would love to respond to what you pointed out about cultural differences! You are absolutely on point with that one! 😊😊 thank you for your support.. and I am also glad you are able to find your power and not let anyone elses post makes you feel behind or not confident in yourself 😊😊
I deleted all socials except scrolling yt but realized it was my depression making me isolate myself. Well, it actually helped me 😅 bad move depression
Aww I hope you are able to gradually feel better and better.. and deleting socials like IG or FB would only help you focus more on your own happiness anyway so its a great move!!
Especially with fomo being one of the biggest causing factors of depression and other associated negative emotions among the youth. It's liberating for ones mental health and soul to take a step away from social media
Yes absolutely! If you don't know, you won't get triggered or magnify how "not enough" you already feel. But on a moment to moment basis, you CAN make decisions that make you FEEL enough by engaging with the present, and build the momentum around that!
Congrats to you! I did so 12 years ago and never looked back 😂 I remember EXACTLY where I was when I deleted social media! I was on a plane, looking out the window seat….. I took a picture , wanted to post it…. And all of a sudden out of nowhere thought, “you know what? FVCK this” 😂 deleted everything! 😂
YEAH!!! I thought I saw something similar to this comment before... but thats awesome!! Congrats to you aswell... you gave back so much extra time to enjoy that flight!!! I also remembered deactivating IG by then and just stared at the sunset from the plane.. one of the most beautiful things Ive seen!! 😀😀😀
@@Patsplatform they are designed to keep us on the platforms swiping swiping swiping away! Learning nothing! Requiem for a dream! Black Mirror! Idiocracy! Time consuming , energy consuming, spirit consuming, mind consuming! System Overload ! It’s not worth any of that!
1.40 mins in, you earned a new subscriber this reminds me of myself so much it’s like you speaking from my thoughts
This is so great to hear! Im glad we are growing on the same journey and hope you continue to feel more and more empowered 🥰🥰💗
It always made me feel bad seeing people going out and traveling when I'm alone stuck at home..
I completely get how you feel!! I also felt that so many times when I casually scroll on weekend night especially
your shouldve made rhe caption "real wealth is not loud" BIGGER! so so true!
OH YES! this could be another video topic! I've been thinking about this for a while too! ❤❤
I think technology such things as social media is a tool. I use all technology as a tool of motivation and to be true to myself and to improve. If it no longer is that and you are not being yourself but doing things for others, this tool is being used in a wrong way. So I am glad you found your way. I think all tools have different purpose for other people. You should be able to say what you want and ignore the things you deem harmful for yourself. The tools you use will evolve. Don’t let other people dictate what you need to do as long as it doesn’t hurt others. Sometimes there are gray area. There are people who will be hurt by something someone says but don’t be silenced by those who disagree with you or if people misuse your information as long as your approach is true and correct to your own moral standards.
Absolutely!!! You are very very on point with this one!! There have been countless lonely nights where I'd turn Youtubr podcasts on and thats when the turning points to my life started!! From the perspective of other people and the learnings I gained from just this platform! And it was all free!!! I really appreciate you point this out because technology IS like money.. it depends how you use it. It could really really turn your life around if the intention IS right!! 😀😀
Wow. Happy for your growth patty💃 road to 2k+ subscribers
Rachael!!! Im so happy to see you again. I had a rough last 3 days, so excited to see you here. You were my first comment on the video.. and inspired me to keep doing it girl!!! Hoping you are well 🥰🥰🥰🥰
@@Patsplatform Awwn♥️♥️♥️♥️ thank you, I'm glad. I'm doing well. Sending you hug🤗🤗
@preciouspink8253 thank you girl!!! Receiving hugs from you ❤❤❤
It's a very important video! I went through similar journey. I used to brag about my life, but it was fake in lots of ways. I don't look up to influencers nowadays. And if nobody would watch this fake lives, those people wouldn't get money from it and went to some productive work in society
Thank you for this!! ❤❤ i think many people unintentionally do this because its normal.. kind of like when we smile and appear positive in social settings when we dont feel well. You are quite right about the last point! And I think more people are realising this 😊
Very authentic video patty! I enjoyed it ❤
Thank you for this ❤ glad you enjoyed it!
Other than youtube, I havent had any social media since deleting myspace in 2009.
That's really great!!! I also used to have bebo and msn long time ago! 😊😊😊
@@PatsplatformBest wishes to you!
My anxiety disappeared overnight I have stressful days but the end each night I lay my head down
Wow that is really really great to hear! I also find so much comfort from laying my head down on a soft pillow, and shutting off the screen. Thank you for leaving your comment here!
Thankyou for sharing !
I am on the same journey as well.i still take pics and videos like I used to do back then,only that I save them for me. I don't know if I will ever go back to being the active social media user I used to be.i said I wanted to make it to the end of this year,,and then I'll figure it out..
Thank you girl!! ❤❤❤ lovely to see you here. Just being aware that you want to take the pictures for you.. and putting less effort on social medial FOR YOU is the best decision!! Keep going girl I believe in you 😊
Kinda blowing my mind- the last time I used instagram was the exact date you mentioned- December 26, 2022. Must have been on a similar frequency. I feel so free not having an IG or FB account
I forgot my fb password and said "well, looks like I won't use it anymore". I made a new account and only one friend noticed. I used to have hundreds of fake "friends" on fb
YES definitely. Dec 26th was Boxing Day and I was trying to avoid Christmas and NYE posts!!! So glad we are on the same frequency and since then.. I've felt much more free! 😊
I love this topic! Considering doing the same for the same reason!
Thank you! absolutely do what feels most empowering to you! :)
It’s been two years since I got rid of all that stuff and life did get somewhat better.
That is very good. At least, your internal world would be less cluttered and that's already a better life!
i deleted my fb and ig since June this year!! never felt more free ❤
I LOVE this!! the key is our feeling, once you FEEL free, you now have the power to create the things you want ❤❤
...good thing you woke up 😊😊😊😊
Yes absolutely!!! 😊😊😊
Water doesn’t need to be told that it is wet.
Real confidence is quiet.
Insecurity is loud.
Seeking validation externally is like trying to fill a bucket inside with a hole inside. There will never be enough.
Fill it within.
Absolutely!!! Love the water doesn't have to be told that it's wet!!! That is so true! A brand new quote that I learnt today thanks for that!! 😊😊😊
@@Patsplatform Hahaha you’re welcome. I like you how you said something along the lines of “People need to stop flexing on their platforms, and use them instead to genuinely help other people get there, too.” I thought that was really beautiful. Imagine how much better the world would be if 90% of the time people on the internet spent flexing was spent genuinely helping other people thrive and be better also.
@@AidanVeritasTheAmazingDeist Yes! I've seen quite a few people on RUclips sharing real knowledge, and it has helped me alot when I felt stuck!! I also get inspired alot by artist achievements.. things like winning music or award shows are inspirational, but if it's just flexing or selling false dreams, then we should divert the attention to them to focus on ourselves! :)
Amazing video
thank you! ❤
I still want youtube to watch tutorials if im stuck with something, its just so hard for me to stay away from the social media side of youtube
Yes! I also never deleted YT as I listen to podcasts in the background or watch long videos and those contents help me alot!
I love this.
Thank you!! 😀
Education is the most uploaded content.
Social media is the work university if you want to use it.
Take 10 mins a day to learn something related to new skills.
In a year, that's 3365 minutes of new knowledge.
That will help you improve your life.
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But watching others live life, won't improve you in any way.
That is ABSOLUTELY spot on. There are some really exceptional educational contents that are easy to understand and fun to watch here for free!! I used to struggle alot with studying because the delivery is so boring and the vocabulary was hard!! If people organise like you said.. 30 - 1 hr a day.. a few days a week to do deep focus with some YT's education content.. they could really build something from nothing! 😀
You look so much like Jennie from Blackpink 🤩
Haha!! I used to be told that years ago, you are the first who told me this year thank you!! ❤❤❤
@@Patsplatform You're welcome!😁
I've also thought the same thing . Would you give 800,000 people a gift 🎁 for Christmas.
WOW hahahaha your comment really hit home run for me!! Never thought of it that way!! 😀👍👍👍
Thank you for your vulnerability
Thank you for dropping by! 😀
Love it
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love this
Thanks! 😊
I downloaded tiktok after almost 4 months without it and let me tell you, I didn't felt contacted to the app like I was before it was just all boring and just annoying I could not stand it anymore. so once you delete the app, there is no way back to your old life 😊
Yes absolutely!!! I love this. 4 months IS enough to make a big difference, especially if you consistently use it everyday. So glad that you are able to take your power back 🥰🥰💗💗💗
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I checked youtube 20 times in 5 minutes to see if you uploaded anything new.
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At the same time, i bumped into an influencer who had just bought her new house just by posting make up contents and getting brand deal! To each of the own , im happy for them but not sure i can handle that life😂
yes!!! everyone has their own paths but it's so great that you have your own separate venture Delilah!! I am also very aware that if my business was dependent just on brand sponsors in the beauty niche especially, I won't be forever on the internet. I've never seen ANY Thai beauty influencers that are able to keep rising exponentially after that 5 years prime time, and after that prime time has passed, they'll be in the sustaining phase of their channel only. So there are pros and cons for every industry, it depends which one suits us the most long term!
Great vid
Thank you!
Support!
thank you!! 😄😄
Ignore that person’s comment. Remember Jesus Loves You ✝️🕊️
John 3:16-17
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Your video definitely helped many people. Social media nowadays is just flexing and living fake lives and all vanity. Remember to ignore invalid hate and criticism. There will always be haters. Even everyone hated Jesus even though he lived a perfect life and died for our sins at the cross. He is risen and living now.
I can’t edit my comments for some reason. This is the second time I’ve posted this. First is under a reply by someone but I'm posting this in case that person deletes that comment. Since I saw negativity on such a positive and refreshing video.
Ah wow!!! Yes thank you so so much for this! This comment has really uplifted me in that you care for my mental well-being. You are so right that most of social media IS vanity.. I still feel insecure here and there aswell. But I am feeling much more empowered seeing comments like yours. I truly appreciate your support and thank you for strengthening me. Wishing you a lovely weekend 😀😀😀
That's your core value. Women want that they need that attention. I don't care what age theu are. Women never grow up from that😔
I agree with you, a large majority of woman do want attention. I'm not really sure how to solve it in a larger scale than just to focus on what I'm doing right and keep doing it long term!
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Great message but a little ironic advising on SM why to delete SM.
Thanks! Social media is the vehicle, but how we use that vehicle is what affects us the most :)
It's not only about my age
But people older then me 😭😭😭
Yes! I totally agree with you and have been there before aswell!
What if I like my fake life better, though?
Then you are free to live however way you want :)
16:00 Maybe The malatang cleaners should broadcast their workplace on Instagram live and network on LinkedIn 😂
Hahaha!!! Nice!!! I do see alot of clips like that go viral and bring more customers but not in Sydney as much!
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Most women won’t do this because attention is a drug
Yes I can agree with what you say!
Is RUclips not social media?
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Good decision. I deleted Facebook back in 2019 and have no regrets. I only use RUclips. At the end of the day, no one really cares about you on social media.
YES same!!! I think different platforms have different purposes.. youtube does have really great long educational content that has also helped me alot.. where as FB (unless used to sell items) actually impacted my mental health
Same here
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RUclips no social media?
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As a "flex God" I feel offended. Lol
Hahaha nice!!!
it's truly waste of time.
absolutely agree
You look like Jennie from BP.
Thanks! Im doing a clip on this soon her new song is releasing Oct 10th!
But you are on social media. That's irony isn't it.
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Ummmm so you stopped using social media and yet this video exists…on a social media platform??? 🤔 I don’t think you ever stopped living a fake life. People need to stop believing everything they see on the internet honey.
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@Patsplatform Ignore that person’s comment. Remember Jesus Loves You ✝️🕊️
Your video definitely helped many people. Social media nowadays is just flexing and living fake lives and all vanity. Remember to ignore invalid hate and criticism. There will always be haters. Even everyone hated Jesus even though he lived a perfect life and died for our sins at the cross. He is risen and living now.
So people who posts on social have no self respect?
If you dont prioritise your well-being to impress others... with or without social media, then do you believe it is self respect?
You living a fake rich live now you stop because you don't have money to spend your fake rich live.🤣🤣🤣
Your comment is so hilarious! Thanks for boosting my algorithm keep commenting mate 🤣🤣🤣
So glad to come across your channel ❤ I feel so much better knowing people like you exist🫶🏽
Thank you so much girl! I really appreciate that this resonated with you. Im sure there are many more people who recognise this too! 🥰🥰
Going through the same phase I don't even use social media its just feeds your insecurities ❤❤
what a great message 🤍 keep up the good work
Thank you ❤ very happy to see this :)