I was married to an Indonesian woman for 20 years,and have now been in a relationship with a Thai woman for 7 years. The one thing I’ve realised in both of these scenario’s,is that you simply have to accept that if you live in another person’s country,YOU have to adapt,NOT them. Way too many Western guys marry in SE Asia,thinking that their money,skin color,and attitude,makes them superior. That may work initially,but it’s definitely not a long term thing
You’re totally correct. But I just don’t understand the neediness of so many han$um men to have to get married? What sane man needs the hassle of a wife and in-laws when a free agent bachelor lifestyle is so much more enjoyable … 🎉
I disagree with your statement about western men and frankly I’m offended by it. May be relevant to you but not me sunshine. I’m no better than any person on this planet but what separates people is education, employment and moral standings both personally and in any community regardless of whence they came or where they call home.
It never ceases to amaze me when people say they are”offended”by other people’s comments,as if that’s the basis for a rational argument. I disagree with many people,but I’m never ”offended”by their arguments,we just differ in our opinions. I can only give you my thoughts from my own personal experiences in SE Asia,nothing more.
I live on a small farm out in the bush, in a village of 83 houses, been here since 2013, I love it, I am now 77 and the thai village life is the same as living in australia when I was young, we were very poor in my younger days, I love it ,life is so easy, so simple, there are no ferangs around my area , yep its me !
You're alienated, irritated and on the periphery.. On these weekends ,at times you could stay in Bangkok alone . Seems like the solution . Here is a question,does your wife understand how you're feeling? She could help you and her family enjoy some togetherness with her as a conduit . Maybe her family think you're not sociable? You don't have to assimilate, in fact you shouldn't and you can't but it doesn't mean you must exclude yourself . I don't believe they're rejecting you,more like the other way around . There is something wrong in your married life and hence you engage in small talk with young female strangers . That what it seems to me and I am a subscriber here and that's my conclusion .
My girlfriend had a grasshopper leg stuck in her throat once. The strange diet doesn't bother me too much. What bothers me is the feeling that behind the veneer, they don't like me. That thought nags at me. At a Presbyterian church once, the minister had a nice sermon about showing only one face to the world, and not being two-faced. I don't know how many Thais believe in that. It is a culture that I will never fully understand.
I told my Thai wife already that if we retired in Thailand then I’d have to be near a farang community or I’d probably get depressed and lonely in rural areas.
Together 10 years with a Thai. Some things we do according to Thai culture, some according to my culture, and the rest are a blended compromise. I'm an expat and not trying to be a Thai person. We usually make it work. The big thing that rubs me is my wife tells her parents everything we talk about or do. There is zero privacy in our relationship. But her parents are very helpful with a lot of things so it's a trade-off. They give me a breather when they visit because I tell my wife to go enjoy time with her family. So I like when they come by. I get some private time and she is always in a great mood when they are around. We make it work because we talk everything through.
Fair play if you can do it, but not entirely sure I could do marriage. Granted, I'm younger (35), but marriage doesn't appeal to me at all. Let alone marriage to a foreigner with an entirely different language and culture in a different country. It would be such hard work. Marriages seem hard enough within one's own country.
It's a horseshoe crab and they've been around over 440 million years. I met my Thai gf's family in the back end of beyond, I was totally made welcome. Some spoke English fairly well others not so, but we all were able to make ourselves understood.
Excellent video. This country has never been colonized and the xenophobic attitudes will always be a barrier to the majority of foreigners. The cultural habits are extremely different from European culture and Thai. Most likely you won't have Thai friends unless you open your wallet. They don't see much purpose for foreigners living in their country.
Imagine feeling this alienated and making one's life this difficult out of the sheer laziness of not being willing to learn the language. It would only take attending an intensive school for about 18 months, approximately 4-5 hours per day plus maybe 3 hrs/day homework and your life would be Absolutely transformed for the better. I think Chinese is about as hard, and I have experience with that one, that's why I say 18 months. My program back in college was only 12 months in country and it wasn't nearly enough. It wasn't until a few years later living and working in a Chinese environment that I could really act confidently in the language.
Love the topics you share Dave, you cover things that are extremely relevant to many. On this subject, i'd say the language barrier plays a huge part & it's a real shame your Mrs doesn’t help/support you in learning Thai. What you do know is self taught, which is great, yet difficult...& you'd come on massively if your Mrs helped you.
@@alphaomegadaily Interestingly, most Thai women never help us to learn Thai. I don't know why, but they just don't follow through on the promise. Stay well Dave. regards Tony
If we want normal marriages we need to be married to our own people. Sorry that's just how it works so we need to make compromises. Just because you can get married to a Thai women doesn't necessarily mean should.
What’s “our own people” ? Most that marry Asians do so as they’re sick and tired of western woman’s attitudes and games. They became attracted to a person of another race; fell in love and got married. Just because you marry a person of another race, culture etc does not mean you have to adopt their culture. Certainly be mindful of it but you don’t have to take it on for yourself. We all have our own culture, religion and beliefs. Relationships are give and take.
I was lucky. I have been married to a Thai for 11 years. We got married in Thailand For 4 years and then went back to the US for 7 years. She learned my culture. We have been back in Thailand for 3 years now. Learning each other cultures helps so much and makes our life together so much easier.
I’ve been married to a Thai for 19 years , 17 years in Australia , last 2 years my wife moved back to her village , we built a house , my wife the only person with in Ks , who speaks English , so 6 months , a year, in the village is enough for me , I try , but speak very basic Thai , It is what it is Peter
That is a horseshoe crab. Eating is sometimes challenging in many foreign countries. Food is certainly one aspect of alienation. Joining a club, something that keeps you healthy can help reduce the alienation. For me, it is BJJ, but it can anything. The best type of club to join is one that is mixed with locals and other expats. In this way, there is a degree of acceptance. I'm in Japan, which is easier than Thailand. But before, this, I lived in China, in a third level city, and that was more challenging.
In the UK we have a lot of Indian people. So imagine in the UK your daughter is married to 59yr old Indian guy who only speaks beginner level English. Is it the family's responsibility to learn Hindi to accommodate him?
sometimes Thai people when you struggle to learn their language don't try to understant because they are afraid to loose their face - they say : siia naa
The 'Aquarian Armadillo' on the BBQ, is a Horseshoe crabs and among the world's oldest living species. They have blue, copper rich blood used in medical testing which makes the extracted blood very expensive. They live in warm shallow waters.
Hey AlphaOmega, I really enjoy your ranting videos. There is the emotional frustration but it is backed up by logical explanations and examples. Have you thought about making a physical or online community of English speaking “farrangs”? You are probably not the only one suffering from certain aspects of Thai culture. But at least you are vocal about it. I think there are many others suffering in silence. Maybe this can be a good business opportunity.
Fanta. Colored sugar water they even use as offerings. Any to go all in to learn the Thai language only to be stuck gossiping with village folks on totally surface themes…. Because in general they are less educated so conversation would be boring. Different story if you marry an educated Thai like I did. Not to say the village people are not kind, generous and very resourceful(street smart) that can even learn from.
That alienating language barrier is common to many cultures. From 1st hand experience it's the same with Vietnamese, Filipinas, Latin Americans, etc. It only seems "insulting" when they actually do speak English but choose not to in your presence. Again, this is mostly not done in malice, rather just the standard lack of awareness and empathy becoming all to common these days.
They were right to laugh about 'nam daeng'. Nam daeng is exactly that 'Red Water'. Fanta, Mirinda or EST doesn't matter, it is 'Red Soda'. What you bought is Hales Syrup. They call this "Sala" which is Red Flavoured Syrup.
Im ready to retire to Thailand. I have a serious question. In the U.S. I have had my pain meds taken away. Because some people abuse it......people who really need it are punished. How is Thailand about medications?
I totally understand what you are saying. Having just got back from Lamphun in northern Thailand in order to make my final decision if I will live there with my Thai girlfriend, I returned back to Australia with a different direction now. I've been there many times but this time I saw a totally different side and I did feel like an alien and very alone. I have made my disition up, and I now will be retirering in Cambodia, and staying single 555
So true! I'm planning to retire soon to a rural province to live with my thai girlfriend. I've visited twice already and can see how isolated I will feel. Keep ranting!
Let me start by saying this, I have traveled to Thailand 12 times in the last 7 years and stayed for months each time and have thoroughly attempted and and tried to figure out if i can ever live the permanently and the answer is a resounding NO WAY !!!! The culture is too alienn to ours they are totally different from us and us from them too much culture shock, we have much more in common with Martians from Mars than Southeast Asians !!!!! In the end i found out Thailand is not for me to live long term .
Thai Culture....there is no THAI culture, the culture in Isaan is so much different from the North, central, south, from the food to the way they talk and the values of each are all different.
Being a USAF Veteran stationed in Southeast Asia I believe it was easier for me to adjust to being places where English isn't the first language so I have no problem with it. Even living in the USA I lived in a neighborhood with was mostly Latin/Spanish speakers. So it is actually up to the person on whether they have an open mind for change. Great Video.
No I couldn't live in the "Hinterland" with just Thai around, one would be alienated 100% and probably start drinking more and more. And the crab is called a Horseshoe crab, what I can gather they are not particularly tasty.
My father-in-law loves that fish. We always get one for him when we travel from Isaan to holiday in Rayong each year. Yeah no western culture out here in the boonies but we travel enough to cope with living in the sticks.
I understand your pain, mate. I have a family member who married an American guy, and moved to a small town in Ohio. When she first arrived there, she did not speak a word of English. The whole town has never seen a real live Asian person before. Many curious on lookers will be pretend to drive by the house back-and-forth or someone will walk or bicycle around the neighborhood just to have a glimpse of her. She told her husband that she felt alienated and wanted to move back to Thailand. Duing her husband family or social gathering she does not want to go to any of them because she cannot communicate with anyone. She was withdrawn, and became extremely introverted and miserable. But through family counseling, and her love for her husband. she started learning English and started learning about the American culture. After intense study for a year, she was able to communicate with the local people, she started making more American friends. They had children, and she no longer felt alienated after that. Just sharing the stories with you, mate. And here are some info about the issues that you faced: 1.Mang-da talay, or horseshoe crab, you eat the eggs inside, Thai people consider it a delicacy…sort of like Western caviar. They are normal prepared by barbecuing them and then use the eggs for the hot and spicy salad Not everyone like them., I’m a Thai, and I don’t like to eat it. It makes me dizzy and nausea when I have too much of the eggs. However , many Thai people do like them. 2. “Naam-dang” entire literally means red water. When you mention that in the Thai culture, it can mean both, the bottle that you bought (which is a Hale Blue Boy syrup drink mixture) or order soda drink, which in the western world are branded as Fanta, but there is a local brand in Thailand called “S” 3. Thai people do not like to be dark as it is socially tend to be stereotyped as labor workers when you have dark skin. Notice when you go to Pattaya, the ties will be under umbrella in the lounge chairs, well, Westerners we just be laying out in the sun with just a blanket or a towel. In Thailand, we get sun about almost 300 days out of a year, where in Western countries somewhere they may only get about three months or 90 days of the sun. So most of the ties do not like to get tan or get dark skin under the sun so you have a good tanning lotion to sell them. It’ll be a good selling product for sure. 4. Thai people generally are very happy and jolly people, so when they work, they like to have music around. As they are working outdoor in the hot sun, and it is a hard labor. So, listening to their favorite tunes is a sort of outlet for them for relief and also makes the hard day go by faster for them, mate. 5. When you bought the wrong type of drink and everyone laughed at you, I understand how that might make you feel mate. As I am a native Thai, if a farang makes a mistake out of context, I would lmao of because it is funny, but not because I found them stupid. It is actually a very cute and adoring disposition. most of the ties are very forgiving when it comes to this sort of mistake, mate. Don’t worry about it. They don’t think you’re less than smart, as you are quite knowledgeable. Anyhow, mate just embrace the adventure, embrace the differences in the culture, without abandoning your own culture. Try learning more of the Thai language and you would be more happy mate. But if it all doesn’t work out, just drop your type wife and go back to the Western world and marry a Western woman. However, watch your wallet because I heard when you get a divorce with a Western women the lawyers Will take most of your money and the judge will give whatever is left of your wealth to the woman. Just joking with your mate., hahaha
Ohhh...... PathumThani ! I've been wondering what you've been on about all this time !. Pronounced Pat-um-Tahn- Nee. I buy Lotus's PathumThani rice. On the subject of getting on with Family etc. You've got speak the language if you close to Bangkok at least it's Thai. Up here in Isaan its Thai/Lao mixed in. If you've no interest in conquering it your done. I can speak to all my missus's family no one speaks English. In fact I speak Thai all the time as the Falang are a waste of time, mostly Europeans.
is it hard to learn? i’m 25 engaged with a thai woman between khon kaen and udon thani, we both live in australia but i wish i could understand what they say
About the red water, Thai's talk like this, they are never exact like we are in English, the word gate and door are perfect example, in Thai they are lazy to distinguish the differences so they simply say Door, if a Thai were writing a book however they would be exact. Sister is another one, they call everyone they are close to their sister or brother leaving you to think they have a dozin brothers and sisters
It sounds a lot like entitlements perhaps learn to communicate better. Better learn to read into every word they say lord knows they have to read into your words every day too it goes both ways. Simple things you take for granted like " Look out!!" could have a literal meaning to them (to look outside) . Just ask and clarify and be specific i know westerners have little patience for these things.
Been here to long now half my brain has died.The only thing they don't eat that's got legs is a chair.Only time I associate is when family member clocks it.What still pisses me of tho is The way the elite who run this country try to pretend it's a Democracy ( I was held up in Singapore in September 2006 cos tanks were outside Suvarnabhumi airport an flight was cancelled) Apart from that 28 yrs now here an sometimes no bollocks all the time I feel like I've fell down the Rabbit hole.But still love the place😊
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I was married to an Indonesian woman for 20 years,and have now been in a relationship with a Thai woman for 7 years. The one thing I’ve realised in both of these scenario’s,is that you simply have to accept that if you live in another person’s country,YOU have to adapt,NOT them. Way too many Western guys marry in SE Asia,thinking that their money,skin color,and attitude,makes them superior. That may work initially,but it’s definitely not a long term thing
You’re totally correct. But I just don’t understand the neediness of so many han$um men to have to get married? What sane man needs the hassle of a wife and in-laws when a free agent bachelor lifestyle is so much more enjoyable … 🎉
I disagree with your statement about western men and frankly I’m offended by it. May be relevant to you but not me sunshine.
I’m no better than any person on this planet but what separates people is education, employment and moral standings both personally and in any community regardless of whence they came or where they call home.
@@ma3stro681It’s simple men don’t like to be alone.
It never ceases to amaze me when people say they are”offended”by other people’s comments,as if that’s the basis for a rational argument. I disagree with many people,but I’m never ”offended”by their arguments,we just differ in our opinions. I can only give you my thoughts from my own personal experiences in SE Asia,nothing more.
I live on a small farm out in the bush, in a village of 83 houses, been here since 2013, I love it, I am now 77 and the thai village life is the same as living in australia when I was young, we were very poor in my younger days, I love it ,life is so easy, so simple, there are no ferangs around my area , yep its me !
I also love the part of community, eating what's grown in the village and barter plus the village keeps an eye out for your well being.
You're alienated, irritated and on the periphery.. On these weekends ,at times you could stay in Bangkok alone .
Seems like the solution .
Here is a question,does your wife understand how you're feeling? She could help you and her family enjoy some togetherness with her as a conduit .
Maybe her family think you're not sociable?
You don't have to assimilate, in fact you shouldn't and you can't but it doesn't mean you must exclude yourself .
I don't believe they're rejecting you,more like the other way around .
There is something wrong in your married life and hence you engage in small talk with young female strangers . That what it seems to me and I am a subscriber here and that's my conclusion .
Thanks for your feedback. The truth is, ever since I have known her family, they have never tried to engage with me.
My girlfriend had a grasshopper leg stuck in her throat once. The strange diet doesn't bother me too much. What bothers me is the feeling that behind the veneer, they don't like me. That thought nags at me. At a Presbyterian church once, the minister had a nice sermon about showing only one face to the world, and not being two-faced. I don't know how many Thais believe in that. It is a culture that I will never fully understand.
I told my Thai wife already that if we retired in Thailand then I’d have to be near a farang community or I’d probably get depressed and lonely in rural areas.
During a family get-together, I used to sit next to the refrigerator, pretend I was a refrigerator, and talk to the refrigerator.
I know how you feel
I assume there was plenty of Leo in the fridge 😂
Yup just talk to your leo.keep it rollin
Together 10 years with a Thai. Some things we do according to Thai culture, some according to my culture, and the rest are a blended compromise. I'm an expat and not trying to be a Thai person. We usually make it work. The big thing that rubs me is my wife tells her parents everything we talk about or do. There is zero privacy in our relationship.
But her parents are very helpful with a lot of things so it's a trade-off. They give me a breather when they visit because I tell my wife to go enjoy time with her family. So I like when they come by. I get some private time and she is always in a great mood when they are around. We make it work because we talk everything through.
The problems are not with Thai culture. They are with you.
Yes Thai culture is so perfect
Amen!
Fair play if you can do it, but not entirely sure I could do marriage. Granted, I'm younger (35), but marriage doesn't appeal to me at all. Let alone marriage to a foreigner with an entirely different language and culture in a different country. It would be such hard work. Marriages seem hard enough within one's own country.
It's a horseshoe crab and they've been around over 440 million years.
I met my Thai gf's family in the back end of beyond, I was totally made welcome. Some spoke English fairly well others not so, but we all were able to make ourselves understood.
Smile and wave Dave. You will never understand the situation fully! Just be happy you are not living in your old country. It is a sad mess now😥
Excellent video. This country has never been colonized and the xenophobic attitudes will always be a barrier to the majority of foreigners. The cultural habits are extremely different from European culture and Thai. Most likely you won't have Thai friends unless you open your wallet. They don't see much purpose for foreigners living in their country.
Imagine feeling this alienated and making one's life this difficult out of the sheer laziness of not being willing to learn the language. It would only take attending an intensive school for about 18 months, approximately 4-5 hours per day plus maybe 3 hrs/day homework and your life would be Absolutely transformed for the better. I think Chinese is about as hard, and I have experience with that one, that's why I say 18 months. My program back in college was only 12 months in country and it wasn't nearly enough. It wasn't until a few years later living and working in a Chinese environment that I could really act confidently in the language.
So if I learn Thai will I find a Thai person in rural thailand to have an intelligent conversation with 😂😂😂
Love the topics you share Dave, you cover things that are extremely relevant to many.
On this subject, i'd say the language barrier plays a huge part & it's a real shame your Mrs doesn’t help/support you in learning Thai.
What you do know is self taught, which is great, yet difficult...& you'd come on massively if your Mrs helped you.
Hi Tim, thanks for your feedback. I wish my wife would help me too.
@@alphaomegadaily Interestingly, most Thai women never help us to learn Thai. I don't know why, but they just don't follow through on the promise. Stay well Dave. regards Tony
Thumbs up 👍 Dave
If we want normal marriages we need to be married to our own people. Sorry that's just how it works so we need to make compromises. Just because you can get married to a Thai women doesn't necessarily mean should.
What’s “our own people” ? Most that marry Asians do so as they’re sick and tired of western woman’s attitudes and games. They became attracted to a person of another race; fell in love and got married.
Just because you marry a person of another race, culture etc does not mean you have to adopt their culture. Certainly be mindful of it but you don’t have to take it on for yourself. We all have our own culture, religion and beliefs. Relationships are give and take.
there are trade offs with every choice
I was lucky. I have been married to a Thai for 11 years. We got married in Thailand For 4 years and then went back to the US for 7 years. She learned my culture. We have been back in Thailand for 3 years now. Learning each other cultures helps so much and makes our life together so much easier.
I love this channel and how it's more for you than for the viewers. It's a different perspective than the typical Thai vloggers.
Really enjoying your videos, I think you are spot on
You dont seem to consider learning the thai language as an easy solution.
I’ve been married to a Thai for 19 years , 17 years in Australia , last 2 years my wife moved back to her village , we built a house , my wife the only person with in Ks , who speaks English , so 6 months , a year, in the village is enough for me ,
I try , but speak very basic Thai ,
It is what it is
Peter
That is a horseshoe crab. Eating is sometimes challenging in many foreign countries. Food is certainly one aspect of alienation. Joining a club, something that keeps you healthy can help reduce the alienation. For me, it is BJJ, but it can anything. The best type of club to join is one that is mixed with locals and other expats. In this way, there is a degree of acceptance. I'm in Japan, which is easier than Thailand. But before, this, I lived in China, in a third level city, and that was more challenging.
In the UK we have a lot of Indian people. So imagine in the UK your daughter is married to 59yr old Indian guy who only speaks beginner level English. Is it the family's responsibility to learn Hindi to accommodate him?
sometimes Thai people when you struggle to learn their language don't try to understant because they are afraid to loose their face - they say : siia naa
@raphaeltess7448 how does understanding a farang speaking Thai cause a loss of face?
"An Aquarian Armadillo" Brilliant 😂
The 'Aquarian Armadillo' on the BBQ, is a Horseshoe crabs and among the world's oldest living species. They have blue, copper rich blood used in medical testing which makes the extracted blood very expensive. They live in warm shallow waters.
Horseshoe crab. Very common in Texas and Florida Gulf Coasts
Hey AlphaOmega,
I really enjoy your ranting videos.
There is the emotional frustration but it is backed up by logical explanations and examples.
Have you thought about making a physical or online community of English speaking “farrangs”?
You are probably not the only one suffering from certain aspects of Thai culture.
But at least you are vocal about it.
I think there are many others suffering in silence.
Maybe this can be a good business opportunity.
Thank you!
It's the Deer Hunter Russian roulette sceen😂
Thnx for the story as only you can tell them ❤❤❤❤❤❤
My pleasure 😊
Fanta. Colored sugar water they even use as offerings. Any to go all in to learn the Thai language only to be stuck gossiping with village folks on totally surface themes…. Because in general they are less educated so conversation would be boring. Different story if you marry an educated Thai like I did. Not to say the village people are not kind, generous and very resourceful(street smart) that can even learn from.
Sexy out-going Thai women, talkative and amicable, is the Thai culture.
What do you mean that you aren't here for the culture?
Amicable😂😂 only when they are trying to snare you in their trap
That alienating language barrier is common to many cultures. From 1st hand experience it's the same with Vietnamese, Filipinas, Latin Americans, etc. It only seems "insulting" when they actually do speak English but choose not to in your presence. Again, this is mostly not done in malice, rather just the standard lack of awareness and empathy becoming all to common these days.
They were right to laugh about 'nam daeng'. Nam daeng is exactly that 'Red Water'. Fanta, Mirinda or EST doesn't matter, it is 'Red Soda'. What you bought is Hales Syrup. They call this "Sala" which is Red Flavoured Syrup.
I’m in Michigan and I eat that type of crab, it is called a Horseshoe Crab
Thank you for the video brother
My pleasure
I could not live in rural Thailand .Its ok for 2 or 3 day visit .No more .
Horseshoe crab. Delicious.
I couldn't bring myself to eat that
taste like chicken?
I feel alienated in my own culture 😂 in usa
You can learn to read thai its easy and it helps you understand the pronunciation better.
Im ready to retire to Thailand. I have a serious question. In the U.S. I have had my pain meds taken away. Because some people abuse it......people who really need it are punished. How is Thailand about medications?
I totally understand what you are saying. Having just got back from Lamphun in northern Thailand in order to make my final decision if I will live there with my Thai girlfriend, I returned back to Australia with a different direction now. I've been there many times but this time I saw a totally different side and I did feel like an alien and very alone. I have made my disition up, and I now will be retirering in Cambodia, and staying single 555
So true! I'm planning to retire soon to a rural province to live with my thai girlfriend. I've visited twice already and can see how isolated I will feel. Keep ranting!
if you love your girlfriend you can live wherever with her
I feel yout painm What is the plan when the wife wants to move full time to the province?
Let me start by saying this, I have traveled to Thailand 12 times in the last 7 years and stayed for months each time and have thoroughly attempted and and tried to figure out if i can ever live the permanently and the answer is a resounding NO WAY !!!! The culture is too alienn to ours they are totally different from us and us from them too much culture shock, we have much more in common with Martians from Mars than Southeast Asians !!!!! In the end i found out Thailand is not for me to live long term .
HI brother so just got home I paid for my passport and they Said be 5 weeks
I don't know if your wife watches your videos...but if she does, is her english level sufficient enough to understand your feeling of isolation ?
That's a horseshoe crab. There's millions of them in Florida but I didn't know they were edible😂
So basically you don't like Thaai culture, and have deliberately alienated yourself from it.
you got to be a loner to survive , they wont change so you adapt to them , if you need a friend get a dog
It is a Horseshoe Crab.
Thai Culture....there is no THAI culture, the culture in Isaan is so much different from the North, central, south, from the food to the way they talk and the values of each are all different.
I'm NOT marrying anyone when I CAN'T COMMUNICATE WITH THEIR FAMILY??? Why would anyone do that unless you're and old guy looking for a young girl??
1000% correct.
At some in the past there must have been only a few sodas because everyone knows "nam dang" and "nam kiow" are reserved to mean only Fanta.
Being a USAF Veteran stationed in Southeast Asia I believe it was easier for me to adjust to being places where English isn't the first language so I have no problem with it. Even living in the USA I lived in a neighborhood with was mostly Latin/Spanish speakers. So it is actually up to the person on whether they have an open mind for change. Great Video.
It is a horse shoe crab. You can only eat the eggs. There is no flesh to speak of. The blood is very valuable, used in medicine.
No I couldn't live in the "Hinterland" with just Thai around, one would be alienated 100% and probably start drinking more and more. And the crab is called a Horseshoe crab, what I can gather they are not particularly tasty.
My father-in-law loves that fish. We always get one for him when we travel from Isaan to holiday in Rayong each year. Yeah no western culture out here in the boonies but we travel enough to cope with living in the sticks.
1.34 i think it was black pudding
I came here for women
Nothing else
Been married 23 years to a Thai
She does her thing I do mine if you know what I mean.
Good video
If you went there for the women why would you get married … 😂🤡😵
Is sometimes difficult. Got to learn to bite your tongue sometimes 😅
I understand your pain, mate. I have a family member who married an American guy, and moved to a small town in Ohio. When she first arrived there, she did not speak a word of English. The whole town has never seen a real live Asian person before. Many curious on lookers will be pretend to drive by the house back-and-forth or someone will walk or bicycle around the neighborhood just to have a glimpse of her. She told her husband that she felt alienated and wanted to move back to Thailand. Duing her husband family or social gathering she does not want to go to any of them because she cannot communicate with anyone. She was withdrawn, and became extremely introverted and miserable. But through family counseling, and her love for her husband. she started learning English and started learning about the American culture. After intense study for a year, she was able to communicate with the local people, she started making more American friends. They had children, and she no longer felt alienated after that. Just sharing the stories with you, mate. And here are some info about the issues that you faced:
1.Mang-da talay, or horseshoe crab, you eat the eggs inside, Thai people consider it a delicacy…sort of like Western caviar. They are normal prepared by barbecuing them and then use the eggs for the hot and spicy salad Not everyone like them., I’m a Thai, and I don’t like to eat it. It makes me dizzy and nausea when I have too much of the eggs. However , many Thai people do like them.
2. “Naam-dang” entire literally means red water. When you mention that in the Thai culture, it can mean both, the bottle that you bought (which is a Hale Blue Boy syrup drink mixture) or order soda drink, which in the western world are branded as Fanta, but there is a local brand in Thailand called “S”
3. Thai people do not like to be dark as it is socially tend to be stereotyped as labor workers when you have dark skin. Notice when you go to Pattaya, the ties will be under umbrella in the lounge chairs, well, Westerners we just be laying out in the sun with just a blanket or a towel. In Thailand, we get sun about almost 300 days out of a year, where in Western countries somewhere they may only get about three months or 90 days of the sun. So most of the ties do not like to get tan or get dark skin under the sun so you have a good tanning lotion to sell them. It’ll be a good selling product for sure.
4. Thai people generally are very happy and jolly people, so when they work, they like to have music around. As they are working outdoor in the hot sun, and it is a hard labor. So, listening to their favorite tunes is a sort of outlet for them for relief and also makes the hard day go by faster for them, mate.
5. When you bought the wrong type of drink and everyone laughed at you, I understand how that might make you feel mate. As I am a native Thai, if a farang makes a mistake out of context, I would lmao of because it is funny, but not because I found them stupid. It is actually a very cute and adoring disposition. most of the ties are very forgiving when it comes to this sort of mistake, mate. Don’t worry about it. They don’t think you’re less than smart, as you are quite knowledgeable.
Anyhow, mate just embrace the adventure, embrace the differences in the culture, without abandoning your own culture. Try learning more of the Thai language and you would be more happy mate. But if it all doesn’t work out, just drop your type wife and go back to the Western world and marry a Western woman. However, watch your wallet because I heard when you get a divorce with a Western women the lawyers Will take most of your money and the judge will give whatever is left of your wealth to the woman. Just joking with your mate., hahaha
Ohhh...... PathumThani ! I've been wondering what you've been on about all this time !. Pronounced Pat-um-Tahn- Nee. I buy Lotus's PathumThani rice. On the subject of getting on with Family etc. You've got speak the language if you close to Bangkok at least it's Thai. Up here in Isaan its Thai/Lao mixed in. If you've no interest in conquering it your done. I can speak to all my missus's family no one speaks English. In fact I speak Thai all the time as the Falang are a waste of time, mostly Europeans.
Haha yeah his pronunciations always get me too 😂
is it hard to learn? i’m 25 engaged with a thai woman between khon kaen and udon thani, we both live in australia but i wish i could understand what they say
i mean especially the thai isaan/lao isaan whatever you want to call it, as it’s that one i’m interested in
A couple of months is not long enough to learn anyrhing about Thailand. Try a couple.of years.
You've never seen a horseshoe crab before?
That stagnant water behind you is a breeding ground for Malaria and Dengue fever !!!!!! That is a culture difference right there for ya
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It's called a horseshoe crab and you should know what it is.
they're doing it wrong brother
You can say that again
About the red water, Thai's talk like this, they are never exact like we are in English, the word gate and door are perfect example, in Thai they are lazy to distinguish the differences so they simply say Door, if a Thai were writing a book however they would be exact. Sister is another one, they call everyone they are close to their sister or brother leaving you to think they have a dozin brothers and sisters
Hmmm, maybe it's time to have some space!!!
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It sounds a lot like entitlements perhaps learn to communicate better. Better learn to read into every word they say lord knows they have to read into your words every day too it goes both ways. Simple things you take for granted like " Look out!!" could have a literal meaning to them (to look outside) . Just ask and clarify and be specific i know westerners have little patience for these things.
4:45 - 5:15 ?? No wonder the adsense is giving up.
Just wondering when you joined the bloods gang? Be careful of the Cripps fella.. or the horseshoe crab gang.😮
Or the horseshoe crab gang
Been here to long now half my brain has died.The only thing they don't eat that's got legs is a chair.Only time I associate is when family member clocks it.What still pisses me of tho is The way the elite who run this country try to pretend it's a Democracy ( I was held up in Singapore in September 2006 cos tanks were outside Suvarnabhumi airport an flight was cancelled) Apart from that 28 yrs now here an sometimes no bollocks all the time I feel like I've fell down the Rabbit hole.But still love the place😊
It's like you're being blacked out by them or something 😮
Horseshoe crab aka king crab. Very ancient animal and not a real crab.
I live in my culture not any culture or the culture I came from XD
Any red lemonade in Thailand?😂
Thanks!
Thank you for your support 🙏
pronounced mandar in thai language eat only the tiny eggs inside
Songthran
horseshoe crab
That looks like a horse shoe crab.
On Thai culture you do not know is that only aps, monkees, have hair on the face,
Whinge much?
Me love you long time