How Narcissists Suppress Their Memories

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Комментарии • 37

  • @khadijahnyabinghi
    @khadijahnyabinghi 10 месяцев назад +19

    Selective amnesia, Narcissists remember what makes them feel and look good , otherwise they never did that or they don't (conveniently) remember doing that. They always remember what to say to hurt you to the core though.

  • @shamama1834
    @shamama1834 Год назад +21

    Brings so much clarity. Oftentimes, I get confused wondering how in the world did HE become the victim? Because he blame shifts, distorts reality, and changes the narrative. Why? To reduce his discomfort. To protect himself from shame, even if it means hurting and damaging me mentally & emotionally. Instead the narc believes, “I didn’t actually hurt that person, I stood up for myself bc they were actually attacking me.” Why? To feel better about himself.
    Wow! That’s distorted! Thank you for helping us understand.

  • @TheVioletMagic29
    @TheVioletMagic29 Год назад +9

    He had a bad memory long before I met him according to his friends. It makes sense because it takes a lot more memory to keep up with all the manipulations and lies

  • @troy7962
    @troy7962 Год назад +33

    In their sick little minds if you cross them, or think differently, you’re a threat to them and they’ll never forget. Passively aggressively attack you constantly.

    • @susanw7924
      @susanw7924 Год назад +6

      Or just ghost you with no explanation😢

    • @cherrybacon3319
      @cherrybacon3319 Год назад +6

      My Ex would attack me with undermining sarcastic comments.

    • @tathe3786
      @tathe3786 Год назад +4

      🎉Mine blame Shiifts, Projejects and smeared my Name, when He realized i knew what He is!!!!

    • @Rockka75
      @Rockka75 8 месяцев назад

      @@cherrybacon3319 I work with a toxic person that does this and I hate it but I have started calling him out about it several weeks ago. I know that’s not recommended. I usually just say why are you talking to me like that and he will come up with how what he was saying was a good thing. 😂😂😂 I would never do that when I’m along with him though. There are always people around us and he’s trying to make me feel little.

  • @alyssamoore3626
    @alyssamoore3626 10 месяцев назад +7

    Our brains try to blot out negative memories. Our brains are like computers, and negative memories are like viruses. In order to survive and not be constantly angry, sad, afraid, or whatever, our brains try to delete or edit anything upsetting or painful. This helps explain why victims of trauma often have incomplete or inconsistent memories of traumatic events. I'm sure narcissists' brains try to delete the reality of the harm they cause, as accepting it would be traumatic.

  • @karlippo
    @karlippo 11 месяцев назад +8

    Don’t underestimate the complete damage this behaviour does to
    Your brain your body your personality. Was in it for 4,5 years and I went from being a happy chearful strong independent woman to a complete insecure depressed wreck . All the lying an denying and gaslighting really did a number on me. Esp my head. It actually feels like I have a concussion. My brain litteralt hurts. Out four months now and four months emdr twice a week. Im afraid to ever love or trust it severy damaged me . I was onto him but stayed too long. Out of love compassion understanding not wanting to lose him etc etc.
    It is better to be alone and in peace than to have yourself destroyed by a sick self-centred unempathic charming creature

    • @Groundwater24
      @Groundwater24 8 месяцев назад +3

      “Feels like a concussion”. Totally agree. They feel a lot worse most days for the rest of their fake sad lives.

    • @Unhappypeoplesaymeanthings
      @Unhappypeoplesaymeanthings Месяц назад +1

      Hope you’re doing better ❤. It’s really hard but remember you’re not alone. ❤❤❤

    • @karlippo
      @karlippo Месяц назад

      @@Unhappypeoplesaymeanthings awh thanks 🙏🏻 really appreciate your comment still healing seems that is taking forever.. two steps forward one step back but making progress. The hardest part is that he is seemingly happily living his best life with no care in the world I know that cant be true but it still hurts

  • @ly5142
    @ly5142 Год назад +6

    Memory suppression is how I survived and recovered too. Wiping out memory is one of the fastest ways to recover from trauma. Sadly, some functions became affected as well, and I am unable to address dealing with documents etc. which I need to get back.

  • @dianaalyssa8726
    @dianaalyssa8726 Год назад +10

    "I never said that" It's possible they forgot saying things but idk. Easier with a normal.

    • @resilient8788
      @resilient8788 Год назад

      That is a form of gaslighting. Been there lived through it.
      BTW, it is premeditated and designed to make you doubt yourself. Don't buy into it.
      All conversations seem circular with no resolve? That is premeditated, too.
      Also designed to project and blamshift, invalidate your thoughts and feelings.
      They know exactly what they are doing. Otherwise, why do it, why lie.

    • @ThePositiveTarot
      @ThePositiveTarot 7 месяцев назад +1

      They truly are abnormal titans

  • @jensbornagain
    @jensbornagain 10 месяцев назад +2

    My husband can’t remember anything good or bad. But he can remember names of drummers and bands and he can remember things that I have done wrong like not painting the living room all the way and he had to finish it.

  • @nv_chino
    @nv_chino Год назад +2

    And when they drink it’s even worse, they act they don’t remember anything. While they were doing it they were laughing and enjoying but somehow they’ll act like it never happened and that’s the literally stupid and sick. Thanks for what you do Ben

  • @lisagoeke5025
    @lisagoeke5025 9 месяцев назад +1

    My husband says I'm a good guy a lot

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152
    @quantumfineartsandfossils2152 Год назад +1

    You are a natural physicist in general you understand math & physics & momentum super well you correct for error very fluidly openly you understand inevitabilities

    • @ThePositiveTarot
      @ThePositiveTarot 7 месяцев назад

      Lol, narcissists are traumatized by their own narcissism and so they suppress their own memories 😂😂

  • @kerrycater2795
    @kerrycater2795 Месяц назад

    Thanks!

  • @tathe3786
    @tathe3786 Год назад

    Wow the fog more and more Lifts… i asked me unknowing what Happens is He getting demence??? Yes that is him supresding his shame Based memories to Go on with his needy live and to be Not acountable for it!!!
    I Chaled it that Time „emotional Demenz“!!!! What it’s actially is!!! 😢

  • @jrocks6969
    @jrocks6969 4 месяца назад

    My dad steals my ideas for his own it's wierd, if I say joke he will say it , say he came up with it so wierd

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152
    @quantumfineartsandfossils2152 Год назад +2

    10:41 "hitler" you are npds worst nightmare man!!!! you know it!!

  • @bornagain8680
    @bornagain8680 Месяц назад

    How did you realise that you were a narcissist? Have you gone through therapy?

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Месяц назад +1

      Been 4+ years and thousands invested in my growth

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152
    @quantumfineartsandfossils2152 Год назад +1

    8:30+ yes every criminal I have ever known works to criminally *always breaking the law* damage destroy delete everything I do MOST of them are criminal STALKERS (!!! II subscribed you have an insanely high iq a natural at behavioral psychology()