The Aspie World good to hear your view of consciousness, I am just the opposite, I am hyper focused, so I can read people very well. Interesting, because I know some people that have this, good to hear your view on the condition.
I have a question: Is not recognizing emotions in others a required symptom for ASD? I have a handful of other symptoms, but I'm okay with recognizing emotions. My main issues are sensory (hate holding hands or being touched on my arms and shoulders, favor spinning in place, sound sensitivity, light sensitivity, smell sensitivity, sensory shutdowns...).
Sure was I am diagnosed as an adult with ADHD, PTSD and Aspergers. Life is such more interesting when one can finally answer some of the question, ie Why.
I have Adhd, and I find that I'm hyper aware of how everyone is feeling If there is the slightest change in somones mood I spot it streight away I have anxiety, but when I feel comfortable I become very aware of how I should speak to specific personalties And I know when to change up the conversation The flip side, I'm really sensitive to people's change in mood as I think i did something wrong 😂
Same! A nurse told me I was probably an Empath because of this and then I stumbled across information on HSP and finally found my way to ADHD (totally by accident).
@@FreestyleTraceur yes! LMAO someone has to help that poor person get a word in or steer the conversation away from that topic that secretly upsets that one person.
I am autistic - in terms of social difficulties, I find myself able to recognise the emotion, sometimes picking up very subtle cues, but unable to understand why they might be upset. Constantly wondering "did I say something wrong?" because I'm picking up way too much information
Yes! Or I will completely misread and think someone is upset when they’re not because they’re not smiling or their tone of voice has changed ever so slightly. I was actually a little afraid that I had been misdiagnosed(adhd and autistic) after this video so it’s reassuring to see another autistic person feel similar. Also, love you videos.
just noticed this but I love the ADHD-friendly editing in this video!!! like I realized you cut out a lot of unimportant pauses and such :)) thanks so much. and cool haircut!!
I'm not sure if it is really ADHD-friendly. I always multitask while watching (listening to) videos and I can't with this one because it's too fast so I get frustrated. Too fast, not my mother language and my brain is too muddled to understand the words. Now I want to stop because I forgot what they were talking about. I am not yet diagnosed with anything so maybe something else is making me crazy.
I love that you keep digging deep on ADHD and neurodiversity generally. Btw, you are a great interviewer, thanks for another wonderfully informative episode.
I have ADHD and mild ASD and I think it’s important to note that when placed under extremely stressful home situations you tend to learn how to read social cues very well and develop a hyper vigilance for how those around you are feeling (as a safety mechanism), so if you don’t experience that particular symptom for either ASD or ADHD, that doesn’t mean you don’t have it - it is very possible for people with either condition to develop those skills if placed under extreme enough pressure.
Yeah it’s weird how some things cancel each other out and mask the difficulty involved in it for you. For me I kind of instinctively knew I was “bad” at maths. But I always did well at it. It took me longer than other people who were “good” at it. Turns out I have a pretty high IQ but also dyscalculia so they cancel each other out and I scored “average” on the maths stuff. So because I’m not doing poorly people don’t realise I actually have dyscalculia
Me and my best friend are the ADHD & asd pair, she is talking(or stimming) and I'm talking....with her sleep over(I'm super excited, it's my first ever sleep over, I'm 16, I'm afraid of everything because I've never been to her house...but she has dogs so....can you guess who has ADHD?) And she has another ASD friend coming, we will be triple trouble
I have ADHD inattentive, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, dyscalculia and periods of Depression and Anxiety. Professionals also think I have ASD. Neurological Disorders Gotta catch Em all!
i have adhd (i think it was combined but i spaced out whenever he mentioned that part), anxiety, depression, & probably something else i'm forgetting about! also pikachu.
I think everyone who has Autism also has ADD/ADHD. I have ADHD(I guess combined), GSAD, ODD, OCD, and I was diagnosed with PDD-NOS at 4 so that also puts me on the Autistic Spectrum.
I also have issues with eye contact but for a completely different reason. I don't mind making eye contact, but I get extremely uncomfortable if I am expected to hold that contact. It feels like I'm being restrained - I need to be constantly looking around at everything/everyone around me.
I have ADHD and also notice I have difficulty with extended eye contact. I don’t like when people expect me to maintain focus on them that way. I can focus my eyes on you and look like I’m listening OR I can fiddle with something and actually listen.
I have the opposite, I have to remember to look away - especially with ASD people who I know really don't like it. The plus is I can outstare anyone and cats are too easy - the left eye is the window to the soul 😁
This is awesome, I have ADHD & dyslexia and married to a woman with ASD and we can relate to all of what you are saying, you are awesome guys! After watching this video my wife tried to look at my eyes and talk, and she looked creepy AF, we laughed a lot. Keep up the good job!
I was diagnosed with ASD and ADHD today and I'm absolutely lost. I know a bit about autism as my son has ASD but I'm clueless about ADHD. Your channel is really helping me to understand myself and my diagnosis. So thank you :)
I always thought it was weird that I react so strongly to someone biting a raw apple and I have been noticing that I strongly dislike when someone breathes near my ear, rubs my arm for too long, or I feel hot. I get like a sense of “I need to escape.” I was diagnosed with ADD about 6 years ago and I never thought that sensory sensitivity could be a part of it. Thank you for the videos! It really helps me understand myself more and my boyfriend (who has ADHD) 😊
I sometimes feel like I can feel every single hair strand of my head touching my neck and shoulders like needles. Clothing on my body! Ugh! No matter how loose, they grind my soul.
Certain slinky fabrics give me the heebiejeebies, and I cant sleep if I touch someone. Repeated touch in the same spot feels painful after only seconds. Perfumes, cigarette smoke, sweat, all sting my nose and mouth. Add some asthma on top of that.
For the recognizing facial cues part, I had a really interesting conversation with my therapist, since I learned a lot of them, and wasn't sure what's the difference between having them memorized well and knowing them intuitively (the same with my adhd symptoms like interrupting constantly). Her answer was: if you get tired and you can't do it anymore, it's learned; if you can still do it when you're tired (even though stuff like impulse control gets worse for everyone), it's intuitive.
@@arospacechaosyes exactly. If its learned it means you have to actively spend energy to be able to actively think and process thoughts. If it comes natural its just a feeling you get when you see a certain expression. Since its an instant feeling and not a thought or process theres no energy spent and it wont shut off when tired. ( downside is that it cannot be shut off even if you wanted too.)
this is super interesting!! I’ve been questioning whether I may be on the spectrum but have always been a little cautious due to the reading facial expressions aspect. It’s incredibly hard to analyze your thoughts to decide if it’s intuitive vs learned.
Having confirmed ADHD and many, maaany ASD-suspicious things (mostly pronounced in my childhood, many remained in a softened state) this was a very interesting episode.
Same...The most pronounced stuff was in my childhood. I was somehow able to adjust and adapt without any official help and with no recognition that I was possibly on the spectrum or had SPD or anything like that. Finally got an OCD diagnosis in my early 30s at least and on some good meds that have helped a lot.
My ASD makes me really want to learn about something but my ADHD makes me procrastinate and I end up just casually learning about the thing I really want to delve into and I end up with just a surface knowledge. It's really frustrating.
Yeah but if you're like me you're probably amassing a significant spread of surface level information about a variety of topics. It won't pay the bills, but its good to know some stuff better than no stuff, I guess I do agree, though. The condition feels a bit like frustration incarnate, sometimes.
This hits home, I'm a musician and I'm so interested in my instrument and in music in general, but I just hit a wall over and over again when trying to deepen my knowledge. Like I know the first part of a song and then I just can't go on anymore. ADHD diagnosis & medication help me a lot! Right now I'm wondering if I'm on the spectrum too, this might be where my great interest (aka obsession) for music might come from. The combination of ADHD and ASD is pretty common I think.
That's brilliant! Were there any particular good things your school did? I work with students, a lot of whom have ADHD, and would love to be able to help more.
For anyone with limited knowledge about ASD, be aware that the way this guy describes it is unique to him. He has some specific issues that do not apply to most on the spectrum. Some for sure, but the picture he paints isn't by any means "the norm." For anyone interested in the topic, ASD can also present vastly different in females. The scientific community is only just starting to learn about this, and many women are now finally getting their diagnosis in late adulthood. Dive into youtube and soak up some knowledge. It is wildly fascinating.
do you know where we can find more about how else asd can present? I've often heard that the typical diagnostic criteria miss a lot of kinds of asd but rarely does this come with any detail about what signs to actually look for
To me eye contact feels aggressive, almost like I feel an unconscious battle going on between me and whoever I'm talking or making eye contact with, i know it isn't but that doesn't stop me from feeling like that
i grew up in a place where looking people in the eyes was considered disrespectful (like invading their personal space) then i moved for college to a place where e. g. if you where on bus people would just stare right at you for ages for no reason... and in that city/state they considered it normal (really, kids, elderly... where in my hometown if someone catches you looking at them, you look away... in that city you felt seen, look at them like "wth?" and they just kept staring... i still do not understand them)
First time viewer... this definitely confirmed to me that I have ADHD and not ASD. Looking at you, I so see myself in the way you move and talk and carry yourself and I can relate to everything you said, but only a few things that Daniel said... especially the not noticing if someone is upset. I live in my own little hyperactive world and have to come out and focus to even notice other people as more than just concepts around me, which can be so difficult to do and maintain. Also, the self-care thing... if I do do something that focuses me (programming), I can go for hours and hours and hours and the slightest interruption is frustrating. I forget to eat and do normal people things that people need to do. I also can't read before bed, because I get too focused on the book and then hyperstimulated and totally unable to sleep.
Jessica, I love watching interviews that you do because of how you listen to the person you're interviewing. I can see you focusing your energy on hearing what they say and asking really great questions to learn more. With adhd listening and showing that we're listening can be so difficult so it's awesome to see you working to hard to communicate with and understand your guests!!
I actually have the dual diagnosis, and up until this video it didn't really click for me that just tackling half of my symptoms wasn't going to work. So thank you Jessica cause I found a new channel to binge through!
A Lot of people I know would act condescending to him after he talked about his difficulties. You seem like your legitimately trying to understand instead of just feeling sorry.
Whenever I've experienced "Shut Downs" I start with fading out of conciousness until I'm not recognising ANYTHING but I know I'm supposed to be doing something and I dither confusedly. The next stage if not removed from the situation is complete zombification - I can be moved and guided, but have no will or sense of anything... a complete Blackout whilst still awake. When removed from the situation I'll suddenly "Wake Up". I have no memory of the time I was shut down except for pictures/screenshots of moments that make no sense, and I am now fully back to normal and generally asking "What happened?". I also feel crushing shame without a source. Not a pleasant experience, but also not bad as I have no memory of the missing time.
@Lara Jane i had a shutdown one time when a beggar asked me for money and I gave a dollar and he got mad at me and it felt like i lost my body and energy and couldnt move or even keep my neck up, he then fake punched me a couple times and went away. i forgive him and wish him well so i can live in peace from that wierd memory experiencing a shut down for the first time.
hi jessica, I'm so happy to see you smiling.. Hope you are doing better... I'm a doctor.. Staying alone and studying but your videos are my go to stressbuster when feeling low. 😄 They keep me in high spirits. Lots of love from India :)
@@Syntaxa damn i might have that ive always had a hard time wearing rings and gloves and very tight clothes on my arms and legs. Like it makes me so uncomfortable and I need it off of me to feel alright
Your channel was the first thing I found on youtube when I was diagnosed with ADHD. I was truly devastated and feeling like I belonged in a mental hospital, not exaggerating at all. You’ve made things a lot easier to “digest”, accept and respect. My first weeks were all based on medication. Nowadays, with my medical support and your tips I’ve been able to manage my professional life with no meds a lot better. ❤️ Understanding and accepting what I had helped me find ways to go where I wanted in different ways. My life has gotten a lot better. Thank you so much!
I felt this video on a deep level. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 9 years old, and with ASD at nearly 41. I've lived with being neurodiverse my entire life, and am just now coming to really understand it.
I didn't even realize sensory issues were a thing. I was diagnosed with ADHD this year (had a diagnosis as a kid, but my mom refused to acknowledge or treat it). I'd eventually worked into a retail management position after failing at school several times over and feeling helpless. Anyway, I'd get overwhelmed by sound, too many customers, smells would bother me greatly. I'd find myself getting into flight or fight mode when it just reached critical level. Even shopping in places like Walmart were unbearable. Driving was also difficult. Once I got treatment and started taking meds, I found that my response to sensory overwhelm greatly diminished and I was able to be more calm. Of course this happens after I left that job, but still. It's just much easier in everyday life.
Oh man I feel this. I'm currently working a retail job, whenever I'm at the registers I get overwhelmed by all the sounds of everyone talking at once. And I get the fight or flight mode thing to, for me I just kind of shut down and can't even speak for a while sometimes. I think I might try and look into medication soon, I was always afraid bc of the stigma around it but hearing how much it helps people with similar issues to me is a huge relief.
@howtoadhd what about the opposite? Like an adhd who has the “sloth” struggle like never motivated enough to get things accomplished. Or like feeling bored and unable to have enough to fill your time? I struggle with physical energy and mental energy, and wonder about advice or a conversation on that. Thanks!
You OTs are absolutely vital to helping us who have sensory processing issues. You guys don’t get nearly enough love! I’m an ST in early childhood intervention and I always always look to you for help with my sweet ASD kiddos who are having trouble. I’m looking to get assessed myself with a sensory profile and getting input on how to deal with my own sensory issues. Thanks for all you do!
Ahh I felt that explanation about tattoos and why it feels "good". I have some sensory sensitivities, but I love getting tattoos! The combination of the pain and the machine sounds is almost meditative to me. So interesting to hear it articulated from someone else. I don't know if I am on the spectrum, but I was recently diagnosed with ADHD.
I am happy to see that you've made this video. I have often wondered whether I may be a highly functioning person with aspergers. After viewing this I am thinking it is much more likely that the similar symptoms are ADHD related. Thanks!
Thank you both for all your content! Literally changed my life! I got diagnosed thanks to you, and I couldn't even begin to explain what a difference it has made! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!
I love how no one mentioned that they missed half of the video because they were too distracted by responding to relatable comments! If I actually have ADHD I'm not even surprised-
Its not really in the nature of my stream of consciousness to definitely "get back" to every thought. I start and forget more activities than I remember and complete. So the fact that I'm even typing this means the video is out of my mind for now, and if I try to rewind it I will end up back in the comments in a loop that could theoretically continue for hours, so its probably better I don't remember to get back to it 😅
This is AMAZING! I had to share the video with a friend of mine who has two children on the spectrum! This actually explained a lot me to me and helped me understand a lot more about myself. I am not on the spectrum, but have only the ADHD diagnosis. I understand the melt downs and over stimulation as well. I've been able to curb my melt downs, but not my impulsivity. The social awkwardness is definitely in my life, too. You both are amazing. Please keep up woth these videos. Y'all make this community so much better!
Daniel:" I have a problem with looking at people in the eyes" Also Daniel :[often looking at the camera like he's looking at my eyes ] Me:"but you're doing so well over the screen!"
This is one of the best videos to share. I’ve had people ask me how I understand my daughter’s ADHD so well, and your work is one of the reasons. I share them with anyone who truly wants to know more. You are all kinds of awesome! Keep on keeping on.
I get that weighted blanket effect of feeling your body more from the gym. That dull muscle soreness you get after working out really helps me feel my body more, plus it's a nice reminder that you did something positive that day. And if you want to feel a bit more, tensing a muscle produces a nice, almost pleasurable ache. Getting back to lifting weights after being locked down for so long this year was incredible, I had no idea how much I'd been missing the soreness!
My daughter is 11 and less then a year ago was diagnosed with adhd asd and a couple other things. It’s awesome to watch your videos because we constantly have gotten from teachers/friends/ and even family that she is just fine when we have been looking for answers for years. I always share your videos on my Facebook because maybe people will open their eyes and realize you can look “normal” but still have things going on in your brain that make you exceptional!
Hi! I just turned 56 and I just tested positive for ADHD and bi polar! I’ve also been dealing with PTSD and extreme depression. I’ve been misdiagnosed several times and finally, I got properly diagnosed! I was very ticked off at first, but now I feel like I’m on the right track. My life was extremely difficult at the best of times, especially school and work! I want to thank you for giving me hope! Your blogs are extremely helpful!!!
This was super helpful! I'm struggling with understanding my "symptoms" and how to describe them better to my therapist (undiagnosed 29 y old). Thank you!
Wow!!! What an amazing video!!! I have (undiagnosed) ADD, as well as sensory processing issues and soooo much of this resonates with me!! Omg, amazing!
I really liked the pop-ups on the bottom which made clear what the topic was while acting as reminders too! That was very helpful and helped me maintain and regain focus ☺
The description of eye contact at 4:40 is one of the best if heard. It holds a level of intimacy similar to something like holding hands for me. I’m comfortable making eye contact with my wife or daughter, but it feels extremely uncomfortable with pretty much anyone else.
Have to say your channel is great. I was diagnosed at 45 with ADHD and my son at 15 with ADHD and ASD and I have to say this video has been extremely helpful hearing Daniel talk to help me understand how my son sees the world. Having said that I am lucky he has managed to cope with things well and has a lot of great friends.
My son has Aspergers (I guess just ASD now). When he was young, I used a "feelings chart" to teach him how to read people's facial expressions. It worked pretty well.
My 13 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD and ASD two years ago. Thank you for creating these videos and giving your perspective it is helping me understand his behaviors more and more. As a mom, this really helps provide answers and where I can lend support to my son that I wasn’t able to provide or know before. Did you ever think of interviewing kids that are diagnosed to help those conversations between kids and adults who are diagnosed to know they are not alone?
I LOVE THIS!! It explains so much about my son. He will always ask are you sad or are you happy mom. But he is very empathetic so that is confusing. So love this.
@7:25 OMG! I’ve noticed that for a couple of (thankfully uncommon) words I just feel so angry immediately, and I had no idea why. Now I guess I can lump that into my auditory processing disorder. 🤷♀️👍
Cool, another crossover with 2 of my favorite RUclipsrs, you guys have both helped me out a lot! I just saw your other crossover on Daniel's Channel, and I really enjoyed it, glad you 2 could collaborate!
It's really interesting to hear about Daniel's experience. My brother and I both have ADHD, but he always seemed to have extra struggles as a child in relation to sensory input. He complained about things that nobody else would even think was a thing (like the seam in his sock) and he was constantly touching walls twice, with both sides of his body and applying the same amount of pressure with both hands/feet/elbows/whatever. He often had meltdowns when our parents would take us somewhere new. Now as an adult, he spends all his time in 3 locations and becomes very uncomfortable when a situation forces him to be somewhere other than those 3 places. He stays for a minimal amount of time and hurries back to one of the 3 places he's comfortable. He would never be willing to go see a psychiatrist, but I wonder if he would be diagnosed with Autism if he DID go see a doctor.
It sounds like your brother might of ocd(obsessive compulsive disorder). Of course, I am not diagnosing him but from what you wrote it sounds a lot like ocd. It is common to have ocd when you have adhd.
I get a sinking feeling because they don't really want to know. It is just a formal question, where the answer is always "I'm good". I remember the day I realised that. I was in our local post office and it was tiny so you have to go to the back counter to get your mail from the 'pigeon hole'. I remember staring up at the counter I could barely see over. I must have been 5 or 6. Internally I roll my eyes when asked this question, or when I ask it (or 'How are you/How was your weekend') to a colleague. It's like I just shut off. I don't even care about their response. I feel like a terrible person.
Kinda. I start panicking when people ask me "how are you?". We don't use it like a phrase here in Austria and it REALLY freaks me out because I mostly have no idea how I'm feeling!
@@greeny309 I too never know! When texting I have to use 6 to 10 emojis to tell how I feel. I couldn't describe how I feel in any given moment on any given day in just a few describing words it's a very long list always.
I start questions what that person might want to know or hear. I always have like 5-10 “wrong” things happening, but I'm always working on them, so I'm not sure what to say to the asker.
Yeah that one gets me thinking as I must be giving a bit away by unconscious facial expressions in relation to what thoughts are happening. I've had it with a particular person on numerous occassions & eventually I said "I'm fine thanks, do I not look okay or something as you sounded concerned when you asked "are you ok?" No real feedback was given rather "just asking" Though obviously you don't ask someone if they are ok unless their body language, facial expressions or energy suggests something is wrong & they aren't ok.
I like this video. I'm 46 and just now got diagnosed with ADD this year. I've always suspected (and been told I have it) but didn't realize how many other things in your life it affects. I finally looked into it and saw a doctor. There is so much I didn't understand about myself that makes sense now.
Your first label comparing ADHD and ASD shows Autism as "Autistism" - I got stuck right at the beginning, lol - Great video though, I'm glad I stayed with it and learned from you eventually 😃👊🏽
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this video . I have adhd and my son has autism . I’m learning more about myself and my son at the same time . Thank you so much !!!!
Having Adhd is like playing the game of life at the hard pro level. maybe our souls chose this life because we knew we are stronger than the others. :D
I find this interesting as my psychologist thinks I have ASD but I don’t agree with them. I relate a lot more to what Jessica experiences regarding social difficulties. I experience sensory issues but I think that might be more to do with SPD as opposed to a full ASD diagnosis.
@enlathestrange -- THE study that was needed for Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) to get into the DSM came out RIGHT AFTER the DSM-5 went to the printers. Sensory Processing Disorder SHOULD be in the next update of the DSM. =)
So many great things about this video, but I also just super appreciated the sub headings for conversation topics! Such a great ADHD hack, it really helped me keep track of what was being discussed in the video Thanks Jess, you’re always wonderful xx
I didn’t know girls could have this until recently. And I think I might. Anyway off topic I saw a glittery dark blue fidget cube today because it matched my nails so I bought it lmao it’s really pretty.
No one Ever. ooh, sounds awesome! & which were you unaware girls could have: adhd or asd? also, how did you like the fidget cube? i'm thinking of buying one? & did you ever get diagnosed?
I have ADHD with sensory processing issues. I also mess up my words a lot when I'm talking or reading. This was so helpful to hear else describe what I go through. I shared this with my husband so he can understand my responses and not find it personal to him if I shut down or retreat. Quarantine has been miserable for my brain because of all the family members at home all the time, so I made a list on the fridge for the kids with ways to help reduce my sensory overloads so we can all adapt together.
i love that you guys have done another video together. I personally have been trying to figure out whether i have asd, as the more i look at the symptoms and behaviors (especially those i had as a child), from a perspective of asd as opposed to adhd, the more things make sense. so thank you thank you thank you for showing the little differences.
Thank you! I have ADHD and have had sensory issues for YEARS- I’ve always had issues with different sounds like loud music or a chair squeaking across the floor- but I was always told that that was an ASD issue. So thank you for giving my experience some validity! Thought I was crazy!
I just recently got diagnosed with ADHD and I just want to say I've been loving all of your videos! I've been sharing them with my wife and she says they have been really helping her understand this crazy condition we brains deal with.
I can force myself to shut down internally during a sensory overload and force myself to act normal until I move away from the sensory annoyances, but I end up blowing up later.
New to your channel; I have ADHD and also am working on a machine learning project on predicting ADHD in children who mask it. I hope you talk more about how we have a neurodevelopmental delay to our peers and have a hard time understanding boundaries, etc. in some of your other videos. I relate to that hard and there is not much information!! Tossing out a HUGE recommendation to try a weighted blanket for your restless legs. Give it two weeks to adjust, for me honestly life-changing.
Was great meeting you at vidcon and getting to meet Chloe. Man, I relate so much to both what you're saying as a creator with ADHD, ASD, OCD, CP and ehlers dan lowes. I subscribed as it is listening to all the stuff I get thrown at and never met anyone who has similar experiences. Being a creator and actor helps me learn things I never even thought of that were very important small little things that others need.
I had no idea you also had RLS! I've had RLS my entire life and it is a serious struggle to deal with. I inherited it from my mom's side of the family, where all the women have it to some extent, and I have seen it tear apart my mom's life as she's gotten older and had to switch from medication to medication just to get any rest. There is a strong co-morbidity for ADHD and RLS, which is one of the things that led me to realize I have ADHD in the first place! I'd be really interested in seeing a video from you on your RLS experience. I feel there's not enough information/discussion around this, and it would probably be helpful for the ADHD community as a whole since the co-morbidity is so high (about 30%).
It's definitly not talked about often enough! I am probably very lucky, because my RLS has mostly disappeared as a side effect of taking magnesium(citrate) supplements, sometimes upped with magnesium spray. No more ants and hot needles in my legs! Now the regular GPs here don't really look into magnesium, but if you have twitching eyelids, cramped sore muscles, migraines and overall fatigue, give it a thought.
Pause... Daniel is so right about looking in ppls eyes, especially spot on that you feel naked, it is that intense. It Made me laugh bcuz someone got it 💡 (You just can't) so you look pass them, I do the same as Daniel ears, I look at forehead & lips too just not the eyes 🤦♀️ I wasn't diagnosed as a child so I did get in trouble a lot and everyone thought I was lying bcuz I didn't look them in the eyes and was figity when something happened, I didn't know where or how to put my emotions and thoughts together to explain. It's very hard to grow up without a diagnosis. I'm so happy for more research that has been done so other can get diagnosed earlier and especially for girl since it was more of a boys thing. Thanks for this video together I subscribe to both of you separately and was excited to see you both together, you both have helped me so much TY ❤❤❤
Was awesome hanging out again!! See you in VidCon!
@TheAspieWorld, I need to recommend your channel to some friends who have Aspie Gems in their families!
The Aspie World good to hear your view of consciousness, I am just the opposite, I am hyper focused, so I can read people very well. Interesting, because I know some people that have this, good to hear your view on the condition.
Thank you for expressing your experiences so well! I feel like I have a better understanding of my son now. Definitely subscribing to your channel!
I have a question: Is not recognizing emotions in others a required symptom for ASD? I have a handful of other symptoms, but I'm okay with recognizing emotions. My main issues are sensory (hate holding hands or being touched on my arms and shoulders, favor spinning in place, sound sensitivity, light sensitivity, smell sensitivity, sensory shutdowns...).
Sure was I am diagnosed as an adult with ADHD, PTSD and Aspergers. Life is such more interesting when one can finally answer some of the question, ie Why.
Lol i am aspie and ADHD, Watching both of you talking over each other unintentionally made me laugh. Story of my life hahaha
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After thinking I was just broken for 26 years it's nice to finally find my people
eyyyy, has both gang. I also got saddled with dyspraxia (this may be negated by the autism diagnosis though?)
Same
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I have Adhd, and I find that I'm hyper aware of how everyone is feeling
If there is the slightest change in somones mood I spot it streight away
I have anxiety, but when I feel comfortable I become very aware of how I should speak to specific personalties
And I know when to change up the conversation
The flip side, I'm really sensitive to people's change in mood as I think i did something wrong 😂
I'm like this too! Let me guess, are you often the mediator of a group, i.e. the person that tries to keep group dynamics chill and welcoming?
Same!!
Same! A nurse told me I was probably an Empath because of this and then I stumbled across information on HSP and finally found my way to ADHD (totally by accident).
@@FreestyleTraceur yes! LMAO someone has to help that poor person get a word in or steer the conversation away from that topic that secretly upsets that one person.
@@marq6929 Lol, you know what's up.
I am autistic - in terms of social difficulties, I find myself able to recognise the emotion, sometimes picking up very subtle cues, but unable to understand why they might be upset. Constantly wondering "did I say something wrong?" because I'm picking up way too much information
Me tooooo! I get some parts of the emotion but not the intention!
This is meeee!!!
Oh my godddddd someone finally explained it. This is it.
Yes! Or I will completely misread and think someone is upset when they’re not because they’re not smiling or their tone of voice has changed ever so slightly. I was actually a little afraid that I had been misdiagnosed(adhd and autistic) after this video so it’s reassuring to see another autistic person feel similar. Also, love you videos.
Yay! The Grande Dame Samdy Sam graces us with her presence!
just noticed this but I love the ADHD-friendly editing in this video!!! like I realized you cut out a lot of unimportant pauses and such :)) thanks so much. and cool haircut!!
you're right! I love how fast they talk too, lol
Also how sometimes, when one person is talking a bunch, they focus on them and them only
And also with the titles of conversion points they were talking about, that helped a lot.
@@HejTuNatalia YESSS
I'm not sure if it is really ADHD-friendly. I always multitask while watching (listening to) videos and I can't with this one because it's too fast so I get frustrated. Too fast, not my mother language and my brain is too muddled to understand the words. Now I want to stop because I forgot what they were talking about. I am not yet diagnosed with anything so maybe something else is making me crazy.
I love that you keep digging deep on ADHD and neurodiversity generally. Btw, you are a great interviewer, thanks for another wonderfully informative episode.
aw thank you!! I try :D
@@HowtoADHD it pays off!
Also omg this is 2yrs old??? It just popped up in my recommended…
I have ADHD and mild ASD and I think it’s important to note that when placed under extremely stressful home situations you tend to learn how to read social cues very well and develop a hyper vigilance for how those around you are feeling (as a safety mechanism), so if you don’t experience that particular symptom for either ASD or ADHD, that doesn’t mean you don’t have it - it is very possible for people with either condition to develop those skills if placed under extreme enough pressure.
Yeah it’s weird how some things cancel each other out and mask the difficulty involved in it for you. For me I kind of instinctively knew I was “bad” at maths. But I always did well at it. It took me longer than other people who were “good” at it. Turns out I have a pretty high IQ but also dyscalculia so they cancel each other out and I scored “average” on the maths stuff. So because I’m not doing poorly people don’t realise I actually have dyscalculia
Are you diagnosed? Bacause there is no mild ASD. It's always spicy! 😆
Exactly! I relate so much with this comment.
@@lauraholmes9353 it is, but maybe they meant being on a part of the spectrum with less support needs in certain aspects. I don't know though. ^^
@@LagenaNasira Yes, mild equals Level 1 on the spectrum.
I have ADHD and one of my best friends has ASD, we’re a fun pair 😂😂
My Wife has ASD!! Im adhd
My boyfriend is ADHD and I'm ASD.
My best friend has ASD, I’m an ADHD. I may look hyper on my own, he may look hyper on his own. But I’m gonna say we’re the Bouncy Buddies together 😂
Me and my best friend are the ADHD & asd pair, she is talking(or stimming) and I'm talking....with her sleep over(I'm super excited, it's my first ever sleep over, I'm 16, I'm afraid of everything because I've never been to her house...but she has dogs so....can you guess who has ADHD?) And she has another ASD friend coming, we will be triple trouble
My best friend has ADHD and ASD while I have ADHD its really fun with us too :D
I have ADHD inattentive, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, dyscalculia and periods of Depression and Anxiety. Professionals also think I have ASD.
Neurological Disorders Gotta catch Em all!
CLARA DE PENA, I have the first two
i have adhd (i think it was combined but i spaced out whenever he mentioned that part), anxiety, depression, & probably something else i'm forgetting about! also pikachu.
I have ADHD (combined type) and ‘severe’ dyslexia. I’m still cool tho 😂
Same same same! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I think everyone who has Autism also has ADD/ADHD. I have ADHD(I guess combined), GSAD, ODD, OCD, and I was diagnosed with PDD-NOS at 4 so that also puts me on the Autistic Spectrum.
I also have issues with eye contact but for a completely different reason. I don't mind making eye contact, but I get extremely uncomfortable if I am expected to hold that contact. It feels like I'm being restrained - I need to be constantly looking around at everything/everyone around me.
I have ADHD and also notice I have difficulty with extended eye contact. I don’t like when people expect me to maintain focus on them that way. I can focus my eyes on you and look like I’m listening OR I can fiddle with something and actually listen.
I have the opposite, I have to remember to look away - especially with ASD people who I know really don't like it. The plus is I can outstare anyone and cats are too easy - the left eye is the window to the soul 😁
Me to
@anonymous palm tree huhu 🦉
This is me
I dont know if i should seek an adhd diagnosis haha
THANK YOU FOR THE SECTION TITLES IN THE CORNER SO HELPFUL
Honestly, people with glasses are a god sent because I can look at the glare on their lenses rather than their eyes
AHAHAHAH Ikr! I would look at what colors the glares are because they're usually really pretty colors and I get so distracted by them all the time!
lmfaooo i thought this was just me
I look at people eyebrows as a permanent. It’s SO life changing! 🤘🏾Try it!
lol that anime glasses glare.
@@saint.hudson13 is that why my anime husbandos have giant eyebrows?
This is awesome, I have ADHD & dyslexia and married to a woman with ASD and we can relate to all of what you are saying, you are awesome guys!
After watching this video my wife tried to look at my eyes and talk, and she looked creepy AF, we laughed a lot.
Keep up the good job!
I was diagnosed with ASD and ADHD today and I'm absolutely lost. I know a bit about autism as my son has ASD but I'm clueless about ADHD. Your channel is really helping me to understand myself and my diagnosis. So thank you :)
I always thought it was weird that I react so strongly to someone biting a raw apple and I have been noticing that I strongly dislike when someone breathes near my ear, rubs my arm for too long, or I feel hot. I get like a sense of “I need to escape.” I was diagnosed with ADD about 6 years ago and I never thought that sensory sensitivity could be a part of it. Thank you for the videos! It really helps me understand myself more and my boyfriend (who has ADHD) 😊
Touching cardboard... *Ugh*
I sometimes feel like I can feel every single hair strand of my head touching my neck and shoulders like needles. Clothing on my body! Ugh! No matter how loose, they grind my soul.
ILOVEDEC12 you might possibly have misaphonia? Look it up
Certain slinky fabrics give me the heebiejeebies, and I cant sleep if I touch someone. Repeated touch in the same spot feels painful after only seconds. Perfumes, cigarette smoke, sweat, all sting my nose and mouth. Add some asthma on top of that.
Yeah, this sounds like misophonia to me, too. I've got several friends and a romantic partner who suffer from it.
For the recognizing facial cues part, I had a really interesting conversation with my therapist, since I learned a lot of them, and wasn't sure what's the difference between having them memorized well and knowing them intuitively (the same with my adhd symptoms like interrupting constantly). Her answer was: if you get tired and you can't do it anymore, it's learned; if you can still do it when you're tired (even though stuff like impulse control gets worse for everyone), it's intuitive.
Great point - I think it's like masking and it falls apart once tired
@@arospacechaosyes exactly. If its learned it means you have to actively spend energy to be able to actively think and process thoughts.
If it comes natural its just a feeling you get when you see a certain expression. Since its an instant feeling and not a thought or process theres no energy spent and it wont shut off when tired. ( downside is that it cannot be shut off even if you wanted too.)
this is super interesting!! I’ve been questioning whether I may be on the spectrum but have always been a little cautious due to the reading facial expressions aspect. It’s incredibly hard to analyze your thoughts to decide if it’s intuitive vs learned.
Having confirmed ADHD and many, maaany ASD-suspicious things (mostly pronounced in my childhood, many remained in a softened state) this was a very interesting episode.
Same...The most pronounced stuff was in my childhood. I was somehow able to adjust and adapt without any official help and with no recognition that I was possibly on the spectrum or had SPD or anything like that. Finally got an OCD diagnosis in my early 30s at least and on some good meds that have helped a lot.
My ASD makes me really want to learn about something but my ADHD makes me procrastinate and I end up just casually learning about the thing I really want to delve into and I end up with just a surface knowledge. It's really frustrating.
Yeah but if you're like me you're probably amassing a significant spread of surface level information about a variety of topics. It won't pay the bills, but its good to know some stuff better than no stuff, I guess
I do agree, though. The condition feels a bit like frustration incarnate, sometimes.
Why does this describe me?!
This hits home, I'm a musician and I'm so interested in my instrument and in music in general, but I just hit a wall over and over again when trying to deepen my knowledge. Like I know the first part of a song and then I just can't go on anymore. ADHD diagnosis & medication help me a lot! Right now I'm wondering if I'm on the spectrum too, this might be where my great interest (aka obsession) for music might come from. The combination of ADHD and ASD is pretty common I think.
@@neocolors I feel like most people who are into music are obsessed with it, though.
@@LucaAnamaria lol, you're not wrong!
ADHD is a struggle for me, but my school has helped me make friends. On top of that, this channel has helped me enormously. Thank you, Jessica!
That's brilliant! Were there any particular good things your school did? I work with students, a lot of whom have ADHD, and would love to be able to help more.
I got ADHD
I have ASD and my school teachers try to help, but my classmates? Not so much.
For anyone with limited knowledge about ASD, be aware that the way this guy describes it is unique to him. He has some specific issues that do not apply to most on the spectrum. Some for sure, but the picture he paints isn't by any means "the norm."
For anyone interested in the topic, ASD can also present vastly different in females.
The scientific community is only just starting to learn about this, and many women are now finally getting their diagnosis in late adulthood.
Dive into youtube and soak up some knowledge. It is wildly fascinating.
do you know where we can find more about how else asd can present?
I've often heard that the typical diagnostic criteria miss a lot of kinds of asd but rarely does this come with any detail about what signs to actually look for
Weighted blankets are absolutely AMAZING
Your descriptions of ADHD is my life. I have had social lag all my life, at least I'm not alone
When I saw that two incredible people were in this video, I liked it immediately before viewing. :-)
d'aww thank you!!
Same!
I couldn't wait to watch this
SAAAAME
To me eye contact feels aggressive, almost like I feel an unconscious battle going on between me and whoever I'm talking or making eye contact with, i know it isn't but that doesn't stop me from feeling like that
Makes me feel like I'm challenging another man to a fight or being a creep to women lol
Oh boy. It's like you read my mind.
Legit. Feels confrontational.
i grew up in a place where looking people in the eyes was considered disrespectful (like invading their personal space) then i moved for college to a place where e. g. if you where on bus people would just stare right at you for ages for no reason... and in that city/state they considered it normal (really, kids, elderly... where in my hometown if someone catches you looking at them, you look away... in that city you felt seen, look at them like "wth?" and they just kept staring... i still do not understand them)
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I'm loving thay ur playing with a fidget cube :) 5:50
Gave me a chuckle as well :D .
This made me want my fidget cube too, so I paused the video to find mine, which took forever! I'm glad you picked up on this.
@@FredKitt I don't remember where mine went 😂 haven't seen it in a while. Now I want it.
It made me instantly pick mine up!
@@nehamaw I completely understand, I often lose it but it seams to always turn up eventually, I hope you find it soon!
First time viewer... this definitely confirmed to me that I have ADHD and not ASD. Looking at you, I so see myself in the way you move and talk and carry yourself and I can relate to everything you said, but only a few things that Daniel said... especially the not noticing if someone is upset. I live in my own little hyperactive world and have to come out and focus to even notice other people as more than just concepts around me, which can be so difficult to do and maintain. Also, the self-care thing... if I do do something that focuses me (programming), I can go for hours and hours and hours and the slightest interruption is frustrating. I forget to eat and do normal people things that people need to do. I also can't read before bed, because I get too focused on the book and then hyperstimulated and totally unable to sleep.
Jessica, I love watching interviews that you do because of how you listen to the person you're interviewing. I can see you focusing your energy on hearing what they say and asking really great questions to learn more. With adhd listening and showing that we're listening can be so difficult so it's awesome to see you working to hard to communicate with and understand your guests!!
Totally agree, I know how much effort this takes!! Seems like she puts the work in because she is an empathic person as well!
I actually have the dual diagnosis, and up until this video it didn't really click for me that just tackling half of my symptoms wasn't going to work. So thank you Jessica cause I found a new channel to binge through!
Thanks to Jessica and Rick Green I have the dual diagnosis too
An episode on ADHD ticks would be very appreciated!
ThatGuy that would be great!
yes!
This would be most helpful. So many people around me get so uncomfortable when my tics happen,
OMG I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE
@@davideitreim562 wait we get tics? What are they
A Lot of people I know would act condescending to him after he talked about his difficulties. You seem like your legitimately trying to understand instead of just feeling sorry.
I have chronic depression, anxiety and adhd. It's hell
LuchtLedig Music Drum and Bass
it often happens
You’re not alone and there is a lot of support out there.
Same
same here
do you combine a stimulant with a non stimulant, like adderall with wellbutrin? because add would be for adhd and wellbutrin for depression
Whenever I've experienced "Shut Downs" I start with fading out of conciousness until I'm not recognising ANYTHING but I know I'm supposed to be doing something and I dither confusedly.
The next stage if not removed from the situation is complete zombification - I can be moved and guided, but have no will or sense of anything... a complete Blackout whilst still awake.
When removed from the situation I'll suddenly "Wake Up". I have no memory of the time I was shut down except for pictures/screenshots of moments that make no sense, and I am now fully back to normal and generally asking "What happened?". I also feel crushing shame without a source.
Not a pleasant experience, but also not bad as I have no memory of the missing time.
@Lara Jane i had a shutdown one time when a beggar asked me for money and I gave a dollar and he got mad at me and it felt like i lost my body and energy and couldnt move or even keep my neck up, he then fake punched me a couple times and went away. i forgive him and wish him well so i can live in peace from that wierd memory experiencing a shut down for the first time.
@@poyink5515 I think thats called fight or flight lol
There’s fight, flight or freeze and that’s the freeze reaction and definitely a shutdown
hi jessica, I'm so happy to see you smiling.. Hope you are doing better... I'm a doctor.. Staying alone and studying but your videos are my go to stressbuster when feeling low. 😄 They keep me in high spirits. Lots of love from India :)
I absolutely love and adore Jessica!! She makes my ADHD, SPD, and PTSD all easier to manage. #TeamBrains
I'm not trying to be rude but,
What's spd?
Maddie World SPD is Sensory Perception Disorder. I have a hard time with touch. (Anxiety inducing) Also, can’t wear rings or gloves.
Oh, thanks for telling me! (:
@@Syntaxa damn i might have that ive always had a hard time wearing rings and gloves and very tight clothes on my arms and legs. Like it makes me so uncomfortable and I need it off of me to feel alright
@@violathepoodle-roo7492 me too
Your channel was the first thing I found on youtube when I was diagnosed with ADHD. I was truly devastated and feeling like I belonged in a mental hospital, not exaggerating at all. You’ve made things a lot easier to “digest”, accept and respect. My first weeks were all based on medication. Nowadays, with my medical support and your tips I’ve been able to manage my professional life with no meds a lot better. ❤️
Understanding and accepting what I had helped me find ways to go where I wanted in different ways. My life has gotten a lot better. Thank you so much!
I felt this video on a deep level. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 9 years old, and with ASD at nearly 41. I've lived with being neurodiverse my entire life, and am just now coming to really understand it.
I didn't even realize sensory issues were a thing. I was diagnosed with ADHD this year (had a diagnosis as a kid, but my mom refused to acknowledge or treat it). I'd eventually worked into a retail management position after failing at school several times over and feeling helpless. Anyway, I'd get overwhelmed by sound, too many customers, smells would bother me greatly. I'd find myself getting into flight or fight mode when it just reached critical level. Even shopping in places like Walmart were unbearable. Driving was also difficult. Once I got treatment and started taking meds, I found that my response to sensory overwhelm greatly diminished and I was able to be more calm. Of course this happens after I left that job, but still. It's just much easier in everyday life.
Oh man I feel this. I'm currently working a retail job, whenever I'm at the registers I get overwhelmed by all the sounds of everyone talking at once. And I get the fight or flight mode thing to, for me I just kind of shut down and can't even speak for a while sometimes. I think I might try and look into medication soon, I was always afraid bc of the stigma around it but hearing how much it helps people with similar issues to me is a huge relief.
I can relate...when I go to the supermarket, Walmart, etc, I can get anxiety 😐
Sensory issues occur in both conditions
@howtoadhd what about the opposite? Like an adhd who has the “sloth” struggle like never motivated enough to get things accomplished. Or like feeling bored and unable to have enough to fill your time? I struggle with physical energy and mental energy, and wonder about advice or a conversation on that. Thanks!
Jeremiah Dotson I have the exact same issue. Frustrating, isn’t it?
I struggle with having too much energy. Im in the hyperactive category. Also
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I had this issue, for me it was comorbid adhd and depression. Apparently it's not uncommon for them to show up together.
@@jequirity1 do you have any advice on how to overcome this?
This is a thing!? Yes please a vid on this
omg, the insatiable curiosity and so many opened tabs on various topics I love! And the sensory overload, too...
IKR!
23 tabs open now.... (it's also so I don't forget the thing I wanted to read about while I go do the thing I need to do.)
Shout out to occupational therapy (@5:02)! 🙌🙌 Nobody ever knows what we do lol, glad the sensory diet was helpful!
You OTs are absolutely vital to helping us who have sensory processing issues. You guys don’t get nearly enough love! I’m an ST in early childhood intervention and I always always look to you for help with my sweet ASD kiddos who are having trouble. I’m looking to get assessed myself with a sensory profile and getting input on how to deal with my own sensory issues. Thanks for all you do!
The speed and cadence of Daniel's speech is perfect. It's as fast and plain as possible without being hard to understand or boring. Amazing.
Ahh I felt that explanation about tattoos and why it feels "good". I have some sensory sensitivities, but I love getting tattoos! The combination of the pain and the machine sounds is almost meditative to me. So interesting to hear it articulated from someone else. I don't know if I am on the spectrum, but I was recently diagnosed with ADHD.
I am happy to see that you've made this video. I have often wondered whether I may be a highly functioning person with aspergers. After viewing this I am thinking it is much more likely that the similar symptoms are ADHD related. Thanks!
You can have both together I do
Thank you both for all your content! Literally changed my life!
I got diagnosed thanks to you, and I couldn't even begin to explain what a difference it has made!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!
The video I needed from two trusty sources!
I love how no one mentioned that they missed half of the video because they were too distracted by responding to relatable comments! If I actually have ADHD I'm not even surprised-
Its not really in the nature of my stream of consciousness to definitely "get back" to every thought. I start and forget more activities than I remember and complete. So the fact that I'm even typing this means the video is out of my mind for now, and if I try to rewind it I will end up back in the comments in a loop that could theoretically continue for hours, so its probably better I don't remember to get back to it 😅
I kind of feel attacked 😂
I'm doing both. Listening and responding. Love it.
Interesting about the sensory things. I am CONSTANTLY! banging into doors, tables, chairs, door frames etc.
The conversation topic tags are SO HELPFUL, thank you!
I am a simple human being, I see Jessica’s new video... I click it. Seriously you are truly wonderful ❤️🧠
I have ADD and my husband ASD this was such a useful video
Also, the audio is oddly tinny. Not sure if that can be fixed.
This is AMAZING! I had to share the video with a friend of mine who has two children on the spectrum! This actually explained a lot me to me and helped me understand a lot more about myself. I am not on the spectrum, but have only the ADHD diagnosis. I understand the melt downs and over stimulation as well. I've been able to curb my melt downs, but not my impulsivity. The social awkwardness is definitely in my life, too. You both are amazing. Please keep up woth these videos. Y'all make this community so much better!
Daniel:" I have a problem with looking at people in the eyes"
Also Daniel :[often looking at the camera like he's looking at my eyes ]
Me:"but you're doing so well over the screen!"
This is one of the best videos to share. I’ve had people ask me how I understand my daughter’s ADHD so well, and your work is one of the reasons. I share them with anyone who truly wants to know more. You are all kinds of awesome! Keep on keeping on.
Cpstd manifests as there symptoms too. Some of us are really sensitive to peoples moods because we had to, to survive. Idk
Regarding the tats, he's right. The sound and rhythm of the machine are compensating/nice.
Saundra York it really is. I have sensitivity issues and am very sensitive to pain but I love getting tattoos
I had my eyebrows properly tattooed and fell asleep to the noise of the machine
I get that weighted blanket effect of feeling your body more from the gym. That dull muscle soreness you get after working out really helps me feel my body more, plus it's a nice reminder that you did something positive that day. And if you want to feel a bit more, tensing a muscle produces a nice, almost pleasurable ache. Getting back to lifting weights after being locked down for so long this year was incredible, I had no idea how much I'd been missing the soreness!
I love how aspie explained the sensory issues in busy environments I think the way he described it really shows how overwhelming it is
My daughter is 11 and less then a year ago was diagnosed with adhd asd and a couple other things. It’s awesome to watch your videos because we constantly have gotten from teachers/friends/ and even family that she is just fine when we have been looking for answers for years. I always share your videos on my Facebook because maybe people will open their eyes and realize you can look “normal” but still have things going on in your brain that make you exceptional!
I have Aspergers Syndrome can I still join the ADHD community.
Yeah, same spectrum different sides
Of course! Welcome to the tribe ❤️🤗
Both sides ... So similar, yet so different. How vast! How uniquely connected! (I have Asperger's)
Yep! Come hang out for awhile. We're pretty cool
heck yeah! join our community; you'll forget all your problems! (squirrels are much more interesting.)
Hi! I just turned 56 and I just tested positive for ADHD and bi polar! I’ve also been dealing with PTSD and extreme depression. I’ve been misdiagnosed several times and finally, I got properly diagnosed! I was very ticked off at first, but now I feel like I’m on the right track. My life was extremely difficult at the best of times, especially school and work! I want to thank you for giving me hope! Your blogs are extremely helpful!!!
I have ASD. As people run away i yell, please come back, i want to be friends AT you!
I love how she avoided eye contact out of respect and empathy.🙈💗 beautiful beautiful content, thank you two so much!
This was super helpful! I'm struggling with understanding my "symptoms" and how to describe them better to my therapist (undiagnosed 29 y old). Thank you!
Finally a videoconversation in a pace/narrative direction(s) I can comfortly follow (while reading the comments). Thanx! :D
This is the quality collab I am here for!
Jenaya Curry whoop
I really really like how you put the "conversation topic" under each topic that really helped by not getting lost
Wow!!! What an amazing video!!! I have (undiagnosed) ADD, as well as sensory processing issues and soooo much of this resonates with me!! Omg, amazing!
I really liked the pop-ups on the bottom which made clear what the topic was while acting as reminders too! That was very helpful and helped me maintain and regain focus ☺
Fascinating and super informative video, please do more. off to watch the second video on Daniel channel now.
Thank you so much for labelling the conversation topics below, I lose the thread so easily in talky videos. Wish irl interactions had this feature!
The description of eye contact at 4:40 is one of the best if heard. It holds a level of intimacy similar to something like holding hands for me. I’m comfortable making eye contact with my wife or daughter, but it feels extremely uncomfortable with pretty much anyone else.
Have to say your channel is great. I was diagnosed at 45 with ADHD and my son at 15 with ADHD and ASD and I have to say this video has been extremely helpful hearing Daniel talk to help me understand how my son sees the world. Having said that I am lucky he has managed to cope with things well and has a lot of great friends.
My son has Aspergers (I guess just ASD now). When he was young, I used a "feelings chart" to teach him how to read people's facial expressions. It worked pretty well.
My 13 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD and ASD two years ago. Thank you for creating these videos and giving your perspective it is helping me understand his behaviors more and more. As a mom, this really helps provide answers and where I can lend support to my son that I wasn’t able to provide or know before. Did you ever think of interviewing kids that are diagnosed to help those conversations between kids and adults who are diagnosed to know they are not alone?
ADHD is like popcorn 🍿 thoughts while ASD is more structured, detailed oriented thoughts.
I LOVE THIS!! It explains so much about my son. He will always ask are you sad or are you happy mom. But he is very empathetic so that is confusing. So love this.
@7:25 OMG! I’ve noticed that for a couple of (thankfully uncommon) words I just feel so angry immediately, and I had no idea why. Now I guess I can lump that into my auditory processing disorder. 🤷♀️👍
Cool, another crossover with 2 of my favorite RUclipsrs, you guys have both helped me out a lot!
I just saw your other crossover on Daniel's Channel, and I really enjoyed it, glad you 2 could collaborate!
It's really interesting to hear about Daniel's experience. My brother and I both have ADHD, but he always seemed to have extra struggles as a child in relation to sensory input. He complained about things that nobody else would even think was a thing (like the seam in his sock) and he was constantly touching walls twice, with both sides of his body and applying the same amount of pressure with both hands/feet/elbows/whatever. He often had meltdowns when our parents would take us somewhere new.
Now as an adult, he spends all his time in 3 locations and becomes very uncomfortable when a situation forces him to be somewhere other than those 3 places. He stays for a minimal amount of time and hurries back to one of the 3 places he's comfortable. He would never be willing to go see a psychiatrist, but I wonder if he would be diagnosed with Autism if he DID go see a doctor.
It sounds like your brother might of ocd(obsessive compulsive disorder). Of course, I am not diagnosing him but from what you wrote it sounds a lot like ocd. It is common to have ocd when you have adhd.
It definitely sounds like ASD level 2 or 3
Omg--I love the graphics labeling the changes in topics in this discussion! so helpful. TYSM
Does anyone else out there completely fall apart when someone asks you “are you okay?”
I get a sinking feeling because they don't really want to know. It is just a formal question, where the answer is always "I'm good". I remember the day I realised that. I was in our local post office and it was tiny so you have to go to the back counter to get your mail from the 'pigeon hole'. I remember staring up at the counter I could barely see over. I must have been 5 or 6. Internally I roll my eyes when asked this question, or when I ask it (or 'How are you/How was your weekend') to a colleague. It's like I just shut off. I don't even care about their response. I feel like a terrible person.
Kinda. I start panicking when people ask me "how are you?". We don't use it like a phrase here in Austria and it REALLY freaks me out because I mostly have no idea how I'm feeling!
@@greeny309 I too never know! When texting I have to use 6 to 10 emojis to tell how I feel.
I couldn't describe how I feel in any given moment on any given day in just a few describing words it's a very long list always.
I start questions what that person might want to know or hear. I always have like 5-10 “wrong” things happening, but I'm always working on them, so I'm not sure what to say to the asker.
Yeah that one gets me thinking as I must be giving a bit away by unconscious facial expressions in relation to what thoughts are happening.
I've had it with a particular person on numerous occassions & eventually I said "I'm fine thanks, do I not look okay or something as you sounded concerned when you asked "are you ok?" No real feedback was given rather "just asking"
Though obviously you don't ask someone if they are ok unless their body language, facial expressions or energy suggests something is wrong & they aren't ok.
I like this video. I'm 46 and just now got diagnosed with ADD this year. I've always suspected (and been told I have it) but didn't realize how many other things in your life it affects. I finally looked into it and saw a doctor. There is so much I didn't understand about myself that makes sense now.
Your first label comparing ADHD and ASD shows Autism as "Autistism" - I got stuck right at the beginning, lol - Great video though, I'm glad I stayed with it and learned from you eventually 😃👊🏽
*attention to detail*
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this video . I have adhd and my son has autism . I’m learning more about myself and my son at the same time . Thank you so much !!!!
Having Adhd is like playing the game of life at the hard pro level. maybe our souls chose this life because we knew we are stronger than the others. :D
I love that I don't have to speed up the video. And someone mentioned the efficient editing... Love it.
I find this interesting as my psychologist thinks I have ASD but I don’t agree with them. I relate a lot more to what Jessica experiences regarding social difficulties.
I experience sensory issues but I think that might be more to do with SPD as opposed to a full ASD diagnosis.
@enlathestrange -- THE study that was needed for Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) to get into the DSM came out RIGHT AFTER the DSM-5 went to the printers. Sensory Processing Disorder SHOULD be in the next update of the DSM. =)
So many great things about this video, but I also just super appreciated the sub headings for conversation topics! Such a great ADHD hack, it really helped me keep track of what was being discussed in the video
Thanks Jess, you’re always wonderful xx
I didn’t know girls could have this until recently. And I think I might. Anyway off topic I saw a glittery dark blue fidget cube today because it matched my nails so I bought it lmao it’s really pretty.
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ooh, sounds awesome! & which were you unaware girls could have: adhd or asd? also, how did you like the fidget cube? i'm thinking of buying one? & did you ever get diagnosed?
I have ADHD with sensory processing issues. I also mess up my words a lot when I'm talking or reading. This was so helpful to hear else describe what I go through. I shared this with my husband so he can understand my responses and not find it personal to him if I shut down or retreat. Quarantine has been miserable for my brain because of all the family members at home all the time, so I made a list on the fridge for the kids with ways to help reduce my sensory overloads so we can all adapt together.
This was awesome! Thank you both! Great information and yeah, loved you both! Great work 💖
i love that you guys have done another video together. I personally have been trying to figure out whether i have asd, as the more i look at the symptoms and behaviors (especially those i had as a child), from a perspective of asd as opposed to adhd, the more things make sense. so thank you thank you thank you for showing the little differences.
Thank you! I have ADHD and have had sensory issues for YEARS- I’ve always had issues with different sounds like loud music or a chair squeaking across the floor- but I was always told that that was an ASD issue. So thank you for giving my experience some validity! Thought I was crazy!
It’s actually an issue of both conditions
I just recently got diagnosed with ADHD and I just want to say I've been loving all of your videos! I've been sharing them with my wife and she says they have been really helping her understand this crazy condition we brains deal with.
I can force myself to shut down internally during a sensory overload and force myself to act normal until I move away from the sensory annoyances, but I end up blowing up later.
New to your channel; I have ADHD and also am working on a machine learning project on predicting ADHD in children who mask it. I hope you talk more about how we have a neurodevelopmental delay to our peers and have a hard time understanding boundaries, etc. in some of your other videos. I relate to that hard and there is not much information!! Tossing out a HUGE recommendation to try a weighted blanket for your restless legs. Give it two weeks to adjust, for me honestly life-changing.
Love lots of blankets on me and to be tucked in tight always have also the only stim I was aware of having was curling my hair around my finger
Great Video! I guess. Got distracted by those BEAUTIFUL blue eyes. Watching it again now ❤️
Was great meeting you at vidcon and getting to meet Chloe. Man, I relate so much to both what you're saying as a creator with ADHD, ASD, OCD, CP and ehlers dan lowes. I subscribed as it is listening to all the stuff I get thrown at and never met anyone who has similar experiences. Being a creator and actor helps me learn things I never even thought of that were very important small little things that others need.
I had no idea you also had RLS! I've had RLS my entire life and it is a serious struggle to deal with. I inherited it from my mom's side of the family, where all the women have it to some extent, and I have seen it tear apart my mom's life as she's gotten older and had to switch from medication to medication just to get any rest.
There is a strong co-morbidity for ADHD and RLS, which is one of the things that led me to realize I have ADHD in the first place!
I'd be really interested in seeing a video from you on your RLS experience. I feel there's not enough information/discussion around this, and it would probably be helpful for the ADHD community as a whole since the co-morbidity is so high (about 30%).
It's definitly not talked about often enough! I am probably very lucky, because my RLS has mostly disappeared as a side effect of taking magnesium(citrate) supplements, sometimes upped with magnesium spray. No more ants and hot needles in my legs! Now the regular GPs here don't really look into magnesium, but if you have twitching eyelids, cramped sore muscles, migraines and overall fatigue, give it a thought.
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Daniel is so right about looking in ppls eyes, especially spot on that you feel naked, it is that intense. It Made me laugh bcuz someone got it 💡
(You just can't)
so you look pass them, I do the same as Daniel ears, I look at forehead & lips too just not the eyes 🤦♀️
I wasn't diagnosed as a child so I did get in trouble a lot and everyone thought I was lying bcuz I didn't look them in the eyes and was figity when something happened, I didn't know where or how to put my emotions and thoughts together to explain.
It's very hard to grow up without a diagnosis. I'm so happy for more research that has been done so other can get diagnosed earlier and especially for girl since it was more of a boys thing.
Thanks for this video together I subscribe to both of you separately and was excited to see you both together, you both have helped me so much
TY ❤❤❤